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Previously on
90 Day Fiancé:
The Other Way...
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You may now
kiss the bride.
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I've been waiting
for so long for this moment.
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There was, like,
this fog rolling in.
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Crap.
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It's getting worse.
It's not getting better.
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Everyone's getting
swarmed by bugs.
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Geez.
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Yeah.
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T.J., I specifically
asked you this stuff
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before we got married.
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And you said, "No,
don't worry about it."
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Hiding stuff from me
is making it harder.
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You are on the verge of
losing me and you don't cry.
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- I'm on the verge
of losing a man...
- Are you-- Are you--
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...that is demanding for me
to have a child
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five months
into a relationship.
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I said you what I want.
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If you're gonna
carry on like this,
you're gonna lose me.
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Yohan!
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Yohan has decided
that I haven't done enough
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and he wants to leave me
all at the happiest time
of the year.
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No, no, no, no, no,
you're not going anywhere
with my dog.
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Give me the dog!
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I want you out
of my house now!
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Get out! Get out!
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Sarper told me
to book a flight,
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so I'm packing
all of my things
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and going to a hotel.
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I'm getting my stuff
and I'm going.
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- To where?
- To a hotel.
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I hate this kind of,
"I'm going," stuff, okay?
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What do you expect when
you treat someone like that?
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- That they're just gonna stay
and let you--
- How did I just do...
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Do-- Do it longer?
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Well,
your transparency is alarming.
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Well, you should've
thought longer before
you said those things.
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- You want me--
- My anxiety.
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- My anxiety. Shekinah.
- How do you think
my anxiety is doing?
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Shekinah.
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Don't
"my anxiety" me.
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You just gave yourself anxiety
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by putting
that kind of pressure
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on yourself and someone else.
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Don't
take your stuff.
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- I'm going
to pack my stuff.
- Don't take your stuff.
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I mean...
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I-- I-- I won't
let you go, okay?
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Too bad. I'm going.
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- No, you're not.
- Yes, I am.
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No, you're not.
What did I say you, huh?
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What did I say you?
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- You said
you could forget me...
- What did I say you?
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- ...in two days.
You're gonna forget me--
- What did I say you?
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- Don't touch my stuff.
- I will touch your stuff.
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Stop.
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- You're acting like
a child right now.
- Yeah.
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You wanna have children?
You are a child.
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I don't know
who you were tonight either.
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- You're acting crazy.
- I just said
what I want, okay?
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I just said what I want.
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But what you want
is not realistic.
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And it's not fair to me.
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- No, I can't stay here.
- Okay, I will-- I will
sleep on couch, okay?
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I promise.
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- Just go and sleep.
- I think we need
some time apart, anyways.
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I need to, like,
figure out what I'm gonna do.
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Okay, we will stay
in other rooms, okay?
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No, I wanna go to a hotel
and figure out
what I'm gonna do.
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Then I'm definitely going.
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Because if that's how
you're gonna treat me,
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then there's no reason
for me to stay.
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You're saying the wrong thing.
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That's [bleep] up.
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That's, like, up there with,
"I'll forget you in two days."
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- Okay.
- That's
up to say.
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Yes.
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Please go out
and let me pack.
I want space.
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I will.
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There's hundreds
of bugs everywhere.
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Oh, they're
getting on the cake, too.
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They're all
in my hair.
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Oh, God.
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They're
crawling up my nose.
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I finally got married today.
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But then, we got swarmed
by millions of bugs.
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Where?
Where are we going?
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We all
just evacuate.
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Like, screw this.
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Oh.
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Use your dress
and swat 'em all. Look at me!
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- Come here.
- I know!
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This is ridiculous.
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Geez.
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Ugh, God.
Kill that light, Jesus.
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I'm trying, dude.
I'm being swarmed.
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Oh, God.
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Mom,
I'm here with you, all right?
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You're looking good.
There's no bugs on you.
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Okay? I don't see
any bugs on you.
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My mom is having,
like, a panic attack.
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Sorry, Mom.
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All right, let's go.
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Watch your step, Mom.
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Be very careful.
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I'm keeping them off behind.
They're not following you.
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Okay?
Yeah, I'm waving your hair.
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How're
you doing, Mom?
Close the windows, please.
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You okay?
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I'll sit here okay?
Come here, you're okay.
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Think about the wedding.
Think about how beautiful
it was, okay?
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Until those bugs came in
and ruined it all.
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Just... Deep breaths.
Deep breaths.
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- Okay?
- I can still feel them
in my hair.
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I can-- I can tell you
for a fact
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I don't see or feel it
in your hair.
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That's just
in your mind, okay?
That's just in your mind.
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I have never
experienced something
so literally traumatic to me.
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- Okay?
- Can't do this.
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Just-- It's too much.
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I'm gonna
get married and we're gonna
get out of here, all right?
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And then,
you're gonna be okay.
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Okay?
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Geez Louise.
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It rains on your wedding day,
it's unlucky or something,
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but...
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That's raining down bugs.
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I never imagined
something will happen
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like this on my wedding day.
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You okay, baby?
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Mmm...
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They're inside?
Oh, man.
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I'm trying to stay calm
even though I'm scared.
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But some of the bugs
are inside my dress
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biting me.
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They do bite.
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Oh, my God. Holy
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I just lost the ring.
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I need to look for
my wedding ring.
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Like, I'm doing this
and my ring came off.
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And I-- I don't know
what happened to it.
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It's just gone.
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Jesus H. Roosevelt.
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Can't believe
I would lose that.
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This is getting worse
and worse and worse.
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Total disaster.
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Oh, man.
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I'm not
on good terms with them.
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That's a problem.
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Yeah, that's a problem!
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The other day,
a woman wrote to me
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on social media
and I have learned some things
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that make me not care to fight
for this marriage any longer.
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I have no idea
who this man is.
I have no idea.
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Before,
I was so pissed,
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like, I didn't want him
to take
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anything that I paid for,
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'cause I felt like
he didn't deserve it.
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And now, I feel like
I don't want anything to do
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with anything
he ever touched at all.
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I'm happy to give him
everything that was ever here.
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It's been a month since
Yohan officially moved out
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and this is my last day
in this apartment.
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I'm hosting a retreat,
and so I'm gonna be staying
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at the retreat space
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and figuring out
where I wanna be,
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because I've learned
some things
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over the course
of the last week...
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That make me not care to fight
for this marriage any longer.
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I don't want anything
to do with Yohan.
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The other day, a woman
wrote to me on social media
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and told me that
she has been in a relationship
with my husband
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for two years
since a month
before we got married.
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And she wanted to ask me
if we were really getting
a divorce.
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She told me she met his father
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and his nephew.
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And gave them money.
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That she had sex with him
for all these years
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and she knew he was married.
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And that he brought her
to this apartment complex.
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And now, she decides
to write to me
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like she's doing me a favor.
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She probably reached out to me
to get me to this place
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so that they can go
and live happily ever after.
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You know, she gave me
a play-by-play of
their entire relationship
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and described
every single detail.
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Every time she saw him,
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um, sent me pictures
that he sends her.
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One of them was a picture of
his [bleep] on Christmas Eve
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while I was handing out gifts
to his family
in his neighborhood.
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Really.
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Yeah.
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I never thought that
he was capable of this.
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I think that I have been
wearing rose-colored glasses
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this entire time.
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I think that the Yohan
that I was seeing
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and was believing was there
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was never actually
in front of me.
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It's a lot.
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I honestly, like,
I have no idea
who this man is.
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I have no idea.
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I don't know if I ever will.
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His computer is here.
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And I started digging more.
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I went through his computer.
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And I found evidence
of other women
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that's he's been
in relationships with,
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that he's spent
the night with.
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Um, there are at least
six different women
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that I know have had
an inappropriate relationship
with my husband.
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Women that he's either
reached out to
and asked for money,
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that he's had
video conversations with,
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that he's made plans
to meet up with.
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And he sat here
and bitched all [bleep] year
that he was broke.
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Meanwhile, he's been
getting money from
multiple bitches.
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Nah.
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I have tried to have
a conversation with Yohan
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at least twice a day
about what I found out,
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and he refuses to have
a conversation with me.
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Refuses.
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I sent him a picture
of his [bleep] and was like,
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"You sent this to this bitch
on Christmas Eve.
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Here's a photo
of the [bleep] conversation."
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He's like, "Oh, I did?
I don't remember."
Like, [bleep] you.
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I want nothing to do
with this man ever again.
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I feel so foolish
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because I should have seen
what was there
from the beginning.
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But when we weren't
talking about money,
we were so happy.
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We had such a beautiful life.
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And, like, now I realize
that none of it was real.
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Like, it was all just a game.
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And...
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I mean, I want to believe
that he really loved me.
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But when you love someone,
you don't treat them this way.
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Yeah, he's the monster.
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Where does this leave me?
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Do I stay here without him?
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Do I go back to New York
and go back to a life that
I don't really want anymore?
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Like, this is
such a mind
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because I haven't had
enough time and space
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to process this relationship
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to even think about
what I wanna do next.
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You're saying everything
totally different.
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- I just don't trust it.
- I-- I--
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Because, babe,
I don't want to lose you.
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Honestly, I don't know
where we stand.
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I can't forget about
what he said to me.
248
00:21:04,379 --> 00:21:08,517
Two days ago, Sarper and I
got into the worst fight
of our relationship
249
00:21:08,517 --> 00:21:11,000
and since then,
I've been staying
in a hotel.
250
00:21:12,862 --> 00:21:15,241
I saw him
in a different light.
251
00:21:15,241 --> 00:21:17,172
I just knew
I had to get out of there.
252
00:21:18,551 --> 00:21:20,413
Sarper was acting
so out of character,
253
00:21:20,413 --> 00:21:23,413
I've literally never seen him
act like that before.
254
00:21:23,413 --> 00:21:26,137
He was being so erratic
and so aggressive
255
00:21:26,137 --> 00:21:27,827
and super demanding,
256
00:21:27,827 --> 00:21:32,137
and I just don't know
how we got here.
257
00:21:32,137 --> 00:21:34,482
In the hammam,
things escalated.
258
00:21:34,482 --> 00:21:36,931
It went from a conversation
to a fight.
259
00:21:36,931 --> 00:21:38,862
I don't know if he thought
that was gonna happen.
260
00:21:38,862 --> 00:21:42,448
I kind of feel like he set up
the whole hammam situation
261
00:21:42,448 --> 00:21:43,655
to butter me up,
262
00:21:43,655 --> 00:21:47,620
make me feel super loved,
like this was really special,
263
00:21:47,620 --> 00:21:51,413
and then maybe
my answer about children
would be different.
264
00:21:51,413 --> 00:21:54,413
But he got the same answer
and he wasn't happy with it.
265
00:21:56,103 --> 00:21:58,827
While I was ignoring Sarper
for two days,
266
00:21:58,827 --> 00:22:01,896
he actually started
trying really hard
to get my attention
267
00:22:01,896 --> 00:22:04,137
and to let me know
that he was sorry.
268
00:22:04,137 --> 00:22:08,344
He actually showed up
outside my hotel room.
269
00:22:08,344 --> 00:22:10,586
He told me to
look out the window
and I looked out the window
270
00:22:10,586 --> 00:22:13,310
and he was down there
doing little heart signs.
271
00:22:16,551 --> 00:22:17,758
I'm so sorry.
272
00:22:18,862 --> 00:22:20,206
I can't find any...
273
00:22:21,344 --> 00:22:23,206
words to describe my sorrow.
274
00:22:24,379 --> 00:22:26,172
Please give me
a second chance.
275
00:22:27,965 --> 00:22:31,241
Right now, honestly,
I don't know where we stand.
276
00:22:31,241 --> 00:22:34,034
I can't forget about
what he said to me.
277
00:22:34,034 --> 00:22:36,827
Not to mention that
all of a sudden, he wants kids
278
00:22:36,827 --> 00:22:38,482
when I absolutely do not.
279
00:22:40,206 --> 00:22:43,241
I see him really trying,
so I'm willing to meet up
with him.
280
00:22:44,172 --> 00:22:47,034
But I'm walking
into this knowing
281
00:22:47,034 --> 00:22:49,241
that this relationship
could be over.
282
00:22:59,758 --> 00:23:01,793
It was
an embarrassment for me,
283
00:23:02,482 --> 00:23:03,827
what I said to her.
284
00:23:04,655 --> 00:23:07,103
Everything in total.
285
00:23:09,827 --> 00:23:12,586
I felt so guilty.
I felt terrible.
286
00:23:22,034 --> 00:23:23,586
- Thank you.
- I know
it's not enough, but...
287
00:23:26,620 --> 00:23:29,241
I feel like a[bleep], man.
I mean...
288
00:23:29,241 --> 00:23:32,793
I woke up without her,
and on the pillow,
289
00:23:32,793 --> 00:23:34,068
the smell of her.
290
00:23:34,068 --> 00:23:38,103
I got it and I felt horrible.
291
00:23:38,103 --> 00:23:41,034
There was some needles
pierced my heart...
292
00:23:43,137 --> 00:23:44,448
I mean, she is my...
293
00:23:45,068 --> 00:23:47,793
Love of lifetime.
294
00:23:47,793 --> 00:23:50,965
I hope she forgives me
instead of saying goodbye.
295
00:23:52,793 --> 00:23:56,448
First, I wanna say
I'm so, so sorry.
296
00:24:01,862 --> 00:24:04,000
I said many bad things
to you, I know.
297
00:24:05,517 --> 00:24:07,620
I mean, I said
I will forget you two days,
298
00:24:07,620 --> 00:24:09,034
but believe me,
299
00:24:09,655 --> 00:24:11,310
after I saw that pain,
300
00:24:17,965 --> 00:24:20,172
I'm so sorry about that.
You can't believe.
301
00:24:22,103 --> 00:24:24,655
- You were shouting things
that are hard to forget.
- Yeah. Yeah.
302
00:24:24,655 --> 00:24:26,793
Like, I can't forget
words you say.
303
00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:29,655
I'm so sorry.
304
00:24:32,206 --> 00:24:33,862
Well, what about
a future together?
305
00:24:33,862 --> 00:24:36,620
'Cause you said that
you don't see a future with me
306
00:24:36,620 --> 00:24:38,379
unless there's a child in it.
307
00:24:39,517 --> 00:24:41,827
No. That's not right.
308
00:24:41,827 --> 00:24:44,655
I can't live
without you, babe.
I just saw it.
309
00:24:51,862 --> 00:24:54,862
What if you really want it
so badly?
310
00:24:54,862 --> 00:24:56,379
It's not important.
311
00:24:56,379 --> 00:24:58,103
You really
think that?
312
00:24:58,103 --> 00:24:59,862
- That's the opposite of
what you said the other night.
- Yeah, I really think that.
313
00:24:59,862 --> 00:25:00,862
I know.
314
00:25:02,275 --> 00:25:04,413
You're saying everything
totally different,
315
00:25:04,413 --> 00:25:06,206
- and I just don't trust it.
- I-- I--
316
00:25:06,206 --> 00:25:08,034
Because, babe,
I don't want to lose you.
317
00:25:10,103 --> 00:25:12,758
I will never push you
to something.
318
00:25:13,620 --> 00:25:14,517
You will see.
319
00:25:38,206 --> 00:25:41,000
So I will never open
that issue again
320
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,068
unless she wants it.
321
00:25:44,724 --> 00:25:47,517
I hope that
what you're saying is real.
322
00:25:47,517 --> 00:25:49,172
'Cause I'm so confused now.
323
00:25:49,172 --> 00:25:51,034
I hope you know that
I'm so confused what's real.
324
00:25:51,034 --> 00:25:53,620
You are right to be
confused, babe.
I mean, it's normal.
325
00:25:56,344 --> 00:25:59,448
Wanting to have a child
is not something that just
goes away overnight.
326
00:25:59,448 --> 00:26:01,655
It's not an issue you can just
sweep under the rug
327
00:26:01,655 --> 00:26:03,586
and pretend isn't there.
328
00:26:03,586 --> 00:26:06,793
So makes me really uncertain
329
00:26:06,793 --> 00:26:10,172
on how to proceed
in this relationship.
330
00:26:10,172 --> 00:26:12,862
How can I trust that
he won't just keep
changing his mind?
331
00:26:15,206 --> 00:26:17,344
Don't just say what you think
I wanna hear, please.
332
00:26:17,344 --> 00:26:20,275
I promise I will
never push you...
333
00:26:23,103 --> 00:26:26,068
Towards something that
you don't want, okay? Never.
334
00:26:30,379 --> 00:26:31,896
I'm so sorry.
335
00:26:31,896 --> 00:26:33,862
I know. I can tell.
336
00:26:35,862 --> 00:26:36,965
I forgive you.
337
00:26:43,103 --> 00:26:44,103
Of course.
338
00:26:47,344 --> 00:26:49,758
Thank you,
especially for giving me
a second chance.
339
00:26:56,827 --> 00:26:58,413
There's a lot of bugs
on the cake.
340
00:26:59,793 --> 00:27:02,793
I figured we'd just
get rid of the frosting,
341
00:27:02,793 --> 00:27:05,344
and it'll be a good cake.
342
00:27:05,344 --> 00:27:06,896
- I don't suppose
you want some, do you?
- Nope.
343
00:27:06,896 --> 00:27:09,068
My God.
344
00:27:35,379 --> 00:27:38,000
Can't believe
I would lose that ring.
345
00:27:44,482 --> 00:27:45,482
It's somewhere
over here.
346
00:27:50,517 --> 00:27:52,000
Here it is. Found it.
347
00:27:52,827 --> 00:27:53,689
Awesome.
348
00:27:56,862 --> 00:27:58,241
Yeah.
349
00:27:58,241 --> 00:28:00,310
All right, y'all, let's just
get out of here.
350
00:28:03,413 --> 00:28:05,344
I found the wedding ring.
351
00:28:05,344 --> 00:28:07,827
They biting you?
352
00:28:14,206 --> 00:28:17,000
Oh, it really hurts so much.
353
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:21,068
I really hope the bugs didn't
ruin the marriage for Mary,
354
00:28:21,068 --> 00:28:23,034
because, ultimately,
355
00:28:23,034 --> 00:28:25,379
this is a really important
day for her.
356
00:28:25,379 --> 00:28:28,896
Oh, God,
really hurts so much.
357
00:28:28,896 --> 00:28:31,000
Wow.
They're all up in there, too.
358
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,413
And we had to leave and just
cut the reception short.
359
00:28:36,241 --> 00:28:37,758
We didn't even get
to eat cake.
360
00:28:38,413 --> 00:28:40,172
Like, come on.
361
00:28:42,517 --> 00:28:43,413
Okay.
362
00:28:47,586 --> 00:28:50,206
- Great.
- That
was crazy, right?
363
00:28:50,206 --> 00:28:51,551
That was more than crazy.
364
00:28:54,551 --> 00:28:57,586
- Is that normal?
- No.
365
00:28:58,379 --> 00:28:59,896
It's my first time
seeing that.
366
00:28:59,896 --> 00:29:01,724
Damn.
367
00:29:01,724 --> 00:29:03,586
Are you okay,
though, Mom? 'Cause you--
368
00:29:03,586 --> 00:29:05,000
You had a moment
there where...
369
00:29:05,896 --> 00:29:07,379
I'm okay now. I just--
370
00:29:07,379 --> 00:29:08,793
I never would have expected
371
00:29:08,793 --> 00:29:12,655
it would have turned into
the frickin' seventh plague
of Egypt.
372
00:29:15,241 --> 00:29:19,448
I'm sorry that your wedding
didn't end,
373
00:29:19,448 --> 00:29:22,137
- you know...
- No, it's not your fault.
374
00:29:27,724 --> 00:29:29,068
I feel sad because...
375
00:29:29,896 --> 00:29:33,379
It's not really the day
376
00:29:33,379 --> 00:29:36,068
that we planned.
377
00:29:36,068 --> 00:29:39,068
And I feel so bad
for all the guests.
378
00:29:39,068 --> 00:29:40,827
Yay, we're home.
379
00:29:49,448 --> 00:29:52,034
Just happy that
I'm already married.
380
00:29:59,137 --> 00:30:00,241
Yikes.
381
00:30:06,448 --> 00:30:07,793
Whoa.
382
00:30:07,793 --> 00:30:10,586
- There's a lot
of bugs on the cake.
- Mmm.
383
00:30:11,689 --> 00:30:14,379
- Yeah.
- I figured we'd just
cluck the bugs off
384
00:30:14,379 --> 00:30:16,862
and then get rid
of the frosting
385
00:30:16,862 --> 00:30:18,724
and it'll be a good cake.
386
00:30:20,758 --> 00:30:22,172
- Hey.
- Hey Angela.
387
00:30:22,172 --> 00:30:23,620
- I don't suppose
you want some, do you?
- Nope.
388
00:30:23,620 --> 00:30:26,482
My God.
389
00:30:26,482 --> 00:30:29,000
I'm just gonna go to bed.
390
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:33,448
But I'm just really,
really proud of both of you.
391
00:30:37,413 --> 00:30:39,310
I didn't think
that this decision
392
00:30:39,310 --> 00:30:41,896
of him coming out here
was a good one.
393
00:30:41,896 --> 00:30:45,310
But he genuinely seems
really happy here, and...
394
00:30:46,241 --> 00:30:48,241
She seems very much
in love with him.
395
00:30:48,241 --> 00:30:50,379
So I'm proud of both of them
396
00:30:50,379 --> 00:30:53,724
for what they've overcome
to be together
397
00:30:53,724 --> 00:30:56,241
and if they can work together
as a team,
398
00:30:56,241 --> 00:30:58,620
then I really do believe
that they have, like,
399
00:30:58,620 --> 00:31:02,034
the makings of an epic
sort of love story, you know,
400
00:31:02,034 --> 00:31:04,379
and will be really successful
401
00:31:04,379 --> 00:31:06,655
as husband and wife,
and as parents.
402
00:31:07,689 --> 00:31:09,620
Give me a hug.
403
00:31:18,379 --> 00:31:22,620
I felt surprised that Angela
gave me a hug because...
404
00:31:29,517 --> 00:31:31,862
I love you, too, Mom.
Thank you for coming out.
405
00:31:33,172 --> 00:31:34,517
Right.
406
00:31:35,931 --> 00:31:37,034
Goodnight, Mom.
407
00:31:38,551 --> 00:31:42,517
I get teary-eyed
because I feel that
we're really okay now.
408
00:31:42,517 --> 00:31:48,206
And I'm so glad that
I got to meet her.
409
00:31:50,655 --> 00:31:54,517
We didn't get to eat this
at the wedding, so...
410
00:31:58,586 --> 00:32:00,655
- Mmm.
- Mmm.
411
00:32:00,655 --> 00:32:02,551
You gave me
such a big bite.
412
00:32:06,413 --> 00:32:07,620
I don't taste any bugs.
413
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:15,000
So me and my mom
talked earlier today,
and, um...
414
00:32:16,413 --> 00:32:18,448
And now that we're married
and we have a kid on the way,
415
00:32:18,448 --> 00:32:20,206
I want to be able
to show you that,
416
00:32:20,206 --> 00:32:21,689
you know, I can participate.
417
00:32:21,689 --> 00:32:25,448
Like, I'll be more
involved in finances
418
00:32:25,448 --> 00:32:27,206
and not just sit
on the sidelines.
419
00:32:29,448 --> 00:32:30,586
You always...
420
00:32:31,724 --> 00:32:35,000
Tell me this.
You always made the promise.
421
00:32:36,068 --> 00:32:38,724
And I hope this time,
422
00:32:38,724 --> 00:32:41,724
you're really gonna do it,
not just say it.
423
00:32:42,758 --> 00:32:46,551
I really mean what I'm saying.
I will do it.
424
00:32:50,310 --> 00:32:51,448
I'm ready.
425
00:32:54,965 --> 00:32:57,965
I think the future will be
positive for me and Brandan.
426
00:32:57,965 --> 00:33:00,827
So that's why I choose
to believe him, because...
427
00:33:01,965 --> 00:33:03,448
We're now married.
428
00:33:03,448 --> 00:33:05,310
He can now look for a job.
429
00:33:05,310 --> 00:33:08,965
And I feel like
he really loves me
430
00:33:08,965 --> 00:33:11,586
that we won't leave each other
no matter what.
431
00:33:14,034 --> 00:33:16,862
This is a fresh start for us.
432
00:33:17,620 --> 00:33:19,586
Yes, it is. I like that.
433
00:33:25,482 --> 00:33:28,517
I'm telling you
that I'm depressed
and you don't care!
434
00:33:30,965 --> 00:33:33,103
I don't wanna separate
from you!
435
00:33:34,827 --> 00:33:36,482
No, I said I don't!
436
00:33:36,482 --> 00:33:38,482
God damn it!
437
00:34:10,517 --> 00:34:13,172
It's been three months
since T.J. and I got married,
438
00:34:13,172 --> 00:34:17,206
and we haven't exactly had
a blissful honeymoon phase.
439
00:34:18,517 --> 00:34:20,310
T.J. is at work
all of the time
440
00:34:20,310 --> 00:34:23,482
and I'm stuck in the apartment
all day.
441
00:34:24,517 --> 00:34:26,275
It's extremely isolating.
442
00:34:28,034 --> 00:34:30,137
I don't speak the language
very well,
443
00:34:30,137 --> 00:34:32,275
so I have to depend on T.J.
444
00:34:32,275 --> 00:34:34,310
in order to go out at all.
445
00:34:35,724 --> 00:34:38,862
And I don't feel comfortable
going downstairs
446
00:34:38,862 --> 00:34:40,965
because the past couple
of months
447
00:34:40,965 --> 00:34:42,482
living with T.J.'s family
448
00:34:42,482 --> 00:34:44,862
haven't been without conflict.
449
00:34:44,862 --> 00:34:48,931
For example, if somebody
wants to go upstairs
to the roof,
450
00:34:48,931 --> 00:34:50,931
they have to go through
our living room.
451
00:34:50,931 --> 00:34:52,620
I asked them
to ring the doorbell
452
00:34:52,620 --> 00:34:54,517
so I can make sure I'm clothed
453
00:34:54,517 --> 00:34:57,344
since they're very
peculiar about that,
454
00:34:57,344 --> 00:35:01,517
but they saw it as
I'm telling them
not to come upstairs at all.
455
00:35:02,482 --> 00:35:05,517
And so, it turned into
this huge ordeal,
456
00:35:05,517 --> 00:35:08,034
and now, whenever
I go downstairs,
457
00:35:08,034 --> 00:35:10,068
I'm just met
with hostile looks
458
00:35:10,068 --> 00:35:11,551
and not even greeted.
459
00:35:15,793 --> 00:35:17,413
It's been tough.
460
00:35:17,413 --> 00:35:20,068
And even though
I live in a house filled with
so many different people,
461
00:35:20,068 --> 00:35:22,758
I feel completely alone.
462
00:35:22,758 --> 00:35:26,758
Every day, I used to get up
really positive
463
00:35:26,758 --> 00:35:29,172
and sing about
how beautiful the day was
464
00:35:29,172 --> 00:35:31,000
and how it was gonna be
a great day.
465
00:35:36,482 --> 00:35:39,000
Just because there was
a reason to celebrate it.
466
00:35:41,206 --> 00:35:44,620
And it's really hard for me
to feel that way nowadays.
467
00:35:54,103 --> 00:35:57,206
Whenever I try to talk to T.J.
about this kind of stuff,
468
00:35:57,206 --> 00:36:00,793
he just becomes defensive
and accusatory.
469
00:36:01,310 --> 00:36:02,275
Hi.
470
00:36:03,103 --> 00:36:04,000
Hey.
471
00:36:05,103 --> 00:36:07,862
I feel like I've gotten
to the point where
472
00:36:07,862 --> 00:36:10,896
my mental health is crumbling
around me.
473
00:36:10,896 --> 00:36:12,689
Something has gotta change.
474
00:36:12,689 --> 00:36:14,620
'Cause right now,
my life in India
475
00:36:15,965 --> 00:36:18,655
is the worst.
476
00:36:18,655 --> 00:36:22,137
Like, I wouldn't wish
this life on anybody.
477
00:36:25,965 --> 00:36:27,103
Did you eat?
478
00:36:28,620 --> 00:36:30,275
I haven't been hungry lately.
479
00:36:32,758 --> 00:36:34,000
Something in your mind?
480
00:36:36,172 --> 00:36:37,103
I just...
481
00:36:38,206 --> 00:36:39,517
I'm always here.
482
00:36:41,103 --> 00:36:44,413
I'm always here in this...
483
00:36:46,172 --> 00:36:47,172
In this house, in this room.
484
00:36:50,655 --> 00:36:53,793
When I was in the U.S.,
I wasn't ever at my house.
485
00:36:55,137 --> 00:36:58,310
I can't talk to my friends.
486
00:36:58,310 --> 00:37:02,241
Whenever they're awake,
it's, like, midnight here
and I'm asleep.
487
00:37:02,241 --> 00:37:06,172
That's how
the timing works. What to do?
488
00:37:06,172 --> 00:37:09,724
You can
stay up the whole night
and just talk to them.
489
00:37:10,551 --> 00:37:11,862
But I can't.
490
00:37:11,862 --> 00:37:14,758
I'm-- I'm an early sleeper
and you know that.
491
00:37:17,724 --> 00:37:20,206
T.J., I felt
really alone lately.
492
00:37:21,206 --> 00:37:23,482
You expect me
to be around here.
493
00:37:28,172 --> 00:37:29,344
Yeah, I know.
494
00:37:32,103 --> 00:37:33,862
But I don't speak Hindi.
495
00:37:33,862 --> 00:37:36,137
I don't have an option
of going out without you.
496
00:37:37,448 --> 00:37:39,241
I feel like I'm starting
to get depressed
497
00:37:39,241 --> 00:37:41,241
because I can't do anything.
498
00:37:42,827 --> 00:37:45,758
So, baby,
it's a common problem, nah?
499
00:37:45,758 --> 00:37:48,068
It's not a common problem
to get depressed
500
00:37:48,068 --> 00:37:50,310
right after you get married.
501
00:37:50,310 --> 00:37:52,724
And whenever I tell you
how I feel,
502
00:37:52,724 --> 00:37:55,379
we get into an argument
and we don't talk for days.
503
00:37:57,379 --> 00:37:59,482
I don't think...
504
00:37:59,482 --> 00:38:01,655
that whenever you and I
get into an argument,
505
00:38:01,655 --> 00:38:04,206
that it's healthy for you
to just go down there
506
00:38:04,206 --> 00:38:05,379
and not talk to me.
507
00:38:07,172 --> 00:38:08,793
That's not how
a marriage works.
508
00:38:20,896 --> 00:38:22,103
I understand that.
509
00:38:22,103 --> 00:38:25,137
But it's avoiding
the whole thing,
510
00:38:25,137 --> 00:38:27,965
because then you leave me
up here by myself.
511
00:38:29,310 --> 00:38:32,137
It feels like
you're secluding me
in a jail cell.
512
00:38:32,137 --> 00:38:34,827
It feels like
I'm in isolation.
513
00:38:34,827 --> 00:38:38,586
And I don't feel like
I have the freedom
to go downstairs
514
00:38:38,586 --> 00:38:39,724
whenever I want.
515
00:38:50,620 --> 00:38:52,551
Okay, but here's the thing.
516
00:38:52,551 --> 00:38:54,896
You guys think that
I'm ignoring them.
517
00:38:56,310 --> 00:38:57,655
I'm not ignoring them.
518
00:38:57,655 --> 00:39:00,137
I just don't have
anything to say.
519
00:39:00,137 --> 00:39:02,931
Because I'm not on good terms
with them.
520
00:39:02,931 --> 00:39:04,275
That's a problem!
521
00:39:04,275 --> 00:39:07,000
Yeah, that's a problem!
522
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,206
And no one wants to
solve anything with me.
523
00:39:09,206 --> 00:39:12,172
Everybody just wants
to bitch at each other
because of it.
524
00:39:12,172 --> 00:39:13,862
How-- Are you hearing--
525
00:39:15,758 --> 00:39:18,965
Tejaswi, I have asked you
multiple times not to dare
call me crazy.
526
00:39:18,965 --> 00:39:21,103
I don't call you
an ass [bleep],
I don't call you a dick.
527
00:39:21,103 --> 00:39:22,482
I don't call you a titty baby.
528
00:39:22,482 --> 00:39:24,551
I don't call you anything
that you don't like
to be called.
529
00:39:24,551 --> 00:39:26,344
Don't you dare call me crazy.
530
00:39:28,137 --> 00:39:29,206
I'm acting like a wife
531
00:39:29,206 --> 00:39:31,103
who can't communicate clearly
with her husband.
532
00:39:32,551 --> 00:39:36,000
I just told you
a few minutes ago
that I'm [bleep] depressed.
533
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,034
You are depressed
of your own reason.
534
00:39:38,034 --> 00:39:41,206
- Not because of me.
- Everybody gets depressed over
their own [bleep] reasons!
535
00:39:43,655 --> 00:39:45,206
You-- Don't shout at me.
536
00:40:08,379 --> 00:40:09,896
I wanna be with my husband,
537
00:40:09,896 --> 00:40:12,965
but it doesn't seem like
my husband even wants
to be with me.
538
00:40:16,344 --> 00:40:18,206
Why do you say that stuff?
539
00:40:18,206 --> 00:40:20,689
That's-- That's--
That's the main thing
right now.
540
00:40:25,793 --> 00:40:27,137
Yes, you can.
541
00:40:27,137 --> 00:40:29,655
- No, I can't.
I can't change.
- You can support me.
542
00:40:33,344 --> 00:40:36,793
No! I'm asking you
to listen to me.
543
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,379
You have to listen to me
for the rest of your life.
544
00:40:43,379 --> 00:40:44,896
That's what marriage is.
545
00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:50,758
I'm telling you
that I'm depressed,
546
00:40:50,758 --> 00:40:52,827
and you don't care!
547
00:40:52,827 --> 00:40:55,517
What you else--
will expect from me?
548
00:40:55,517 --> 00:40:59,793
Maybe give me a [bleep] hug
and say, "I'm sorry
you're [bleep] depressed,"!
549
00:41:01,620 --> 00:41:03,034
I'm not doing that.
550
00:41:03,034 --> 00:41:05,413
I know! You never will!
551
00:41:06,137 --> 00:41:07,724
I need support from somebody
552
00:41:07,724 --> 00:41:09,896
who made vows to love me
553
00:41:09,896 --> 00:41:11,965
till death do us part,
for better or worse,
554
00:41:11,965 --> 00:41:15,068
and this person is not
holding up his end
of the bargain!
555
00:41:16,482 --> 00:41:18,965
Yes! It is duty of a husband--
556
00:41:23,413 --> 00:41:24,931
You told me that the duty was
557
00:41:24,931 --> 00:41:27,551
to make sure
everything in the house
is running together.
558
00:41:27,551 --> 00:41:29,517
And I have been!
559
00:41:36,620 --> 00:41:39,586
You're not telling me
whenever you need anything,
560
00:41:39,586 --> 00:41:41,379
and I'm trying my best!
561
00:41:43,551 --> 00:41:45,206
I am at my wits' end here.
562
00:41:46,448 --> 00:41:47,793
And I can't do this anymore,
563
00:41:47,793 --> 00:41:49,689
and I've told you over
and over and over again,
564
00:41:49,689 --> 00:41:51,758
but I think you think
that I'm joking.
565
00:41:55,551 --> 00:41:57,896
I don't wanna separate
from you!
566
00:42:00,965 --> 00:42:02,655
No! I said I don't!
567
00:42:02,655 --> 00:42:03,965
- You said--
- God damn it!
568
00:42:03,965 --> 00:42:06,655
You said
several times.
569
00:42:10,241 --> 00:42:11,586
Shut up!
570
00:42:14,689 --> 00:42:17,000
You already ruined
this entire thing!
571
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:18,172
I hate you!
572
00:42:18,793 --> 00:42:20,413
Just leave. Bye!