[narrator] Previously, on90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way...
[Armando] We've been looking,
to see if you can have a brother or sister.
[Armando] Hannah is okay with our future plans.
It's the best thing I could have ever asked for.
[chuckling]
We need to really grow up
and minimize our fighting and arguments.
[Mary speaking]
[man speaking]
Can someone please let us know what's happening?
I don't feel like anybody's keeping me
in the loop of my own wedding.
[Kimberly] But this is probably the biggest night of my life.
I'm allowing all of the negativity to go away.
[Shekinah] My sister just arrived in Istanbul,
and I'm a little apprehensive of how this night is gonna go.
So if Shekinah kind of wanted to see your DMs,
-How do you feel about that? -I never let her.
[Shariyah] That's because he's hiding something from you.
You are speaking too much, Shariyah.
All right.
If it doesn't alarm Shekinah,
and raise red flags to her,
then I kind of feel like I'm wasting my time here.
[exhales]
[Brandan] Bebe?
-Yeah? -What do you think of this?
Is this color okay?
[Mary] Maybe you should get white one.
-What? -Maybe you can try this.
Why? I was gonna go for pink.
I thought we were gonna wear white and pink.
But white is, looks better on you.
Brandan has been living here
in the Philippines for six months,
and our wedding day is in two weeks.
I like it.
Bebe?
-I really like this one. -[Mary] Oh, okay.
Is that okay with you?
Yeah, if you like it, you can get it.
[Brandan] Let me try on the pants.
Our relationship is getting better.
Stay in there, because I'm gonna try the dress,
and I don't want you to see that.
Problem is, he's still playing his games so much.
And sometimes he doesn't help me with chores.
But he's not shouting anymore.
And it really gives me relief.
[Mary] Thank you!
[Mary] It is important to me that we will, gonna get married,
because I'm five months pregnant.
I'm imagining this moment to happen,
and I'm just so excited.
Um, the total amount is 8,600,
for everything.
Okay, can, can we afford that?
Um, we can afford it,
because we, we are selling cell phone.
-True. -And this is the wedding.
It only happens once in a life.
[Mary speaking]
Here you go.
[Mary] I ordered a bunch of phones
and friends on Facebook will message me
that they want to order,
and we will deliver them the items.
Awesome. Thank you.
[Mary] They give me a profit, like, 1K per unit.
Which is not a lot,
but for me, it's a lot.
I thought maybe we could do something
a little simpler for the wedding, like,
like, is there no way we could just...
...do something a little simpler?
Where, you know, we're not renting a venue, save money.
-Maybe? -[Mary] Well, um,
here in the Philippines,
when we do the wedding,
we invite a lot of people.
You know?
[Brandan] I don't know what a Filipino wedding is like.
Like, you know, I basically let Mary
choose everything.
I don't even know what the venue looks like, so,
it feels like we're spending more money than we need to.
-[Mary] We can do it. -Okay.
[Brandan] But at the same time,
I've tried to avoid any arguments with Mary,
and not get so angry.
Thank you very much. Good luck,
-for your wedding day. -Thank you, appreciate it.
-[clerk] Congratulations in advance. -Thank you.
But we don't need more drama.
We don't need more stress.
Especially because my mom's coming to visit,
to be here for our wedding.
And I want her to see
that this is the right decision for me.
Last night, I introduced my sister Shariyah to Sarper,
and it was a total disaster.
Hi, Shariyah!
I understand that Shariyah is just looking out for me,
but, I feel like Sarper deserves
more of a chance than this.
So, I'm curious to know how
last night went after I left.
I mean, we talked a little bit,
but I just thought it would be better to just,
get some rest, and talk more in the morning.
So, what did you talk about this morning?
Well, Sarper would definitely like
to have another chance.
And I would too, because honestly,
I don't think you saw, like,
our connection...
-Yeah, I didn't. -...you didn't see the side of him that I see.
I feel like the reason I didn't see that
is 'cause it's not there.
That's not, that's not why.
I think it was just because of the questions.
-Just... -[Shariyah] If someone's wanting to get to know you...
-[Shekinah] Yeah, but-- -...and you're gonna get defensive,
-like, that says a lot about-- -How often does somebody come in to get to know you,
and just start firing off really intense questions?
I would like you to give another chance to him.
Will you do that?
Yeah.
At least you'll have a little bit more time around him.
You know, hopefully you'll see something different.
Okay?
Yeah, but I mean, like,
I...[laughs]...have an opinion of Sarper
from what I saw last night.
Like, it's not gonna change.
Of course I understand why Shekinah's wanting me
to give him a second chance.
But, first impression is a pretty big deal.
He just displayed a lot of immaturity,
and anger, so,
you know, it'll definitely be hard to come back from last night.
[celebratory Indian music]
[TJ speaking]
Yeah.
♪ Hey! Hey! Hey! Hey! ♪
[TJ speaking]
The guys were doing, like, this...
And I was, like, it's terrible.
-[laughs] -Yeah.
[cheering and clapping]
[TJ speaking]
-Thank you. -[cheering]
[TJ] One...Yeah, come on.
Two!
-[TJ] Yeah! -[laughing]
[all] Three!
[laughing and cheering]
[Lisa chuckling]
[cheering and clapping]
Billions of reason to be happy today.
-You hold my hand. -[Kimberly] Okay!
-Are you ready? -[Kimberly] Yeah!
[Kimberly] Hi!
[Kimberly] Feel like I might be getting more nervous
as the time passes.
But, I am ready to marry TJ.
[singing] Here comes the bride...
All dressed in pink!
Think I just stepped in something,
and I hope it don't stink.
[all laugh]
This is definitely my favorite outfit.
Out of all six wedding dresses.
It's gotta be him next to you.
He should be the only one.
[Kimberly] In India, traditionally,
the bride's brothers or sisters would walk her down the aisle,
but the one thing I wanted
was my dad to walk me down the aisle.
He's my biggest supporter.
And it's the Western tradition,
that I really want to hold true to.
[Kimberly] So I get out to the garden,
and I was under the impression
me and my dad would walk down the aisle together.
I didn't think there would be 10, 15 people walking in with us.
And then my step-mom kinda got pushed
to the back there for a little while, which,
hurt my feelings.
♪ If I had my way with you ♪
♪ We'd never leave ♪
And then I see TJ on the stage, and I'm, like...
...he's what I'm doing this for.
♪ And when I'm around you, boy ♪
♪ I feel myself dreaming ♪
[Kimberly] He's everything.
And, I love him.
♪ In a place that doesn't know me ♪
♪ In a place where no one knows who I am ♪
♪ Just wanna be alone ♪
♪ Wanna be alone ♪
♪ With you ♪
[TJ speaking]
The way she's looking at me,
and the way I am looking at her,
I think that makes sense, for a wedding.
Yeah, we were beautiful.
[laughs]
[cheering]
[Lisa speaking]
[upbeat Indian music playing]
[cheering and clapping]
[Kimberly] I feel really excited.
I'm gonna be with the man
I wanna spend the rest of my life with.
It just seems like a fairy tale coming true.
[Daniela] Hey, guys. How are you?
-[Kenny] Good, we're excited. -[Daniela] Good? Yeah?
Today, we're going to the surrogacy clinic
to pick our egg donor.
Oh, I liked her.
Yeah, she's pretty.
Doing this, I realize we have the same taste in women.
[chuckling]
I'm worried that your mom will hate the Philippines,
our life here...
My mom is coming to the Philippines tomorrow.
I really want her
to be on good graces with Mary.
I need you to, like,
be on my side.
Brendan's mom's always just being a bitch to me.
All right, we just landed in Ciudad de México.
[Kenny] Armando and I are back in Mexico City for the weekend,
to get the ball rolling
on our dream of having a baby.
[speaking Spanish]
So, today we're going to the surrogacy clinic
to pick our egg donor.
It's really overwhelming
that it's happening so fast like this.
But what a lucky guy I am
to have someone like Armando, you know,
wanting to have a baby with me,
at 60 years old.
[Daniela] Hey, guys. How are you?
-[Kenny] Good. We're excited. -Good? Yeah?
-Yeah. -[Daniela] Yeah? So,
we're gonna see now, your egg donor.
You need to pick five, okay?
-Of those five? -[Daniela] Yeah, of those five.
So, let's get started.
I guess I just never dreamed I'd be picking out women.
The process of selecting the egg donor is totally new,
and it's actually kinda weird.
We're going through hundreds of pictures of women,
and judging them off their looks,
to see if they would be a great fit for us,
to have a child with.
Oh, I liked her.
Yeah, she's pretty.
-[Daniela speaking] -[Armando] Yeah, we'll write her down.
[Kenny speaking]
[both] Next.
[laughs lightly]
[chuckles]
Sorry, she's, like, doing the duck lips.
[laughs] I say next.
I do feel that I'm a little more hesitant to say "next",
uh, because I am always
very cautious of not being rude.
Uh, Kenny's always more blunt.
-[laughs] -And, you know, to the point.
What?
Next.
I knew when I said "next",
-it was next for both of us. -It, it was.
One thing I like about her, like,
she's kinda natural there.
-Like, you can tell it's not all filtered up and stuff. -Yeah.
[Kenny] Doing this, I really realize, like,
-we have the same taste in women. -Yeah.
If we ever want a three-way. [laughs]
-Are you out with them? -[chuckling]
[Daniela chuckles]
Some people are really, like, picky and specific,
or some of them don't really know what they want.
-What do you think? -Write her down.
A little blonde would be cute.
-Do we have five there? -You have five now.
Oh, my god.
I am thrilled that we're picking an egg donor.
I think it's a huge step that we're taking,
in this big, life-changing experience.
The next step is meeting with the potential surrogate.
And we want the best person for that,
because it's a big deal, you know?
We'll be entrusting, whoever the surrogate may be,
with our child.
Um, it's, it's a lot.
[Kenny] We would pick you, if you were on here.
[all laugh]
[Mary] Can't find one.
Yeah, I can't find one either.
Should do this, with your feet.
-Catch, catch, bro! Catch! -[Mary] Oh, here!
-[Brandan] I'll catch one. -[Mary chuckles].
-[Mary's brother] It's a big size. -[Brandan] Good size?
[Mary's brother] Good size frog.
Tonight, me and Mary,
her brother and his friends,
are frog catching.
[Mary's brother] Get it, bro!
-[Mary giggles] -[Brandan] Nice.
[Brandan] And we're gonna prepare them,
and cook 'em up in an adobo.
[Brandan] Oh, [bleep]!
-[Brandan] Get it, bebe. -[Mary's brother] Oh, nice.
-Got another one. -[Mary] Here! Oh! Hold on.
-[Mary] Oh... -[Brandan] Wait! There's something here.
[Mary] Flashlight.
-[dogs barking] -[Brandan] He peed on me.
[Brandan] Since I've been in the Philippines,
Mary's grandmother made a lot of frogs and rice.
[Brandan] Probably have enough for the...
[Mary] Yeah, we have enough.
[Brandan] That's, like, almost 15, I think.
-[Mary] Yeah, it's a lot. Mm. -[Brandan] Okay. Yeah.
[Brandan] The first time,
Mary said it was baby chicken adobo.
I thought it was so scrumptious,
I went for, like, seconds and thirds.
And then after I was done eating,
they're, like, by the way...
...that's frog.
[Mary speaking]
[Brandan] Yeah. I'll take responsibility if she doesn't like it.
So, my mom is coming to the Philippines tomorrow,
to attend our wedding.
And we're gonna pull this prank on my mom
that they pulled on me,
and tell her that it's baby chickens.
[Mary speaking]
Growing up as a kid, I was always, like,
throwing little gags her way.
So hopefully, it'll break the ice a little,
and it goes well.
[Brandan] So you cut off the head first.
-[Mary] Yeah. -[Brandan] And after they get the skin off,
-gut the intestines out. -[Mary] Mm.
[Brandan] Right now, me and my mom,
we're not exactly close.
We barely talk. Like, maybe once a month, at best.
And my mom's relationship
with Mary is not good, at all.
They pretty much hate each other from the start.
Your guys' relationship is pretty toxic.
Toxic is when she doesn't want you around another female
that's your mother or your sister.
It pisses me off.
[Brandan] When my mom comes to the Philippines,
I really want her to kind of reestablish a connection with me
and to be on good graces with Mary.
I'm worried that your mom will hate Philippines, our life here.
I told her to come here with an open mind,
but, um, I'm not going to lie. I'm a little nervous, too.
She and I have got a lot of problems.
Yeah, I know.
I'm worried Brandan's mom is going to be here for our wedding,
because she tries to break us up
and I don't have any reason to believe that her feelings have changed,
because every time she's on the phone with Brandan,
she's just ignoring me.
She's always just being a bitch to me.
I still hope that me and my mom
can have a very healthy relationship.
It's what I want and I think a big part of that
is having a healthy relationship between you and my mom.
Yeah, I know, but I'm worried and I need you to, like, be on my side.
I'm by your side. I've got your back, okay?
I hope.
I cannot imagine how she will react when she gets here.
But if Brandan's mom's trying to create a problem with me and Brandan,
and Brandan doesn't have my back,
I'll just, not going to marry him,
because husbands always have his wife's back, no matter what.
[Shekinah] After last night and seeing the way that Sarper behaved,
he's very, very immature and has a lot of growth that needs to be done.
Come.
-Blankets. -Yeah.
Are you nervous?
-Not much, babe. -Okay. Don't be nervous.
-Okay. -It's going to go great.
Sometimes I can be offensive, I know that.
I understand you, but I feel like not everyone does.
[Shekinah] I'm telling Sarper to not be nervous,
because I definitely don't want to dwell
on, like, how bad Sarper did at his first meeting with my sister.
That's not going to do any good.
I just want him to be relaxed
and I want her to have a better impression of him. It's really important to me.
[Sarper] There she comes.
-[Shekinah] Here she is. -[Sarper] Yes.
[Sarper] With Shariyah,
I have to give her a better impression before she leaves
and she will leave tomorrow, so I will do my best.
[Shekinah] Hey.
So I hope we can smooth things tonight.
-How are you? Thank you for coming. -Yeah.
-Hey, Sarp. -Hello.
Nice to see you.
I feel guilty, Shariyah, about yesterday.
About
I know I am.
I have to change, I know it.
For her sake and for our happiness.
Mmm-hmm.
So I'll do my best, I promise.
-I appreciate you saying all of that. -You're welcome.
I didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable,
but it kind of sounded like there were a lot of questions
around why or why not you wanted to be, like, open to the public
about your relationship with Shekinah.
I just really want to feel that you're somebody who's going to show my sister
how much you love her and care about her
and I know, like, it's important for you to feel respected,
but it's equally important for her to also have that respect.
Yeah. I understand your point.
I was so offensive when someone wants me to do something,
but right now, I want to do.
-That's good. -For example, the posting. I want to post.
-You do? -Yeah.
-[Shekinah] Okay. -[Sarper] It will stay there forever.
-I promise. Yeah. -Thank you. Thank you.
I'm so proud of you.
-Really? -Mmm-hmm.
Thank you.
[Sarper] This night is going well.
I apologized from Shariyah and I want to make Shekinah happier, you know?
So I'm planning to post something tonight.
Well, I'm so thankful that we had a chance to do last night over
and I just want to know how you feel, Shariyah.
Obviously tonight went better than last night.
But I mean, I still have things that worry me
about the relationship.
[Shariyah] Honestly, like, after last night
and seeing the way that Sarper behaved,
I'm not going to delete those memories out of my mind.
What happened was real and it was concerning to me.
It just seems like he's very, very immature
and has a lot of growth that needs to be done.
I know she loves me and I will protect her to the death.
I mean, that's for sure.
So I will take your advice about our relationship so serious.
-Thanks. -[Sarper] You're welcome.
Do you mind if you take a photo of us?
[Shekinah] So cute.
-Yeah. -It will be a good first post for me, right?
-Meaningful. -Love it.
-Okay. -With the bridge?
Mmm-hmm. Let me get on this side.
Okay.
-Cute. -Thank you.
Should we go, you guys? It's so cold out here.
[Shekinah] I will.
Indian weddings are like a marathon.
If I was to get married in the US, I'd probably be having sex right now.
Right now, I'm on my fourth outfit
and I have two more to go.
Indian weddings are like a marathon.
[Tejaswi] You will be sitting here.
Mom and Dad will be starting this with me.
We were surprised a few times
with a few things we were asked to do
during those 15, 20 different ceremonies.
[Lisa] We went with the flow, 'cause each ceremony had a reason.
I don't know the reasons, but we'll find out the reasons.
I don't think we will.
Now we're doing seven promises.
This is supposed to be the final ceremony
before we are officially married.
[speaking Hindi]
The actual ceremony consists of rounds around a fire
and a worship or a puja of sorts, where your souls combine
and unite as one.
I feel like if I was to get married in the US, it would be more relaxing,
because I would be able to get married at whatever time I wanted.
If I wanted a morning wedding, I could just get it out of the way.
If I wanted an evening wedding,
I could do it all in a few hours.
So you are saying, with the exchange of elephant made with salt,
I'm giving you elephant made with yellow rice.
-Huh? -[laughs]
-Wait, the elephant, wait-- -Made with salt.
Elephant made with salt.
If I was getting married in the United States right now,
the ceremony would be over. The wedding would be over
and I'd probably be having sex right now.
So right now, the--
[laughing]
I promise whenever you smile at me, I'll smile back.
I promise to be one with you.
Yeah, those are good promises.
Two days, six outfits, many, many ceremonies, and we are finally married.
Whoo!
Yay!
Yes, high five. We did that [bleep].
I don't know. It doesn't really feel like it to me.
[laughs]
At the end of a western marriage,
you kiss the bride and everybody cheers and everything,
but it was, like, in the middle of our ceremony.
Yeah, welcome to my family.
Whoo!
This is my husband.
It started with a dream.
[Brandan] My mom is arriving today.
-This is Mary. -Hi, Mary. Nice to meet you.
Hug. Hug.
[Mary] The way she looks at me, like, she's so mean.
Like a mean girl.
Hey, baby.
My mom's bus should be here pretty soon. Like, any minute.
My mom is arriving today
and I think it's going to be a really big culture shock for my mom,
coming to the Philippines.
So nervous.
You know, I hope she's just going to be nice
and be like, oh, hey. You know, it's nice to finally meet you, Mary,
but you never know.
I'm excited to see my mom,
but I'm nervous of what's going to happen between my mom and Mary.
Especially because when I told her that me and Mary are having a kid soon,
she was immediately thinking, oh no, this is not good.
So, uh, did you get, uh, that message about her being pregnant?
I did.
Yeah.
And to be honest, I have some apprehensions of my own
just because you guys did just meet.
Your guys' relationship has been pretty tumultuous lately.
There's a lot of concerns.
Okay.
Mary already feels sensitive about Mom's disapproval,
and my mom is recovering from her addiction.
Are you excited?
Like, worst case scenario, I don't want Mary to get into a fight with my mom
and I don't want my mom to have some sort of excuse to relapse.
Um, it was long. [laughs]
When we were driving, I guess I wasn't prepared for what I saw.
It's all poverty.
It's all shacks.
When I go to their house,
I only saw pictures of it being built
so I hope it's a little bit better of a situation.
I want to feel at ease with Brandan's choice to be here with Mary.
Um, I don't know if it'll happen, honestly.
Hi!
In a buggy. [laughs]
-Well, this is Mary. -Hi, Mary. Nice to meet you.
Hug, hug.
-Why are you so white? -What, you mean here?
You've lived here for, like, ever.
-I'm actually more tanned than when I got here. -Okay.
I want to have a fresh start with her,
but I feel like she's not willing to,
because Brandan told her, "Hug each other," and she, like, changed the topic.
It's so awkward and very nerve-racking.
Anyway.
Um, do you...
Do you, uh, I forgot what I was going to say.
The look in her eyes,
it's that look that I recognize when you don't like someone.
And you're just pretending to be nice.
She has been manipulative.
She has isolated my son from me and the rest of his family
and behind closed doors, she's going to make my son's life a living hell.
And now they're going to be raising a child.
I just don't trust her.
So how do you like it?
-It's different. -Different?
The poverty level is a concern.
Yeah. As far as American standards go,
there are some, like, not so well-built houses.
Yeah.
Was the bus ride horrendous?
Yeah, I almost died. Literally.
Like, I'm not even joking. I don't know what the hell--
Those buses hit those corners hard, don't they?
Yeah.
[Mary] Already, I feel out of place
and I don't know what to say.
The way she looks at me, like, she's so mean.
Like a mean girl.
That's how I feel.
What?
I just noticed we're both crossing our arms and having our--
Yes.
Matchy, matchy.
-Yeah. -[laughs]
-This is where you're going to sit. -Okay.
And Mary's going to sit behind the driver
and I'm going to stand back here and our house is just down the road.
Okay, cool.
As far as me and Mary having some sort of good relationship,
that's not happening.
I'm looking for a seatbelt, but apparently, that's not a thing here.
-Yeah, there's no seatbelt. No. Not on the bus, either. -[laughs]
No, I know.
And I refuse to walk on eggshells around anybody,
so if I see their way of life or their relationship is going to be destructive,
I will say what I need to say.
You know, oh, don't upset Mary,
what you're saying is, I don't care.
Next time on90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
Oh.
[Shekinah] Last night, in front of my sister,
Sarper promised to make a post of us,
and he didn't follow through.
I just don't know why you promised that
if you weren't going to really do it.
I forgot it, babe.
I'll miss you.
I'll miss you, too, babe.
My mom went back to the United States
and Wayne's been working a lot, so I'm alone a lot.
I'm just having a hard time adapting to living here.
When I was there, I just really didn't feel safe.
That's scary to me.
[Brandan] All right. We're here.
Oh my God.
Don't worry about it.
I'm really worried that she will judge me and my family
and how we live, no matter what I do.
I'm on your side.
We need to have a conversation, Yohan.
I learned something really devastating about my husband
that I don't really know what to do with.
That's disgusting.
Get the [bleep] out of my house.
You are out of your mind and I don't want you here any more.