1 00:00:07,541 --> 00:00:09,343 Previously on "The Betty Broderick Story"... 2 00:00:09,343 --> 00:00:10,444 I want to go to Marriage Encounter. 3 00:00:10,477 --> 00:00:13,514 I love you and want to share all that I am with you, 4 00:00:13,547 --> 00:00:15,516 but I also need to be loved by you. 5 00:00:15,549 --> 00:00:17,451 I've made many sacrifices, 6 00:00:17,484 --> 00:00:19,620 but I've made you sacrifice as well. 7 00:00:19,653 --> 00:00:21,488 I want you to feel happy and to know 8 00:00:21,522 --> 00:00:22,756 that it was all worth it. 9 00:00:22,789 --> 00:00:25,759 I hired an assistant, Linda Kolkena. 10 00:00:25,792 --> 00:00:27,461 Get rid of her by the end of the month, 11 00:00:27,494 --> 00:00:28,529 or you can get out of this house. 12 00:00:28,562 --> 00:00:30,364 You made a mistake. 13 00:00:30,397 --> 00:00:33,200 If anyone's gonna be getting out, it's you. 14 00:00:33,233 --> 00:00:34,434 15 00:00:36,136 --> 00:00:38,705 Yes, I'm a psychologist. 16 00:00:38,739 --> 00:00:41,875 I hold a PhD doctorate in clinical psychology, 17 00:00:41,909 --> 00:00:44,511 and a diplomate in marriage and family therapy granted 18 00:00:44,545 --> 00:00:46,613 by the American Board of Psychology. 19 00:00:46,647 --> 00:00:50,717 My primary work is in the treatment of families 20 00:00:50,751 --> 00:00:52,920 and couples. 21 00:00:52,953 --> 00:00:57,291 I'm frequently referred uh, receive referrals from 22 00:00:57,324 --> 00:01:01,361 other psychologists, psychiatrists, clergy. 23 00:01:01,395 --> 00:01:06,567 As one of my specialties within couples therapy 24 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,336 is the study of infidelity 25 00:01:09,369 --> 00:01:13,106 infidelity and its impact. 26 00:01:15,275 --> 00:01:18,011 Hi, Amy, it's Linda. 27 00:01:18,045 --> 00:01:23,050 I have Arthur Trafford calling for Mr. Patterson. 28 00:01:23,083 --> 00:01:25,185 Of course. Here he is. 29 00:01:54,481 --> 00:01:56,583 Have a good night. 30 00:02:12,566 --> 00:02:14,501 At what time, did they say? 31 00:02:16,737 --> 00:02:18,372 Hmm. Of course. 32 00:02:18,405 --> 00:02:20,707 Have a good weekend. 33 00:02:20,741 --> 00:02:22,342 This was in our inbox. 34 00:02:22,376 --> 00:02:25,245 Uh, it's for Jones, Baxter, and Gray Partners. 35 00:02:25,278 --> 00:02:26,546 I don't even think they're in this building. 36 00:02:26,580 --> 00:02:28,548 I'm sorry. 37 00:02:28,582 --> 00:02:31,118 Um, the mailroom might be a little too happy it's Friday. 38 00:02:31,151 --> 00:02:32,452 Maybe so. 39 00:02:33,754 --> 00:02:35,088 Thank you for bringing it down, 40 00:02:35,122 --> 00:02:39,760 but, if there's a next time, please let me send someone up. 41 00:02:39,793 --> 00:02:42,429 Your secretary should not have been bothered with this, 42 00:02:42,462 --> 00:02:43,430 let alone you. 43 00:02:43,463 --> 00:02:46,333 It was no problem. I was heading out anyway. 44 00:02:46,366 --> 00:02:48,602 Have a good night. 45 00:02:48,635 --> 00:02:50,404 Linda. 46 00:02:50,437 --> 00:02:52,272 Linda. 47 00:02:52,305 --> 00:02:55,342 See you. Okay. 48 00:02:55,375 --> 00:02:57,411 These you always put through. 49 00:02:57,444 --> 00:02:59,446 These, you put on hold and ask him about. 50 00:02:59,479 --> 00:03:00,747 Mm hmm. And all these here 51 00:03:00,781 --> 00:03:02,082 just say you'll have him return. 52 00:03:02,115 --> 00:03:03,717 Okay. 53 00:03:03,750 --> 00:03:06,119 Are we gonna survive the week without you, Colleen? 54 00:03:06,153 --> 00:03:07,254 Daniel Broderick's office. 55 00:03:07,287 --> 00:03:09,589 I'm gonna steal her, show her our filing system. 56 00:03:09,623 --> 00:03:11,324 Yes, they are. When? 57 00:03:11,358 --> 00:03:13,760 If you do have any questions while she's gone, 58 00:03:13,794 --> 00:03:16,163 please don't hesitate. I'd rather be interrupted 59 00:03:16,196 --> 00:03:17,531 than have something slip through the cracks. 60 00:03:17,564 --> 00:03:19,132 I will, thanks. 61 00:03:19,166 --> 00:03:21,735 Can I just say how nice it is in here? 62 00:03:21,768 --> 00:03:25,205 Colors, the furnishings so elegant, but welcoming. 63 00:03:25,238 --> 00:03:26,506 I don't know if you used a decorator, 64 00:03:26,540 --> 00:03:27,774 but whoever did it, I love it. 65 00:03:28,809 --> 00:03:31,278 That's lovely of you to say. 66 00:03:45,892 --> 00:03:48,562 So what do we think? 67 00:03:48,595 --> 00:03:50,230 Hi. 68 00:03:50,263 --> 00:03:52,566 It's amazing. 69 00:03:52,599 --> 00:03:56,303 It's an amazing office that I can't believe is mine. 70 00:03:56,336 --> 00:03:58,505 Are you sure about this? Of course I'm sure 71 00:03:58,538 --> 00:04:00,507 Because I think Colleen might think it's crazy. 72 00:04:00,540 --> 00:04:03,210 What's crazy? Me... 73 00:04:03,243 --> 00:04:05,512 as a paralegal. 74 00:04:05,545 --> 00:04:08,882 Me going from receptionist to paralegal. 75 00:04:08,915 --> 00:04:12,385 What, is this about the typing? 76 00:04:14,554 --> 00:04:16,056 Colleen's not thinking anything. 77 00:04:16,089 --> 00:04:18,225 And even if she was, 78 00:04:18,258 --> 00:04:20,160 most things about being a paralegal 79 00:04:20,193 --> 00:04:21,762 you can't really be prepared for. 80 00:04:21,795 --> 00:04:23,730 You sorta gotta learn on the job. 81 00:04:23,764 --> 00:04:27,534 But I promise, if you're not perfect at it right away, 82 00:04:27,567 --> 00:04:29,336 I'll give you at least 50 more chances. 83 00:04:29,369 --> 00:04:31,905 Hmm? 84 00:04:33,373 --> 00:04:35,909 Hey, um, do you wanna come observe me 85 00:04:35,942 --> 00:04:38,178 do the interview with the Lindseys? 86 00:04:38,211 --> 00:04:41,848 Or would you rather stay in here and worry some more? 87 00:04:41,882 --> 00:04:45,619 Uh, observe and take notes. 88 00:05:41,208 --> 00:05:42,943 First, they forgot to check the monitor, 89 00:05:42,976 --> 00:05:47,614 then they misread it. It was just an avalanche 90 00:05:47,647 --> 00:05:50,150 of underreaction and negligence. 91 00:05:50,183 --> 00:05:52,986 Did the baby die? Catastrophic brain damage. 92 00:05:53,019 --> 00:05:55,589 So, no, baby didn't die, but her parents' hopes 93 00:05:55,622 --> 00:05:57,657 and dreams for her did. 94 00:05:57,691 --> 00:05:59,359 A good obstetrician would have 95 00:05:59,392 --> 00:06:02,495 seen the signs even if the labor and delivery team didn't. 96 00:06:02,529 --> 00:06:05,098 But from what I understand, it was just a matter of time 97 00:06:05,131 --> 00:06:08,468 before this guy destroyed some family with his incompetence. 98 00:06:08,501 --> 00:06:11,771 So what are you gonna do? 99 00:06:11,805 --> 00:06:13,840 Gonna make him pay. 100 00:06:18,011 --> 00:06:21,948 Mm, apropos of nothing, the, um, Collins report. 101 00:06:21,982 --> 00:06:25,452 Tomorrow morning. Oh. 102 00:06:25,485 --> 00:06:29,422 If I haven't said it recently, you're doing great. 103 00:06:29,456 --> 00:06:32,459 I'm glad. 104 00:06:32,492 --> 00:06:36,396 Because just 105 00:06:36,429 --> 00:06:38,531 You make me wanna do great. 106 00:06:38,565 --> 00:06:40,867 107 00:06:47,741 --> 00:06:49,342 She's just putting sand on it. 108 00:06:49,376 --> 00:06:51,912 Okay, I'll race you. 109 00:07:12,799 --> 00:07:14,968 How was your weekend? 110 00:07:15,001 --> 00:07:16,937 Huh. 111 00:07:16,970 --> 00:07:19,372 Long. 112 00:07:19,406 --> 00:07:21,374 Would you help me with the Staedtler deposition at 10:00? 113 00:07:21,408 --> 00:07:23,076 I of course. 114 00:07:23,109 --> 00:07:25,345 Thank you. 115 00:07:25,378 --> 00:07:28,448 Law offices of Dan Broderick... 116 00:07:28,481 --> 00:07:31,718 Just a moment. Linda... 117 00:07:31,751 --> 00:07:33,820 Phone for you. Oh, okay. 118 00:07:37,624 --> 00:07:40,060 Hello, this is Linda. 119 00:07:40,961 --> 00:07:42,295 Hello? 120 00:07:44,431 --> 00:07:46,900 Hello? 121 00:07:53,106 --> 00:07:55,809 I said, get rid of her. 122 00:07:55,842 --> 00:07:58,645 You thought it was your decision. 123 00:07:58,678 --> 00:08:00,513 You think you decide who works for me... 124 00:08:02,749 --> 00:08:06,586 For my practice, where I make the money that you spend. 125 00:08:06,619 --> 00:08:07,454 You don't. 126 00:08:07,487 --> 00:08:10,557 I pay for your life, everything about it. 127 00:08:10,590 --> 00:08:12,826 I pay for this house that you live it in. 128 00:08:12,859 --> 00:08:17,430 So if anyone's gonna be getting out, it's you. 129 00:08:20,867 --> 00:08:23,737 Are you sleeping with her? 130 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:29,743 Why would you even ask me that? 131 00:08:29,776 --> 00:08:31,745 Are you? 132 00:08:31,778 --> 00:08:32,879 If this is where your head goes 133 00:08:32,912 --> 00:08:36,916 when you don't get your way, that's the real problem. 134 00:08:36,950 --> 00:08:39,119 You should get some professional help for that. 135 00:08:39,152 --> 00:08:41,921 A lawyer would say you still haven't answered the question. 136 00:08:41,955 --> 00:08:44,624 I am not sleeping with Linda Kolkena. 137 00:08:44,657 --> 00:08:47,927 I haven't and I'm not. 138 00:08:50,530 --> 00:08:52,699 In a marriage, under that marital contract, 139 00:08:52,732 --> 00:08:54,167 people rely on each other. 140 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,036 They feel safe with one another. 141 00:08:56,069 --> 00:08:59,839 But that safety carries a price. 142 00:08:59,873 --> 00:09:03,410 When you have complete faith, 143 00:09:03,443 --> 00:09:06,746 vulnerability means what occurs 144 00:09:06,780 --> 00:09:09,649 with the loss of that faith 145 00:09:09,682 --> 00:09:14,921 the separation from any sense of the realities of one's life. 146 00:09:25,899 --> 00:09:28,101 147 00:09:36,009 --> 00:09:38,678 Hi. I thought you left. 148 00:09:38,711 --> 00:09:41,181 149 00:09:41,214 --> 00:09:43,316 Is everything all right? Are you 150 00:09:43,349 --> 00:09:46,553 Can you come here please? 151 00:09:49,556 --> 00:09:52,859 What's wrong? What can I do? 152 00:10:38,438 --> 00:10:39,706 She was a total mega bitch last night, 153 00:10:39,706 --> 00:10:42,108 even worse than usual. 154 00:10:42,142 --> 00:10:44,777 I mean, telling Karen it was her fault for abandoning Chip? 155 00:10:44,811 --> 00:10:46,045 And what about Abby? 156 00:10:46,079 --> 00:10:47,046 I mean, she's just gonna let Diana stay with them 157 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,949 and not even ask her about Chip being a murderer? 158 00:10:49,983 --> 00:10:51,618 Why are we always talking about "Knots Landing"? 159 00:10:51,651 --> 00:10:53,052 Well, if you watched it, you would know. 160 00:10:53,086 --> 00:10:55,021 I wish I cared about anything 161 00:10:55,054 --> 00:10:56,589 as much as they care about that show. 162 00:10:56,623 --> 00:10:58,258 We care about you... 163 00:10:58,291 --> 00:11:00,059 Almost as much. 164 00:11:00,093 --> 00:11:02,629 My car is out of the shop, finally. 165 00:11:02,662 --> 00:11:03,596 Finally. 166 00:11:03,630 --> 00:11:04,664 I think that calls for the cocktail 167 00:11:04,697 --> 00:11:06,733 I was gonna have anyway. 168 00:11:06,766 --> 00:11:08,535 Betty, what about you? How are you? 169 00:11:08,568 --> 00:11:11,538 I'm good. I'm good. 170 00:11:11,571 --> 00:11:15,108 I think Dan's banging his assistant, but, uh, I'm good. 171 00:11:15,141 --> 00:11:18,578 What? Why would you say that? 172 00:11:18,611 --> 00:11:23,049 Did he? Has he said that he is? 173 00:11:23,082 --> 00:11:27,453 No. I don't 174 00:11:27,487 --> 00:11:30,423 I just I think it. 175 00:11:30,456 --> 00:11:33,927 Okay, of course. There are those men. 176 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,696 We all know them. 177 00:11:36,729 --> 00:11:40,300 But we all know Dan. Dan isn't like that. 178 00:11:40,333 --> 00:11:43,236 Nobody's like that until they are. 179 00:11:43,269 --> 00:11:45,572 Okay. As the only person here 180 00:11:45,605 --> 00:11:47,040 whose husband has actually cheated on her? 181 00:11:47,073 --> 00:11:49,409 Everyone just step aside. 182 00:11:51,411 --> 00:11:54,714 Have his habits suddenly changed? 183 00:11:54,747 --> 00:11:56,282 Yeah, he started coming home earlier. 184 00:11:56,316 --> 00:11:57,517 That bastard! 185 00:11:57,550 --> 00:11:59,219 186 00:11:59,252 --> 00:12:00,787 Does he get impatient with you 187 00:12:00,820 --> 00:12:04,390 or annoyed at you for no good reason? 188 00:12:04,424 --> 00:12:06,359 We we did go through a patch like that, 189 00:12:06,392 --> 00:12:08,461 but we passed through it. 190 00:12:08,494 --> 00:12:11,197 Things are good now. 191 00:12:11,231 --> 00:12:13,600 Is he still approaching you sexually? 192 00:12:13,633 --> 00:12:15,268 Karen. What? 193 00:12:15,301 --> 00:12:16,402 What? 194 00:12:16,436 --> 00:12:18,104 You're the one that has something wrong with him. 195 00:12:18,137 --> 00:12:19,772 Everybody loves Dr. Ruth. 196 00:12:20,773 --> 00:12:22,809 Yes. Ooh. 197 00:12:22,842 --> 00:12:25,712 Of course he is. Because he loves you. 198 00:12:25,745 --> 00:12:27,380 And because you look more beautiful 199 00:12:27,413 --> 00:12:28,982 now than you did when I first met you. 200 00:12:29,015 --> 00:12:30,316 It's true. 201 00:12:30,350 --> 00:12:31,117 Stop it, you're gonna make me cry. 202 00:12:32,185 --> 00:12:34,988 And also, doesn't the world already give us 203 00:12:35,021 --> 00:12:36,556 enough real things to be afraid of? 204 00:12:36,589 --> 00:12:38,558 It's true. 205 00:12:38,591 --> 00:12:40,994 Besides, his work hours are so terrible, 206 00:12:41,027 --> 00:12:42,862 if he did leave me, I probably wouldn't notice 207 00:12:42,895 --> 00:12:44,664 for about a week. 208 00:12:44,697 --> 00:12:46,799 If my maid left, on the other hand, 209 00:12:46,833 --> 00:12:48,134 I'd notice that afternoon. 210 00:12:52,205 --> 00:12:54,807 Case number 352 now on the docket. 211 00:12:54,841 --> 00:12:55,842 There's no way I'm gonna be able 212 00:12:55,875 --> 00:12:57,010 to write this down fast enough. 213 00:12:57,043 --> 00:12:58,911 I should've just interviewed Dad at home. 214 00:12:58,945 --> 00:13:00,313 No, this will be a much better report, 215 00:13:00,346 --> 00:13:01,781 and I have a good memory. I'll fill in the gaps 216 00:13:01,814 --> 00:13:05,518 if there even are any. You just do your best. 217 00:13:36,883 --> 00:13:38,351 218 00:13:38,384 --> 00:13:41,721 What is this? Did you buy this? 219 00:13:41,754 --> 00:13:44,290 I tried not to. 220 00:13:44,324 --> 00:13:46,025 Okay, but isn't it almost like 221 00:13:46,059 --> 00:13:47,627 a spoof on a cliché? Don't you and Rich Crowley 222 00:13:47,660 --> 00:13:49,796 make fun of the guy who gets the big settlement 223 00:13:49,829 --> 00:13:52,632 and first thing buys a red sports car? 224 00:13:52,665 --> 00:13:54,734 Uh, sometimes clichés are clichés 225 00:13:54,767 --> 00:13:56,269 because they're goddamn amazing. 226 00:13:57,537 --> 00:13:59,706 Hey, why don't you find a sitter? 227 00:13:59,739 --> 00:14:03,209 We'll drive up the coast, have a little overnight, huh? 228 00:14:03,242 --> 00:14:04,777 I mean, this thing handles like a buttered rocket 229 00:14:04,811 --> 00:14:06,145 on the freeway. 230 00:14:06,179 --> 00:14:08,514 How would you know? 231 00:14:08,548 --> 00:14:10,950 I picked it up in Long Beach, drove it home. 232 00:14:10,983 --> 00:14:13,619 How'd you get to Long Beach? 233 00:14:13,653 --> 00:14:14,954 I knew you were room mother 234 00:14:14,987 --> 00:14:17,890 for Anthony's class, so I had Linda take me. 235 00:14:29,602 --> 00:14:32,171 Are we still waiting? No rush. 236 00:14:32,205 --> 00:14:35,675 I'm actually gonna go up and check on him. 237 00:14:35,708 --> 00:14:37,810 We're in room 612... 238 00:14:37,844 --> 00:14:41,080 In case we run out on the check. 239 00:15:09,375 --> 00:15:11,611 Yeah, well... 240 00:15:11,644 --> 00:15:14,280 Hey, hey. 241 00:15:14,313 --> 00:15:15,381 Who are you talking to? 242 00:15:15,415 --> 00:15:17,583 Well, the front desk told me that the office called. 243 00:15:17,617 --> 00:15:20,453 There's an issue with the deposition up on Monday. 244 00:15:20,486 --> 00:15:23,322 So you're talking to her? Well, if this isn't fixed, 245 00:15:23,356 --> 00:15:25,792 we're gonna have to ask for a continuance again. 246 00:15:25,825 --> 00:15:27,627 Bets, I'm trying to fix it 247 00:15:27,660 --> 00:15:29,462 so we don't have to leave and drive back. 248 00:15:29,495 --> 00:15:32,532 Bets! Bets! 249 00:15:36,402 --> 00:15:37,870 Hey, where were you? I went up to the room. 250 00:15:37,904 --> 00:15:40,540 I didn't know you were Right where you left me. 251 00:15:40,573 --> 00:15:42,542 However long ago that was. 252 00:15:44,710 --> 00:15:46,546 What's that? 253 00:15:46,579 --> 00:15:47,647 They said it's called "ganache." 254 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,982 255 00:15:50,016 --> 00:15:53,553 Oh, a dress... 256 00:15:53,586 --> 00:15:55,087 that I look amazing in. 257 00:15:55,121 --> 00:15:58,324 Huh, I can't wait to find out how much that means it costs. 258 00:15:58,357 --> 00:16:00,827 I can't wait for you to find out either. 259 00:16:03,629 --> 00:16:06,766 It was eight grand. 260 00:16:06,799 --> 00:16:09,802 Bets, it was work. 261 00:16:11,704 --> 00:16:13,973 Can I get you anything, sir? 262 00:16:16,642 --> 00:16:18,911 Yeah, I'll take a look at the menu. 263 00:16:22,248 --> 00:16:24,517 Mmm. 264 00:16:24,550 --> 00:16:26,085 He's your husband. 265 00:16:26,118 --> 00:16:28,688 Remind him. Fight for him. 266 00:16:28,721 --> 00:16:30,523 Fight for him. 267 00:16:30,556 --> 00:16:33,826 The birthday is when, Thursday? 268 00:16:33,860 --> 00:16:37,530 You get dolled up, you go to his office, and surprise him. 269 00:16:37,563 --> 00:16:38,798 Bring some champagne, 270 00:16:38,831 --> 00:16:40,733 get there in time to watch the sunset, 271 00:16:40,766 --> 00:16:42,969 one thing leads to another... 272 00:16:43,002 --> 00:16:45,037 You're gonna need a babysitter. 273 00:16:45,071 --> 00:16:48,107 I nominate myself. Really? 274 00:17:08,127 --> 00:17:10,630 Hi. 275 00:17:10,663 --> 00:17:13,900 Where's the birthday boy? I have a surprise. 276 00:17:13,933 --> 00:17:16,102 Oh, he he left after lunch. 277 00:17:18,170 --> 00:17:20,740 Is Colleen here? Chula Vista. 278 00:17:20,773 --> 00:17:22,108 Her niece's, um, baptism. 279 00:17:22,141 --> 00:17:25,578 Um, did you wanna leave that stuff? 280 00:17:25,611 --> 00:17:27,847 I'm his wife. 281 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:30,783 I'll just I'll I'll wait in his office. 282 00:17:30,816 --> 00:17:32,885 It's kind of a mess in there, so. 283 00:17:32,919 --> 00:17:35,187 That's okay. 284 00:17:54,340 --> 00:17:58,144 During this period, the victim feels upended. 285 00:17:58,177 --> 00:18:00,680 She is getting information she does not want to believe, 286 00:18:00,713 --> 00:18:03,950 that the infidel is saying is untrue, 287 00:18:03,983 --> 00:18:05,918 and so she is very torn. 288 00:18:05,952 --> 00:18:09,956 Frequently during this time, the behavior of the infidel 289 00:18:09,989 --> 00:18:12,692 makes the victim feel crazy. 290 00:18:12,725 --> 00:18:15,695 And the infidel will tell her there's nothing wrong. 291 00:18:15,728 --> 00:18:20,166 She's crazy to be thinking that, that she is crazy. 292 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,669 Get out of here! Get out of here! 293 00:18:23,703 --> 00:18:25,004 You were gone for hours. I thought everything 294 00:18:25,037 --> 00:18:26,172 must be going so great 295 00:18:26,205 --> 00:18:28,674 I said, go home! 296 00:18:31,043 --> 00:18:35,047 You, go back to bed! Now! 297 00:18:51,731 --> 00:18:54,700 298 00:18:57,803 --> 00:18:59,739 You want out? I moved you out. 299 00:19:00,806 --> 00:19:04,043 Poof. You son of a bitch. 300 00:19:07,947 --> 00:19:11,450 I wanted to surprise you. 301 00:19:15,721 --> 00:19:20,059 To surprise my husband, who wasn't even there... 302 00:19:20,092 --> 00:19:24,930 Who'd just left for the whole day with her. 303 00:19:24,964 --> 00:19:26,532 They got me a cake. 304 00:19:26,565 --> 00:19:30,903 "They" who's "they"? The office did. 305 00:19:30,936 --> 00:19:33,072 Then Linda took me to lunch by the courthouse 306 00:19:33,105 --> 00:19:35,975 with Ron and Walter. 307 00:19:36,008 --> 00:19:38,210 Then I went to a hearing at 1:30, 308 00:19:38,244 --> 00:19:41,047 because work doesn't care that it's my birthday. 309 00:19:42,181 --> 00:19:45,051 I have no idea where she went. 310 00:19:46,018 --> 00:19:49,655 I have no idea how to fix this, Bets. 311 00:19:49,689 --> 00:19:52,391 I can't prove that something's not true, 312 00:19:52,425 --> 00:19:55,227 that it doesn't exist. 313 00:19:55,261 --> 00:19:58,264 I can't prove that I'm not doing something 314 00:19:58,297 --> 00:20:02,501 that you seem to want me to be doing. 315 00:20:02,535 --> 00:20:07,139 If I can't prove it, then what happens to us? 316 00:20:09,975 --> 00:20:12,678 317 00:20:12,712 --> 00:20:14,914 I don't know. 318 00:20:14,947 --> 00:20:17,650 I I don't know. 319 00:20:18,984 --> 00:20:20,820 I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 320 00:20:20,853 --> 00:20:22,655 I'm sorry. 321 00:20:22,688 --> 00:20:25,791 Baby, I'm so sorry. 322 00:20:25,825 --> 00:20:27,660 323 00:20:35,801 --> 00:20:36,869 Gaslighting. 324 00:20:36,869 --> 00:20:38,537 It's named after a famous motion picture, 325 00:20:38,571 --> 00:20:42,241 in which a man who wants something from a woman 326 00:20:42,274 --> 00:20:44,543 pretends to be her friend, marries her, 327 00:20:44,577 --> 00:20:48,214 but in fact is her enemy, and in the process, 328 00:20:48,247 --> 00:20:54,220 being very kind to his victim, but in truth, in every moment, 329 00:20:54,253 --> 00:20:56,388 he is undermining her sanity. 330 00:20:56,422 --> 00:20:59,091 Well, we went once, just for the day. 331 00:20:59,125 --> 00:21:02,895 Bioethics Symposium. It was so romantic. 332 00:21:02,928 --> 00:21:06,098 The fog, the bridges. 333 00:21:06,132 --> 00:21:09,001 I keep telling Dan to figure out a way 334 00:21:09,034 --> 00:21:09,802 we can get back up there, 335 00:21:09,835 --> 00:21:11,036 but not be stuck at the conference. 336 00:21:11,070 --> 00:21:12,004 Mm hmm. 337 00:21:12,037 --> 00:21:14,573 The longer that the marriage goes on, 338 00:21:14,607 --> 00:21:17,843 the more at stake in it in terms of children, 339 00:21:17,877 --> 00:21:21,046 stability, its essential fabric 340 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,783 Everything is called into question: 341 00:21:23,816 --> 00:21:25,918 the victim's self esteem, 342 00:21:25,951 --> 00:21:27,953 their ability to trust themselves, 343 00:21:27,987 --> 00:21:31,924 as far as whether they even were a good parent, 344 00:21:31,957 --> 00:21:35,294 a good person, or whether they can be. 345 00:21:35,327 --> 00:21:38,097 Come on, this one's great. I don't like it. 346 00:21:38,130 --> 00:21:40,666 Really? I mean, the red brick, the trees 347 00:21:40,699 --> 00:21:43,068 There's no pool; it's so far from the kids' schools. 348 00:21:43,102 --> 00:21:44,236 And I just 349 00:21:44,270 --> 00:21:46,105 It's not a family house. 350 00:21:46,138 --> 00:21:47,373 It's not a house for children. 351 00:21:47,406 --> 00:21:49,775 One could argue what makes a house a house for children 352 00:21:49,809 --> 00:21:50,810 is children living in it. 353 00:21:50,843 --> 00:21:53,879 One would be wrong. 354 00:21:53,913 --> 00:21:54,780 This one. 355 00:21:54,814 --> 00:21:56,982 Didn't you say this one was a teardown? 356 00:21:57,016 --> 00:21:59,585 I said we could tear it down. 357 00:21:59,618 --> 00:22:01,887 The location alone is worth the price. 358 00:22:01,921 --> 00:22:03,055 Hmm. And the way the cul de sac 359 00:22:03,088 --> 00:22:03,889 is on a cul de sac 360 00:22:03,923 --> 00:22:07,893 What is the price? Hmm. 361 00:22:07,927 --> 00:22:09,929 You got this all figured out, don't you? 362 00:22:09,962 --> 00:22:11,831 Mm. 363 00:22:11,864 --> 00:22:12,798 364 00:22:12,832 --> 00:22:13,899 Shh. 365 00:22:13,933 --> 00:22:16,836 This is a house for children. 366 00:22:18,304 --> 00:22:22,241 They begin to say, "If I couldn't judge this thing 367 00:22:22,274 --> 00:22:24,276 "which was a part of my life every day for years, 368 00:22:24,310 --> 00:22:28,480 "if I misread so many things, accepted so many lies, 369 00:22:28,514 --> 00:22:31,817 how can I believe that I know anything at all?" 370 00:22:34,787 --> 00:22:37,089 Sorry, sorry. I cut it a little close. 371 00:22:38,858 --> 00:22:41,760 Nice to meet you both. I'm Dr. Harlan. 372 00:22:41,794 --> 00:22:43,429 373 00:22:43,462 --> 00:22:46,365 Now, why are we here? 374 00:22:46,398 --> 00:22:49,602 My wife had a tubal ligation, after our younger son was born. 375 00:22:49,635 --> 00:22:51,270 How many children? 376 00:22:51,303 --> 00:22:53,939 Four. But that's why we're here. 377 00:22:53,973 --> 00:22:58,010 To talk about my ligation, having it reversed... 378 00:22:58,043 --> 00:23:01,046 Having more children. 379 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:05,818 We thought we were done with all that, but, uh, we're not. 380 00:23:07,152 --> 00:23:08,854 What is not understood 381 00:23:08,888 --> 00:23:10,756 is that the more the lying goes on, 382 00:23:10,789 --> 00:23:12,858 the more brainwashing, as someone is told 383 00:23:12,892 --> 00:23:15,861 over and over something is not true 384 00:23:15,895 --> 00:23:17,863 that is, in fact, true, 385 00:23:17,897 --> 00:23:21,133 the more pressure the victim is under. 386 00:23:21,166 --> 00:23:23,002 387 00:23:23,035 --> 00:23:25,471 Oh, well, have you have you been? 388 00:23:25,504 --> 00:23:28,807 It's in Mission Bay. Dan 389 00:23:28,841 --> 00:23:32,845 Dan thought that I was joking when I said fish tacos. 390 00:23:32,878 --> 00:23:34,914 Oh, but he loves it now. 391 00:23:34,947 --> 00:23:37,583 I wish we could go tonight, but he wants to try 392 00:23:37,616 --> 00:23:41,887 that new Italian place on Harbor Drive uh, Basilica? 393 00:23:41,921 --> 00:23:43,322 No, I've never been. 394 00:23:43,355 --> 00:23:45,691 Oh, yeah? 395 00:23:45,724 --> 00:23:49,428 I've worked for you for a long time. 396 00:23:49,461 --> 00:23:51,664 Years. You've been here since the birth. 397 00:23:51,697 --> 00:23:55,834 So I just want to say something 398 00:23:55,868 --> 00:23:59,805 that is really very well meant. 399 00:23:59,838 --> 00:24:02,041 Hope you don't take it the Colleen, just tell me. 400 00:24:02,074 --> 00:24:04,810 Miss Kolkena. 401 00:24:04,843 --> 00:24:07,980 She talks a lot to everyone here... 402 00:24:08,013 --> 00:24:11,350 About things you're doing together, plans you have. 403 00:24:13,118 --> 00:24:15,955 It's not my business. 404 00:24:15,988 --> 00:24:18,190 But when I think about how it's just very 405 00:24:18,223 --> 00:24:19,425 I appreciate your honesty. 406 00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:21,360 But also I've been miserable for years, 407 00:24:21,393 --> 00:24:23,128 and I'm doing this the way I want to do it. 408 00:24:24,563 --> 00:24:26,298 And you're right. 409 00:24:26,332 --> 00:24:28,400 It's not your business. 410 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,649 In my work, and I find this particularly important 411 00:24:43,649 --> 00:24:45,017 where there are children the first thing I tell 412 00:24:45,050 --> 00:24:49,288 the couple is the object of this therapy is 413 00:24:49,321 --> 00:24:52,091 a better marriage or a better divorce. 414 00:24:55,060 --> 00:24:59,131 Linda... 415 00:24:59,164 --> 00:25:01,233 Did you finish the draft? 416 00:25:03,969 --> 00:25:05,971 What's the matter? 417 00:25:11,043 --> 00:25:15,514 I was with my family. We had dinner. 418 00:25:15,547 --> 00:25:19,651 Everybody was asking me when I'm gonna find a man. 419 00:25:19,685 --> 00:25:23,188 What I'm doing to find a man. 420 00:25:24,423 --> 00:25:30,295 My dad, asking. 421 00:25:30,329 --> 00:25:34,967 My dad, who just wants me to be safe, 422 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,170 who is such a good person. 423 00:25:38,203 --> 00:25:42,074 Imagine if I told them that I found a man 424 00:25:42,107 --> 00:25:44,643 years ago, actually. 425 00:25:44,676 --> 00:25:48,147 And he says that he's in love with me. 426 00:25:48,180 --> 00:25:50,149 He has four children, and hasn't told his wife, 427 00:25:50,182 --> 00:25:51,917 but... 428 00:25:51,950 --> 00:25:53,685 Don't worry, she knows. 429 00:25:53,719 --> 00:25:55,654 430 00:25:55,687 --> 00:25:58,057 He wouldn't be able to look at me. 431 00:25:58,090 --> 00:26:01,994 Sometimes I can't look at me. 432 00:26:04,263 --> 00:26:05,330 433 00:26:05,364 --> 00:26:07,833 Better marriage or a better divorce. 434 00:26:07,866 --> 00:26:11,603 And to achieve that, the first thing that has to happen 435 00:26:11,637 --> 00:26:14,339 is the infidel has to be willing to both admit 436 00:26:14,373 --> 00:26:18,277 and express remorse, to say, 437 00:26:18,310 --> 00:26:20,612 "I have deeply hurt you. 438 00:26:20,646 --> 00:26:23,449 I have lied, I admit it. I am sorry." 439 00:26:23,482 --> 00:26:27,019 Those are the necessary conditions for change. 440 00:26:27,052 --> 00:26:29,688 In their absence, you just add to the pressure cooker. 441 00:26:32,191 --> 00:26:34,560 So at the follow up, he said that even when reattaching 442 00:26:34,593 --> 00:26:37,596 the tubes is successful, there can still be scarring, 443 00:26:37,629 --> 00:26:38,797 ectopic pregnancy... 444 00:26:38,831 --> 00:26:41,033 Oh, my God. Artificial insemination 445 00:26:41,066 --> 00:26:42,601 bypasses the tubes entirely, 446 00:26:42,634 --> 00:26:45,204 but that's when Dan lost interest. 447 00:26:45,237 --> 00:26:48,207 I'm sorry. No, it's fine. 448 00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,375 Can't say I really wanted to be pregnant again. 449 00:26:50,409 --> 00:26:52,411 Good point. I just wanted Dan 450 00:26:52,444 --> 00:26:55,080 to understand I would, if that's what he wanted. 451 00:26:55,114 --> 00:26:57,216 So now he does. 452 00:26:57,249 --> 00:27:00,052 So the seller came down 50 grand. 453 00:27:00,085 --> 00:27:03,055 That's still a $140,000 down payment. 454 00:27:03,088 --> 00:27:06,225 So I'm just I'm gonna give Bets $140,000. 455 00:27:06,258 --> 00:27:07,726 This is what I'm doing now. You're not giving it to her. 456 00:27:07,759 --> 00:27:08,760 You're lending it to her, and then the court will 457 00:27:08,794 --> 00:27:11,363 give it back to you in Epstein credits. 458 00:27:11,396 --> 00:27:12,798 You know this. I know. 459 00:27:12,831 --> 00:27:14,967 But this isn't Monopoly money we're talking about, 460 00:27:14,967 --> 00:27:16,568 so I'd just like to hear you say it. 461 00:27:16,602 --> 00:27:18,570 462 00:27:18,604 --> 00:27:23,475 A spouse, who after separation uses his separate property 463 00:27:23,509 --> 00:27:26,178 to pay preexisting community debt incurred 464 00:27:26,211 --> 00:27:29,515 by the other spouse credit cards, car loans, 465 00:27:29,548 --> 00:27:32,618 lawyer fees will be reimbursed out of 466 00:27:32,651 --> 00:27:35,120 community property. 467 00:27:35,154 --> 00:27:39,525 California Case law, "Marriage of Epstein 1979." 468 00:27:39,558 --> 00:27:41,660 Key words in all that salad being 469 00:27:41,693 --> 00:27:44,530 "After separation." Jinx, you owe me a beer. 470 00:27:44,563 --> 00:27:46,331 I don't mean to imply that I've had it any harder 471 00:27:46,365 --> 00:27:47,599 than you did with Frank. 472 00:27:47,633 --> 00:27:48,767 What? Compared to yours, 473 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,702 my situation was simple. 474 00:27:50,736 --> 00:27:52,371 Frank lived in terror of getting caught, 475 00:27:52,404 --> 00:27:54,506 which is probably why I caught him. 476 00:27:54,540 --> 00:27:55,841 Then I kicked him out, and he was never good 477 00:27:55,874 --> 00:27:56,942 at being a bachelor before we got married, 478 00:27:56,975 --> 00:27:59,144 so he begged to come back and I let him, 479 00:27:59,178 --> 00:28:00,179 and then he bought me a Porsche. 480 00:28:00,212 --> 00:28:03,448 An American fairy tale. 481 00:28:03,482 --> 00:28:05,617 The date of separation has to be ratified 482 00:28:05,651 --> 00:28:07,319 through a two part test. 483 00:28:07,352 --> 00:28:10,322 First, physical separation of spouses, as in, 484 00:28:10,355 --> 00:28:12,624 one has moved out of the family home. 485 00:28:12,658 --> 00:28:16,195 And, second, at least one spouse must have intent 486 00:28:16,228 --> 00:28:18,363 to end the marriage. 487 00:28:18,397 --> 00:28:20,599 If these two conditions are met, 488 00:28:20,632 --> 00:28:24,236 court will order reimbursement of any and all traceable funds 489 00:28:24,269 --> 00:28:28,740 expended on the other spouse from that date forward, 490 00:28:28,774 --> 00:28:33,512 such as, uh, when someone makes a down payment on a new house 491 00:28:33,545 --> 00:28:36,248 that they never intend to live in. 492 00:28:36,281 --> 00:28:38,217 For a while, it felt like Dan had started to think 493 00:28:38,250 --> 00:28:42,688 his true self was who he was with other people, 494 00:28:42,721 --> 00:28:44,756 that their praise meant more to him than mine, 495 00:28:44,790 --> 00:28:47,326 because theirs was new. 496 00:28:47,359 --> 00:28:48,860 Then he remembered what it is to be known 497 00:28:48,894 --> 00:28:53,131 truly to be known by someone, what a gift that is. 498 00:28:53,165 --> 00:28:54,833 Some people never get that, ever. 499 00:28:54,866 --> 00:28:57,202 Like, he knows that now. 500 00:28:57,236 --> 00:28:59,104 He just put me through hell first. 501 00:28:59,137 --> 00:29:01,406 502 00:29:03,775 --> 00:29:06,578 Remember, divorce is one of those words. 503 00:29:06,612 --> 00:29:09,548 Once you've said it, it can never be unsaid. 504 00:29:09,581 --> 00:29:13,385 When you're ready to tell her, before you tell her, 505 00:29:13,418 --> 00:29:16,154 never hurts to think about how you would want to be told. 506 00:29:16,188 --> 00:29:17,456 Yeah? 507 00:29:20,459 --> 00:29:22,394 Hey. 508 00:29:22,427 --> 00:29:25,264 Doug, you remember Linda. Yeah, of course. 509 00:29:25,297 --> 00:29:27,733 Merry Christmas, hon. Merry Christmas. 510 00:29:27,766 --> 00:29:30,168 511 00:29:31,870 --> 00:29:33,705 Hi. Hi. 512 00:29:33,739 --> 00:29:36,408 But unless something is extended to the victim 513 00:29:36,441 --> 00:29:39,211 that says, "You are not crazy. This has happened. 514 00:29:39,244 --> 00:29:41,880 "You are not wrong to have these feelings 515 00:29:41,913 --> 00:29:44,583 "of absolute unsupport, 516 00:29:44,616 --> 00:29:49,321 "self hatred, anger toward everyone, but here they are. 517 00:29:49,354 --> 00:29:51,223 Let's go on." 518 00:29:51,256 --> 00:29:54,393 As long as there is no resolution 519 00:29:54,426 --> 00:29:57,896 for the victim at all, healing does not take place. 520 00:29:59,431 --> 00:30:00,732 I was wondering when you were coming to bed, 521 00:30:00,766 --> 00:30:02,534 mostly because I wanted to show you this, 522 00:30:02,567 --> 00:30:04,736 which I think would be such a great color on you. 523 00:30:04,770 --> 00:30:06,471 524 00:30:10,375 --> 00:30:12,644 What are you doing? 525 00:30:12,678 --> 00:30:16,281 Dan? Dan. 526 00:30:16,315 --> 00:30:18,450 I need to think. 527 00:30:18,483 --> 00:30:20,619 I never have time to think about anything. 528 00:30:20,652 --> 00:30:23,355 If I could just have some time 529 00:30:23,388 --> 00:30:25,524 by myself, maybe 530 00:30:25,557 --> 00:30:26,625 What do you need to think about? 531 00:30:26,658 --> 00:30:29,194 I don't know, my life. 532 00:30:29,227 --> 00:30:30,829 What about it? 533 00:30:30,862 --> 00:30:32,831 I don't know. 534 00:30:34,866 --> 00:30:36,968 I just know I need to figure out 535 00:30:37,002 --> 00:30:40,806 If I don't take this time, 536 00:30:40,839 --> 00:30:43,508 I'm not going to be any good to anyone. 537 00:30:47,713 --> 00:30:49,681 You're going to be with her. 538 00:30:49,715 --> 00:30:53,585 I'm not, Betty. I'm just going. 539 00:30:53,618 --> 00:30:56,555 Just for a while. 540 00:31:01,293 --> 00:31:03,362 Look, I don't know what the best way to do this. 541 00:31:03,395 --> 00:31:06,698 I'm sorry. 542 00:31:06,732 --> 00:31:10,202 I didn't mean to spring it on you like this. 543 00:31:10,235 --> 00:31:14,339 Should I... 544 00:31:14,373 --> 00:31:17,843 Should I leave now or in the morning? 545 00:31:19,711 --> 00:31:23,048 Leave when you want to. 546 00:31:23,081 --> 00:31:25,584 I'm not gonna tell you when to go. 547 00:31:33,592 --> 00:31:35,093 Come on, you guys. 548 00:31:37,796 --> 00:31:39,865 549 00:31:42,834 --> 00:31:46,705 Oh, my gosh, I am so hungry. 550 00:31:46,738 --> 00:31:49,508 Is there waffles? Maybe in the freezer. 551 00:31:49,541 --> 00:31:51,877 Is Dad here? 552 00:31:51,910 --> 00:31:54,846 He left already? Why so early? 553 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,016 Work, duh. 554 00:31:58,049 --> 00:32:01,620 I need to tell you all something. 555 00:32:02,654 --> 00:32:05,590 Because why shouldn't you know? You should. 556 00:32:07,092 --> 00:32:08,894 You should know. 557 00:32:16,401 --> 00:32:20,405 Daddy's gonna be spending some time away from the house. 558 00:32:20,439 --> 00:32:23,542 Alone, just to think. 559 00:32:25,610 --> 00:32:28,880 Just to figure out things he needs to do. 560 00:32:31,917 --> 00:32:35,454 And he says he loves all of us all of you. 561 00:32:35,487 --> 00:32:38,023 How much time? 562 00:32:40,625 --> 00:32:42,894 We'll find out when he's done. 563 00:32:46,965 --> 00:32:49,935 When? Mm... 564 00:32:49,935 --> 00:32:51,002 Tuesday night. He told you he was leaving? 565 00:32:51,036 --> 00:32:53,472 What did he say? 566 00:32:53,505 --> 00:32:57,275 That he needed space and time. 567 00:32:57,309 --> 00:32:59,544 Well, what does that mean? How much space? 568 00:32:59,578 --> 00:33:02,848 I don't know, but it's fine. 569 00:33:02,881 --> 00:33:05,484 Sounds wonderful, actually. I'm jealous. 570 00:33:05,517 --> 00:33:06,885 Who couldn't use a break from everything? 571 00:33:09,154 --> 00:33:11,089 But he never said "divorce." 572 00:33:11,122 --> 00:33:14,759 Did he say "separating"? I told you, no. 573 00:33:14,793 --> 00:33:16,595 Why would he? 574 00:33:16,628 --> 00:33:19,531 We're moving into the house in La Jolla together. 575 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,301 Mmm. 576 00:33:26,238 --> 00:33:30,842 All she thought she knew is being called into question. 577 00:33:30,876 --> 00:33:32,844 What that tends to create in the victim 578 00:33:32,878 --> 00:33:38,116 is a tremendous sense of unreality about her very being, 579 00:33:38,149 --> 00:33:41,086 when, particularly over the course 580 00:33:41,119 --> 00:33:45,757 of a protracted infidelity, every day is filled with lies. 581 00:33:51,930 --> 00:33:53,598 Oh, someone had a fun night. 582 00:33:53,632 --> 00:33:55,200 583 00:33:57,369 --> 00:33:59,771 You couldn't have called? Or or come over earlier 584 00:33:59,804 --> 00:34:01,973 to help me unpack? 585 00:34:02,007 --> 00:34:03,375 Well 586 00:34:03,408 --> 00:34:04,776 The kids are asleep! 587 00:34:04,809 --> 00:34:07,412 It's okay. 588 00:34:07,445 --> 00:34:09,648 So says you. 589 00:34:09,681 --> 00:34:12,951 590 00:34:18,523 --> 00:34:20,692 How about the couch? 591 00:34:30,535 --> 00:34:32,737 I can bring things here on one of my trips, I don't mind. 592 00:34:32,771 --> 00:34:35,840 You just have to tell me which things you want. 593 00:34:35,874 --> 00:34:38,944 Don't worry about that right now. 594 00:34:38,977 --> 00:34:41,513 Okay, but you can't just leave all your stuff 595 00:34:41,546 --> 00:34:43,782 at Coral Reef indefinitely. 596 00:34:43,815 --> 00:34:46,751 I won't. 597 00:34:46,785 --> 00:34:49,654 I'm moving back in there. 598 00:34:50,789 --> 00:34:54,659 You're what? 599 00:34:56,528 --> 00:34:58,597 For how long? 600 00:34:58,630 --> 00:35:01,666 I don't know. 601 00:35:01,700 --> 00:35:02,968 What about Lake Henshaw? 602 00:35:03,001 --> 00:35:04,502 We promised the kids for August. 603 00:35:04,536 --> 00:35:05,470 I don't think so. 604 00:35:05,503 --> 00:35:07,739 And it's my dad's 75th birthday back east. 605 00:35:07,772 --> 00:35:09,674 Are we going? 606 00:35:09,708 --> 00:35:11,610 You don't have to say that you're ready to be finished 607 00:35:11,643 --> 00:35:15,614 needing space, to take a fun family trip back east. 608 00:35:15,647 --> 00:35:17,882 Maybe not, but, in the meantime, 609 00:35:17,916 --> 00:35:20,318 you guys should go to the lake. 610 00:35:21,720 --> 00:35:25,056 All right. Oh, my God, big bag. 611 00:35:25,090 --> 00:35:27,459 Smells weird in here. It's just musty 612 00:35:27,492 --> 00:35:29,227 'cause we were gone. 613 00:35:29,260 --> 00:35:30,462 Mom, what are we doing for dinner? 614 00:35:30,495 --> 00:35:32,464 We're gonna have to go out. Can we get fish tacos? 615 00:35:32,497 --> 00:35:34,633 Well... 616 00:35:34,666 --> 00:35:35,533 Oh, my God, rats! 617 00:35:35,567 --> 00:35:36,401 Rats! 618 00:35:36,434 --> 00:35:38,370 There are rats everywhere! 619 00:35:40,772 --> 00:35:43,074 Yes? There are rats! 620 00:35:43,108 --> 00:35:44,809 What? 621 00:35:44,843 --> 00:35:47,012 Rats all over this place! You have to come now! 622 00:35:47,045 --> 00:35:48,446 We need you! 623 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:49,714 I don't 624 00:35:49,748 --> 00:35:52,684 I can't just Why can't you? 625 00:35:52,717 --> 00:35:55,654 How can you not? You hear that? 626 00:35:55,687 --> 00:35:57,656 It's time to act like a goddamn parent, 627 00:35:57,689 --> 00:35:59,691 not a college kid who leaves his family 628 00:35:59,724 --> 00:36:01,426 in a rat infested goddamn house! 629 00:36:01,459 --> 00:36:03,395 You have 13 credit cards, 630 00:36:03,428 --> 00:36:05,030 the resources to call an exterminator, 631 00:36:05,063 --> 00:36:07,065 and you can stay in whatever hotel. 632 00:36:07,098 --> 00:36:10,635 What more can I do for you? Good luck. 633 00:36:17,742 --> 00:36:19,411 What is this how long have you been here? 634 00:36:19,444 --> 00:36:21,880 I wanna go home. Since dark. 635 00:36:21,913 --> 00:36:23,181 Where is she? 636 00:36:23,214 --> 00:36:24,315 New York for Grandpa's birthday. 637 00:36:24,349 --> 00:36:26,685 Yeah, she said you'd be back eventually. 638 00:36:26,718 --> 00:36:29,621 And that you've been having a lot of fun lately. 639 00:36:29,654 --> 00:36:31,423 And you needed to be reminded 640 00:36:31,456 --> 00:36:32,757 that there's more to it than fun. 641 00:36:32,791 --> 00:36:34,826 642 00:36:43,902 --> 00:36:47,372 Yes, it was a lovely party, 643 00:36:47,405 --> 00:36:48,873 even though my parents warned me I was ruining it 644 00:36:48,907 --> 00:36:49,908 by talking about our marriage troubles 645 00:36:49,941 --> 00:36:51,943 in front of the rest of the family 646 00:36:51,976 --> 00:36:53,011 What kind of person does what you did? 647 00:36:53,044 --> 00:36:55,714 What kind of mother? Their mother is what I am. 648 00:36:55,747 --> 00:36:58,383 Not a babysitter. I'm not your babysitter. 649 00:36:58,416 --> 00:37:00,819 You wanna destroy our family for her, that's your business. 650 00:37:00,852 --> 00:37:01,820 But I'm not here to make your life easier for you 651 00:37:01,853 --> 00:37:04,622 while you do it, or her life. 652 00:37:04,656 --> 00:37:05,890 Let her see what this really is, 653 00:37:05,924 --> 00:37:07,726 what all the fun turns into. 654 00:37:07,759 --> 00:37:09,394 Now. 655 00:37:09,427 --> 00:37:10,395 The kid are at camp, 656 00:37:10,428 --> 00:37:12,997 where you are not listed as next of kin. 657 00:37:13,031 --> 00:37:14,733 So if you show up there and try to take them away, 658 00:37:14,766 --> 00:37:16,868 you will not be allowed to. What? 659 00:37:16,901 --> 00:37:19,170 When they come back, they'll be living with me. 660 00:37:19,204 --> 00:37:21,940 I'm seeking an emergency judgment. 661 00:37:21,973 --> 00:37:23,575 I know what you're trying to do. 662 00:37:23,608 --> 00:37:26,511 You're trying to prove that I can't do this without you. 663 00:37:26,544 --> 00:37:28,480 Maybe that's 'cause I never tried. 664 00:37:32,984 --> 00:37:35,019 665 00:37:35,019 --> 00:37:37,122 You have such a wonderful first day, Anthony. 666 00:37:37,155 --> 00:37:40,325 Are you so excited? 667 00:37:40,358 --> 00:37:42,694 But, sweetheart, you're gonna know everybody 668 00:37:42,727 --> 00:37:44,796 from kindergarten. It's gonna be the same kids, 669 00:37:44,829 --> 00:37:47,198 and I heard the teacher is so nice. 670 00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:49,934 Aww, don't be sad. 671 00:37:49,968 --> 00:37:53,905 You're gonna have the best time. 672 00:37:53,938 --> 00:37:55,707 And I can't wait to hear all about it. 673 00:38:02,547 --> 00:38:05,750 Elizabeth Broderick? Yes? 674 00:38:05,784 --> 00:38:08,720 You have 30 days to respond. 675 00:38:13,057 --> 00:38:15,093 I've been retained by Dan, Bets. 676 00:38:15,126 --> 00:38:16,661 You keep saying that, 677 00:38:16,694 --> 00:38:19,831 but can't you just represent both of us? 678 00:38:19,864 --> 00:38:22,133 Doesn't really work that way. 679 00:38:22,167 --> 00:38:24,569 Well, can you look this over, though? 680 00:38:26,171 --> 00:38:28,072 I'm not used to having to parse legalese about 681 00:38:28,106 --> 00:38:29,841 when I can see my children. 682 00:38:29,874 --> 00:38:31,876 683 00:38:31,910 --> 00:38:32,977 Um 684 00:38:33,011 --> 00:38:36,781 Look, Dan's been granted temporary physical custody. 685 00:38:36,815 --> 00:38:40,251 You get them Wednesdays and alternate weekends. 686 00:38:40,285 --> 00:38:43,888 You need to be a good soldier here, Bets. 687 00:38:43,922 --> 00:38:48,359 Otherwise, you risk not being able to see them at all. 688 00:38:50,762 --> 00:38:54,766 Is this about what you spend a month on groceries? 689 00:38:54,799 --> 00:38:57,035 Yeah. Mortgage? 690 00:38:57,068 --> 00:39:01,239 Uh, insurance premiums, groceries, household items. 691 00:39:01,272 --> 00:39:03,975 Uh huh, yeah. That look about right? 692 00:39:04,008 --> 00:39:06,277 Yeah. 693 00:39:06,311 --> 00:39:08,246 Your credit card bills are astronomical. 694 00:39:08,279 --> 00:39:10,014 I'm sorry, hon. 695 00:39:10,048 --> 00:39:11,316 I will pay them down, 696 00:39:11,349 --> 00:39:12,917 but then they're your responsibility. 697 00:39:12,951 --> 00:39:15,119 I'll notify the companies to that effect. 698 00:39:15,153 --> 00:39:17,555 Fine. $9,000. 699 00:39:17,589 --> 00:39:21,326 Half for the mortgage, half for everything else. 700 00:39:21,359 --> 00:39:23,761 More than enough, since the kids are with me. 701 00:39:27,799 --> 00:39:29,968 702 00:39:29,968 --> 00:39:32,937 S 703 00:39:32,971 --> 00:39:34,372 704 00:39:34,405 --> 00:39:36,908 Okay, when you have a lawyer, let me know. 705 00:39:36,941 --> 00:39:39,010 Oh, okay. 706 00:39:45,817 --> 00:39:48,286 What the person wants more than anything else 707 00:39:48,319 --> 00:39:52,290 is to be relieved of this pain and this burden. 708 00:39:52,323 --> 00:39:55,193 And anything that will begin that process 709 00:39:55,226 --> 00:39:59,664 is going to be a relief, no matter how painful it is. 710 00:39:59,697 --> 00:40:03,001 It is going to be as if that spout on the pressure cooker 711 00:40:03,034 --> 00:40:07,939 is finally open and the steam can get out. 712 00:40:07,972 --> 00:40:10,675 Happy Wednesday. 713 00:40:10,708 --> 00:40:13,177 Hi! Mom, Mom! 714 00:40:13,211 --> 00:40:14,612 Hi! No car outside. 715 00:40:14,646 --> 00:40:17,548 Is Dad not even here? He just left you alone? 716 00:40:17,582 --> 00:40:19,717 We were fine. Okay. 717 00:40:19,751 --> 00:40:21,419 Come on. One more time. 718 00:40:23,821 --> 00:40:25,623 You ready or what? 719 00:40:25,657 --> 00:40:28,993 You were early. God. 720 00:40:33,464 --> 00:40:36,701 Hi. Hey. 721 00:40:36,734 --> 00:40:39,237 Mom, you're not supposed to let yourself in. 722 00:40:39,270 --> 00:40:42,373 Boston cream pie? What's the occasion? 723 00:40:45,009 --> 00:40:47,478 Oh, someone just made Dad's favorite for no reason? 724 00:40:47,512 --> 00:40:49,881 725 00:40:49,914 --> 00:40:52,350 Who? 726 00:41:41,032 --> 00:41:44,168 Too often the infidel will run further and further away 727 00:41:44,202 --> 00:41:47,772 as the person presses to gain that release, 728 00:41:47,805 --> 00:41:51,442 and of course that just increases the victim's pain 729 00:41:51,476 --> 00:41:56,581 and confusion and anger, making them feel their life 730 00:41:56,614 --> 00:42:02,520 has become a mockery that they barely exist. 731 00:42:02,553 --> 00:42:06,224 A pressure cooker must have some type of release. 732 00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,429 Court order. Signed by a judge. 733 00:42:11,462 --> 00:42:13,765 From now on, you come on the Coral Reef property 734 00:42:13,798 --> 00:42:15,800 with my permission or you go to jail. 735 00:42:15,833 --> 00:42:17,335 How am I supposed to see my kids? 736 00:42:17,368 --> 00:42:20,071 With my permission. You are such a fool. 737 00:42:22,306 --> 00:42:24,976 Wait. 738 00:42:25,009 --> 00:42:27,278 Betty. 739 00:42:27,311 --> 00:42:29,947 Dan. 740 00:42:29,981 --> 00:42:32,383 Come on. What are you doing? 741 00:42:32,417 --> 00:42:34,318 We have a wonderful family. I love you. 742 00:42:34,352 --> 00:42:36,287 We have everything we ever wanted, 743 00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:40,358 and we're gonna lose it. Linda is gonna take all of it. 744 00:42:40,391 --> 00:42:43,361 Everyone whose last name is Broderick is gonna lose. 745 00:42:43,394 --> 00:42:45,129 I wish you could hear yourself. 746 00:42:45,163 --> 00:42:46,064 Why, because I'm wrong about her? 747 00:42:46,097 --> 00:42:47,532 748 00:42:47,565 --> 00:42:51,869 But if I'm wrong about her, that means I'm not wrong, 749 00:42:51,903 --> 00:42:55,006 that there is a her, that I'm not crazy. 750 00:42:55,039 --> 00:42:57,542 Why not just admit it? 751 00:42:57,575 --> 00:43:01,379 There's no reason not to now. 752 00:43:01,412 --> 00:43:04,849 Was I imagining it? 753 00:43:07,485 --> 00:43:10,321 No. 754 00:43:10,354 --> 00:43:12,523 I'm in love with her. 755 00:43:14,992 --> 00:43:16,661 Okay. 756 00:43:20,898 --> 00:43:23,935 Was I ever imagining it? 757 00:43:25,002 --> 00:43:27,972 No. 758 00:43:29,373 --> 00:43:32,510 You were right the whole time. 759 00:43:32,543 --> 00:43:35,880 760 00:43:40,751 --> 00:43:43,254 In fact, that was the problem. 761 00:43:43,287 --> 00:43:45,490 They were taken off the market, pressure cookers.