[man] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
Baby, I'm gonna take my shirt off since you have yours off.
[Tigerlily] He's, like, shirtless with Shay here.
This is a double standard.
- [man] Are you ready? - [crowd cheering]
If this relationship may not last, it was still a badass wedding.
[Niles] I think we're boarding.
Yeah, we're boarding, all right.
Autism really hampers me in social situations.
I'm concerned about stepping into a new culture.
[speaking local language]
Oh!
[Matilda speaking English]
[Brian speaking Portuguese]
[Brian in English] We have a very strong connection.
I feel it.
[speaking Portuguese]
[in English] It's just, I'm worried because I really don't know
what she's thinking.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] I just need her to see that I'm not the person that I used to be.
[speaking foreign language]
[Rayne in English] What are you trying to buy it for?
Hey, what you trying to get it for?
Victoria knows my chickens are like family members to me.
What kind of person would just kill somebody's family right in front of them?
You're going to sit here, then I'll go get it.
I won't eat it.
You have to shove it down your throat yourself.
Ever since I was young, I've always had this feeling about...
And most things that I feel deep within end up coming to fruition.
I have gonorrhea.
It's a sexually transmitted disease.
Yeah.
I really messed up, and I don't know what I can do to make it right.
I'm freaking out because I'm gonna meet
my boyfriend for the first time
but I have my ex-boyfriend here with me.
I wish I could see her right now.
Are you sure? Because I can literally see out that door.
♪ Suga suga too sweet
♪ Caught you looking at me
♪ You wanna lick my ice cream ♪
♪ My suga suga too sweet
♪ You wanna lick my ice cream ♪
♪ My suga suga too sweet, too sweet ♪
Mmm, baby, we need to get up.
[laughs]
I don't even know how I'm gonna walk to the car today.
[grunts]
Last night, we have a wedding day, like, big party.
We are feeling so good,
but also so tired because so much dancing there.
Yep.
But Tigerlily only have three days left in Jordan.
- [chuckling] Okay. - Go.
[Tigerlily sighs]
You will be ready after 30 minute?
Thirty minutes? No, baby.
Why?
I have to have a bath,
I have to do my makeup.
Cruz is coming over to do my hair.
I always need my hair done.
You can't do it there.
No, no, no, no.
I think that this whole, you know,
husband and wife thing is very new for Adnan,
and there are things that he needs to get used to.
Taking a long time to get ready
is just a part of who I am.
But he'll learn.
[speaking Arabic]
[Adnan in English]
He can do anything I ask him.
He loves me. This is my brother.
[Thaer speaking Arabic]
[Adnan speaking]
[Thaer speaking]
[in English] Baby, this is so annoying.
What, baby?
Baby, I had to get my hair done--
I can't. I can't wait every... every day.
Baby, you have a wife now...
[Shay] Are you ready?
I am ready. I am ready. Just five minutes, I am get ready.
- [laughter] - And the Cruz make her hair,
like, uh, five hours, four hours, three hours every day.
[Tigerlily] Baby, you're a guy.
Listen. You're a guy, you can get ready in, like, five minutes.
It's okay, you can find a way. You can do it.
Do you want me to look ugly?
- If you wanted someone... - I know.
...that only takes five minutes--
[Thaer] How are you, Tigerlily?
- [Adnan] Wait. - What?
- Hi. - How are you?
- Good. How are you? - Hi. Thank you. Hi.
[speaking Arabic]
[in English] But the next time, uh--
This is not your business, this is my business.
[speaking Arabic]
[Tigerlily] I'm completely annoyed.
I spent all this time getting ready for him,
but Adnan's not being patient with me.
- You'll fix it, these things? - No.
- Why? - You'll have to get used to it, baby.
[Tigerlily] On top of Adnan yelling at me,
I have his brother, Thaer, complaining about my outfit,
while Adnan has his shirt unbuttoned to his belly button.
It is completely ridiculous.
- [Adnan sighs] - Are you gonna be in this bad mood
for the rest of this trip?
[Adnan] I don't know.
[horn honking]
[tires screech]
[Tigerlily] It makes me nervous
that we have only been married for three days
and we are already arguing like this.
♪ Ever sense a girl with a heart like mine ♪
♪ Straight as an arrow with a crooked smile ♪
♪ Call me a fool call me a leader ♪
♪ Got my ass out jumping on the bleachers ♪
♪ Shame, shame in a low-cut T-shirt ♪
♪ Never thought much to listen to the preacher ♪
♪ You like the way my name taste on your tongue ♪
♪ Honey, be sweet but you will get stung ♪
[Rayne] Ooh, the doctor's is over here.
There's gonna be some steps.
Going up. One, two, three.
I've been in Nigeria for almost a week now.
Chidi and I have been so connected,
so in love, so happy.
But the other day at the nature walk,
it was really hard to hear Chidi talk about losing his sight.
It breaks my heart.
These are inside voices.
When we went home, we, kind of, talked more about it,
and I found out that he hadn't been to an eye doctor in over 10 years.
That's shocking, don't you think?
So I made an appointment so that he could see a specialist
in hopes that there's medical advancements that might help him.
You can sit on the end, okay?
Even though I'm attracted to him so much because he can't see,
if I could help him, I would honestly help him restore his eyesight.
That's how much I love him.
- Chidi. - [Chidi] Chidi.
- Male or female? - [chuckles]
- I'm just kidding. - [both laugh]
Well, I haven't seen anything yet.
I'm going by your voice and your looks.
[laughter continues]
Yeah. I've heard of technology that has come out
that actually can help people see.
I'd love to do that for you, all right?
Yeah, it's possible, but let's see how it goes.
- Mr. Chidi? - Yeah.
Please come inside.
- Okay. - Ready?
It would completely transform my life.
It always seem like a farfetched reality for me.
But Rayne's optimism that something can still be done
has renewed my hope.
[Chidi] Okay.
Can you see this?
No, no.
Okay. Cover your right side.
- Okay. Perceive any light? - No.
Just relax.
At this point, emotion is running high.
[doctor] Good.
[Chidi speaking]
Now relax. Just relax.
Good.
[Chidi] I am deeply nervous...
Okay.
Can you sit back, sir?
Thank you.
All right.
[doctor] Yes.
So if it is established that it is cataracts...
[doctor] Uh, well...
[Loren] I just got back from the clinic.
I never thought getting a [bleep] was going to give me gonorrhea.
But here I am with an STD and a leaky penis.
I reached out to Faith this morning, but nothing back yet.
This could be the end of everything.
[speaking local language]
[laughter]
[in English]
Now we get to Matilda.
I know that I'm putting a lot into this.
If this were to not work out, it will devastate me.
It will hurt.
I just got back from the clinic.
I have to take pills for the next week.
One down.
I never thought
that getting a [bleep] from my friend was going to give me gonorrhea.
I really did not expect that to happen.
I feel like I wasn't doing anything unsafe
because she gets tested regularly and she seemed okay.
But here I am with an STD and a leaky penis.
I really hope that after all this, you know, I get cleared up,
we have some time to think, some time to talk,
and that me and Faith can go back to trying to have a future together.
She's the one upset, so ultimately, she's in control of all of it.
The last I left off with Faith,
she said she wanted space,
and I haven't seen her or spoken to her since yesterday.
She's very upset,
and I don't know if she'll ever even talk to me again.
And so now I'm getting worried that I came all the way out here,
and this could be the end of everything.
[line ringing]
[chimes]
Hey, Esther.
Hello.
How's jet lag?
It's fine. I expected to have a lot of jet lag and I didn't.
[laughs]
Me and Esther are very open about everything.
We're like best friends.
So she knows how important this relationship is to me.
[Esther] Tell me.
First day was good, and I started to get some sense of humor.
Little back and forth. Little chitchat.
We're not really talking right now.
Yeah.
Why aren't you talking to her?
So yesterday, Faith planned this lovely day out,
and then I decided it was a great moment to tell Faith
I have gonorrhea.
Which, kind of, just shot the whole day, the rest of the night.
Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Rewind it.
How do you know you have gonorrhea?
Well, I got a text message from my Halloween date,
and then I'm like, "Wow, I do have discharge coming out of my penis."
Um...
That's... that's one way to start out the morning.
Wow.
And it turns out, when I told her I'm sleeping with people,
she was under the impression that only meant sleeping.
I guess I, like, didn't, like,
that I didn't translate properly,
so she's a little a pissed.
She needs some space.
She doesn't want to see me right now.
[groans]
Any reasonable person would be upset.
You know?
But what are you going to do?
I don't know.
Well, I got to find a way to explain to her that...
Yeah. If Faith is your one true love
like you say, and she wants to be exclusive,
and that's a deal breaker,
are you gonna be okay, um, not exploring other people,
and just being exclusive with her?
[Loren] Before I came to the Philippines,
I was hoping I could convince Faith
to have a non-monogamous relationship.
I feel like if you love each other enough
and your relationship is strong,
then sleeping around shouldn't be an issue for each other.
But at this point, I can tell that Faith
sees monogamy as a very serious thing.
And I don't want to lose her.
This is everything you wanted.
Everything you dreamed of.
Yeah.
I can do it.
It's gonna change my life a little bit.
I know you can do it.
But she also was really upset last night.
You didn't see it.
So it's gonna be a total battle.
Not everything comes easy.
You know, you have to fight a little.
Yeah. Now, I just, kind of, have to hope that Faith
gives me any kind of sign
that it's okay to come back and talk to her about anything.
I love Faith more than anything.
And so if I don't want to lose Faith,
I have to give up the idea of non-monogamy.
The only thing I care about now is getting back to Faith
and showing her that I'll do anything to make sure that I don't lose her.
I just hope she gives me a second chance.
[Niles] One last flight.
Oh, there it is, B-24, the last stop before Matilda.
I'm just one very long flight away from meeting my girlfriend, Matilda,
for the first time in Ghana.
I'm probably gonna run to her arms, not walk.
Imagine a child running to go get ice cream,
that's what's gonna happen.
I have butterflies in my stomach, but also, I'm anxious
about what is she gonna think of me, you know?
Matilda has already told me that she has accepted my disability.
However, it could be different once we're in person.
To quote the great Mike Tyson, "Everyone has a plan
until they get punched in the face."
In the event that I have to be a superhero, who knows?
Why am I less nervous about that than meeting Matilda?
The final stretch.
[speaking local language]
[laughter]
[in English] I am very excited because my baby now is coming to Ghana to see me.
[speaking local language]
[in English]
[speaking local language]
[Matilda in English]
[laughing]
[speaking local language]
[in English]
[Matilda] Yes.
[upbeat music playing]
[Matilda speaking]
All the way from--
[Niles speaking]
- [Niles] We're moving. - [woman giggling]
- Slowly but surely, we are moving. - [woman] Yes.
Now we get to Matilda. We're gonna find her.
I can't believe that I'm about to finally meet Matilda.
I know I'm-- I know that I'm putting a lot into this.
And if she doesn't-- If she doesn't turn out to be who I think she should--
Who I think she is,
it will devastate me, it will hurt.
But I can't sit here and worry about it anymore.
[chattering]
[Matilda speaking]
Oh!
[somber music playing]
Here I come, Matilda.
Oh my God! He's here!
- [chuckles] - [exclaims happily]
[enthralling instrumental music playing]
My love.
Welcome to Ghana.
[Niles] Oh, my goodness.
This is a fairy tale story.
I'm with the woman that I love.
I can finally see her.
I can finally feel her.
Be with her. Talk to her.
There's nothing like being able to see-- To see it for yourself.
Wouldn't you say, Matilda?
I know. I know you can't.
Hey, how are you doing?
[Matilda] Baby...
[Niles laughing]
Hey, hey. Don't pass out now.
Don't pass out yet.
- Don't pass out yet. - Let me help you.
- Brother-in-law. - Actually, you know, you can pass out.
- I can carry you. - [giggles]
Oh! I'm very happy.
[chuckles]
[Matilda] So, Daddy?
[Niles] Hey, no more shooting from the waist down, okay?
[stammers] We are in public, you know this, right?
- Welcome to Ghana. - I'm so happy to be here.
This is what happiness feels like.
All I can say is, "Wow."
[lively music playing]
[speaking Portuguese]
[suspenseful music playing]
[Dr. Esther] Ah, well...
Right now, we are not dealing with only cataracts.
[uneasy music playing]
[Dr. Esther] Your right eye is 59, and your left eye is 63,
against the normal, which is 11 to 21.
And when there's no light perception, it means that...
Once they die off, there's nothing that can be done.
And also...
[somber music playing]
[Chidi speaking]
...is indeed heartbreaking.
And, of course, the thought of losing my eye entirely...
[stammers] ...it is kind of scary.
I never really imagined that such a thing could happen to me.
[Dr. Esther] So...
[Dr. Esther] Yes.
[Chidi speaking]
I am, of course, thankful that Rayne
encouraged me to go to the doctor.
[Rayne speaking]
Yeah.
[upbeat music playing]
[speaking Portuguese]
[upbeat music playing]
[in English] Meeting Ingrid's son last night was really special.
And I believe it helped our relationship,
and I would like to keep that momentum going.
So while Ingrid's son is at school today, I arranged a date for us
to go to a ranch at the Tocantins River.
[Ingrid speaking Portuguese]
[Brian in English] I'm hoping we can get back on on track with romance
and a little bit more of physicality.
[speaking Portuguese]
Okay.
[upbeat music playing]
- [Brian beeping] - [Ingrid speaking]
[Brian in English] Wow.
I've been to Brazil more than 30 times,
and if people wonder why,
it's because of places like this.
[whoops]
This country is so beautiful
and this resort is exactly what we need.
[pleasant music playing]
[speaking Portuguese]
[Brian] Okay.
[Ingrid speaking]
[Ingrid giggling]
[groans]
Hmm? Oh,
[mellow music playing]
[somber music playing]
[in English] When I was in the rehab hospital,
I was super depressed.
The bullet burned the spinal cord.
And to know that, um,
I won't be getting back, um, to normal,
anything close to normal...
[clears throat] ...kind of made me think about
how I got into the situation.
And... [sighs]
Maybe the tradeoff I gave was my legs and my hands
for selling drugs.
[melancholy music playing]
But, uh, in a way, I was saved by that.
[speaking Portuguese]
[somber music playing]
[Ingrid speaking]
[pensive music playing]
Well, I feel like we're soulmates.
He feels me in his heart, his mind, his body.
[Rayne] I can't believe that she even asked me if Chidi and I were physical
at the dinner table in front of family.
Honestly, I'm really sick of her getting into our business.
This is crazy.
I'm kind of freaking out
because I don't know what I would do if Sunny saw Rory.
I don't want a big explosive situation right now.
- Wait until we exit, until I'm gone. - I heard you.
- I heard you the first time. - I will text you.
[suspenseful music playing]
[Rory speaking]
[exciting music playing]
No, no, no, no.
Rory, are you sure he can't see you right here?
[Rory] I don't think so. I don't think so.
He cannot see you right now.
I'm stressing the [bleep] out. What the [bleep]?
This is crazy.
I'm here in Durban, South Africa.
I just traveled for 36 hours to meet Sunny.
[Veah] Oh my God.
And there's only a glass door right there,
so I'm kind of freaking out because he has no idea
that I have my ex-boyfriend here with me,
and I don't want a big explosive situation.
So if I text you, 777,
that means you're good to exit this building.
- Wait until we exit, until I'm gone. - I heard you.
- I heard you the first time. - I will text you.
Okay.
My God.
- I broke up with you, actually. - No, you didn't.
- Yes, I did. - No, you didn't.
- That's not the point. - [Rory chuckles]
I know right now is not the right time
to introduce Rory and Sunny to each other.
I wanna to meet him first.
I don't want to ruin our first moments together.
So me and Rory came up with a plan.
When me and Sunny leave,
I'm gonna text Rory, 777,
and then he can exit.
777 is my lucky angel numbers.
The universe will look out for me.
Hopefully.
Hm-mm.
See you in a couple of days.
I have to see what the vibe is like with Sunny,
and that will determine like, when I feel comfortable
- introducing you. - Absolutely.
[Veah speaking]
Alright. I will see you.
- Okay, bye. - Text you. Adios.
[Rory] What is she getting herself into?
[Veah] There was a lot of chaos in my life, growing up.
So it's hard for me to allow someone to take care of me
and to let my guard down.
But I would say Sunny is different for sure.
And I want a future with him.
I'm just really excited, and nervous, and anxious.
I could go through those glass doors,
and my life could change forever.
[romantic music playing]
[Veah speaking]
[Rory speaking]
[Veah speaking]
[Sunny] Thank you.
My favorite.
- Thank you. You're so sweet. - You're welcome.
Like, instead of getting each other's lips,
we got each other like, on the side of the mouth,
like maybe, a little tiny bit on the lips.
I don't know. It wasn't really a kiss.
We're just a little awkward.
But I think we, just will build up to being more comfortable,
and less awkward with each other.
Finally, you have the brown chocolate.
I know. I can't believe I finally get to hug you.
It feels so good. It's like, weird.
On the camera, she looks so beautiful.
But in real life, she's more beautiful.
Do you, now? What is it?
Shut the [bleep] up. You're lying.
He's lying.
[comical music playing]
[chattering]
Killing time. [sighs]
Fun, fun, fun.
[comical music playing]
Well, how did I get in this situation?
[Rory chuckling]
I'm a grown ass man. I'm hiding in the airport from this kid.
This is so weird, right?
Thank you.
Don't you have to go on this side?
No, this side.
This is South Africa, honey. It's not America.
What?
What the [bleep]?
Stop. Okay, I get it.
[Veah] I'm so excited.
I'm in this brand new country.
And it's really amazing to be with Sunny.
He's being so sweet and so cute.
And I really want to build a relationship up with him
before I tell him about Rory being here.
[calm music playing]
[phone pings]
[Veah] But I feel really bad and guilty
about the situation.
I feel like I'm starting this relationship in person
with a lie, and that was never my intentions.
[calm music playing]
[upbeat music playing]
I really, really, really love chickens.
And like I said, they really do have a wonderful personality.
I've named all of them.
They always pay attention.
And they follow me everywhere.
And they, like, actually talk to you.
[chuckles awkwardly]
Since our trip to the doctor yesterday...
[stammers] ...I feel more connected to Rayne than ever.
- [Victoria speaking] - [Chidi] Yeah?
[Chidi] Alright.
Hey.
Let's go.
Yeah, I'll go down.
I was just telling him about the chickens.
Thank you.
Tonight, I asked my sister to prepare a special meal...
Chidi! I'm waiting.
[Chidi] Yeah, We are coming.
Rayne has always
had this fear of my family not loving her.
[chuckles] Let's fix your shirt.
Here you go.
[Chidi speaking]
[Bernard speaking]
[Rayne] Okay.
Here's your chair.
Thank you.
- So you just wash hands? - [Bernard] Yeah.
[Rayne] Oh. Okay.
So you can pass the water to him to wash his hands.
- [Rayne] There you go. - [Chidi] Thank you.
Okay.
- Now, or-- Right now. - [Bernard] Yeah.
[Rayne] I got it.
And he would take it from there.
- [Victoria] Okay? - Mm-hm.
Honestly, since that first day at the market,
I've been getting some weird vibes off Victoria.
Yeah, it's kind of like, a real dark energy,
that vibrates throughout my body.
I don't think she really trusts me with Chidi.
And even though we're all hugging,
I'm like, there's something there,
even when we look at each other in the eyes,
there's something there.
[Chidi] So, babe.
This is how you mold it.
- Right? - Mm-hm.
Then you take it like this.
This should...
- It looks like playdough. - [Chidi laughs]
[Chidi] All right, you can give it a trial.
[Chidi speaking]
Hot.
[Chidi speaking]
[Rayne] It's different, yeah.
[coughs]
The soup was very spicy.
I don't know how that baby was eating it.
And the garri was really bland,
and it was really hard to swallow.
I got it up into a little pea-sized ball
and it stuck to the back of your throat
like a little dry velcroed pill in there.
I was like, you have to be a snake
to be able to swallow
a golf-ball size that big.
[Victoria speaking]
- Oh, no. I'm good. - [Bernard speaking]
I'm good.
- You're good. - Mm-hmm.
[Victoria] So...
We don't really cook, especially in the US.
Everything's mostly like prepackaged, warm-up.
- [Bernard] Mmm. - We have a big selection.
We've got tomato soup, cream of chicken, cream of mushroom.
I mean, there is a huge selection.
But no, when it comes to cooking, I'm just like hot pocket, pizza.
I don't really cook. [chuckles]
[Victoria speaking]
Yeah, we worry because Chidi is a Black man.
He eats, um, African food.
[Victoria] It's going to be difficult for Chidi because
there's a limit to what Chidi can
do for himself when it comes to cooking.
So, it's going to be very bad for him
since Rayne doesn't cook.
[Bernard] Mmm.
Oh, yeah. He already is.
Like they hear about him so much
every day of their lives.
Like they've heard it for, like, the last five and a half years.
Every day, literally.
What do you usually tell them?
I told him that I feel like we're soulmates.
That he feels me in his heart, his mind, his body,
just so deep and spiritual.
[Victoria speaking]
Huh?
[Victoria speaking]
- God ordained. [chuckles] - God ordained.
- [Rayne chuckling] God ordained. - God... okay.
[Rayne] Oh, no, never.
[Victoria speaking]
[Rayne] I can't believe that she even asked me,
if Chidi and I were physical
at the dinner table in front of family.
That's private.
[crying]
[Rayne] Honestly, I'm really sick
of her getting into our business.
Why do you look so angry?
- I'm not angry. - No, but I see you all the time,
and I'm just saying, like, throughout
this whole time, you've been looking real angry.
[Rayne] Honestly, okay?
There's no reason to be angry.
Even if you don't like something I say,
there's no reason like...
[Bernard speaking indistinctly]
Yeah, yeah. She's stressed.
No, I'm just... that's why I asked you.
Yeah.
No, no. She's not.
She's not. A 100 percent, you understand?
[Bernard speaking]
[Chidi speaking]
I am deeply worried.
[Bernard speaking]
Nothing bugs me any more.
When I don't get along with people,
I move on. I don't linger.
[Victoria speaking]
Is my outfit not okay?
[Adnan speaking]
She has to dress the way
that you want her to dress.
But I'm in the car and you're creating a lot of tension.
In Jordan, the man is the man.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] Baby, stop.
Let's just all settle down.
[speaking Arabic]
[Thaer in English] Adnan is angry.
[upbeat music playing]
[speaking Arabic]
[Adnan speaking]
[in English] Are we fighting right now?
- Are we fighting? - What are we talking about?
[Adnan speaking]
But I'm in the car and you're creating
a lot of tension and you're making me anxious.
So I'm making it my business because you're making it my business.
[Tigerlily] We're in the car driving to Petra
for our honeymoon,
but Adnan is so angry
about how long that I took
to get ready.
I've never seen him like this before,
and I don't like it.
[Adnan in English] My brother tell Tigerlily,
"Why you are dressed like this in Jordan?
This is not good for Jordan."
I said, "This is my business.
I will say it. Not you."
- You're trying to protect Tigerlily? - [Thaer] Yeah.
Can you explain to me what is wrong
with Tigerlily's outfit?
It's not this...
Oh, you don't, you... okay.
- Yeah. It's... cover more. - Okay.
So do you think that...
Is my outfit okay? Or should
I have worn something else?
So, it's not okay?
It's not okay.
Yeah.
She has to dress the way
that you want her to dress?
Yeah.
No matter where she goes?
Yeah.
In Jordan, man is the man.
- In Jordan, in American. - [Adnan] Everywhere.
Everywhere.
In the States that's very conservative.
Yeah.
I feel that Adnan's rules
- are a lot to handle. - Yeah.
[Shay] Tigerlily needs to dress a certain way.
She can't be alone with other men.
[Shay speaking]
I just really hope that Tigerlily
doesn't lose her voice in this marriage.
She's being this passive Tigerlily...
Which is not really her.
Is this something that she'll be able
to wear in the States, Adnan?
Are you okay if I wear this in the US?
Or is it only in Jordan?
Next time before I leave,
like, next time before like, when you see
me wearing something then just tell me.
- Okay. - It's just like it's gonna be
a learning process for me,
to know, baby.
I don't really understand
all the rules about the Muslim dress code.
[Cruz] Here we are.
[Tigerlily] The issue is I am learning
these rules from Adnan,
and they are not clear.
I am not even showing anything.
I have long sleeves on.
Am I supposed to wear a trash bag?
A big old sack?
All right, we're all checked in.
I'm excited about Petra.
We'll see y'all early tomorrow.
- [Cruz] Y'all have a good night. - [Tigerlily] Okay.
Of course, it is important that Adnan feels
like I'm respecting him.
But he can't just place all these rules on me
and expect me to just go along with it.
This is not gonna be
that kind of relationship.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] I know. Me too, baby.
You have to try to do your best
and be a good husband.
[Hayford speaking]
[Niles] I really want to tell Matilda tonight
about postponing the marriage,
but I'm not quite sure
how I'm going to break it to her.
[upbeat music playing]
[Niles speaking]
[Matilda speaking]
Oh, there's no air conditioning.
[Niles] Well, this is my... the first thing
- that's different from America. - [Matilda chuckling]
[Niles] I finally landed in Ghana
and met Matilda for the first time.
It's just so amazing
to be in her presence.
It's indescribable.
That's the only way I can say it.
[Hayford speaking]
[Matilda] Yes.
[Matilda speaking]
[Hayford] Yeah.
How do you see Ghana?
It's... it's an experience. It's new for me.
- [Hayford chuckles] - I'm trying to take it all in.
I couldn't balance stuff on my head like that.
I'm not coordinated enough to do that.
I might need a day to really just...
just let it sink in.
Here I am. With you.
Right now, I'm just hyper focused
on... taking in the environment
and enjoying my time with Matilda.
But I know that I'm gonna have
to come clean eventually to her,
concerning postponing the marriage.
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
[Matilda chuckles]
[Matilda] Aw.
[Niles panting]
Oh. Okay.
- Thank you. - You're very welcome.
Also, let me know if you don't like me
opening doors for you, okay?
Okay, good.
I really want to tell Matilda tonight,
but I'm not quite sure
how I'm going to break it to her.
I want to say I have a plan, but I don't.
Oh, okay.
[Hayford speaking]
I'll try that. I think I should try that.
[Hayford] Yeah. Yeah. You should try it.
[Matilda speaking]
- [server speaking] - Okay.
[Matilda speaking]
[chuckles heartily]
[Niles] Okay.
[Matilda speaking]
- That's a snail. - [Matilda] Mmm-hmm
[Matilda] Pick it.
- [Niles] Just... just eat it? - [Matilda] Mm-hmm.
- [Hayford] Chew it. Chew it. Eat it. - Okay.
[Niles] It's fantastic.
Then you're enjoying the food, right?
I am.
So, I came with Matilda in Accra to meet you,
you know, because I have to protect Matilda.
She's my sister and I love her.
You have to try to do your best
and be a good husband.
You understand?
As far as I understand from my duties
as a man, don't cheat, don't lie to her.
Don't mistreat her.
Yeah, you are right.
What do you mean by quick temper?
[Matilda speaking]
Yeah, you get angry or you get mad.
But you know, don't hide anything from Matilda
and make her happy.
If you treat her good,
you're not gonna see anything.
Do you understand?
I think we can manage it.
Okay. Okay.
[Niles] From our conversations, I could see
that Matilda was pretty strong-willed,
but temper issues, I never really got that from her.
And when it comes to telling her
that we have to postpone the wedding...
Right now, the courage is
kind of leaving me here.
I just don't want anything
to ruin our first night together.
[Niles speaking]
[both chuckle]
[kisses]
[Niles] I can't wait to spend some
one on one time with Matilda.
But even though we both have had sex before,
we want to make sure that we do things
the right way this time around,
and refrain from having sex until marriage.
It's gonna be hard to control our urges,
because have I mentioned
I'm heterosexual today?
[chuckles]
And that I have a very beautiful woman
in my bed with me?
[door opens]
Oh, God.
You have to get some sleep.
Don't wait for me.
Oh, but I will.
But I will wait.
- Why? - Oh, no reason.
After all, nothing's gonna happen tonight.
[Matilda chuckling]
To be honest, being with Niles in person,
it's even better than what I imagined.
This man is very handsome.
[Matilda speaking]
[chuckles]
[Niles moans]
[both moan]
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles speaking]
[kissing, moaning continues]
[sniffles]
[speaking Filipino]
[in English] Loren has broken my heart, and now I don't know,
if I can ever forgive him.
[speaking Filipino]
[friend speaking]
- [both men] Hey. - [Shay chuckles]
Wait. So, you're allowed to shake girls' hands,
but I can't shake Cruz's hand?
[Tigerlily] I am so angry.
It's a complete double standard.
So, you have different rules than me?
Not different rules.' I told you before.
Then what is it, then?
You make me so angry and so stressful.
I can't.
[indistinct chatter]
[vehicle sputters]
[Faith speaking Filipino]
[continues speaking Filipino]
[pleasant music playing]
[speaking Filipino]
[Faith in English] I still haven't talked to Loren
since I found out he was sleeping
with other women.
[speaking Filipino]
[in English] My friends have no idea
what's been going on.
They had plans to come do my nails
and meet Loren today.
And I didn't want to cancel
because I need their support.
But I don't know what to say.
It's humiliating.
[speaking Filipino]
[Len speaking]
[Faith speaking]
[Len speaking]
[Faith speaking]
[Len speaking]
[Faith speaking]
[sniffling]
[whimpering]
[Len speaking]
[Faith in English] This is exactly
what I was worried about
with having a boyfriend.
That I would end up heartbroken.
And now Loren has broken my heart.
[Len speaking]
[Dondon speaking]
[Faith in English]
But I'm not sure if Loren can fix this.
I don't know if I can ever forgive him.
[speaking Filipino]
[upbeat music playing]
[Cruz] And how'd y'all sleep?
Horrible.
- [Cruz] Oh. - So horrible sleep.
- [Cruz] Really? - I'm dream, uh...
I have people here in the room.
So creepy, and so horrible and so weird.
[Shay] I slept like a baby.
Here, you can... You can wear this tonight.
[Adnan] Thank you. Thank you so much.
- It's for me? - Yes... Yes.
I always am sure
whenever I go to different places
that I protect myself.
I wear crystals.
- Thank you so much. - [Shay] Yes.
Here, Tigerlily.
This will protect you at night, too.
Perfect.
I love it.
[Cruz] Do you want me to help you put this on?
Yeah. Oh, wait. Wait.
I don't know if you can.
- Baby. - [Cruz] Can I put this on,
or you want to do it?
[Tigerlily] Out of respect for my husband,
I've changed how I interact with men,
especially Cruz.
And it's hard because,
Cruz and I have known each other
for a really long time,
and before we would hug when we saw each other.
I just don't think you know how awkward...
- It's hard. - ...it is in the US.
[Adnan] Okay, guys.
[Cruz] I am very excited.
[Shay] We're actually on time today.
Before sunset.
- All right. - Let's go.
- [Cruz] Let's go. Let's do it. - I need my ticket.
[Adnan] Because I plan very exciting day.
[Tigerlily] We'll meet you guys outside by the car.
[Cruz] Okay.
Petra is one of the seven wonders in the world.
It's ruins, an old city...
[mimics chiseling]
It's amazing.
[Adnan speaking]
[Thaer] You excited?
[Cruz] I'm very excited.
- Very excited, yeah. - This is gonna be fun.
I'm going to Petra and three time.
- [speaking Arabic] - [all] Hey!
[speaking Arabic]
[Adnan speaking Arabic]
[Thaer speaking Arabic]
[speaking Arabic]
- [Thaer speaking Arabic] - Ready.
- I need my Google translator. - [Adnan] Hi.
- Wait, so you're allowed... - Yeah.
...to shake girl's hands,
but I can't shake Cruz's hand?
The same thing that I do.
And I just say hi.
I guess we can shake hands now, Cruz.
- And maybe we can even hug. - [Cruz laughing]
[Cruz] I don't want to get in trouble.
Let go of my hand.
No, no.
I am feeling completely betrayed.
Him shaking Shay's hand,
it's a complete double standard.
Adnan's having these rules for me,
but at the same time,
he just thinks that the rules don't apply to him,
and I don't like that.
[Thaer speaking]
[Tigerlily] It's a problem because
it's disrespectful to me.
- [Thaer] Okay. - [Tigerlily] If I did that,
if I shook a guy's hand in front of him,
he would be so angry.
Yeah.
[Adnan] Yeah.
- I feel... I feel they... - I've met your family
at the wedding.
Your uncles and your different people,
they didn't shake my hand.
So, you have different rules than me?
Not different rules.
- I told you before. - Then what is it, then?
[Adnan] Why you didn't tell me last night?
"No, Shay is not your family."
She is your family. That's fine.
[Adnan speaking]
- Tell me like this... - These are your rules.
These aren't even my rules.
Why would I be making up my own whatever?
This is your thing.
[Adnan] I don't like when I see you like this.
Yeah, yeah.
First, you make me so angry and so stressful. I can't...
- Well, it's your fault. - ...I can't do anything now.
It's your fault
- that you put me like this. - You can... you can fix it,
but without this face.
- I don't like this face. - What's wrong with my face now?
Now, there's something wrong with my face. Okay.
[Adnan] I am so surprised,
my sweet wife...
she is so mad with me...
[Shay] I didn't mean to cause any drama.
- I just did it instinctively. - No, I know you didn't.
I know. I know exactly.
This is just what we do in the US.
I get it.
It should be different for him because this is his life.
[Shay] Based on this fight,
there's some double standards
that Tigerlily probably wasn't seeing before
and now she is.
But at the same time,
they're already married,
so it's a little too late.
Now you just have to deal with stuff.
Yeah.
- Okay? But... - [Tigerlily] I know he does.
But I just think it's really hypocritical that, like...
he's telling me that I can't do things
while he's doing them himself.
Don't get angry and do all of these things you do it.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] Because I'm mad at you.
Whenever you shake another girl's hand
- in front of me... - It's okay. You got...
...and I'm not allowed to.
- You are next to me. - That makes me [bleep]...
I am not alone.
You are next to me.
That's even worse.
[dramatic music playing]
I am just feeling so angry.
[Adnan] Where are you going?
[Tigerlily] I said everything that I needed to say.
It's a big problem when you leave your husband.
[Tigerlily] I'm not going to be in a relationship
with someone that doesn't respect me.
There's no way I can do that.
So big a problem here.
You met Lily,
now this is the tiger.
[roars]
[Shay speaking]
[Veah] Oh, this is nice.
I like these roses you put on the bed.
The candles?
You're really going all out.
He's being so romantic.
I don't want to continue to keep this secret from him
about Rory being here.
So, um...
[upbeat music playing]
[car honking]
[Veah] Make sure you're staying in your lane, okay?
I don't like driving right now,
because I can't hold your hand.
[vehicles honking]
We're gonna die.
I don't want to die.
Don't hold my hand.
I'm just nervous because you are next to me.
That is the reason.
[giggles]
To finally be together with Sunny,
it just feels so different.
Even though I've talked to him
and we've built a relationship for the past year, I...
It's different in person.
It's like, no, you're starting over with...
like you're comfortability with them.
How do we turn the AC on up in here?
- You feel hot? - Yeah.
This is excitement, honey.
I want to make your heart beat a little bit faster.
Because... [giggles]
[Veah speaking]
Foreplay.
Let's play.
Do you know what foreplay is?
Yeah, just play.
Wait... No, what's foreplay mean?
I don't know.
Foreplay means...
four people playing together.
[laughs] No. Stop!
Are you lying?
I don't know.
So, foreplay is like...
what you do before sex.
Kissing, touching,
hugging.
Come on.
I thought she's talking about, she wanted to play four play,
like, four people gonna play together
and something like that.
- Four play. - That's what foreplay is,
is when four people play cards.
[laughter]
[Sunny] Okay.
Let's get to the hotel.
[Veah] It would be cute
if he wasn't super experienced.
I could teach him some things.
But I don't think that we're going to do anything tonight.
Even though we've done things on video chat,
it's weird in person.
I definitely need a little bit of time
just to get more comfortable with him before...
[Veah speaking]
Surprise.
Did you like the place?
Yeah, it's cute.
Baby, are you hungry?
Um, yes.
Come, sit.
It's my turn to treat you like a queen.
Okay.
What is this?
This is like, kind of bread
we normally eat with the bread.
There's a chicken curry for you.
It's a lot of hard work I did on that.
[chuckles]
[suspenseful music playing]
I appreciate it, but I don't want to eat it.
[Veah] I don't wanna offend Sunny,
but I've always been very particular
what I will put in my body.
This look bad?
[Veah] No. It's just...
I'm weird about what I eat. I'm really picky.
I told you this.
Call me sheltered,
but I've just never eaten curry before.
I don't know what's even in curry.
I'm tired, I'm jet lagged,
and I just don't want to eat something
I don't know what it is right now.
I appreciate it,
but I just don't wanna eat it.
- Sorry. - Well, okay, that's cool.
I will eat it myself.
I love my food.
So, uh...
I'll show you a bedroom.
Just a minute, I need time.
Okay. I'll sit here and wait.
[Sunny] Okay. Thank you.
[Sunny speaking]
Food is really important in my culture,
like making a food with love.
[Sunny speaking]
She refused to even try it.
That makes me sad.
[Sunny speaking]
- Are you ready? - [Veah] Mm-hm.
[Sunny] This is something else,
- I want to surprise you. - [Veah] Show me.
But you have to close your eyes for that.
- [Veah] Hmm. - I will hold this.
I don't trust you.
I'll hold it myself.
[Veah] Okay.
[Sunny] Be ready.
- Are you ready? - [Veah] Mm-hm.
[Sunny] You sure?
[Veah] Mm-hm.
[Sunny] This is gonna be our bedroom.
[Veah] Oh, this is nice.
I like these roses you put on the bed.
You're trying to be all romantic.
- I am. - The candles?
You're really going all out.
Thank you.
- So, um... - Tell me.
I'd... [Veah speaking]
[Sunny] Can I join with you?
[Veah] Not tonight.
I'm really tired.
[Sunny] Okay.
[Veah] Okay.
[Sunny] Bye.
Enjoy your shower.
[pensive music playing]
[brushing teeth]
[Veah] I think it's really cute
that Sunny has done all this.
He's being so romantic,
he's being so sweet,
but I just keep thinking, like,
that I haven't told him about Rory being here.
You ready for bed?
[Sunny] Yeah.
[Veah] I don't wanna continue to keep this secret from him,
but I'm in a situation
where it's like,
"Where do I tell him? How do I tell him?"
I'm just really scared that Sunny will never forgive me.
He could break up with me and send me home,
and can mess up everything
that I've had planned for the past year.
Good night.
- [Sunny] Thank you. - [Veah] Sweet nightmares.
[Sunny] You too.
[Rayne] I was just wondering if you would feel comfortable
to, like, stay in a hotel room with me.
Like, you even say yourself,
"We're soulmates. We're meant to be."
So, I don't see the issue with you being alone with me.
[Chidi speaking]
Hey, hey!
You care more...
- No, don't shout. - ...about the world
- and your family think... - No.
...versus us.
[upbeat music playing]
[Rayne] Dinner with Chidi's family last night
was really tense.
Victoria's starting to show clues to
maybe as to why I might have some deep down issue
when it comes to sisters.
Questioning me if Chidi and I were physical,
it was the last straw.
That's disrespectful.
My gut is never wrong.
Never wrong.
So much negative energy here,
so I'm gonna talk to him about getting a hotel room.
I think he would stay with me. It's just, uh,
he would be really hesitant and scared over
what his sister and the husband are thinking.
Good morning, Chidi.
Babe, good morning.
[Rayne] You're reading your bible?
[Chidi] Yep.
[Rayne] That's cool.
- [Chidi] Interesting, right? - [Rayne] Yeah.
That's a trip how you learned that.
[Chidi] Yeah, um,
- but it's not actually difficult. - [Rayne laughs]
You know, I was thinking,
- you and me go for a walk. - [Chidi] Yeah.
[Rayne] Okay, I'll wait for you
- in the living room. - All right.
After last night's dinner, I was very worried
about Rayne's state of mind regarding my sister.
[Rayne] It's real nice outside and cloudy...
[Chidi laughs]
...and the water's running down the street,
and the chickens are all over and there's people all over.
[Chidi speaking]
You wanna sit down? Right here, there's a place.
[Chidi] Of course.
[Rayne] Yeah. This is nice.
So, about, um, last night,
I wanted to apologize because I did, um,
raise my voice a little bit.
But it was only out of, of obvious frustration.
[laughs] You know?
Sometimes, yes,
we have differences and, uh, we have issues,
but unless we get over them,
it will still be difficult to carry on.
Do you understand?
[Rayne] I appreciate your sister,
but I don't know if, uh,
our problem will be resolved in the end of all this,
so I was just wondering if you would feel comfortable
to, like, stay in a hotel room with me.
[suspenseful music playing]
You don't look enthused.
Um, it's not a bad thing.
It's not a bad idea.
So, you'll do it?
Um...
I just, um...
[Chidi speaking]
- Um... - I'm good. I get it. Okay?
It's not that I'm uncomfortable.
I'm just uncomfortable with the situation
because I came so freaking far
to see my soulmate that I'm supposed to marry,
that he wants to marry me so bad.
I'm just looking for that
little bit of quality time alone with you.
[dramatic music playing]
Well, um,
remember...
[Chidi speaking]
You understand?
Like, you even say yourself,
"We're soulmates. We're meant to be."
Like, you believe God has ordained us, so...
I don't see the issue with you being alone with me.
- Do you understand? - [Rayne] No. You know what?
- No. I don't want to argue, okay? - No. No.
- No, I will not argue. - Shh. Shut up there.
I'm trying to be nice to you.
Since you might think that maybe I'm such an animal,
- I might jump on you... - No.
- ...I want to promise on your entire life... - No.
...that the entire trip I'm here,
I'm not gonna touch you in any sexual way.
I just wanna hang out with you, okay?
You know,
I love you,
and I would do anything to keep you and to have you,
but...
- And you know what the sad part is... - We are not...
- We are not spiritual beings. - ...is you care more about what people think.
- No, it's not what... - Hey, hey!
- You care more about the world... - Now, don't shout.
- ...and what people and your family think... - No.
...versus us.
Oh.
- It's all about believing. - [Rayne] Okay, okay.
Do you understand?
Well, I'm not gonna come to your beliefs,
because I'm far beyond
your little beliefs.
- I am on a different spiritual plane. - [Chidi] Oh.
And now that I know that you see me
as too much of a temptation by staying with me in the room
shows me that you're just not ready for me, right?
Like, I know. Like, I can sit here now...
and be like, "Oh, you're my soulmate."
Maybe I was just... [continues indistinctly]
[Chidi speaking]
- [Rayne speaking indistinctly] - [Chidi speaking]
Never one time did you ever say,
"I'm in love with you?"
Why do you have me here?
[Chidi] No, I'm just saying...
- I'm not answering to you. - [Rayne] No, I'm serious.
I wasted a lot of money,
- a lot of time... - [Chidi] I don't...
- [Rayne] Don't say no. - [Chidi] I respect you.
[Rayne] I wasted a lot of money
to come over here, so respect me.
[Chidi] I... I am sorry.
- [Rayne] No, I'm serious... - [Chidi speaking]
But I still love Rayne,
and I don't want to lose her,
but I'm worried that
if I don't go with her to the hotel...
So, I don't know what to do.
[dramatic music playing]
[man] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
[instrumental music playing]
[Vanja] I'm super confident in every aspect of my life,
but when it comes to relationships...
I'm intrigued.
Now, I am going to Croatia to meet Bozo,
but I'm worried because of what happened in the past.
Like, you don't even know anything about this other woman.
[speaking Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid laughs]
[Matilda speaking English]
[Niles] I think we're past the point
of snowballing here.
At this point,
it's turning into an avalanche.
Uh, Matilda, I have a confession to make.
[dramatic music playing]
[Tigerlily] He's not used to having a woman
call him out on his behavior.
No.
[Faith] I do love you,
and I do care about you.
I want to be in a relationship with you.
[Faith] But...
Maybe like, once a week.
[dramatic music playing]
Did I not always tell you
that I always had a feeling about sisters?
Like I said, even if it's family,
you need to tell them when they're wrong.
[Victoria speaking]
- Chidi, you better stick up for me here. - [Bernard] You, you...
- you know something... - You better stick up for me!
- [Victoria speaking] - [Rayne] You can't see,
but I...
I'm done.
[yells]
[dramatic music playing]