[narrator] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] Today, we're meeting with our potential surrogate, Gema.
It is like a gift that I will give you.
She really knows it's going to be hard
and she wants to do good by us.
What a beautiful thing.
[Angela] Can you imagine your life
and raising this baby without him?
No, but I just need reassurance for the future.
But he is just too focused on playing games.
I'm really, really trying to trust Brandan
and I hope that tomorrow I still wanna marry this man.
[groans]
I don't really wanna live in South Africa anymore.
It's so simple. We can leave. We don't have to live here.
But you have a wife now.
Why don't you, like, just give it some more time?
No.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] How can you do that?
I can't even process what's happening right now.
This relationship is over.
[sobbing]
[Sarper speaking]
The future only means a kid to you.
You're becoming an ass [bleep] right now and I don't appreciate it.
This is a [bleep] conversation and I'm unsubscribing.
Thank you so much.
[Shekinah speaking]
[Brandan] Thank you, Mom.
Okay. So, what's the plan now?
[Brandan] Mary is gonna go to the venue
and then me and you, we're gonna get ready here
and then we're gonna head off to the venue.
All right. Sounds good.
[Brandan] Today is my wedding day,
and I've been waiting for so long for this moment,
but after our fight,
there's definitely some awkwardness,
some tension between me and Mary.
Got everything? Need help with anything?
I'm just gonna call an Ola.
[Brandan] Last night, when Mary and my mom got back from church,
it was very tense and we just went straight to bed.
-Oh, we're gonna go now. -Okay.
-[Angela] Bye. -[Mary] Bye.
Bye. Love you, baby.
I don't know what's going through her mind
and I don't know, like,
if she really would still call off the wedding
because she's having some doubts,
but that would be really, really, really heartbreaking.
[speaking Filipino]
[in English] Right now, I don't have this feeling that I'm excited
or whatever that the brides feel on a wedding day.
I don't know what to do. I have mixed emotions.
[Mary speaking Filipino]
[speaking Filipino]
[Mary in English] Even though Brandan's mom really helps me
to understand how much I love him,
I feel like I'm not ready to marry him
'cause he still didn't reassure me
that I can trust him to be man enough to be a father
and my future husband.
[speaking Filipino]
[Lucia speaking Filipino]
[in English] My lolo can't attend the wedding because
he's working and it just feels weird today.
I'm worried that it is a bad sign.
[Angela] So we have just a little bit of time
before you actually become a husband and all the things. So...
-[Brandan] Right. -Um, Mary had expressed to me,
um, some of her concerns
when I went and found her at the church.
-Okay. -How she's, like, feeling a little alone
in this whole, like, sort of, building a life thing.
You know what I mean? Like, just time to give up
the constant playing on video games throughout the day...
I would really encourage you to be more involved
handling the financial situation
so she's not feeling all the pressure to manage it all.
You know, when I was in America and I'm, like, sending Mary
pretty much, like, 80 to 90% of my paycheck...
-Sometimes all of it. -Yep.
I probably gave myself, like, $100 or $200 for two weeks.
So yeah, I know how to budget
but now it's, like, Mary's the one selling phones
and she's the one getting income,
and I get that I'm not doing enough.
You're getting married,
and it is for life.
You're gonna be a father.
This is it. You know, man up.
I hear you.
I know you have the ability to do this.
I have seen you do things for her, with her,
because of her at the age of 23
than any of the men I ever dated all the way up into their 40s.
It's just gonna take some effort on your part.
Thank you. That... that means a lot.
I definitely need a boost of confidence.
My mom has never been supportive of my relationship
with Mary... until now.
[Angela] Come here.
[Brandan] Thanks, Mom.
She believes that we truly love each other,
she believes that we can work on ourselves
and be really happy.
-I love you, bud. -Love you too.
It just, it means a lot to me. It really does.
-All right. Get ready for my big day. -Nothing to it but to do it.
[Angela] Okay. This is, this is it.
You gotta take this down 'cause I need the mirror.
-Oh, okay. Yeah, definitely. -Okay.
When I met Mary, everyone was thinking, "Oh, no. This is not good."
But me and Mary have struggled through and persevered.
We were on the phone for, like, two and a half years.
I've moved across the world,
had a lot of ups and downs,
and now not only am I getting married to Mary,
but we have a child on the way.
[chuckles softly]
Look at you!
-Looks very good. -[Brandan] Thank you.
I'm not gonna miss this opportunity to step up,
show her that I can do it. I'm the man that she deserves.
-You ready? -Yeah. I think so.
[Angela] Okay.
Last night, Holly dropped it on me that
she wants to go back to America.
I'm gonna go see my dad today because
he understands me better than anyone.
Dad?
-Hello? -[Wayne Sr. speaking]
-[Wayne] How you doing? -[Wayne Sr. speaking]
[Wayne Sr.] Okay. [groans softly]
[sighs] You know, Dad, like, up and down,
Holly, like, bitch and moans
that, you know, I'm later--
I'm home late and never around to give her attention.
Yeah. Yesterday, I get home, like, about half-past ten.
It was late. It was late.
And there was no power at home.
So Holly's sitting there in the dark...
You know, but I think her mom's got a lot of influence on this also.
You know and like...
She wants to go back to America,
like, now, basically, you know, and leave me.
Why did she marry me?
I do feel betrayed because, I mean, I try to
make it as safe as possible for her.
She has food every single night,
she has money when she wants to go out.
Like, Holly, does not have such a bad life as she thinks she has.
Like, she wants me to move to America with her and stuff.
Yeah, she's done here.
I mean, if you really love me,
then stick with me, you know what I'm saying?
[Wayne] Yeah.
It just feels like she doesn't want to stick it out with me
and that she wants to take the easy way, which is America.
I know she wants me to go with her, but she doesn't understand
what process that's gonna take for me to go with her.
So I have to convince Holly to stay
because I didn't get married
not to have my wife by my side.
Just don't know. Don't know which way.
We are headed back to the surrogacy clinic
to leave our sperm specimens.
I'm, like, just uncomfortable.
They know we're in there doing...
-Masturbating. -Banging one out.
Beating the meat. [laughs]
It's weird.
If you're gonna carry on like this, you're gonna lose me.
[upbeat music playing]
[Kenny] We decided to go ahead and move froward with Gema as our surrogate.
So today we're heading back to the surrogacy clinic
to leave our sperm specimens that will create our child.
[all speaking Spanish]
[in English] We have decided to do the milkshake approach.
We're mixing our DNA
and then they're gonna fertilize eggs with that.
[Armando] At the end of the day, we're leaving it up to fate...
And here we are.
[Armando] I'm, like, just uncomfortable
knowing that there's nurses and doctors around
and that they know we're in there doing...
-Masturbating. -Banging one out.
Beating the meat. [laughs]
It's weird. It's embarrassing almost.
I don't know.
They're used to it here. This is what they do.
[Daniela] Kenny and Armando?
[all speaking Spanish]
[in English] Even though Armando and I both came into our relationship
with children already,
now we're doing it together,
and no matter whose DNA it is,
this child is gonna, you know, be so freaking loved.
[Daniela] This one is one of the rooms.
-Oh. -Oh, boy.
I expected, like, black lighting and...
-[all laughing] -You know what I mean?
Yeah, it's a small room.
It's a chair with toilet paper. [laughs]
[Armando] Oh, let's see.
There's a TV for DVDs and stuff.
So what do I do?
Well, I mean, I know what to do but... [laughs]
[Armando] Whip it out.
-So put it in here. -[Daniela] Yeah.
And then what do I do with it?
Okay. All right.
Be seeing ya.
-Good luck. -Good luck, bye-bye.
[Kenny] Bye.
Now. Your room. Let's go this way.
I'm waiting for porn music to start.
[Daniela speaking Spanish]
[Armando in English] Oh, wow.
[both speaking Spanish]
Okay.
[in English] All right.
This moment is big for me because...
You know, our samples are gonna determine our child.
I'll get comfy on the bed.
But being inside the room feels a little awkward.
I do wish Kenny was in here with me.
[phone beeping]
[Kenny] What we're doing today is gonna create a baby
and even though we were in separate rooms,
it's like we did it together still.
So, we'll have that memory.
Okay. Not out yet.
Guess I'm quicker. [chuckles softly]
Hey, babe.
-Hey, babe. -'Sup?
Good.
-Well yeah, thanks to you... -That was different.
Thanks for texting me. That helped.
It took me a long time to come on board with having a baby,
and now I couldn't be happier
and I couldn't imagine not doing this.
So, like, from here, what... what is next?
So it's about a month and a half, two months
to get all started.
'Cause that's when they retrieve her eggs
and then we'll fertilize then, right?
-Exactly. -[Kenny] And then you make the embryos then.
[Armando] And once you insert,
how soon can you know if she's pregnant?
-Two weeks and a half. -[Armando] Oh, really? Okay.
Well, that's exciting.
I think the future looks really bright for us
but we have a lot coming up
with us moving and now having a baby...
Well, this is a huge, huge endeavor that we are going on.
I think our lives are gonna be blessed, babe.
[Kenny] Although I feel really good about this decision,
I've never felt more pressure, probably ever in my life.
Because of my age, because of our circumstances,
how is it going to be raising a child here in this country?
There's gonna be some hurdles to jump here
but I know I'm not turning back.
[Armando] Thank you. Thanks so much
for coming on this journey with me.
-Nobody else. -I love you.
[Sarper] Where are you?
[Shekinah] Right here. I'm getting dressed.
Please go out.
I don't want to talk to you anymore.
-[Sarper] Really? -Really.
I have no idea why Sarper is being so demanding to me
because he's the one that's done the complete 180
and he's making it seem like
it's my fault that I don't want kids
when really, we started off
with really clear communication about this
and I let him know that that wasn't something that I ever saw in my future.
If having a child is that important to him,
he should be with somebody that wants to have a child.
There's plenty of women that have their clock ticking
and wanna have a child right away.
I'm not one of them.
If that's such a priority,
find someone that's on the same page.
I'm not.
[Sarper] I'm so disappointed. So disappointed.
She has to be a little more flexible.
I'm bending myself.
I was like this strict
but I'm bending like that right now.
But she is still...
[Shekinah] On our first date, we talked about this.
I... I just don't know why you totally switched gears on me.
Seriously.
I said you what I want. Okay?
-Okay. -And you didn't accept. That's the point.
-Is that upsetting you so much that you're gonna now ruin... -It's not upsetting...
-...the relationship with your demands? -[Sarper] ...but I'm making--
Because you're not gonna have any hope for a future with me
-if you're gonna demand this now. -You stay couple of days.
-[Shekinah] You're making the wrong move. -Let's do like this.
-No. Let's not do like anything.
-You need to get yourself together. -Let's do like this--
You don't even cry right now.
-Why should I cry right now? -You are in the-- on the verge of losing me
and you don't cry.
-I'm on the verge of losing a man... -Are you... are you sure--
...that is demanding for me to have a child
five months into a relationship,
and you want me to cry about that?
I'm not gonna cry about that.
-I'm relieved that I'm finding this out about you. -I'm not expecting
a child from you right now.
-Uh, yes, you are. -Okay?
[Shekinah scoffs]
If you're gonna carry on like this, you're gonna lose me.
-Two days. -Thank you for letting me know that.
-Yeah. -Thank you for letting me know
that I mean that little to you.
Do you want me to do so?
Huh? Do you want me to be with other people
to forget you?
All my friends and family were right.
-About what? -You.
-What did they say? -And about me moving here.
It was such a mistake.
Now I know why you haven't had any relationships.
It's really clear now.
And I've been through so much in my life
that I literally am not surprised by anything anymore.
-Nothing surprises me. -Okay. I know you are--
Now you're one of them.
-Really? -Yeah.
You're one of them now.
-I'm your past right now, right? -How does it feel?
You're about to be.
-No. I'm just making you a promise. -Yeah, you're threatening me.
-Okay? -I will.
[sighs]
[both speaking Spanish]
Yohan.
[in English] My husband wants to leave me at the happiest time of the year.
Give me the dog! Give me the dog!
I want you out of my house now! Get out!
[Christmas music playing in Spanish]
[exhales]
[Daniele speaking Spanish]
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] Okay.
I think we should do that now.
[sniffles]
[Yohan speaking Spanish]
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] Yohan has decided that I haven't done enough
and he wants to leave me all at the happiest time of the year.
My first Christmas living in Dominican Republic
has turned out to be the worst Christmas of my life.
[all clapping, cheering]
Here we go. Here, that's for you, baby.
I'm trying to hold it together for the kids.
But this is really, really hard to do.
[all speaking Spanish]
[both speaking Spanish]
[in English] Okay...
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] Okay.
[speaking Spanish]
[engine starts]
[in English] No. No, no, no.
[speaking Spanish]
[both speaking Spanish]
[Daniele in English] Yohan, leave the hangers. I need the hangers.
No!
[speaking Spanish]
[Yohan speaking Spanish]
[Daniele speaking English]
Yohan.
No. No, no, no, no, no, no.
No. Those are mine. No.
You're not leaving with them. No, enough.
-Enough. -[Yohan speaking Spanish]
[Daniele speaking Spanish]
-[in English] No. No. -[speaking Spanish]
-[in English] Give me-- -[speaking Spanish]
[in English] You're not going anywhere with my dog or my hats.
-You're not going anywhere. -[Yohan speaking Spanish]
[Daniele in English] You're not going anywhere with my dog.
No, no, no, no. You're not going anywhere with my dog.
-Yohan. Yohan. -[Yohan speaking Spanish]
[in English] You're not--
Yohan, you're not going anywhere with my dog.
Yohan.
Yohan, no!
Give me the dog! Give me the dog!
[crying] You're not human!
I want everyone out of my house now!
I want everyone out of my house now! I want everyone out of my house now!
All of you! Get out!
Get out!
[Daniele sobbing]
Sometimes, I just wish it never happened, honestly.
You just wish we never got married?
You're an idiot. I'm done.
[Wayne] Remember what happened here?
[Holly] Yeah. You proposed to me.
-And I ran off. -[Wayne speaking]
[Holly] This is kind of where we got married at.
So, Holly, she wants to go back to America
and she told me to go with her.
But my dad is here.
My business is here.
My whole life is here in South Africa.
[Holly] So cold.
[Wayne speaking]
I'd do anything in my power to keep her here.
I mean, I didn't get married to Holly to divorce Holly.
I got married with Holly to have her as my life partner.
To be with me and...
try and be happy with me, at least.
[Holly shudders]
[Wayne speaking]
I should've worn, like, four pairs of socks.
Usually I, like, layer them, when it's cold.
Um, I went to go visit my dad.
I told him about your decision to go back to America, so...
He wasn't, like, too...
too happy about that.
-Yeah. -Um...
I mean, if you were me, what would you do?
Well, I'd stick with my partner, for one.
-I would compromise-- -Compromise?
All I've been-- Hold on, you haven't compromised anything.
I've compromised everything.
How am I supposed to have a decent life here?
I 100 percent love him.
But living in South Africa,
I feel like I'm losing parts of myself.
I don't wanna stay somewhere I'm not happy.
Life's really short.
And I don't know what to tell him.
But I can't live like this.
I don't wanna be alone.
I don't want us to live separate lives.
Because that's exactly what's gonna happen.
But again, like, you could live in America.
We could take the steps to that.
You could be happy there.
That's a long time, babe.
To be without my wife.
-What do you want me to do? -[Wayne speaking]
Well, babe, that's for you to decide.
Your only solution is that I stay here.
Forever.
But you don't wanna do that.
It just feels like,
"Okay, well I can go back to America."
It's the easy way out, you know?
It's easy for you to go live the American life.
No, it's not. It's not easy.
Yeah, it's easy for you.
-I mean, you can-- -No, it's easy for me to--
You got a house to go back to,
your family support you.
What's gonna happen with us? I mean...
Are you willing to, like, live without me?
I don't wanna do that.
But I don't know what else to do. I don't know what to do.
I just...
Like, I sometimes, I just wish it never happened, honestly.
You just wish we never got married?
Yeah, if things are gonna be like this,
-my wife's gonna live away from me. -Really? That's how you feel?
-What I'm trying to say-- -Why would you even say that to me?
What I'm trying to say is,
I thought it wouldn't be this hard. That's what I'm trying to say.
-You said you wished we never would have got married. -Baby, please.
-Hold on, baby. -That's what you just said. That's what you just said.
Hold on. I'm not saying I don't love you.
I'm just saying...
I thought it would be, like, easy.
Then you should have married a [bleep] South African person.
You know what I mean.
I'm saying, if things... If I knew things were so difficult,
I would have never done this.
You're an idiot. I'm done.
[dramatic music playing]
[Wayne speaking]
She's okay with having this long distance thing going.
I'm not okay with it.
Bugs are trying to get on you.
I'm looking over and there's, like,
this fog rolling in.
[Angela] Okay. [screams]
[Brandan] Holy [bleep] It's getting worse. It's not getting better.
And I realized, "That's a lot of bugs."
Crap.
There's hundreds of bugs everywhere.
Jeez.
[Mary speaking Filipino]
[speaking Filipino]
-[Brandan in English] Hey, bro. -Hey.
Here you go. You got that?
Okay.
Nice to meet you. I'm Brandan.
I've let Mary plan everything.
And apparently, the mayor is marrying us.
Honestly, I don't know who I was expecting
but definitely not the mayor. [chuckles softly]
[Angela] Do you know any of these people?
-I don't know most of these people. -Okay.
[Brandan] It's, like, her whole family and friends.
Okay. So are we ready?
Oh, do we follow?
Okay and we follow.
[Brandan] Nice view.
Right now, I'm feeling very nervous.
I'm still thinking about
Mary and how...
I don't know what's going through her head,
and that really bothers me.
[Lucia speaking Filipino]
[speaking Filipino]
[in English] It feels so real now that
I'm really gonna get married.
[woman speaking]
[laughing]
I wish that me and Brandan talked
and he reassured me.
But right now, I decided not to think
about the fights that we have.
Instead, I think about being happy with him.
[Lucia speaking Filipino]
[Mary in English] Like, how when he hugs me,
I feel butterflies in my stomach and...
I know that our love is real.
So, I'm gonna marry him.
[Brandan] She's got this beautiful dress on,
make-up done,
hair did. I'm just like...
[chuckles] "Wow! Like, this...
This is such a beautiful woman right here."
Am I really getting married to her?
Like, you could pinch me.
Like, I need to know that this is really happening.
[Ray speaking]
Brandan.
Mary,
I haven't met anyone
that could make me feel
the way that you make me feel.
And I promise you that
you would never have to worry about me abandoning you.
I see my future with you. I love you.
More than anything.
[voice shaking] I just want you to know that
I love you so much,
and I know that we're fighting a lot
but I want to spend my life,
my whole life with you forever.
[Ray] Mary,
do you take Brandan to be your lawfully-wedded husband?
I do.
[Ray] Brandan,
do you take Mary
to be your lawfully-wedded wife?
I do.
You may now kiss the bride.
[all cheering, applauding]
[Mary] I feel so happy
because here in the Philippines,
there's no divorce
and he doesn't have a way to leave me. [chuckles softly]
[cameraman speaking]
[Brandan] I would never leave you for anything in this world.
-Am I doing it right? -[chuckles]
[giggles]
Everything is just absolutely stunning.
I came here with a chip on my shoulder,
towards Mary.
And in the course of being here,
my perception has changed.
And the willingness that she has
to making this marriage with my son
a success means more to me
than anything in the world.
Thank you.
[man] One, two, three.
[flies buzzing]
Bugs that are trying to get on you.
[Angela] I mean, these bugs are insane.
They're everywhere.
I'm looking over and there's, like, this fog rolling in.
[Angela] Oh, my gosh.
[Brandan] And I realized,
that's not a fog, that's...
that's a lot of bugs.
[Angela] Oh, [bleep].
[Brandan] Holy [bleep]!
Everyone's freaking out over the bugs.
[Angela] What are these things?
[man speaking other language]
[Brandan] There's hundreds of bugs everywhere.
[Angela] Okay. [screams]
[Brandan] Holy [bleep]. It's getting worse. It's not getting better.
This is... this is insane!
Oh, my gosh.
You okay, baby? Over here.
Jeez.
[narrator] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
I've learned some things over the course of the last week.
And I don't want anything to do with Yohan.
I have been wearing rose-colored glasses this entire time.
I think that the Yohan that I was seeing,
and was believing was there, was never actually in front of me.
I want nothing to do with this man ever again.
[sobbing]
[Sarper speaking]
-[Shekinah] I'm going to pack my stuff. -[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah] Sarper told me to book a flight.
So, I'm packing all of my things
and going to a hotel.
Stop.
You're acting like a child right now.
Then I'm definitely going.
That's [bleep] to say.
[Sarper speaking]
I will.
[Mary speaking]
Oh, [bleep].
We got swarmed by millions of bugs.
My mom's having, like, a panic attack.
This is getting worse and worse and worse.
-Look at me! -[Mary speaking]
Holy [bleep]!
I'm telling you that I'm depressed
and you don't care!
You have all the right to separate with me also.
-I'm telling you. -I don't wanna separate from you!
No! I said I don't!
-You said-- -God damn it!
[screeching]
Shut up!