[woman] Previously on Before the 90 Days.
[Nicola speaking]
Whoa. [chuckles]
[Nicola] When I tell you I love you,
I don't hear back, "Oh, Nicola, I love you, too."
[Meisha] Well, I've been uncertain and worried
about what things were looking like.
[Nicola] If she's not sure in her life--
Don't worry.
You'll be--
I feel like we have a stronger connection now than we ever had before.
The K-1 visa is the only thing keeping us apart.
[Jasmine] I love you, baby.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] I am gonna put my faith
that he's gonna do whatever he has to do, because--
I really, really, really care about you a lot.
It may be deeper than caring.
[Riley] I...
I...
[Riley] Her not allowing me to say the "L" word--
This just might be the last time
Violet and I see each other in person.
[Razvan speaking other language]
[in English] So many things happened until this point.
It sounds like you don't even know
if you want to be together with me.
I don't know.
[Christian] There's nothing, the way I approach women in a bar
that would lead them to think that I'm hitting on them.
So, are you still gonna be able to trust me, you think?
[Cleo] It's hard for me to trust Christian,
but I am completely terrified of losing him.
[sobbing]
[Dempsey speaking]
Seriously?
[Statler] Dang, I don't know if I want kids.
[Dempsey] I'm worried that if we want different things,
it could just be a waste of time.
I will have a child at some point,
whether I do it on my own or not.
If you have to have kids, I don't think it would work between us.
[Dempsey speaking]
[Statler] Dempsey.
Dempsey.
Can we talk, or are you just packing in there?
Are you gonna leave without me? Like...
[Dempsey speaking]
Why are you acting like-- can you freaking talk to me?
[Dempsey speaking]
So, but like--
And that was-- That's just--
Uh, to make or break for our relationship.
You-You just said our relationship is not gonna work.
Like, I planned this romantic trip.
We're gonna part ways very soon,
and even though I didn't tell her earlier
that I didn't want kids,
she didn't tell me either that she definitely did.
I had no clue that Dempsey was so adamant about becoming a mother.
But, I do know that I don't wanna lose her over this.
Why are you so upset?
[Dempsey] Because you just said it's make or break.
-For you, it's not-- -After you [bleep]--
-After you said that, after you-- -Don't swear at me.
-[Statler] After you-- Okay.
[Dempsey] And you think that I have a real bad attitude.
[Statler] Okay.
That's how you feel?
What are you saying?
[Statler] Are you done with us?
[Dempsey speaking]
[sighs]
[Statler speaking]
[exhales heavily]
[Statler] What are you do--
[sobs softly]
You just took me by surprise.
That's all.
Just saying that.
It's just too much, like, you just don't want to feel good.
I'm just like,
anxiety through the roof, like,
-there's nothing but fear. -You just took me by surprise
because I just thought that the way that you worded things,
it made me just think, "Okay, well, we're done, then."
Because in this moment, I can't imagine having a kid, like,
and I'm not gonna pull something out of my ass and be like,
"Yeah, I would be down to be with someone
who 100% wants a kid when I don't want a kid.
Because in this moment, I can't [bleep] fathom that.
Like, it just depends on where I'm at.
I mean, in a couple years, sure, but like...
I'm not in that place so I don't know.
It's not that I'm being dishonest,
it's that I'm being honest in the moment,
but the-- the moment changes for me.
I'm just a rollercoaster.
Sorry.
Are you okay?
Yeah.
-You sure? -Mmm-hmm.
I'm sorry for storming out.
Does it make you feel like you don't wanna continue on with this
since it's a risk?
No, I wanna continue on.
I know this is a risk
to stay in a relationship with Statler
because she could be so adamant in the future that she does not want kids.
But, there is a little bit of hope there
that she might change her mind.
So, I think that
the conversation can be just put on hold for now
because in this moment,
I wanna be with Statler.
I can't imagine life without you.
Yeah, I know.
I hope so.
The weight of us not knowing if we're gonna be compatible children-wise
is hanging over us.
But...
it's something we can't really resolve in this moment.
I am worried to be going home so soon
after this heavily emotional conversation.
Ready?
[Statler] It's not the way I wanted to leave.
There's just a lot of uncertainty.
I don't want this to continue to weigh on her mind once I'm gone
and make her second guess our relationship.
[Riley] Well, it's confusing.
When I landed, she text me some things
and then it was-- we ended on goodbye.
I've been home from Vietnam a couple of weeks now.
But, after I returned home,
I got some very nasty text messages from Violet
saying that it's over,
and-and she doesn't want anything to do with m anymore.
You know, to be honest, I wasn't surprised
because we had a lot of ups and downs before I left.
But then, a few days later,
Violet started messaging me again
and to be honest, I don't even know what to do with these mixed signals.
Yeah.
She wrote, "I'm sorry I hurt you.
We can be together.
I really want a husband and a family."
She's acting, like, super nice
and... [chuckles] Where-Where's this coming from?
I thought we were done.
It just doesn't make sense.
[Riley] Um, I don't know.
Do I still have love for her? Absolutely.
I was-- was truly hurt by her actions
when I visited her, and, uh,
I just don't-- I don't get it.
At this time, I-I really don't know
if this relationship with Violet is fixable.
We both have a lot to work on.
But, when I try to do it in person, she never wanted to talk about it.
So, right now, my plans with Violet
is to just take some time to recoup and to understand,
and to just process everything that's happened in the last couple of weeks.
And then, you know, after that, I just-- I don't know.
Are congratulations in order?
-What's going on? -I--
[Tiffanie] Am I gonna be an auntie?
Come on.
Last week, Violet text me.
And she told me that she's pregnant.
And, um, the baby is mine.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] I only get one chance
to convince the embassy
that my relationship with Gino is genuine.
[speaking Spanish]
[Amanda in English] I am anxious
about this last dinner with Razvan.
In my head, I'm just trying to mentally prepare myself
for what's about to happen.
I feel like I need to know, like,
do you still wanna be in this relationship with me or not?
[Amanda] I'm leaving Romania tomorrow,
and after Razvan and I had our disagreement earlier today,
I'm feeling worried that he's gonna give up on us.
I do feel like me being closed off
has affected mine and Razvan's relationship.
So...
I want to show Razvan you know, my softer side
and that I can be the loving partner that he needs.
And ultimately,
I have to open up and be more vulnerable to Razvan now
because the fate of our relationship depends on it.
[Razvan] Hey.
Hello.
[chuckles] What is this?
Like, a little present.
For what?
[Amanda] Because I love you.
[chuckles]
Well... [chuckles]
-[both chuckle] -[Amanda] What?
-[Razvan] Can I open? -Yeah.
I got you this heart pillow.
So you can hug it and remember how much I love you.
And a blanket that you can cuddle with and think of me.
[Razvan] I didn't expect this.
And what is this?
[Amanda] Um, I printed off some pictures of us
so that you can have them around your house.
-[Amanda chuckles] -[Razvan speaking]
-I think we should start getting ready for dinner. -[Amanda] Yeah.
It's our last night together.
So, I'm taking Amanda to a nice restaurant.
And...
I feel like we both need to come to a conclusion,
what we will do.
My heart is telling me
to keep fighting and staying.
But my head is telling me that...
this relationship is toxic and...
we are not good for each other.
So, I don't know what to do.
[car honks]
What do you want?
[car honks]
[Amanda] I think you have some road rage.
No, that guy, it's annoying.
I am anxious about this last dinner with Razvan
because I know
whatever is going on with us,
like, it's gonna come to an head.
I know that I love him and I want to be with him
and it's just up to him at this point.
Thank you.
[both laugh]
[Amanda] Why did you laugh?
[Razvan chuckles]
[both chuckle]
You're so silly.
[waiter] Hello.
-Hello. -[Amanda] A glass of wine and I want a salad.
-[waiter mumbling] -[Razvan] And for me, I will do the same salad.
Okay.
Thank you.
-[waiter] You're welcome. -[Amanda] Thank you.
So, the last time that you and I talked,
you were unsure of...
like, if you wanted to continue our relationship or not.
In my head, I'm just trying to, like,
mentally prepare myself for whatever is about to happen.
I can't just wait around
for him to continue to be unsure about us.
I mean, there's no more dates after this,
I'm going back home, it's kind of like,
this is it.
Since I'm leaving tomorrow...
Yeah.
[Amanda] I feel like I need to know, like,
do you still wanna be in this relationship with me or not?
[Gino speaking]
Keep the feet warm.
[chuckles]
Okay.
It's been five months since I left Panama
and I really, really miss Jasmine.
Our relationship is going strong, but...
long distance is so hard, we struggle for so long
and this-- this whole visa process has been a nightmare
because it's taken absolutely forever.
But, I'm feeling really good this morning
Oh, yeah.
[Gino] It's a huge day
because Jasmine has her Visa interview
at the embassy in Panama.
We've been waiting a year and a half for today
and it's finally here.
I'm so excited, you know, I can't wait!
So I keep this pillow on this side of the bed.
You know, this pillow gave me a lot of comfort.
You know, Jasmine gave this to me, and...
When I miss her, I hug this pillow.
But you know,
pretty soon, Jasmine's head's gonna be on that pillow,
and I'm not gonna need that stuff anymore, and...
I think Jasmine's gonna like that side of the bed.
I'm so used to this side of the bed, right?
But you know,
Jasmine's gonna be having first choice, right? So...
I mean, she-- you know...
She's got first choice.
I'm sure.
I am ready for some coffee.
Eight cups of it. A whole lot.
I don't screw around.
[laughs]
It's just unbelievable
that if Jasmine gets Visa approval today,
I mean, she could be in Michigan like,
next week or something.
-[knock on door] -[Gino] Oh.
-Hey, my man. -[Dana] Hey what's happening, cuz?
-[Gino] Dana. -[Dana] How you doing?
So my cousin Dana is coming over
to help me put up some Panama decorations in my home.
[Dana] Cool.
Because when we speak to Jasmine later
after the interview,
we are hoping for a celebration.
Oh!
-A Panama hat. -A hat.
-You wanna wear a Panama hat? -Yeah, give it.
-'Cause I wanna wear a Panama hat. -[Gino] Yeah? Do it.
[both] Yeah.
-What do you think? -Whoo! [laughs]
[Gino] I love it.
[both laughing]
[Gino] There's been some issues
with Dana and Jasmine in the past.
So it means a lot to me
that Dana's showing up today to support me.
I-- I-- You know,
I really want this to be a good day.
But in like, in the back of my mind,
I'm still really nervous because
I know Jasmine.
You know, she has some anxiety at the interview.
And I'm worried, you know, that
they might ask her a question that throws her off.
You know, and she goes into panic mode,
and she can get really upset, you know.
So, I just want Jasmine to stay calm.
That's my hope.
[Jasmine sighs]
This foundation is not working,
because apparently, I look like a different color,
my face and my body.
[Coco growling]
Coco.
-[speaking Spanish] -[Coco whimpers]
I feel so weird today,
and I don't know.
I don't know what to expect.
I feel like, [inhales] you know...
[speaking Spanish]
Today is a super important day
because I only get one chance to convince the embassy
that my relationship with Gino is genuine.
[speaking Spanish]
But I don't really handle pressure well.
[speaking Spanish]
And therefore I cannot articulate my words.
And[sighs] oh, my gosh.
I, I been hoping that's not gonna be the case
when I'm getting interviewed.
[Jasmine speaking other language]
[Cecilia speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine] Because we've been waiting for it
for 18 months. [chuckles]
Oye.
And it's one opportunity.
[Zuellen speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
[Zuellen speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
[Zuellen speaking Spanish]
[both crying]
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
[Zuellen speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
[sighs and speaks Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
I'm always thinking about how hard it is gonna be for me
to move to the United States.
But it's not just me, but also my family.
[Jasmine speaking other language]
But in my heart,
I feel like I'm doing the right thing.
Because Gino is the love of my life,
and we fought so hard for this moment.
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
[Zuellen speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine sighs]
I've been waiting for today for so long.
And I have never wanted something so badly in my life.
It's-- it's very scary
that the future of my relationship
completely depends on what's gonna happen
on the next 30 minutes.
[sighs]
[cellphone vibrates]
[Dana] Gino, something's on your phone here.
[Gino] Oh, someone's calling.
-[Dana] Cool. -[Gino] It's Jasmine.
-[Gino] Hold on. -[Dana] All right, let me give you some privacy.
Baby! There you are.
[Jasmine crying]
[Gino] What happened?
[Jasmine speaking over phone]
[continues crying]
You know that I love you so much, Meisha.
I have no doubt and I'm willing to marry her.
But I don't know how her brain, her heart
will say to me when I propose to her.
-Right here? -[Nicola] Yes.
Are you saying yes or no?
-[Meisha] Aww. -[Nicola laughs] Ha, that cat.
[Meisha] Oh, my goodness, oh, my goodness.
[chuckles] Let's go.
-[Meisha] He's the cutest. -[Nicola] Thank you.
[Meisha] Well, I'm glad it had a home.
[chuckles softly] No.
[Nicola] Meisha is going back to America tomorrow.
I have no doubt about the relationship
between me and Meisha,
and I'm willing to propose to her.
But I don't know how her brain, her heart,
[chuckles] will say to me.
Yes or no?
God, make Meisha to love me more.
Well, sweetie pie,
I'm going to tell you something very important, yes?
-And... -Yeah.
You know that I love you so much, Meisha?
And...
we know each other for many years,
and I was waiting for a woman like you.
And I want to tell you something very important.
[laughs]
[Nicola speaking]
Are you saying yes or no?
-Right here? -[Nicola] Yes.
Are you saying yes or no?
Okay, but like...
[Nicola] Say yes or no?
-Yes, I will. -[laughs]
[people clapping]
[Meisha laughs] Oh, my gosh, Nicola.
[Nicola] I love you so much, Meisha.
[kisses]
-[Meisha] Oh, my God. -[Nicola laughing]
[Meisha] Oh, my God.
-[Meisha speaking] -Yes, I love you so much, Meisha.
[Meisha] Oh, my gosh.
[Meisha] Oh, my--
Oh, my gosh, Nicola.
[Nicola speaking]
-Do you know what you're doing? -Yes.
[Nicola] I know what I'm doing, 100%.
Oh, my...
Are you in shock?
I am in shock
-because you did it in public. -Yes.
And you say I'm not romantic.
How many people you know do it in public like that?
Well, it's almost everybody, but...
Listen.
-I am in shock. -I love it.
-[Meisha] Oh, my gosh. -[Nicola] Let's go, Meisha, let's go.
My heart is beating outside of my chest right now.
I have been praying to God about this.
And I realized that
as quirky and odd as he is,
yes was the right thing to say,
because Nicola's strength and his courage
and how he has enlightened my life
is something that I am sure I will never find again.
I don't have all the answers and I never will,
but I'm going for it
and I am so excited to do so.
[Nicola speaking other language]
[salesman speaking other language]
[Nicola speaking other language]
[salesman speaking other language]
[Nicola speaking other language]
-[salesman speaking other language] -[Nicola] Let's go.
[Nicola] Let's go, Meisha, buy you a ring, sweetie pie.
Well, the reason I don't have a ring,
because I don't want to buy something to Meisha she don't like.
And if she were to say no to me,
and I will buy the ring...
But she accept my proposal,
and for me, it's like a dream come true.
I feel very blessed by God.
I'm so happy.
So we always ask the customer, what's your budget?
[Nicola] If she likes something, let her to take.
-We will make-- figure out the budget. -[salesman] Okay.
[Nicola] I know Meisha is not going to choose a diamond ring
that costs like $100,000 or $20,000.
I hope that she wants something simple.
But the most important that Meisha will be happy.
[salesman] Something like this, for example.
[Nicola] Mmm, that's cute.
-[salesman] This is... -[Meisha] Simple cute.
-[salesman] This is something nice. -Mmm-hmm, yeah.
-[salesman] You can try it on if you like. -Very simple.
[salesman] Just see if it's...
-[Meisha] Do you wanna see how it would look like? -[Nicola] Yes.
-[Meisha] Do you-- Yeah. -[Nicola] You like it?
-[Nicola] I like it. -[Meisha] I-- I would love to know
[Meisha] what you think.
[salesman] I'm not allowed to put rings after my wife,
but she allow me for business.
-[Meisha] That's right, I'm-- -[Nicola laughs]
I'm helping you for your wife.
-[salesman] Yeah, this is beautiful. -[Nicola] Okay, this...
[Meisha] Cute, simple.
-[salesman] Mmm-hmm. -[Nicola] You think I should talk ...
This should be like 7100 shekels.
Oof!
That's far away from my budget, [chuckles]
I'll be honest with you.
-Well, this is-- This is one of a kind diamond. -Like--
-And there's no child labor in it. -[Nicola] I know.
[Nicola] If you can make me this stone,
because it's my first time,
I will pay you in cash.
The more you invest in her,
-the more you get back. -[Nicola] True, true.
[Nicola] But I really want to make deal with you.
It's sweet that he wanted,
you know, me to weigh in my opinion on the ring.
How much you can give it to me?
But then on the other hand,
there's now also we're moving into like,
discussing money.
It just feels so not hot.
Uh, I'll make it five-- 5,500 shekels.
If you can give it to me 4,500 shekel,
I will close it now.
I don't want to go from here without a ring.
If you'll give it to me 4000-- Really?
-I will make it for you. -[Nicola] Thank you so much.
May-- Maybe she can wear it.
-You can wear it, your ring. -[Meisha] No.
-Not until you're on your knee again. -[salesman] No, no. No, no.
-[Nicola] Again? Here? -He should have to, yes.
Please come have a seat over here.
-Oh, oh. [laughs] -[Nicola] Oh, my God.
-[salesman] Sit on your knee. -[chuckles]
[Nicola] Meisha, my sweetie pie,
are you willing to marry me,
and to spend all your life with me?
-Yes. -I love you so much for that.
[Meisha] Me too. [chuckles]
Aww.
[salesman] Guys,
keep the rest for later.
-[salesman speaking] -[both laughing]
There's a lot standing in our way right now
of taking the next step and actually getting married.
[Nicola] The distance.
That's the biggest barrier in this relationship.
And we also have the church's barrier
of the annulment in front of us.
So our hope and our prayer
is that God brought us to this point.
And now God in His time, in His place...
[Cleo] I'm just holding on to the positives.
It's not like I can forget things that happened.
[Cleo] Sometimes you can really love somebody.
At the same time, you--
[crying] it's just knowing that maybe you're not meant to be together.
[bleep]
Um... Oh, this thing's dirty.
[clicks teeth]
-Okay. -Can I keep this?
-What? -Can I keep this?
[sighs] Babe, that's my...
like, literally, like, my favorite hoodie.
Uh...
Yeah, you can... You can keep that.
Next time I come I'm taking it back.
You can... It's a rental for you.
[Cleo laughing] It's a rental, okay.
[Christian] Well, today's the day
that I head back to the United States.
I think we're pretty tired.
I still got a lot of packing that I need to do
before I leave for the airport.
And I'm still going to have to pack everything
and make sure the kitties are ready to return home.
[Christian] You gonna help me pack my suitcase?
-[Cleo] Yes. -[Christian] And send me off
with a kiss and a pat on the butt.
Cleo's feeling pretty somber and...
and sad, and I am, too.
[Cleo] Like, I thought I'd be able
to emotionally kind of...
[sobs loudly] [bleep]
But I'm just holding on to the positives.
[Christian] You know, there's things that we gotta
still kinda, like, process and decompress from.
Because some of the things that happened are kind of
a little bit like a dent in our relationship.
And I think that
trust is an issue that we have to work on.
That sounds pretty sucky.
It sounds like, you know,
our relationship is kind of scarred.
That's how relationships go. They're like...
Like in this analogy, they're like cars.
You know, you get in little fender benders here and there.
But it's not like anything that's gonna total the relationship.
[Christian] Okay, before you start crying,
before you start crying, because I don't think that
the negatives outweigh the positives at all.
But it's like, you know,
it's not necessarily like
I can forget things that happened,
because if I forget the things that happened
between us that weren't as great, like,
we're not gonna be able to learn from anything, you know?
We should be happy that we had a great time.
And let's just focus on that.
I got it.
I'm aware that there have been difficulties
and moments of awkwardness and misunderstanding.
It is not easy to find somebody
that accepts me for simply who I am.
So I don't wanna lose that.
[Christian] Let's get moving and get me out of here.
[Cleo] But sometimes you can really love somebody,
at the same time, you...
You just know that maybe you're not
meant to be together.
And I've been in that...
I've been in that position before, and...
it's [bleep] hard. [sighs]
[Christian sighs]
[imitating Humphrey Bogart] Well, sweetheart.
-Come on. -This is where I...
where I get off. Wish you were...
Wish you were coming with me.
But you better get on that plane and...
Just kidding. That's Casablanca.
[Cleo speaking]
[Christian] Yeah.
There's more adventures ahead.
[Cleo] I love you.
I love you, too.
Take care, okay?
All right, all right.
[Christian sighs]
[bleep]
[sobs]
♪ I want to fall asleep in the back of a fallen star ♪
♪ Send all our dreams into orbit around a heart ♪
[Christian] Kissing Cleo for the last time,
it's tough.
I think I'm trying to be strong for her.
I know that. I know that she's kind of a mess.
You know, I'm trying to remind her
and keep things light, make sure that she knows,
like, hey, this ain't the last time that we're gonna be together.
But at the same time,
we're separated geographically,
and there's still a lot of unknowns.
I don't know if my family will be able
to come to terms with who she is.
or if, you know, if we can overcome
all of our issues.
I just don't know.
♪ Who can save us ♪
Yeah, we're going.
[sighs deeply]
[Christian] Cleo and I do have a lot going against us.
She's the first autistic person that I've ever dated,
she's the first trans person that I've ever dated.
Here we are, leaving London.
But I love Cleo and I do care for her a lot.
I don't know, there's just something about her.
I think she's a very special person.
I think she's really,
really one out of a billion.
♪ Who can save us ♪
We're just about to take off.
I messaged Cleo, and, uh...
said that I already miss her.
And I really don't know how I'm gonna feel
once I get back stateside. But, uh...
I guess we'll see.
Do you still wanna be in this relationship with me or not?
I love you so much...
Things will not change.
Will you miss me, do you think?
Yeah.
Just realistically though, like, when...
When could I see you next?
This is our last night together,
and there's a lot up in the air.
I don't know what our next step in the relationship is.
I've been thinking about it every day, like,
could I live with you?
Goodbye, Scotland. You were good to us.
[Dempsey speaking]
[Statler speaking]
[Dempsey] It's okay.
[Statler speaking]
[Dempsey] Nobody's perfect.
I think you're pretty close to perfect.
I'm not, babe.
But thank you.
Statler is going home to Texas tomorrow,
and I'm gonna miss Statler a lot.
This morning we got into a bit of a heated discussion,
and for a moment there,
I thought that me and Statler were gonna break up.
And that was an awful feeling because I love Statler
and I don't wanna be without her.
Ooh, we must have left the light on.
Oh, let's get this fire on.
[Dempsey] Hopefully.
You wanna sit down? Enjoy what precious moments
-we have left. -Yeah.
[Statler] This is our last night together,
and I'm relieved that we could get past
this whole kids situation.
But there's a lot up in the air,
because, you know, she's not
wanting me to move in with her.
So I don't know what our next step in the relationship is.
Just feels like yesterday I got here.
It does. God, it's been a journey. [laughs]
Yeah. Like, a lot's happened.
[Dempsey laughs]
-[sighs] Bit warm. -Yeah.
-Sorry. -No, that fire's really going.
Will you miss me, do you think?
Yeah.
Just realistically though, like, when...
When could I see you next?
'Cause I wanna see you again, badly.
I wanna see you soon.
So I'll just be back a week after I leave?
You can if you want.
No I can't, come on.
You were like, "Too much too fast,"
is what you said, I think.
[chuckles] Changed my mind.
-No, you didn't. -I did.
You can move in with me if you want.
-What? -I want you here with me.
-No, you're joking. -I'm not.
You would have me stay with you?
Live with you in England?
Yeah, it would be nice.
You're ser... Like, have you thought about it, though?
Yeah. I've been thinking about it every day, like,
could I live with you,
could I spend my time with you?
And I think, yeah, I could.
When Statler first got here,
I didn't want us to be rushing into things.
But after all these, like, deep conversations,
I feel that we bring out the best in each other.
This is the biggest leap of faith I've taken,
apart from when I left home when I was 18.
But I do just want to be with her,
and I'm ready now
to take that next step and start our future together.
Do you think the place is big enough for the both of us?
What do you think? It's your place.
Yeah.
But it's whether you could adjust to farm life.
Well, there might be some changes
that could be made.
But doesn't matter where I live,
I just wanna be with you.
I feel freaking shocked. [laughs]
I actually... I have no clue what changed her mind,
but I'm happy it changed.
I can't believe I'll be coming back to England
in less than a month.
I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with her.
But I'm gonna miss my wifi, my cell service,
my hot shower.
I won't have the convenience
of everything that I'm used to having
in America.
I'm going to be making huge sacrifices
to live with the love of my life.
So I hope she's a million per cent in.
[Dempsey] I'm really, really, really excited.
Me too. I love you so much.
I love you, too.
Like, do you still wanna be in
this relationship with me or not?
You know, I feel like our relationship, it's...
I love you so much...
And...
In the end, you know,
I'm scared things will not work
and things will not change.
[Amanda] Things will change if we are both willing
to change them. I mean, like,
bad things that are unhealthy
that cause us to fight.
For me, it's difficult to, like,
talk to you about how I feel, you know?
So I got you a card.
I don't know, I just, like...
It's easier for me to, like, write things
than, like... I don't know.
[Razvan] Okay, let's see.
"Razvan.
These past three weeks with you have been crazy,
but also some of the best time of my life.
You mean so much to me,
and I don't want to go one day in this life without you.
You are my soulmate.
My protector.
My knight in shining armor.
My one true love.
I will do anything for you and us.
And sorry for everything I've done.
I love you. Amanda."
This is so sweet.
You can be very romantic.
-Thank you. -You're welcome.
This is like a fresh start for us.
What do you think?
I'm feeling that
I love you so much.
And I want to make things work.
I want to be with you.
So, since you want to still continue
our relationship, and you have your visa,
I was thinking about the time
it would be good for you to come to the US.
Uh, well, I was thinking,
you know, Thanksgiving,
because I just feel like
it would be a nice time for you to, like,
meet the kids and then meet my other family.
Well, I think that would be nice.
I'm really excited.
Are you gonna miss my hugs?
[Razvan] Yes.
Are you gonna miss my kisses?
Yes.
Are you gonna miss something else that I do to you?
-Yes. -[chuckles]
[Amanda giggles]
[both laugh]
I didn't really know what to expect going into this dinner,
honestly, and I feel, like, so happy.
Like, I'm not gonna be leaving here single.
I'm just feeling so relieved.
[speaking Romanian]
It's so sexy when you speak Romanian.
When I speak Romanian?
Maybe everything is kind of just now falling into place.
Like, maybe it took us a little bit,
and we were meant to go through these hard times
and these challenges so that we could learn from them
and grow from them, and be happy together in the future.
[Amanda chuckles]
Stop it. Let's go.
[Razvan] Let's go home. We have work to do.
-We have work to do? -Yeah.
I think that we need to be spending time together
in the United States waiting for the annulment.
No.
[Meisha] Nicola and I share religious beliefs,
but we're seeing things a little bit differently here.
How are you gonna water this soil
from Israel when I'm not in the same country?
-You gonna eat it? -God!
Your suitcase is so heavy, Meisha.
[Meisha] It'll... It'll be fine, I think.
[Nicola] Today Meisha is leaving Israel
and I feel very sad.
But at the same time, I feel very happy
because now I know she is my fiancee.
So, who's taking you to the airport, Meisha?
[laughs]
Nicola, are you lying?
No, I'm joking with you, sweetie pie.
Of course I will take you.
[Meisha] It's very difficult
to leave Nicola in Israel, especially because
we don't know when we're gonna see each other again.
[chuckles]
[Nicola] I will miss you so much.
I know. I'll miss you too.
We wanna get married
as quickly as possible.
But the challenge
in mine and Nico's situation right now
is that normally we would just immediately
sign up for the K-1 visa,
and as soon as you get it,
he could come to the US right away.
But for our situation, I'm waiting for an annulment.
I'm divorced, so in order to get remarried
as a Catholic, I need to get
from the church what is called an annulment.
I've applied five months ago.
But we don't know when or if
that annulment is going to be granted.
Bye. Bye, room.
-Oh, my God. -Sad, Nico.
So that leaves us in a major holding pattern
wherein I can't even apply for the K-1 visa
for Nicola, and that sucks.
[Meisha] Wow, Nicola. What an adventure.
Now that we're engaged,
I would like a celebration for...
Are you smelling your armpits again?
Stop doing that. That's so gross.
Ew! Okay.
But when you come to the US,
I would really like to have, like,
a proper engagement celebration, right?
It is possible for Nico to get a tourist visa
and come to the United States
and stay upwards of three months there.
So in our situation, I think the best thing to do
at some point is just for him to come to the US
and stay with me while we wait for the annulment.
[Nicola] It's going to be very difficult.
Going back to the phone, it's so, like...
So, but this is exactly why
I think that we need to be spending time together,
physical time together,
in the United States.
You coming and staying there.
And waiting for the annulment.
No.
How are you gonna water this soil
from Israel when I'm not in the same country?
With praying that God will open the door and you get the annulment.
There's not a solution, Meisha.
What do you prefer? To make sin and be happy?
There's... But that's not sinning.
We don't have the same luxuries as other people
not in an international situation.
Nicola and I share religious beliefs,
but we're kind of seeing things a little bit differently here.
In my opinion, you just have to make a firm boundary
in your relationship that
even though we're under the same roof,
we'll not have premarital sex.
We've been doing that this entire trip,
and it's not an issue.
So I would like to hear from Nicola
a little bit more fire in the belly
to try to hold this together,
and not just, "Well, I'll see you when I see you.
"I'll see you when the annulment's done
because I just don't wanna be under the same roof as you."
It just seems so cold and detached from
the reality of what keeps our relationship together,
especially when you're talking about long distance.
And that worries me a lot.
Well, it's go time, Nico.
There's no turning back now, baby boy.
[Meisha sniffs]
[Nicola] Sweetie pie.
-[Meisha] Still sad. -I know.
I know.
-Gonna miss you so much, Meisha. -Me too.
You're such an amazing woman.
[Meisha] Just don't keep us in limbo for too long, okay?
-[Nicola laughs] -It's not fun.
Sad.
Aww, Meisha.
My sweetheart.
Of course I'm sad.
I'm excited to go back home.
I have a lot there, and I can't wait
to see my kids and my family, but I'm leaving
my best friend and my heart
here as well in Israel, so it's...
It's hard.
I know it's difficult at the moment,
but the future is bright.
C8, think you have to go from there.
-Thank you, sweetheart. I love you. -Bye.
Gonna miss you, Meisha. Sweetie pie.
Have a nice flight.
I will. I'll call you in New York.
Yes. I will pray for you.
Love you so much, Meisha.
-Love you. Thank you. -Bye, my love.
Bye, Meisha.
-I love you. -Love you, too.
[Meisha] It worries me to think that
there's still something out there
that is beyond our control.
But I think one of the most important things
for Nicola and I to remember at this point
is this Bible verse from 1 Corinthians,
chapter 13, verses four through seven.
"Love is patient. Love is kind.
It is not rude. It does not seek its own interests.
It is not quick-tempered.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things and endures all things."
I do miss him already.
And it's gonna be a very long flight back to the US.
♪ Nothing can ruin us ♪
[sighs] You feel like you're ready
for, like, me moving here and everything?
I do want you to move here.
It's just I'm feeling a lot of pressure.
I don't want you to feel, like, pressured to the point
where you're just like, "Don't come."
The night before I left, I was in my hotel room,
minding my business, and she came back on her own.
You know, I did not go over there
with the intention of having sex with her.
One thing led to another,
but I didn't think I would be
making a baby that night.
Ooh.
[sighs happily]
It has.
-I hate it. -Yeah.
[Statler chuckles]
Mmm, I don't wanna leave!
I don't want you to leave.
I just wanna cuddle for the rest of our lives.
Just end like this forever.
Yeah, that would be nice.
[Statler] It's our last morning together,
and I can't believe that today's the day
that I'm gonna part ways with Dempsey.
One...
-Two. -Three.
[Statler groans]
Ma'am!
[chuckling]
-No! -You're gonna make me
drag myself out of here.
[both chuckling]
[Dempsey] No, no!
[Statler] The plan is to move here
in less than four weeks once my lease is up.
But even though I'm so excited
that Dempsey wants me to move in with her,
I'm terrified to leave,
because I'm just thinking about my ex
and how it went down with her.
I was supposed to move in with her,
and when I left the country,
you know, I got a phone call and I got broken up with.
So a lot could happen in that one month.
So you want a pancake and a slice of toast?
Yeah, please. That'd be awesome.
Thank you.
[sighs]
I mean, do you feel like you're ready for this?
For, like, me moving here and everything?
I do want you to move here. It's just...
feel like you're feeling anxious about things
and I'm feeling a lot of pressure.
What do you mean, pressure?
Just because, like, you know,
things like my toilet and the cold shower,
and I just worry that you're not gonna be
happy here for long.
I mean, I don't want you to feel, like, pressured
to the point where you're just like, "Don't come, it's too much."
You know?
I've never felt this way about anybody before.
But I do know that Statler moving in with me
will be hard.
She's asking for all these changes.
But I also think that
she is gonna have to adapt
to my lifestyle as well.
Hello.
I don't want Statler to come here
and her to expect me to change my whole life straightaway.
I don't think I'm ready for that.
So, I hope that we are making the right decision.
[hopeful music playing]
[sharp inhale]
[voice trembling] I'm gonna miss you.
You'll be back soon.
Hopefully. [chuckles]
If you don't decide you can't do caravan life [giggles]
once you get back to all your creature comforts.
Creature comforts are nothing if I don't have you.
My God.
[sniffles]
-[heavy sigh] -Mmm-hmm.
[chuckles]
[shuddering sigh, sniffles]
[Statler] I've never felt in love like this.
I feel like I got unconditional acceptance with Dempsey.
Like, I could be weird and awkward
and be fully accepted and fully loved.
Like, I could just tell.
I'm gonna miss her smile and her like, reassuring eyes.
-You're gonna be back soon. -I know.
Like, I just look at her and she's just like...
It just feels better. She makes me feel better.
-I love you. -I love you.
See you soon.
I'm not gonna say goodbye.
I'm just gonna... Awkwardly walk away.
See you soon. [chuckles]
[shuddering sigh]
[both laugh]
-Love you. -[Statler exhales]
[tense music playing]
[Tiffanie] What's going on?
Come on.
So it's been about a month since I've been home from Vietnam.
And last week Violet texted me
and told me that she's pregnant.
And it's mine.
I'm really struggling on how to process this.
I'm definitely in shock.
I'm confused.
I thought it was over. I really did.
And now, I could potentially be a dad.
I don't know how to navigate this at all.
So what happened?
So, she was very mean to me during the whole trip.
She didn't even give me a hug or anything.
But the night before I left, she came to me.
I was in, you know, in my hotel room, minding my business.
And she came back on her own.
-And then, the intimacy took place. -Yeah.
-And it was nice. -It was nice.
I mean, she's 5'2", I'm 6'4". It was a lot of fun.
-[screams] -[laughing]
You know, I did not go over there
with the intention of having that type of relationship
or even-- Having sex with her.
But, you know, she came to the room
and then, one thing led to another.
It started out as a cuddle
and then, you know, a hand goes south
and a lip goes north.
I just... I was shocked. I did not expect her to show up at all.
It was nice. It really was nice.
But I didn't think I would be making a baby, right.
That's nuts.
Wait a minute. Wait.
Did you use something?
No, I didn't take anything 'cause that wasn't--
I told you to take something.
-[groans] -I said, make sure you pack
But... But because of the medication I am on,
my... It's a one-- Less than one percent chance,
being that I'm on this medication,
less than one percent chance that I can conceive.
The reason why I have doubts right now
is because Violet has lied to me in the past.
And also, from what my doctors have told me,
I cannot get a woman pregnant because of the medication that I'm on.
It's not that it can never happen.
I would have to be off the medication
for a certain period of time to bring up my sperm count.
So I'm kind of like, how.
But miracles do happen and life finds a way.
So I don't know if she's actually pregnant
or maybe she is and it's not mine.
Yeah, I don't put anything past her.
But I don't want to be wrong and be a piece of crap.
So I said, "Listen, I'll support you.
Whatever you want to do, let's go and confirm this.
And, you know, get the test so I can get the results
-so I can understand what's going on." -Right.
I called the international hospital
and I said I found, um, a prenatal doctor.
-And I said, List-- And that speaks English. -Right.
-I said I will pay for everything for your care. -Right, right.
-But go to this doctor. -Right, right.
And she wouldn't do it.
-Ooh. -She said, "No, I have my own doctor."
So, in the midst of all this, we're talking, right? We're speaking.
And I'm talking like, "Hey, can you please, um,
listen to classical music and jazz and headphones and put it on your belly?"
-That's me. Right? That's me. -[coos] Yeah.
She's like, "Oh, that first night we were together."
-But never talking about the pregnancy. -Right.
And she comes out of nowhere and is like,
"Why don't you just ask me to marry you already?"
[gasps]
Her saying, "When are you going to marry me," is kind of crazy.
She knew she could play with him.
She also knows he'd never had a kid,
so he doesn't even have a blueprint to go off of.
And then, the minute that opportunity is there,
you should marry me because I'm pregnant?
So what does that mean? You gonna marry me and do what?
Come to the United States.
I hate-- I hate to feel this way,
but is she trying to become a citizen
or get the green card or whatever?
You don't think that's the situation?
I don't think it was a green card, citizen thing
because my time there was so difficult with her,
communications and... I was just like, there's no-- Like, it just--
-I'm questioning everything at this point. -Right.
[Riley] You know, I want to be excited about this.
But this whole baby thing is just not adding up.
I... I don't want to get that emotionally attached
based on the history of my relationship with Violet.
I don't even really know for sure
if I was the only man she was seeing.
How are you-- Are you okay?
Um, it sucks because I really, really wanted this to work.
-You wanted it to work. -I wanted it to work and um... Right.
[sniffles]
I'm 8,000 miles away. I cannot control anything.
All I know is I need a DNA test to prove paternity
and if Violet is pregnant with my child,
obviously I'm gonna do the right thing.
You know, I'm not gonna allow my child to grow up without a father.
I am going to do whatever it takes to be in my child's life.
Right, [stammering] it's...
[sighs] I'm trying to keep it together here. You're not helping.
You're really not helping.
I just really hope I'm not being played.
It just sucks. [bleep] it sucks.
[sobbing] Baby.
They're going to find an excuse
for us not to be together, baby. [crying]
This is bad. This is really bad.
[soft music playing]
[Amanda] I am so sad.
And tired.
Last night was amazing.
And I feel like...
We were connected more than any time.
Yeah, I did.
[sighs]
-[yawns] -Did you pack everything?
Mmm, yeah, I think so.
[Razvan] Well, let's make sure.
[Amanda] Okay. [chuckles]
-Oh. -[laughing]
These are yours?
[laughing]
[Amanda] My last night with Razvan,
I feel like it was the best night in Romania,
but also like, the saddest night too.
[gentle music playing]
Razvan and I wasted a lot of time bickering and fighting
over things that weren't that important
like, you know, looking back.
And it took me a long time to even feel comfortable enough
to be vulnerable and open my heart to him.
I wish I would have spent more time having moments like this.
[door closes]
More intimate, close moments.
I think it'll be a nice time for you to come to--
Like, for Thanksgiving and stuff.
-[chuckling] -I mean, I feel like this is so American, you know.
-Thanksgiving. Yeah. -It is. It's only in America.
-I know. -[both laugh]
I am feeling really happy that Amanda wants me there for the Thanksgiving
and meeting her family.
And I asked that from the first day.
And this is I was hoping.
And now she really gives me what I want,
and makes me feel really excited for this.
[soft romantic music playing]
[coos] I'm gonna miss you.
Don't cry.
Next time that we see each other will probably be
-when you meet my kids too. [chuckles] -Yeah.
[Amanda] Yes.
I want you to know how much I love you.
I know.
When Jason passed away, I never thought I would find
a love this strong again ever.
But I did, and coming to Romania kind of like opened my eyes
to see like, it's okay to continue on with your life,
and, you know, I have to show my kids
that it's okay to be happy and their dad wanted that.
You know, like, it's okay. [sniffles]
[pinging]
[indistinct PA]
I love you.
-Okay, bye. -Bye.
♪ All of these emotions Had me, yeah ♪
♪ Oh you hold me You hold me, yeah ♪
♪ You knew that I was wrong But you hold me ♪
♪ 'Cause your love is strong ♪
[Razvan] Since the beginning until this end of the trip,
I feel like Amanda start to change,
and she's more open with her feelings.
And I really feel that she really care now.
So, I don't want her to leave.
But I know I will see Amanda soon
and this gives me hope.
♪ I'm holding on ♪
♪ Your love is strong ♪
♪ Oh ♪
♪ Hold me ♪
What do you mean?
I don't want to see the Panamanian flags in the background!
In my mind, I am like, "Just give up."
[sobbing] How is this possible?
How can this be like this?
[melancholy music playing]
[sniffles]
[crying] I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
I don't know. [shuddering breath]
[Gino on phone] Baby! There you are!
[sobbing]
Baby, just... I just went.
I went through all the paper [bleep]
And after making me wait for one and a half hour,
they just said...
[shaky breaths]
[Gino] Listen.
I'm trying to understand what happened.
-Oh my God. -They didn't do your visa interview today.
-Is that what you're saying? -Yeah, they didn't.
Yeah, they did.
[Gino speaking]
No, why... Why am I going to get for approval
when I cannot even get a visa interview?
-[heavy sigh] -Wait.
That was it. That was it. I cannot explain any more.
[Jasmine speaking]
But they're going to find any excuse
just for us not to be together, baby. [crying]
What do you mean?
I don't want to see the Panamanian flags in the background!
[Gino] This is bad. This is really bad.
You know, why didn't they at least take her in and interview her today?
She came all the way out to the Embassy.
But they took her paperwork, so it's really weird.
I spent so many hours in putting this package together,
to submitting our K-1 visa.
And, you know-- But in the back of my mind, I'm trying to...
Think about what is it that we forgot.
I don't really know what's going on.
Right now I'm not feeling very good about any of this.
Baby, like, how is it possible?
Like, how can this be like this?
Like, I... [gasps]
They didn't tell you no. Did they tell you no?
Not yet. I don't know.
[Gino speaking]
They have every bit of information about me you can think of.
Everything.
And it is so freaking depressing
because I prefer a no as an answer
rather than no [bleep] answer.
I cannot plan anything
because, oh, everything depends on the visa yes or no.
Okay, we're so screwed. Like, this is never going to work.
We're not screwed. We're not screwed.
I wish I were as positive as you.
At this moment, I honestly can't be that positive.
So I have to go. I don't want to talk.
-Yeah, you-- -[Jasmine] I have to go.
Okay?
-[Gino] Okay. -We'll talk later.
-You're going to be okay. -Bye.
[groans softly]
Not good.
[man] What just happened?
I mean, I heard some of it, but--
Yeah, she's panicking.
And I understand why she's panicking
because we don't know anything.
It doesn't make sense.
[cries]
Because like, in my heart, I want to be with him
in the USA because I love him, you know.
But in my mind, I am like, "Just give up. Just give up."
Because I know, for whatever [bleep] reason,
they consider our [bleep] love is not good enough
for us to be in the same [bleep] place.
[sniffles, sighs]
I'm done. I don't... I... I give up.
Like, this is it.
[coughs]
This is it.
[bleep]
[Shaun] Next time onBefore the 90 Days The Couples Tell All...
For the first time ever, we're joined by a live studio audience.
[Meisha] Today is the bigTell All.
It's exciting, but at the same time,
you're walking into a den of wolves.
Is there anybody y'all are not looking forward to seeing?
Some of the other castmates are toxic as [bleep]
Do you understand how fragile she is mentally?
You better start standing by my side.
I think it's self-explanatory.
[Razvan speaking]
I didn't feel like I was doing anything wrong.
There was a lot of boundaries that were crossed.
Why would I go out and try to hook up with somebody?
[bleep] own it!
Oh my God, Christian.
We just don't want to feel like we're kind of trapped in our own home.
[Statler] I do feel like he's going to come in
and judge the hell out of you.
Please, just... There's other fish in the sea.
You talk about how bad our sex is to your ex? That's bull [bleep]
I needed some validation from a male perspective.
Once and for all, do you and Dane have a sex video
from one month before Gino came to see you?
Um, I know you're going to get mad.
Tyray, I know that you have never had a chance
to speak to Christian directly.
But since filming, we've been able to dig up a new phone number for him.
I'm okay calling him.
Wow.
-[phone ringing] -[Shaun] Here we go.
[man on phone] Hello?
Do you think that she would be capable of lying to you
about a child just to manipulate you?
Yes.
Violet, can you tell me if you are pregnant with Riley's child?
-Um... -Oh!