[Kimberly] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
I know that you guys love each other...
It's not enough.
I would like to see both of you work on the things
that you struggle with. Like,
the fear of abandonment.
[Mary] I'm really thankful that you...
give us advice.
[Alka in Hindi]
I wanna learn about all the traditions.
-[Tejaswi] Ooh. -[Kimberly] But...
I'm a complete zombie right now.
Well, I don't wanna give birth ever again.
[Shekinah] Does he wanna have a child or does he wanna be with me?
Because he cannot do both.
[Sarper] Don't close all doors.
Nothing is impossible.
[Daniele] Enough.
You need to find another American wife. One who is co-dependent.
There are so many.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele] Get the [bleep] out of my house.
You are out of your mind.
I don't want you here anymore.
[dramatic music playing]
[blues music playing]
Clean, clean, clean. I clean away all the troubles of yesterday.
TJ and I have been husband and wife for a couple of days now.
And he's been slowly moving his things upstairs.
-[both laughing] -[Kimberly] Hi.
Well, I was beginning to think you were never movin' up here.
[both laughing]
[Tejaswi speaking]
my cutie, with my sweeto, my lifeline,
is something I have been dreaming about for months.
Okay.
Today, we are going to meet my mom and Yash,
to go over the household duties.
[Alka in Hindi]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Tejaswi in Hindi]
Yeah, I was setting up up there. It looks nice.
Over the past couple of days,
things between me and TJ's family have been going smoothly.
I'm just hoping that we can really leave the past behind and things
can truly be better in the future.
[in Hindi]
[Tejaswi laughing]
[Tejaswi in English]
-[Kimberly] Yeah. -[in Hindi]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[in Hindi]
[Tejaswi] 6:00... 6:30, that's like... Yeah.
[Tejaswi speaking]
Whoever doesn't cook washes the dishes.
Well, you can wash the dishes. I'm up for you washing the dishes every night.
[in Hindi]
What's the problem in washing dishes?
[Kimberly] Oh, my God. Dishes make me wanna throw up.
Because they've been in everybody's mouths,
it gets all this different food
and it gets disgusting, and it... ugh.
-[Alka in Hindi] -Dishes just gross me out.
[in Hindi]
[Alka in Hindi]
[Yashaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] Indian recipes? I don't know many.
I would like to be able to learn a bunch of recipes,
like, for you guys, making lunch, I'd like to be able to help in everything.
[in Hindi]
She will teach you.
[Yashaswi] She is saying.
[Alka in Hindi]
-Yeah. -[Yashaswi] Okay.
-[Tejaswi] Okay. -I'm going upstairs.
[Kimberly] Yeah.
TJ's family is being super nice.
So I'm just hoping that we can
all learn to find a way to live together peacefully.
I think it went well.
But, I specifically asked you this stuff before we got married.
And you said, "No, don't worry about it."
And then, suddenly you're like,
"Okay, well, yeah. You actually got to do it all.
I don't know why you thought that you didn't have to do it."
I don't like that. I feel like you were hiding stuff from me.
It comes to me as disrespectful
'cause I'm supposed to be your partner.
[Tejaswi] Yeah.
[Kimberly] Yeah.
But that's the thing.
I'd rather know everything upfront and brace myself,
rather than have everything thrown on me at once.
I'm gonna try to adjust to this new role in my life.
But I don't understand why TJ can't be just straight up with me
and tell me what he expects of me,
rather than having his mom tell me.
I'm just hoping that we can actually find a way to come together
and truly blend our cultures,
rather than me adapting everything to his family's ways.
If you feel bad about this, sorry.
But that's for a good reason I think...
I don't think there's any good reason to hide things from your partner.
[Tejaswi] Yeah.
[soft music playing]
[Mary] This is the place that I go when I'm stressing,
and can't...
can't handle everything.
Brandon and I are supposed to get married tomorrow.
And everything was going well with us.
I feel more comfortable with Angela.
And me and Brandan doesn't fight for a long time.
But this morning, we got a huge fight over money.
[dramatic music playing]
[Angela] Hi.
Brandan told me where to find you.
I've never been to a Catholic church before.
[laughing]
This morning, I was super tired.
So I'm not really sure what happened but Brandan told me that
him and Mary got into an argument, and...
I don't think that Mary knows how to ask for help. And...
I don't think she has anybody to ask.
Nor Brandan, since clearly,
he's part of the problem. [chuckles]
So I came down here to find her.
-What happened? -Um...
Lola told me that...
our electric bill is due.
[sniffles] So...
me and Brandan talking about our debt, and...
[sniffles] ...like, like, he's blaming me that
I don't know how to budget. And...
[sniffles] ...it hurts me because
I want him to, like, help me with our finances.
But he's just... too focused on playing games.
I don't know why he's like that.
[inhales]
I will be more than happy to discuss with him
the amount of time he plays on his damn video games.
It's been a thing since he was a kid. Trust me.
[Mary] Sometimes he is getting better,
but he's still playing his games so much
and not focusing on the real life.
And if we gonna get married, I'm worried that it will always just me.
Not he being a partner, even though he's there.
[Angela] As far as, like...
you know, talking to him about the finances...
I know that you have money set aside for the wedding,
but are you guys making sure everything is paid? Like bills.
I'm trying to sell stuff...
-[dog whimpering] -...like phones, but it's not enough.
I'm really worried that we don't have a plan
to make money for our future.
[Angela] Yeah. You don't.
I'd be worried too.
You know, that was a huge concern of mine
when he was in America, before he came here.
And his whole thing was, "I don't care, Mom, I just need to be with her."
And that's romantic and all...
but that is not what you can survive on.
And that was a big reason why I didn't want him to come.
It wasn't just that I didn't think you guys should be together.
My biggest concern before he came out here was...
the toxicity, the controlling, the jealousy.
And then, you wanna, like, come out without
a backup plan, without...
an income. That's like...
self-sabotage at its finest.
[Mary] Um...
Right now, I'm having 50-50 of marrying Brandan because...
I... I am worried that we will have a baby, and...
[voice shaking] ...I'm the only one who is handling all the finances.
Um...
It's so... it's so hard because I'm pregnant.
I don't wanna be stressed. [sobs]
[inhales, exhales]
This one's kinda hard for me because, you know, he is my child, you know.
And this was the life that he invested so much of his time, energy...
money, um, soul into
to have it just... fail.
But, you guys are young.
You guys are still trying to figure out a lot about yourselves,
let alone a marriage and a parenthood.
I mean, I don't know.
I'm not gonna tell you what to do.
You have to do what you think is best for you.
[inhales, exhales]
I don't know what to do.
[sobs]
But I need to... I need to do...
I need to do something.
So, one thing that I heard
or read somewhere was you don't marry the person you can live with.
You marry the person that you can't live without.
-[Mary] Mm-hmm. -[Angela] And so I guess I would ask...
when you picture your life, do you picture your life without Brandan?
Can you imagine your life and raising this baby without him?
[dramatic music playing]
[Serpil in Turkish]
[Serkan in Turkish]
[Sarper] If she doesn't change her mind...
I have to reconsider everything.
[in Turkish]
[both speaking in Turkish]
[Daniele in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] I don't think we've solved all of our problems. But...
we're trying to move forward.
[in Spanish]
[both speaking in Spanish]
[Yohan] Si.
[Yohan in Spanish]
[exhales]
[banjo music playing]
[seagulls squawking]
[Sarper speaking]
[both speaking in Turkish]
[Serpil in Turkish]
[Serkan in Turkish]
[both speaking in Turkish]
[in Turkish]
[in English] Yesterday, Shekinah met with my parents for the first time
and everything was so good.
-[Shekinah] Hi. -[in Turkish]
-[Serkan in English] Welcome to Turkiye. -[indistinct]
-[Shekinah] Muah. -Oh!
-[Sarper] Yeah. -[Serkan in English] Come on in.
-[Shekinah] So nice to meet you. -[Serkan in Turkish]
-Hi, you are so beautiful. -My mother.
-[Shekinah] It's so nice to meet you. -[Serpil in Turkish]
[Sarper] I am the only child of my family.
My parents is so important for me.
We have a good relation, good connection.
So I want to talk with them alone,
without Shekinah, to learn about their opinions.
[all conversing in Turkish]
[Serpil in Turkish]
[Serkan in Turkish]
[Serkan] Mmm.
[Serpil in Turkish]
[Serkan in Turkish]
[Serpil in Turkish]
[Serkan in Turkish]
[Sarper in English] Really I was thinking of proposing to her.
I was just looking at ring prices,
ring types and everything else but now...
why I consider proposal if she doesn't want a kid.
I have to reconsider everything.
[all conversing in Turkish]
["Jingle Bell" music playing]
It's been about a month since Yohan and I had a huge fight
because he stole money out of my account.
At the time, I really felt like the relationship was probably over.
But we both took some time to calm down
and have a conversation.
[both conversing in Spanish]
[in English] I feel like Yohan and I keep having the same argument
over and over and over again.
But Yohan explained to me that because we were married,
he felt like he could take money out of the bank.
When I grilled him about it, he was embarrassed and so he lied.
[Yohan in Spanish]
[tapping]
[both speaking in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] I don't think we've solved all of our problems,
but we're married. Like, it's a commitment.
And he's willing to work on it.
So, I'm deciding to just give him the benefit of the doubt
and we're trying to move forward.
[both conversing in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] Christmas is in a few days and Yohan had the idea
that he would dress up as Santa
and give out gifts to kids in his neighborhood.
We started a toy drive online
where people from the U.S. were able to buy gifts from the wish list
and we would pay for the shipping costs.
[in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] This was all Yohan's idea.
This was the generous, loving Yohan that I fell in love with.
[in Spanish]
[both conversing in Spanish]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] Well, I mean, we're not gonna keep having the same conversation.
[both conversing in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] Honestly, I've given you everything.
I've paid for your Zumba classes, I bought you a computer.
You don't even say thank you. You expected...
[in Spanish]
[both conversing in Spanish]
[in English] You don't have...
So what... what do you want me...
You want me to go and live with your mother? Tell me what you want.
[Daniele] What is the solution?
Okay, so what is the solution?
[both conversing in Spanish]
[in English] I've given you everything I have.
[voice shaking] How can you do that?
I can't even process what's happening right now.
[sniffles]
I don't think that Yohan values our relationship the same way I do.
[in Spanish]
I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
And believed that we could work through everything.
And now I feel like...
[sniffles] ...this relationship is over.
[sobs]
[exhales]
I don't want to carry this alone.
I just need reassurance for the future.
I hope that tomorrow I still wanna marry this man.
[dramatic music playing]
When you picture your life, can you imagine your life
and raising this baby without him?
No.
-No. -[Mary] I know that I love Brandan.
But I don't want to carry this alone.
Um, I just need reassurance for the future.
Yeah, you need a partner. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I get it.
[Mary] It's so hard that
we're dealing with a lot of things.
But when I think about a life
without him, it's so sad.
I really love Brandan.
I wholeheartedly believe that Brandan will step up.
So I will definitely...
talk to him.
Yeah. Just... That's all that I want.
Mm-hmm.
[Angela] I'm worried about them getting married
as much as I'd be worried about any other 22-year-old couple
having a baby on the other side of the world getting married.
But I am hoping that maybe with my support,
that they'll be able to work through
a lot of the things that they're struggling with.
They're gonna have hardships and battles but honestly,
the amount of love they have for each other...
kind of outweighs all that.
I didn't know really what to expect when I came here.
When I came to you. Um...
Honestly, I was expecting more, like, controlling, jealousy, because that's
how you were when he was in America.
Mm-hmm.
I just want to say, um, sorry for my overthinking before
and that affects your relationship with Brandan.
It did affect my relationship with Brandan.
But, I do feel that now that I've been here,
you are gonna make a great mother.
And you will have the ability and potential to be a really great wife.
-Yeah. -[Angela] But you guys are starting really young.
It's gonna take some time to get there.
Mmm.
It means a lot to me that even though
we have a past that we're fighting,
she's giving me advice
and not just take Brandan's side.
Especially because she's a mom.
I never got to have that before.
[Angela speaking]
I'm really, really trying...
to trust Brandan will get better because I love him
and I hope that tomorrow I still wanna marry this man.
[Angela exhales] So...
[both laughing]
[Alka in Hindi]
[Kimberly] I just don't understand why there's cow manure in the kitchen.
What the [bleep].
TJ!
[Alka in Hindi]
[goats bleating]
[music playing]
Yeah. They're crooked on the... on the temple.
[whirring]
Now that the wedding is over and done with,
TJ and I are finally trying to set up our apartment.
And it's surprising that Yash has wanted to help with it.
[Kimberly] Is that okay if it sticks out a little bit?
[Yashaswi] It's okay. It's okay.
-[Kimberly] It's perfect. -[Yashaswi] Okay.
We are expected to follow our tradition and customs
of having a separate temple
for Lord Ganesha at our own apartment.
[bell dinging]
I'm feeling very proud
that Kimberly has been putting so much effort to learn
things from my religion.
[Kimberly] The temple. It looks nice.
Um, I've gotta clean off this table
to start on lunch with your mom.
Yesterday, TJ's mom and Yash laid out a bunch of rules with me
and I wanted to show them that I'm willing to make an effort.
So I asked TJ's mom to show me
how to make one of TJ's favorite traditional Indian meals.
Okay. You're not gonna be here?
-[Kimberly] Um... -[Tejaswi] Okay?
[Kimberly] Love you.
I can tell that Kimberly wants me to stay upstairs.
But, it's good for Kimberly to get used to hanging out with my family on her own.
[Alka in Hindi]
[Yashaswi in Hindi]
[Alka in Hindi]
[Kimberly] Why do we bring that in the kitchen?
[Alka in Hindi]
[Kimberly] I thought that needed to be in the center of the house.
[Yashaswi in English]
Okay.
[Kimberly] I just don't understand why there's cow manure
in the kitchen to be honest.
[Yashaswi] Hmm.
-[Kimberly] Yeah, but it's... -[Yashaswi] And, uh, because...
[Kimberly] ...poop on the kitchen table.
[Yashaswi speaking]
[Alka in Hindi]
What the [bleep].
I try to be very respectful of their customs,
their culture and everything like that.
But I draw the line, I draw my boundaries at this, right here.
This is disgusting.
[Yashaswi in Hindi]
[Alka in Hindi]
[clattering]
[Kimberly] Why?
[Yashaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] Why?
[Kimberly] I don't want my house to smell like a petting zoo.
[Kimberly] It really smells like cow poop in the house now.
I don't understand how you can hate
garlic and onions and hate the smell of it.
But you're okay with cow [bleep]
and piss. Like, that's... No.
[Alka in Hindi]
Okay. At the wedding, I was having issues
'cause no one was letting me know what was gonna happen beforehand. And...
this just happened and I did not know...
-that it was gonna happen. -[Yashaswi speaking]
[Alka in Hindi]
But are we gonna use that to clean?
[Alka in Hindi]
TJ!
[Alka in Hindi]
[sighs]
She just used this to wipe cow manure off the table
and then cleaned it. It's not clean.
[Tejaswi in Hindi]
[both conversing in Hindi]
-[Kimberly] Okay. -[Tejaswi] Hold masala.
[sizzling]
[Tejaswi in Hindi]
[Alka in English]
[Kimberly] With those spoons?
[Tejaswi in English]
[Alka in Hindi]
[sizzling]
I love TJ's culture.
I like what it stands for, I like everything it's rooted in.
But I'm not all about TJ's family
overpowering me in my own home.
[Alka in Hindi]
Purifying my home with cow dung is never gonna happen again.
-[Tejaswi] Kim. -[Kimberly] Yes.
[Tejaswi speaking]
Just give Him all this?
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Kimberly] Make this cold and have it, please.
From this point on, we are doing things my way in my house.
[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah] That's how you think?
[Sarper] Thank you so much.
[banjo music playing]
[camera shutter clicks]
-[Sarper] Here. -[Shekinah] Wow. Go this way?
My gosh.
The other day, Sarper told me
he now has a desire to have children.
I was so blindsided by that information because
as far as I knew, he wasn't interested in having kids.
[Sarper] This one, change your...
-dress here. -Thank you.
But ever since then, he hasn't brought it up again
and today he's planned a romantic day for us.
So I'm hoping that he's dropped the kids issue for good.
Where are you, babe?
-Wow. Charming. -Oh, my God. You look so hot.
-[Sarper] Look at you. -[chuckles, kisses]
[Shekinah] Oh, my gosh.
-[Sarper] Surprise. -[Shekinah] Wow.
-[Sarper] You like it? -[Shekinah] I love it.
It's so beautiful.
-Wow. The water is perfect. -[Sarper] Wow.
Calmness.
-[chuckling] -Yes.
This beautiful place and...
really thoughtful plans that Sarper has made reminds me
of why I came here in the first place.
It's nice to just relax and get back to having fun together.
-Come on. -Okay.
When we put all of the issues aside, we really do
have something that's so unique and rare,
and it's nice to be reminded of that.
-Cheers, babe. -Thank you so much.
-You like today? -I love today.
-I'll never forget it. -[exhales]
No, you made a big sacrifice, leaving everything
and coming to here, okay?
I'm trying to my best to show you
how I'm trying to change, right?
Yes, I see it. And it means so much to me.
[Shekinah] Yeah. Tell me what happened with that.
[Sarper speaking]
But, uh...
-She said that? -[Sarper] Yeah.
-...if you look at it... -Do you feel like you really want that
'cause your parents really want that
-and they're pressuring you, or... -[Sarper] No, babe.
That's the purpose of life, isn't it?
I mean, you have a daughter, you know...
Maybe if you understand what I went through,
you'll understand why I feel this way.
Sophie's dad's always off working.
He would leave me with the majority
of the responsibility of raising her.
So, it's like so incredibly hard.
And...
Of course. Of course, why not? I mean, it happened once...
It could happen again.
You know, you don't know me.
You don't know if I have that responsibility or not.
-I was with him way longer than I've been with you. -Babe. Babe...
He said the same things to me. I'm sorry to say that,
-but he said the same things. -[exhales]
[Sarper speaking]
How am I just living my life?
I'm not living my life anymore.
[Shekinah] I'm living a life with you.
[Shekinah] That's how you think?
[Sarper speaking]
The future only means a kid to you.
What is future, babe?
-There's a whole life... -[Sarper] What is future?
-[Shekinah] ...ahead of us... -What is future for you?
-[Shekinah] ...that we can live together. -What is it? You have all...
the kids. Of course you don't want it.
Please don't discredit my experience
-It's barely the reason I'm making this decision. -[Sarper] Baby.
[Shekinah] Well, you should care.
[Sarper] I just want. I-- Okay.
-I just want in the future. -[Shekinah] You don't care about anything.
-You just want what you want. -Not now, not want...
You sound like a little, spoiled brat right now.
[Sarper] But you are so strict.
[Shekinah] I'm not strict. You're strict.
Okay.
I'm not rejecting you.
I'm saying can you please not...
I asked you to please stop talking about your...
disgusting numbers in front of me.
You're being rude now.
-I'm telling you the truths. -You're becoming an ass [bleep] right now
-and I don't appreciate it. -[Sarper speaking]
No, I don't like when you're like this.
[Sarper] Thank you so much.
-Yeah, you're so welcome. -[Sarper] Thank you so much.
-[Shekinah] You're so welcome. -[Sarper] For today, huh.
[Shekinah speaking]
[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah speaking]
[woman] Next time on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way...
-[Kenny] Oh. It's a small room. -[Armando] Uh-oh.
[Kenny] Today we are headed back to the surrogacy clinic
to leave our sperm specimens.
So what do I do? Well, I mean, I know what to do, but...
-[chuckling] -[Armando] Whip it out.
[Kenny] All right.
Nice seeing ya.
[soulful music playing]
[chuckling]
[Brandon] I'm feeling very excited to be married. But...
I'm looking over and there's, like, this fog rolling in.
-[insects buzzing] -[groaning]
[woman groaning]
And I realize that's not a fog, that's... bugs.
There's hundreds of bugs everywhere.
-Holy [bleep]. -[insects buzzing]
Sometimes I just wish it never happened, honestly.
You just wish we never got married?
You're an idiot. I'm done.
[Wayne] If Holly goes United States,
it could be the end of us.
[Shekinah] I just don't know why he would bombard me with
"I need a child from you right away."
I said you what I want.
If you're gonna carry on like this, you're gonna lose me.
No. No, no, no.
[both conversing in Spanish]
[Yohan speaking]
[Daniele] Yohan.
[Daniele in English] No, no, no, no, no. You're not going anywhere with my dog. Yohan.
-[Yohan speaking] -Yohan.
Give me the dog. Give me the dog.