1 00:00:01,102 --> 00:00:02,334 [girl] previously on unexpected... 2 00:00:02,403 --> 00:00:03,902 [lilly] I'm gonna miss you. 3 00:00:03,904 --> 00:00:06,505 You know you gotta go be a momma on your own. 4 00:00:06,507 --> 00:00:09,408 [lilly] my mom has taught m everything I know 5 00:00:09,410 --> 00:00:11,010 about being a mom. 6 00:00:11,012 --> 00:00:13,612 And now I'm not gonna have her there all the time. 7 00:00:13,614 --> 00:00:15,047 There's no eating in the living room. 8 00:00:16,751 --> 00:00:19,018 [lilly] please listen, baby. 9 00:00:19,020 --> 00:00:22,354 I didn't move to not have no authority in the house. 10 00:00:24,959 --> 00:00:27,059 [emersyn speaking] 11 00:00:27,061 --> 00:00:28,594 [emersyn] my mom has a lot of rules. 12 00:00:28,596 --> 00:00:30,462 Mason has to stay downstairs 13 00:00:30,564 --> 00:00:32,231 and, like, can't sleep in the same bed. 14 00:00:32,233 --> 00:00:33,399 And enough is enough. 15 00:00:33,401 --> 00:00:34,933 [emersyn speaking] 16 00:00:35,703 --> 00:00:38,437 oh! Oh! Hold on. I got a text. 17 00:00:38,539 --> 00:00:39,538 We got a baby! 18 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:42,541 -[baby crying] -[tiarra speaking] 19 00:00:42,610 --> 00:00:44,209 I don't really remember most of it... 20 00:00:44,211 --> 00:00:47,746 [tiarra speaking] 21 00:00:49,917 --> 00:00:52,051 jason, hurry up. You gotta go, dude. 22 00:00:52,053 --> 00:00:54,319 She's ready to give birth, like, any moment. 23 00:00:54,321 --> 00:00:56,855 [jason speaking] 24 00:00:56,924 --> 00:01:00,526 our birth plan is to not use any medication, 25 00:01:00,528 --> 00:01:02,428 but I don't do well with pai 26 00:01:21,615 --> 00:01:22,714 [woman speaking] 27 00:01:22,716 --> 00:01:24,049 [kylen speaking] 28 00:01:24,051 --> 00:01:26,852 [rebecca] oh. Come on in. 29 00:01:26,921 --> 00:01:28,620 [kylen] we just got to the birth center 30 00:01:28,622 --> 00:01:32,558 and I've been in labor pretty much the whole night 31 00:01:32,626 --> 00:01:37,229 and we're hoping that xavier will be here today. 32 00:01:37,231 --> 00:01:39,698 I'm hoping it's gonna go smoothly 33 00:01:39,700 --> 00:01:41,400 and be done 34 00:01:42,503 --> 00:01:43,902 quick and easy. 35 00:01:45,806 --> 00:01:47,239 So, I think that what we're gonna do 36 00:01:47,241 --> 00:01:50,109 is admit you for labor and we're gonna do a labor assessment. 37 00:01:50,111 --> 00:01:53,112 -Okay. -And we'll just kind of see how things go-- 38 00:01:53,114 --> 00:01:54,213 [kylen speaking] 39 00:01:54,215 --> 00:01:55,848 -[chuckles] -[rebecca] all right. 40 00:01:55,949 --> 00:01:58,050 I feel good about being at the birth center. 41 00:01:58,118 --> 00:02:00,552 It's just a way more comfortable environment 42 00:02:00,654 --> 00:02:03,355 to have a baby, better than the hospital would have been. 43 00:02:03,824 --> 00:02:05,124 [jason speaking] 44 00:02:05,126 --> 00:02:07,726 ...With, like, decisions on xavier and stuff. 45 00:02:08,829 --> 00:02:11,130 Which will be good because 46 00:02:11,132 --> 00:02:13,932 jason does not like to not be involved. 47 00:02:13,934 --> 00:02:16,201 He wants to be involved in everything. 48 00:02:16,804 --> 00:02:17,703 Exactly. 49 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,340 [rebecca speaking] 50 00:02:26,046 --> 00:02:28,714 kylen is 41 weeks and six days pregnant today. 51 00:02:28,716 --> 00:02:29,915 And, um, 52 00:02:29,917 --> 00:02:31,950 she's in labor, I think. 53 00:02:31,952 --> 00:02:33,952 [woman speaking] 54 00:02:36,757 --> 00:02:38,524 so, we're just gonna keep an eye on things 55 00:02:38,526 --> 00:02:40,726 and try and make her as comfortable as possible. 56 00:02:40,728 --> 00:02:42,161 And, um, get 57 00:02:42,262 --> 00:02:43,962 things going for this labor. 58 00:02:44,031 --> 00:02:47,032 [jason speaking] 59 00:02:47,501 --> 00:02:48,800 [rebecca speaking] 60 00:02:50,337 --> 00:02:52,304 -[jason speaking] -yeah. 61 00:02:58,812 --> 00:03:01,713 I'm delivering the baby. I'm super excited about that. 62 00:03:01,715 --> 00:03:04,049 I'm a little nervous that he might pass out. 63 00:03:05,719 --> 00:03:07,219 What if you pass out? 64 00:03:07,221 --> 00:03:10,122 I'm not... Well, the only reason why I'd pass out 65 00:03:10,124 --> 00:03:11,323 is because of pain. 66 00:03:12,293 --> 00:03:15,327 'cause I don't... He knows I don't do good with pain. 67 00:03:15,329 --> 00:03:17,529 Yeah, but you haven't felt any pain, like, 68 00:03:17,531 --> 00:03:20,299 bad this, like, whole pregnancy 69 00:03:20,301 --> 00:03:22,301 until the contractions started last night. 70 00:03:22,937 --> 00:03:23,902 Okay. 71 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:26,605 Perfect. 72 00:03:26,607 --> 00:03:28,607 [rebecca speaking] 73 00:03:29,810 --> 00:03:30,943 okay. 74 00:03:31,545 --> 00:03:32,511 [kylen speaking] 75 00:03:35,149 --> 00:03:36,615 [jason speaking] 76 00:03:45,626 --> 00:03:48,327 our birth plan is to do a water birth. 77 00:03:48,796 --> 00:03:50,429 I just think that 78 00:03:51,265 --> 00:03:54,299 it's a lot more smoother process. 79 00:03:54,301 --> 00:03:56,301 And I think it helps with pa 80 00:03:56,303 --> 00:03:58,837 which is good because I'm very nervous 81 00:03:58,906 --> 00:04:01,006 to give birth without the epidural. 82 00:04:01,508 --> 00:04:02,341 But... 83 00:04:02,810 --> 00:04:04,142 [kylen speaking] 84 00:04:04,545 --> 00:04:05,444 yeah. 85 00:04:06,046 --> 00:04:06,945 [jason speaking] 86 00:04:12,319 --> 00:04:13,752 and I don't support that. 87 00:04:18,959 --> 00:04:20,826 Yeah, let's... 88 00:04:20,828 --> 00:04:23,262 So, you know when we get out about four or six centimeters, 89 00:04:23,330 --> 00:04:26,231 because that can slow labor down, so we're kind of like, 90 00:04:26,233 --> 00:04:28,133 trying to estimate where you are. 91 00:04:28,235 --> 00:04:30,402 When you think it's okay to get in... 92 00:04:30,404 --> 00:04:32,804 [rebecca speaking] 93 00:04:32,806 --> 00:04:33,939 give you kind of a spa. 94 00:04:34,808 --> 00:04:35,874 I'll be right back. 95 00:04:37,244 --> 00:04:39,311 Usually we recommend that people get into the tub 96 00:04:39,313 --> 00:04:41,513 once they're past six centimeters. 97 00:04:41,515 --> 00:04:45,017 But she has asked for no cervical exams. 98 00:04:45,019 --> 00:04:48,120 So, there's no way for me to know that she's past six centimeters. 99 00:04:48,122 --> 00:04:50,355 But because of her contraction pattern, 100 00:04:50,424 --> 00:04:51,823 that would be my estimate. 101 00:04:54,094 --> 00:04:55,327 Ow. 102 00:04:55,329 --> 00:04:57,562 -Don't. -I'm trying to make you push, bud. 103 00:04:58,932 --> 00:05:02,000 We're gonna be here till [bleep] tomorrow. 104 00:05:02,603 --> 00:05:04,736 Ow. 105 00:05:05,939 --> 00:05:07,239 [jason speaking] 106 00:05:08,042 --> 00:05:09,041 [woman speaking] 107 00:05:17,418 --> 00:05:18,517 [kylen speaking] 108 00:05:20,321 --> 00:05:21,753 I don't know. 109 00:05:21,822 --> 00:05:24,323 Okay, I'll let you guys have some privacy to talk about it. 110 00:05:24,325 --> 00:05:26,825 No pressure to discuss it while I'm here. 111 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:34,700 Then... Tell me. 112 00:05:36,103 --> 00:05:37,402 -[kylen groans] -yeah. 113 00:05:37,404 --> 00:05:40,405 [continues groaning] 114 00:05:40,407 --> 00:05:41,707 it's not out of the norm at all 115 00:05:41,709 --> 00:05:43,008 for us to have young 116 00:05:43,010 --> 00:05:45,944 and teenage couples in our care. 117 00:05:46,046 --> 00:05:48,413 It does present its own 118 00:05:48,415 --> 00:05:49,815 special set of circumstances 119 00:05:49,817 --> 00:05:51,216 especially with teenage parents 120 00:05:51,218 --> 00:05:53,151 who are both not on the same page. 121 00:05:53,253 --> 00:05:54,252 [rebecca] definitely 122 00:05:54,354 --> 00:05:56,321 the people who are most successful 123 00:05:56,323 --> 00:05:59,424 are people who have their plans laid out. 124 00:05:59,426 --> 00:06:01,126 But who are also flexible enough 125 00:06:01,128 --> 00:06:03,228 to change those if the... 126 00:06:03,230 --> 00:06:05,630 Um, if the landscape changes 127 00:06:05,632 --> 00:06:07,132 of their labor. 128 00:06:08,335 --> 00:06:09,935 [groans] 129 00:06:19,513 --> 00:06:21,513 [phone vibrating] 130 00:06:22,516 --> 00:06:24,149 [tiarra] I just came out from a c-section. 131 00:06:24,251 --> 00:06:26,518 I've been resting and in recovery for a few hours 132 00:06:27,354 --> 00:06:29,521 my incision is still very, very sore. 133 00:06:29,523 --> 00:06:32,023 So, every time I need to get the baby, 134 00:06:32,025 --> 00:06:34,626 I need dee to hand her to me or if I need a diaper, 135 00:06:34,628 --> 00:06:36,495 I still have to ask dee to get it 136 00:06:36,497 --> 00:06:38,330 because it's hard to get out of bed. 137 00:06:38,332 --> 00:06:39,731 So I can't wait for that to go away. 138 00:06:42,136 --> 00:06:45,604 -We get to see sissy. You ready? -[ella] yeah. 139 00:06:45,606 --> 00:06:48,407 [melissa] aw, there's mommy. Her been crying. 140 00:06:48,409 --> 00:06:49,508 I don't have her yet. 141 00:06:50,210 --> 00:06:53,345 [ella speaking] 142 00:06:53,447 --> 00:06:55,947 -[tiarra] yep. You wanna see her? -Yes. 143 00:06:58,152 --> 00:07:00,852 [melissa gasps] oh! Ella, she looks like you! 144 00:07:00,954 --> 00:07:02,320 [laughing] 145 00:07:04,124 --> 00:07:06,124 she's so cute. 146 00:07:08,929 --> 00:07:11,830 Ensley is so [bleep]... Oh, freaking cute. 147 00:07:11,832 --> 00:07:13,131 Oh, she's so cute. 148 00:07:15,102 --> 00:07:17,402 Almost said a bad word 'cause she was so effing cute. 149 00:07:17,404 --> 00:07:21,673 But I feel like I shouldn't describe her with a bad word. 150 00:07:21,675 --> 00:07:24,009 Even though she's gonna be tiarra's wild child. 151 00:07:24,011 --> 00:07:25,510 You could just tell on ensley's face. 152 00:07:25,512 --> 00:07:27,846 The faces that she makes, you could just tell 153 00:07:27,915 --> 00:07:29,748 she's gonna put tiarra through hell. 154 00:07:31,118 --> 00:07:32,651 [melissa] she looks like you ella. 155 00:07:32,719 --> 00:07:35,720 All but mommy's nose. Look at her, so pretty. 156 00:07:37,124 --> 00:07:38,657 She looks like a little baby doll. 157 00:07:38,725 --> 00:07:40,959 She's just laying there, sleeping. 158 00:07:41,028 --> 00:07:43,862 She looks fake and tiarra's over there drugged up. 159 00:07:45,332 --> 00:07:47,499 I don't know what kind of drugs she was on, but... 160 00:07:48,602 --> 00:07:49,434 [tyra chuckles] 161 00:07:50,137 --> 00:07:51,102 [melissa] how do you feel? 162 00:07:56,310 --> 00:07:57,409 I don't remember anything. 163 00:07:57,411 --> 00:07:59,044 I go back and watch videos that I have on my phone 164 00:07:59,046 --> 00:08:01,413 and I was just in there just talking to myself in the camera 165 00:08:01,415 --> 00:08:02,914 like, I was on facetime with somebody. 166 00:08:02,916 --> 00:08:04,816 [laughing] 167 00:08:05,419 --> 00:08:07,219 look how pretty. 168 00:08:07,221 --> 00:08:08,520 You wanna give her a kiss? 169 00:08:08,522 --> 00:08:10,522 -Yeah. -Give her a kiss. 170 00:08:10,524 --> 00:08:14,726 Mimi's gonna cry. Look how pretty her ears are, tiarra. 171 00:08:14,728 --> 00:08:16,228 This is ensley joanne ragland. 172 00:08:16,230 --> 00:08:18,630 She was born July 21st. 173 00:08:18,632 --> 00:08:23,101 She was seven pounds and 19 inches long. 174 00:08:23,103 --> 00:08:26,104 I'm nervous for how ella will be around ensley 175 00:08:26,106 --> 00:08:27,205 when we bring her home 176 00:08:27,574 --> 00:08:29,140 just because 177 00:08:29,209 --> 00:08:32,344 it's been just her for a while. 178 00:08:32,412 --> 00:08:34,312 And she hasn't really been around 179 00:08:34,748 --> 00:08:36,515 newborns, so... 180 00:08:37,818 --> 00:08:39,451 I don't know what to expect. 181 00:08:39,553 --> 00:08:41,820 She could be good or she could be bad, it does... 182 00:08:41,822 --> 00:08:43,121 It could go either way. 183 00:08:43,123 --> 00:08:45,123 -I miss you. -[ella] I miss you. 184 00:08:45,125 --> 00:08:46,825 [tiarra] just a couple of days, I'll be there. 185 00:08:48,128 --> 00:08:51,730 [ella speaking] 186 00:08:51,732 --> 00:08:53,865 she's gonna let me hold her when you get here. 187 00:08:53,934 --> 00:08:55,100 Because I had a c-section 188 00:08:55,102 --> 00:08:57,102 I have to stay in the hospital a little bit longer 189 00:08:57,104 --> 00:08:58,703 because of the healing process. 190 00:08:58,705 --> 00:09:00,739 And after you have a c-section, 191 00:09:00,807 --> 00:09:03,408 it's really hard to do everything basically. 192 00:09:03,410 --> 00:09:06,711 Like, siting up hurts, coughing, sneezing. 193 00:09:06,713 --> 00:09:08,947 Like, literally everything. It's like you have to 194 00:09:08,949 --> 00:09:11,016 learn how to do it again almost. 195 00:09:11,018 --> 00:09:13,618 So, I'm glad I have my mom and marilyn watching ella 196 00:09:13,620 --> 00:09:16,021 because I could not possibl deal with a two-year-old right now. 197 00:09:16,523 --> 00:09:17,689 We're... 198 00:09:19,660 --> 00:09:21,359 -I'm sorry. -No, you're good. That didn't hurt. 199 00:09:22,429 --> 00:09:23,762 Uh-oh. You hear her cry? 200 00:09:26,700 --> 00:09:29,334 -[tiarra] I know. -Oh, I can't wait to hold her. 201 00:09:29,336 --> 00:09:32,304 Tyra and layla plan to come out in a couple of days, 202 00:09:32,306 --> 00:09:34,706 so she can help out with ella and see ensley. 203 00:09:34,708 --> 00:09:37,509 This will be our first time seeing each other in person since our fight. 204 00:09:46,420 --> 00:09:48,453 If something happens to her baby, 205 00:09:48,555 --> 00:09:51,256 you just know, it's your goddamn fault. 206 00:09:53,961 --> 00:09:55,160 [tiarra] I hope that 207 00:09:55,261 --> 00:09:57,429 whenever tyra comes, there's no drama. 208 00:09:57,431 --> 00:10:01,099 Because I'm going to be sore dealing with my c-section, 209 00:10:01,101 --> 00:10:02,801 a baby and a toddler. 210 00:10:02,803 --> 00:10:04,002 So, I'm hoping, like, 211 00:10:04,004 --> 00:10:06,638 I don't have to deal with any of tyra's crap. 212 00:10:06,740 --> 00:10:10,075 -[ensley crying] -all right, I love you bunches, okay, baby? 213 00:10:10,077 --> 00:10:12,711 -Say, "call me later." -call me later. 214 00:10:12,713 --> 00:10:15,714 -Say, "I love you so much." -I love you so much. 215 00:10:15,716 --> 00:10:18,316 Happy birthday, ej, I love you. 216 00:10:18,318 --> 00:10:20,919 Facetiming with my mom and sister to show them ensley 217 00:10:20,921 --> 00:10:22,821 was good in a way because 218 00:10:22,823 --> 00:10:24,222 I didn't have to deal with, like, 219 00:10:24,224 --> 00:10:26,091 all the loud commotion stuff going on. 220 00:10:26,093 --> 00:10:28,460 I could just hang up whenever I was done talking. 221 00:10:28,528 --> 00:10:30,829 I kind of liked it better being the only one in there. 222 00:10:30,831 --> 00:10:32,464 That gave us time to 223 00:10:32,532 --> 00:10:34,099 bond with the baby a little bit more 224 00:10:34,101 --> 00:10:36,635 before dealing with the reality that we have 225 00:10:36,736 --> 00:10:39,104 a toddler on top of a newborn. 226 00:10:39,106 --> 00:10:41,740 [tiarra] I definitely know it's gonna be a lot adding another baby. 227 00:10:45,412 --> 00:10:46,444 Who's that? 228 00:10:46,446 --> 00:10:48,546 Once I get home, everything's a [bleep] mess. 229 00:10:48,648 --> 00:10:50,815 [lilly] so you clean it the [bleep] up then. 230 00:10:50,817 --> 00:10:52,383 What have you been doing all day home by yourself? 231 00:10:52,419 --> 00:10:56,221 Taking care of [bleep] kids, wiping ass, breastfeeding, giving baths, 232 00:10:56,223 --> 00:10:57,922 cooking three meals a [bleep] day. 233 00:10:57,924 --> 00:11:00,925 -What you do is not hard, it's just... -[bleep] you. 234 00:11:00,927 --> 00:11:02,260 Let's make it clear that I said 235 00:11:02,362 --> 00:11:04,362 mason couldn't sleep in the bed with you. 236 00:11:04,431 --> 00:11:05,964 That's why he's not allowed in my house. 237 00:11:06,033 --> 00:11:07,999 Because he's completely disrespectful and rude. 238 00:11:15,342 --> 00:11:18,109 ♪ all is fair in love and war ♪ 239 00:11:18,111 --> 00:11:20,812 ♪ all is fair in love and war ♪ 240 00:11:24,851 --> 00:11:26,351 okay. I'm laying down. 241 00:11:26,420 --> 00:11:28,620 [baby crying] 242 00:11:34,127 --> 00:11:36,528 [erica] when emersyn came ho from the hospital 243 00:11:36,530 --> 00:11:38,296 with the baby and mason, 244 00:11:38,298 --> 00:11:40,265 they were at the house for a few days. 245 00:11:41,134 --> 00:11:42,934 And then she left. 246 00:11:43,036 --> 00:11:45,804 I didn't hear from emersyn for, like, an entire week. 247 00:11:46,339 --> 00:11:47,539 Um, and I come home 248 00:11:47,607 --> 00:11:49,107 and there she is sitting on the couch 249 00:11:49,109 --> 00:11:51,543 like nothing has happened. 250 00:11:51,611 --> 00:11:55,213 I thought you said mason said that you couldn't come back here. 251 00:11:55,215 --> 00:11:57,716 -Huh? -[erica] when I asked you about it, I said, 252 00:11:57,718 --> 00:12:00,719 "do you wanna come back?" and you said mason said no. 253 00:12:00,721 --> 00:12:02,854 He didn't say no, he was just nervous about it. 254 00:12:02,956 --> 00:12:04,322 He didn't want us to, like, fight. 255 00:12:06,426 --> 00:12:10,028 I've been at mason's about a week and a couple of days. 256 00:12:10,430 --> 00:12:11,529 With the baby. 257 00:12:12,232 --> 00:12:14,099 Because after mateo was born 258 00:12:14,101 --> 00:12:17,502 me, mason and him went back to my mom's house. 259 00:12:17,504 --> 00:12:20,205 And the whole time we're on edge a little bit. 260 00:12:20,207 --> 00:12:23,007 Just knowing the rules where he has to stay downstairs 261 00:12:23,009 --> 00:12:25,243 and, like, can't sleep in the same bed. 262 00:12:25,912 --> 00:12:27,045 But we did it anyways. 263 00:12:29,049 --> 00:12:31,216 [emersyn speaking] 264 00:12:31,218 --> 00:12:33,518 -oh, yeah. I'll come back for it. -Come back for it? Okay? 265 00:12:36,123 --> 00:12:37,222 [emersyn speaking] 266 00:12:38,325 --> 00:12:40,058 when she found mason in my bed, 267 00:12:40,060 --> 00:12:42,060 my mom went total ballistic on me. 268 00:12:42,062 --> 00:12:44,529 And said mason's not allowed to come over anymore. 269 00:12:44,531 --> 00:12:46,831 So, I just grabbed what I could 270 00:12:48,335 --> 00:12:49,400 and left. 271 00:12:50,403 --> 00:12:51,803 It's really easy 272 00:12:51,805 --> 00:12:53,204 for you to say we were fighting, 273 00:12:53,206 --> 00:12:55,406 instead of you and mason taking responsibility 274 00:12:55,408 --> 00:12:56,441 for your actions. 275 00:12:57,644 --> 00:12:58,943 Let's make it clear that I said 276 00:12:59,012 --> 00:13:00,912 mason couldn't sleep in the bed with you. 277 00:13:01,748 --> 00:13:03,515 And I caught him sleeping in the bed, 278 00:13:03,517 --> 00:13:05,316 then when I said that cannot happen again 279 00:13:06,153 --> 00:13:08,153 this whole thing went haywire. 280 00:13:09,623 --> 00:13:11,823 -[chuckles] okay. -[baby cooing] 281 00:13:11,825 --> 00:13:14,459 at some point, you have got to take responsibility. 282 00:13:15,929 --> 00:13:17,161 And so does mason. 283 00:13:18,431 --> 00:13:21,032 I had peeked in on emy just to see how she was doing 284 00:13:21,034 --> 00:13:22,700 and I saw him and he, 285 00:13:22,702 --> 00:13:24,202 I mean, just looked right at me and... 286 00:13:25,405 --> 00:13:27,605 Just looked right at me. It was very 287 00:13:27,941 --> 00:13:29,607 cold, like, 288 00:13:29,609 --> 00:13:30,942 I really don't care about the rule. 289 00:13:30,944 --> 00:13:33,511 I'm gonna lay here. I'm gonna snuggle her. 290 00:13:33,513 --> 00:13:36,648 I mean, it was just icy and it really bothered me. 291 00:13:36,716 --> 00:13:39,150 They were horrible, they... [scoffs] 292 00:13:39,219 --> 00:13:40,518 it's kind of a smack in our face. 293 00:13:40,987 --> 00:13:42,253 [sai speaking] 294 00:13:56,403 --> 00:13:58,002 that's why he's not allowed in my house. 295 00:13:58,004 --> 00:14:00,538 Because he's completely disrespectful and rude. 296 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,240 Complete disrespect. 297 00:14:04,511 --> 00:14:06,544 It's just, it's really off putting for me 298 00:14:06,646 --> 00:14:09,380 that I invited that family into my home. 299 00:14:09,382 --> 00:14:11,716 I gave mason all the benefits of the doubts 300 00:14:11,718 --> 00:14:13,685 and now he's saying that he doesn't want you to come here 301 00:14:13,687 --> 00:14:14,819 'cause it's not safe. 302 00:14:17,224 --> 00:14:20,124 I, uh, I didn't want her to go yet 303 00:14:20,126 --> 00:14:23,828 because I want my child to, like, not be around 304 00:14:23,830 --> 00:14:26,097 a lot of yelling and a lot of stress and anxiety, 305 00:14:26,099 --> 00:14:27,398 and same with emersyn. 306 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,434 Especially, when you just had your very first child. 307 00:14:29,502 --> 00:14:31,502 'cause I just want them to feel super safe and all that 308 00:14:31,504 --> 00:14:34,606 and she might have taken that the wrong way. 309 00:14:34,608 --> 00:14:36,608 I didn't mean like, their home's unsafe or anything. 310 00:14:36,610 --> 00:14:37,809 I just meant, like, 311 00:14:37,811 --> 00:14:40,011 I want them to be as 312 00:14:40,013 --> 00:14:41,713 emotionally healthy as possible. 313 00:14:43,149 --> 00:14:44,215 Yeah. 314 00:14:45,318 --> 00:14:47,051 [erica] it's very easy for him to play house 315 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:48,453 at somebody else's home 316 00:14:48,554 --> 00:14:50,088 when you're not paying the bills. 317 00:14:50,090 --> 00:14:52,223 Isn't it? But no, we have rules 318 00:14:52,225 --> 00:14:54,125 and we have guidelines to make a family work. 319 00:14:56,062 --> 00:14:57,228 And then, he's gonna say that 320 00:14:57,230 --> 00:14:59,030 he doesn't feel comfortable with you over here. 321 00:14:59,532 --> 00:15:00,865 Apart from which 322 00:15:00,934 --> 00:15:02,934 ernie pulled up to my driveway 323 00:15:03,003 --> 00:15:05,637 and I told him not to take my daughter, 324 00:15:05,705 --> 00:15:07,205 to come out of the car, 325 00:15:07,207 --> 00:15:09,407 to have a conversation parent-to-parent. 326 00:15:10,710 --> 00:15:12,510 And not let a post-partum mother 327 00:15:12,512 --> 00:15:15,713 who's got an infant, get in the car and... 328 00:15:15,715 --> 00:15:18,449 Make rash decisions like that and he didn't. 329 00:15:18,485 --> 00:15:20,818 He wouldn't even have a conversation with me. 330 00:15:20,820 --> 00:15:23,488 -He pulled off and pretty much just took my child. -[emersyn speaking] 331 00:15:23,490 --> 00:15:25,456 -what? -He didn't take me. 332 00:15:25,558 --> 00:15:27,325 -[erica] he did take you. -It was my decision. 333 00:15:27,327 --> 00:15:28,726 [erica] I stood on the porch and I said, 334 00:15:28,728 --> 00:15:30,428 "don't take my daughter, ernie." 335 00:15:32,732 --> 00:15:34,532 the only thing I was worried about was 336 00:15:35,602 --> 00:15:38,136 mason, emersyn and the baby, 337 00:15:38,237 --> 00:15:41,506 getting them out of there, so everybody could cool down. 338 00:15:41,508 --> 00:15:43,007 But I did leave it up to them. 339 00:15:43,009 --> 00:15:44,809 I mean, I asked emersyn, "you wanna stay? 340 00:15:44,811 --> 00:15:46,110 What do you guys wanna do?" 341 00:15:46,813 --> 00:15:48,613 so, it was their decision 342 00:15:49,416 --> 00:15:51,149 and probably the right decision. 343 00:15:52,285 --> 00:15:55,219 Erica's very high anxiety type. 344 00:15:56,957 --> 00:15:59,057 You know, like, at the point where she was just 345 00:15:59,059 --> 00:16:00,124 out of control. 346 00:16:00,393 --> 00:16:01,459 Um, and... 347 00:16:03,163 --> 00:16:04,429 It freaked me out, 348 00:16:04,431 --> 00:16:07,932 but one thing I learned out of that whole lesson 349 00:16:08,835 --> 00:16:11,102 is there's other crazy families out there. 350 00:16:11,104 --> 00:16:12,303 -[mason chuckles] -you know? 351 00:16:12,305 --> 00:16:14,439 -We're not the only one. -We are not the only ones. 352 00:16:16,309 --> 00:16:19,010 I have huge concerns 353 00:16:19,012 --> 00:16:20,812 about you going over there. 354 00:16:20,814 --> 00:16:22,413 I have been uncomfortable, 355 00:16:22,415 --> 00:16:24,282 I am uneasy about it. 356 00:16:24,284 --> 00:16:27,018 I have to get on my knees and pray every single day. 357 00:16:27,020 --> 00:16:29,654 -[emersyn] that's your choice. -To make sure that you guys are okay. 358 00:16:29,756 --> 00:16:31,856 Because that's the only way that I can make it feel better. 359 00:16:34,027 --> 00:16:34,959 Mason, 360 00:16:35,061 --> 00:16:37,328 you have a mother who's on probation. 361 00:16:37,330 --> 00:16:41,032 She disappeared for days on end on a drug binge. 362 00:16:41,101 --> 00:16:43,601 -Right? -Mom, that was last year. 363 00:16:44,404 --> 00:16:46,504 I'm sorry, but she's 364 00:16:47,707 --> 00:16:49,107 not stable. [chuckles dryly] 365 00:16:49,109 --> 00:16:51,209 you just don't stop, do you? 366 00:16:51,211 --> 00:16:53,111 -No, emy, you need to... -[emersyn speaking] 367 00:16:57,984 --> 00:17:00,551 you need to listen to this, you need to hear this. 368 00:17:01,788 --> 00:17:04,022 She has a different perspective than me completely 369 00:17:05,358 --> 00:17:06,524 'cause she's 370 00:17:07,227 --> 00:17:08,926 on a different side and, like, 371 00:17:08,928 --> 00:17:11,829 she's only heard certain things and, like, 372 00:17:11,831 --> 00:17:15,033 I just feel like if she got to know mason's mom, 373 00:17:15,035 --> 00:17:18,503 I think they could be pretty good friends. 374 00:17:20,740 --> 00:17:22,807 From what I've experienced talking to her 375 00:17:22,809 --> 00:17:24,308 and living with her for, like, a week. 376 00:17:25,612 --> 00:17:26,411 So... 377 00:17:28,648 --> 00:17:30,048 I don't know. 378 00:17:30,116 --> 00:17:32,917 Maybe I seem judgy, but I'm really not being judgy. 379 00:17:32,919 --> 00:17:34,585 I'm saying, you have a woman 380 00:17:34,587 --> 00:17:36,954 who's a drug addict, has abandoned her family. 381 00:17:36,956 --> 00:17:39,424 Why is not somebody stepping up and saying, 382 00:17:39,426 --> 00:17:40,858 "this is crazy. 383 00:17:40,927 --> 00:17:43,861 They need healing. They need proper healing." 384 00:17:43,963 --> 00:17:46,130 and not a bunch of chaos in their house 385 00:17:46,132 --> 00:17:48,299 by bringing emersyn in the middle of it. 386 00:17:48,301 --> 00:17:50,201 Um, by bringing a newborn 387 00:17:50,203 --> 00:17:52,937 in the middle of it, while his mom is in recovery. 388 00:17:53,039 --> 00:17:55,506 It could collapse very, very, very quickly. 389 00:17:56,910 --> 00:17:57,809 [mateo cooing] 390 00:18:00,613 --> 00:18:02,013 no, I ju... [laughs] 391 00:18:02,015 --> 00:18:03,815 -[emersyn speaking] -I just... It hurts my feelings 392 00:18:03,817 --> 00:18:07,085 when you say mason is afraid for you to come back here, 393 00:18:07,087 --> 00:18:09,120 -[erica] versus what... -Because he doesn't want us to fight. 394 00:18:11,624 --> 00:18:14,659 Okay, I'm just saying. I wanna get a clear picture. 395 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,428 Because we have a loving, safe, supportive home for you 396 00:18:17,430 --> 00:18:19,330 with boundaries and rules. 397 00:18:19,332 --> 00:18:22,700 But he's more nervous about you being in your home 398 00:18:22,702 --> 00:18:24,602 than being in their home 399 00:18:24,604 --> 00:18:27,939 with all the circumstances that are going on over there. 400 00:18:28,007 --> 00:18:30,007 [emersyn speaking] 401 00:18:30,009 --> 00:18:31,409 [erica] we have to talk about it. 402 00:18:31,411 --> 00:18:33,344 It's real. This is real life. 403 00:18:34,948 --> 00:18:36,814 [emersyn speaking] 404 00:18:37,517 --> 00:18:38,749 I don't know why she says 405 00:18:38,818 --> 00:18:40,718 -there's no reasoning with me. -[emersyn speaking] 406 00:18:43,623 --> 00:18:44,522 so... 407 00:18:45,058 --> 00:18:47,792 It's hard. 408 00:18:47,794 --> 00:18:50,361 Because she's not getting it. Her little, young mind 409 00:18:50,430 --> 00:18:54,132 is not going, "oh, wait. My mom's coming out of a place of 410 00:18:54,801 --> 00:18:56,367 love." 411 00:18:56,369 --> 00:18:58,936 but she's young and sometimes, 18-year-old's think they're invincible. 412 00:19:00,106 --> 00:19:01,506 And they're not. [chuckles] 413 00:19:11,818 --> 00:19:13,017 [lilly] what's wrong, mister? 414 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:16,120 -[baby cooing] -what's wrong, mister? 415 00:19:17,724 --> 00:19:18,956 Lj. 416 00:19:19,025 --> 00:19:21,359 -I see what you're going to do. -[baby cooing] 417 00:19:22,128 --> 00:19:23,427 get out of here. 418 00:19:23,429 --> 00:19:25,763 Out. Out. Out. 419 00:19:25,832 --> 00:19:29,033 It's been a week since we moved into our new apartment. 420 00:19:29,035 --> 00:19:32,203 And the stress of the move is behind us. 421 00:19:32,205 --> 00:19:35,406 But I'm getting adjusted to a new kind of 422 00:19:35,408 --> 00:19:37,542 mayhem, which is being 423 00:19:37,643 --> 00:19:39,544 alone with my kids 424 00:19:39,645 --> 00:19:40,745 for the first time. 425 00:19:42,515 --> 00:19:43,714 -[aaliyah] mom? -Yeah. 426 00:19:46,419 --> 00:19:48,152 Yes. 427 00:19:48,221 --> 00:19:50,821 Yeah, come on. I'm gonna put your brother in his jumper. 428 00:19:51,824 --> 00:19:53,224 It's really weird 429 00:19:53,226 --> 00:19:55,326 not to have my mom around all the time. 430 00:19:55,762 --> 00:19:57,128 I miss her a lot. 431 00:19:57,130 --> 00:19:58,930 It's really just, like, strange... 432 00:19:58,932 --> 00:20:01,199 All I've ever lived with is my mom. 433 00:20:01,201 --> 00:20:03,734 -Baby. -Okay, he already has something. 434 00:20:03,836 --> 00:20:05,603 Just to not have her here 435 00:20:05,605 --> 00:20:07,138 and know that she's, like, 436 00:20:07,207 --> 00:20:08,739 40 minutes away 437 00:20:08,808 --> 00:20:09,941 is hard to deal with. 438 00:20:11,611 --> 00:20:12,810 I mean, you wanna do the sheets 439 00:20:12,812 --> 00:20:14,712 and the blankets first, and then the pillows. 440 00:20:16,749 --> 00:20:19,250 You're not doing much making, are you? 441 00:20:19,319 --> 00:20:21,552 -Huh? -You're not doing much 442 00:20:21,621 --> 00:20:23,454 bed-making. 443 00:20:23,556 --> 00:20:25,623 My day-to-day routine with the kids 444 00:20:25,625 --> 00:20:28,759 is wake up at the ass-crack of dawn. 445 00:20:28,828 --> 00:20:30,228 Feed them breakfast. 446 00:20:30,230 --> 00:20:32,263 And then I usually let them play. 447 00:20:32,365 --> 00:20:33,965 I clean up breakfast. 448 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:36,934 And I kind of play with them. Keep them entertained. 449 00:20:37,036 --> 00:20:39,337 And then I make lunch. I clean up lunch. 450 00:20:39,438 --> 00:20:42,106 Same thing. We hangout until dinner. 451 00:20:42,108 --> 00:20:43,641 And then I make dinner. 452 00:20:43,743 --> 00:20:46,210 Feed them. Clean-up dinner. 453 00:20:46,212 --> 00:20:49,647 Give them baths. And then I do it all over again the next day. 454 00:20:49,749 --> 00:20:52,650 Kind of feel like my brain is mush by the end of the day. 455 00:20:57,457 --> 00:20:59,290 [aaliyah speaking] 456 00:20:59,292 --> 00:21:01,726 I don't know. I have to call grandma and ask her a question. 457 00:21:02,595 --> 00:21:04,095 I call my mom a lot, 458 00:21:04,097 --> 00:21:07,999 constantly. A lot of the time, she's busy and like, can't talk. 459 00:21:08,001 --> 00:21:09,900 [line ringing] 460 00:21:11,537 --> 00:21:12,803 -[kim speaking] -[lilly] hey. 461 00:21:13,506 --> 00:21:16,941 If I bought chicken on... 462 00:21:16,943 --> 00:21:21,312 I think it was Thursday or no, it was Friday. If I bought chicken on Friday, 463 00:21:21,314 --> 00:21:22,413 -can I still use it? -Mom. 464 00:21:23,416 --> 00:21:26,751 I now go hide and you find me and you count. 465 00:21:26,852 --> 00:21:30,221 Okay. Maybe I'll just, maybe I'll just order more. 466 00:21:31,324 --> 00:21:34,125 I do try to remember back to when I was 467 00:21:34,127 --> 00:21:37,528 young and had my kids young. And it is hard. 468 00:21:37,530 --> 00:21:40,564 You know, you gotta create your own house and your own routine. 469 00:21:41,534 --> 00:21:42,600 You gotta clean your own mess. 470 00:21:43,603 --> 00:21:44,335 You know? 471 00:21:45,538 --> 00:21:47,104 Sometimes being alone sucks. 472 00:21:49,509 --> 00:21:50,674 ...Pajamas up. 473 00:21:51,611 --> 00:21:54,045 If you wanna go to the park, let me do your hair. 474 00:21:54,414 --> 00:21:56,814 [lj cooing] 475 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,953 [lilly] I don't expect him t 476 00:22:02,955 --> 00:22:06,057 really understand the way I'm feeling, because 477 00:22:06,059 --> 00:22:09,193 no one will unless you're doing what I'm doing. 478 00:22:09,195 --> 00:22:12,430 It's a lot. I don't, I don't think people realize what moms go through. 479 00:22:12,999 --> 00:22:14,231 Mmm-hmm. 480 00:22:14,233 --> 00:22:16,534 [kim] about moving out? That's what they wanted to do. 481 00:22:18,604 --> 00:22:20,938 [bleep]. I'll go get my keys. 482 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:22,039 Aaliyah stay right there. 483 00:22:23,943 --> 00:22:27,011 It's just men in general. Like, they get to 484 00:22:27,013 --> 00:22:29,013 clock out. And their day's over. 485 00:22:29,015 --> 00:22:32,016 They're clocked out. They co home. They take a shower. They eat. They lay down. 486 00:22:32,018 --> 00:22:34,218 They do whatever they wanna do. 487 00:22:34,220 --> 00:22:38,122 My job is literally 24 hours a day, through the entire night 488 00:22:38,124 --> 00:22:40,624 from the second I open my eyes, it never ends. 489 00:22:42,161 --> 00:22:43,627 You want a ice pop 490 00:22:43,629 --> 00:22:45,629 or do you want ice-cream in a bowl? 491 00:22:45,631 --> 00:22:46,731 [aaliyah speaking] 492 00:22:49,402 --> 00:22:50,234 who's that? 493 00:22:51,204 --> 00:22:52,703 -Who is that? -[lawrence] dada. 494 00:22:54,307 --> 00:22:55,506 Pa-pa. 495 00:22:55,508 --> 00:22:56,741 [lawrence] is that popo baby? 496 00:22:56,809 --> 00:22:59,043 -[aaliyah] mom. -[lawrence] is that popo baby? 497 00:22:59,045 --> 00:23:01,712 [aaliyah] I'm so full... 498 00:23:01,714 --> 00:23:04,715 Ever since the move has happened, we've been fighting a lot more. 499 00:23:05,818 --> 00:23:07,051 [lawrence speaking] 500 00:23:09,589 --> 00:23:11,622 literally, you know what you do? You come home, 501 00:23:11,624 --> 00:23:15,059 and you look at me, you said, "hmm, I had a bad day. So, now I'm gonna make her..." 502 00:23:15,061 --> 00:23:16,527 actually my [bleep] 503 00:23:16,529 --> 00:23:18,496 -is great until I get home. -I'm gonna fight with her. 504 00:23:18,498 --> 00:23:20,664 Once I get home, everything's a [bleep] mess. 505 00:23:20,700 --> 00:23:22,833 If everything is a mess, you clean it [bleep] 506 00:23:22,935 --> 00:23:26,937 -up then. I don't [bleep]... -What [bleep] doing all day home... 507 00:23:26,939 --> 00:23:29,607 -Kids wiping ass. Breast-feeding. Giving baths. -Like, what you doing? Okay. 508 00:23:29,609 --> 00:23:31,509 -Showers. Taking kids outside to play. -Whatever. Like... 509 00:23:31,511 --> 00:23:33,611 Feeding kids. Cooking three meals a [bleep] day. 510 00:23:33,613 --> 00:23:37,415 -What you do is not hard. -[bleep] you. [bleep] you and [bleep] you. 511 00:23:42,221 --> 00:23:46,323 Feel like I needed to move out to get a sense of what motherhood really is. 512 00:23:46,325 --> 00:23:49,960 But, it's definitely really hard on me 513 00:23:50,062 --> 00:23:53,230 day after day to have little to no help. 514 00:24:01,407 --> 00:24:04,208 Ow! Come here. 515 00:24:04,210 --> 00:24:07,411 She can tough it out. Not even that bad. Wah. 516 00:24:10,116 --> 00:24:12,116 [crying] 517 00:24:15,421 --> 00:24:16,487 ♪ we've come so far ♪ 518 00:24:18,057 --> 00:24:20,558 ♪ but we're still looking ahead♪ 519 00:24:20,659 --> 00:24:23,527 [crying in pain] 520 00:24:24,263 --> 00:24:25,529 [jason speaking] 521 00:24:25,531 --> 00:24:27,765 [grunting] 522 00:24:27,833 --> 00:24:28,699 [jason] is he coming? 523 00:24:31,304 --> 00:24:32,236 [kylen] ow! 524 00:24:33,206 --> 00:24:34,939 Ow... 525 00:24:35,341 --> 00:24:36,907 Come here. 526 00:24:37,743 --> 00:24:38,742 [jason] I'm here. 527 00:24:38,844 --> 00:24:41,312 [crying] 528 00:24:48,621 --> 00:24:51,155 [crying] 529 00:24:52,058 --> 00:24:53,824 it's 2:30 p.M. 530 00:24:53,826 --> 00:24:56,227 And kylen hasn't eaten since last night. 531 00:24:56,229 --> 00:24:58,329 She's in a lot of pain and exhausted. 532 00:24:59,031 --> 00:25:01,332 And still no sign of baby. 533 00:25:11,110 --> 00:25:13,110 -Hey, babe. -What's up? 534 00:25:13,112 --> 00:25:17,348 I just got a text from heidi. She said, they're still in labor. 535 00:25:19,218 --> 00:25:21,619 Man, I wish that baby would get here. 536 00:25:21,621 --> 00:25:25,456 Me too. 'cause I feel like I need to be there holding her hand. 537 00:25:25,558 --> 00:25:26,624 [michael] yeah. 538 00:25:26,626 --> 00:25:29,527 It is a little disappointing to get updates 539 00:25:30,363 --> 00:25:32,096 through heidi 540 00:25:32,098 --> 00:25:34,331 and not kylen and jason. 541 00:25:35,301 --> 00:25:38,402 I wish I could be in the birth room, but 542 00:25:39,605 --> 00:25:41,939 that's only if my daughter wants me there. 543 00:25:44,477 --> 00:25:45,943 To me it just seems like, 544 00:25:46,012 --> 00:25:50,047 jason, he put this idea in kylen's head. 545 00:25:50,116 --> 00:25:52,216 [jason] we probably want you guys coming in like, 546 00:25:53,419 --> 00:25:55,753 right after we give birth or a little bit after. 547 00:25:59,525 --> 00:26:00,324 No. It... 548 00:26:01,127 --> 00:26:02,526 Like... Next question. 549 00:26:04,130 --> 00:26:05,663 I'm not trying to start issues. 550 00:26:07,934 --> 00:26:10,534 I feel all women that have babies 551 00:26:10,636 --> 00:26:12,503 want their mothers to be there. 552 00:26:12,505 --> 00:26:15,306 It's a big bonding moment 553 00:26:15,308 --> 00:26:16,941 between daughter and mother. 554 00:26:18,311 --> 00:26:20,477 I know you wanna be there. 555 00:26:20,479 --> 00:26:22,813 -I wanna be there. -Shut up. You're gonna make me cry. 556 00:26:22,815 --> 00:26:25,115 -So you have to wanna be there. You're the mother. -Yeah. I wanna be there. 557 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:28,719 Yeah. 558 00:26:28,721 --> 00:26:32,523 Kylen's been having pain since 4:00 in the morning. 559 00:26:32,525 --> 00:26:34,158 Well, that's just a long time. 560 00:26:34,259 --> 00:26:37,461 I don't know what it's like to give birth naturally. 561 00:26:37,496 --> 00:26:40,030 I think she can handle her pain. 562 00:26:41,133 --> 00:26:42,399 I hope she does. 563 00:26:44,604 --> 00:26:47,705 But, if there's an emergency, so help me. 564 00:26:47,707 --> 00:26:50,240 We'll he hauling ass to get there. 565 00:26:50,309 --> 00:26:51,241 [marie] yes, we will be. 566 00:26:52,411 --> 00:26:53,711 I'm a little worried 567 00:26:54,814 --> 00:26:55,746 that jason 568 00:26:56,616 --> 00:26:58,816 would not, being his age, would not 569 00:26:59,619 --> 00:27:01,452 support kylen, 570 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,021 should something go wrong, you know like, 571 00:27:04,957 --> 00:27:07,424 a cesarean or surgery or 572 00:27:07,426 --> 00:27:09,526 something terrible happen. 573 00:27:09,528 --> 00:27:12,730 I, I just, I get so worked up worrying about them. 574 00:27:13,432 --> 00:27:14,865 Driving myself crazy. 575 00:27:16,602 --> 00:27:18,502 [kylen speaking] 576 00:27:22,441 --> 00:27:25,843 [crying] 577 00:27:25,944 --> 00:27:30,047 it didn't feel good seeing her in pain. But I knew it was for my son and that 578 00:27:30,116 --> 00:27:31,215 she can tough it out. 579 00:27:33,719 --> 00:27:36,820 [crying] 580 00:27:38,658 --> 00:27:40,157 [jason speaking] 581 00:27:42,662 --> 00:27:45,329 [rebecca] I don't really want you pushing until 582 00:27:46,232 --> 00:27:47,364 we know that you're 583 00:27:47,933 --> 00:27:49,533 totally complete. 584 00:27:49,602 --> 00:27:52,036 And I can't know that without 585 00:27:52,104 --> 00:27:56,607 either you feeling the baby being right there or, 586 00:27:56,609 --> 00:27:58,909 I mean, I could check you and see if you're complete. 587 00:27:59,845 --> 00:28:01,211 [jason speaking] 588 00:28:01,213 --> 00:28:02,112 [rebecca] I don't think so. 589 00:28:03,282 --> 00:28:04,715 My offers are this... 590 00:28:05,551 --> 00:28:06,950 Check you to see where you are, 591 00:28:08,354 --> 00:28:10,921 fluids, herbal tincture. 592 00:28:10,923 --> 00:28:12,056 Those are my offers. 593 00:28:12,625 --> 00:28:14,324 Our recommendation is 594 00:28:14,326 --> 00:28:18,362 to administer some iv fluids that can be really helpful 595 00:28:18,431 --> 00:28:21,598 when people are experiencing um, 596 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,434 fatigue after a long night of 597 00:28:23,502 --> 00:28:25,436 -contractions with no sleeping. -Yeah. 598 00:28:29,709 --> 00:28:33,744 ...Which has a little bit of special sugar in it, that can help you 599 00:28:34,513 --> 00:28:35,946 feel less tired. 600 00:28:36,014 --> 00:28:37,314 [jason speaking] 601 00:28:41,821 --> 00:28:44,321 I understand. Yeah. I can understand that. 602 00:28:45,324 --> 00:28:48,592 So, the fluid is called lactated ringer. 603 00:28:48,594 --> 00:28:52,629 And it's a... It's a crystalloid fluid which is 604 00:28:52,631 --> 00:28:55,332 kind of similar to the fluid that's in your blood. 605 00:28:56,102 --> 00:28:57,401 [jason speaking] 606 00:29:00,606 --> 00:29:02,306 [rebecca] and it's also really hard work. 607 00:29:02,308 --> 00:29:05,109 And sometimes you feel like, nauseated. 608 00:29:08,347 --> 00:29:09,413 [rebecca] yeah. 609 00:29:10,449 --> 00:29:11,581 [jason speaking] 610 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,054 although like, we are proponents of natural birth. 611 00:29:17,123 --> 00:29:20,691 And we're proponents of this being a natural process. So, we know that it 612 00:29:20,693 --> 00:29:23,327 can be long and it can be difficult and it can be 613 00:29:23,329 --> 00:29:27,164 painful. We never ever want someone to needlessly suffer. 614 00:29:27,266 --> 00:29:29,600 And giving her an iv 615 00:29:30,402 --> 00:29:33,804 is such a simple, benign way 616 00:29:33,806 --> 00:29:38,041 to aid her and help her suffer less. 617 00:29:40,713 --> 00:29:43,113 [grunting] 618 00:29:44,950 --> 00:29:46,817 [rebecca] it's just like a bad of fluid. 619 00:29:46,819 --> 00:29:48,552 [grunting in pain] 620 00:29:57,630 --> 00:29:59,730 I'm not feeling as good as I felt in the beginning. 621 00:29:59,732 --> 00:30:01,832 And it's getting kind of fishy 'cause 622 00:30:01,934 --> 00:30:05,002 the midwife started pushing the iv, talking her into it. 623 00:30:09,308 --> 00:30:11,208 Not even that bad. Wah. 624 00:30:13,779 --> 00:30:16,446 [groaning] 625 00:30:18,017 --> 00:30:20,617 [rebecca] all right. I'm gonna go chart this and I'll be back. 626 00:30:20,619 --> 00:30:23,420 And you can tell me what, if any of those things, she would like. 627 00:30:23,422 --> 00:30:24,521 [kylen] okay. 628 00:30:24,523 --> 00:30:26,456 -[rebecca] fluids. Fixing them. -[kylen] I know. 629 00:30:30,496 --> 00:30:31,829 [jason speaking] 630 00:30:33,365 --> 00:30:36,300 as caregivers, it's really difficult to see someone 631 00:30:36,302 --> 00:30:38,135 suffering and know that we can help. 632 00:30:38,637 --> 00:30:40,237 And have a person 633 00:30:40,306 --> 00:30:42,906 outside of that person's body saying, 634 00:30:42,908 --> 00:30:46,109 "no, it's okay for her to suffer like this. And 635 00:30:46,712 --> 00:30:47,711 you can't help her." 636 00:30:49,048 --> 00:30:51,248 and if kylen's making the decision, 637 00:30:51,316 --> 00:30:52,716 "no, I don't want the iv." 638 00:30:53,819 --> 00:30:56,820 sure, like, we totally support that, you know. 639 00:30:56,822 --> 00:30:58,856 But it didn't um, 640 00:30:58,957 --> 00:31:00,924 it didn't feel that that was what was happening. 641 00:31:01,126 --> 00:31:02,092 No. 642 00:31:02,094 --> 00:31:05,128 So, it became clear that the relationship 643 00:31:05,130 --> 00:31:07,130 that I thought that they had, which was 644 00:31:07,132 --> 00:31:09,533 one of mutual trust and respect and support, 645 00:31:09,635 --> 00:31:11,301 is not the relationship that they have. 646 00:31:11,904 --> 00:31:12,903 [crying] 647 00:31:13,405 --> 00:31:14,971 [jason speaking] 648 00:31:23,048 --> 00:31:25,249 [tiarra] today is the day that we come home from the hospital. 649 00:31:25,350 --> 00:31:28,485 I think it's gonna be a lot harder having two kids. 650 00:31:28,487 --> 00:31:30,754 -I'm just gonna hold her neck. I'm not taking her. -[layla crying] 651 00:31:30,856 --> 00:31:32,522 look, you're hurting her feelings, now she's crying. 652 00:31:38,964 --> 00:31:40,964 [music playing] 653 00:31:50,709 --> 00:31:52,309 [tiarra speaking] 654 00:31:54,246 --> 00:31:56,213 wasn't I, like, in much better shape 655 00:31:56,782 --> 00:31:58,381 after ella? 656 00:31:58,383 --> 00:32:02,185 No, like, when we were leaving for ella, you were, like, literally, like, 657 00:32:02,187 --> 00:32:03,854 moving like you didn't just have surgery. 658 00:32:04,957 --> 00:32:06,757 [tiarra] and this is my second one. 659 00:32:06,825 --> 00:32:09,059 I still feel like I wasn't healed from my first one. 660 00:32:10,663 --> 00:32:13,463 Oh, dee! 661 00:32:13,565 --> 00:32:17,000 Today is the day that we come home from the hospital and, 662 00:32:17,002 --> 00:32:18,702 I'm excited to leave the hospital 663 00:32:18,704 --> 00:32:21,338 because I'm ready to go home and see ella and just, 664 00:32:21,941 --> 00:32:23,540 bring the baby home. 665 00:32:23,542 --> 00:32:26,610 And I'm also very excited that I get to introduce 666 00:32:26,612 --> 00:32:28,812 ensley to my mom and tyra. 667 00:32:28,814 --> 00:32:31,281 Since they are here in maryland to help me 668 00:32:31,283 --> 00:32:32,950 because I know, with my c-section scar, 669 00:32:32,952 --> 00:32:35,052 and with a newborn, it's not gonna be easy. 670 00:32:37,323 --> 00:32:39,256 You better not be pooping, girl. 671 00:32:39,358 --> 00:32:41,858 -She got the sweetest eyes. -She's doing so well I wanna rest and... 672 00:32:42,761 --> 00:32:43,627 [exhales] 673 00:32:44,964 --> 00:32:46,330 oh, my god. 674 00:32:46,332 --> 00:32:48,298 I don't know how much more of these I can take. 675 00:32:48,300 --> 00:32:51,802 [whimsical music playing] 676 00:32:58,544 --> 00:32:59,409 that's my animal. 677 00:33:00,846 --> 00:33:02,145 Share. Hey! 678 00:33:02,815 --> 00:33:03,547 No hitting. 679 00:33:04,016 --> 00:33:05,415 No hitting. 680 00:33:05,417 --> 00:33:07,417 Don't cry! Mom's gonna hear that. 681 00:33:07,419 --> 00:33:09,019 [tyra] hey, and layla be nice. 682 00:33:11,790 --> 00:33:13,623 Ella hasn't been sharing with her. 683 00:33:13,625 --> 00:33:15,459 She's been taking everything away from her. 684 00:33:15,527 --> 00:33:17,127 So she's being a cry baby. 685 00:33:17,129 --> 00:33:19,162 -Why are you crying? -Shh! Hush! 686 00:33:19,264 --> 00:33:21,465 I did not picture my first night 687 00:33:21,533 --> 00:33:24,501 at home with all this, like, chaotic mess going on. 688 00:33:24,503 --> 00:33:27,938 I definitely did not picture layla and ella wanting to fight the whole time, 689 00:33:27,940 --> 00:33:30,440 'cause most of the time, they play very well together. 690 00:33:30,509 --> 00:33:32,843 But-- oh, wait! My titties are crampin'. 691 00:33:34,713 --> 00:33:36,546 Ow [bleep]! 692 00:33:38,117 --> 00:33:39,449 It's like a shock. It's like, 693 00:33:39,551 --> 00:33:41,518 literally like a electric fence. 694 00:33:45,224 --> 00:33:46,723 This hurts. I'm about to have a fit. 695 00:33:47,326 --> 00:33:48,458 Start squeezin' out milk 696 00:33:49,495 --> 00:33:50,160 with my hands. 697 00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:02,939 Hmm. Oh, she's eatin'. 698 00:34:06,111 --> 00:34:07,110 Hey, girl! 699 00:34:08,847 --> 00:34:09,713 Hey, titty baby. 700 00:34:10,449 --> 00:34:11,615 With a c-section scar 701 00:34:12,117 --> 00:34:13,483 like, after you 702 00:34:13,485 --> 00:34:16,253 get cut up and then stuff, it's hard to, like, sit up, 703 00:34:16,354 --> 00:34:17,754 it's hard to use the bathroom. 704 00:34:17,823 --> 00:34:19,723 It's hard to do, literally anything, like... 705 00:34:23,462 --> 00:34:25,762 So it's not that much, I mean, 706 00:34:25,864 --> 00:34:28,498 -I've-- yeah. It's, if-- -yeah, have you had a c-section scar also? 707 00:34:28,500 --> 00:34:31,401 -No, I haven't had a c-section but I've had... -Okay, so you don't know. 708 00:34:31,403 --> 00:34:34,004 It's not. I can promise you it's nothing like, okay... 709 00:34:34,006 --> 00:34:36,039 -You can't stand up. -Okay. Okay! 710 00:34:36,041 --> 00:34:38,341 You can't stand up after you've had one out your [bleep]. 711 00:34:38,410 --> 00:34:40,009 [tyra inhales] oh, my god! 712 00:34:45,717 --> 00:34:48,418 -[tiarra] go and wash. Go and wash your hands. -[melissa] hi, pooka boo! 713 00:34:48,420 --> 00:34:51,855 I think and I hope, and I pray that ella's gonna be a good big sister. 714 00:34:51,924 --> 00:34:54,291 I think the only thing that's gonna scare me 715 00:34:54,293 --> 00:34:57,060 is that she's gonna wanna be too helpful. 716 00:34:57,129 --> 00:34:59,429 So she's gonna wanna do too much and she can't. 717 00:34:59,431 --> 00:35:01,098 And I feel like that's gonna be hard on me 718 00:35:01,100 --> 00:35:03,700 because, I feel like, in the moment, I might accidentally be like, 719 00:35:03,702 --> 00:35:06,503 "ella," like, "you can't do that, you're not big enough for something like that," 720 00:35:06,505 --> 00:35:07,537 and hurt her feelings. 721 00:35:07,639 --> 00:35:09,306 I'm sorry, sorry, sorry, sister. 722 00:35:09,808 --> 00:35:10,440 [ensley crying] 723 00:35:11,643 --> 00:35:13,043 baby, I'm here! 724 00:35:13,545 --> 00:35:14,444 I'm here. 725 00:35:15,914 --> 00:35:17,314 [tiarra] who's this? Who am I holding? 726 00:35:17,316 --> 00:35:19,249 -Sissy. -But what's her name? 727 00:35:19,317 --> 00:35:21,952 -Sissy. -What's her name though? 728 00:35:22,053 --> 00:35:23,954 -Ensley. -Yeah, you gotta put the phone down and say it. 729 00:35:24,055 --> 00:35:25,622 No. 730 00:35:25,624 --> 00:35:27,757 You don't like talking to her? Look, you're hurting her feelings. 731 00:35:27,793 --> 00:35:28,458 Now, she's crying. 732 00:35:32,364 --> 00:35:33,630 Hold on, let me hold her. 733 00:35:33,632 --> 00:35:35,398 [indistinct conversation] 734 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,033 I'm not takin' her. 735 00:35:37,135 --> 00:35:39,035 Oh, look, she about to cry. 736 00:35:39,037 --> 00:35:41,838 She about to cry. Mommy can't stand like that. Mommy's belly's hurtin'. 737 00:35:41,940 --> 00:35:43,340 Momma's gonna hold her neck. 738 00:35:43,342 --> 00:35:44,941 -I'm just gonna hold her neck. I'm not taking her. -[cries] 739 00:35:45,010 --> 00:35:46,543 -okay. -She's not taking her. 740 00:35:46,545 --> 00:35:50,714 I think it's gonna be a lot harder having two kids, especially, 741 00:35:50,716 --> 00:35:52,649 with ella's age, right now. 742 00:35:52,751 --> 00:35:54,618 I don't really want any more kids. 743 00:35:54,620 --> 00:35:55,719 And I don't wanna wait 744 00:35:56,188 --> 00:35:57,754 four years and 745 00:35:57,823 --> 00:35:59,256 have another kid. Because then, it's like, 746 00:35:59,291 --> 00:36:02,025 I'm doing it all over again when ella's gonna be 747 00:36:02,027 --> 00:36:04,194 -seven years old. -That's what I'm sayin', that's why we knock it out. 748 00:36:04,196 --> 00:36:06,029 -'cause... -What the [bleep] are you talking about? 749 00:36:06,031 --> 00:36:08,098 -Knock it out? We did knock it out. -'cause... Like our 20s. 750 00:36:08,100 --> 00:36:10,934 -One, two, knocked it out. -You gotta knock one more out. 751 00:36:11,036 --> 00:36:13,103 -No! Another girl, so that you can pout? -A boy. 752 00:36:13,805 --> 00:36:14,437 A boy. 753 00:36:15,707 --> 00:36:17,107 He's stupid. 754 00:36:17,109 --> 00:36:18,642 He's just talkin' right now. 755 00:36:18,743 --> 00:36:21,411 Ask him in two days after mom leaves. 756 00:36:22,414 --> 00:36:24,214 And then his answer's gonna be, like, 757 00:36:24,216 --> 00:36:27,117 "um, I'm probably just gonna go ahead and put in my vasectomy." 758 00:36:38,063 --> 00:36:40,063 I think that we should call an ambulance. 759 00:36:40,132 --> 00:36:41,131 [jason speaking] 760 00:36:41,133 --> 00:36:43,800 are you tryin' to kill me, you dumb [bleep]. 761 00:37:01,220 --> 00:37:03,920 [kylen screaming] 762 00:37:08,327 --> 00:37:09,759 -you've got medicines? -Ahhh! 763 00:37:11,330 --> 00:37:12,362 [indistinct conversation] 764 00:37:12,464 --> 00:37:13,463 [kylen] argh! My stomach hurts. 765 00:37:14,533 --> 00:37:16,132 [groaning] 766 00:37:18,303 --> 00:37:20,003 [groaning] 767 00:37:21,106 --> 00:37:22,606 [groaning] 768 00:37:24,209 --> 00:37:26,009 [rebecca] it's almost midnight and 769 00:37:26,011 --> 00:37:29,746 all of the interventions that we have recommended have not been 770 00:37:31,116 --> 00:37:34,818 accepted. Um, kylen is not able to rest. 771 00:37:34,820 --> 00:37:37,721 Um, so we're concerned about maternal exhaustion at this point. 772 00:37:41,860 --> 00:37:43,226 [rebecca speaking] 773 00:37:51,136 --> 00:37:53,336 when we reach the point of maternal exhaustion 774 00:37:53,438 --> 00:37:55,739 that is a higher risk situation 775 00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,807 and it's an indication for 776 00:37:57,809 --> 00:38:00,610 transport to a higher-level facility like the hospital. 777 00:38:01,246 --> 00:38:02,211 Yeah. 778 00:38:03,749 --> 00:38:05,415 -[rebecca speaking] -[heather speaking] 779 00:38:10,422 --> 00:38:11,254 [rebecca speaking] 780 00:38:12,724 --> 00:38:13,423 [woman] really close. 781 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:15,758 [talking indistinctly] 782 00:38:17,229 --> 00:38:19,763 yeah. I think that we're there. 783 00:38:19,864 --> 00:38:23,199 So you're pulse is 120. That's way above 784 00:38:24,202 --> 00:38:25,201 what is normal. 785 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:30,507 So, both of those things mean that 786 00:38:30,509 --> 00:38:32,942 you're out of normal range. 787 00:38:32,944 --> 00:38:35,445 So we're gonna have to move to the hospital. 788 00:38:39,151 --> 00:38:40,350 [heather speaking] 789 00:38:42,554 --> 00:38:43,420 no. 790 00:38:45,090 --> 00:38:48,625 [groaning] 791 00:38:48,627 --> 00:38:50,460 [rebecca] I think that we should call an ambulance. 792 00:38:53,031 --> 00:38:54,564 -[groans] -what? Oh. 793 00:38:55,534 --> 00:38:56,800 [jason speaking] 794 00:38:58,403 --> 00:38:59,469 okay. 795 00:39:00,405 --> 00:39:03,306 We care very much for kylen, um... 796 00:39:03,308 --> 00:39:05,041 We know that a hospital birth was not 797 00:39:06,311 --> 00:39:07,610 anything that they wanted. 798 00:39:08,146 --> 00:39:09,446 And here we are. 799 00:39:09,547 --> 00:39:12,349 But overall, the hospital has resources for 800 00:39:13,051 --> 00:39:15,251 kylen, and for xavier, 801 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:19,322 um, to make sure that the situation stays safe for both of them. 802 00:39:19,758 --> 00:39:21,858 And I wish 803 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,928 them all of the best for a safe and beautiful birth. 804 00:39:24,930 --> 00:39:27,263 Kylen has certainly worked hard for it. 805 00:39:27,933 --> 00:39:28,832 Mmm-hmm. 806 00:39:29,301 --> 00:39:31,201 [jason speaking] 807 00:39:31,203 --> 00:39:33,937 [jason] she's not even that far along, we can go home. 808 00:39:34,005 --> 00:39:36,206 No, we can't, you dumb [bleep]. 809 00:39:37,008 --> 00:39:38,641 Are you trying to kill me? 810 00:39:40,112 --> 00:39:43,947 When they kicked us out after sayin' there was no more they could do for us, 811 00:39:43,949 --> 00:39:46,149 I was definitely mad at the midwives because 812 00:39:46,251 --> 00:39:49,319 I knew for damn sure that they could have. 813 00:39:49,321 --> 00:39:52,455 'cause, what is the hospital gonna do that they can't do, 814 00:39:52,524 --> 00:39:54,124 when they told us they can do everything? 815 00:39:56,128 --> 00:39:57,660 Yeah, you dumb [bleep]. 816 00:39:57,729 --> 00:40:00,230 -You are fine. -I am not fine. 817 00:40:00,232 --> 00:40:02,065 Tonight you are. And you're not dilated. 818 00:40:03,702 --> 00:40:05,435 You are so stupid. 819 00:40:07,038 --> 00:40:09,038 How am I being stupid, do you wanna sleep? 820 00:40:10,409 --> 00:40:12,942 -And then give birth tomorrow? -Go to the hospital. 821 00:40:15,714 --> 00:40:18,448 No. We're going to the hospital. 822 00:40:18,550 --> 00:40:20,950 Or I'm calling someone else to bring me. 823 00:40:21,052 --> 00:40:22,919 Don't even [bleep] start with that, 824 00:40:22,921 --> 00:40:24,621 -I don't give a [bleep]. -Then, stop. 825 00:40:24,623 --> 00:40:26,556 [jason] I don't even think she was in labor. 826 00:40:26,658 --> 00:40:30,627 I think she was having bad contractions and she thought it was labor. 827 00:40:30,629 --> 00:40:32,061 'cause isn't labor when your water breaks? 828 00:40:36,701 --> 00:40:38,935 Oh, oh! My bad. Scratch that. 829 00:40:43,809 --> 00:40:45,542 [engine starts] 830 00:40:47,412 --> 00:40:48,745 [jason speaking] 831 00:41:01,126 --> 00:41:02,358 [kylen speaking] 832 00:41:05,297 --> 00:41:06,663 [jason speaking] 833 00:41:12,204 --> 00:41:13,036 [kylen speaking] 834 00:41:13,538 --> 00:41:14,204 ow! 835 00:41:16,141 --> 00:41:17,473 Ow! 836 00:41:18,243 --> 00:41:22,145 I wish we just originally stuck with this home birth plan 837 00:41:22,214 --> 00:41:23,346 and did it in my basement. 838 00:41:28,854 --> 00:41:30,820 [narrator] next time on unexpected... 839 00:41:30,822 --> 00:41:32,755 Okay, well, we'll be praying for ya. 840 00:41:33,291 --> 00:41:35,024 I'm scared for her, yeah. 841 00:41:35,026 --> 00:41:38,862 Think about the baby before you move him into a home that she's moving him into. 842 00:41:38,930 --> 00:41:42,499 I feel that it's not a healthy place to be, right now. 843 00:41:42,501 --> 00:41:46,102 I'd like to have a wedding, the ceremony and all that. 844 00:41:46,104 --> 00:41:48,104 Wait a little while, there's no rush. 845 00:41:48,106 --> 00:41:51,140 You guys keep doing all these things on warp-speed. 846 00:41:51,209 --> 00:41:53,543 It's gonna cost you so much money to get out of the wedding. 847 00:41:54,412 --> 00:41:56,446 Who says I'm getting divorced? 848 00:41:56,515 --> 00:42:00,316 Uh, I really think that it would be beneficial 849 00:42:00,318 --> 00:42:02,185 if I was able to reach out to your mom. 850 00:42:02,187 --> 00:42:04,621 My entire childhood they couldn't go two seconds 851 00:42:04,623 --> 00:42:06,689 without screaming and fighting at each other. 852 00:42:06,691 --> 00:42:08,625 [man] our relationship, it's toxic and, 853 00:42:08,627 --> 00:42:11,828 when her mother and I get into a room together, it's just tense. 854 00:42:12,764 --> 00:42:13,963 [woman speaking] 855 00:42:16,701 --> 00:42:20,703 yes, I am. I don't care what you think anymore. 856 00:42:20,705 --> 00:42:23,406 I'm finally pissed off enough, I'm speaking up. 857 00:42:24,609 --> 00:42:26,943 [security officer] follow the exit sign. It's time to go.