[Brandan] Previously on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
Mom, how many more?
[Holly] Today, I'm moving to South Africa
to marry my fiance, Wayne.
I wanna see my daughter get married,
but I'm very concerned about your safety.
[Wayne speaking]
Holly's mom's gonna stay for about three months.
Are we almost there?
-[Kenny] This is it right here. -[Hannah gasps]
[Kenny] We've been in Mexico City for a couple of days and
it's not been going the best.
With you saying like, "Oh, I moved here to your country,
I changed my whole life."
I don't want you to think like I owe you something.
That bothers me you said that.
I've never given him
the feeling that he owed me somethin'.
-[Kirsten speaking] -[Juan speaks indistinctly]
[Kirsten] I hope your mom is okay with me.
-I hope so too. I think-- -I hope she's not mad at me that I'm the reason
-you're gonna move. -No.
I see a better future over there.
If my mom isn't happy about the idea of me moving
even after meeting Kirsten, that could really hurt my plans
to start my life with her in the Netherlands.
[Kimberly] I met my fiance through a dream,
and I'm about to return to India and build a life there.
I'm not gonna lie, I'm very scared
-about all of this. -[TJ over laptop] Yeah.
What's going on with the construction?
[TJ speaking]
-Give me a hug, I love you. -[chuckles]
[Brandan] Being in the Philippines with Mary is my dream, my future.
I'm just hoping that all the fighting goes away.
When I first got on the plane I was sitting next to a girl
and Mary was overthinking, so I got switched to an empty seat.
She's automatically thinking, "Oh, he's gonna flirt,"
because Mary is so insecure.
[upbeat music playing]
This is Central Park here.
[Kirsten] It's nice, I like the vibe.
[Julio] Chillaxin'.
-[indistinct] -Oh, my God, is that a...
[Julio] Yeah, it's a squirrel.
-You guys don't have that over there? -[Kirsten] No. It's so cute.
[Julio] Kirsten arrived last night.
First night was fun, you know?
I mean, we had some dollar slices,
did the nasty and then went to bed. [laughs]
Oh, wow, this is nice.
[Kirsten speaking]
[Julio] Too bad I can't swim, right?
This morning, we are going to spend some time in New York City
before I bring her to Long Island to meet my family.
I'm nervous, I'm very, very nervous.
Kirsten meeting my family is what's needed
for me to actually, like, complete this puzzle piece with her.
I can see myself here sitting in a park,
-having drink with you. -Yeah? Have my mom come with us.
-Yeah, if she's gonna like me. -[Julio laughs]
-How're you feeling now? -I'm so nervous.
-[Julio] Yeah? -Like, so nervous.
I think she's gonna like you though.
The first time you were talking about me to your mom,
-like, what did she say? How did she respond? -She was surprised.
-She was like... -She was?
Yeah, 'cause I told her about you, like, three weeks ago.
Oh, my God.
We're dating for one year,
-you just told her three weeks ago. -[Julio] It's--
-So that's why she has a lot of questions. -[Kirsten] Isn't that crazy?
That's why she has a lot of questions.
All the time she had no clue that we were dating
-and you were out of country meeting me? -Nothing.
-So, like-- Nothing. -[Kirsten] She had no clue?
I don't understand, like, we spent two months in the Netherlands.
-It's, like, what did you say all this time... -Oh.
Oh, uh, I told her I was workin'.
[Kirsten] I'm really surprised because
Julio likes me and he make me believe that his mother did know about me.
There was one time when he was FaceTime with his mom,
he was literally like, like this, um,
and I said, "Oh, why didn't you show me?"
Well, I don't understand, like, why you didn't say that?
Like, I told my parents the first,
first day we were dating, I told them.
I feel like you kept me a secret from your mom.
I wouldn't say it's keeping a secret,
I think it's just, like, I know how my mom is.
So it's like, I'm, I know how to properly deliver a message.
But you had all this time to properly deliver a message.
Um, I guess...
-One year, right? -[Julio] I mean, I guess but--
There must be have a good moment to tell her.
[Julio] I feel really [bleep] right now. I didn't know that
waiting to tell my mom was gonna hurt Kirsten.
I feel like a [bleep].
I'm just, like, I'm just very picky,
so it's like I have to feel someone out, I have to,
like, we had to live together for two months
for me to actually realize, like, "Okay, I can live with,
-you know, with Kirsten." -So, does that mean
you wasn't sure yet about our relationship?
No, 'cause I didn't know what it was like to live with you.
[voice breaking]
So, your mom does know that you're moving, right?
[Julio] Uh, she knows I'm moving.
She doesn't know when, um, you know,
'cause I'm, like, super scared about all that.
-That's what scares me, honestly. -[Julio] Yeah.
[Kirsten] Like, what if she's not gonna be okay with it?
[Julio] Yeah.
I'm, like, worried, like, are you still 100% sure?
Yeah, of course.
That's why I decided to have you meet everyone.
These next couple of days you're meeting my life.
This just goes to show how sure I am, you know?
No, I'm just waiting for things to get confirmed.
I think you need to be 100% honest right, tonight,
because, like, you already waited for one year to tell her.
So, I'm gonna break her heart tonight.
I mean, we will comfort her, right?
-I hope I can help you. -[Julio] Yeah, of course.
I didn't wanna tell my mom too soon about my plans and
she doesn't know that I already applied for my temporary residency
and that I plan on moving there permanently,
because it's a hard thing for me to let my mom know that, like,
I can't promise me being there for her, physically, forever.
I don't want her to feel like she's alone, you know?
I don't want her to be like, "My son just picked up and left me," you know?
Like, I wanna tell her the truth,
I have to break the news to her,
but I just don't know how I'm going to.
It's gonna break her even more.
I'll tell her, like, I'm sure, you know,
she's definitely gonna, you know...
I'll tell her.
-Uh, can I be honest with you, she might burn it. -[Kirsten speaks indistinctly]
Oh, my God.
Brandan is supposed to arrive in the Philippines tomorrow,
but we get a huge fight because
he is sitting next to a girl on the plane.
He said he won't be sitting with girl for anyone,
but girl sitting next to him,
so I have the reason to get mad.
[FaceTime ringtone ringing]
[Brandan speaking over phone]
[Mary] Okay.
In that moment, I'm just so mad at him
that's why I told Brandan that he shouldn't come here.
[Brandan speaking]
[Mary] Well, don't talk to girl if you have--
Well, I'm not there to see you.
[Mary] I know I overreact sometimes with Brandan,
but I can't help it.
It's very hard for me
because my ex cheated on me 10 times
and I forgive him, like, 10 times. [chuckles]
[Brandan speaking]
[Mary] Now that Brandan loves me for real,
and he's almost living here in the Philippines,
I'm more scared now to lose him.
So, it's very difficult.
I'm okay now, just, if you love me
make sure you won't talk to girls on the flight tomorrow?
Don't--
Okay.
I'll see you soon.
Behave.
[Brandan speaking]
-[Dionesio speaking Filipino] -[speaking Filipino]
[in English] My grandpa works at the farm,
and he plants rice, corns.
He have animals like chicken, pigs.
[pigs snorting]
[Mary] And sometimes I help him.
It's nice to be busy because
Brandan's gonna arrive here later today.
[speaking Filipino]
[in English] Brandan is sleeping now at his hotel and
he's gonna have one more flight.
Then we'll be finally together.
[Lucia speaking Filipino]
[Mary speaking Filipino]
[Dionesio speaking]
[Mary speaks, chuckles]
[Dionesio speaking]
[Mary speaking]
[Dionesio speaking]
[giggling]
[in English] Before having sex, I wanna wait for marriage
because that's what my grandparents told me
and that's our religious beliefs.
But also, it's normal for our Filipino culture
to ask the parents' permission before holding hands or kiss.
Mmm.
[Mary] I've been waiting for two years to
hold his hand and know how it feels like
to touch his hair
and hug him.
[in Filipino]
[in English] I always respect my grandparents.
What I don't want to tell Brandan
we can't do anything without their permission.
I just want to be natural when I met him for the first time.
I don't know what to do.
I don't expect it to be smooth sailing.
Today's the day! Moving to India.
Calm waters never made a good sailor.
Well, that's why pirates are such good sailors.
[in pirate voice] Arr, storm's a-brewin'!
[both laughing]
[Wayne speaking]
In the last six months, I've been broken into three times,
and if Holly's mom gonna think,
like, is this safe enough for us.
When someone comes in, then it sprays them, yeah.
I'm afraid that if her mom doesn't like me,
Holly might change her mind about things.
[in normal voice] Last time my wand didn't make it.
-So, I'm nervous about that. -[bag zips]
I overslept today, actually,
and, um, I'm just little bit nervous now. [sighs]
I haven't really checked in with my spirit guides,
but they've been trying to tell me to calm down and take it slow because
it just hit me that I'm actually going back to India now.
Oh. [sighs]
Today's the day! I'm moving to India
and I can't tell if I'm excited or not, to be honest.
I guess it's really just sinking in
that everything's finally happening
and I'm actually getting married in a few days.
[groans] Ugh.
And I feel like there's a lot of things
that I'm still little bit unsure about.
I am not involved in any of the wedding details,
I've left that all to a, a boy.
[laughing nervously]
In the U.S. the wedding is usually planned by the bride.
But in India,
typically the families are more involved with the wedding.
I don't know if I can close it.
Okay, new plan.
And it's more of their traditions
and their liking rather than just the bride.
Oh, no.
The whole zipper broke.
-[Curt] How you doin'? -Um, I broke the suitcase.
[Curt] You want some duct tape?
[Kimberly] Yeah.
Right now, there's a lot that's out of my control
between my wedding and my new apartment.
And honestly, it's freaking me out.
[Curt] Are you nervous at all?
I have this, I don't ever know how to describe it kind of feeling,
because the first time I went to India,
I was ready to get out of India.
I was homesick.
[Curt] This is a, a huge step in your life.
You do know that there, there's gonna be rough times.
Yeah, I mean, I don't expect it to be smooth sailing.
Calm waters never made a good sailor.
Well, that's why pirates are such good sailors.
[chuckles]
[in pirate voice] Aye. Full steam ahead, captain!
[in pirate voice] Aye, aye, matey.
There may not be much ocean there,
but we've got oceans of water falling from the sky!
[both laughing]
Arr, storm's a-brewin'!
[both continue laughing]
[in normal voice] I am gonna miss all of your dad jokes.
[Curt in normal voice] It's gonna be a totally different situation,
living with his family.
I'm not looking forward to moving in with three people.
If TJ and I start arguing,
is his, is his whole family gonna get involved?
-[Curt] Yeah, you're livin' with 'em, so... -Yeah.
You think you can handle that?
I really don't know, to be honest with you.
I know I don't have a lot of patience for things
-that I don't agree with. -Okay.
If I disagree with something that is for their tradition,
am I gonna have four people all yelling at me?
I know he's already pledged that he'll take care of you,
I just wanna make sure
that you get to live the life you want with him.
[Kimberly] I know he, he wants to take care of me,
but I think he also needs to realize that
taking care of someone is more than just monetary,
it's also emotional.
Well, that, that's another thing to talk about.
Kim's my daughter, I want her to live her dreams.
We're getting close.
If I drop you off, there's no turnin' back.
But, it's rough.
They've got a lot of things to work through
and I'm anxious about that.
-Okay, you ready? -Ready.
I'm trusting him to take care of her.
Shall we?
Okay.
We'll be there soon to, uh,
-see it all happen. -[laughs]
I'm looking forward to you guys meeting each other.
Yeah, me too. [chuckles]
Can I get a hug?
-I love you. -I love you too, Dad.
Thank you for everything.
Good job.
* I want to dive in
* Just let me dive in to the deep *
So, my journey is officially starting.
This is a huge journey in like every sense,
just because number one, I'm moving halfway across the world.
And number two, I'm getting married.
It feels really scary.
It feels like there are only unknowns in my future right now.
But I can't live my life scared.
I do have an opportunity to be with the man I love.
So there's no turning back.
So welcome to Africa, guys.
I hope you guys are going to enjoy it.
I just arrived in South Africa with my mom
so she can meet Wayne and get to know him
and help me get settled into my new life.
I hope that they get along, because it would mean a lot to me,
and it would just be really horrible
if she thought I was making a mistake.
What's that over there?
-What's that? -Over there.
Oh.
Kind of sketchy now.
But I feel sorry for people they have to live in.
So this is my mom's first time out of the U.S.
to another country, and I think she's terrified.
So this is my house over here.
Well, your house for the next, like, two months.
Okay.
She's scared about her safety, my safety.
She's never met Wayne.
Hey, Nikki girl.
Hey, Nikki girlie.
So I'm kind of worried that she's gonna hate it.
-I'll give you a tour now. -Yeah?
-This is the kitchen. -Oh, how cute.
So, yeah, feel free to use it when you want to.
And then this, if you go straight, this will be like...
This is where you guys are gonna stay, you and Holly.
Holly and myself are sleeping in separate rooms
because I was born into Jehovah's Witness religion.
That's why we're not gonna sleep
together until we're married.
Oh, this is so cool. I love it.
This is a fan that you got me. It looks bigger in person.
Very nice.
Now, what's load shedding?
Oh.
A load shedding is basically when they shut off
the power so they don't overload the system.
Load shedding does happen sort of every day.
So what they do is they cut off power.
You get stage one, stage two,
stage three, up to stage eight.
Stage eight means that the power's off for eight hours
or it goes off eight times a day.
Okay, so let me go show you outside quickly.
During load shedding, crime is higher
because obviously there's no lights on.
So if you don't take precautions,
you're just gonna lose all your stuff.
So, one more thing to show you.
Okay.
Which is that little pipe there.
Sort of goes into here, down into my compressor.
I got robbed three times in a matter of six months, which was crazy.
So basically, how it works is...
Yeah.
So I've done, like, a lot of work to the house.
Like, I've made things safer.
So how it works is, when someone comes in,
and they walk straight, and they want to steal something,
and my alarm sees, then it sprays them,
-yeah, like, full of pepper spray. -Oh,
that's what I wasn't understanding.
Obviously, like, that's only water.
It's not acetyl pepper spray.
And then I put up some cameras there.
So I'm just hoping that she's gonna approve.
Tessa, let me show you the pool quickly.
I fixed the pool.
I wanted to surprise you.
At least you got to go straight, babes.
Hmm?
Where are we going?
My baby, it's okay, my love.
Where he died. Isn't it?
Isn't it?
[sniffles]
In the last six months I've been broken into
three times and the third time they broke in,
they killed my dog.
And not seeing Storm there was traumatizing for Holly.
[sniffles]
Yeah, you can look at the pool later.
It's okay.
It is like a different kind of evil that someone would...
come to your house and kill your dog,
like your family member.
It's just the worst thing that could happen.
And I never got to say goodbye. [sniffles]
I'm glad to see all these things you did, but, um...
This is a lot.
This is a lot of measures you took.
Yeah, it is. But do you know what?
I mean, even the best areas, even in gated communities,
it's the same thing. Everybody's got burglar bars.
Everybody's got electric fencing.
I think that I've realized it's more serious, though,
than I first thought.
I'm feeling I've put in so much work in this house
to try and make things safer.
I'm thinking, what else can I do to make them feel safe?
I'm afraid that if her mom doesn't trust me,
Holly might change her mind about things.
I still don't know if I'm going to feel safe here.
And then with me leaving, with Holly being here,
I mean, it's kind of scary.
[imitates heart beating]
I'm really nervous to break the rules,
but I want this moment to be for myself.
Whoo.
Brandon texted me right now. He's on the plane.
Oh.
I am going to meet Brandon at the airport.
It's three hours from the house, so my grandfather
told my brother to go with me for my safety.
How are you feeling?
I'm so excited, but I'm a little bit nervous.
I can finally hug him for real this time.
[sighs, laughs]
Yeah.
I'm really nervous to break the rules.
But the more I thought about it, I realized that
I want this moment to be for myself.
It's just hug.
You will understand if you experience
long-distance relationship for like two years.
[laughs]
I feel relieved and I feel glad that my brother
is more understanding with me
than my grandparents because he know
what it's like to be against the rules.
Because my brother have kids before marriage.
What if he kissed me?
-[both laugh] -Where?
Cheeks.
I'm a good girl.
Brandon knows my grandpa is very strict
and that I don't have my first kiss.
But he doesn't know the rules, so I don't know
how I will react if he kissed me.
My heart is beating so fast.
[imitates heart beating]
Just got off the plane flight to Bacolod City.
I'm gonna see Mary here pretty soon.
I need to go freshen up real quick.
[giggles] Finally. Ah.
Let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go.
I am freaking nervous and anxious as hell
when it comes down to it, to this moment.
My nose won't stop itching.
Whoo.
I'm so nervous that my knees are shaking
and...
Hi.
I'm here outside waiting for you.
I don't know. I just don't know what will happen.
But if I'm going to kiss someone,
I want him to be, like, mine forever.
So I hope our love is even more real in person.
Oh, gosh.
Because I can't live without Brandon.
I can't see my future without Brandon.
Are you excited to see the school or are you nervous?
Um, nervous.
I do think Hannah's a little bit of a secret weapon for me.
If I get her on board, I think I can convince Armando
to maybe just make the move.
-Oh, this is cute. -Oh, this is pretty.
[Latin American music playing]
All right.
-You ready? -Yeah.
Let's go.
Kenny, Hannah, and I have been in Mexico City
for just about a week, and it's been going okay.
I've been enjoying the city vibe, the people,
the culture, but I really still am not sold on moving here.
I don't know if I want to move so far away from family,
and I also still have safety concerns.
Hannah.
Yes?
Are you excited to see the school, or are you nervous?
Um, I'm nervous because I miss my another school.
-You don't want to move to-- -Change schools?
You might find that you like it, maybe.
-No? -Do you think?
It's a possibility.
We've decided to tour school for Hannah.
Her education is number one for me.
-Let's go check it out. -Go and see it.
There are tons of private schools in Mexico City,
and the schools here offer an extended curriculum,
lots of sports, different activities that would be great for Hannah.
So it's something that would make me
consider moving to Mexico City.
-Wow. -Oh, this is cute.
-Oh, this is pretty. -Yeah.
-Nice to meet you. -[in English] Nice to meet you, too.
What's the grade you're in now?
[speaking in Spanish]
-Okay, very good. -Oh, this is really nice.
I do think Hannah's a little bit of a secret weapon
for me because I think I can get her on board.
And if I get her on board, I think I can convince Armando
then to maybe just make the move.
-So this is our library. -It's nice.
Yeah.
[Pamela] You can come every recess and take a book.
-You like this library? -Yeah.
What's the ratio from teacher to students?
-In the classroom, around 20. -Okay.
-I am fairly impressed.
This school definitely meets my expectations
-and what I want for Hannah. -It was great meeting you.
-I hope you choose us. -Bye.
And I do want her to spread her wings, to grow more.
So I am starting to, you know,
see the possibilities of moving.
But I don't know if I'm ready for the hustle
and bustle of a big city.
[Kenny] What'd you think of the school?
Good. I like it.
You think you like it better than your school that you're at now?
-Yeah. -You like it better?
Wow.
-That's my girl. -No, no, no.
-You want to play over there? -Yeah.
A little bit, and me and your daddy will talk a little bit.
This is what I love about kids, is they have an open mind,
and she's thinking that this could be a possibility.
Like, I see all the new things here,
-and... -Well, yeah, but she sees it like
a kid sees it, and I feel like you've been seeing it
all along like a kid.
All the fun and positive about it, but, like I said,
I have my concerns of the dangers and all the negatives.
God forbid I'm positive.
It's not just that you're positive.
You got to be realistic. And it's very frustrating because all along,
all this time, I've been trying to explain
to you why I'm worried, but none of it,
none of it at all bothers you or concerns you.
Like, kind of hear me and understand me
and not just always your way, it seems.
We're having a little bit of a power struggle.
I think you've come into your own,
and you're, like, pushing back on a lot more things
-as we move along in our relationship. -Yeah.
So I'm getting used to some of that.
Because before, you wanted me to take control of this,
take control of that.
But isn't that part of what you've told me all along?
You want me to have a say.
You want me to not let people step on me.
Maybe it's because you are controlling,
so now we're both controlling.
I've created a monster.
You've created a monster.
You know, my whole life, I've been told, no,
you're not good enough.
You're not equal.
And I think that made me the person I am today,
which is kind of being assertive and taking charge
and kind of somewhat demanding my way, which means I have
to make changes because our dynamics
are really changing.
But releasing that control is a scary thing for me.
And I still want to move here.
Hannah, you ready to go?
Yeah.
Vamonos.
Today is day two of my trip.
I'm about to get on my flight to India.
[upbeat music playing]
So, I'm about to get on my flight to go to Jaipur Airport.
And I am absolutely exhausted.
But at the same time, I know that
whenever I actually get to TJ,
whenever I finally can give him a hug,
it will be completely worth it.
[car beeps]
Yeah.
[Tejaswi speaking]
Oh...
[speaking indistinctly]
[Kimberly] It's been five months since I've seen TJ.
And when I see him, I want to kiss him all
over his face, but you can't do that in India,
because you're not supposed to show, like,
any kind of romantic contact in any sense.
-Thank you. -[speaking in Hindi]
So, it's a huge deal whenever he hugs me at the airport.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I finally get to be with him again.
I love being with him so much.
Yeah.
That one.
The pink one.
It's been through hell.
The wedding is in just over a week,
and I feel like I might throw up about it.
Ah! [laughs]
He's been keeping me out of the loop with all the details,
so I'm still... I don't know anything
that's going on, and I'm just nervous,
-'cause I... I like to control things. -[both laugh]
What about for you? You don't want to throw up?
Yeah.
So, did you guys sleep okay?
As a Jehovah's Witness, it is important that they stay in
separate rooms and they start their marriage
in a chaste position.
It's your mom and you have to tell.
You're planning on moving.
It upsets me that Julio didn't tell his mom when he's moving.
Now I'm wondering what happens
if she doesn't want him to move.
Here we are.
-Hey, Mom? -Yeah?
I need a hair tie.
It's my first morning in South Africa.
I'm super excited to be here.
But it's different because my mom's here.
The first time I came down and met Wayne, I was there by myself.
We didn't have a chaperone, because I didn't even know
if I'd like him.
I thought we'd probably just be friends.
Well, this time around, we're definitely in love,
madly crazy in love. And so there's temptation.
We want to be together.
And so having my mom here is a way to, you know, protect us
from doing anything before we get married.
It does feel really weird at our ages having a chaperone.
That's what it is.
Babe?
-Baby? -Yeah?
Would you like some scrambled eggs?
Uh, yes, love.
[Judy] As a Jehovah's Witness, it is important that they stay
in separate rooms and they start their marriage
in a chaste position because it's important to them.
It's especially important to me.
You wait till you're married to have sexual relations,
and that's what we're taught.
-What's up, Mom? -Hi.
And we believe that with our whole heart.
Let me taste them.
Mmm. Okay.
Actually, these are pretty good. [laughs]
Baby, these are pretty good.
She's not gonna starve with you around.
So, did you guys sleep okay?
It was very comfortable. It was like sleeping on a cloud.
-Mom, you look tired still. -I am tired.
It's gonna take me more than one day.
You guys can, like, watch TV and, you know, just relax.
I might join you guys. Like, we'll have, like, a threesome.
One out of three, so I'm like three people in one bed.
-A TV night. -Watching TV?
Yeah, a TV night.
Holly, stop it.
Everybody change the subject.
So when I feel like you're easy to get to know,
but I do want to get to know the real you,
I want to get to know the dynamic you're going to have with my daughter.
It'll put my mind at ease, because I'm not going to be here.
100% guarantee I'll take care of her.
I mean, I think we'll be together forever.
That's personally what I think.
And that's my goal with Holly.
But the situation here, and this is a lot different
than the United States, you have to realize, for us.
Holly's safety in South Africa is so important to me,
Yeah, well, I'll keep Holly as safe as I can, you know.
Yeah, but there's certain things you can do, you know,
to keep Holly safe.
Even if you don't move tomorrow or the next day,
but we went and looked at gated communities
while I'm here,
I would feel really good about that.
I know it would put my mind at ease so much.
It's not like I feel totally safe in this country.
-I should feel safe in my own house. -[Judy] Right.
I've put in so much money into this house
to try and make things safer.
I'm thinking, a gated community is super expensive.
I'm worried that if Holly realizes
there's absolutely no way that I'm going to be able to afford it,
she's going to regret coming to South Africa.
I think we should look now.
It is scary to be a woman and to be in a strange country
and not know how to defend yourself. That scares me.
And I don't want to worry about her.
I want her to be happy and taken care of.
Well, we'll see.
* So what's it gonna be?
Are you excited for today? All right.
You do not sound excited at all.
All right, just give it to me. Just give it to me.
Okay, Miss Independent.
Kirsten and I are driving to Brentwood right now to meet my family.
This is a big jump for me.
This is the second person I've had pretty much meet my family.
What if they don't like her?
I am in love with this girl.
What's gonna happen now, you know?
Am I gonna be torn to pick and choose?
Plus, I have to tell everyone
the truth of how soon I'm moving.
Yeah, I'm definitely more nervous now than I was before,
just because I'm like, it's getting closer, you know?
Um...
Like, okay, what are we gonna talk about?
Who's gonna lead the conversation?
it's your mom, and you have to tell.
You're planning on moving.
-It's not up to me to build it. -Yeah. No, I know, I know.
I'm gonna tell her about the residency stuff.
I have to tell her, you know, like, the exact date.
It's so difficult for me to say something to her
because it's like... I'm essentially telling her,
like, I'm officially, like, out.
Like, I'm gonna be in your life,
but I'm not gonna be in your life, you know?
Like, how I am now.
I think my mom was going to be devastated when I moved.
You know, when I was younger and I would go DJing
at clubs, she says she wouldn't fall asleep until I'm home.
She has a hard time just doing things, knowing that I'm so far.
So the fact that now this is going to be permanent,
I think that's something that's going to be hard for her to take.
And then the first time I'm telling her about the move
is also the first time she's meeting my girlfriend.
Yeah.
It's a deal-breaker.
Not a deal-breaker, but, you know, it's...
it's, um, a lot of this is weighing on down on this.
[Kirsten] I was already stressed, but I'm now even more stressed.
* Life ain't always something easy *
We made it to Brentwood. This is my neighborhood.
Oh, my God.
[sighs]
Julio has told me that the hardest part of him
moving is leaving his mom.
He's 27. He's still living there.
What happens if she doesn't like me,
if she doesn't want him to move?
Here we are.
His mother's reaction will determine our future.
-Oh, my God. -Oh, my goodness. Come here.
Even though my grandfather told me not to kiss him,
I want to, and I need to.
I have no idea how I'm gonna make living with TJ's family work.
I just, I don't know what to expect.
Welcome, Kimberly.
Oh, gosh.
I'm waiting for Brandan right now.
I feel so nervous, and I have mixed emotions
that I can't explain myself how I feel.
I can't hear you. Bad connection.
Bad connection here.
Oh, my God.
* I love you no matter what
* No matter what
* We've been through it all Still standing strong *
* Not giving up I love you no matter what *
* No matter what
[Mary sobbing]
Don't cry.
I wanna go up there.
You're so handsome.
I love you.
-I love you. -I love you.
-I'm so shy. -Let me see your face.
I'm sorry.
When I finally see Brandon, I'm overwhelmed
with the emotions.
Like butterflies in my stomach.
So even though my grandfather and my brother told me that
I'm not allowed to kiss him, I don't care about it anymore
because I want to and I need to.
Like that.
It feels amazing that I have my first kiss with Brendan.
It's kind of awkward and a little bit weird
because I don't know how to kiss.
She's actually a really good kisser.
Yeah.
[sobs]
Finally being together, it's fireworks in my body.
I feel like I'm dreaming.
I'm just going to the other side where you are, okay?
This was what I've wanted for over the past two years.
It feels right.
-I just want to hug him. -Oh.
Oh, oh, oh, oh.
Hello, brother.
-I'm happy to see you. -I'm happy to see you, too, man.
I'm especially happy to see your sister.
Our grandma and grandpa are also excited to see you.
[speaking in Tagalog]
Okay, yeah, we should.
It takes a lot of weight off my shoulders to finally put
the phone away and just be there in the moment.
This anxiety that I was having
with our fights is finally gone.
I'm hoping that all the negativity
and bull [bleep] will just be behind us.
-Come on, I will do it for you. -You want to do this for me?
-Yes. -All right. Thank you, man.
[laughs]
After three days of traveling, I'm finally in India.
I can't believe I'm getting married in nine days.
It still hasn't set in.
I'm not gonna lie, it still hasn't set in.
It just seems like a fairy tale coming true.
[Tejaswi] I'm excited to show you the apartment.
I'm a little nervous about the build.
Well, I hope it's clean.
Whenever I first got to India last time,
it took a lot of getting used to.
It's very different.
I had a bucket that I showered with, so I had to boil water
if I wanted to take a hot shower.
So I just, I don't know what to expect with this apartment.
Uh...
-[speaking in Hindi] -[both laughing]
[laughs]
[honks]
I have no idea how I'm gonna make living with TJ's family work.
I really value my alone time, and I value my space.
I grew up in a big family.
There was a lot of yelling and chaos.
So the idea of living with so many people worries me.
But I know it's important to TJ, so I'm gonna give it a shot.
-Welcome, Kimberley. -Namaste.
[laughs]
How are you?
-[all laughing] -[both] Hi.
-Your bag seems so heavy. -It is.
It's very heavy.
I brought you guys some American sweets.
They're little bitty sweets.
Here to you.
And I come bearing gifts.
-Really? -Yeah.
Give it to papa.
It's a rose quartz.
It helps you accept love into your life.
That's the same thing that I'm wearing on our wedding day.
That's pretty.
This one's for you.
It's a massager.
-That's nice. -Yeah.
It's like a self-massager.
-You can massage your back. Like you roll it. -Your back?
-[all laughing] -Yeah.
So what now, brown cow?
Okay, so are you ready for that apartment?
-Yeah. -Okay.
So let's go.
TJ's been building this apartment for the past two months.
-This way. -That way?
Yeah.
I have all this anticipation slash expectations
of what this apartment is supposed to be.
It's supposed to be a combination of me and TJ.
And it's supposed to make you feel welcome
and loved and safe.
-I'm scared. -[laughs]
I'm just hoping that when I walk into it, it feels like home.
No?
I'm upset. This was exactly what I was worried about.
All right. Here we go.
Mommy?
Hi.
-Hi. -Hi.
Hi.
-How are you? -I'm Kirsten. How are you? I brought something for you.
Oh, thank you.
Julio is taking me to meet his mom
and his brothers for the first time.
-So that's my brother, Kevin, and that's -Hi, nice to meet you.
my other brother, Jonathan.
Welcome home, okay?
How are you?
Good, and you?
-She said, welcome home. -Thank you.
It's nice here. It's cute. I like it.
Yeah.
We're going to eat, so let's just grab a seat somewhere.
I'm, like, anxious, nervous. I'm feeling everything.
Like, I know it's not going to be an easy dinner.
I mean, this is tough [bleep]
But I have to come clean and tell my mom everything
and just be honest.
-You hungry? -Yes.
I can't wait.
What do you say, have a nice meal, Spanish?
-Buen provecho. -Buen provecho.
[sighs]
So what did Julio told you about me?
He told you a lot or not?
-No? -No.
What did he say?
That I had a girlfriend.
She was like, what?
Yeah.
[all laughing]
She said that, like, when I spent the two months,
she's like, I heard a voice in the background.
She's like, Julio, like, who was that?
-And what was his answer? -A friend.
-I was like--
He's never honest.
Yo, so I'm going to tell her the application that I submitted.
-Papers. -Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
She's like, I have to prepare myself.
-For the hard time. Yeah. -Yeah.
So...
I know.
[Kirsten] I'm upset because this was exactly what I was worried about.
He totally surprised her with this information
and it's so much for her to take it in.
I can see how close they are together.
So I'm worried that it's going to be harder for Julio
to leave his mom behind and move to the Netherlands.
Huh?
Yeah.
-Hi. -Hi.
Meeting Mary's grandparents for the first time,
it's like really nerve-wracking.
I feel so nervous.
What if Brendan will tell my grandpa about the kissing?
* I hold you with my heart
* I want you I want you *
* I want you with my heart
I want you with my heart *
* I want you with my heart
Say babi.
I wanna know you're in person that you're saying, "Babi." Say it again.
Babi.
Today is my first day with Mary in the Philippines,
and we're actually on the way to my new hometown.
Part of me doesn't believe it.
It seems so surreal.
I'm feeling pretty excited.
I'm so hot.
My hands are sweating so much.
You are so hot.
No, I mean, like, the weather.
[Mary] We've been kissing a lot on the way home.
But it feels so nice and his lips is very soft.
And it's just so amazing kissing someone you love.
[speaking in Tagalog]
But there's a part of me that worried
because I'm breaking my grandparents' rules.
And I don't know what to do if they found out
that I'm kissing him.
What's that?
-Yeah, it is. -Ah.
Wait, what? What are you talking about?
-Gotcha. -Okay.
So, is it okay if I kiss your sister?
Okay.
Thank you. I understand that.
I'll make sure to ask them for their permission first.
I had no idea this is a rule.
It's just really absurd to me.
Like, I think that I deserve to be able
to kiss her without asking for permission.
But I guess their culture is a lot different than I was expecting.
And I just wish that Mary would have told me beforehand
so I was more prepared to act right.
[Mary] We're here now in Candoni.
Woo-hoo!
How do you feel?
Oh, I'm nervous.
They are good people.
I'm about to see the house for the first time,
and I'm nervous because I've been sending money
to Mary, basically every single penny
that I have saved up to help build this house.
I want it to be, like, perfect.
We're here.
And also meeting Mary's grandparents for the first time,
it's, like, really nerve-wracking.
-[speaking in Tagalog] -[both] Hi.
Mary taught me how to address your elders on video call.
The appropriate way is to grab their hand,
bring it to your forehead, and you say the words,
which means, um...
[bleep] I don't know what that means, actually.
Uh...
How you doing? Give me a hug.
How you doing?
How are you?
-I'll need you guys to translate for me. -Okay.
-It's good. -Okay.
It was good. Yeah, I had a good travel.
Yeah, thank you.
Um...
It's good to be here. It's nice.
It's warm and wet.
When I get out of the car, my glasses are fogging.
So, yeah, it's a lot.
Um...
He's asking what we're doing when we first met on the airport.
Oh, um...
I feel so nervous.
What if Brendan will tell my grandpa about the kissing
and my grandpa will get mad?
If my Lolo feels disrespected by Brandon now,
I don't think he will trust Brandon again.
I don't want to lie, but I'm scared.
I thought you were putting a door here instead of here.
Yeah.
I made specific requests and they weren't followed through on.
I'm leaving everything behind to be with you,
and you can't follow through on this one thing for me.
No, you're supposed to be my partner, and you're failing at it.
I'm scared.
Oh.
So...
Okay.
Yeah. Okay.
I thought we weren't putting a door here.
-I thought you were putting a door here instead of here. -Yeah.
-Why, is there a door here? -Yeah.
[sighs]
This door opens straight into the shower.
So that you can have a wall there.
Why would we put a door here if we're not gonna keep a door here?
It already happened before that. I already told you.
-No, I mean, why wouldn't you put one here? -Because it's from your room.
If we're actually gonna have a door here.
-It's from your room. -Well, exactly.
So...
He didn't put a door on the bathroom paired with
not putting a curtain up or glass on the windows.
So if I needed to go to the bathroom, there is literally
a direct shot of the toilet to the window,
right across from each other.
And the sink is outside the bathroom.
I don't know who designed this layout.
[Tejaswi] So, it's broken.
Mm-hmm. I see that.
It has that lip that I asked you not to put.
-Which? -The lip.
I understand, but I asked you specifically not to have that in here
because I hate it. I can't clean a counter like that.
They didn't do it right. They didn't do any of this right.
Again, if we do that, though, it's gonna waste money.
She expects something else, and that's not a realistic happening in India.
I don't understand the reasoning of anything.
Like, the... the baseboards, it's...
Right there and right over here,
but it's missing in that spot.
-And it's missing over here, too. And right there. -Because--
Like, I don't understand.
Why would they have a baseboard missing right there?
If they decided to put a baseboard, why would you half-ass it?
-Okay. -Why would you not do the whole thing?
Fine.
-Sure. -Yeah.
I hate this. They did it.
They half-assed everything, and it's done very poorly.
I think that they ripped him off.
I think that they didn't do a good job,
and I made specific requests,
and they weren't followed through on.
It's stuck.
To see what that could be up there.
What's that?
Why is the door in that doorway a different height?
Which door?
-All three doorways right there. -This is not a door.
-It really drives me nuts. -Oh.
Obviously.
I'm upset with this whole build.
I'm trying to relax but I couldn't even [bleep] pee
because you left that doorway wide open and there's not
a curtain over there so I can't freaking pee.
No, this was you. You came in yelling at me.
Tejaswi, it's the fact that I'm giving up my family.
I'm giving up everything in my life.
No. Not everybody gives up family.
-Everybody... -You're not giving up your family.
No, it's the fact that you don't respect what I'm doing.
I'm leaving everything behind to be with you,
and you can't follow through on this one thing for me.
No, you're supposed to be my partner, and you're failing at it.
No, I do understand that, which is why I was
cutting you some slack, but you came in here acting like a dick.
Oh, no, but you can just act like this.
This is not how I want to be treated for the rest of my life.
This is not the man I want to marry.
[Kirsten] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
When do you want to talk to your mom about
the possibility of moving to Mexico City?
Armando's mom visited here before and she did not have
a good experience.
[speaking in Spanish]
I'm gonna go change.
On our first night together, I always imagined
it was gonna be steamy.
There's a big spider right there.
-Um... What is that? -[gecko cackles]
[gecko cackles]
You've only been face-to-face with this guy
for, what, like, two months?
And you think you can live with this guy?
Would you be open to us living alone?
If you want to live separate, like, what is the point
of being in a relationship then?
We could see how it is for a couple of months.
-Yo, you're gonna wait, bro. -[car honks]
The last few months have been really hard.
But neither one of us is ready to give up this relationship.
Daniel could try to paint this perfect life,
but I'll see through all the crystals and the smoke.
Baby, that's even shorter than your other dress.
I want Holly to dress modest because men
look at her like she's a piece of meat.
I feel, like, humiliated. Other people heard him say it.
I really felt betrayed.
I'm just asking you to say you heard me,
and you will not do it!
Why won't you just say that you heard me?
[sobs]