1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,381 - I had written myself notes. I only have five minutes. 2 00:00:05,382 --> 00:00:07,716 I didn't want to spend the entire time rambling. 3 00:00:07,717 --> 00:00:09,510 - It's okay if you ramble. 4 00:00:09,511 --> 00:00:12,346 - No, it's not. - Yes, it is. 5 00:00:12,347 --> 00:00:14,307 - No, it's not. I don't... 6 00:00:15,392 --> 00:00:19,562 It's right here, so.... 7 00:00:19,563 --> 00:00:21,313 Um... 8 00:00:21,314 --> 00:00:24,149 I... 9 00:00:24,150 --> 00:00:26,527 I was online yesterday 10 00:00:26,528 --> 00:00:29,321 and, um, a bunch of people had posted links 11 00:00:29,322 --> 00:00:31,282 to this infographic, and... 12 00:00:31,283 --> 00:00:33,033 Sorry, does everyone know what that... 13 00:00:33,034 --> 00:00:35,995 It's a... it's a cartoon that illustrates statistics. 14 00:00:35,996 --> 00:00:37,496 So, um... 15 00:00:37,497 --> 00:00:39,957 this infographic was about marriages, 16 00:00:39,958 --> 00:00:42,960 and, um, it said that if your spouse dies, 17 00:00:42,961 --> 00:00:47,965 it... it feels like losing $308,780 a year, 18 00:00:47,966 --> 00:00:50,301 which sounded crazy to me at first. 19 00:00:50,302 --> 00:00:52,469 Like, how do you... 20 00:00:52,470 --> 00:00:54,555 how do you put a dollar amount on death? 21 00:00:54,556 --> 00:00:56,390 Like, how is that even a thing with a price tag? 22 00:00:56,391 --> 00:00:58,017 Um... 23 00:00:58,018 --> 00:00:59,852 But then I... 24 00:00:59,853 --> 00:01:01,812 I started to think 25 00:01:01,813 --> 00:01:05,566 about what it would feel like to lose... 26 00:01:05,567 --> 00:01:09,361 $308,780 a year. 27 00:01:09,362 --> 00:01:11,322 And it would feel like... 28 00:01:11,323 --> 00:01:13,241 like a problem you could never fix. 29 00:01:14,951 --> 00:01:17,828 It's an impossible amount of money to lose. 30 00:01:17,829 --> 00:01:20,873 Um... 31 00:01:20,874 --> 00:01:22,708 I don't know if it's that exact number. 32 00:01:22,709 --> 00:01:25,836 The 780 at the end feels a bit weird. 33 00:01:25,837 --> 00:01:27,296 Um... 34 00:01:27,297 --> 00:01:29,673 But I... 35 00:01:29,674 --> 00:01:32,676 would say that my... 36 00:01:32,677 --> 00:01:35,847 husband being dead... 37 00:01:37,182 --> 00:01:40,644 Feels like the same kind of impossible thing. 38 00:01:44,898 --> 00:01:46,565 That's what I got. 39 00:01:46,566 --> 00:01:49,527 - Thanks for sharing. - Okay, you're welcome. 40 00:01:51,029 --> 00:01:52,863 - You still have a few minutes. 41 00:01:52,864 --> 00:01:55,158 - I don't really want them. 42 00:02:14,427 --> 00:02:16,679 - No. - Up. Yes, come on. 43 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,390 You teach at 7:00. No. No. No. No "Moms." Come on. 44 00:02:19,391 --> 00:02:21,976 - Hey, stop. I'm not wearing pants. 45 00:02:21,977 --> 00:02:23,936 - Your body literally came out of my vagina. 46 00:02:23,937 --> 00:02:26,814 Do not talk to me about pants. Come on. 47 00:02:26,815 --> 00:02:29,651 I don't want to be awake. 48 00:02:31,069 --> 00:02:33,237 - I know, sweetie, but no one wants to be awake. 49 00:02:33,238 --> 00:02:34,905 That's how mornings work. 50 00:02:34,906 --> 00:02:37,074 Here, there's those pants you were so worried about. 51 00:02:37,075 --> 00:02:38,826 - Yeah. Get up. Get up. 52 00:02:38,827 --> 00:02:40,286 Get up. Get up. Get up. 53 00:02:40,287 --> 00:02:42,746 Get up. Get up. Get up. Get up. 54 00:02:42,747 --> 00:02:45,207 Get up. Get up. Get up. Get up. 55 00:02:46,877 --> 00:02:49,962 Babe.. 56 00:02:49,963 --> 00:02:52,548 I'm going back to sleep. 57 00:02:54,009 --> 00:02:56,302 You need to take a shower. 58 00:02:56,303 --> 00:02:59,263 You do not smell good enough to be around my family. 59 00:02:59,264 --> 00:03:00,639 - I smell okay. 60 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:02,016 - I promise you don't smell okay. 61 00:03:02,017 --> 00:03:04,143 - I didn't know I was coming with. 62 00:03:04,144 --> 00:03:05,769 - Do you not want to come? 63 00:03:05,770 --> 00:03:07,646 - I-it's just been a long week. 64 00:03:07,647 --> 00:03:09,481 I thought I'd take the morning to sleep. 65 00:03:09,482 --> 00:03:12,735 - Matt, please. I need you. 66 00:03:12,736 --> 00:03:15,946 You always make things better with my family. 67 00:03:15,947 --> 00:03:17,489 I don't, but you do. 68 00:03:17,490 --> 00:03:19,950 - You know that's not true about you. 69 00:03:19,951 --> 00:03:23,621 - Please, get up. 70 00:03:23,622 --> 00:03:26,165 Oh, my God. 71 00:03:27,959 --> 00:03:30,002 - Thank you. 72 00:03:30,003 --> 00:03:32,339 - I love you. - I love you, too. 73 00:03:33,757 --> 00:03:36,217 I'll love you more after you've brushed your teeth. 74 00:03:36,218 --> 00:03:38,969 - Yeah, how about we try all that again? 75 00:03:38,970 --> 00:03:41,222 - I just love you and nothing else. 76 00:03:41,223 --> 00:03:42,432 - Yeah, there it is. 77 00:03:42,433 --> 00:03:44,226 - Leigh. Leigh. 78 00:03:46,311 --> 00:03:47,895 Honey. 79 00:03:47,896 --> 00:03:51,190 You have the 7:00 and 8:15 classes... 9:30. 80 00:03:51,191 --> 00:03:52,650 I'm at noon. 81 00:03:52,651 --> 00:03:54,777 Uh, Jules, you have the evening slots. 82 00:03:54,778 --> 00:03:56,946 You have group at 8:30. 83 00:03:56,947 --> 00:03:59,531 And I have a date with a guy who seems nice, 84 00:03:59,532 --> 00:04:01,158 but, you know, kind of boring on eHarmony. 85 00:04:01,159 --> 00:04:02,618 So let's hope he's nice 86 00:04:02,619 --> 00:04:05,246 and kind of interesting in real life. 87 00:04:05,247 --> 00:04:07,165 - Hello. 88 00:04:09,251 --> 00:04:12,211 - Hey. - Hi. 89 00:04:12,212 --> 00:04:13,796 Good morning. 90 00:04:13,797 --> 00:04:16,257 - Hi. - Can't believe you're here. 91 00:04:16,258 --> 00:04:18,050 Okay, you guys I got to show you something funny. 92 00:04:18,051 --> 00:04:20,177 Come on. Look at what Mom made. - What? Oh. 93 00:04:20,178 --> 00:04:21,554 No. - Yes. 94 00:04:21,555 --> 00:04:22,930 - Wow. - What? 95 00:04:24,307 --> 00:04:26,100 - What? What's so funny? 96 00:04:26,101 --> 00:04:28,769 Hey, that's not cool. I don't make fun of your stuff. 97 00:04:28,770 --> 00:04:30,854 - Mom, if you don't want people to laugh at your vision boards, 98 00:04:30,855 --> 00:04:32,648 don't put so much healing crystals. 99 00:04:32,649 --> 00:04:34,483 - They are not vision boards. They are soul collages. 100 00:04:34,484 --> 00:04:35,901 - Oh, right. Of course. 101 00:04:35,902 --> 00:04:37,444 - Well, I think this is really cool art. 102 00:04:37,445 --> 00:04:39,321 What's the story? - Thank you. 103 00:04:39,322 --> 00:04:41,657 You collage a card for each aspect of your soul, 104 00:04:41,658 --> 00:04:43,909 and then you use the cards to answer your life questions. 105 00:04:43,910 --> 00:04:46,036 So it's sort of like a personalized tarot deck. 106 00:04:46,037 --> 00:04:47,788 - Oh, my God, you've got to stop 107 00:04:47,789 --> 00:04:49,331 being a parody of yourself. 108 00:04:49,332 --> 00:04:51,208 - You don't subscribe to my belief system. 109 00:04:51,209 --> 00:04:54,211 That's just fine, but you give some respect where it's due. 110 00:04:54,212 --> 00:04:56,380 Everything I have accomplished in my life 111 00:04:56,381 --> 00:04:59,049 is a result of believing that I could create my own reality, 112 00:04:59,050 --> 00:05:02,261 and that includes raising both of you by myself 113 00:05:02,262 --> 00:05:03,846 and running my own business, 114 00:05:03,847 --> 00:05:06,724 which also apparently employs you both. 115 00:05:06,725 --> 00:05:09,852 So don't make fun of my magic. You should be respectful of it. 116 00:05:09,853 --> 00:05:12,146 - I mean, I hear that. - Thank you. Thank you. 117 00:05:12,147 --> 00:05:13,898 He is my favorite. 118 00:05:13,899 --> 00:05:15,774 - Are you serious? - You're my favorite. 119 00:05:15,775 --> 00:05:18,068 See? He's nice. Why are they so horrible to me? 120 00:05:18,069 --> 00:05:20,822 Okay, so that's Thursday. Let's do this. 121 00:05:22,908 --> 00:05:25,284 Okay? 122 00:05:25,285 --> 00:05:26,911 - Wait, say that all again? - Come on. 123 00:05:26,912 --> 00:05:28,079 - I'm sorry. 124 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,164 I'm just, like, stupid excited 125 00:05:30,165 --> 00:05:32,082 to get my three-month chip tonight. 126 00:05:34,085 --> 00:05:36,712 You are a beast. 127 00:05:36,713 --> 00:05:38,297 You're kicking this thing in the teeth, 128 00:05:38,298 --> 00:05:40,049 and we could not be more proud of you. 129 00:05:40,050 --> 00:05:42,426 Could we, Leigh? 130 00:05:42,427 --> 00:05:44,638 - Yeah. Everything she said. 131 00:05:46,264 --> 00:05:49,099 - Just, like, these last few months, 132 00:05:49,100 --> 00:05:51,644 everything has been so emotional and stressful, 133 00:05:51,645 --> 00:05:55,981 and I could have fallen off the wagon so many times, but... 134 00:05:55,982 --> 00:05:57,816 I didn't. 135 00:05:57,817 --> 00:05:59,360 I handled it. 136 00:05:59,361 --> 00:06:02,655 - Yep, it really, uh, screwed me up, too, 137 00:06:02,656 --> 00:06:03,989 when my husband died. 138 00:06:03,990 --> 00:06:05,366 - That's not what I was saying. 139 00:06:05,367 --> 00:06:07,117 - That's exactly what you were saying... 140 00:06:07,118 --> 00:06:09,203 that my husband being dead is making it harder 141 00:06:09,204 --> 00:06:10,955 for you to stay sober. 142 00:06:10,956 --> 00:06:12,915 - I wasn't saying it like that. - You still said it. 143 00:06:12,916 --> 00:06:15,417 - Hey, you. That's enough. - What? 144 00:06:15,418 --> 00:06:17,545 Take a breath. - I'm breathing. 145 00:06:17,546 --> 00:06:19,129 - Now do it with some intention. 146 00:06:19,130 --> 00:06:20,923 Come on - Whatever. 147 00:06:20,924 --> 00:06:22,759 I'm gonna go to the studio. 148 00:06:29,808 --> 00:06:33,519 How do you expect anyone to be in a good mood 149 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,647 before the sun's up? 150 00:06:37,107 --> 00:06:39,734 Just think about that. 151 00:06:49,703 --> 00:06:53,622 - Up and press. Heels up like you're wearing stilettos. 152 00:06:53,623 --> 00:06:55,457 Come on, I know you girls have higher hells than that. 153 00:06:55,458 --> 00:06:57,251 And up, and press. 154 00:06:57,252 --> 00:06:58,295 Now you're gonna lower yourself 155 00:06:58,296 --> 00:06:59,879 three inches and hold. 156 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:01,380 Three inches. 157 00:07:01,381 --> 00:07:03,382 You guys have zero inches. Three inches. 158 00:07:03,383 --> 00:07:05,092 Come on. Here, you got this. 159 00:07:05,093 --> 00:07:06,927 Come on, match me. Match me. You got this. 160 00:07:06,928 --> 00:07:08,971 Right now. One inch up. One inch down. 161 00:07:08,972 --> 00:07:10,723 We're gonna pulse for ten seconds to tempo. 162 00:07:10,724 --> 00:07:12,224 Yep. 163 00:07:12,225 --> 00:07:13,893 You can do anything for ten seconds. Mm-hmm. 164 00:07:13,894 --> 00:07:18,188 And pulse. Two, three, four, five, 165 00:07:18,189 --> 00:07:21,817 six, seven, eight, nine, ten. 166 00:07:21,818 --> 00:07:24,361 And release. Good job. Good job. 167 00:07:24,362 --> 00:07:26,196 Now we're gonna go to butt school, ladies, 168 00:07:26,197 --> 00:07:27,574 and work those seats. 169 00:07:28,533 --> 00:07:31,620 - I'll see you girls later. - Bye. See you later. 170 00:07:35,123 --> 00:07:37,583 I love you. 171 00:07:37,584 --> 00:07:39,669 Okay. 172 00:07:40,795 --> 00:07:43,214 - Oh, hey, real quick... I have to ask you something. 173 00:07:43,215 --> 00:07:44,965 - Are you saying you love me because you have 174 00:07:44,966 --> 00:07:46,675 to ask me something? 175 00:07:46,676 --> 00:07:49,428 - No, I love you, and I have to ask you something. 176 00:07:49,429 --> 00:07:51,222 - What? 177 00:07:51,223 --> 00:07:53,057 - You've been wearing a lot of my workout stuff. 178 00:07:53,058 --> 00:07:56,852 But you have your own stuff. 179 00:07:56,853 --> 00:07:59,480 - Yeah, but it's at my apartment. 180 00:07:59,481 --> 00:08:03,234 - When's the last time you went to your apartment? 181 00:08:03,235 --> 00:08:05,236 - A little before the funeral. 182 00:08:05,237 --> 00:08:07,279 - It's, like, three months? 183 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:09,031 All your stuff is still there, 184 00:08:09,032 --> 00:08:11,158 and you're still paying rent and utilities. 185 00:08:11,159 --> 00:08:12,785 - Yeah. 186 00:08:12,786 --> 00:08:15,037 Yeah, I know. 187 00:08:15,038 --> 00:08:17,790 - So maybe you could go by your apartment 188 00:08:17,791 --> 00:08:19,251 and get your stuff. 189 00:08:21,336 --> 00:08:24,630 - Sure. Yeah, sure. 190 00:08:24,631 --> 00:08:27,049 - Okay, great. 191 00:08:27,050 --> 00:08:30,344 Thank you. - You're welcome. 192 00:08:32,305 --> 00:08:34,723 I love you. - I love you, too. 193 00:09:31,948 --> 00:09:33,241 Can you be my sounding board? 194 00:09:33,242 --> 00:09:35,409 It's for my column. 195 00:09:35,410 --> 00:09:37,369 A high-school girl just got her heart broken 196 00:09:37,370 --> 00:09:39,038 for the first time, 197 00:09:39,039 --> 00:09:42,041 feels like she is dying. 198 00:09:42,042 --> 00:09:44,585 What does she do? 199 00:09:44,586 --> 00:09:46,503 Keeping doing your homework, 200 00:09:46,504 --> 00:09:48,839 you'll be in love with someone new by Winter Formal. 201 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:50,758 You're gonna say that. 202 00:09:50,759 --> 00:09:52,635 No, I'm not gonna say that, 203 00:09:52,636 --> 00:09:54,845 but I just... I feel like she's 15 204 00:09:54,846 --> 00:09:56,972 and her heart is broken, and she's going to use it 205 00:09:56,973 --> 00:09:58,766 as an excuse to be an asshole to her mom. 206 00:09:58,767 --> 00:10:00,351 And I want to tell her not to do that. 207 00:10:00,352 --> 00:10:03,229 - Yeah, just say all that in a not-patronizing way. 208 00:10:03,230 --> 00:10:05,356 Ooh. - I'm going to. 209 00:10:05,357 --> 00:10:07,024 - Yeah? - Um... 210 00:10:07,025 --> 00:10:10,027 "You've lost someone important to you, 211 00:10:10,028 --> 00:10:13,280 "but there are people 212 00:10:13,281 --> 00:10:16,659 "who still depend on you. 213 00:10:16,660 --> 00:10:20,496 "So help your friend 214 00:10:20,497 --> 00:10:24,124 "with her mock-trial audition 215 00:10:24,125 --> 00:10:28,504 "and your brother with his Latin homework 216 00:10:28,505 --> 00:10:31,757 "and tell your mom 217 00:10:31,758 --> 00:10:33,968 "you love her. 218 00:10:33,969 --> 00:10:38,264 "Even though you know she knows... 219 00:10:38,265 --> 00:10:42,185 she still needs to hear it." 220 00:10:43,436 --> 00:10:45,938 - I really like that. 221 00:10:45,939 --> 00:10:47,982 - Thank you for being my sounding board. 222 00:10:47,983 --> 00:10:50,609 - Yeah, always. 223 00:10:50,610 --> 00:10:52,403 - You want to get ramen for dinner? 224 00:10:52,404 --> 00:10:54,154 - Oh, I can't. 225 00:10:54,155 --> 00:10:57,825 I told my brother I would hang out with him tonight. 226 00:10:57,826 --> 00:10:59,493 - You're always hanging out with your brother. 227 00:10:59,494 --> 00:11:01,829 - No, I'm always hanging out with you. 228 00:11:01,830 --> 00:11:03,373 I live with you. 229 00:11:07,043 --> 00:11:10,254 Well, he just got dumped. It's been hard on him. 230 00:11:10,255 --> 00:11:12,047 You can hang with us if you want. 231 00:11:12,048 --> 00:11:14,633 - I don't really like hanging out with regular Danny, 232 00:11:14,634 --> 00:11:17,094 and I definitely don't want to hang out with dumped Danny. 233 00:11:17,095 --> 00:11:21,181 - Okay, well, I just thought I'd offer, just in case. 234 00:11:21,182 --> 00:11:24,226 All right, I'm gonna, um... 235 00:11:24,227 --> 00:11:26,854 head out in a few, all right? 236 00:11:26,855 --> 00:11:28,814 Bye, bye, bye. 237 00:11:42,579 --> 00:11:44,955 - Oh, sorry. - It's okay. 238 00:11:44,956 --> 00:11:46,249 - Thanks. - Mm-hmm. 239 00:11:48,877 --> 00:11:50,170 - Hey. - Hey. 240 00:11:50,171 --> 00:11:51,754 - You look pretty. 241 00:11:51,755 --> 00:11:53,923 - I slept four hours. I look like a cadaver. 242 00:11:53,924 --> 00:11:56,050 - Super-hot cadaver. 243 00:11:56,051 --> 00:11:59,428 - It's 'cause I teach three barre classes a day 244 00:11:59,429 --> 00:12:02,514 and I only get to eat one fun thing a week. 245 00:12:02,515 --> 00:12:04,516 - What's your fun thing? 246 00:12:04,517 --> 00:12:06,561 - Doughnuts at grief group. 247 00:12:07,979 --> 00:12:09,856 - Jesus. - I know. 248 00:12:13,026 --> 00:12:14,652 - Well, as long as we're not having fun... 249 00:12:16,321 --> 00:12:18,572 - There's something I need to talk to you about. 250 00:12:18,573 --> 00:12:19,824 - What? 251 00:12:21,284 --> 00:12:24,204 - Taylor wants to get the advice column going again. 252 00:12:27,415 --> 00:12:30,501 - I just don't feel like the same person 253 00:12:30,502 --> 00:12:31,835 who wrote that anymore. 254 00:12:31,836 --> 00:12:33,212 - I get it, 255 00:12:33,213 --> 00:12:35,297 but I'd love for you to still write it 256 00:12:35,298 --> 00:12:37,759 as whoever you are now. 257 00:12:39,719 --> 00:12:42,346 - You're a good editor. 258 00:12:42,347 --> 00:12:44,682 And you're a really good friend. 259 00:12:44,683 --> 00:12:47,768 - And that is a yes? 260 00:12:47,769 --> 00:12:51,230 - That's an "I'll think about it." 261 00:12:51,231 --> 00:12:53,900 - Okay. Thinking cadaver. 262 00:13:05,495 --> 00:13:09,123 - Yo, you just, uh, checked yourself out, didn't you? 263 00:13:10,875 --> 00:13:14,920 Yeah. I did. 264 00:13:14,921 --> 00:13:17,214 Did you get to go by your apartment? 265 00:13:17,215 --> 00:13:20,384 - You know what? I didn't end up having time. 266 00:13:20,385 --> 00:13:22,887 - You got to go over there. I'm out of clothes. 267 00:13:22,888 --> 00:13:24,638 I'm gonna have to teach naked. 268 00:13:24,639 --> 00:13:26,557 - Right. Well, I don't know what to tell you, Jules. 269 00:13:26,558 --> 00:13:28,559 You're asking me to do something that I can't do. 270 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:30,436 - I don't want this to be a thing. 271 00:13:30,437 --> 00:13:32,563 - I'm just trying to help. - Yeah, but you're not helping. 272 00:13:32,564 --> 00:13:34,231 I know what helping looks like 273 00:13:34,232 --> 00:13:36,775 'cause that's what I did for you for, like, a decade. 274 00:13:36,776 --> 00:13:39,528 - Are you gonna list every mistake I ever made. 275 00:13:39,529 --> 00:13:41,196 Should I get comfortable? 276 00:13:41,197 --> 00:13:43,407 - Sure, 'cause apparently you don't remember 277 00:13:43,408 --> 00:13:45,993 the hundreds of times that I had to help you out 278 00:13:45,994 --> 00:13:48,412 'cause you were too wasted to help yourself. 279 00:13:48,413 --> 00:13:50,789 - But I do remember that look that you always have 280 00:13:50,790 --> 00:13:53,334 on your face when you get to feel superior to me. 281 00:13:53,335 --> 00:13:55,502 You never do anything nice for me 282 00:13:55,503 --> 00:13:58,505 without making me pay for it later. 283 00:13:58,506 --> 00:14:02,177 - Okay, well, you never do anything nice for me at all. 284 00:14:04,262 --> 00:14:05,971 I have an idea. 285 00:14:05,972 --> 00:14:08,766 How about you go to my apartment to get my stuff, 286 00:14:08,767 --> 00:14:11,644 since you're the one who wants it so badly? 287 00:14:11,645 --> 00:14:14,563 These are my keys. 288 00:14:14,564 --> 00:14:17,858 I got to go to grief group 'cause my husband died. 289 00:14:17,859 --> 00:14:19,986 - How are you getting there? 290 00:14:28,370 --> 00:14:29,996 Smile about it. 291 00:14:39,422 --> 00:14:43,092 "Everyone keeps telling me that I'll get over him. 292 00:14:43,093 --> 00:14:46,387 "Everyone keeps telling me it's not the end of the world, 293 00:14:46,388 --> 00:14:48,889 "but if that's true, then why does it feel 294 00:14:48,890 --> 00:14:51,393 like the end of the world?" 295 00:15:05,740 --> 00:15:08,450 Hi. 296 00:15:08,451 --> 00:15:10,119 Are you here for group? 297 00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:12,288 - Yeah, I was, uh, just gonna try it out, 298 00:15:12,289 --> 00:15:14,540 see if it was any good or if it was stupid. 299 00:15:14,541 --> 00:15:16,709 - It's not stupid. - You been going? 300 00:15:16,710 --> 00:15:18,878 - Mm, yeah, this is my sixth, seventh week, 301 00:15:18,879 --> 00:15:20,337 something like that. 302 00:15:20,338 --> 00:15:21,797 - I just Googled "grief group near me," 303 00:15:21,798 --> 00:15:23,049 and this is what came up. 304 00:15:23,050 --> 00:15:24,425 - Yeah, that's what I did. 305 00:15:24,426 --> 00:15:27,386 I think that's what everyone does. 306 00:15:27,387 --> 00:15:28,888 - You know what? 307 00:15:28,889 --> 00:15:30,681 Uh, you been going. This is your thing. 308 00:15:30,682 --> 00:15:32,725 I don't want to show up and screw with your thing, 309 00:15:32,726 --> 00:15:34,226 so I could... - I don't own grief group. 310 00:15:34,227 --> 00:15:36,729 - More than me. - Okay, well, just come, 311 00:15:36,730 --> 00:15:37,981 because I'm gonna feel bad if you don't. 312 00:15:37,982 --> 00:15:39,440 - No, you won't. 313 00:15:39,441 --> 00:15:41,692 You'd be happy, 'cause you hate me, so... 314 00:15:41,693 --> 00:15:43,277 - I don't hate anyone. 315 00:15:43,278 --> 00:15:45,362 - That's what people say when they hate you. 316 00:15:45,363 --> 00:15:47,616 - I don't hate you. 317 00:15:54,164 --> 00:15:56,291 Are you coming? 318 00:16:02,547 --> 00:16:04,382 - Hi. 319 00:16:07,135 --> 00:16:09,053 - What is this? 320 00:16:09,054 --> 00:16:11,889 - Oh, we're switching up snacks. 321 00:16:11,890 --> 00:16:13,974 - Why? - I got a couple emails. 322 00:16:13,975 --> 00:16:15,726 People are trying to cut out sugar. 323 00:16:15,727 --> 00:16:19,104 - So there's just, like, no doughnuts? 324 00:16:19,105 --> 00:16:20,940 - Hey, we have a few minutes before we start. 325 00:16:20,941 --> 00:16:22,566 Do you want to go outside and talk? 326 00:16:22,567 --> 00:16:24,693 - Nope, I don't want to talk to you. 327 00:16:24,694 --> 00:16:27,905 I don't even want to be here most of the time. 328 00:16:27,906 --> 00:16:30,157 I just... I come here because usually 329 00:16:30,158 --> 00:16:32,993 it doesn't make me feel better, but sometimes it does. 330 00:16:32,994 --> 00:16:34,745 But... 331 00:16:34,746 --> 00:16:36,372 you know what? 332 00:16:36,373 --> 00:16:39,709 Nothing makes me feel better enough! 333 00:16:47,759 --> 00:16:50,345 All I wanted was a doughnut. 334 00:16:52,681 --> 00:16:55,516 That's, um... 335 00:16:55,517 --> 00:16:57,769 what was going to make me feel better. 336 00:17:04,192 --> 00:17:05,943 Can you stop following me? 337 00:17:05,944 --> 00:17:07,570 Just go back. Do group. It's good. 338 00:17:07,571 --> 00:17:09,071 - Why don't you go back? 339 00:17:09,072 --> 00:17:10,489 - I just literally had a psychotic break 340 00:17:10,490 --> 00:17:11,991 over carrot sticks. 341 00:17:11,992 --> 00:17:13,909 - I've seen worse. - That's not helpful. 342 00:17:13,910 --> 00:17:15,452 - I'm not trying to be helpful. You want to get a doughnut? 343 00:17:15,453 --> 00:17:16,912 - No, that's okay. 344 00:17:16,913 --> 00:17:18,664 - You were just crying five seconds ago 345 00:17:18,665 --> 00:17:19,958 because you couldn't have one. 346 00:17:19,959 --> 00:17:22,042 - I wasn't crying. - Okay, come on. 347 00:17:22,043 --> 00:17:24,295 I know a doughnut shop near here. 348 00:17:24,296 --> 00:17:26,130 - Yeah, I know the same one. 349 00:17:26,131 --> 00:17:29,133 I drive by it all the time, and I think about going in, 350 00:17:29,134 --> 00:17:30,218 and I never do. 351 00:17:30,219 --> 00:17:32,511 - Okay. So come on. 352 00:17:32,512 --> 00:17:34,555 - I will buy you a doughnut, and if you're not being 353 00:17:34,556 --> 00:17:36,140 too much of a bitch, I'll buy you two. 354 00:17:36,141 --> 00:17:38,434 - That's an ugly word with an ugly history. 355 00:17:38,435 --> 00:17:41,312 - Now I'm only buying you one. 356 00:17:42,898 --> 00:17:45,901 - I hate when people use the word "condolences." 357 00:17:49,404 --> 00:17:51,655 - I hate it when people tell me that I'm in their prayers. 358 00:17:51,656 --> 00:17:53,616 Yeah. 359 00:17:53,617 --> 00:17:55,618 I hate how in the beginning, 360 00:17:55,619 --> 00:17:58,412 everyone wants to send you flowers and donate 361 00:17:58,413 --> 00:18:01,665 to, like, a foundation for your dead person. 362 00:18:01,666 --> 00:18:04,293 And then they stop calling and writing 363 00:18:04,294 --> 00:18:06,837 and doing nice things for you because they're over it, 364 00:18:06,838 --> 00:18:09,590 and they expect you to be over it. 365 00:18:09,591 --> 00:18:12,968 - I hate it when people ask me if I was close to my brother... 366 00:18:12,969 --> 00:18:14,845 like they're trying to decide how sorry 367 00:18:14,846 --> 00:18:16,430 they have to feel for me. 368 00:18:16,431 --> 00:18:18,390 - And they want me to say, "Not close," 369 00:18:18,391 --> 00:18:21,143 as if that would make it better or whatever. 370 00:18:21,144 --> 00:18:23,646 - I hate running into someone I haven't seen in a long time, 371 00:18:23,647 --> 00:18:26,023 and I know they know he's dead. 372 00:18:26,024 --> 00:18:28,192 But we have an entire conversation, 373 00:18:28,193 --> 00:18:30,361 and they never bring him up. 374 00:18:30,362 --> 00:18:32,613 They never say they're sorry. 375 00:18:32,614 --> 00:18:35,616 They don't ask how I'm doing. 376 00:18:35,617 --> 00:18:39,078 They just pretend like everything's fine. 377 00:18:39,079 --> 00:18:40,579 I hate that. 378 00:18:40,580 --> 00:18:43,374 God, that's so good. 379 00:18:43,375 --> 00:18:45,960 - Do you want another doughnut? 380 00:18:45,961 --> 00:18:47,503 - No. - Come on. 381 00:18:47,504 --> 00:18:49,797 You want another one. Yes. 382 00:18:49,798 --> 00:18:51,173 - Yes, I do. - Yes, you do. 383 00:18:51,174 --> 00:18:53,051 - I would love one. 384 00:19:19,494 --> 00:19:22,288 Jesus. 385 00:19:22,289 --> 00:19:23,706 Oh, God. 386 00:19:27,752 --> 00:19:29,713 Matt. 387 00:19:32,757 --> 00:19:35,218 Matt. 388 00:19:49,983 --> 00:19:52,151 Matt? 389 00:20:04,205 --> 00:20:06,206 - Hey, you reached Matt. Sorry I missed your call. 390 00:20:06,207 --> 00:20:08,960 Leave a message, and I'll get back to you. 391 00:20:14,716 --> 00:20:16,717 - Hey, you reached Matt. Sorry I missed your call. 392 00:20:16,718 --> 00:20:19,179 Leave a message, and I'll get back to you. 393 00:20:50,168 --> 00:20:52,378 - Yes. - Is Matt here? 394 00:20:52,379 --> 00:20:54,004 - Wha... 395 00:20:54,005 --> 00:20:55,589 What time is it? - Is Matt here? 396 00:20:55,590 --> 00:20:58,259 - No, he went home. - No, he didn't. 397 00:20:58,260 --> 00:20:59,635 - Well, that's what he said. 398 00:20:59,636 --> 00:21:01,387 We walked back here from the bar, 399 00:21:01,388 --> 00:21:02,888 and I told him to crash, 400 00:21:02,889 --> 00:21:04,765 but he said he had to get back to you. 401 00:21:04,766 --> 00:21:07,018 - Was he okay to drive? 402 00:21:08,311 --> 00:21:09,770 - Y-yeah. 403 00:21:09,771 --> 00:21:11,647 - Well, he's not picking up his phone. 404 00:21:11,648 --> 00:21:13,983 You don't know where he is. I don't know where he is. 405 00:21:13,984 --> 00:21:16,026 So what am I supposed to do, Danny? 406 00:21:16,027 --> 00:21:19,029 - Don't yell at me. I didn't do anything. 407 00:21:22,158 --> 00:21:24,035 Leigh. Leigh! 408 00:22:11,207 --> 00:22:13,459 - Hey, hey. Hey. 409 00:22:13,460 --> 00:22:15,794 What are you doing? 410 00:22:15,795 --> 00:22:17,963 - I was just waiting till I was okay to drive. 411 00:22:17,964 --> 00:22:20,883 - I thought you were dead. - No. 412 00:22:20,884 --> 00:22:23,677 No. 413 00:22:23,678 --> 00:22:27,140 - You can never die. 414 00:22:28,850 --> 00:22:31,727 - No, I won't. - I'm serious. 415 00:22:31,728 --> 00:22:34,104 I'm serious... like, ever. 416 00:22:35,815 --> 00:22:38,150 - I think I have to someday. 417 00:22:38,151 --> 00:22:41,487 - Just do it after me. 418 00:22:41,488 --> 00:22:43,822 - Okay. 419 00:22:43,823 --> 00:22:46,116 Okay. Okay. Hey. Hey. Hey. 420 00:22:46,117 --> 00:22:48,203 I'm here. 421 00:22:51,623 --> 00:22:53,123 - Okay, then. 422 00:22:53,124 --> 00:22:55,251 - So you, uh, want to hang out sometime? 423 00:22:55,252 --> 00:22:57,044 - Why? 424 00:22:57,045 --> 00:22:58,921 - Never mind. 425 00:22:58,922 --> 00:23:01,048 - No, that's not what... I actually mean why. 426 00:23:01,049 --> 00:23:03,592 - No, it's okay. Forget it. You know... 427 00:23:03,593 --> 00:23:06,720 I'm having a shitty enough time without having to go 428 00:23:06,721 --> 00:23:08,597 through this whole thing with you, Leigh. 429 00:23:08,598 --> 00:23:10,349 - I'm having a shitty time, too. 430 00:23:10,350 --> 00:23:12,851 - I'm having an objectively shittier time than you. 431 00:23:12,852 --> 00:23:13,979 - Really? - Yeah. 432 00:23:13,980 --> 00:23:15,396 - How is that? 433 00:23:15,397 --> 00:23:17,356 - Because you can get another husband. 434 00:23:17,357 --> 00:23:19,568 I can't just get another brother. 435 00:23:21,319 --> 00:23:24,738 Okay. 436 00:23:24,739 --> 00:23:26,991 Oh, wow. 437 00:23:26,992 --> 00:23:29,952 I cannot believe you just said that. 438 00:23:29,953 --> 00:23:32,162 - It's true. 439 00:23:32,163 --> 00:23:34,331 'Cause you're young. You'll find someone new. 440 00:23:34,332 --> 00:23:36,584 You'll be fine. I'm the one who's screwed here. 441 00:23:36,585 --> 00:23:39,420 - Okay, this is why I never wanted to hang out with you. 442 00:23:39,421 --> 00:23:40,921 Right, and this is why 443 00:23:40,922 --> 00:23:43,799 I still don't want to hang out with you. 444 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,304 So, Danny, thank you. 445 00:24:06,907 --> 00:24:09,992 - Did you get my stuff? 446 00:24:09,993 --> 00:24:12,453 I want to talk to you. 447 00:24:12,454 --> 00:24:13,954 Cool, that's a no. 448 00:24:13,955 --> 00:24:16,583 - No, I really need you to listen to me. 449 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,170 I went to your apartment, 450 00:24:21,171 --> 00:24:23,005 and I stood outside the door, 451 00:24:23,006 --> 00:24:24,965 but I didn't go in 452 00:24:24,966 --> 00:24:26,842 because I kept thinking about this thing 453 00:24:26,843 --> 00:24:29,762 that people say when they're in the program... 454 00:24:29,763 --> 00:24:32,224 "suit up and show up." 455 00:24:34,100 --> 00:24:36,185 Even if you don't feel like going to a meeting, 456 00:24:36,186 --> 00:24:39,688 you have to get dressed up and go. 457 00:24:39,689 --> 00:24:42,358 How you feel about it doesn't matter. 458 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,237 What matters is that you do it. 459 00:24:48,490 --> 00:24:50,367 I can go with you. 460 00:24:51,618 --> 00:24:53,244 I will. 461 00:24:53,245 --> 00:24:55,829 I will sit with you for however long it takes 462 00:24:55,830 --> 00:24:57,456 for you to feel like you can go in, 463 00:24:57,457 --> 00:24:59,960 but I can't go for you. 464 00:25:02,254 --> 00:25:05,256 You have to show up for yourself. 465 00:25:36,830 --> 00:25:39,790 "Everyone keeps telling me that I'll get over him. 466 00:25:39,791 --> 00:25:43,794 "Everyone keeps telling me it's not the end of the world, 467 00:25:43,795 --> 00:25:45,546 "but if that's true, 468 00:25:45,547 --> 00:25:49,509 then why does it feel like the end of the world?" 469 00:25:58,310 --> 00:26:02,104 "The reason everyone keeps telling you 470 00:26:02,105 --> 00:26:05,274 "it's not the end of the world 471 00:26:05,275 --> 00:26:08,777 "is because it's not 472 00:26:08,778 --> 00:26:13,198 "the end of their world. 473 00:26:13,199 --> 00:26:16,911 "They don't have to figure out" 474 00:26:16,912 --> 00:26:19,705 "how to live 475 00:26:19,706 --> 00:26:24,127 "inside a world that's over. 476 00:26:25,921 --> 00:26:29,341 You do." 477 00:26:54,157 --> 00:26:56,367 - You're up. 478 00:26:56,368 --> 00:26:58,786 - Yep. 479 00:27:57,721 --> 00:27:59,471 - Why don't we make this 480 00:27:59,472 --> 00:28:01,640 as straightforward as this impossible thing can be? 481 00:28:01,641 --> 00:28:03,058 Divide everything into three piles... 482 00:28:03,059 --> 00:28:04,311 keep, toss, and give away. 483 00:28:04,312 --> 00:28:05,811 How does that sound? 484 00:28:05,812 --> 00:28:08,230 - This is the nicest gift 485 00:28:08,231 --> 00:28:10,858 I've ever gotten. 486 00:28:10,859 --> 00:28:15,738 - I think there was a lot about him I didn't know. 487 00:28:15,739 --> 00:28:18,365 - Nobody really knows anything about anyone. 488 00:28:18,366 --> 00:28:20,034 - I don't want to fight. - But... 489 00:28:20,035 --> 00:28:21,994 - You're belongings have meaning, 490 00:28:21,995 --> 00:28:24,288 and they should be treated with the respect that they're owed. 491 00:28:24,289 --> 00:28:25,873 - Well, why don't you spend 492 00:28:25,874 --> 00:28:27,750 a week in this place respecting the objects? 493 00:28:27,751 --> 00:28:29,753 Because if I do that, I'm gonna throw myself out a window.