[man] Previously on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way.
I feel like, right now, I have the energy to have a kid.
There's a lot that's happening since you've moved here, right?
You're still getting to know each other.
-This is so high stakes. -[woman] Yeah.
[woman] You all got married real fast.
Take all of this in.
You haven't even been in DR for a year.
[Wayne] Yeah.
I just wish you would have told me.
That's all I'm saying.
It's almost like you don't see the severity of it.
When you get ready to really apologize, why don't you tell me?
[dramatic music playing]
[Mary speaking]
To be physically controlled where I can look, who I can speak to,
I don't think anyone should have to live like that.
I want you to trust that I can look and talk to anyone
without leaving you.
[sobs]
[dramatic music playing]
How do I get out of here please?
Thank you.
[dramatic music playing]
You know? But--
[sighs]
I felt betrayed. Like...
Because I felt like in every decision I've made,
he's been like a huge influence.
Like I always keep him in mind.
It's not like a selfish thing that I just do.
We were supposed to go on our honeymoon.
And that's fine. It's not even a big deal.
It's the fact that he wasn't honest about it.
I was just shocked.
I... Nothing of that made sense to me.
And I'm not the sharpest person but...
I don't know what to do.
But our wedding's supposed to be in like a week from now,
and how am I gonna marry someone when they're like...
I don't know what that was.
What kind of person would leave their fiancée
like stuck in the middle of nowhere?
I mean, like he knows I don't know my way around here
and he just took off.
I should put shoes on.
There might be a needle out here or something.
He's so concerned about my safety, but at that moment,
I'm just like in the gutter,
just like on the side of the road
and he didn't even come get me.
I'm really shocked by that.
I mean, was I... Was I bullying him?
Was I pushing him too much?
I don't know how it escalated like that.
[dramatic music playing]
Even in person, I feel like I'm still not good enough
for your trust.
[crying]
[dramatic music playing]
Do you have an inhaler? She has asthma.
Mary, stop.
-Stop. -[crying]
I can't breathe.
Stop.
Can we just...
You okay?
[Zara speaking foreign language]
[in foreign language]
I just feel bad.
I feel like I could have tried to confront her
a little bit more gently.
But when Mary told me before
that I can't look at girls at church,
it's bull [bleep].
Like I can't be limited in what I can do.
It...
I was okay with it back when I was in America,
but we've made this like promise
that we're not gonna do that anymore.
It really does hurt me, 'cause when I met Mary,
I was in a point in my life where I was like done with everything.
I had an ex who cheated on me.
I had a mom who was using.
I didn't feel like I was good enough for anyone,
not even myself,
and I tried to take my own life.
[sniffles]
[Brandan] Mary reached out for the first time.
Let's just say it was like the literal definition of a life-changer.
I clung on so hard.
[sniffles]
[sighs] I love this woman.
I do.
Which is why it hurts so much
when I feel like I don't have this trust
because it brings me back to this state of mind like I'm not good enough.
And I'm trying really hard to just hold on.
[exhales]
[Brandan] That's why it's so hard.
[sighs]
[Mary] I can't stop myself from overthinking.
I'm trying to stop this but I can't.
I'm afraid that...
Brandan will leave me even though...
I love him so much.
Are you okay?
I'm sorry.
[sniffles] It's okay.
Mary, look at me.
I love you, okay?
I trust you and I really love you.
You know that, right?
Is there anything you wanna say right now?
I want her to say that she does genuinely trust me
so that we can be together, married forever.
Right now, that is the most important thing to me.
I really need that.
Sorry.
Don't be sorry.
Sorry is not the right answer.
I feel bad for Mary working herself up
into a panic attack
and I know that she feels bad,
but she doesn't trust me.
I need her to tell me that she trusts me.
Are you done for the day?
Mmm-hmm.
Yeah.
I've been loyal to Mary for over two years.
I've left America. I've left my family.
[Brandan] And I don't want us to fight.
When I got here in person,
I was able to trust her with her friends,
even though they were guys.
If she can't trust me the same way,
that makes me think, "Where is this going?
What is our future gonna be like?"
It makes me have doubts.
My boyfriend's name is Sarper
and he lives in Istanbul, Tuürkiye.
I think you guys are gonna love him.
He's like really down to earth.
He... Our connection is amazing.
Thanks Dan.
How long after today would we be able to start this process?
We could do that in 15 days.
If we do get pregnant right away,
we're gonna have to make sure that we're on the same page to have a baby.
And that's where I'm really scared.
[upbeat music playing]
[singer] ♪ All my girls bad, Doing bad things ♪
♪ Big Birkin bags, They causing big bang ♪
-Hi. -[woman] Hi.
[woman] Hi. How are you?
My name is Shekinah. I'm 41 years old.
And I live in Los Angeles, California.
-[woman speaking] -Thank you.
We're gonna get out down there at the lobby.
In Los Angeles, there's always something going on.
There's always a party.
There's always a premiere.
Thank you.
I co-host events, and it's basically my job
to bring attractive people to just be a part of the event
and the atmosphere.
-Hi, babe. Thank you. -Good to see you.
-Should we go in? -[man] Yeah.
Okay.
So if you've ever been to an event
where the vibe just feels right,
it's usually because of someone like me.
[singer] ♪ Muscles with designer tat ♪
♪ If you want my number Send that CashApp ♪
The fashion show is gonna be so good tonight.
People are always shocked
when I tell them how I was raised,
which is what I want. [chuckles]
[singer] ♪ Ah, look ♪
My sisters and I.
All six of us.
I was raised in the Amish lifestyle.
I grew up in Tennessee
and I'm the oldest of six girls.
My parents weren't born Amish,
but they loved the Amish lifestyle
and they had a lot of Amish friends
and they decided to just raise us like Amish.
We all had long hair.
We weren't allowed to cut our hair.
No makeup, of course.
I remember so many times that I would hide behind the couch
and color my nails with markers.
I'd put colored chalk on my cheeks.
I always loved beauty. I always loved makeup.
I was definitely the most rebellious
out of all of the girls.
And I kind of wore down my parents,
eventually causing them to leave the Amish lifestyle.
I feel like this was such an extreme
that I wanted to go to the opposite extreme
and be as glamorous as possible.
My life is entirely different now
than from the way that I was raised,
and it's completely on purpose. [chuckles]
[upbeat music playing]
[singer] ♪ Hey! Yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
♪ Oh ♪
[Shekinah] Let's get some gold leafing in here.
This is full of antioxidants
to give you a nice glow for tonight.
Co-hosting events is a side hustle.
I have my own business.
I'm an aesthetician
and I've been licensed for over 20 years.
It feels really messy
but it actually peels off really clean.
I came to LA 13 years ago.
I ended up here by chance.
And the longer that I've lived in LA,
the more LA I've become.
[knocks on door]
-[man] Hey. -Hi.
-How are you? -[man] How are you, babe?
-Hi, babe. -Hi.
But, at heart, I still have
that small town girl mentality.
I found my core group of friends.
We have a lot of the same values.
Actually, none of us are from LA.
I'm so happy to see all of you guys in one place.
These are people that I talk to on a daily basis
and I really value their opinions.
-Cheers. -Oh, yes.
Cheers.
Thanks, Josh, for hosting the... Our get-together.
-Oh, how have you been? -Good.
So much has been going on.
[Shawna] How are you and your man?
[Shekinah] So good.
You guys are gonna love him.
He's like really down to earth.
He... Our connection is amazing.
For now.
[Dan] Yeah.
You've been with a lot of [bleep].
[laughter]
Thanks, Dan.
I just had a series of toxic relationships.
I was starting to think that maybe I would never find
the right person for me,
and that's when I met Sarper.
[singer] ♪ Say what I want Keep dreamin' out loud ♪
[Shekinah] My boyfriend's name is Sarper.
He's 43 years old.
And he lives in Istanbul, Tuürkiye.
[Shekinah] Sarper is a model and a personal trainer.
He's just the most stunning man I've ever seen.
Baby. Good morning from Istanbul.
[Shekinah] I went to Tuürkiye last year with a girlfriend.
I downloaded a dating app
to see what Turkish men are like.
You know how people usually say like,
"You had me at hello,"?
Sarper had me at highlighter. [chuckles]
He was wearing a highlighter
on our first date and I noticed it
down the bridge of his nose and I was like,
"This man is wearing makeup.
He's wearing makeup on a date with me."
That is so cute.
[speaks Turkish]
What are you saying?
Now, you have to translate.
-No. -Yes.
-I forgot what I said. -Oh, my God.
After two really great dates with Sarper, I went home,
but I kept thinking about the connection that we had,
so two and a half months later,
I flew back to Tuürkiye
to spend a whole week with Sarper.
First meal with my baby.
He is just everything that I've looked for.
He's sweet. He's thoughtful. He's really caring.
And our sex life is just like out of this world.
It's insane.
It is so good.
[chuckles]
My attraction and connection with Sarper
is so strong that I am willing to leave this entire life
that I've built in Los Angeles to go and be with him.
I don't know.
There's just so many things that are so special about him.
I mean, how long have you known him?
[Shekinah] For like five months.
-Yeah. -[Josh] That's crazy.
I mean, I haven't known him for very long
but that's one reason to go, you know?
Sarper and I talked a lot about the different options
that we had to be together,
and we landed on me moving to Tuürkiye as the easiest one.
My daughter's off at boarding school
and you can't really get to know somebody
just on vacations,
so you have to actually live with them
to really get to know them.
I wanna be all in, you know?
That's kind of just my personality.
I know, but not all the relationships in the past
have gone as smoothly as they could have.
I know.
Shekinah's track record with men
has been a little bit iffy.
I am concerned
that if she's gonna get into a relationship
where she's in a different country,
there's no way to come in
and help her through any kind of situation
that she might be in.
I feel like of all the guys that she's been with,
he's not controlling or possessive.
He's not trying to change her.
Well, I don't know about that.
He told Shekinah that she has to weigh a certain weight.
-What? -Shekinah?
Told Shekinah that she has to change her makeup.
He told Shekinah that she has to change her hair color.
-Oh, my God. -He is controlling then.
I'm training with a trainer here
and my goal has been to gain muscle and to get bigger.
And since I met Sarper, he is like...
Likes the opposite aesthetic.
So he's just been telling me, you know,
like, "You should look more lean.
And 128 would be perfect for your height."
[Josh] But the problem is it starts with one.
-[Shawna] Yeah. -When... Like the weight,
then the makeup, then the hair.
Then it's the clothes and... It's too much.
I've had some, you know, really bad experiences
in relationships
and it's definitely taught me
some really serious and valuable lessons.
But there's so many things about Sarper that lets me know
that he is different from my exes
and I know that this is a once-in-a-lifetime connection.
And if I don't take this risk,
I may never find this again.
So it's something that I have to do.
[upbeat music playing]
[in Spanish]
My friends, Sanja and Lizette,
went back to New York a few days ago
and I was really sad to say goodbye to them.
But they really offered me some perspective
on whether or not going through the fertility process
right now is the best decision.
[in Spanish]
Hmm.
[in Spanish]
Today, we're going to see the same fertility doctor
that we met with a year ago.
At that time, he told me
that the odds of me getting pregnant
with my own eggs were very low.
Yohan wanted to continue to try naturally,
but after nine months with no success,
we have to consider engaging science
and using an egg donor.
-Hi. How are you? -Hi. Good morning.
[Daniele] Good to see you.
-[Yohan in Spanish] -[in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
I'm doing good.
I... Since the last time we spoke,
I've tried to work
on balancing my hormones naturally
and see if that would help with the fertility process.
So I changed my diet.
But we haven't been successful in getting pregnant.
So choosing a donor,
what does that process look like?
Okay. We have pictures of our donors.
So what we do is we try to find someone
that resembles to you.
-Okay. -Okay?
[in Spanish]
It's just gonna form the baby.
But genetically speaking...
[in Spanish]
[chuckles]
So...
[Dr. Rojas speaking]
I don't... I don't know. Like this--
[laughter]
-I'm gray. So I guess... -Okay. Okay.
He's asking how do you want the donor to be? Like...
Well, I want her to be Harvard-educated.
-I want her to be-- -[Dr. Rojas] Wow.
Yeah. I have very high expectations.
I care less about what she looks like
and more about what she does for a living.
Okay. Okay.
[laughter]
So the process itself, I'm obviously being
inseminated or whatever you call it.
-Like-- -A transfer of the embryo.
[Daniele] Yeah. A transfer of the embryo.
[Dr. Rojas] This is how it works.
We extract the eggs.
That's the day that we need his sperm.
-[Daniele] Okay. -All right?
So, probably, you're gonna have six
or eight embryos that we could work with.
[Dr. Rojas speaking]
I just wait to get pregnant?
How long after today would we be able
to start this process?
[Dr. Rojas] If you are...
Agree with that donor, we could do that in 15 days.
Okay.
[Dr. Rojas] If we start the process today,
the rate of that success, because of her age,
is around 65% to 70%.
I mean, I would suggest to do it fast
because the longer she waits,
the rate will become lower with all...
Throughout those years.
I had gotten the paperwork around cost for me before.
It was $10,500.
So a part of that,
I think it's a thousand for that...
For the donor.
So $10,500 for my process
and then I also have to pay the donor $1,000?
-Okay. -[in Spanish]
I don't have $11,000 earmarked for this right now.
So we have to figure out a way to pay for it,
which basically means that I have to figure out
a way to pay for it.
But now that I know how real this possibility is,
it's making me really nervous.
Yohan and I have some fundamental differences
when it comes to raising a family.
So it's gonna be a hard
conversation that we have to have.
Yeah. I'm excited. I'm nervous.
I'm all of the emotions.
But I'm here for you.
Why won't you just let me in and let me be
a part of your life?
I don't wanna be in a relationship with secrets.
Eventually, that's gonna be the demise of it.
It just is.
[Dan speaking]
-[Shekinah] Mmm-hmm. -But I want you to know
like what I really think about you.
I really still do love you.
We should be together.
[dramatic music playing]
[Wayne] I just had to leave just because...
Like emotions are just everywhere.
Like I'm concerned about business.
I'm concerned about Holly.
Thanks for coming back.
I just needed to calm down. That's all.
[Holly] Wait.
You just don't care anymore?
You're just done with me for today?
No, no, baby.
I'm just like over everything. That's all.
[Holly sighs]
[Wayne] When I was dating Holly,
Holly told me that she would never be
with someone that's financially struggling.
So I do think it was a good idea
to tell Holly about my financial situation
because I thought that she wouldn't wanna be with me.
So she's just living in the dark,
not knowing what's happening.
I feel helpless and feeling helpless
is a really hard way to feel.
That's not part of a partnership.
[Wayne speaking]
I don't want you to get over it yourself.
But I'm here for you. Why won't you just let me in
and let be a part of your life?
I don't wanna be a part of your business.
I wanna be your wife.
[Holly] All of a sudden, like I can see that
it's not like he's being mean or cold.
It's that he's feeling really emotional
and that he does not know how to express himself.
But like I don't wanna be
in a relationship with secrets.
Eventually, that's gonna be the demise of it.
It just is.
We're gonna have to talk about this before we get married.
It has to be addressed.
Just give me... Give me... Just give me two minutes.
Two minutes alone?
[mellow music playing]
Shekinah, I wanna talk to you for a minute.
Come with me.
I know you're having your plan to go to Tuürkiye,
but I just wanted to be able to talk to you
just one on one.
Mmm-hmm.
[Dan speaking]
You know, we've been through like
a lot of things in the past seven years.
Like I really want you to be happy.
-Mmm-hmm. -But I want you to know
like what I really think about you.
Uh, so, you know, we...
Like I...
I really still do love you
and...
I just think that we should be together.
Dan, he is the perfect catch.
He's so successful, so sweet, so charming,
and I know that he would be a great partner.
I know that we have like this bond
and this really like emotional attachment,
and that makes it like very special.
And you don't find that every day.
[Shekinah] We have an emotional connection--
We do have an emotional connection, yeah.
but it's more of a friendship.
It doesn't mean we need to be together.
You know how I can treat you.
We already tried to date,
but it didn't feel right for me.
[Dan] I'm not wishing that this relationship
that you're starting with him is not gonna work...
Yeah.
but I hope that's gonna open up your mind...
-in a different way towards me. -Yeah.
I can't even think about that right now.
-There's no way. -[Dan] I know. I know.
-I'm in love with Sarper. -[Dan] I know.
[Shekinah] But I respect what you're saying
and I understand how you feel
and you'll always be a big part of my life.
[Dan] You too.
Thank you for always being there for me.
I love you so much.
I love you.
[Dan] That's so sweet.
Aw.
I definitely worry that I'm making another mistake,
just like all the other ones that I have
with all the wrong guys I've chosen.
But I'm trying to look on the positive side of this
and believe that Sarper is different
and that this is gonna be the relationship
that works out for me.
[Dan] If things are not going in the way
that you thought, you know, I'm still here.
And I will always be here for you.
I hope that you understand, it's hard for me to trust you.
[Brandan] She hasn't been giving me
the reassurance that I needed.
That's still on my mind.
Are we okay?
[dramatic music playing]
-Hey, Lolo. -Hi.
Good morning.
[in foreign language]
Oh.
Bye-bye.
[Mary] Last night, when I have anxiety attack,
I feel ashamed.
I go home.
And just sleep.
[Brandan] How do we get in?
-Through the... Okay. -In the gate, yeah.
[Mary] Because of my past,
I feel like everyone will leave me
no matter what I do.
But Brandan doesn't leave me.
[Mary speaking]
[Brandan] Wow. Big open space here in the middle.
I like the trees and the plants.
They're very pretty.
You even got a basketball court.
-[Mary] Mmm-hmm. -[Brandan] That's cool.
Today, I feel a little bit better.
And my high school memory
is the most happy moment in my life.
I meet my friends.
I showed my talents there.
So I want to share it to him.
And that's the narra tree.
That's the very, very old tree.
That's one of our friends' hang out place.
That's the church.
-[Brandan] Oh, yeah. -[Mary] Mmm-hmm.
It's connected to the school
because it is a Catholic school.
We do mass there before our class.
Mmm-hmm.
I know we left things off pretty iffy last night.
-Are we okay? -Yes.
We're okay now. Don't worry.
I'm okay. I feel good.
It's nice that she wants me to be a part
of her childhood memories
and show me her old high school.
But we can't pretend like nothing happened and
she hasn't been giving me
the reassurance that I needed.
That's still on my mind. I just...
I want us to be genuinely okay again.
-Are we really okay? -Mmm-hmm.
-You sure? -Yes.
But just I hope that you understand,
it's hard for me to trust you like now, today.
Just give me time
because I have this feeling
of no matter how I try,
everyone will leave me no matter what I do.
I completely understand, baby.
I've had people leave me too.
And I know you can't like automatically
just flip a switch and just be like, "Okay, yes,
-I trust him right away." -Yeah.
But I will try harder to trust you.
Thank you.
That is something that I really need.
Just know that I love you.
You are so perfect and the man that I want.
And I really I want my future with you.
-Are you okay? -Yeah.
[chuckles] Why you get teary-eyed?
-That meant a lot to me. -Mmm-hmm.
You mean a lot to me.
I love you so much.
I love you just as much, baby.
-Thank you. -Don't cry.
That means a lot to me.
Thank you for reassuring me.
Don't cry. [chuckles]
I'm trying not to.
[chuckling]
The fact that she's willing to try and trust me,
I really needed her to say those words
because, to me, that is everything.
[dramatic music playing]
[in Spanish]
[upbeat music playing]
[singer singing in Spanish]
Earlier today, we visited a fertility clinic
to learn what the donor egg process looks like.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele] It's crazy to think that we could be pregnant
in a matter of weeks.
But as I hear that, now I have like this reel
going through my mind, and I'm nervous
and I'm not sure if we're ready,
because we're gonna have to make sure
that we're on the same page to have a baby.
Yeah. [in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
If we're not on the same page,
it doesn't matter how much money we have.
[in Spanish]
Yohan has twelve nieces and nephews,
so he's not ignorant to what is involved
with keeping a child alive,
but I don't think that he knows
what's necessary to allow a child to thrive.
What kind of education do we want them to have?
What kind of spiritual practice are they going to have?
Kids need structure and boundaries.
And I think it's gonna be hard for us to bridge that gap.
[in Spanish]
I'm more concerned that
we don't think that the same things are important.
[in Spanish]
[sighs]
I'm frustrated
that we aren't understanding each other.
And that's where I'm really scared.
How are we going to be able to raise a kid
when we can't communicate?
This is[bleep] up.
Like I don't really know what to do.
[in Spanish]
[man] Next time on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way.
I don't think we're gonna have to pay
for the bills next month.
Is there any chance
that we could ask for some help?
I just don't want to ask help.
We're in a hole right now.
I just... [sniffles]
[sighs]
[in Turkish]
In my past, I've dated lots of... Lots of women.
Shekinah is moving to Tuürkiye in a few days,
and to keep Shekinah in my life,
I have to leave that lifestyle behind.
[in Turkish]
[Kirsten speaking]
You can't just be like, you know,
you have three months to make a decision.
[chuckles]
[Kirsten speaking]
'Cause you're saying... you're--
[Kirsten speaking]
Since Yash left the conversation
that we were trying to mend,
I haven't talked to him.
So I can only imagine what he's told his parents.
[in foreign language]
[Kimberly] I won't live in this environment.
I grew up in a toxic household.
I'm not doing it again.
[dramatic music playing]