This season on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
So long USA and hello China.
I think I can handle Iceland.
Can Iceland handle me?
I'm leaving everything behind for Tatha.
It looks like I'm stepping into a prison.
Everyone knows Sean as my boyfriend.
But Sean and I are actually married.
You married a total stranger.
Ma, I didn't want to tell anybody.
Are you gonna move to Ireland?
Yeah.
I just fricking can't.
There's like five black people in Iceland.
Sarper has actually designed a new nose for me.
- What? - Shekinah.
- Your daughter is gonna try destroying our marriage. - Okay. Let me...
You're rude to me. Like I'm taking you outside, I'm trying...
Now you're talking about breaking up.
Oh, like this is too [bleep] much.
I'm sorry.
And I feel really bad.
Things have escalated very quickly.
I have no idea what's happening anymore.
♪ Old job, don't look down ♪
♪ I got an elevator coming down ♪
Oh, this is gonna be fun.
♪ I got an elevator coming down ♪
Going up.
My name is James, I'm 33 years old
and I live in New Gloucester, Maine.
I currently work for my family's business as an elevator mechanic.
Going down.
It requires me to have a very specific skill set.
Because it's one of the top ten most dangerous jobs in the world.
My father himself, got distracted
and had an elevator run over two of his fingers and chopped them off,
and he had to go to the hospital and have them sewn back on.
But it's a great job and I love working with my family.
That's how you fix it.
I'm very outgoing,
but at the same time, I love just being able to go get lost in the woods.
I do a lot of mining.
Whoa! That's beautiful.
You feel like a modern day Indiana Jones.
You never know what you're gonna find.
Babe!
Yeah? - Where are you?
It's just a really fun thing to do on the weekends with Meitalia, my wife.
Oh, you find something up there?
Let me take a look at that. Let me take a look at this.
Hey, where's Jojo?
- He was around. - Jojo!
Jojo!
Hey, buddy. Come here, little man.
Come here.
What journey have you been on, huh? Where did you go?
I met Meitalia on social media.
I was doing a lot of photography
and she was doing modeling and acting in Indonesia.
Somehow, the algorithm made us cross.
The weather's not great,
but I don't want to leave without finding at least something today.
Meitalia is an amazing woman but she is a very jealous woman.
She's told me several times,
"You ever cheat on me, I will take your [bleep]"
Because it's so scary and I get so nervous.
Don't you just love the weather here?
Oh.
Well, there's a nice piece of tourmaline right there.
Look at that.
There was an instant click and I knew I was gonna marry her.
This is ice.
It's not even snow or rain. It's just hail. Ooh!
I can't even argue with that on this.
This is some pretty terrible weather.
This is really coming down.
Is it like this in Indonesia?
No, it's like...
It's beautiful.
We have to get to the bottom of this.
It could be something serious and we don't know.
How are you feeling?
It's stressful, that's for sure.
You know how hard it is to leave your family behind.
We've already made this decision.
Her health is the most important thing to me.
So as hard as it is for me to accept,
I do support Meitalia's decision to move to Indonesia.
But I have something I need to tell Tatha
and it is on my heart very heavy.
I know it's gonna be very hard for her to receive.
I'm already so anxious and stressed with this move.
There's no predicting how she will respond to news like this.
It's all gonna be hard. It's just gonna get harder.
And it's gonna get harder before it ever gets easier.
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
Look at me.
What do you mean what is my name?
Babe, we're not gonna change names.
Come on. That's too much.
No.
If you were here, I would put this on you right now.
You deserve this.
Yeah, that makes me horny, babe.
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
♪ Can you handle my love? ♪
Thank you.
My name is Shekinah. I'm 41 years old
and I'm from Los Angeles, California.
Whoa!
This is to tickle your balls.
Holy moly.
And then I'm gonna bring this.
Oh, my God.
My battery died.
About a year ago, a friend and I took a trip to Turkey
and while we were there, I downloaded a dating app and I met Sarper.
♪ I want your hands all over me, me, me ♪
Hey, Shekinah. Nice to meet you.
You look absolutely gorgeous.
We went on a date later that night.
He was just the most handsome man I'd ever seen in person.
I couldn't believe he was even real.
We met again the following night, had another great date.
And then the day after that, I flew back to the US.
I'm thinking of you.
I knew that Sarper was a playboy.
I knew it from the second I met him.
And I didn't expect him to change his ways for a girl that he met twice.
I wanna see you in my dreams tonight.
Talk to you tomorrow.
But we stayed in touch and the rest is history.
Hey, baby. Can you see me? - Oh.
Yeah. Okay, I see you.
Sarper and I were dating for about four months
when I realized that this distance thing
just was not gonna work out long term,
and I needed to move to Turkey.
♪ Put your hands up ♪
♪ Show 'em what you're made of ♪
♪ Be proud of who... ♪
What is happening with your bed?
That is still your old bed.
She wanted to change
You need a new bed.
And I'm not gonna sleep there until you get a new one.
About a month before I moved to Turkey,
Sarper told me that he had slept with over 2,500 women.
At the time, I thought that it was a typo.
I mean, 250 was still a lot to me,
but [giggles] I was willing to let it slide.
But he actually responded saying it's 2,500 and 3,000.
So, that was shocking.
But I was already in love with him,
and he made it really clear that he only wanted to be with me going forward.
But then Sarper decided to reveal that he wants to have a child.
The future only means a kid to you.
I was shocked because on our very first date,
I told him that I don't want to have kids.
This is a [bleep] up conversation.
Don't talk to me for the rest of the [bleep] day.
To be honest, I still want a child from her.
Just one more week and then I'll see you.
Aw!
After we resolved the baby issue,
I continued to go back to the US every five weeks
to spend time with my daughter, Sophie,
when she has a break from boarding school.
Unfortunately, Sarper and I were really having a lot
of financial difficulties in Turkey
and I can't practice there as an esthetician.
So, I came back to the US and I just kind of stayed.
I've been here for about three months now
just working.
Me too, baby.
I can't wait to see you and hug you.
It's so hard doing long distance.
It's affected our relationship a lot.
Is this the longest you've ever been faithful to someone?
- Yes. - Yeah?
And you're being 100% honest with me?
She says, "It's the normal question. I'm just curious."
You are not curious.
She is kind of interrogating me. I feel that.
I telling her 100% true.
I'm not doing anything.
I'm here.
If you're texting me all the time,
then all of a sudden you're silent,
of course I'm gonna ask you what you were doing.
I'm ruining it?
When I ask Sarper where he is or what he's doing,
he gets so defensive, he gets so upset.
He'll go as far as breaking up with me
and like ten minutes later,
he's crying and saying that, you know, we can never be apart.
Like, yes, we're okay again later,
but those moments are really hard on our relationship
and they keep occurring.
Don't ruin the moment, okay?
Shekinah, listen.
Dating someone in his 40s who's never been in a serious relationship
and has literally slept with thousands of women,
has been full of challenges.
I have been doing a lot of hand holding,
just teaching him how to do the basics.
Like working through issues instead of running away from them.
And being apart has only made it harder.
So, it's time for us to be together again.
Me too, baby.
I feel like I've done more than enough
to prove that I am fully committed to this relationship.
So, I need Sarper to convince me
that he really is the reformed "bad boy" that he says he is.
Because going from being basically a [bleep] boy
to being in a serious relationship overnight,
it's not easy.
I need consistency.
I need loyalty.
And he needs to prove that I'm not being a fool for trusting him.
I miss you.
You can just say you miss me back.
That's good too.
You guys watch me.
This is how mommy's gonna make some money for us.
My name's Corona and I'm a bad bitch.
You can do a little booty shake. Motion's lotion.
My boyfriend's name is Ingi.
I slid into his DMs and sparks were flying.
I'm moving in less than two weeks to Iceland.
You moving to Iceland?
I don't see a ring on her finger.
Girl, please.
Who does that?
I'm Josh and I'm 47 years old.
Lily.
I recently quit my job to move to China,
to live the rest of my life with Lily.
There's gonna be like, what you're saying, there's stress.
I wanna feel like I can contribute and not be a deadbeat.
I am gonna wonder, why does a woman like Lily
want to be with a man like me and support me financially?
♪ Taking off ♪
♪ All the best and on your way ♪
Flight from Savannah, Georgia to Shanghai, China is all set.
All right. It's time for me to go.
All right, son. I love you.
Bye, guys.
All clear for takeoff.
Bye, guys. Love you.
Lily!
Josh, I missed you.
You're so handsome.
Aw, you're beautiful. I missed you.
♪ Whoa-oh-oh! ♪
Lily, I've been waiting for this moment.
I'm Josh. I'm 47 years old and I'm from Bluffton, South Carolina.
Growing up, I've always been
a big kid at heart, I guess you could say.
I love playing with video games,
air drones, remote control cars.
Everything a kid does,
I'm still doing it.
But lately I've been feeling even more like a kid.
Good morning.
- Good morning. - Morning.
Because a couple months ago, I sold my house and moved back in with my parents.
Is this quiche?
It is.
We've already started.
I'll be right back.
Oh boy, forgot his headphones.
I have a condition called misophonia.
It's the basically, the hatred of sounds.
So chewing with your mouth open, slurping anything
that kind of has repetitive sounds,
irritates me.
I actually get anxiety and stress.
I can't focus.
You know, my heart will actually physically race.
There's been times where I sweat. It's like having a panic attack.
Did you put your headphones in?
Much better.
All right. Good.
I've struggled with this every day of my life.
Fortunately, the only person that doesn't bother me when they eat
or do repetitive sounds is Lily.
About three years ago, I was on a language app and I was trying to learn Mandarin
and Lily was trying to learn English, and I saw her profile.
A couple of photos. I said, "She's cute."
Pretty much as soon as we exchanged information,
I kind of forgot learning about Mandarin,
and I focused on learning more about her.
So I'm not sexy because I shaved?
Yes!
Lily is 46 years old, and she lives in Hangzhou, China,
She's very clever.
She's witty.
To me, she's gorgeous.
After talking for a long two years, we wanted to meet each other in person.
Let's make sure this is real.
So she actually came to the USA.
When I met her, I knew this woman was special and I did not want to let it go.
That's when I proposed to her.
And 18 days later,
we ended up going to Vegas and we got married.
Lily never intended to live in the US.
She has a really successful cosmetic business,
and she needs to be there to run it.
So she returned to China a month after we got married.
And now in two weeks, I'm gonna be moving out
to China to live the rest of my life with Lily.
Playing me a little song, huh?
Of course.
- You're getting better. - You want a drink?
You got a soft drink?
I've never been to China before.
I've always admired the culture, the food.
So I'm looking forward to this.
What's going on?
- Can you grab the towels? - Yeah.
But one of the hardest things about leaving the US
is being further away from my family.
Nice.
Josh and I are pretty close, about a year and a half apart.
He was born first.
Woah.
I mean, we're very different.
We have different personalities,
but we have a bond.
I mean, I would like to think that I'm his support,
and I hope that he realizes he's mine.
It's all natural.
- Pretty much ready? - I would like to think so.
I've always wanted to go to China.
You know I love the culture,
so it's definitely an exciting opportunity.
But we've got the wedding ceremony to look forward to.
My goodness, it's gonna be awesome.
Yeah. Yeah.
Lily and I decided that we would do a traditional Chinese wedding ceremony
for her family since they couldn't attend it in the the US.
And unfortunately, my parents couldn't get their visa in time.
But my brother, he was able to get a visa.
So I'm looking forward to having my brother by my side.
So you're both hopeless romantics.
So here's the scenario.
What if there is no fairy tale ending?
You sold your house.
- Yeah, sold-- - You got rid of all your furniture.
Yeah, I literally gave all my furniture away.
So we understand that there's gonna be arguments.
Understand there's stress, especially because I can't work there.
So how long can't you work--
As long as I'm there on a marriage visa.
I recently quit my job doing HVAC sales
to move to China, and I am on a spousal visa.
After five years, I could request a 10-year resident visa.
But until I have that I am not allowed to legally work.
She's gonna be fine with you waking up--
I hope so. That's the way it is, yeah.
And she knows that, but she-- it doesn't bother her.
- Okay. - It bothers me.
- Yeah. - I've always worked.
And I want to feel like I can contribute and not be a deadbeat.
And in China, too,
man is the one that works. It's just their culture.
So she'll get judged or they'll judge me.
Yeah.
It's probably very odd that you know, this white guy
coming to China, speaking English
and doesn't work while the wife does.
And I'm gonna need to rely on Lily 100%.
To pay for things, for language translation.
You know, she's gonna be the only person I have.
So it's not an easy feeling.
I know I'm no George Clooney, and I am gonna wonder why does a woman
like Lily want to be with a man like me and support me financially.
And there is that fear that I'm gonna wake up one day
and Lily's gonna say, I don't want to be with you.
Well, I want you to find that
magical relationship you've been looking for.
And I think that, and hopefully, this is it.
I wish I could bring you to Iceland with me.
I'm moving to Iceland because I don't want to be apart from Ingi.
- Good morning, babe. - Good morning.
Do you feel like he's in it as much as you are?
He damn well better be.
There is a part of me that is like, is this the right decision?
I think about it too hard and too specifically,
it makes like my stomach fall out of my butt.
I don't know.
You guys watch me.
This is how Mommy's gonna make some money for us.
Come on.
Spread 'em out and dip it down.
Legs wide, spread them and from here you can do a little booty shake.
Sounds crazy, But motion's lotion.
You can even hang off the bed.
We're gonna try our best to make this a gentle passageway.
It really helps open one side of the pelvis
if your baby's a little lopsided in there.
The doctors are gonna want you to think
that you need to lie flat on your back.
That's good for making a baby.
Not good for having a baby.
You can really get a lot done from this angle here.
So get down.
My name's Corona.
I'm 30 years old and I currently live in Philadelphia.
But I'm originally from Dallas, Texas.
Hi, you're gonna help me?
Thank you.
You're gonna help me make videos for my clients?
So they know what positions to push in?
I'm trained as a doula.
I've given birth coach classes online,
helping many different people
through their labor process and hopefully, have a natural birth.
If you're imagining taking the biggest poop of your life,
is this how you're gonna take it?
Who poops like this?
No one.
I've witnessed at least 1000 births.
And this past winter, I graduated from Penn
with my bachelor's of science in nursing.
With 4.0 GPA, fricking wild.
And don't feel shy to twerk it out here.
My ultimate career goal is to be a midwife,
and I want to deliver 10,000 babies in this lifetime.
Anything with a vagina,
honestly, I'm interested, and I want to help.
And I wanna make them all as healthy as they can be.
Tits. Go get your sister.
Tell her it's bath time.
That's what I thought.
You can have a treat.
This was mainly to trick you.
I'm self sufficient and independent, and I'm a bad bitch.
Don't be so grabby.
Savages!
My childhood wasn't the easiest.
I was an Army brat growing up, so we moved a lot.
When I was a teenager and very angsty and rebellious,
my mom kicked me out of the house, though she'd like to say that she didn't.
I think in her mind, she thought I was just
gonna leave for the night and then come back.
I never came back back.
I've been living on my own since age 16.
I had to have a job.
I had to pay my bills.
I was a go-go dancer, so I was like, in a cage,
getting like people handing me money.
No one ever touched me.
I was still a minor, but I was in that cage throwing that ass.
I still put myself through college passing all my classes with straight A's.
Bath time...
I wish I could bring you to Iceland with me.
They have really strict laws about kitties in Iceland.
But I will come back and get you.
I'm moving to Iceland in just under two weeks.
To be with my man, the love of my life, Ingi.
My boyfriend's name is Ingi.
He's 38 years old and he lives in Reykjavik, Iceland.
We met about a year ago when I went on a trip to Iceland.
In Iceland, they party hard and late.
Like the clubs do not close until about 5 am.
So we partied till 5.
And then even though I was tired, I end up at an after party
at some guy's house, and I remember he was standing in the doorway.
Like some Nordic statue.
And my first thought was like, step aside.
Let me in this place that I don't even want to be in.
I mean, I was exhausted, and I think Ingi like, caught on to that.
And he let me take a nap in his bed.
And I was like, wow, this is like a quality guy,
like, who lets a stranger take a nap on their bed.
So after that night, I slid into his DMs.
We went on a date the next day and he didn't even make a move.
And I just went back to Philly.
But we kept talking online and I said, you should have kissed me
and he said, 100% I should have.
Look at that, fancy. You'll like it in Iceland.
We'll just have to get you more sweaters.
Over the next few months,
we have this amazing connection,
and I invited him out to Ireland for my birthday.
Like sparks were flying.
- Good morning, babe. - Good morning.
I knew for sure that I did not want it to end.
He treats me like a queen. And I love him.
Like we need to be together forever.
So I'm moving to Iceland because I don't want to be apart from Ingi.
Hi!
Come on in!
- How are you? - I'm good. How are you?
It was moving, like, literally all the way here.
Before I leave for Iceland, I have to see my friends Leo and their wife, Christy,
because they are pregnant and I'm their birth coach.
How have you guys been?
I feel tired.
Sleep's getting more elusive.
That's fair.
Leo identifies as non-binary, they/them.
And we met in the UPenn nursing program.
They're non-binary as [bleep].
Pregnant belly, full beard.
We've been doing our stretches?
- Every single day. - Okay.
Those have literally been a lifesaver.
Probably need to practice the positions more now that you're larger.
Would you like to learn some like counter pressure techniques?
Yes, please.
They actually asked me to be their doula
well before they were even pregnant,
because obviously between Leo and Christy,
there's not a penis between them.
So this was very much a planned pregnancy.
You can keep rocking, doing whatever you're doing
so that Leo doesn't have to, like use too many of their muscles.
We chose Corona as the doula just based off her personality.
Just off to like the first, like conversation that we have had.
Is that okay?
Yeah, very nice. Don't have to use my ab muscles.
Starting starting to feel it, baby's getting bigger.
Yes. Yes.
Sweet relief.
Yeah. I mean, I'm not like the first transgender person
that's pregnant, but it's definitely not common.
And so I knew that she was going to be
like a great advocate for us in the delivery room,
So I do have to mention something.
I think a few times I've said, like I'm visiting Iceland.
But I'm moving to Iceland.
- You're moving? - I'm moving.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
For forever?
- Forever. - Yeah, that is news.
That is super exciting.
- Yeah. Yeah! - Yeah!
But I am flying back specifically for this baby.
You're coming home just for baby?
Just for baby and then going back.
I have. There is the one midwifery school,
the one at the University of Iceland.
There's only one.
I currently have a spot
in the UPenn grad school for midwifery
in the next coming months. But I am foregoing that opportunity
to move to Iceland and to hopefully go to midwifery school there.
But that is not a guaranteed spot.
When we first met, you talked about how it had been your second time
applying for the midwifery program at University of Pennsylvania.
And so, how do you feel about having to, like, give up that program?
Because it's one of the best programs in the world.
Weird. This whole thing is very weird.
Like if two years ago, Corona would talk to Corona right now.
They would fight.
You're stepping away from a midwifery program like, a guaranteed spot.,
I'd be like, what the hell?
You dumb bitch!
- For a man. - For a man?
- Yeah. - And I'm in love?
What the [bleep]. Weird.
There is a part of me
that is like, "Is this the right decision?"
But I'm not giving up on my dreams.
I'm just going to be pursuing my dreams with my person.
I'm gonna follow my heart, and I've already made up my mind.
It's definitely a big change of plans.
Is it Ingi worth it?
I think so. I do. I'm willing to gamble it out
to be with my person.
Does he consider you his person, though?
He told me that he loved me, so that was a thing.
That's still huge,
but that's not the same as being like his person.
That is true.
I should ask.
call him right now.
He can buy me my damn black diamond ring.
That's another question is like, have you talked about engagement?
Is Ingi on the same page?
We have not talked about that, no.
I don't know if he has that same mindset.
Me and Ingi have danced around the marriage talk
like he's already said, what's mine is yours.
I think we've already begun this intertwining of lives.
And I know I am making a big commitment,
packing up all my stuff and moving to Iceland for sure.
That's crazy sauce.
And so I really, I hope he is as committed to this relationship as I am.
Do you feel like he's in it as much as you are?
I mean, he damn well better be but I do think that he is.
Are you going to talk to him about that?
Yes.
If I think about it too hard and too specifically it
makes my stomach fall out of my butt.
But like, I don't know, love makes you crazy as [bleep].
So many people, they just see my muscles.
But icebergs,
they have a part above the water
and some big under the water.
Not literally.
You understand what I mean.
We have not told my family about the move
and they're going to feel really let down.
This is the longest time that I have been away
from Shekinah.
I start to be anxious, and when I'm anxious
or depressed, I count everything.
I count the rice grains on the plate.
Because I eat it every day almost.
Chicken with rice. I'm not normal for sure.
Seven cars, seventeen people.
I don't know. It is a meditation, or is it
OCD, it's kind of an illness or whatever, but from childhood
I always count things.
I was hiding something from you.
Oh my God.
Wait. What are the Xs?
- X is one? - Xs are the number of people
What?
It's disgusting.
But now Shekinah, she is the only woman that I'm sleeping with.
So many people, they just see my muscles.
But you know, icebergs.
They have a part here above the water
and some big under the water.
Not literally.
You understand what I mean.
Before Shekinah, I was doing financially good
as a personal trainer.
I have no savings left.
There's a limit. Like a glass of water.
You can put a little more, a little more, a little more, a little more,
and it spills over afterwards.
Thank you, baby.
- Perfect, perfect. - Oh, that feels good.
All right. Um...
Looks like a pretty cool collection. What are you guys...
I mean, were these yours?
- Listen, you're not, listening to 'em anymore? - We're moving,
so we're just trying to get some money for that.
Oh, wow. Cool. Wow. That's a big trip.
- When are you leaving? - She leaves on Monday.
I'm going to follow about a month.
- To a month and a half later. - Oh, my God.
Meitalia's leaving before me
because she has some health issues.
Her lymph nodes in her neck swell up.
Size of golf balls some days.
And she needs to find out what's going on.
So yeah, trying to save up money for the trip.
Because once we get there, you know, I got to find a job.
So I don't really know what I'll end up doing.
But we're going to try working for her dad is what I'm gonna start doing.
Cool. What does your dad do?
Oh, cool.
Let me flip through this stuff and see if it's stuff I can use.
- Thank you. - I'll talk to you in a little bit.
Being apart for a month is going to be really hard.
I need to make sure that I'm making as much money
as I can before I leave.
Because I'm worried that I'm not going to be able
to find a way to support us over there.
We only have enough money to last probably
a few months in Indonesia.
But if we tell them sooner and they just want me to stop working,
do you have a plan if we don't have enough money?
We have not told my family yet about the move.
Leaving the family business, leaving it all on their shoulders
is going to cause a big burden on everyone else.
That is terrible to have to do to your family.
They're going to feel really let down that I just kind of abandoned them.
But we had a plan to wait and why would we change it?
Say what you...
I didn't know you didn't feel like you had a say in that.
Nothing's going to stop me from coming to you.
My whole life revolves around you.
Hey, and you can have fear, but don't let it control you.
Then tell me how you feel. We can't change everything
just because you're scared.
Don't want to back out. Don't think I'm going to change what
we're doing because you're scared.
Hey, guys. I don't mean to interrupt,
but I've gone through the records.
Um, do you want to?
So, I've got some bad news. I can't use any of them.
It's all kind of easy listening, cocktail, uh...
music, sadly, no one really wants to listen to at all.
You have a bunch of junk.
Take care. Good luck.
We need to really buckle down.
We need to start having some deep conversations.
How are we going to make money?
How are we going to be able to take care of ourselves when we're there?
We really have to figure this out because
you're leaving in two days.
Okay?
- Yeah. - I love you.
Let's go.
Okay.
♪ It's been a long time coming ♪
♪ But I'm on my way I got some nitty gritty news we should celebrate ♪
♪ We feeling all right We feeling all right ♪
Hey, sweetie.
How are you?
Yeah, I am excited to be there. Finally get to cuddle.
Hold you.
We will practice in person.
Yes.
My Mandarin is awful.
And Lily, her English is not the greatest.
So I'm bringing this little guy to China to help communicate.
Are you going to be at the house all day today?-Yes.
Can you please stop drinking your tea so loudly?
Can you point me to the direction of
the remote control car store?
I don't know if that's accurate or not 'cause she's not here,
but I'll find out when I'm there.
All right, let me see. Updates.
New, yeah. Something new that they did.
Oh, okay.
Ah, very nice.
For us.
Yes, stressed.
I'm happy in just your apartment.
When we decided that I would move to China,
Lily told me she wanted to renovate the villa
that she owns for us to live in.
I told Lily that having such a large home
is not important to me.
But she insisted to do the renovations.
No, you don't say bankrupt.
Bankrupt is when you have no money and you file for help.
So you just spent a lot of money.
Of course. We both do.
In the past, I have had relationships where money
was an issue and I wasn't making enough.
So I'm worried with all this extra expenses for the house
and taking care of me, there's going to be
a lot of pressure on her.
Very soon.
I've been married twice. And I've realized I've made many mistakes.
And I'm just trying to learn and figure out
how I could be a better husband to her.
Because I don't want her to ever leave me.
I don't want her to regret marrying me.
I love you.
Love you, baby. Bye-bye.
- Bye-bye. - Bye.
Yeah.
James was, like, scared about having kids.
What?
What the [bleep]?
Okay.
This?
Yeah.
I know.
Here you go.
Is this like inspired by Indonesia?
- Yeah. Mm-hmm. - Like ocean vibe?
And I feel homesick still.
Yeah?
What is it?
Um...
Me and James...
moving back to Indonesia.
Um...
- Tomorrow. Tomorrow I'm going. - Tomorrow?
Oh, my gosh.
Tomorrow like I'm not gonna see you after today.
It's very surprising.
I do wish that Tata told me sooner.
It's just a lot.
No.
Okay.
Oh, that's, yeah, this feels like a bump.
Really?
I feel like I would ask you guys if you wanted kids before
and, like, James told me that he wasn't excited about
the thought of having children.
What?
James was, like, scared about having kids.
- Like a couple months ago. - What?
What the [bleep]?
When James told me, Tata and James
and I were hanging out like we usually do.
We got on the subject of kids and Tata went to the bathroom.
And then...
And I was like, oh. But I thought she already knew,
I would have told him to tell her if I knew that he didn't.
I think you need to talk to him.
Because if this is something you really want,
and if he can't give that to you,
then that's going to be a really big problem.
I'm getting my nose done finally.
And Sarper has actually designed a new nose for me.
- What? - Shekinah.
♪ I used to be lost in the sea ♪
♪ I'm glad I got a taste of you ♪
Good boy. That's a good boy.
Let's go.
Look who it is. It's your friend Stella.
Hi. - Hi, you guys.
Today I'm meeting with two of my best friends, Josh and Wendy.
And we are going to the dog groomer
to get my gorgeous miniature golden doodle groomed
because Adonis is going to Turkey with me.
They're so excited for their baths.
- Hi. - Adonis.
Who is his new friend you've brought today?
Adonis brought his friend Stella.
Stella. So this is Stella.
I love your pearls. I love your pearls.
- Oh, my goodness. - So fancy.
Oh, my goodness.
When I moved to Turkey, Adonis stayed in LA with one of my friends.
But I'm tired of being apart from my dog.
So I'm taking him to live with Sarper and I there.
We hope they behave for you. But no guarantees.
He did amazing last time, and I'm sure he'll do amazing this time.
Oh, good. Awesome.
So we're gonna, kind of, browse around. Okay.
But we'll be close by.
- Awesome. I'll take care of Adonis. - Thank you.
Adonis.
Should we look around? Yeah.
- It's pretty glamorous. - It really is.
Is this for a dog?
- I feel like I could wear this dog jewelry. - I know, seriously.
Matching ones. - This is so pretty.
I haven't seen stuff like this in Turkey, but...
How you liking Turkey?
How's it going? I love it.
I actually love Istanbul.
So you're heading off again.
We miss you. We never see you in LA scene.
I mean, the events, the parties, the-- I know.
I know that you miss me on the LA scene,
and it hasn't made sense to you.
When I go out and I'm in that scene,
Sarper gets uncomfortable,
just like I get uncomfortable when he's training a female.
So I've asked him to not train female clients anymore.
And in return, he asked me to please not take part in LA events when I'm here.
So...
- Hearing that she's been sitting at home doing nothing. - That's--
- That's not like her. - Oh, my God.
- That's not like her at all. - That is not like her at all.
And I hate hearing that.
It's really upsetting. Depressing and sad.
- It's-- - We see a change.
That's, that's a problem.
I can hang out one on one, and I can hang out like this,
but, like, going out to events and stuff,
like, that has been an issue for us.
So I stopped doing it.
Because whenever I'm here for my visits,
things go bad really quickly. Like how?
Like, he starts to spiral.
He gets really in his feelings.
He doesn't feel like he can survive the long distance.
And he's tried to break up with me a bunch of times.
Break up with you for what reasons?
- Because you're leaving? - Not even good reasons.
He's just freaking out.
That right there's a red flag.
- I mean, can't he move here? - Relationship.
Well...
What? I'm nervous to tell you guys.
You know how I feel about marriage.
I never have really wanted to get married.
But I feel like I could take that step with him.
So we applied for the K-1 visa.
Sarper and I agreed to apply for the K-1 visa
because it will make a huge difference for both of us financially.
Sarper can make about eight times the amount in Los Angeles
personal training, as he can in Istanbul.
And, of course, by me being here in LA,
I can be running my business in aesthetics hands on.
But the approval process can take years and years,
if it gets approved at all.
So I'm going back to Turkey to live with Sarper again
because we need to be together,
and this is the only way.
He doesn't handle being apart well.
And, uh, I don't either,
- but I don't, like, try to to break up with him. - Nobody does.
- I understand being apart-- - That's not a reason to get married.
Or threaten to break up.
That's just not a reason to get married.
I know you love this person, and I know he loves you too,
from what you two know of each other.
But marriage...
Let's just not rush into life-long decisions.
- How about that? - But it's been a year. I don't think I'm rushing.
I mean, he hasn't proposed yet, okay?
- So it hasn't, like, fully hit me... - Yeah, but--
...and I'm not fully processing, like, the idea of it.
But I know that if this visa gets approved, that's what has to come.
If it weren't this situation, marriage would never be coming up.
- Correct. - If it weren't about him having to move
to a different country,
they would not be discussing marriage, and that's the problem.
It just makes no sense.
Adonis looks so cute.
He does.
He's ready for Turkey.
When you go back to Turkey, what do you do there? Yeah.
- What do I do? - What does your day consist of?
He cooks for me, and then we work out together.
And then we have sex, like, four times a day.
And one of the things I'm doing
is I'm getting my nose done finally.
It's been bothering me forever.
And Sarper has actually designed a new nose for me.
- What? - Shekinah.
He's designed a new nose for me. Honestly?
What does that conversation sound like between the two of you?
- You know, like-- - He says, "Leave it to me. Leave it to me.
I'll tell the doctor what to do.
I'll tell him. I know what you need."
And I'm like, "Okay, I trust you."
Because I do, I think.
Babe, you look so stressed.
Well, it is stressful.
We're worried. - You're a jillion miles away.
I haven't met this guy.
He's a stripper who's slept with 2,500 people.
I'm supposed to sit here and act like it's no big deal.
He's gonna control the center of your face right now,
and you're ready to marry this guy.
I can't pretend like that's not a big deal.
I think because she's so in tune to that thought that he's the one
that she goes with the flow because it makes it easier.
She thinks that "If I get married, it's gonna resolve issues."
Issues are still gonna be there.
A piece of paper is not gonna change it.
Now she's talking about letting a man design her nose.
- It's insane. - It's just terrifying.
I'm the one that wants this surgery, and I trust him.
This is your face.
You can change an outfit,
you can change your hair color easily. Agreed.
The middle of your face, you can't change that easily.
What if he has a wife? - He doesn't have a wife.
He's never even been in a relationship before.
Moving to Iceland for a virgin.
- That is a red flag. - There's nothing wrong with him.
- But-- - You don't know that he ain't a killer.
Drinks. Drinks all around.
- Ooh! - It, like, splashes, okay?
I come to Dallas to see my family
probably two to three times a year
every year since I've left.
You need soda. - I do need soda.
My relationship with my family has gotten better
as I've been an adult.
I think the further away I move,
the closer we get together, oddly enough.
Because we are, like, honestly, too similar,
which is why we butt heads so much.
Where the hell am I supposed to put this?
It's like a puzzle. - You gotta do it right.
We've got a lot of stuff. Your granny lives here.
Why is there an entire pot in there?
Because. Okay.
Okay, enough said.
We can be very short tempered and very reactionary.
Okay, y'all.
My legs are tired, so I'mma have to go sit down.
Y'all know my legs are... They old.
- Going to sit down. - Let's move them 52-year-old legs.
And my back's gonna be hurting and...
I've been waiting to tell them
my plans of moving to Iceland.
I'd rather just rip that Band-Aid off in person
and then, kind of, skedaddle.
Y'all lucky to be sitting on the white couch.
I know. This is--
I'm, like, holding my drink with dear life, like.
Ah, yeah. I'm scared.
My mom is extremely hard of hearing,
so she uses a tablet that has live transcription
to understand what people are saying.
So I want to know about Ingi now.
- No Ingi. - Inki.
Inki. - Inki.
- But it's spelled with a "G," though. - What, it's I-N-K-A?
It's I-N-G-I. But the "G" sounds like a "K."
So it's Inki.
Inki, stinky, winky. Mm-mm.
How come we never met him?
He wants to meet you guys.
Everyone's gonna love him.
Oh, I don't know about that.
Granny, how have you already decided you're not gonna like him?
I don't like people.
So there's something I have to tell you guys.
Um... Okay.
I'm moving in less than two weeks.
Moving where? To Iceland.
Girl, please.
You're moving to Iceland?
Yeah. - In two weeks.
Why do you have to go to Iceland?
He's very well established in Iceland.
Like, he has his own business.
He, like, visits his parents every week.
I'm pretty nomadic. I bounce from here to there to wherever.
So what about school? Aren't you still in school?
I was supposed to start midwifery school in a few months,
but I'm foregoing that so that I can go to Iceland
and then apply to schools there.
What?
You're gonna give up your dream for him?
You've gone blinded.
Like, love-- I love Ingi. I'm going.
I don't care about being a midwife, just about Ingi.
I'm not on board with that one.
Who does that?
It sounds a little one sided.
Like, I'm after him and not he's after me.
I don't see a ring on her finger.
But the one thing you cannot do
is talk Corona out of anything.
She's gonna do what she wants to do.
So we've only spent, like, 20 days together in person.
But I met him, like, over a year ago.
But you haven't spent time with him.
You don't know what he's like.
You over here, he over there.
That's why I'm going.
Twenty days, and you pack it up, moving your whole life.
Did you do a background check on him? No.
Because I don't know his name.
What's his last name?
What's his date of birth? Ingi what?
So it's kind of confusing.
Because in Iceland, like, you take your father's first name as your last name.
But then he also has a family name.
She don't know his last name.
So what is on his driver's license?
I don't know. I've never seen it.
What if he has a wife? - He doesn't have a wife.
He's never even been in a relationship before.
What?
What's wrong with him?
Why he ain't had no relationship? Who does that?
Something might be wrong with him.
I don't think anything's wrong with him.
He's just waiting for the right person.
Moving to Iceland for a virgin.
He's not a virgin.
So...
Now, how old is he? He's 38.
That is a red flag.
There's nothing wrong with him.
- But-- - You don't know that he ain't a killer.
He's not a killer.
Everybody on the news, they be like,
"Ain't nothing wrong with him."
They always show pictures smiling,
and then their ass is dead.
Oh, okay.
Okay. Okay. So you're going over there.
Are there a lot of Black people in Iceland?
No.
It's not as diverse as the States are, obviously.
Okay. - There's, like, five Black people in Iceland.
How many days have you spent over there in a row?
Two weeks. And he was nice all the time?
Did you pop off at him? I did not.
I've been soft partnering him.
So in times when I want to pop off,
I take a few deep breaths,
and I come at it as, like, I was approaching, like, a bunny.
And I just come at it real soft.
Girl, how many deep breaths can you take?
Since my relationship with Ingi has begun,
I've been doing something I've termed soft partnering.
You know, it's similar to gentle parenting,
in which you gotta take the spice off of a lot of things.
He's never dealt with an angry Black woman.
And I can unleash a lot of power.
And it's not fair for me to just unleash the beast on his soft ass.
You pop off on everybody.
There is not a school that you have ever been to
that I have not been called, ever, because of your mouth.
This person he's in love with is not the real you yet.
Everyone wants to put their best foot forward.
And I think the major skeleton in my closet is my anger issues.
And I don't wanna blow it by just, like, unleashing the beast,
because this is the most important relationship I've ever been in in my life.
So I'm training my fuse to grow longer, you know.
Because my worst fear is that
I get there and Ingi says,
"Pack up your stuff and leave.
I don't want you here anymore."
I guess time will tell.
It don't sound promising.
There are a couple of things I got to bring up
that I don't really want to, but I know I have to, and I need you to know.
I'm sorry.
It can go in the backpack, yeah.
Um, I got you a letter.
But as it says on the back,
only open when you're on your flight.
Okay.
I'm not an artist, clearly.
Well, pretty terrible. Pretty awful.
I mean, I know it's not forever, but still, for me, it's...
It's just waking up without you. I know.
It's definitely hitting me that for a month plus
the love of my life is not going to be beside me every day.
It's going to be the longest time we've been separated
since we've been married.
And there's...
a couple of things I gotta bring up
that I don't really want to, but I know I have to.
And I need you to know about them before you leave.
So...
There were some things I was supposed to take care of
when I was getting everything ready for us to go over there and...
I have found out that Jojo is not gonna be able to come with us.
Why?
Jojo's going to have to stay here for a while.
Because there's, uh...
He's coming, just not right away.
There's a lot of bad things over there right now for dogs.
There's rabies outbreak. Um--
It's not forever. It's just for a while
until it's safe for him to come over.
If we take him over there right now,
there's a very good chance that when we get there they could euthanize him,
which means they would kill him.
If he gets there and he has COVID symptoms, if he has anything.
Or while he's there, he gets rabies,
they will take him from us,
and then we lose him forever.
Yes, this will be longer.
It will be longer without him, and it's going to be hard without him being there.
But it will not be forever.
Trust me on this.
I'm sorry.
We both love him. You know that.
And I knew if it's something that you knew about the whole time,
you probably wouldn't go.
And I had to think about your health first.
It definitely tears me apart to see Tata falling apart like this.
And I've been doing the research
for the last couple of weeks.
But her health is the most important thing to me.
And I need her to find a doctor
who can help her get healthy.
That's why it's something I've just been holding on to and carrying myself.
As soon as it's safe, he's going to be there with us.
I promise.
Well, you've got a long flight.
- Ready to go? - Yup.
So you need to say your goodbyes now, I guess.
Come here.
Come here, Jojo.
- Jojo. Jojo. - Jojo looks like a little puppet right now.
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Okay.
Ingi was built for this
He is a viking.
Sea swimming is not for Black people.
Oof!
Oh!
Anyone French looking at me?
- Is that good? - Yeah.
Mm.
Oh, that hurts.
I will make you feel better.
Yeah.
I was like, oh, she's gonna give me a nice, tender massage.
What?
Oh, my god.
I will teach you how to eat this.
- Come here. - No.
It looks like the worst I've ever seen.
Oh, my god.
I know you love telling me how much money you spend.
I don't want to be reminded every day how much money
she spends on me.
You always like this.
Do you see us ever getting married?
Do people usually move to another country
for their people?
You made me believe that you weren't seeing other people.
The fact that Sarper
didn't want me to go meet with the woman that messaged me
makes me want to hear what she has to say even more.
He said he loved you also.
He just wants what he wants,
and he feels like he might not get it, so he spirals.