[narrator] Previously on90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way...
Wayne and Holly, you may seal your marriage with a long kiss.
[man] Woah.
Mmm. What's that?
Um, this is like your engagement ring.
I didn't expect it right now, because like,
we're stressing so much.
I know that we're not ready yet,
because I'm still really stressing so much.
You know, marriage is not like a joke.
I'm just saying yes because I need to.
Namaste.
The wedding ceremony start tomorrow so I really hope we don't have any more issues.
I just want everybody to be supportive,
of Kim as I am of TJ.
[speaking in Hindi]
[Kimberly in English] I feel like this conversation is more like
a temporary truce than a solution.
Buying a car with 30,000 dollars is not a sound financial decision.
[in Spanish]
[in English] If Yohan thinks that he has an American wife that's going to
support him, then he has picked the wrong American.
It's not your [bleep] money.
[in Spanish]
[music playing in other language]
[in Hindi]
[Tejaswi speaking in English]
[Photographer in English]
What are we doing?
[Somya in English]
[Kimberly] Okay.
It's the first day of my wedding and I am in a [bleep] mood.
Literally.
My stomach was upset from the moment I woke up.
And I [bleep] my pants.
I woke up early, I was very proud of myself for waking up early, number one.
One point for Kim.
Then I go to the bathroom like, I typically do in the morning
and I feel like I'm gotta fart.
But before I made it to the bathroom. I [bleep] my pants.
Who wants to start their wedding that way?
Nobody.
[Kimberly] Okay.
Is there anybody else? I'm just gonna talk to myself all day.
Okay.
The first ceremony of the day is the mehndi ceremony.
And that's were they paint henna on your hands, for the brides.
And on their feet too.
My Dad and stepmom are running a little bit late.
So, I'm just here hanging out with a bunch of people that
I don't know and I can't communicate with.
And it's really awkward.
[speaking in Hindi]
[in English]
I don't want to be a bitch of a bride right now.
And I really do appreciate all of these rituals that we're doing.
But, I'm not feeling well. My stomach is still upset,
and I feel so lonely.
It's not really the feeling that I thought I would have on my wedding day.
I've been sick all day.
First thing that happens tomorrow is [bleep].
And I've been throwing up all day.
No, I'm freezing.
[Tejaswi speaking]
I appreciate that.
[Tejaswi] But sometimes Kimberly can be difficult.
So, I'm really worried and I don't know what's gonna happen.
[speaking in other language]
[in English] Brandan proposed to me a weeks ago and
after that I told me Lola that I was pregnant.
[speaking in other language]
[Mary speaking in English]
[Mary] Brandan, please lower it.
Can you lower the volume?
You are not alone here, you need to lower the volume but you're turning it up.
[Mary] I said, lower but you're turning it up.
[Mary] Just lower the volume.
He's telling me, you know
the bad words like [bleep] Mary things like that.
And everybody can hear.
After that he just walk away and won't come back to the house.
And, he's always doing that.
[Brandan] What's up?
Sort of... Sort of really bad fight.
With Mary.
Things got heated,
I just felt like I really had to just get out of the house
and escape that environment.
I thought we were gonna get married and get a family and all that stuff.
But instead of being happy, me and Mary are fighting more and more.
I don't know, like what to say? What to do?
For the most part, I just like walk away because that's how I grew up.
And sometimes I'll go to town square and I'll just sleep on the stone bench.
I come to this spot, a few times.
And I go back usually in a couple of hours.
And then,
we're coming off to not yell at each other
but to talk to each other with normal attitude.
We fight more about,
If I'm sleeping in or if I'm
playing a game too much and
yeah you know, maybe I could try harder around the house.
But, I'm not just doing nothing.
If she's hungry I'm trying to get her food.
If she wants her back scrubbed I help out.
And we'd still end up like yelling and arguing.
I know Mary hates it when I come out here,
I'm the only foreigner here and
everyone sees it. They're like, "Oh, where's Mary?"
"Why is he walking alone?"
Everyone's gossiping and rumors spread.
Like, Oh, maybe he's going to meet somebody or
maybe they had a falling out who knows.
But I don't do it to punish Mary, I do it to get away.
For my sake. For me to calm down.
[speaking in other language]
[Mary in English]
[speaking in other language]
[Mary speaking in English]
[speaking in other language]
[Mary in English] It's scary but,
I should go to Lolo and talk to him with Brandan.
I really hope that talking to Lolo will help us a lot.
And Brandan will change, because this is life. It's not a game.
We'll see what happens.
[speaking in Hindi]
[in English]
No, I'm okay.
I didn't know I needed to sit on your Mom's lap.
It would've been good to know.
You know where is the mehndi ceremony?
Okay, thank you.
How you doing?
Okay.
[Kimberly] I started throwing up earlier.
-Are you nervous now? -No, I'm both nauseous and nervous.
But, I'm trying to stay positive right now.
[Lisa] well, it's really beautiful.
-There's a lot to this. -Yep.
I'm so happy that my parents are here. It makes me a feel a lot less alone.
And now, I'm really looking forward to getting my mehndi done.
This is one of my favorite things about, uh, traditional Hindu weddings.
Yeah, sure.
Yeah.
[speaking in Hindi]
[in English]
Yeah.
[Kimberly] I think it was really important too.
I'm a handful and I know it, so.
Good. Now you know.
But I'm not gonna lie, it hurt my feelings whenever you called me stupid.
Because I know, I'm... I'm stubborn.
I know I'm outspoken and a lot of things. But I'm not stupid.
Even in fighting.
I do, yes.
I feel like we're both mature enough to respect each other.
And if somebody gets angry, we can just be like,
"Hey, chill out."
[Kimberly] I got this apology from Yash.
So that's good and my stomach is starting to settle down.
So, now that everything' is smoothed over,
I'm super excited about the rest of the day.
I like that smokey eye.
One of the best parts of this wedding is,
how many different outfits I get to wear.
How many looks I get to show.
[speaking in Hindi]
[Tejaswi in English]
We have come for the bride.
Okay.
[Tejaswi in English]
So, whatever gifts you're getting you're placing it on your lap.
I'm just following what you're doing, 'cause I have no idea what...
You and me both, sister.
[man speaking in Hindi]
[photographer in English]
[speaking in Hindi]
[speaking in English]
Okay.
-This is for you. -Thank you.
[Kimberly] People are putting stuff on me.
And smiling, taking pictures and someone's taking it away.
And then just happening again and again.
I feel like one of those cardboard cut outs
stuff like, those people at the movies like,
the super star and everybody just
you know comes up to it, takes a picture, puts a finger up their nose
something like that and then leaves.
[speaking in Hindi]
[Kimberly in English] Okay.
[speaking in Hindi]
[in English] Sit on her lap.
No, I'm okay.
[speaking in Hindi]
[in English]
I didn't know I needed to sit on your Mom's lap.
It would've been good to know.
[Tejaswi in English]
[woman speaking in Hindi]
[Kimberly in English] It was so weird.
They just said, and that was the thing.
She's not Santa Claus.
You'll get used to it.
I'm not ready for my Mom to leave South Africa.
Because I still don't feel safe.
It's scary for me.
[speaking in Spanish]
I never thought that he ahs this in him.
[music playing]
♪ Oh, my man, we're same ♪
♪ Somewhat Thank you ♪
♪ And you made me go crazy ♪
♪ Cause you are beautiful ♪
[Wayne] You're married to me now. I can't believe it.
You looked so pretty last night.
[Holly] Did you like my dress?
I loved your dress. Gorgeous.
[Holly laughs]
-It's hard to walk in a dress that big. -Yeah.
[continues laughing] Yeah.
A wedding day is just one day,
but, you know, marriage is forever.
Yesterday, I married my forever person,
and that was the most important thing to me.
But there was a few hiccups along the way.
[indistinct yell]
[Wayne] Are you all right?
-Yeah, my veil got stuck. -Yeah? [laughs]
-Are you okay? -[Holly] Yeah.
[laughing] I was done. I was down for the count.
So, how do you feel about last night?
[Holly chuckles softly] Good.
It was fun.
-[Holly] Yeah. -Yeah?
-Head lost, huh? -Mmm-hmm.
[Wayne speaking]
You feel like you've won the wife lottery?
'Cause I kinda feel like you did.
I kinda think you won the husband lottery.
[Holly] You definitely won, like, the wife lottery, like...
Let's see if I say that in two years' time,
then we'll talk again, okay?
-Mmm. -Well, I thought it was better than I imagined it to be,
to be honest with you.
-Yeah? -Yeah.
[laughing]
Remember that lingerie you said you were gonna bring?
-[continues laughing] -When's that happening?
-So, did I satisfy you? -[chuckles] Oh, stop it.
-I need to know these things. -Can you stop it? Stop.
[laughing softly]
I feel like we have a closeness now,
uh, sexually, that we didn't have before,
because we weren't sexual before.
People would probably think, you know, we're very conservative
because of the way we were both raised,
but he's kinky.
You know, he's into bondage, he's into weird stuff.
Like, that's good, though. That's what I like.
It's, he's not, like, vanilla in the bedroom.
So, I was glad about that.
I wouldn't... You know, I wouldn't wanna be with someone vanilla.
Like, that's boring.
We enjoyed it, and it was fun.
Yeah, I thought it was good.
I think your mom cried the most,
because, like, it was happy tears.
Yeah, it's like...
Yeah. Does your mom make you feel safe?
No, I think just, like, having another person that...
-Yeah. -You know what I mean?
Yeah, but, I think you'll find you way, eventually.
[Holly] Mmm-hmm.
[Wayne speaking]
[Holly] I know.
I'm not ready for my mom to leave South Africa.
It's nice having my mom here with me.
I haven't made any friends here.
My mom is 100% the only comfort from home I have right now.
And, I don't know
how long it's gonna take for me to get settled,
because I still don't feel safe.
I wish I did.
It's scary for me.
[upbeat song playing]
[Yohan speaking Spanish]
Yohan and I are having a hard time communicating,
so we're seeking out a life coach.
I will take all the therapy I can get.
[chuckles] I would sit in front of someone
and talk to them about my problems all day every day if I could.
But, we need a third party to help mediate.
So, are you excited about the life coach?
[Daniele] Yohan and I were seeing a therapist for a little bit,
but that kind of fell apart and he stopped agreeing to go.
He doesn't like to have hard conversations,
and he definitely doesn't like to talk about feelings or emotions.
I feel like there's also a stigma in Dominican Republic around therapy,
so I'm hoping that because this person is considered a life coach,
Yohan will be more open to him.
[in Spanish]
[in English] You wanted $20,000 from me
to invest in a house in your neighborhood
in order to rent it for $100 a month.
To me, that is not a sound investment.
I am thinking long term. You are thinking with ego.
You're thinking, "I need to own a thing,
I don't care what the thing is," because you wanna show off.
I am not funding your flex.
I'm not funding that for you.
[in Spanish]
[Yohan speaks]
[Daniele speaks]
[laughing]
[in English] No.
[Daniele sarcastically] Okay.
I honestly think that Yohan is confused about what he's paying for,
because he hands me cash for half of the rent,
and I then wire that money from my bank account
and use Yohan's cash to pay for other things.
So, when he sees me spending his cash on other stuff,
he sees that as him paying for everything.
I pay to rent the cars to go shopping, the light,
all of the trips we take, everything that Gizmo needs,
all of that is my responsibility.
You wanna be a kept man.
You don't feel like you should have to
pay for anything because we live here.
I can live anywhere in the world.
I have a year-long lease in my apartment,
I don't need you to live there.
I can live there alone.
When we met, we were so happy, and there was just, like...
[voice breaking] I understand the beginning of relationship is bull [bleep],
but I never thought that he had this in him.
You know, not willing to contribute,
not willing to be an equal partner,
punishing me because I can't have a child, like,
any one of those individual things,
you know, ever happened to one of my friends' relationship,
I would be like, "Get the [bleep] out."
[in Spanish]
[in English]
[resumes speaking Spanish]
[in English] You don't deserve it.
You don't deserve anything from me.
Nothing. Not a thing. So...
That's it.
Do you understand the word, "relationship"?
Relationship.
[Daniele] Yes.
Is this the relationship that you want?
[Daniele] Yeah.
Because this is not the relationship that I want.
[upbeat music playing]
[Kimberly] Dancing isn't really my forte.
I do a lot of...
[TJ speaking]
[laughs]
[Indian music playing]
[Emcee speaking]
[upbeat Indian song playing]
[TJ speaking]
[laughing]
Some of these dancers are really fun.
Like, they are so into this.
It's hard not to enjoy it.
[indistinct background chatter]
[scattered applause]
I wasn't expecting to dance tonight,
because we hadn't prepared anything.
[TJ speaks]
But TJ convinces me to just get on the stage.
[applause]
So I suck it up. [sighs]
[Indian music resumes]
[Kimberly] I'm just looking at TJ and hoping that
if I start to make a fool of myself, he's got me.
[TJ speaking]
It's just like, one, two, one, two.
[chuckles] One, two, one, two.
Or like this.
[Kimberly] Dancing isn't really my forte.
I can do the one-two step.
I've got whatever this was called.
[humming]
And then I do a lot of, too.
Anything with a funny face move, I can do that.
[laughing]
[TJ speaking]
[laughing]
[applause, cheering]
[laughing]
[cheering, applause]
No, he's not. [laughs]
I think all of the traditions are very different than ours.
It's beautiful, but it was
overwhelming, I believe, to Kimberly.
[TJ speaks]
You're a good dancer too. You guys did great out there.
I don't feel prepared for tomorrow.
I don't know what to expect.
-Oh. [laughs] -Oh, my God.
-[shrieks] -[TJ continues laughing]
[Kimberly] Everything around me was hectic.
[Kimberly] Hmm?
[slowly] Yes.
-[Kimberly chuckles] -Yeah.
Despite today starting out in the absolute worst way possible,
I ended up having a lot of fun,
and I'm super excited for tomorrow
to marry the man of my dreams.
[TJ] I love you, okay?
[Kimberly] Love you.
I'm sorry for me and Mary's fighting.
[in other language]
Would it be better if I just go back to America then?
[both] Hey.
[Mary] I talk to Lola,
and they're, like, worried about our fight.
Okay, what did they say?
[Mary] Uh, Lolatold me that she's really upset about it
and that we should talk to Lolo
because we are fighting too much, and I agree.
We shouldn't avoid Loloanymore.
Of course.
I'm really nervous to talk to Lolo.
I wasn't thinking about his rules
when me and Mary expressed our love to each other physically,
and I know he's gonna be
even more upset with this conversation
because of our fighting and arguments.
[Mary speaking other language]
[speaking other language]
[Mary] Hmm.
[in other language]
I just hope that
talking to him, it's not going to
end in a fight between me and Mary.
Um...
First, I just wanna say,
I'm sorry for
me and Mary's fighting.
I want you to know that I do respect you
and I appreciate everything you do.
[in other language]
[in English] He's like, "The house is now a warzone."
[Brandan softly] It's okay, you can tell me.
Okay?
Lola, Lolosaid that all the people here
talk [bleep] about us, like...
[voice breaking] Gossiping about this family
because of me being pregnant.
And the fights here, like,
the neighbors there and there can hear it.
[Grandfather speaking]
[Mary] He's, like, not okay with me being pregnant because of you
and the way you show your attitude to this house.
Okay.
This conversation really makes me feel like
I'm just not a good person.
But, I've been feeling lot of anxiety and, uh, stress.
I try to fight it as much as possible,
and sometimes I don't fight it.
Would you be mad at me if I assure you
that I'm gonna try and get better?
[loudly] Then be better!
Okay, well, it's not gonna happen in one minute.
[sarcastically] Mmm. Okay, Brandan.
-It takes time. -[Mary] You're doing it continuously.
Like, nonstop, even though you know that I'm pregnant.
You don't care.
So, would it better if I just go back to America then?
Did I say that?
-If you want that, then go. -Did you not say that? Did you not say that?
Then go, go, go back.
You think it's better for everyone here
-if I'm, if I'm just not here? -Maybe.
Maybe, because you can't change your attitude.
If Brandan won't change and be better person,
like, really man enough to be a father,
maybe he should leave,
because I don't want our baby
to suffer with all those problems.
What do you want me to do at this point, Mary?
I don't know, Brandan.
[woman] Next time on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way.
I feel like I'm just running late all the time,
-and nobody's telling me what's going on. -Right.
[Hindu priest chanting]
I don't feel like anybody's keeping me in the loop
of my own wedding.
-[crying] This is supposed to be a happy day. -[Lisa speaks indistinctly]
Nobody seems to give a [bleep] about me, though.
We've been looking to see if you can have a brother or sister.
[Armando] I don't want her to be upset
because she's gonna be affected the most.
[speaks Spanish]
[Daniele in Spanish]
[in English] Yohan and I are meeting with a life coach today
so that we can work on our communication.
The fact that my husband can sit next to me
and speak this way to me is really heartbreaking.
You want what you want,
you want it now, and you want it to be given to you.
[Shariyah] Hello.
-Welcome. -[Shekinah] This is my sister, Shariyah.
-Hi, Nice to meet you. -[Sarper speaks indistinctly]
[Shekinah] My sister just arrived in Istanbul,
and I'm a little apprehensive of how this night is gonna go.
So, if Shekinah wanted to see your DMs...
I never, I never let her.
-I never-- -That's because he's hiding something from you.
If it doesn't alarm Shekinah
and raise red flags to her,
then I kinda feel like I'm wasting my time here.
Sarper, get your phone.
[Sarper speaking]