[narrator] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way
[speaking in other language]
[in English] I've dated lots of, lots of women.
But to keep Shekinah in my life, I have to leave that lifestyle behind.
[in Spanish]
[in English] He's at the age where people have children. I'm not.
Maybe,
I'm not the right person for him.
I'm here for you, why don't you just let me in
and let me be part of your life?
I don't wanna be in a relationship with secrets.
Eventually that's gonna be the demise of it.
It's just as...
[in Spanish]
[in English] I feel like we have some major differences about
how we should raise a family.
[in Spanish]
[in Hindi]
[Kimberly in English] I won't live in this environment.
I grew up in a toxic household
I'm not doing it again.
[in Hindi]
[In Hindi]
[in English]
What can I do?
Tejas says that this fight started because,
I was wearing jeans with holes in them.
But they've seen me in these jeans many times and haven't said a word about it.
So, I know the reason is because
Yash went back and started talking [bleep] about me.
It feels like Yash is driving a wedge between me and the rest of the family.
[Kimberly] I'm sorry.
[Tejaswi in English]
You're the only one not in the wrong here.
The situation is what it is because of me and Yash at this home.
This is our problem to solve. Not yours.
[Tejaswi in English]
Again I'm sorry, I put you in this situation.
You're just trying to,
understand and solve these issues
because you love your family so much and you love me.
But basically I cannot be in an environment like this.
I grew up in a toxic environment.
There was a lot of yelling and
family meetings kind of turned into chaos quite a bit.
Whenever all of that chaos hits the fan,
it triggers something in me and I feel like I've got to get out of there.
Which is what I was trying to do.
Maybe it's a good thing that I'm going...
I'm going to the hotel for a couple of days.
-[Kimberly] Right. -Yeah.
I love you.
[Kimberly] I'm spending the night in a hotel tonight.
For the Hindu religion
the bride and groom aren't supposed to see each other
for the few days leading up to the wedding except for on wedding events.
So this was pre planned.
But, it makes me a little bit nervous that the next time I see any of them
is gonna be with my parents.
Because, I feel like Yash
is making this more of a toxic environment than it needs to be.
[sighs in exasperation]
I hoped that we would be able to squash this
just before I left, um
but they don't have any intention from what it seems like
uh, working anything out.
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] No.
[Tejaswi] Come.
[in Hindi]
[in English] I don't. I don't want me to touch me at all.
You can talk without having me touch you.
-You can talk to me without touching me. -[in Hindi]
[in Hindi]
[Tejaswi in English]
I feel like, like if I would've shaken hands with Yash
it would have, um, deemed his actions and the way he spoke to me as okay.
And that's not okay. He at least owes me an apology.
He obviously doesn't want me here. So he can [bleep] .
I'm done. I'm [bleep] over it.
I don't wanna get married to that family.
But, I wanna marry TJ.
And he's the only reason why I'm still here.
[music playing]
So, basically what I need to do is fill this suitcase...
Ooh. I'm not good at packing but...
No pressure, but it's gotta be perfect.
I thought I was just here to drive you to the airport.
-Didn't realize this is gonna be packing your bags. -Well I,
still need you to drive me to the airport. But I also need help packing so...
-All right. -Let's get to work, sis.
Today is the day that I'm moving to Turkey.
I'm so excited to finally be with my boyfriend, Sarper.
-Everything looks so organized. -Thanks it is.
Basically if you could just start putting all of that stuff
into this side of the suitcase.
Okay.
[Shekina] My sister, Shariyah is in town and she has offered to drive me to the airport.
Shariyah and I are closest in age.
We talk frequently, but we don't always see eye to eye.
-You're actually doing this. -I know.
Shariyah has booked a flight to come visit me a week after I arrive in Turkey.
Everyone in my family is pretty concerned about this big move that I'm making.
So, I thought that it would be a good idea for Shariyah to come and meet him.
And come back and let everyone know that they have nothing to worry about.
I'm happy for you, because I see that you're so excited.
But, like everything that you have shared with me,
just make me super worried for you.
I don't think that's fair, because it's not everything you've heard.
I've told you lots of positive things about him.
Well, you've also let me read a lot of text messages
where he said something like,
"You know, don't bring this ups again."
And, "I'm alpha."
It's... That's just him throwing a little fit and I thin k it's so cute.
-Immature, you know. -He doesn't do that t about everything.
Just like when he is confronted.
Well, I mean obviously like his authority definitely had an impact on you
because you haven't shared stuff on your social media that you wanted to
because of the way he feels about it.
Sarper refuses to post anything about our relationship on social media.
He says that I would get so many Dms from different women
saying what a bad guy he is, how he is a player.
So, it's a big area of conflict for us.
But, he says, let's wait and talk about this more together.
I do intent to address the social media thing like right away after I get there.
I mean, he's been like a playboy, you know womanizer
and I just want him to make that statement that he is not single anymore.
That's gonna make me really feel like, he's taking it seriously.
And it's going to also make me just trust him more.
Like, you're gonna stand up for yourself
-You're not gonna just him, like... -Of course.
Don't forget all the stuff that I'm telling him he has to change.
Like, he has to stop smoking.
I don't want him to train any woman.
He can't have any female clients.
-Have you told him that? -Yeah.
You always hear about girls like,
getting crushes on their trainers like,
I just... he's so attractive, like I just don't want that.
So, that's like definitely a firm boundary I've put up.
I think the problem is, you have a really bad relationship track record to compare to.
Like, all of the guys that you've been with,
have been like complete [bleep] .
[Shariyah] The fact that Sarper is,
just trying to really like enforce his,
stance like as an alpha is really scary to me.
She wants to believe that she doesn't put up with bad treatment.
But I know how Shekina is in relationships and
I honestly... I don't think it's gonna be any different in this one.
-Once you see us together, you're gonna feel differently. -Why?
You're gonna see who he is as a person versus like some text messages, you know.
[Shekina] I've had some really bad experiences in relationships.
I have had very manipulative people in my life.
People that were very insecure themselves
and then tried to make me very insecure by tearing me down.
But, there is so many things about Sarper that let's me know that
he is different from my exes.
And I know that, I'm finally dealing with like the right person for me.
You can give, like a positive response to our family after you meet him.
And not be...
You should be hoping that he gives me a positive report to report back.
Not that I give a positive report.
I need to come clean about a few things.
Okay.
That is a huge shock to me.
I feel really hurt.
Why did you tell me now? Why not tell me earlier?
I was scared you wouldn't come,
I was scared you gonna leave me you know,
I wanted to take Armando out of his comfort zone.
[Armando] Oh, my God.
[in Spanish]
[in English] Here, they come.
[in Spanish]
[Kenny in English] Today, Armando's Mom is flying back with Hannah to San Felipe
where Hannah is gonna spend two or three weeks with her as she does every summer.
So, our little heart is going away for a few weeks.
[in Spanish]
[Kenny in English] But it is good for Hannah to connect with her family there
in San Felipe. But it also gives Armando and I time
to reconnect now with each other.
[in Spanish]
[in English] Because all the talk and everything about going through surrogacy
it has seem to put Armando and I in a pressure cooker
that I've never felt before with him.
[in Spanish]
[in English] I wish they could've stayed longer.
But I want you.
All right. Ready to party?
-No kids, no in-laws, no adults. -Shut up.
[Armando] It's busy out here.
[Kenny] Now that Armando's Mom and Hannah are gone
I wanna show him that Mexico City has a lot to offer.
There's options here and one of them is going to a gay club.
I'm a little nervous.
Is it the spot?
He grew up in a very small town so
so he has not had much exposure to the LGBTQ+ community.
And I want to get him out of his comfort zone.
I know how he is and I know that he
could be um, a nervous Nelly.
-Are you nervous? -A little bit.
Why?
-Your home. -[Armando] I know.
I'll get into it after I drink.
This is my first time in the gay club.
It's a new experience for me.
So, I'm a little worried.
But it's nice to see, you know that there's others around me that are
just like me and you know that I can feel comfortable around.
I thought I'd be the oldest one.
But there's some older than me I'm surprised.
Well, you brought me to the senior citizen gay bar.
All right.
-Cheers, babe. -To all men.
To all men.
[playing song in other language]
[in English]
[Armando] It's my first time seeing a stripper and so I really don't know how to act.
Secretly I'm like, "Take it off. Take it off."
-I'm embarrassed alone. -Go, go, ooh, ooh.
So I can look up and down?
Where did he go? Oh.
Wow!
I think he's coming to frisk you.
[Armando] Oh, my God.
Even though this is my first time being here, getting a lap dance
if I'm being honest, I absolutely really like it.
But, I'm pretending that I'm more uncomfortable than I really am.
And I'm doing that because I don't wanna disrespect Kenny but,
For someone who doesn't know what they're doing, you know what you're doing.
Oh, my God.
I'm crazier than you think.
Maybe.
Give me a kiss.
-No. -Yes.
This is exactly the kind of night, we needed out,
you know, super gay, super fun, forget about the worries we've been dealing with.
And just have a good time.
It's really nice to see that Armando is leaning towards moving to Mexico City.
Because I can see a little glimmer in Armando's eye that I think he's liking it.
[Kenny] Oh, you want more?
I thought you only liked blonde old guys.
[song playing in other language]
Mmm?
The wedding is in two days and I'm still thinking
about that fight at the office,
[Wayne] So I decided to take Holly out to dinner because
But it's gonna be hard being vulnerable with Holly because I feel disappointed in myself.
[grunts]
-It's quite nice here, huh? -Yeah, it's very nice.
-Good evening guys, how are you? -Hi.
-For now I get something to drink? -I want a Pina colada please.
-Thank you. -And I'll have a, a Drought.
Thanks, thanks, pal.
[Holly] Since the incident at Wayne's office
I'm kind of feeling a little bit awkward,
we can't just talk about it, we can't just sweep it under the rug.
The days leading out to my wedding should be the best time of my life.
And it's not because of all this.
[Wayne] Um...
I know, you've like given up everything in America for me.
So I just thought like, you know I need to come clean about a few things.
Okay.
You know like...
Over the last year, I've been telling you like, business hasn't been going great.
But I haven't told you the extend that work has been a bit bad.
I'm not like millions of Rands in the debt top of figure you know, but I mean...
[Holly] What are you saying?
I'm not saying, like I'm broke with no car, no house, you know what I'm saying
it's not gone that extend but,
it is going bad, like it is
my business, my business is nearly half the profit of where it used to be.
-Like late? -Yeah.
[Wayne] So, I've got some people in my back for that.
I felt really hurt that he concealed
his financial situation from me.
When I start talking to Wayne over the phone,
I really made it adamantly clear with Wayne
that I needed a partner in life that is financially responsible.
Because, I grew up very poor.
And I always promise myself
that I would never be in that situation again, ever, ever, ever, ever.
So, to hear those words, it's tough, it's hard.
So basically, you're saying that, like...
Like, you can afford for me to stay here.
But, like, it's just not gonna be like we planned.
-Is that what you're saying, basically? -Yeah.
Yeah.
And then, you know, like, I won't be able to work without a work visa.
So that could-- I don't know how long-- I don't even know laws.
Yeah, which adds...
[stuttering] Which adds, like, extra pressure on me.
And me losing everything, makes me feel less...
You know, like, less of a man.
[sighs]
And...
I have a wife to support, you know.
I have to make this work.
Every time I love something in life,
it sort of gets taken away from me.
That's just how my life's been rolling, you know.
So, having to support Holly,
just makes me work double as hard.
So I'm gonna have to prove myself to her.
You know, at the end of the day,
if I've got to work three jobs to support you, that's what I'll do.
Yeah, so, why did you tell me now? Why not tell me earlier?
I was scared you wouldn't come.
I was scared you're gonna leave me, you know.
You still have to tell me stuff.
I trusted you with like, everything by flying down here.
-And I put all my trust in you, like 100% -Yeah.
I feel like, why don't you trust me back in the same level?
[Wayne] Look, I need to work on that.
-It's difficult. -Yeah.
Now, knowing Wayne's financial challenges,
it does worry me a lot.
I didn't know he was in debt.
He hid that from me.
So, finding out that he's in a lot of debt
is a huge shock to me.
Thank you so much, eh.
[Holly] It makes me concerned,
does he not handle money correctly?
Is he bad with money?
I don't know what the future holds.
Because it takes money to be safe in South Africa.
-So, do you like it? -Mmm-hmm.
[woman in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[in English] You're bringing me another woman to have a threesome?
[Daniele in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[in English]
[in Spanish]
[woman in Spanish]
[chuckles] [in English] Nice to meet you.
[in Spanish]
[in English] I've been saying, if we just lived with a translator,
that it would be so much easier.
I've shared that with Yohan.
And this is a sign that he's heard me.
And he wants to do something about that.
That's a relief. Because I thought
you were bringing me another woman to have a threesome.
[laughs] I was very nervous.
I didn't know how far the surprise was going.
Okay.
[in Spanish]
[Giselle in English] He says that he wants to discuss with you,
the idea of the baby,
whether you want to do it right away
or if you want to wait a few months.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] We've been trying since we got married,
and I haven't become pregnant.
And so, every month...
My breasts are tender, or I'm emotional, or...
And every month, you're like, oh, you have a baby?
Oh, you have a baby? Oh, you have a baby?
And that's very hard for me.
And like, I don't know how many more months
I can do that.
[Giselle in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] You continuously saying it,
makes me feel like, I'm consistently failing.
[inhales and exhales heavily]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
[Yohan speaks]
[in English] Okay.
I can agree to that.
I'm willing to try naturally for a few more months.
But, at the same time, I recognize that,
the more time I take, the harder it's going to be for me to conceive,
whether it's naturally or artificially.
[in Spanish]
[in English] I don't want you to think that,
I don't respect the way your family raises children.
I think that, it came across that way in the car.
And that's not what I'm saying.
What I'm used to as a teacher
and as like, a helicopter mom,
is very different
from what you've experienced.
You have a beautiful family.
And I love the way that your family raises their kids.
I'm not... I'm not knocking that.
I'm just saying, like, in my experience,
I've raised thousands of kids,
at this point, over 20 years.
And I see like, what choices lead to what outcomes.
I want the best outcome for our family.
[Giselle in Spanish]
[Yohan speaks]
[Daniele in English] Having a third party to mediate
when things are lost in translation, has been really helpful.
We're just living together for the first time.
We're still really trying to learn how to communicate,
towards a common goal.
I just hope that Yohan and I can work together
to build the vision
that we have for our family.
[Daniele in Spanish]
[both speaking in Spanish]
[in English] Say, "It's coming. I'm learning."
[in English] It's coming. I'm learning.
I've been waiting for this day. It's finally here.
[girl speaking]
Some stuff I heard about him upstairs, were pretty weird.
Now, I have a different opinion on him.
-Hey, Sof. -[Sofie] Yeah?
[Shekinah] Can you come up here, honey?
-Yeah, are you guys, ready? -[Shekinah] Aw.
-Yes. -Okay.
We're gonna start carrying everything downstairs.
-Is your suitcase already by the door? -Yeah, it's done.
Okay. Perfect.
My daughter, Sofie, has a flight to catch back to boarding school.
And I'm catching my flight to Turkey, shortly after.
-Honey, get out of the road, please. -[Sofie] Yeah.
I went to boarding school for the last year and a half of my high school years.
And, it was really a turning point in my life.
Because, previous to that, I had been home schooled.
Sofie had always heard
me talking about my great boarding school experiences.
So, once Sofie became a teenager,
that was something she was really interested in trying out.
Sofie's really into science
and the school has a big emphasis on that.
And she loves to surf. It's right on the ocean.
So, it's a perfect fit for her.
You know that I'm gonna be back in five weeks to see you, right?
Mmm-hmm. Yeah.
And, you're gonna have...
the option of, you know,
splitting your summer in Turkey
and then part of it with your dad.
-We'll work all of that out. -Okay.
[Shariyah] Can't believe you're doing this right now.
I mean, I've been waiting for this day.
It's finally here.
I feel like you're more nervous than I am though,
-to be honest. -[Shariyah] I... I... I think I am.
[Sofie speaking]
[Shekinah] I am?
I don't know. Some stuff I heard about him upstairs, were pretty weird.
The whole Alpha stuff is just so like, ugh...
Okay, Sofie.
-You're so sweet, hearing all that. -I didn't know any of that.
I didn't know any of that before.
And now, I have a different opinion on him.
Great.
If anyone straight told me, like, I'm the alpha,
I probably would throw up. Just saying.
-Like, you know, just saying. -That's not what he said. He was... [clicks tongue]
-Oh. -I'm pretty sure he has said that to you.
Shariyah, I wish you wouldn't have said that.
-Hey, I didn't know Sofie was listening. -[sighs]
I am kind of annoyed
that Sofie overheard my conversation with Shariyah.
Sofie didn't really have concerns before,
and now she has a bad impression of him,
based on some of the text messages.
I wish she didn't have any doubts in her mind,
especially right before I'm leaving.
[Shariyah] All right, honey.
-Love you. -'Kay. Love you too.
Me and my mom have, like, a different
type of mother and daughter relationship.
She's like my sister, but also like my mom.
She still tells me what to do and everything,
but she's less strict.
[Shekinah] Let's go this way.
Seeing my mom's past relationships
has definitely, like, taught me a lot.
And I do worry that this could be like the others and be a mistake.
I'm happy that she's happy.
But I hope that she's making the right decision.
-Okay, I love you. -I love you too, honey.
[Sofie speaking]
I know. I'm gonna miss you.
I'm gonna miss you too.
[Shekinah] I hope you didn't let Shariyah's negativity get to you.
[Sofie] But I do think that she had a point.
I just... I hope you don't overlook the signs that he may be giving you.
You know, like...
You taught me so much about,
you know, being my own person and being independent.
And I hope that you follow your own advice.
[Shekinah] Oh.
I know.
I love you too.
[Shekinah speaking]
I know I've made a lot of mistakes in the past.
But, I feel like my future's gonna be different.
I think so too.
-I love you. -I love you too.
[Shekinah] Okay.
-Have a safe flight, honey. -Okay.
[Shekinah] I've disappointed not only myself,
but also Sofie in the past,
by staying in relationships that weren't healthy for too long.
So, this relationship, it just... it has to work out.
I want her to finally see
that I can choose a great person
that is my perfect match.
And I think that's Sarper.
* I keep searching *
* I keep searching... *
* For you *
Taking risks for love is just who I am.
I've given up everything.
And I'm not really leaving room
for like, what if this doesn't work out.
I don't even wanna think about that.
I'm just hoping for the best.
* I keep searching *
-* I've been looking for you * -* I keep searching for you *
* I keep searching for you *
-Oh, hi, Kim. -[Curt] Hi.
My dad and stepmom have just arrived in Jaipur.
They're here to celebrate something special,
and I'm like, I don't even know if I wanna be here anymore.
TJ and I haven't really talked since last night.
But, he did send me a text message,
asking how I was feeling.
'Cause my dad and stepmom just arrived in Jaipur,
and they're about to check into the hotel.
And, I feel really bad.
But they have no idea what they're walking into.
The way the past few days have gone...
Um...
It'll just feel nice to be... with somebody that...
a family anyways that actually loves you.
[Lisa laughs] Oh.
-Hi. Thank you. -Thank you.
[Kimberly] I don't know if I'm ready to see them yet.
-[Curt] Getting done up right. -[laughs]
That's beautiful. Wow.
Thank you.
-Oh, hi, Kim. -[Curt] Hi.
-[Lisa] How you doing? -[Kimberly speaking]
-How are you? -Look at yourself.
-You look beautiful. -[Curt] Tired still?
How are you?
-Yeah. -[Kimberly] I'm okay.
[Lisa] Oh.
[Kimberly] I missed you guys.
We missed you too. We missed you too.
So do you wanna drop stuff off upstairs and...
[Lisa] Yeah. All right. Sounds good.
[Kimberly] I'll see you guys in a second.
-[Lisa] Okay, sure. -[Curt] Sure.
[Kimberly sniffling]
They're excited to see the wedding.
They're excited to be here.
And my stepmom asked me,
if I've had a good week.
And I didn't say anything.
Because I'm scared, if I tell them that,
they're gonna be hard on TJ.
And TJ's not doing anything wrong.
All right. It's time to go.
[Kimberly] All right.
-[Curt] You about ready? -[Lisa] So Kim, what do you have on your agenda?
-[Kimberly] Um, just shopping. -For the wedding.
-Okay. -[Lisa] Sounds good.
I don't even know what to do.
They're here to celebrate something special,
and I'm like, I don't even know if I wanna be here anymore.
[Lisa] There's a cow. There's a cow back there.
-[Curt] They're all over the place. -Oh, my gosh.
We saw two so far.
[Kimberly] Oh, you'll see more.
This wedding, I've been looking forward to,
just because it's a new cultural experience.
And we know that TJ loves her.
[Kimberly] So, for the Haldi ceremony,
you wear yellowish.
Dance ceremony, something shiny.
And for the actual wedding, something like,
red or yellow, pink or orange, something for the sun.
Okay.
TJ's explained that at a Hindu wedding,
there are certain colors that need to be worn,
for certain events.
[shopkeeper] This is for the Haldi.
The skirt.
[Lisa] Oh, okay.
[shopkeeper speaking]
-Okay. That's the one that you put over? -Yeah, that goes over.
My dad and stepmom are being really supportive about this wedding.
And that means the world to me.
[Lisa] Oh, wow. Okay.
Well, that's very beautiful.
It looks really good.
But I'm really nervous that they're gonna tell me
to go back to the US, or even change their minds
about TJ all together,
whenever I tell them about all the issues
I've been having with his family.
Okay. I'll be styling.
-[Kimberly] Mmm-hmm. -[Lisa laughs] I'll be stylin'.
I never expected to be filled with so much doubt...
three days before I'm supposed to be getting married.
And honestly, I'm a little embarrassed to tell them.
So, I would like to let you guys know what's going on.
Um...
The first time I got there...
TJ and I got into a little bit of an argument.
But that was settled pretty quickly,
because TJ and I can talk things through.
However...
his brother, we had a conversation the other day.
And, he proceeded to call me a stupid
and trash, and then, bash my culture
because it wasn't his culture.
And, Yash has now told both of his parents
that I'm this terrible person.
But what gets me most is,
they want me to live with them.
But they don't want me to be me.
I don't know if I even want to be a part of that family,
because they were so terrible to me the other day.
That's a serious situation.
[Kimberly] And now, it makes me feel
like I'm not excited to get married.
Even though...
I should be excited,
'cause I'm still marrying the love of my life.
And we don't have any issues.
[Curt] Yeah, you do.
Maybe not directly.
I know there's been a lot of money for the wedding.
And the apartment.
But you gotta have...
a living situation that's healthy for ya.
Doesn't sound like it's anywhere near healthy.
I don't feel it's fair for Kim to be expected
to forgo her individuality,
for the sake of holding a relationship together.
So, they need to know that it's a concern of mine.
If we...
postpone it...
you still have the opportunity to work somethings out with TJ.
But if it's not gonna work...
you don't have to stay here either. I mean...
We could get a ticket back.
[Kimberly sighs]
I don't know.
[Lisa] Oh, sweetie.
[Kimberly sniffling]
[man] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
[woman] What is this place?
You enter at your own risk?
Wayne has told me that he has a surprise for me and my mom.
But, the day before my wedding is not a good time to do any of this.
Oh, he looks horrified.
[Daniele gasps]
Sorry. He peed on me.
[exclaims in sadness]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[in English]
Oh, my God.
Baby?
[Mary] Hold on. I'm almost done.
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] No.
-So let me-- -Is it... Is it just what you want
in this relationship?
I asked you a question,
and you should have just answered the question.