[Nicola] Previously on Before the 90 Days.
My fear is that you don't care about how I feel.
I don't even know if you're ever, like, listening.
I think I need to be more gentle with you.
[Meisha] He has kept me basically a secret to everyone in his life,
and I have to start seeing a person
who is loving and caring of me.
I'm crazy about you.
Just be more patient with me.
Okay.
Oh, my God!
-You've been a bad, bad girl. -[laughs]
So happy, baby, that you ejaculate
for the very first time.
I was starting to doubt it would ever be possible
But last night, we tried things that I never thought.
I'm in shock.
It's, like, truly amazing.
[speaking in Tagalog]
I don't like David thinking that I am to his money,
but...
Ah, big problem here.
So you're mad because my family,
someone I consider my family, is asking you questions.
We stop now, okay?
Okay, beat it. Bye.
Okay.
You need to apologize.
I mean, why would I have sex with you last night
and express those feelings and then lie?
But you kind of did.
But I didn't, not in my mind.
This is the thing, is now you're questioning me?
I'm very sorry.
This is just not how you talk to a person
you genuinely respect and care about.
I don't have a very good feeling about this.
I don't like how he treats you.
I do love you, and I do really feel strongly for you.
But, like, I haven't asked you what happened with your ex.
Like, why were you speaking to her a month ago?
Did you want to see her?
She asked if, like, she could pick me up from the airport
and stay in a hotel together, just get closer.
Oh, my God.
I feel a little bit sick.
I'm hurt. I'm upset. I'm not so sure.
I could trust Statler.
And without trust, what's the point?
Ugh.
Hello.
-Hi, how are you? -I'm waiting for my friend.
Okay. Thank you.
Two days ago, Violet and I got into a big fight
over a phone call with my friend Tiffany,
who was asking her some really personal questions.
We haven't talked since, and last night,
I realized I could have handled things a little bit differently.
So I decided to unblock and text Violet
and ask her if she wouldn't mind meeting me.
Although things haven't always been perfect,
I really want to make this work with Violet.
As much as we butt heads, I feel that we are compatible.
We make each other laugh
and I really, really care for her deeply.
I don't know if Violet is willing to give this
another chance or not,
but I think if we could both acknowledge our roles
and what happened the other night,
we could get through this and come out even stronger.
Hi.
-Hi. Good to see you. -How are you?
Good to see you.
How are you?
I know.
[speaking in Vietnamese]
So I have something for you.
This is me apologizing.
We say in America an olive branch of peace.
I'm offering peace.
I am sorry for my actions.
I embarrassed myself in you.
I understand that in your culture,
a friend is not family, period.
And they don't have the right to ask you questions.
Only family has a right.
To ask you that question was inappropriate.
I understand that now.
I should have protected you, and I didn't.
I apologize.
My sincerity is not enough.
Can I ask a question?
Is this whole conversation gonna be I'm wrong,
you have no fault in any of it?
I'm just asking, not trying to start any...
So I'm asking. Everything was my fault?
-Everything? I'm just asking. -Yes.
It's your fault, not my fault.
Okay.
Um...
How can we move forward?
Because when I ask you questions
and you don't answer them,
I feel hurt.
I feel like you're deceitful.
I feel like you're hiding something.
Not saying that's what you're doing.
What I'm saying is because I am willing
to answer every single question,
no matter what it is.
You know why?
I don't know why.
-Okay. -You know?
-That's... That's great. -I don't speak English.
No, no, no. That's great. That's great.
Actually, that is great.
So that's what I'll do.
From now on, if I feel it's a complicated question,
I will write it to translate it...
-Yes. -...and then give it to you.
Yes.
That's absolutely... That's great.
Thank you. I understand.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And that's fair. You're not asking for a lot.
I'm here for another four days,
and I just would like to try to move past this
and work on it, and I'll earn your respect back.
And I will protect you.
I will keep my word.
Okay.
I don't know if I believe Violet
when she says she can't answer my questions
because of the language barrier.
It sounds like an excuse to me.
But I am giving Violet the benefit of the doubt,
mainly because I understand
that I could have reacted differently
in the situation with Tiffany.
I want to go to temple.
Buddhist.
-Oh, it's a Buddhist? -Yeah.
I will go to temple with you.
Today?
-Tomorrow. -Tomorrow?
Okay, we can do that.
I know we have a lot to work through,
but for now, I'm gonna put aside my questions
and just focus on the little bit of time we have together
so I can show Violet that I can be the partner
that she's looking for.
We're back in Panama City
after collecting the memories as a couple in Boquete.
[Jasmine] Now I want to do yours.
We were in a very rough patch...
Oh.
But I can say that we are making progress.
Yeah, I agree with her on that one.
You're the only person...
Can you breathe a little better?
Yeah.
Oh, good. I'm glad.
-[chuckles] -Yeah.
I would say the biggest breakthrough this weekend
is the fact that Jasmine opened up to me
about her insecurities,
and she took accountability for her attitude
-and how she reacts to things. -Look, baby.
And I'm hoping that she's willing, you know,
to try with my family to build a relationship.
What is this?
Oh, I found it!
They were good.
But since this trip, he has been able to reach the climax
each time we're together.
And that means a lot to me as a woman.
[Gino] Our relationship outside of the bedroom
has a great impact on our relationship inside the bedroom.
So I feel more hopeful that in the future,
it'll get better and better.
[Jasmine] Gorgeous.
[Gino] With all the cute little color in your hair.
So beautiful.
Baby.
So, we had a really great weekend.
I keep thinking about it.
[Jasmine] Yes, baby.
It was so good.
[both laugh]
So...
do you think you're pregnant?
Because you're kind of looking like it.
Just kidding.
You're calling me fat?
No, no, no, no.
When I think about my future with Jasmine,
having a kid is really important to me.
We're not protecting ourselves or anything,
so we should talk about it.
Even though Jasmine has two sons already,
we have spoken before about having a child of our own.
I thought Jasmine was ready when I first met her.
She was taking birth control pills
because she wanted us to be on good common ground
before we have kids.
But now that we've grown closer,
we have a stronger bond.
I think we're both ready.
Well, at least, you know, we're so close to approval
that you'd be able to come over to USA
and have a baby, right?
Since we're so close.
Right?
Well, there are certain aspects
I would love to talk about.
Ah!
Okay. Sit.
So?
I mean, I'll be honest.
Like, I like the idea, the idea of having a baby.
Like, some days I am like, "Yes...
But when it comes to reality, it hits me differently.
What do you mean?
Like, I have kids, and I know what it takes.
It's a beautiful experience.
You love them more than your own life.
But it's not easy, baby.
And trust me, if you don't have
a very strong relationship,
kids are going to make things worse
because they put a lot of pressure into our relationship.
Now, I'm completely confused.
Because I thought you told me before you want a baby.
I felt like Jasmine and I finally turned a corner
in a lot of ways.
But if Jasmine tells me that she doesn't want children,
you know, I feel like everything
we've built up to this point could fall apart.
So what are you trying to say?
Um...
[speaking in Tagalog]
[in English]
I need to know that he and my son gets along.
I'm meeting your mom and your brothers tomorrow.
Are you happy?
Honestly, it makes me a little bit nervous.
You're divorced, not a virgin.
They're not going to like you.
My mom, she would never expect Meisha will be like
the type of woman for me.
I'm not going to hide who I am, period.
I think it's going to be a problem for Meisha.
[speaking in Tagalog]
[breathing heavily]
It's been a long week since my mother's death.
But today, David and I...
Today is very important because David is only in the Philippines
for one more week.
that David cannot support me and my son,
I need to know that he and my son gets along.
Basketball, volleyball.
My God.
[speaking in Tagalog]
[all cheering]
[Sheila speaking]
One, two...
Nicola, you're walking too fast. Hold on.
Too fast? I'm walking like a turtle.
Nicola, I love that you picked a hot pink bucket.
-Why? I love it. -It's so you.
Oh, my gosh, there's giant holes everywhere.
This morning, me and Meisha met up after the fight,
and I really see that I don't want this relationship to end.
-And I'm throwing it. One, two. -Okay.
-That's not very far. -Yes. Leave it.
So...
to teach her to fish.
The Lord Jesus himself was a fisherman,
and she's been hearing me seven years,
telling her where I fish, how many fish I catch.
So today it's the day to show her.
So I just let it sit in there?
Yeah, until the fish will take it.
Well, it's not very hard. You don't really do anything.
You just sit here.
You think so?
No, I'm just sitting here.
Can you lift yours, Meisha, to see if there is a food,
if there's a bait? Lift slowly, slowly.
-No bait. Gone. -Where'd it go?
Well, small fish eat it, but you didn't know.
I catch a rock.
You caught a rock? Ha, ha, ha, ha.
Good job, Nicola.
Take your hand down. Yes, yes.
More down. No, your hand down.
Yes, leave it.
Hey, don't go too much fast.
I'm not going to far.
You want to catch a fish,
or you want to stand on the shore all day?
I can see right away if somebody know to fish.
She think she know, but she don't.
No.
I could definitely catch fish,
because all you're doing is throwing the thing in the water.
Maybe, but...
It's not that serious. It's fishing.
No fish is going to eat right there.
That's right by the rocks.
Many fish is there, Meisha, many.
I'll move it. I'll figure it out.
I'll figure it out myself.
Oh, Jesus.
Oh, my God.
Oh, God, Meisha.
Oh, my Lord. Did you fall down?
Oh, my God.
[Nicola] Oh, my God.
You are bleeding.
-Let's go, Meisha. -No, I'm not going anywhere. I'm fishing.
Let's go. Let's go.
I don't need it.
No, you are bleeding. No, let's go. Let's go.
-I need the sea to wash it. -Forget from the fishing.
-I don't want fishing anymore. -Nico.
-I don't want fishing anymore. -Stop it.
Oh, my God.
-It's fine. -No, no, no.
No, no, no, no, no.
-Nico, come on. Stop it. -Look, hold.
You want to fall down, you will die.
I will not die from that. I was a lifeguard.
The first time in my life
that I'm taking a woman to fish with me is awful.
She didn't want to listen to me.
Hello, you are in the Mediterranean Sea.
You are not in Minnesota in some lake.
I'm going to meet your mom and your brothers tomorrow.
-Are you excited about that? -Are you happy?
-Oh, Meisha.
Honestly, it's making me a little bit nervous to meet my mom.
We've been talking for months
about me wanting to meet his family
and how important this is to me.
And he finally did text his brothers and arranged
for me to meet them and his mother.
And while I am excited, I'm getting really nervous.
They don't know who I am or anything really about me.
And according to Nicola,
they might not like me because of my past.
What would your biggest fear be?
Well, what my mom would think about you,
what she will say, "Oh, don't marry Meisha."
You know, marry a woman from here.
Why do you need a woman from America?
Stuff like that.
But you would not be able to understand
what she's going to talk to me.
Will you tell me?
-Yeah, of course I will tell you. -You would tell me the truth?
I'm not going to hide nothing from you.
Of course I'm going to tell you, Meisha,
but it's going to be very hard because I really don't want to hurt your feelings.
My mom can say, like, mean words.
My mom can be a very difficult woman.
She's 70 years old, and she's set in her way.
My mom dreamed that I would get married, you know,
that I would have my own life, my own home, my wife.
But she would never expect that Meisha
would be, like, the type of woman for me
because she's divorced, American, not a virgin.
Do you have another one of these by any chance?
'Cause this would be perfect.
I basically hide Meisha seven years this relationship,
so that would be like a heart attack for my mom,
like atomic bomb that I'm dropping on my mom.
At the same time, I know family mean a lot to Meisha,
so I worry if this meeting will be badly and I think
it's going to be a problem for Meisha.
I understand you, Meisha.
I really don't want to tell to my mom that you are divorced,
have two kids.
How can you marry this girl? She's not a virgin.
This is not traditional what you are doing.
I don't want her to start to talk about you something,
you know, not nice.
I'm not going to hide who I am.
That would be weird. I'm not going to lie, period.
So, tomorrow, my hope is
that you can be just as proud
of who I am as I am.
I am, Meisha.
I don't think you're ashamed of me, Nico,
but I know you're sensitive to your culture.
Just for your protection, I do that, Meisha.
-For my protection or yours? -No, yours.
Well, I don't need protection.
Yeah.
You decided not to share.
But I know they're not going to like you,
so I want to protect you.
-But tomorrow is going to come. -Yeah.
And it's going to pass, too.
-Well, tomorrow we shall see. -Yeah.
I'm in.
Babe, you going to work?
Yeah, I'm going to go to work.
Yeah.
I feel that I've taken on a lot of information.
Everything's moving too fast.
I'll just see you later, then.
Yep.
I don't know where things are with us.
I don't even know if I am in a relationship this morning.
Like, I have no clue. I don't know.
I feel massively hurt from what transpired last night.
Even though it started as the most romantic Valentine's Day
I've ever had, it did go downhill really quickly.
Me and Statler had a big fallout over Statler
going to meet up with her ex at the airport
and stay in the hotel for the night.
I don't know why Statler would tell her ex
that she was even coming to England in the first place.
She kept all of this from me, so now I feel like
she might be hiding something.
If she hasn't closed that chapter,
then she shouldn't be opening a new chapter with me.
And she certainly shouldn't be asking to move in with me.
Hey.
-Hey. -Are you going to work?
Yeah, I'm going to go to work.
-You okay? -Yeah.
Yeah.
I'll just see you later, then.
-Yep. -Yep.
I feel that I've taken on a lot of information.
Everything's moving too fast.
And I just need to just pause and get my head straight
and think about things, because I don't know
where my head's at just now.
I think what surprised me most about the conversation
last night was just her thinking that we were
rushing into things.
Rushing into things.
Like, we've known each other for months.
I don't understand.
But I guess she was pretty upset about the ex-thing.
Which, to me, it wasn't a big deal.
It wasn't, like, just, it wasn't anything.
I don't feel like I kept it from her.
It just didn't come up.
I think she's just scared.
It's kind of up in the air.
I don't know where things are with us.
I don't even know if I'm in a relationship this morning.
Like, I have no clue. I don't know.
[cell phone ringing]
-Natali! -Hey.
-Hey.
How's it going?
It's cold here. Really cold.
-Yeah. -Taking some getting used to.
Yeah.
So how are things going?
Like, are y'all meshing?
Are y'all comfortable with each other?
Yeah. I mean, things are going well.
Last night was Valentine's, you know, day.
So I, like, put together this little scavenger hunt.
And it ended with, like, a little romantic fire.
And, yeah, I told her I love her, which was huge.
Yeah. She said it back.
But, uh, yeah, then things kind of turned sour, I guess.
I was like, I want to move to England.
And I want to move in with you into your caravan.
And, uh.
You asked her or you told her?
Well, I guess I said.
I guess I told her, yeah.
I don't know, it's a lot I guess for one Valentine's Day.
Saying I love you is already a lot,
and then to add all of that on top of it, you know,
it kind of takes away maybe from the moment.
It's just, you know, me, I'm, if I feel it,
you know, I'm ready.
And it's like, why wait?
And then I guess somehow the conversation ended with my ex.
And how, like, you know, she kind of wanted to, like,
meet me at the airport when I first got here
and get a hotel.
But, uh, yeah, I guess I hadn't told her that.
So it kind of came out.
And she was like, do I even know who you are?
Yeah.
Do you think you might have made her feel like
you're one of many options that I have?
Kind of maybe made her feel less special
by bringing up the whole ex thing?
Yeah.
Yeah, I mean, when you say it like that.
I understand that Dempsey's upset,
even though there's absolutely nothing going on
between me and my ex.
We message every now and then just to kind of see how we're doing.
But I don't have any feelings for her.
I mean, it doesn't like...
you just live in the moment a little bit more.
Um, and maybe put the more serious talk on the back burner.
I guess it's just in the back of my head,
like the whole my lease is up soon
and I'm, like, planning our future together
and there's things that need to be done
and decisions that need to be made.
And she's, yeah.
No, I mean I...
you don't wanna scare her into running away from something.
That could be really great.
Yeah.
I know that Natalie thinks I'm moving too fast with Dempsey,
but it would be hard for me to take a step back
because my whole life since I was a little kid,
all I've wanted was somebody to love
and someone to love me back unconditionally.
So it's like, yeah, I'm 33
and I just want to get this whole living together,
loving together thing started.
So I'm gonna do whatever it takes to keep her
and get her to reconsider what our future looks like.
I'm just hoping that I didn't mess everything up.
All right, well, thanks for talking to me.
I miss you, I love you, I can't wait to see you.
I know, I miss you too. I love you.
Okay, so I've done your relationship chart.
I'm feeling a little nervous that Evelina may say something
that would perhaps cause us to double guess our relationship.
That would be really hard for me to get past.
You may see each other as an enemy at times.
I've kind of felt like that from you a little bit.
I'm just gonna go and do my makeup things
and, yeah, put my cream and stuff.
Sorry.
Whoa!
That's not intentional.
Christian and I are trying to put our relationship back on track,
but I do feel like whatever happened between us last night
seemed to have caused a lot of tension.
I care a lot about Christian, and I want to believe that his actions
were not intended to hurt me,
but I feel like I do need to keep my guard up a little bit.
So what are we doing today, babe?
What?
We're doing astrology stuff?
-Yes! -Oh, my God. Okay.
And Evelina is gonna be so excited
to tell us whether we're meant for each other
or whether we should...
I feel spirituality and astrology
are such a big part of my life.
knowing somebody's star sign adds a certain layer of certainty
into understanding them and people around me in general.
So, like, I take it very seriously.
So I'm feeling a little nervous
that Evelina may say something that would perhaps cause us
to double-guess our compatibility.
That would be really hard for me to get past.
Are we gonna sit around a little round table
with a crystal ball and a...
No, but I do wish I had the skills to read a crystal ball.
That would be dope.
Yeah, like, it's gonna say,
maybe...
[bleep] Never mind.
-Say it. -Oh, I was just gonna talk about yesterday,
and I didn't want to do that,
because I don't want to reopen old wounds,
but I was gonna say,
yeah, you're gonna fly off the handle
and not give him a chance to explain.
Maybe she's gonna say he's gonna suddenly change
his mind on the fly.
No, I didn't change my mind.
I told you, it was just a miscommunication.
Yeah.
Not necessarily looking forward to this,
because I think it's kind of a lot of mumbo-jumbo,
and I don't think that the stars and planets
or the time or place that you were born
dictates your personality.
But I'm trying to go in open-minded.
Right.
Yeah, but, like, I mean,
I was born on the same day as Donald Trump.
Do I have the same personality type as Donald Trump?
[imitates Donald Trump] I don't think I do.
I don't think we have the same personality type at all.
Hello.
-Hi. -You're here.
-Howdy, guys. -Howdy.
Thank you so much for making the time for this.
-I really appreciate it. -Of course.
Finally. Nice to see you.
-This is Christian. -Hi, Christian.
Hi, Evelina.
-Nice to meet you. -Very nice to meet you.
How have you been?
-Pretty good. -Pretty good.
We're having a good day so far.
Yeah, today was great.
We had a little bit of a rough day yesterday,
-but we're doing a lot better now. -Yes.
A little miscommunication,
but maybe this might tell us a little bit about that.
-Yeah. -You know, yeah.
Okay, so I've done the composite chart,
which is your relationship chart.
During a couple's reading, an astrologer provides a reading
based on the natal chart of both people,
and what they look for is how likely
two people are to get on,
what the areas of conflict may be.
I did look into our charts already personally,
but it is very different to hear somebody's opinion,
especially from an expert astrologer.
So, first thing is that we have Pluto opposite Mars,
and Mars is in the 12th house.
So, you are really connected to each other
on a subconscious level,
and you don't know why are you so pulled towards each other,
-and it's kind of... -It is kind of strange.
-Yeah. -That's so true.
Yeah.
You also value, as a couple, communication,
but it kind of like clashes a little bit
with your personal charts.
I would say for Christian, you lack tact,
like sensitivity.
Maybe some lack of empathy as well.
Yeah, which can obviously create
some friction in a relationship.
I see that there can be some battles and fights.
You may see each other as an enemy at times.
See, I kind of felt like that from you a little bit.
All right.
Especially with the situation that we had.
Yeah, I don't want us to be lover enemies or something.
I mean, does that sound a bit like we could be,
like, a slightly toxic couple, like going from,
oh, I like you so much, to, oh my God,
I'm so threatened by this person.
So, let's also...
I feel like this is getting a little spooky,
because it's hitting me a little bit.
So, what's the prognosis as far as our relationship?
-Like, is this something that looks like it will last? -Um...
-Or... -I mean, there are some, perhaps, lessons
or some situations that you have to work on together.
Maybe it's not going to mean that you will stay together.
[sniffles]
It might sound super silly,
but when Evelina mentions those things,
I just had this image of Christian's profile picture
on WhatsApp,
and I thought about how we've been talking
through social media
and how everything was, like, really perfect,
and, you know, I just...
I just had this line of...
I just had this line of nostalgia,
you know, like, when things were great,
and I just...
[sobs, sighs]
I just felt that, like,
[sobs]
If because of these problems,
things are to not work out between us,
[laughs]
I'm telling you, I don't want to have a baby.
We'll just stay with me and be with me.
And be happy.
Do you think she will be? Is that your gut feeling?
I have no doubt I want to marry her.
Sit, Meisha.
Okay, okay, okay.
But it will be very hard for us if my family
will refuse to accept who she is.
How do I get these wrinkles out?
I am ironing my traditional garb
because I'm going with Violet to her temple.
I'm hoping for the best. I really am.
I mean, I just don't have the energy to argue.
We don't have the time. I really want to make sure.
I want to see if we can really make it.
You know, I'm hoping that we could.
So I just want to look pretty. I want to look man-tastic.
And I think this is beautiful. Don't you think it's beautiful?
I think it's beautiful.
Glorious.
Hello.
You like it?
Thank you.
I wore the right pants and shoes.
Let me see. Let me see.
-Oh, you want me to turn around like a... -Yes.
-Wow. Amazing. -You like?
Amazing?
-Oh, that I look this good? -Good.
-Okay. You can go in. -Wow.
Okay.
[speaking in Vietnamese]
Okay.
Oh, that was a long drop.
And be quiet.
And just pray from your heart.
-Okay? -Okay.
This temple is just amazing.
I feel so calm in this space.
I can arguably say I feel at peace.
Am I allowed to tell you?
Yeah, tell me.
I pray that I don't hurt anybody
-with my words or my decisions. -Mm-hmm.
What did you pray for?
I pray for my family
-For us. Yeah. -For us?
What is this?
-We give money, give our name? -Yes.
Yes.
[speaking in Vietnamese]
That's good.
-Oh, we are here. -[both chuckle]
That's great.
-Awesome. -I'm so happy.
I'm happy.
This is a nice day.
[speaking in Spanish]
Nah, I'm completely confused.
'Cause I thought you told me before you want a baby.
So what are you trying to say?
Um, my question is... at this moment,
at this point in our relationship.
Are we... [sighs] Are we gonna be, like, good parents
to this kid?
We are getting old.
You are planning to retire.
Yeah, but don't forget,
the advantage of retiring early
and having a kid is that
I don't have to always go to work
and I can spend more time with the child
or take him to school.
If I am working, I'm not going to be able to spend more.
I get that point.
But, baby...
You know, like,
look at my kids.
They're not babies anymore.
Like, do you really think
I will be able to handle a kid by my own
in the United States?
It's not just you. It's both of us.
I mean, I think we can handle one. One.
And my family can watch him or her.
I think we can do it.
[Jasmine] He is having these super high expectations,
but it's hard for me to imagine
relying on Gino's family,
And on top of that,
So to be thinking about having babies at this moment
feels crazy and delusional.
It's gonna rain.
-[thunderclap] -Let's go before it gets worse.
I do believe that Gino deserves to have his own kids.
But I don't really know
if I will ever feel prepared to have a kid with Gino,
and that's the part that really scares me.
May I ask you a question?
What?
If I don't want a baby, like, 100% sure,
at this moment, at this right moment today,
I tell you, "Gino,
I don't want to have a baby."
Will you stay with me and still marry me and be with me
and be happy?
Will you?
I told you, I want a child.
-How am I supposed to be happy? -So you won't.
Could I survive without a child?
Yeah, maybe I could probably do it,
but I won't be happy like I would be if I did have one.
And why is it that you didn't tell me this until now?
I guess, first of all,
because you were not able to ejaculate before,
and now all of a sudden you can.
And also, like, I was afraid of you leaving me
for me expressing these concerns.
I wouldn't leave you.
But you were saying that you wouldn't be happy with me
and that you would be disappointed.
You could have talked to me about this.
-I thought we were on the same page with this. -Like before.
We're clearly not.
It's a difficult situation because she's the love of my life,
but I don't know if I can be complete
without having a child.
It's disappointing.
All I can do is hope that once Jasmine comes to the USA
that she will change her mind.
Hey.
-Should I sit down? -Sure, yeah.
I've been home alone all day, spiraling a bit.
I'm so anxious that it's gonna be over.
Relationships are a gradual thing.
We've gradually been getting to know each other
for seven freaking months.
I just think that it's probably gonna be
a little bit too much for us both.
-Hey. -Hey.
Have a good day?
Um, it's been all right.
Last night, me and Dempsey got into a fight.
I've been home alone all day, spiraling a bit,
thinking that when she walks through the door,
it's gonna be over.
I'm so anxious that I've sabotaged this in some way.
Should I sit down?
Sure, yeah. You wanna...
So...
how are you feeling?
Um...
I feel a bit upset with how last night went.
Yeah.
But there were some things that I think
that we probably need to discuss.
Like what?
Like, when you spilled it on me,
that you, like, you're gonna move in with me
when you come back. I just think that it's...
I just think it's probably gonna be a little bit too much for us both.
I feel like it's not too much for me,
but it's too much for you?
I just think we should just be in the moment
and just, like, enjoy each other's presence,
and when you go back home,
if we just wait a minute and, upon reflection,
like, look back on how we really think
that the two weeks went,
and then we can make a decision based on that
after we've thought about it for a while.
I feel like that's all well and good, enjoy the moment,
but, like, is this going nowhere?
I don't want to waste my time, you know what I mean?
Yeah, of course I want it to go somewhere.
But, like, where?
If I don't move here,
then it's going at the pace of a dead snail, you know?
But relationships are a gradual thing.
We've gradually been getting to know each other
for seven freaking months.
And yet you come to England, and the first four days
I find out that you've arranged for your ex
to pick you up from the airport.
I didn't arrange that. I didn't arrange that.
-Because I was in Thailand. -I didn't arrange that.
You were gonna stay in a hotel with her.
I didn't arrange that. That's wrong.
That's wrong, that's wrong, that's wrong.
I didn't arrange that.
She asked that, and then I told her about you.
Like, it didn't happen.
It was talked about, but it wasn't going to happen.
But you never told me that.
So, like, what else is...
What else am I gonna find out?
Nothing. I don't have anything.
Like, I'm 100% in it for you.
Yeah.
Like, I'm 100% here for you.
I'm willing to go all in.
Like, I'm willing to leave my country behind,
leave my home behind,
leave all the, like, comforts behind
to, like, be here with you.
I don't want to, like, go back home to America,
and then we sit on it for a while,
and then you're just, like, you call it quits.
Like, I don't want to get hurt that way again.
I know nobody wants to get hurt that way,
but I feel like it hurts extra for me.
Why?
Because, you know, like, I'm adopted.
Mm-hmm.
It's just, like, I don't think people realize
how much it has an effect on,
like, my relationships, I guess.
I just, I want what everyone else has.
Everyone else gets to be loved and accepted,
and I was not wanted before I was even born.
What was so wrong with me?
Can I give you a hug?
Yeah.
Oh.
I think Statler really wants
to be loved and to be accepted,
and there's nothing wrong with wanting to have
a healthy, happy relationship.
Given her past of being adopted,
she's probably fantasized her whole life
about what her life could have been like
with her birth parents,
and I just worry that through relationships
she still has that mindset of let's do this straight away
and let's, you know, have our fairy tale right now.
She just wants it instantly
because it's all she's ever dreamed of.
But that's not a good reason for us
to rush things in our relationship.
You okay?
Yeah.
-Yeah? -Yeah.
I love you.
I love you too.
I guess, I mean, I guess, yeah.
Let's just take it a day at a time.
It's just hard for me to, like, let go, but...
I know, but I still want to be with you.
Yeah.
And tomorrow I'm gonna meet my friends.
That's exciting. You still want me to meet your friends?
Yeah, and I don't want anything to change between us.
Just take things slower.
Yeah.
I can deal with that.
Yeah?
Yeah.
I know that I can be a lot,
and I move faster than the average person
when it comes to relationships,
but I know that I found love with Dempsey,
and I'm not gonna let that go.
I get that she wants to slow down.
I just feel like when it comes to love,
you should lead with your heart and not your brain.
I'm still all in. I'm still pedal to the metal,
and I just hope by the end of this,
she somehow changes her mind
and wants me to move in with her.
So do I have to sleep on the couch again?
-No. -No?
You can stay in bed with me.
That's a big relief.
I felt quite lonely last night.
I felt lonely too.
I'm asking no argument, okay?
Do you regret doing something like that?
You said no, you don't regret it.
Okay.
She couldn't even say,
I regret hurting you.
At this point, I'm beat up, and I don't know what to do.
Oh, so many kites right here.
How do we do it without getting tangled up?
Yeah, I don't know how can we do.
-All right. -We'll try.
-All right. -Okay, okay.
Oh.
Okay. Okay, okay, okay.
Oh, shoot.
What?
Here we go.
Yeah, we good now. [exclaims]
We do good.
That's right, I'm a professional kite flyer.
Oh, my God.
I never flew a kite before in my life.
I can't believe we did this.
We did it.
This is amazing.
We work together, and look what happens.
Yeah.
I can.
Um...
How much I have in my account?
Well, if you're asking how much I have in savings
and in investments,
I will have close to 100,000 US dollars in my bank account.
And...
$100,000 is not really a lot of money,
but...
Okay? I don't know if you understood what I just said,
but my life is very simple,
and I could ensure that if we are to move forward
and you and the girls come to live with me,
we'll have enough finances.
That make you feel comfortable?
Mm-hmm.
It catches me off guard a little bit
when Violet and I are flying a kite,
having a great time,
and she wants to talk about my finances.
But if she want to ask questions,
I'm willing to tell her. I want to be an open book.
I hope that she will be the same
and start being open and honest with me.
I know that I said I would put aside my questions,
but there's something I have tried asking Violet about,
and I couldn't get anything out of her,
and it's really been weighing on me.
So the answer I gave you about my finances,
was it good for you? Are you comfortable?
-Yes. -Okay. All right, good.
So you asked me a question.
I want to know if I can ask you one question.
Mm-hmm. That's it, okay?
So when we have a fight,
you text my father a lot of bad things about me.
Knowing that I did not do that to you.
Listen, listen, Vivi, Vivi, Vivi, Vivi.
It's not talking about the past. I'm asking, I'm asking.
No argument, okay?
Do you regret it? That's all I want to know.
We're in a better place now.
We're talking, we're getting along.
Do you regret doing something like that?
Is it a regret in saying that
maybe we should have just tried to work it out together?
I didn't ask you if it was your fault.
I didn't ask you.
It wasn't... No.
I'm just asking.
You said no, you don't regret it.
Okay.
All right, that's all.
That's all.
[speaking in Vietnamese]
Okay.
I kill your feelings.
When Violet was upset about what happened at dinner
with the phone call with my friend Tiffany,
I gave her an apology.
Because I owned my bull [bleep]
and that's all I was asking of her.
I'm leaving Vietnam in a few days,
and she still can't have a decent conversation with me?
Why are you bringing up the past?
Mother [bleep], because we need to work it out.
She couldn't even say I regret hurting you
by going through your father and telling him these things.
It's not fair.
And I just, I don't know at this point,
I'm beat up and I don't know what to do.
It's so nice to meet Nicola's family.
Tell me a little bit things about you, I don't know you.
-You should tell Andy. -No, you tell him.
In this moment, I'm a little bit hesitant.
Maybe it's a bad idea to introduce Meisha to my family.
-Hi, sweetie pie. -Hi.
I'm ready. Are you ready?
Well, almost.
Um, but, okay, so--
Yeah, no, yeah, but you're dressed casual.
What do you think I should wear?
I think you should wear like you are to the church, the best.
-So dress up a little bit. -Yes.
So, all right, you're going to have
to help me pick out an outfit then.
I know.
Today I'm going to meet Nicola's family for the first time.
His mother and his two brothers.
And I feel especially nervous because
of how Nicola has set this up for me.
This one is cute.
I don't know if I want to wear black because
I don't want to look like I'm going to a funeral.
Yeah.
-Or is this going to be a funeral? -[laughs]
His older brother doesn't even know that I exist.
And his mother and his brother
only think that we are friends.
Nicola has told me that there's a very real chance
that his family might not accept me because of my background.
But it is incredibly important to me that
Nicola's family likes me because their opinions of me
are going to weigh heavily on him.
I could wear pink, this one, if you want like more color.
-That's very nice. -See the bubble sleeve?
What are you doing?
-Looking at the time. -Why?
I just want to go.
Are you getting nervous?
To be honest with you, yeah.
I've been talking to a woman many years on the phone, right?
From Minnesota.
Here.
Nobody sees her.
Suddenly you take him to see your mom.
It's like an alien coming to Earth.
You know?
-Yeah. -Please get dressed, Meisha.
-Okay. -I'll see you in a minute.
All right.
Are you getting more nervous?
It's like a big deal.
No.
I can't help that, you know?
There's nothing I can do about that.
The more it's getting closer to meeting my family,
I admit I'm nervous because I think what will be the reaction?
What are they going to say about Meisha?
They are expecting me to marry a virgin
and from the Holy Land.
On top of that, I never brought
any woman to my mom's home.
I never.
It's good, Michelle. You look beautiful.
I have no doubts about the relationship between me and Meisha,
and I want to marry her.
I'm convinced 100%.
But it will be very hard for us if my family
will refuse to accept who she is.
Okay.
Welcome to my home, Meisha.
Wow.
Hi, Nadia.
Hi.
[in Arabic]
-Meisha. -Hi, Nadia.
-These are for you. -[in English]
You're welcome.
Thank you. Thank you very much.
-You are so welcome. -Thank you.
Oh, and I have more.
Yes.
From America.
Tell your mom these are some of
my favorites that I have at work all the time.
Tell her that.
Yes.
Okay, so help your mommy put these in the fridge.
Okay.
And also, Nicola, can you translate?
Can you say, it smells so good in here.
Yes.
Oh, okay. Oh, okay, okay.
[speaking in Arabic]
[Nicola] What do you want to drink?
[Meisha] Just plain water is fine.
And then I need you to come here
and stay here and translate.
Nicola, I need to talk to your mom.
About what?
Just will you make an introduction of who I am to you?
Ah, Meisha.
You have to think about the person that
doesn't speak Arabic and is meeting your mom.
Are your brothers coming?
Yeah.
What did she say?
She's going to make you vine leaves.
[Meisha] Okay, let's go up and watch.
The vine leaves, you put hot water on them.
Yep.
-And then you stuff them with meat and rice and spices. -Oh.
Yes.
-Okay, let's see who's in the door. -Who's here?
Oh, hello.
-Hi. -How are you?
-Hello. -Hi.
Nice to meet you.
Very nice to meet you.
-Yes. -Hi, Meisha.
How are you?
Nice to meet you.
So good. So good.
Yeah.
-Let's go sit here. -Okay.
Thank you.
So far, my family, they seem to be very friendly to Meisha.
Middle East people are very hospitable.
[Meisha] Oh, my goodness.
A lot of food. Wow.
But once I explain to them who is Meisha,
what she is to me, things will start to fall down.
So I'll be honest with you at this moment.
I'm a little bit hesitant, like awkward, like maybe
it's a bad idea to introduce Meisha to my family.
So it's so nice to meet Nicola's family.
Maybe you tell me a little bit
things about you, don't know you.
A little bit.
Okay.
Um, maybe you should tell Andy.
You tell him... You speak good English.
Well, I want you to speak in Arabic
so your mother can understand.
[Nicola] I don't want to, Meisha.
I don't like to say to people about my private life.
Why are you reacting the way that you are?
Why do you feel tense?
Because this is who I am, Meisha.
[Andy speaking]
[man] Next time on Before the 90 Days.
All right, you ready for the big reveal, babe?
-Wow. -Oh!
You look great.
I really want to have a fun time with Cleo because
for the past few days, you know, we've been on shaky ground.
I actually did buy something for you.
Something kind of... Kind of precious.
Do you have something to, uh...
Yeah, I still have some insecurities.
I've been pushing for Violet to be open and honest,
and I feel that I need to put all my cards on the table.
To be totally honest with you, I did call
a private investigator to look into your background.
The main purpose that Meisha came from Minnesota
to the Holy Land is to spend time together
and hopefully get engaged.
Wow.
-Engaged? -Yeah.
She was married.
She has two daughters.
[speaking in Arabic]
I wanted you to be the right person.
But maybe we're just not right for each other.
It's not fair.
It's not fair for you to do this to me.
I should be the most important person in Gino's life.
Yeah. After marriage, you would...
[bleep] marriage!
Yeah, you're a [bleep] idiot.
I'm out of here.
and I'm going back to him.
Yeah, yeah.
I'll show you something.