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Previously on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way
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Kirsten's coming
to meet my family
in a few days.
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Because I'm moving to the
Netherlands in three months.
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But my mom is gonna be
devastated I would say.
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Are we almost there?
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This is it right here?
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I cannot convince
Armando to move
to Mexico City.
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So I had to compromise
and make kind of a
summer trip out of it.
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It's different than
our ocean view.
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It is.
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This is really the first thing
that's like we're totally
disagreeing on.
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I don't want this decision
to come in between us.
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Different way of life,
that's for sure.
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When I get to South Africa,
I'm marrying Wayne
in a week.
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She's never liked any of my
boyfriends ever.
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Holly's mom is gonna stay
for about three months
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it's gonna feel a little
bit uncomfortable.
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- I think it's gonna be pretty
hectic with her around us.
- Yeah, it will be hard.
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You're so beautiful
when you're sleeping.
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I spend every single second
on video call with Mary.
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And I'm moving
to the Philippines,
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But my family and Mary don't
get along.
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She doesn't want you
around your mother or sister.
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It pisses me off.
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I'll be dammed,
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if I watch my son,
ruin his life
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over this obsession with
a girl he's never met...
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Thank you, Ma'am.
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Today I'm moving
to South Africa to marry
my fiance Wayne
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and we're getting married
a week after I arrive.
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Okay, one more.
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No, two more, there's two more
I'll get it.
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I'm feeling too many
different emotions.
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There's a little bit
of anti... anticipation,
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curiosity, there's a little
bit of concern
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like what if it's not the
same between us, I don't
think that will be
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the case but that's a concern.
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Mom, how many more?
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Um, well I don't know.
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I have a great relationship
with my mom, we've always
been really close.
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So bringing my mom
is really important because,
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I know that she has
my best interest at heart.
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She knows me very well
and she looks at things
with a very clear lens.
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So I told my mom to be
one hundred percent
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honest with me how
she feels about Wayne.
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I know if we see
things differently
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you know, it would make
me think about it.
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Oh, thank you.
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Mom, I can't really believe
I'm getting married in just
over a week, it's weird huh?
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It is.
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I'm so excited, I wonder
how I feel the day of,
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- 'cause you never
know with me.
- Yeah.
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Sometimes, I get
scared and I run off and
sometimes I'm fine.
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Having you come and I finally
remember at my wedding
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it's like really
important to me
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so thank you for putting
your fears aside
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and your love for me first
and I'm coming.
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I wanna... I wanna see
my daughter getting married.
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And I've gotta get to know him
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but I'm very concerned
about your safety,
that's one of the
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biggest concerns I have.
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And, there's a
good reason for it.
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Because you have been
broken into,
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it's very worrisome and I
don't know what to expect.
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I've not been around
anything like that, so when
I get down there
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I'll just see how I feel
about it, but I...
I am worried.
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Yeah, it's scary.
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You know, it's
a serious conversation.
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If I'm gonna feel good
about going home,
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then I've got to say
what I think needs to be said
and make sure that
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he realizes that some
changes need to be made.
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I've had second thoughts
about going to South Africa
with Holly.
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It's very scary,
how dangerous it is.
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But I haven't met Wayne yet,
so I wanna meet him of course,
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and I wanna see their dynamic
together, see how they do.
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It's really important to me
that she has somebody that
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loves her and respects her
and treats her well.
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I'd rather live
a life that was
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that's a little scary
and dangerous.
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I think it's good to have
an adventure.
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Oh, look we're
really close, mom.
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I know, when we get on the
plane it's gonna be real, huh?
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This is the last time,
this is my home.
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Like, after this nothing
will ever be the same.
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It's crazy that I'm getting
married in like a week.
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And I'm finally having the
fairy tale I've always wanted.
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Just like I love
all the fairy tales
all the princess
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I feel like I'm finally
living that out
in my own life.
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And I haven't
felt that before.
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Oh, my God, we're pulling off.
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Ah! This is so real.
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We're really doing this Mom.
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If I go down there
and it doesn't work out
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that would be terrible.
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I feel so strongly that
it's meant to be.
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I would be devastated.
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We're at the
Salt Lake airport.
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We are headed to Texas
and then Johannesburg.
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I'm giving up a lot,
I really am. But, I'm a very
determined person.
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And when my mind said
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that he is the person that
I'm gonna spend the rest
of my life with so,
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I hope we just pick up
right where we left off.
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The nerves are
settling a little bit
but, I'm just really excited
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to go to South Africa.
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Yay.
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Okay, five, four, three,
two one.
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Who are you?
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It was like that, yeah.
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This one's gonna
be pretty intense.
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She made me smile.
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She's very beautiful.
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Yeah.
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Om.
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Yeah, that was so powerful
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We connected instantly and
formed the bond which I never
felt before with anyone else.
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Kimberly stayed in India
on student visa for a year
and I knew
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I wanted to propose her.
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Yeah.
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It's so bright.
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Since you're all
about moving to Mexico City
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You gotta go in there alone.
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I'm gonna send you the
shopping list.
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I have to do good.
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Otherwise Armando
is gonna say, "I told you so
you cannot handle it
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here in Mexico City."
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Salt, pepper.
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Salt and pepper.
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I don't know what to think
right now, it's just like...
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Yeah.
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So how did you sleep?
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It was nice,
the bed was comfortable.
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I thought it was good.
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This morning the garbage
truck woke me up down.
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Oh, my gosh.
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Well, I guess that's the city.
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After waking up,
sleeping in the Mexico City
for the first night,
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I cannot wait to get out
and explore the city.
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We have to go today to the
grocery store 'cause
there's nothing here.
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All right. Hannah.
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- You're ready to
go to the market?
- Yeah.
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Babes, surprise, our
furniture's here.
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Oh, my gosh. Shut up.
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Better not be a lie.
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That'd be great.
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This areas here is,
is looking a little
more sketchy.
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I don't know
if it's sketchy, it's a little
more busier.
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I was thinking, since
you're all about moving
to Mexico City
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you gotta go in there alone.
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And see if you can do it.
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Before Kenny made the move
to Mexico, I knew that he
know no Spanish.
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You know, here it's not
the same as walking into
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our local supermarket
at La Mision.
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Everything is marked
and you can just, you know,
go and pay. Here,
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you have to ask the vendors
for what you need.
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- Are you nervous,
you're like shaking. I am.
- Are you being serious?
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I am, I'm gonna send
you the shopping list.
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Oh, my God.
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I'll be around, I'll
keep an eye on you.
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All right, go ahead.
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I'll follow along.
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I'm really kind
of surprised at Armando
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because he usually doesn't
play these kind of games.
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So, I have to prove
a point here
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and I have to do good.
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Otherwise Armando is gonna
throw it in my face
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and say, "I told you so, you
cannot handle it
here in Mexico City."
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Oh, my God.
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Well, there's a lot of stuff.
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Oh my...
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He send
the list. Oh, my God.
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So much.
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Where...
is chicken?
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I think I spot some.
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I do.
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Oh, this is gonna be a lot.
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Can... can, this... Can I get?
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Yeah.
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We gotta buy some legs
and I got it all in one shot.
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There you go.
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All right,
I need spices.
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Oh, there's spices.
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Let me see.
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Oh, boy.
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Um, salt, pepper.
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Salt, pepper.
Salt and pepper.
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Salt and pepper.
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No?
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Oh, my God.
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Kenny looks lost,
like he's really struggling
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I feel a little bad about it
but it's funny to see.
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Carrots.
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Yes.
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Carrots.
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I told Armando,
even before moving
to Mexico
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that me learning Spanish
is gonna be very
difficult for me.
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Because I have a learning
disability, I have dyslexia,
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and I'm freaking out right now
this market is super busy.
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I need to learn more
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because, I think he's worried
that he's gonna have to
take out on a lot
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to guide me
through Mexico City than maybe
he has in La Mision,
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But, I'm really kicking myself
out right now 'cause
I don't have a
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translation app on my phone.
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So, I'm kind of staying
there like a fish
out of water.
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I can't do...
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Are you frustrated, mate?
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Albeit, I'm a
little overwhelmed.
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Of course, Mexico City
is a big city
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and I'm sure that there
are tourists and professionals
that speak English.
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But, I'm trying to show
Kenny the down side of
moving to Mexico City.
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Him not knowing Spanish,
there will be more worry and
responsibility falling on me.
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Well, that's why I am
a little annoyed because,
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I can't figure out how
to go to a doctor,
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I can't figure out what I'm
gonna need at a grocery store,
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It might take a little longer,
it might take a little longer
to shop,
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but we just literally
got here and
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you're already not giving
like a chance.
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You're not being open minded
about it and that's what this
trial run is all about.
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Did you get
your passport back?
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You still haven't got
your passport back?
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I'm at the airport
to meet Kirsten
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but she's stuck in customs
and they have her passport.
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I'm nervous,
because I'm like,
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I don't like that this
is exactly how this trip
is starting off.
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You know, I wanted
everything to be sweet
and dandy when she arrived.
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I don't even know
what to think right now.
I'm just like...
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Yeah... Yeah.
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She's coming out.
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♪ This is your
Heart to take ♪
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♪ This is your
Move to make ♪
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♪ I'm yours to love ♪
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I miss you too.
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Be careful. My make-up.
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- It's been a long time.
- My make-up.
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Kiss.
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How are you?
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I'm all right.
How's your flight?
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It was good.
I slept for a little bit.
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- Yeah?
- Yeah.
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Now, what happened
after you got off?
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They took
my passport away.
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- But they just start
asking me questions.
- Uh-huh.
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About, like, I told them like,
I'm gonna see my boyfriend.
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00:21:06,620 --> 00:21:09,344
And they didn't trust
me or something.
244
00:21:31,896 --> 00:21:34,517
- They opened up
the suitcases?
- Yeah.
245
00:21:37,034 --> 00:21:38,137
Damn.
246
00:21:38,137 --> 00:21:39,655
- Well, you're here.
- But I'm here now.
247
00:21:39,655 --> 00:21:40,862
- What do you think?
- I'm excited to see New York.
248
00:21:40,862 --> 00:21:43,896
- I'm good. I'm good now.
- Yeah?
249
00:21:43,896 --> 00:21:46,103
- She's actually here.
Like, it's been--
- I made it safe. I'm here.
250
00:21:46,103 --> 00:21:48,206
It feels good. It feels good.
251
00:21:49,172 --> 00:21:50,448
Welcome to New York city.
252
00:21:50,448 --> 00:21:51,344
This is it.
253
00:21:53,482 --> 00:21:55,689
So it's nice, right?
254
00:21:55,689 --> 00:21:59,241
This trip is really
important for me, because
I'm gonna meet all his family.
255
00:21:59,241 --> 00:22:03,896
And, I mean, your family
has to approve me before you
come live in the Netherlands.
256
00:22:03,896 --> 00:22:05,517
Once they
love you, then you know,
257
00:22:05,517 --> 00:22:07,931
they'll be okay with me
being over there.
258
00:22:07,931 --> 00:22:10,034
I hope your
mom is okay with me.
259
00:22:10,034 --> 00:22:11,896
- I hope so, too.
- I hope she's
not mad at me
260
00:22:11,896 --> 00:22:13,482
that I'm the reason
you're gonna move.
261
00:22:13,482 --> 00:22:14,448
No.
262
00:22:21,206 --> 00:22:23,172
Oh, my God.
That's a school bus.
263
00:22:23,172 --> 00:22:24,862
You've never seen
a school bus before?
264
00:22:24,862 --> 00:22:26,413
No. I saw it in movies.
265
00:22:29,034 --> 00:22:30,931
There it is.
There's the buildings.
266
00:22:35,758 --> 00:22:38,517
- The guy with the thing
in his hand?
- Yeah.
267
00:22:38,517 --> 00:22:40,206
- The Statue of Liberty?
- Yeah.
268
00:22:43,448 --> 00:22:45,586
- Oh, God.
- What?
269
00:22:45,586 --> 00:22:46,896
You make fun of me?
270
00:22:46,896 --> 00:22:50,206
- That was the cutest
thing ever.
- Aw, thank you.
271
00:22:52,724 --> 00:22:54,344
Kirsten's first time
here in New York city.
272
00:22:54,344 --> 00:22:57,620
I booked a hotel for us
to spend the night
at in Manhattan.
273
00:22:57,620 --> 00:22:59,551
It will be nice
to have some privacy.
274
00:22:59,551 --> 00:23:02,827
I haven't seen Kirsten
in little over a month.
275
00:23:02,827 --> 00:23:05,241
It's time to get re-acquainted
if you know what I mean.
276
00:23:07,655 --> 00:23:09,482
♪ I'm looking for
a bit of love ♪
277
00:23:17,965 --> 00:23:19,275
Do you know how
to get to Time Square?
278
00:23:20,103 --> 00:23:21,172
Just follow the lights.
279
00:23:29,310 --> 00:23:30,448
I'm excited to show
her Time Square.
280
00:23:33,379 --> 00:23:35,793
When everyone thinks
of New York, they think
about Time Square.
281
00:23:35,793 --> 00:23:38,689
So it's a nice bucket
list item for her
to kind of experience.
282
00:23:38,689 --> 00:23:41,275
- So what do you
think of the city so far?
- It's so nice.
283
00:23:45,758 --> 00:23:46,896
Hi.
284
00:23:46,896 --> 00:23:48,793
- Um, I'll do
a Moscow Mule, please.
- Sure.
285
00:23:53,827 --> 00:23:57,068
- I had a long flight,
you know. Yeah.
- You had a long day.
286
00:23:57,068 --> 00:23:59,206
What do you think
of Time Square?
287
00:23:59,206 --> 00:24:03,586
- I mean, it's nice for like,
visiting, like, as a tourist.
- Yeah.
288
00:24:03,586 --> 00:24:05,896
- But it's like, overwhelming.
- Yeah.
289
00:24:06,724 --> 00:24:08,034
- I know.
- I'm sorry.
290
00:24:08,034 --> 00:24:09,724
No, I know.
I mean, listen.
291
00:24:09,724 --> 00:24:11,482
Believe me, I feel like I
292
00:24:11,482 --> 00:24:14,310
- don't even wanna live
here anyway, you know.
- Okay.
293
00:24:14,310 --> 00:24:16,827
That's why I wanna
make this move
as soon as possible.
294
00:24:16,827 --> 00:24:20,310
But like, I kind of, have
to make sure that, you know,
everything just is in order.
295
00:24:22,413 --> 00:24:25,310
- Cheers to New York.
- Cheers to your first day.
296
00:24:25,310 --> 00:24:26,724
- For seeing each other.
- Of course.
297
00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:31,793
I wanna find an apartment
before I get there.
298
00:24:31,793 --> 00:24:33,655
You have to find
a job too. Yeah.
299
00:24:33,655 --> 00:24:36,586
It's gonna be hard.
Like, you cannot
speak the language.
300
00:24:38,896 --> 00:24:43,379
I think Dutch is definitely
a difficult language to learn.
301
00:24:43,379 --> 00:24:47,068
I tried, you know,
I downloaded Dutch 101.
302
00:24:47,068 --> 00:24:50,206
Heard the first two minutes,
and I was just like, boop.
303
00:24:51,620 --> 00:24:54,034
- Believe me.
I know it's gonna--
- You have to speak Dutch.
304
00:24:54,034 --> 00:24:55,586
- And you know how...
- Believe me.
305
00:24:55,586 --> 00:24:57,310
- ...you cannot even
pronounce my last name.
- I know it's gonna be hard.
306
00:24:58,517 --> 00:25:00,896
Believe me, I know.
It's gonna be hard.
307
00:25:04,517 --> 00:25:06,413
All the Dutch
I know right now?
308
00:25:07,482 --> 00:25:10,379
Nee, which is no.
309
00:25:10,379 --> 00:25:11,586
Lekker, which is like, good.
310
00:25:12,448 --> 00:25:14,206
Uh...
311
00:25:15,241 --> 00:25:16,896
That's it.
312
00:25:16,896 --> 00:25:20,413
Oh, [bleep], which is like,
the worst thing you could say.
313
00:25:20,413 --> 00:25:21,724
That's like bad right there.
314
00:25:21,724 --> 00:25:25,551
That's like...
That's like [bleep], like...
315
00:25:28,241 --> 00:25:29,413
I have a couple months.
316
00:25:32,517 --> 00:25:35,103
Yeah, hopefully.
Hopefully, hopefully.
317
00:25:35,103 --> 00:25:37,551
Do you have second
thoughts about moving?
318
00:25:38,344 --> 00:25:40,034
No, I don't have
second thoughts.
319
00:25:40,034 --> 00:25:41,931
- I mean--
- You sure you
still wanna do it?
320
00:25:41,931 --> 00:25:44,310
Yeah. I mean,
it'd be sacrificing a lot.
321
00:25:44,310 --> 00:25:46,241
- It's like, I have a good job.
- I know.
322
00:25:46,241 --> 00:25:49,068
I have my family,
my friends, but, like...
323
00:25:50,965 --> 00:25:53,931
I see a better future
over there, honestly.
324
00:25:57,068 --> 00:25:57,965
That's what I'm gonna do.
325
00:25:59,862 --> 00:26:02,103
I'm excited that Kirsten
is here now.
326
00:26:02,103 --> 00:26:04,344
And I think it's gonna be nice
327
00:26:04,344 --> 00:26:07,206
to have her finally meet my
family for the first time.
328
00:26:07,206 --> 00:26:10,000
But, um, I'm nervous.
329
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,896
- You wanna go back to the...
- Yeah, let's go.
330
00:26:12,896 --> 00:26:14,620
Hopefully once my
mom meets Kirsten,
331
00:26:14,620 --> 00:26:18,379
she can see the reasons
why I love her and get
behind this relationship.
332
00:26:18,379 --> 00:26:19,551
Because if not...
333
00:26:21,551 --> 00:26:23,896
I don't know what to do.
334
00:26:29,241 --> 00:26:31,620
Now I've lost connection.
335
00:26:31,620 --> 00:26:34,724
You should get it back
here in two seconds.
I just got two bars back.
336
00:26:34,724 --> 00:26:36,344
The last time
I tried to go fishing,
337
00:26:36,344 --> 00:26:40,206
Mary thought that I
was cheating on her
with someone else.
338
00:26:40,206 --> 00:26:41,689
- You get
service back?
- Yeah.
339
00:26:41,689 --> 00:26:45,793
Being on the phone 24x7,
creates a tense
situation for us at home.
340
00:26:45,793 --> 00:26:49,103
'Cause if we wanna have
a private conversation,
we can't ever.
341
00:26:52,689 --> 00:26:56,689
I'm traveling about
38 hours and definitely
not feeling well.
342
00:26:58,724 --> 00:26:59,965
I have no idea
what's going on.
343
00:27:07,206 --> 00:27:11,034
♪ I like to watch you
When you walk ♪
344
00:27:11,034 --> 00:27:14,000
♪ I like to hear you
When you talk ♪
345
00:27:17,413 --> 00:27:18,448
You ready
to go fishing?
346
00:27:18,448 --> 00:27:19,275
Yeah.
Let's go fishing.
347
00:27:25,310 --> 00:27:28,000
- Ready with your fishing hat?
- I don't have a hat.
348
00:27:28,896 --> 00:27:29,793
I wish.
349
00:27:31,206 --> 00:27:33,896
I'm moving to the Philippines
in a couple of days.
350
00:27:33,896 --> 00:27:36,172
And I just can't
wait to finally be
together with Mary.
351
00:27:37,724 --> 00:27:39,689
Glad we're getting
to go fishing with you
one more time,
352
00:27:39,689 --> 00:27:43,275
before you're out
of here forever.
353
00:27:43,275 --> 00:27:44,206
I know, right.
354
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,724
The other day, my mom
and my siblings made it clear
355
00:27:48,724 --> 00:27:53,034
that I can't rely on
them to support my
relationship with Mary.
356
00:27:53,034 --> 00:27:55,379
Ever since then,
we haven't been talking.
357
00:27:55,379 --> 00:27:59,689
But, I'm looking forward
to spending time
with my godparents.
358
00:27:59,689 --> 00:28:02,551
Because they do generally
try to understand
359
00:28:02,551 --> 00:28:04,034
my relationship with Mary,
360
00:28:04,034 --> 00:28:06,000
on a deeper level
than my family does.
361
00:28:08,034 --> 00:28:10,000
Is there gonna
be cell service
362
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,620
- when we get
to the river spot?
- Yeah.
363
00:28:12,620 --> 00:28:14,448
It might not be as
good a fishing there,
364
00:28:14,448 --> 00:28:18,896
but, we tried to pick
somewhere that had
a little bit of service.
365
00:28:20,034 --> 00:28:20,862
Okay.
366
00:28:21,793 --> 00:28:23,448
The last time I
tried to go fishing,
367
00:28:23,448 --> 00:28:27,206
Mary thought that I
was cheating on her
with someone else.
368
00:28:27,862 --> 00:28:29,931
Now I've lost connection.
369
00:28:29,931 --> 00:28:32,551
You should get it back
here in two seconds.
I just got two bars back.
370
00:28:34,206 --> 00:28:37,689
So, I have to be
on the phone
with Mary when I go,
371
00:28:37,689 --> 00:28:40,034
or we have a really big fight.
372
00:28:41,965 --> 00:28:43,103
- You get
service back?
- Yeah.
373
00:28:44,137 --> 00:28:45,896
There we go. It's connecting.
374
00:28:47,206 --> 00:28:48,517
Yeah.
375
00:28:48,517 --> 00:28:49,379
I got
the hook right here.
376
00:28:50,482 --> 00:28:51,275
You're playing on your phone.
377
00:28:52,137 --> 00:28:52,965
Sorry.
378
00:28:54,310 --> 00:28:57,689
I've been friends with
Brandan's dad
since we were kids.
379
00:28:57,689 --> 00:28:59,758
Um, I also grew up
with his mother.
380
00:28:59,758 --> 00:29:01,758
And, uh, Brandan needed me.
381
00:29:01,758 --> 00:29:04,344
I'll try to be there as
much as I possibly could.
382
00:29:04,344 --> 00:29:07,172
He's more, I guess kind of,
like a son in a way,
383
00:29:07,172 --> 00:29:09,068
because we don't have kids.
384
00:29:10,275 --> 00:29:12,000
I definitely
miss fishing.
385
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,000
- I'm glad we're doing this.
- Yeah.
386
00:29:15,827 --> 00:29:17,172
Since being with Mary,
387
00:29:17,172 --> 00:29:19,655
he doesn't go out and do
388
00:29:19,655 --> 00:29:21,689
barely anything anymore.
389
00:29:21,689 --> 00:29:25,137
Because he has
to have that constant
connection with Wi-Fi.
390
00:29:25,137 --> 00:29:26,793
And that kind of,
sucks a little bit.
391
00:29:28,379 --> 00:29:30,413
- Mary awake?
- Nah, she's sleeping.
392
00:29:31,689 --> 00:29:33,241
Being on
the phone 24x7,
393
00:29:33,241 --> 00:29:35,482
creates a tense
situation for us at home.
394
00:29:35,482 --> 00:29:38,482
'Cause if we wanna
have a private
conversation with Brandan,
395
00:29:38,482 --> 00:29:40,068
we can't, ever.
396
00:29:40,068 --> 00:29:41,620
Because Mary has
to be listening.
397
00:29:43,448 --> 00:29:47,068
Well, can you believe
you're going there?
398
00:29:47,068 --> 00:29:48,000
It's a little scary.
399
00:29:48,689 --> 00:29:49,931
- Yeah.
- For me, anyway.
400
00:29:49,931 --> 00:29:52,344
Crept up really fast.
401
00:29:52,344 --> 00:29:54,000
What's the living
situation gonna be?
402
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,758
Is it gonna be her grandparents
and her and...
403
00:29:56,758 --> 00:29:59,241
Her grandparents
are gonna be staying
with us for a while,
404
00:29:59,241 --> 00:30:02,137
just to get to know me
and all that stuff.
405
00:30:02,137 --> 00:30:04,655
But you guys
are working on a lot
of stuff with the house.
406
00:30:04,655 --> 00:30:06,931
How much do you
guys have left to do?
407
00:30:06,931 --> 00:30:10,620
Um, a little bit, yeah.
408
00:30:10,620 --> 00:30:15,172
Mary and I decided
to build a house for
ourselves in the Philippines.
409
00:30:15,172 --> 00:30:17,310
There was a typhoon
that destroyed her home.
410
00:30:17,965 --> 00:30:19,413
And, over the past year,
411
00:30:19,413 --> 00:30:21,517
all my paychecks
that were coming in
412
00:30:21,517 --> 00:30:24,517
were going straight
to building the house
and to Mary.
413
00:30:24,517 --> 00:30:27,965
It was close to, like,
$50,000-60,000.
414
00:30:29,655 --> 00:30:31,586
I just barely scratched by.
415
00:30:31,586 --> 00:30:36,344
So, I've got $250
in my bank account.
416
00:30:36,620 --> 00:30:37,758
So...
417
00:30:38,862 --> 00:30:40,103
Good luck to me.
418
00:30:42,965 --> 00:30:45,655
You know me, man.
I'm always...
419
00:30:45,655 --> 00:30:48,000
I think of the worst
possible scenario, you know.
420
00:30:49,206 --> 00:30:51,137
What happens if you
guys don't work out?
421
00:30:53,448 --> 00:30:54,655
If she doesn't want you there.
422
00:30:54,655 --> 00:30:56,620
But she wanted
to keep the house
and everything you owned.
423
00:30:56,620 --> 00:30:59,275
You put a lot
of faith in this woman.
424
00:30:59,275 --> 00:31:02,034
Um, yeah. I'm not
really worried about
425
00:31:02,034 --> 00:31:03,620
her pulling that card.
426
00:31:03,620 --> 00:31:05,482
She's not gonna do that.
427
00:31:06,413 --> 00:31:08,379
But you guys
haven't even met yet.
428
00:31:08,379 --> 00:31:11,551
I know for a fact
that we both really
want this and...
429
00:31:12,379 --> 00:31:14,068
nothing's gonna
drive us apart.
430
00:31:16,034 --> 00:31:18,482
If you're not concerned
about it, I guess
I shouldn't be, huh.
431
00:31:18,482 --> 00:31:21,241
I guess the only reason I was
concerned about it was like,
432
00:31:21,241 --> 00:31:22,413
the whole control thing.
433
00:31:23,344 --> 00:31:25,931
Jobs that you've
lost because...
434
00:31:27,034 --> 00:31:29,413
You know, she has to be
on the phone with you.
435
00:31:29,413 --> 00:31:32,137
And if you can't be on
the phone with her
while you're working,
436
00:31:32,137 --> 00:31:35,206
making the money
that you have
to send to her,
437
00:31:35,206 --> 00:31:36,724
you end up losing the job,
438
00:31:36,724 --> 00:31:38,379
because you guys
have a fight about it.
439
00:31:38,379 --> 00:31:40,000
You know, and that's
happened multiple times.
440
00:31:40,517 --> 00:31:41,551
Yeah.
441
00:31:41,551 --> 00:31:44,034
The whole trust issue
is a big deal, dude.
442
00:31:44,034 --> 00:31:46,482
- It'll destroy you.
- Yeah.
443
00:31:48,413 --> 00:31:49,896
I've had many odd
jobs in my life.
444
00:31:49,896 --> 00:31:52,724
Bagging groceries,
washing windows,
445
00:31:52,724 --> 00:31:54,896
a delivery driver,
a deli clerk.
446
00:31:54,896 --> 00:31:56,862
But, I've lost about
three or four of them,
447
00:31:56,862 --> 00:31:58,551
because of my
relationship with Mary.
448
00:31:58,551 --> 00:32:01,827
And the fact that I
have to have my phone
with me all the time.
449
00:32:01,827 --> 00:32:04,310
At this point of time,
I won't have any money
450
00:32:04,310 --> 00:32:05,655
when I get to the Philippines.
451
00:32:05,655 --> 00:32:07,862
And, I'm just kind
of rolling with the punches
452
00:32:07,862 --> 00:32:10,310
and hoping that
it works out.
453
00:32:12,137 --> 00:32:15,551
If the fighting and stuff
doesn't subside,
454
00:32:15,551 --> 00:32:17,310
what do you think
you're gonna do?
455
00:32:18,758 --> 00:32:21,793
Yeah. I don't have
any back-up plan
456
00:32:21,793 --> 00:32:24,413
set in place for me
and Mary not working out.
457
00:32:26,172 --> 00:32:28,482
Me going to the Philippines
and being with Mary,
458
00:32:28,482 --> 00:32:29,896
that is my only plan.
459
00:32:29,896 --> 00:32:32,241
That is the plan
for my future.
460
00:32:32,241 --> 00:32:34,034
So, I have a lot
of faith in that.
461
00:32:35,310 --> 00:32:36,793
It's your decision, I guess.
462
00:32:36,793 --> 00:32:40,379
So, support you in what
you're gonna decide to do.
463
00:32:40,379 --> 00:32:43,034
That's what I need
the most in this moment.
464
00:32:43,655 --> 00:32:44,620
Your support.
465
00:32:44,620 --> 00:32:46,034
- Yeah.
- For sure.
466
00:32:48,310 --> 00:32:49,965
You see our concerns
though, right?
467
00:32:55,241 --> 00:32:57,448
Brandon would probably
rather die first...
468
00:32:58,758 --> 00:33:00,275
than not go over there.
469
00:33:00,275 --> 00:33:04,172
So, he needs to figure
out if it's gonna work
or if it's not gonna work.
470
00:33:04,172 --> 00:33:06,172
- We got a fish.
- Fish.
471
00:33:06,172 --> 00:33:08,206
- You got him big.
- You got a fish.
Where's my phone?
472
00:33:08,965 --> 00:33:10,620
He's a good kid, yeah.
473
00:33:10,620 --> 00:33:13,517
And there'll come a point
where he becomes an adult.
474
00:33:13,517 --> 00:33:15,068
I don't think he's
quite there yet.
475
00:33:15,068 --> 00:33:16,724
He'll have a lot
of growing up that'll happen
476
00:33:16,724 --> 00:33:19,413
- when he gets to
the Philippines, absolutely.
- Yeah, exactly.
477
00:33:19,413 --> 00:33:20,275
Smile.
478
00:33:22,862 --> 00:33:24,310
I hope
everything works out.
479
00:33:24,310 --> 00:33:27,689
But, she's always
made it so toxic.
It's gonna be tough.
480
00:33:29,034 --> 00:33:29,862
See you, buddy.
481
00:33:30,482 --> 00:33:31,827
You caught a fish.
482
00:33:57,896 --> 00:34:01,068
Today's one
of the most exciting
days in my life.
483
00:34:01,068 --> 00:34:04,103
Holly's arriving
in South Africa
and I am super stoked.
484
00:34:39,275 --> 00:34:42,206
And, with her mom
coming too, it's gonna
be like, super awkward.
485
00:34:42,206 --> 00:34:43,586
I've done video
calls with her mom,
486
00:34:43,586 --> 00:34:45,275
but now I'm actually gonna
meet her mom in person.
487
00:34:45,275 --> 00:34:46,517
So that's gonna be...
488
00:34:47,448 --> 00:34:48,896
It's gonna be a bit
strange to me.
489
00:34:51,586 --> 00:34:53,241
I'm feeling super excited.
490
00:34:53,241 --> 00:34:55,413
Same time, a bit nervous.
491
00:34:57,310 --> 00:35:02,689
My deepest fear
is that Holly doesn't adapt
well in South Africa.
492
00:35:02,689 --> 00:35:06,103
Just because things are done
so much different over here,
493
00:35:06,103 --> 00:35:08,724
safety wise, driving wise,
494
00:35:08,724 --> 00:35:10,862
money wise, food wise.
495
00:35:10,862 --> 00:35:13,137
This is not a easy place.
She gotta have
balls to be here.
496
00:35:15,862 --> 00:35:17,517
'Kay. Now the nerves
are kicking in.
497
00:35:19,137 --> 00:35:20,448
It's all real.
It's all happening, eh?
498
00:35:26,655 --> 00:35:29,172
Oh, I've never been
so glad to get off
a airplane in my life.
499
00:35:30,896 --> 00:35:33,137
I just arrived
in South Africa
with my mom.
500
00:35:33,137 --> 00:35:35,655
I'm traveling, I think
about 38 hours.
501
00:35:35,655 --> 00:35:38,482
And I've not eaten,
and I've not slept.
502
00:35:46,724 --> 00:35:47,862
I'm definitely
not feeling well.
503
00:35:51,379 --> 00:35:53,103
I don't know if it's nerves,
504
00:35:53,103 --> 00:35:55,586
if it's just like, anticipation,
505
00:35:55,586 --> 00:35:57,827
if I'm like, literally,
just really sick,
506
00:35:57,827 --> 00:35:59,517
food poison, I have no idea
what's going on.
507
00:36:07,793 --> 00:36:09,000
It's just
not going good.
508
00:36:31,413 --> 00:36:33,034
I am clairvoyant.
509
00:36:33,034 --> 00:36:36,068
And, I met my fiance
through a dream.
510
00:36:36,068 --> 00:36:38,137
Have you talked
to the wedding
designer just yet?
511
00:36:38,137 --> 00:36:39,689
Because I haven't
heard anything.
512
00:36:42,758 --> 00:36:44,758
You're making me very nervous.
513
00:37:01,862 --> 00:37:05,551
Before every
reading, I clear
the energy in my deck.
514
00:37:05,551 --> 00:37:08,655
And it's simple
as just saying
a little prayer to yourself.
515
00:37:08,655 --> 00:37:12,034
Like, I cleanse this deck
with light and love.
516
00:37:12,034 --> 00:37:14,862
So we know how to proceed
from this point forward.
517
00:37:25,413 --> 00:37:28,310
- Hi.
You Fletcher?
- Yes, nice to meet you.
518
00:37:28,310 --> 00:37:29,689
Have a seat.
519
00:37:29,689 --> 00:37:32,034
I'm Kimberly.
I'm 30 years old.
520
00:37:32,034 --> 00:37:35,206
And I live in Muscle
Shoals, Alabama.
521
00:37:35,206 --> 00:37:38,000
Before you walked in,
I had a feeling that I've
guided you a couple of times.
522
00:37:39,103 --> 00:37:41,137
And that ancestors
card just popped out
523
00:37:41,137 --> 00:37:43,137
first and it kind of,
solidified it in the sense.
524
00:37:44,068 --> 00:37:45,000
- Really?
- Mmm-hmm.
525
00:37:47,413 --> 00:37:49,000
I have quite a few
spiritual gifts.
526
00:37:50,034 --> 00:37:51,620
For as long as I remember,
527
00:37:51,620 --> 00:37:54,068
I've been able to see
different entities that
weren't physically there.
528
00:37:55,206 --> 00:37:56,241
I'm feeling the word baby,
529
00:37:56,241 --> 00:37:57,896
but I don't know
if that has any...
530
00:37:57,896 --> 00:37:59,310
Oh, goodness. I hope not.
531
00:37:59,310 --> 00:38:00,586
- Not necessarily.
Not like an infant.
- Right.
532
00:38:00,586 --> 00:38:03,344
It could be like,
the birth of a project.
533
00:38:03,344 --> 00:38:04,620
Sure.
534
00:38:04,620 --> 00:38:06,034
I am clairvoyant.
535
00:38:06,034 --> 00:38:08,931
I am able to see
energies, figures.
536
00:38:09,620 --> 00:38:11,241
I am claircognizant.
537
00:38:11,241 --> 00:38:13,758
Which is having
this overall knowing feeling.
538
00:38:15,103 --> 00:38:16,862
I am clairaudient.
539
00:38:16,862 --> 00:38:18,482
I can hear messages
540
00:38:18,482 --> 00:38:20,758
from my spirit guides,
541
00:38:20,758 --> 00:38:22,620
from other people's
spirit guides.
542
00:38:23,482 --> 00:38:24,448
And...
543
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:26,000
Mmm...
544
00:38:26,793 --> 00:38:28,068
There's so many
different clairs.
545
00:38:30,517 --> 00:38:33,724
Earning my own powers
helped me understand
546
00:38:34,448 --> 00:38:36,068
my own path.
547
00:38:36,068 --> 00:38:39,862
Like, I met my now fiance
through a dream.
548
00:38:39,862 --> 00:38:42,586
- Oh, my goodness.
- Yeah.
549
00:38:42,586 --> 00:38:44,724
One day I just...
I had a dream.
550
00:38:44,724 --> 00:38:47,965
And that dream helped
me find my fiance.
551
00:38:53,931 --> 00:38:55,931
We were in the desert,
riding dune buggies.
552
00:38:55,931 --> 00:38:58,241
And I could just tell
how happy I was.
553
00:38:59,793 --> 00:39:01,448
We were moving fast.
554
00:39:01,448 --> 00:39:03,379
And having fun,
just feeling free.
555
00:39:04,517 --> 00:39:06,310
It felt like a metaphor
556
00:39:06,310 --> 00:39:09,275
for the life that I was
going to have
with this person.
557
00:39:09,275 --> 00:39:13,793
The person who I had been
trying to find my entire life.
558
00:39:15,586 --> 00:39:17,655
But, I never saw his face.
559
00:39:19,896 --> 00:39:22,172
So, one day I talked
to my spirit guides.
560
00:39:23,310 --> 00:39:24,827
I'll close my eyes
and I was like,
561
00:39:24,827 --> 00:39:27,448
"Guides, I'm ready
to meet this person.
562
00:39:27,448 --> 00:39:29,793
Whenever you're ready,
let me know."
563
00:39:30,689 --> 00:39:32,482
And, not too very long later,
564
00:39:32,482 --> 00:39:35,482
my fiance Tejaswi,
reached out to me
on social media.
565
00:39:43,206 --> 00:39:44,965
He would like my posts.
566
00:39:45,965 --> 00:39:47,965
He would comment on things.
567
00:39:47,965 --> 00:39:50,379
And, I didn't know
how to say his name.
568
00:39:52,068 --> 00:39:55,689
So, I started texting TJ.
569
00:39:55,689 --> 00:39:57,551
And I was like,
"Hey, how do I
say your name?"
570
00:39:57,551 --> 00:39:59,862
And he was like,
"Oh, you just call me TJ".
571
00:39:59,862 --> 00:40:03,896
And, we would just
have little conversations.
572
00:40:03,896 --> 00:40:06,931
And then I heard my
guides so clearly say,
573
00:40:06,931 --> 00:40:09,379
"Are you ready
to meet that person,
574
00:40:09,379 --> 00:40:11,172
that I had met
in my dream?"
575
00:40:11,172 --> 00:40:14,965
And, I finally
realized that,
576
00:40:14,965 --> 00:40:16,517
oh...
577
00:40:17,172 --> 00:40:19,620
You know... That's you?
578
00:40:21,586 --> 00:40:25,655
And my guides are like,
"Yes, yes, that's him!"
579
00:40:25,655 --> 00:40:28,517
Six months after we
started talking,
580
00:40:28,517 --> 00:40:32,482
TJ asked me to marry him
in a text message.
581
00:40:32,482 --> 00:40:35,310
I told him straight up,
582
00:40:35,310 --> 00:40:37,482
"That's not a real proposal."
583
00:40:39,620 --> 00:40:42,103
♪ Everybody wants
to fall in love ♪
584
00:40:42,103 --> 00:40:44,275
♪ Everybody wants to fall ♪
585
00:40:44,275 --> 00:40:47,931
But I got on a plane to
go to India just to meet TJ.
586
00:40:49,448 --> 00:40:52,344
I am in Jaipur...
587
00:40:52,344 --> 00:40:55,000
The biggest thing
that stuck out to me when
588
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:56,758
I finally met TJ was
589
00:40:56,758 --> 00:41:00,137
how safe I felt around him,
590
00:41:00,137 --> 00:41:02,344
just like in the dream
where I first met him.
591
00:41:05,206 --> 00:41:08,413
Mollers,
you wanna talk to TJ, yeah?
592
00:41:13,379 --> 00:41:16,068
Hey, darlin'!
Hi, cutie!
593
00:41:16,068 --> 00:41:17,862
How are you?
594
00:41:23,482 --> 00:41:25,758
About two months
after I met TJ in person,
595
00:41:25,758 --> 00:41:28,206
I accepted
his marriage proposal,
596
00:41:28,206 --> 00:41:30,275
but we decided
to hold up our wedding
597
00:41:30,275 --> 00:41:32,931
while I was there
on my temporary visa.
598
00:41:38,965 --> 00:41:41,482
After being back
in the U.S. for four months,
599
00:41:41,482 --> 00:41:45,862
I'm about to return to India,
get married to TJ,
and build a life there.
600
00:41:47,655 --> 00:41:50,206
Have you talked to
the wedding designer just yet?
601
00:41:50,206 --> 00:41:53,793
- No.
- 'Cause I'm, I'm just
really worried that,
602
00:41:53,793 --> 00:41:56,413
like, does he know what colors
are gonna be there?
603
00:41:56,413 --> 00:41:59,620
Does he know what seating
arrangements are gonna be?
604
00:41:59,620 --> 00:42:01,655
Because I haven't heard anything.
605
00:42:06,620 --> 00:42:08,068
Okay.
606
00:42:09,344 --> 00:42:12,310
You're making me
very nervous.
607
00:42:14,379 --> 00:42:16,620
No, there's a lot of
different shades of pink.
608
00:42:16,620 --> 00:42:18,689
There could be hot pink,
there could be reddish pink,
609
00:42:18,689 --> 00:42:20,827
there could be light pink,
there's ballet pink,
610
00:42:20,827 --> 00:42:23,310
there's mauve,
there's a lot of pinks.
611
00:42:24,862 --> 00:42:29,241
It would make me feel better
if I knew what was going on,
612
00:42:29,241 --> 00:42:32,517
because that light pink
that we were talking about
613
00:42:32,517 --> 00:42:34,620
would look good
with both of our outfits
614
00:42:34,620 --> 00:42:36,448
and both of our complexions.
615
00:42:38,965 --> 00:42:41,931
TJ and his family are planning
this big, elaborate,
616
00:42:41,931 --> 00:42:44,344
three-day traditional
Indian wedding,
617
00:42:44,344 --> 00:42:47,310
but I haven't been
very involved in this wedding.
618
00:42:47,310 --> 00:42:50,241
I have told TJ that I would
like to be more involved,
619
00:42:50,241 --> 00:42:52,689
but he just keeps telling me
to trust him.
620
00:43:05,724 --> 00:43:07,379
I'm not gonna lie,
I'm very scared
621
00:43:07,379 --> 00:43:08,551
- about all of this.
- Yeah.
622
00:43:17,482 --> 00:43:20,034
What's going on
with the construction?
623
00:43:27,620 --> 00:43:30,068
I picked that out because
you said it would be available.
624
00:43:38,379 --> 00:43:40,724
The time
leading up to this wedding,
625
00:43:40,724 --> 00:43:43,344
I've been going a little bit
more crazy,
626
00:43:43,344 --> 00:43:46,896
but not about the wedding,
more about the apartment.
627
00:43:46,896 --> 00:43:50,724
We're having
an apartment built
on top of TJ's family home,
628
00:43:50,724 --> 00:43:53,482
and that's where TJ and I
are supposed to be staying.
629
00:43:53,482 --> 00:43:56,000
That's where I'm gonna live
every single day.
630
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:58,896
And the details that
he's building from scratch
631
00:43:58,896 --> 00:44:03,034
are driving me insane because
they're not what we agreed on.
632
00:44:04,586 --> 00:44:06,448
So it's, it's making me
really nervous
633
00:44:06,448 --> 00:44:09,241
that whenever I get there,
I'm not gonna like the way
it's set up.
634
00:44:09,241 --> 00:44:12,965
And I don't know how
moving into your
635
00:44:12,965 --> 00:44:16,103
parents' house is gonna,
is gonna work.
636
00:44:16,103 --> 00:44:18,068
- Yeah.
- But everything's
gonna be different
637
00:44:18,068 --> 00:44:21,034
because I'm gonna be living
under your parents' rules.
638
00:44:21,034 --> 00:44:22,793
I can't cook my own foods.
639
00:44:24,758 --> 00:44:26,482
I can cook garlic and onions?
640
00:44:32,206 --> 00:44:35,586
According to some Hindus,
garlic and onions
are very pungent,
641
00:44:36,793 --> 00:44:41,241
so they carry a negative
or a bad energy.
642
00:44:41,241 --> 00:44:43,206
I'm Italian.
643
00:44:43,206 --> 00:44:44,931
That's like the best smell
in the world,
644
00:44:44,931 --> 00:44:47,000
is sauted garlic and onions.
645
00:45:01,517 --> 00:45:02,827
Mmm-hmm.
646
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,344
Okey-dokey.
647
00:45:09,862 --> 00:45:10,896
M'kay.
648
00:45:14,172 --> 00:45:15,000
Okay.
649
00:45:19,103 --> 00:45:22,655
To be honest,
I don't want to move in
with his family.
650
00:45:22,655 --> 00:45:25,586
I can't imagine living with
somebody else's family
651
00:45:25,586 --> 00:45:28,172
and adapting my whole life
652
00:45:28,172 --> 00:45:31,344
to rules that I don't
necessarily believe in.
653
00:45:31,896 --> 00:45:32,827
Stop.
654
00:45:34,379 --> 00:45:36,517
- You want me to cut?
- No.
655
00:45:38,758 --> 00:45:40,827
- Top or bottom?
- Bottom.
656
00:45:40,827 --> 00:45:43,965
But I've always wanted
to marry him,
657
00:45:43,965 --> 00:45:47,517
and I know 1,000%
he's the one for me.
658
00:45:49,068 --> 00:45:52,344
Summer Solstice "Radiance"
reversed.
659
00:45:52,344 --> 00:45:54,724
So this is just saying,
660
00:45:54,724 --> 00:45:58,551
"Right now you're not
feeling as confident
as your normal self,
661
00:45:58,551 --> 00:46:01,586
but don't worry,
within a couple of days
662
00:46:01,586 --> 00:46:03,413
things are gonna
shine through."
663
00:46:13,724 --> 00:46:15,931
With you saying, like,
"Oh, I moved here
664
00:46:15,931 --> 00:46:17,758
to your country,
I changed my whole life."
665
00:46:17,758 --> 00:46:19,758
I don't wanna feel like
I owe you somethin'.
666
00:46:21,551 --> 00:46:23,379
That bothers me you said that.
667
00:46:23,379 --> 00:46:25,275
I try to compromise with you,
668
00:46:25,275 --> 00:46:28,275
and that's what a relationship
is all about, is compromise, really.
669
00:46:28,275 --> 00:46:31,448
Do you expect me to compromise
in, on something like this?
670
00:46:45,862 --> 00:46:47,586
Do you like
the neighborhood, Hannah?
671
00:46:47,586 --> 00:46:50,310
- Yes, I love it.
- Do you? You love it.
672
00:46:50,310 --> 00:46:51,551
Yeah.
673
00:46:55,862 --> 00:46:59,068
There's a dog park that's
not supposed to be
far from here.
674
00:47:00,965 --> 00:47:03,413
We've been in Mexico City
for a couple of days and
675
00:47:03,413 --> 00:47:05,241
it's not been going the best.
676
00:47:08,965 --> 00:47:11,379
Hey, hey. Shh.
It's okay, girls.
677
00:47:11,379 --> 00:47:13,965
Hannah and Armando would
678
00:47:13,965 --> 00:47:18,068
rate my shoppin' experience
a fail for sure.
679
00:47:18,068 --> 00:47:20,655
But I'm still up
for moving to Mexico City
680
00:47:20,655 --> 00:47:23,448
'cause I know
I can still navigate it.
681
00:47:23,448 --> 00:47:24,793
I have it in me.
682
00:47:26,172 --> 00:47:27,965
Mmm-hmm.
683
00:47:29,827 --> 00:47:31,517
Still likin' it.
684
00:47:31,517 --> 00:47:33,137
What do you think,
685
00:47:33,137 --> 00:47:37,068
because you wouldn't be
as close to your Nanna
and stuff.
686
00:47:37,068 --> 00:47:38,310
- Does that bother you?
- Um...
687
00:47:41,896 --> 00:47:43,068
You think you'd miss 'em?
688
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:51,275
I'm sure.
It's hard moving away from
people that you care about.
689
00:47:51,275 --> 00:47:54,034
Lot of times you just have to
make the best of it.
690
00:47:57,896 --> 00:48:00,172
Like you with your kids.
691
00:48:03,655 --> 00:48:05,344
You have a good heart, Hannah.
692
00:48:07,310 --> 00:48:09,137
I love you.
693
00:48:09,137 --> 00:48:12,000
And I guess I, I just want you
happy for sure.
694
00:48:30,482 --> 00:48:32,000
Have we decided
if we're staying?
695
00:48:32,689 --> 00:48:34,482
We have not decided yet.
696
00:48:35,241 --> 00:48:37,103
It'll take a little while.
697
00:48:37,103 --> 00:48:38,448
Okay.
698
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:41,655
- Where, right there?
Just right there though.
- Yes.
699
00:48:41,655 --> 00:48:43,862
- Don't go too far.
- You wanna take the dogs
with you?
700
00:48:43,862 --> 00:48:45,517
- Yes.
- All right.
701
00:48:47,965 --> 00:48:50,310
Come here! Come on!
702
00:48:51,689 --> 00:48:54,344
That's pretty exciting,
how she's feeling.
703
00:48:54,344 --> 00:48:56,724
Yeah, I mean,
hearing that she's excited
704
00:48:56,724 --> 00:48:59,931
definitely makes me
a little more confident
about it all.
705
00:48:59,931 --> 00:49:02,517
However, we go back to,
you know,
706
00:49:02,517 --> 00:49:04,275
you not being able to
even handle
707
00:49:04,275 --> 00:49:07,172
going to the market
and getting what
I needed you to get.
708
00:49:09,379 --> 00:49:12,724
I know at the market,
it was pretty much a bail
for me.
709
00:49:12,724 --> 00:49:17,965
I was overwhelmed there,
and it does scare me a bit.
710
00:49:17,965 --> 00:49:22,620
But I also know that
I chose to live in Mexico
to be with you,
711
00:49:22,620 --> 00:49:27,310
and it's just
what I have to deal with
and how it's gonna be,
712
00:49:27,310 --> 00:49:32,068
but I don't want it to limit
me or you or Hannah
or our family
713
00:49:32,068 --> 00:49:35,000
and where we chose to be
in Mexico either.
714
00:49:37,103 --> 00:49:40,413
Here in Mexico City
it's even worse
715
00:49:40,413 --> 00:49:44,379
than where we're at now in,
in the aspect of the language.
716
00:49:44,379 --> 00:49:47,344
Granted we're in a different
area than what this is,
717
00:49:47,344 --> 00:49:51,034
but I grocery shop,
and go to the vet,
and go the bank,
718
00:49:51,034 --> 00:49:53,551
and do stuff.
I pick up Hannah from school,
719
00:49:53,551 --> 00:49:55,172
- things like that.
- You have done--
720
00:49:55,172 --> 00:49:59,551
So, give me a little credit
for coming so far.
721
00:50:01,103 --> 00:50:03,000
I do give you credit
for moving here,
722
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,965
but at the same time,
I don't wanna be, like,
723
00:50:05,965 --> 00:50:08,103
I don't wanna feel like,
"Oh, because he made this
724
00:50:08,103 --> 00:50:09,931
big move to come
and be with you,
725
00:50:09,931 --> 00:50:13,344
like, I have to be the one
that does everything,"
so to speak.
726
00:50:13,344 --> 00:50:15,448
Like, I don't wanna feel like
I owe you something.
727
00:50:15,448 --> 00:50:17,965
- I like... I've enjoyed
taking care of you.
- Well, you shouldn't.
728
00:50:17,965 --> 00:50:20,103
What I meant by that is that
I don't want you to feel that.
729
00:50:20,103 --> 00:50:21,931
- Like, I've enjoyed that.
- Do you think
I'm like that?
730
00:50:21,931 --> 00:50:23,517
- Do you think I'm like that?
- I've enjoyed--
No, but I'm just,
731
00:50:23,517 --> 00:50:24,931
- I'm just putting it
out there.
- Okay.
732
00:50:26,310 --> 00:50:29,517
That bothers me you said that.
733
00:50:29,517 --> 00:50:33,068
I wouldn't be here
if I thought that you thought
you owed me somethin'.
734
00:50:33,068 --> 00:50:35,241
I'm just trying to put it
in perspective,
735
00:50:35,241 --> 00:50:38,689
the life we have in La Mision
and the life that we would
have here
736
00:50:38,689 --> 00:50:41,310
would be even harder
than that.
737
00:50:41,310 --> 00:50:43,448
This has nothing to do with
Mexico City or where we live
738
00:50:43,448 --> 00:50:45,379
or where we're livin'
in La Mision.
739
00:50:45,379 --> 00:50:47,551
I'm talking about
what you just did.
740
00:50:47,551 --> 00:50:49,379
- What?
- About the owin' thing.
741
00:50:50,758 --> 00:50:53,689
I am surprised that
he comes out with
742
00:50:53,689 --> 00:50:57,586
that he doesn't wanna
feel like he owes me,
743
00:50:57,586 --> 00:51:00,517
because I gave up everything
in United States
744
00:51:00,517 --> 00:51:02,172
and moved to Mexico for him.
745
00:51:02,862 --> 00:51:05,620
I've never given him
746
00:51:05,620 --> 00:51:08,172
the feeling that
he owed me somethin'.
747
00:51:08,172 --> 00:51:12,275
And if I did in any way,
I'm clueless to it because
748
00:51:12,275 --> 00:51:15,413
I have not one ounce
of that feeling in me.
749
00:51:16,862 --> 00:51:18,965
It just came out
so easy to me,
I don't know,
750
00:51:18,965 --> 00:51:21,586
just how you said it,
and it just seemed like
751
00:51:21,586 --> 00:51:23,379
this is something maybe
you have thought about.
752
00:51:23,379 --> 00:51:27,103
That I owe something to you?
I don't know what's so hard
to understand.
753
00:51:27,103 --> 00:51:28,758
I'm just sayin',
with you sayin', like,
754
00:51:28,758 --> 00:51:31,275
"Oh, I moved here
to your country, I came,
755
00:51:31,275 --> 00:51:33,965
I changed my whole life,
I'm living your life now."
756
00:51:33,965 --> 00:51:36,000
Because you have
done those things,
757
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,793
in my own way
I might think like,
"Okay, I owe this to him."
758
00:51:38,793 --> 00:51:41,137
But I don't want you
to feel that. That's all
I'm sayin' with that.
759
00:51:41,137 --> 00:51:43,310
- I don't know why
you're so, like, glad.
- I don't feel like--
760
00:51:46,793 --> 00:51:49,172
I definitely don't want
a relationship where
761
00:51:49,172 --> 00:51:51,275
we keep score
on what we're doing,
762
00:51:51,275 --> 00:51:53,448
'cause that leads to
resentment and stuff
like that
763
00:51:53,448 --> 00:51:55,000
and "Whose doing more
for the other?"
764
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:56,931
So when I do ask
something of you,
765
00:51:56,931 --> 00:51:59,448
I just really want you
to give it a fair shot.
766
00:51:59,448 --> 00:52:01,758
Because I, you know,
I have done stuff,
767
00:52:01,758 --> 00:52:04,206
and I try to compromise
with you and that's what
768
00:52:04,206 --> 00:52:07,586
a relationship is all about,
is compromise, really.
769
00:52:07,586 --> 00:52:11,000
Do you expect me to compromise
in, on something like this?
770
00:52:22,827 --> 00:52:24,137
Really nervous.
771
00:52:24,137 --> 00:52:25,310
- Are you?
- Oh, yeah?
772
00:52:25,310 --> 00:52:27,344
- Yeah.
- So, is your mom
gonna be there?
773
00:52:27,344 --> 00:52:28,896
I don't know.
774
00:52:28,896 --> 00:52:32,724
I don't know if my mom
is meeting me at the airport
to say goodbye or not.
775
00:52:32,724 --> 00:52:34,137
- You ready to go?
- Yeah.
776
00:52:35,103 --> 00:52:37,620
It's just hard.
777
00:52:37,620 --> 00:52:39,000
See her yet?
778
00:53:12,862 --> 00:53:15,689
♪ Do you feel ready now?♪
779
00:53:17,344 --> 00:53:19,896
You're asleep,
but see you soon!
780
00:53:19,896 --> 00:53:22,655
♪ Do you feel ready now?♪
781
00:53:22,655 --> 00:53:27,000
Today is the day
that I finally get to travel
to the Philippines.
782
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,689
It's gonna be life-changing,
it's gonna be an adventure.
783
00:53:29,689 --> 00:53:32,103
I've never travelled
to another country before,
784
00:53:32,103 --> 00:53:36,034
and trying to get used to
a new culture is kind of scary.
785
00:53:36,034 --> 00:53:38,862
It's gonna be like
being reborn
786
00:53:38,862 --> 00:53:42,034
as a little toddler,
and you're trying to
787
00:53:42,034 --> 00:53:44,068
make your ways up
in a new world.
788
00:53:44,068 --> 00:53:45,517
It's, it's really gonna be
like a new world.
789
00:53:46,413 --> 00:53:48,862
Yeah, I got some, uh,
video games.
790
00:53:50,103 --> 00:53:52,896
Candy for Mary,
everything a man can need.
791
00:53:54,275 --> 00:53:57,551
I'm going to be
with the person
that I really, really love,
792
00:53:57,551 --> 00:54:00,482
with all my heart,
and I don't know
793
00:54:00,482 --> 00:54:03,586
how to wrap my
freakin' mind around that.
794
00:54:03,586 --> 00:54:05,965
Also, I don't know
how she's gonna
795
00:54:05,965 --> 00:54:09,241
feel or react
when we're together.
796
00:54:09,241 --> 00:54:11,241
I don't know
how I'm gonna feel or react.
797
00:54:11,241 --> 00:54:15,379
I'm excited but I'm really
nervous and scared.
798
00:54:16,344 --> 00:54:18,482
- Hey, B.
- Hey.
799
00:54:18,482 --> 00:54:20,931
- You gettin'
all finished?
- Yeah.
800
00:54:20,931 --> 00:54:24,413
All right,
let's get on the road
before you miss your flight.
801
00:54:24,413 --> 00:54:26,413
What time are we, uh,
supposed to leave?
802
00:54:26,413 --> 00:54:29,896
- Like five minutes ago.
- Oh, oops.
Let's go.
803
00:54:29,896 --> 00:54:31,413
And don't forget
about Mary.
804
00:54:33,172 --> 00:54:34,931
Brandon going over
to the Philippines
805
00:54:34,931 --> 00:54:37,241
still doesn't feel like
it's real.
806
00:54:37,241 --> 00:54:38,551
You ready to go?
807
00:54:39,586 --> 00:54:40,620
Yeah.
808
00:54:40,620 --> 00:54:42,206
Had a moment the other night
where I was, like,
809
00:54:42,206 --> 00:54:43,931
"I don't know if I'm
ever gonna see him again,
810
00:54:43,931 --> 00:54:45,275
don't know
how long it's gonna be."
811
00:54:45,275 --> 00:54:47,931
And I won't be physically
in the Philippines with him to
812
00:54:47,931 --> 00:54:49,931
be able to swoop him up
out of bad situations
813
00:54:49,931 --> 00:54:53,000
like I have done before.
814
00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:54,482
- All right,
you got everything, right?
- Ready?
815
00:54:54,482 --> 00:54:55,827
- Yeah.
- Passport...
816
00:54:57,655 --> 00:54:59,275
- Yeah.
- Okay.
817
00:54:59,275 --> 00:55:01,344
Something happens
between him and Mary,
818
00:55:01,344 --> 00:55:03,379
then he is stuck on his own.
819
00:55:03,379 --> 00:55:07,827
And he's basically going with
not a dime to his name,
820
00:55:07,827 --> 00:55:09,965
so that's really scary.
821
00:55:12,862 --> 00:55:14,275
Really nervous.
822
00:55:14,275 --> 00:55:15,310
- Are you?
- Oh, yeah?
823
00:55:15,310 --> 00:55:16,965
- Yeah.
- Did it just hit ya?
824
00:55:18,137 --> 00:55:21,000
Yeah, I'm just sayin'.
Really nervous.
825
00:55:23,551 --> 00:55:24,862
So, is your mom
gonna be there?
826
00:55:25,517 --> 00:55:28,000
Um, I don't know.
827
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:32,310
I haven't talked to my mom
since I had dinner with her
and my siblings.
828
00:55:34,517 --> 00:55:37,896
I don't know if my mom
is meeting me at the airport
to say goodbye or not.
829
00:55:39,068 --> 00:55:42,000
And I feel a lot of
mixed emotions.
830
00:55:46,206 --> 00:55:47,344
- Here...
- You ready to go?
831
00:55:47,344 --> 00:55:49,172
Yeah.
832
00:55:49,172 --> 00:55:52,000
It would feel good to know
that she cared enough
833
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,793
to be there for me,
say goodbye,
834
00:55:54,793 --> 00:55:57,793
but the other night my mom was
835
00:55:57,793 --> 00:56:00,206
definitely going a little hard
on me.
836
00:56:00,206 --> 00:56:02,448
All right, give me a hug.
837
00:56:02,448 --> 00:56:04,724
- Take care of yourself.
Love you.
- I will, you too.
838
00:56:07,137 --> 00:56:10,655
I can't help but feel like
my family is against
839
00:56:10,655 --> 00:56:12,413
my goals and my ambition.
840
00:56:12,413 --> 00:56:16,275
So it's just hard, very hard.
841
00:56:19,206 --> 00:56:20,275
See her yet?
842
00:56:21,931 --> 00:56:22,931
I don't.
843
00:56:30,413 --> 00:56:31,827
Oh, there she is.
844
00:56:31,827 --> 00:56:33,000
Oh, yeah.
845
00:56:36,379 --> 00:56:38,551
- Hi
- Hey, Mom.
846
00:56:53,862 --> 00:56:55,517
I love you too, Mom.
847
00:56:58,448 --> 00:57:00,241
Yeah, I'm gonna be okay.
848
00:57:06,241 --> 00:57:07,931
So...
849
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,620
- I'm worried.
- I know.
850
00:57:15,620 --> 00:57:19,103
There's always that, like,
fear that I'm never gonna
see you again, you're my son.
851
00:57:24,827 --> 00:57:27,620
So, at the dinner
with the kids I was
852
00:57:29,206 --> 00:57:30,241
angry.
853
00:57:31,862 --> 00:57:33,931
I just really hope
that when you get over there
854
00:57:33,931 --> 00:57:37,448
that you won't allow
manipulation or controlling
855
00:57:37,448 --> 00:57:39,965
to be part of your lifestyle.
856
00:57:39,965 --> 00:57:43,137
You don't deserve that
and you know better.
857
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:49,413
But all in all, this is
the right choice for me,
it's going there.
858
00:57:50,551 --> 00:57:52,448
I'm proud that
you're making the choice
859
00:57:52,448 --> 00:57:54,310
that you feel is best for you.
860
00:57:54,310 --> 00:57:58,172
Even if I don't
necessarily agree.
861
00:58:00,448 --> 00:58:04,931
I've been trying
to convince him
to end the relationship,
862
00:58:04,931 --> 00:58:08,344
or see that it was toxic
and start his life over here.
863
00:58:08,344 --> 00:58:12,344
But it's very different vibe
when you're at the airport
864
00:58:12,344 --> 00:58:17,655
and you're watching him
get ready to fly away.
865
00:58:17,655 --> 00:58:19,551
There's no more convincing.
866
00:58:19,551 --> 00:58:22,379
This is a decision I have to
let him make on his own
867
00:58:22,379 --> 00:58:24,137
and it's, it's scary.
868
00:58:27,448 --> 00:58:30,896
I love you,
and I don't want you to go,
869
00:58:30,896 --> 00:58:34,896
but it's your life
and you have to do
what you feel is best.
870
00:58:34,896 --> 00:58:39,034
So I,
I really hope it's
what it's supposed to be.
871
00:58:40,413 --> 00:58:43,827
Thank you.
That means everything to me.
872
00:58:43,827 --> 00:58:45,896
I know I didn't get to spend
as much time with you
873
00:58:45,896 --> 00:58:48,655
as I wanted to,
but gonna miss all you guys.
874
00:58:49,827 --> 00:58:50,827
A lot.
875
00:58:52,275 --> 00:58:55,758
A lot of the closeness
that Brandon and I lost
was my fault.
876
00:58:56,655 --> 00:58:58,793
When I started using drugs,
877
00:58:58,793 --> 00:59:02,379
he lost all faith
in what I said,
878
00:59:02,379 --> 00:59:05,034
and how I lived,
and I can't blame him.
879
00:59:05,034 --> 00:59:07,827
But once I got clean
and sober,
880
00:59:07,827 --> 00:59:10,586
where we could've
bridged that gap between us,
881
00:59:10,586 --> 00:59:12,448
Mary stood in the way of that.
882
00:59:12,448 --> 00:59:15,551
And that's the hardest part
about watching him go.
883
00:59:20,931 --> 00:59:24,862
I know that you haven't really
always trusted my advice,
884
00:59:24,862 --> 00:59:27,137
but now that I'm sober,
885
00:59:27,137 --> 00:59:29,758
if you're in a situation
where you don't know
886
00:59:29,758 --> 00:59:31,758
what to do,
please call me, really.
887
00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:34,758
Okay, I can try to do that.
888
00:59:35,793 --> 00:59:37,413
Physically, you're gonna be
so far away,
889
00:59:37,413 --> 00:59:39,034
but emotionally
can we just
890
00:59:40,482 --> 00:59:44,206
not be so far away?
891
00:59:44,206 --> 00:59:47,413
Don't worry,
I'll keep in touch with you.
Come here.
892
00:59:47,413 --> 00:59:50,758
I'll call you,
we'll videochat.
893
00:59:56,275 --> 00:59:58,482
I don't know exactly
what the future holds
894
00:59:58,482 --> 01:00:01,620
between Mary and my family.
895
01:00:01,620 --> 01:00:03,655
- One more hug.
- One more hug. I love you.
896
01:00:03,655 --> 01:00:07,896
But for me,
the door is always open.
897
01:00:07,896 --> 01:00:10,551
And I'm glad that she's here
to show support
898
01:00:10,551 --> 01:00:13,586
because that's something I
really needed from my mother.
899
01:00:15,482 --> 01:00:18,241
So this is how you
keep a track of
all of your bags.
900
01:00:18,241 --> 01:00:19,758
- Got it.
- Okay?
901
01:00:19,758 --> 01:00:21,379
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
902
01:00:27,448 --> 01:00:30,689
♪ Gave my heart to you ♪
903
01:00:30,689 --> 01:00:33,724
♪ Embers burnin like a sin ♪
904
01:00:33,724 --> 01:00:37,586
Most of my life I've had
people tell me what to do
905
01:00:37,586 --> 01:00:42,758
because I was too inconfident
in myself to be able to
make my own choice,
906
01:00:42,758 --> 01:00:46,206
but this is me
making a choice for myself
907
01:00:46,206 --> 01:00:47,827
to be with the woman
that I love.
908
01:00:54,758 --> 01:00:56,931
♪ Sold my soul ♪
909
01:01:00,793 --> 01:01:03,655
I'm sacrificing everything.
910
01:01:03,655 --> 01:01:06,448
I'm leaving everything
behind here in America.
911
01:01:06,448 --> 01:01:08,758
My family, my past,
my memories.
912
01:01:08,758 --> 01:01:10,965
No money left
in my bank account.
913
01:01:16,551 --> 01:01:18,137
♪ Don't wanna let you go ♪
914
01:01:18,137 --> 01:01:20,344
I'm just hoping that
all the fighting goes away
915
01:01:20,344 --> 01:01:23,000
because me being
in the Philippines with Mary
916
01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:24,793
is my dream, my future,
917
01:01:24,793 --> 01:01:25,689
my everything.
918
01:01:25,689 --> 01:01:26,655
That's my ambition.
919
01:01:26,655 --> 01:01:27,758
If it doesn't work,
920
01:01:27,758 --> 01:01:29,517
then I don't know
what I'm gonna do
with myself.
921
01:06:01,206 --> 01:06:03,034
Where is she?
922
01:06:03,034 --> 01:06:05,793
I've been waiting
two and a half hours
for Holly.
923
01:06:05,793 --> 01:06:07,793
Her flight has landed,
and she should be out here,
924
01:06:07,793 --> 01:06:09,724
but she's just
nowhere to be seen.
925
01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:33,206
I just landed
in South Africa,
926
01:06:33,206 --> 01:06:34,413
and it's just not going good.
927
01:06:34,413 --> 01:06:35,413
I'm so sick.
928
01:06:35,413 --> 01:06:36,931
I'm literally
throwing up in the bathroom
929
01:06:37,965 --> 01:06:39,586
and nothing is going
as planned.
930
01:06:40,724 --> 01:06:41,551
Yeah.
931
01:06:46,137 --> 01:06:47,241
Where is she?
932
01:06:54,689 --> 01:06:57,379
I've been waiting
two and a half hours
for Holly.
933
01:06:57,379 --> 01:06:59,482
Like, her flight has landed,
and she should be out here,
934
01:06:59,482 --> 01:07:01,379
but she's just
nowhere to be seen.
935
01:07:40,689 --> 01:07:44,275
My heart is beating
like ten beats per second.
936
01:07:44,965 --> 01:07:46,379
She looks absolutely stunning.
937
01:07:53,758 --> 01:07:55,965
The first thing
she says to me is,
938
01:07:55,965 --> 01:07:57,034
"Don't kiss me. I'm puking."
939
01:07:57,034 --> 01:07:58,379
I'm like...
940
01:07:58,379 --> 01:08:01,103
Not that I wanna kiss
Holly's puke and all, but...
941
01:08:09,862 --> 01:08:11,172
- Hi! Good.
- All right?
942
01:08:12,310 --> 01:08:13,965
- Mm.
- Mm.
943
01:08:14,896 --> 01:08:15,724
Mm-hmm.
944
01:08:16,758 --> 01:08:17,620
Hmm?
945
01:08:21,413 --> 01:08:23,206
It feels awesome
to be back together.
946
01:08:23,206 --> 01:08:25,172
Like, we waited a long time.
947
01:08:25,172 --> 01:08:27,758
Yeah, the energy
is exactly the same
as it used to be.
948
01:08:27,758 --> 01:08:29,551
Like, the first time
I met her,
949
01:08:29,551 --> 01:08:31,344
it, like,
feels exactly the same.
950
01:08:32,413 --> 01:08:33,586
So this is my mom.
951
01:08:33,586 --> 01:08:35,344
- Hi, Mom. How are you?
Nice to meet you.
- I'm good.
952
01:08:35,344 --> 01:08:36,517
It's nice to meet you.
953
01:08:38,068 --> 01:08:39,689
Uh, it's all right.
It's been a long flight.
954
01:08:41,620 --> 01:08:43,862
Feels really good
to be back in South Africa.
955
01:08:43,862 --> 01:08:46,103
Like, the weather's
a lot better and, um...
956
01:08:46,103 --> 01:08:48,275
- Wayne's here.
- The weather?
957
01:08:48,275 --> 01:08:50,068
You're here.
958
01:08:50,068 --> 01:08:52,413
- I thought I would be first,
but okay, yeah.
- That's really good, too.
959
01:08:52,413 --> 01:08:54,413
No, it just feels good
to finally be back.
960
01:08:55,862 --> 01:08:56,896
- Hi.
- Hi.
961
01:08:56,896 --> 01:08:59,206
- How was your flight?
- It was long and tedious.
962
01:08:59,206 --> 01:09:01,137
- Yeah, it is a long flight.
- Yes, it is.
963
01:09:01,137 --> 01:09:02,137
I'm glad to meet you.
964
01:09:02,137 --> 01:09:03,310
Yeah, it's nice to meet you.
965
01:09:04,206 --> 01:09:05,827
Wayne, well, I like him,
966
01:09:05,827 --> 01:09:08,137
but, you know,
we haven't had
a chance to visit.
967
01:09:08,137 --> 01:09:10,793
But, um, I've always said,
if you know you know.
968
01:09:10,793 --> 01:09:13,896
I don't know
if I believe in that or not,
969
01:09:13,896 --> 01:09:15,482
but she hasn't acted like this
970
01:09:15,482 --> 01:09:18,310
around anybody
for a long time,
971
01:09:18,310 --> 01:09:20,241
so we'll see what happens.
972
01:09:20,241 --> 01:09:21,586
Give me,
like, two seconds.
973
01:09:22,793 --> 01:09:23,758
I'm gonna take off my socks.
974
01:09:32,172 --> 01:09:33,000
Huh?
975
01:09:33,827 --> 01:09:35,620
- My what?
- Careful, your dress.
976
01:09:36,689 --> 01:09:38,172
I'm covered up!
977
01:09:38,172 --> 01:09:39,862
What?
978
01:09:42,206 --> 01:09:44,241
You just like
flaunting everything.
979
01:09:44,241 --> 01:09:46,000
I'm not
flaunting everything!
980
01:09:48,137 --> 01:09:50,103
We sit down
for a minute,
981
01:09:50,103 --> 01:09:51,758
and, like,
Holly's dress is going up.
982
01:09:53,275 --> 01:09:54,896
And I'm seeing people
look at her,
983
01:09:54,896 --> 01:09:57,793
and it's just,
it, to me is just...
984
01:09:57,793 --> 01:10:00,620
I feel like people
are looking in a sexual way,
which I hate.
985
01:10:02,206 --> 01:10:03,862
I don't want people
looking at her like that.
986
01:10:05,931 --> 01:10:07,103
- Okay, ready?
- Hmm.
987
01:10:07,103 --> 01:10:08,724
Holly's got
a particular style.
988
01:10:08,724 --> 01:10:10,068
But this needs to change.
989
01:10:12,206 --> 01:10:14,448
So I'm gonna
take this to the car.
990
01:10:14,448 --> 01:10:15,965
I'm excited to get Holly home
991
01:10:15,965 --> 01:10:17,724
and show her mom around.
992
01:10:17,724 --> 01:10:19,172
Like, I've got a small place,
993
01:10:19,172 --> 01:10:21,344
but I think her mom
will feel at home.
994
01:10:22,206 --> 01:10:23,241
We're moving.
995
01:10:24,379 --> 01:10:26,689
Hmm...
996
01:10:29,862 --> 01:10:31,689
Like a gated community.
997
01:10:31,689 --> 01:10:35,620
I feel like we should just,
like, talk about that first
998
01:10:35,620 --> 01:10:38,000
because I have
upped security, so...
999
01:10:38,000 --> 01:10:39,793
I've spent a lot of money
on that house,
1000
01:10:39,793 --> 01:10:42,931
so, like, it's not just,
like, easy to move.
1001
01:10:44,379 --> 01:10:46,344
I don't think
Wayne can even comprehend
1002
01:10:46,344 --> 01:10:48,275
the sacrifices that I've made
to come here.
1003
01:10:56,137 --> 01:10:57,724
You won the wife lottery.
1004
01:10:57,724 --> 01:10:59,310
Oh, my gosh. Okay.
1005
01:11:03,793 --> 01:11:04,827
Not today.
1006
01:11:08,000 --> 01:11:09,517
For the past
couple of months,
1007
01:11:09,517 --> 01:11:11,068
whenever it comes
to the wedding,
1008
01:11:11,068 --> 01:11:13,896
I don't feel like
I've be supported
or heard, period.
1009
01:11:13,896 --> 01:11:15,482
I love TJ,
1010
01:11:15,482 --> 01:11:18,206
but whenever I have something
that's been bothering me,
1011
01:11:18,206 --> 01:11:19,724
he kind of
just brushes it off.
1012
01:11:19,724 --> 01:11:21,758
Marriage is not easy.
1013
01:11:21,758 --> 01:11:24,068
And in a different culture,
in a different world,
1014
01:11:24,068 --> 01:11:26,551
you don't even know
what to expect yet.
1015
01:11:55,620 --> 01:11:56,655
Guess what, guys?
1016
01:11:56,655 --> 01:11:57,931
It's another day.
1017
01:11:57,931 --> 01:11:59,620
♪ What an awesome day ♪
1018
01:11:59,620 --> 01:12:01,517
♪ Celebrate the day ♪
1019
01:12:01,517 --> 01:12:03,137
♪ 'Cause it's a holiday ♪
1020
01:12:03,137 --> 01:12:04,413
Around eight years ago,
1021
01:12:04,413 --> 01:12:05,793
I started making
holiday videos
1022
01:12:05,793 --> 01:12:07,241
and posting them
on social media.
1023
01:12:12,000 --> 01:12:13,517
I'm not this, like, guru.
1024
01:12:13,517 --> 01:12:16,310
I only have, like,
100 subscribers on YouTube.
1025
01:12:16,310 --> 01:12:19,000
Like, there's none.
1026
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:21,206
But if they need
a reason to celebrate,
1027
01:12:21,206 --> 01:12:22,482
I've got them.
1028
01:12:22,482 --> 01:12:24,517
We're celebrating
Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day.
1029
01:12:28,344 --> 01:12:29,241
Yes!
1030
01:12:29,241 --> 01:12:30,551
There's so many holidays.
1031
01:12:30,551 --> 01:12:32,827
Some of my favorites are
1032
01:12:32,827 --> 01:12:34,655
Dump That Jerk Day.
1033
01:12:34,655 --> 01:12:36,241
You deserve better.
1034
01:12:36,241 --> 01:12:37,482
You really do.
1035
01:12:37,482 --> 01:12:38,793
Talk Like a Pirate Day.
1036
01:12:38,793 --> 01:12:40,379
Ahoy, matey!
1037
01:12:40,379 --> 01:12:41,862
Walk the plank.
1038
01:12:41,862 --> 01:12:43,827
Swab the poop deck!
1039
01:12:45,206 --> 01:12:48,000
Pop, pop, pop, pop.
1040
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:49,482
Get in some bubble wrap.
1041
01:12:49,482 --> 01:12:51,241
I like to say
I'm a habitual optimist.
1042
01:12:51,241 --> 01:12:52,931
I had to make it a habit.
1043
01:12:53,827 --> 01:12:55,379
Bubble wrap is so much fun.
1044
01:12:56,000 --> 01:12:57,068
Yes!
1045
01:12:57,068 --> 01:12:59,241
Growing up,
I was going through
a lot of times
1046
01:12:59,241 --> 01:13:02,034
where I was depressed,
1047
01:13:02,034 --> 01:13:05,448
and I made a point
to try to be positive.
1048
01:13:16,413 --> 01:13:18,862
I felt like it was
so important for me
1049
01:13:18,862 --> 01:13:20,724
to share positivity
1050
01:13:21,827 --> 01:13:23,413
because I feel like
positive impacts
1051
01:13:23,413 --> 01:13:25,034
are the best kind of
impacts to make.
1052
01:13:31,275 --> 01:13:32,241
See you later.
1053
01:13:51,000 --> 01:13:52,241
Oh!
1054
01:13:52,241 --> 01:13:53,724
I need those bumpers.
1055
01:13:56,068 --> 01:13:57,965
Watch and learn, guys.
- Okay.
1056
01:14:04,482 --> 01:14:05,793
- Yes!
- All right.
1057
01:14:05,793 --> 01:14:07,344
Since I've been back in the US,
1058
01:14:07,344 --> 01:14:10,344
I've been staying
with my dad and stepmom
over the past few months.
1059
01:14:10,344 --> 01:14:12,827
I feel like that time
1060
01:14:12,827 --> 01:14:14,862
brought our relationship
closer together.
1061
01:14:16,551 --> 01:14:17,793
And it makes me really happy
1062
01:14:17,793 --> 01:14:19,827
that my dad and stepmom
are gonna be coming to India
1063
01:14:19,827 --> 01:14:21,137
in about a week
for the wedding.
1064
01:14:24,241 --> 01:14:25,413
All right.
1065
01:14:25,413 --> 01:14:26,620
Good job!
1066
01:14:31,241 --> 01:14:32,827
We've done
a lot of high-fives!
1067
01:14:32,827 --> 01:14:35,827
Well, thanks for making
your old man look terrible.
1068
01:14:36,758 --> 01:14:38,103
That's okay.
1069
01:14:40,241 --> 01:14:41,827
As I take this huge step,
1070
01:14:41,827 --> 01:14:44,000
I'm super grateful for my dad
1071
01:14:44,000 --> 01:14:46,379
and this
mother-daughter-type bond
1072
01:14:46,379 --> 01:14:47,862
that I've gotten
with my stepmom.
1073
01:14:49,482 --> 01:14:51,482
When I was four years old,
1074
01:14:51,482 --> 01:14:53,482
my parents
ended up getting divorced
1075
01:14:53,482 --> 01:14:55,862
and they had
a really messy custody battle
1076
01:14:55,862 --> 01:14:57,206
that lasted eight years.
1077
01:14:58,655 --> 01:15:01,206
I have three older sisters
and one younger brother.
1078
01:15:02,551 --> 01:15:06,241
And it was
really heartbreaking
for all of us.
1079
01:15:08,068 --> 01:15:10,206
One year,
we lived with my mom.
1080
01:15:10,206 --> 01:15:12,172
The next year,
we lived with my dad.
1081
01:15:12,172 --> 01:15:15,758
And it just went
back and forth
for a long time.
1082
01:15:15,758 --> 01:15:17,862
It made me
more angry than anything else
1083
01:15:17,862 --> 01:15:20,413
because I just
wanted it to stop.
1084
01:15:20,413 --> 01:15:24,413
In the end, my dad got custody
and we all moved to Arkansas.
1085
01:15:24,413 --> 01:15:27,896
And my dad met my stepmom
and got remarried.
1086
01:15:29,655 --> 01:15:30,862
I don't wanna leave you guys.
1087
01:15:30,862 --> 01:15:32,103
Like, I love you guys
1088
01:15:32,103 --> 01:15:34,758
and I don't wanna
go over there
and be away from you.
1089
01:15:36,482 --> 01:15:38,896
But I'm a little nervous now.
1090
01:15:38,896 --> 01:15:41,862
I mean, I only
wanna get married once,
so that's probably why.
1091
01:15:43,551 --> 01:15:45,758
It's hard letting you go.
You're my baby.
1092
01:15:48,379 --> 01:15:51,275
I know, but I'm always
gonna be here for you.
1093
01:15:51,275 --> 01:15:52,448
I'm always gonna love you.
1094
01:15:52,448 --> 01:15:53,689
You're always gonna be my mom.
1095
01:15:56,206 --> 01:15:58,206
I didn't really have
a maternal figure.
1096
01:15:58,206 --> 01:16:01,275
Like, I had Mom,
but she wasn't...
1097
01:16:03,034 --> 01:16:06,000
She didn't like me
like she liked everybody else,
it seemed like.
1098
01:16:06,000 --> 01:16:08,965
I think I reminded her
of you, honestly.
1099
01:16:08,965 --> 01:16:11,000
'Cause I do have
a lot of your personality.
1100
01:16:11,965 --> 01:16:14,689
And it wasn't until recently
1101
01:16:16,344 --> 01:16:18,827
I realized how much
you were actually
there for me, too.
1102
01:16:21,172 --> 01:16:22,000
Yeah.
1103
01:16:23,034 --> 01:16:23,862
I love you.
1104
01:16:28,551 --> 01:16:29,620
When I was little,
1105
01:16:29,620 --> 01:16:32,448
my relationship with my mom
was very rocky.
1106
01:16:33,793 --> 01:16:35,448
I always felt like I was
1107
01:16:35,448 --> 01:16:36,620
the least favorite
1108
01:16:36,620 --> 01:16:37,793
of my mom's kids.
1109
01:16:40,379 --> 01:16:41,620
Till this day,
1110
01:16:42,931 --> 01:16:45,448
I try to talk to my mom.
1111
01:16:46,827 --> 01:16:49,310
But we don't have
a very good relationship.
1112
01:16:53,689 --> 01:16:54,586
You get
that close to this,
1113
01:16:54,586 --> 01:16:55,586
and then all of a sudden,
1114
01:16:55,586 --> 01:16:58,620
you know,
you're getting married
1115
01:16:58,620 --> 01:17:00,620
to somebody
we've not met.
1116
01:17:00,620 --> 01:17:03,724
I'm just feeling like
we're losing you.
1117
01:17:03,724 --> 01:17:06,172
I mean, I...
1118
01:17:06,172 --> 01:17:07,413
I feel that way.
1119
01:17:09,241 --> 01:17:12,068
Honestly,
I'm sacrificing
a whole lot for him
1120
01:17:12,068 --> 01:17:14,448
and I don't know
if he sees it.
1121
01:17:14,448 --> 01:17:15,586
I know he hears it,
1122
01:17:15,586 --> 01:17:17,689
but I don't think
he understands...
1123
01:17:19,379 --> 01:17:21,344
the scope of it.
1124
01:17:21,344 --> 01:17:24,068
It's making me feel
a little bit like
he's not supportive.
1125
01:17:25,517 --> 01:17:27,034
For the past couple of months,
1126
01:17:27,034 --> 01:17:28,827
whenever it comes
to the construction,
1127
01:17:28,827 --> 01:17:30,379
and whenever
it comes to the wedding,
1128
01:17:30,379 --> 01:17:33,689
I don't feel like
I've been supported
or heard, period.
1129
01:17:33,689 --> 01:17:38,068
Well, I would hope that
he'd be more accommodating
to your feelings.
1130
01:17:38,068 --> 01:17:39,965
You guys are a partnership.
1131
01:17:39,965 --> 01:17:41,689
You guys work together.
1132
01:17:41,689 --> 01:17:42,724
You do everything together.
1133
01:17:42,724 --> 01:17:44,379
If some bill comes up,
1134
01:17:44,379 --> 01:17:46,034
- you talk to
each other about it.
- Right.
1135
01:17:46,034 --> 01:17:49,517
And I'm scared
that I'm not gonna
be able to have that.
1136
01:17:50,551 --> 01:17:52,137
Marriage is not easy.
1137
01:17:52,137 --> 01:17:55,413
And in a different culture,
in a different world,
1138
01:17:55,413 --> 01:17:57,241
you don't even know
what to expect yet.
1139
01:17:59,379 --> 01:18:01,034
The closer it gets for me
1140
01:18:01,034 --> 01:18:02,586
to move to India
and get married,
1141
01:18:02,586 --> 01:18:06,275
I'm really visualizing
my life with TJ
1142
01:18:06,275 --> 01:18:08,655
and I'm starting to worry.
1143
01:18:08,655 --> 01:18:11,551
I love him
and I do wanna be with him,
1144
01:18:11,551 --> 01:18:13,034
but lately
I've been feeling like
1145
01:18:14,241 --> 01:18:17,103
whenever I have something
that's been bothering me,
1146
01:18:17,103 --> 01:18:19,000
he kind of
just brushes it off.
1147
01:18:19,000 --> 01:18:22,689
It feels like
he doesn't take me
seriously as a partner,
1148
01:18:22,689 --> 01:18:24,000
and it makes me concerned
1149
01:18:24,000 --> 01:18:26,068
that that's what
it's gonna be like
being married to him.
1150
01:18:27,241 --> 01:18:29,655
I want you to be happy.
1151
01:18:29,655 --> 01:18:31,724
But you're strong,
and you're independent.
1152
01:18:31,724 --> 01:18:33,241
And I don't want you
to lose that.
1153
01:18:33,241 --> 01:18:34,586
We don't want you
to lose that.
1154
01:18:37,413 --> 01:18:38,793
I hope he's willing to listen.
1155
01:18:43,896 --> 01:18:45,103
When I first got on the plane,
1156
01:18:45,103 --> 01:18:47,034
I was sitting next to a girl,
1157
01:18:47,034 --> 01:18:48,482
and Mary was overthinking.
1158
01:18:48,482 --> 01:18:50,241
So I got switched
to an empty seat.
1159
01:18:51,344 --> 01:18:53,241
She is automatically thinking,
1160
01:18:53,241 --> 01:18:54,724
"Oh, he's gonna flirt.
1161
01:18:54,724 --> 01:18:58,344
He is some type of pig."
1162
01:18:58,344 --> 01:19:00,965
It makes me very worried
about whether or not
I'm making the right choice.
1163
01:19:22,413 --> 01:19:26,241
On a flight from
Eugene to Los Angeles now.
1164
01:19:26,241 --> 01:19:28,758
Flight one of three
1165
01:19:28,758 --> 01:19:30,206
to the Philippines.
1166
01:19:30,206 --> 01:19:33,586
Going to Los Angeles,
and then going to Manila.
1167
01:19:34,896 --> 01:19:36,931
I'm feeling very nervous
and excited.
1168
01:19:58,413 --> 01:20:00,965
As I'm finally in the air,
1169
01:20:00,965 --> 01:20:02,896
there's a girl next to me.
1170
01:20:02,896 --> 01:20:05,448
And I'm showing Mary,
1171
01:20:05,448 --> 01:20:07,827
and she's getting...
1172
01:20:09,310 --> 01:20:11,793
those insecurities
and thoughts.
1173
01:20:19,862 --> 01:20:23,310
When you buy plane tickets
and you're picking your seat,
1174
01:20:23,310 --> 01:20:27,034
it's not like you can see
what gender person
is sitting next to you.
1175
01:20:27,965 --> 01:20:29,275
Like, I can't control that.
1176
01:20:37,862 --> 01:20:40,655
And I know that
no one can seduce me
1177
01:20:40,655 --> 01:20:42,896
and make me
change my mind about Mary.
1178
01:20:44,586 --> 01:20:47,724
I've been wanting
to go to the Philippines
for over two years now.
1179
01:20:47,724 --> 01:20:49,206
I'm finally on my way.
1180
01:20:49,206 --> 01:20:50,724
There's nothing
that's gonna change that.
1181
01:20:53,793 --> 01:20:56,206
But she's
automatically thinking,
1182
01:20:56,206 --> 01:20:57,551
"Oh, he's gonna flirt.
1183
01:20:58,413 --> 01:21:01,172
He's some type of pig."
1184
01:21:02,482 --> 01:21:05,000
Because Mary is so insecure.
1185
01:21:07,034 --> 01:21:09,000
I'm kind of, like,
scatterbrained right now.
1186
01:21:09,827 --> 01:21:11,862
I was sitting next to a girl
1187
01:21:11,862 --> 01:21:13,344
and Mary was overthinking.
1188
01:21:13,344 --> 01:21:15,103
So I got switched
to an empty seat.
1189
01:21:17,724 --> 01:21:18,551
Yeah.
1190
01:21:25,551 --> 01:21:26,793
I feel like I can't win.
1191
01:21:27,620 --> 01:21:31,758
I don't know what to do
1192
01:21:31,758 --> 01:21:35,620
to appease Mary's demands.
1193
01:21:39,137 --> 01:21:40,896
All right. Just landed.
1194
01:21:43,137 --> 01:21:45,448
Now that's flight one
of three down.
1195
01:21:58,413 --> 01:22:01,862
It really, really, really,
really frustrates me
1196
01:22:01,862 --> 01:22:05,103
on such a high level
1197
01:22:05,103 --> 01:22:09,724
that she would still
have these things to say.
1198
01:22:15,379 --> 01:22:17,172
Finally on the way.
1199
01:22:17,172 --> 01:22:19,172
I've sacrificed a lot
to get to that point
1200
01:22:20,758 --> 01:22:22,034
and I don't think
I deserve that.
1201
01:22:24,137 --> 01:22:25,034
So I'm boarding
1202
01:22:25,034 --> 01:22:26,689
on the plane now to Manila.
1203
01:22:26,689 --> 01:22:28,000
I hope it goes well.
1204
01:22:39,482 --> 01:22:41,172
No one sitting
next to me, so...
1205
01:22:43,103 --> 01:22:45,551
We're just
so used to overthinking
1206
01:22:45,551 --> 01:22:47,034
and fighting over the phone
1207
01:22:47,034 --> 01:22:49,000
that it's just become
normal for us.
1208
01:22:50,965 --> 01:22:54,275
But I can only tolerate it
up to a certain point.
1209
01:22:57,000 --> 01:23:01,241
I don't know, like,
what to say, what to do.
1210
01:23:01,241 --> 01:23:04,655
It makes me very worried
about whether or not
I'm making the right choice
1211
01:23:04,655 --> 01:23:06,000
going to the Philippines
1212
01:23:06,000 --> 01:23:08,068
and committing
my whole life there.
1213
01:23:30,000 --> 01:23:32,793
Next time on
90 Day Fiance:
The Other Way...
1214
01:23:32,793 --> 01:23:35,068
Argh!
A storm's a brewin'!
1215
01:23:35,068 --> 01:23:36,413
Aye-aye, matey!
1216
01:23:36,413 --> 01:23:37,793
Today's the day!
1217
01:23:37,793 --> 01:23:40,344
Moving to India
to be with the man I love.
1218
01:23:40,344 --> 01:23:41,827
There's no turning back.
1219
01:23:43,793 --> 01:23:46,275
I'm not fully prepared
for a move here.
1220
01:23:48,034 --> 01:23:49,586
I've been trying
to explain to you
1221
01:23:49,586 --> 01:23:51,068
why I'm worried,
why I'm scared.
1222
01:23:51,068 --> 01:23:53,241
We're having a little bit
of a power struggle.
1223
01:23:54,103 --> 01:23:55,482
It's always your way,
it seems.
1224
01:23:58,689 --> 01:24:00,586
I'm just so mad at him.
1225
01:24:00,586 --> 01:24:03,655
That's why I told Brandan
that he shouldn't come here.
1226
01:24:03,655 --> 01:24:06,344
He said
he will be sitting with girls.
1227
01:24:06,344 --> 01:24:10,310
So I have the reason
to get mad.
1228
01:24:18,724 --> 01:24:21,241
Your mom does know
that you're moving, right?
1229
01:24:21,241 --> 01:24:24,344
She knows I'm moving.
She doesn't know when.
1230
01:24:24,344 --> 01:24:27,620
It upsets me that Julio
didn't tell his mom
when he's moving.
1231
01:24:30,551 --> 01:24:32,862
Now it's gonna be harder
to say it last minute to her.
1232
01:24:37,206 --> 01:24:38,379
What's that over there?
1233
01:24:39,655 --> 01:24:41,586
Kind of sketchy now.
1234
01:24:41,586 --> 01:24:44,517
This is my mom's
first time out of the US
1235
01:24:44,517 --> 01:24:45,413
and she's terrified.
1236
01:24:46,724 --> 01:24:47,758
When someone comes in,
1237
01:24:47,758 --> 01:24:50,758
it sprays them
full of pepper spray.
1238
01:24:50,758 --> 01:24:53,413
I don't know
if I'm gonna feel safe
with Holly being here.
1239
01:24:53,413 --> 01:24:55,379
This is kind of scary.
1240
01:25:03,310 --> 01:25:04,379
Uh...
1241
01:25:07,172 --> 01:25:09,068
I hate this.
It's too small.
1242
01:25:09,068 --> 01:25:11,793
They half-assed everything
and it's done very poorly.
1243
01:25:11,793 --> 01:25:14,758
You were supposed to make it
so I felt at home here.
1244
01:25:14,758 --> 01:25:16,034
You're supposed to
be my partner
1245
01:25:16,034 --> 01:25:16,896
and you're failing at it.