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Previously, on
90 Day Fiance:
The Other Way...
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Okay, do or die.
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I'm nervous
because I never met
Oussama's parents before.
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Hi.
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- Nice to meet you, sir.
- Sit down, sit down.
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You know,
that age difference thing,
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it's like, "Who's in a hurry
to meet Mom and Dad? Not me."
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I'd like to know
how old Mom and Dad is?
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I'm glad Dad is, oh,
a little bit older than me.
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Today,
I'm leaving to go
back to Florida.
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You think the boobs are there
just to turn guys on?
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If I was Nicole...
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I would leave.
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Are your parents actively
trying to find you a wife?
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They are looking, but I...
Did I give the consent?
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How many
did they present
to you, roughly?
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Two or three at once.
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- Two or three?
- Uh-huh. In a one--
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And yet, you didn't know
they were looking for you?
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Do you see
how that's a total lie?
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Hmm, he's shady.
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Yohan thinks that my relationship
with my ex, Taylan,
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is more important
than my relationship with him.
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I'm working
to send you money.
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After spending
one night at Oussama's
family's home,
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today when I woke up,
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I felt I aged 10 years
and I look like
I aged 10 years.
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You know,
it's very primitive here.
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The bathroom downstairs, yes,
it... it has a regular toilet,
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but they put upholstery
on the toilet seat.
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It's like, "No, no,
no, no, no, no.
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I can't have that."
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I've been in third world
countries before,
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and, you know,
was able to make do.
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I'm good at making do,
but this is
making don't, honey.
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The shower is like
a hole in the ground
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with a whole
garden hose, it's like...
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It took an act of God
for me to get ready.
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There's no railings
on the stairs,
I don't know why everyone's
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not walking around
with a neck brace
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from falling down
the damn stairs.
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This ain't my nest,
I'm telling you
that right now.
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I got to shake
Oussama somehow,
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bribe him,
do whatever it takes,
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but get me the hell
out of Khemisset.
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Morning!
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Hey, Oussama.
- Did you sleep
well last night?
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Oh, I think I just crashed.
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I shut down hard. Yep.
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But, uh,
what I wanted to do--
- Yeah? What?
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You know, your family's
been extra special to me.
Thank you.
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And I've got
special gifts for everyone.
- Really?
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Okay.
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Okay?
We'll go now?
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Let's go.
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Hi, Dad.
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Good to see you.
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Hi.
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Good morning.
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I wanted
to express my appreciation
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for having me here,
so I got you
a little something.
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This is for you.
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This is for you,
something special.
- Yes, thank you very much.
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You're welcome.
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Ah.
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Ah.
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- He's happy now.
- Pencil.
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Yes, yes.
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Ah.
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You're welcome.
He said,
"Thank you."
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I like...
I like that.
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Yeah,
he like the gift. Good.
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Good, good, good.
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This is good.
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And you're gonna paint me
one special one for me.
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I would appreciate
it very much.
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Insha Allah.
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Oh, Asmaa,
good to see you.
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What's up?
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You're my little princess.
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You're so beautiful.
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Pour the tea first because...
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Oh, somebody else
can be elegant
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pouring the tea, too.
Oh, yeah.
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I'm impressed.
Thanks, Father.
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I haven't
seen this before.
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It's kind of like
bartending skills,
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except with tea.
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Well, I wanted
to explain clearly
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so everyone's
on the same page,
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everyone knows
I am moving here permanently.
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I brought all my things
in suitcases to live here
forever, you know?
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This is neither the time
nor place to argue
with Oussama...
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but it's obvious to me
that his family were
under the assumption
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that I was gonna take
Oussama to the States
and get him a visa.
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And that's not the reality
of the situation.
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Well, I'm here to stay
here with Oussama,
you know, in Rabat.
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I didn't know if this guy...
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...mmm, mmm, explained it
well to you...
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...about what's going
on with us.
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Forever.
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Forever.
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I don't plan on living here.
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I plan on living in Rabat,
and coming here
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- for, you know, a weekend
here and there.
- Hmm.
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I mean, are you okay
with this?
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I am surprised
that Debbie and Oussama
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decided to live
here in Morocco.
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Okay.
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I'm getting big-time
mixed signals.
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I can tell
by their facial expressions
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that they're shocked
that I'm moving here.
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It's like, what kind
of song and dance
did Oussama tell them?
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I just want you to know
that it was a very,
very big decision
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to drop everything in the USA,
and just start
a new life here.
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Things are contradicting
each other again and again.
When I arrived in Morocco,
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he said he wanted me
to go home after one
or two months.
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And now they're saying,
oh, I'm taking their son
to the United States, too.
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Oussama isn't going
to the United States,
and that wasn't our plan,
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and now, all of a sudden,
everything is going
ass-backwards.
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- We still have a lot
of talking to do...
- Yeah.
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...as far
as our plans go.
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Because I don't like
secrets, you know?
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I'm not trying to, like,
run away from the situation.
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It is what it is,
but I'm so frustrated
that I'm getting...
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messed up answers.
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When they knew,
when he supposedly found out
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that they were looking,
and he didn't know,
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it... To me, it sounds
like blatant lying.
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This confusion about
how many women
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and when his family's
tried to match him with
is infuriating.
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- Mmm-hmm--
- And you told them,
"No, stop looking"?
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Yeah.
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But if they knew
about her being your fiancee,
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they wouldn't have any...
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more suggestions for you.
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But the thing is,
I'm not, uh, hiding something.
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I just think it's...
it's complicated, you know.
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I think one of us
should go check on Jen.
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I'm surprised
that you haven't,
but I'll do it.
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It's like, why does he feel
the need to keep lying?
Exactly.
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His story keeps changing.
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You're not crazy.
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You know what,
I came back here to do
what I wanted to do,
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which was to try to get
the truth out of him,
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and obviously,
it's not coming out.
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I'm done with this.
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I don't wanna ask him
any more questions
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because I'm... I can't talk
in circles anymore.
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So, why don't we go
somewhere and chill out?
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Don't make any harsh
decisions yet.
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But, come on, like,
this is exactly
what you guys
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thought was gonna happen.
I know.
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I don't think
he's able to be direct.
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You okay?
Hey.
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Uh, I was just
telling Randi I want
a [bleep] diagram,
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and with a timeline,
and how many women
they've been looking for him,
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and when exactly he knew,
and when he told
what to me or to them.
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I want, like,
the full [bleep] story.
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Only then am I gonna be,
like, satisfied. Otherwise...
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And he acts
like he's getting
frustrated that...
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It's like, "No!
And why are you frustrated,
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dude, like..."
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But, uh...
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Let's take
a deep breath.
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You're just getting
a little overwhelmed
and ahead of yourself.
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You've traveled half way
around the world
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for this guy that you love.
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And so, we need
to get back on track,
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get some answers,
and figure this stuff out.
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If not today, maybe tomorrow.
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Yes.
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I support and understand
where Jen is coming from 100%.
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I don't fully trust Rishi,
but our role
as Jen's besties...
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we're just gonna make sure
that she's happy,
and encourage her
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to get the answers
that she needs.
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It's gonna be okay.
- Okay.
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It's gonna be okay.
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Gonna be okay.
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Oh. Well, it's gonna be okay.
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So, how are things
with Isabel?
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Um...
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Don't do that with your eyes.
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I haven't told them
about the wedding yet
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because I'm worried
about their reactions.
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But I just gotta get it
over with already.
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I'm not really sure
how much longer
I can actually...
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I rely on Mahmoud
and his family for everything.
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I just feel just like
kind of helpless.
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I'm excited to see him.
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Hey, Gabe.
- What's up, Monica?
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Glad you made it.
Well, thanks.
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I see you guys started
without me. Nice.
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Yeah, just a little bit.
We were kind of thirsty.
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The mimosas are good.
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I've been in Florida
for about two weeks
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getting the documents
that I need
so I can marry Isabel.
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It has been
a big pain in the ass
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trying to change
my birth certificate
from female to male,
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and it's gonna take
over a month
to finish everything.
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Good. Um, can I get
a mimosa also?
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Yes, you can.
- Thank you.
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I kept things really vague
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with my mom and my sister
why I'm back home.
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I haven't told them
about the wedding yet
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because I'm worried
about their reactions.
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So, how are things
with Isabel?
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Um, we're doing good.
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That's good to hear
because I... I assumed
since you were back so soon,
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things weren't going so well.
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Regardless, I want you here,
so I was like, "Oh, he's back?
Great, I'll take it."
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I know Monica, in particular,
is gonna have
some negative comments
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about me wanting
to marry Isabel.
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And this is why I waited
so long to tell them,
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but I just gotta get it
over with already.
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So, what had happened
was, is I... I had fix
my birth certificate
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- because it still said female.
Everything is fine.
- For what?
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Well, um...
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because...
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Don't do that with your eyes.
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So basically...
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I'm gonna get married.
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You're getting married?
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Yes.
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Well, sorry, guys.
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Did you propose?
- Yes.
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Wow, [bleep],
you didn't even tell us.
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Yeah, you didn't tell us.
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Did you give
her a ring?
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Yes.
- Okay.
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Are you serious?
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Yeah.
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I...
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- Well, congratulations.
- Yeah.
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Thanks.
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It kind of hurt.
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Like, I'm gonna get emotional.
It kind of hurts.
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Because, from
my point of view,
me and Gabe are best friends,
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and the fact that Gabe
is hiding his proposal from me
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makes me feel as though
he doesn't value
our relationship.
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And so, it hurts
because obviously
I love him so much,
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and I want to be there for him
and I wanna be a part of it.
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00:17:06,482 --> 00:17:08,000
I would think
that you getting engaged
244
00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:09,172
would be a really
important thing
245
00:17:09,172 --> 00:17:10,896
that you would wanna tell us.
246
00:17:13,172 --> 00:17:16,586
And we're both
super excited about it.
We're happy for you.
247
00:17:18,172 --> 00:17:21,517
I do feel bad that I was,
like, hiding this from you,
248
00:17:21,517 --> 00:17:24,379
but I was worried because...
249
00:17:26,068 --> 00:17:28,275
I didn't want you guys
to think that, "Oh,
here goes Gabe
250
00:17:28,275 --> 00:17:29,517
doing something crazy again."
251
00:17:32,172 --> 00:17:33,862
I know,
I know, I know.
- Whatever.
252
00:17:33,862 --> 00:17:35,275
- Whatever, so what?
We love you.
- Yeah, we still love you.
253
00:17:35,275 --> 00:17:37,586
It's like--
I mean...
254
00:17:37,586 --> 00:17:39,310
it's always been me,
you and Monica.
255
00:17:39,310 --> 00:17:40,689
- I know, but-- Okay, but--
- All together. You know,
256
00:17:40,689 --> 00:17:42,275
- this is our family.
- Even you,
when you have--
257
00:17:42,275 --> 00:17:43,620
Let us know.
- When you have
internal problems
258
00:17:43,620 --> 00:17:45,172
you don't tell us,
you keep it to yourself.
259
00:17:45,172 --> 00:17:46,275
So I get that from you.
What?
260
00:17:50,896 --> 00:17:52,327
My son's
marrying a woman
261
00:17:52,327 --> 00:17:56,586
that I've never met before,
so I do have worries
and concerns.
262
00:17:57,413 --> 00:17:58,689
Because I wanna make sure
263
00:17:58,689 --> 00:18:02,206
if I'm losing my son to her,
that she is the right person.
264
00:18:02,206 --> 00:18:04,379
Are you excited?
- Do you have a date planned?
265
00:18:04,379 --> 00:18:06,172
Yeah, I think
it's gonna be,
like, next month.
266
00:18:07,758 --> 00:18:10,689
We actually set
a wedding date.
267
00:18:10,689 --> 00:18:13,862
So while I've been here,
Isabel's been
planning the wedding,
268
00:18:13,862 --> 00:18:16,379
getting caterers,
the location.
269
00:18:16,379 --> 00:18:18,206
So, the moment
I get to Colombia,
270
00:18:18,206 --> 00:18:19,793
everything for the wedding
will be ready.
271
00:18:20,896 --> 00:18:21,965
Am I gonna be in it?
272
00:18:21,965 --> 00:18:24,586
Am I gonna be your best man,
best woman? Like--
273
00:18:24,586 --> 00:18:26,275
- Do you wanna be my best man
or woman?
- Like-- Yes!
274
00:18:26,275 --> 00:18:27,793
I do.
Okay, yeah.
275
00:18:27,793 --> 00:18:30,068
Uh, there's no template
for this wedding
276
00:18:30,068 --> 00:18:32,413
because I don't even know
how weddings go in Colombia.
277
00:18:32,413 --> 00:18:34,068
Is it the same as here?
I have no idea.
I don't know.
278
00:18:34,068 --> 00:18:37,103
Is she helping you plan it?
Yes.
She's been looking
279
00:18:37,103 --> 00:18:39,000
at the venues,
and whatnot, so...
280
00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:40,655
Wow.
Sending pictures.
281
00:18:42,103 --> 00:18:45,275
I feel like I kind
of disappointed them,
so I kind of feel bad.
282
00:18:45,275 --> 00:18:47,689
Because it's always
been us three,
283
00:18:47,689 --> 00:18:50,172
and I want them to be a part
of my life all the time,
284
00:18:50,172 --> 00:18:53,000
and I feel like I kind
of excluded them from that.
285
00:18:54,275 --> 00:18:56,379
Do her parents know
that you're transgender?
286
00:18:56,896 --> 00:18:58,103
Her parents know now.
287
00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:01,068
So, how did
they respond to it?
288
00:19:01,068 --> 00:19:02,413
They actually responded
pretty well.
289
00:19:03,896 --> 00:19:06,000
- I'm happy about that...
- I'm very happy
290
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,758
- about that, too.
- ...because I was
very concerned.
291
00:19:07,758 --> 00:19:09,586
- Yeah.
- That was my main concern also
292
00:19:09,586 --> 00:19:13,068
because I want them to know...
293
00:19:13,068 --> 00:19:16,310
the real you, the true you,
how special you really are.
294
00:19:17,413 --> 00:19:18,931
How do you feel?
295
00:19:18,931 --> 00:19:24,206
I'm happy for you if you have
genuinely found someone
that you love,
296
00:19:24,206 --> 00:19:25,793
and that's there for you.
297
00:19:25,793 --> 00:19:28,482
She will defend me
to the end of the Earth... Cool.
298
00:19:28,482 --> 00:19:29,965
...yeah.
Good.
299
00:19:29,965 --> 00:19:32,689
Nobody talks to her
in a rude or disrespectful--
- Good.
300
00:19:32,689 --> 00:19:34,310
- People are afraid
of her, they--
- They know, they know.
301
00:19:34,310 --> 00:19:37,000
Okay, I'm...
Now I'm scared to meet her
302
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,000
because... And it's like, uh,
303
00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:40,862
- I hope... I hope
we get along.
- Yeah, no, she--
304
00:19:40,862 --> 00:19:43,689
She... No.
That is my biggest
fear, honestly.
305
00:19:44,275 --> 00:19:46,068
'Cause...
306
00:19:46,068 --> 00:19:48,275
maybe your personality
and her personality
307
00:19:48,275 --> 00:19:50,862
is gonna be, like,
one and the same.
308
00:19:50,862 --> 00:19:52,620
You're very
aggressive sometimes.
309
00:19:52,620 --> 00:19:55,000
Uh, you know
the overprotective
little sister.
310
00:19:56,413 --> 00:19:59,103
Also, like, I don't know her
and I know that, like,
311
00:19:59,103 --> 00:20:02,379
you've dated people before
who have taken
advantage of you.
312
00:20:06,172 --> 00:20:10,620
Me knowing that Isabel
is a little bit more
tough and resilient
313
00:20:10,620 --> 00:20:15,275
makes me feel good
because I know that he has
someone in his corner.
314
00:20:15,275 --> 00:20:19,482
But, like, my main concerns
with him getting married
315
00:20:19,482 --> 00:20:25,896
are I still want him
to have his financial freedom
in case this doesn't work out.
316
00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,586
No, because remember?
She got a kid
to take care of, too.
317
00:20:31,586 --> 00:20:33,275
I'm not... Okay.
318
00:20:33,275 --> 00:20:34,275
Okay?
319
00:20:35,275 --> 00:20:36,413
But she's also
helping you
320
00:20:36,413 --> 00:20:37,413
- with your
business, too?
- Exactly.
321
00:20:38,896 --> 00:20:41,793
Oh. Well, actually,
that's interesting
322
00:20:41,793 --> 00:20:43,482
because I don't know
if there's any
type of, like,
323
00:20:43,482 --> 00:20:44,482
Colombian prenup,
324
00:20:44,482 --> 00:20:45,965
but are you
doing that or...
325
00:20:46,793 --> 00:20:48,482
Just in case.
326
00:20:48,482 --> 00:20:50,172
Just in case
it doesn't work out.
327
00:20:50,172 --> 00:20:51,586
But I feel like
once you get
a prenup,
328
00:20:51,586 --> 00:20:52,620
then it's like,
I feel like,
329
00:20:52,620 --> 00:20:54,275
it's setting it up
for failure.
330
00:20:55,482 --> 00:20:57,758
Yeah, but it's
more like an
insurance policy.
331
00:20:58,310 --> 00:21:00,758
It's a protection plan.
332
00:21:00,758 --> 00:21:03,068
Honestly, I don't
want to have
that conversation.
333
00:21:04,310 --> 00:21:06,896
But, maybe,
you should think twice,
just in case.
334
00:21:06,896 --> 00:21:08,482
Because
you've worked
really hard
335
00:21:08,482 --> 00:21:10,862
for your business
for many, many years,
you know.
336
00:21:10,862 --> 00:21:13,379
To bring it to
where it is right now.
337
00:21:16,758 --> 00:21:17,862
What if she
gets bored?
338
00:21:17,862 --> 00:21:19,000
What if she finds
someone else?
339
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:20,862
What if she wants
more kids?
340
00:21:20,862 --> 00:21:22,482
You know, I mean,
you have to think
about that.
341
00:21:22,482 --> 00:21:23,517
- So it's a risk.
- Yeah, I know, but...
342
00:21:24,275 --> 00:21:26,172
But...
343
00:21:26,172 --> 00:21:28,896
I feel like there's
no nice way
to say this,
344
00:21:28,896 --> 00:21:30,413
but I'm just going
to say it. Like...
345
00:21:31,689 --> 00:21:33,758
- I feel like you're
the hardest part--
- Geez.
346
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:37,793
How critical are you
with everybody I dated?
347
00:21:38,965 --> 00:21:42,000
- How?
- And, Gabe,
how did those
348
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:43,310
relationships end up?
349
00:21:45,379 --> 00:21:47,068
I'm getting
frustrated because
350
00:21:47,068 --> 00:21:49,482
Monica tends
to overanalyze everything,
351
00:21:49,482 --> 00:21:53,000
and tries to find
things wrong with
the women that I'm with.
352
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,103
In the past,
my sister has affected
my relationships.
353
00:21:56,103 --> 00:21:57,689
So I'm scared
she's going to
cause problems
354
00:21:57,689 --> 00:21:59,482
for me and Isabel
when she gets
to Colombia.
355
00:22:01,068 --> 00:22:02,896
I'm critical
but I'm accurate.
356
00:22:22,172 --> 00:22:23,758
I can never do this.
357
00:22:27,206 --> 00:22:28,068
There.
358
00:22:30,689 --> 00:22:32,068
I'm just making
some tea.
359
00:22:35,103 --> 00:22:36,103
Yeah.
360
00:22:50,620 --> 00:22:51,482
That sounds fun.
361
00:23:28,862 --> 00:23:30,482
Bye.
362
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:37,896
No.
363
00:23:38,482 --> 00:23:40,103
- By myself?
- Yeah?
364
00:23:40,103 --> 00:23:41,965
With just me
and a friend, yeah.
365
00:23:41,965 --> 00:23:43,689
- Just, this is
the first time.
- Okay, okay.
366
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:48,310
With Nouran,
I saw that
I could actually
367
00:23:48,896 --> 00:23:50,103
have a life
in Egypt
368
00:23:50,103 --> 00:23:51,586
in a way that
I could be happy.
369
00:23:55,310 --> 00:23:56,620
But then,
at the same time,
370
00:23:56,620 --> 00:23:57,862
with Mahmoud,
371
00:23:57,862 --> 00:24:00,068
I thought
she was a little aggressive,
372
00:24:00,068 --> 00:24:02,275
and he said
she attacked him.
373
00:24:02,620 --> 00:24:04,000
She did.
374
00:24:05,068 --> 00:24:07,275
I don't know
if it's worth
the drama
375
00:24:07,275 --> 00:24:10,758
that would ensue
if I were to
376
00:24:10,758 --> 00:24:12,379
hang out with her
and become her friend.
377
00:24:26,379 --> 00:24:27,586
So many people...
378
00:24:27,586 --> 00:24:29,379
So many people
out tonight.
379
00:24:32,206 --> 00:24:33,517
- Oh, chicken?
- Yes.
380
00:24:34,103 --> 00:24:35,000
Okay.
381
00:24:37,689 --> 00:24:39,103
This one?
382
00:24:44,482 --> 00:24:47,172
Baladi?
- Yes, baladi, you know,
it's a...
383
00:24:47,172 --> 00:24:48,689
- Home chicken?
- Yes.
384
00:24:55,620 --> 00:24:57,793
Oh.
385
00:24:57,793 --> 00:24:58,896
Too high, too high?
386
00:24:58,896 --> 00:25:00,103
- Yeah, for us.
- Oh.
387
00:25:00,103 --> 00:25:02,068
Okay, okay.
388
00:25:02,068 --> 00:25:03,172
Let's go.
389
00:25:04,172 --> 00:25:05,586
Yes.
390
00:25:05,586 --> 00:25:08,275
In LA,
I go to the
farmers' market,
391
00:25:08,275 --> 00:25:10,862
but I don't know
if I've ever seen,
like, live chickens.
392
00:25:10,862 --> 00:25:12,620
Is it a cr--
Can you have
something like that
393
00:25:12,620 --> 00:25:13,862
at the farmers'
market in the US?
394
00:25:14,965 --> 00:25:17,586
It was really, like,
shocking to me.
395
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,689
It's like
really intense.
396
00:25:22,689 --> 00:25:25,000
Like, overstimulating
and the Egypt...
397
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,000
Yes.
398
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,896
It's
not relaxing.
- It's not relaxing.
399
00:25:32,275 --> 00:25:35,000
There's just mix
of people and cars
and animals and...
400
00:25:35,896 --> 00:25:37,275
it's really chaotic.
401
00:25:40,172 --> 00:25:42,103
Oh, it's so stressful.
402
00:25:42,103 --> 00:25:45,068
Like freaking cars everywhere.
403
00:25:45,068 --> 00:25:46,965
Okay,
come here.
404
00:25:46,965 --> 00:25:48,000
Okay.
405
00:25:50,793 --> 00:25:52,275
Oh, okay.
406
00:25:56,793 --> 00:25:57,689
Small?
407
00:25:58,517 --> 00:25:59,896
Not this one?
Okay.
408
00:26:05,793 --> 00:26:07,310
Just so weird.
I have to, like, be,
409
00:26:07,310 --> 00:26:08,862
kind of, like, trained
410
00:26:08,862 --> 00:26:10,482
how to go
grocery shopping.
411
00:26:11,379 --> 00:26:12,862
But it's true.
I do.
412
00:26:14,172 --> 00:26:16,482
I don't know how to get
a good deal or anything,
413
00:26:16,482 --> 00:26:17,793
or speak Arabic.
414
00:26:19,862 --> 00:26:21,172
Not fresh?
So let's go.
- Yes.
415
00:26:23,793 --> 00:26:25,379
Okay.
416
00:26:28,413 --> 00:26:30,206
In my life
in LA,
417
00:26:30,206 --> 00:26:31,482
I'm, like,
an independent,
418
00:26:31,482 --> 00:26:33,586
fairly self-sufficient
person.
419
00:26:33,586 --> 00:26:35,379
And then,
coming to Egypt,
420
00:26:35,379 --> 00:26:38,000
I rely on Mahmoud
and his family
for everything.
421
00:26:40,689 --> 00:26:41,827
Yeah?
422
00:26:41,827 --> 00:26:43,068
It's like
some of my self-worth
423
00:26:43,068 --> 00:26:45,482
is tied into
being independent,
424
00:26:45,482 --> 00:26:49,275
and so, now that,
like, that's gone
425
00:26:49,275 --> 00:26:52,000
from me, I just feel,
just like,
kind of helpless
426
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,689
and I feel just like
kind of gross
427
00:26:54,689 --> 00:26:55,896
and like, worthless
a little bit.
428
00:26:57,965 --> 00:26:59,275
Oh, that's a good deal.
429
00:27:01,620 --> 00:27:02,689
- Too high.
- Yes.
430
00:27:07,103 --> 00:27:08,103
All right.
431
00:27:09,482 --> 00:27:12,000
We got
a big bag
of vegetables.
432
00:27:13,310 --> 00:27:15,689
Fatima has adjusted
to life in Egypt
433
00:27:15,689 --> 00:27:17,689
with grace
and with ease.
434
00:27:17,689 --> 00:27:19,068
She speaks
fluent Arabic.
435
00:27:19,068 --> 00:27:21,620
She goes out shopping.
436
00:27:21,620 --> 00:27:23,275
And I really
admire her
for that,
437
00:27:23,275 --> 00:27:26,103
but I'm not sure
why my transition
438
00:27:26,103 --> 00:27:27,793
has been so difficult.
439
00:27:28,793 --> 00:27:30,275
Or why it's
so much harder
for me.
440
00:27:34,586 --> 00:27:35,689
Okay.
441
00:27:35,689 --> 00:27:37,206
I can't help
but worry
442
00:27:37,206 --> 00:27:40,793
that, maybe, I won't
ever feel at home
in this country.
443
00:27:43,896 --> 00:27:45,620
Glad to be
off that crazy street.
- Yeah.
444
00:27:48,103 --> 00:27:52,000
How long was it
before you could
445
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:53,586
go shopping
by yourself?
446
00:27:57,862 --> 00:27:59,000
Do you miss China?
447
00:28:00,068 --> 00:28:01,172
Yes.
448
00:28:01,172 --> 00:28:02,586
I understand.
449
00:28:03,793 --> 00:28:06,172
It's, sort of,
really, really hard
for me to live here.
450
00:28:06,172 --> 00:28:07,275
Yeah.
451
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,275
But I...
452
00:28:11,379 --> 00:28:12,689
I can't.
453
00:28:12,689 --> 00:28:15,689
Do you want...
Do you want to use
a Translate?
454
00:28:15,689 --> 00:28:17,862
- Yes.
- Here you go.
455
00:28:21,172 --> 00:28:22,620
Like what aspects?
456
00:28:23,689 --> 00:28:26,586
Trying to do
simple things
457
00:28:26,586 --> 00:28:29,103
like even
go shopping,
458
00:28:29,103 --> 00:28:31,793
is really,
really hard.
459
00:28:39,862 --> 00:28:40,862
I'm not
really sure
460
00:28:40,862 --> 00:28:43,482
how much longer
I can actually
461
00:28:43,482 --> 00:28:45,068
stay here in Egypt.
462
00:28:46,379 --> 00:28:47,793
Stay in Egypt?
463
00:28:47,793 --> 00:28:51,172
I want to want
to live here.
I do.
464
00:28:51,689 --> 00:28:52,689
I keep trying.
465
00:28:52,689 --> 00:28:54,000
But, I just...
I can't.
466
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:55,689
I don't know.
It's just not
my place.
467
00:28:57,793 --> 00:29:00,103
I want to live
in America.
468
00:29:10,103 --> 00:29:12,103
Mahmoud should
come with me.
469
00:29:15,620 --> 00:29:18,000
Before I left
to move to Egypt,
470
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,689
I re-applied
for Mahmoud's
spousal visa.
471
00:29:20,689 --> 00:29:23,275
To have the option
so that Mahmoud
can come to the US.
472
00:29:24,275 --> 00:29:26,689
And, also,
my back-up plan,
473
00:29:26,689 --> 00:29:29,586
in case moving to Egypt
didn't work out.
474
00:29:29,586 --> 00:29:31,896
Mahmoud agreed
but I don't know.
475
00:29:31,896 --> 00:29:35,000
It feels like
he doesn't really
want to
476
00:29:35,793 --> 00:29:37,275
go to America
and live.
477
00:29:38,482 --> 00:29:40,103
Of course,
we don't know
exactly when
478
00:29:40,103 --> 00:29:41,241
the visa
will be approved
479
00:29:41,241 --> 00:29:44,862
or when he'll
have his interview
or anything.
480
00:29:44,862 --> 00:29:47,103
But I hope
that it will be soon.
481
00:29:55,793 --> 00:29:57,965
It's hard for me.
It's going to be
hard for him.
482
00:29:57,965 --> 00:29:59,793
It's not an
easy thing
to do.
483
00:30:05,275 --> 00:30:06,586
- Oh, I'm sure.
- You sure?
484
00:30:06,586 --> 00:30:07,758
I'm sure, yeah.
485
00:30:08,413 --> 00:30:09,379
But I think
that it will be
486
00:30:09,379 --> 00:30:10,965
a good opportunity
for him.
487
00:30:12,068 --> 00:30:13,310
And if he
doesn't like it,
488
00:30:13,310 --> 00:30:15,758
then we'll have to
do something else.
Right?
489
00:30:34,862 --> 00:30:37,172
I suggest you
talk to him.
490
00:30:37,172 --> 00:30:38,896
Oh, I will.
For sure.
491
00:30:38,896 --> 00:30:40,344
- For sure?
- Mm-hmm.
492
00:30:42,896 --> 00:30:44,896
Even though
we've applied for
this spousal visa,
493
00:30:44,896 --> 00:30:48,206
we haven't really
spoken much
to each other about it.
494
00:30:48,206 --> 00:30:51,172
I'm just worried
that he's going
to react poorly,
495
00:30:51,172 --> 00:30:54,206
and not want to
go to America
and live.
496
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,793
But I feel like,
497
00:30:57,793 --> 00:31:00,103
it really is
the only way that
498
00:31:00,103 --> 00:31:02,172
we can be together
moving forward.
499
00:31:04,689 --> 00:31:06,482
Because I can't
stay in Egypt.
500
00:31:11,689 --> 00:31:16,482
The last time
I had sent her
$1,000,
501
00:31:16,482 --> 00:31:18,172
she was mad because
502
00:31:18,172 --> 00:31:19,793
it wasn't enough.
503
00:31:20,793 --> 00:31:23,172
I feel unappreciated,
504
00:31:23,965 --> 00:31:25,310
unloved.
505
00:31:25,310 --> 00:31:27,103
You're a sugar mama.
506
00:31:27,103 --> 00:31:28,793
It's really disturbing.
507
00:31:30,103 --> 00:31:31,000
I know.
508
00:31:32,172 --> 00:31:34,172
He doesn't want to
tell his family
509
00:31:34,172 --> 00:31:35,758
for another
two months.
510
00:31:35,758 --> 00:31:39,000
Maybe we could
tell his family.
511
00:31:40,103 --> 00:31:41,344
And if they don't
accept you,
512
00:31:41,344 --> 00:31:44,862
and he is willing
to not accept you
because of them,
513
00:31:44,862 --> 00:31:46,000
then that will be
very telling
514
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:47,310
on the man that
you're in love with.
515
00:31:48,965 --> 00:31:50,000
I just...
516
00:32:04,689 --> 00:32:05,896
Hey, Mom.
517
00:32:12,172 --> 00:32:13,172
How was work?
518
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,000
Ah, it was
pretty good.
519
00:32:16,172 --> 00:32:17,965
Typical Monday.
520
00:32:17,965 --> 00:32:19,172
Mondays are
always rough.
521
00:32:19,655 --> 00:32:20,586
Yup.
522
00:32:23,172 --> 00:32:25,896
Everything's crashing
and burning.
523
00:32:28,689 --> 00:32:30,586
I laugh to
keep from crying.
524
00:32:30,586 --> 00:32:32,275
Crashing and
Burning in Bogota.
525
00:32:32,275 --> 00:32:33,551
That sounds
like a good title.
526
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,793
Since my
videocall with Jeymi,
527
00:32:37,793 --> 00:32:40,172
things have
not gotten
any better.
528
00:32:41,275 --> 00:32:42,448
I just don't
know about this
529
00:32:42,448 --> 00:32:43,896
marriage between
two drama queens.
530
00:32:45,241 --> 00:32:46,620
I couldn't agree
with you more.
531
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,482
We haven't
been talking,
hardly at all
532
00:32:51,482 --> 00:32:55,068
and she is still angry
that I haven't come back.
533
00:32:55,068 --> 00:32:56,758
But I still
have to work.
534
00:32:56,758 --> 00:32:58,172
I have to pay
the bills,
535
00:32:58,172 --> 00:33:00,137
because she's
not got a job, yet.
536
00:33:01,758 --> 00:33:04,586
You know,
people who are
newly married,
537
00:33:04,586 --> 00:33:05,586
they usually
don't want to be
538
00:33:05,586 --> 00:33:06,793
away from each other
so long.
539
00:33:07,379 --> 00:33:09,275
I want to be there.
540
00:33:10,586 --> 00:33:13,448
But I want to be
able to pay the bills,
541
00:33:14,275 --> 00:33:16,172
and she won't
be realistic
542
00:33:16,172 --> 00:33:18,379
to the financial
aspect of it.
543
00:33:20,241 --> 00:33:21,896
As your mama,
544
00:33:21,896 --> 00:33:23,896
I'm very doubtful
about some things,
you know.
545
00:33:23,896 --> 00:33:26,448
Because she was
working before.
546
00:33:26,448 --> 00:33:28,793
And when she
got the more
expensive apartment,
547
00:33:28,793 --> 00:33:30,275
she said that
she would go
to work,
548
00:33:30,275 --> 00:33:32,448
so that you could
pay for that.
549
00:33:32,448 --> 00:33:33,896
But then, Jeymi
hasn't worked
550
00:33:33,896 --> 00:33:36,103
- since she got married,
has she?
- Exactly.
551
00:33:36,103 --> 00:33:38,793
So that means,
me working more.
552
00:33:38,793 --> 00:33:39,965
But this is
not enough.
553
00:33:40,896 --> 00:33:45,689
The last time
I had sent her
$1,000,
554
00:33:46,241 --> 00:33:48,586
she was mad because
555
00:33:48,586 --> 00:33:52,172
it wasn't enough
to pay all the bills,
556
00:33:52,172 --> 00:33:56,103
and pay for her
gym membership.
557
00:33:57,172 --> 00:33:59,241
So she was
going to sell
558
00:33:59,241 --> 00:34:02,586
my necklace
that has my locket
559
00:34:02,586 --> 00:34:04,793
with my dad's
ashes in it.
560
00:34:05,551 --> 00:34:07,965
I want you
to keep this.
561
00:34:07,965 --> 00:34:10,034
You know
how important
this is to me.
562
00:34:11,103 --> 00:34:12,689
That way you know
I'm coming back.
563
00:34:16,689 --> 00:34:18,655
When she said that,
I told her,
564
00:34:18,655 --> 00:34:19,793
"I can't keep
doing this."
565
00:34:19,793 --> 00:34:21,896
- I can't, you know--
- It seems to me
566
00:34:21,896 --> 00:34:23,758
right now,
you have a
kept woman.
567
00:34:23,758 --> 00:34:24,965
You're her
sugar mama.
568
00:34:24,965 --> 00:34:27,172
It's really disturbing.
569
00:34:27,172 --> 00:34:29,482
You know?
Because this could
go on forever.
570
00:34:31,379 --> 00:34:32,586
I know.
571
00:34:34,551 --> 00:34:37,000
I've had a fear
since day one
572
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:41,896
that Jeymi was
going to be
just a user.
573
00:34:41,896 --> 00:34:46,965
I feel like she did not
have a real good life
before Kris
574
00:34:46,965 --> 00:34:49,448
and she wants
the stability
575
00:34:49,448 --> 00:34:51,344
that she so desires.
576
00:34:51,344 --> 00:34:53,241
And doesn't
realize that
577
00:34:53,241 --> 00:34:54,689
she has to be
a participant
in that.
578
00:34:56,068 --> 00:34:58,862
Every time she's mad,
579
00:34:58,862 --> 00:35:00,482
she says that
I don't love her.
580
00:35:00,482 --> 00:35:01,551
I'm not there
for her.
581
00:35:01,551 --> 00:35:03,896
That she wants me
there for her.
582
00:35:03,896 --> 00:35:05,896
To me, she's panicking
because you've
been here so long.
583
00:35:07,241 --> 00:35:08,965
You know,
she needs
to understand
584
00:35:09,862 --> 00:35:11,034
that for you not
to go down there,
585
00:35:11,034 --> 00:35:13,655
get your stuff,
get back on the plane
and leave,
586
00:35:13,655 --> 00:35:14,896
she's going to
have to do something.
587
00:35:14,896 --> 00:35:16,586
To show that
she really
means it.
588
00:35:18,689 --> 00:35:20,137
And if she
doesn't even try,
589
00:35:20,137 --> 00:35:21,344
then you're going
to know.
590
00:35:27,172 --> 00:35:30,103
Right now,
I am seeing Jeymi
in a different light.
591
00:35:32,068 --> 00:35:34,689
I am seeing that
592
00:35:34,689 --> 00:35:36,448
she's not
going to help
593
00:35:37,275 --> 00:35:38,551
at all.
594
00:35:38,551 --> 00:35:40,137
She's not putting
forth any effort
to even
595
00:35:40,137 --> 00:35:42,000
attempt to help
with anything.
596
00:35:44,379 --> 00:35:49,137
For our relationship
to survive, at all,
597
00:35:49,137 --> 00:35:52,551
Jeymi is going to
have to put forth
some effort.
598
00:35:52,551 --> 00:35:55,103
Actions speak
louder than words.
599
00:35:55,103 --> 00:35:56,793
There better be
some actions.
600
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:00,275
I love her
601
00:36:00,275 --> 00:36:03,896
and I want
it to work,
602
00:36:04,586 --> 00:36:07,034
but she won't give,
603
00:36:07,034 --> 00:36:09,482
a little... She won't
give at all.
604
00:36:10,068 --> 00:36:11,344
Mmm. That's tough.
605
00:36:23,103 --> 00:36:25,137
♪ I wanna feel
this way forever ♪
606
00:36:27,448 --> 00:36:29,448
♪ Give me, I wanna
dance together ♪
607
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,689
Arrival.
We're here.
608
00:36:33,689 --> 00:36:36,137
We're here,
my God!
- Yes.
609
00:36:36,137 --> 00:36:38,275
Everywhere
we've gone,
it's so pretty.
610
00:36:38,275 --> 00:36:42,137
Yey! I'm so glad
you're seeing
the beauty of India.
611
00:36:42,862 --> 00:36:44,586
Oh, nice.
612
00:36:46,275 --> 00:36:47,793
I want to take
some time
613
00:36:47,793 --> 00:36:49,896
with my friends
away from Rishi.
614
00:36:49,896 --> 00:36:53,137
So they can
appreciate India.
615
00:36:53,137 --> 00:36:55,689
I want them
to actually
enjoy themselves,
616
00:36:55,689 --> 00:36:57,379
rather than just
dealing with
617
00:36:57,379 --> 00:36:59,655
my tumultuous relationship.
618
00:37:03,068 --> 00:37:04,482
So I'm taking
my friends
619
00:37:04,482 --> 00:37:06,241
to a traditional
Indian dance class.
620
00:37:06,586 --> 00:37:08,482
Oh, wow!
621
00:37:09,172 --> 00:37:10,689
This is
so cool!
622
00:37:13,758 --> 00:37:15,793
It's different from
the type of class
623
00:37:15,793 --> 00:37:17,896
you might expect
in the US because
624
00:37:17,896 --> 00:37:20,172
they don't
actually give you
steps to follow.
625
00:37:20,172 --> 00:37:23,586
It's not like,
"Okay! And a one
and a two!"
626
00:37:23,586 --> 00:37:25,689
It's more like,
they take your hands
627
00:37:25,689 --> 00:37:27,689
and start spinning
you around.
628
00:37:27,689 --> 00:37:29,793
And there's, like,
a live band.
629
00:37:33,655 --> 00:37:37,172
It's very bold
and lots of color
and life.
630
00:37:37,172 --> 00:37:38,689
It's very India.
631
00:37:46,275 --> 00:37:47,275
Oh, my...
632
00:37:51,482 --> 00:37:53,000
Oh, pick it up
with their teeth.
633
00:38:00,655 --> 00:38:03,068
I've never
seen this dance move
634
00:38:03,068 --> 00:38:07,000
with the picking up
money with their teeth,
635
00:38:07,689 --> 00:38:09,379
except for,
pretty much
636
00:38:09,379 --> 00:38:11,586
every strip club
I've ever been to
637
00:38:11,586 --> 00:38:13,586
in the
United States, so...
638
00:38:13,586 --> 00:38:15,586
Not what
I was expecting.
639
00:38:15,586 --> 00:38:17,172
You have to
do it, Jen.
640
00:38:17,172 --> 00:38:18,758
- Let's go.
- All right.
641
00:38:26,034 --> 00:38:27,896
Oh!
642
00:38:27,896 --> 00:38:30,689
It's so great
to see Jen
smiling right now.
643
00:38:30,689 --> 00:38:32,758
I think
she was so upset
644
00:38:32,758 --> 00:38:34,965
since lunch
with Rishi
went south.
645
00:38:34,965 --> 00:38:37,689
So, it's
awesome to see her
just let lose
646
00:38:37,689 --> 00:38:39,586
and just get down
on that floor
647
00:38:39,586 --> 00:38:40,896
and grab that
dollar bill.
648
00:38:40,896 --> 00:38:41,896
No worries.
649
00:38:42,655 --> 00:38:44,448
Thank you.
650
00:38:44,448 --> 00:38:45,758
Thank you
so much.
651
00:38:50,275 --> 00:38:52,068
Baskets on
their heads, like...
652
00:38:52,896 --> 00:38:55,000
Yeah. That's a
true art form.
653
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:56,275
It's amazing.
654
00:38:56,275 --> 00:38:59,000
It seems like challenging.
655
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,275
- Yet, they make it
look easy.
- I know.
656
00:39:01,275 --> 00:39:03,000
Ooh, they are
bringing our tea!
657
00:39:03,482 --> 00:39:05,000
Thank you.
658
00:39:06,172 --> 00:39:07,586
Yes.
659
00:39:07,586 --> 00:39:09,448
So, have you
heard from Rishi?
660
00:39:09,448 --> 00:39:12,172
Yeah, he is
leaving me messages
661
00:39:12,172 --> 00:39:13,275
and texting me.
662
00:39:13,275 --> 00:39:15,586
And he is
all about
wanting to talk
663
00:39:15,586 --> 00:39:18,000
and visit
with his family.
664
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:19,000
All of us.
665
00:39:20,172 --> 00:39:21,793
Yesterday at the restaurant,
666
00:39:21,793 --> 00:39:23,379
I wasn't
understanding
667
00:39:23,379 --> 00:39:26,793
Rishi's timeline
of events
668
00:39:26,793 --> 00:39:30,172
regarding his
family arranging
a marriage.
669
00:39:31,137 --> 00:39:33,482
All of it
was so confusing.
670
00:39:33,482 --> 00:39:35,241
It just makes me
think so much
671
00:39:35,241 --> 00:39:37,379
has been lost
in translation.
672
00:39:37,379 --> 00:39:40,275
Either that or
he's lying about everything.
673
00:39:41,793 --> 00:39:43,103
What did you
guys think?
674
00:39:43,965 --> 00:39:45,586
I think he was
trying to
675
00:39:45,586 --> 00:39:49,000
explain without
giving you
the right words.
676
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,103
He just couldn't
get his point
across to you.
677
00:39:52,034 --> 00:39:54,068
And when you
walk away,
678
00:39:54,068 --> 00:39:55,586
he didn't
really know
what he was
679
00:39:56,379 --> 00:39:57,862
saying that was
so wrong.
680
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:00,172
I think you're right
681
00:40:00,172 --> 00:40:02,000
and I want to
give him the benefit
of the doubt
682
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,482
because, you know,
he's already
made it clear
683
00:40:05,482 --> 00:40:07,965
that we are
all welcome
in his house,
684
00:40:07,965 --> 00:40:09,344
to ask questions.
685
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,758
So, I think,
we should
686
00:40:12,758 --> 00:40:15,137
set up a time,
to go in there.
687
00:40:15,137 --> 00:40:16,965
Meet with
his family.
688
00:40:16,965 --> 00:40:18,896
I'll have a
list prepared.
689
00:40:18,896 --> 00:40:21,137
I think
it might be
a good idea
690
00:40:21,137 --> 00:40:23,103
to have a
translator there.
691
00:40:23,103 --> 00:40:27,379
So, everybody
will get clarity.
692
00:40:27,379 --> 00:40:28,655
I need that.
693
00:40:28,655 --> 00:40:31,000
So you won't
miss a thing. Yeah.
694
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,379
You'll get
all your answers
to these questions.
695
00:40:33,379 --> 00:40:36,241
Yeah.
I think that's
a good idea.
696
00:40:36,241 --> 00:40:38,586
I think, with clarity
and the translator,
697
00:40:38,586 --> 00:40:40,137
I think that will
fix some things.
698
00:40:40,137 --> 00:40:41,793
Yeah, yeah.
699
00:40:42,448 --> 00:40:44,586
- I love that plan.
- Okay.
700
00:40:44,586 --> 00:40:46,275
Let me ask
you this.
701
00:40:46,275 --> 00:40:47,965
Don't you think
it's interesting
that he's like,
702
00:40:47,965 --> 00:40:49,448
all about me
coming over,
703
00:40:49,448 --> 00:40:51,068
and us coming over,
704
00:40:51,068 --> 00:40:52,655
and talking
to his family.
705
00:40:52,655 --> 00:40:55,068
Yet, he doesn't
want to tell
his family
706
00:40:55,068 --> 00:40:57,758
for another
two months, roughly,
707
00:40:57,758 --> 00:41:00,379
about us
being engaged.
708
00:41:00,379 --> 00:41:01,689
I think that's
the biggest issue.
709
00:41:02,862 --> 00:41:05,482
It's not like
you guys just met.
You've been
710
00:41:05,482 --> 00:41:07,379
together for
three years.
711
00:41:09,034 --> 00:41:10,482
I just...
712
00:41:10,482 --> 00:41:11,896
So frustrating.
713
00:41:11,896 --> 00:41:13,172
Well, I think...
714
00:41:14,551 --> 00:41:19,000
I know he's, like,
set on August 2nd
at 4:00 p.m.
715
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,586
But how would
you feel about
716
00:41:22,586 --> 00:41:26,379
maybe, we could
tell his family
about you guys.
717
00:41:29,379 --> 00:41:31,344
I mean...
718
00:41:31,344 --> 00:41:33,551
This is something
that's weighing on you
every single day.
719
00:41:33,551 --> 00:41:34,758
Every minute
of the day.
720
00:41:34,758 --> 00:41:36,000
You wake up
and you're anxious.
721
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:37,862
And I think
722
00:41:37,862 --> 00:41:39,137
it would just be
a relief.
723
00:41:39,137 --> 00:41:40,275
Absolutely.
724
00:41:40,275 --> 00:41:42,068
And a loophole for
725
00:41:42,896 --> 00:41:44,103
someone else,
726
00:41:44,758 --> 00:41:46,689
not him, not you,
727
00:41:46,689 --> 00:41:49,482
to let them know
before August 2nd.
728
00:41:50,689 --> 00:41:52,586
I am a certified interventionist.
729
00:41:54,172 --> 00:41:57,482
So, I know
how to break
730
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:00,482
news to people
731
00:42:00,482 --> 00:42:03,689
in a way that
sounds appealing.
732
00:42:05,896 --> 00:42:08,655
I've gone through
extensive training
733
00:42:08,655 --> 00:42:11,172
to deliver
difficult information
to people.
734
00:42:11,172 --> 00:42:13,275
So it's really
not that different,
735
00:42:13,275 --> 00:42:16,068
except Rishi
doesn't have
a drug problem.
736
00:42:16,068 --> 00:42:17,689
He just loves
an American woman.
737
00:42:18,965 --> 00:42:21,758
And we could
present it
in such a way,
738
00:42:21,758 --> 00:42:23,793
we could say,
"Hey, good news!
739
00:42:23,793 --> 00:42:25,689
Your son is not doing drugs.
740
00:42:25,689 --> 00:42:27,103
Right.
- Your son is not
741
00:42:27,103 --> 00:42:29,689
- participating in
any illegal activities.
- Right.
742
00:42:29,689 --> 00:42:31,275
He's not even having sex.
743
00:42:31,275 --> 00:42:32,586
- He's not having sex.
- Oh, my God.
744
00:42:32,586 --> 00:42:34,448
Your son's in love
with an older woman.
745
00:42:34,448 --> 00:42:36,758
He's in love with
this amazing woman
746
00:42:37,275 --> 00:42:38,448
that he is engaged to.
747
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,655
I love that.
748
00:42:40,655 --> 00:42:44,965
It would be a huge relief
for his family to know
749
00:42:44,965 --> 00:42:48,241
so that I can know
what their reaction
is gonna be.
750
00:42:48,241 --> 00:42:49,344
You deserve that.
751
00:42:51,137 --> 00:42:54,034
For a minute,
I have to ask myself, like,
752
00:42:54,034 --> 00:42:56,896
"Wait. Are we
really doing this?"
753
00:42:56,896 --> 00:42:59,000
I don't think Rishi's
gonna be happy
754
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,034
when we blindside him
with this,
755
00:43:01,034 --> 00:43:05,379
but I honestly think
it's for his own good.
756
00:43:05,379 --> 00:43:08,965
Because, now, he doesn't
have this burden
to tell his family.
757
00:43:08,965 --> 00:43:12,137
It's, basically,
being done for him.
758
00:43:12,137 --> 00:43:14,655
And, you know, anything bad
that could come out of this...
759
00:43:14,655 --> 00:43:15,965
Like, let's say
they don't accept me,
760
00:43:15,965 --> 00:43:17,482
or they're not happy
about it, whatever,
761
00:43:18,275 --> 00:43:20,689
I'll just find out
a little sooner.
762
00:43:20,689 --> 00:43:24,448
And if they don't accept you
and he is willing to
763
00:43:24,448 --> 00:43:27,793
not accept you
because of them,
then he doesn't deserve you.
764
00:43:27,793 --> 00:43:30,275
- Yeah.
- But if he says,
765
00:43:30,275 --> 00:43:32,586
"You know what? You don't
accept the woman that I love?
766
00:43:32,586 --> 00:43:35,379
"I'm sorry. I'm picking her."
767
00:43:35,379 --> 00:43:37,896
Then that will be
very telling on the man
that you're in love with.
768
00:43:38,586 --> 00:43:39,379
Yeah.
769
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,482
I love Rishi.
770
00:43:42,482 --> 00:43:44,586
But I don't like drama.
771
00:43:44,586 --> 00:43:46,172
I want peace.
772
00:43:46,172 --> 00:43:49,689
The biggest problem
that I have right now
is that there is no peace,
773
00:43:49,689 --> 00:43:52,448
because everything's
in the dark.
774
00:43:52,448 --> 00:43:55,379
At this point, his time is up.
775
00:43:55,379 --> 00:43:59,551
I just need everything
out on the table now,
776
00:43:59,551 --> 00:44:02,586
so we can get this
figured out today.
777
00:44:02,586 --> 00:44:05,275
Time is up.
I want to know now,
778
00:44:05,275 --> 00:44:06,896
from the family,
779
00:44:06,896 --> 00:44:09,655
is it a go,
or is it a hard pass?
780
00:44:14,965 --> 00:44:16,793
I made plans
with my ex, Taylan,
781
00:44:16,793 --> 00:44:18,482
and Yohan isn't
happy about it.
782
00:44:19,241 --> 00:44:21,034
So, am I gonna
get to meet Yohan?
783
00:44:21,034 --> 00:44:22,482
I mean, that's the goal.
784
00:44:22,482 --> 00:44:24,896
But he is really pissed
that I'm sitting down
785
00:44:24,896 --> 00:44:27,965
with someone that
I had a relationship with
in the past.
786
00:44:27,965 --> 00:44:30,586
I'm surprised you can even
be with someone like that.
787
00:44:30,586 --> 00:44:32,103
I'm not sure if Yohan's
the right guy for Daniele.
788
00:44:48,689 --> 00:44:50,551
Last night was
Yohan's birthday party
789
00:44:50,551 --> 00:44:53,241
and we ended up
getting into a huge fight.
790
00:44:53,241 --> 00:44:57,103
I was really expecting
for Yohan to just apologize.
791
00:44:57,103 --> 00:44:59,655
But this morning,
Yohan is acting
792
00:44:59,655 --> 00:45:03,241
so childish over something
that's so insignificant.
793
00:45:35,793 --> 00:45:37,172
Go.
794
00:45:38,275 --> 00:45:39,586
Okay. No problem.
795
00:45:49,655 --> 00:45:51,551
Hi!
Daniele!
796
00:45:51,551 --> 00:45:54,482
How are you?
- It's good to see you.
797
00:45:55,482 --> 00:45:57,275
I made plans
with my ex, Taylan,
798
00:45:57,275 --> 00:46:00,275
and even though I know
Yohan isn't happy about it,
799
00:46:00,275 --> 00:46:02,482
he's gonna have to learn
to accept my life.
800
00:46:02,482 --> 00:46:05,965
And the easiest way
for that to happen
is for me to live it.
801
00:46:05,965 --> 00:46:07,793
What's going on?
Nothing.
802
00:46:07,793 --> 00:46:09,448
Everything good?
- I'm so... Yeah,
everything's chillin'.
803
00:46:09,448 --> 00:46:12,137
Yo, this is
a cool setup.
- Yeah, yeah.
804
00:46:12,137 --> 00:46:13,137
I'm psyched about this.
805
00:46:13,137 --> 00:46:15,275
Taylan booked
a river cruise for today.
806
00:46:15,275 --> 00:46:17,689
It'll be nice
to be out in nature,
807
00:46:17,689 --> 00:46:21,172
and not have to be stuck
in the house in conflict.
808
00:46:22,689 --> 00:46:25,655
This is so beautiful.
Yo, isn't this cool?
809
00:46:25,655 --> 00:46:28,103
What's up?
Nothing, yo.
How's it going?
810
00:46:28,103 --> 00:46:29,689
- What's the word?
- What's the word?
811
00:46:29,689 --> 00:46:31,172
- I don't know--
- How's you and Yohan?
812
00:46:31,172 --> 00:46:35,172
Um, normally good.
This week has been rough.
813
00:46:35,172 --> 00:46:37,482
- Has it?
- This has been
a really rough week.
814
00:46:37,482 --> 00:46:40,172
Taylan was the last person
I dated before Yohan.
815
00:46:40,172 --> 00:46:43,655
We met on the beach,
kind of in the beginning
of the pandemic.
816
00:46:43,655 --> 00:46:46,896
And we ended up
living together in Miami
for five months.
817
00:46:46,896 --> 00:46:48,793
But we know it was
gonna be temporary,
818
00:46:48,793 --> 00:46:51,379
because Taylan is
a semi-pro basketball player,
819
00:46:51,379 --> 00:46:54,172
and he was planning on
traveling the world
playing basketball,
820
00:46:54,172 --> 00:46:56,172
and I was eventually gonna
have to go back to New York,
821
00:46:56,172 --> 00:46:58,379
back to my in classroom
teaching job.
822
00:46:58,379 --> 00:47:01,275
We were kind of hanging out
until the next stage
of our lives.
823
00:47:02,448 --> 00:47:04,103
So, am I gonna
get to meet Yohan?
824
00:47:04,103 --> 00:47:05,448
I mean,
that's the goal.
825
00:47:05,448 --> 00:47:07,103
I would really love for you
to be able to meet Yohan,
826
00:47:07,103 --> 00:47:09,896
but he is really pissed
that I'm here right now.
827
00:47:09,896 --> 00:47:11,793
Is he really?
- Yeah.
828
00:47:11,793 --> 00:47:14,103
Damn.
Yeah, he's like,
not thrilled
829
00:47:14,103 --> 00:47:15,965
about the idea that
I'm sitting down with,
830
00:47:15,965 --> 00:47:19,379
you know, someone
that I had a relationship with
in the past.
831
00:47:19,379 --> 00:47:23,103
I'm surprised you can even
be with someone like that,
knowing you.
832
00:47:23,103 --> 00:47:25,344
I tried to get him to come,
and he's just like,
833
00:47:25,344 --> 00:47:26,379
"No. Absolutely not."
834
00:47:29,103 --> 00:47:31,344
As soon as
I made this decision
that I was moving here
835
00:47:31,344 --> 00:47:33,379
and I got off
that [bleep] plane,
836
00:47:33,379 --> 00:47:35,379
he was like a completely
different person.
837
00:47:36,034 --> 00:47:37,379
How old is Yohan?
838
00:47:37,379 --> 00:47:39,379
32.
32, okay.
839
00:47:39,379 --> 00:47:41,758
And he's
got a lot to learn--
840
00:47:41,758 --> 00:47:43,068
Word.
...you know?
841
00:47:43,068 --> 00:47:45,862
Being around someone
that's older and more mature,
842
00:47:45,862 --> 00:47:48,000
I think it's gonna
be huge for him.
843
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,379
Like what I did with you?
Yeah.
844
00:47:49,379 --> 00:47:50,379
Yeah.
I mean...
845
00:47:52,172 --> 00:47:54,241
He's not as open.
846
00:47:54,241 --> 00:47:57,000
Me and
Daniele's relationship
started as a friendship.
847
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,172
Obviously, it turned
into a sexual thing.
848
00:47:59,172 --> 00:48:02,586
But, honestly, I'd seen her
more as a mentor at times.
849
00:48:02,586 --> 00:48:05,448
She's, by far, the most mature
woman I've ever been with.
850
00:48:10,275 --> 00:48:12,862
One of the things
that I'm struggling with
is maybe I'm tired
851
00:48:12,862 --> 00:48:14,482
of teaching all the time.
852
00:48:14,482 --> 00:48:15,448
You know?
Yeah.
853
00:48:15,448 --> 00:48:16,793
- And maybe, I--
- It's constant teach mode.
854
00:48:16,793 --> 00:48:18,586
Yeah, it's like
I do it for a living,
855
00:48:18,586 --> 00:48:20,068
and then I have to do it
in my relationship,
856
00:48:20,068 --> 00:48:22,379
so, like, I wonder if,
857
00:48:23,551 --> 00:48:26,034
you know, this pattern
isn't serving me.
858
00:48:29,172 --> 00:48:30,344
At this stage in my life,
859
00:48:30,344 --> 00:48:32,068
maybe that's not the move.
860
00:48:32,068 --> 00:48:34,137
Maybe the move is
to find someone
who can teach me something.
861
00:48:36,172 --> 00:48:37,137
It's tough to hear
862
00:48:37,137 --> 00:48:38,655
that she's having
these difficulties,
863
00:48:38,655 --> 00:48:41,793
just because I got
so much love for her,
and I wanna see her happy.
864
00:48:41,793 --> 00:48:44,482
I'm not sure if Yohan's
the right guy for Daniele.
865
00:48:44,482 --> 00:48:48,793
I think I really need
to see them in person
to get a full grasp of it.
866
00:48:48,793 --> 00:48:50,172
But I hope he is.
867
00:48:50,172 --> 00:48:52,137
You deserve
the best, obviously,
868
00:48:52,137 --> 00:48:56,241
so I hope you
get what you want
out of this relationship.
869
00:48:56,241 --> 00:48:58,034
I would love
for him to sit down with you.
870
00:48:58,034 --> 00:49:01,172
I feel like, if he met you,
and he actually had
a conversation with you,
871
00:49:01,172 --> 00:49:03,034
he would see that, like,
you're not a threat.
872
00:49:03,034 --> 00:49:04,034
Yeah.
You know?
873
00:49:04,034 --> 00:49:05,551
Like, I have a relationship
with someone,
874
00:49:05,551 --> 00:49:08,172
and we're not
romantically interested
in each other anymore,
875
00:49:08,172 --> 00:49:10,689
that doesn't mean
they don't add value
to my life.
876
00:49:10,689 --> 00:49:14,000
Were you able to, like,
explain our relationship
to him?
877
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:18,379
I tried. I think he's been
hurt in relationships before.
878
00:49:18,379 --> 00:49:20,344
Like, he's had
girls cheat on him.
879
00:49:20,344 --> 00:49:22,137
- And, so, like--
- Okay, so it's past trauma.
880
00:49:22,137 --> 00:49:23,482
Yeah.
- That's a big part of it.
881
00:49:23,482 --> 00:49:26,379
- Okay.
- It's coming from
a place of trauma.
882
00:49:26,379 --> 00:49:28,000
Well, I would love
to have that convo with him,
883
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:29,793
but, obviously,
that's gonna be tough--
884
00:49:29,793 --> 00:49:30,689
Yeah.
- ...you know?
885
00:49:31,793 --> 00:49:32,862
Yeah.
886
00:49:32,862 --> 00:49:34,000
I thought that
887
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:35,758
Yohan was better than this,
888
00:49:35,758 --> 00:49:37,275
and that he was more
mature than this,
889
00:49:37,275 --> 00:49:38,586
and more secure in who he was.
890
00:49:39,482 --> 00:49:41,068
I'm just not having it,
you know? Like,
891
00:49:41,068 --> 00:49:43,551
I would rather him
work on his trust issues
892
00:49:43,551 --> 00:49:45,689
so that we can
have a better relationship.
893
00:49:45,689 --> 00:49:47,793
Obviously, I want him
to meet me
and understand that,
894
00:49:47,793 --> 00:49:51,586
like, I don't wanna try
to rekindle what we had
or anything, but...
895
00:49:52,586 --> 00:49:53,793
It's still gonna
be tough, regardless.
896
00:49:53,793 --> 00:49:55,689
Yeah.
- Yeah, so...
897
00:49:55,689 --> 00:49:57,793
The last 48 hours,
898
00:49:57,793 --> 00:50:00,551
I have met
a version of my husband
899
00:50:00,551 --> 00:50:03,137
that I don't like and
don't wanna live with.
900
00:50:03,137 --> 00:50:06,172
And I'm afraid that
this is the person
that he really is
901
00:50:06,172 --> 00:50:08,068
and he's been hiding that
for the last year.
902
00:50:15,034 --> 00:50:18,758
So, has it hit you
that your wedding
is two weeks from today?
903
00:50:18,758 --> 00:50:21,000
Bro, I'm so stressed.
904
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,482
If I was gonna
tie myself to someone,
905
00:50:23,482 --> 00:50:25,034
legally and financially,
906
00:50:25,034 --> 00:50:27,344
I would be very stressed, too.
907
00:50:27,344 --> 00:50:28,586
You want it to last forever,
but at the end of the day,
you don't know.
908
00:50:49,965 --> 00:50:51,793
After being gone for a month,
909
00:50:51,793 --> 00:50:53,586
my paperwork is in order,
910
00:50:53,586 --> 00:50:56,793
and I'm getting married
to Isabel in Colombia
in two weeks.
911
00:50:58,793 --> 00:51:00,896
So,
has it hit you that
your wedding is, literally,
912
00:51:01,586 --> 00:51:03,137
two weeks from today?
913
00:51:04,137 --> 00:51:06,000
That's crazy.
Fourteen days.
914
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,379
I'm, like, "Bro, I'm gonna
have a wife." That's weird.
915
00:51:08,379 --> 00:51:10,586
Yeah.
916
00:51:10,586 --> 00:51:12,482
She's been doing
everything, honestly.
917
00:51:12,482 --> 00:51:14,241
I haven't done
anything at all.
918
00:51:14,241 --> 00:51:15,482
- 'Cause I'm like--
- Yeah.
919
00:51:15,482 --> 00:51:17,275
She was
naming things,
"Oh, photographer,
920
00:51:17,275 --> 00:51:19,379
"this, that, oh.
And we gotta get the cake,
921
00:51:19,379 --> 00:51:21,758
"and we gotta do this."
I'm like,
Oh, my gosh."
922
00:51:24,275 --> 00:51:28,275
Do you think that maybe
you're having a little bit of,
like, cold feet?
923
00:51:28,275 --> 00:51:32,448
Um, no, not right now.
Maybe, like, the day before,
or something,
924
00:51:32,448 --> 00:51:33,586
when it feels real.
925
00:51:33,586 --> 00:51:35,586
It's okay if you are
feeling this way,
926
00:51:35,586 --> 00:51:37,379
because it's completely understandable.
927
00:51:37,379 --> 00:51:39,793
If I was gonna
tie myself to someone,
928
00:51:39,793 --> 00:51:43,275
legally and financially,
I would be very stressed, too.
929
00:51:44,137 --> 00:51:45,275
Because what if?
930
00:51:46,655 --> 00:51:49,896
Have you decided on the,
um, prenup situation?
931
00:51:51,137 --> 00:51:52,586
- Yeah.
- You gonna do it?
932
00:51:52,586 --> 00:51:54,758
No.
Stupid.
933
00:51:59,482 --> 00:52:02,586
You want it to last forever,
but at the end of the day,
you don't know.
934
00:52:02,586 --> 00:52:03,482
And, like--
Exactly.
935
00:52:03,482 --> 00:52:04,793
And since you don't know,
936
00:52:05,344 --> 00:52:08,379
sign on the dotted line.
937
00:52:08,379 --> 00:52:12,689
Monica is being a little pushy
when she's, like, insisting
on we get a prenup.
938
00:52:12,689 --> 00:52:15,655
But I feel like she just
doesn't understand how I feel.
939
00:52:15,655 --> 00:52:17,586
That's why I never go
to Monica for anything
940
00:52:17,586 --> 00:52:19,137
'cause she's just
gonna criticize me.
941
00:52:21,137 --> 00:52:24,000
I mean, all the girls that you
942
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:27,241
typically date, they're,
they're, like,
943
00:52:27,241 --> 00:52:30,103
all shades of, like,
the same person essentially.
944
00:52:30,103 --> 00:52:31,758
They are.
945
00:52:31,758 --> 00:52:33,482
And then, there's always
that one thing,
946
00:52:33,482 --> 00:52:36,655
like, "Okay, this one..."
947
00:52:36,655 --> 00:52:39,965
"This one's a witch."
948
00:52:40,896 --> 00:52:42,689
"This one never
wants to work."
949
00:52:43,448 --> 00:52:44,758
You know what I mean?
950
00:52:44,758 --> 00:52:46,482
So, I'm kind of
nervous, because it's like...
951
00:52:46,482 --> 00:52:49,896
"Oh, ooh, what am I
gonna get with this one?"
952
00:52:53,275 --> 00:52:55,896
Typically, Gabe goes for women
953
00:52:55,896 --> 00:53:01,172
that are very needy,
very jealous,
and a little stupid.
954
00:53:01,172 --> 00:53:05,172
And he's worked very hard
throughout all of his life
to build up his business,
955
00:53:05,172 --> 00:53:07,689
and I would hate to see
someone take it from him.
956
00:53:09,551 --> 00:53:12,241
I'm happy you guys
can come to the wedding.
957
00:53:12,241 --> 00:53:15,241
I feel like it's official.
I'm so happy.
958
00:53:15,241 --> 00:53:16,896
Good.
959
00:53:16,896 --> 00:53:21,137
I know I give you
a hard time sometimes, but...
960
00:53:21,137 --> 00:53:24,586
I do love you.
You're my brother.
You're my best friend.
961
00:53:24,586 --> 00:53:27,000
So, yeah. I am sad
that you're leaving.
962
00:53:28,379 --> 00:53:29,689
Do you think that
963
00:53:29,689 --> 00:53:33,379
you getting married
is going to affect
our closeness?
964
00:53:33,379 --> 00:53:38,172
I don't think so.
'Cause I've been there
for already a lot of time,
965
00:53:38,172 --> 00:53:40,862
and I feel like
we're just the same.
966
00:53:40,862 --> 00:53:44,758
If anything,
I think it helps us
a little bit more, because
967
00:53:44,758 --> 00:53:48,655
when I do come,
then we're nicer
to each other.
968
00:53:48,655 --> 00:53:52,241
That's like, me
and you living together,
never a great idea.
969
00:53:52,241 --> 00:53:53,793
I think it's a great idea.
And now,
we like each other.
970
00:53:53,793 --> 00:53:56,448
No, it's... That'd be
the worst idea
in the world.
971
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:01,172
This is very interesting,
that you'd say that.
972
00:54:01,172 --> 00:54:03,586
What, Monica. Every time
that we live together
973
00:54:03,586 --> 00:54:05,379
at our mom's house,
how is it?
974
00:54:05,379 --> 00:54:06,482
We hate each other.
975
00:54:06,482 --> 00:54:07,896
No, I never--
We don't--
976
00:54:07,896 --> 00:54:09,103
I never hate you.
We won't even
talk to each other.
977
00:54:09,103 --> 00:54:10,068
Well, not hate each...
978
00:54:10,068 --> 00:54:11,758
Oh, Mon... Oh, my gosh.
979
00:54:13,655 --> 00:54:17,379
I rather enjoy it.
I told Malcolm we should
all move in together.
980
00:54:19,068 --> 00:54:20,137
It'll take like two days--
981
00:54:20,137 --> 00:54:21,137
We are having--
...Monica.
982
00:54:21,137 --> 00:54:22,724
It'll take,
like, two days.
983
00:54:22,724 --> 00:54:26,275
We're having two, totally
different experiences.
Yes, we are.
984
00:54:26,275 --> 00:54:28,586
Uh, what is it, they say?
985
00:54:28,586 --> 00:54:31,482
Distance makes the heart
grow fonder or something?
986
00:54:31,482 --> 00:54:33,655
- Absence makes the heart--
- Absence. Yeah.
987
00:54:33,655 --> 00:54:36,551
...grow fonder.
Whatever that means.
988
00:54:36,551 --> 00:54:39,551
Yeah, but we're all
gonna miss you.
989
00:54:39,551 --> 00:54:42,793
You getting married, you know,
it stings a bit more because
990
00:54:42,793 --> 00:54:45,068
I feel like
we're losing you, losing you.
991
00:54:45,068 --> 00:54:47,586
Like, you have
your own family now.
992
00:54:51,137 --> 00:54:54,655
Next time I see Monica,
it's going to be with Isabel.
993
00:54:54,655 --> 00:54:56,482
We're here.
994
00:54:56,482 --> 00:54:58,379
And I'm
worried about
995
00:54:58,379 --> 00:55:00,551
what's gonna happen
when Monica and Isabel meet
996
00:55:00,551 --> 00:55:06,379
because of the past history
that Monica didn't like
any of my girlfriends.
997
00:55:06,379 --> 00:55:07,482
We're gonna miss you.
998
00:55:07,482 --> 00:55:08,689
- All right.
- Give me a hug.
999
00:55:08,689 --> 00:55:10,448
Mmm.
I'll miss you, too.
1000
00:55:10,448 --> 00:55:13,172
- Have a safe flight.
- Thanks so much.
1001
00:55:13,172 --> 00:55:15,172
- I'll see you in two weeks.
- All right.
1002
00:55:16,896 --> 00:55:17,896
I really love my sister.
1003
00:55:17,896 --> 00:55:19,275
We're always gonna
be there for each other,
1004
00:55:19,275 --> 00:55:22,137
we're family, but Isabel
is the love of my life.
1005
00:55:22,137 --> 00:55:26,103
So, it's like two people
coming together. So...
1006
00:55:26,103 --> 00:55:29,793
It feels like I'm falling,
I'm falling, I'm falling,
I'm falling, but it's like
1007
00:55:29,793 --> 00:55:31,482
I'm still scared,
and I'm nervous,
1008
00:55:31,482 --> 00:55:34,379
and my heart is like...
1009
00:55:34,379 --> 00:55:37,689
I mean, I'm just waiting
to see if they get along.
1010
01:02:08,517 --> 01:02:11,206
I've been
struggling to tell you,
1011
01:02:11,206 --> 01:02:14,172
but I... I'm ready
to leave Egypt.
1012
01:02:18,896 --> 01:02:19,896
I think so.
1013
01:02:48,896 --> 01:02:50,551
So, where are you
taking me today, honey?
1014
01:02:57,241 --> 01:03:01,448
That could be anything.
You say no
a lot.
1015
01:03:27,379 --> 01:03:29,551
- You brought me
to get a cat, honey?
- Yes, honey.
1016
01:03:42,793 --> 01:03:44,931
They have
77 cats here.
They do?
1017
01:03:44,931 --> 01:03:46,551
Yeah.
1018
01:04:04,551 --> 01:04:05,551
Yeah.
1019
01:04:08,103 --> 01:04:09,034
Aw.
1020
01:04:13,034 --> 01:04:15,068
Free massage?
Yeah.
1021
01:04:19,965 --> 01:04:21,379
Yeah.
1022
01:04:23,379 --> 01:04:25,172
Oh, look,
the fluffy one?
- Yeah.
1023
01:04:25,172 --> 01:04:26,310
Yeah, I like him too.
1024
01:04:27,793 --> 01:04:30,793
I love cats, so Mahmoud
is like the sweetest,
1025
01:04:30,793 --> 01:04:33,517
sweetest guy. Surprising me
with one of these cats.
1026
01:04:35,137 --> 01:04:36,344
Yeah,
I like all of them.
1027
01:04:38,344 --> 01:04:39,724
Yeah.
1028
01:04:42,413 --> 01:04:44,206
When I was
back in LA,
1029
01:04:44,206 --> 01:04:47,793
he was sending me little, uh,
cat gifs and they're,
like, kissing.
1030
01:04:49,275 --> 01:04:51,896
He's so cute.
1031
01:04:51,896 --> 01:04:53,793
Oh, hi.
1032
01:04:59,344 --> 01:05:01,896
But then, like, seeing them
and thinking about, like,
1033
01:05:01,896 --> 01:05:04,793
the possibility of getting
a cat, which I'm super
tempted to do.
1034
01:05:05,517 --> 01:05:08,034
Oh, you're super sweet.
1035
01:05:08,896 --> 01:05:11,241
I'm, like, wait a second, like,
1036
01:05:11,241 --> 01:05:13,000
I don't know if I'm gonna
stay in Egypt, like,
1037
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:14,344
what are we gonna do
with a cat?
1038
01:05:18,896 --> 01:05:20,172
I like the white one, yeah.
1039
01:05:23,862 --> 01:05:26,172
I don't know.
We, we need to talk about it.
1040
01:05:26,172 --> 01:05:28,517
- Let's go sit in the shade.
- Okay.
1041
01:05:29,551 --> 01:05:31,241
It's not right to get the cat
1042
01:05:31,241 --> 01:05:34,068
and then not, not keep the cat
1043
01:05:34,068 --> 01:05:35,724
for, for the rest of its life.
1044
01:05:38,379 --> 01:05:41,000
So, I need to talk to Mahmoud
right now about this.
1045
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:46,034
It's so sweet that you
brought me here
1046
01:05:46,034 --> 01:05:47,551
and let me pet the cats
1047
01:05:47,551 --> 01:05:49,379
and you're okay with me
getting one.
1048
01:05:51,034 --> 01:05:52,896
Well, of course
I love the cats, honey.
1049
01:05:52,896 --> 01:05:54,517
I just don't know how--
1050
01:05:54,517 --> 01:05:58,103
I just don't know
if it's, like, a good time
for me to get one, you know.
1051
01:05:58,103 --> 01:06:01,482
I've been struggling
to tell you, but I,
1052
01:06:03,793 --> 01:06:05,620
I'm ready to leave Egypt.
1053
01:06:12,931 --> 01:06:14,068
I think so.
1054
01:06:23,275 --> 01:06:25,137
That was the original plan,
1055
01:06:25,137 --> 01:06:28,137
Mahmoud, you know,
I'm so unhappy here.
1056
01:06:30,137 --> 01:06:31,448
I know.
1057
01:06:39,068 --> 01:06:41,965
I know, honey. I know you,
like, tried really hard
1058
01:06:41,965 --> 01:06:44,896
to make things comfortable
and good here for me.
1059
01:06:44,896 --> 01:06:47,034
But for all the reasons we've
1060
01:06:47,034 --> 01:06:50,000
fought endlessly about
all of this stuff, like,
I can't...
1061
01:06:54,862 --> 01:06:56,586
Things change, like...
1062
01:07:40,000 --> 01:07:42,344
Believe me,
it's not, like, an easy
decision for me.
1063
01:07:42,344 --> 01:07:43,724
I don't wanna leave you.
1064
01:07:56,137 --> 01:07:57,103
Why?
1065
01:08:01,931 --> 01:08:04,206
I don't foresee
that happening but,
1066
01:08:04,724 --> 01:08:06,931
um, I love you.
1067
01:08:06,931 --> 01:08:07,896
Okay.
1068
01:08:15,551 --> 01:08:18,206
I'm not sure yet
when I'm gonna go back.
1069
01:08:19,413 --> 01:08:22,103
But I, I definitely
don't want to leave you.
1070
01:08:22,103 --> 01:08:25,068
So, if I go and set up our--
my life
1071
01:08:25,068 --> 01:08:27,827
and get an apartment for us,
will you join me?
1072
01:08:32,758 --> 01:08:34,172
Right.
1073
01:08:34,172 --> 01:08:36,275
Even though we've applied
for the spousal visa,
1074
01:08:36,275 --> 01:08:38,620
we don't know when
that's going to be approved.
1075
01:08:38,620 --> 01:08:41,724
But, since I'm not happy
in Egypt,
1076
01:08:41,724 --> 01:08:44,275
then I think it's worth trying
1077
01:08:44,275 --> 01:08:46,000
a new life together in the US
1078
01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:48,344
and see if that will work.
1079
01:08:48,344 --> 01:08:51,310
If you're able to come
and your visa's approved,
1080
01:08:51,310 --> 01:08:53,689
are you gonna be
willing to try building a life
1081
01:08:53,689 --> 01:08:56,172
together in the United States?
1082
01:09:03,827 --> 01:09:06,275
I don't want you to do it
just to make me happy.
1083
01:09:06,275 --> 01:09:10,172
I want it, you know,
to be something that
you actually want to do.
1084
01:09:14,896 --> 01:09:16,000
Mmm-hmm.
1085
01:09:43,000 --> 01:09:45,482
Well, I know for sure
that I'll be happier
1086
01:09:45,482 --> 01:09:47,413
in the United States.
1087
01:09:47,413 --> 01:09:50,620
And that, uh, you know,
ideally you would be
happy too.
1088
01:09:50,620 --> 01:09:52,137
And maybe we can, you know,
1089
01:09:52,137 --> 01:09:54,137
our relationship
will be stronger.
1090
01:09:54,137 --> 01:09:55,896
You know,
when we're both happy.
1091
01:10:39,896 --> 01:10:43,448
I just wanted you to sketch
an outline of our future.
1092
01:11:12,034 --> 01:11:13,103
Yes.
1093
01:11:16,517 --> 01:11:19,310
Today,
Oussama's showing me around
1094
01:11:19,310 --> 01:11:21,310
his family's farm.
1095
01:11:21,310 --> 01:11:23,689
I'm real excited. It's like,
1096
01:11:23,689 --> 01:11:26,689
this is everything
I've been lookin' forward to.
1097
01:11:27,379 --> 01:11:28,965
It's so beautiful.
1098
01:11:28,965 --> 01:11:30,517
Yeah.
This is a painting.
1099
01:11:30,517 --> 01:11:31,655
I told you.
1100
01:11:32,655 --> 01:11:34,965
Even though
this morning his parents
1101
01:11:34,965 --> 01:11:37,689
were being so accepting
and kind,
1102
01:11:37,689 --> 01:11:41,793
they're also saying
that I'm taking their son
to the United States,
1103
01:11:41,793 --> 01:11:45,310
and I'm like, "Now, how is
this coming into the picture?"
1104
01:11:46,379 --> 01:11:50,413
We need to have a sit-down,
serious talk
1105
01:11:50,413 --> 01:11:52,724
before we can move forward.
1106
01:11:52,724 --> 01:11:55,034
It's like, "Who is this guy?"
1107
01:11:56,137 --> 01:11:58,344
And I've got a new friend
over there.
1108
01:11:58,344 --> 01:12:00,896
- Do you want to see him?
- They want to see Ms. Debbie.
1109
01:12:02,413 --> 01:12:05,379
Aw! Look at his ears!
1110
01:12:05,379 --> 01:12:07,758
You wanna play with me?
1111
01:12:07,758 --> 01:12:09,586
Come see mama.
1112
01:12:09,586 --> 01:12:11,000
Mama love you.
1113
01:12:12,586 --> 01:12:14,620
♪ Purty ♪
1114
01:12:15,482 --> 01:12:17,448
♪ Purty ♪
1115
01:12:18,137 --> 01:12:19,965
♪ My purty ♪
1116
01:12:21,068 --> 01:12:25,758
♪ Too-ra-loo-ra-loo-ral ♪
1117
01:12:26,413 --> 01:12:30,758
♪ Too-ra-loo-ra-li ♪
1118
01:12:30,758 --> 01:12:35,000
♪ Too-ra-loo-ra-loo-ral ♪
1119
01:12:35,000 --> 01:12:42,103
♪ That's an Irish lullaby ♪
1120
01:12:44,482 --> 01:12:46,965
You're gonna let Ms. Debbie
ride you?
1121
01:12:48,724 --> 01:12:51,000
I saw that sweet donkey
1122
01:12:51,000 --> 01:12:53,310
and something came over.
1123
01:12:53,310 --> 01:12:56,862
"Oh, please, let me
ride that donkey."
1124
01:12:56,862 --> 01:12:59,655
Maybe you
love me a little bit?
1125
01:12:59,655 --> 01:13:02,517
Just a little bit.
Oh, I got a kiss!
1126
01:13:02,517 --> 01:13:05,103
Oussama he kissed me.
1127
01:13:05,103 --> 01:13:08,620
I speak the language
of donkey, I think.
1128
01:13:08,620 --> 01:13:09,724
Let me try.
1129
01:13:11,379 --> 01:13:13,827
But I wanna ride the donkey.
1130
01:13:13,827 --> 01:13:18,344
I have always had
an affinity for animals.
1131
01:13:18,344 --> 01:13:19,965
And I connect with them.
1132
01:13:20,827 --> 01:13:22,000
Not too fast.
1133
01:13:22,000 --> 01:13:23,931
Oh, Oussama!
1134
01:13:23,931 --> 01:13:25,862
Okay, Oussama, slow down,
please. My--
1135
01:13:25,862 --> 01:13:27,413
- I don't have a butt.
- Okay.
1136
01:13:27,413 --> 01:13:29,000
God didn't give me a butt.
1137
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:32,137
Oussama!
1138
01:13:34,862 --> 01:13:37,655
You did that on purpose!
I don't do this, no.
1139
01:13:37,655 --> 01:13:39,620
- Damn it, Oussama.
- Okay.
1140
01:13:42,896 --> 01:13:45,000
It's not the donkey, it's you.
1141
01:13:46,448 --> 01:13:47,965
Yeah, it's you man.
1142
01:13:48,689 --> 01:13:49,758
Lord have mercy.
1143
01:13:49,758 --> 01:13:53,000
Why do I always do something
clumsy and podunk.
1144
01:13:53,000 --> 01:13:55,482
It's like, let me
retain my dignity
1145
01:13:55,482 --> 01:13:57,965
and gather myself up
off the ground.
1146
01:13:58,586 --> 01:14:00,103
But I love animals.
1147
01:14:01,241 --> 01:14:03,862
I have to give myself
some nice lips.
1148
01:14:03,862 --> 01:14:07,000
I never like to be
an old lady in my paintings.
1149
01:14:07,000 --> 01:14:09,000
I'm always
young in my paintings.
1150
01:14:10,034 --> 01:14:11,896
Can you make it quiet?
I can't think.
1151
01:14:11,896 --> 01:14:14,896
And Oussama--
Okay, I'll shut up. Okay.
1152
01:14:34,724 --> 01:14:36,896
It feels like a relief.
1153
01:14:36,896 --> 01:14:40,551
Yup, it's like, far away
from the noises.
1154
01:14:40,551 --> 01:14:42,758
Yes, far away from everything.
1155
01:14:44,482 --> 01:14:48,482
What's your idea of what
comes next for you and me?
1156
01:14:50,379 --> 01:14:51,793
Our plans.
1157
01:14:52,344 --> 01:14:54,172
What are Oussama's plans?
1158
01:14:57,931 --> 01:15:01,448
Look, it's not the right time
to talk about plans now.
1159
01:15:01,448 --> 01:15:03,724
- Well--
- It's time for creating.
1160
01:15:03,724 --> 01:15:06,068
You can do both
at the same time.
1161
01:15:10,655 --> 01:15:14,448
It's been difficult,
bringing this up to Oussama.
1162
01:15:14,448 --> 01:15:16,206
But, this is important.
1163
01:15:16,206 --> 01:15:18,931
He needs to, like,
put his input in that,
1164
01:15:18,931 --> 01:15:20,896
"Yeah, we're gonna
look for apartments.
1165
01:15:20,896 --> 01:15:22,379
Yes, we're going to Rabat."
1166
01:15:22,379 --> 01:15:24,310
And this is the best possible
1167
01:15:24,310 --> 01:15:27,034
place that we can
have this conversation.
1168
01:15:27,034 --> 01:15:30,241
- We need to have plans
for our future.
- Yup.
1169
01:15:30,241 --> 01:15:31,620
But--
1170
01:15:36,482 --> 01:15:39,068
No, 'cause I need to
talk about the plan.
1171
01:15:52,413 --> 01:15:55,965
Well-- But when I
talk about the future
1172
01:15:55,965 --> 01:15:58,000
and needing security,
1173
01:15:58,000 --> 01:16:01,724
you always kind of say,
"Well, we'll talk about it
later."
1174
01:16:01,724 --> 01:16:03,482
- I don't wanna push you,
at all...
- No--
1175
01:16:03,482 --> 01:16:05,379
- ...but I feel I need to
make plans.
- I know.
1176
01:16:05,379 --> 01:16:07,034
- Okay, go ahead.
- I just want a little bit--
1177
01:16:07,034 --> 01:16:08,379
Okay, it's okay.
1178
01:16:08,379 --> 01:16:12,758
Little bit, like, can we
look at apartments
online tonight?
1179
01:16:15,896 --> 01:16:18,310
The odd thing is,
1180
01:16:18,310 --> 01:16:22,275
me and Oussama have these
wonderful, deep conversations
1181
01:16:22,275 --> 01:16:23,827
via texting.
1182
01:16:23,827 --> 01:16:25,517
And now, it's like,
1183
01:16:25,517 --> 01:16:29,275
do I have to get out my phone
and text him to have these
1184
01:16:29,275 --> 01:16:32,310
honest heart-to-heart
conversations?
1185
01:16:32,310 --> 01:16:35,793
Now that I'm here large,
in-person,
1186
01:16:35,793 --> 01:16:38,344
I'm gettin' nothin', man,
I'm gettin' nothin'.
1187
01:16:40,413 --> 01:16:42,517
You said that I would
come here
1188
01:16:42,517 --> 01:16:44,620
and you would love me
and take care of me
1189
01:16:44,620 --> 01:16:45,793
and you would prove it.
1190
01:16:45,793 --> 01:16:47,448
And now it's like
you're just kind of like,
1191
01:16:47,448 --> 01:16:49,724
"Oh, shut up, Debbie
I don't wanna--
Talk to the hand."
1192
01:16:49,724 --> 01:16:50,724
Why?
1193
01:16:51,448 --> 01:16:52,896
You think I'm not patient?
1194
01:16:53,586 --> 01:16:54,551
I--
1195
01:16:55,931 --> 01:16:57,793
I didn't want you
to do it right now.
1196
01:16:57,793 --> 01:17:01,000
I just wanted you to sketch
an outline of our future.
1197
01:17:14,103 --> 01:17:15,448
What?
1198
01:17:19,103 --> 01:17:21,965
Phew. I don't get it, man.
1199
01:17:21,965 --> 01:17:23,655
So, you think
I'm mentally ill?
1200
01:17:24,655 --> 01:17:27,172
You're acting real
cold-blooded right now.
1201
01:17:29,620 --> 01:17:31,206
And--
1202
01:17:31,206 --> 01:17:35,000
You, and you, you don't think
I'm feeling hurt right now?
1203
01:17:35,000 --> 01:17:36,793
You don't think
I hear my kids saying,
1204
01:17:36,793 --> 01:17:39,620
"Mom, I told you so?
This guy can't
take care of you.
1205
01:17:39,620 --> 01:17:42,275
This guy is not gonna be
straight and honest with you."
1206
01:17:42,275 --> 01:17:44,482
You don't think I can
hear them saying that,
1207
01:17:44,482 --> 01:17:45,862
"Mom, be careful."
1208
01:17:47,310 --> 01:17:49,275
I wanna talk about
serious things
1209
01:17:49,275 --> 01:17:51,241
and you act like,
"Oh, you're crazy.
1210
01:17:51,241 --> 01:17:52,517
You're mentally ill."
1211
01:18:16,862 --> 01:18:18,758
So, the family does know you.
1212
01:18:18,758 --> 01:18:21,000
But, not the fiancee part?
1213
01:18:21,000 --> 01:18:22,068
No idea.
1214
01:18:22,068 --> 01:18:25,413
- But, it could come out.
- Okay.
1215
01:18:25,413 --> 01:18:27,000
I'm done hiding,
1216
01:18:27,000 --> 01:18:28,068
I'm done keeping them
in the dark.
1217
01:18:54,137 --> 01:18:55,620
Okay, guys.
1218
01:18:55,620 --> 01:18:58,000
- Ooh, what do you have?
- I've got some options here.
1219
01:18:58,000 --> 01:18:59,000
Okay.
Kind of a lot.
1220
01:18:59,000 --> 01:19:00,482
Let's see.
1221
01:19:00,482 --> 01:19:03,206
Now, this is like a
super comfy... No.
1222
01:19:03,206 --> 01:19:04,724
- No.
- Did you say, "No"?
1223
01:19:04,724 --> 01:19:06,724
No.
- You're, like, hard pass.
1224
01:19:06,724 --> 01:19:09,034
It has pockets though. No.
1225
01:19:09,034 --> 01:19:12,862
No, no, no, no.
- No, it's like, it, you need--
Just wear that to bed.
1226
01:19:15,551 --> 01:19:18,034
Today, my friends and I
are going to
1227
01:19:18,034 --> 01:19:21,517
take Rishi up on his offer
to meet with his family,
1228
01:19:21,517 --> 01:19:23,137
and ask them questions
1229
01:19:23,137 --> 01:19:26,793
about them looking for
a bride for him.
1230
01:19:26,793 --> 01:19:30,344
Like, I wanna look cute,
and I also...
1231
01:19:30,344 --> 01:19:32,275
- I don't know.
- You wanna be yourself.
1232
01:19:32,275 --> 01:19:35,172
Yes.
But you still kind of
wanna have a little bit
1233
01:19:35,172 --> 01:19:37,172
of respect towards
his family, you know. Exactly.
1234
01:19:37,172 --> 01:19:38,896
- Yeah, exactly.
- Yeah.
1235
01:19:38,896 --> 01:19:41,551
It's gonna be a big day.
1236
01:19:41,551 --> 01:19:44,689
Not only do I
hope to get the truth,
1237
01:19:44,689 --> 01:19:47,965
about the arranged
marriage situation,
1238
01:19:47,965 --> 01:19:50,344
but my friends are gonna
drop the bomb
1239
01:19:50,344 --> 01:19:52,758
on his family
about our engagement.
1240
01:19:54,931 --> 01:19:57,000
Oh, I like that.
Ohh!
1241
01:19:57,000 --> 01:19:58,482
What about this and jeans?
1242
01:19:58,482 --> 01:19:59,793
- Because--
- That's really pretty.
1243
01:19:59,793 --> 01:20:00,827
That could work.
1244
01:20:00,827 --> 01:20:03,275
All right,
I will be right back.
1245
01:20:03,275 --> 01:20:05,241
- Get ready
for the fashion show.
- Let's see.
1246
01:20:07,413 --> 01:20:10,000
I realize that going behind
Rishi's back
1247
01:20:10,000 --> 01:20:13,275
is not the ideal way
to do things.
1248
01:20:13,275 --> 01:20:17,275
But, I wasn't doing myself
or him any favors
1249
01:20:17,275 --> 01:20:19,172
by being patient.
1250
01:20:19,172 --> 01:20:20,793
Perfection.
Yeah?
1251
01:20:20,793 --> 01:20:22,482
- I like it.
- Yeah, I really like it.
1252
01:20:22,482 --> 01:20:26,793
So far, it's just
created problem after problem.
1253
01:20:26,793 --> 01:20:30,551
So, ultimately, I'm not
doing this to upset him.
1254
01:20:30,551 --> 01:20:33,379
This is to benefit
the both of us.
1255
01:20:35,034 --> 01:20:38,103
So-- All right. So, you guys,
I'm, I'm feeling
1256
01:20:38,103 --> 01:20:40,793
positive about going to see
his family today.
1257
01:20:40,793 --> 01:20:42,931
I love the plan
that we came up with.
1258
01:20:42,931 --> 01:20:44,965
I got a translator.
1259
01:20:44,965 --> 01:20:46,793
I talked to her on the phone.
1260
01:20:46,793 --> 01:20:48,517
I gave her
a little bit of a heads-up
1261
01:20:48,517 --> 01:20:49,862
on what's going on,
1262
01:20:49,862 --> 01:20:52,206
so she knows
what she's walking into.
1263
01:20:53,586 --> 01:20:56,862
I'm gonna make it clear
that this is gonna be
a translation,
1264
01:20:56,862 --> 01:20:58,551
not an interpretation.
1265
01:20:58,551 --> 01:21:00,862
- Good.
- Do not filter.
1266
01:21:00,862 --> 01:21:03,103
Yeah, just say,
"I wanna hear it all."
I wanna hear it all.
1267
01:21:03,103 --> 01:21:04,586
- Good, bad, ugly.
- Give, give it to me.
1268
01:21:04,586 --> 01:21:07,206
First question is,
1269
01:21:07,206 --> 01:21:09,241
"How long have you been
looking for a wife?"
1270
01:21:09,241 --> 01:21:12,827
Oh.
- Think that's her.
I'll be right back.
1271
01:21:13,379 --> 01:21:14,206
Mmm.
1272
01:21:15,586 --> 01:21:16,724
Hi!
1273
01:21:16,724 --> 01:21:17,896
Hello, hi.
1274
01:21:17,896 --> 01:21:20,068
- I'm Jen.
- Oh, Jen, nice to meet you.
1275
01:21:20,068 --> 01:21:21,724
- I'm Bindiya.
- Nice to-- Bindiya!
1276
01:21:21,724 --> 01:21:23,379
- Yes.
- Okay, you're beautiful!
1277
01:21:23,379 --> 01:21:25,448
- Thank you, so are you.
Lovely to see you.
- Come on in.
1278
01:21:25,448 --> 01:21:26,448
Come on in.
1279
01:21:26,448 --> 01:21:28,758
When I see how beautiful
the translator is,
1280
01:21:28,758 --> 01:21:30,241
I'm already thinking,
1281
01:21:30,241 --> 01:21:32,068
"Maybe the family
will want to arrange
1282
01:21:32,068 --> 01:21:34,344
a marriage between
she and Rishi."
1283
01:21:34,344 --> 01:21:37,103
I'm sure Rishi's mom
would approve of her.
1284
01:21:37,896 --> 01:21:39,482
How are you guys doing?
1285
01:21:39,482 --> 01:21:41,172
Good.
Very good.
1286
01:21:41,172 --> 01:21:42,655
I'm so happy I found you.
1287
01:21:42,655 --> 01:21:44,793
Yes.
I'm, I'm just
so glad to help.
1288
01:21:44,793 --> 01:21:47,103
But I also kind of
have some questions
1289
01:21:47,103 --> 01:21:48,689
- just to get, uh--
- Yes.
1290
01:21:48,689 --> 01:21:51,241
First of all,
so the family does know you...
1291
01:21:51,241 --> 01:21:52,862
They do know me.
- ...but as a friend.
As a friend.
1292
01:21:52,862 --> 01:21:55,413
Correct.
- Okay.
1293
01:21:55,413 --> 01:21:58,413
But, not the fiancee
part? They have no idea.
1294
01:21:58,413 --> 01:21:59,965
- No idea.
- Okay.
1295
01:21:59,965 --> 01:22:03,310
I talked to him
about some things
the other day
1296
01:22:03,310 --> 01:22:06,275
having to do with his family
looking for a wife for him,
1297
01:22:06,275 --> 01:22:07,793
an arranged marriage.
1298
01:22:07,793 --> 01:22:11,000
And I feel like he told me
some things
1299
01:22:11,000 --> 01:22:12,586
that were inconsistent.
1300
01:22:12,586 --> 01:22:14,137
Obviously, I love him
1301
01:22:14,137 --> 01:22:16,310
or I wouldn't be here
going through this.
1302
01:22:16,310 --> 01:22:20,000
But, I want to make sure that
1303
01:22:20,000 --> 01:22:22,448
things aren't getting lost
in translation.
1304
01:22:22,448 --> 01:22:23,689
I understand.
That he--
1305
01:22:23,689 --> 01:22:25,586
- You know?
- The cultural barrier.
1306
01:22:25,586 --> 01:22:26,655
Yes.
1307
01:22:26,655 --> 01:22:29,000
And so that's where we are
right now.
1308
01:22:29,000 --> 01:22:31,172
- Okay.
- She needs answers.
1309
01:22:32,275 --> 01:22:36,379
I don't know
what is going to happen today.
1310
01:22:36,379 --> 01:22:39,482
Okay.
But, I just kinda wanna
prepare you
1311
01:22:39,482 --> 01:22:41,482
it could come out,
1312
01:22:41,482 --> 01:22:44,344
the fact that we're engaged.
1313
01:22:44,344 --> 01:22:47,827
And I don't, I don't want you
to be caught off-guard.
1314
01:22:47,827 --> 01:22:49,689
- Okay.
- I just wanna prepare you...
1315
01:22:49,689 --> 01:22:51,758
Okay.
- ...that that might--
that that might happen.
1316
01:22:51,758 --> 01:22:53,413
And it might happen from us.
1317
01:22:53,413 --> 01:22:56,827
Which is okay with her,
but we don't you to be, like,
1318
01:22:56,827 --> 01:22:58,551
"Oh, what's happening?"
Yeah.
1319
01:22:58,551 --> 01:23:00,137
- Okay.
- But we may say,
1320
01:23:00,137 --> 01:23:04,517
"We want to tell you that your
son is engaged to her,
1321
01:23:04,517 --> 01:23:06,310
and this is
a wonderful thing."
1322
01:23:06,310 --> 01:23:09,241
Okay, you guys are gonna
disclose it to--
1323
01:23:09,241 --> 01:23:10,758
Yes.
Mmm, maybe.
1324
01:23:10,758 --> 01:23:12,344
Maybe.
1325
01:23:12,344 --> 01:23:17,000
Um, we're gonna see
how everyone reacts.
1326
01:23:17,000 --> 01:23:18,482
Okay.
1327
01:23:18,482 --> 01:23:21,482
I was hired by Jen
to translate for her
1328
01:23:21,482 --> 01:23:24,482
and I was happy to do the job.
1329
01:23:24,482 --> 01:23:26,689
But, when I got to know
the context,
1330
01:23:26,689 --> 01:23:32,137
I understand this is just
a totally twisted situation.
1331
01:23:32,137 --> 01:23:35,275
I have never done a
translation like this before.
1332
01:23:36,310 --> 01:23:38,448
Now, I'm nervous.
1333
01:23:38,448 --> 01:23:41,000
Do you want me to translate
word-for-word?
1334
01:23:41,620 --> 01:23:43,379
Yes, please.
1335
01:23:43,379 --> 01:23:45,379
Tell her everything.
- Okay.
1336
01:23:45,379 --> 01:23:47,482
Even if
it's not good. Yes.
1337
01:23:47,482 --> 01:23:50,034
- Okay.
- She needs to know
before she makes this
1338
01:23:50,034 --> 01:23:54,000
huge life-changing decision
of moving across the world
1339
01:23:54,000 --> 01:23:55,758
to-- for this guy,
and we don't even know
1340
01:23:55,758 --> 01:23:57,827
if he's serious about
being with her.
1341
01:24:01,137 --> 01:24:03,758
As long as Rishi's
family does not know about us,
1342
01:24:03,758 --> 01:24:05,068
we are in limbo.
1343
01:24:06,000 --> 01:24:07,379
I'm done hiding,
1344
01:24:07,379 --> 01:24:09,241
I'm done keeping them
in the dark.
1345
01:24:09,241 --> 01:24:11,586
Let's do this!
Oh, my gosh.
1346
01:24:11,586 --> 01:24:13,103
Rishi's not gonna
like this,
1347
01:24:13,103 --> 01:24:16,862
but he is the one
who asked me to marry him.
1348
01:24:17,931 --> 01:24:20,068
I mean, let's be honest,
it's been three years.
1349
01:24:20,068 --> 01:24:21,758
He's not telling them,
1350
01:24:21,758 --> 01:24:24,137
so I am making this happen.
1351
01:24:28,413 --> 01:24:31,241
Next time on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
1352
01:24:31,241 --> 01:24:35,275
You kind of have us
under the impression that
1353
01:24:35,275 --> 01:24:39,655
she's very controlling
and very jealous.
1354
01:24:41,655 --> 01:24:44,206
She's overstepping
to where it's, like,
1355
01:24:44,206 --> 01:24:46,172
only hurting me.
1356
01:24:46,172 --> 01:24:48,862
I'm very
over-protective of Gabe.
1357
01:24:48,862 --> 01:24:50,379
And so we want to know that
1358
01:24:50,379 --> 01:24:52,482
he's taken care of
while he's in Colombia.
1359
01:24:58,758 --> 01:25:00,793
Whoa! Did I hear that right?
1360
01:25:00,793 --> 01:25:03,137
I'm not gonna
tolerate this behavior.
1361
01:25:03,137 --> 01:25:06,310
And I don't have any guarantee
that Yohan is gonna change.
1362
01:25:09,689 --> 01:25:11,793
You should be
ashamed of yourself
1363
01:25:11,793 --> 01:25:12,827
the way you treated me.
1364
01:25:18,586 --> 01:25:21,551
We were planning to go
to the USA. Yes or no?
1365
01:25:21,551 --> 01:25:24,379
- No, no,
it's not about a visa.
- You're a liar.
1366
01:25:24,379 --> 01:25:26,758
You're a cold-blooded snake.
1367
01:25:30,551 --> 01:25:33,655
I am here
to support Jen,
1368
01:25:33,655 --> 01:25:36,586
and I have something to say,
1369
01:25:36,586 --> 01:25:39,103
uh, to everyone in the room.
1370
01:25:39,103 --> 01:25:40,482
I don't know
what is going on.