1 00:00:06,049 --> 00:00:09,010 ♪ There'll be a new day ♪ 2 00:00:09,510 --> 00:00:11,345 ♪ Let's fly away ♪ 3 00:00:11,929 --> 00:00:15,767 ♪ And see the world as one ♪ 4 00:00:17,226 --> 00:00:20,605 - ♪ La, la, la, la, la ♪ - [Karamo] ♪ La, la, la, la, la ♪ 5 00:00:20,605 --> 00:00:22,690 [Jonathan] We're gonna harmonize as a car. Ready? 6 00:00:22,690 --> 00:00:26,110 - ♪ La ♪ - ♪ La ♪ 7 00:00:26,110 --> 00:00:30,031 - [Jonathan] ♪ Ah ♪ - ♪ Ah ♪ 8 00:00:30,031 --> 00:00:32,909 - That was really good vibrato, Karamo. - Thanks. 9 00:00:32,909 --> 00:00:35,411 Know what they say about people who have good vibrato? 10 00:00:35,411 --> 00:00:37,288 - What? - ♪ Oh ♪ 11 00:00:37,288 --> 00:00:40,500 Bobby, you look so pretty today, even when you make that face. 12 00:00:40,500 --> 00:00:41,542 Your skin looks great. 13 00:00:41,542 --> 00:00:44,045 - [laughing] - You really do. You look great. 14 00:00:44,045 --> 00:00:46,422 [upbeat music plays] 15 00:00:46,422 --> 00:00:47,340 ♪ Better ♪ 16 00:00:47,340 --> 00:00:51,052 ♪ Oh, things just keep getting better ♪ 17 00:00:53,179 --> 00:00:54,097 [Jonathan] Oh yeah. 18 00:00:54,097 --> 00:00:57,100 So our hero this week is Mary Henderson-Uloho. 19 00:00:57,100 --> 00:00:59,477 She is 65 years old, 20 00:00:59,477 --> 00:01:03,272 {\an8}and she owns Sister Hearts thrift store in Arabi. 21 00:01:03,272 --> 00:01:05,274 - I love a thrift store! - Yeah. 22 00:01:05,274 --> 00:01:06,818 [woman] Can't nobody tell me nothing. 23 00:01:06,818 --> 00:01:08,361 Nothing! 24 00:01:08,361 --> 00:01:10,822 'Cause I did that. I did that. 25 00:01:10,822 --> 00:01:15,076 [Jonathan] "Sister Hearts is also a work program Ms. Mary created 26 00:01:15,076 --> 00:01:16,994 to employ the formerly incarcerated." 27 00:01:16,994 --> 00:01:19,205 Prison or not, I did that. 28 00:01:19,205 --> 00:01:21,415 This is nice. 29 00:01:21,415 --> 00:01:24,669 "While on vacation in New Orleans more than 20 years ago, 30 00:01:24,669 --> 00:01:25,628 Mary was arrested 31 00:01:25,628 --> 00:01:28,506 and never returned to her home in Dayton, Ohio." 32 00:01:29,340 --> 00:01:31,676 Went to prison for 12 and a half years, 33 00:01:31,676 --> 00:01:35,138 and I had to do 12 and a half years on parole 34 00:01:35,138 --> 00:01:37,890 for obstruction of justice. 35 00:01:37,890 --> 00:01:39,225 I met a guy. 36 00:01:39,225 --> 00:01:42,395 We were just having fun when the police stopped us. 37 00:01:42,395 --> 00:01:45,148 They wanted me to lie on this man. 38 00:01:45,148 --> 00:01:47,066 I didn't talk. I refused. 39 00:01:47,066 --> 00:01:50,194 "Mary was convicted and sentenced here in New Orleans, 40 00:01:50,194 --> 00:01:53,030 where she spent the greatest portion of her adult life, 41 00:01:53,030 --> 00:01:55,158 leaving her seven children behind." 42 00:01:55,908 --> 00:01:59,328 I had to just cut that piece of my brain 43 00:02:00,413 --> 00:02:04,292 and just put it in a box and seal it 44 00:02:04,292 --> 00:02:09,297 in order for me to stay focused on surviving inside prison. 45 00:02:09,297 --> 00:02:13,050 "Over the course of her sentence, Mary not only lost her sense of self, 46 00:02:13,050 --> 00:02:15,678 but she missed out on seeing her seven children grow up, 47 00:02:15,678 --> 00:02:17,638 which really took a toll on Mary's mind." 48 00:02:17,638 --> 00:02:18,556 I bet. 49 00:02:18,556 --> 00:02:23,853 Prison dehumanized me, desensitized me, and demoralized me. 50 00:02:23,853 --> 00:02:26,314 Something happens to your brain in prison 51 00:02:26,314 --> 00:02:32,195 where you can't do your time inside if your mind is outside. 52 00:02:33,696 --> 00:02:37,074 Why is it so... hard for me 53 00:02:37,074 --> 00:02:39,785 to just be a mother to my children 54 00:02:39,785 --> 00:02:43,247 when they're my world and I love them all so much? 55 00:02:43,247 --> 00:02:47,418 "Still, Mary's children have continued to adore her and even see her as a hero." 56 00:02:47,418 --> 00:02:50,379 "Mary, however, struggles to see value in herself as a person 57 00:02:50,379 --> 00:02:51,881 and especially as a mom." 58 00:02:52,465 --> 00:02:53,382 No! 59 00:02:53,382 --> 00:02:55,593 - Uh-oh. - I got it. 60 00:02:55,593 --> 00:02:56,594 Thank you. 61 00:02:56,594 --> 00:02:59,055 "Mary is nominated by her companion, Anthony, 62 00:02:59,055 --> 00:03:00,973 who met Mary through Sister Hearts." 63 00:03:00,973 --> 00:03:05,728 {\an8}She spends a lot of time helping people sort through prison trauma, 64 00:03:05,728 --> 00:03:09,815 but nobody, you know, helps her with her struggles. 65 00:03:09,815 --> 00:03:12,235 She just doesn't stop working. 66 00:03:12,235 --> 00:03:14,779 But she spends all of her time 67 00:03:14,779 --> 00:03:18,616 to help improve the quality of life for other people. 68 00:03:18,616 --> 00:03:20,826 And it gives her a way 69 00:03:20,826 --> 00:03:26,082 to avoid helping improve the quality of her own life. 70 00:03:26,082 --> 00:03:30,044 Mary does not know who she is outside of running her program. 71 00:03:30,044 --> 00:03:33,214 She has neglected herself a lot. 72 00:03:33,214 --> 00:03:35,633 She has grown children that she avoids, 73 00:03:35,633 --> 00:03:40,054 and I think that she needs to be there before it wastes more time. 74 00:03:40,054 --> 00:03:42,139 "Mary is now officially a free woman, 75 00:03:42,139 --> 00:03:45,184 but she has found herself stuck in a place where her body is free, 76 00:03:45,184 --> 00:03:47,395 but her heart and mind still feel incarcerated." 77 00:03:47,395 --> 00:03:48,896 That is heartbreaking. 78 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:52,066 I still represent prison. 79 00:03:53,693 --> 00:03:56,487 And I don't wanna represent prison anymore. 80 00:03:56,487 --> 00:03:58,698 I'm no longer on parole. 81 00:03:58,698 --> 00:04:00,157 I am completely free. 82 00:04:00,741 --> 00:04:02,326 I want to change. 83 00:04:02,326 --> 00:04:04,203 I just don't know how. 84 00:04:04,203 --> 00:04:08,249 "Our mission this week is to help this Sister Heart free her soul!" 85 00:04:08,249 --> 00:04:09,750 - Yes! - [laughs] 86 00:04:09,750 --> 00:04:11,002 Yes, Mary! 87 00:04:11,002 --> 00:04:13,087 [energetic music plays] 88 00:04:18,259 --> 00:04:19,844 {\an8}- [Tan] My gosh. It's cute! - [Bobby] Yeah. 89 00:04:19,844 --> 00:04:20,886 {\an8}[Tan] It's pink! 90 00:04:20,886 --> 00:04:22,888 {\an8}Tan, you brought your credit card, right? 91 00:04:22,888 --> 00:04:24,098 - Yeah. Always. - Okay. 92 00:04:25,266 --> 00:04:28,436 - Hello? - Oh, I love it here. 93 00:04:28,436 --> 00:04:30,563 - Mary! - [Tan] Hi, Mary. 94 00:04:30,563 --> 00:04:32,398 - Look at you! Look at y'all! - [all laugh] 95 00:04:32,398 --> 00:04:35,026 [Karamo] How are you doing, beautiful lady? 96 00:04:35,026 --> 00:04:38,446 Mary reminded me of one of my aunties. You just wanna get a hug from her. 97 00:04:38,446 --> 00:04:42,408 Those are fabulous. Oh, look at these! Oh my God! 98 00:04:42,408 --> 00:04:44,368 - You can try them on later. I know. - Okay. 99 00:04:44,368 --> 00:04:46,746 You just feel the love. 100 00:04:47,621 --> 00:04:49,373 - This is Anthony. - [Tan] Hello. 101 00:04:49,373 --> 00:04:51,459 - [Tan] Nice to meet you. - [Bobby] Ah, your nominator. 102 00:04:51,459 --> 00:04:54,879 Tell us what this business here does for the community. 103 00:04:54,879 --> 00:04:58,215 When people come home from prison and they can't find jobs, 104 00:04:58,215 --> 00:04:59,884 this, they know they got a job 105 00:04:59,884 --> 00:05:03,471 because this is created specifically for them. 106 00:05:04,055 --> 00:05:06,432 Anthony was homeless, just like I had been. 107 00:05:06,432 --> 00:05:08,809 He has done a total of 18 years. 108 00:05:08,809 --> 00:05:09,852 He was spiraling. 109 00:05:09,852 --> 00:05:13,272 In a year, he completely runs this operation. 110 00:05:13,272 --> 00:05:14,231 He supports me. 111 00:05:14,231 --> 00:05:16,734 Everything about my life is completely different. 112 00:05:16,734 --> 00:05:19,070 I have hope. I have confidence. 113 00:05:19,070 --> 00:05:21,280 [Mary] I do something that's totally revolutionary. 114 00:05:21,280 --> 00:05:23,657 It's called decarceration. 115 00:05:23,657 --> 00:05:25,159 - Can you show us? - [Jonathan] Please. 116 00:05:25,159 --> 00:05:27,912 - Let's see. - Okay, if I put this up here... 117 00:05:27,912 --> 00:05:30,873 In prison, I know that shoe doesn't belong there, 118 00:05:30,873 --> 00:05:33,876 but if I move that shoe, I could go to solitary confinement. 119 00:05:33,876 --> 00:05:35,669 Now I don't know anything different. 120 00:05:35,669 --> 00:05:39,465 When they come to Sister Hearts, I say, "Okay, Jonathan, declutter it." 121 00:05:39,465 --> 00:05:41,133 So Jonathan's gonna do this. 122 00:05:41,801 --> 00:05:44,178 He says, "I don't want that there. I want this here." 123 00:05:44,178 --> 00:05:47,223 That's how simple decarceration is. 124 00:05:47,223 --> 00:05:49,934 Giving somebody permission to think for themselves again. 125 00:05:49,934 --> 00:05:52,186 Everything that you see that's placed in here 126 00:05:52,186 --> 00:05:54,855 has been done by a person that was broken, 127 00:05:54,855 --> 00:05:57,274 that is going through organizational therapy. 128 00:05:57,274 --> 00:05:59,068 [Jonathan] Look at how good it looks in here! 129 00:05:59,860 --> 00:06:01,278 [Karamo] Oh my gosh. 130 00:06:01,278 --> 00:06:03,489 I love a thrift store. 131 00:06:03,489 --> 00:06:05,408 Even the ridiculous things. 132 00:06:05,408 --> 00:06:07,410 Somebody made a choice to buy that one day. 133 00:06:07,410 --> 00:06:09,161 - [Karamo] Do you like? - Look at this. 134 00:06:09,161 --> 00:06:10,996 There are fanny packs. 135 00:06:10,996 --> 00:06:12,873 There are hats. There are scarves. 136 00:06:12,873 --> 00:06:15,418 There are shoes. There are little trinkets. 137 00:06:15,418 --> 00:06:16,794 I'm at the thrift store. 138 00:06:16,794 --> 00:06:18,462 - I'm thrifting. - So chic. 139 00:06:18,462 --> 00:06:20,381 There is something for everybody here. 140 00:06:21,340 --> 00:06:25,302 You are helping people around here, so now we're gonna help you a little bit. 141 00:06:25,302 --> 00:06:28,305 - [Bobby] Let's get to your house. - [Jonathan] We wanna see where you live. 142 00:06:28,305 --> 00:06:30,391 We're gonna take very good care of you. 143 00:06:30,391 --> 00:06:32,601 I'm gonna have to come back for this fanny pack. 144 00:06:32,601 --> 00:06:35,729 - Bye, everyone! - All right. Bye-bye, guys. 145 00:06:35,729 --> 00:06:36,856 ♪ Come on ♪ 146 00:06:36,856 --> 00:06:38,566 ♪ Do it, do it ♪ 147 00:06:39,733 --> 00:06:41,277 ♪ Do it, do it ♪ 148 00:06:41,277 --> 00:06:43,154 [Tan] We're excited to see your house, Mary. 149 00:06:43,154 --> 00:06:44,822 Your house is done. 150 00:06:44,822 --> 00:06:46,782 [laughing] 151 00:06:46,782 --> 00:06:48,409 - [Mary] So this is home. - [Antoni] Whoo! 152 00:06:48,409 --> 00:06:49,910 This is a very big kitchen. 153 00:06:49,910 --> 00:06:51,704 - Yes. - So many pots. Very exciting. 154 00:06:53,247 --> 00:06:54,707 This is the bedroom. 155 00:06:54,707 --> 00:06:58,252 - [Bobby] I like the nice tall bed. - This bed vibrates. 156 00:06:58,252 --> 00:06:59,587 [all] Ooh! 157 00:06:59,587 --> 00:07:01,964 [Jonathan] Come to the Mary Love Motel, honey. 158 00:07:01,964 --> 00:07:03,799 [Tan] Lay down, Mary. Let's see you vibrate. 159 00:07:03,799 --> 00:07:04,884 [Mary] No, I don't wanna. 160 00:07:04,884 --> 00:07:06,844 Put it on high. Tanny's coming in. 161 00:07:06,844 --> 00:07:08,304 Oh, that's nice. 162 00:07:08,304 --> 00:07:10,347 - I like this, Mary. - Yes. 163 00:07:10,347 --> 00:07:12,016 [Tan] You guys go look around the house. 164 00:07:12,016 --> 00:07:14,435 - I'm gonna stay here. - Catch me, Tanny! I'm coming. 165 00:07:15,394 --> 00:07:17,188 [Mary] Let me show you the bathroom. 166 00:07:17,188 --> 00:07:18,564 - Now-- - It's a good size. 167 00:07:18,564 --> 00:07:20,316 - It is a good size. - [Bobby] But there-- 168 00:07:20,316 --> 00:07:23,152 - [Mary] But-- - [Bobby] Got a lot of stuff in here too. 169 00:07:23,152 --> 00:07:25,529 Everything in the house came from the thrift store. 170 00:07:25,529 --> 00:07:27,072 - Yeah. - Everything. 171 00:07:27,072 --> 00:07:30,659 The home is dark. All the curtains are pulled. 172 00:07:30,659 --> 00:07:32,411 She has all the clutter. 173 00:07:32,411 --> 00:07:34,413 [Tan] Mary, you have stuff. 174 00:07:34,413 --> 00:07:35,789 You got a lot of stuff. 175 00:07:35,789 --> 00:07:38,959 So, when I got out of prison, you know, I just wanted to have stuff 176 00:07:38,959 --> 00:07:40,920 because I wasn't allowed to have stuff. 177 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:42,463 Maybe we work out 178 00:07:42,463 --> 00:07:45,299 how we can help you choose the things you actually care about. 179 00:07:45,299 --> 00:07:47,343 The less romantic term for that is editing. 180 00:07:47,343 --> 00:07:48,594 Okay. 181 00:07:49,428 --> 00:07:53,265 [Bobby] If you were to take me to one little spot in your house, 182 00:07:53,265 --> 00:07:55,142 what would be your favorite thing? 183 00:07:55,142 --> 00:08:00,689 {\an8}This is my favorite place in the whole house right here. 184 00:08:00,689 --> 00:08:02,733 {\an8}As crazy as it may sound to some people, 185 00:08:02,733 --> 00:08:06,278 I just come sometimes and I like to just sit on the sofa 186 00:08:06,278 --> 00:08:08,489 and just look out the window, see my plants, 187 00:08:08,489 --> 00:08:10,824 and I feel in touch with nature, 188 00:08:10,824 --> 00:08:13,744 like I'm in touch with my creator, you know? 189 00:08:13,744 --> 00:08:17,873 'Cause the same creator that created me created these plants, 190 00:08:17,873 --> 00:08:20,209 and that just makes me feel human. 191 00:08:20,209 --> 00:08:23,128 - That is a beautiful thing. Yes. - Right? 192 00:08:23,128 --> 00:08:25,756 - Karamo is really good with plants. - [Mary] Really? 193 00:08:25,756 --> 00:08:26,674 No, I'm not. 194 00:08:26,674 --> 00:08:27,841 [Bobby laughs] 195 00:08:28,467 --> 00:08:31,470 Go. Go. Go. 196 00:08:33,264 --> 00:08:34,431 Whoa! 197 00:08:36,016 --> 00:08:37,643 I don't even know who she is. 198 00:08:40,521 --> 00:08:41,814 No. [chuckles] 199 00:08:41,814 --> 00:08:46,485 I wanna know a little bit more about your life before you went to prison. 200 00:08:46,485 --> 00:08:47,486 Before prison? 201 00:08:47,486 --> 00:08:50,155 {\an8}I have a degree in property management and real estate. 202 00:08:50,155 --> 00:08:53,325 {\an8}I would buy houses from sheriff's sales, tax sales, 203 00:08:53,325 --> 00:08:57,621 and then I would sell them to single moms, senior citizens. 204 00:08:57,621 --> 00:09:02,668 I'm also the mother of seven children. Six sons and one baby girl. 205 00:09:02,668 --> 00:09:05,504 {\an8}- [Karamo] Tell me about your kids. - [Mary] I got pregnant at 16. 206 00:09:05,504 --> 00:09:08,173 {\an8}My mother said, "You're pregnant. You're gonna get married." 207 00:09:08,173 --> 00:09:11,343 {\an8}She just gave me to him, actually forced me to go with him. 208 00:09:11,343 --> 00:09:12,970 I didn't wanna do it at all. 209 00:09:12,970 --> 00:09:17,558 My children, I grew up with them. That's my firstborn. 210 00:09:17,558 --> 00:09:19,977 That one was my absolute best. 211 00:09:19,977 --> 00:09:21,645 I see that he passed away. 212 00:09:22,229 --> 00:09:24,565 Were you out of prison when he passed away? 213 00:09:25,190 --> 00:09:26,650 - No. - Mm. 214 00:09:26,650 --> 00:09:29,903 He was killed on a motor accident. 215 00:09:29,903 --> 00:09:31,947 I wasn't able to go to his funeral. 216 00:09:32,948 --> 00:09:35,034 And I never got a chance to say goodbye. 217 00:09:35,034 --> 00:09:36,577 I'm so sorry. 218 00:09:36,577 --> 00:09:39,413 That was... that was my breaking point. 219 00:09:39,413 --> 00:09:43,125 [voice breaking] He was the first person on the planet 220 00:09:43,125 --> 00:09:45,878 that I felt like loved me for real. 221 00:09:45,878 --> 00:09:48,172 What's your relationship like with your other children? 222 00:09:48,172 --> 00:09:50,758 - They're scattered. They're everywhere. - Got it. 223 00:09:50,758 --> 00:09:53,218 You know, I don't know how they even feel towards me. 224 00:09:53,218 --> 00:09:54,970 I almost feel guilty. 225 00:09:54,970 --> 00:09:56,096 You know, it's like, 226 00:09:56,096 --> 00:10:00,351 do you imagine being in a place for 12 and a half, almost 13 years 227 00:10:00,351 --> 00:10:03,687 and you're not allowed to touch one human being? 228 00:10:03,687 --> 00:10:05,522 - No. - So I get out. 229 00:10:06,023 --> 00:10:09,568 And now I got this big 6'5'' son that wants to hug. 230 00:10:09,568 --> 00:10:10,694 It's too much. 231 00:10:10,694 --> 00:10:12,863 Well, you spent 12 years disconnected. 232 00:10:12,863 --> 00:10:16,575 Some of them, they don't even know what I've accomplished. 233 00:10:16,575 --> 00:10:18,952 - This is hurting you. - It is. 234 00:10:18,952 --> 00:10:20,537 - [Karamo] Yeah. - It is. 235 00:10:26,043 --> 00:10:28,087 When's the last time you cooked for somebody? 236 00:10:28,087 --> 00:10:29,004 Before COVID. 237 00:10:29,004 --> 00:10:31,048 'Cause when I looked in your freezer, 238 00:10:31,048 --> 00:10:34,051 you have a lot of different proteins in large amounts. 239 00:10:34,051 --> 00:10:37,763 I got seven kids, so I'm used to cooking a lot of food. 240 00:10:37,763 --> 00:10:41,684 - How often do you cook for them? - I used to. I still have that mentality. 241 00:10:41,684 --> 00:10:43,727 Everything was in a gray pot. 242 00:10:44,228 --> 00:10:47,523 I would put the meat, the potatoes, the rice, the vegetables. 243 00:10:47,523 --> 00:10:48,982 [Antoni] One-pot deal. 244 00:10:48,982 --> 00:10:51,276 {\an8}- That's it. But I don't do it that often. - Okay. 245 00:10:51,276 --> 00:10:53,070 I do like cooking. 246 00:10:53,070 --> 00:10:56,907 I do, but when I come in here after 12, 14 hours a day, 247 00:10:56,907 --> 00:10:59,368 I'll just eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, 248 00:10:59,368 --> 00:11:01,286 go to my room, and get on the computer. 249 00:11:01,286 --> 00:11:04,123 Not that it's bad to have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, 250 00:11:04,123 --> 00:11:07,501 but what if you want a home-cooked meal, but you don't have the time for it? 251 00:11:07,501 --> 00:11:09,920 - Have you ever heard of meal prep? - No. 252 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:12,339 So it's the idea of just making a large amount of something, 253 00:11:12,339 --> 00:11:15,551 and then you can store it, label it, put it in the freezer. 254 00:11:15,551 --> 00:11:18,637 - So you can freeze stuff in them things? - A hundred percent. 255 00:11:18,637 --> 00:11:22,266 Your home is now in New Orleans. Have you tried New Orleans cuisine? 256 00:11:22,266 --> 00:11:23,434 I don't even eat gumbo. 257 00:11:23,434 --> 00:11:25,728 I don't venture out and try new things. 258 00:11:26,937 --> 00:11:29,064 [Tan] I would totally wear that. That is beautiful. 259 00:11:29,064 --> 00:11:32,443 - Look at how pretty that is. - She has some good stuff up here. 260 00:11:32,443 --> 00:11:33,986 - See this? - [Jonathan] Love your wrap. 261 00:11:33,986 --> 00:11:35,654 - I made this. - You did? 262 00:11:35,654 --> 00:11:37,072 - I made it. - You sewed that? 263 00:11:37,072 --> 00:11:38,449 Let me show you how gorgeous... 264 00:11:38,449 --> 00:11:40,242 {\an8}- It matches. - With my outfit too! 265 00:11:40,242 --> 00:11:41,326 {\an8}Yes. 266 00:11:41,326 --> 00:11:43,454 {\an8}Look-a there. 267 00:11:43,954 --> 00:11:47,166 - [gasps] Mary! - Ain't that gorgeous? [laughs] 268 00:11:47,166 --> 00:11:48,751 It's gorgeous, isn't it? 269 00:11:48,751 --> 00:11:50,002 [Tan] Wow. 270 00:11:50,002 --> 00:11:51,503 Old school. 271 00:11:51,503 --> 00:11:52,796 I love my elliptical. 272 00:11:52,796 --> 00:11:53,922 Faster. 273 00:11:53,922 --> 00:11:56,425 It's zebra, but for the bathroom. 274 00:11:56,425 --> 00:11:58,844 [upbeat synth music plays] 275 00:11:58,844 --> 00:12:02,556 How long have you been growing your locs? 276 00:12:02,556 --> 00:12:03,974 I'd say about 12 years. 277 00:12:03,974 --> 00:12:07,144 Twelve years of length. Let's see how long they are 278 00:12:07,144 --> 00:12:09,229 'cause we haven't gotten to see so far. 279 00:12:09,730 --> 00:12:11,607 You got a full-ass head of hair. 280 00:12:11,607 --> 00:12:13,901 - [Mary] Yeah. - [Jonathan] That is down to your knees. 281 00:12:13,901 --> 00:12:15,444 [Mary] Yeah. Yeah. 282 00:12:15,444 --> 00:12:17,946 You could take those locs and throw 'em into the river 283 00:12:17,946 --> 00:12:19,740 and let someone climb up 'em, honey. 284 00:12:19,740 --> 00:12:21,742 These are some long locs. 285 00:12:21,742 --> 00:12:24,745 But that's what you were rocking the whole time when you were in. 286 00:12:24,745 --> 00:12:27,164 It's what you've been rocking since you've been out. 287 00:12:27,164 --> 00:12:31,418 These locs are serving time in memoriam. 288 00:12:31,418 --> 00:12:34,713 Is there a dream that you've ever wanted to play with your hair 289 00:12:34,713 --> 00:12:36,173 that we never had a chance? 290 00:12:36,173 --> 00:12:39,510 Jonathan, these locs was for security purposes. 291 00:12:39,510 --> 00:12:43,055 These locs, they helped to keep me safe. 292 00:12:43,055 --> 00:12:45,599 In prison, they grab your hair, 293 00:12:46,183 --> 00:12:49,853 and they use your hair to control your body. 294 00:12:49,853 --> 00:12:52,773 So what I did was I put little plaits in my hair 295 00:12:52,773 --> 00:12:56,944 so I didn't have long hair, and my hair wasn't exposed. 296 00:12:56,944 --> 00:12:59,279 - Right. - And dreadlocks just grew and grew. 297 00:12:59,279 --> 00:13:02,991 - It was like a literal protective style. - It was a literal protective style. 298 00:13:02,991 --> 00:13:04,326 - Right. - It was not a style. 299 00:13:04,326 --> 00:13:07,079 I don't know anything to do with these at all. 300 00:13:07,579 --> 00:13:09,832 - And now-- - So maybe you want a little change? 301 00:13:09,832 --> 00:13:11,375 Maybe a little change. 302 00:13:11,959 --> 00:13:13,335 [upbeat music plays] 303 00:13:14,336 --> 00:13:16,046 This is actually a computer mouse. 304 00:13:16,547 --> 00:13:18,257 I haven't seen one of these in a long time. 305 00:13:18,257 --> 00:13:20,259 - What is this, Antoni? - [Antoni] It's a chopped-- 306 00:13:20,259 --> 00:13:22,719 - Oh, that's a Fleshlight. - It's... [laughs] 307 00:13:26,098 --> 00:13:27,850 I don't know what any of that means. 308 00:13:29,059 --> 00:13:30,936 What makes you feel good in clothes? 309 00:13:31,687 --> 00:13:33,522 - [Mary] I have a dress in here. - [Tan] Show me. 310 00:13:33,522 --> 00:13:34,898 This dress right here, 311 00:13:34,898 --> 00:13:37,484 {\an8}I wore this kind of stuff before I went to prison. 312 00:13:37,484 --> 00:13:39,736 {\an8}- Okay. - It made me feel feminine. 313 00:13:39,736 --> 00:13:41,488 {\an8}- Okay. - It made me feel ladylike. 314 00:13:41,488 --> 00:13:44,533 I'm authoritative. I'm not a very joking person. 315 00:13:44,533 --> 00:13:47,035 Not a jokey person? You feel like a bag of fun. 316 00:13:47,035 --> 00:13:48,787 - No. - [Tan laughs] No? 317 00:13:48,787 --> 00:13:51,290 Have you ever worn it? You've got your tag on still. 318 00:13:51,290 --> 00:13:53,667 I think I need to lose maybe a pound or two. 319 00:13:53,667 --> 00:13:56,295 I had a little snoop. Who is she? 320 00:13:56,295 --> 00:13:59,006 - She's not Mary. She can't be Mary. - [Mary] No. 321 00:13:59,006 --> 00:14:01,466 This closet is all over the place. 322 00:14:01,466 --> 00:14:04,344 There are a thousand personalities in this closet. 323 00:14:04,344 --> 00:14:07,014 One, maybe two of them, are Mary. 324 00:14:07,014 --> 00:14:09,308 The rest of them are some other random lady. 325 00:14:09,308 --> 00:14:13,145 I would struggle every morning, thinking, "There's so much going on here." 326 00:14:13,145 --> 00:14:15,188 "How do I figure out who I wanna be today?" 327 00:14:15,188 --> 00:14:18,442 Even if you lived another hundred years, you couldn't wear all this stuff. 328 00:14:18,442 --> 00:14:20,527 I am very overwhelmed by the stuff. 329 00:14:20,527 --> 00:14:24,156 So wearing a uniform just makes my life more simpler. 330 00:14:24,156 --> 00:14:27,743 So then, my question is, what is this all for? 331 00:14:27,743 --> 00:14:30,162 I wanna feel beautiful again. 332 00:14:30,162 --> 00:14:32,372 When was the last time, Mary, that you felt beautiful? 333 00:14:33,206 --> 00:14:34,750 When... I married at 16. 334 00:14:34,750 --> 00:14:39,046 I remember one time when he took me to a party, 335 00:14:39,713 --> 00:14:44,051 and my mother made this beautiful long, flowing dress. 336 00:14:44,051 --> 00:14:47,971 - It fit in the waist, and it flared out. - What color was it? 337 00:14:47,971 --> 00:14:50,015 It was a red color. 338 00:14:50,015 --> 00:14:51,600 - Okay. - Red's my favorite color. 339 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,895 I felt like the most beautiful woman on the planet. 340 00:14:54,895 --> 00:14:58,732 I wanna try and get you back to feeling that way about yourself. 341 00:14:58,732 --> 00:15:01,610 The thing that we need to work on, it's editing. 342 00:15:01,610 --> 00:15:04,821 Making sure you're pulling the things that aren't gonna work for you 343 00:15:04,821 --> 00:15:07,616 and keeping the things that do. We're gonna figure this out. 344 00:15:08,241 --> 00:15:10,994 [Bobby] Was this breakfast? Or was this... 345 00:15:10,994 --> 00:15:14,581 I feel this was lunch a few days ago 'cause those pickles look pretty dry. 346 00:15:14,581 --> 00:15:17,167 - It was. - Okay. 347 00:15:17,167 --> 00:15:20,629 In prison, if they decide not to feed me, 348 00:15:20,629 --> 00:15:24,841 I have to have food that I've stashed. 349 00:15:24,841 --> 00:15:28,345 So it's difficult for me to just throw that away. 350 00:15:28,345 --> 00:15:32,057 Mary, I've got a question that is truly curiosity 351 00:15:32,057 --> 00:15:33,642 and no judgment, obviously. 352 00:15:33,642 --> 00:15:37,437 What makes you wanna stay here in New Orleans? 353 00:15:37,437 --> 00:15:38,397 [voice breaks] 354 00:15:38,397 --> 00:15:40,983 Allah wouldn't have put me on this mountain 355 00:15:41,775 --> 00:15:44,403 if he didn't want me to show people that it can move, 356 00:15:45,195 --> 00:15:47,114 that things could change. 357 00:15:47,114 --> 00:15:50,742 And so that's why I stayed, because this is where I was planted. 358 00:15:50,742 --> 00:15:53,912 I was in prison, where I saw the most suffering. 359 00:15:53,912 --> 00:15:56,623 I left a promise. I said, "If you just get to me, 360 00:15:57,541 --> 00:16:00,711 when you get out, you'll have a place to stay." 361 00:16:00,711 --> 00:16:04,506 "I'll help you get clothes and food. Just get to me." 362 00:16:04,506 --> 00:16:05,507 [weeps] 363 00:16:05,507 --> 00:16:09,886 I feel so deeply the sadness that she has in her heart. 364 00:16:09,886 --> 00:16:15,434 All she's trying to do is to help others and make the most of it now. 365 00:16:15,434 --> 00:16:17,728 But it's very clear from what she's telling us 366 00:16:17,728 --> 00:16:21,273 she's not had an opportunity to really find a way forward. 367 00:16:21,273 --> 00:16:22,733 That's what we're gonna help with. 368 00:16:22,733 --> 00:16:26,695 You've given so much. This week is about us giving to you. 369 00:16:26,695 --> 00:16:27,821 [Jonathan] To you. 370 00:16:27,821 --> 00:16:31,074 You teach everyone how to kind of, like, find their best selves 371 00:16:31,074 --> 00:16:32,534 and find their new life. 372 00:16:32,534 --> 00:16:34,828 And now we wanna help you find your best self 373 00:16:34,828 --> 00:16:36,830 and help you come into your new life 374 00:16:36,830 --> 00:16:38,248 'cause it's your turn, Mary. 375 00:16:38,248 --> 00:16:40,876 How does that sound? That's different than your everyday. 376 00:16:40,876 --> 00:16:43,211 - It's wonderful. - [Karamo laughs] 377 00:16:43,211 --> 00:16:46,214 - Let's get this week started, then. - We're starting in three, two... 378 00:16:46,214 --> 00:16:48,091 No, I'm kidding. We're doing it now. 379 00:16:48,091 --> 00:16:49,176 [funky music plays] 380 00:16:49,176 --> 00:16:51,303 [boat horn blares] 381 00:16:51,303 --> 00:16:55,098 [Karamo] I love that Mary is opening up. She wants to reconnect with her family. 382 00:16:55,098 --> 00:16:58,769 But I gotta get a little bit more clarity about really what happened in Mary's past 383 00:16:58,769 --> 00:17:01,021 so we can figure out how to give her the better future. 384 00:17:02,022 --> 00:17:06,610 Her locs came from a place of protection, not from a place of expression, 385 00:17:06,610 --> 00:17:08,820 so what I'm here to do is give her the access, 386 00:17:08,820 --> 00:17:10,614 give her the resources that she needs 387 00:17:10,614 --> 00:17:13,992 to be able to present the vibe that she wants to be able to present. 388 00:17:13,992 --> 00:17:17,537 Mary's ready for a what? New chapter. 389 00:17:17,537 --> 00:17:19,664 [Bobby] I wanna breathe life into this space. 390 00:17:19,664 --> 00:17:25,003 Right now, it feels like a dark, dank cell, 391 00:17:25,003 --> 00:17:28,048 and I want it to feel completely the opposite of that. 392 00:17:28,715 --> 00:17:32,177 [Antoni] That same intention that she's teaching her employees 393 00:17:32,177 --> 00:17:33,929 to engage in in her store, 394 00:17:33,929 --> 00:17:37,474 I want Mary to do that with herself for herself. 395 00:17:37,474 --> 00:17:39,101 And I want her to start small. 396 00:17:39,101 --> 00:17:42,813 I want to reinvigorate that excitement of being in the kitchen. 397 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,858 She has been stuck in this Sister Hearts uniform. 398 00:17:46,858 --> 00:17:49,277 Before that, she was in a prison uniform. 399 00:17:49,277 --> 00:17:52,280 I want to remind her that she's still a person, 400 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:55,117 she's still a woman, she's still a human, 401 00:17:55,117 --> 00:17:58,370 and that she gets to feel beautiful. 402 00:17:58,370 --> 00:18:00,997 - [energetic music plays] - ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ 403 00:18:00,997 --> 00:18:04,459 ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 404 00:18:04,459 --> 00:18:07,420 [Tan] You're in your favorite color, red, which makes me so happy. 405 00:18:07,420 --> 00:18:08,505 Yeah. Thank you. 406 00:18:08,505 --> 00:18:09,714 It's a joyful color. 407 00:18:09,714 --> 00:18:12,008 This is gonna be the fun part right here. 408 00:18:12,008 --> 00:18:14,511 This is gonna be the fun part. 409 00:18:14,511 --> 00:18:17,848 - How are you feeling about shopping? - I am feeling so excited. 410 00:18:17,848 --> 00:18:19,182 [Tan] You said you wanted color. 411 00:18:19,182 --> 00:18:21,143 - [Mary] Yes. - We got you a place that has color. 412 00:18:21,143 --> 00:18:24,396 For over ten years, she didn't get to play with color, 413 00:18:24,396 --> 00:18:27,899 and West London Boutique is full of color. 414 00:18:27,899 --> 00:18:29,234 It's full of play. 415 00:18:29,234 --> 00:18:31,987 So I wanna show her what can be done. 416 00:18:31,987 --> 00:18:33,280 You're a bit of a hoarder. 417 00:18:33,780 --> 00:18:36,741 I'm almost positive you know this. It can't come as a surprise. 418 00:18:36,741 --> 00:18:37,993 But mostly in your closet. 419 00:18:37,993 --> 00:18:40,996 I wanna really show you that you can pare back 420 00:18:40,996 --> 00:18:42,497 and have just a few things, 421 00:18:42,497 --> 00:18:44,624 and those few things can make you look beautiful, 422 00:18:44,624 --> 00:18:48,628 as opposed to having a thousand things and not knowing how to build a look. 423 00:18:48,628 --> 00:18:50,714 You had said that you like a fit and flare, 424 00:18:50,714 --> 00:18:52,549 which is fitted at the waist and out. 425 00:18:52,549 --> 00:18:57,220 Now, I wanna show you versions of that. We're not gonna go too boop-boop. 426 00:18:57,220 --> 00:18:59,222 - That feels a little princess. - Yes. 427 00:18:59,222 --> 00:19:01,183 - And you're a lady. - Yes. 428 00:19:01,183 --> 00:19:04,978 And I also want you to be in light and flowy. 429 00:19:04,978 --> 00:19:07,939 It is hot here, and I'm sure you're used to the heat. 430 00:19:07,939 --> 00:19:09,524 - No. - [Tan] You wanna be comfortable. 431 00:19:09,524 --> 00:19:12,569 No. Who's used to this heat? It's horribly hot. So... 432 00:19:12,569 --> 00:19:16,156 Oh. Oh! 433 00:19:16,156 --> 00:19:18,116 - [Tan] Isn't that pretty? - That's nice. 434 00:19:18,116 --> 00:19:19,618 - [Tan] Like... - This is royal. 435 00:19:19,618 --> 00:19:23,830 The reason why I wanted things that flow is when you walk, you see movement. 436 00:19:23,830 --> 00:19:25,332 You seem almost ethereal. 437 00:19:25,332 --> 00:19:28,919 But we're gonna team it with dresses. We're gonna layer things up. 438 00:19:28,919 --> 00:19:30,921 - [Mary] My goodness! - You're gonna be blown away. 439 00:19:30,921 --> 00:19:33,965 - Oh wow. You want me to go put it on? - [Tan] Yes, I do. 440 00:19:33,965 --> 00:19:36,885 Give me a shout if you need anything. We're gonna give this a go. 441 00:19:36,885 --> 00:19:38,136 [Mary] Okay. Okay. 442 00:19:38,136 --> 00:19:39,304 [Tan] Mary? 443 00:19:39,304 --> 00:19:41,306 - Are you ready? - [Mary] Yes. 444 00:19:42,182 --> 00:19:43,016 [Tan] Ah! 445 00:19:45,852 --> 00:19:48,438 Oh my goodness. 446 00:19:48,438 --> 00:19:51,608 This is so regal. 447 00:19:51,608 --> 00:19:52,651 This is so me. 448 00:19:53,151 --> 00:19:57,030 - Really? - This is so me, yes. 449 00:19:57,030 --> 00:19:59,741 [Tan] It's missing one thing. I got you new glasses. 450 00:19:59,741 --> 00:20:02,535 I wanted you to have something a little chicer. 451 00:20:03,161 --> 00:20:04,663 Oh, that's better. 452 00:20:04,663 --> 00:20:07,165 - Oh my goodness. - [Tan] Oh my gosh. That's better, Mary. 453 00:20:07,165 --> 00:20:09,834 We've cinched your waist with a belt, 454 00:20:09,834 --> 00:20:14,339 so you really are highlighting all the most beautiful parts of yourself. 455 00:20:14,339 --> 00:20:16,383 I feel sexy. 456 00:20:16,383 --> 00:20:17,759 - [Tan] Yeah! - I do. 457 00:20:17,759 --> 00:20:19,636 You look sexy, Mary! 458 00:20:20,595 --> 00:20:24,224 It's clear that she hasn't seen herself look like this in a long time. 459 00:20:24,224 --> 00:20:27,686 Does this feel more like the you that you wanna be going forward? 460 00:20:27,686 --> 00:20:28,603 Yes. 461 00:20:29,104 --> 00:20:30,230 - Great. - Yes. 462 00:20:30,230 --> 00:20:33,483 The thing I want to keep is Mary's essence, 463 00:20:33,483 --> 00:20:38,738 and this outfit is still very much an elevated, sophisticated Mary. 464 00:20:39,614 --> 00:20:41,533 Ah! Mary! 465 00:20:42,033 --> 00:20:43,326 I know it's a high heel. 466 00:20:43,326 --> 00:20:45,745 [Mary] I would have never thought of red shoes. 467 00:20:45,745 --> 00:20:49,958 Jeans and T-shirt are fine for work, but you are this person, not that person. 468 00:20:49,958 --> 00:20:53,253 I feel powerful in this. 469 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:55,880 We've hugged your body in all the right places. 470 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,008 - We're not doing hoochie. - No. 471 00:20:58,008 --> 00:21:00,093 [Tan] We are doing so refined. 472 00:21:00,093 --> 00:21:01,678 - Sophisticated. - Yes. 473 00:21:01,678 --> 00:21:04,139 I love that you're thrifty. I don't want you to stop that. 474 00:21:04,139 --> 00:21:05,807 However, every now and then, 475 00:21:05,807 --> 00:21:10,729 going to a boutique like this to really feel special is important. 476 00:21:10,729 --> 00:21:14,649 I am going to now make it my business. 477 00:21:14,649 --> 00:21:15,734 Good. 478 00:21:16,901 --> 00:21:18,862 [jaunty music plays] 479 00:21:22,949 --> 00:21:24,034 [Antoni] After you. 480 00:21:24,034 --> 00:21:26,494 - [Mary] This is a restaurant. - [Antoni] Yeah. 481 00:21:26,494 --> 00:21:30,373 They really pride themselves on Creole cuisine. 482 00:21:30,373 --> 00:21:32,500 Cajun cuisine is country food. 483 00:21:32,500 --> 00:21:34,544 Creole cuisine is city food. 484 00:21:34,544 --> 00:21:38,048 And city folk typically have access to a lot of seafood. 485 00:21:38,548 --> 00:21:40,050 [Mary] Cajun, country. 486 00:21:40,050 --> 00:21:42,635 - Cajun, country. Creole? - City. 487 00:21:42,635 --> 00:21:43,928 - [Antoni] City. - [Mary] Got it. 488 00:21:43,928 --> 00:21:46,139 And you've decided to make Louisiana your home. 489 00:21:46,139 --> 00:21:47,057 Yes. 490 00:21:47,057 --> 00:21:49,434 Since you are a one-pot queen, 491 00:21:49,434 --> 00:21:53,438 I wanted to bring all that together and make something called shrimp étouffée. 492 00:21:53,438 --> 00:21:56,358 - I'm gonna make étouffée? - You're gonna make étouffée. 493 00:21:56,358 --> 00:21:58,777 - Let's make some étouffée. - We're gonna make it together. 494 00:21:58,777 --> 00:22:00,362 - Have you ever had it? - No. 495 00:22:00,362 --> 00:22:01,404 - Never had it? - No. 496 00:22:01,404 --> 00:22:04,532 So if you have one day where you can make a large batch of this, 497 00:22:04,532 --> 00:22:07,660 you can put it into containers that are nicely sealed, 498 00:22:07,660 --> 00:22:09,037 put them in the freezer. 499 00:22:09,037 --> 00:22:12,499 When you go to work, you come back, you have a wonderful home-cooked meal. 500 00:22:12,499 --> 00:22:15,668 Down here, everybody put they stuff on rice. 501 00:22:15,668 --> 00:22:18,588 - Do you put rice on this? - Don't worry. We're gonna have rice. 502 00:22:18,588 --> 00:22:20,423 - You are jumping ahead. - Okay. 503 00:22:20,423 --> 00:22:22,509 - You ready to get started? - I am so ready. 504 00:22:22,509 --> 00:22:25,887 [Antoni] We're basically gonna go ahead and prepare our base. 505 00:22:25,887 --> 00:22:31,434 So we have four parts onion, one part bell pepper, one part celery. 506 00:22:31,434 --> 00:22:32,602 Beautiful. 507 00:22:33,269 --> 00:22:37,065 Perfect, and just so you know, I'm starting on chopping the garlic up. 508 00:22:37,065 --> 00:22:38,858 Really give it a nice press. 509 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:40,860 And then, with my curled fingers... 510 00:22:42,695 --> 00:22:43,780 Thanks, Mary. 511 00:22:43,780 --> 00:22:45,657 You have a maternal instinct. 512 00:22:45,657 --> 00:22:48,284 What was your favorite thing that you made for your kids? 513 00:22:48,284 --> 00:22:49,911 - Chili. - What do you put in your chili? 514 00:22:49,911 --> 00:22:52,831 Everything hot. In Ohio, it's very cold. 515 00:22:52,831 --> 00:22:57,127 The pepper helped to preserve my children so they ain't getting colds and all that. 516 00:22:57,127 --> 00:23:01,673 We're using some similar elements here. There's paprika, for, like, that smoke. 517 00:23:01,673 --> 00:23:03,716 Some oregano, some thyme, 518 00:23:03,716 --> 00:23:06,511 garlic powder, onion powder, white and black pepper. 519 00:23:07,095 --> 00:23:08,096 We make this? 520 00:23:08,096 --> 00:23:11,266 This, you can buy it ready-made, or you can just make it on your own. 521 00:23:11,266 --> 00:23:13,935 - I like to make it. - It's a basic Creole spice blend. 522 00:23:13,935 --> 00:23:17,939 Add a little bit of butter to the center. Put the entire spice mix in there. 523 00:23:18,606 --> 00:23:19,524 Perfect. 524 00:23:19,524 --> 00:23:21,776 - [Mary] I can smell it. - Yeah. 525 00:23:21,776 --> 00:23:23,778 I'm gonna put in the garlic now. 526 00:23:24,404 --> 00:23:26,781 And then I'm gonna put in the hot sauce as well. 527 00:23:27,282 --> 00:23:28,700 A little bit of white wine. 528 00:23:30,076 --> 00:23:31,369 - [Mary] The aroma! - [Antoni] Yes. 529 00:23:31,369 --> 00:23:32,996 Now our tomatoes. 530 00:23:32,996 --> 00:23:36,166 [Mary] Oh, that smells so good. 531 00:23:36,166 --> 00:23:37,083 Okay. 532 00:23:37,083 --> 00:23:39,502 So then I'm gonna show you how to make the slurry. 533 00:23:39,502 --> 00:23:43,173 We wanna add it as a thickening agent. I have some shrimp stock here. 534 00:23:44,090 --> 00:23:47,010 Into this little pitcher. And I'm gonna go ahead and put my flour. 535 00:23:47,010 --> 00:23:50,263 This is how my Polish mama made it when I was growing up. 536 00:23:50,263 --> 00:23:52,348 So now we're gonna go ahead and pour that in. 537 00:23:52,348 --> 00:23:53,558 Smells beautiful. 538 00:23:53,558 --> 00:23:55,310 - [Mary] It is. - And looks super pretty. 539 00:23:55,310 --> 00:23:57,687 And this doesn't take a long time to cook either. 540 00:23:57,687 --> 00:23:58,771 [Antoni] Not really. 541 00:23:58,771 --> 00:24:01,774 Our shrimp stock, it's gonna thicken up as it reduces, 542 00:24:01,774 --> 00:24:04,402 and then I have some parsley leaves as well. 543 00:24:04,944 --> 00:24:06,070 You said you like spice. 544 00:24:06,070 --> 00:24:08,072 - Did you want to add cayenne? - [Mary] Yes. 545 00:24:08,072 --> 00:24:10,450 Great. You decide. You're the boss. 546 00:24:11,326 --> 00:24:12,494 Wow. 547 00:24:12,494 --> 00:24:13,495 What?! 548 00:24:13,495 --> 00:24:15,830 - [chuckles] That's good? - I'm a Polish boy. 549 00:24:15,830 --> 00:24:18,166 - That's a lot of heat for me! - [Mary chuckles] 550 00:24:19,042 --> 00:24:20,335 This is so wonderful. 551 00:24:20,335 --> 00:24:22,212 - It's therapy. - [Antoni] A hundred percent. 552 00:24:22,212 --> 00:24:24,547 This étouffée is not gonna take away 553 00:24:24,547 --> 00:24:26,925 from the horrible things that you experienced, 554 00:24:26,925 --> 00:24:28,551 but it's a tool, right? 555 00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:32,514 Whenever you're feeling overwhelmed, to just be like, "All right, Mary, 556 00:24:32,514 --> 00:24:36,184 we'll center ourselves in the kitchen and make something for ourselves." 557 00:24:36,184 --> 00:24:39,604 To me, this is a form of decarceration. 558 00:24:39,604 --> 00:24:44,192 It is reversing a mindset that I had forgotten I even had. 559 00:24:44,192 --> 00:24:46,277 I'm looking in this pot, I'm like... 560 00:24:46,277 --> 00:24:50,073 - It's just lifting something inside of me. - [Antoni] Yeah! 561 00:24:50,073 --> 00:24:51,616 You do so much for other people, 562 00:24:52,450 --> 00:24:55,995 but understand the importance of being able to do this for yourself as well. 563 00:24:55,995 --> 00:24:58,790 You see, I wouldn't have got that 'cause that's about me. 564 00:24:59,374 --> 00:25:03,670 - It's not automatic for you. - It is not automatic. Absolutely. 565 00:25:03,670 --> 00:25:06,798 There's a difference with opening up a packet of crackers 566 00:25:06,798 --> 00:25:09,759 and just eating them so that you get enough calories for the day 567 00:25:09,759 --> 00:25:12,470 versus nourishing yourself and making something. 568 00:25:12,470 --> 00:25:16,140 You're telling yourself you're worthy of the time and the effort that it took 569 00:25:16,140 --> 00:25:18,726 with something wonderful you get to feed yourself with. 570 00:25:18,726 --> 00:25:21,062 'Cause I think that's an important part of healing as well, 571 00:25:21,062 --> 00:25:23,481 is just showing up for yourself. 572 00:25:23,481 --> 00:25:25,692 Who's been showing me how to do that before you came? 573 00:25:25,692 --> 00:25:27,443 - I don't know. - Nobody! 574 00:25:28,111 --> 00:25:29,862 Now I know how to do it for myself, 575 00:25:29,862 --> 00:25:33,741 and I'm gonna be the best shrimp-étouffée maker in New Orleans. 576 00:25:33,741 --> 00:25:34,826 That's right. 577 00:25:34,826 --> 00:25:36,119 [chuckles] 578 00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,496 [Antoni] So I've peeled some beautiful shrimp. 579 00:25:38,496 --> 00:25:40,415 These are ready to go into the pot. 580 00:25:40,415 --> 00:25:44,586 Étouffée comes from the French word "to smother" or "suffocate." 581 00:25:44,586 --> 00:25:46,337 Let's smother those shrimp. 582 00:25:46,337 --> 00:25:48,172 Our heat is nice and low. 583 00:25:48,172 --> 00:25:50,425 When they get nice and pink, they're ready. 584 00:25:50,425 --> 00:25:52,885 Look at this shrimp étouffée. 585 00:25:52,885 --> 00:25:56,556 - I cooked up some medium-grain rice. - Oh wow. 586 00:25:56,556 --> 00:25:59,892 Fluffed it up with a bit of butter. Just like to put it around the rice. 587 00:25:59,892 --> 00:26:02,770 So we have our beautiful little rice island 588 00:26:02,770 --> 00:26:05,023 and then everything around. There you go. 589 00:26:05,023 --> 00:26:08,026 [Mary] I am really feeling like a gourmet chef here. 590 00:26:08,026 --> 00:26:10,069 - 'Cause you are. - [Mary] Look at that. 591 00:26:10,069 --> 00:26:12,071 [Antoni] Beau-ti-ful. 592 00:26:12,071 --> 00:26:13,573 - Yes. - [Antoni] It's really pretty. 593 00:26:14,157 --> 00:26:15,575 - May I put some lemon on yours? - Yes. 594 00:26:15,575 --> 00:26:18,578 [Antoni] It kind of wakes everything up in a nice, fresh way. 595 00:26:18,578 --> 00:26:20,872 And then help yourself to some garnishes. 596 00:26:20,872 --> 00:26:23,207 - Ready to try? - [Mary] Yes. 597 00:26:26,711 --> 00:26:28,296 Oh, this is so good. 598 00:26:28,296 --> 00:26:30,757 - Whoo! There's heat! - Yes. 599 00:26:31,382 --> 00:26:33,217 - This is delicious. - [Antoni] Yeah. 600 00:26:33,217 --> 00:26:34,302 [Mary] You ain't playin'. 601 00:26:34,302 --> 00:26:37,764 I'm gonna make this faster than quick got ready. 602 00:26:37,764 --> 00:26:40,224 - You know how fast quick is, right? - [Antoni] Quick. Yeah. 603 00:26:40,224 --> 00:26:41,309 - Quick. - Got it. [laughs] 604 00:26:41,309 --> 00:26:44,937 I'll tell you how fast I'm gonna make it. Faster than quick got ready. 605 00:26:44,937 --> 00:26:46,230 I love that. 606 00:26:46,230 --> 00:26:47,273 Creole cuisine. 607 00:26:47,273 --> 00:26:49,817 ♪ Check, I tiptoe on the rhythm Tell 'em ♪ 608 00:26:49,817 --> 00:26:52,445 ♪ I'm moving mountains It echoes loud when I preach to them ♪ 609 00:26:52,445 --> 00:26:53,905 ♪ Yeah, I see the purpose ♪ 610 00:26:53,905 --> 00:26:57,033 {\an8}♪ Tell 'em divine lights align Right, you know when it's your time ♪ 611 00:26:57,033 --> 00:26:58,159 ♪ Never tell 'em ♪ 612 00:27:00,203 --> 00:27:02,038 [Karamo] I'm showing Mary this photo album 613 00:27:02,038 --> 00:27:05,541 because it's a good reminder of who she was before she went to prison. 614 00:27:05,541 --> 00:27:07,627 But if I'm really gonna be able to help her, 615 00:27:07,627 --> 00:27:09,587 I gotta figure out who that is. 616 00:27:10,380 --> 00:27:12,632 I'm glad we're getting to spend our time together. 617 00:27:12,632 --> 00:27:15,134 I enjoyed getting to know you for that little bit of time. 618 00:27:15,134 --> 00:27:16,219 Me too. 619 00:27:17,136 --> 00:27:19,347 You talk about your experience in prison, 620 00:27:19,347 --> 00:27:22,183 you talk about how you help people after, which is all important, 621 00:27:22,183 --> 00:27:24,769 but there were some things that stood out to me. 622 00:27:24,769 --> 00:27:27,271 You said you think you lost your maternal instinct. 623 00:27:27,271 --> 00:27:32,193 That makes sense, but I wanted to learn more about Mary before prison. 624 00:27:32,193 --> 00:27:33,820 You were married at 16. 625 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,824 I really wanna get to know more about that. 626 00:27:37,824 --> 00:27:39,992 When I got pregnant at 16, 627 00:27:39,992 --> 00:27:42,286 I felt all of the shame and the guilt 628 00:27:42,286 --> 00:27:45,873 and all the other things that any other 16-year-old would feel. 629 00:27:45,873 --> 00:27:47,875 I was mad at the baby daddy, 630 00:27:47,875 --> 00:27:50,211 and I didn't really love him. 631 00:27:50,211 --> 00:27:53,965 I learned to respect him because he was older. 632 00:27:53,965 --> 00:27:56,884 But I didn't even know him or know what love and all... 633 00:27:56,884 --> 00:28:00,179 I was just... He was the first person that I'd ever really been with. 634 00:28:00,179 --> 00:28:03,015 He was from a very, very wealthy family. 635 00:28:03,015 --> 00:28:06,227 You know, in all actuality, when I step back, 636 00:28:06,227 --> 00:28:09,772 I feel as if I was actually used as chattel. 637 00:28:11,065 --> 00:28:13,943 My family got gifts and money. 638 00:28:13,943 --> 00:28:16,028 Which leads me to say, "Who was protecting you?" 639 00:28:18,990 --> 00:28:20,241 No one, really. 640 00:28:20,241 --> 00:28:22,285 I'm looking at this timeline now, 641 00:28:23,161 --> 00:28:26,038 and I understand where your shame journey starts. 642 00:28:26,914 --> 00:28:29,625 This is a little girl who... 643 00:28:31,335 --> 00:28:33,171 didn't get the love she deserved. 644 00:28:33,171 --> 00:28:36,924 [Mary] I didn't grow up in a household of love and nurturing. 645 00:28:36,924 --> 00:28:38,843 I didn't know how to do any of that. 646 00:28:40,845 --> 00:28:43,765 I think it's... it's important to establish that, 647 00:28:44,265 --> 00:28:48,269 because when we talk about journeys to being parents, 648 00:28:48,269 --> 00:28:51,397 we have to always remember who are we as human beings? 649 00:28:51,397 --> 00:28:53,900 I'm not trying to take away your prison experience, 650 00:28:53,900 --> 00:28:56,819 but what I need you to know is that the trauma started before, 651 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,281 that there's some things that made you make choices before. 652 00:29:00,281 --> 00:29:01,240 Yeah. 653 00:29:01,783 --> 00:29:04,702 [Karamo] When I was going through your house, I saw this. 654 00:29:04,702 --> 00:29:07,538 It looks like it was addressed to you while you were in prison. 655 00:29:08,539 --> 00:29:11,209 This is the last letter that I received from my son. 656 00:29:11,209 --> 00:29:12,126 [Karamo] Got it. 657 00:29:12,627 --> 00:29:13,878 Can you read this letter? 658 00:29:14,962 --> 00:29:17,507 He said, "Hello. It's me." 659 00:29:18,382 --> 00:29:20,301 This is... "It's me." 660 00:29:20,301 --> 00:29:22,595 He said, "Your number-one child." 661 00:29:23,262 --> 00:29:25,389 "I got the Koran you sent me." 662 00:29:25,389 --> 00:29:27,809 "When I was younger, 663 00:29:27,809 --> 00:29:33,564 people would actually ask me what do I believe in, what religion." 664 00:29:34,148 --> 00:29:35,775 "I would say, 'My mother.'" 665 00:29:37,109 --> 00:29:38,820 "Sometimes I look back 666 00:29:38,820 --> 00:29:43,157 and wonder what things had to be like for you raising us." 667 00:29:43,157 --> 00:29:45,785 "It could not have been easy. Was it?" 668 00:29:46,869 --> 00:29:49,872 "In one of your letters, you said, 'I didn't do nothing else.'" 669 00:29:49,872 --> 00:29:52,083 "'I taught you boys how to fight.'" 670 00:29:52,083 --> 00:29:53,709 "What about love?" 671 00:29:54,460 --> 00:29:58,381 "Like, that is the only thing I never really got to understand, 672 00:29:58,381 --> 00:30:00,132 love and emotions." 673 00:30:00,132 --> 00:30:02,552 "Mom, you did the best you could." 674 00:30:02,552 --> 00:30:05,513 "Your best has always been good for me." 675 00:30:08,432 --> 00:30:10,184 Five days before his death. 676 00:30:11,853 --> 00:30:13,104 [Karamo] He acknowledged 677 00:30:14,188 --> 00:30:16,983 that you taught him how to fight and how to survive, 678 00:30:17,692 --> 00:30:19,485 because that's what you had to do. 679 00:30:19,485 --> 00:30:23,531 But he said he doesn't know how to love. 680 00:30:25,825 --> 00:30:27,785 Do you think you knew how to love your kids? 681 00:30:27,785 --> 00:30:28,703 No. 682 00:30:29,412 --> 00:30:30,997 You didn't receive love, 683 00:30:30,997 --> 00:30:33,708 and then someone put seven children in your lap 684 00:30:33,708 --> 00:30:35,626 and said, "Love them." 685 00:30:36,961 --> 00:30:39,755 How are you supposed to teach something when you don't know how to do it? 686 00:30:40,506 --> 00:30:45,219 [voice breaking] I think I don't know how to love them even less now than before, 687 00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,890 and that might be some of the reason that I didn't wanna go back. 688 00:30:54,020 --> 00:30:56,898 Because I never really knew how to be a mother. 689 00:30:58,608 --> 00:31:00,443 This is the first time I've heard you be honest 690 00:31:00,443 --> 00:31:02,236 about avoiding that relationship. 691 00:31:03,154 --> 00:31:06,365 And the more you avoid something that you know you need to look at 692 00:31:06,365 --> 00:31:09,952 is the more that shame grows and grows in our minds 693 00:31:10,745 --> 00:31:13,998 because the shame is what's keeping you from being with your kids. 694 00:31:13,998 --> 00:31:17,501 It's what's keeping you from saying, "Let me just be there." 695 00:31:18,419 --> 00:31:20,046 What are you thinking right now? 696 00:31:20,046 --> 00:31:24,258 I'm thinking I would love to call 'em back. 697 00:31:24,258 --> 00:31:25,217 Your child. 698 00:31:25,885 --> 00:31:28,554 He reaches out to me all the time. 699 00:31:28,554 --> 00:31:30,765 He's looking for love from me. 700 00:31:30,765 --> 00:31:31,974 There you go. 701 00:31:32,558 --> 00:31:37,396 You know... And I don't like excuses, and I'm not trying to make an excuse. 702 00:31:37,396 --> 00:31:41,067 - It's just that I didn't know any better. - Boom. That's not an excuse. 703 00:31:41,067 --> 00:31:45,613 I have to explain to them and tell them how sorry I am. 704 00:31:45,613 --> 00:31:48,950 And what that does, when you can acknowledge, 705 00:31:48,950 --> 00:31:51,702 give yourself forgiveness, and then ask for forgiveness, 706 00:31:51,702 --> 00:31:52,912 it takes away the shame. 707 00:31:52,912 --> 00:31:54,413 Because you deserve it. 708 00:31:54,413 --> 00:31:57,208 - Yeah. - But more so, your children deserve it. 709 00:31:57,208 --> 00:31:59,460 - And my grandchildren. - [Karamo] And your grandbabies. 710 00:31:59,460 --> 00:32:01,003 It means every morning saying, 711 00:32:01,003 --> 00:32:03,798 "I'mma get up. I acknowledge I didn't know what I was doing, 712 00:32:03,798 --> 00:32:07,051 but I know what I'm doing today, so let me call and say, 'I love you.'" 713 00:32:07,051 --> 00:32:10,429 "Let me try to do for you everything little Mary didn't have done for her." 714 00:32:10,429 --> 00:32:12,098 But you can break those cycles. 715 00:32:12,890 --> 00:32:13,891 You know I will. [laughs] 716 00:32:13,891 --> 00:32:14,934 - [Karamo] I do. - I will. 717 00:32:14,934 --> 00:32:17,061 [Karamo] If I know anything about your personality... 718 00:32:17,853 --> 00:32:21,107 - [Mary] Karamo, thank you so much. - [Karamo] Mm. 719 00:32:25,236 --> 00:32:26,529 ♪ Ooh! ♪ 720 00:32:26,529 --> 00:32:28,447 - [Mary] Yes. - [Bobby] I listen. I listen. 721 00:32:29,198 --> 00:32:30,700 [Mary] Ooh! 722 00:32:30,700 --> 00:32:34,954 [Bobby] I want to teach Mary how to be more intentional 723 00:32:34,954 --> 00:32:37,248 about the things we surround ourselves with. 724 00:32:37,248 --> 00:32:40,418 Plants are such an important part of someone's home 725 00:32:40,418 --> 00:32:44,630 'cause not only do they literally breathe life into your space, 726 00:32:44,630 --> 00:32:46,382 it's something that you can nurture. 727 00:32:46,382 --> 00:32:48,134 That's beautiful. 728 00:32:49,719 --> 00:32:55,850 ♪ I had a feeling coming over me Like oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 729 00:32:57,351 --> 00:33:00,604 ♪ I feel something ♪ 730 00:33:01,188 --> 00:33:04,650 ♪ Ahhhh ♪ 731 00:33:04,650 --> 00:33:06,277 ♪ For you ♪ 732 00:33:07,236 --> 00:33:09,780 - [Jonathan] Look at this gorgeous space. - This is so nice! 733 00:33:09,780 --> 00:33:11,741 The green, it's so calming. 734 00:33:11,741 --> 00:33:14,452 Mary is so beautiful externally. 735 00:33:14,452 --> 00:33:16,412 She's so beautiful internally. 736 00:33:16,412 --> 00:33:19,790 But she doesn't feel beautiful. 737 00:33:19,790 --> 00:33:22,418 - How are you? You own this place? - This is Mary. We love her. 738 00:33:22,418 --> 00:33:25,337 She is welcoming us into her space and her salon. 739 00:33:25,337 --> 00:33:27,673 - Nice to meet you. - I've been waiting. 740 00:33:27,673 --> 00:33:30,301 [Jonathan] We have been waiting. We've all been waiting, queen. 741 00:33:30,301 --> 00:33:31,218 Yes. 742 00:33:31,218 --> 00:33:33,095 I just wanna be a cheerleader for Mary. 743 00:33:33,095 --> 00:33:35,723 You've been having these gorgeous locs for... 744 00:33:35,723 --> 00:33:38,851 Twelve years. A long... Oh yes. 745 00:33:38,851 --> 00:33:44,523 You'd said the other day that you're ready for, like, a new Mary, a new vibe. 746 00:33:45,274 --> 00:33:46,692 - Is it true? - It is true. 747 00:33:46,692 --> 00:33:49,653 This represents an old me, 748 00:33:49,653 --> 00:33:51,322 a strong me, 749 00:33:51,322 --> 00:33:54,158 but now she is light and airy, 750 00:33:54,158 --> 00:33:56,327 and she can just be. 751 00:33:56,327 --> 00:34:00,289 And you have just been, like, literally deprived 752 00:34:00,289 --> 00:34:02,124 of getting to play with your hair. 753 00:34:02,124 --> 00:34:03,209 Yes. 754 00:34:04,251 --> 00:34:05,503 Give me your hands. 755 00:34:07,838 --> 00:34:10,007 I'm so proud of you. 756 00:34:10,007 --> 00:34:11,717 Everything that you've been through, 757 00:34:11,717 --> 00:34:15,012 any aspects of it that no longer serve you, 758 00:34:15,012 --> 00:34:17,223 I want you to let those things go. 759 00:34:18,057 --> 00:34:18,974 [exhales] 760 00:34:18,974 --> 00:34:20,726 We are exhaling those things out today 761 00:34:20,726 --> 00:34:24,522 because you are walking out of here a different woman than what you walked in. 762 00:34:24,522 --> 00:34:26,440 Yes. I receive that. 763 00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,819 Supermodel documentary hour, commence! Ah! 764 00:34:29,819 --> 00:34:31,529 - [Mary laughs] - [man] Fun. 765 00:34:31,529 --> 00:34:33,948 - [Jonathan] We're doing it, queen. - My name's Quentin. 766 00:34:33,948 --> 00:34:36,742 [Jonathan] Quentin is the most talented hairstylist. 767 00:34:37,243 --> 00:34:40,162 - I'm glad to be a part of this journey. - [Mary] Thank you. 768 00:34:40,162 --> 00:34:42,289 I don't have to hide behind my locs anymore. 769 00:34:43,082 --> 00:34:44,375 - You ready, Mary? - I'm ready. 770 00:34:44,375 --> 00:34:46,252 - It's happening. - [Mary] I'm free now. 771 00:34:47,586 --> 00:34:48,963 - I am free. - [Jonathan] Wow. 772 00:34:50,339 --> 00:34:54,593 - I literally feel love in this hair. - Yes. 773 00:34:55,803 --> 00:34:58,222 My hand is, like, buzzing when I hold it. 774 00:34:58,222 --> 00:35:01,851 We are going on a whole new journey, for real. 775 00:35:01,851 --> 00:35:04,854 We're just gonna start getting done with our bad selves. 776 00:35:04,854 --> 00:35:05,938 [Quentin] Let's detangle. 777 00:35:05,938 --> 00:35:08,107 [Jonathan] Should we come in, detangle crew? 778 00:35:08,607 --> 00:35:10,442 {\an8}Yes, we are coming in. 779 00:35:10,943 --> 00:35:11,777 {\an8}Oh fuck. 780 00:35:11,777 --> 00:35:13,279 {\an8}[laughing] 781 00:35:13,279 --> 00:35:15,364 {\an8}- [Quentin] That comb was mad! - [Jonathan] Want Advil? 782 00:35:15,364 --> 00:35:16,740 {\an8}[Mary] No, not yet. 783 00:35:17,741 --> 00:35:18,993 ♪ I got to get up ♪ 784 00:35:20,578 --> 00:35:22,663 {\an8}[Jonathan] Someone get this woman an Advil. 785 00:35:25,958 --> 00:35:27,042 {\an8}Oh my God, my hands. 786 00:35:27,042 --> 00:35:29,378 {\an8}I just tried to move them, and they were like... 787 00:35:29,378 --> 00:35:30,546 {\an8}[laughing] 788 00:35:31,422 --> 00:35:33,090 {\an8}♪ And I'm gonna say what I want ♪ 789 00:35:33,090 --> 00:35:34,300 {\an8}♪ And... ♪ 790 00:35:35,426 --> 00:35:37,469 {\an8}[Mary] I'm fascinated with the color. 791 00:35:38,137 --> 00:35:39,930 {\an8}[Jonathan] I think we should keep your natural. 792 00:35:39,930 --> 00:35:42,683 {\an8}It's taken me 65 years to get this gray. 793 00:35:42,683 --> 00:35:44,393 {\an8}[Jonathan] I think we should treasure it. 794 00:35:44,393 --> 00:35:46,395 {\an8}- That's how I feel. - [Jonathan] Let's treasure it. 795 00:35:46,395 --> 00:35:48,898 {\an8}- Yeah. - [Jonathan] I love that for us. 796 00:35:48,898 --> 00:35:49,857 {\an8}♪ Up and go ♪ 797 00:35:49,857 --> 00:35:51,775 {\an8}♪ I got to get up and go ♪ 798 00:35:52,359 --> 00:35:54,195 {\an8}♪ Up, up, and go I got to get up ♪ 799 00:35:54,195 --> 00:35:56,155 {\an8}[Jonathan] Damn, Mare-bear. 800 00:35:56,655 --> 00:35:58,657 {\an8}- [woman] That's it! - [Quentin] That's the last one. 801 00:35:58,657 --> 00:36:01,327 {\an8}- [Jonathan] Good job, team. - [applause] 802 00:36:01,327 --> 00:36:05,456 {\an8}- Record-breaking time! - [woman] Oh my God! 803 00:36:05,456 --> 00:36:06,457 {\an8}Damn! 804 00:36:06,457 --> 00:36:10,127 {\an8}Do you know, Mary? That's amazing. 805 00:36:10,127 --> 00:36:12,838 Group hug. We did it. Come here. Come here. Come here. 806 00:36:12,838 --> 00:36:14,215 - Get in here! - My hair's wet. 807 00:36:14,215 --> 00:36:16,425 We did it. It's okay. We love. 808 00:36:16,425 --> 00:36:17,843 Yay! We did it. 809 00:36:17,843 --> 00:36:20,387 Oh yes. 810 00:36:20,387 --> 00:36:22,848 - It is thick. - [Mary laughs] 811 00:36:22,848 --> 00:36:26,310 - It is gorgeous! - [Mary laughs] 812 00:36:26,310 --> 00:36:27,353 Mary, it really is. 813 00:36:27,353 --> 00:36:29,355 I don't know what you take, but I want some. 814 00:36:29,355 --> 00:36:30,856 [both laugh] 815 00:36:30,856 --> 00:36:33,734 - [Jonathan] Let's start twisting. - [Quentin] Let's start twisting it out. 816 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:35,861 [Jonathan] You're glowing. 817 00:36:35,861 --> 00:36:37,446 - I see you. - [Mary] Yeah. 818 00:36:38,072 --> 00:36:39,073 [Quentin] I see you. 819 00:36:42,326 --> 00:36:45,287 - [Jonathan] Are you ready to see? - [Mary] I'm so ready. 820 00:36:48,082 --> 00:36:50,960 Oh my goodness. 821 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,169 Look at there. 822 00:36:52,169 --> 00:36:55,798 - Isn't she beautiful? - Yes, she is. 823 00:36:55,798 --> 00:36:57,174 [Jonathan] Isn't she pretty? 824 00:36:57,174 --> 00:36:59,051 She's cute. 825 00:36:59,051 --> 00:37:01,011 She's beautiful. She's gorgeous. 826 00:37:01,011 --> 00:37:02,471 This is just... 827 00:37:02,471 --> 00:37:03,764 That shine. 828 00:37:03,764 --> 00:37:05,766 Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! 829 00:37:06,558 --> 00:37:08,269 - Isn't that gorgeous? - Don't you love? 830 00:37:08,269 --> 00:37:09,770 Yes. 831 00:37:10,271 --> 00:37:11,814 That is so cute. 832 00:37:11,814 --> 00:37:13,857 [Jonathan] How does it feel? 833 00:37:13,857 --> 00:37:16,110 [Mary] It feels wonderful. 834 00:37:16,110 --> 00:37:18,487 - This says wisdom. - [Jonathan] And you've earned this. 835 00:37:18,487 --> 00:37:20,322 - I've earned this. - [Jonathan] You have. 836 00:37:20,322 --> 00:37:22,533 - And you look beautiful. - Thank you. 837 00:37:22,533 --> 00:37:25,953 ♪ Time to get a grip And make a change ♪ 838 00:37:27,288 --> 00:37:30,958 ♪ Yes, I'll do it for you Rearrange ♪ 839 00:37:30,958 --> 00:37:36,964 ♪ 'Cause there's just so much A girl can hold onto ♪ 840 00:37:38,340 --> 00:37:41,176 - [horn honks] - [Antoni] They're here. 841 00:37:41,176 --> 00:37:42,511 Hey, they're here! 842 00:37:42,511 --> 00:37:44,054 [Antoni] They're here! 843 00:37:44,054 --> 00:37:46,015 I'm so excited to see her. 844 00:37:47,016 --> 00:37:48,267 [Tan] Oh my gosh! 845 00:37:48,267 --> 00:37:49,852 - [Bobby] Oh my God. - [Antoni] What? 846 00:37:49,852 --> 00:37:51,645 - What? - Oh my gosh. 847 00:37:51,645 --> 00:37:53,147 This looks amazing. 848 00:37:53,147 --> 00:37:55,899 [Tan] You look gorge! Hi, Mary. 849 00:37:55,899 --> 00:37:57,943 - [Bobby] Hi! - [Jonathan] Isn't it so good? 850 00:37:57,943 --> 00:38:01,405 You know what you're giving me with these subtle movements? Diana Ross. 851 00:38:01,405 --> 00:38:02,614 - [Jonathan] Yes. - Yes. 852 00:38:02,614 --> 00:38:04,450 - Yes, she is. - [Karamo] Oh my gosh. 853 00:38:04,450 --> 00:38:06,618 - It's about to start! - To start. Are you ready? 854 00:38:06,618 --> 00:38:08,120 Somebody needs to hold my hand. 855 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:09,788 - We're ready. - [Mary] Ready. 856 00:38:09,788 --> 00:38:10,789 [gasps] 857 00:38:10,789 --> 00:38:12,207 Oh! 858 00:38:12,207 --> 00:38:14,585 Oh my goodness. 859 00:38:14,585 --> 00:38:16,128 - Who lives here, right? - No. 860 00:38:16,128 --> 00:38:17,546 - You! - This is not my house. 861 00:38:17,546 --> 00:38:19,548 - [Bobby] This is your house! - [Mary] This is not. 862 00:38:19,548 --> 00:38:20,758 [Bobby] This is your house. 863 00:38:22,301 --> 00:38:25,054 [Mary] It's refreshing. It's new. It's calming. 864 00:38:25,054 --> 00:38:27,681 It's tranquil. It's peaceful. 865 00:38:28,349 --> 00:38:31,643 - [cheering] - [Mary] Bobby. 866 00:38:31,643 --> 00:38:35,981 [Bobby] The color choices she made before were just a visceral reaction 867 00:38:35,981 --> 00:38:41,153 to her not being allowed to have any color while in prison. 868 00:38:41,153 --> 00:38:44,573 But instead of painting walls these dark, depressing colors, 869 00:38:44,573 --> 00:38:46,742 I brightened everything up, 870 00:38:46,742 --> 00:38:49,495 and I brought in color through the accessories in her home. 871 00:38:49,495 --> 00:38:52,206 - All the walls are painted! - All the walls are painted. 872 00:38:52,206 --> 00:38:56,001 - It's bright. It's happy. - Oh, look-a here! 873 00:38:56,001 --> 00:38:59,380 Oh, Mommy's baby. 874 00:38:59,380 --> 00:39:00,923 Oh. 875 00:39:01,632 --> 00:39:05,511 This is unbelievable. 876 00:39:05,511 --> 00:39:07,012 Oh my goodness. 877 00:39:07,012 --> 00:39:09,681 - America is not ready for this. - [Tan] America's not ready. 878 00:39:09,681 --> 00:39:13,310 America needs to see the crown molding on that light fixture because it's cool. 879 00:39:13,310 --> 00:39:15,145 [Mary] It's beautiful. 880 00:39:15,145 --> 00:39:17,439 - Oh my God. - Oh! 881 00:39:18,065 --> 00:39:20,317 Oh! Oh! 882 00:39:20,317 --> 00:39:22,611 Look at this bathroom. 883 00:39:22,611 --> 00:39:25,197 [Bobby] Nice and organized and cleaned. 884 00:39:25,197 --> 00:39:27,199 Everything in here is intentional. 885 00:39:27,199 --> 00:39:29,284 - [Mary] The floor! It's a new floor. - [Bobby] Yes. 886 00:39:29,284 --> 00:39:31,995 - [Jonathan] This floor. - [Mary] It's a floor. Yes. 887 00:39:32,496 --> 00:39:36,708 This is more than I've ever had in my entire life. 888 00:39:36,708 --> 00:39:39,670 I didn't wanna go minimal 'cause I do know you do love things. 889 00:39:39,670 --> 00:39:42,673 So I put a lot of stuff, but everything again is very intentional. 890 00:39:42,673 --> 00:39:45,759 [Mary] This is beautiful. Thank you so much. 891 00:39:45,759 --> 00:39:47,719 Look! There's a dishwasher! 892 00:39:48,679 --> 00:39:50,431 Okay, calm down. 893 00:39:50,431 --> 00:39:52,850 - You don't need to calm down. - There's a dishwasher! 894 00:39:52,850 --> 00:39:55,477 You don't need to calm down. Scream at the dishwasher! 895 00:39:55,477 --> 00:39:57,688 - Yeah! - Oh my goodness! 896 00:39:57,688 --> 00:39:59,690 Oh! 897 00:39:59,690 --> 00:40:02,025 Shrimp étouffée. 898 00:40:02,025 --> 00:40:05,529 [Antoni] I love storing food. After a long day, and you're like, 899 00:40:05,529 --> 00:40:08,782 "Peanut butter and jelly sandwich or shrimp étouffée?" 900 00:40:08,782 --> 00:40:13,078 And after we're all gone, and you're left with your feelings, 901 00:40:13,078 --> 00:40:16,373 I thought it would be nice if you did something nice and meditative. 902 00:40:16,373 --> 00:40:19,543 You can make your shrimp étouffée and think about what the week was like, 903 00:40:19,543 --> 00:40:21,503 and you can have a moment for yourself. 904 00:40:21,503 --> 00:40:23,922 I know how I felt when we were at the restaurant, 905 00:40:23,922 --> 00:40:27,259 and we cooked this for the first time. I know what that did for me. 906 00:40:27,259 --> 00:40:30,012 Cooking through trauma. That transformed me. 907 00:40:30,012 --> 00:40:31,638 Not gonna solve everything immediately. 908 00:40:31,638 --> 00:40:33,432 - I know. - But it's a tool, right? 909 00:40:33,432 --> 00:40:36,852 - [Mary] Cooking through trauma. - Yes. Cooking through trauma. 910 00:40:38,437 --> 00:40:42,107 [Tan] There's so much beautiful stuff here that I can't wait to show you. 911 00:40:42,107 --> 00:40:44,693 So the jewelry is mostly yours. 912 00:40:44,693 --> 00:40:47,529 Even if all you did was stack the bangles, 913 00:40:47,529 --> 00:40:50,449 it really is a beautiful way to complement any outfit. 914 00:40:50,449 --> 00:40:53,827 The most important thing in here for me is this. 915 00:40:54,786 --> 00:40:58,790 You mentioned there was a red dress that you wore when you were younger. 916 00:40:58,790 --> 00:41:01,960 - This is a modern take on that dress. - [Mary] Yes. 917 00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,463 I hope you feel just as gorgeous in this as you did in that. 918 00:41:04,463 --> 00:41:05,380 Yes. 919 00:41:05,380 --> 00:41:08,050 Now, because you had a lot of African-inspired clothing 920 00:41:08,050 --> 00:41:09,384 in your closet already, 921 00:41:09,384 --> 00:41:14,097 we wanted to go with bold prints that feel almost reminiscent of that. 922 00:41:14,097 --> 00:41:16,517 Ready to get dressed? I wanna put you in something different. 923 00:41:16,517 --> 00:41:17,559 - Yes. - Okay, great. 924 00:41:18,769 --> 00:41:20,187 Kids, we ready? 925 00:41:20,187 --> 00:41:21,355 - Yeah. - Yes. 926 00:41:21,355 --> 00:41:23,440 Ms. Mary, would you join me, please? 927 00:41:25,442 --> 00:41:29,363 ♪ Because I'm rolling, rolling... ♪ 928 00:41:29,363 --> 00:41:30,989 [Bobby] I love this. 929 00:41:30,989 --> 00:41:33,283 [Jonathan] Mare! 930 00:41:33,283 --> 00:41:35,452 - Oh my God. - [Karamo] Mary! 931 00:41:35,452 --> 00:41:36,787 [Tan] She's feeling herself. 932 00:41:36,787 --> 00:41:39,456 Tan, you really gave her, like, maximalist. 933 00:41:39,456 --> 00:41:41,416 - Yes! - [laughs] 934 00:41:42,292 --> 00:41:44,461 [Tan] The prints she had in her closet were gorgeous. 935 00:41:44,461 --> 00:41:46,380 We wanted to give a modern take of it, 936 00:41:46,380 --> 00:41:50,008 and also, she's looking real regal, and I wanted to really give regal. 937 00:41:50,008 --> 00:41:51,593 - Look how she's standing. - [Tan] I know. 938 00:41:51,593 --> 00:41:55,973 Well, even though this is very chic and ladylike and regal, 939 00:41:55,973 --> 00:41:57,266 but I feel powerful. 940 00:41:57,266 --> 00:41:58,183 Yeah. 941 00:41:58,183 --> 00:42:00,227 Over the past 12 and a half years, 942 00:42:00,727 --> 00:42:04,356 I've been made to feel like, you know, "Hold your head down." 943 00:42:04,356 --> 00:42:06,692 - [Tan] Stifled. - And, yeah, that kind of thing. 944 00:42:06,692 --> 00:42:10,153 "What are you looking at, inmate?" You know, so you hold your head down. 945 00:42:10,153 --> 00:42:12,489 But it's like, "I'm looking at you." 946 00:42:12,489 --> 00:42:13,532 - Okay! - [Tan] Yeah! 947 00:42:13,532 --> 00:42:14,866 And I'm sizzling. 948 00:42:15,367 --> 00:42:16,493 Ah! 949 00:42:16,493 --> 00:42:18,579 [Bobby] Ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay, ay! 950 00:42:18,579 --> 00:42:19,580 Yes, Mary. 951 00:42:19,580 --> 00:42:20,956 Next look, please. 952 00:42:20,956 --> 00:42:22,541 - Thanks, kids. - [Mary] Be right back. 953 00:42:26,628 --> 00:42:28,672 Be quiet when you come in. Don't be too loud. 954 00:42:28,672 --> 00:42:30,924 - We don't want her to know you're here. - Hi! 955 00:42:30,924 --> 00:42:33,218 - Hey, everybody. - [Bobby] Hey, Anthony, man. 956 00:42:33,218 --> 00:42:35,387 What's up? Have a seat. 957 00:42:36,179 --> 00:42:38,098 [Antoni] I saw that coming from a mile. 958 00:42:38,098 --> 00:42:39,141 [Tan] Okay, kids. 959 00:42:39,141 --> 00:42:41,393 Our gorgeous Mary. 960 00:42:43,145 --> 00:42:44,980 Yes! 961 00:42:44,980 --> 00:42:45,939 Oh! 962 00:42:45,939 --> 00:42:47,941 [all laughing] 963 00:42:48,525 --> 00:42:50,360 This is beautiful. 964 00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,070 [Karamo] Look at how gorgeous she looks! 965 00:42:52,070 --> 00:42:54,656 - [Anthony] She looks beautiful. - [Karamo] Right? 966 00:42:54,656 --> 00:42:56,825 - [Antoni] Isn't she a stunner? - [Mary] What you... 967 00:42:56,825 --> 00:42:58,160 [laughs] 968 00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,579 [Anthony] You look magnificent. 969 00:43:00,579 --> 00:43:02,205 Beautiful. 970 00:43:02,205 --> 00:43:04,041 - Excuse me one second. - Look at her smile. 971 00:43:04,625 --> 00:43:06,543 - Her eyes are smiling. - [Jonathan] Right? 972 00:43:07,544 --> 00:43:11,423 - I feel so beautiful. - [Anthony] Your eyes are sparkling. 973 00:43:11,423 --> 00:43:14,176 - Like years have been lifted. - [Tan] Yeah. 974 00:43:14,176 --> 00:43:18,180 I've not seen you this coy and shy like a little... Who are you? 975 00:43:18,180 --> 00:43:20,098 I know. I know. 976 00:43:20,098 --> 00:43:21,767 {\an8}What's going on out here? Hey. Hey. 977 00:43:21,767 --> 00:43:23,727 {\an8}How you doing? Karamo. Nice to meet you. 978 00:43:23,727 --> 00:43:26,396 - [Jonathan] We love Mary. - Absolutely gorgeous. 979 00:43:26,396 --> 00:43:27,981 - Isn't she? - [Anthony] Yes. 980 00:43:28,565 --> 00:43:31,652 So I'm about to go get your mama right now so she's surprised. 981 00:43:31,652 --> 00:43:32,944 I'll see y'all in a second. 982 00:43:33,695 --> 00:43:35,822 - [boy] My heart's beating. - Why is your heart beating? 983 00:43:35,822 --> 00:43:37,824 - Are you nervous? - Yes, I'm nervous. 984 00:43:37,824 --> 00:43:40,035 [Karamo] We have one more surprise. Come with me. 985 00:43:40,035 --> 00:43:41,995 - [Bobby] Okay. - [Mary] Outside? 986 00:43:42,871 --> 00:43:44,122 Here we go. Here we go. 987 00:43:45,832 --> 00:43:46,875 Who got on heels? 988 00:43:48,335 --> 00:43:52,172 - Oh my goodness! - [man] Stop it! Stop it! 989 00:43:52,172 --> 00:43:54,174 - Look who's there! - [man] Who in the-- 990 00:43:54,174 --> 00:43:56,218 {\an8}I'll go first. Excuse me. Excuse me. 991 00:43:56,218 --> 00:43:57,928 {\an8}[laughing] 992 00:44:00,555 --> 00:44:02,599 - [Mary] Hey. - [David] The shoes! 993 00:44:02,599 --> 00:44:04,267 [Mary laughing] 994 00:44:05,519 --> 00:44:07,604 {\an8}You look so pretty. You look so pretty. 995 00:44:08,313 --> 00:44:10,023 [boy] I like your shoes, Grandma Mary. 996 00:44:10,023 --> 00:44:11,316 Thank you. 997 00:44:12,609 --> 00:44:15,278 This is your son? And this your daughter! 998 00:44:15,278 --> 00:44:16,363 - Yes. - Oh my God. 999 00:44:16,363 --> 00:44:18,782 Look how big they are! 1000 00:44:18,782 --> 00:44:21,660 {\an8}Mary has finally gotten to a place where she can forgive herself, 1001 00:44:21,660 --> 00:44:23,870 {\an8}and now she can ask her kids for forgiveness. 1002 00:44:23,870 --> 00:44:26,164 {\an8}[Taquilla] I've never group-hugged my mom before. 1003 00:44:26,164 --> 00:44:29,167 It's time for her to actually do the work so she can heal her family 1004 00:44:29,167 --> 00:44:31,712 and create a legacy that is strong and vibrant. 1005 00:44:31,712 --> 00:44:34,131 [Mary] This week has been a new birth. 1006 00:44:34,131 --> 00:44:39,302 I'm not gonna say the old Mary has died because she's still there, 1007 00:44:39,302 --> 00:44:43,849 but I have hugged more in this past week 1008 00:44:43,849 --> 00:44:47,477 than I have hugged in over 20 years. 1009 00:44:47,477 --> 00:44:49,855 - [Tan] Yes. - [Mary] You have opened my soul. 1010 00:44:50,522 --> 00:44:51,773 My soul. 1011 00:44:52,774 --> 00:44:55,819 And you've given me and all these people behind me 1012 00:44:55,819 --> 00:44:57,571 another opportunity. 1013 00:44:57,571 --> 00:44:59,614 Man, you guys have changed my world. 1014 00:45:01,742 --> 00:45:04,244 - Thank you so much. - Thank you. 1015 00:45:04,244 --> 00:45:07,497 My shrimp étouffée. 1016 00:45:08,373 --> 00:45:10,459 - [Tan] And on that note... - On that note, we love you. 1017 00:45:10,459 --> 00:45:11,668 - Y'all have fun. - [Bobby] Bye. 1018 00:45:11,668 --> 00:45:13,044 Bye. 1019 00:45:13,044 --> 00:45:14,963 - [Anthony] Thank you so much. - Bye, everyone. 1020 00:45:14,963 --> 00:45:16,965 Bye. 1021 00:45:16,965 --> 00:45:18,800 Oh. 1022 00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:20,302 The Fab Five. 1023 00:45:20,302 --> 00:45:22,804 - [horn honks] - [Mary] Are you ready to go inside? 1024 00:45:23,472 --> 00:45:26,057 Welcome to my home. 1025 00:45:26,057 --> 00:45:27,476 Oh my goodness! 1026 00:45:27,476 --> 00:45:30,270 - This is beautiful. - [chuckles] 1027 00:45:30,270 --> 00:45:33,607 This is beyond cr-- Y'all don't underst-- It's beautiful. 1028 00:45:33,607 --> 00:45:36,067 - [Jamar] Look at these shoes. - [David] I'm tripping on that! 1029 00:45:36,067 --> 00:45:37,110 [chuckles] 1030 00:45:37,110 --> 00:45:41,072 [Mary] Hey, guys, sit down for a second. Mama needs to tell you something, okay? 1031 00:45:41,072 --> 00:45:45,702 Um, I learned a lot this week about myself for real. 1032 00:45:46,203 --> 00:45:50,582 And I was reading Junior's letter, the last letter that he sent me. 1033 00:45:50,582 --> 00:45:54,795 He said, "Well, Mom, you didn't teach me love and emotions," 1034 00:45:54,795 --> 00:45:57,422 and I know you needed a certain love from me. 1035 00:45:58,131 --> 00:46:01,635 I didn't know how to give that to you. I didn't know love. 1036 00:46:03,386 --> 00:46:05,430 - I didn't know. - Makes a big difference. 1037 00:46:05,430 --> 00:46:08,225 I kinda had a detachment. 1038 00:46:08,225 --> 00:46:10,769 And then, when I got out of prison, 1039 00:46:10,769 --> 00:46:15,023 I felt like you guys would feel shame of me 1040 00:46:15,023 --> 00:46:16,650 because I had been to prison, 1041 00:46:16,650 --> 00:46:18,860 so I just stayed away. 1042 00:46:19,945 --> 00:46:24,241 I'm really sorry for not being able to give you the love, 1043 00:46:24,241 --> 00:46:27,744 to be able to show you guys what love is. 1044 00:46:28,411 --> 00:46:31,081 - Right. - We have to break that cycle. 1045 00:46:32,290 --> 00:46:33,500 We have to break it. 1046 00:46:34,376 --> 00:46:36,795 [David] I appreciate you, you know, putting that on the table 1047 00:46:37,295 --> 00:46:39,381 'cause it's a great first step. 1048 00:46:39,965 --> 00:46:43,301 Bring everybody together, put this whole thing behind us, 1049 00:46:43,301 --> 00:46:46,638 and really start to move in a positive direction. 1050 00:46:47,430 --> 00:46:51,184 - I've been proud of you this whole time. - Thank you. 1051 00:46:51,184 --> 00:46:54,271 The work that you've been doing for yourself, that's what I'm watching. 1052 00:46:56,481 --> 00:46:58,275 But I know this is the beginning, so... 1053 00:46:59,025 --> 00:47:00,026 Thank you. 1054 00:47:00,026 --> 00:47:02,195 - I love you. - [Jamar] And I love you back. 1055 00:47:02,195 --> 00:47:04,573 [breathes deeply] 1056 00:47:04,573 --> 00:47:07,993 - [voice breaking] I'm so proud of you. - I'm real proud of you too. 1057 00:47:08,535 --> 00:47:13,790 [Mary] So, hopefully, this won't be your last time here, you know? 1058 00:47:13,790 --> 00:47:15,083 [Taquilla] No, definitely not. 1059 00:47:15,083 --> 00:47:19,004 - [Mary] I'm so happy to see the baby. - [David] I'll work on my emotions later. 1060 00:47:19,004 --> 00:47:20,505 [Mary chuckles] 1061 00:47:20,505 --> 00:47:23,216 - Well, have you had any shrimp étouffée? - [Taquilla] I have not. 1062 00:47:23,884 --> 00:47:25,760 [Mary] Come on. Let's go feed everybody. 1063 00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:27,721 [Taquilla] The smell? Definitely. 1064 00:47:27,721 --> 00:47:29,347 [laughing] 1065 00:47:29,347 --> 00:47:30,807 We have done well. 1066 00:47:31,516 --> 00:47:35,854 We are going to have some shrimp étouffée. 1067 00:47:37,147 --> 00:47:38,773 [Anthony] This is really delicious. 1068 00:47:38,773 --> 00:47:39,858 [girl] This is good. 1069 00:47:40,775 --> 00:47:44,362 There was all this time lost. It's so easy to get caught up on the past. 1070 00:47:44,946 --> 00:47:48,283 But she doesn't seem to hold any bitterness or resentment. 1071 00:47:48,283 --> 00:47:51,620 She's excited about the now, and she's hopeful for the future. 1072 00:47:51,620 --> 00:47:53,246 I think that's a lesson for all of us. 1073 00:47:53,246 --> 00:47:56,041 [laughs] You ain't got rhythm! 1074 00:47:56,041 --> 00:47:57,709 [laughing] 1075 00:47:57,709 --> 00:48:00,587 Mary teaches us that our trauma doesn't define us, 1076 00:48:00,587 --> 00:48:03,173 and no matter what we go through, we are capable 1077 00:48:03,173 --> 00:48:06,885 of healing, love, joy, and community. 1078 00:48:06,885 --> 00:48:08,303 And that's what life's about. 1079 00:48:10,055 --> 00:48:12,057 [smooth music plays] 1080 00:48:12,724 --> 00:48:13,725 [squeak] 1081 00:48:14,643 --> 00:48:15,477 [squeak] 1082 00:48:15,477 --> 00:48:17,938 Got a squeak that makes you tweak? 1083 00:48:17,938 --> 00:48:20,774 Don't recoil. Get some olive oil. 1084 00:48:26,780 --> 00:48:28,198 See? No more squeak. 1085 00:48:28,198 --> 00:48:29,824 [door squeaking] 1086 00:48:29,824 --> 00:48:31,993 [jazzy music plays] 1087 00:48:38,500 --> 00:48:39,918 ♪ I know I got my man ♪ 1088 00:48:40,794 --> 00:48:44,547 {\an8}♪ But sometimes It feels like he's holding me down ♪ 1089 00:48:45,340 --> 00:48:48,385 {\an8}♪ Your love feels like an ocean ♪ 1090 00:48:48,385 --> 00:48:50,428 ♪ And I try to walk ♪ 1091 00:48:50,428 --> 00:48:52,639 ♪ Walk on water ♪ 1092 00:48:52,639 --> 00:48:54,766 ♪ But the waves keep crashing ♪ 1093 00:48:54,766 --> 00:48:56,977 ♪ The waves keep crashing ♪ 1094 00:48:56,977 --> 00:49:00,563 ♪ Now I'mma need someone to rescue me ♪ 1095 00:49:00,563 --> 00:49:03,733 ♪ Your love feels like a mountain ♪ 1096 00:49:03,733 --> 00:49:05,652 ♪ I keep climbing ♪ 1097 00:49:05,652 --> 00:49:07,529 ♪ Climbing higher ♪ 1098 00:49:08,446 --> 00:49:12,158 ♪ Clouds keep coming ♪ 1099 00:49:12,158 --> 00:49:15,704 ♪ I can't see Someone save me, please ♪