Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way
Kirsten's coming to meet my family in a few days.
Because I'm moving to the Netherlands in three months.
But my mom is gonna be devastated I would say.
Are we almost there?
This is it right here?
I cannot convince Armando to move to Mexico City.
So I had to compromise and make kind of a summer trip out of it.
It's different than our ocean view.
It is.
This is really the first thing that's like we're totally disagreeing on.
I don't want this decision to come in between us.
Different way of life, that's for sure.
When I get to South Africa, I'm marrying Wayne in a week.
She's never liked any of my boyfriends ever.
Holly's mom is gonna stay for about three months
it's gonna feel a little bit uncomfortable.
- I think it's gonna be pretty hectic with her around us. - Yeah, it will be hard.
You're so beautiful when you're sleeping.
I spend every single second on video call with Mary.
And I'm moving to the Philippines,
But my family and Mary don't get along.
She doesn't want you around your mother or sister.
It pisses me off.
I'll be dammed,
if I watch my son, ruin his life
over this obsession with a girl he's never met...
Thank you, Ma'am.
Today I'm moving to South Africa to marry my fiance Wayne
and we're getting married a week after I arrive.
Okay, one more.
No, two more, there's two more I'll get it.
I'm feeling too many different emotions.
There's a little bit of anti... anticipation,
curiosity, there's a little bit of concern
like what if it's not the same between us, I don't think that will be
the case but that's a concern.
Mom, how many more?
Um, well I don't know.
I have a great relationship with my mom, we've always been really close.
So bringing my mom is really important because,
I know that she has my best interest at heart.
She knows me very well and she looks at things with a very clear lens.
So I told my mom to be one hundred percent
honest with me how she feels about Wayne.
I know if we see things differently
you know, it would make me think about it.
Oh, thank you.
Mom, I can't really believe I'm getting married in just over a week, it's weird huh?
It is.
I'm so excited, I wonder how I feel the day of,
- 'cause you never know with me. - Yeah.
Sometimes, I get scared and I run off and sometimes I'm fine.
Having you come and I finally remember at my wedding
it's like really important to me
so thank you for putting your fears aside
and your love for me first and I'm coming.
I wanna... I wanna see my daughter getting married.
And I've gotta get to know him
but I'm very concerned about your safety, that's one of the
biggest concerns I have.
And, there's a good reason for it.
Because you have been broken into,
it's very worrisome and I don't know what to expect.
I've not been around anything like that, so when I get down there
I'll just see how I feel about it, but I... I am worried.
Yeah, it's scary.
You know, it's a serious conversation.
If I'm gonna feel good about going home,
then I've got to say what I think needs to be said and make sure that
he realizes that some changes need to be made.
I've had second thoughts about going to South Africa with Holly.
It's very scary, how dangerous it is.
But I haven't met Wayne yet, so I wanna meet him of course,
and I wanna see their dynamic together, see how they do.
It's really important to me that she has somebody that
loves her and respects her and treats her well.
I'd rather live a life that was
that's a little scary and dangerous.
I think it's good to have an adventure.
Oh, look we're really close, mom.
I know, when we get on the plane it's gonna be real, huh?
This is the last time, this is my home.
Like, after this nothing will ever be the same.
It's crazy that I'm getting married in like a week.
And I'm finally having the fairy tale I've always wanted.
Just like I love all the fairy tales all the princess
I feel like I'm finally living that out in my own life.
And I haven't felt that before.
Oh, my God, we're pulling off.
Ah! This is so real.
We're really doing this Mom.
If I go down there and it doesn't work out
that would be terrible.
I feel so strongly that it's meant to be.
I would be devastated.
We're at the Salt Lake airport.
We are headed to Texas and then Johannesburg.
I'm giving up a lot, I really am. But, I'm a very determined person.
And when my mind said
that he is the person that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with so,
I hope we just pick up right where we left off.
The nerves are settling a little bit but, I'm just really excited
to go to South Africa.
Yay.
Okay, five, four, three, two one.
Who are you?
It was like that, yeah.
This one's gonna be pretty intense.
She made me smile.
She's very beautiful.
Yeah.
Om.
Yeah, that was so powerful
We connected instantly and formed the bond which I never felt before with anyone else.
Kimberly stayed in India on student visa for a year and I knew
I wanted to propose her.
Yeah.
It's so bright.
Since you're all about moving to Mexico City
You gotta go in there alone.
I'm gonna send you the shopping list.
I have to do good.
Otherwise Armando is gonna say, "I told you so you cannot handle it
here in Mexico City."
Salt, pepper.
Salt and pepper.
I don't know what to think right now, it's just like...
Yeah.
So how did you sleep?
It was nice, the bed was comfortable.
I thought it was good.
This morning the garbage truck woke me up down.
Oh, my gosh.
Well, I guess that's the city.
After waking up, sleeping in the Mexico City for the first night,
I cannot wait to get out and explore the city.
We have to go today to the grocery store 'cause there's nothing here.
All right. Hannah.
- You're ready to go to the market? - Yeah.
Babes, surprise, our furniture's here.
Oh, my gosh. Shut up.
Better not be a lie.
That'd be great.
This areas here is, is looking a little more sketchy.
I don't know if it's sketchy, it's a little more busier.
I was thinking, since you're all about moving to Mexico City
you gotta go in there alone.
And see if you can do it.
Before Kenny made the move to Mexico, I knew that he know no Spanish.
You know, here it's not the same as walking into
our local supermarket at La Mision.
Everything is marked and you can just, you know, go and pay. Here,
you have to ask the vendors for what you need.
- Are you nervous, you're like shaking. I am. - Are you being serious?
I am, I'm gonna send you the shopping list.
Oh, my God.
I'll be around, I'll keep an eye on you.
All right, go ahead.
I'll follow along.
I'm really kind of surprised at Armando
because he usually doesn't play these kind of games.
So, I have to prove a point here
and I have to do good.
Otherwise Armando is gonna throw it in my face
and say, "I told you so, you cannot handle it here in Mexico City."
Oh, my God.
Well, there's a lot of stuff.
Oh my...
He send the list. Oh, my God.
So much.
Where... is chicken?
I think I spot some.
I do.
Oh, this is gonna be a lot.
Can... can, this... Can I get?
Yeah.
We gotta buy some legs and I got it all in one shot.
There you go.
All right, I need spices.
Oh, there's spices.
Let me see.
Oh, boy.
Um, salt, pepper.
Salt, pepper. Salt and pepper.
No?
Oh, my God.
Kenny looks lost, like he's really struggling
I feel a little bad about it but it's funny to see.
Carrots.
Yes.
Carrots.
I told Armando, even before moving to Mexico
that me learning Spanish is gonna be very difficult for me.
Because I have a learning disability, I have dyslexia,
and I'm freaking out right now this market is super busy.
I need to learn more
because, I think he's worried that he's gonna have to take out on a lot
to guide me through Mexico City than maybe he has in La Mision,
But, I'm really kicking myself out right now 'cause I don't have a
translation app on my phone.
So, I'm kind of staying there like a fish out of water.
I can't do...
Are you frustrated, mate?
Albeit, I'm a little overwhelmed.
Of course, Mexico City is a big city
and I'm sure that there are tourists and professionals that speak English.
But, I'm trying to show Kenny the down side of moving to Mexico City.
Him not knowing Spanish, there will be more worry and responsibility falling on me.
Well, that's why I am a little annoyed because,
I can't figure out how to go to a doctor,
I can't figure out what I'm gonna need at a grocery store,
It might take a little longer, it might take a little longer to shop,
but we just literally got here and
you're already not giving like a chance.
You're not being open minded about it and that's what this trial run is all about.
Did you get your passport back?
You still haven't got your passport back?
I'm at the airport to meet Kirsten
but she's stuck in customs and they have her passport.
I'm nervous, because I'm like,
I don't like that this is exactly how this trip is starting off.
You know, I wanted everything to be sweet and dandy when she arrived.
I don't even know what to think right now. I'm just like...
Yeah... Yeah.
She's coming out.
♪ This is your Heart to take ♪
♪ This is your Move to make ♪
♪ I'm yours to love ♪
I miss you too.
Be careful. My make-up.
- It's been a long time. - My make-up.
Kiss.
How are you?
I'm all right. How's your flight?
It was good. I slept for a little bit.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
Now, what happened after you got off?
They took my passport away.
- But they just start asking me questions. - Uh-huh.
About, like, I told them like, I'm gonna see my boyfriend.
And they didn't trust me or something.
- They opened up the suitcases? - Yeah.
Damn.
- Well, you're here. - But I'm here now.
- What do you think? - I'm excited to see New York.
- I'm good. I'm good now. - Yeah?
- She's actually here. Like, it's been-- - I made it safe. I'm here.
It feels good. It feels good.
Welcome to New York city.
This is it.
So it's nice, right?
This trip is really important for me, because I'm gonna meet all his family.
And, I mean, your family has to approve me before you come live in the Netherlands.
Once they love you, then you know,
they'll be okay with me being over there.
I hope your mom is okay with me.
- I hope so, too. - I hope she's not mad at me
that I'm the reason you're gonna move.
No.
Oh, my God. That's a school bus.
You've never seen a school bus before?
No. I saw it in movies.
There it is. There's the buildings.
- The guy with the thing in his hand? - Yeah.
- The Statue of Liberty? - Yeah.
- Oh, God. - What?
You make fun of me?
- That was the cutest thing ever. - Aw, thank you.
Kirsten's first time here in New York city.
I booked a hotel for us to spend the night at in Manhattan.
It will be nice to have some privacy.
I haven't seen Kirsten in little over a month.
It's time to get re-acquainted if you know what I mean.
♪ I'm looking for a bit of love ♪
Do you know how to get to Time Square?
Just follow the lights.
I'm excited to show her Time Square.
When everyone thinks of New York, they think about Time Square.
So it's a nice bucket list item for her to kind of experience.
- So what do you think of the city so far? - It's so nice.
Hi.
- Um, I'll do a Moscow Mule, please. - Sure.
- I had a long flight, you know. Yeah. - You had a long day.
What do you think of Time Square?
- I mean, it's nice for like, visiting, like, as a tourist. - Yeah.
- But it's like, overwhelming. - Yeah.
- I know. - I'm sorry.
No, I know. I mean, listen.
Believe me, I feel like I
- don't even wanna live here anyway, you know. - Okay.
That's why I wanna make this move as soon as possible.
But like, I kind of, have to make sure that, you know, everything just is in order.
- Cheers to New York. - Cheers to your first day.
- For seeing each other. - Of course.
I wanna find an apartment before I get there.
You have to find a job too. Yeah.
It's gonna be hard. Like, you cannot speak the language.
I think Dutch is definitely a difficult language to learn.
I tried, you know, I downloaded Dutch 101.
Heard the first two minutes, and I was just like, boop.
- Believe me. I know it's gonna-- - You have to speak Dutch.
- And you know how... - Believe me.
- ...you cannot even pronounce my last name. - I know it's gonna be hard.
Believe me, I know. It's gonna be hard.
All the Dutch I know right now?
Nee, which is no.
Lekker, which is like, good.
Uh...
That's it.
Oh, [bleep], which is like, the worst thing you could say.
That's like bad right there.
That's like... That's like [bleep], like...
I have a couple months.
Yeah, hopefully. Hopefully, hopefully.
Do you have second thoughts about moving?
No, I don't have second thoughts.
- I mean-- - You sure you still wanna do it?
Yeah. I mean, it'd be sacrificing a lot.
- It's like, I have a good job. - I know.
I have my family, my friends, but, like...
I see a better future over there, honestly.
That's what I'm gonna do.
I'm excited that Kirsten is here now.
And I think it's gonna be nice
to have her finally meet my family for the first time.
But, um, I'm nervous.
- You wanna go back to the... - Yeah, let's go.
Hopefully once my mom meets Kirsten,
she can see the reasons why I love her and get behind this relationship.
Because if not...
I don't know what to do.
Now I've lost connection.
You should get it back here in two seconds. I just got two bars back.
The last time I tried to go fishing,
Mary thought that I was cheating on her with someone else.
- You get service back? - Yeah.
Being on the phone 24x7, creates a tense situation for us at home.
'Cause if we wanna have a private conversation, we can't ever.
I'm traveling about 38 hours and definitely not feeling well.
I have no idea what's going on.
♪ I like to watch you When you walk ♪
♪ I like to hear you When you talk ♪
You ready to go fishing?
Yeah. Let's go fishing.
- Ready with your fishing hat? - I don't have a hat.
I wish.
I'm moving to the Philippines in a couple of days.
And I just can't wait to finally be together with Mary.
Glad we're getting to go fishing with you one more time,
before you're out of here forever.
I know, right.
The other day, my mom and my siblings made it clear
that I can't rely on them to support my relationship with Mary.
Ever since then, we haven't been talking.
But, I'm looking forward to spending time with my godparents.
Because they do generally try to understand
my relationship with Mary,
on a deeper level than my family does.
Is there gonna be cell service
- when we get to the river spot? - Yeah.
It might not be as good a fishing there,
but, we tried to pick somewhere that had a little bit of service.
Okay.
The last time I tried to go fishing,
Mary thought that I was cheating on her with someone else.
Now I've lost connection.
You should get it back here in two seconds. I just got two bars back.
So, I have to be on the phone with Mary when I go,
or we have a really big fight.
- You get service back? - Yeah.
There we go. It's connecting.
Yeah.
I got the hook right here.
You're playing on your phone.
Sorry.
I've been friends with Brandan's dad since we were kids.
Um, I also grew up with his mother.
And, uh, Brandan needed me.
I'll try to be there as much as I possibly could.
He's more, I guess kind of, like a son in a way,
because we don't have kids.
I definitely miss fishing.
- I'm glad we're doing this. - Yeah.
Since being with Mary,
he doesn't go out and do
barely anything anymore.
Because he has to have that constant connection with Wi-Fi.
And that kind of, sucks a little bit.
- Mary awake? - Nah, she's sleeping.
Being on the phone 24x7,
creates a tense situation for us at home.
'Cause if we wanna have a private conversation with Brandan,
we can't, ever.
Because Mary has to be listening.
Well, can you believe you're going there?
It's a little scary.
- Yeah. - For me, anyway.
Crept up really fast.
What's the living situation gonna be?
Is it gonna be her grandparents and her and...
Her grandparents are gonna be staying with us for a while,
just to get to know me and all that stuff.
But you guys are working on a lot of stuff with the house.
How much do you guys have left to do?
Um, a little bit, yeah.
Mary and I decided to build a house for ourselves in the Philippines.
There was a typhoon that destroyed her home.
And, over the past year,
all my paychecks that were coming in
were going straight to building the house and to Mary.
It was close to, like, $50,000-60,000.
I just barely scratched by.
So, I've got $250 in my bank account.
So...
Good luck to me.
You know me, man. I'm always...
I think of the worst possible scenario, you know.
What happens if you guys don't work out?
If she doesn't want you there.
But she wanted to keep the house and everything you owned.
You put a lot of faith in this woman.
Um, yeah. I'm not really worried about
her pulling that card.
She's not gonna do that.
But you guys haven't even met yet.
I know for a fact that we both really want this and...
nothing's gonna drive us apart.
If you're not concerned about it, I guess I shouldn't be, huh.
I guess the only reason I was concerned about it was like,
the whole control thing.
Jobs that you've lost because...
You know, she has to be on the phone with you.
And if you can't be on the phone with her while you're working,
making the money that you have to send to her,
you end up losing the job,
because you guys have a fight about it.
You know, and that's happened multiple times.
Yeah.
The whole trust issue is a big deal, dude.
- It'll destroy you. - Yeah.
I've had many odd jobs in my life.
Bagging groceries, washing windows,
a delivery driver, a deli clerk.
But, I've lost about three or four of them,
because of my relationship with Mary.
And the fact that I have to have my phone with me all the time.
At this point of time, I won't have any money
when I get to the Philippines.
And, I'm just kind of rolling with the punches
and hoping that it works out.
If the fighting and stuff doesn't subside,
what do you think you're gonna do?
Yeah. I don't have any back-up plan
set in place for me and Mary not working out.
Me going to the Philippines and being with Mary,
that is my only plan.
That is the plan for my future.
So, I have a lot of faith in that.
It's your decision, I guess.
So, support you in what you're gonna decide to do.
That's what I need the most in this moment.
Your support.
- Yeah. - For sure.
You see our concerns though, right?
Brandon would probably rather die first...
than not go over there.
So, he needs to figure out if it's gonna work or if it's not gonna work.
- We got a fish. - Fish.
- You got him big. - You got a fish. Where's my phone?
He's a good kid, yeah.
And there'll come a point where he becomes an adult.
I don't think he's quite there yet.
He'll have a lot of growing up that'll happen
- when he gets to the Philippines, absolutely. - Yeah, exactly.
Smile.
I hope everything works out.
But, she's always made it so toxic. It's gonna be tough.
See you, buddy.
You caught a fish.
Today's one of the most exciting days in my life.
Holly's arriving in South Africa and I am super stoked.
And, with her mom coming too, it's gonna be like, super awkward.
I've done video calls with her mom,
but now I'm actually gonna meet her mom in person.
So that's gonna be...
It's gonna be a bit strange to me.
I'm feeling super excited.
Same time, a bit nervous.
My deepest fear is that Holly doesn't adapt well in South Africa.
Just because things are done so much different over here,
safety wise, driving wise,
money wise, food wise.
This is not a easy place. She gotta have balls to be here.
'Kay. Now the nerves are kicking in.
It's all real. It's all happening, eh?
Oh, I've never been so glad to get off a airplane in my life.
I just arrived in South Africa with my mom.
I'm traveling, I think about 38 hours.
And I've not eaten, and I've not slept.
I'm definitely not feeling well.
I don't know if it's nerves,
if it's just like, anticipation,
if I'm like, literally, just really sick,
food poison, I have no idea what's going on.
It's just not going good.
I am clairvoyant.
And, I met my fiance through a dream.
Have you talked to the wedding designer just yet?
Because I haven't heard anything.
You're making me very nervous.
Before every reading, I clear the energy in my deck.
And it's simple as just saying a little prayer to yourself.
Like, I cleanse this deck with light and love.
So we know how to proceed from this point forward.
- Hi. You Fletcher? - Yes, nice to meet you.
Have a seat.
I'm Kimberly. I'm 30 years old.
And I live in Muscle Shoals, Alabama.
Before you walked in, I had a feeling that I've guided you a couple of times.
And that ancestors card just popped out
first and it kind of, solidified it in the sense.
- Really? - Mmm-hmm.
I have quite a few spiritual gifts.
For as long as I remember,
I've been able to see different entities that weren't physically there.
I'm feeling the word baby,
but I don't know if that has any...
Oh, goodness. I hope not.
- Not necessarily. Not like an infant. - Right.
It could be like, the birth of a project.
Sure.
I am clairvoyant.
I am able to see energies, figures.
I am claircognizant.
Which is having this overall knowing feeling.
I am clairaudient.
I can hear messages
from my spirit guides,
from other people's spirit guides.
And...
Mmm...
There's so many different clairs.
Earning my own powers helped me understand
my own path.
Like, I met my now fiance through a dream.
- Oh, my goodness. - Yeah.
One day I just... I had a dream.
And that dream helped me find my fiance.
We were in the desert, riding dune buggies.
And I could just tell how happy I was.
We were moving fast.
And having fun, just feeling free.
It felt like a metaphor
for the life that I was going to have with this person.
The person who I had been trying to find my entire life.
But, I never saw his face.
So, one day I talked to my spirit guides.
I'll close my eyes and I was like,
"Guides, I'm ready to meet this person.
Whenever you're ready, let me know."
And, not too very long later,
my fiance Tejaswi, reached out to me on social media.
He would like my posts.
He would comment on things.
And, I didn't know how to say his name.
So, I started texting TJ.
And I was like, "Hey, how do I say your name?"
And he was like, "Oh, you just call me TJ".
And, we would just have little conversations.
And then I heard my guides so clearly say,
"Are you ready to meet that person,
that I had met in my dream?"
And, I finally realized that,
oh...
You know... That's you?
And my guides are like, "Yes, yes, that's him!"
Six months after we started talking,
TJ asked me to marry him in a text message.
I told him straight up,
"That's not a real proposal."
♪ Everybody wants to fall in love ♪
♪ Everybody wants to fall ♪
But I got on a plane to go to India just to meet TJ.
I am in Jaipur...
The biggest thing that stuck out to me when
I finally met TJ was
how safe I felt around him,
just like in the dream where I first met him.
Mollers, you wanna talk to TJ, yeah?
Hey, darlin'! Hi, cutie!
How are you?
About two months after I met TJ in person,
I accepted his marriage proposal,
but we decided to hold up our wedding
while I was there on my temporary visa.
After being back in the U.S. for four months,
I'm about to return to India, get married to TJ, and build a life there.
Have you talked to the wedding designer just yet?
- No. - 'Cause I'm, I'm just really worried that,
like, does he know what colors are gonna be there?
Does he know what seating arrangements are gonna be?
Because I haven't heard anything.
Okay.
You're making me very nervous.
No, there's a lot of different shades of pink.
There could be hot pink, there could be reddish pink,
there could be light pink, there's ballet pink,
there's mauve, there's a lot of pinks.
It would make me feel better if I knew what was going on,
because that light pink that we were talking about
would look good with both of our outfits
and both of our complexions.
TJ and his family are planning this big, elaborate,
three-day traditional Indian wedding,
but I haven't been very involved in this wedding.
I have told TJ that I would like to be more involved,
but he just keeps telling me to trust him.
I'm not gonna lie, I'm very scared
- about all of this. - Yeah.
What's going on with the construction?
I picked that out because you said it would be available.
The time leading up to this wedding,
I've been going a little bit more crazy,
but not about the wedding, more about the apartment.
We're having an apartment built on top of TJ's family home,
and that's where TJ and I are supposed to be staying.
That's where I'm gonna live every single day.
And the details that he's building from scratch
are driving me insane because they're not what we agreed on.
So it's, it's making me really nervous
that whenever I get there, I'm not gonna like the way it's set up.
And I don't know how moving into your
parents' house is gonna, is gonna work.
- Yeah. - But everything's gonna be different
because I'm gonna be living under your parents' rules.
I can't cook my own foods.
I can cook garlic and onions?
According to some Hindus, garlic and onions are very pungent,
so they carry a negative or a bad energy.
I'm Italian.
That's like the best smell in the world,
is sauted garlic and onions.
Mmm-hmm.
Okey-dokey.
M'kay.
Okay.
To be honest, I don't want to move in with his family.
I can't imagine living with somebody else's family
and adapting my whole life
to rules that I don't necessarily believe in.
Stop.
- You want me to cut? - No.
- Top or bottom? - Bottom.
But I've always wanted to marry him,
and I know 1,000% he's the one for me.
Summer Solstice "Radiance" reversed.
So this is just saying,
"Right now you're not feeling as confident as your normal self,
but don't worry, within a couple of days
things are gonna shine through."
With you saying, like, "Oh, I moved here
to your country, I changed my whole life."
I don't wanna feel like I owe you somethin'.
That bothers me you said that.
I try to compromise with you,
and that's what a relationship is all about, is compromise, really.
Do you expect me to compromise in, on something like this?
Do you like the neighborhood, Hannah?
- Yes, I love it. - Do you? You love it.
Yeah.
There's a dog park that's not supposed to be far from here.
We've been in Mexico City for a couple of days and
it's not been going the best.
Hey, hey. Shh. It's okay, girls.
Hannah and Armando would
rate my shoppin' experience a fail for sure.
But I'm still up for moving to Mexico City
'cause I know I can still navigate it.
I have it in me.
Mmm-hmm.
Still likin' it.
What do you think,
because you wouldn't be as close to your Nanna and stuff.
- Does that bother you? - Um...
You think you'd miss 'em?
I'm sure. It's hard moving away from people that you care about.
Lot of times you just have to make the best of it.
Like you with your kids.
You have a good heart, Hannah.
I love you.
And I guess I, I just want you happy for sure.
Have we decided if we're staying?
We have not decided yet.
It'll take a little while.
Okay.
- Where, right there? Just right there though. - Yes.
- Don't go too far. - You wanna take the dogs with you?
- Yes. - All right.
Come here! Come on!
That's pretty exciting, how she's feeling.
Yeah, I mean, hearing that she's excited
definitely makes me a little more confident about it all.
However, we go back to, you know,
you not being able to even handle
going to the market and getting what I needed you to get.
I know at the market, it was pretty much a bail for me.
I was overwhelmed there, and it does scare me a bit.
But I also know that I chose to live in Mexico to be with you,
and it's just what I have to deal with and how it's gonna be,
but I don't want it to limit me or you or Hannah or our family
and where we chose to be in Mexico either.
Here in Mexico City it's even worse
than where we're at now in, in the aspect of the language.
Granted we're in a different area than what this is,
but I grocery shop, and go to the vet, and go the bank,
and do stuff. I pick up Hannah from school,
- things like that. - You have done--
So, give me a little credit for coming so far.
I do give you credit for moving here,
but at the same time, I don't wanna be, like,
I don't wanna feel like, "Oh, because he made this
big move to come and be with you,
like, I have to be the one that does everything," so to speak.
Like, I don't wanna feel like I owe you something.
- I like... I've enjoyed taking care of you. - Well, you shouldn't.
What I meant by that is that I don't want you to feel that.
- Like, I've enjoyed that. - Do you think I'm like that?
- Do you think I'm like that? - I've enjoyed-- No, but I'm just,
- I'm just putting it out there. - Okay.
That bothers me you said that.
I wouldn't be here if I thought that you thought you owed me somethin'.
I'm just trying to put it in perspective,
the life we have in La Mision and the life that we would have here
would be even harder than that.
This has nothing to do with Mexico City or where we live
or where we're livin' in La Mision.
I'm talking about what you just did.
- What? - About the owin' thing.
I am surprised that he comes out with
that he doesn't wanna feel like he owes me,
because I gave up everything in United States
and moved to Mexico for him.
I've never given him
the feeling that he owed me somethin'.
And if I did in any way, I'm clueless to it because
I have not one ounce of that feeling in me.
It just came out so easy to me, I don't know,
just how you said it, and it just seemed like
this is something maybe you have thought about.
That I owe something to you? I don't know what's so hard to understand.
I'm just sayin', with you sayin', like,
"Oh, I moved here to your country, I came,
I changed my whole life, I'm living your life now."
Because you have done those things,
in my own way I might think like, "Okay, I owe this to him."
But I don't want you to feel that. That's all I'm sayin' with that.
- I don't know why you're so, like, glad. - I don't feel like--
I definitely don't want a relationship where
we keep score on what we're doing,
'cause that leads to resentment and stuff like that
and "Whose doing more for the other?"
So when I do ask something of you,
I just really want you to give it a fair shot.
Because I, you know, I have done stuff,
and I try to compromise with you and that's what
a relationship is all about, is compromise, really.
Do you expect me to compromise in, on something like this?
Really nervous.
- Are you? - Oh, yeah?
- Yeah. - So, is your mom gonna be there?
I don't know.
I don't know if my mom is meeting me at the airport to say goodbye or not.
- You ready to go? - Yeah.
It's just hard.
See her yet?
♪ Do you feel ready now?♪
You're asleep, but see you soon!
♪ Do you feel ready now?♪
Today is the day that I finally get to travel to the Philippines.
It's gonna be life-changing, it's gonna be an adventure.
I've never travelled to another country before,
and trying to get used to a new culture is kind of scary.
It's gonna be like being reborn
as a little toddler, and you're trying to
make your ways up in a new world.
It's, it's really gonna be like a new world.
Yeah, I got some, uh, video games.
Candy for Mary, everything a man can need.
I'm going to be with the person that I really, really love,
with all my heart, and I don't know
how to wrap my freakin' mind around that.
Also, I don't know how she's gonna
feel or react when we're together.
I don't know how I'm gonna feel or react.
I'm excited but I'm really nervous and scared.
- Hey, B. - Hey.
- You gettin' all finished? - Yeah.
All right, let's get on the road before you miss your flight.
What time are we, uh, supposed to leave?
- Like five minutes ago. - Oh, oops. Let's go.
And don't forget about Mary.
Brandon going over to the Philippines
still doesn't feel like it's real.
You ready to go?
Yeah.
Had a moment the other night where I was, like,
"I don't know if I'm ever gonna see him again,
don't know how long it's gonna be."
And I won't be physically in the Philippines with him to
be able to swoop him up out of bad situations
like I have done before.
- All right, you got everything, right? - Ready?
- Yeah. - Passport...
- Yeah. - Okay.
Something happens between him and Mary,
then he is stuck on his own.
And he's basically going with not a dime to his name,
so that's really scary.
Really nervous.
- Are you? - Oh, yeah?
- Yeah. - Did it just hit ya?
Yeah, I'm just sayin'. Really nervous.
So, is your mom gonna be there?
Um, I don't know.
I haven't talked to my mom since I had dinner with her and my siblings.
I don't know if my mom is meeting me at the airport to say goodbye or not.
And I feel a lot of mixed emotions.
- Here... - You ready to go?
Yeah.
It would feel good to know that she cared enough
to be there for me, say goodbye,
but the other night my mom was
definitely going a little hard on me.
All right, give me a hug.
- Take care of yourself. Love you. - I will, you too.
I can't help but feel like my family is against
my goals and my ambition.
So it's just hard, very hard.
See her yet?
I don't.
Oh, there she is.
Oh, yeah.
- Hi - Hey, Mom.
I love you too, Mom.
Yeah, I'm gonna be okay.
So...
- I'm worried. - I know.
There's always that, like, fear that I'm never gonna see you again, you're my son.
So, at the dinner with the kids I was
angry.
I just really hope that when you get over there
that you won't allow manipulation or controlling
to be part of your lifestyle.
You don't deserve that and you know better.
But all in all, this is the right choice for me, it's going there.
I'm proud that you're making the choice
that you feel is best for you.
Even if I don't necessarily agree.
I've been trying to convince him to end the relationship,
or see that it was toxic and start his life over here.
But it's very different vibe when you're at the airport
and you're watching him get ready to fly away.
There's no more convincing.
This is a decision I have to let him make on his own
and it's, it's scary.
I love you, and I don't want you to go,
but it's your life and you have to do what you feel is best.
So I, I really hope it's what it's supposed to be.
Thank you. That means everything to me.
I know I didn't get to spend as much time with you
as I wanted to, but gonna miss all you guys.
A lot.
A lot of the closeness that Brandon and I lost was my fault.
When I started using drugs,
he lost all faith in what I said,
and how I lived, and I can't blame him.
But once I got clean and sober,
where we could've bridged that gap between us,
Mary stood in the way of that.
And that's the hardest part about watching him go.
I know that you haven't really always trusted my advice,
but now that I'm sober,
if you're in a situation where you don't know
what to do, please call me, really.
Okay, I can try to do that.
Physically, you're gonna be so far away,
but emotionally can we just
not be so far away?
Don't worry, I'll keep in touch with you. Come here.
I'll call you, we'll videochat.
I don't know exactly what the future holds
between Mary and my family.
- One more hug. - One more hug. I love you.
But for me, the door is always open.
And I'm glad that she's here to show support
because that's something I really needed from my mother.
So this is how you keep a track of all of your bags.
- Got it. - Okay?
- Thank you. - Yeah.
♪ Gave my heart to you ♪
♪ Embers burnin like a sin ♪
Most of my life I've had people tell me what to do
because I was too inconfident in myself to be able to make my own choice,
but this is me making a choice for myself
to be with the woman that I love.
♪ Sold my soul ♪
I'm sacrificing everything.
I'm leaving everything behind here in America.
My family, my past, my memories.
No money left in my bank account.
♪ Don't wanna let you go ♪
I'm just hoping that all the fighting goes away
because me being in the Philippines with Mary
is my dream, my future,
my everything.
That's my ambition.
If it doesn't work,
then I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself.
Where is she?
I've been waiting two and a half hours for Holly.
Her flight has landed, and she should be out here,
but she's just nowhere to be seen.
I just landed in South Africa,
and it's just not going good.
I'm so sick.
I'm literally throwing up in the bathroom
and nothing is going as planned.
Yeah.
Where is she?
I've been waiting two and a half hours for Holly.
Like, her flight has landed, and she should be out here,
but she's just nowhere to be seen.
My heart is beating like ten beats per second.
She looks absolutely stunning.
The first thing she says to me is,
"Don't kiss me. I'm puking."
I'm like...
Not that I wanna kiss Holly's puke and all, but...
- Hi! Good. - All right?
- Mm. - Mm.
Mm-hmm.
Hmm?
It feels awesome to be back together.
Like, we waited a long time.
Yeah, the energy is exactly the same as it used to be.
Like, the first time I met her,
it, like, feels exactly the same.
So this is my mom.
- Hi, Mom. How are you? Nice to meet you. - I'm good.
It's nice to meet you.
Uh, it's all right. It's been a long flight.
Feels really good to be back in South Africa.
Like, the weather's a lot better and, um...
- Wayne's here. - The weather?
You're here.
- I thought I would be first, but okay, yeah. - That's really good, too.
No, it just feels good to finally be back.
- Hi. - Hi.
- How was your flight? - It was long and tedious.
- Yeah, it is a long flight. - Yes, it is.
I'm glad to meet you.
Yeah, it's nice to meet you.
Wayne, well, I like him,
but, you know, we haven't had a chance to visit.
But, um, I've always said, if you know you know.
I don't know if I believe in that or not,
but she hasn't acted like this
around anybody for a long time,
so we'll see what happens.
Give me, like, two seconds.
I'm gonna take off my socks.
Huh?
- My what? - Careful, your dress.
I'm covered up!
What?
You just like flaunting everything.
I'm not flaunting everything!
We sit down for a minute,
and, like, Holly's dress is going up.
And I'm seeing people look at her,
and it's just, it, to me is just...
I feel like people are looking in a sexual way, which I hate.
I don't want people looking at her like that.
- Okay, ready? - Hmm.
Holly's got a particular style.
But this needs to change.
So I'm gonna take this to the car.
I'm excited to get Holly home
and show her mom around.
Like, I've got a small place,
but I think her mom will feel at home.
We're moving.
Hmm...
Like a gated community.
I feel like we should just, like, talk about that first
because I have upped security, so...
I've spent a lot of money on that house,
so, like, it's not just, like, easy to move.
I don't think Wayne can even comprehend
the sacrifices that I've made to come here.
You won the wife lottery.
Oh, my gosh. Okay.
Not today.
For the past couple of months,
whenever it comes to the wedding,
I don't feel like I've be supported or heard, period.
I love TJ,
but whenever I have something that's been bothering me,
he kind of just brushes it off.
Marriage is not easy.
And in a different culture, in a different world,
you don't even know what to expect yet.
Guess what, guys?
It's another day.
♪ What an awesome day ♪
♪ Celebrate the day ♪
♪ 'Cause it's a holiday ♪
Around eight years ago,
I started making holiday videos
and posting them on social media.
I'm not this, like, guru.
I only have, like, 100 subscribers on YouTube.
Like, there's none.
But if they need a reason to celebrate,
I've got them.
We're celebrating Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day.
Yes!
There's so many holidays.
Some of my favorites are
Dump That Jerk Day.
You deserve better.
You really do.
Talk Like a Pirate Day.
Ahoy, matey!
Walk the plank.
Swab the poop deck!
Pop, pop, pop, pop.
Get in some bubble wrap.
I like to say I'm a habitual optimist.
I had to make it a habit.
Bubble wrap is so much fun.
Yes!
Growing up, I was going through a lot of times
where I was depressed,
and I made a point to try to be positive.
I felt like it was so important for me
to share positivity
because I feel like positive impacts
are the best kind of impacts to make.
See you later.
Oh!
I need those bumpers.
Watch and learn, guys. - Okay.
- Yes! - All right.
Since I've been back in the US,
I've been staying with my dad and stepmom over the past few months.
I feel like that time
brought our relationship closer together.
And it makes me really happy
that my dad and stepmom are gonna be coming to India
in about a week for the wedding.
All right.
Good job!
We've done a lot of high-fives!
Well, thanks for making your old man look terrible.
That's okay.
As I take this huge step,
I'm super grateful for my dad
and this mother-daughter-type bond
that I've gotten with my stepmom.
When I was four years old,
my parents ended up getting divorced
and they had a really messy custody battle
that lasted eight years.
I have three older sisters and one younger brother.
And it was really heartbreaking for all of us.
One year, we lived with my mom.
The next year, we lived with my dad.
And it just went back and forth for a long time.
It made me more angry than anything else
because I just wanted it to stop.
In the end, my dad got custody and we all moved to Arkansas.
And my dad met my stepmom and got remarried.
I don't wanna leave you guys.
Like, I love you guys
and I don't wanna go over there and be away from you.
But I'm a little nervous now.
I mean, I only wanna get married once, so that's probably why.
It's hard letting you go. You're my baby.
I know, but I'm always gonna be here for you.
I'm always gonna love you.
You're always gonna be my mom.
I didn't really have a maternal figure.
Like, I had Mom, but she wasn't...
She didn't like me like she liked everybody else, it seemed like.
I think I reminded her of you, honestly.
'Cause I do have a lot of your personality.
And it wasn't until recently
I realized how much you were actually there for me, too.
Yeah.
I love you.
When I was little,
my relationship with my mom was very rocky.
I always felt like I was
the least favorite
of my mom's kids.
Till this day,
I try to talk to my mom.
But we don't have a very good relationship.
You get that close to this,
and then all of a sudden,
you know, you're getting married
to somebody we've not met.
I'm just feeling like we're losing you.
I mean, I...
I feel that way.
Honestly, I'm sacrificing a whole lot for him
and I don't know if he sees it.
I know he hears it,
but I don't think he understands...
the scope of it.
It's making me feel a little bit like he's not supportive.
For the past couple of months,
whenever it comes to the construction,
and whenever it comes to the wedding,
I don't feel like I've been supported or heard, period.
Well, I would hope that he'd be more accommodating to your feelings.
You guys are a partnership.
You guys work together.
You do everything together.
If some bill comes up,
- you talk to each other about it. - Right.
And I'm scared that I'm not gonna be able to have that.
Marriage is not easy.
And in a different culture, in a different world,
you don't even know what to expect yet.
The closer it gets for me
to move to India and get married,
I'm really visualizing my life with TJ
and I'm starting to worry.
I love him and I do wanna be with him,
but lately I've been feeling like
whenever I have something that's been bothering me,
he kind of just brushes it off.
It feels like he doesn't take me seriously as a partner,
and it makes me concerned
that that's what it's gonna be like being married to him.
I want you to be happy.
But you're strong, and you're independent.
And I don't want you to lose that.
We don't want you to lose that.
I hope he's willing to listen.
When I first got on the plane,
I was sitting next to a girl,
and Mary was overthinking.
So I got switched to an empty seat.
She is automatically thinking,
"Oh, he's gonna flirt.
He is some type of pig."
It makes me very worried about whether or not I'm making the right choice.
On a flight from Eugene to Los Angeles now.
Flight one of three
to the Philippines.
Going to Los Angeles, and then going to Manila.
I'm feeling very nervous and excited.
As I'm finally in the air,
there's a girl next to me.
And I'm showing Mary,
and she's getting...
those insecurities and thoughts.
When you buy plane tickets and you're picking your seat,
it's not like you can see what gender person is sitting next to you.
Like, I can't control that.
And I know that no one can seduce me
and make me change my mind about Mary.
I've been wanting to go to the Philippines for over two years now.
I'm finally on my way.
There's nothing that's gonna change that.
But she's automatically thinking,
"Oh, he's gonna flirt.
He's some type of pig."
Because Mary is so insecure.
I'm kind of, like, scatterbrained right now.
I was sitting next to a girl
and Mary was overthinking.
So I got switched to an empty seat.
Yeah.
I feel like I can't win.
I don't know what to do
to appease Mary's demands.
All right. Just landed.
Now that's flight one of three down.
It really, really, really, really frustrates me
on such a high level
that she would still have these things to say.
Finally on the way.
I've sacrificed a lot to get to that point
and I don't think I deserve that.
So I'm boarding
on the plane now to Manila.
I hope it goes well.
No one sitting next to me, so...
We're just so used to overthinking
and fighting over the phone
that it's just become normal for us.
But I can only tolerate it up to a certain point.
I don't know, like, what to say, what to do.
It makes me very worried about whether or not I'm making the right choice
going to the Philippines
and committing my whole life there.
Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
Argh! A storm's a brewin'!
Aye-aye, matey!
Today's the day!
Moving to India to be with the man I love.
There's no turning back.
I'm not fully prepared for a move here.
I've been trying to explain to you
why I'm worried, why I'm scared.
We're having a little bit of a power struggle.
It's always your way, it seems.
I'm just so mad at him.
That's why I told Brandan that he shouldn't come here.
He said he will be sitting with girls.
So I have the reason to get mad.
Your mom does know that you're moving, right?
She knows I'm moving. She doesn't know when.
It upsets me that Julio didn't tell his mom when he's moving.
Now it's gonna be harder to say it last minute to her.
What's that over there?
Kind of sketchy now.
This is my mom's first time out of the US
and she's terrified.
When someone comes in,
it sprays them full of pepper spray.
I don't know if I'm gonna feel safe with Holly being here.
This is kind of scary.
Uh...
I hate this. It's too small.
They half-assed everything and it's done very poorly.
You were supposed to make it so I felt at home here.
You're supposed to be my partner
and you're failing at it.