Previously on Before The 90 Days...
I feel like I've entered this cute world.
You did all of this yourself.
Yeah, plus, like, a...
Can I use the toilet?
This is definitely gonna take some time to get used to.
I have irritable bowels.
But being here with Dempsey in person just feels right.
Mm.
Build the good memories
so that when you have disagreements,
you will tolerate them better.
What really matters is what your actions are after this meeting.
Is she really gonna fix what she's saying she's gonna fix?
Somebody has to put the fire down.
She needs to work that stuff out first before...
Excuse me. Are you guys like celebrating something tonight?
Your birthday?
In past relationships,
my girlfriends have understood that I'm just like a friendly guy,
If this is how every single day
is to go, I'm just worrying whether we are compatible.
She's just squirming around, looking nervous.
I don't understand this.
This is a major red flag for me.
You know what? You don't wanna...
I went back to see if you were on the app.
You're not my boss.
- Do not talk down to me. - I don't talk with you.
We stop now, okay?
Okay, beat it. Bye.
Bye! Bye!
I'm done.
So sorry for what happened.
It's my responsibility to
spend the night by my mom's casket.
Bye-bye.
That really feels...
Uh, David, he has to help me.
And he respect me...
that I want to be alone.
- This mall is so big. - Yes, it is.
But I know where we're going.
I'm very familiar with this mall here.
After the session with our therapist yesterday,
I'm feeling good. I'm glad we went
because I think it was productive overall.
- Smells good. - Right?
Of course I still have concerns about
the amount of arguing,
but I think Jasmine and I need to focus on
creating good memories together so we can
improve our relationship,
you know, while I'm here in Panama.
This is where we're going.
Today is my little sister's Liz's 20th birthday.
And since she has been living with Gino and I for these two weeks,
that poor thing had been dealing with all the crap
that's going on between Gino and I.
So, Gino agreed on getting her something special.
I'm gonna take this one.
It's very beautiful.
Okay.
Um...
Okay.
So, since I'm already here...
You already have a ring.
No, I lost it.
I don't really believe that
that she lost the engagement ring.
That's what I did.
I accidentally lost it.
That's a good question.
Did you like the ring that I bought you?
It's meaningful,
but it's not a ring that I would ever buy it for me.
Or for any other person.
He promised to upgrade the ring.
That never happened.
So, even before I lost the ring,
sometimes I was wearing the previous...
That was nicer.
That's... that's terrible,
that you're wearing a ring from your previous marriage, I mean...
But in my mind, it's not like,
"Oh, this represents me being engaged to my ex."
I'm even divorced. I don't care about him.
That's like me wearing like, a necklace that my ex gave me
- or something. - What necklace?
Wearing a necklace that she gave me.
How would you feel if I did that?
She gave you a necklace?
No, I'm saying how would you feel?
- if I... - Do you have a necklace?
Stop comparing everything.
I'm just asking how you'd feel.
You were being cheap about replacing it.
You were not giving me a new one.
So I found a solution.
Oh, my God.
Babe, you don't need a ring now.
What?
I do need a ring because I don't have a ring.
It's Liz's birthday. We should be focusing on that.
I am. I already have a gift.
What's the matter?
What? I told you I'd buy you a ring
after visa approval
And, uh, before our wedding, not now.
Do you know, talking about wedding
and all this K-1 process,
don't use that as an excuse
because we've been waiting for 12 months.
Like, why is it taking forever?
Okay.
Immigration says within 13 months.
Eighty percent of cases are resolved.
We're not there at 13 months yet.
But I don't wanna wait 13 months.
I do believe that...
No. No! I don't need a lawyer.
Because I have waited a lot.
We haven't hit the timing yet.
- That's why. - Forget about it.
- Timing? 12 months is more than enough. - Tell you what.
You give me the money for the lawyer,
- and I'll get one. How does that sound? - I knew that it was
all about the money.
- It is about the money. - You don't want...
I'm not gonna waste money.
- Do you waste money? - So am I a waste of money?
It just frustrates me that Jasmine
even thinks I need an immigration attorney.
My ex-wife is from Brazil
and I brought her here to the US on a K-1 visa.
I had no trouble doing it.
So, I know I can do this myself.
Yeah, I feel like Jasmine's kinda manipulating me
by trying to convince me to buy her a ring right now.
And you know, it's...
It's not what I came here for.
What you should be doing is spending money
on a lawyer to get me to the United States
- as soon as possible. - No.
You do not tell me what to do.
I'm the one that did all the paperwork.
I'm the one that took hours
figuring out how to fill everything out.
I'm the one that did everything.
I know what's going on. You're clueless.
- Why you have to be-- - You have no clue what's going on.
Why you have to be a jerk every time?
You better change your attitude because
we're gonna have some huge problems coming up.
- But I have-- - Change your attitude.
I have an attitude because--
I'm not ready to buy it. I'm not ready to buy a ring today.
You can buy it yourself.
What a jerk.
This is the she pulls all the time.
That's crazy.
He knows that this K-1 visa
topic is super sensitive to me.
Twelve months for me waiting living in the limbo.
And it's shatters my heart to know
that you know he's not going to spend any money that he has
on something as important as
paying for an immigration lawyer,
to try to accelerate the process of me
getting a K-1 visa,
and finally being together.
I'm sick and tired of trying my best.
And I am sick and tired of that jerk.
I feel like I mean nothing to him.
- Did you sleep well? - Uh...
Yeah.
Not used to this kinda cold.
Last night was freezing.
Being cold is my version of hell.
I wanna take a shower,
but I can't just, like, hop in and shower.
It doesn't have hot water.
Gotta take a dump at some point.
What the hell? Where am I supposed to go?
I don't know. I feel like I might be in over my head here.
Good morning.
- You okay? - Yeah.
- Did you sleep? - Well...
Uh...
I don't know.
But you're stressed?
I don't... Maybe a little bit.
What about?
It's just very different. Everything's very different.
Not used to this kind of cold.
It's my first morning waking up at the farm.
And Dempsey doesn't have central heat.
So, last night was freezing.
It was really cold,
and being cold is my version of hell.
So you don't like it?
Oh, yeah, no, it's nice.
It's good. It's good, yeah.
Just uncomfortable when you're out of your comfort zone.
I was so excited to wake up this morning.
And I was like, "Oh, my God, like, you're actually here."
- Shall we get ready? - Yeah.
But it bothers me that she saying that she's uncomfortable.
If she were to say that she just needs some time to, like,
settle in 'cause the surroundings are new,
that's completely different to saying that you're uncomfortable.
Like, what's making you uncomfortable?
Me, or...
the space or what?
Like, I wanted to feel like, happy here.
But, yeah, what am I meant to do if she doesn't?
Can't change anything.
We use this like, clear the energies in the space.
Sage in here.
All around. It doesn't smell the best.
All good vibes.
Good vibes.
Whoo!
- Let's go. - Okay.
Feel like that's cleaning out something in my lungs for sure.
People would probably describe me as a bit hippified or...
spiritual.
I'm just like, a holistic person.
So, I protect my energy
Every morning, I put like, a protective bubble wrap around me
and a protective shield
'cause I like to be positive.
Feel like you're saging me behind my back when I'm not looking.
Can you like, turn around? I can sage...
Excuse me.
I think that needs saging a lot, like...
Okay. All right.
That's been places.
That's not offensive at all.
You told me.
Well, okay, I mean...
I can do it again.
I feel like you're really wanting to do that a lot.
Well, it's just that the sage is calling it.
- It's not me. - The sage is calling it?
The sage is sending-- Look how much it's smoking.
Jesus!
Being a slut is not a bad thing, like...
Well, the sage says different.
I'm not ashamed or embarrassed of my history,
my sexual history. I'm kinda proud of it, honestly.
It's not that big of a deal.
Uh, but apparently it is for her, so.
I know it's cold and stuff in here
so I need to run get some firewood
- So I'm gonna get changed - Yeah.
...and let you settle in
and I'm gonna get some wood and come back.
- Okay. - Okay.
- Yeah, I guess so. - Yeah?
I'll just roam around, I guess.
When you're with somebody,
you, like, think of the future
and, you know, what it can hold for you.
So I'm worried that Statler
might not get used to farm life.
But I really like it here.
I love just being in the middle of nowhere.
It's just and easy... easy life.
Like, it's... it's a slow life.
I've always lived in caravans
like, um, most of my life.
My family, we moved around a lot,
part of the travelling community
that travels around with fairground rides,
what Americans call carnival.
My family is part of the Showmen's Guild.
My grandparents, their grandparents,
it run back for generations and generations.
So we go from place to place
and we would organize the carnivals
with all our rides and food stalls and...
and then we would pull everything down and then
My parents had three daughters.
We were like best friends.
Unfortunately, when I was 16,
uh...
my big sister died.
And she was 19.
She got carbon monoxide poison in her sleep
and never woke up.
Uh...
Yeah, so that really affected me.
I left home when I was 18.
I just was so unhappy, I couldn't...
I just couldn't live that life anymore
without my sister being there.
So I was just, like...
staying on friend's couches,
moved around a lot from house to house.
I was just so unsettled within myself.
I... No way... I just know I was making me happy.
But then I met my friend Ben
on the farm in Darlington,
told him my situation and stuff like that
and he said, "Do you wanna just stay and have a job?"
So I was like, "Yeah, all right",
as I literally have nothing to lose.
I worked for the business which is called Kip and Nook.
And it's, like, shipping containers
converted into living spaces
and it's like a staycation business
what we would call in England.
I think everything that happens
to everybody in their lives happens for a reason.
And you can either sit and dwell on it
or you can be positive and take every opportunity
and look at the brighter side of it.
That way your life would be better.
Jeez, what the heck's going on out there?
Ugh.
Doing some kind of construction out there.
Ugh. Yikes.
Little louder, please.
I feel like I was pretty positive last night
because I was just, kind of, shell-shocked,
but now I'm like, settled in and it's like,
"Wait a second." There's like less space, you know, realizing.
I wanna take a shower
but I can't just, like, hop into the shower.
Doesn't have hot water.
Gotta take a dump at some point.
Like, I'm hoping I don't have to take one
while she's gone or she's gonna walk back and see me
squatted in a field, like...
or with this guy watching.
Like, what the hell. Where am I supposed to go?
Dempsey doesn't know that I wanna move in with her.
But I'm realizing that I'm not comfortable here.
I am freezing cold.
I don't feel like there's a lot of space for me.
I'm out in the middle of nowhere.
So I'm not sure about living in her caravan.
And that scares me
because I don't really have another plan.
My lease is about to end
and, you know, I've got all my eggs in this one basket.
Oh, boy.
I don't know, I feel like I might be in over my head here.
She sent me a message last night.
Then I blocked her.
"You trampled and insult me.
You don't deserve to be a man."
Wow. Okay.
I'm not sure if this relationship can be salvaged
or if I even want it to be salvaged
or she wants it to be salvaged.
It was supposed to just be a nice...
evening together.
A real date, you know?
Just enjoying each other's company...
and it turned into...
It turned into fireworks.
Uh... I don't...
It wasn't supposed to be that.
From last night, it was not supposed to be that.
I've been in Vietnam about a week now
and last night Violet and I had
a big blowout at the restaurant
I really wish things didn't get so heated
but I felt insulted.
I'm upset more at myself
for letting me, myself
get so angry, uh, get so upset,
that I'mma have an outburst like that in public
in a foreign country.
I regret that.
But I don't regret telling her...
pretty much I'm not putting up with the nonsense any more.
So I blocked her.
I really have nothing to say to her.
Okay.
She sent me a message last night.
Then I blocked her.
I didn't even read it...
the message from last night.
I should read it, huh?
"You are supposed to protect me.
Over here you trampled and insult me.
You don't deserve to be a man."
Wow, okay.
Um, "If you come to Vietnam to meet my family,
my family is allowed to ask you
and when I come to your country
you are allowed to ask me.
You want to know me.
You have an uneducated, unscrupulous attitude.
If you're like that, you should go away."
So that sounds like I'm not allowed
to ask any questions at all.
It's her way.
It's everything what she wants.
I not built that way.
It's really disappointing
because for the last two years,
Violet and I have been talking about being together
and being a family.
And I'm not sure if this relationship can be salvaged
or if I even want it to be salvaged
or she wants it to be salvaged.
...but it won't be because I reach out to her.
She will have to make a effort to meet with me.
She will have to apologize.
She will have to do the talking.
She will have to explain herself to me.
I have nothing to explain to her.
Like, you know, when we got there,
we're having a good time,
we're getting to know each other.
And I still think we're on a...
Just seemed like you were really overwhelmed.
I already had some worries
about how he's gonna deal with the fact
that I'm trans, but now I'm also having to worry
about how being on a spectrum affects our relationship.
And I feel like everywhere that we go
this is gonna be, like, a common occurrence.
Don't worry. I've got you in good hands.
There are cars coming.
Our fighting back and forth
should not affect Liz's birthday.
Ah!
Let's go!
I hope that Jasmine can see that too.
So where are we going now?
- Do they, like, sell, uh, like, mushrooms or something? - No.
It's been two days
since Christian arrived in London
and so far things have been
both good and bad.
Have you ever been shopping here before?
Yeah, definitely.
- I come here quite often. - Right on.
I hope we cam kinda find us a little extra
- or something like that. - Yeah.
Last night we had our first date.
It didn't necessarily go well.
When we got home, I literally passed out.
There was not any...
of... you know, intimacy.
Is there anything that you like?
I'm trying to see, like,
Sure.
I'm feeling disappointed that right now
I'm just hoping that we can leave
yesterday's date behind us
and have a cute morning together
exploring one of my favorite places in London.
Oh, crystals. I love me some crystals.
Oh my God, I've been wanting one of this
for the longest time.
Yeah? Right now it probably looks like you're showing...
You're... you're honed right in on that.
Yes.
Sure, yeah. She went right there.
- I probably go over here or... - So what would that be good for?
Like, a relationship?
Oh, I need me some of that.
Right on.
- Let me get it for you. I'll buy for you. - No. No baby.
No, I'll buy for you. Something you can remember me.
I'll buy it to you.
- All right. - Yeah.
Thank you. I appreciate that.
Oh, thank you.
- Thank you. - Yeah, absolutely.
Cool.
- Have a nice day. Have a good lunch. - You too. Take care. Goodbye.
Here.
Our first date
wasn't exactly flawless.
Her being autistic, she's told me
some of the things that can affect her
on a daily basis.
But, being in person
noticing these things
and experiencing them with her,
there's things that I need to learn more about
and understand more about her as well.
And maybe last night at the bar
I was pushing her too hard
to do something that she wasn't comfortable with.
But I hope that we can kinda turn things around.
I'd like to order the half-ribs.
- She's going to get the cod and chips. - Okay.
Because I don't want last night
to be something that kinda overshadows
the rest of our trip together.
Oh, thank you.
- Oh, wonderful. - Have fun.
Thank you, brother.
- All right. Well, these chips are for sharing. - Yes.
Let me cut you a little piece of...
There you go.
- Let's try. You wanna feed me? - Yeah.
Do it.
- Mmm. - How is it? Do you like it?
I like that a lot. I need that whole thing.
Yeah, so you liked it a lot?
I'm so happy.
This is literally one of my favorite British foods so...
- Okay, I guess probably good for a hangover too. - It's like a... Yeah.
Oh, that's perfect today.
- Those were huge drinks. I mean, they... - Yeah.
They're pretty heavy handed on the porch there.
It felt like, you know, when we got there,
we're having a good time, we're getting to know each other,
you know, out and about.
And, I would say, they were, um...
Just seemed like you were really overwhelmed.
Maybe it's just me being...
cliche or...
I don't know, boring or whatever,
but I feel,
like, a first date with a girl,
you kind of wanna make it about you two.
And you felt the need
to make it about
- a larger group of girls. - But I didn't.
I didn't... I didn't care about talking to those girls.
You know, like I don't want you to feel like
I was giving you, like, the cold shoulder.
But you didn't not really include me
in the conversation other than mentioning my name.
I wouldn't go on a first date with you
and then start talking to, like, a group of dudes
and sit next to them
and tell them I'm from Italy and everything
when I'm literally there to get to know you.
I get that.
I mean, I... I feel kind of stupid.
Of course, I already had some worries
about how,
you know, he's gonna deal with the fact that I am trans
but now I'm also having to worry
about how being on the spectrum
affects our relationship and I fear
that if I let him know
that I wasn't 100 per cent comfortable
in that place,
I could turn him off.
You know, at some point through the night
I did have a good time.
I just did not like the place...
and I feel that was, like, the biggest issue for me.
Those parts which I really enjoy,
because there's more freeway and you can move around.
But that place was so tiny and claustrophobic.
Sure.
I was kinda worried the date would
damper on the rest of our trip, in a way.
- Why? - I don't know. I... I... I feel like
you'd have fears that everywhere that we go
this is gonna be, like, a common occurrence
or might be hesitant to go out
to a place again with me.
But, like, the way you feel...
like, it matters to me too.
Like, I... I wanna make sure
you're able to experience as much of the things
that you would want to.
I'm sensitive.
I can be very picky about certain things.
This trip isn't just about me, it's about us.
I didn't come here to just go see London
and have you join me
you know, as my arm candy.
You know, I came here to have a good time with you.
I just want you to be happy and I...
I am. I mean, this has been fun.
This has been nice.
I like Christian and, of course, I hope
that things will work out.
But I do worry
whether this is all proving to be a little too much for him.
You're not gonna dampen my sparkle
by just being who you are, you know, and telling me
that something's uncomfortable for you.
Last night I have learnt something about you
and, like, going forward, it's definitely gonna be
a situation that I'm not gonna forget.
It... It's trial and error.
Oh!
Coco, take care of the house.
All right, so let's go have a good birthday for Liz.
- She deserves it. - Yes, I know.
All right.
Do you feel one...
one year wiser now?
What?
Do you feel... But may be you can tell her, but...
Do you feel one... one year wiser?
Oh, it's just a saying.
I've had a lot of time
to think about what happened
this morning at the jewelry store.
And Jasmine's behavior was not okay today.
But, you know, I've been reflecting
on myself and I believe
I could have handled it better.
I feel like I'm the president or something in this car.
I just reacted to her anger
with, you know, anger of my own,
which is exactly
what the therapist told me not to do.
So I really don't know
where I stand with Jasmine right now
but our fighting back and forth
should not affect Liz's birthday.
And I hope that Jasmine can see that too.
Are you, uh, excited to ride the bicycles?
What do you call this, the causeway?
Yes, this is a causeway.
How come you never took me here?
Gino, we just came here a few days ago.
How you don't remember?
Uh-huh.
Sure it was me?
I'm still mad at Gino
for the argument we have
this morning at the jewelry store.
It is one thing
that he doesn't wanna spend money on the ring,
but it is another thing
refusing to pay for an immigration lawyer.
It feels like Gino has no urgency
to bring me to United States.
So I feel like I'm more invested
on this relationship than he is.
We're here.
Even though I'm still mad at Gino,
it's my sister's birthday
and she deserve to have a good evening.
So now I just wanna have fun.
These are such cool little bikes.
- Oh! - I like this one.
- Uh, Liz can go in - Yeah.
- Okay. - If you want to, you know,
you can even paddle, paddle to help us.
Wait, don't go without me.
Wait.
You ready?
Uh, don't worry, I've got you in good hands.
You're in good hands.
you got Liz. Fire power. Good hands, I was just...
hit by a branch.
I'm glad I'm with someone like you that has strong legs.
All right, ready, let's go. It's gonna cross this.
Are you sure about...
You have-- We have--
- Babe-- Babe, there are cars coming. - Don't worry.
- Go ahead. - You have the brakes.
Let's go.
- Ah! - Let's go.
Whoo!
Is this fun or what?
Eh.
Babe-- Gino, if you're tired, let me know.
I don't want you to have a heart attack.
Baby, you think I'm some kind of old, shriveled up prune.
- Yes, you never have-- - I'm not.
But you have-- never have conditions for sex.
Why would you have for riding bike?
I don't have what?
- You never have good physical condition for sex. - Yes, I do.
- I'm always in condition, you always orgas-- - Why--
Now, um...
Baby, that's something we need to talk about.
Why?
Okay, just for the record,
when we have sex,
I have never had an orgasm with you.
Yes, you have.
- I-- - I fake it.
No, you don't. I--
- I fake it. - No, you don't.
I swear to God.
No, you don't.
I fake my orgasms, I'm telling you.
Why are you...
What?
This is the mood that I was hoping for tonight.
Liz and Jasmine are laughing, smiling.
Let's go.
It's moments like this that prove that
we can put our differences aside
and have a good time together.
Oh, no.
Did we cause that?
Is that our fault?
Whoo! I love this thing.
I mean, this is like the point in the evening
where, you know, you put on the baby making playlist.
- Baby making? - Yeah.
Not sure how that's gonna work with me.
I feel like, you know,
things are a little bit more awkward
because I've never been with a trans woman before.
Are we gonna be compatible intimately?
I mean, I think...
Mmm.
Hi.
- Yeah, yeah. - You hugging?
- Sure. - Oh, my God.
Ben is my friend, I love him very much.
I'm feeling nervous,
because I can't imagine being with someone
that Ben doesn't get along with.
Dating app. I like, uh, English girls.
- This is the farm. - Yeah.
Is it as cold as you thought?
It's colder. Yeah, a lot colder.
Everything's different, huh? - Yeah.
Statler seems a little bit nervous about the caravan.
I think that she has this perception
that it's just like a dirty little farm that stinks.
And, uh,
it's actually a very beautiful place to live.
And people from all over England come and stay.
It's stunning.
So I'm super excited to show Statler around the farm,
introduce her to people,
and get to know a bit more about my life,
and my way of living.
There's like, some smoke coming out of there.
- What is that? - Oh, yeah.
So that's the containers.
That's like, the staycation, where the people stay.
The guest's in there.
- Wow, that's nice. - And like, they have hot tubs.
- That's really cool. - Yeah, it's really cool.
A typical day for me,
I would get up around 5:30,
clean like, the containers.
So I do like, housekeeping, I do the cooking.
I love cooking.
- So excited for you to see in here. - So--
- Yeah. - It's such a cool space.
After you.
Wow, this is really modern.
Yeah, it's cool, isn't it?
Yeah, very cool.
This is like, a chill out area.
So in-- in-- on the night time, I come in here,
talk to the guests,
and we like, make pizzas.
Well, I make pizzas. The guests eat the pizzas.
Ah, very nice.
And then, this space is super cool, in here.
Yeah, we can play pool in here.
The guests come in here and play pool.
- Nice. - Jenga, and then the TV.
- You like it? - Yeah, it's awesome.
- Ben! - Oh, my God.
- Hi. - Dempsey, you look good.
- Yes. - Long time.
I've missed them hugs.
- Hi. - Statler.
- This is-- Yeah, this is Statler - Yeah.
- You hugging? - Yeah, sure, sure.
- Hi-- How are you-- - Oh, my God. How you doing?
- You all right? - How are you? Yeah, good. How are you?
- How's things? - Yeah, good, you know.
Ben is my friend.
He owns the company where I work.
He's like a main character in my life,
I love him very much.
He's seen me go through, through a lot.
So I'm feeling nervous at this point,
because I know that Statler can be quiet and awkward at times.
And I can't imagine being with someone
that Ben doesn't get along with.
Ah.
So where are you actually from?
You're obviously from the States,
I can hear you've got a bit of a twang.
Yeah.
- You've got a little bit of an accent. - Ah.
Yeah, I'm from Texas.
- No way. - Yeah, yeah.
So, you guys, how did you exactly meet?
Uh, dating app. Yeah.
- No way. - I like, uh, English girls.
So you came all the way here just to see Dempsey?
Just for her, yeah.
- Wow. - I think it was just the-- the last thing, you know?
'Cause our-- our conversations are going so well,
- the emotional thing was there. - Mmm-hmm.
So it was just the physical thing that was missing and--
Sure.
She blushes a lot, doesn't she?
And she's also fidgeting an awful lot
- with her scarf. - Yeah.
So it means you've already had the physical already.
- And you've been here for... - Ben.
What, I'm just saying like,
you've only been here a day and you're already physical.
Like, it's mad.
Like, I'm a fast mover, but like.
Well, one thing lead to another.
- We had a little kiss and then it just... - I get that.
I actually haven't seen Dempsey this excited in a long time.
- But like-- Yeah. - Oh, wow, well, that's a good sign, isn't it?
You're like, super like, cool, poker face, calm and collected,
- hands in pockets, like, just... - Yeah.
And Dempsey's just like, fun around everywhere.
A cyber relationship.
I think it-- I think it's nuts, for me.
Nevermind different countries overseas.
And plus, I'm super surprised that they hooked up.
Statler's super different to Dempsey.
Like, I would say they are chalk and cheese.
Chalk and cheese.
So chalk, as in like a whiteboard,
chalking,
and cheese, as in like cheese you'd eat.
So basically, they're just two opposites to each other.
I mean, Dempsey looks super happy,
but they've been chatting online for like, however long,
and then they've hung out for two days.
You can't be fully sure of someone
when you've only known someone for 48 hours.
Give it a week, give it two weeks' time.
Things may be very different.
How was Thailand, by the way?
Ah, I absolutely loved it.
- It's so nice, yeah. - How'd you get on?
Things were going good, my dad left,
made my way up North to Chiang Mai.
- Stayed in, like, the hostels and stuff... - Yeah?
...making friends.
What did you think to Dempsey being in Thailand for so long?
Did you chat to her much? You keep in touch, or...
Ah, the communication was kind of crappy towards the end,
but she was living her best life, so...
- Yeah, definitely, you've gotta let her be. - Yeah.
The communication being off in Thailand
did make me feel pretty rejected.
I felt like she was, you know, just wild and free and...
It makes me kind of question, like,
did some stuff happen there?
I do still feel insecure.
So I'm trying to work up my nerves to ask her tonight.
But I'm feeling pretty anxious about it.
I haven't seen Dempsey for so long either,
- and obviously like-- - I missed you.
- Come here, you. - Mmm.
And then, uh,
obviously now, I was thinking that--
I was expecting her to be happy,
'cause she's been away.
- I've never been happier. - Not this happy.
Oh.
- That's good. - Yeah.
Typically, I'm the guy who waits for the girl
- to make the first move, like... - Oh.
Christian has always been very forward,
and you know, flirtatious.
So, for him to now say that
he's somebody who likes to wait,
I don't buy it.
Like, if I go in for a kiss, and the girl like, denies it,
like, I feel like, really crushed.
Well, we've kissed before.
She's beautiful, but she's crazy.
She's--
Okay.
At this moment, I don't know where we're at.
And last night, I wanted to take a flight home.
I got very angry and I blocked her.
Come on. You need to apologize.
- Yeah, I mean-- - She should be the one who blocking you.
♪ You are the one That makes me feel young ♪
♪ You are the one for me ♪
- I do, I found it. - Oh, cool.
Might bust the candles out.
- I'll just make it like, a little more romantic. - Oh.
I mean, this is probably like the point in the evening
where, you know, you put on the--
like the sexy sex music.
Do we have any sexy sex music?
- That'd be kind of weird, wouldn't it? - Yeah.
No, I do not have like, a baby making playlist.
Baby making?
Yeah, you know, something special,
some cute music to play.
Not sure how that's gonna work with me.
Uh-- oh, really? Okay.
That's good to know. Noted. Um...
I'm gonna grab the candles, too.
Gotta find a lighter.
Cool.
- Here's the bottle, ma'am. - Nice.
I really wanna do something special just for the two of us.
So I suggested that we stay in tonight,
and hopefully fix some mistakes
that we had last night.
Cheers to...
- A romantic night in. Yeah. - ...a romantic night in.
So what should we do?
Well, I actually did bring something kind of special,
something that maybe you haven't experienced before.
Oh, seems nice.
Gotta go upstairs, I will be right back.
We're having this cozy night in,
you know, it's more intimate, we can actually talk,
and not having the pressure
of being surrounded by a lot of people.
So, this is definitely feeling more like,
a first date to me than yesterday.
So I would be open to him making the first move,
and I hope he does.
Ooh, what's that?
Okay, so,
this is VR headset.
- I've never ever tried VR before. - Very cool.
It's like, really techy, really cool.
I brought my VR headset with me.
Having her experience VR for the first time,
is definitely something that brings us back
to when we were first starting to talk.
We both enjoy video games a whole lot,
and I think it's really romantic sharing hobbies together,
or things that we both find interesting.
- Oh, my God. - Okay, stay right here, don't move.
- All right. - No-- No matter what,
nothing can hurt you, it's not real.
It's hard to believe when it's literally 3D.
Why does it not die?
Well, they're zombies.
Good shot.
You're crack shot, babe.
It's so much fun.
It's incredible,
It literally feels like reality,
but with less detail...
...which makes it less overwhelming.
But I actually think virtual reality was really cool for me.
Very nice.
There you go. Shoot 'em right in the face.
Yep. Yeah, you're doing really good.
- Like, I'm just having a good time. - Cool.
- Actually, you look-- You look kind of cool. - All right.
Oh, that sucks.
I think I did pretty well,
'cause I got to like, the next stage.
Yeah, you did pretty good.
- You got a little-- - My hair looks really crazy, yeah.
No, your hair looks fine.
It's just, your face is a little red.
Cool.
- Let's cheers to a good day now. - That's right.
There are times where I feel like,
you know, things are a little bit more awkward
than they should be.
And a lot of that stems just from the pressure
that I'm putting on myself to finally be intimate.
Babe?
I'm just getting changed, I'll be out in a second.
But I really wanna take things slow,
because I've never been with a trans woman before.
Are we gonna be compatible intimately?
Am I gonna be comfortable with her anatomy?
I just don't know how that's all gonna go.
So, if we were to rush into intimacy,
and I wasn't comfortable with it,
or she wasn't comfortable with it,
I don't want it to be, you know, be a deal breaker.
Oh, you look cute.
- Can you give a little twirl? - Sure.
- Thanks. - You look cute, too.
Thank you.
- Cool. - Yeah.
- How do you-- - What up?
Huh?
- What up? - Nothing, nothing. I'm just, uh...
just, uh, getting ready for bed, um...
- I had a great time tonight. - Yeah?
- Yeah. - Yeah, me too.
That-- That's definitely why you're fun.
You know, just a night in,
good company and playing video games.
- And a bottle of wine. - Yeah.
Yeah, made up for yesterday.
Yeah.
I mean, I feel like this is like a weird question.
I mean, I think we both are obviously attracted to each other.
I have a feeling but I might be wrong, but...
No, no you're right. You're totally right.
But also I don't mind like
the fact that we're still hanging out and getting to know each other in person.
Yeah, same and obviously it's good to know that
I guess we both you know are attracted to each other.
Yeah, definitely.
Yeah, I don't want you to think that like, I'm less attracted to you because
I haven't tried to like initiate
anything intimate, uh,
typically I'm kind of the guy who waits for the girl to make the first move like...
Oh... Oh well that is not... 'cause I never make the first move.
Okay, all right. I get that like I totally get that but at the same time it's like
I kind of like to feel wanted and
you know, like if I go in for a kiss and the girl like
denies it, like I feel like really crushed.
We have kissed before.
Well, I know that but like if I was
you know so like, you know start grabbing your legs
grabbing your butt, and all of a sudden like, you're like,
"Yeah, I think we're moving a little too fast."
It'll kind of like, set me back a little bit.
I don't know, maybe it's just something that you know, we'll just have to
let happen when it happens.
Well it's... Well it's like we'll just have to see I guess.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
Okay, um, see ya. I'm getting the paycheck.
I'll get the lights.
What I think that I've known about Christian since the beginning was that
you know, affection and PDA are super vital things to him.
And since the beginning of our, you know, talking to each other, Christian
has always been very forward and, you know flirtatious
for him to now to say,
that he's somebody who likes to wait
for women to make the first move
I don't buy it.
And of course that makes me quite insecure.
- Good night. - Good night, baby.
- Hey! - Hello, this is gonna be great.
Hi, I'm Riley.
Nice to meet you. Thank you for this.
- Thank you, thank you. This is going to be great. - Yeah.
I haven't spoken to Violet since the fight last night
but I'm already here in Vietnam and not gonna sit in the hotel.
So, tonight I decided that I'm going to venture out in the Ho Chi Min City.
So, I hired a tour guide to take me around on his bike.
This is crazy.
You know, it's really weird because I ride motorcycles but,
riding in a city like, Ho Chi Minh City
and with all the activity on the road, I'm losing my mind.
I'm enjoying myself.
I just wanna make it from A to B.in one piece.
Ho Chi Minh city is a beautiful city
and it really sucks that, I'm not experiencing this with Violet right now.
At this moment I don't know where we're at
and last night to be honest I wanted to take a flight home.
But I had time to think about it and I
feel bad about my reaction to things.
In the past I've had girl friends that were not very honest with me.
And, I've been hurt.
So, I'm already there were I don't necessarily trust
everything I'm told, everything I see.
So, I might have been a little too sensitive within the situation,
but I want to navigate this with the most clarity going forward.
All right, thank you.
Thank you.
Are you... you doing anything?
How about you go out with me?
How about you come have a cigar with me, because uh...
Yeah, I'm here by myself.
All right.
Oh, wow.
Wow, this is... wow.
- Nice place, huh? - Yes, nice.
We chose a good one.
- We gotta sit here. - Wow.
- Hi. - Hi. How are you today?
- Good, how are you? - I'm good thanks.
Can we do
two double shot um,
- Cube of ice. - Yes.
- Uh, you want. - The same?
- Same, same. - Yeah.
All right, thank you.
- Uh, cheers. - Cheers.
- So how long have you been here? - Six days.
You know, I came to meet someone.
- Wow. - Yeah.
She's beautiful but she's uh, she's crazy.
Uh, okay.
I don't know. I don't understand women here.
We had a argument, 'cause uh,
my friend who I consider my sister, asked her a question.
What did she ask?
Um, I met her on an app.
- And uh... Yeah. - Dating app? All right.
And one day I said, let me see your sister on the app
and I went on the app and she was still on the app.
- Okay. - So my friend asked her
- Uh... - what happened?
So the thing is...
Okay.
So from what I'm understanding she would have been more accepting
of that question if that came from my father
than a friend.
- Who have the right, real right. - Who has the real right.
Yeah.
I don't know if I... if she tries to explain that to me
and I just wasn't hearing it because I was so upset.
When her tone to me, how she was speaking to me
- Right? - Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
- I regret it. I regret my action. - All right.
You need to apologize. I think.
Well, last night when it happened, I got very angry and I blocked her.
I think I blocked her.
- Come on she should be the one whose blocking you. - Yeah, I mean...
Even when I think I'm right, I'm wrong.
- So, here's what you need to do. - Okay, I'm listening.
- You need to unblock her as you know. - Yeah.
Thank you, I'm listening. You know, 'cause I... I
I came here to discover our relationship
to hopefully move it forward.
That's if she forgives me.
Biggest.
Ah!
Even though, Violet hasn't been really open about her past,
I'm starting to realize that maybe I've been going about it the wrong way.
I need to rethink my approach when it comes to Violet.
But in the meantime, I'm making the first move unblocking her
accepting my part and my role in what happened.
Because, at the end of the day I don't wanna throw away the last two years
and we owe it to each other to make this thing work.
I hope that she's open to meeting with me
because after everything that happened last night, I'm just hoping that I...
don't lose her.
Cheers. Thank you, Tommy.
- You're... You're the best tour guy ever. - Thanks.
So, before we have ice-cream
I have something here for you Jasmine.
What is it?
Well...
Yay.
- Look man, no hands. - Gino!
Always with the stupidity.
- Whoo! - Strong finish.
The brakes.
- Brake. - Okay.
Uh, that was fun.
Tonight, Jasmine and I put our differences aside
and now we're feeling good and positive.
Hey, whose up for an ice-cream?
Liz, do you like ice-cream?
Obviously, one good night is not gonna fix all of our problems.
But I just wanna get back on track.
It's like, what the therapist told us, improving our relationship
focusing on ourselves and trying to improve on ourselves.
Instead of pointing the finger at each other.
So...
Before we have ice cream,
I have something for you here, Jasmine.
What is it?
Well...
I think you might like it.
If I can open it. Um...
It's a ring.
This is a promise ring,
that I will try harder
to do better and you know...
avoid arguments with you as much as I can
and to uh, give you more
uh, what do I say, meat.
And, uh... you know,
you know, all the things the counsellor told us.
You know, do better so we can have a better future
be married and be happy.
What do you think?
Do you like it?
I do.
Oh, baby.
I snuck away when we were
at the plaza where they have the bikes.
There was like a vendor selling many different things.
And then I see this ring and it just stood out and I was like
"Wow, you know, I wanna get this for Jasmine."
I thought he was going to pee.
Go and get us ice-cream.
It's the promise ring, it's not engagement ring.
But when Jasmine gets to the U.S.A
I will buy an engagement ring for Jasmine.
But you know what,
I like the ring because, it has two hearts,
one heart represent you
- and the other heart is me. - Yeah.
Uh... You are romantic, I like when he is romantic.
He surprise me.
Like she's holding?
Okay.
Uh, for me, um...
Me, I'll order mine after.
I'll order mine later.
I used to know the word.
We have had a lot of arguments
but just seeing that this time it's Gino the one you know, making the effort
means a lot.
But I know that I cannot put all the blame on Gino.
I also need to work
on a lot of things to make this work.
- That one? - Which one.
I didn't... I didn't touch it with my tongue, I promise.
Our communication was not so good in Thailand.
There is unresolved stuff between us.
I thought you were meeting other people
cheating.
I am available.
You like mashed potatoes?
- I love mashed potatoes. - I know.
Tonight, Dempsey is making me dinner for the first time.
So this is gonna be my first vegan meal made by Dempsey.
But I think her level of cooking is different than mine.
I'm more of like a microwave person.
So, I'm not very good at chopping things
not super great and helping but I'm gonna give it my all.
Am I doing it right?
Jesus, wow, you're good at this.
Here's your garlic slice.
- Thank you. - I love garlic.
I don't know, I kind of like it.
You like it raw.
I love it raw.
- Really? - I dare you to eat the full garlic.
I know, I like them apples.
Oh, it's rough. It's rough.
Shut up.
Why is it spicy?
- Because it's garlic. Yeah. - Oh.
Oh, God, 'cause my tongue... my tongue is on fire.
You have a hospital nearby?
- Oh, that's not good. - No!
I'm dead.
Oh, Christ. It still hurts. It seriously hurts, still hurts.
Things are going really well. I feel very comfortable with her.
- Do you want some wine? Maybe, yeah. - Maybe.
It's probably a good idea.
But there is unresolved stuff between us.
So, I feel like in order for us to have a good foundation to start off with
we just need to have everything that's in the past, sorted out.
Yeah, okay.
- Cheers. - Cheers to you as well. Mostly you.
Mmm-hmm.
Okay.
- We're feeling the love, the good energy. - Feeling...
Yeah.
I wasn't expecting things to go so well as they're going.
Why?
Because, um, our communication was not so good in Thailand I thought.
Yeah, it wasn't. I'm sorry about that.
Yeah, I just felt like maybe you were,
doing other things meeting other people.
- Cheating. I don't know. - What? Cheating?
Mmm-hmm.
Why would you say that?
It's like we went from a lot of communication, like we talked everyday
but as soon as your dad left it just went like it just went downhill.
I told you before I went like,
I'm not going to be speaking to you as much
the time is so different, I don't have Wi-Fi there.
Wasn't gee, it blows my mind that you would think that.
- Oh, you didn't meet anyone else. - No.
It doesn't even cross into my mind.
To meet anybody else.
Right, but that's easy for someone to say
everyone has said that, you know what I mean.
I'm just used to,
people are saying that and then
I have cheated on someone once. Yeah.
- So, I've never cheated on anybody, - Yep.
ever.
It's a bit of a red flag for her to say, yes, she cheated
because I'm a massive trusting person. I don't believe in cheating
I've been cheated on in the past
It's not something that,
would even cross my mind to do.
I do think that if I'm gonna be getting accused of
doing things that I haven't done
and just there's no trust there
it could just ruin the whole thing.
Why would you even feel that I would even,
do something like that?
I guess, I'm just um...
putting my past relationships on to you.
Where I... Where I have been cheated on.
I'm not gonna do that.
- 'Cause you're so into me. - Yeah.
Oh!
This is just embarrassing. I... I'm embarrassed that I'm not healed as I should be.
Can't be south about stuff. You just have to learn from that.
I want us to grow together, I don't want us to go
back, I want us to go forward.
Like, you make me laugh so much, you make me happy.
You really make me happy.
You make me happy too.
Sorry.
It's extremely hard for me to trust people.
Just from like, being adopted and being rejected like a lot during my life.
But, she gives me all the things that I really really need.
Like, reassurance and safety.
And at the end of this whole trip,
I want to convince her to let me move in with her.
By tomorrow, I'm supposed to meet her dad.
Which makes me extremely nervous because he is her best friend
and he doesn't know anything about me.
I have to have his approval
or our entire relationship could be for nothing.
Next time on, Before The 90 days...
Do you know, he is so into having a super romantic night.
Oh, my God.
Uh-huh, ah...
You've been a bad, bad girl.
There was lot that was said last night.
And I'm feeling just super confused.
Okay, what do you want me to do with you?
We are not communicating the same way that we have been on the phone and I have
no idea what to do.
You don't care about how I feel. You're not...
I don't even know if you're ever like listening.
Hey!
I'm nervous about meeting Razwan's friends
especially a female friend that I've never even heard of.
I'm in love with him.
When I look in your eyes and after I look was, in Razwan's eyes
it was like, "I love you so much but I want to kill you right now."
It's a toxic relationship.
I am about to meet her dad and he has no clue that we're in a relationship.
- Yeah, yeah. - Statler has a thing for English girls.
So this my second time coming to England to meet an... an English woman.
Things needs to slow down.
You okay?
What happened?
I feel like I have been manipulated.
At this point, there's a slim chance of relationship right now.
I'm worried about you going.
Last week, the real Carmella told me she'd be open to meeting.
It could be possible.
I don't know what to expect but meeting her
could bring me one step closer in getting the closure that I need.