[woman] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
[Shawna] How are you and your man?
[Shekinah] So, good.
My boyfriend's name is Sarper,
and he lives on Istanbul, Turkiye.
He's sweet, he's thoughtful,
but he told Shekinah
that she has to weigh a certain weight,
that she has to change her makeup.
-What? -Shekinah!
[in foreign language]
Well, I'm trying to be understanding, of course,
with his situation there in the States.
But I also don't wanna get hurt.
-[in foreign language] -[in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
It's hard for me to trust you.
I have this feeling of everyone will leave me
no matter what I do.
I've sacrificed a lot for this woman.
If she can't trust me,
it makes me have doubts.
If you believe something,
it doesn't mean that I have to.
[Tejaswi speaking]
[intense music playing]
[singer] ♪ Ooh, la, la ♪
♪ You make me say whoo-hoo ♪
♪ You make me say La, la, la, la ♪
♪ From dusk to dawn, You turn me on ♪
♪ Baby when you're On my mind ♪
♪ It's ooh, la, la ♪
♪ You make me say, ooh ♪
♪ Ooh, la, la ♪
I'm moving to Turkiye in a few days,
and I am so excited to finally be with Sarper.
But before I go, there's a really
important conversation that I need to have.
-Berto! -Well, wow.
-How are you? -I am good. Good to see you.
-Good to see you too. -How are you?
-You look so handsome. -Good to see you.
-Well, look at-- -Aw.
Look at yourself.
I had my first real relationship
when I was 23-years-old.
And he was Italian
and he was 27 years older than me.
We dated for about four years,
had a beautiful daughter together.
Her name is Sophia.
She's 15 now.
And she is the light of my life.
Things between her dad and I didn't work out.
We split up shortly after she was born.
-How was your trip? -Very good.
Yeah. Your flight was good?
Yeah, my flight was good.
-Long but good. -Yeah.
You know, uh, my little girl is my everything...
Berto has been living in Costa Rica
for about nine years because he opened a hotel there.
So, he kind of co-parents from a distance,
but he does come back often to see Sophie.
You know, now with her being at boarding school,
I just feel like I'm entering a different stage in my life.
And...
Ugh, I feel so nervous right now.
I kind of feel that you wanna tell me something, so...
-[Shekinah] Really? -Yeah, I do.
But it's okay. I mean, you know...
-Okay. -Yeah.
Well, you know how I went
to Turkiye a few months ago?
-Yeah. -In the short time I was there,
I actually met someone.
[Berto] Mmm-hmm.
And I'm actually moving to Turkiye.
Oh, my goodness. You're joking me?
Really.
Wow.
That to me is very fast and very, you know...
It just feels right though.
I feel like when it feels right,
like how much time do you need?
Yeah, but you felt right about the guy before.
And that didn't work out.
What makes you think that it's gonna work out with this guy?
I took this whole year off and I didn't date.
And I was just trying to identify toxic traits
that I have, that had made me keep
finding the same person over and over basically.
So I feel like I'm looking through
more clear lenses now at each person.
[Berto speaking]
Now, she's going for a guy
in a whole different country,
a whole different culture,
a whole different ways of...
You know, of life.
But it's a dramatic decision
for a guy that she doesn't know.
-Your mind is made up. -Mmm-hmm.
No matter what I say,
it's not gonna change anything.
-However... -[Shekinah] Mmm-hmm.
you have a daughter.
And you're not putting your daughter
as a first priority right now.
-Berto, I am, you know why? -No, you're not.
Yes, I am, and here's why.
I wanna show Sophie for the first time
in her life what a healthy relationship looks like.
My daughter Sophie and I have
a really good mother-daughter relationship,
but it might not be very typical.
I don't sugarcoat stuff with her
because I don't wanna paint it like a fairytale.
You know, I want her to know that there's definitely
challenges when it comes to dating,
and she's seen me go through them.
And she has a break every five weeks.
I'll still come back every five weeks
and spend a week with her.
Listen, I'm glad that I sold the hotel in Costa Rica,
and now I have all the time in the world to be with her.
Perfect. It's amazing how things lined up.
-Yeah. -You sold it right
as I'm making this decision to leave.
So now, it's almost like it's like
your turn to come back to the US.
-[Berto] Yeah. -And I can leave.
It feels like a complete double standard that Berto
wants to say that I'm not prioritizing my daughter
because I'm moving to Turkiye,
when he missed so many really important years
of her life by being in another country.
It's just a reminder of why
our relationship didn't work out.
No matter if I'm with you or not,
you're still the mother of my child.
I will always have a special place
in my heart because of that for you.
If at any given time,
you feel that something is not right
on this relationship, you know,
don't hesitate to call me.
Thank you.
It's really emotional for me to hear Berto saying that,
even though he doesn't support my decision,
he will be there for me.
But despite his concerns,
I know that this is the right decision for me.
-Can I give you a hug? -[Berto] Sure.
I appreciate you, Berto.
Thank you so much.
[Kimberly] Can I drive?
Yeah, but...
Yeah.
Our wedding is four days away,
so today, we are going to be meeting
with the wedding decorator at the venue
and moving forward with our plans.
I'm trying to stay positive even though
things got really tense last night with Yash.
Okay. Okay. I can do this.
But TJ and I are good,
which is really all that matters.
Excuse me, sir.
"Swervin', curvin',
hold that rickshaw steady."
Oh, okay. [laughing]
I decided that it's a great idea for me
to drive this car, because I need to learn how to drive in India.
If I feel like I wanna go out somewhere,
I need to be able to do that.
I'm not a bad driver.
Skrrt, skrrt.
Flank you, buddy.
[car honking]
Ooh, did I just hit them?
Oh [bleep] you might need to drive.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Yeah.
[Kimberly] Driving in India is crazy.
There are no rules,
-stop signs are suggestions... -[tongue clicking]
What do you mean...
No. You can't hit a cow.
-That's the only rule. -You can't hit the cow.
Yeah.
I know. That's what I'm saying.
That's the rules.
[Tejaswi speaking]
I'm not a pro at driving in India yet.
-Yeah. -I'll get there.
I'm super excited about going to this venue.
[Tejaswi speaking]
There are a lot of little events leading up
to the actual wedding ceremony,
and they're all taking place
at this venue over the course of two days.
This is the first time
I'm gonna be able to see how things look.
And I'm really anxious to see what TJ has planned.
This is cool.
-Hi. -Hi.
-This is Kim. -[Kimberly] Hi.
-Hi. -Nice to meet you.
[in foreign language]
[Amit speaking]
[in foreign language]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] Okay.
So are they gonna be these chairs and just new covers,
-or are they gonna be whole new chairs? -Okay.
-[Tejaswi speaking] -Mmm-hmm.
-Okay. -Yeah.
[in foreign language]
[Tejaswi speaking]
Yeah, I like lights. I like twinkles.
Or just maybe some white lights or something.
So, I like very specific kinds of pinks.
I'm okay with, like, these colors.
Like, this and the white. That's cool.
But I don't want super-hot pink.
-[Amit speaking] -Yeah. No...
-[Amit] These are all pink. -definitely not those seat covers.
[Amit speaking]
[laughing]
And for, like, this part,
he doesn't have to try to find that pink
because I think that might be kind of hard.
He can do white.
My dream wedding would be in a forest
with lights hanging from the trees, candles everywhere,
lots of white, with ballet pink accents.
But in India,
you go all out,
like, it's every color.
But, it seemed like the decorator knew
exactly what I wanted and he could do it.
This is actually...
And I have a good feeling about this place.
I'm interested to see how it's gonna pull together
because it seems like in a way,
I still am gonna have like a white wedding
-because it's just gonna be like... -Yeah.
everything is white within the pops of pinks.
So I think it'll look really nice.
I feel a lot better now.
I really do.
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] It has that lip that I asked you not to put.
I asked you specifically not to have that in here
because I hate it. I can't clean
a counter like that.
The baseboards, like, I don't understand,
why would they have a baseboard missing right there?
If they decided to put a baseboard,
why would you half-ass it?
-[Tejaswi] Okay. -Why would you not do the whole thing?
You can't just be like... You know,
you have three months to make a decision.
Because you're saying... You are saying...
[Kirsten speaking]
[dramatic music playing]
A couple days ago, I had a conversation with Kirsten
and I told her that I couldn't move
to the Netherlands any time soon.
And she's upset right now. But...
I had a conversation with my mom
and she basically told me not to leave.
She said that right now
it's a difficult time for my brothers.
You know, they kind of need someone there
to keep them on the straight path.
So, I can't leave.
[Julio] Ah, there she is.
[Kirsten] Hi.
[Julio] How are you?
I'm doing okay.
Once you left, my mom,
she, like, broke down to me
and said that she really needs help with the stuff at home,
with my brothers, and, you know, it's difficult.
I'm being pulled from both sides, you know.
[Kirsten speaking]
[Julio] Kirsten, think--
I messed up.
[Kirsten speaking]
[Julio] When the time is right, I think, uh,
obviously that's gonna be my end goal.
But for now, I just think I have stuff at home
that I have to work out with my family, you know.
[Julio] You can't put a timeline on things.
You can't just be like, you know,
"You have three months to make a decision."
Well, I don't think I cannot wait another year
because mentally it's so hard for me.
That's where you... If that's the way you wanna look at it, then...
I guess we'll just end it on that note.
I am completely shocked about his whole attitude.
Julio is just totally giving up on this relationship.
It's like he doesn't care at all.
It's so, like,
I don't see you, like, sad or something.
It seems like it's so easy for you.
So easy.
How do you not know that once we finish this conversation,
I'll go in the bathroom and ball my eyes out?
You don't know that.
[Julio] How--
[Julio] I'm feeling hurt. I'm feeling, like, I let you down.
I feel like I'm the worst person
in the [bleep] world, like...
it's not a good feeling to watch you cry
and not being able to be there for you.
Like, it sucks, it's a horrible feeling.
So no--
Because you're saying... You're--
That's disrespectful.
I'm not smiling, I was just like flabbergasted, like,
in disbelief as to what you were saying.
[Julio speaking]
[Julio] I'm sorry.
Well, I think it's best for both of us
to just, you know, just break up.
Like what else would we be doing moving forward?
It's not a good feeling knowing that I broke someone's heart.
I feel like an[bleep].
I still love Kirsten but I think that
we have to really, you know, assess the situation
and really look at things for what they are.
I feel like me and Kirsten were living
in a fantasy world for a lot of our relationship.
You know, the last couple of months
have been difficult.
If things were going, you know,
better with me and Kirsten,
I think we would've been able to make it work.
Well I think, um, you know,
that we both kind of spoke already
what we wanted to say
and let everything out, right?
So, let's end it.
[Brandan] I don't think we're gonna have enough to pay
for the bills next months.
In America, every single time I got paid,
I would send her most of my paycheck,
but I don't know what I'm gonna do from here on.
We could ask for some help.
I don't want to ask help.
[traditional music playing]
-Careful. -Oi.
-Watch your step. -Mmm-hmm.
Watch your step, you're new here.
After I told Brandan that I will try my best
to trust him, I am so happy
that me and Brandan were able to make up.
And there's the house.
-[Brandan] Oh. -[Mary] Yeah.
Now, I'm taking Brandan to my old home
because I wanted him to see
where I grow up before I met him.
It's not as bad as I thought it would be.
[Mary speaking]
All of the things inside the house got ruined.
We lose everything.
Let me look in here.
-[Mary] It's the kitchen. -[Brandan] Mmm-hmm.
That's why my grandparents are staying at the new house
me and Brandan built.
When the typhoon came,
we already starting to build the house.
It's a safer place
because it's a higher area for them to stay.
It looks like you just put it back up together really well,
-honestly. -[Mary] Yeah.
I really appreciate being able to build a new house,
but we need to find a way to make money
because we pretty much used, like, all the money I had left
to build that.
I was the breadwinner for me and Mary.
In America, every single time I got paid,
I would send her most of my paycheck, if not, all of it,
to pay for the house, pay for the bills,
and for her to get data for her phone,
but I'm not working anymore, so that's really scary.
We have 17,000-ish Filipino pesos.
I don't think we're gonna have enough to pay
for the bills next month.
So, what do you think we're gonna be able to do?
I can make necklaces and we can sell it.
[Brandan] Okay. That can help.
[Mary] But it's like a small amount
of money.
Is there any chance
that we could go to your grandpa
for, like, a loan or something?
No, he can't. He can't... He can't do that.
Why can't he?
Because he doesn't have a lot of money.
Just don't depend on my grandparents
because they have their own problems.
We're in a hole right now.
I was proposing the idea that we could ask for some help.
I just don't want to ask help anymore from him because...
-So please just... [sobbing] -Okay.
Yeah, I get that, I'm not making him stressed.
Okay.
You just need to stop talking, just breathe
for a second, okay?
-Calm down. -Just...
I'm not going to him with this.
-I never talked... -He deserves to be happy.
-[Brandan] Yeah, he does. -Because he sacrificed a lot
when I was a kid.
He sent me to college.
I don't want him to be stressed.
Well, it seems to me you're the one stressing.
I definitely wasn't expecting Mary to react this way.
It's... a bit much.
I don't know what he makes on the farm
or what he spends his money on,
but I know he didn't spend it on the house.
I'm the one who did that.
So, a little loan
could go a long ways for us.
Can I say something now?
He didn't pay for your college,
you had a scholarship.
He's the one who give us food.
Without any interruption, please.
-I just want to explain, he's the one... -[Brandan] Well, I get...
-who gives us food, don't make him like that... -[Brandan] Yes, I get that.
But I'm talking about money. I'm talking about money.
You don't know anything about the sacrifice
of my grandfather.
In America, you don't struggle like them, like us.
Even though he sacrificed a lot,
so have I.
Other countries think that America's, like, great
and everyone there is just rich, and happy, and fat.
No, it's not like that.
In America, everyone struggles too.
I wasn't always having a roof over my head.
I wasn't always able to put food in my stomach
but I tried my best to still provide for you,
to give you a place to live.
[Mary] I'm thankful with that, but you don't understand.
I know how Brandan struggled
and I want to cry when I saw him like that,
but people in America have government support,
like food stamps.
Here in the Philippines, not all people will get support.
They don't have roof when it rains.
They don't have something to cook with,
and also toilet to poop.
They poop everywhere, poop in the river,
so he didn't experience the real struggle
here in the Philippines.
I don't want you to ask my grandpa for help
because I feel guilty about it.
[Brandan] I'm not gonna put you in that sort of position.
We can find a way to work it out ourselves.
Maybe we can just use this as an opportunity to grow for it.
Yeah.
Mary is my future.
She is the one that I love
and I want us to grow old together.
So, I'm going to make sure
that we're happy and successful.
To me, all this struggling is definitely worth it.
Thank you for understanding.
You know I love you, right?
[Mary] Yeah, I know.
Thank you.
In my past, I've dated lots of, lots of women.
But to keep Shekinah in my life,
I have to leave that lifestyle behind.
[quirky music playing]
[woman in foreign language]
My name is Sarper.
I am from Istanbul and I am 43 years old.
[woman in foreign language]
[Sarper] For one year, I'm modeling right now.
I work export and import before.
It was by chance, I mean, someone offered me
to be a model for a brand.
[woman in foreign language]
I love to expose my body, you know.
So, being sexy on cameras or...
[in foreign language]
Makeup.
[Sarper] I am so obsessed with my body
and how I look.
...at all.
[in foreign language]
So, a few years ago,
I decided to try fitness and bodybuilding.
[upbeat music playing]
My first trainer in the gym asked me to...
...my body improved too quickly.
Even the scale is one to eight, mine was twelve.
I mean, he was impressed with that.
[in foreign language]
I got my personal training license 10 years ago.
[in foreign language]
But I took it seriously
in last one year.
[in foreign language]
Mete is my best friend.
I know him for approximately 20 years.
We met in gym.
I can give all my secrets to him.
He listens, he give advices.
So, I'm happy that I have him.
[in foreign language]
[Mete in foreign language]
-[in foreign language] -[Mete] Mmm-hmm.
[Sarper in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
I met my girlfriend Shekinah in a matchmaking site.
[singer] ♪ All you gotta do Is cruise ♪
♪ All you gotta do Is cruise ♪
The name was original. "Shekinah."
Her photos, I mean, they were so...
Different.
[singer] ♪ During the flight ♪
Our chemistry and dialogues were so fluent,
like we know each other for many years.
...but I saw that soft side in her
and she saw the soft side of me.
After the first night, she said that she wants
to see me the next night.
The next day, I... I remember
that I was with two women that day.
And I was so exhausted and also I was sick.
So I try to cancel the meeting with her,
but she insist to come and look after me,
and I said, "Okay, you can come if you want that much,"
even though I was sick
and I was with two girls before that.
The sex with... Between us was perfect.
I mean, I wasn't expecting that.
When Shekinah left Turkiye,
to be honest, I wasn't expecting to see her again.
And then she came once more to Turkiye just for me.
We had a vacation like a honeymoon.
It was perfect.
After that week, everything changed for me.
Hi, babek.
I'm thinking about you, missing you.
I hope you sleep good tonight.
I'm always dreaming about you
and I hope you dream about me too.
Shekinah is moving to Turkiye in few days
and, oh my God, it's happening.
I'm so happy.
[Mete in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[Mete in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
In my past, I've dated lots of, lots of women.
Most of them were one-night stands.
I never thought that I will settle down.
But then I met Shekinah.
[in foreign language]
-[in foreign language] -[in foreign language]
And to keep Shekinah in my life,
I have to leave that lifestyle behind.
She deserves that, she wanted me
to be faithful to her.
And I'm trying, I mean...
I mean, this is the longest duration
that I am faithful to a woman.
I mean, I have no sex with no one for 79 days,
I'm counting.
[in foreign language]
[Mete in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
I mean, it's not that easy to giving up bad boy lifestyle,
but I love her.
So I hope I can get used to it
because it will be difficult.
I will do my best, somehow.
I don't know how. We'll see.
[Mete in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[Kimberly] I'm worried about TJ.
I feel like this is all my fault.
[dramatic music playing]
[folk music playing]
[in foreign language]
-[Tejaswi] Hi. -[Kimberly] Hi.
Whatcha doing again?
Pulling some cards.
So...
Uh, sure. For what?
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] Mmm-hmm.
[Kimberly] Hmm.
Yeah, it makes sense.
Yeah.
Since Yash left the conversation
that we were trying to mend.
I haven't talked to him
and I feel like he needed that space from me.
But I still feel like
there's a lot of tension with this family
and I'm feeling super uncomfortable.
Oh, the hostility in my voice.
[in foreign language]
[Kimberly in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
-[in foreign language] -[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
His mom is yelling...
She said, "Don't touch me, don't touch me,"
Which is what I told Yash.
So I know she's talking about me.
So, I can only imagine what he's told his parents
about what happened between us.
[in foreign language]
[Yashawi in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[Yashawi in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[indistinct shouting]
The one thing I wanted was not to be stuck
in the middle of people yelling at me, or about me
in a foreign language that I don't understand.
And they're just being rude.
[Yashawi in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Kimberly] I'm worried about TJ.
I feel bad because I feel like this is all my fault.
But I won't live in this environment.
I grew up in a toxic household,
I'm not doing it again.
[in foreign language]
[dramatic music playing]
[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Sushil in foreign language]
[in foreign language]
[tense music playing]
[woman] Next time on 90 Day Fiance, The Other Way.
I wanna take Armando out of his comfort zone.
[Armando] Oh, my God.
You said you like stress easily
and you can't be with a guy
that cannot support you financially,
but I need to come clean about a few things.
I grew up very poor and I always promised myself
that I would never be in that situation again
ever, ever, ever, ever.
-I love you. -I love you too, honey.
This relationship, it just... It has to work out
because I want her to finally see
that I can choose a great person.
[in foreign language]
[Daniele] I have been waiting
for a long time to have a baby.
I'm like I don't know how many more months
I can do that.
I'm sorry, but physically I cannot be
in an environment like this.
Whenever all of that chaos hits the fan,
it triggers something in me.
Oh, Kim. Kim.
[Kimberly] I'm done.
I'm [bleep] over it.
[dramatic music playing]