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[both] We're married!
It's a start for my new family.
This is a dream.
[kisses]
-Look at me, I'm on a camel! Hey! -[Osama chuckles]
When I'm out in public with Osama
you know, we get a lot of looks.
-[Debbie screams] -[Osama chuckles]
I'm thinking he might be a little
embarrassed to be seen with me.
I was born a woman and I've been a man for 10 years, and I am trans.
[in Spanish]
Let me be who I am. Just like, let me have some... a little freedom.
We have such a history,
and I... I don't know if it's possible to have, like, a blank slate
but we can try.
[in English]
"One by one". Sure.
[Rishi in Hindi]
I'm going back to India in a few weeks.
Jen, he sent a photo of him with his shirt off.
[in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[Daniele and Yohan in Spanish]
Hi, my love.
[Nicole] Hi.
Good how are you?
[Mahmoud in English]
[Nicole] Yeah, I... I did.
The air conditioner helps a lot.
It's because it's hot.
Okay, my love.
[Nicole] I've been living in Egypt now, for four months.
This is the longest I've ever spent in Egypt.
Since, Mahmoud and I decided to just kind of start fresh,
we haven't had any major fights.
We basically agreed to just...
stop talking about our problems for now
until we figure out how to properly do it in a healthy way.
-Busy day today? -Yeah.
[Nicole] But then, as far as my life in Egypt...
I'm having a very difficult time adjusting
to... to everything, essentially.
I still don't have any friends.
So, I basically just, like, stay in my bedroom
for, like, 12 hours at a time,
um... with his mom.
I convinced Mahmoud to...
go and see apartments with me...
so that we could start our own life together,
in a different place.
[Nicole] Oh, my God. This is so nice.
All this light. I could sit outside.
Yeah.
[in English]
Wow.
This is so perfect.
[Nicole] But...
He's never wanted to... to move out.
-All right, I'll see you. -[Mahmoud] Okay, sweetie.
-I love you. -Okay. I love you.
-[Mahmoud] Bye, honey. -Have fun.
I really need to find a way to actually go out
on my own without Mahmoud for the first time
since coming to Egypt,
and try to, like, find some guidance and feel more grounded
in my new home.
[cat meows]
[Nouran] I want you to take a deep inhale.
[inhales deeply]
Open your mouth and exhale.
[exhales]
And let all those negative sensations...
be washed away.
[Nicole] Online I found a women's only meditation class.
Since I knew that Mahmoud wouldn't,
uh... like it if I went,
uh... do something where there's, like, men and women.
[Nouran] Inhale.
[Nicole] Meditation has always been good for me.
When I was in Egypt on my very first vacation,
we actually did a meditation in the Great Pyramid
and it was just the most magical experience.
It's really something that I need right now.
[Nouran] Feel free to recite these positive affirmations in your mind.
"I am worthy as I am.
I am strong.
I am brave.
I can express myself freely.
I am enough,
as I am."
And slowly open your eyes...
[crows cawing]
...and see the beautiful world around you.
Namaste, everyone.
Thank you, girls, for attending the class.
And feel free to hang around if you want.
Hey.
It's my first time to see you here.
-Hi. -Where are you from?
Uh... Oh... I'm originally from America.
I just moved here to live with my husband.
-Uh-huh. Uh, let's sit and chat. -[Nicole] Mmm-hmm.
-I'm Nicole. -Oh, I'm Nouran.
[Nicole] Nice to meet you.
[Nouran] So you just got married?
We... we married three years ago.
It's a...
been really challenging.
Our cultures are so different, like...
He has a lot of rules.
And so every... everything you said in the meditation
was, like, extra meaningful, actually.
[Nouran] Where are you staying?
I stay with his mother and him in, uh, Faisal.
-Wow. That's a pretty conservative area. -[Nicole] Mmm-hmm. It's good.
Very conservative.
I'm required to cover my entire body.
Have you been to New Cairo?
No, I haven't been to New Cairo yet. It's nice?
There is a huge difference.
-Really? Okay. -In everything. Yeah.
You can wear whatever you want.
You feel like you're not in Egypt anymore. And, like,
it's more like Dubai.
-Is it? Oh, wow. -[Nouran] Yeah.
There are, like, two sides of Cairo.
There's the super, like... the open-minded areas
and there is the conservative areas.
Most of my friends are not covered, we go to bars,
we can drink, we can dance,
we can have exactly the same life of an American in Egypt.
[Nouran] Like, those rules were imposed on me when I was a little child,
until I was, like, 18 or something.
And then my parents were like, "Now you're a grownup.
You do whatever you want.'
And then, in my thirties I met a guy and he was, like,
imposing the same rules again and I'm like, "What?
Am I going backwards now?
No. I'm done with this." You know.
-Egyptian men... -[Nicole] Mmm-hmm.
...they... they like a girl,
they date her and then they change her to fit with
how he was raised up.
But he never accepts her the way she is, you know.
This is, like, extremely common.
Like, maybe 90% of men... Egyptian men are like that.
-Oh, my God. It's just so... I'm just so happy to be... -[Nouran] So, yeah--
...talking to you right now.
Like, I just thought I was the only person in the world
-going through this thing. -They see you...
"Oh, my gosh. Look how she looks like. She... she looks like a star."
And then you have to change the way you dress up.
You have to change the people you talk to.
Like, "Why do you talk to men? Why do you even have male friends?"
They have to make sure that everything is under control.
It... it is controlling, isn't it?
But they'll always tell you,
"I love you and I care for you."
-[Nicole] Mmm-hmm. -"And I'm doing this to protect you."
-He says, "I... I don't want to control you." -Yeah.
-That's what he says, "I don't want to control you." -"I'm protecting you."
-Yeah. -[Nouran chuckles]
[Nicole] I had no idea that
Egyptian culture wasn't just
the way that I have... had seen it.
And I feel so validated.
Because even when I talk about what happens with me and Mahmoud in my culture,
they don't get it.
Like, it doesn't make any sense. It's really foreign to them.
So, I was like, "Oh, my gosh. Somebody else gets it."
Like, totally gets it.
The good sides in... about Egyptian men
that I've never seen in any other, uh... nationality before
is that they're very kind and very loving
and they give you so much attention and love
-and they shower you with sweet words. -Mmm-hmm.
But... they don't believe in... in equality.
Yeah, I've never really felt that equal.
But, he... the love, though. You're right, though.
It's... so much love.
And it's real. It's not, like...
-It's not fake. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. -No, no, no. It's real.
That's the thing. Like, I've never ever
experienced that.
You choose your battles.
-Mmm-hmm. -So...
You chose the kindness and the...
love, and at the same time you chose the
conservative way of living.
[softly] Yeah.
[Nouran] Here, at least we know that this is what's going to happen.
Some of us try to fight it and some of us don't.
And they like... give in.
But, for me, an American woman giving in to these rules
for the sake of love...
It makes me feel bad for her.
I feel like I wanna
grab here and shake her and tell her,
"Wake up, please! Wake up!"
I really hope, uh, things would work and, uh...
you would find peace in this country and...
if you need any advice, we can hang out.
I love that. You are really amazing.
Oh, my goodness, I am so thankful to meet you today.
Today is the best I've felt since I've been to Egypt.
I'm super inspired. I love Nouran.
I feel like I've known her for... 100 years.
And I wanna hang out with her more.
But I don't know how Mahmoud's gonna feel about this.
And about her.
I really hope, Nicole, you'll stay true to yourself, always.
[engine revving]
[horns honking]
[in Hindi]
[Rishi in English]
[Nitesh] Hi, hi, hi.
Namaste, namaste.
[music playing]
[Rishi in English]
[music ends]
[woman] Thank you.
[in Hindi]
Wow.
Jen is fine.
[in Hindi]
[Rishi] Jen's 10-year visa is reinstated,
and now she's coming back in India and I'm so happy.
Because now I know that we can spend time together for a long period.
[in English]
[Rishi in Hindi]
[in English]
I... I... I'm so frustrated with the situation.
Him not telling his family.
Like, what if we did it tomorrow?
-Like, tomorrow. -Tomorrow we cannot do.
-Uh... no? -No.
-The next day? -No.
[Nitesh in English]
The next three years
are going to be tough.
[Nitesh in Hindi]
[in English]
[Rishi in English]
[Nitesh in Hindi]
[Nitesh in English]
[in Hindi]
[in English]
[Nitesh chuckles]
[in Hindi]
[Gabriel] I love Isabel very much,
and I want to ask you right now
if I have your permission to marry her.
Now, it's giving me doubts that maybe he's gonna
you know, retrack what he said before.
[in Spanish]
Earlier today, Isabel's dad asked me to work out with him in the park.
Isabel tells me that he has more questions about me being trans.
And...
It's making me kind of nervous, honestly.
We've never spent time alone together, before.
[in Spanish]
So, it's giving me doubts that maybe he's gonna
you know, retrack what he said before.
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel] Mmm-hmm.
[in Spanish]
Mmm-hmm.
[Gabriel] Mmm-hmm.
[Gabriel] Okay, okay. Okay.
I made a photo album for you just now.
I don't wanna see them because I hate
how I look.
It makes me despise myself.
Me showing him these pictures right now,
I feel like
I just had to get it out of the way.
Like, you wanna know who I was? Here it is.
[in Spanish]
[pedal squeaks]
[in Spanish]
So, I gave you the phone
because I hate looking at those pictures,
because it reminds me
that every single day I was alive I wanted to die. Every single day.
[translation app in Spanish]
[Gabriel] Me being born a woman, it felt like...
I could never match my brain,
it felt like I had body parts that didn't belong there.
It's like, if you have an imaginary arm sticking out here,
and only you can see it. Nobody else can.
It's like, "This doesn't belong here."
Everybody is like, "What are you talking about?
You look just like everybody else."
But it's like, you feel it, and it's like you just wanna change it,
you wanna cut it off just so you can feel normal.
That's how it feels. I didn't feel normal.
When I was little, I always went to bed and I was like,
"Argh, I wish, when I wake up, I was a boy."
I just wanted my body to not be a female body.
When you wish you were somebody else every day, it's really depressing.
So, I put myself through hell,
just so I could be in a body that, you know, feels mine.
And I don't feel like I wanna die anymore.
[in Spanish]
[Isabel's father speaking]
[in English] I'm feeling very grateful that he can actually
look past me being trans.
[in Spanish]
But, I'm still a little worried, because,
will Isabel's dad accept me as Isabel's future husband?
[phone recorder beeps]
I love Isabel very much,
and I honestly want to ask you right now
if I have your permission to marry her.
-[phone recorder beeps] -[translation app in Spanish]
Oh...
[phone recorder beeps]
[in Spanish]
[recorder beeps]
[Gabriel laughs]
[in English] I finally have permission.
I have the blessings from her children,
from her father.
[Isabel's father in Spanish]
I feel really, really good right now.
I can't wait to propose to Isabel.
That's a beautiful place.
[Kris speaking]
Yesterday, Kris and I got married.
I feel very happy, I feel very comfortable,
I feel... and I feel so good right now.
Oh, look at the stained glass.
Oh, it has too much colors.
That's kind of the purpose of stained glass.
Lots of color.
-[Kris] Oh, my goodness. -[Jeymi chuckles]
-[Kris] The zombie is awesome. -[Jeymi laughs]
[Kris] I told Jeymi I would cover the bills
but I have been having problems with my finances
since the moment I arrived here.
My bank froze my account
because they thought somebody stole my identity.
That is so cool.
Just made me realize that I've got to start working towards
getting financially stable to live here.
I have no desire to just go to work somewhere.
So, Jeymi and I have decided to start a business together.
-It is so exciting! -Yes! Yes.
Jeymi and I have been talking to different people about
looking at food trucks.
And today we actually get to check out some food trucks, all at the same location.
[in Spanish]
[in English] I just moved here from America
to start a new life and a new business.
[Jeymi in Spanish]
[man speaking]
[in English] Today, go to look an food truck.
It's a dream together.
I love cooking, and she love cooking, too.
And it's a very good idea for business for us.
[man in Spanish]
[in English] That's your fryer, that's your grill.
[Jeymi in Spanish]
[man speaking]
[in English] This one is a diesel engine, right? How many miles is on it?
-[recorder beeps] -[translation app in Spanish]
[man speaking]
[in English] So only 45,000 miles.
-Yes. -[Kris] It's not bad.
[Kris grunts] Okay.
[Jeymi grunts and chuckles]
[man in Spanish]
[Kris, in English] How much is this food truck?
-[recorder beeps] -[translation app in Spanish]
[man in Spanish]
-[recorder beeps] -[translation app in English] Approximately $10,000.
[in English] I still wanna explore other options just before we make up our mind.
[Jeymi] Yes, of course.
[man in Spanish]
[Kris, in English] Oh, my gosh.
It's a whole restaurant.
Oh, my God.
So they actually come inside and eat.
This is freakin' awesome! [gasps]
This is my favorite right now.
I love the zombie bus.
There's a giant zombie above the door,
there's weapons everywhere.
[Jeymi in Spanish]
[in English] Do you feel at home?
This is Alabama. [chuckles]
Absolutely.
[chuckles]
I love it. It's great.
[man in Spanish]
[Jeymi sighs] Uh...
[in Spanish]
[man speaking]
[in English] How much is this one?
[in Spanish]
[man] Okay.
[in Spanish]
[translation app in English] This food truck is at $20,000.
-[Kris sighs loudly] -[recorder beeps]
So we obviously have a lot we need to talk about
and try to figure out what we wanna do.
[recorder beeps]
[translation app in Spanish]
[man in Spanish]
[Jeymi speaking]
[in English] I love this bus, because there's everything.
It have a kitchen, and tables.
I'm really, really excited for the food truck.
[in Spanish]
[translation app, in English] Obviously, in my opinion,
the first option is the most complete.
[Kris] I think we really need to decide
exactly what we want to prepare as our menu first.
I'm gonna need to know the cost
of the products that we're gonna be using
in order to know financially how much it's gonna cost to run this
and feed people daily.
[translation app in Spanish]
[in English] Yeah.
[Kris] It's definitely scary when it becomes realistic,
when you're sitting in a food truck.
I really got caught up in my fairytale dream of moving to Colombia,
and getting married, and starting a business together.
I really didn't consider
whether it was a practical dream or not.
-[recorder beeps] -I don't see us coming to a conclusion
on which one right now, until we figure that out first.
[recorder beeps]
The food trucks are a lot more expensive than what I thought they would be.
And I realized real quick that if this dream fails,
then I have nothing,
and I am gonna be in a bad situation really quickly.
And I don't know what to do.
And the woman who led the meditation, her name is Nouran.
Yeah, I was telling her how I lose myself in a relationship a little bit.
[Mahmoud speaking]
No, she's too cool not to see again.
So where are you taking me, honey?
Guess?
[Nicole] Oh, is it fishing?
[chuckles]
What? What are we doing?
[chuckles] Well, how am I supposed to know? There's like a million things.
Is that the drink with the chickpeas in it?
-[Mahmoud] Yes... -And tomatoes?
-Yay! Thank you so much, honey. -[Mahmoud chuckles]
Mahmoud is taking me to get some food
at one of the bridge cafes in Cairo.
They're, like, carts on the overpasses across the Nile.
They serve something that Egyptians call hummus.
But it's not what we call hummus.
It's just whole chickpeas in kind of like a lemony broth.
It's really good.
[chuckles softly] I love you so much.
[Mahmoud speaking]
I love it.
[Mahmoud speaking]
So good.
Pretty great day.
I haven't felt like that, like, excited, since... really, since I got here,
because it was so much fun.
Today, my world seemed to get a little bigger,
and I was able to see more possibilities.
And I realized that, like,
maybe I could have a life in Cairo that makes me happy,
and then I can live a little more like I'm used to.
The woman who led the meditation
her name's Nouran, and she was, uh, really cool.
Yeah, I was telling her my situation
and, uh, everything that I was going through with you,
like, how I kind of feel like I lose myself
in the relationship a little bit,
and she was talking about how we don't need to change ourselves
to be with men, or to be good enough for other people.
She's strong. She's powerful. She's really cool.
[Nicole] Yeah.
It was just really interesting to get, like, a...
an Egyptian woman's perspective, like, on Egyptian men, I guess.
Uh...
-She definitely has opinions about Egyptian men, for sure. -[Mahmoud] Yeah.
She basically told me that most Egyptian men are a lot like you.
They, uh...
Show you all this attention, all this love.
Then they try to change you.
Like, and then you'll never be good enough for them, and that...
I did, I loved every minute of it.
[laughs] No. No trouble for you, honey.
[Nicole] No, but, I'm serious though--
I feel like me and Nouran kind of think the same way.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole laughing] What is this?
[both laughing]
[Nicole] Yeah. I'm gonna learn from her.
[Mahmoud speaking]
No, she's too cool not to see again.
It's good for me to get away and hang out with some women,
instead of just talking to you.
You know, I wanna feel a little free, like, you know, kind of--
-[Mahmoud speaking] -Be myself.
It's not gonna change the way I feel about you.
You should meet her.
I don't know if they're gonna like each other.
But I really want him to get that
it's not just me who thinks these things.
That there are other people in the world who think them, too,
and even women in Egypt,
maybe help open up his mind
and see a different way to be in life.
But this could just be another one of my bad ideas, I don't know.
[laughing]
I love you so much.
[applause]
[Debbie] This is it.
This is the man that, you know, I've been waiting for.
[in Spanish]
It's here?
[Debbie] I'm excited.
I've been here in Morocco a few days now,
and things are going much better with Oussama after a real bumpy start.
I'm excited.
Oussama has a wonderful plan.
We're gonna go to a poetry reading at this international cafe.
Well, we're here, Oussama, and I'm excited.
It kinda... it doesn't look like...
[Debbie] Right.
We don't have anything like this in Sugar Hill, that's for sure.
There's a lot of young people here.
Is this like a young-person space?
[Oussama] I mean...
[Debbie] How come--
[in Arabic]
So, yeah. Hello.
Uh, my poem right now is going to be about
"inner child healing."
"My inner child was weeping this morning it was bleeding..."
I loved the diversity of the poetry being read at the event this evening.
"A touch from my angel's hand
as she softly blessed my cheek with a kiss..."
It's so impressive, and they're young,
it's like they're thoughtful...
"I looked up, to beauty..."
[Debbie] I'm so inspired here,
I'm just, you know, taken way back,
with Oussama and me bonding.
We bonded over meaningful poetry, creativity,
his art, my art.
We're two creative spirits.
It's a great feeling tonight.
"My burdened feet had leapt from the floor
And into freedom and uncertainty
I sore."
-Beautiful. -[all applauding]
Beautiful.
Very eloquent.
[poet] Thank you, guys.
All right. Coming up, our next poet...
[exhales]
...Oussama.
[all cheering and applauding]
I'm so surprised.
[Debbie] I'm really rather surprised
to be honest with you.
Oussama's getting in front of an audience...
and telling everyone that he...
wrote this poem for me,
his fiance.
He's not ashamed of me.
It's erasing the rough start we had
and it's like, I'm believing in him again
and it feels good.
It's like, this is it.
This is the man, you know, I've been waiting for.
[all applauding]
Thank you.
Thank you, Oussama. Thank you so much.
-Thank you. -I appreciate that.
That was very touching.
I'm so surprised.
I never do something like this before. Oh!
But you're born for it.
Thank you.
This makes me believe again in people.
I...
You read it beautiful.
And I feel almost kind of weak,
like I've had a shot of Cognac
or something after listening to that.
And it makes me feel... feel...
very special.
-[Oussama chuckles] -You got that right, honey.
[Debbie] I feel...
more hopeful about our future together
when I heard that and you claimed me
in front of all these people and strangers.
I was very proud of you Oussama.
-Thank you. -Very proud.
Thank you.
This, you have to believe. [chuckles]
[Debbie] This is my Oussama
and I wanna move forward with him.
This is the refreshment I needed.
I was a woman dying of thirst
for love and acceptance.
And here he is bringin' me
this tall, cool glass of water
of everything that I was dying for.
I'm tired of being disappointed.
I'm tired of lies.
I'm tired of deceit.
I hope I'm doing the right thing by trusting him again.
I feel like I've been drinking.
-[both laugh] -That's how you make me feel.
It's like, "Ooh, yeah!"
[in Spanish]
He is unwilling
to even sit down and have a conversation with my ex.
I feel like that is really childish
and it's not the kind of relationship I wanna have.
[in Spanish]
Okay.
[in Spanish]
Yohan's had a few beers and I'm not letting him drink and drive.
[in Spanish]
There's no way he's driving out of this parking lot.
So I'm gonna sit on him
until he hands me these keys.
[in Spanish]
[in English] Give me your keys. I will sit here and fight with you.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] Give me the keys first.
No, give me the keys and I will.
I'll get out as soon as you give me the keys.
I'm gonna get out.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele sighs]
If this thing is going
to piss Yohan off this much,
he is going to be miserable
for the majority of our relationship.
Because I have a lot of people in my life
that Yohan's not gonna be fond of, clearly.
[in Spanish]
[in English] So I won't know the consequences until I do it?
It's a surprise. I have to live my whole life
-with this [bleep] surprise. -[in Spanish]
Today Jen is arriving in India and I am so excited
that, uh, finally the day is come.
[Jen] I think it kind of hit me
the whole him hitting on Randi.
Disgusted. That's the only...
That's the only word that comes to mind.
[Jen] I just landed in Jaipur,
and I told Rishi that I would meet him at the apartment.
I know I'm gonna be happy to see him,
but at the same time,
when I was leaving Oklahoma,
I think it kind of hit me, the whole...
him hitting on Randi...
on social media.
He sent me a photo of him with the shirt off
-and-- -Wait, when was this?
This is right before you went to go see him.
I just sent you the screenshots.
Oh my God.
I just...
[sighs]
Disgusted. That's the only...
That's the only word that comes to mind.
At this point, him telling his family
almost feels like an afterthought.
But, if he doesn't tell his family...
then, that's it.
Like, I'm done.
Ultimately, I felt like I had to see things through.
I mean, it's been, like,
almost three years now...
and I do love Rishi.
I guess, I kind of wanna give him
the benefit of the doubt.
I felt like I had to come back.
Today Jen is arriving in India and I'm so excited
that, uh, finally the day is come.
And, uh, she is, uh, going to come here
in this apartment again.
I place everything, whatever she like.
Hi!
Wow, wow. So nice to see you.
Nice to see you too.
Before seeing Rishi
for the first time in five months,
I was thinking I was gonna be angry
and like, slap him in the face.
This is for you.
Thank you.
But all those negative feelings
just kind of melted away
just seeing him smiling
and the way it lights up his face.
I know that sounds so bad,
but he's just... he's so excited to see me
and I can't help but reciprocate.
We are standing on a same spot
like, uh, we were...
-Deja vu. -[Rishi laughs]
-[Jen laughs] -Yeah.
Home sweet home.
-All right. -[Rishi chuckles]
I'm happy to see him.
[Jen] Ooh, nice little welcome mat.
-[Rishi chuckles] Yes. -[Jen gasps]
-Oh my gosh, an air conditioner. -[both laugh]
[Jen] Yay.
[gasps] Oh, look at this, how nice.
-[Rishi] Everything is there. -[Jen] Oh, good. Okay.
-Just like before. -Yeah.
-Okay, I wanna see the bedrooms. -Yeah.
Ooh, very nice.
-And new blankets are here. -Oh, good.
Towels and all, everything.
-So... -Yay!
Good job.
Okay, so I'm just getting back
-all the left bags. -Okay. Yes.
He really did set up the apartment
the way I liked it.
I have to say, I'm pleasantly surprised.
I didn't know... [chuckles]
...if he was gonna be able to do all that.
Ah.
Thank you.
Cheers.
So...
Yeah.
Oh my Gosh.
Oh...
Yes.
Oh, that will be amazing.
You will feel fresh after that.
Okay, so are you gonna do it with me?
Yeah, yeah, yes. We'll go together
and, uh, take together.
-Okay. -Yeah.
Ooh, that sounds really good.
The easy times with Rishi are amazing.
He's a wonderful, sweet, amazing soul.
I think I want to just get some stuff
out of my suitcases.
Yeah, why not?
Okay.
But I need to stay focused in the present.
I do have to confront him
about that shirtless photo
that he sent to Randi.
If I don't like the answer to this question,
I mean, God forbid, I hope this doesn't happen.
But I might be back on a plane to America.
Hey.
-Nicole. -Oh, hi!
[Mahmoud speaking]
Don't you trust her?
Yeah, but I... I want to--
[Nicole] Hey, sweetie...
Just, like--
I love you too, so much.
Thank you so much for...
coming with me.
Tonight I'm taking Mahmoud to meet Nouran.
She sort of opened my eyes
to a Cairo
that I wasn't aware of before
and one that I could find happiness in.
And I think that she could talk to him, maybe
and that he might listen
if it's coming from another Egyptian.
That it's not just me as an American
talking to him about things that... that I'm feeling.
-You nervous? -[Mahmoud] Yeah.
Well, you never had a wife before
that came to Egypt, and you had to meet her friends
before she could hang out with them.
I mean, I hope this isn't, like,
one of those things where you're, like,
"Oh, now I'm gonna decide
who we... who you hang out with."
Okay.
[Nicole] After Mahmoud and I had out talk
about how much I wanna hang out with her
and become her friend,
he was more okay with meeting Nouran.
And, he always says,
that if I wanna have friends in Egypt
in order to keep me safe,
that he needs to vet them.
So...
You know, whatever,
if Mahmoud wants to meet my friend
for the right reasons, that's great.
Hey.
-Nicole, hi. -Oh, hi.
-How are you? -Good, how are you?
Nice to see you.
I'm so glad you could make it.
-You look so pretty. -Oh, thank you. You too...
[in Arabic]
[Nicole] Mahmoud, this is Nouran.
Nouran, this is Mahmoud.
[Nicole] So glad you were willing to meet my husband.
That's my pleasure too, but I have a lot of foreign friends here
living in this country.
But they never told me, you need to meet my husband first.
This is a bit weird.
Yeah.
Think about what?
But, uh, Nicole, I mean, she's, like,
adult enough to know, like,
how to judge people, right?
Don't you trust her?
Yeah, but I... I want to--
[Nicole] Hey, sweetie...
Just, like...
I'm sorry.
He's really a sweetheart. He really is.
My impression about Mahmoud is he's very stereotypical.
The typical Egyptian man.
Only knows the people around him,
how they act like, and he feels safe in this zone.
And he feels that there's a threat outside of this zone.
Because he doesn't know anything else.
Will Nicole be able to come to my yoga classes?
There are men.
But why, what's wrong with yoga?
Yoga's very good for the body.
Who told you that the men in the class
will be caring to look at Nicole?
He's coming there to practice.
He's not coming to check women.
So now you're blaming the wrongdoings of men
on Nicole or on women?
So because men are looking
and staring, and fantasizing,
then the woman should accommodate to that?
[in Arabic]
Did it... Was it mentioned in Quran?
[in English]
I'm just watching, like, wow.
Usually, you know, you start off, you don't really
know each other, there's a little bit of, like, you know,
"Oh hi, how are you?". But there was, like, none of that.
It was just a battle.
It's really interesting.
And a little scary.
[sarcastically] Oh, I'm covered.
Or do I have to cover every part of skin?
Oh, no, it's not clear. Can you please tell me
a verse in the Quran that says this?
I love my religion.
But there's nothing in the Quran that says
that women should cover every part of the legs
and the entire...
No. And there isn't any verse that says
that she has to wear the veil. Nothing.
-It only says that it has to be modest. That's it. -[Mahmoud] No.
[in Arabic]
[in English] To listen to what makes sense.
Do you agree that God is fair?
Do you think God wants women to suffer
and to sweat?
And do you know that covering the hair
is very unhealthy for the hair?
-I can't... -You know that the hair needs sun and air?
To be fully covered does not make sense.
What's the reason?
Why can't men be educated enough
not to harass women and not to look at them?
Oh, you know, like it turns...
It turns on some girls, by the way.
Yeah.
Why are you assuming now?
There are women who like, uh, men's legs.
Honey, I don't know if you can say
that it would never turn someone on.
That's a wrong perception.
No.
Because we need to feed the babies.
This is biological differences.
You think the boobs are there
just to turn guys on?
[Nouran] You think the woman has the choice
to cover up or no, or she's forced to do that?
But I hope that Nicole has the choice.
That-- That is something we struggle with.
I love you, too.
[Nicole] She's great. She's really amazing.
[Nicole] She's a strong woman,
and I was actually really proud of my husband.
He didn't storm off and be mad.
He just told it like he knows it,
and never wavered from who he is,
which is really standard Mahmoud.
But at the same time,
I'm worried that nothing will ever change,
and I need things to change in order to...
to be happy here.
Nicole, is it easy for you to do things
that does not make sense to you?
That really,
really is hard for me. Yeah.
But I just love him, and, uh,
we're doing our best.
Mahmoud is not deep.
He's a follower.
He never even digged into religion
to understand more if he actually should do these things or not,
or if these things make sense or not.
So, if I was Nicole, I can't handle this.
Because I know how precious it is.
I would leave.
[Kris] I just got here
so I'm really not ready to go back home yet.
[in Spanish]
[in English]
I believe you. [laughs]
I need to get my makeup bags and stuff that are in there.
I still have to pack that up.
[sighs] What else?
[Jeymi] Your charger.
Yeah. Oh, God, I know I'm gonna forget stuff.
I've been in Colombia for over a month,
but today, I've got to go back to Alabama.
I've been having so many problems with my bank,
and now, on top of that,
when I went to get my narcolepsy medicine refilled,
I found out they don't have it here.
So we talked it over and decided
the best thing for me to do is to take a quick trip home,
and try to take care of these issues.
Kris, your passport,
the tickets, everything is okay?
I've got my passport, I've got my...
my driver's licenses and my phone.
I do not have a ticket,
it's all digital, it's all electronic.
[in Spanish]
[Kris] I want you to keep this.
You know how important this is to me.
That way you know I'm coming back.
Hm.
-I love you. -I love you.
[sighs and sniffles]
[in Spanish]
[Jeymi] Hola.
You come back in few days?
How much is days?
[Kris] I don't know exactly.
I'm gonna try to do it fast.
At the most, at the longest,
two weeks.
It's very difficult because you no have the ticket to come back.
Yeah. The reason I didn't buy it,
just a round trip, is I didn't know exactly
when I was gonna be able to come back.
If I can get everything done in a week
then I'll get my ticket then,
but if it takes me a little bit longer,
it was just easier to...
wait on getting the ticket home.
I believe you. [laughs]
[Kris] It seems like just yesterday,
I got to see Jeymi for the first time,
and now I'm having to go back to Alabama.
I truly, truly, truly hope
I can get everything done super, super fast,
so I can get straight back over there to her.
Aw, Jeymi.
I don't want to be away from her.
Bye, love.
♪ Burned into my skin ♪
♪ Passions of your fingertips ♪
-Love you. -Love you.
It's very difficult to say bye-bye.
It's very difficult.
[Jeymi] All days, everything is with her,
sleep, eat, everything is with her,
never alone, and...
it's difficult.
♪ Burned into my skin ♪
My biggest scare is she no come back.
♪ Bitter, bitter kiss ♪
I'm nervous.
Today, I told Isabel that we're going to a pottery class.
[in Spanish]
-Si. -Si.
I think it's pretty romantic.
[in Spanish]
[Isabel speaking]
Today, I told Isabel that we're going to a pottery class
because she told me that she wants to learn how to make pottery,
and she was not able to be here
when I came here with the kids,
so, I'm like, "Hmm?
Well, maybe this can be, like, a nice date."
[man in Spanish]
I think it's pretty romantic.
[in Spanish]
[man] Well, now, Gabe, it's your turn.
[Isabel in Spanish]
[man] There you go.
-What do you think? -Oh, it's good.
-Si. -It's pretty good.
[Isabel in Spanish]
[Gabriel in Spanish]
[exclaims]
Mm-hm.
-Si. -Si.
[chuckles]
Okay.
[Jen] When you're on social media,
do you get a lot of girls that contact you?
Do you like...
arrange to meet up with them and stuff?
No.
I actually happen to know that you,
like, replied to somebody and...
were, like, arranging to meet up with them.
No.
Shall I show you my phone?
[in Hindi]
Nice area.
Pretty.
[Jen] I returned to Jaipur earlier today,
and Rishi suggested that we go get
oil drip therapy at a spa.
Mm.
This sounds so good after my long journey.
[in Hindi]
So, you need to be here,
-I need to be there. -Okay.
This is the undergarments and the towel.
So let's go change.
-All right. -This is your.
[Jen] Rishi and I haven't been intimate
for several years,
so, when I see him shirtless,
it's a little bit tempting.
I mean, he's not ripped or anything,
but, he's an attractive man, I'm just saying.
[Jen] It's okay? Here?
Okay.
Mummy? Oh, yeah.
[chuckles]
This feels really good.
-Do you like it? -It feels really warm.
Mm.
-It feels so relaxing. -[Rishi] Yeah.
[Jen] I love Kerala traditional oil drip massages
because there's something about them.
It's almost euphoric when you've got two people
rubbing this oil on your forehead at the same time,
it's really relaxing,
it's sort of hypnotic and mesmerizing.
I could do this everyday.
I don't know. It's a lot, right?
Yeah.
I wish I could just lay back, enjoy the spa treatment,
but it's really hard when I'm thinking about these
stupid messages that he sent Randy.
I'm a little concerned about getting all this oil out of my hair.
I don't think I've seen you in a towel in a long time.
[laughter]
Um...
So...
um,
while we're baring it all,
um...
I have a question for you.
[Rishi] Mm-hm.
Do you, uh,
when you're on social media,
do you get a lot of girls that contact you?
Yeah, it's happened.
It's not like a new thing for me.
And so, what do you usually do?
-Like, when they... -[Rishi speaking]
Uh-huh.
So, do you, like...
arrange to meet up with them and stuff?
No.
Is that-- you're--
Are you gonna stick with that answer?
Yeah.
I actually happen to know that you,
like, replied to somebody and...
were, like, arranging to meet up with them.
No.
No?
Shall I show you my phone?
Yeah.
All right.
So, that... that's your final answer,
that you don't remember
arranging to meet up with somebody?
No.
You have amnesia.
Check this out.
"Arrived in Jaipur.
Call me when you're free."
You sent her a pic of you in a towel?
[Rishi] It's not in the towel. It's...
I just... I just took--
Why would you--
I just took this message from my post and I send them.
Like, you send me [bleep] like this everyday.
And you know what? Now it means nothing.
I'm like, borderline ready to smack him.
I feel like I'm all over the place
in this relationship.
One minute I'm happy, I'm in love,
I'm willing to do anything to be with Rishi,
and then the next minute,
I'm angry, I'm resentful.
And now I'm done making excuses for him,
I'm giving him a chance to come clean,
just put it all out there.
You said, later on, "You didn't call me."
-"You didn't call me." -Yeah.
What is that?
I don't remember anything like that.
-You don't remember? -Uh-huh.
That's bull [bleep].
But, if he's not taking me seriously,
if he doesn't see these things as concerning,
this could be the end of things, right now.
I think you just lie.
I'm not lying.
[scoffs] Bull [bleep].
[narrator] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
[Debbie] I don't feel so good.
No, no, no, baby, I told you,
"It's okay."
Oussama and I have just arrived in Khemisset,
and we're gonna stay with his family for a few days.
Just put a bag over my head.
Okay. [chuckles]
You know, that age difference thing,
it's like, "Who's in a hurry to meet mom and dad?"
Not me.
Hi. [laughter]
[in Spanish]
We need your passport, your birth certificate.
Well, my birth certificate, it says "Female" on it.
-So... -Yeah.
Everything is going so good,
and then life is like, bam! "Not today, buddy."
All my evidence...
of transitioning is gone.
[in Spanish]
I'm having a really hard time trusting you right now.
[Jen] What? Why are you sending that person roses?
When I don't answer the phone, do you know what I'm doing?
I'm working to send you money.