[narrator] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
[Kimberly] Two days, six outfits,
many, many ceremonies and we're finally married.
[speaking in Hindi]
- [in English] This is my husband. - Yeah.
My Mom is the only comfort from home I have right now.
I still don't feel safe.
It's scary for me.
I think you'll find your way eventually.
Tonight, went better than last night.
But I mean, I still have things that worry me.
I have to change dynamic.
For example the posting, I want to post.
[speaking in Spanish]
[woman in English] I wasn't prepared for what I saw. It's all poverty.
It's all shacks.
Hi, Mary. Nice to meet you.
Hug, hug.
As far as me and Mary having some sort of good relationship,
that's not happening.
Yeah, ballet...
[speaking in Hindi]
- [in English] I mean I... - You'll get cold because of that.
I'm already cold.
After 20 hours of wedding celebrations, we are absolutely exhausted.
My parents are gonna head out.
Because they're going back to the United States later on today.
And I really don't want them to go, I'm gonna miss them a lot.
- Well... - Well.
We had a great time.
- Yeah, next time you should... - We know that better now.
- Yeah. - Well, you take care of her, okay.
Ah, that's easier to say. I will anyway.
Yeah, but...
- Sorry. - Can I get a hug too?
Oh, yeah. You weren't crying so...
Well, I'm trying not to.
You be good.
Okay, well, you guys take care of each other.
- Yeah, I will. - You gotta say, you promise.
- Seriously, I will. - We're leaving her half a world away.
Yeah, it's more difficult because when we leave it's kind of final.
Yeah, yeah.
Everything's been so much easier with them around.
And I'm scared that,
I'm gonna have a really hard time adjusting to my daily life.
I don't know what's gonna happen living with TJ's family.
Love you.
Let's don't let anything,
get in your way.
I've been happy.
With TJ and... and
- The whole family. - Yeah, the whole family.
Always go approach things respectfully.
And nobody can deny that you,
did anything bad.
I'm still working on that.
Still, working on stuff but...
Well, you're probably gonna be working on it for a long time, you know.
There's a big long road ahead.
But, it can really be a happy road and I'm
praying that it will be.
I know it will be.
Okay, never give up on yourself.
- I promise. - Okay.
I love you.
I love you too.
All right. Group hug.
I know, I'm gonna miss my family a whole lot.
They have always been there for me.
And we've just really grown this beautiful relationship now.
And it hurts knowing how far away from them I'm going to be.
- Love you. - Love you too.
- Yeah. - Yeah, definitely get warm.
- Love you. Bye. - Love you too. Bye.
[Kimberly] We're officially married and I'm a part of TJ's family.
So, I don't wanna dwelve on the problems anymore.
But, I feel like,
with TJ's family, we put a Band-Aid on.
But I don't feel like,
I don't think it's healed.
Specifically between me and Yash and this point.
I'm nervous about living with them. I'm really scared.
[Daniele] When we went to see the life coach about a month ago
I really thought that we were turning over a new leaf
and getting some understanding between the two of us.
Yohan took some initiative,
he ended up getting a job with his nephew, working for a lending company.
So, he drives around and collects debts.
For a while everything was great for us.
Until yesterday.
I never expected anything' like this from him.
Yesterday, I was sitting in the kitchen,
and I opened up my bank account.
So, I go through my account and I see that this has happened multiple times.
And I didn't recognize them they were ATM withdrawals.
And I was like, I didn't go to the bank and I asked Yohan, did you go to the ATM
and take money out of my account?
He was like, "No." I was like, You sure, today there was like
someone went to ATM and took money out of it. He's like, "No."
So, I'm like, okay, I have to go to the bank
and ask them for a video of who took money out of my account.
And then finally, he's like, "Yeah. Fine.
And just like that, bangs the table. He was super angry.
So, now I'm like what the [bleep] ?
And he was just like, not responding.
Not engaging with me.
And being like a dick about it. Like, not even apologetic.
Like, he at no point did he say,
I'm sorry I did that this is why he just was
basically like, he's entitled to this money.
And I was just so floored, I was like, "Get the [bleep] out."
And he refused and refused and refused
and I just came into this room,
and took all my [bleep] .
Like, I've just been holed up in here, I've been working in here.
So, now I'm like, Do I say absolutely not?
Pack up my [bleep] and go back to New York or
do I try to work with him to figure out why he's behaving in this way
and talk to him?
[speaking in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] I would do anything to make my marriage work, but
the last 24 hours have been a nightmare.
A marriage requires two people willing to put in effort.
And it also requires honesty.
Right now, we don't have effort and we don't have honesty.
I don't understand how we have a marriage.
- I mean I... do you have? - Oh, my God.
- But I love you. - Can you please relax right now?
- I'll miss you. - I'll miss you too, babe.
[Holly] My mom went back to United States
and Wayne's been working a lot. So, I'm alone a lot.
We're just having a hard time to adopting to living here.
When I was there, I didn't really feel safe.
This is scary to me.
- This is the place? Okay. - Yeah.
My sister Shariyah left earlier today to go back home to the U.S.
And I thought last night went so well. But, she actually doesn't think
better of him today.
[Shariyah] Obviously he was better than the night before,
But, I don't know if he's just saying this to kind of appease the situation.
You're just too negative, Shariyah.
I wouldn't feel this way, if I... saw a level of love and respect
demonstrated from him to you, which I didn't see.
- You know, like, I'm... - You totally saw it. You just are choosing not to.
I just wish things could've gone so differently.
My sister is gonna go back to our family and tell them that I'm in yet another,
toxic relationship.
But this is my life, my choices.
I'm clearly happy and she's my sister.
I want her to like, just be happy for me.
Wow!
Took a little selection.
[Sarper speaking]
Are there certain colors like you, hate?
- Or you really like? - Whatever you wish me.
- Whatever I like. - Yeah, whatever you wish.
I like how that sounds.
[Shekina] I think it's wild that we've sleeping on the couch
for a week and a half this point.
So, I'm really relived that he's finally getting us a new bed.
This looks nice.
- The material, looks good. - That's right.
- You like it? - Yeah.
I mean, anything is better than your bed.
I feel encouraged by this.
I definitely needed this today after everything with my sister.
Because, I just hate that she has this terrible impression of my boyfriend.
I know.
So, what's the result of it?
The result is she went back and
we aren't in the best of terms, like
we didn't part in a nice way.
Yesterday everything was great.
- What happened? - I don't know. I don't understand.
It upset me today, so...
I see in your eyes. I mean, you look more negative to me.
I just want you to be happy. That's... That's the point I mean.
Well...
You know last night, you told her
that you're gonna make a post.
- Yeah. - [Shekinah] And she took a photo of us.
- Yeah. Oh, my God. - And you didn't post it.
So, it's disappointing for me and not a good impression for her.
I forgot it, babe.
It's not... I really forgot it.
Last night in front of my sister Sarper promised to make post of us
and he didn't follow through.
I just don't know, why you promised if you weren't gonna really do it.
And you didn't mention.
I didn't mention because I don't wanna keep bothering you about this.
- I wanted you to post because you want to. - You're telling
- Not because if you're forced. - I can do it now.
- Or anything like that. - No, no it's not by force.
I want. Really, from my heart.
I will post right now.
In front of your eyes, yes.
Our first post.
Finally is here.
- I love, I love you smile like this, you know. Thanks - Are you okay?
Thanks, babe.
[Shekina] Sarper posting the photo, it's nice. He is clearly a man of his word.
He's doing what he promised and that's just
one thing that we can chuck off the list, like that's done.
We can move on from there and put these issues in the past.
So...
- Okay. - I like this one.
[Sarper] If you like it, no problem.
This is a good change from the couch.
Babe, okay.
- How many times? Okay. - Can you please stop?
I don't even know.
Yeah, you... We have the best sex ever.
- And I... yeah. - Oh, my God.
- Babe, can you please relax right now. - But, I love you, I love you.
Okay, babe.
I'll miss you.
Yeah, have a nice day.
Um, oh, come on Nikki.
Love you.
I've been living in South Africa for three months.
And last week my Mom went back to United States,
and left me in South Africa.
Wayne's been working a lot just to survive.
We're not in a good place financially, he has to take
every job he could get and
so, I'm alone a lot.
So, to have a her gone is heart breaking.
[line ringing]
Hey, Mom, how are you?
I'm good. How have you been?
- I missed you. - Yeah, you too. I'm doing good.
- Is Bowie there? Yeah. - You wanna go get him?
Okay, I'll be right back.
Bowie. I was gonna show him Nikki but I'm afraid he'll get jealous.
Come here, Bowie come here and turn around.
Come here. Oh, he's shaking.
Look, Bowie. It's Ma.
Hi, Bowie, hi.
I miss you so much.
I just wanna go back and I want to go running with them and hug them.
He misses it too.
Absolutely.
How are things going, with you and Wayne?
I'm good. Like, it's hard that he works a lot and it's
I mean, I spend a lot of time by myself and it's not
We rarely argue, we don't really have any problems. Really the only issue is, um
you know, me just having a hard time to adopting to living here.
I'm not used to being alone. I've never been alone. So,
that's... that's hard for me. You know, um...
Wayne, works like a dog. He works all the time.
Yeah, so.
That's kind of where I'm at.
I've been struggling a lot with making this my home.
And it's so harder since my Mom left.
I really feel home sick.
In America I worked all the time I,
had friends, we did stuff.
I went shopping, I was social.
And then in South Africa you know,
you can't go here, you can't go there, not that I even have friends.
Usually you do make friends at work.
But, I can't work here. So that's out of the question.
And unfortunately Wayne's sister Rose lives so far away.
So, if I do go out it would be myself, which you know,
What's fun and safe about that?
It's... It's very isolating.
It's not easy to be away from my daughter that I saw every single day.
And when I was there, I just really didn't feel safe.
It's scary to me.
Yeah, I understand that.
And I do worry about you there.
I am concerned.
Yeah.
This is harder than I thought it would be.
I don't know if South Africa will ever feel like home.
Life is so different and not many friends and
Wayne is the person I fell in love with.
So, I feel a lot of responsibility on my shoulders because I
I agreed to this life.
I'm supposed to make this work.
But, at the same time I...
don't know if I can make it work.
- It's just been a hard adjustment. - Yeah.
[Holly] I don't know. It is what it is.
Brandan's Mom arrived here in Candoni
All right. We're here.
I feel like, she's still judging me she's still not willing to talk to me.
I'm not trying to defend her.
[speaking in other language]
- [in English] That's how you say, good afternoon. - I didn't hear him.
[speaking in other language]
Brandan's Mom arrived here in Candoni and
to me it's been so awkward.
And, I don't know what to say.
I already feel like she's still not willing to talk to me.
All right. We're here.
[Mary speaking]
That's our dog. He's very young and very passionate.
- [Mary] That's my brother. That's my grandma. - Hello, nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you. - Thank you.
[Romar speaking]
It was really long.
- Yeah. - Mmm.
Yes, thank you. [laughs]
I feel a lot of pressure because she will stay with me and Brandan.
I'm really worried that she will judge me and my family
and how we live no matter what I do.
[Brandan] So, there's no couch. This is our bench.
Okay.
[Brandan] Here's the kitchen.
Our fridge. Stainless steel. Freezer.
- Fridge. - Nice.
- Lots of watermelon and leftover food. - Cool.
[Brandan] Water heater, blender, rice cooker.
[Angela] It's better than what I honestly expected.
It's not a shack. It's an actual house.
Like it really is. So I'm very much relieved about that.
Me and Mary usually sleep in this room,
but we want to give you this room 'cause I know you don't like bugs.
- 'Kay. - There's more bugs in the living room
- than there is on our room. - Oh.
Our room is practically bug free.
There definitely are some big spiders and stuff here in the Philippines,
and my mom is very, very, very scared
of basically anything that has legs,
crawls on walls, and is good at hiding.
Especially spiders.
She has arachnophobia, in my opinion.
But she just needs to know that
there's a different way of living here in the Philippines.
You gotta be one with the bugs.
Will you just, like, check under for any critters, please?
Under the things.
Um, I mean, I can check the bed, but I can pretty much guarantee
that there's nothing underneath the TV stand.
Well, just like spiders and things, please.
There's no spiders.
There's... What's this?
[grunts]
That is a...
exoskeleton of a spider.
- Oh, my God. - [Brandan] It's a shell. It shed its skin.
- Don't worry about it. - Where is it?
It's gone. This is old.
- Jesus. - [Brandan] This is really old.
- All right? Don't worry about it. - Okay, don't bring it near me!
[Brandan] I'll just throw it out the window.
All done.
- You okay there? - No!
It's not even a real spider. It's just the skin.
I didn't know spiders shed skins.
Well, those ones do.
No spiders.
Nothing there.
I don't know how you can sleep with that [bleep].
I'm gonna go
- get your bed stuff. - Okay, thank you.
I'm not excited about the creepy crawlies. At all.
I just feel like there's too many cracks and crevices
for things to come in.
- [Mary] Baby. - [Brandan] What?
- [Mary whispers] Spider. Mmm. - [Brandan] Spider?
Well, it's a good thing you got it.
- See? - Oh, my goodness. It's one spider.
Where was it?
Behind the bed.
But only because the door has been open, that's all.
- I'll leave you to it. - [Angela] Okay, thanks.
I don't think she'll be okay in there.
I think after she saw the other homes,
she probably had this inkling of an idea
that we were going to have the same type of house.
Yeah, just letting you know that there's nothing wrong with other homes.
[Brandan] No, I'm not saying that,
but, like I said before, she has high standards.
That's why I'm scared to talk to her and...
Your mom is not talking to me at all.
Okay, well, to be fair,
you can put an effort into it.
You know, you want to say something?
She's not going to fight you over it.
[Mary] I don't know her that much yet,
and you remember when you said, "Um, hug each other."
And I'm trying to hug, but she's like changing the conversation.
Okay, well, if I'm being honest, I didn't really see you try to hug her.
I did. I am like that and like...
- Well, I didn't look. I didn't see you. So... - I just, you know, oh.
I'm not trying to defend her.
I want you to be on my side.
- I am on your side. - You promised me. You promised me.
[stammers] Yeah, look. I'm keeping my promise. I'm on your side.
I can't feel it.
I'll just I'll get my mom
to talk to you.
It doesn't have to be right now,
but maybe we can get an actual conversation started.
Brandon, will you come here, please?
What's... What is it?
My biggest hope for my mom
visiting us in the Philippines is for her and Mary to be good with each other
because if something bad occurs between them,
I'm in the middle.
Do something about that.
[Brandan] That little baby lizard?
- It's hiding. - What? Will it go outside?
[Brandan] Yeah. They can squeeze out.
Okay.
[Brandan] If I can't get them to just have some sort of mutual understanding
before they get into a fight,
or God forbid, they get into a fight during our wedding day,
it would just ruin everything. I just don't want that to happen.
I really want everything to just go well.
See you in the morning.
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Tejaswi exclaims]
Excuse me.
- [Tejaswi] Just stop. - [Kimberly] I'm taking my shoes off.
[woman 1 speaking foreign language]
[Tejaswi speaking foreign language]
[woman 1 speaking foreign language]
It's been over 24 hours since our wedding celebration started
and I haven't slept.
And now that we're back home,
we still have to do more rituals.
[woman 1 speaking foreign language]
[woman 2 speaking foreign language]
[laughs]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[woman 1 speaking foreign language]
[Kimberly speaking]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[woman 1 speaking foreign language]
[Kimberly] I know this is a big deal for TJ and his family,
and I want to learn about all of the traditions and all of the symbolism
but I'm a complete zombie right now.
[Tejaswi speaking]
Are we gonna play those later?
[Tejaswi speaking]
TJ just said that I need to cook?
Which isn't a good idea right now.
And doing some kind of ring ritual...
The only good idea is going to bed.
- [Tejaswi speaking] - [Kimberly speaking]
[Tejaswi speaking]
Yeah.
[exclaims]
[laughs]
[Kimberly] Yeah, I need a blanket and a pillow.
[Tejaswi speaking]
Yeah.
[Kimberly] Why?
You are coming up here to go to bed?
It does suck that we can't sleep in the same bed.
[Tejaswi speaking]
- I know that, yeah. I like that. - Okay, so, yeah.
[Tejaswi speaking]
- Me as the head of the house? - Yeah.
[TJ] Yeah.
[Kimberly] You'll wake me up whenever I need
- to be awake, right? - [TJ] Yeah.
So whenever you need something,
when you just woke up, just text me.
[Kimberly laughing]
[Kimberly] This is probably the most exhausting
experience I've ever had.
But I like being married to him, so far.
Right now, my goal is to, um,
just give living here a fair shot.
Try my best at...
...communicating clearly and calmly with everyone.
And...
...allowing these relationships to, to grow.
And flourish.
Because I feel like all of us really need a new beginning.
[Daniele] Enough!
You need to find another American wife,
one who is co-dependent.
There are so many. I can refer you out.
Get out of my house.
You are out of your mind.
And I don't want you here anymore.
Do you understand that? I don't want you here.
[Daniele speaking Spanish]
[Yohan speaking]
[Daniele speaking]
[Daniele] Twice the same day.
This is a [bleep] nightmare.
[Yohan interrupting]
How many times?
In total, Yohan made four withdrawals
of a total of $160.
But this has nothing to do
with the amount of money that he took out.
I wouldn't even mind him taking money
out of the bank if he needed it.
The problem is that I asked him
if he took it, and he said no.
That's where I'm really scared.
Like, are you kidding me?
You didn't because you had no food in the house.
There's a [bleep] freezer full of meat,
and 20 pounds of rice at all times.
Get the [bleep] out of here.
[sighing] Okay.
I invested way more money than you in this relationship.
Every single thing you have, came from me.
That's disgusting to even say.
[Daniele] The fact that Yohan is asking
for reimbursement for rent doesn't make any sense to me.
Like, why do I owe it to him?
Has he lost his [bleep] mind? Like, I'm not paying you!
[Daniele] That isn't the way it's going to work! Enough!
You know damn well that you have not paid
for even a quarter of the things that I've paid for here.
You don't want to pay for anything!
And any time I ask you to pay for something,
you get angry!
It was different when you were in your mother's house
and you were broke. It's not that way anymore.
You have resources.
You need to use them,
or you need to find another American wife,
one who is co-dependent.
There are so many. I can refer you out.
So go home!
Go home! I'm not giving you money!
I can't... you are such a piece of [bleep].
Get the [bleep] out of my house.
Get out of my house.
You are out of your mind.
And I don't want you here anymore.
Do you understand that? I don't want you here.
I never thought that Yohan
would be the kind of person
that wouldn't want to contribute equally.
I believed that he didn't contribute because he couldn't.
But now that he can contribute,
and he's choosing not to,
and actively choosing to steal from me,
who has provided for him for all this time, like,
this is so unreasonable.
It's insulting. It's embarrassing.
And this is more evidence
that Yohan is only with me for money.
I don't know. I don't know how I'm coming back from that.
[door slams]
[Mary] Next time on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way...
Today, we're meeting with our potential surrogate, Hamma.
But we do have some concerns.
Surrogacy really isn't that common in Mexico.
When I started talking about this with my family,
one aunt made a comment, like,
oh my god, I don't know how a lady could do this.
Yeah, I think it will be hard.
[sobbing] Because it's a baby.
[groans in frustration]
[Holly] I don't like being home alone.
And I don't really wanna live in South Africa anymore.
I'm sitting in the dark, yet again, 'cause you--
You're sitting in the dark, okay.
Are you sitting in a warm house?
It's so simple. We can leave. We don't have to live here.
But you have a wife now.
[Wayne] The whole plan was for her to stay with me in South Africa.
It hurts that she wants to go back.
Can't you, can't you, like, just give it some more time?
No.
I just can't picture myself having another child.
Sarper needs to figure out, does he wanna have a child,
or does he wanna be with me?
You come from a dysfunctional environment.
I can tell that she's still judging me.
We are trying to be better, as a couple.
As much as I know that you guys love each other,
it's not enough.