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- You may now kiss the bride. - [crowd applauds]
- [Brandan] I've been waiting for so long for this moment. - [giggles]
There was, like, this fog rolling in.
Crap.
[bleep] It's getting worse. It's not getting better.
Everyone's getting swarmed by bugs.
[Angela screams]
Geez.
- [Kimberly] Yeah. - [in foreign language]
T.J., I specifically asked you this stuff
before we got married.
And you said, "No, don't worry about it."
Hiding stuff from me is making it harder.
You are on the verge of losing me and you don't cry.
- I'm on the verge of losing a man... - Are you-- Are you--
...that is demanding for me to have a child
five months into a relationship.
I said you what I want.
If you're gonna carry on like this, you're gonna lose me.
[in foreign language]
- [Yohan speaking] - [Daniele] Yohan!
Yohan has decided that I haven't done enough
and he wants to leave me all at the happiest time of the year.
No, no, no, no, no, you're not going anywhere with my dog.
Give me the dog!
I want you out of my house now!
Get out! Get out!
[meows]
[lock clicking]
[lock clicks]
[knocking]
[Shekinah] Sarper told me to book a flight,
so I'm packing all of my things
and going to a hotel.
I'm getting my stuff and I'm going.
- [Sarper] To where? - To a hotel.
I hate this kind of, "I'm going," stuff, okay?
What do you expect when you treat someone like that?
- That they're just gonna stay and let you-- - How did I just do...
Do-- Do it longer?
[Shekinah] Well, your transparency is alarming.
Well, you should've thought longer before you said those things.
- You want me-- - My anxiety.
- My anxiety. Shekinah. - How do you think my anxiety is doing?
[Sarper] Shekinah.
[Shekinah] Don't "my anxiety" me.
You just gave yourself anxiety
by putting that kind of pressure
on yourself and someone else.
[Sarper] Don't take your stuff.
- [Shekinah] I'm going to pack my stuff. - Don't take your stuff.
[Sarper speaking]
I mean...
I-- I-- I won't let you go, okay?
[Shekinah] Too bad. I'm going.
- [Sarper] No, you're not. - Yes, I am.
[Sarper] No, you're not. What did I say you, huh?
What did I say you?
- [Shekinah] You said you could forget me... - What did I say you?
- ...in two days. You're gonna forget me-- - What did I say you?
- Don't touch my stuff. - I will touch your stuff.
Stop.
- You're acting like a child right now. - Yeah.
You wanna have children? You are a child.
[Shekinah] I don't know who you were tonight either.
- You're acting crazy. - I just said what I want, okay?
I just said what I want.
But what you want is not realistic.
And it's not fair to me.
- No, I can't stay here. - Okay, I will-- I will sleep on couch, okay?
I promise.
- Just go and sleep. - I think we need some time apart, anyways.
I need to, like, figure out what I'm gonna do.
[Sarper] Okay, we will stay in other rooms, okay?
No, I wanna go to a hotel and figure out what I'm gonna do.
[Sarper speaking]
Then I'm definitely going.
Because if that's how you're gonna treat me,
then there's no reason for me to stay.
You're saying the wrong thing.
That's [bleep] up.
That's, like, up there with, "I'll forget you in two days."
- Okay. - [Shekinah] That's [bleep] up to say.
[Shekinah] Yes.
Please go out and let me pack. I want space.
[bleep]
I will.
[insects buzzing]
[Brandan] There's hundreds of bugs everywhere.
Oh, they're getting on the cake, too.
[buzzing]
[Angela] They're all in my hair.
Oh, God.
[speaking other language]
[Brandan] They're crawling up my nose.
I finally got married today.
But then, we got swarmed by millions of bugs.
[Mary speaking]
[Angela] Where? Where are we going?
[bleep]
[Angela exhales]
[Brandan] We all just evacuate.
Like, screw this.
[Mary] Oh. [speaking]
[Brandan] Use your dress and swat 'em all. Look at me!
- [Mary speaking] Come here. - [Brandan] I know!
This is ridiculous.
- [indistinct chatter] - Geez.
[man 1] Ugh, God. Kill that light, Jesus.
[man 2] I'm trying, dude. I'm being swarmed.
[woman screams]
[man 3 speaking]
[Angela] Oh, God.
[speaking other language]
- [Angela groaning] - [Brandan] Mom, I'm here with you, all right?
You're looking good. There's no bugs on you.
- Okay? I don't see any bugs on you. - [Angela speaking]
- [speaking other language] - [Angela whimpering]
[Brandan] My mom is having, like, a panic attack.
Sorry, Mom.
[Angela breathing heavily]
[Brandan] All right, let's go.
- Watch your step, Mom. - [Angela whimpers]
[Brandan] Be very careful.
- I'm keeping them off behind. They're not following you. - [Angela speaking]
[Brandan] Okay? Yeah, I'm waving your hair.
[Angela panting and spitting]
[continues panting and spitting]
[Brandan] How're you doing, Mom? Close the windows, please.
- [Angela whimpering] - [Brandan] You okay?
[woman speaking indistinctly]
- [Angela sobbing] - I'll sit here okay? Come here, you're okay.
[sobs]
Think about the wedding. Think about how beautiful it was, okay?
Until those bugs came in and ruined it all. [laughs]
Just... Deep breaths. Deep breaths.
- Okay? - [sobs] I can still feel them in my hair.
I can-- I can tell you for a fact
I don't see or feel it in your hair.
That's just in your mind, okay? That's just in your mind.
[Angela sighs]
I have never experienced something so literally traumatic to me.
- Okay? - Can't do this.
Just-- It's too much.
[Brandan] I'm gonna get married and we're gonna get out of here, all right?
And then, you're gonna be okay.
Okay?
Geez Louise.
It rains on your wedding day, it's unlucky or something,
but...
That's raining down bugs.
[Mary groans]
I never imagined something will happen
like this on my wedding day.
You okay, baby?
Mmm... [speaking]
[Brandan] They're inside? Oh, man.
I'm trying to stay calm even though I'm scared.
But some of the bugs are inside my dress
biting me.
[Brandan] [bleep] They do bite.
Oh, my God. Holy [bleep]
I just lost the ring.
I need to look for my wedding ring.
[bleep]
Like, I'm doing this and my ring came off.
And I-- I don't know what happened to it.
It's just gone.
- Jesus H. Roosevelt. - [Mary groans]
[Brandan] Can't believe I would lose that.
This is getting worse and worse and worse.
[bleep]
Total disaster.
Oh, man. [bleep]
[in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in English]
[Kimberly] I'm not on good terms with them.
That's a problem.
Yeah, that's a problem!
[Daniele] The other day, a woman wrote to me
on social media and I have learned some things
that make me not care to fight for this marriage any longer.
I have no idea who this man is. I have no idea.
[sighs]
[in foreign language]
[Yashaswi in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Tejaswi clears throat]
[Tejaswi speaking]
[Tejaswi in English]
[in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in English]
[in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]
[Yashaswi in foreign language]
[Alka speaking]
[Tejaswi in English]
[in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[Tejaswi in English]
[in foreign language]
[Daniele] Before, I was so pissed,
like, I didn't want him to take
anything that I paid for,
'cause I felt like he didn't deserve it.
And now, I feel like I don't want anything to do
with anything he ever touched at all.
I'm happy to give him everything that was ever here.
It's been a month since Yohan officially moved out
and this is my last day in this apartment.
I'm hosting a retreat, and so I'm gonna be staying
at the retreat space
and figuring out where I wanna be,
because I've learned some things
over the course of the last week...
That make me not care to fight for this marriage any longer.
I don't want anything to do with Yohan.
The other day, a woman wrote to me on social media
and told me that she has been in a relationship with my husband
for two years since a month before we got married.
And she wanted to ask me if we were really getting a divorce.
She told me she met his father
and his nephew.
And gave them money.
That she had sex with him for all these years
and she knew he was married.
And that he brought her to this apartment complex.
And now, she decides to write to me
like she's doing me a favor.
She probably reached out to me to get me to this place
so that they can go and live happily ever after.
You know, she gave me a play-by-play of their entire relationship
and described every single detail.
Every time she saw him,
um, sent me pictures that he sends her.
One of them was a picture of his [bleep] on Christmas Eve
while I was handing out gifts to his family in his neighborhood.
Really.
Yeah.
I never thought that he was capable of this.
[exhales]
I think that I have been wearing rose-colored glasses
this entire time.
I think that the Yohan that I was seeing
and was believing was there
was never actually in front of me.
[sighs] It's a lot.
I honestly, like, I have no idea who this man is.
I have no idea.
I don't know if I ever will.
[sobs]
His computer is here.
And I started digging more.
I went through his computer.
And I found evidence of other women
that's he's been in relationships with,
that he's spent the night with.
Um, there are at least six different women
that I know have had an inappropriate relationship with my husband.
Women that he's either reached out to and asked for money,
that he's had video conversations with,
that he's made plans to meet up with.
And he sat here and bitched all [bleep] year that he was broke.
Meanwhile, he's been getting money from multiple bitches.
Nah.
I have tried to have a conversation with Yohan
at least twice a day about what I found out,
and he refuses to have a conversation with me.
Refuses.
I sent him a picture of his [bleep] and was like,
"You sent this to this bitch on Christmas Eve.
Here's a photo of the [bleep] conversation."
He's like, "Oh, I did? I don't remember." Like, [bleep] you.
I want nothing to do with this man ever again.
[tearfully] I feel so foolish
because I should have seen what was there from the beginning.
But when we weren't talking about money, we were so happy.
We had such a beautiful life.
And, like, now I realize that none of it was real.
Like, it was all just a game.
And...
I mean, I want to believe that he really loved me.
But when you love someone, you don't treat them this way.
Yeah, he's the monster.
Where does this leave me?
Do I stay here without him?
Do I go back to New York and go back to a life that I don't really want anymore?
Like, this is such a mind[bleep]
because I haven't had enough time and space
to process this relationship
to even think about what I wanna do next.
[sniffles]
You're saying everything totally different.
- I just don't trust it. - [Sarper] I-- I--
Because, babe, I don't want to lose you.
Honestly, I don't know where we stand.
I can't forget about what he said to me.
Two days ago, Sarper and I got into the worst fight of our relationship
and since then, I've been staying in a hotel.
[sighs] I saw him in a different light.
I just knew I had to get out of there.
Sarper was acting so out of character,
I've literally never seen him act like that before.
He was being so erratic and so aggressive
and super demanding,
and I just don't know how we got here.
In the hammam, things escalated.
It went from a conversation to a fight.
I don't know if he thought that was gonna happen.
I kind of feel like he set up the whole hammam situation
to butter me up,
make me feel super loved, like this was really special,
and then maybe my answer about children would be different.
But he got the same answer and he wasn't happy with it.
While I was ignoring Sarper for two days,
he actually started trying really hard to get my attention
and to let me know that he was sorry.
He actually showed up outside my hotel room.
He told me to look out the window and I looked out the window
and he was down there doing little heart signs.
I'm so sorry.
I can't find any...
words to describe my sorrow.
Please give me a second chance.
Right now, honestly, I don't know where we stand.
I can't forget about what he said to me.
Not to mention that all of a sudden, he wants kids
when I absolutely do not.
I see him really trying, so I'm willing to meet up with him.
But I'm walking into this knowing
that this relationship could be over.
[Sarper] It was an embarrassment for me,
what I said to her.
Everything in total.
I felt so guilty. I felt terrible.
[Shekinah exhales]
- Thank you. - I know it's not enough, but...
I feel like a[bleep], man. I mean...
I woke up without her, and on the pillow,
the smell of her.
I got it and I felt horrible.
There was some needles pierced my heart...
I mean, she is my...
Love of lifetime.
I hope she forgives me instead of saying goodbye.
First, I wanna say I'm so, so sorry.
I said many bad things to you, I know.
I mean, I said I will forget you two days,
but believe me,
after I saw that pain,
I'm so sorry about that. You can't believe.
- You were shouting things that are hard to forget. - [Sarper] Yeah. Yeah.
Like, I can't forget words you say.
I'm so sorry.
Well, what about a future together?
'Cause you said that you don't see a future with me
unless there's a child in it.
No. That's not right.
I can't live without you, babe. I just saw it.
What if you really want it so badly?
[Sarper] It's not important.
[Shekinah] You really think that?
- That's the opposite of what you said the other night. - Yeah, I really think that.
I know.
You're saying everything totally different,
- and I just don't trust it. - [Sarper] I-- I--
Because, babe, I don't want to lose you.
I will never push you to something.
You will see.
[Sarper speaking]
So I will never open that issue again
unless she wants it.
[Shekinah] I hope that what you're saying is real.
'Cause I'm so confused now.
I hope you know that I'm so confused what's real.
You are right to be confused, babe. I mean, it's normal.
Wanting to have a child is not something that just goes away overnight.
It's not an issue you can just sweep under the rug
and pretend isn't there.
So makes me really uncertain
on how to proceed in this relationship.
How can I trust that he won't just keep changing his mind?
Don't just say what you think I wanna hear, please.
I promise I will never push you...
Towards something that you don't want, okay? Never.
I'm so sorry.
I know. I can tell.
I forgive you.
[Sarper speaking]
Of course.
[Sarper] Thank you, especially for giving me a second chance.
[Brandan groans]
There's a lot of bugs on the cake.
I figured we'd just get rid of the frosting,
and it'll be a good cake.
- I don't suppose you want some, do you? - Nope.
[laughs] My God.
[Brandan] Can't believe I would lose that ring.
[Mary in foreign language]
[Brandan] It's somewhere over here.
Here it is. Found it.
Awesome.
Yeah.
All right, y'all, let's just get out of here.
I found the wedding ring.
- [Mary groaning] - [Brandan] They biting you?
[Mary speaking]
Oh, it really hurts so much.
I really hope the bugs didn't ruin the marriage for Mary,
because, ultimately,
this is a really important day for her.
[Mary] Oh, God, really hurts so much.
[Brandan] Wow. They're all up in there, too.
And we had to leave and just cut the reception short.
We didn't even get to eat cake.
Like, come on.
Okay.
[woman in foreign language]
- [Angela] Great. - [Brandan] That was crazy, right?
That was more than crazy.
- Is that normal? - No.
It's my first time seeing that.
[Angela laughs] Damn.
[Brandan] Are you okay, though, Mom? 'Cause you--
You had a moment there where...
I'm okay now. I just--
I never would have expected
it would have turned into the frickin' seventh plague of Egypt.
I'm sorry that your wedding didn't end,
- you know... - No, it's not your fault.
[Mary] I feel sad because...
It's not really the day
that we planned.
And I feel so bad for all the guests.
[Angela] Yay, we're home.
[Mary speaking]
Just happy that I'm already married.
[Brandan] Yikes.
[groans]
[Mary] Whoa.
- [Brandan] There's a lot of bugs on the cake. - Mmm.
- Yeah. - I figured we'd just cluck the bugs off
and then get rid of the frosting
and it'll be a good cake.
- Hey. - [Mary] Hey Angela.
- [Brandan] I don't suppose you want some, do you? - [Angela] Nope.
[laughs] My God.
I'm just gonna go to bed.
But I'm just really, really proud of both of you.
I didn't think that this decision
of him coming out here was a good one.
But he genuinely seems really happy here, and...
She seems very much in love with him.
So I'm proud of both of them
for what they've overcome to be together
and if they can work together as a team,
then I really do believe that they have, like,
the makings of an epic sort of love story, you know,
and will be really successful
as husband and wife, and as parents.
- Give me a hug. - [Mary chuckles]
[Angela speaking]
I felt surprised that Angela gave me a hug because...
[Angela speaking]
I love you, too, Mom. Thank you for coming out.
[Angela] Right.
[Angela speaking]
[Brandan] Goodnight, Mom.
I get teary-eyed because I feel that we're really okay now.
And I'm so glad that I got to meet her.
- We didn't get to eat this at the wedding, so... - [laughing]
- [Brandan] Mmm. - [Mary] Mmm.
- You gave me such a big bite. - [Mary chuckles]
I don't taste any bugs.
So me and my mom talked earlier today, and, um...
And now that we're married and we have a kid on the way,
I want to be able to show you that,
you know, I can participate.
Like, I'll be more involved in finances
and not just sit on the sidelines.
You always...
Tell me this. You always made the promise.
And I hope this time,
you're really gonna do it, not just say it.
I really mean what I'm saying. I will do it.
I'm ready.
I think the future will be positive for me and Brandan.
So that's why I choose to believe him, because...
We're now married.
He can now look for a job.
And I feel like he really loves me
that we won't leave each other no matter what.
This is a fresh start for us.
Yes, it is. I like that.
I'm telling you that I'm depressed and you don't care!
I don't wanna separate from you!
No, I said I don't!
God damn it!
[screaming]
[Kimberly] It's been three months since T.J. and I got married,
and we haven't exactly had a blissful honeymoon phase.
T.J. is at work all of the time
and I'm stuck in the apartment all day.
It's extremely isolating.
I don't speak the language very well,
so I have to depend on T.J.
in order to go out at all.
And I don't feel comfortable going downstairs
because the past couple of months
living with T.J.'s family
haven't been without conflict.
For example, if somebody wants to go upstairs to the roof,
they have to go through our living room.
I asked them to ring the doorbell
so I can make sure I'm clothed
since they're very peculiar about that,
but they saw it as I'm telling them not to come upstairs at all.
And so, it turned into this huge ordeal,
and now, whenever I go downstairs,
I'm just met with hostile looks
and not even greeted.
It's been tough.
And even though I live in a house filled with so many different people,
I feel completely alone.
Every day, I used to get up really positive
and sing about how beautiful the day was
and how it was gonna be a great day.
[sniffles]
Just because there was a reason to celebrate it.
And it's really hard for me to feel that way nowadays.
Whenever I try to talk to T.J. about this kind of stuff,
he just becomes defensive and accusatory.
[Tejaswi] Hi.
Hey.
I feel like I've gotten to the point where
my mental health is crumbling around me.
Something has gotta change.
'Cause right now, my life in India
is the worst.
Like, I wouldn't wish this life on anybody.
[Tejaswi] Did you eat?
I haven't been hungry lately.
Something in your mind?
I just...
I'm always here.
I'm always here in this...
In this house, in this room.
[Kimberly] When I was in the U.S., I wasn't ever at my house.
I can't talk to my friends.
Whenever they're awake, it's, like, midnight here and I'm asleep.
[Tejaswi] That's how the timing works. What to do?
You can stay up the whole night and just talk to them.
[Kimberly] But I can't.
I'm-- I'm an early sleeper and you know that.
T.J., I felt really alone lately.
You expect me to be around here.
Yeah, I know.
But I don't speak Hindi.
I don't have an option of going out without you.
I feel like I'm starting to get depressed
because I can't do anything.
So, baby, it's a common problem, nah?
It's not a common problem to get depressed
right after you get married.
And whenever I tell you how I feel,
we get into an argument and we don't talk for days.
I don't think...
that whenever you and I get into an argument,
that it's healthy for you to just go down there
and not talk to me.
That's not how a marriage works.
I understand that.
But it's avoiding the whole thing,
because then you leave me up here by myself.
It feels like you're secluding me in a jail cell.
It feels like I'm in isolation.
And I don't feel like I have the freedom to go downstairs
whenever I want.
Okay, but here's the thing.
You guys think that I'm ignoring them.
I'm not ignoring them.
I just don't have anything to say.
Because I'm not on good terms with them.
That's a problem!
Yeah, that's a problem!
And no one wants to solve anything with me.
Everybody just wants to bitch at each other because of it.
How-- Are you hearing--
Tejaswi, I have asked you multiple times not to dare call me crazy.
I don't call you an ass [bleep], I don't call you a dick.
I don't call you a titty baby.
I don't call you anything that you don't like to be called.
Don't you dare call me crazy.
I'm acting like a wife
who can't communicate clearly with her husband.
I just told you a few minutes ago that I'm [bleep] depressed.
You are depressed of your own reason.
- Not because of me. - Everybody gets depressed over their own [bleep] reasons!
You-- Don't shout at me.
[Kimberly whimpers]
I wanna be with my husband,
but it doesn't seem like my husband even wants to be with me.
Why do you say that stuff?
[Tejaswi] That's-- That's-- That's the main thing right now.
Yes, you can.
- [Tejaswi] No, I can't. I can't change. - You can support me.
No! I'm asking you to listen to me.
You have to listen to me for the rest of your life.
That's what marriage is.
I'm telling you that I'm depressed,
and you don't care!
What you else-- will expect from me?
Maybe give me a [bleep] hug and say, "I'm sorry you're [bleep] depressed,"!
I'm not doing that.
I know! You never will!
I need support from somebody
who made vows to love me
till death do us part, for better or worse,
and this person is not holding up his end of the bargain!
Yes! It is duty of a husband--
You told me that the duty was
to make sure everything in the house is running together.
And I have been!
You're not telling me whenever you need anything,
and I'm trying my best!
I am at my wits' end here.
And I can't do this anymore,
and I've told you over and over and over again,
but I think you think that I'm joking.
I don't wanna separate from you!
No! I said I don't!
- [Tejaswi] You said-- - God damn it!
- [Tejaswi] You said several times. - [screams]
Shut up!
You already ruined this entire thing!
I hate you!
Just leave. Bye!
[Tejaswi in foreign language]
[Alka in foreign language]