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[music playing]
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[cheering]
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[Bozo] Unbelievable.
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How are you, baby?
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[Brian] Even though
we haven't met in person,
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I've never felt
this way before.
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So, I'm flying out to Brazil.
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I just want to make sure
you don't have
a ring with you.
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[Brianna]
Oh, my goodness.
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- [whines]
- [Rayne giggling]
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[Rayne] In my life, I've never
experienced romance.
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But deep down,
I just know that Chidi and I
are meant to be,
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even though he's blind.
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- Really?
- Really.
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[both giggling]
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[Tigerlily] Finally, baby.
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[Tigerlily]This is the first time
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I'm meeting
my fiance in person.
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And I am gonna be married
by the end of the day.
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It's a lot.
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You wanna be my wife today?
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[Veah] I'm so excited
to meet my boyfriend, Sunny.
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But Sunny doesn't know
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that I brought
my ex-boyfriend here with me.
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[Loren] My dream
is to marry Faith.
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But I don't think
she fully understands
how broke I am.
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- So, what is your plan?
- Okay.
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So, it's complicated.
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Because in America,
I'm homeless.
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[Chidi] I love you.
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But I will not be
having sex with you
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until we get married.
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Chidi and I
talk about everything.
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Now, all of a sudden,
you're telling me
your little celibacy story?
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Are you kidding me?
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I'm so angry with that.
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That's a complete
double standard.
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[Tigerlily] He doesn't
respect me.
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Maybe this is all
just a huge mistake.
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I don't [bleeps] care
if you are or not.
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- Stay away from me.
- But I want to be with you.
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[fanfare music playing]
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[chickens clucking]
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Thank you.
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[lively music playing]
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Thank you, chicken!
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My name is Rayne.
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I'm from Espanola, New Mexico.
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And I'm 37 years old.
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Hi, birdie.
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[chickens clucking]
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I love animals.
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At my house,
I have 130 chickens,
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five ducks, five dogs,
three cats, and a horse.
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[neighs]
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But I love
the chickens the most.
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- You're so moody.
- [chickens clucking]
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I try to make contact
with each
and every one of them
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because they will
actually notice.
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Like, if you're looking at one
and you only talk to that one,
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the other one
will look at you.
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And then,
once you acknowledge that one,
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she'll kind of like,
"Oh, look at me too."
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They're just really sweet,
little pets.
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Ah, be nice to me.
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Be nice to me.
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[Rayne giggling]
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You could leave it open
and let them out.
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- Okay?
- Okay.
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[guitar music playing]
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[Rayne] I have two children.
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An eight-year-old son
named Devin,
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and a 16-year-old daughter
named Lexi.
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It's like, weird,
that no matter
how many times you hold them,
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they're so unfriendly, huh?
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[Rayne] I love spending time
with my kids.
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Lexi, she loves
riding the horse,
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and she loves the chickens.
And Devin?
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It's just the three of us.
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And we live
a peaceful life out there.
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I'm definitely a loner.
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It's not
that I don't like people.
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It's just that,
to the normal human,
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I'm definitely
a quirky weirdo.
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[calm music playing]
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I've never been married,
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And my kids' fathers,
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the two relationships
that I had with them
was very toxic.
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[tractor revving]
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In my life, I have never
experienced romance at all.
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I've never been
passionately kissed.
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Saying "I love you," giggling,
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playing games,
and all that fun stuff?
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Absolutely not.
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I have never seen that,
or witnessed it,
or been close to it.
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After those
bad relationships, I gave up
on dating altogether.
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But then five years ago,
the man of my dreams
fell on my lap.
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♪ Fly away ♪
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♪ With me ♪
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[Rayne] Chidi is my Nigerian
prince charming.
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I was not looking
for love online.
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I was trying
to find more friends.
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He was there
as a friend suggestion.
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He looked cutie.
I sent the friend request,
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and it just hit hard and deep.
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[kissing]
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It had been
probably two weeks,
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until I said, "I love you."
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And then he started
giggling and laughing.
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And then he said
I love you back,
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and then it started
as an everyday thing.
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I was just looking
at some messages
that Chidi sent to me.
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They're so sweet.
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He says, "Oh baby,
I am beyond blessed
to have you in my life."
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"Meeting you is going to be
a dream come true,
my superwoman.
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Good night
and kiss, kiss, kiss, kiss."
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[giggles]
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And that's why
I love him so much.
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He just makes me
feel like a queen. [giggles]
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Chidi and I have been
spiritually connected
for over five years.
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I am longing to be physically
connected with him now,
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in every way, shape, and form.
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So I'm finally
going to Nigeria
to meet the man
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that I'm gonna spend
the rest of my life with.
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Deep down,
I just know that Chidi and I
are meant to be.
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Even though the way
we experience the world
is very different.
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[upbeat music playing]
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♪ Hey ♪
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♪ Check it
All right ♪
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♪ Check it out now ♪
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♪ Movin' in
I'm about to pounce ♪
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♪ Pile up the wins
In huge amounts ♪
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♪ On a track so fast
Better catch me now ♪
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[Chidi] My name is Chidi.
I am 33 years old.
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I live in Lagos, Nigeria,
and...
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Football is something
I've had had great passion
ever since I was a kid.
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[man] Go!
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[whistle blows]
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[man screams] Goal!
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[Chidi] I wasn't
born this way.
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It happened at the age of 17
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when I had, um, an accident.
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[melancholy music playing]
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...the left eye
on a wooden desk.
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And, uh, blood
started rushing out.
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[sighs]
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[melancholy music playing]
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We went to the hospital,
but there was nothing
they could do.
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Eventually...
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[men chattering]
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The only thing
I can see now is just, um,
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a thick cloud
before my face.
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[men talking indistinctively]
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[whistle blows]
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[speaking other language]
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[whistle blows]
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[cheering]
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But living as a visually
impaired person in Nigeria
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is not a very easy experience.
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[upbeat music playing]
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[people chattering]
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[bells chiming]
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[car honks]
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The Lord,
who is merciful and gracious,
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Who forgives all my sins,
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and heals all my diseases.
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I'm a Christian by faith.
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I believe God
really helped me cope
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with my disability.
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I pray a lot, day and night.
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And the Lord truly blessed me
when He sent Rayne to me.
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♪ You are the one ♪
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This love is real,
we can feel it.
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It's overflowing.
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I can read and write.
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[pings]
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[automated]I missed you today.
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I can't wait to see you.
11:34.
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Dream of me. Red Heart. 11:34.
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Wow.
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I was afraid to tell Rayne
that I was blind...
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And...
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[Rayne] I had sent some
regular pictures of myself.
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And he didn't say,
"You're pretty." Nothing.
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But then, you know, he's still
talking to me really sweet,
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like nothing changed.
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So, after another month or so,
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I sent a picture of my booty.
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[chuckles]
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And I still
didn't get a response.
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So it was at this
point that...
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[Rayne] He thought
I was gonna run away,
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or reject him,
or not want him.
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But it was the opposite.
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[romantic music playing]
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Knowing that Chidi
fell for my heart,
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and my words, and my mind.
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And not worrying about my body
and what it looks like.
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I felt truly accepted by him.
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Which is something
I never experienced before.
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I love you.
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Surprisingly, disclosing
my condition to Rayne
even brought us closer.
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And I hope, someday,
we will get married.
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I'm worried
that she don't understand
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how difficult
a life with me might be.
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I just pray
that when she is faced
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with the reality
of my impairment,
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that our love
will be strong enough
to keep us together.
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[upbeat music playing]
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[man on mic]Ladies and gentlemen,
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welcome to The Phoenix
Bar and Lounge!
Make some noise!
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[crowd cheering]
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["Dance off"
by Mowgli Lanes playing]
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♪ I like your style
When you're movin'
and jumpin' ♪
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♪ I like your style
When you're movin' ♪
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♪ I wanna go hard ♪
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♪ Music is pumping ♪
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♪ You know I wanna feel it ♪
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♪ Get in the mood ♪
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♪ Show me what you got
Get out on the floor ♪
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♪ Show me how you groove
if you want some more ♪
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[man on mic] Give it up,
come on.
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[crowd cheering]
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[man on mic]Turn it up, turn it up!
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My name is Loren,
33 years old,
and I live in Las Vegas.
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["A Big Chance" by Alexander
Peter Montaque playing]
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♪ Let's take this chance ♪
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♪ It's time to take
A big chance ♪
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[Loren] My friends say
I'm eccentric,
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and I have a flair
for the dramatic.
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So working
as a drag queen assistant
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is the perfect job for me.
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Hello. Hello.
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You need help?
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Perfect. There we go.
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[Loren] My job
is to collect money.
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Help the girls get dressed.
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Help with wigs, buy drinks.
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[bartender] Here you go.
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[Loren] Pretty much
anything they need, I can do.
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- Ma'am.
- Thank you so much.
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- Of course.
- For bringing it here.
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Like for sure,
because without him,
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My heels will not be zipped.
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[drag queen 1] Yes.
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- Yes.
- I like, I like--
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[blond drag queen] I like it.
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Yes!
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[Loren] I love this job,
it's a great job.
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Because at the end of the day,
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the thing that makes me
feel best about myself
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is when I make
someone else happy.
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[Loren] I can walk you to her.
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And maybe that's because
for most of my life,
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I felt like, no matter
how hard I tried,
256
00:15:01,570 --> 00:15:03,170
I couldn't please anyone.
257
00:15:03,170 --> 00:15:05,800
[upbeat music playing]
258
00:15:07,500 --> 00:15:10,730
Where I grew up
in the countryside,
Washington State,
259
00:15:10,730 --> 00:15:12,370
it was incredibly
difficult to fit in.
260
00:15:12,830 --> 00:15:14,170
[coins jingling]
261
00:15:15,270 --> 00:15:17,400
It was very much like,
"Men are this way," right?
262
00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:19,730
Very macho, masculine,
which I was not.
263
00:15:20,970 --> 00:15:22,230
I was being told
that I was like,
264
00:15:22,230 --> 00:15:24,830
the gay kid, or the weird kid.
265
00:15:24,830 --> 00:15:26,800
But I don't
consider myself gay, at all.
266
00:15:27,430 --> 00:15:29,930
I identify as gynosexual.
267
00:15:29,930 --> 00:15:33,570
It means that I find
femininity attractive,
not necessarily gender.
268
00:15:33,570 --> 00:15:35,230
- [whimsical music playing]
- [car door closing]
269
00:15:35,230 --> 00:15:36,700
Like, next time I go out
with like, the boys...
270
00:15:39,170 --> 00:15:40,100
You know...
271
00:15:44,770 --> 00:15:48,070
[Loren] But my preference
is to date a transwoman.
272
00:15:48,070 --> 00:15:50,930
With or without a penis,
preferably penis.
273
00:15:52,030 --> 00:15:54,700
Because the penis
is much more fun to play with,
274
00:15:54,700 --> 00:15:56,670
as long as it's female.
275
00:15:56,670 --> 00:15:59,430
Right? It's a female penis,
not a male penis.
276
00:15:59,430 --> 00:16:01,530
- I think we're getting warmer
over here.
- Hm-mm.
277
00:16:05,770 --> 00:16:07,100
The female penis,
normally like,
278
00:16:07,100 --> 00:16:09,370
[bleeps] and smells
a little bit different.
279
00:16:09,370 --> 00:16:10,870
Because of usually, hormones,
280
00:16:10,870 --> 00:16:13,470
and like, the way
that they like,
take care of it.
281
00:16:13,470 --> 00:16:15,430
And so the energy of it,
is different.
282
00:16:16,900 --> 00:16:18,170
What can I help you
find today?
283
00:16:18,170 --> 00:16:21,170
Um, I think
I'm looking for corsets
for a special someone.
284
00:16:21,170 --> 00:16:24,970
You know,
you never bought me anything.
285
00:16:26,330 --> 00:16:31,270
I've known Loren
for seven years.
286
00:16:31,270 --> 00:16:34,500
We started
as boyfriend and girlfriend,
287
00:16:34,500 --> 00:16:35,930
but it didn't work out
288
00:16:35,930 --> 00:16:39,900
because he wants
boobs and a penis.
289
00:16:40,430 --> 00:16:42,800
So, I'm not his type.
290
00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:44,570
We're just better as friends.
291
00:16:47,070 --> 00:16:48,870
So like, the corset
really wouldn't make sense.
292
00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:52,470
By the age of about
seven or eight, I realized
293
00:16:52,470 --> 00:16:56,870
that transwoman
is what I wanted out of life.
294
00:16:56,870 --> 00:17:01,270
But my family
was not okay with anything
but the straight lifestyle,
295
00:17:01,270 --> 00:17:03,670
which is why I had
cisgender girlfriends.
296
00:17:03,670 --> 00:17:05,270
But then a few years ago,
297
00:17:05,270 --> 00:17:07,870
I met a transgendered woman
for the first time,
298
00:17:07,870 --> 00:17:11,130
and then we had sex,
and we had dates.
299
00:17:11,130 --> 00:17:14,700
And that fulfillment was like,
a hundred percent.
300
00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:18,500
My end goal is marriage.
301
00:17:18,500 --> 00:17:20,400
I would love
to have a transwife,
302
00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:23,330
and to live my life happily.
303
00:17:23,330 --> 00:17:26,430
But it's been really hard
for me to find
my significant other.
304
00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:29,900
- [woman] So, do you like it?
- I think it's good.
305
00:17:29,900 --> 00:17:31,230
And this one
even has a zipper,
306
00:17:31,230 --> 00:17:33,330
- so we can save the, you know.
- The pulling?
307
00:17:33,330 --> 00:17:35,870
- That's no fun.
- I know.
308
00:17:36,970 --> 00:17:41,230
A few months ago, I decided
to try to find love overseas.
309
00:17:41,230 --> 00:17:42,400
All-righty. Well, here you go.
310
00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:44,730
- This one is a large.
- Perfect.
311
00:17:44,730 --> 00:17:46,570
So I downloaded
two Filipino dating apps.
312
00:17:46,570 --> 00:17:49,030
And almost instantly,
I connected with Faith.
313
00:17:49,030 --> 00:17:50,770
♪ You make me ♪
314
00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:53,630
♪ You're making me like ♪
315
00:17:53,630 --> 00:17:54,970
♪ You make me ♪
316
00:17:54,970 --> 00:17:57,500
[Loren] She is 30 years old,
and she lives in Manila.
317
00:17:57,500 --> 00:18:00,200
We've never met in person,
but we text every day
318
00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:02,130
and I feel
very deeply for her.
319
00:18:02,130 --> 00:18:04,170
She's hardworking,
tight family.
320
00:18:04,170 --> 00:18:05,730
She's perfect
pretty much in every way.
321
00:18:06,300 --> 00:18:10,070
♪ Hey, lady ♪
322
00:18:10,070 --> 00:18:13,030
In the Philippines,
Faith is known as a ladyboy.
323
00:18:13,030 --> 00:18:15,100
This is a rough translation
from Thai,
324
00:18:15,100 --> 00:18:18,200
and it's used primarily
to describe
a transgender woman.
325
00:18:19,070 --> 00:18:20,070
I make her laugh.
326
00:18:20,070 --> 00:18:22,930
I can crack jokes with her,
all day long.
327
00:18:22,930 --> 00:18:24,430
Within the first day
of chatting,
328
00:18:24,430 --> 00:18:26,970
we've reached the point
of "I love you." Boom!
329
00:18:27,770 --> 00:18:29,900
Day one. We're good to go.
330
00:18:32,030 --> 00:18:34,370
Faith appreciates
all that I do.
331
00:18:34,370 --> 00:18:36,530
And it makes me feel worthy.
332
00:18:37,430 --> 00:18:38,900
And now, after four months,
333
00:18:38,900 --> 00:18:40,900
I'm ready to spend
my entire savings,
334
00:18:40,900 --> 00:18:42,800
get on a plane,
go to the Philippines,
335
00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:44,330
meet Faith face to face,
336
00:18:44,330 --> 00:18:46,500
and make that last forever.
337
00:18:50,170 --> 00:18:52,870
The new total after tax
is going to be $60.58.
338
00:18:53,630 --> 00:18:54,530
You still got this?
339
00:18:54,530 --> 00:18:57,000
- I got you.
- Okay.
340
00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:00,700
But there is some things
about me that Faith
doesn't know.
341
00:19:00,700 --> 00:19:02,270
Like the fact that I'm broke.
342
00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:04,400
Thanks, Esther.
343
00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:05,670
[Esther] You're welcome.
344
00:19:05,670 --> 00:19:07,230
[Loren]Besides working at drag shows,
345
00:19:07,230 --> 00:19:09,430
I also work
in a retail back room,
346
00:19:09,430 --> 00:19:11,500
and I work in a gift shop.
347
00:19:11,500 --> 00:19:14,700
But it's minimum wage,
so I still struggle
to pay rent.
348
00:19:14,700 --> 00:19:18,170
So, since I can't really
afford to survive in America,
349
00:19:18,170 --> 00:19:20,900
my ideal scenario would be
I go to the Philippines,
350
00:19:20,900 --> 00:19:22,700
find a way to live with Faith,
351
00:19:22,700 --> 00:19:24,470
and then stay there forever.
352
00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:27,770
- Thank you.
- Bye!
353
00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:29,770
- [Esther] That was fun.
- [Loren] Yeah.
354
00:19:29,770 --> 00:19:31,670
We'll have to do it again, somehow.
355
00:19:31,670 --> 00:19:33,630
Maybe in the Philippines,
you can visit me.
356
00:19:33,630 --> 00:19:34,970
[calm music playing]
357
00:19:34,970 --> 00:19:38,370
In the Philippines,
my financial burdens
would be less.
358
00:19:38,370 --> 00:19:40,470
I feel like I could
take care of Faith.
359
00:19:40,470 --> 00:19:43,870
But I haven't had
a conversation with her
about this yet.
360
00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:47,970
I don't know
how Faith is going to react,
361
00:19:47,970 --> 00:19:49,670
especially if she wants
to come to America,
362
00:19:49,670 --> 00:19:52,370
and I can't afford
to support her here.
363
00:19:52,370 --> 00:19:55,230
But I'm hoping
that she loves me enough
to see past that.
364
00:19:57,100 --> 00:20:00,170
[calm music playing]
365
00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:06,070
[Tigerlily] Adnan
is a 22-year-old model
in Jordan.
366
00:20:06,070 --> 00:20:09,230
And we have been talking
for about four months now.
367
00:20:09,230 --> 00:20:11,830
I do have plans to visit.
368
00:20:11,830 --> 00:20:14,170
And the day that I meet him,
369
00:20:14,630 --> 00:20:16,130
we're getting married.
370
00:20:17,530 --> 00:20:18,570
Why?
371
00:20:24,070 --> 00:20:25,730
[engine revving]
372
00:20:28,530 --> 00:20:31,000
♪ Will you be the one ♪
373
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:33,370
♪ that I can count on? ♪
374
00:20:33,370 --> 00:20:35,100
[Tigerlily speaking]
375
00:20:35,100 --> 00:20:38,100
♪ Give me something better ♪
376
00:20:38,900 --> 00:20:44,800
♪ Give me something better ♪
377
00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,530
[Tigerlily]My name is Tigerlily.
378
00:20:46,530 --> 00:20:50,130
I am 41 years old
and I live in Frisco, Texas.
379
00:20:51,070 --> 00:20:53,770
There are certain
facets of life
380
00:20:53,770 --> 00:20:58,030
that I do like
to live luxuriously in.
381
00:20:58,030 --> 00:21:00,700
And they are like
health conscious.
382
00:21:00,700 --> 00:21:04,270
Like sunglasses
to protect your eyes.
383
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:05,770
Shoes.
384
00:21:05,770 --> 00:21:08,400
Those are important because
you're walking all day.
385
00:21:09,530 --> 00:21:11,730
That's super important
because that's like
your whole body.
386
00:21:12,870 --> 00:21:14,200
[salesman] What can
we help you with today?
387
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,300
Uh, so,
I'm looking for a watch.
388
00:21:16,300 --> 00:21:18,930
I would like a grey watch.
389
00:21:18,930 --> 00:21:20,070
[salesman] Okay.
390
00:21:20,070 --> 00:21:21,670
Here's something
really exclusive
391
00:21:21,670 --> 00:21:23,200
- and I want you to--
- Oh, I love exclusive.
392
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:24,630
That's awesome, ma'am.
393
00:21:24,630 --> 00:21:27,770
There's only 100
of these watches
ever made in the world.
394
00:21:27,770 --> 00:21:31,900
So we would have
to place an order
on it for you and deliver it.
395
00:21:33,370 --> 00:21:34,430
How much is it?
396
00:21:34,430 --> 00:21:36,870
It's $26,500.
397
00:21:39,230 --> 00:21:40,470
- What do you think?
- Perfect.
398
00:21:40,470 --> 00:21:41,570
I love it.
399
00:21:41,570 --> 00:21:43,200
- Let's do it.
- All right.
400
00:21:43,830 --> 00:21:45,230
[Tigerlily] Thank you.
401
00:21:46,330 --> 00:21:48,700
Despite my privilege,
402
00:21:48,700 --> 00:21:51,470
my life hasn't
always been the easiest.
403
00:21:53,130 --> 00:21:56,100
I've walked through fire
to get to where I am today.
404
00:21:57,630 --> 00:21:59,230
When I was 30,
405
00:21:59,230 --> 00:22:01,000
I met someone.
406
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,970
I ended up getting pregnant
407
00:22:02,970 --> 00:22:05,570
and decided
that getting married
408
00:22:05,570 --> 00:22:07,230
was the best thing to do.
409
00:22:08,730 --> 00:22:11,570
I always called it
a golden bird cage.
410
00:22:11,570 --> 00:22:14,330
You know,
we lived in a fancy house,
411
00:22:14,330 --> 00:22:19,030
I was able to buy
fancy clothes,
shoes, handbags,
412
00:22:19,030 --> 00:22:21,570
but he was very controlling.
413
00:22:23,070 --> 00:22:25,730
I wasn't allowed
to have friends,
414
00:22:25,730 --> 00:22:27,230
and I felt like
415
00:22:27,230 --> 00:22:29,830
marriage equaled
prison for me.
416
00:22:31,770 --> 00:22:34,900
I stayed in the relationship
for as long as I did
417
00:22:34,900 --> 00:22:37,030
because of the children.
418
00:22:37,030 --> 00:22:40,630
But eventually,
I gathered the courage
419
00:22:40,630 --> 00:22:44,530
to take back
control of my life.
420
00:22:46,030 --> 00:22:50,670
My divorce took four years
and it was a horrible process.
421
00:22:51,570 --> 00:22:54,230
But I now have
my independence,
422
00:22:54,230 --> 00:22:57,930
and me and my children
are well taken care of.
423
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:01,730
[sighs]
424
00:23:01,730 --> 00:23:03,070
After my divorce,
425
00:23:03,070 --> 00:23:06,300
I told myself that I would
never get married again.
426
00:23:07,030 --> 00:23:09,470
But then I met Adnan.
427
00:23:09,470 --> 00:23:13,200
♪ I want your hands
all over me, me, me ♪
428
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:17,500
[Tigerlily] Adnan is
a 22-year-old model in Jordan,
429
00:23:17,500 --> 00:23:20,370
and he's absolutely perfect.
430
00:23:22,300 --> 00:23:25,770
After seeing his profile
on social media,
431
00:23:25,770 --> 00:23:27,930
I started following him.
432
00:23:28,870 --> 00:23:33,230
And pretty soon we were
literally on video chat
433
00:23:33,230 --> 00:23:34,330
all day long.
434
00:23:41,570 --> 00:23:42,670
I love you so much, honey.
435
00:23:43,770 --> 00:23:45,570
[both chuckle]
436
00:23:45,570 --> 00:23:49,770
[Tigerlily] Even though Adnan
and I have only talked
for four months,
437
00:23:49,770 --> 00:23:54,130
I still consider this the best
relationship that I've had.
438
00:23:54,130 --> 00:23:56,300
Let's do something
fun real quick,
439
00:23:56,300 --> 00:23:59,100
like, I want you
to write your name.
440
00:23:59,100 --> 00:24:01,100
- Write my name?
- Yeah.
441
00:24:02,330 --> 00:24:06,030
[Tigerlily] I'm actually
a certified
handwriting expert.
442
00:24:06,030 --> 00:24:09,130
I think that you can tell
a lot about a person
443
00:24:09,130 --> 00:24:11,430
from their handwriting.
444
00:24:11,430 --> 00:24:17,030
Like, for example,
if someone is a serial killer,
445
00:24:17,030 --> 00:24:20,900
or very sensitive
to criticism,
446
00:24:20,900 --> 00:24:24,400
and even what
they're like in the bedroom.
447
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,630
- [Adnan speaking indistinctly]
- [Tigerlily chuckles]
448
00:24:27,070 --> 00:24:28,800
You're so cute.
449
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:30,530
Okay.
450
00:24:30,530 --> 00:24:34,270
So, your handwriting shows
451
00:24:34,270 --> 00:24:37,770
that you are very optimistic
452
00:24:37,770 --> 00:24:40,830
and the way that you cross
your T's
453
00:24:40,830 --> 00:24:44,170
is showing that you have
a high self-esteem.
454
00:24:49,770 --> 00:24:50,800
Uhm...
455
00:24:51,870 --> 00:24:53,530
I don't think it came up.
456
00:24:53,530 --> 00:24:57,430
Because he doesn't,
he did his Y not in cursive,
it was in print.
457
00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,230
And we can't tell.
458
00:24:59,500 --> 00:25:01,600
[laughs]
459
00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:06,830
Yeah, and so soon, honey.
460
00:25:06,830 --> 00:25:08,730
[Adnan] I can't wait.
461
00:25:08,730 --> 00:25:13,500
[Tigerlily] I feel like
he is the perfect person
for me,
462
00:25:13,500 --> 00:25:15,200
and I love him.
463
00:25:16,370 --> 00:25:17,830
So in about a week,
464
00:25:17,830 --> 00:25:22,300
I'm leaving for Jordan
to finally meet Adnan
in person.
465
00:25:22,300 --> 00:25:25,630
And my whole world
is literally about to change.
466
00:25:26,970 --> 00:25:28,400
[upbeat music playing]
467
00:25:32,370 --> 00:25:34,270
- [Stephanie] Hello, welcome.
- [Tigerlily] Hi!
468
00:25:34,270 --> 00:25:36,270
- Come on in.
- Thank you.
469
00:25:36,270 --> 00:25:38,730
- So good to see you.
- You, too.
470
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,070
[Stephanie]
Can I get you a drink
before we begin?
471
00:25:43,070 --> 00:25:46,270
Oh, yeah,
maybe some water?
472
00:25:46,270 --> 00:25:48,730
[Tigerlily]Steph is my life coach.
473
00:25:48,730 --> 00:25:54,230
She helped me while
I was navigating my divorce.
474
00:25:54,230 --> 00:25:59,330
She knows about Adnan,
and I think
she's happy for me.
475
00:25:59,330 --> 00:26:01,270
But she has her concerns.
476
00:26:03,030 --> 00:26:05,270
So we've done a lot
of reflecting on the past,
477
00:26:05,270 --> 00:26:07,400
and we know
where you've been.
478
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:12,000
And there's something
really big about to happen.
479
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,070
How is it going with Adnan?
480
00:26:14,070 --> 00:26:18,000
So I do have plans to go
481
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:21,730
and visit,
which we talked about before.
482
00:26:21,730 --> 00:26:25,070
Um, but there is something
I haven't told you yet.
483
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:27,270
[Stephanie] What's that?
484
00:26:28,230 --> 00:26:33,000
So the day that I meet him,
we're getting married.
485
00:26:36,630 --> 00:26:37,930
[chuckling]
486
00:26:37,930 --> 00:26:39,130
You're kidding, right?
487
00:26:39,870 --> 00:26:42,370
- You're kidding.
- No, I'm serious.
488
00:26:45,500 --> 00:26:46,770
Why?
489
00:26:48,500 --> 00:26:49,700
Why not?
490
00:26:49,700 --> 00:26:54,200
I mean, we both know
that we want
to be husband and wife,
491
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,800
we want to be together forever
and all the good stuff,
492
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,700
so, there's just
no reason to wait.
493
00:27:05,230 --> 00:27:08,130
I know things are so great
over video chat.
494
00:27:12,430 --> 00:27:15,030
Are you sure you don't wanna
like try it on for--
495
00:27:15,030 --> 00:27:20,170
We can't even be
in the same room with him
unless we're married anyway.
496
00:27:20,170 --> 00:27:25,730
Adnan told me that we have
to get married right away
because he is Muslim.
497
00:27:25,730 --> 00:27:27,000
And in his religion,
498
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:31,670
a man and a woman
are not even allowed
to kiss or hug
499
00:27:31,670 --> 00:27:35,870
or even be
in a room unaccompanied
unless they are married.
500
00:27:35,870 --> 00:27:40,500
So Adnan and I made plans
to get married
on the first day that we meet.
501
00:27:41,570 --> 00:27:43,970
[Stephanie]
There's a lot of things
at risk here.
502
00:27:43,970 --> 00:27:45,570
What about your money?
503
00:27:45,570 --> 00:27:46,830
How are you gonna
protect yourself?
504
00:27:48,470 --> 00:27:51,500
I mean, he could have
more money than me.
505
00:27:51,500 --> 00:27:52,630
I don't know.
506
00:27:52,630 --> 00:27:53,900
Have you compared finances?
507
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,500
No. Why would we do that?
508
00:27:57,470 --> 00:27:58,530
It's just weird.
509
00:27:59,770 --> 00:28:04,330
He's not someone
who is going to want
to stay at home and not work.
510
00:28:04,330 --> 00:28:06,670
So I'm not worried about that.
511
00:28:10,270 --> 00:28:14,670
It just all seems like
so convenient and suspicious.
512
00:28:14,670 --> 00:28:18,830
I mean, she's beautiful
and she has money.
513
00:28:18,830 --> 00:28:21,670
There are a lot of reasons
why it would make sense
514
00:28:21,670 --> 00:28:24,530
for him to play
a certain part to
515
00:28:24,530 --> 00:28:26,830
get to the great state
of Texas.
516
00:28:28,670 --> 00:28:31,000
I'm just concerned that
you're like losing yourself
517
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,500
in this whirlwind
of this fantasy.
518
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,700
How do you know
you're making a good decision?
519
00:28:37,700 --> 00:28:41,330
I mean, I'm,
I think I'm a pretty
good judge of character,
520
00:28:41,330 --> 00:28:43,600
and I'm good
at reading people.
521
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:48,070
He is reliable,
he supports me
522
00:28:48,070 --> 00:28:50,830
no matter what,
he's like my rock.
523
00:28:50,830 --> 00:28:54,700
And I know
that I can trust him.
524
00:28:58,630 --> 00:29:02,770
I know that it seems crazy
that I'm marrying him
525
00:29:02,770 --> 00:29:05,300
on the first day that we meet,
526
00:29:05,300 --> 00:29:07,300
but I went through a lot
527
00:29:07,300 --> 00:29:11,200
in my last relationship
and I was trapped
528
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:12,730
in a lot of ways.
529
00:29:14,370 --> 00:29:19,100
I didn't know unconditional
love even existed.
530
00:29:19,100 --> 00:29:22,270
And now I have that
with Adnan.
531
00:29:22,270 --> 00:29:26,530
So I don't see the risk in it.
532
00:29:26,530 --> 00:29:31,030
I'm definitely rooting for you
to have everything
that you always wanted.
533
00:29:31,030 --> 00:29:33,670
And you've worked so hard
to get to like
this true happiness.
534
00:29:33,670 --> 00:29:35,930
And I just hope
he doesn't disappoint you.
535
00:29:41,470 --> 00:29:44,470
[Brian] After a few
devastating breakups
and even a failed marriage,
536
00:29:44,470 --> 00:29:48,070
I started thinking
that maybe real love just
wasn't in the cards for me.
537
00:29:48,070 --> 00:29:49,270
But then I met Ingrid.
538
00:29:51,070 --> 00:29:53,570
She's funny, she's caring,
she's gorgeous.
539
00:29:53,570 --> 00:29:56,270
And in one week,
I'll be going to Brazil.
540
00:29:56,270 --> 00:29:59,230
[speaking Portuguese]
541
00:29:59,230 --> 00:30:01,970
[Brian] But I'm a little
concerned because
there's a lot of things
542
00:30:01,970 --> 00:30:03,870
that she still
doesn't know about my past.
543
00:30:06,300 --> 00:30:08,000
♪ Whoo ♪
544
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:09,970
♪ Come on ♪
545
00:30:09,970 --> 00:30:12,870
♪ I say you got
To get it right ♪
546
00:30:12,870 --> 00:30:14,800
♪ Get it right ♪
547
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,630
[Brian speaking]
548
00:30:16,630 --> 00:30:18,400
- [Brian] Hi!
- [customer] Hi!
549
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,070
- [customer] Yep. All right.
- Hop on in.
550
00:30:20,770 --> 00:30:23,570
- Hi! Good.
- [Brian] How are you?
551
00:30:23,570 --> 00:30:25,330
- [customer 2] Hello.
- Hop on in, guys.
552
00:30:25,330 --> 00:30:27,000
- Thank you.
- All right.
553
00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:28,770
[Brian] My name is Brian.
554
00:30:28,770 --> 00:30:31,430
I'm 51 years old and I live
in Harvard, Illinois.
555
00:30:31,430 --> 00:30:33,330
Okay, we're all set.
We've got about seven minutes.
556
00:30:33,330 --> 00:30:35,570
- The temperature's
okay for you guys?
- [customer 3] Yep.
557
00:30:36,230 --> 00:30:37,300
For the last seven years,
558
00:30:37,300 --> 00:30:39,030
I have worked
for a rideshare company,
559
00:30:39,030 --> 00:30:40,600
which I really enjoy.
560
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:41,870
I always tell everybody
561
00:30:41,870 --> 00:30:43,770
that if you want
to make God laugh,
you make a plan, right?
562
00:30:43,770 --> 00:30:45,530
[laughs] Right!
563
00:30:45,530 --> 00:30:46,900
People love getting in my car.
564
00:30:46,900 --> 00:30:48,530
They just like talking to me.
565
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:52,470
Coming from
23 years of marriage...
566
00:30:52,470 --> 00:30:54,370
23 years married?
567
00:30:54,370 --> 00:30:56,270
- What? [Brian] Oh, my God.
- Yeah. Yeah.
568
00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:01,700
Oh, I've got a five star now.
569
00:31:02,930 --> 00:31:03,970
I love people.
570
00:31:03,970 --> 00:31:06,630
I love hearing people's
stories and experiences.
571
00:31:06,630 --> 00:31:08,170
So this
is the perfect job for me.
572
00:31:08,170 --> 00:31:10,800
- Thank you so much.
Have a safe trip.
- Thank you, buddy.
573
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,070
[customer] You, too.
574
00:31:12,070 --> 00:31:14,670
And for someone
in my situation,
575
00:31:14,670 --> 00:31:16,670
I feel blessed to get out
and see the world every day.
576
00:31:17,230 --> 00:31:18,430
[upbeat music playing]
577
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:50,970
[Brian] I'm approaching
my 25th anniversary
of being in a wheelchair.
578
00:31:50,970 --> 00:31:54,870
When I was 27, I was shot
with a small caliber handgun.
579
00:31:55,770 --> 00:31:57,170
Hit me in the spinal cord.
580
00:31:58,470 --> 00:31:59,970
It left me a quadriplegic.
581
00:32:04,430 --> 00:32:08,670
Unfortunately, where I'm from,
gun violence is not uncommon.
582
00:32:08,670 --> 00:32:11,170
I grew up in Chicago,
inner city.
583
00:32:11,170 --> 00:32:13,400
My father really
wasn't around much.
584
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:17,300
So my mom mostly
raised us on her own.
585
00:32:17,300 --> 00:32:19,830
She did the best she could,
but it was
a constant struggle.
586
00:32:21,430 --> 00:32:24,570
When I was 19, I married
my high school sweetheart
587
00:32:24,570 --> 00:32:28,130
and we had a daughter,
Brianna.
588
00:32:28,130 --> 00:32:31,030
We were married
probably three years,
589
00:32:31,530 --> 00:32:33,300
and then got divorced.
590
00:32:34,170 --> 00:32:35,900
My daughter
was everything to me,
591
00:32:35,900 --> 00:32:38,830
so I did whatever
I could to support her.
592
00:32:38,830 --> 00:32:40,870
But one day my whole world
turned upside down.
593
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,100
There was two guys
waiting for me
as I come home.
594
00:32:46,100 --> 00:32:47,430
[sniffles]
595
00:32:47,430 --> 00:32:51,270
One guy across the street
comes to my car,
tells me to get out,
596
00:32:51,270 --> 00:32:52,300
"I got a gun."
597
00:32:54,730 --> 00:32:58,800
I was being carjacked,
but being a young guy
598
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:03,330
from the inner city,
that didn't scare me much.
599
00:33:03,330 --> 00:33:06,330
I thought maybe I can
grab him and get away
from the situation.
600
00:33:07,270 --> 00:33:12,270
But, uh,
I got shot and it was, um...
601
00:33:17,730 --> 00:33:19,400
Once I'm in the hospital,
602
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,400
the doctor told me,
[sniffles]
603
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,200
now you've got to start over.
604
00:33:33,500 --> 00:33:35,900
So, that was tough, um...
605
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,200
But I'm happy that I went
through everything.
606
00:33:40,770 --> 00:33:42,200
Because it made me who I am.
607
00:33:43,070 --> 00:33:45,170
It's just harder,
but it's okay.
608
00:33:47,430 --> 00:33:48,800
This is what I go through
every day.
609
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:49,800
Get ready.
610
00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:01,170
I'm considered a quadriplegic
611
00:34:01,170 --> 00:34:04,570
because my injury affected
all four of my limbs.
612
00:34:08,370 --> 00:34:11,370
I give myself usually
about an hour.
613
00:34:11,370 --> 00:34:14,270
Hour get ready
before I go somewhere.
614
00:34:14,270 --> 00:34:17,300
Maybe two, depending on the
the importance of it.
615
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,430
I can only feel half of my arm
616
00:34:25,070 --> 00:34:27,470
uh, because of the injury.
617
00:34:27,470 --> 00:34:31,370
I can, however,
move my legs
a little bit still.
618
00:34:32,430 --> 00:34:33,830
But not enough to walk.
619
00:34:34,930 --> 00:34:37,030
I was shot in my spinal cord,
620
00:34:37,030 --> 00:34:39,170
so I have atrophy,
in my hands, so I can't.
621
00:34:39,170 --> 00:34:41,230
I don't have
that muscle to close it,
622
00:34:41,230 --> 00:34:43,000
So I can't grab
so many things.
623
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,700
And I got leg spasms
624
00:34:44,700 --> 00:34:47,170
because the shortening
of tendons in the legs.
625
00:34:48,770 --> 00:34:50,670
When you get injured,
it's a new birth.
626
00:34:51,370 --> 00:34:52,430
And as I adjusted...
627
00:34:55,470 --> 00:34:56,530
Ball!
628
00:34:57,330 --> 00:34:59,470
I was introduced
to wheelchair rugby,
629
00:34:59,470 --> 00:35:01,130
and it turned everything
around for me.
630
00:35:02,270 --> 00:35:03,730
I eventually made the USA team
631
00:35:03,730 --> 00:35:06,470
and started playing
internationally
for about four years.
632
00:35:06,470 --> 00:35:09,630
I've been to probably
10 different countries.
633
00:35:09,630 --> 00:35:12,430
India, Argentina, Denmark,
Switzerland,
634
00:35:12,430 --> 00:35:14,070
and then I went to Brazil.
635
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,330
And I fell in love
with the place.
636
00:35:17,330 --> 00:35:18,500
I really did.
637
00:35:18,500 --> 00:35:20,100
Hey!
638
00:35:20,100 --> 00:35:21,730
After playing
there several years...
639
00:35:23,070 --> 00:35:25,900
So I became
fluent in Portuguese.
640
00:35:25,900 --> 00:35:31,230
And I found it
to be much easier
to meet and date people
641
00:35:31,230 --> 00:35:34,830
in Brazil than here
in the United States.
642
00:35:34,830 --> 00:35:38,300
In my experience,
the attitude in the States,
towards guys in wheelchairs,
643
00:35:38,300 --> 00:35:41,070
it's like,
they're just like last resort.
644
00:35:42,530 --> 00:35:45,770
But Brazilian women,
they're much more open
to disability.
645
00:35:45,770 --> 00:35:48,800
So I've had several
relationships in Brazil.
646
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:53,300
But after a few
devastating breakups
and even a failed marriage,
647
00:35:53,300 --> 00:35:56,470
I started thinking that maybe
real love just wasn't
in the cards for me.
648
00:35:59,130 --> 00:36:00,500
But then I met Ingrid.
649
00:36:00,500 --> 00:36:03,170
And now this time,
it's gonna be different.
650
00:36:03,930 --> 00:36:06,600
[upbeat song playing]
651
00:36:07,470 --> 00:36:09,930
She's 32 years old,
a single mom...
652
00:36:11,430 --> 00:36:14,600
Ingrid and I have been talking
for the last two years.
653
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,570
We talk daily,
and we just hit it off
right away.
654
00:36:18,030 --> 00:36:20,600
[speaking Portuguese]
655
00:36:24,770 --> 00:36:28,700
I think I chose
very wrong in the past,
but she is totally different.
656
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,330
She's funny,
she's caring, she's mature
657
00:36:32,330 --> 00:36:36,100
and she's gorgeous,
blonde, curvy.
658
00:36:36,100 --> 00:36:41,100
I feel that our relationship
is escalating by the minute.
659
00:36:41,100 --> 00:36:43,330
There's definitely a chance
that Ingrid could be the one.
660
00:36:43,330 --> 00:36:45,370
Actually, I want her
to be the one.
661
00:36:46,430 --> 00:36:48,770
I don't want to keep
living life without her.
662
00:36:48,770 --> 00:36:51,630
So after two long years,
we decided it was time,
663
00:36:51,630 --> 00:36:54,300
and in one week
I'll be going to Brazil.
664
00:36:55,730 --> 00:36:58,270
My nerves are twisted,
my stomach's turning.
665
00:36:58,270 --> 00:36:59,830
I'm excited, I'm anxious.
666
00:36:59,830 --> 00:37:03,070
I can't wait to see Ingrid
for the first time.
667
00:37:03,270 --> 00:37:04,330
Uhm...
668
00:37:05,070 --> 00:37:06,230
breathe the same air.
669
00:37:06,230 --> 00:37:08,170
Hug her, kiss her.
670
00:37:08,170 --> 00:37:09,830
I'm ready. I'm ready to go.
671
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:16,070
Ingrid's had no idea what,
what all this entails.
672
00:37:16,070 --> 00:37:17,200
What I go through
in the morning.
673
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:23,130
Ingrid obviously knows
that I'm in a wheelchair,
674
00:37:23,130 --> 00:37:27,830
but she doesn't know details,
bathroom stuff, sexual stuff.
675
00:37:27,830 --> 00:37:30,500
She's never really
asked me about it,
which surprises me,
676
00:37:30,500 --> 00:37:32,600
but maybe she's trying
to comfort me,
677
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,100
not make me
feel out of place.
678
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:36,630
Because I don't
wanna overwhelm
679
00:37:36,630 --> 00:37:38,100
by saying too much.
680
00:37:39,870 --> 00:37:41,700
What's even more
of a concern for me
681
00:37:41,700 --> 00:37:42,970
is that
there's a lot of things
682
00:37:42,970 --> 00:37:44,830
that he still doesn't know
about my past,
683
00:37:44,830 --> 00:37:47,630
and it's possible
when I go there,
684
00:37:47,630 --> 00:37:49,830
things might be a little
too heavy for her.
685
00:37:51,070 --> 00:37:52,400
And that would be
devastating to me.
686
00:37:58,870 --> 00:38:00,130
Guys, you want to meet Faith?
687
00:38:00,130 --> 00:38:02,930
- Yes, of course.
- How are you?
I've never met you before.
688
00:38:02,930 --> 00:38:04,670
When he first was looking,
689
00:38:04,670 --> 00:38:06,430
he had
so many different girls,
690
00:38:06,430 --> 00:38:07,900
- but he chose you.
- Too many.
691
00:38:07,900 --> 00:38:09,370
Oh, my God. [chuckles softly]
692
00:38:09,370 --> 00:38:13,130
So right now, me and Faith,
I don't think she's seeing
anybody else,
693
00:38:13,130 --> 00:38:14,370
but I am.
694
00:38:14,370 --> 00:38:16,430
Sometimes she gets jealous
when you talk
about other girls.
695
00:38:20,470 --> 00:38:22,270
Have you thought about
the cultural differences?
696
00:38:22,270 --> 00:38:24,670
- He feels very strongly
about his religion.
- And that's fine.
697
00:38:24,670 --> 00:38:26,100
You're gonna
have to go to church,
698
00:38:26,100 --> 00:38:27,970
- you're gonna have
to support him.
- That's what you think, okay?
699
00:38:27,970 --> 00:38:30,400
But again, when I'm here
to change somebody's life
700
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,530
and fully wake them up,
that's what I'm gonna do.
701
00:38:33,530 --> 00:38:36,070
There comes a time where,
as an adult,
you have to realize
702
00:38:36,070 --> 00:38:37,900
your opinion's
not the only right opinion.
703
00:38:38,430 --> 00:38:39,630
It's ironic.
704
00:38:39,630 --> 00:38:42,100
He's blind physically
and she's blind emotionally.
705
00:38:42,100 --> 00:38:43,730
So, yeah, we're concerned.
706
00:38:48,330 --> 00:38:50,630
♪ Round up the doggies ♪
707
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,800
♪ I'll sing you a tale ♪
708
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:07,170
♪ Tired little dog-a-roo ♪
709
00:39:07,170 --> 00:39:09,770
[Rayne] I'm on my way
to my mom's storage unit.
710
00:39:09,770 --> 00:39:14,130
She owns some storage units,
some property, some rentals,.
711
00:39:14,130 --> 00:39:17,870
I support my family
by selling eggs from my farm,
712
00:39:17,870 --> 00:39:20,300
but also, I go clean out
the units
713
00:39:20,300 --> 00:39:22,700
of unwanted
or left behind items.
714
00:39:22,700 --> 00:39:25,370
And that's what I do
to make a little extra cash.
715
00:39:34,230 --> 00:39:35,500
[speaking Spanish]
716
00:39:35,500 --> 00:39:37,100
Hey, Rayne!
717
00:39:37,100 --> 00:39:39,270
- [Rayne] How you been?
- Well, I'm here.
718
00:39:39,270 --> 00:39:42,100
- [Rayne] Good to see you!
- [speaking indistinctly]
719
00:39:42,100 --> 00:39:44,130
[Rayne] I've known Debbie
and Jeanette my entire life.
720
00:39:44,130 --> 00:39:45,530
Practically, since I was born.
721
00:39:45,530 --> 00:39:47,270
Those are my mom's
best friends.
722
00:39:47,270 --> 00:39:49,500
So we grew up pretty close.
723
00:39:50,570 --> 00:39:52,500
My mom and her friends
know about Chidi
724
00:39:52,500 --> 00:39:54,230
but they were shocked
when I told 'em
725
00:39:54,230 --> 00:39:56,530
I was going to Nigeria
to finally meet him.
726
00:39:56,530 --> 00:39:57,630
They could not believe it.
727
00:39:57,630 --> 00:40:00,430
- How are you, sweetie?
Good. Good.
- Good and you?
728
00:40:00,430 --> 00:40:03,470
- Hi, Ma.
- Hello.
729
00:40:03,470 --> 00:40:04,900
What's going on?
730
00:40:04,900 --> 00:40:07,230
- What's going on with you, Ra?
- Nothing much,
just here to clean a unit
731
00:40:07,230 --> 00:40:10,230
and I'm starting to pack
and get ready to go.
732
00:40:11,170 --> 00:40:12,200
- Are you nervous?
- I'm going--
733
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:13,500
I am excited, honestly, like,
734
00:40:13,500 --> 00:40:15,570
I'm really, really excited,
I'm not nervous at all.
735
00:40:16,630 --> 00:40:18,400
[Jeanette] I know,
but you don't have
any qualms about,
736
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,770
- I mean, you don't know
the neighborhood,
- You're not scared?
737
00:40:19,770 --> 00:40:21,030
- You're not concerned?
- you don't know...
738
00:40:21,870 --> 00:40:23,570
Well, yeah, but you take
that big of a chance
739
00:40:23,570 --> 00:40:26,030
when you really, really,
really love someone.
740
00:40:26,030 --> 00:40:27,770
Like, I feel like
soul mate ties.
741
00:40:28,500 --> 00:40:30,230
When he said he was blind,
742
00:40:30,230 --> 00:40:31,700
honestly,
like everything in me,
743
00:40:31,700 --> 00:40:34,030
it just hit me like I wanted
this guy forever,
744
00:40:34,030 --> 00:40:36,870
- like--
- So that's the, the attraction
is that he's blind?
745
00:40:38,470 --> 00:40:39,770
Well, no, it's him.
746
00:40:39,770 --> 00:40:41,600
It's everything about him.
747
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,270
But ever since I was little,
like I always hide like,
748
00:40:44,270 --> 00:40:45,770
you know, I mean,
like hiding behind mom
749
00:40:45,770 --> 00:40:46,830
or in the shadows or here
and there.
750
00:40:46,830 --> 00:40:48,070
[Jeanette] Yeah,
you were very reserved.
751
00:40:49,870 --> 00:40:51,600
[Rayne] I was never looking
for a blind man.
752
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:52,870
I never even thought about it.
753
00:40:52,870 --> 00:40:55,800
It never even crossed my mind.
754
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:59,500
It's just that I'm very
self-conscious
about how I look.
755
00:40:59,500 --> 00:41:01,730
When I used
to be intimate with a guy,
756
00:41:01,730 --> 00:41:04,200
I would always leave
a shirt on for the most part,
757
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:05,730
lights better be off.
758
00:41:05,730 --> 00:41:08,100
So him being blind
is a huge turn on for me
759
00:41:08,100 --> 00:41:09,830
because you don't
have to worry
about looking at me.
760
00:41:09,830 --> 00:41:12,070
I can come out of the shower
and he won't see me like,
761
00:41:12,070 --> 00:41:13,970
I'm gonna be so free.
762
00:41:13,970 --> 00:41:15,500
So, yeah,
that's the way I see it.
763
00:41:16,470 --> 00:41:18,170
On your part,
what else have you done
764
00:41:18,170 --> 00:41:21,370
to really learn about people
that are visually impaired,
765
00:41:21,370 --> 00:41:24,700
so that you're prepared
to understand
what his needs might be?
766
00:41:24,700 --> 00:41:27,500
Not just, you know,
maybe covering things
that he doesn't bump into.
767
00:41:27,500 --> 00:41:30,270
But the actual
emotional, the mental,
768
00:41:30,270 --> 00:41:32,170
have you researched?
Have you studied?
769
00:41:32,170 --> 00:41:33,930
We go out, I help him,
whatever,
770
00:41:33,930 --> 00:41:35,370
like he needs something,
I help him.
771
00:41:35,370 --> 00:41:37,300
He's very self,
he can wash dishes.
772
00:41:37,300 --> 00:41:39,830
He washes his own clothes,
he sweeps, he mops,
773
00:41:39,830 --> 00:41:42,070
like he can help you
If you need
your potatoes peeled.
774
00:41:42,070 --> 00:41:44,730
I mean, he's there
to help you in that way.
You know what I mean?
775
00:41:44,730 --> 00:41:46,600
[intense music playing]
776
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,600
Rayne is not realistic
about the relationship.
777
00:41:50,530 --> 00:41:52,870
I think she's just
wanting it so badly
778
00:41:52,870 --> 00:41:56,600
that she's just looking
past some of the things.
779
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:01,170
But if it doesn't play out
the way she's hoping,
she's going to be angry.
780
00:42:01,170 --> 00:42:02,500
And she's gonna be hurt.
781
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,030
Have you thought about
the cultural differences,
the religious differences?
782
00:42:07,030 --> 00:42:09,470
He attends church regularly.
Does any--
783
00:42:09,470 --> 00:42:12,170
[Rayne]
Yeah, and when it comes
to cultural differences,
784
00:42:12,170 --> 00:42:14,400
it's like,
it doesn't really matter,
785
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:16,370
because, like,
we have the same God.
786
00:42:16,370 --> 00:42:19,030
The difference is that
I am not Christian
and he is.
787
00:42:20,970 --> 00:42:24,830
I believe that
there definitely is a God
and a higher power,
788
00:42:24,830 --> 00:42:27,130
but I don't consider myself
a Christian.
789
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:29,930
Because I've seen
a lot of the truth
790
00:42:29,930 --> 00:42:31,730
that's not mentioned
in the Bible.
791
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:38,300
There's a whole other world
and galaxy out there.
792
00:42:38,300 --> 00:42:41,570
For example,
I know for a fact
that aliens exist,
793
00:42:41,570 --> 00:42:44,230
UFOs, Illuminati.
794
00:42:44,230 --> 00:42:46,170
These are all things
that humans
need to understand
795
00:42:46,170 --> 00:42:47,900
if we have any hope
for the future.
796
00:42:49,130 --> 00:42:52,530
Chidi, people like him
keep on living
the way they are,
797
00:42:52,530 --> 00:42:55,200
believing that
they are with God
when they really are not.
798
00:42:56,170 --> 00:42:58,630
But I believe
I can show Chidi the truth.
799
00:43:01,470 --> 00:43:03,500
- He feels very strongly
about his religion.
- [Rayne] And that's fine.
800
00:43:04,230 --> 00:43:05,870
You're gonna have
to go to church.
801
00:43:05,870 --> 00:43:08,070
- Gonna have to support him.
- [Rayne] That's what you
think, okay.
802
00:43:08,070 --> 00:43:10,130
But again, when I'm here
to change somebody's life
803
00:43:10,130 --> 00:43:12,170
and fully wake them up,
that's what I'm gonna do.
804
00:43:12,170 --> 00:43:14,630
He could attend church,
but eventually this man
805
00:43:14,630 --> 00:43:16,230
will be just as woke as I am.
806
00:43:17,070 --> 00:43:18,830
You can't go
one sided thinking that,
807
00:43:18,830 --> 00:43:20,700
-"Oh, it's gonna be my way."
- You're gonna
change everything, yeah.
808
00:43:20,700 --> 00:43:21,830
Yeah, it's gonna be
all about--
809
00:43:21,830 --> 00:43:23,170
That's the way
you look at me, I know,
810
00:43:23,170 --> 00:43:25,270
- but we've had many deep talks
- It's not gonna be one way.
811
00:43:25,270 --> 00:43:26,430
and he loves my voice.
812
00:43:26,430 --> 00:43:28,200
He loves the way I am.
Everything about me.
813
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:30,470
The way I live, my thoughts,
The way I keep to myself.
814
00:43:30,470 --> 00:43:31,870
Just everything.
815
00:43:33,170 --> 00:43:34,800
I think it's great
that she's quirky
and she thinks
816
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:36,530
a little differently
out of the box.
817
00:43:36,530 --> 00:43:39,170
But there comes a time where,
as an adult,
you have to realize
818
00:43:39,170 --> 00:43:41,730
your opinion's not
the only right opinion.
819
00:43:41,730 --> 00:43:43,970
[Jeanette]She's very headstrong,
820
00:43:43,970 --> 00:43:46,700
so she's gonna
need to find somebody
821
00:43:46,700 --> 00:43:50,330
who is gonna
have the same beliefs as her.
822
00:43:50,330 --> 00:43:53,030
Because if not,
it'll be a lot of turmoil.
823
00:43:53,030 --> 00:43:57,030
[Debbie]I think it will take a lot
for her to work on compromise.
824
00:43:57,030 --> 00:44:00,470
It's ironic.
He's blind physically
and she's blind emotionally.
825
00:44:01,670 --> 00:44:03,130
So, yeah, we're concerned.
826
00:44:04,430 --> 00:44:06,200
I hope you do
find your love, honey.
827
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,330
- Mm-hmm.
- I do.
828
00:44:08,330 --> 00:44:10,130
I just don't want you
to go in saying,
you know what?
829
00:44:10,130 --> 00:44:13,770
You meet him
and something doesn't click
when you're face to face.
830
00:44:13,770 --> 00:44:14,730
Because it happens.
831
00:44:19,230 --> 00:44:21,630
We're praying for you
and we want you
to have a safe trip.
832
00:44:21,630 --> 00:44:22,830
- I love you.
- And I'm sorry
833
00:44:22,830 --> 00:44:24,600
- I came off
a little bit defensive.
- No.
834
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:26,000
You know what,
but those are your feelings,
835
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:27,930
and you have
to follow your heart.
836
00:44:29,530 --> 00:44:31,500
[Rayne] I think with my mom
and her friends,
837
00:44:31,500 --> 00:44:34,470
they all want
to see me happy and safe
and in love.
838
00:44:35,230 --> 00:44:37,700
- We love you.
- I'll see you later.
839
00:44:37,700 --> 00:44:41,500
But they don't understand
that I really, really,
really, really love Chidi.
840
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:45,670
Everything Chidi's ever said
to me,
841
00:44:45,670 --> 00:44:48,130
it makes me feel like
we're aligned in every way.
842
00:44:49,530 --> 00:44:51,100
And I have to believe
that our connection
843
00:44:51,100 --> 00:44:53,130
will be just as real
in person.
844
00:45:03,970 --> 00:45:06,530
♪ Hmm, I gotta have it ♪
845
00:45:06,530 --> 00:45:08,100
♪ You know I need it ♪
846
00:45:08,100 --> 00:45:11,270
♪ You know I want it
All the time ♪
847
00:45:11,270 --> 00:45:12,900
♪ I gotta have it ♪
848
00:45:12,900 --> 00:45:15,430
In one week,
I'm finally gonna jump
on that plane
849
00:45:15,430 --> 00:45:16,600
to the Philippines,
850
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:20,000
and meet my online girlfriend,
Faith, face to face.
851
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,500
And if everything goes well,
I'll be there forever.
852
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,300
Yeah, right now,
I'm just kind of
couch surfing,
853
00:45:28,300 --> 00:45:30,130
until I leave
for the Philippines.
854
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,670
Due to my financial situation,
I don't have
a really stable home.
855
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,170
Where I wake up,
ranges from...
856
00:45:38,170 --> 00:45:39,600
my best friend's house,
857
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,500
one of my exes' house,
maybe a new friend's house.
858
00:45:43,770 --> 00:45:46,300
So if I can find a job
in the Philippines...
859
00:45:46,300 --> 00:45:48,330
Faith already has a job,
she'll have a stable income.
860
00:45:48,330 --> 00:45:50,200
And then eventually
I'll have a stable income,
861
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,870
and things might work out
really good that way
for both of us.
862
00:45:53,870 --> 00:45:57,130
This is my first time
traveling abroad
to meet someone.
863
00:45:57,130 --> 00:45:59,400
I've basically never flown
anywhere in my entire life.
864
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:01,070
So this will be
a huge adventure for me.
865
00:46:03,630 --> 00:46:07,970
Right now in this pot,
it's shrimp,
sweet chili sauce, soy sauce.
866
00:46:07,970 --> 00:46:09,600
We've got garlic.
867
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:11,600
I'm practicing my cooking
of Filipino food.
868
00:46:15,500 --> 00:46:18,300
So that the room gets nice
and hot and steamy.
869
00:46:18,300 --> 00:46:20,430
A lot of people tell me that
in the Philippines,
870
00:46:20,430 --> 00:46:23,600
it's so hot, it's so humid,
you can't take it.
871
00:46:25,730 --> 00:46:28,830
No, I'm not just
gonna sit here.
I'm gonna do some exercises.
872
00:46:28,830 --> 00:46:30,200
You know,
I'm really gonna get into it,
873
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,700
cause in the Philippines,
we're gonna be running around,
874
00:46:32,700 --> 00:46:35,900
doing all kinds
of crazy things,
and I'm gonna be ready.
875
00:46:35,900 --> 00:46:37,700
[exhilarating music playing]
876
00:46:37,700 --> 00:46:39,330
I've been doing this training
once a week,
877
00:46:39,330 --> 00:46:41,800
for the past,
like two, three months.
878
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:45,770
And I'm preparing
for my trip to the Philippines
like it's an Olympic sport.
879
00:46:45,770 --> 00:46:48,930
Once you get three pots going,
it gets super steamy,
super hot.
880
00:47:03,330 --> 00:47:05,730
I've put a lot of thought
into moving
to the Philippines.
881
00:47:05,730 --> 00:47:07,170
I've never felt like
I belonged here,
882
00:47:07,170 --> 00:47:09,000
and it's a chance
to finally see something
883
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,670
besides what I've been
used to my whole life.
884
00:47:11,670 --> 00:47:13,570
Mm-hmm.
It's starting
to smell like shrimp.
885
00:47:14,470 --> 00:47:16,670
Almost.
886
00:47:16,670 --> 00:47:19,300
But really, the only thing
that's important
is being with Faith.
887
00:47:19,300 --> 00:47:20,800
She is
an amazing person, right?
888
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:22,470
She's perfect pretty much
in every way.
889
00:47:22,470 --> 00:47:25,300
I mean, I'm literally putting
everything I have into this.
890
00:47:25,300 --> 00:47:27,970
I've been saving.
I've been working. This is it.
891
00:47:29,900 --> 00:47:31,700
Hmm. I think it's done.
892
00:47:31,700 --> 00:47:33,800
Ready for the Philippines.
Ready for Faith.
893
00:47:41,070 --> 00:47:42,500
The shell takes
a lot longer to chew.
894
00:47:54,970 --> 00:47:56,770
[upbeat music playing]
895
00:48:02,870 --> 00:48:03,870
[man] Hello.
896
00:48:11,370 --> 00:48:12,930
Now we're ready.
897
00:48:14,730 --> 00:48:15,870
[Loren] Yeah.
898
00:48:15,870 --> 00:48:17,130
This side is missing a few.
899
00:48:19,900 --> 00:48:21,100
Cause I'm really gone
for quite a while,
900
00:48:21,100 --> 00:48:22,930
maybe even forever
if it works out.
901
00:48:22,930 --> 00:48:24,500
I agreed to help
my boss, Derek,
902
00:48:24,500 --> 00:48:27,070
prepare a few costumes
for the next couple
of drag shows.
903
00:48:30,770 --> 00:48:31,830
Yeah.
904
00:48:31,830 --> 00:48:33,770
[Jacob]
You know, if I was at the bar,
905
00:48:33,770 --> 00:48:35,730
I would definitely
reach in my pocket
906
00:48:35,730 --> 00:48:37,370
and give him
this dollar right now.
907
00:48:37,930 --> 00:48:39,470
You want change? [laughs]
908
00:48:39,470 --> 00:48:41,330
No, you can keep
the whole dollar.
909
00:48:41,330 --> 00:48:43,000
No 50 cent? 50 cent. [laughs]
910
00:48:46,100 --> 00:48:48,470
[Derek speaking]
911
00:48:49,670 --> 00:48:51,470
And he just asked me...
912
00:48:52,470 --> 00:48:54,170
He was so adamant.
913
00:48:54,170 --> 00:48:57,400
So I said,
"Hey, would you care
for a part time job?"
914
00:48:57,400 --> 00:49:01,170
He said, "Sure",
and I now
can't get rid of him.
915
00:49:01,170 --> 00:49:03,130
So it's about--
six, six o'clock.
916
00:49:03,130 --> 00:49:05,200
So it's time for Faith
to wake up in the Philippines.
917
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:06,800
Is it okay if I just
go call her real quick?
918
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:09,300
- No, no. I'm kidding.
- And then come back? No?
919
00:49:10,530 --> 00:49:12,030
[Loren] It's all right. Yeah.
920
00:49:13,130 --> 00:49:14,700
So because
there's a 15-hour
time difference
921
00:49:14,700 --> 00:49:17,230
and we both work so much,
it's really hard
for me and Faith
922
00:49:17,230 --> 00:49:19,730
to connect to our video calls
on a regular basis.
923
00:49:20,730 --> 00:49:22,500
Faith has never really
had a boyfriend before.
924
00:49:22,500 --> 00:49:24,670
So I know these video calls
are really important to her,
925
00:49:24,670 --> 00:49:26,100
even if it's just
a quick hello.
926
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:29,330
Good morning, Faith.
927
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,370
- Hi, good morning my darling.
- Y eah.
928
00:49:32,370 --> 00:49:34,130
How are you?
929
00:49:34,130 --> 00:49:35,330
I'm good. [laughs]
930
00:49:38,470 --> 00:49:40,300
Yeah, I'm at Derek's.
931
00:49:40,300 --> 00:49:43,070
This is his costume room.
It's all kinds.
932
00:49:43,070 --> 00:49:45,270
You're gonna come
try some on? [laughs]
933
00:49:47,430 --> 00:49:49,500
No? You never had
a costume room?
934
00:49:49,500 --> 00:49:50,770
[laughs]
935
00:49:52,100 --> 00:49:54,730
Are we still sleeping
in separate rooms
when I get there at the hotel?
936
00:49:58,570 --> 00:49:59,730
[Faith] Um...
937
00:50:06,470 --> 00:50:07,530
[Loren] Yeah.
938
00:50:09,530 --> 00:50:10,870
- [Loren] Okay.
- [laughs]
939
00:50:10,870 --> 00:50:12,800
I went all the way
to the Philippines
to be alone.
940
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,400
Is that what
you're saying? [laughs]
941
00:50:15,270 --> 00:50:16,670
I'm a super sexual person,
942
00:50:16,670 --> 00:50:20,330
and I've sent Faith
a few sexy-ish photos
here and there.
943
00:50:20,330 --> 00:50:22,470
But other than that,
we really haven't talked
about sex.
944
00:50:23,770 --> 00:50:27,230
I think Faith wants
to take things slowly,
which is fine.
945
00:50:27,230 --> 00:50:29,730
I want her to feel confident.
This is about love.
946
00:50:30,370 --> 00:50:31,830
Guys, you want to meet Faith?
947
00:50:32,570 --> 00:50:34,170
[Taeya] Yes, of course.
948
00:50:34,170 --> 00:50:35,400
- [Taeya] Hi.
- [Derek] Yeah.
949
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:36,930
How are you?
I never met you before.
950
00:50:36,930 --> 00:50:38,700
[Taeya] Hi. How are you?
951
00:50:38,700 --> 00:50:40,930
- [Jacob] Yeah.
- [Derek] And you're beautiful.
952
00:50:40,930 --> 00:50:42,670
You know,
I have to tell you something.
953
00:50:42,670 --> 00:50:46,830
- When he first was looking
on the Filipino dating app.
- [Derek] Yeah.
954
00:50:46,830 --> 00:50:48,530
He had
so many different girls,
955
00:50:48,530 --> 00:50:49,730
- but he chose you.
- Too many!
956
00:50:51,570 --> 00:50:53,070
Oh my God.
957
00:50:54,370 --> 00:50:57,530
He chose you.
So you are the special choice.
958
00:50:57,530 --> 00:50:59,170
- [Derek] Yes.
- [Jacob] Yes.
959
00:50:59,170 --> 00:51:02,030
And I think you and Loren
will be a wonderful fit.
960
00:51:02,030 --> 00:51:04,370
- Thank you so much.
- You're welcome so much.
961
00:51:04,370 --> 00:51:05,570
[Faith speaking]
962
00:51:05,570 --> 00:51:06,770
- [Derek] Bye.
- [Jacob] Take care.
963
00:51:08,270 --> 00:51:10,030
Bye, Faith. Love you.
964
00:51:10,630 --> 00:51:12,200
Bye. Love you.
965
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:13,930
Love you.
966
00:51:15,030 --> 00:51:16,470
- [Brian] Okay.
- [Jacob] She's beautiful.
967
00:51:16,470 --> 00:51:18,070
Yeah.
968
00:51:18,070 --> 00:51:19,530
So I don't think Faith
really knew what--
969
00:51:19,530 --> 00:51:20,670
could hear what
you guys were saying.
970
00:51:20,670 --> 00:51:21,870
But I know sometimes
she gets jealous
971
00:51:21,870 --> 00:51:23,600
when you talk
about other girls.
972
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,130
- [Derek] Yeah.
- [Jacob] I'm so sorry.
973
00:51:25,130 --> 00:51:27,230
I thought she would feel
special being known
974
00:51:27,230 --> 00:51:28,830
- that she was the one
that was chosen.
- [Taeya] Yeah.
975
00:51:32,030 --> 00:51:34,800
Um, I mean,
we don't really talk about it.
976
00:51:35,530 --> 00:51:37,600
[Derek] Ooh.
977
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,170
Me and Faith
aren't necessarily exclusive
right now.
978
00:51:40,170 --> 00:51:43,170
I don't think
she's seeing anybody else,
but I am.
979
00:51:44,370 --> 00:51:47,000
I've been hinting at me
sleeping with other people,
980
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,370
like I let her know
that I stay over
other people's houses.
981
00:51:49,370 --> 00:51:51,430
But I'm not sure
that she understands.
982
00:51:51,430 --> 00:51:53,470
You're going
all the way there.
983
00:51:53,470 --> 00:51:56,600
Don't you think she's thinking
it's a monogamous
relationship?
984
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:59,100
Um, well, I mean like,
985
00:51:59,100 --> 00:52:00,200
you know,
that's a conversation
986
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:01,670
I definitely want to have
in person.
987
00:52:03,570 --> 00:52:05,270
Faith is the woman
of my dreams.
988
00:52:05,270 --> 00:52:08,430
However, I don't necessarily
want us to be
an exclusive couple,
989
00:52:08,430 --> 00:52:10,170
even after I go
to the Philippines,
990
00:52:10,170 --> 00:52:12,700
because I don't really believe
in monogamy.
991
00:52:12,700 --> 00:52:14,500
I believe you can have sex
with your partner
992
00:52:14,500 --> 00:52:18,400
and have love and passion
and make it very personal.
993
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,800
And then you also
can go out and have sex
with somebody else
994
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,700
simply for the fact
that it's something different
and something new.
995
00:52:23,700 --> 00:52:27,000
Maybe they know something
you don't know
and can teach you something.
996
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:28,970
But either way,
it's just for fun.
997
00:52:28,970 --> 00:52:31,900
Versus your partner
who is forever and for love.
998
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,300
The idea of being
in an open relationship
999
00:52:35,300 --> 00:52:37,170
is something that's
really important to me,
1000
00:52:37,170 --> 00:52:38,970
but Faith, cause
I'm her first boyfriend,
1001
00:52:38,970 --> 00:52:41,700
that's probably not
one of her first thoughts.
1002
00:52:41,700 --> 00:52:44,530
So I am nervous to tell Faith
about all this,
1003
00:52:44,530 --> 00:52:47,170
because at the end of the day,
I don't want to lose her.
1004
00:52:47,170 --> 00:52:48,870
[Jacob] If her way
is monogamy,
1005
00:52:48,870 --> 00:52:51,100
are you going
to be okay with that?
1006
00:52:51,100 --> 00:52:53,330
I mean, I'm gonna
have to accept it.
1007
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:56,300
Or try and push her into not.
1008
00:52:57,130 --> 00:52:58,300
Hopefully it's okay.
1009
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:01,800
- We'll see about that.
- Yeah.
1010
00:53:05,170 --> 00:53:08,270
So do you plan on having sex
when you go over there?
1011
00:53:08,270 --> 00:53:12,670
Yeah, but we haven't talked
about nothing like Viagra
and all that other stuff.
1012
00:53:12,670 --> 00:53:15,830
Sex with a person
in a wheelchair
is different in a lot of ways.
1013
00:53:15,830 --> 00:53:19,500
Like if we do ejaculate,
sometimes it can cause
an aneurysm,
1014
00:53:19,500 --> 00:53:20,530
so it's kind of scary, even.
1015
00:53:20,530 --> 00:53:21,700
[woman] Are you gonna
be nervous?
1016
00:53:25,670 --> 00:53:26,900
[upbeat music playing]
1017
00:53:26,900 --> 00:53:30,330
My car is outfitted
with hand controls
for me to drive.
1018
00:53:30,330 --> 00:53:31,770
I did it for $1000.
1019
00:53:31,770 --> 00:53:35,500
Accelerate is down
and to break is in.
1020
00:53:35,500 --> 00:53:37,970
That was the biggest thing
of my injury
was getting independent.
1021
00:53:37,970 --> 00:53:39,430
Getting those wings again.
1022
00:53:39,430 --> 00:53:42,000
So I do love my car. Too much.
1023
00:53:56,070 --> 00:53:57,770
Bouncy, bouncy legs.
1024
00:53:57,770 --> 00:53:59,200
But let's go.
1025
00:54:00,870 --> 00:54:02,570
In one week,
I'm flying out to Brazil
1026
00:54:02,570 --> 00:54:04,900
to meet my girlfriend, Ingrid,
in person.
1027
00:54:04,900 --> 00:54:06,900
[speaking in Spanish]
1028
00:54:13,170 --> 00:54:15,170
[laughs]
1029
00:54:15,170 --> 00:54:17,430
What up, boys?
What up what up?
1030
00:54:17,430 --> 00:54:18,770
I've been to Brazil
several times,
1031
00:54:18,770 --> 00:54:20,830
but this time
it definitely feels different
1032
00:54:20,830 --> 00:54:22,630
because I could be meeting
the one.
1033
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:28,170
I have so much nervous energy
about meeting Ingrid,
1034
00:54:28,170 --> 00:54:29,930
so I'm glad to get
some of it out
1035
00:54:29,930 --> 00:54:32,400
in one last rugby practice
before I leave.
1036
00:54:32,700 --> 00:54:34,930
Yup. Brian.
1037
00:54:38,500 --> 00:54:40,400
Twist it, twist it.
Get it going, get it going.
1038
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:41,530
Here it comes.
1039
00:54:42,700 --> 00:54:44,300
Nice. Push, push, push!
1040
00:54:44,300 --> 00:54:47,730
[speaking in Spanish]
1041
00:54:47,730 --> 00:54:49,630
Wheelchair rugby
is giving me everything.
1042
00:54:50,730 --> 00:54:52,830
At first I was scared of it,
you know,
1043
00:54:52,830 --> 00:54:54,230
I thought,
I'm already in a wheelchair,
1044
00:54:54,230 --> 00:54:56,030
and I don't need
to break my neck again.
1045
00:54:56,030 --> 00:54:58,300
I said, "No way.
This isn't for me."
1046
00:55:00,630 --> 00:55:01,830
Pressure, pressure, pressure.
1047
00:55:01,830 --> 00:55:03,500
But as the years went on,
1048
00:55:03,500 --> 00:55:05,070
and you get better at it
and you get stronger
1049
00:55:05,070 --> 00:55:07,670
and, it puts you back
to normalcy.
1050
00:55:11,330 --> 00:55:12,870
- [man] Score.
- [woman] Oh, my God.
1051
00:55:13,930 --> 00:55:15,170
Come on in, Lou.
1052
00:55:18,830 --> 00:55:20,470
Let's stop, boys.
1053
00:55:20,470 --> 00:55:22,800
So this is my last
practice for a while, guys.
1054
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:24,630
I'm going to Brazil next week.
1055
00:55:24,630 --> 00:55:25,900
Are you excited?
1056
00:55:25,900 --> 00:55:27,700
I am excited.
I'm very excited.
1057
00:55:27,700 --> 00:55:29,700
Are you gonna
check out the rainforest
while you're there?
1058
00:55:29,700 --> 00:55:31,600
No. Hopefully not. [laughs]
1059
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:33,900
I don't want to be stuck
in no damn rainforest
with no wheelchair.
1060
00:55:33,900 --> 00:55:35,230
[laughs]
1061
00:55:35,230 --> 00:55:37,900
So do you plan on having sex
when you go over there?
1062
00:55:38,500 --> 00:55:40,100
[dramatic music playing]
1063
00:55:40,100 --> 00:55:44,770
Yeah, but we haven't talked
about nothing like Viagra
and all that other stuff.
1064
00:55:44,770 --> 00:55:46,400
Cause you should
never tell 'em.
1065
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:48,270
- [Brian] My man. My man.
- First impression
is everything.
1066
00:55:48,270 --> 00:55:50,730
I put a Viagra under a pillow,
1067
00:55:50,730 --> 00:55:52,570
I put a Viagra
on the alarm clock,
1068
00:55:52,570 --> 00:55:54,530
- I put a Viagra
in the room [bleep].
- [woman laughs]
1069
00:55:54,530 --> 00:55:56,600
'Cause you never know,
because when
you get in a situation,
1070
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:57,870
you might be on the couch.
1071
00:55:57,870 --> 00:55:59,600
And long for that Viagra,
like oh [bleep].
1072
00:56:00,330 --> 00:56:02,170
For me,
I still get an erection.
1073
00:56:02,170 --> 00:56:03,400
Do you finish?
1074
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:05,270
- No, thank God.
I don't, thank God.
- You don't?
1075
00:56:05,270 --> 00:56:07,470
I do inject it, but I get
a crazy ass headache.
1076
00:56:08,030 --> 00:56:09,570
And then my hands clench up.
1077
00:56:09,570 --> 00:56:13,300
Yeah, cause that blood
rushes through to the brain
and bam! and [bleep]
1078
00:56:13,300 --> 00:56:14,470
Pops off in the brain.
1079
00:56:15,270 --> 00:56:16,570
Sex with a person
in a wheelchair
1080
00:56:16,570 --> 00:56:18,770
is different in a lot of ways.
1081
00:56:18,770 --> 00:56:23,300
Some guys can get an erection
without Viagra, and keep,
1082
00:56:23,300 --> 00:56:25,370
some guys can and can't keep,
1083
00:56:25,370 --> 00:56:27,930
I get the erection,
it stays. Viagra helps.
1084
00:56:28,970 --> 00:56:33,300
But if you associate pleasure
with ejaculating,
1085
00:56:33,300 --> 00:56:35,100
that's really not it for us.
1086
00:56:35,100 --> 00:56:40,270
If we do ejaculate,
we get a severe headache,
spasms in our hands,
1087
00:56:40,270 --> 00:56:44,030
sometimes can be
even an aneurysm,
causing an aneurysm.
1088
00:56:44,030 --> 00:56:46,530
So it's kind of scary even,
to ejaculate now.
1089
00:56:47,630 --> 00:56:49,670
Sex isn't
always straightforward.
1090
00:56:49,670 --> 00:56:51,300
But hopefully
things go smoothly with Ingrid
1091
00:56:51,300 --> 00:56:54,170
because you don't
wanna mess too many
of those situations up.
1092
00:56:54,170 --> 00:56:55,800
If it's frustrating
and aggravating,
1093
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:58,400
they're not gonna
stick around.
1094
00:57:01,470 --> 00:57:04,570
No, she's good people, man.
I mean, for me,
she seems good people.
1095
00:57:04,570 --> 00:57:06,030
Has she mentioned to others...
1096
00:57:09,500 --> 00:57:12,670
I know she talked to her mom
about meeting somebody.
1097
00:57:12,670 --> 00:57:14,630
I don't know
if wheelchair's in there.
1098
00:57:14,630 --> 00:57:18,270
Other than that, I don't think
she told anybody about me.
1099
00:57:20,970 --> 00:57:22,730
Recently I was talking
to Ingrid,
1100
00:57:22,730 --> 00:57:26,670
and it became clear to me
that she hasn't told
her family much about me.
1101
00:57:27,230 --> 00:57:29,870
[speaking in Spanish]
1102
00:57:49,230 --> 00:57:50,530
Probably all of them
are gonna be thinking,
1103
00:57:50,530 --> 00:57:52,200
"What the hell
is this guy doing there?" Or--
1104
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:54,100
[woman] Are you gonna
be nervous?
1105
00:57:54,100 --> 00:57:57,130
No, not so much.
I'm not gonna be so nerv--
1106
00:57:58,100 --> 00:57:59,530
You know, just because
you're in a wheelchair
1107
00:57:59,530 --> 00:58:01,830
- doesn't mean you just
sit home all the time.
- I play rugby. Right.
1108
00:58:01,830 --> 00:58:03,970
- You can do everything.
- It's not game over. Right.
1109
00:58:05,130 --> 00:58:06,670
It does feel strange for me,
1110
00:58:06,670 --> 00:58:10,270
going to a place
to meet somebody
that I care a lot about.
1111
00:58:10,270 --> 00:58:11,800
And then to feel that,
1112
00:58:12,870 --> 00:58:15,070
maybe she's hiding
my disability
or something or,
1113
00:58:15,070 --> 00:58:17,000
may be embarrassed of that.
1114
00:58:18,230 --> 00:58:19,800
I have strong feelings
for her,
1115
00:58:19,800 --> 00:58:22,870
but I can't be with someone
who's ashamed to be with me.
1116
00:58:22,870 --> 00:58:24,970
So I really hope
that's not the case.
1117
00:58:27,830 --> 00:58:30,730
- You're flying
across the world,
- [laughs]
1118
00:58:30,730 --> 00:58:33,970
and don't really know
what you're getting
yourself into.
1119
00:58:33,970 --> 00:58:36,670
You know, it's not that big
of a deal for me.
1120
00:58:36,670 --> 00:58:39,600
For her to get married
the first day
she meets a stranger,
1121
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:42,070
where she's had this,
like, online relationship,
1122
00:58:42,070 --> 00:58:43,500
hardly for four months.
1123
00:58:43,500 --> 00:58:46,170
It's a big stretch
to think that
1124
00:58:46,170 --> 00:58:47,970
she lives happily ever after.
1125
00:58:47,970 --> 00:58:50,700
What happens
after you're already married,
1126
00:58:50,700 --> 00:58:52,800
and you start
having second thoughts.
1127
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:54,500
What are you gonna do?
1128
00:58:58,500 --> 00:59:00,730
[party music playing]
1129
00:59:01,530 --> 00:59:02,600
[cheers]
1130
00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:04,170
[man] We like that sound.
1131
00:59:04,870 --> 00:59:07,300
[cheering and laughing]
1132
00:59:13,070 --> 00:59:15,670
[man] Oh. Oh my goodness.
1133
00:59:18,100 --> 00:59:19,530
And in less than a week,
1134
00:59:19,530 --> 00:59:22,830
I'm leaving for Jordan
to meet Adnan,
1135
00:59:22,830 --> 00:59:24,370
the love of my life,
1136
00:59:24,370 --> 00:59:26,600
and get married
the first day that we meet.
1137
00:59:27,730 --> 00:59:32,070
So today my friends
are throwing me
a bachelorette party.
1138
00:59:36,670 --> 00:59:39,470
My ex-husband
was super controlling,
1139
00:59:39,470 --> 00:59:43,230
and I wasn't able
to have friends
and be social.
1140
00:59:43,230 --> 00:59:46,970
So my service providers
became my friends.
1141
00:59:46,970 --> 00:59:50,170
My aesthetician,
my hairstylist,
1142
00:59:50,170 --> 00:59:51,800
my life coach,
1143
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:55,770
my lash girl, and my injector.
1144
00:59:55,770 --> 00:59:57,130
[laughs]
1145
00:59:57,430 --> 00:59:58,970
[ululating]
1146
01:00:01,370 --> 01:00:02,470
Yes!
1147
01:00:02,470 --> 01:00:03,830
Congratulations!
1148
01:00:03,830 --> 01:00:05,170
Thank you.
1149
01:00:05,170 --> 01:00:07,330
[Cruz] Yes.
1150
01:00:09,870 --> 01:00:11,830
See, this is exactly
why I need you
1151
01:00:11,830 --> 01:00:14,500
- coming with me
to Jordan.
- Got you, girl.
1152
01:00:14,500 --> 01:00:16,370
[all laughing]
1153
01:00:16,370 --> 01:00:18,530
[Natasha] Cruz and I
are going to Jordan
1154
01:00:18,530 --> 01:00:21,170
with Tigerlily
for moral support,
1155
01:00:21,170 --> 01:00:24,430
and to make sure
that she feels
and looks her best.
1156
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:33,370
And I think
what she's doing is crazy.
1157
01:00:33,370 --> 01:00:36,200
I mean, there's a wedding,
1158
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,170
and then they're gonna
get to know each other.
1159
01:00:38,170 --> 01:00:39,570
That's crazy.
1160
01:00:39,570 --> 01:00:44,270
They're doing
everything backwards,
in my opinion.
1161
01:00:44,270 --> 01:00:48,000
[Cruz] So how many people
are gonna show up
to this wedding?
1162
01:00:48,430 --> 01:00:49,570
Um...
1163
01:00:49,570 --> 01:00:53,130
Like, I think he said 200.
1164
01:00:53,130 --> 01:00:55,070
- That's incredible.
- [Cruz] 200 on his side,
1165
01:00:55,070 --> 01:00:56,630
and how many on yours?
1166
01:01:02,700 --> 01:01:04,030
- [Stephanie] Wow.
- [laughs]
1167
01:01:04,030 --> 01:01:05,000
[Cruz] Okay.
1168
01:01:06,300 --> 01:01:10,370
Adnan and I made plans
to sign the marriage contract
1169
01:01:10,370 --> 01:01:12,000
on the first day that we meet.
1170
01:01:12,770 --> 01:01:14,930
But just two days after that,
1171
01:01:14,930 --> 01:01:19,200
we are having
a huge Jordanian
wedding celebration.
1172
01:01:20,070 --> 01:01:23,370
Adnan hasn't asked me
for any input at all.
1173
01:01:23,370 --> 01:01:26,470
All I've done
is pick up my wardrobe.
1174
01:01:27,870 --> 01:01:30,070
But I think
it's really romantic.
1175
01:01:31,770 --> 01:01:34,300
Didn't you get her a gift?
1176
01:01:34,300 --> 01:01:35,470
[Stephanie] Yeah.
1177
01:01:37,630 --> 01:01:39,370
Let's see what it is.
1178
01:01:41,270 --> 01:01:42,930
- Oh!
- [Stephanie] Ooh.
1179
01:01:42,930 --> 01:01:46,700
- [Cruz] What is it?
- Lingerie, this is so pretty.
1180
01:01:47,470 --> 01:01:49,170
Thank you.
1181
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:51,200
Thank you.
1182
01:01:52,530 --> 01:01:55,870
But I don't know--
I don't want to offend him.
1183
01:01:55,870 --> 01:01:57,130
Will he get offended?
1184
01:01:58,870 --> 01:02:00,000
[Stephanie talking]
1185
01:02:05,700 --> 01:02:07,570
Why are you asking me?
Like I--
1186
01:02:08,470 --> 01:02:09,730
[Tigerlily] No.
1187
01:02:15,070 --> 01:02:17,330
No I do,
but I don't think
it's important
1188
01:02:17,330 --> 01:02:20,130
to know
if he's done it before.
1189
01:02:23,330 --> 01:02:28,400
I do not know if Adnan
has ever been intimate
with anyone.
1190
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:33,400
But I am not worried
about compatibility
in the bedroom.
1191
01:02:34,300 --> 01:02:37,600
The last 10 years of my life
were no good.
1192
01:02:37,600 --> 01:02:40,470
So I mean, I think
it will be like
1193
01:02:40,470 --> 01:02:43,130
having ground beef,
1194
01:02:43,130 --> 01:02:46,570
and then going to, like,
filet mignon or something.
1195
01:02:46,570 --> 01:02:49,800
[laughs]
1196
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:53,330
I know that we're waiting
until we get married,
1197
01:02:54,130 --> 01:02:55,200
to do that.
1198
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:56,700
He's Muslim.
1199
01:02:57,470 --> 01:02:58,930
So...
1200
01:03:02,970 --> 01:03:04,770
[Cruz speaking]
1201
01:03:04,770 --> 01:03:07,070
Is he gonna be, like, strict?
1202
01:03:07,070 --> 01:03:08,200
- ...you know? I mean...
- Well...
1203
01:03:11,130 --> 01:03:13,070
...and it was
showing cleavage.
1204
01:03:13,070 --> 01:03:15,870
So, I'm already, like,
changing my style.
1205
01:03:15,870 --> 01:03:17,500
Still being stylish,
1206
01:03:17,500 --> 01:03:20,030
but changing it up
a little bit.
1207
01:03:24,530 --> 01:03:26,400
You know, it's not that big
of a deal for me.
1208
01:03:27,370 --> 01:03:29,430
I mean, it is interesting
that you've gotten out
1209
01:03:29,430 --> 01:03:31,470
of a very controlling
relationship.
1210
01:03:31,470 --> 01:03:33,100
That was one of
the biggest things,
1211
01:03:33,100 --> 01:03:35,400
that was a turn off
about your ex, right?
1212
01:03:35,870 --> 01:03:37,130
And now, you're...
1213
01:03:37,130 --> 01:03:39,430
flying across the world,
1214
01:03:39,430 --> 01:03:42,370
and don't really know
what you're getting
yourself into.
1215
01:03:44,300 --> 01:03:45,300
I've seen, like,
1216
01:03:45,300 --> 01:03:47,730
the major struggle
that she dealt with
1217
01:03:47,730 --> 01:03:50,800
being in a toxic relationship
that she couldn't get out of,
1218
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:53,670
and I am very scared
that she might wind up
1219
01:03:53,670 --> 01:03:56,730
in the same or worse situation
than she was before.
1220
01:03:57,670 --> 01:03:59,130
For her to get married
1221
01:03:59,130 --> 01:04:00,430
the first day
she meets a stranger,
1222
01:04:00,430 --> 01:04:02,770
where she's had this, like,
online relationship,
1223
01:04:02,770 --> 01:04:04,300
hardly for four months,
1224
01:04:04,300 --> 01:04:05,730
it's a big stretch
1225
01:04:05,730 --> 01:04:08,200
to think that
she lives happily ever after.
1226
01:04:09,900 --> 01:04:11,100
Well, you remember,
1227
01:04:11,100 --> 01:04:14,030
with my previous relationship,
1228
01:04:14,030 --> 01:04:18,670
that person would you want me
to dress revealing,
1229
01:04:18,670 --> 01:04:20,970
so that I could be
the arm candy
1230
01:04:20,970 --> 01:04:23,530
and make himself look better.
1231
01:04:23,530 --> 01:04:26,270
And so, in this relationship,
1232
01:04:26,270 --> 01:04:29,200
he feels that
certain things are...
1233
01:04:29,400 --> 01:04:30,470
Yeah.
1234
01:04:30,470 --> 01:04:33,170
I feel like
that's kind of special.
1235
01:04:33,170 --> 01:04:36,570
But he hasn't been very clear
on what his boundaries
are yet...
1236
01:04:36,570 --> 01:04:38,270
Who knows
what's gonna happen?
1237
01:04:41,230 --> 01:04:42,230
[Tigerlily]I don't really know
1238
01:04:42,230 --> 01:04:46,130
how strict Adnan is
with his religion.
1239
01:04:46,130 --> 01:04:49,530
Is it possible that
more rules will come up
1240
01:04:49,530 --> 01:04:52,730
that I don't agree with
or that I don't like?
1241
01:04:52,730 --> 01:04:53,830
Of course.
1242
01:04:54,670 --> 01:04:56,530
But after everything
that I went through
1243
01:04:56,530 --> 01:04:58,070
in my last relationship,
1244
01:04:58,070 --> 01:05:02,000
I'm definitely not going
to let myself be controlled
1245
01:05:02,000 --> 01:05:04,730
in the way that I was
controlled before.
1246
01:05:04,730 --> 01:05:07,630
What happens
after you're already married
1247
01:05:07,630 --> 01:05:10,070
and you start having
second thoughts?
1248
01:05:10,070 --> 01:05:11,530
What are you gonna do?
1249
01:05:11,530 --> 01:05:13,300
I mean, I think that...
1250
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:15,030
you get through it.
1251
01:05:15,030 --> 01:05:16,770
Like, whatever it is,
1252
01:05:16,770 --> 01:05:18,100
you figure it out.
1253
01:05:18,100 --> 01:05:22,400
This is a major decision
in your life.
1254
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:23,670
You're not getting a puppy.
1255
01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:25,630
You know?
1256
01:05:29,470 --> 01:05:31,230
- [Loren] All right.
- All right.
1257
01:05:31,230 --> 01:05:33,000
- All right, I'll call you.
- All right. Safe travels.
1258
01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:34,100
The safest.
1259
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:37,770
[Esther] I know him and I can
read his body language,
1260
01:05:37,770 --> 01:05:39,070
and, like, he's scared.
1261
01:05:39,070 --> 01:05:41,070
I see this scared little boy.
1262
01:05:42,030 --> 01:05:43,200
[Loren] I think she loves me,
1263
01:05:43,200 --> 01:05:45,930
but there is a chance
that this might not work out.
1264
01:05:48,430 --> 01:05:49,400
Ooh...
1265
01:05:49,630 --> 01:05:50,870
[sighs]
1266
01:05:52,800 --> 01:05:54,730
[music playing]
1267
01:05:55,930 --> 01:05:58,470
♪ She is magic ♪
1268
01:05:58,470 --> 01:06:01,100
♪ And she's oh, so sweet ♪
1269
01:06:01,100 --> 01:06:02,800
[Loren] So, this is
the only thing that I own.
1270
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:04,700
I want you to take care of it
while I'm gone,
1271
01:06:04,700 --> 01:06:07,230
and if you have to,
sell it if I don't come back.
1272
01:06:07,230 --> 01:06:08,270
[Esther] All right.
1273
01:06:09,200 --> 01:06:14,170
♪ She's got the power
to hypnotize ♪
1274
01:06:15,200 --> 01:06:16,200
[Esther] This is it.
1275
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:17,500
[Loren speaking]
1276
01:06:17,500 --> 01:06:18,630
[Esther] I'm gonna miss you,
1277
01:06:18,630 --> 01:06:20,600
and I want you to stay here
with me forever,
1278
01:06:20,600 --> 01:06:22,230
but that's me being selfish.
1279
01:06:22,230 --> 01:06:23,730
[laughter]
1280
01:06:23,730 --> 01:06:25,500
Who's gonna be my
best friend?
1281
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:28,200
[Loren] In just a few hours,
1282
01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:29,800
I'll be on a plane
to the Philippines
1283
01:06:29,800 --> 01:06:30,830
to meet Faith,
1284
01:06:30,830 --> 01:06:32,030
my perfect lady boy,
1285
01:06:32,030 --> 01:06:34,330
face to face
for the first time.
1286
01:06:34,330 --> 01:06:35,730
I'm planning to be in
the Philippines
1287
01:06:35,730 --> 01:06:37,670
for three weeks to spend
quality time with her.
1288
01:06:38,230 --> 01:06:39,700
And if everything goes well,
1289
01:06:39,700 --> 01:06:41,200
I might just
stay there forever.
1290
01:06:42,330 --> 01:06:43,530
I know there's a lot of things
1291
01:06:43,530 --> 01:06:45,270
that me and Faith
have to figure out,
1292
01:06:45,270 --> 01:06:48,400
but this is my chance
to start fresh.
1293
01:06:48,400 --> 01:06:50,170
And you've got to make sure
you give me that paper.
1294
01:06:50,170 --> 01:06:51,030
That's real important.
1295
01:06:51,030 --> 01:06:52,670
Ah!
1296
01:06:53,500 --> 01:06:54,830
You're giving her the test.
1297
01:06:54,830 --> 01:06:55,900
- [Loren] Right.
- The girlfriend test.
1298
01:06:55,900 --> 01:06:57,030
[Loren] Yep.
1299
01:06:57,030 --> 01:06:58,800
So, the girlfriend test
is something I made up
1300
01:06:58,800 --> 01:07:00,270
quite a few years ago.
1301
01:07:00,270 --> 01:07:02,370
It's kind of just something
to break the ice,
1302
01:07:02,370 --> 01:07:03,830
and it's completely
ridiculous.
1303
01:07:04,470 --> 01:07:06,100
"Can snakes be found
1304
01:07:06,100 --> 01:07:08,270
- on every continent?"
- [Loren] Right.
1305
01:07:08,270 --> 01:07:09,700
[Esther]
It's a good question.
1306
01:07:09,700 --> 01:07:12,430
"Would a bubble in space pop
if you blew it?"
1307
01:07:12,430 --> 01:07:14,270
Wow.
1308
01:07:14,270 --> 01:07:16,030
[Loren] A lot of the questions
are philosophical,
1309
01:07:16,030 --> 01:07:18,030
and it can be a lot of fun
depending on who you
give it to.
1310
01:07:18,030 --> 01:07:21,100
"Have you ever been tempted
to sleep inside the fridge?"
1311
01:07:21,100 --> 01:07:22,370
[laughter]
1312
01:07:22,370 --> 01:07:23,530
It's a deep question.
1313
01:07:24,070 --> 01:07:25,430
These are all ridiculous.
1314
01:07:25,430 --> 01:07:26,330
That's the point.
1315
01:07:26,330 --> 01:07:27,770
[Esther laughs]
1316
01:07:27,770 --> 01:07:29,400
[Loren] So, I got
one more thing, right?
1317
01:07:29,630 --> 01:07:30,830
A ring.
1318
01:07:32,730 --> 01:07:35,170
[Esther] I'm a little shocked
that you would buy a ring
1319
01:07:35,170 --> 01:07:37,230
before meeting.
1320
01:07:37,230 --> 01:07:38,670
- Oh, let me see.
- Yeah.
1321
01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:41,800
[Esther] Wow!
1322
01:07:42,170 --> 01:07:43,270
Fancy.
1323
01:07:44,800 --> 01:07:46,230
[Loren] Like, 50 bucks.
1324
01:07:46,230 --> 01:07:47,570
What? I went over my finances,
1325
01:07:47,570 --> 01:07:49,100
and that's pretty much
all I can afford,
1326
01:07:49,100 --> 01:07:50,230
so hopefully,
1327
01:07:50,230 --> 01:07:51,570
it'll be good enough for her.
1328
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:56,670
[Esther] I know Loren jumps
into relationships quickly,
1329
01:07:56,670 --> 01:08:00,200
but I think it's crazy
that he got a ring
1330
01:08:00,200 --> 01:08:03,330
because he doesn't know
anything about her,
1331
01:08:03,870 --> 01:08:06,430
and he's just so obsessed
1332
01:08:06,430 --> 01:08:08,470
with getting married.
1333
01:08:08,470 --> 01:08:11,400
If this doesn't work out,
it's going to destroy him.
1334
01:08:12,470 --> 01:08:14,670
I can't believe I'm
driving you to the airport.
1335
01:08:14,670 --> 01:08:16,170
I can't believe
you're doing this.
1336
01:08:16,170 --> 01:08:17,370
Like, what?
1337
01:08:20,030 --> 01:08:21,800
What do you mean,
you can't believe
I'm doing this?
1338
01:08:24,270 --> 01:08:25,630
I'm just worried for you.
1339
01:08:26,570 --> 01:08:27,470
But you know,
1340
01:08:27,470 --> 01:08:28,530
I want you to be happy,
1341
01:08:28,530 --> 01:08:30,530
so I want you to go
chase your dreams,
1342
01:08:30,530 --> 01:08:31,670
but at the same time,
1343
01:08:31,670 --> 01:08:33,600
I really don't want you
to get hurt.
1344
01:08:33,600 --> 01:08:35,430
[Loren] Right. I don't think
I'm gonna get hurt.
1345
01:08:35,430 --> 01:08:37,370
I'm going to the Philippines
because I love Faith.
1346
01:08:37,630 --> 01:08:38,530
That's it.
1347
01:08:38,530 --> 01:08:40,270
It's that simple.
1348
01:08:40,270 --> 01:08:42,070
All right.
That leap of faith.
1349
01:08:42,070 --> 01:08:43,770
That's right.
Leap of faith for Faith.
1350
01:08:44,400 --> 01:08:46,270
To the Philippines for Faith.
1351
01:08:49,130 --> 01:08:51,330
There's our turn coming up
for Terminal three.
1352
01:08:51,770 --> 01:08:52,670
There it is.
1353
01:08:54,030 --> 01:08:54,970
[Esther] Do you have
your ticket,
1354
01:08:54,970 --> 01:08:56,670
- your passport?
- [Loren] Of course.
1355
01:09:00,770 --> 01:09:02,370
I can't believe
1356
01:09:02,370 --> 01:09:04,300
that I'm saying goodbye
to Loren.
1357
01:09:04,300 --> 01:09:06,070
You know, I don't know
if he's coming back.
1358
01:09:06,070 --> 01:09:08,800
I don't know if he's
fulfilling his dreams.
1359
01:09:09,530 --> 01:09:10,900
All right.
1360
01:09:10,900 --> 01:09:12,230
- All right.
- All right.
1361
01:09:12,230 --> 01:09:14,000
- All right, I'll call you.
- All right. Safe travels.
1362
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:15,900
- The safest.
- Yes.
1363
01:09:17,000 --> 01:09:18,530
I'm happy for him
1364
01:09:18,530 --> 01:09:20,600
because this is what
he's always wanted
1365
01:09:20,600 --> 01:09:21,900
his entire life.
1366
01:09:22,770 --> 01:09:24,300
But, I know him
1367
01:09:24,300 --> 01:09:25,700
and I can read
his body language,
1368
01:09:25,700 --> 01:09:26,770
and, like, he's scared.
1369
01:09:26,770 --> 01:09:29,070
Like, I see this
scared little boy.
1370
01:09:30,300 --> 01:09:32,270
I feel like he has a wall up.
1371
01:09:32,270 --> 01:09:34,930
He keeps saying
he's fine and okay but,
1372
01:09:34,930 --> 01:09:37,530
I know he has doubts
that it might not work.
1373
01:09:39,630 --> 01:09:41,300
Oh, no checked bags.
1374
01:09:42,170 --> 01:09:43,200
I've never done this before
in my life.
1375
01:09:43,200 --> 01:09:44,730
I have no idea what I'm doing.
1376
01:09:47,230 --> 01:09:48,370
I've never been to
the Philippines,
1377
01:09:48,370 --> 01:09:49,830
never really been
in an airport.
1378
01:09:51,570 --> 01:09:53,000
I'm so excited.
1379
01:09:53,600 --> 01:09:54,800
I know Esther's worried,
1380
01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:56,300
I know my friends are worried
1381
01:09:56,300 --> 01:09:58,470
that all of this
is gonna fall apart.
1382
01:09:58,470 --> 01:10:00,100
But Faith
is my goddess, right?
1383
01:10:00,100 --> 01:10:01,200
She's my everything,
1384
01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:02,770
and I'm gonna make it work.
1385
01:10:03,130 --> 01:10:04,370
It has to work.
1386
01:10:04,930 --> 01:10:06,670
Now, I'm looking for D-55,
1387
01:10:06,670 --> 01:10:08,130
whatever that means.
1388
01:10:08,670 --> 01:10:09,700
When I finally get there,
1389
01:10:09,700 --> 01:10:11,270
I have a lot
to talk to Faith about,
1390
01:10:11,270 --> 01:10:12,330
about my life,
1391
01:10:12,330 --> 01:10:14,400
about how she thinks
she's gonna move here,
1392
01:10:14,400 --> 01:10:15,870
which is probably
not gonna happen,
1393
01:10:15,870 --> 01:10:18,000
and the idea of
an open relationship.
1394
01:10:18,470 --> 01:10:20,170
But I got a ring,
1395
01:10:20,170 --> 01:10:21,270
and if everything is perfect,
1396
01:10:21,270 --> 01:10:22,500
I'm gonna propose to her.
1397
01:10:23,470 --> 01:10:24,670
- I'm getting on the plane.
- [man] Thank you so much.
1398
01:10:24,900 --> 01:10:26,070
Thank you.
1399
01:10:28,070 --> 01:10:29,770
So, even though
we've never met,
1400
01:10:29,770 --> 01:10:31,630
I feel that I'm
finally gonna have
1401
01:10:31,630 --> 01:10:33,500
what I've been waiting
all this time to have,
1402
01:10:34,000 --> 01:10:35,830
a trans woman to marry.
1403
01:10:39,030 --> 01:10:40,270
I think she loves me,
1404
01:10:40,270 --> 01:10:43,070
but there is a chance
that this might not work out.
1405
01:10:45,100 --> 01:10:46,170
Ooh...
1406
01:10:46,170 --> 01:10:47,330
[sighs]
1407
01:10:48,100 --> 01:10:49,570
Phew. Um...
1408
01:10:51,570 --> 01:10:53,200
[plane engine whirring]
1409
01:11:01,630 --> 01:11:03,100
[suspenseful music playing]
1410
01:11:03,100 --> 01:11:04,930
[Bernard speaking]
1411
01:11:04,930 --> 01:11:07,200
To make this place
private for her.
1412
01:11:22,530 --> 01:11:23,430
Yes.
1413
01:11:27,470 --> 01:11:29,430
[native music playing]
1414
01:11:36,770 --> 01:11:38,800
[indistinct conversation]
1415
01:11:48,300 --> 01:11:51,270
[Chidi singing] ♪ Hallelujah ♪
1416
01:11:51,270 --> 01:11:54,530
♪ I am grateful ♪
1417
01:11:54,530 --> 01:11:57,030
♪ Oh, Lord ♪
1418
01:11:57,470 --> 01:11:58,400
I am overwhelmed.
1419
01:11:58,400 --> 01:12:00,100
Honestly speaking,
I am overwhelmed
1420
01:12:00,100 --> 01:12:02,030
for the fact that
Rayne, at last...
1421
01:12:07,630 --> 01:12:10,430
Lord, even as you have
said in your word
1422
01:12:10,430 --> 01:12:11,740
that you will lead the blind
1423
01:12:11,740 --> 01:12:13,830
by ways
that we have not known.
1424
01:12:14,870 --> 01:12:16,600
Rayne, when she comes
1425
01:12:16,600 --> 01:12:17,630
will be staying with me
1426
01:12:17,630 --> 01:12:21,030
where I live with my sister
and her husband.
1427
01:12:22,570 --> 01:12:24,330
I do not work,
1428
01:12:24,330 --> 01:12:26,300
so they gave me
a separate room
1429
01:12:26,300 --> 01:12:27,430
where I sleep in.
1430
01:12:27,430 --> 01:12:28,900
They feed me,
1431
01:12:28,900 --> 01:12:32,200
and they support me
financially, too.
1432
01:12:32,200 --> 01:12:34,300
When I told my sister
and her husband...
1433
01:12:34,300 --> 01:12:35,600
[Chidi speaking]
1434
01:12:37,430 --> 01:12:38,870
I want to thank you, Lord,
1435
01:12:38,870 --> 01:12:41,400
for introducing me
to your daughter, Rayne.
1436
01:12:41,400 --> 01:12:44,330
God, indeed I believe
this is your doing.
1437
01:12:45,230 --> 01:12:46,770
Rayne is a very sexy woman.
1438
01:12:46,770 --> 01:12:49,030
Even hearing her
talk to me alone,
1439
01:12:49,030 --> 01:12:50,100
sometimes...
1440
01:12:53,130 --> 01:12:56,470
God, you will guide us
along unfamiliar parts.
1441
01:12:56,470 --> 01:12:58,000
But I'm a Christian,
1442
01:12:58,000 --> 01:13:00,230
and when I first met Rayne,
1443
01:13:00,230 --> 01:13:01,800
I had not grown
1444
01:13:01,800 --> 01:13:04,430
to this height of faith.
1445
01:13:04,430 --> 01:13:07,600
And now that I'm born-again...
1446
01:13:14,100 --> 01:13:15,570
- [Victoria] Chidi.
- [Chidi] Yeah?
1447
01:13:15,570 --> 01:13:16,500
[Victoria speaking]
1448
01:13:17,700 --> 01:13:18,740
So, um...
1449
01:13:20,670 --> 01:13:21,770
- Okay.
- You know,
1450
01:13:21,770 --> 01:13:24,830
and just to make this place
a bit private for her.
1451
01:13:27,100 --> 01:13:29,030
When Rayne told me that
she was coming to Nigeria,
1452
01:13:29,030 --> 01:13:31,030
I didn't tell her that
I would not be having sex,
1453
01:13:39,430 --> 01:13:40,430
[Victoria speaking]
1454
01:13:51,770 --> 01:13:53,330
[Victoria speaking]
1455
01:13:53,800 --> 01:13:55,070
I can't wait to see her.
1456
01:13:59,870 --> 01:14:01,030
- [Victoria] Hmm.
- [Chidi] Um,
1457
01:14:01,030 --> 01:14:02,740
- you won't have any issues.
- Don't worry. Don't worry.
1458
01:14:02,740 --> 01:14:05,070
Um, we'll make everything
comfortable for her.
1459
01:14:05,900 --> 01:14:06,900
Uh...
1460
01:14:07,970 --> 01:14:09,230
- [Chidi] Yeah.
- You know?
1461
01:14:09,230 --> 01:14:10,270
We have love,
1462
01:14:10,270 --> 01:14:12,530
we have happiness,
we have peace.
1463
01:14:13,030 --> 01:14:13,970
Yes.
1464
01:14:17,070 --> 01:14:18,370
I'm excited about it.
1465
01:14:20,740 --> 01:14:23,200
We believe she love Chidi,
1466
01:14:23,200 --> 01:14:24,130
and that...
1467
01:14:26,230 --> 01:14:29,630
to coming down all the way
from the United States
to Nigeria
1468
01:14:29,630 --> 01:14:31,670
to see Chidi is a big deal.
1469
01:14:32,270 --> 01:14:34,030
I want to ask you a question.
1470
01:14:40,300 --> 01:14:41,530
[sighs] Well...
1471
01:14:47,270 --> 01:14:49,330
- [Victoria] With Rayne?
- Yes. Yes. Um...
1472
01:14:49,330 --> 01:14:51,400
Are you going to
propose to her?
1473
01:14:53,100 --> 01:14:54,000
[sighs]
1474
01:14:56,070 --> 01:14:57,500
It's a good idea,
1475
01:14:58,130 --> 01:14:59,830
but as it stands now...
1476
01:15:04,700 --> 01:15:07,830
There... there are some things
about her that...
1477
01:15:08,400 --> 01:15:10,070
worries and concerns me.
1478
01:15:10,070 --> 01:15:11,830
Things about her... her...
1479
01:15:11,830 --> 01:15:13,270
- her character or what?
- Yes.
1480
01:15:13,700 --> 01:15:15,030
Character-wise.
1481
01:15:16,130 --> 01:15:18,170
Yeah, as lovely she's, uh...
1482
01:15:18,830 --> 01:15:20,600
Um, she...
1483
01:15:20,600 --> 01:15:22,470
[Chidi speaking]
1484
01:15:26,430 --> 01:15:27,600
[chuckles]
1485
01:15:27,600 --> 01:15:28,500
[Chidi speaking]
1486
01:15:31,270 --> 01:15:32,200
Yes.
1487
01:15:34,170 --> 01:15:35,700
Rayne and I
1488
01:15:35,700 --> 01:15:37,970
have been with each other
for five years, but...
1489
01:15:38,430 --> 01:15:39,830
we've had some...
1490
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:45,270
Rayne could be deeply
mistrusting and insecure...
1491
01:15:45,630 --> 01:15:46,570
[Chidi speaking]
1492
01:15:51,130 --> 01:15:53,770
This is not something
I can put up with.
1493
01:15:53,770 --> 01:15:57,100
So, I'm hopeful that
when we meet face to face,
1494
01:15:57,100 --> 01:15:58,830
that it's something we can...
1495
01:16:01,830 --> 01:16:04,000
But, I am deeply nervous
1496
01:16:04,500 --> 01:16:05,630
on telling her that
1497
01:16:05,630 --> 01:16:07,770
we'll not be sleeping together
in the same room.
1498
01:16:11,300 --> 01:16:12,830
And it worries me.
1499
01:16:14,270 --> 01:16:16,100
Just when she comes,
1500
01:16:16,100 --> 01:16:17,470
relax yourself,
1501
01:16:17,470 --> 01:16:18,970
give her the best of love
1502
01:16:18,970 --> 01:16:20,030
- you've got.
- [Chidi] Of course.
1503
01:16:20,030 --> 01:16:21,700
[Victoria]
Everything will be fine, okay?
1504
01:16:21,700 --> 01:16:22,700
- All right.
- [Victoria] Don't bother.
1505
01:16:22,700 --> 01:16:23,770
- I hope so.
- [Victoria] Mm.
1506
01:16:23,770 --> 01:16:24,830
I hope so.
1507
01:16:27,670 --> 01:16:29,170
Butterflies
are in the stomach.
1508
01:16:30,030 --> 01:16:31,500
Things are getting real.
1509
01:16:31,500 --> 01:16:32,830
I just gotta get there now.
1510
01:16:34,130 --> 01:16:36,030
There's still so much
that Ingrid has to learn
1511
01:16:36,030 --> 01:16:37,740
about how I live
with my disability.
1512
01:16:39,200 --> 01:16:40,170
And on top of that,
1513
01:16:40,170 --> 01:16:41,670
Ingrid doesn't even know
the whole story
1514
01:16:41,670 --> 01:16:42,700
of how I ended up
in a wheelchair
1515
01:16:42,700 --> 01:16:43,670
in the first place.
1516
01:16:44,500 --> 01:16:47,070
My carjacking was not
some random event.
1517
01:16:47,070 --> 01:16:48,600
There's a lot more
to the story.
1518
01:16:49,400 --> 01:16:50,370
All right.
1519
01:16:53,740 --> 01:16:54,630
[music playing]
1520
01:17:06,030 --> 01:17:08,670
I got some gifts
for Ingrid's boys.
1521
01:17:08,670 --> 01:17:10,670
I don't know who's...
who's gonna grab what yet,
1522
01:17:10,670 --> 01:17:12,900
but we'll let them
figure it out.
1523
01:17:12,900 --> 01:17:14,600
Today is the day
I'm going to Brazil.
1524
01:17:14,600 --> 01:17:17,130
Me and Ingrid will be meeting
for the first time.
1525
01:17:18,300 --> 01:17:20,000
That's a nervous
feeling that...
1526
01:17:20,000 --> 01:17:22,600
it comes over me
even saying that because,
1527
01:17:22,600 --> 01:17:23,570
it's a lot...
1528
01:17:23,570 --> 01:17:25,130
There's a lot of pressure.
1529
01:17:25,130 --> 01:17:26,770
I mean, she could be the one.
1530
01:17:27,530 --> 01:17:29,070
Well, I'm going to...
1531
01:17:32,530 --> 01:17:34,840
I'm pretty sure that
this place is a little remote,
1532
01:17:34,840 --> 01:17:36,300
and maybe dirt streets,
1533
01:17:36,300 --> 01:17:37,270
um...
1534
01:17:37,770 --> 01:17:38,970
no sidewalks.
1535
01:17:38,970 --> 01:17:41,430
It's going to be a challenge
every... every turn, I'm sure.
1536
01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:45,800
Traveling on a plane
for wheelchair users,
1537
01:17:45,800 --> 01:17:47,370
it's a challenge, no doubt,
1538
01:17:47,370 --> 01:17:49,900
but I've traveled so much
with rugby over the years
1539
01:17:49,900 --> 01:17:51,300
that I'm used to it.
1540
01:17:51,300 --> 01:17:52,970
What's more of a concern
for me is that,
1541
01:17:52,970 --> 01:17:55,630
even though I've been
to Brazil so many times,
1542
01:17:55,630 --> 01:17:56,930
I've never been to a place
1543
01:17:56,930 --> 01:17:58,770
as remote as
where Ingrid lives.
1544
01:17:59,430 --> 01:18:01,400
And then, from what I know,
1545
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:03,170
it's not gonna be easy
for me to get around.
1546
01:18:03,770 --> 01:18:05,030
I'm a little nervous about it,
1547
01:18:05,030 --> 01:18:06,270
but the good thing is,
1548
01:18:06,270 --> 01:18:08,300
I have Ingrid there
to help me and guide me.
1549
01:18:15,600 --> 01:18:16,630
Hello.
1550
01:18:16,630 --> 01:18:17,740
[Brianna] Hey.
1551
01:18:17,740 --> 01:18:19,170
[Brian] So, let's do it.
1552
01:18:19,170 --> 01:18:21,800
My daughter Brianna's
driving me to the airport.
1553
01:18:21,800 --> 01:18:23,430
We have
really good friendship,
1554
01:18:23,430 --> 01:18:25,030
we have a really good bond.
1555
01:18:25,030 --> 01:18:27,330
She's seen my struggles
and what I went through,
1556
01:18:27,330 --> 01:18:29,740
and I know she has
her concerns about Ingrid,
1557
01:18:29,740 --> 01:18:31,700
so I'm really grateful that
she's helped me out today.
1558
01:18:32,570 --> 01:18:34,000
Okay.
1559
01:18:34,000 --> 01:18:35,700
I'm gonna put my foot in,
and you're gonna
1560
01:18:35,700 --> 01:18:37,070
- push my back forward in.
- [Brianna] Okay.
1561
01:18:37,070 --> 01:18:38,430
[Brian] So, you don't got to
lift me up.
1562
01:18:39,740 --> 01:18:40,770
- Good.
- [Brianna] Oh, geez.
1563
01:18:40,770 --> 01:18:41,670
Done. I'm in.
1564
01:18:41,670 --> 01:18:42,630
- I'm in.
- Okay.
1565
01:18:42,630 --> 01:18:44,530
Remember how the
wheels off and all that?
1566
01:18:44,530 --> 01:18:45,930
[Brianna] The wheels part,
I remember.
1567
01:18:45,930 --> 01:18:47,500
Yeah.
1568
01:18:47,500 --> 01:18:49,300
So, who's gonna help you
with all this?
1569
01:18:49,300 --> 01:18:50,300
Have you explained this?
1570
01:18:50,300 --> 01:18:51,770
Does Ingrid know...
Well, have you, like...
1571
01:18:51,770 --> 01:18:53,000
[Brian] I'll be
giving her a class.
1572
01:18:58,870 --> 01:19:02,700
How do you feel about
going back to Brazil?
1573
01:19:02,700 --> 01:19:04,430
I was very excited
this morning.
1574
01:19:04,800 --> 01:19:05,840
Now, I'm nervous.
1575
01:19:05,840 --> 01:19:06,870
Why are you nervous?
1576
01:19:07,330 --> 01:19:08,900
Ah...
1577
01:19:08,900 --> 01:19:10,840
I think it's because,
like, you're tired of going?
1578
01:19:11,930 --> 01:19:14,170
Just trying to do this,
like, again and again,
1579
01:19:14,170 --> 01:19:16,470
and like with different people
and, like, it's tiring?
1580
01:19:18,130 --> 01:19:20,500
[Brian] This is
not my first time
going to Brazil for love.
1581
01:19:20,500 --> 01:19:22,700
And even before
I started going to Brazil,
1582
01:19:22,700 --> 01:19:25,100
my relationship history
was pretty tumultuous.
1583
01:19:25,740 --> 01:19:28,000
I've been married four times.
1584
01:19:28,740 --> 01:19:31,200
Three have been American,
1585
01:19:31,200 --> 01:19:32,470
and one was Brazilian.
1586
01:19:34,530 --> 01:19:38,030
I also had several
relationships in Brazil,
1587
01:19:38,030 --> 01:19:40,030
including a few
failed engagements,
1588
01:19:40,030 --> 01:19:41,270
and most of these women
1589
01:19:41,270 --> 01:19:43,030
were quite a bit
younger than me.
1590
01:19:43,030 --> 01:19:45,070
Ingrid is also
20 years my junior,
1591
01:19:45,070 --> 01:19:47,840
so I know Brianna thinks
I'm just repeating history,
1592
01:19:47,840 --> 01:19:50,170
but I really think Ingrid
is different than the others.
1593
01:19:51,200 --> 01:19:54,030
It's definitely tiring,
draining emotionally,
1594
01:19:54,030 --> 01:19:56,130
but I want somebody
to share a life with.
1595
01:19:56,130 --> 01:20:00,100
Okay, but why is she the one?
1596
01:20:00,100 --> 01:20:02,070
You know, she's not out there
asking for money.
1597
01:20:02,070 --> 01:20:04,400
That's already different
in its own way.
1598
01:20:07,970 --> 01:20:10,300
I don't think the other ones
have had that life experience.
1599
01:20:10,300 --> 01:20:12,930
So, I think life experience
is really important.
1600
01:20:12,930 --> 01:20:15,270
So, I... I feel like
I'm on the right track.
1601
01:20:15,740 --> 01:20:17,200
[Brianna] Okay, but...
1602
01:20:17,200 --> 01:20:18,930
so, I just wanna
make sure, you're...
1603
01:20:18,930 --> 01:20:20,100
you're not going there
1604
01:20:20,100 --> 01:20:22,200
with the expectation
of getting engaged.
1605
01:20:22,200 --> 01:20:23,900
You don't have
a ring with you.
1606
01:20:26,930 --> 01:20:28,530
- But...
- There is a but, and...
1607
01:20:28,530 --> 01:20:29,930
- I'm not surprised.
- Well, I'm not gonna promise,
1608
01:20:29,930 --> 01:20:30,870
I can't promise anything.
1609
01:20:30,870 --> 01:20:31,800
I can't, because if I...
1610
01:20:31,800 --> 01:20:33,800
you know, if I do fall
head over heels
1611
01:20:33,800 --> 01:20:36,000
and everything kicks off
a hundred degrees,
1612
01:20:36,000 --> 01:20:37,200
whatever, you know?
1613
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:39,170
"Oh, I promised my daughter,
I'm not gonna..." you know?
1614
01:20:39,170 --> 01:20:40,430
And there goes my everything.
1615
01:20:40,430 --> 01:20:42,330
[Brianna] I just
don't want you to
rush things again.
1616
01:20:56,670 --> 01:20:57,700
Perfect. I'll hold this,
1617
01:20:57,700 --> 01:20:58,900
you grab the wheels.
1618
01:21:00,570 --> 01:21:03,600
I'm used to
my dad going to Brazil,
1619
01:21:03,600 --> 01:21:06,700
and it's become kind of like
a family joke because...
1620
01:21:07,170 --> 01:21:08,670
we don't really know
1621
01:21:08,670 --> 01:21:10,300
if he's gonna come back
with a new person
1622
01:21:10,300 --> 01:21:11,430
or be engaged.
1623
01:21:11,870 --> 01:21:13,170
He moves fast,
1624
01:21:13,170 --> 01:21:14,400
he falls hard.
1625
01:21:19,170 --> 01:21:20,630
She's only
two years older than me,
1626
01:21:20,630 --> 01:21:23,000
and I can't see a world
1627
01:21:23,000 --> 01:21:26,400
where I would be dating
a 51-year-old.
1628
01:21:26,400 --> 01:21:30,330
So, I just hope that
my dad's not Ingrid's ticket
1629
01:21:30,330 --> 01:21:32,570
to give her kids a better life
and to give her a better life
1630
01:21:32,570 --> 01:21:35,030
because he's
so much more than that.
1631
01:21:36,400 --> 01:21:37,900
[Brian] I'm glad
we had a chance to talk.
1632
01:21:37,900 --> 01:21:39,800
I've heard
what you had to say.
1633
01:21:39,800 --> 01:21:40,740
Yeah.
1634
01:21:40,740 --> 01:21:41,840
[Brian] And I have messed up
1635
01:21:41,840 --> 01:21:43,900
and done things wrong
in the past.
1636
01:21:49,870 --> 01:21:52,030
I just need you guys
to trust me.
1637
01:21:52,030 --> 01:21:54,100
I need you to trust me
that I'll be okay.
1638
01:21:59,030 --> 01:22:00,230
Dear God.
1639
01:22:00,840 --> 01:22:02,500
- I love you.
- I love you, too.
1640
01:22:09,100 --> 01:22:11,100
[Brian] My ultimate goal
for this trip...
1641
01:22:13,200 --> 01:22:14,270
All right, kid, I love you.
1642
01:22:14,270 --> 01:22:15,700
[Brianna] Bye.
1643
01:22:15,700 --> 01:22:16,740
[Brian] I'm getting older.
I... erm...
1644
01:22:16,740 --> 01:22:17,800
It's a lot for me.
1645
01:22:17,800 --> 01:22:19,230
In a wheelchair,
going over there.
1646
01:22:19,230 --> 01:22:21,670
I'm ready to find a partner
who's gonna be there for me
1647
01:22:21,670 --> 01:22:23,500
and spend the rest
of our lives together.
1648
01:22:23,500 --> 01:22:24,740
I can't keep searching.
1649
01:22:24,740 --> 01:22:26,170
She has to be the one.
1650
01:22:26,840 --> 01:22:28,500
Butterflies
are in the stomach.
1651
01:22:29,200 --> 01:22:30,740
Things are getting real.
1652
01:22:30,740 --> 01:22:32,100
I just gotta get there now.
1653
01:22:33,900 --> 01:22:35,800
There's still so much
that Ingrid has to learn
1654
01:22:35,800 --> 01:22:37,400
about how I live
with my disability.
1655
01:22:37,400 --> 01:22:38,670
I'm worried about
whether or not
1656
01:22:38,670 --> 01:22:40,130
she'll accept me for who I am.
1657
01:22:41,370 --> 01:22:42,970
[Brian groans]
1658
01:22:42,970 --> 01:22:43,930
And on top of that,
1659
01:22:43,930 --> 01:22:45,370
Ingrid doesn't even know
the whole story
1660
01:22:45,370 --> 01:22:47,370
of how I ended up
in a wheelchair
in the first place.
1661
01:22:49,740 --> 01:22:52,430
My carjacking was not
some random event.
1662
01:22:52,430 --> 01:22:54,330
There's a lot more
to the story.
1663
01:22:54,330 --> 01:22:55,270
[dramatic music playing]
1664
01:22:57,800 --> 01:23:00,600
I know I need to tell Ingrid
about my past.
1665
01:23:01,200 --> 01:23:02,500
I just hope she can handle it.
1666
01:23:03,630 --> 01:23:04,740
All right.
1667
01:23:06,170 --> 01:23:07,930
[Brian speaking]
1668
01:23:15,500 --> 01:23:16,430
[sighs]
1669
01:23:26,570 --> 01:23:29,770
One, two, three, four.
1670
01:23:29,770 --> 01:23:31,800
This season on
Before the 90 Days...
1671
01:23:31,800 --> 01:23:32,930
[laughs]
1672
01:23:38,030 --> 01:23:39,500
We're gonna do a tattoo.
1673
01:23:41,400 --> 01:23:43,500
I'm starting to feel some
chemistry between us.
1674
01:23:45,000 --> 01:23:47,430
- She's never had sex
with someone in a wheelchair,
- [laughs breathily]
1675
01:23:47,430 --> 01:23:49,770
but I'm confident we'll have
a good time. [chuckles]
1676
01:23:51,230 --> 01:23:52,300
[laughs loudly]
1677
01:23:52,300 --> 01:23:54,670
I'm ready
for some action.
1678
01:23:54,670 --> 01:23:56,030
I hope you guys are too!
1679
01:23:56,030 --> 01:23:58,270
I always knew that
I was different,
1680
01:23:58,270 --> 01:24:01,130
and I didn't think love
was possible for me,
1681
01:24:01,130 --> 01:24:03,800
but then I found Matilda.
1682
01:24:08,070 --> 01:24:10,000
Matilda is
the love of my life,
1683
01:24:10,000 --> 01:24:14,030
but I haven't told her
I don't want to get
married just yet.
1684
01:24:19,670 --> 01:24:21,370
Hm.
1685
01:24:26,900 --> 01:24:29,630
I'm traveling across
the world to Croatia
1686
01:24:29,630 --> 01:24:32,070
to meet Bozo because
I don't want this finger
1687
01:24:32,070 --> 01:24:34,470
to be naked anymore.
[laughs]
1688
01:24:38,070 --> 01:24:39,500
No we're not.
1689
01:24:39,500 --> 01:24:41,870
Why would I be coming
all the way here for a friend?
1690
01:24:41,870 --> 01:24:45,970
I'm speechless.
I'm completely speechless.
1691
01:24:49,030 --> 01:24:51,030
Ahh, so cute!
1692
01:24:51,030 --> 01:24:52,670
If you kill that,
I'm gonna become really
1693
01:24:52,670 --> 01:24:54,030
pretty freakin' violent.
- Okay!
1694
01:24:55,130 --> 01:24:58,130
Victoria knows chickens are
like family members to me.
1695
01:24:58,130 --> 01:25:00,230
What kind of person would just
kill somebody's family
1696
01:25:00,230 --> 01:25:01,570
right in front of them?
1697
01:25:01,570 --> 01:25:03,000
Let the chicken live.
1698
01:25:03,000 --> 01:25:04,670
[chicken clucking]
1699
01:25:04,670 --> 01:25:07,030
I have something
I need to tell you.
1700
01:25:07,030 --> 01:25:09,670
Remember I sent you
the picture on Halloween
1701
01:25:09,670 --> 01:25:11,770
of the girl from Thailand?
1702
01:25:11,770 --> 01:25:14,130
- Do you have sex together?
- Yeah.
1703
01:25:24,900 --> 01:25:27,000
I don't--
I don't really get it.
1704
01:25:27,000 --> 01:25:28,670
I'm not crying...
1705
01:25:29,740 --> 01:25:32,230
I tell her the truth,
and she explodes on me
1706
01:25:32,230 --> 01:25:33,630
every single time?
1707
01:25:33,630 --> 01:25:35,000
I don't know if
I can handle it.
1708
01:25:37,740 --> 01:25:40,630
Stop talking
right this instant.
1709
01:25:40,630 --> 01:25:43,300
You make me so angry
and so stressful.
1710
01:25:43,300 --> 01:25:46,000
These are your rules!
These aren't even my rules!
1711
01:25:46,000 --> 01:25:48,370
- That's even worse.
- Where are you going?
1712
01:25:48,370 --> 01:25:50,870
- It's big problem.
- She's pissed.
1713
01:25:50,870 --> 01:25:53,800
How would you like if you first
entered the relationship,
1714
01:25:53,800 --> 01:25:56,000
and his entire family
was against you?
1715
01:25:56,870 --> 01:25:58,870
Hey, hey, hey--
[shouting indistinctly]
1716
01:25:58,870 --> 01:26:00,800
[frustrated shout]
1717
01:26:00,800 --> 01:26:04,000
You will never see me again.
I'm done.
1718
01:26:05,400 --> 01:26:08,170
Even though he couldn't see me,
he could hear my heart.