1 00:00:01,862 --> 00:00:03,103 Previously on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way... 2 00:00:03,103 --> 00:00:06,724 You may now kiss the bride. 3 00:00:06,724 --> 00:00:10,000 I've been waiting for so long for this moment. 4 00:00:11,137 --> 00:00:14,655 There was, like, this fog rolling in. 5 00:00:14,655 --> 00:00:15,827 Crap. 6 00:00:15,827 --> 00:00:18,482 It's getting worse. It's not getting better. 7 00:00:18,482 --> 00:00:20,482 Everyone's getting swarmed by bugs. 8 00:00:22,827 --> 00:00:24,000 Geez. 9 00:00:29,068 --> 00:00:32,000 Yeah. 10 00:00:35,379 --> 00:00:38,620 T.J., I specifically asked you this stuff 11 00:00:38,620 --> 00:00:40,000 before we got married. 12 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:42,724 And you said, "No, don't worry about it." 13 00:00:42,724 --> 00:00:45,827 Hiding stuff from me is making it harder. 14 00:00:48,068 --> 00:00:51,517 You are on the verge of losing me and you don't cry. 15 00:00:51,517 --> 00:00:53,862 - I'm on the verge of losing a man... - Are you-- Are you-- 16 00:00:53,862 --> 00:00:56,275 ...that is demanding for me to have a child 17 00:00:56,275 --> 00:00:58,379 five months into a relationship. 18 00:00:58,379 --> 00:01:00,034 I said you what I want. 19 00:01:00,034 --> 00:01:02,413 If you're gonna carry on like this, you're gonna lose me. 20 00:01:14,758 --> 00:01:17,206 Yohan! 21 00:01:17,206 --> 00:01:19,379 Yohan has decided that I haven't done enough 22 00:01:19,379 --> 00:01:23,137 and he wants to leave me all at the happiest time of the year. 23 00:01:23,137 --> 00:01:25,517 No, no, no, no, no, you're not going anywhere with my dog. 24 00:01:25,517 --> 00:01:28,034 Give me the dog! 25 00:01:28,965 --> 00:01:30,517 I want you out of my house now! 26 00:01:30,517 --> 00:01:32,724 Get out! Get out! 27 00:02:38,137 --> 00:02:39,655 Sarper told me to book a flight, 28 00:02:39,655 --> 00:02:41,758 so I'm packing all of my things 29 00:02:41,758 --> 00:02:43,413 and going to a hotel. 30 00:02:53,931 --> 00:02:56,310 I'm getting my stuff and I'm going. 31 00:02:56,310 --> 00:02:58,620 - To where? - To a hotel. 32 00:02:58,620 --> 00:03:02,068 I hate this kind of, "I'm going," stuff, okay? 33 00:03:02,068 --> 00:03:04,862 What do you expect when you treat someone like that? 34 00:03:04,862 --> 00:03:07,310 - That they're just gonna stay and let you-- - How did I just do... 35 00:03:07,310 --> 00:03:08,517 Do-- Do it longer? 36 00:03:11,241 --> 00:03:14,068 Well, your transparency is alarming. 37 00:03:15,724 --> 00:03:18,241 Well, you should've thought longer before you said those things. 38 00:03:19,827 --> 00:03:21,241 - You want me-- - My anxiety. 39 00:03:21,241 --> 00:03:23,827 - My anxiety. Shekinah. - How do you think my anxiety is doing? 40 00:03:23,827 --> 00:03:24,689 Shekinah. 41 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:28,413 Don't "my anxiety" me. 42 00:03:28,413 --> 00:03:29,827 You just gave yourself anxiety 43 00:03:29,827 --> 00:03:31,344 by putting that kind of pressure 44 00:03:31,344 --> 00:03:33,172 on yourself and someone else. 45 00:03:34,172 --> 00:03:35,586 Don't take your stuff. 46 00:03:35,586 --> 00:03:38,137 - I'm going to pack my stuff. - Don't take your stuff. 47 00:03:43,965 --> 00:03:45,000 I mean... 48 00:03:53,827 --> 00:03:56,034 I-- I-- I won't let you go, okay? 49 00:03:57,379 --> 00:03:58,413 Too bad. I'm going. 50 00:03:58,413 --> 00:04:00,241 - No, you're not. - Yes, I am. 51 00:04:00,241 --> 00:04:02,551 No, you're not. What did I say you, huh? 52 00:04:03,068 --> 00:04:04,413 What did I say you? 53 00:04:04,413 --> 00:04:06,068 - You said you could forget me... - What did I say you? 54 00:04:06,068 --> 00:04:08,206 - ...in two days. You're gonna forget me-- - What did I say you? 55 00:04:08,206 --> 00:04:10,965 - Don't touch my stuff. - I will touch your stuff. 56 00:04:10,965 --> 00:04:12,724 Stop. 57 00:04:12,724 --> 00:04:14,896 - You're acting like a child right now. - Yeah. 58 00:04:14,896 --> 00:04:17,413 You wanna have children? You are a child. 59 00:04:23,448 --> 00:04:25,724 I don't know who you were tonight either. 60 00:04:25,724 --> 00:04:28,413 - You're acting crazy. - I just said what I want, okay? 61 00:04:28,413 --> 00:04:30,206 I just said what I want. 62 00:04:31,103 --> 00:04:33,379 But what you want is not realistic. 63 00:04:33,379 --> 00:04:35,344 And it's not fair to me. 64 00:04:35,344 --> 00:04:38,137 - No, I can't stay here. - Okay, I will-- I will sleep on couch, okay? 65 00:04:38,137 --> 00:04:39,448 I promise. 66 00:04:39,448 --> 00:04:42,379 - Just go and sleep. - I think we need some time apart, anyways. 67 00:04:42,379 --> 00:04:43,586 I need to, like, figure out what I'm gonna do. 68 00:04:43,586 --> 00:04:46,068 Okay, we will stay in other rooms, okay? 69 00:04:46,068 --> 00:04:48,862 No, I wanna go to a hotel and figure out what I'm gonna do. 70 00:04:55,103 --> 00:04:56,448 Then I'm definitely going. 71 00:04:56,448 --> 00:04:58,103 Because if that's how you're gonna treat me, 72 00:04:58,103 --> 00:05:00,275 then there's no reason for me to stay. 73 00:05:02,310 --> 00:05:04,206 You're saying the wrong thing. 74 00:05:06,310 --> 00:05:07,517 That's [bleep] up. 75 00:05:07,517 --> 00:05:10,517 That's, like, up there with, "I'll forget you in two days." 76 00:05:11,655 --> 00:05:14,275 - Okay. - That's up to say. 77 00:05:17,655 --> 00:05:18,482 Yes. 78 00:05:21,551 --> 00:05:24,655 Please go out and let me pack. I want space. 79 00:05:32,068 --> 00:05:33,034 I will. 80 00:05:40,310 --> 00:05:42,275 There's hundreds of bugs everywhere. 81 00:05:52,034 --> 00:05:53,620 Oh, they're getting on the cake, too. 82 00:05:54,862 --> 00:05:56,793 They're all in my hair. 83 00:05:57,655 --> 00:05:58,793 Oh, God. 84 00:06:01,241 --> 00:06:03,068 They're crawling up my nose. 85 00:06:03,068 --> 00:06:05,206 I finally got married today. 86 00:06:05,206 --> 00:06:10,034 But then, we got swarmed by millions of bugs. 87 00:06:11,724 --> 00:06:13,172 Where? Where are we going? 88 00:06:16,896 --> 00:06:20,000 We all just evacuate. 89 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:21,827 Like, screw this. 90 00:06:21,827 --> 00:06:24,103 Oh. 91 00:06:24,103 --> 00:06:26,206 Use your dress and swat 'em all. Look at me! 92 00:06:26,206 --> 00:06:28,482 - Come here. - I know! 93 00:06:28,482 --> 00:06:29,931 This is ridiculous. 94 00:06:29,931 --> 00:06:32,689 Geez. 95 00:06:33,896 --> 00:06:38,206 Ugh, God. Kill that light, Jesus. 96 00:06:38,206 --> 00:06:40,241 I'm trying, dude. I'm being swarmed. 97 00:06:46,551 --> 00:06:49,206 Oh, God. 98 00:06:51,517 --> 00:06:54,068 Mom, I'm here with you, all right? 99 00:06:54,068 --> 00:06:56,206 You're looking good. There's no bugs on you. 100 00:06:56,206 --> 00:06:58,793 Okay? I don't see any bugs on you. 101 00:07:01,413 --> 00:07:02,931 My mom is having, like, a panic attack. 102 00:07:02,931 --> 00:07:04,000 Sorry, Mom. 103 00:07:08,655 --> 00:07:09,655 All right, let's go. 104 00:07:12,551 --> 00:07:14,793 Watch your step, Mom. 105 00:07:14,793 --> 00:07:16,241 Be very careful. 106 00:07:19,137 --> 00:07:22,310 I'm keeping them off behind. They're not following you. 107 00:07:22,310 --> 00:07:25,344 Okay? Yeah, I'm waving your hair. 108 00:07:40,137 --> 00:07:42,896 How're you doing, Mom? Close the windows, please. 109 00:07:42,896 --> 00:07:44,586 You okay? 110 00:07:47,517 --> 00:07:51,137 I'll sit here okay? Come here, you're okay. 111 00:07:58,034 --> 00:08:00,965 Think about the wedding. Think about how beautiful it was, okay? 112 00:08:00,965 --> 00:08:03,241 Until those bugs came in and ruined it all. 113 00:08:03,241 --> 00:08:06,586 Just... Deep breaths. Deep breaths. 114 00:08:06,586 --> 00:08:10,241 - Okay? - I can still feel them in my hair. 115 00:08:10,241 --> 00:08:12,379 I can-- I can tell you for a fact 116 00:08:12,379 --> 00:08:15,068 I don't see or feel it in your hair. 117 00:08:15,068 --> 00:08:17,344 That's just in your mind, okay? That's just in your mind. 118 00:08:23,448 --> 00:08:27,655 I have never experienced something so literally traumatic to me. 119 00:08:28,586 --> 00:08:30,689 - Okay? - Can't do this. 120 00:08:31,586 --> 00:08:33,310 Just-- It's too much. 121 00:08:37,586 --> 00:08:41,206 I'm gonna get married and we're gonna get out of here, all right? 122 00:08:41,206 --> 00:08:43,034 And then, you're gonna be okay. 123 00:08:43,034 --> 00:08:44,034 Okay? 124 00:08:47,172 --> 00:08:49,482 Geez Louise. 125 00:08:49,482 --> 00:08:51,793 It rains on your wedding day, it's unlucky or something, 126 00:08:51,793 --> 00:08:52,827 but... 127 00:08:53,517 --> 00:08:55,379 That's raining down bugs. 128 00:09:01,448 --> 00:09:04,931 I never imagined something will happen 129 00:09:04,931 --> 00:09:06,586 like this on my wedding day. 130 00:09:10,103 --> 00:09:11,310 You okay, baby? 131 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,275 Mmm... 132 00:09:15,344 --> 00:09:18,551 They're inside? Oh, man. 133 00:09:18,551 --> 00:09:21,793 I'm trying to stay calm even though I'm scared. 134 00:09:23,172 --> 00:09:26,586 But some of the bugs are inside my dress 135 00:09:26,586 --> 00:09:27,724 biting me. 136 00:09:29,172 --> 00:09:30,620 They do bite. 137 00:09:32,241 --> 00:09:35,275 Oh, my God. Holy 138 00:09:35,275 --> 00:09:36,448 I just lost the ring. 139 00:09:39,137 --> 00:09:40,448 I need to look for my wedding ring. 140 00:09:43,758 --> 00:09:46,241 Like, I'm doing this and my ring came off. 141 00:09:46,241 --> 00:09:49,034 And I-- I don't know what happened to it. 142 00:09:49,965 --> 00:09:51,551 It's just gone. 143 00:09:51,551 --> 00:09:54,620 Jesus H. Roosevelt. 144 00:09:54,620 --> 00:09:57,275 Can't believe I would lose that. 145 00:09:59,517 --> 00:10:01,758 This is getting worse and worse and worse. 146 00:10:03,724 --> 00:10:05,137 Total disaster. 147 00:10:05,137 --> 00:10:08,137 Oh, man. 148 00:10:19,896 --> 00:10:21,724 I'm not on good terms with them. 149 00:10:21,724 --> 00:10:22,965 That's a problem. 150 00:10:22,965 --> 00:10:24,896 Yeah, that's a problem! 151 00:10:27,620 --> 00:10:29,586 The other day, a woman wrote to me 152 00:10:29,586 --> 00:10:32,724 on social media and I have learned some things 153 00:10:32,724 --> 00:10:34,896 that make me not care to fight for this marriage any longer. 154 00:10:37,862 --> 00:10:41,034 I have no idea who this man is. I have no idea. 155 00:15:05,551 --> 00:15:06,655 Before, I was so pissed, 156 00:15:06,655 --> 00:15:07,862 like, I didn't want him to take 157 00:15:07,862 --> 00:15:09,137 anything that I paid for, 158 00:15:09,137 --> 00:15:10,827 'cause I felt like he didn't deserve it. 159 00:15:10,827 --> 00:15:13,206 And now, I feel like I don't want anything to do 160 00:15:13,206 --> 00:15:15,413 with anything he ever touched at all. 161 00:15:15,413 --> 00:15:17,689 I'm happy to give him everything that was ever here. 162 00:15:24,068 --> 00:15:28,724 It's been a month since Yohan officially moved out 163 00:15:28,724 --> 00:15:33,000 and this is my last day in this apartment. 164 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,896 I'm hosting a retreat, and so I'm gonna be staying 165 00:15:35,896 --> 00:15:37,310 at the retreat space 166 00:15:37,310 --> 00:15:39,172 and figuring out where I wanna be, 167 00:15:39,172 --> 00:15:41,896 because I've learned some things 168 00:15:41,896 --> 00:15:43,344 over the course of the last week... 169 00:15:45,793 --> 00:15:48,758 That make me not care to fight for this marriage any longer. 170 00:15:50,068 --> 00:15:51,724 I don't want anything to do with Yohan. 171 00:15:56,344 --> 00:15:59,206 The other day, a woman wrote to me on social media 172 00:15:59,206 --> 00:16:03,448 and told me that she has been in a relationship with my husband 173 00:16:03,448 --> 00:16:06,896 for two years since a month before we got married. 174 00:16:06,896 --> 00:16:10,310 And she wanted to ask me if we were really getting a divorce. 175 00:16:20,620 --> 00:16:23,206 She told me she met his father 176 00:16:23,206 --> 00:16:24,758 and his nephew. 177 00:16:25,310 --> 00:16:27,206 And gave them money. 178 00:16:38,310 --> 00:16:43,241 That she had sex with him for all these years 179 00:16:43,241 --> 00:16:45,103 and she knew he was married. 180 00:16:46,655 --> 00:16:49,482 And that he brought her to this apartment complex. 181 00:17:00,413 --> 00:17:03,689 And now, she decides to write to me 182 00:17:03,689 --> 00:17:06,000 like she's doing me a favor. 183 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:08,620 She probably reached out to me to get me to this place 184 00:17:08,620 --> 00:17:10,482 so that they can go and live happily ever after. 185 00:17:12,275 --> 00:17:14,724 You know, she gave me a play-by-play of their entire relationship 186 00:17:14,724 --> 00:17:16,827 and described every single detail. 187 00:17:16,827 --> 00:17:18,379 Every time she saw him, 188 00:17:18,379 --> 00:17:20,793 um, sent me pictures that he sends her. 189 00:17:20,793 --> 00:17:22,862 One of them was a picture of his [bleep] on Christmas Eve 190 00:17:22,862 --> 00:17:25,034 while I was handing out gifts to his family in his neighborhood. 191 00:17:26,965 --> 00:17:27,793 Really. 192 00:17:29,034 --> 00:17:30,000 Yeah. 193 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:32,172 I never thought that he was capable of this. 194 00:17:37,034 --> 00:17:40,275 I think that I have been wearing rose-colored glasses 195 00:17:40,275 --> 00:17:41,275 this entire time. 196 00:17:41,275 --> 00:17:43,586 I think that the Yohan that I was seeing 197 00:17:43,586 --> 00:17:44,724 and was believing was there 198 00:17:44,724 --> 00:17:46,448 was never actually in front of me. 199 00:17:46,448 --> 00:17:49,689 It's a lot. 200 00:17:49,689 --> 00:17:52,793 I honestly, like, I have no idea who this man is. 201 00:17:53,655 --> 00:17:54,827 I have no idea. 202 00:17:55,862 --> 00:17:57,137 I don't know if I ever will. 203 00:18:08,586 --> 00:18:10,034 His computer is here. 204 00:18:12,206 --> 00:18:14,586 And I started digging more. 205 00:18:14,586 --> 00:18:16,000 I went through his computer. 206 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:18,551 And I found evidence of other women 207 00:18:18,551 --> 00:18:19,862 that's he's been in relationships with, 208 00:18:19,862 --> 00:18:21,724 that he's spent the night with. 209 00:18:21,724 --> 00:18:24,551 Um, there are at least six different women 210 00:18:24,551 --> 00:18:27,448 that I know have had an inappropriate relationship with my husband. 211 00:18:27,448 --> 00:18:30,551 Women that he's either reached out to and asked for money, 212 00:18:30,551 --> 00:18:32,241 that he's had video conversations with, 213 00:18:32,241 --> 00:18:34,068 that he's made plans to meet up with. 214 00:18:34,068 --> 00:18:37,275 And he sat here and bitched all [bleep] year that he was broke. 215 00:18:37,275 --> 00:18:39,896 Meanwhile, he's been getting money from multiple bitches. 216 00:18:41,137 --> 00:18:41,965 Nah. 217 00:18:46,724 --> 00:18:49,172 I have tried to have a conversation with Yohan 218 00:18:49,172 --> 00:18:51,620 at least twice a day about what I found out, 219 00:18:51,620 --> 00:18:54,206 and he refuses to have a conversation with me. 220 00:18:54,206 --> 00:18:55,896 Refuses. 221 00:18:55,896 --> 00:18:58,068 I sent him a picture of his [bleep] and was like, 222 00:18:58,068 --> 00:19:00,068 "You sent this to this bitch on Christmas Eve. 223 00:19:00,068 --> 00:19:02,206 Here's a photo of the [bleep] conversation." 224 00:19:02,206 --> 00:19:06,241 He's like, "Oh, I did? I don't remember." Like, [bleep] you. 225 00:19:06,241 --> 00:19:08,241 I want nothing to do with this man ever again. 226 00:19:11,965 --> 00:19:13,344 I feel so foolish 227 00:19:13,344 --> 00:19:17,275 because I should have seen what was there from the beginning. 228 00:19:17,275 --> 00:19:20,172 But when we weren't talking about money, we were so happy. 229 00:19:21,655 --> 00:19:23,000 We had such a beautiful life. 230 00:19:24,517 --> 00:19:26,862 And, like, now I realize that none of it was real. 231 00:19:28,482 --> 00:19:30,068 Like, it was all just a game. 232 00:19:30,965 --> 00:19:31,793 And... 233 00:19:33,482 --> 00:19:36,137 I mean, I want to believe that he really loved me. 234 00:19:36,137 --> 00:19:39,517 But when you love someone, you don't treat them this way. 235 00:19:42,310 --> 00:19:44,000 Yeah, he's the monster. 236 00:19:50,448 --> 00:19:52,275 Where does this leave me? 237 00:19:52,275 --> 00:19:54,034 Do I stay here without him? 238 00:19:54,034 --> 00:19:58,862 Do I go back to New York and go back to a life that I don't really want anymore? 239 00:19:58,862 --> 00:20:01,068 Like, this is such a mind 240 00:20:01,068 --> 00:20:03,517 because I haven't had enough time and space 241 00:20:03,517 --> 00:20:05,310 to process this relationship 242 00:20:05,310 --> 00:20:07,137 to even think about what I wanna do next. 243 00:20:25,724 --> 00:20:27,931 You're saying everything totally different. 244 00:20:27,931 --> 00:20:29,689 - I just don't trust it. - I-- I-- 245 00:20:29,689 --> 00:20:32,310 Because, babe, I don't want to lose you. 246 00:20:32,310 --> 00:20:34,793 Honestly, I don't know where we stand. 247 00:20:34,793 --> 00:20:37,241 I can't forget about what he said to me. 248 00:21:04,379 --> 00:21:08,517 Two days ago, Sarper and I got into the worst fight of our relationship 249 00:21:08,517 --> 00:21:11,000 and since then, I've been staying in a hotel. 250 00:21:12,862 --> 00:21:15,241 I saw him in a different light. 251 00:21:15,241 --> 00:21:17,172 I just knew I had to get out of there. 252 00:21:18,551 --> 00:21:20,413 Sarper was acting so out of character, 253 00:21:20,413 --> 00:21:23,413 I've literally never seen him act like that before. 254 00:21:23,413 --> 00:21:26,137 He was being so erratic and so aggressive 255 00:21:26,137 --> 00:21:27,827 and super demanding, 256 00:21:27,827 --> 00:21:32,137 and I just don't know how we got here. 257 00:21:32,137 --> 00:21:34,482 In the hammam, things escalated. 258 00:21:34,482 --> 00:21:36,931 It went from a conversation to a fight. 259 00:21:36,931 --> 00:21:38,862 I don't know if he thought that was gonna happen. 260 00:21:38,862 --> 00:21:42,448 I kind of feel like he set up the whole hammam situation 261 00:21:42,448 --> 00:21:43,655 to butter me up, 262 00:21:43,655 --> 00:21:47,620 make me feel super loved, like this was really special, 263 00:21:47,620 --> 00:21:51,413 and then maybe my answer about children would be different. 264 00:21:51,413 --> 00:21:54,413 But he got the same answer and he wasn't happy with it. 265 00:21:56,103 --> 00:21:58,827 While I was ignoring Sarper for two days, 266 00:21:58,827 --> 00:22:01,896 he actually started trying really hard to get my attention 267 00:22:01,896 --> 00:22:04,137 and to let me know that he was sorry. 268 00:22:04,137 --> 00:22:08,344 He actually showed up outside my hotel room. 269 00:22:08,344 --> 00:22:10,586 He told me to look out the window and I looked out the window 270 00:22:10,586 --> 00:22:13,310 and he was down there doing little heart signs. 271 00:22:16,551 --> 00:22:17,758 I'm so sorry. 272 00:22:18,862 --> 00:22:20,206 I can't find any... 273 00:22:21,344 --> 00:22:23,206 words to describe my sorrow. 274 00:22:24,379 --> 00:22:26,172 Please give me a second chance. 275 00:22:27,965 --> 00:22:31,241 Right now, honestly, I don't know where we stand. 276 00:22:31,241 --> 00:22:34,034 I can't forget about what he said to me. 277 00:22:34,034 --> 00:22:36,827 Not to mention that all of a sudden, he wants kids 278 00:22:36,827 --> 00:22:38,482 when I absolutely do not. 279 00:22:40,206 --> 00:22:43,241 I see him really trying, so I'm willing to meet up with him. 280 00:22:44,172 --> 00:22:47,034 But I'm walking into this knowing 281 00:22:47,034 --> 00:22:49,241 that this relationship could be over. 282 00:22:59,758 --> 00:23:01,793 It was an embarrassment for me, 283 00:23:02,482 --> 00:23:03,827 what I said to her. 284 00:23:04,655 --> 00:23:07,103 Everything in total. 285 00:23:09,827 --> 00:23:12,586 I felt so guilty. I felt terrible. 286 00:23:22,034 --> 00:23:23,586 - Thank you. - I know it's not enough, but... 287 00:23:26,620 --> 00:23:29,241 I feel like a[bleep], man. I mean... 288 00:23:29,241 --> 00:23:32,793 I woke up without her, and on the pillow, 289 00:23:32,793 --> 00:23:34,068 the smell of her. 290 00:23:34,068 --> 00:23:38,103 I got it and I felt horrible. 291 00:23:38,103 --> 00:23:41,034 There was some needles pierced my heart... 292 00:23:43,137 --> 00:23:44,448 I mean, she is my... 293 00:23:45,068 --> 00:23:47,793 Love of lifetime. 294 00:23:47,793 --> 00:23:50,965 I hope she forgives me instead of saying goodbye. 295 00:23:52,793 --> 00:23:56,448 First, I wanna say I'm so, so sorry. 296 00:24:01,862 --> 00:24:04,000 I said many bad things to you, I know. 297 00:24:05,517 --> 00:24:07,620 I mean, I said I will forget you two days, 298 00:24:07,620 --> 00:24:09,034 but believe me, 299 00:24:09,655 --> 00:24:11,310 after I saw that pain, 300 00:24:17,965 --> 00:24:20,172 I'm so sorry about that. You can't believe. 301 00:24:22,103 --> 00:24:24,655 - You were shouting things that are hard to forget. - Yeah. Yeah. 302 00:24:24,655 --> 00:24:26,793 Like, I can't forget words you say. 303 00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:29,655 I'm so sorry. 304 00:24:32,206 --> 00:24:33,862 Well, what about a future together? 305 00:24:33,862 --> 00:24:36,620 'Cause you said that you don't see a future with me 306 00:24:36,620 --> 00:24:38,379 unless there's a child in it. 307 00:24:39,517 --> 00:24:41,827 No. That's not right. 308 00:24:41,827 --> 00:24:44,655 I can't live without you, babe. I just saw it. 309 00:24:51,862 --> 00:24:54,862 What if you really want it so badly? 310 00:24:54,862 --> 00:24:56,379 It's not important. 311 00:24:56,379 --> 00:24:58,103 You really think that? 312 00:24:58,103 --> 00:24:59,862 - That's the opposite of what you said the other night. - Yeah, I really think that. 313 00:24:59,862 --> 00:25:00,862 I know. 314 00:25:02,275 --> 00:25:04,413 You're saying everything totally different, 315 00:25:04,413 --> 00:25:06,206 - and I just don't trust it. - I-- I-- 316 00:25:06,206 --> 00:25:08,034 Because, babe, I don't want to lose you. 317 00:25:10,103 --> 00:25:12,758 I will never push you to something. 318 00:25:13,620 --> 00:25:14,517 You will see. 319 00:25:38,206 --> 00:25:41,000 So I will never open that issue again 320 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,068 unless she wants it. 321 00:25:44,724 --> 00:25:47,517 I hope that what you're saying is real. 322 00:25:47,517 --> 00:25:49,172 'Cause I'm so confused now. 323 00:25:49,172 --> 00:25:51,034 I hope you know that I'm so confused what's real. 324 00:25:51,034 --> 00:25:53,620 You are right to be confused, babe. I mean, it's normal. 325 00:25:56,344 --> 00:25:59,448 Wanting to have a child is not something that just goes away overnight. 326 00:25:59,448 --> 00:26:01,655 It's not an issue you can just sweep under the rug 327 00:26:01,655 --> 00:26:03,586 and pretend isn't there. 328 00:26:03,586 --> 00:26:06,793 So makes me really uncertain 329 00:26:06,793 --> 00:26:10,172 on how to proceed in this relationship. 330 00:26:10,172 --> 00:26:12,862 How can I trust that he won't just keep changing his mind? 331 00:26:15,206 --> 00:26:17,344 Don't just say what you think I wanna hear, please. 332 00:26:17,344 --> 00:26:20,275 I promise I will never push you... 333 00:26:23,103 --> 00:26:26,068 Towards something that you don't want, okay? Never. 334 00:26:30,379 --> 00:26:31,896 I'm so sorry. 335 00:26:31,896 --> 00:26:33,862 I know. I can tell. 336 00:26:35,862 --> 00:26:36,965 I forgive you. 337 00:26:43,103 --> 00:26:44,103 Of course. 338 00:26:47,344 --> 00:26:49,758 Thank you, especially for giving me a second chance. 339 00:26:56,827 --> 00:26:58,413 There's a lot of bugs on the cake. 340 00:26:59,793 --> 00:27:02,793 I figured we'd just get rid of the frosting, 341 00:27:02,793 --> 00:27:05,344 and it'll be a good cake. 342 00:27:05,344 --> 00:27:06,896 - I don't suppose you want some, do you? - Nope. 343 00:27:06,896 --> 00:27:09,068 My God. 344 00:27:35,379 --> 00:27:38,000 Can't believe I would lose that ring. 345 00:27:44,482 --> 00:27:45,482 It's somewhere over here. 346 00:27:50,517 --> 00:27:52,000 Here it is. Found it. 347 00:27:52,827 --> 00:27:53,689 Awesome. 348 00:27:56,862 --> 00:27:58,241 Yeah. 349 00:27:58,241 --> 00:28:00,310 All right, y'all, let's just get out of here. 350 00:28:03,413 --> 00:28:05,344 I found the wedding ring. 351 00:28:05,344 --> 00:28:07,827 They biting you? 352 00:28:14,206 --> 00:28:17,000 Oh, it really hurts so much. 353 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:21,068 I really hope the bugs didn't ruin the marriage for Mary, 354 00:28:21,068 --> 00:28:23,034 because, ultimately, 355 00:28:23,034 --> 00:28:25,379 this is a really important day for her. 356 00:28:25,379 --> 00:28:28,896 Oh, God, really hurts so much. 357 00:28:28,896 --> 00:28:31,000 Wow. They're all up in there, too. 358 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,413 And we had to leave and just cut the reception short. 359 00:28:36,241 --> 00:28:37,758 We didn't even get to eat cake. 360 00:28:38,413 --> 00:28:40,172 Like, come on. 361 00:28:42,517 --> 00:28:43,413 Okay. 362 00:28:47,586 --> 00:28:50,206 - Great. - That was crazy, right? 363 00:28:50,206 --> 00:28:51,551 That was more than crazy. 364 00:28:54,551 --> 00:28:57,586 - Is that normal? - No. 365 00:28:58,379 --> 00:28:59,896 It's my first time seeing that. 366 00:28:59,896 --> 00:29:01,724 Damn. 367 00:29:01,724 --> 00:29:03,586 Are you okay, though, Mom? 'Cause you-- 368 00:29:03,586 --> 00:29:05,000 You had a moment there where... 369 00:29:05,896 --> 00:29:07,379 I'm okay now. I just-- 370 00:29:07,379 --> 00:29:08,793 I never would have expected 371 00:29:08,793 --> 00:29:12,655 it would have turned into the frickin' seventh plague of Egypt. 372 00:29:15,241 --> 00:29:19,448 I'm sorry that your wedding didn't end, 373 00:29:19,448 --> 00:29:22,137 - you know... - No, it's not your fault. 374 00:29:27,724 --> 00:29:29,068 I feel sad because... 375 00:29:29,896 --> 00:29:33,379 It's not really the day 376 00:29:33,379 --> 00:29:36,068 that we planned. 377 00:29:36,068 --> 00:29:39,068 And I feel so bad for all the guests. 378 00:29:39,068 --> 00:29:40,827 Yay, we're home. 379 00:29:49,448 --> 00:29:52,034 Just happy that I'm already married. 380 00:29:59,137 --> 00:30:00,241 Yikes. 381 00:30:06,448 --> 00:30:07,793 Whoa. 382 00:30:07,793 --> 00:30:10,586 - There's a lot of bugs on the cake. - Mmm. 383 00:30:11,689 --> 00:30:14,379 - Yeah. - I figured we'd just cluck the bugs off 384 00:30:14,379 --> 00:30:16,862 and then get rid of the frosting 385 00:30:16,862 --> 00:30:18,724 and it'll be a good cake. 386 00:30:20,758 --> 00:30:22,172 - Hey. - Hey Angela. 387 00:30:22,172 --> 00:30:23,620 - I don't suppose you want some, do you? - Nope. 388 00:30:23,620 --> 00:30:26,482 My God. 389 00:30:26,482 --> 00:30:29,000 I'm just gonna go to bed. 390 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:33,448 But I'm just really, really proud of both of you. 391 00:30:37,413 --> 00:30:39,310 I didn't think that this decision 392 00:30:39,310 --> 00:30:41,896 of him coming out here was a good one. 393 00:30:41,896 --> 00:30:45,310 But he genuinely seems really happy here, and... 394 00:30:46,241 --> 00:30:48,241 She seems very much in love with him. 395 00:30:48,241 --> 00:30:50,379 So I'm proud of both of them 396 00:30:50,379 --> 00:30:53,724 for what they've overcome to be together 397 00:30:53,724 --> 00:30:56,241 and if they can work together as a team, 398 00:30:56,241 --> 00:30:58,620 then I really do believe that they have, like, 399 00:30:58,620 --> 00:31:02,034 the makings of an epic sort of love story, you know, 400 00:31:02,034 --> 00:31:04,379 and will be really successful 401 00:31:04,379 --> 00:31:06,655 as husband and wife, and as parents. 402 00:31:07,689 --> 00:31:09,620 Give me a hug. 403 00:31:18,379 --> 00:31:22,620 I felt surprised that Angela gave me a hug because... 404 00:31:29,517 --> 00:31:31,862 I love you, too, Mom. Thank you for coming out. 405 00:31:33,172 --> 00:31:34,517 Right. 406 00:31:35,931 --> 00:31:37,034 Goodnight, Mom. 407 00:31:38,551 --> 00:31:42,517 I get teary-eyed because I feel that we're really okay now. 408 00:31:42,517 --> 00:31:48,206 And I'm so glad that I got to meet her. 409 00:31:50,655 --> 00:31:54,517 We didn't get to eat this at the wedding, so... 410 00:31:58,586 --> 00:32:00,655 - Mmm. - Mmm. 411 00:32:00,655 --> 00:32:02,551 You gave me such a big bite. 412 00:32:06,413 --> 00:32:07,620 I don't taste any bugs. 413 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:15,000 So me and my mom talked earlier today, and, um... 414 00:32:16,413 --> 00:32:18,448 And now that we're married and we have a kid on the way, 415 00:32:18,448 --> 00:32:20,206 I want to be able to show you that, 416 00:32:20,206 --> 00:32:21,689 you know, I can participate. 417 00:32:21,689 --> 00:32:25,448 Like, I'll be more involved in finances 418 00:32:25,448 --> 00:32:27,206 and not just sit on the sidelines. 419 00:32:29,448 --> 00:32:30,586 You always... 420 00:32:31,724 --> 00:32:35,000 Tell me this. You always made the promise. 421 00:32:36,068 --> 00:32:38,724 And I hope this time, 422 00:32:38,724 --> 00:32:41,724 you're really gonna do it, not just say it. 423 00:32:42,758 --> 00:32:46,551 I really mean what I'm saying. I will do it. 424 00:32:50,310 --> 00:32:51,448 I'm ready. 425 00:32:54,965 --> 00:32:57,965 I think the future will be positive for me and Brandan. 426 00:32:57,965 --> 00:33:00,827 So that's why I choose to believe him, because... 427 00:33:01,965 --> 00:33:03,448 We're now married. 428 00:33:03,448 --> 00:33:05,310 He can now look for a job. 429 00:33:05,310 --> 00:33:08,965 And I feel like he really loves me 430 00:33:08,965 --> 00:33:11,586 that we won't leave each other no matter what. 431 00:33:14,034 --> 00:33:16,862 This is a fresh start for us. 432 00:33:17,620 --> 00:33:19,586 Yes, it is. I like that. 433 00:33:25,482 --> 00:33:28,517 I'm telling you that I'm depressed and you don't care! 434 00:33:30,965 --> 00:33:33,103 I don't wanna separate from you! 435 00:33:34,827 --> 00:33:36,482 No, I said I don't! 436 00:33:36,482 --> 00:33:38,482 God damn it! 437 00:34:10,517 --> 00:34:13,172 It's been three months since T.J. and I got married, 438 00:34:13,172 --> 00:34:17,206 and we haven't exactly had a blissful honeymoon phase. 439 00:34:18,517 --> 00:34:20,310 T.J. is at work all of the time 440 00:34:20,310 --> 00:34:23,482 and I'm stuck in the apartment all day. 441 00:34:24,517 --> 00:34:26,275 It's extremely isolating. 442 00:34:28,034 --> 00:34:30,137 I don't speak the language very well, 443 00:34:30,137 --> 00:34:32,275 so I have to depend on T.J. 444 00:34:32,275 --> 00:34:34,310 in order to go out at all. 445 00:34:35,724 --> 00:34:38,862 And I don't feel comfortable going downstairs 446 00:34:38,862 --> 00:34:40,965 because the past couple of months 447 00:34:40,965 --> 00:34:42,482 living with T.J.'s family 448 00:34:42,482 --> 00:34:44,862 haven't been without conflict. 449 00:34:44,862 --> 00:34:48,931 For example, if somebody wants to go upstairs to the roof, 450 00:34:48,931 --> 00:34:50,931 they have to go through our living room. 451 00:34:50,931 --> 00:34:52,620 I asked them to ring the doorbell 452 00:34:52,620 --> 00:34:54,517 so I can make sure I'm clothed 453 00:34:54,517 --> 00:34:57,344 since they're very peculiar about that, 454 00:34:57,344 --> 00:35:01,517 but they saw it as I'm telling them not to come upstairs at all. 455 00:35:02,482 --> 00:35:05,517 And so, it turned into this huge ordeal, 456 00:35:05,517 --> 00:35:08,034 and now, whenever I go downstairs, 457 00:35:08,034 --> 00:35:10,068 I'm just met with hostile looks 458 00:35:10,068 --> 00:35:11,551 and not even greeted. 459 00:35:15,793 --> 00:35:17,413 It's been tough. 460 00:35:17,413 --> 00:35:20,068 And even though I live in a house filled with so many different people, 461 00:35:20,068 --> 00:35:22,758 I feel completely alone. 462 00:35:22,758 --> 00:35:26,758 Every day, I used to get up really positive 463 00:35:26,758 --> 00:35:29,172 and sing about how beautiful the day was 464 00:35:29,172 --> 00:35:31,000 and how it was gonna be a great day. 465 00:35:36,482 --> 00:35:39,000 Just because there was a reason to celebrate it. 466 00:35:41,206 --> 00:35:44,620 And it's really hard for me to feel that way nowadays. 467 00:35:54,103 --> 00:35:57,206 Whenever I try to talk to T.J. about this kind of stuff, 468 00:35:57,206 --> 00:36:00,793 he just becomes defensive and accusatory. 469 00:36:01,310 --> 00:36:02,275 Hi. 470 00:36:03,103 --> 00:36:04,000 Hey. 471 00:36:05,103 --> 00:36:07,862 I feel like I've gotten to the point where 472 00:36:07,862 --> 00:36:10,896 my mental health is crumbling around me. 473 00:36:10,896 --> 00:36:12,689 Something has gotta change. 474 00:36:12,689 --> 00:36:14,620 'Cause right now, my life in India 475 00:36:15,965 --> 00:36:18,655 is the worst. 476 00:36:18,655 --> 00:36:22,137 Like, I wouldn't wish this life on anybody. 477 00:36:25,965 --> 00:36:27,103 Did you eat? 478 00:36:28,620 --> 00:36:30,275 I haven't been hungry lately. 479 00:36:32,758 --> 00:36:34,000 Something in your mind? 480 00:36:36,172 --> 00:36:37,103 I just... 481 00:36:38,206 --> 00:36:39,517 I'm always here. 482 00:36:41,103 --> 00:36:44,413 I'm always here in this... 483 00:36:46,172 --> 00:36:47,172 In this house, in this room. 484 00:36:50,655 --> 00:36:53,793 When I was in the U.S., I wasn't ever at my house. 485 00:36:55,137 --> 00:36:58,310 I can't talk to my friends. 486 00:36:58,310 --> 00:37:02,241 Whenever they're awake, it's, like, midnight here and I'm asleep. 487 00:37:02,241 --> 00:37:06,172 That's how the timing works. What to do? 488 00:37:06,172 --> 00:37:09,724 You can stay up the whole night and just talk to them. 489 00:37:10,551 --> 00:37:11,862 But I can't. 490 00:37:11,862 --> 00:37:14,758 I'm-- I'm an early sleeper and you know that. 491 00:37:17,724 --> 00:37:20,206 T.J., I felt really alone lately. 492 00:37:21,206 --> 00:37:23,482 You expect me to be around here. 493 00:37:28,172 --> 00:37:29,344 Yeah, I know. 494 00:37:32,103 --> 00:37:33,862 But I don't speak Hindi. 495 00:37:33,862 --> 00:37:36,137 I don't have an option of going out without you. 496 00:37:37,448 --> 00:37:39,241 I feel like I'm starting to get depressed 497 00:37:39,241 --> 00:37:41,241 because I can't do anything. 498 00:37:42,827 --> 00:37:45,758 So, baby, it's a common problem, nah? 499 00:37:45,758 --> 00:37:48,068 It's not a common problem to get depressed 500 00:37:48,068 --> 00:37:50,310 right after you get married. 501 00:37:50,310 --> 00:37:52,724 And whenever I tell you how I feel, 502 00:37:52,724 --> 00:37:55,379 we get into an argument and we don't talk for days. 503 00:37:57,379 --> 00:37:59,482 I don't think... 504 00:37:59,482 --> 00:38:01,655 that whenever you and I get into an argument, 505 00:38:01,655 --> 00:38:04,206 that it's healthy for you to just go down there 506 00:38:04,206 --> 00:38:05,379 and not talk to me. 507 00:38:07,172 --> 00:38:08,793 That's not how a marriage works. 508 00:38:20,896 --> 00:38:22,103 I understand that. 509 00:38:22,103 --> 00:38:25,137 But it's avoiding the whole thing, 510 00:38:25,137 --> 00:38:27,965 because then you leave me up here by myself. 511 00:38:29,310 --> 00:38:32,137 It feels like you're secluding me in a jail cell. 512 00:38:32,137 --> 00:38:34,827 It feels like I'm in isolation. 513 00:38:34,827 --> 00:38:38,586 And I don't feel like I have the freedom to go downstairs 514 00:38:38,586 --> 00:38:39,724 whenever I want. 515 00:38:50,620 --> 00:38:52,551 Okay, but here's the thing. 516 00:38:52,551 --> 00:38:54,896 You guys think that I'm ignoring them. 517 00:38:56,310 --> 00:38:57,655 I'm not ignoring them. 518 00:38:57,655 --> 00:39:00,137 I just don't have anything to say. 519 00:39:00,137 --> 00:39:02,931 Because I'm not on good terms with them. 520 00:39:02,931 --> 00:39:04,275 That's a problem! 521 00:39:04,275 --> 00:39:07,000 Yeah, that's a problem! 522 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,206 And no one wants to solve anything with me. 523 00:39:09,206 --> 00:39:12,172 Everybody just wants to bitch at each other because of it. 524 00:39:12,172 --> 00:39:13,862 How-- Are you hearing-- 525 00:39:15,758 --> 00:39:18,965 Tejaswi, I have asked you multiple times not to dare call me crazy. 526 00:39:18,965 --> 00:39:21,103 I don't call you an ass [bleep], I don't call you a dick. 527 00:39:21,103 --> 00:39:22,482 I don't call you a titty baby. 528 00:39:22,482 --> 00:39:24,551 I don't call you anything that you don't like to be called. 529 00:39:24,551 --> 00:39:26,344 Don't you dare call me crazy. 530 00:39:28,137 --> 00:39:29,206 I'm acting like a wife 531 00:39:29,206 --> 00:39:31,103 who can't communicate clearly with her husband. 532 00:39:32,551 --> 00:39:36,000 I just told you a few minutes ago that I'm [bleep] depressed. 533 00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,034 You are depressed of your own reason. 534 00:39:38,034 --> 00:39:41,206 - Not because of me. - Everybody gets depressed over their own [bleep] reasons! 535 00:39:43,655 --> 00:39:45,206 You-- Don't shout at me. 536 00:40:08,379 --> 00:40:09,896 I wanna be with my husband, 537 00:40:09,896 --> 00:40:12,965 but it doesn't seem like my husband even wants to be with me. 538 00:40:16,344 --> 00:40:18,206 Why do you say that stuff? 539 00:40:18,206 --> 00:40:20,689 That's-- That's-- That's the main thing right now. 540 00:40:25,793 --> 00:40:27,137 Yes, you can. 541 00:40:27,137 --> 00:40:29,655 - No, I can't. I can't change. - You can support me. 542 00:40:33,344 --> 00:40:36,793 No! I'm asking you to listen to me. 543 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,379 You have to listen to me for the rest of your life. 544 00:40:43,379 --> 00:40:44,896 That's what marriage is. 545 00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:50,758 I'm telling you that I'm depressed, 546 00:40:50,758 --> 00:40:52,827 and you don't care! 547 00:40:52,827 --> 00:40:55,517 What you else-- will expect from me? 548 00:40:55,517 --> 00:40:59,793 Maybe give me a [bleep] hug and say, "I'm sorry you're [bleep] depressed,"! 549 00:41:01,620 --> 00:41:03,034 I'm not doing that. 550 00:41:03,034 --> 00:41:05,413 I know! You never will! 551 00:41:06,137 --> 00:41:07,724 I need support from somebody 552 00:41:07,724 --> 00:41:09,896 who made vows to love me 553 00:41:09,896 --> 00:41:11,965 till death do us part, for better or worse, 554 00:41:11,965 --> 00:41:15,068 and this person is not holding up his end of the bargain! 555 00:41:16,482 --> 00:41:18,965 Yes! It is duty of a husband-- 556 00:41:23,413 --> 00:41:24,931 You told me that the duty was 557 00:41:24,931 --> 00:41:27,551 to make sure everything in the house is running together. 558 00:41:27,551 --> 00:41:29,517 And I have been! 559 00:41:36,620 --> 00:41:39,586 You're not telling me whenever you need anything, 560 00:41:39,586 --> 00:41:41,379 and I'm trying my best! 561 00:41:43,551 --> 00:41:45,206 I am at my wits' end here. 562 00:41:46,448 --> 00:41:47,793 And I can't do this anymore, 563 00:41:47,793 --> 00:41:49,689 and I've told you over and over and over again, 564 00:41:49,689 --> 00:41:51,758 but I think you think that I'm joking. 565 00:41:55,551 --> 00:41:57,896 I don't wanna separate from you! 566 00:42:00,965 --> 00:42:02,655 No! I said I don't! 567 00:42:02,655 --> 00:42:03,965 - You said-- - God damn it! 568 00:42:03,965 --> 00:42:06,655 You said several times. 569 00:42:10,241 --> 00:42:11,586 Shut up! 570 00:42:14,689 --> 00:42:17,000 You already ruined this entire thing! 571 00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:18,172 I hate you! 572 00:42:18,793 --> 00:42:20,413 Just leave. Bye!