1 00:00:02,629 --> 00:00:04,380 - In the beginning, everyone wants to send you 2 00:00:04,381 --> 00:00:07,007 flowers and donate to, like, a foundation 3 00:00:07,008 --> 00:00:09,843 for your dead person. And they stop calling 4 00:00:09,844 --> 00:00:11,470 and writing because they're over it, 5 00:00:11,471 --> 00:00:13,264 and they expect you to be over it. 6 00:00:13,265 --> 00:00:14,932 - When's the last time you went to your apartment? 7 00:00:14,933 --> 00:00:16,642 - A little before the funeral. 8 00:00:16,643 --> 00:00:18,811 - So, like, three months? 9 00:00:18,812 --> 00:00:20,729 both: This is our apartment. 10 00:00:20,730 --> 00:00:23,607 both: This is our home. - This is our home. 11 00:00:23,608 --> 00:00:26,277 - There's gotta be some things you want to keep. 12 00:00:26,278 --> 00:00:27,820 Think about what makes you happy. 13 00:00:27,821 --> 00:00:29,572 - Well, nothing makes me happy. 14 00:00:29,573 --> 00:00:32,074 - You think you knew him, but you really didn't know him 15 00:00:32,075 --> 00:00:34,077 as well as you thought. 16 00:00:38,331 --> 00:00:41,584 - "I keep replaying the day we met. 17 00:00:41,585 --> 00:00:43,210 "I couldn't believe it 18 00:00:43,211 --> 00:00:45,212 "when we realized 'Shawshank Redemption' 19 00:00:45,213 --> 00:00:48,507 "was both our favorite movie. And 'Catcher in the Rye' 20 00:00:48,508 --> 00:00:50,301 "was our favorite book. 21 00:00:50,302 --> 00:00:54,305 "I came home and pinched myself until my arm bruised 22 00:00:54,306 --> 00:00:57,726 "to make sure this day wasn't a dream. 23 00:00:59,436 --> 00:01:01,478 "We're soul mates, Becca. 24 00:01:01,479 --> 00:01:02,981 We were made for each other." 25 00:01:06,818 --> 00:01:09,028 Griffin was in Kandahar. 26 00:01:09,029 --> 00:01:11,780 He was setting up a field hospital 27 00:01:11,781 --> 00:01:13,824 when he killed by an IED. 28 00:01:13,825 --> 00:01:15,201 [indistinct murmurs] 29 00:01:18,538 --> 00:01:21,040 - Thank you for your sacrifice. 30 00:01:21,041 --> 00:01:24,044 all: Thank you for your sacrifice. 31 00:01:25,086 --> 00:01:26,921 - Thank you for your sacrifice. 32 00:01:26,922 --> 00:01:31,217 - Being new to LA, it just means so much to me 33 00:01:31,218 --> 00:01:33,344 to have found this community. 34 00:01:33,345 --> 00:01:35,429 I just feel so connected 35 00:01:35,430 --> 00:01:37,432 to each and every one of you. 36 00:01:39,226 --> 00:01:41,644 You feel like my family. 37 00:01:41,645 --> 00:01:44,188 - Thank you. - Thank you. 38 00:01:44,189 --> 00:01:50,195 [light upbeat music] 39 00:01:59,037 --> 00:02:01,163 - Leigh. Hi. - Hey. 40 00:02:01,164 --> 00:02:03,082 - Claire mentioned you're a widow too. 41 00:02:03,083 --> 00:02:05,793 Was your husband in the military also? Or wife? 42 00:02:05,794 --> 00:02:07,419 - No, neither. 43 00:02:07,420 --> 00:02:08,837 - I just moved here from Pendleton 44 00:02:08,838 --> 00:02:10,381 so I'm literally driving around going 45 00:02:10,382 --> 00:02:11,966 "This is so beautiful." - Yeah. 46 00:02:11,967 --> 00:02:13,425 - Venice Beach, Disneyland... 47 00:02:13,426 --> 00:02:15,719 - I know. It's a great city. 48 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,763 Sorry, I've got to... I teach at a class. 49 00:02:17,764 --> 00:02:19,181 - Oh, I love kids. What grade? 50 00:02:19,182 --> 00:02:21,183 - No, it's an exercise... it's like 51 00:02:21,184 --> 00:02:22,810 a ballet, yoga, pilates combo thing. 52 00:02:22,811 --> 00:02:24,979 - Wow, that sounds amazing. - Yeah. 53 00:02:24,980 --> 00:02:26,689 - I haven't worked out once since Griffin died. 54 00:02:26,690 --> 00:02:28,482 I'm such a blob. - Well... 55 00:02:28,483 --> 00:02:29,984 - What's the name of the studio? 56 00:02:29,985 --> 00:02:31,902 - It's called Beautiful Beast. 57 00:02:31,903 --> 00:02:35,114 - Great name. - Yeah. 58 00:02:35,115 --> 00:02:36,865 - Well, you have my number on the roster. 59 00:02:36,866 --> 00:02:38,367 You know, I'm totally around. 60 00:02:38,368 --> 00:02:39,952 See, you know, maybe we could hang out... 61 00:02:39,953 --> 00:02:41,412 - Sure, yeah. Running late. - Okay. 62 00:02:41,413 --> 00:02:43,622 - Bye. - Bye. 63 00:02:43,623 --> 00:02:45,165 - I called her six times. 64 00:02:45,166 --> 00:02:46,667 - She's not calling anyone back, Richard. 65 00:02:46,668 --> 00:02:48,419 - Okay, but I'm her father. 66 00:02:48,420 --> 00:02:50,004 - She just became a widow 67 00:02:50,005 --> 00:02:51,714 50 years sooner than she expected. 68 00:02:51,715 --> 00:02:53,132 Could you maybe not make this about you? 69 00:02:53,133 --> 00:02:54,842 Where's my tea? 70 00:02:54,843 --> 00:02:56,719 - I just know the power that you have over her. 71 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:58,679 - "Power"? 72 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:00,806 Why does someone always have to be in charge in your mind? 73 00:03:00,807 --> 00:03:02,474 Why is one of us always winning? 74 00:03:02,475 --> 00:03:04,436 Where is my tea? - It's coming. 75 00:03:05,854 --> 00:03:07,396 What's going on? 76 00:03:07,397 --> 00:03:09,273 - I'm just worried about her. That's all. 77 00:03:09,274 --> 00:03:11,484 - So am I. - [sighs] 78 00:03:12,944 --> 00:03:14,195 How could something like this happen 79 00:03:14,196 --> 00:03:16,072 to someone who's just so alive? 80 00:03:17,824 --> 00:03:20,035 - I go over it and over it in my head. 81 00:03:21,161 --> 00:03:23,120 Sabrina thought that maybe we'd make a donation 82 00:03:23,121 --> 00:03:24,955 in his name to the school where he taught. 83 00:03:24,956 --> 00:03:26,415 - She's a class act, your wife. 84 00:03:26,416 --> 00:03:28,001 How's Evie? 85 00:03:29,127 --> 00:03:31,795 - Loving school in Ojai. 86 00:03:31,796 --> 00:03:33,339 Varsity equestrian. 87 00:03:33,340 --> 00:03:35,299 - Hmm. 88 00:03:35,300 --> 00:03:37,301 - How's business? 89 00:03:37,302 --> 00:03:39,678 - I was hoping to buy the whole building. 90 00:03:39,679 --> 00:03:41,722 Fingers crossed it's still in the cards. 91 00:03:41,723 --> 00:03:43,933 - But don't you make your own hand? 92 00:03:43,934 --> 00:03:47,811 I mean, aren't your cards something that you control? 93 00:03:47,812 --> 00:03:49,438 - [laughs] - Here you go, ma'am. 94 00:03:49,439 --> 00:03:51,315 - Thank you. 95 00:03:51,316 --> 00:03:54,151 I have to go. I have a delivery at 9:00. 96 00:03:54,152 --> 00:03:56,529 - Oh, come on. - Thank you for the tea. 97 00:03:58,323 --> 00:04:00,242 - I would really like to see my daughter. 98 00:04:01,201 --> 00:04:03,535 If you could... 99 00:04:03,536 --> 00:04:08,415 empower her to return my calls, I would really appreciate it. 100 00:04:08,416 --> 00:04:10,918 - [scoffs] 101 00:04:10,919 --> 00:04:13,004 I will try. 102 00:04:22,264 --> 00:04:24,599 - [laughing] That's a sexy face. 103 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,018 - "Nothing is impossible. 104 00:04:28,019 --> 00:04:31,230 The word itself says I'm possible." 105 00:04:31,231 --> 00:04:32,773 - Ew. 106 00:04:32,774 --> 00:04:34,650 - I know, this Nicholas Sparks widow group 107 00:04:34,651 --> 00:04:36,777 keeps sending me inspirational quotes 108 00:04:36,778 --> 00:04:39,071 that make me want to burn the world down. 109 00:04:39,072 --> 00:04:40,823 - How's that different from normal you? 110 00:04:40,824 --> 00:04:43,492 - I'm serious. She put on the most spectacular show. 111 00:04:43,493 --> 00:04:47,162 She had this little tear hanging on her perfect eyelash 112 00:04:47,163 --> 00:04:49,498 for the entire hour 113 00:04:49,499 --> 00:04:51,166 and everyone was obsessed with her. 114 00:04:51,167 --> 00:04:52,751 - Sounds like she's got it figured out. 115 00:04:52,752 --> 00:04:54,545 - Like she's got what figured out? 116 00:04:54,546 --> 00:04:56,547 - How to make tragedy glamorous. 117 00:04:56,548 --> 00:04:58,090 Like Jackie O. 118 00:04:58,091 --> 00:05:01,302 - Jules, normal people don't envy tragedy. 119 00:05:01,303 --> 00:05:03,095 - Of course they do. 120 00:05:03,096 --> 00:05:05,097 For the rest of your life, you're deep. 121 00:05:05,098 --> 00:05:07,224 It's like you've touched the edge. 122 00:05:07,225 --> 00:05:09,810 I mean, obviously, I don't think like that, 123 00:05:09,811 --> 00:05:12,688 but people milk their stories for a reason. 124 00:05:12,689 --> 00:05:14,356 You should come to a meeting. - No. No, thank you. 125 00:05:14,357 --> 00:05:17,067 - You'll see. We're good at sharing. 126 00:05:17,068 --> 00:05:18,652 I tell the best stories. 127 00:05:18,653 --> 00:05:20,487 I have this one about how I partied so hard 128 00:05:20,488 --> 00:05:23,490 I puked on Questlove. Always kills. 129 00:05:23,491 --> 00:05:24,659 - You shouldn't be proud of that. 130 00:05:24,660 --> 00:05:26,201 - It's my best story. 131 00:05:26,202 --> 00:05:27,912 - Leigh, would you please call your father 132 00:05:27,913 --> 00:05:30,456 so that he stops bothering me? 133 00:05:30,457 --> 00:05:32,207 Texting doesn't count. 134 00:05:32,208 --> 00:05:34,793 - I don't want to call him or anyone. 135 00:05:34,794 --> 00:05:36,837 - She's got an ironclad excuse. 136 00:05:36,838 --> 00:05:38,505 - Feel like I get at least six months. 137 00:05:38,506 --> 00:05:40,799 - I'd say more. - One call. Ten minutes. 138 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,927 - If dad wanted to have a better relationship with me, 139 00:05:42,928 --> 00:05:44,929 he could have been nicer to Matt when he was alive. 140 00:05:44,930 --> 00:05:46,513 - Your father loved Matt. 141 00:05:46,514 --> 00:05:49,016 - Okay, I'm sorry, were you not at my wedding 142 00:05:49,017 --> 00:05:51,852 when he came up to me 20 minutes before the ceremony 143 00:05:51,853 --> 00:05:53,063 to let me know that it was okay 144 00:05:53,064 --> 00:05:54,438 if I were having second thoughts? 145 00:05:54,439 --> 00:05:55,607 - He would have done that with anyone. 146 00:05:55,608 --> 00:05:57,233 That's what dads do. 147 00:05:57,234 --> 00:05:59,026 - Whatever, we can pretend like that's reality. 148 00:05:59,027 --> 00:06:01,737 - So we're starting class pass today. 149 00:06:01,738 --> 00:06:03,906 We don't make any money from these people. 150 00:06:03,907 --> 00:06:05,991 We just want to hook 'em in so that they buy a package, 151 00:06:05,992 --> 00:06:08,953 which we need big time, so be extra nice. 152 00:06:08,954 --> 00:06:10,496 Okay? Everybody got that? 153 00:06:10,497 --> 00:06:12,039 Nice with a cherry on top. 154 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:13,457 - She's talking to you. 155 00:06:13,458 --> 00:06:14,833 - Pretty sure she's talking to you. 156 00:06:14,834 --> 00:06:16,670 - Feels like I'm talking to myself. 157 00:06:18,338 --> 00:06:19,838 Put your phones down. 158 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,092 Go and get some sun. 159 00:06:29,641 --> 00:06:32,143 - [sighs] 160 00:06:36,147 --> 00:06:39,441 [indistinct chatter] 161 00:06:39,442 --> 00:06:41,902 - Hi! I made it. 162 00:06:41,903 --> 00:06:45,072 - You did. Jules, this... 163 00:06:45,073 --> 00:06:46,949 - Oh, I know. Yeah, we've been hanging. 164 00:06:46,950 --> 00:06:49,451 Becca's so excited to take your class. 165 00:06:49,452 --> 00:06:51,203 - This place is amazing. 166 00:06:51,204 --> 00:06:52,871 The light and the colors. 167 00:06:52,872 --> 00:06:55,082 Griff and I painted our entire house warm colors 168 00:06:55,083 --> 00:06:56,750 so it always felt so cozy. 169 00:06:56,751 --> 00:06:58,919 - Wait, oh, my God. Leigh's obsessed with color. 170 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:01,922 She's always talking my ear off about the power of chartreuse. 171 00:07:01,923 --> 00:07:04,258 You guys are like the same person. 172 00:07:04,259 --> 00:07:05,759 - Hi, Mia Powell. 173 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:07,511 It's my first time. I'm on class pass. 174 00:07:07,512 --> 00:07:08,971 - Hey, Mia. What's up? 175 00:07:08,972 --> 00:07:10,306 Let's get you set up. 176 00:07:10,307 --> 00:07:12,391 - It's my first time too. [laughs] 177 00:07:12,392 --> 00:07:14,602 Don't go easy on me though. Kick my ass. 178 00:07:14,603 --> 00:07:17,272 I'm ready to sweat. 179 00:07:19,441 --> 00:07:21,025 [dance music] 180 00:07:21,026 --> 00:07:24,779 - 18, 19, 20. Inhale, down. 181 00:07:25,864 --> 00:07:27,823 And exhale into boat. 182 00:07:27,824 --> 00:07:29,241 Come on, ladies, I want to see you 183 00:07:29,242 --> 00:07:31,077 holding the position. 184 00:07:33,163 --> 00:07:35,664 And we're moving into plank leg raises. 185 00:07:35,665 --> 00:07:37,416 20 reps, right leg. 186 00:07:37,417 --> 00:07:41,754 And leg up. And in. Leg up. And in. 187 00:07:41,755 --> 00:07:44,215 If anyone planks, we will start counting again. 188 00:07:44,216 --> 00:07:47,968 And up. And in. Six up. And in. 189 00:07:47,969 --> 00:07:50,387 Don't be the one who lets everyone down. 190 00:07:50,388 --> 00:07:52,514 Or I'll start over again. 191 00:07:52,515 --> 00:07:54,850 And up. And in. 192 00:07:54,851 --> 00:07:57,229 No one gives up. - [heaving] 193 00:07:58,063 --> 00:07:59,940 [vomiting] 194 00:08:04,319 --> 00:08:05,903 - What the hell happened in there? 195 00:08:05,904 --> 00:08:07,863 - I just wanted everyone to give it their all. 196 00:08:07,864 --> 00:08:09,448 - Well, you certainly got that, didn't you? 197 00:08:09,449 --> 00:08:10,991 - Yeah. - It wasn't Leigh's fault. 198 00:08:10,992 --> 00:08:12,409 She told us to listen to our bodies. 199 00:08:12,410 --> 00:08:14,036 - I did. I said that. 200 00:08:14,037 --> 00:08:15,788 - Do you want to grab a juice? It's my treat. 201 00:08:15,789 --> 00:08:18,082 - Can't. I've got a class at 2:00. 202 00:08:18,083 --> 00:08:20,085 - No, you don't. 203 00:08:28,134 --> 00:08:31,262 - I feel amazing. It's the endorphins. 204 00:08:31,263 --> 00:08:32,638 You're lucky it's your job to create endorphins 205 00:08:32,639 --> 00:08:34,181 three times a day. 206 00:08:34,182 --> 00:08:36,685 - Yeah, I don't feel particularly lucky. 207 00:08:37,769 --> 00:08:39,937 - Are you a person of faith? 208 00:08:39,938 --> 00:08:41,772 - N-not... no. 209 00:08:41,773 --> 00:08:44,316 - Well, it helps. Going to church every week. 210 00:08:44,317 --> 00:08:46,026 Checking in with God. - Mm-hmm. 211 00:08:46,027 --> 00:08:48,571 - I mean, I still wonder why he did this to me, 212 00:08:48,572 --> 00:08:51,490 but then I realize there's a purpose to my life now. 213 00:08:51,491 --> 00:08:54,785 That's what my pastor says. 214 00:08:54,786 --> 00:08:58,455 - Your pastor thinks that God made your husband die 215 00:08:58,456 --> 00:09:00,165 so that you can have a purpose? 216 00:09:00,166 --> 00:09:01,709 - I think he just means 217 00:09:01,710 --> 00:09:03,961 God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. 218 00:09:03,962 --> 00:09:06,547 - I hear that a lot, but I'm not quite sure 219 00:09:06,548 --> 00:09:08,799 what it means. 220 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:11,385 - I think it means we all have wells of strength 221 00:09:11,386 --> 00:09:12,720 we didn't realize we had. 222 00:09:12,721 --> 00:09:14,389 - Mm-hmm. 223 00:09:17,934 --> 00:09:20,060 - Wasn't that interesting what Claire was saying? 224 00:09:20,061 --> 00:09:22,104 About how self care is so important 225 00:09:22,105 --> 00:09:24,273 and how we need to take care of ourselves right now. 226 00:09:24,274 --> 00:09:26,191 - I was actually kind of spacing out at group. 227 00:09:26,192 --> 00:09:28,569 - Oh. Well, she was talking about 228 00:09:28,570 --> 00:09:30,696 this thing called skin hunger. - Mm-hmm. 229 00:09:30,697 --> 00:09:33,282 - There were these studies on monkeys and orphans 230 00:09:33,283 --> 00:09:35,743 who were never touched and it made them go crazy. 231 00:09:35,744 --> 00:09:38,329 Griffin was deployed for five months before he died. 232 00:09:38,330 --> 00:09:40,457 I don't even know the last time I was touched that way. 233 00:09:41,291 --> 00:09:43,542 I think it's so important to listen to Claire. 234 00:09:43,543 --> 00:09:45,461 I think we need to take care of ourselves 235 00:09:45,462 --> 00:09:47,296 right now, even though we don't want to... 236 00:09:47,297 --> 00:09:50,799 [voice fading out] 237 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,762 Korean spa on Western where you can get massages 238 00:09:54,763 --> 00:09:56,472 and dip into these little pools. 239 00:09:56,473 --> 00:09:57,973 And it's two for one Tuesdays 240 00:09:57,974 --> 00:09:59,767 so I made an appointment for us at 8:00. 241 00:09:59,768 --> 00:10:01,101 And then I thought... 242 00:10:01,102 --> 00:10:03,354 - Sorry, can I ask you something? 243 00:10:03,355 --> 00:10:05,105 - Yeah. 244 00:10:05,106 --> 00:10:07,274 - Do you know your husband's passcode to his phone? 245 00:10:07,275 --> 00:10:10,653 - Of course, doesn't everyone? 246 00:10:10,654 --> 00:10:12,321 I mean, otherwise I'd wonder 247 00:10:12,322 --> 00:10:14,449 who he was texting that he didn't want me to see. 248 00:10:15,784 --> 00:10:17,660 I mean, but I also think it's so important 249 00:10:17,661 --> 00:10:20,120 to have our own lives and be independent. 250 00:10:20,121 --> 00:10:22,164 - Look, um... 251 00:10:22,165 --> 00:10:24,458 I know that... 252 00:10:24,459 --> 00:10:26,001 you think we have a lot in common 253 00:10:26,002 --> 00:10:28,420 because we're both widows and not 70, 254 00:10:28,421 --> 00:10:30,965 but to be honest 255 00:10:30,966 --> 00:10:34,469 I-I really don't want new friends. 256 00:10:35,512 --> 00:10:37,596 I don't want to feel pressured to respond to messages, 257 00:10:37,597 --> 00:10:39,932 and say yes to plans, and hear your stories that, 258 00:10:39,933 --> 00:10:42,893 frankly, make me feel terrible about my life. 259 00:10:42,894 --> 00:10:47,022 And I would rather be angry and mean 260 00:10:47,023 --> 00:10:49,441 when I feel like it because that's what I need right now. 261 00:10:49,442 --> 00:10:51,485 - I didn't... - No, I'm... so... 262 00:10:51,486 --> 00:10:55,531 You are Jackie O and I am Courtney Love. 263 00:10:55,532 --> 00:10:59,243 And Jackie O and Courtney Love are not friends. 264 00:10:59,244 --> 00:11:01,871 Not in any universe. 265 00:11:10,463 --> 00:11:13,340 - What do I want to manifest? 266 00:11:13,341 --> 00:11:16,802 I am a successful businesswoman. 267 00:11:16,803 --> 00:11:19,847 My daughters are independent and thriving. 268 00:11:19,848 --> 00:11:23,309 I have a wonderful partner who fulfills all of my needs, 269 00:11:23,310 --> 00:11:26,103 emotional, spiritual... 270 00:11:26,104 --> 00:11:28,772 sexual. [sighs] 271 00:11:28,773 --> 00:11:30,649 - Mom. You have to read this review. 272 00:11:30,650 --> 00:11:31,943 - What? 273 00:11:31,944 --> 00:11:33,569 - Kay, "The teacher went mental 274 00:11:33,570 --> 00:11:36,572 and screamed at us so much I literally puked." 275 00:11:36,573 --> 00:11:38,824 We should put that on a sign. 276 00:11:38,825 --> 00:11:41,076 Classes so tough we'll make you puke. 277 00:11:41,077 --> 00:11:43,622 - No. No. No. 278 00:11:45,707 --> 00:11:48,251 [groans] 279 00:11:49,794 --> 00:11:51,378 If this is the first review that comes up, 280 00:11:51,379 --> 00:11:52,963 I mean, we'll just go out of business. 281 00:11:52,964 --> 00:11:54,757 - Mom, it's fine. 282 00:11:54,758 --> 00:11:56,383 Tons of people love us. 283 00:11:56,384 --> 00:11:58,844 - Those people don't write reviews. 284 00:11:58,845 --> 00:12:00,888 Maybe I should just take her off the schedule. 285 00:12:00,889 --> 00:12:02,932 Lacey keeps asking for more classes. 286 00:12:02,933 --> 00:12:04,642 - Okay, Leigh's hardly doing any already. 287 00:12:04,643 --> 00:12:06,143 It's not fair. 288 00:12:06,144 --> 00:12:08,687 - Jules, how do you not get how bad this is? 289 00:12:08,688 --> 00:12:11,565 - Why are you yelling at me? It's her fault. 290 00:12:11,566 --> 00:12:14,026 I'm the good child for the first time ever. 291 00:12:14,027 --> 00:12:16,404 - This review, it can't stay up. 292 00:12:17,739 --> 00:12:19,449 Oh, God. 293 00:12:23,703 --> 00:12:26,122 [indistinct chatter] 294 00:12:34,005 --> 00:12:36,298 - Can I get you started with something to drink? 295 00:12:36,299 --> 00:12:38,592 - Hey. Didn't... 296 00:12:38,593 --> 00:12:40,427 Were you at Beautiful Beast yesterday? 297 00:12:40,428 --> 00:12:42,179 - Were you in that class? 298 00:12:42,180 --> 00:12:43,681 The teacher was a total psychopath. 299 00:12:43,682 --> 00:12:45,558 - [laughs] 300 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:47,851 My mom actually owns that place. 301 00:12:47,852 --> 00:12:50,271 - Oh, right, I remember you. 302 00:12:50,272 --> 00:12:51,939 She should really fire that girl. 303 00:12:51,940 --> 00:12:53,649 You guys are gonna have a lawsuit or something. 304 00:12:53,650 --> 00:12:56,944 - Yeah. I'll tell her. 305 00:12:56,945 --> 00:12:58,904 Hey, I'd love to comp you some classes. 306 00:12:58,905 --> 00:13:01,865 - Yeah, I'm never going back there. 307 00:13:01,866 --> 00:13:03,325 - Yeah. 308 00:13:03,326 --> 00:13:06,161 We're a small studio, women-owned, 309 00:13:06,162 --> 00:13:07,705 and even one review like that can really 310 00:13:07,706 --> 00:13:09,457 take a dump on our ratings. 311 00:13:11,001 --> 00:13:12,294 Is there any way you could take it down? 312 00:13:12,295 --> 00:13:14,212 - Are you serious right now? 313 00:13:15,422 --> 00:13:18,090 It wasn't just that girl. The music sucked. 314 00:13:18,091 --> 00:13:19,967 And the ladies were all Lulu Lemmings. 315 00:13:19,968 --> 00:13:23,178 And the photos in the lobby were body-shaming propaganda. 316 00:13:23,179 --> 00:13:24,680 I workout to feel better about myself 317 00:13:24,681 --> 00:13:26,474 and I left feeling worse. 318 00:13:28,143 --> 00:13:30,936 You read my review. What did you do? Stalk me? 319 00:13:30,937 --> 00:13:33,022 - Of course not. 320 00:13:33,023 --> 00:13:35,441 But if I wanted to, I could talk about 321 00:13:35,442 --> 00:13:39,612 how dirty my fork is or how rude my server Mia was. 322 00:13:39,613 --> 00:13:40,988 Oh but, you know, that wouldn't be fair 323 00:13:40,989 --> 00:13:42,490 to someone who depends on her tips. 324 00:13:43,992 --> 00:13:45,409 - You know what? 325 00:13:45,410 --> 00:13:48,287 Just so you don't key my car, fine. 326 00:13:48,288 --> 00:13:50,080 I'll take it down. 327 00:13:50,081 --> 00:13:52,250 Happy? - Thank you. 328 00:13:53,585 --> 00:13:55,754 Thank you. - Yep. 329 00:13:57,464 --> 00:13:59,798 - No, I swear, if you were to cut her open 330 00:13:59,799 --> 00:14:01,175 she would bleed glitter. 331 00:14:01,176 --> 00:14:03,093 - Oh, my God. Block her. Block her number. 332 00:14:03,094 --> 00:14:06,138 - [laughs] Yeah, I know. - Do it. 333 00:14:06,139 --> 00:14:07,807 - God. 334 00:14:08,975 --> 00:14:11,101 - So I have some news. 335 00:14:11,102 --> 00:14:12,478 - Huh? 336 00:14:12,479 --> 00:14:15,482 - Ryan and I are engaged. 337 00:14:16,650 --> 00:14:18,734 - Wow. 338 00:14:18,735 --> 00:14:20,736 Congratulations. 339 00:14:20,737 --> 00:14:22,446 - We're actually looking at venues right now. 340 00:14:22,447 --> 00:14:24,782 There's this cool place downtown 341 00:14:24,783 --> 00:14:26,325 that has an opening in, like, a month. 342 00:14:26,326 --> 00:14:28,035 - Ooh, that's fast. 343 00:14:28,036 --> 00:14:30,996 And you guys, you got engaged last night? 344 00:14:30,997 --> 00:14:33,040 - Um... No. 345 00:14:33,041 --> 00:14:35,961 It was late June. 346 00:14:36,836 --> 00:14:39,547 - So just after Matt... - Yeah. 347 00:14:39,548 --> 00:14:41,299 - Hmm. 348 00:14:42,676 --> 00:14:45,302 - Actually that was sort of part of it. 349 00:14:45,303 --> 00:14:48,597 We both realized that life is short. 350 00:14:48,598 --> 00:14:50,891 Why wait? You know, why not 351 00:14:50,892 --> 00:14:53,727 become each other's person now? 352 00:14:53,728 --> 00:14:55,771 I haven't, like, posted about it or anything 353 00:14:55,772 --> 00:14:58,315 because I didn't want you to feel pressure. 354 00:14:58,316 --> 00:15:00,943 Like, you, you know, had to be happy for me. 355 00:15:00,944 --> 00:15:02,861 - Of course I'm happy for you. 356 00:15:02,862 --> 00:15:04,238 - Thanks, lady. 357 00:15:04,239 --> 00:15:05,906 - But what about... 358 00:15:05,907 --> 00:15:08,702 when he was texting that pastry chef? 359 00:15:09,995 --> 00:15:11,996 - That was, like, nine months ago. 360 00:15:11,997 --> 00:15:14,164 - But aren't you afraid that that's gonna happen again? 361 00:15:14,165 --> 00:15:16,250 - No, because we worked through that. 362 00:15:16,251 --> 00:15:17,668 - So you're saying that you trust him enough 363 00:15:17,669 --> 00:15:19,044 in order to pledge eternal... 364 00:15:19,045 --> 00:15:20,546 - Yes. - Okay. 365 00:15:20,547 --> 00:15:22,424 - Because we worked through it. - Okay. 366 00:15:24,384 --> 00:15:26,385 - [sighs] 367 00:15:26,386 --> 00:15:28,929 Look, I know that you're going through a hard time right now, 368 00:15:28,930 --> 00:15:30,848 but the best friend code of conduct 369 00:15:30,849 --> 00:15:33,559 is to at least pretend to be excited for me 370 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:35,853 and maybe not trash my fiancé 371 00:15:35,854 --> 00:15:37,730 because he made one mistake one time. 372 00:15:37,731 --> 00:15:39,773 - So are you just... you're leaving? 373 00:15:39,774 --> 00:15:41,901 - I've like 20 pieces to edit before the end of the day. 374 00:15:41,902 --> 00:15:45,071 - Okay. - I'll catch you later, okay? 375 00:15:48,116 --> 00:15:49,575 [indistinct chatter] 376 00:15:49,576 --> 00:15:51,285 - So I'm in my office, 377 00:15:51,286 --> 00:15:53,787 and this is, like, six or seven months ago, right. 378 00:15:53,788 --> 00:15:56,624 And, uh... and Tamara Shue walks in. 379 00:15:56,625 --> 00:15:58,334 You guys know who she is, right? 380 00:15:58,335 --> 00:16:00,377 - She's the CEO of Cerberus. - I know who she is... 381 00:16:00,378 --> 00:16:01,962 - Shh. Shh. Go. [laughter] 382 00:16:01,963 --> 00:16:04,673 - So she asks if I can help her 383 00:16:04,674 --> 00:16:06,342 debug her program. I'm serious. 384 00:16:06,343 --> 00:16:07,885 [laughter] 385 00:16:07,886 --> 00:16:10,304 I'm serious. - Debug the program. 386 00:16:10,305 --> 00:16:12,264 - Debug her program is what she said. 387 00:16:12,265 --> 00:16:13,974 So she's sitting right across from me 388 00:16:13,975 --> 00:16:16,101 and, I swear to God, she just, like, 389 00:16:16,102 --> 00:16:17,686 starts "Basic Instincting" me. 390 00:16:17,687 --> 00:16:18,813 [laughter] - What? 391 00:16:18,813 --> 00:16:20,065 - That did not happen. 392 00:16:20,066 --> 00:16:21,857 - Yes, it did happen. 393 00:16:21,858 --> 00:16:24,235 - Daniel, you're supposed to be telling a truth or a lie. 394 00:16:24,236 --> 00:16:25,986 - Yeah, not some seventh grade fantasy. 395 00:16:25,987 --> 00:16:28,405 - You've got such a tell. You just can't stop grinning. 396 00:16:28,406 --> 00:16:30,324 Which is why you can never go to Vegas. 397 00:16:30,325 --> 00:16:33,619 [laughter] 398 00:16:33,620 --> 00:16:37,373 - My turn. - Okay. 399 00:16:37,374 --> 00:16:39,750 all: Truth or lie. Truth or lie. 400 00:16:39,751 --> 00:16:41,585 Truth or lie. 401 00:16:41,586 --> 00:16:44,005 Truth or... [laughter] 402 00:16:45,674 --> 00:16:47,341 - Okay. 403 00:16:47,342 --> 00:16:50,970 So when I was a junior in high school. 404 00:16:50,971 --> 00:16:53,180 Danny and I... 405 00:16:53,181 --> 00:16:56,433 had this SAT tutor named Cassie. 406 00:16:56,434 --> 00:16:58,143 - Cassie! - Yeah. 407 00:16:58,144 --> 00:17:00,397 She was probably around, I don't know, 27, 28. 408 00:17:02,274 --> 00:17:04,692 And it was the night before the SATS 409 00:17:04,693 --> 00:17:06,777 and I was nervous. 410 00:17:06,778 --> 00:17:08,571 Super nervous. 411 00:17:08,572 --> 00:17:10,739 And Cassie says, "The only thing to do tonight 412 00:17:10,740 --> 00:17:12,283 is to relax." And I'm like, 413 00:17:12,284 --> 00:17:13,701 "I can't." Because I'm me. 414 00:17:13,702 --> 00:17:15,953 And she says, 415 00:17:15,954 --> 00:17:18,038 "Come with me." - Mm... 416 00:17:18,039 --> 00:17:21,083 - So we drive to Bridgeburn Park, 417 00:17:21,084 --> 00:17:23,878 back behind the restrooms, you know. 418 00:17:23,879 --> 00:17:26,630 There's this red-haired mom and her baby on the swings 419 00:17:26,631 --> 00:17:30,217 and she looked at us and... 420 00:17:30,218 --> 00:17:33,387 they left like they knew we were up to something. 421 00:17:33,388 --> 00:17:36,140 And Cassie pulls out a joint 422 00:17:36,141 --> 00:17:38,309 and takes a drag... - Nice. 423 00:17:38,310 --> 00:17:40,060 - And leans over 424 00:17:40,061 --> 00:17:43,522 and blows smoke into my mouth. 425 00:17:43,523 --> 00:17:45,441 - [laughing] 426 00:17:45,442 --> 00:17:46,942 - And as she does this 427 00:17:46,943 --> 00:17:50,029 she licks my lips just the tiniest bit. 428 00:17:50,030 --> 00:17:52,990 - Ooh. [laughter] 429 00:17:52,991 --> 00:17:54,658 - It was the hottest thing that ever happened to me. 430 00:17:54,659 --> 00:17:56,410 - Yeah. 431 00:17:56,411 --> 00:17:59,079 - Little did I know how much hotness I had to come. 432 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:01,333 [laughter] 433 00:18:03,251 --> 00:18:04,752 - Lucky man. 434 00:18:04,753 --> 00:18:07,213 - You... you never, you never told me that. 435 00:18:07,214 --> 00:18:09,256 - Yeah, that's 'cause it never happened. 436 00:18:09,257 --> 00:18:10,925 [screaming] 437 00:18:10,926 --> 00:18:12,509 - Come on, man. 438 00:18:12,510 --> 00:18:15,096 [laughter] 439 00:18:16,306 --> 00:18:19,725 - Leigh, you're in trouble. - Why? 440 00:18:19,726 --> 00:18:21,435 - That was way too good. 441 00:18:21,436 --> 00:18:23,730 - Planned it. 442 00:18:34,157 --> 00:18:36,325 - Did you see this? 443 00:18:36,326 --> 00:18:38,953 What she said. - What who said? 444 00:18:38,954 --> 00:18:41,580 - That girl. Jules, she updated her review 445 00:18:41,581 --> 00:18:43,415 to say that "One of the teachers 446 00:18:43,416 --> 00:18:46,127 followed me to my place of business and threatened me." 447 00:18:47,087 --> 00:18:48,754 - I was trying to fix Leigh's mess. 448 00:18:48,755 --> 00:18:50,589 She's the one that made her puke. 449 00:18:50,590 --> 00:18:52,883 It's one bad review. Who cares? 450 00:18:52,884 --> 00:18:55,344 There's a margin for error in running a business. 451 00:18:55,345 --> 00:18:57,054 You always tell me that. 452 00:18:57,055 --> 00:19:00,099 - No. No. Jules, there is no margin for error anymore. 453 00:19:00,100 --> 00:19:03,186 The margin for error got spent on rehab. 454 00:19:07,482 --> 00:19:09,609 - Why didn't you tell me that? 455 00:19:13,446 --> 00:19:15,698 - I was glad to do it and you're in recovery, 456 00:19:15,699 --> 00:19:17,241 and that's what's important. 457 00:19:17,242 --> 00:19:19,493 But, Jules, you're getting too old 458 00:19:19,494 --> 00:19:21,328 to be pulling these kind of stunts. 459 00:19:21,329 --> 00:19:23,956 - Of course, it was me that messed up. 460 00:19:23,957 --> 00:19:25,749 - Jules! - It always comes back to me. 461 00:19:25,750 --> 00:19:30,212 - You cannot follow our clients to their workplaces. 462 00:19:30,213 --> 00:19:33,007 I would have thought that was obvious. 463 00:19:33,008 --> 00:19:35,301 And I am plenty mad at your sister. 464 00:19:35,302 --> 00:19:37,636 But in case you hadn't noticed, her husband... 465 00:19:37,637 --> 00:19:39,556 - Just died. 466 00:19:40,515 --> 00:19:42,642 I know. 467 00:19:43,351 --> 00:19:45,561 - [sighs] Jules, I'm s... 468 00:19:45,562 --> 00:19:47,230 [sighs] 469 00:20:08,710 --> 00:20:11,420 - Look, we go in. Have a nice pleasant dinner. 470 00:20:11,421 --> 00:20:13,631 Ask your dad about the wine. - Mm-hmm. 471 00:20:13,632 --> 00:20:16,550 - We ask Evie some horse questions. 472 00:20:16,551 --> 00:20:21,013 We ask Sabrina about the landing probe on Mars, 473 00:20:21,014 --> 00:20:22,640 or whatever she's working on. 474 00:20:22,641 --> 00:20:25,059 And that's it. We go home. 475 00:20:25,060 --> 00:20:27,061 And I'll be there the whole time, pretending 476 00:20:27,062 --> 00:20:29,521 this is exactly where I want to be on a Tuesday night. 477 00:20:29,522 --> 00:20:31,106 - Emphasis on "pretend." - So what? 478 00:20:31,107 --> 00:20:33,151 We all pretend all the time. - We do? 479 00:20:35,070 --> 00:20:37,738 What do you pretend? - I don't know. 480 00:20:37,739 --> 00:20:39,281 - Like what? 481 00:20:39,282 --> 00:20:41,158 - All right, I pretend I love teaching. 482 00:20:41,159 --> 00:20:43,202 On a lot of days I don't. 483 00:20:43,203 --> 00:20:46,080 I pretend I... 484 00:20:46,081 --> 00:20:48,500 I don't notice when people stare at us at restaurants. 485 00:20:50,085 --> 00:20:52,670 I pretend... 486 00:20:52,671 --> 00:20:55,422 getting up in the morning isn't as hard it is some days. 487 00:20:55,423 --> 00:20:57,676 I... [scoffs] 488 00:20:58,927 --> 00:21:00,886 I pretend I'm totally cool with having sex with one person 489 00:21:00,887 --> 00:21:02,638 for the rest of my life. Should I go on? 490 00:21:02,639 --> 00:21:05,015 - No, definitely not. - Well, you pretend too. 491 00:21:05,016 --> 00:21:06,976 That's marriage. That's being a person. 492 00:21:06,977 --> 00:21:10,229 - I guess, but I just don't feel like pretending right now. 493 00:21:10,230 --> 00:21:12,106 - Leigh. 494 00:21:12,107 --> 00:21:14,316 Got to let that go. 495 00:21:14,317 --> 00:21:16,819 - Okay, that's easy for you to say 'cause he's not your dad. 496 00:21:16,820 --> 00:21:18,946 - No, my dad never wanted to be in the same room as me, 497 00:21:18,947 --> 00:21:21,115 and now that he's dead, he never has to ever again. 498 00:21:21,116 --> 00:21:22,575 - Okay. 499 00:21:22,576 --> 00:21:24,451 - Richard's not perfect, but he's trying. 500 00:21:24,452 --> 00:21:25,704 He wants to spend time with you. 501 00:21:25,705 --> 00:21:27,538 That's something. 502 00:21:27,539 --> 00:21:29,291 - Hmm. 503 00:21:34,296 --> 00:21:36,505 - Seriously? We're going home? 504 00:21:36,506 --> 00:21:38,299 - Yeah. 505 00:21:38,300 --> 00:21:39,800 I'll just send him a text message 506 00:21:39,801 --> 00:21:41,886 that something came up. 507 00:21:41,887 --> 00:21:44,680 - You hold people to impossibly high standards. 508 00:21:44,681 --> 00:21:46,933 No one's ever gonna pass your test. 509 00:21:50,353 --> 00:21:51,938 - [sighs] 510 00:22:01,907 --> 00:22:03,408 - Hmm. 511 00:22:10,123 --> 00:22:12,041 How are you? 512 00:22:12,042 --> 00:22:14,585 - [sighs] Um... 513 00:22:14,586 --> 00:22:16,795 I think I'm stuck in whatever stage it is 514 00:22:16,796 --> 00:22:18,339 when you're a raging bitch to everyone 515 00:22:18,340 --> 00:22:20,174 within a ten mile radius. 516 00:22:20,175 --> 00:22:21,592 - Apparently that whole 517 00:22:21,593 --> 00:22:23,677 Kubler-Ross stages of grief thing... 518 00:22:23,678 --> 00:22:25,387 - Mm-hmm. - Bullshit. 519 00:22:25,388 --> 00:22:26,973 - Yeah. 520 00:22:28,183 --> 00:22:30,018 - I, um... 521 00:22:32,062 --> 00:22:33,939 I actually came to ask you something. 522 00:22:34,940 --> 00:22:36,233 - Shoot. 523 00:22:38,443 --> 00:22:40,528 - Why did you cheat on Mom? 524 00:22:42,989 --> 00:22:45,033 Just tell me the truth. 525 00:22:46,201 --> 00:22:48,327 - Talked about it enough in therapy by now. 526 00:22:48,328 --> 00:22:50,121 I got it down. 527 00:22:52,249 --> 00:22:54,209 Started when I got fired. 528 00:22:55,377 --> 00:22:58,421 It was the first time anything like that ever happened to me. 529 00:23:00,507 --> 00:23:02,508 And it was... 530 00:23:02,509 --> 00:23:04,718 it was unfair. 531 00:23:04,719 --> 00:23:06,513 Also humiliating. 532 00:23:08,431 --> 00:23:10,808 I... [scoffs] 533 00:23:10,809 --> 00:23:13,520 I had no idea something like that could happen. 534 00:23:14,771 --> 00:23:16,481 For me, it was just... 535 00:23:18,441 --> 00:23:20,652 Well, it was a huge loss. 536 00:23:21,987 --> 00:23:23,989 And I lashed out. 537 00:23:24,864 --> 00:23:27,242 Hard. 538 00:23:29,327 --> 00:23:32,413 - And people say I take after Mom. 539 00:23:32,414 --> 00:23:34,040 - [chuckles] 540 00:23:35,041 --> 00:23:37,918 Sometimes when a person drowns, they thrash around so much, 541 00:23:37,919 --> 00:23:41,088 they bring down anyone trying to rescue 'em. 542 00:23:41,089 --> 00:23:43,300 Even if they don't mean to. 543 00:23:46,553 --> 00:23:49,180 So why you asking me this now? 544 00:23:50,849 --> 00:23:52,976 - I just needed to know. 545 00:23:55,020 --> 00:24:01,026 [nostalgic music] 546 00:24:13,788 --> 00:24:15,164 - I'm calling the cops. 547 00:24:15,165 --> 00:24:17,583 - No, I just need, like, two minutes. 548 00:24:17,584 --> 00:24:19,628 Okay. Two. 549 00:24:23,381 --> 00:24:25,799 My brother-in-law died 3 1/2 months ago. 550 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,219 Matt was the glue that held us together. 551 00:24:28,220 --> 00:24:30,346 I mean, everyone was just better when he was around. 552 00:24:30,347 --> 00:24:33,432 And that girl, the teacher, 553 00:24:33,433 --> 00:24:35,851 she's my sister. 554 00:24:35,852 --> 00:24:37,938 Matt was her husband. 555 00:24:39,105 --> 00:24:40,731 Look, I don't know 556 00:24:40,732 --> 00:24:42,816 if you've ever lost anyone suddenly 557 00:24:42,817 --> 00:24:45,403 and had your entire worldview just fall apart over night. 558 00:24:50,992 --> 00:24:52,702 So you get it? 559 00:24:53,703 --> 00:24:55,871 Like, you lose this person 560 00:24:55,872 --> 00:24:57,623 who meant so much to you 561 00:24:57,624 --> 00:25:00,751 and you start spinning out in all these weird ways 562 00:25:00,752 --> 00:25:02,671 because you don't even know who you are anymore. 563 00:25:10,011 --> 00:25:12,555 My sister's in freefall. 564 00:25:12,556 --> 00:25:15,432 And she just needs some time 565 00:25:15,433 --> 00:25:17,936 to turn everything right side up again. 566 00:25:19,437 --> 00:25:21,772 I know you think basically everyone 567 00:25:21,773 --> 00:25:24,692 in my family is crazy at this point, 568 00:25:24,693 --> 00:25:27,152 but if you could just give us a break 569 00:25:27,153 --> 00:25:30,824 and take down that review... 570 00:25:33,076 --> 00:25:35,704 - I can do that. - [sighs] 571 00:25:40,625 --> 00:25:42,252 Thank you. 572 00:25:44,546 --> 00:25:46,673 [indistinct chatter] 573 00:26:24,252 --> 00:26:26,004 - Hi. 574 00:26:39,476 --> 00:26:41,310 You had this perfect marriage 575 00:26:41,311 --> 00:26:44,105 and your husband died a hero. 576 00:26:45,023 --> 00:26:49,402 And mine died for nothing. 577 00:26:52,614 --> 00:26:55,408 And I'm beginning to think I didn't even know him. 578 00:27:00,372 --> 00:27:03,249 I shouldn't have yelled at you. 579 00:27:03,250 --> 00:27:05,043 I'm sorry. 580 00:27:07,295 --> 00:27:11,883 I'm just mad all the time. 581 00:27:17,055 --> 00:27:19,432 - That letter that I read. 582 00:27:21,226 --> 00:27:23,770 He wrote it after I told him I wanted a divorce. 583 00:27:25,855 --> 00:27:28,107 But nobody wants to hear that. 584 00:27:28,108 --> 00:27:31,694 People just want to hear about this amazing marriage 585 00:27:31,695 --> 00:27:33,655 that I didn't actually have. 586 00:27:35,198 --> 00:27:37,199 And I'm trying to stay positive 587 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,451 because people like me better that way, 588 00:27:39,452 --> 00:27:41,453 but I just feel like such a fake all the time. 589 00:27:41,454 --> 00:27:44,164 And you're so honest about everything, 590 00:27:44,165 --> 00:27:47,711 and I just, I wish I could be like you. 591 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,171 - Shaw and Urwin? 592 00:27:51,172 --> 00:27:53,300 Tables six and seven. 593 00:28:06,438 --> 00:28:08,899 - [Becca sobbing] 594 00:28:21,036 --> 00:28:24,205 [crying continues] 595 00:28:40,722 --> 00:28:42,640 [crying continues] 596 00:28:42,641 --> 00:28:48,647 [melancholy music] 597 00:29:12,337 --> 00:29:14,922 - I can't believe that you're already dating again. 598 00:29:14,923 --> 00:29:17,216 - Ugh, I know. It all happened so fast. 599 00:29:17,217 --> 00:29:19,885 I think I'm in love. - Seriously, you got a dog? 600 00:29:19,886 --> 00:29:23,681 - Jules, get in here? - Oh, that's not good. 601 00:29:23,682 --> 00:29:25,599 - You were supposed to watch him while I took a shower. 602 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:27,184 - I got distracted for like a second. 603 00:29:27,185 --> 00:29:28,978 - But this is what I mean by not responsible enough 604 00:29:28,979 --> 00:29:31,146 to own a dog. - I'd like to talk to you 605 00:29:31,147 --> 00:29:34,316 about something. 606 00:29:34,317 --> 00:29:36,110 - Mm-kay. 607 00:29:36,111 --> 00:29:38,070 - What they told me in rehab is the hardest part 608 00:29:38,071 --> 00:29:40,239 about staying sober is the fact that 609 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:43,158 the people in your life don't believe you can change. 610 00:29:43,159 --> 00:29:45,370 But I didn't think that'd be you guys.