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[man] This season on
90 Day Fiance:
The Other Way...
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So long USA and hello China.
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I think I can handle Iceland.
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Can Iceland handle me?
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[Dempsey speaking]
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[Statler speaking]
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[Meitalia speaking]
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I'm leaving everything behind
for Tatha.
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[speaking other language]
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[James] It looks like
I'm stepping into a prison.
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[upbeat music playing]
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[Sean speaking]
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[laughing]
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[Joanne] Everyone knows Sean
as my boyfriend.
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But Sean and I
are actually married.
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You married a total stranger.
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Ma, I didn't want
to tell anybody.
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Are you gonna move to Ireland?
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Yeah.
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I just fricking can't.
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[woman speaking]
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There's like five
black people in Iceland.
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[laughing]
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Sarper has actually designed
a new nose for me.
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- What?
- Shekinah.
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[Sarper speaking]
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[woman speaking]
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- Your daughter is gonna try
destroying our marriage.
- Okay. Let me...
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[Lily speaking]
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You're rude to me.
Like I'm taking you outside,
I'm trying...
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[Statler speaking]
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[Dempsey speaking]
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Now you're talking
about breaking up.
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Oh, like this is
too [bleep] much.
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I'm sorry.
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[Meitalia speaking
other language]
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And I feel really bad.
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[crying]
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[man speaking other language]
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[Meitalia speaking
other language]
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[man speaking other language]
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[James] Things have
escalated very quickly.
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[sobbing and kissing]
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[James] I have no idea
what's happening anymore.
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[Meitalia speaking
other language, crying]
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[elevator dings]
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♪ Old job, don't look down ♪
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♪ I got an elevator
coming down ♪
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Oh, this is gonna be fun.
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♪ I got an elevator
coming down ♪
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[James speaking]
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Going up.
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My name is James,
I'm 33 years old
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and I live
in New Gloucester, Maine.
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I currently work
for my family's business
as an elevator mechanic.
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Going down.
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It requires me to have
a very specific skill set.
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Because it's one
of the top ten most dangerous
jobs in the world.
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My father himself,
got distracted
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and had an elevator
run over two of his fingers
and chopped them off,
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and he had to go
to the hospital and have them
sewn back on.
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But it's a great job
and I love working
with my family.
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- [elevator dings]
- That's how you fix it.
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[upbeat music playing]
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[James] I'm very outgoing,
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but at the same time,
I love just being able
to go get lost in the woods.
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I do a lot of mining.
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Whoa! That's beautiful.
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You feel like
a modern day Indiana Jones.
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You never know
what you're gonna find.
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Babe!
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- [Meitalia] Yeah?
- Where are you?
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[Meitalia speaking]
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It's just a really fun thing
to do on the weekends
with Meitalia, my wife.
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Oh, you find
something up there?
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[Meitalia speaking]
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Let me take a look at that.
Let me take a look at this.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[giggling]
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Hey, where's Jojo?
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- He was around.
- Jojo!
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Jojo!
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Hey, buddy.
Come here, little man.
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Come here. [laughing]
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What journey
have you been on, huh?
Where did you go?
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[James] I met Meitalia
on social media.
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I was doing
a lot of photography
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and she was doing modeling
and acting in Indonesia.
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Somehow, the algorithm
made us cross.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[giggling]
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[James] The weather's
not great,
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but I don't want to leave
without finding
at least something today.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[both chuckle]
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[Meitalia speaking]
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Meitalia is an amazing woman
but she is
a very jealous woman.
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She's told me several times,
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"You ever cheat on me,
I will take your [bleep]"
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[laughing]
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[producer speaking]
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Because it's so scary
and I get so nervous. [laughs]
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Don't you just
love the weather here?
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[laughing]
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[James] Oh.
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- Well, there's a nice piece
of tourmaline right there.
- [Jojo barking]
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[James] Look at that.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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There was an instant click
and I knew
I was gonna marry her.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[chuckles softly]
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This is ice.
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- It's not even snow or rain.
It's just hail.
- [Meitalia] Ooh!
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[Meitalia speaking]
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I can't even argue
with that on this.
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This is some
pretty terrible weather.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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[James] This is really
coming down.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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Is it like this in Indonesia?
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No, it's like...
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It's beautiful.
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We have to get
to the bottom of this.
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It could be something serious
and we don't know.
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[Meitalia speaking]
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- How are you feeling?
- [groans softly]
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It's stressful,
that's for sure.
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You know how hard it is
to leave your family behind.
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We've already
made this decision.
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Her health is the most
important thing to me.
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So as hard as it is
for me to accept,
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I do support Meitalia's
decision to move to Indonesia.
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But I have something
I need to tell Tatha
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and it is on my heart
very heavy.
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I know it's gonna be
very hard for her to receive.
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I'm already so anxious
and stressed with this move.
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There's no predicting
how she will respond
to news like this.
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It's all gonna be hard.
It's just gonna get harder.
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And it's gonna get harder
before it ever gets easier.
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[sultry music playing]
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♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
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♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
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♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
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♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
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[Sarper speaking]
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Look at me.
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What do you mean
what is my name?
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[Sarper speaking]
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Babe, we're not gonna
change names.
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Come on. That's too much.
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- [Shekinah] No.
- [Sarper speaking]
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If you were here,
I would put this
on you right now.
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You deserve this.
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Yeah, that makes
me horny, babe.
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[giggles]
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♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ah ♪
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♪ Can you handle my love? ♪
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- [Sarper speaking]
- Thank you.
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[Sarper speaking]
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[giggles]
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My name is Shekinah.
I'm 41 years old
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and I'm from
Los Angeles, California.
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[Sarper] Whoa!
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This is to tickle your balls.
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[Sarper] Holy moly.
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[bleep, then howls]
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[Sarper speaking]
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And then I'm gonna bring this.
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[Sarper] Oh, my God.
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[gasps] My battery died.
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About a year ago,
a friend and I
took a trip to Turkey
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and while we were there,
I downloaded a dating app
and I met Sarper.
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♪ I want your hands
all over me, me, me ♪
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Hey, Shekinah.
Nice to meet you.
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You look absolutely gorgeous.
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[Shekinah] We went on a date
later that night.
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He was just the most
handsome man
I'd ever seen in person.
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I couldn't believe
he was even real.
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We met again
the following night,
had another great date.
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And then the day after that,
I flew back to the US.
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I'm thinking of you.
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I knew that Sarper
was a playboy.
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I knew it from
the second I met him.
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And I didn't expect him
to change his ways
for a girl that he met twice.
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I wanna see you
in my dreams tonight.
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Talk to you tomorrow.
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But we stayed in touch
and the rest is history.
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- [Sarper] Hey, baby.
Can you see me?
- Oh.
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Yeah. Okay, I see you.
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Sarper and I were dating
for about four months
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when I realized that
this distance thing
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just was not gonna
work out long term,
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and I needed
to move to Turkey.
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♪ Put your hands up ♪
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♪ Show 'em what
you're made of ♪
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♪ Be proud of who... ♪
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[Sarper speaking]
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What is happening
with your bed?
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That is still your old bed.
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[Sarper] She wanted to change
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[Shekinah] You need a new bed.
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And I'm not gonna sleep there
until you get a new one.
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[Sarper speaking]
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[Shekinah] About a month
before I moved to Turkey,
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Sarper told me that
he had slept
with over 2,500 women.
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At the time,
I thought that it was a typo.
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I mean, 250 was still
a lot to me,
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but [giggles] I was willing
to let it slide.
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But he actually responded
saying it's 2,500 and 3,000.
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So, that was shocking.
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But I was already
in love with him,
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and he made it really clear
that he only wanted to be
with me going forward.
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But then Sarper decided
to reveal that he wants
to have a child.
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[Sarper speaking]
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The future only means
a kid to you.
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I was shocked because
on our very first date,
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I told him that
I don't want to have kids.
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[Sarper speaking]
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[Shekinah] This is
a [bleep] up conversation.
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Don't talk to me for the rest
of the [bleep] day.
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[Sarper] To be honest,
I still want a child from her.
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[Sarper speaking]
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Just one more week
and then I'll see you.
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[Sarper speaking]
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[Shekinah] Aw!
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After we resolved
the baby issue,
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I continued to go back
to the US every five weeks
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to spend time
with my daughter, Sophie,
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when she has a break
from boarding school.
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Unfortunately, Sarper and I
were really having a lot
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of financial difficulties
in Turkey
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and I can't practice there
as an esthetician.
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So, I came back to the US
and I just kind of stayed.
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I've been here
for about three months now
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just working.
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[Sarper speaking]
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Me too, baby.
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I can't wait to see you
and hug you.
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It's so hard
doing long distance.
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It's affected
our relationship a lot.
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[Sarper speaking]
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Is this the longest
you've ever been
faithful to someone?
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- Yes.
- Yeah?
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And you're being 100%
honest with me?
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[Sarper speaking]
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She says,
"It's the normal question.
I'm just curious."
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You are not curious.
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She is kind of
interrogating me. I feel that.
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I telling her 100% true.
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I'm not doing anything.
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I'm here.
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[Sarper speaking]
255
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If you're texting me
all the time,
256
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then all of a sudden
you're silent,
257
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of course I'm gonna ask you
what you were doing.
258
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[Sarper speaking]
259
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I'm ruining it?
260
00:15:58,100 --> 00:16:01,930
When I ask Sarper where he is
or what he's doing,
261
00:16:01,930 --> 00:16:04,430
he gets so defensive,
he gets so upset.
262
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He'll go as far as
breaking up with me
263
00:16:07,500 --> 00:16:09,000
and like ten minutes later,
264
00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:12,100
he's crying and saying that,
you know,
we can never be apart.
265
00:16:12,100 --> 00:16:14,430
Like, yes,
we're okay again later,
266
00:16:14,430 --> 00:16:17,030
but those moments
are really hard
on our relationship
267
00:16:17,030 --> 00:16:18,830
and they keep occurring.
268
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Don't ruin the moment, okay?
269
00:16:21,500 --> 00:16:22,700
Shekinah, listen.
270
00:16:23,500 --> 00:16:24,800
[Sarper speaking]
271
00:16:33,670 --> 00:16:37,670
Dating someone in his 40s
who's never been
in a serious relationship
272
00:16:37,670 --> 00:16:40,570
and has literally slept
with thousands of women,
273
00:16:40,570 --> 00:16:42,330
has been full of challenges.
274
00:16:42,330 --> 00:16:45,630
I have been doing
a lot of hand holding,
275
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just teaching him
how to do the basics.
276
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Like working through issues
instead of running away
from them.
277
00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:54,530
And being apart
has only made it harder.
278
00:16:54,530 --> 00:16:57,130
So, it's time for us
to be together again.
279
00:16:58,570 --> 00:17:00,130
[Sarper speaking]
280
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Me too, baby.
281
00:17:07,470 --> 00:17:08,930
I feel like I've done
more than enough
282
00:17:08,930 --> 00:17:11,930
to prove that I am
fully committed
to this relationship.
283
00:17:11,930 --> 00:17:13,770
So, I need Sarper
to convince me
284
00:17:13,770 --> 00:17:17,600
that he really is the reformed
"bad boy" that he says he is.
285
00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:20,470
Because going from being
basically a [bleep] boy
286
00:17:20,470 --> 00:17:23,030
to being in a serious
relationship overnight,
287
00:17:23,030 --> 00:17:24,700
it's not easy.
288
00:17:24,700 --> 00:17:26,330
I need consistency.
289
00:17:26,330 --> 00:17:28,030
I need loyalty.
290
00:17:28,030 --> 00:17:33,400
And he needs to prove
that I'm not being a fool
for trusting him.
291
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I miss you.
292
00:17:34,370 --> 00:17:35,300
[Sarper speaking]
293
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You can just say
you miss me back.
294
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That's good too.
295
00:17:46,070 --> 00:17:47,430
You guys watch me.
296
00:17:47,430 --> 00:17:49,600
- This is how mommy's gonna
make some money for us.
- [cat meowing]
297
00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:52,400
My name's Corona
and I'm a bad bitch.
298
00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:54,930
You can do
a little booty shake.
Motion's lotion.
299
00:17:54,930 --> 00:17:56,270
My boyfriend's name is Ingi.
300
00:17:56,270 --> 00:18:01,370
I slid into his DMs
and [clicks fingers]
sparks were flying.
301
00:18:01,370 --> 00:18:04,630
I'm moving in less than
two weeks to Iceland.
302
00:18:04,630 --> 00:18:05,970
You moving to Iceland?
303
00:18:06,930 --> 00:18:08,830
I don't see a ring
on her finger.
304
00:18:08,830 --> 00:18:09,930
Girl, please.
305
00:18:09,930 --> 00:18:11,000
Who does that?
306
00:18:12,770 --> 00:18:14,900
I'm Josh and I'm 47 years old.
307
00:18:14,900 --> 00:18:16,670
Lily. [mouths kiss]
308
00:18:16,670 --> 00:18:19,170
I recently quit my job
to move to China,
309
00:18:19,170 --> 00:18:21,970
to live the rest
of my life with Lily.
310
00:18:21,970 --> 00:18:24,530
There's gonna be like,
what you're saying,
there's stress.
311
00:18:24,530 --> 00:18:26,330
[Josh speaking]
312
00:18:26,330 --> 00:18:29,970
I wanna feel like
I can contribute
and not be a deadbeat.
313
00:18:29,970 --> 00:18:33,470
I am gonna wonder,
why does a woman like Lily
314
00:18:33,470 --> 00:18:36,870
want to be with a man like me
and support me financially?
315
00:18:42,270 --> 00:18:43,670
♪ Taking off ♪
316
00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:46,970
♪ All the best
and on your way ♪
317
00:18:51,670 --> 00:18:56,730
[Josh] Flight from
Savannah, Georgia
to Shanghai, China is all set.
318
00:18:56,730 --> 00:18:59,170
All right.
It's time for me to go.
319
00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:01,900
All right, son. I love you.
320
00:19:02,700 --> 00:19:03,870
Bye, guys.
321
00:19:06,130 --> 00:19:07,830
All clear for takeoff.
322
00:19:07,830 --> 00:19:09,670
Bye, guys. Love you.
323
00:19:09,670 --> 00:19:10,800
[upbeat music playing]
324
00:19:16,470 --> 00:19:17,630
Lily!
325
00:19:18,430 --> 00:19:20,770
Josh, I missed you.
326
00:19:20,770 --> 00:19:22,770
You're so handsome.
327
00:19:22,770 --> 00:19:25,370
Aw, you're beautiful.
I missed you.
328
00:19:26,630 --> 00:19:30,070
♪ Whoa-oh-oh! ♪
329
00:19:30,930 --> 00:19:33,730
Lily, I've been waiting
for this moment.
330
00:19:33,730 --> 00:19:35,930
[mouths kisses]
331
00:19:35,930 --> 00:19:40,870
I'm Josh. I'm 47 years old
and I'm from Bluffton,
South Carolina.
332
00:19:40,870 --> 00:19:42,330
[mimicking airplane]
333
00:19:42,330 --> 00:19:44,070
[Josh] Growing up,
I've always been
334
00:19:44,070 --> 00:19:45,670
a big kid at heart,
I guess you could say.
335
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:50,430
[upbeat music playing]
336
00:19:51,270 --> 00:19:53,070
[Josh] I love playing
with video games,
337
00:19:53,070 --> 00:19:55,370
air drones,
remote control cars.
338
00:19:55,370 --> 00:19:56,600
Everything a kid does,
339
00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:57,770
I'm still doing it.
340
00:20:01,370 --> 00:20:04,700
But lately I've been feeling
even more like a kid.
341
00:20:05,430 --> 00:20:06,530
Good morning.
342
00:20:06,530 --> 00:20:08,170
- Good morning.
- Morning.
343
00:20:08,170 --> 00:20:12,400
Because a couple months ago,
I sold my house and moved
back in with my parents.
344
00:20:13,530 --> 00:20:14,700
[Josh] Is this quiche?
345
00:20:14,700 --> 00:20:15,830
[Liz] It is.
346
00:20:15,830 --> 00:20:17,000
We've already started.
347
00:20:22,070 --> 00:20:23,300
[scraping]
348
00:20:25,730 --> 00:20:26,900
[chewing sounds]
349
00:20:39,130 --> 00:20:40,200
[slurping]
350
00:20:41,370 --> 00:20:42,630
I'll be right back.
351
00:20:43,970 --> 00:20:45,600
[Liz] Oh boy,
forgot his headphones.
352
00:20:46,900 --> 00:20:49,030
[Josh] I have a condition
called misophonia.
353
00:20:49,030 --> 00:20:52,570
It's the basically,
the hatred of sounds.
354
00:20:52,570 --> 00:20:56,700
So chewing with your mouth
open, slurping anything
355
00:20:56,700 --> 00:20:59,170
that kind of has
repetitive sounds,
356
00:20:59,170 --> 00:21:00,170
irritates me.
357
00:21:00,870 --> 00:21:03,730
I actually get
anxiety and stress.
358
00:21:03,730 --> 00:21:05,200
I can't focus.
359
00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,100
You know, my heart will
actually physically race.
360
00:21:07,100 --> 00:21:11,470
There's been times
where I sweat. It's like
having a panic attack.
361
00:21:11,470 --> 00:21:13,500
[Liz] Did you put your
headphones in?
362
00:21:13,500 --> 00:21:14,800
Much better.
363
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,430
- [Jim] All right.
- [Liz] Good.
364
00:21:17,430 --> 00:21:20,470
I've struggled with this
every day of my life.
365
00:21:20,470 --> 00:21:24,700
Fortunately, the only person
that doesn't bother me
when they eat
366
00:21:24,700 --> 00:21:27,230
or do repetitive
sounds is Lily.
367
00:21:36,630 --> 00:21:42,000
About three years ago,
I was on a language app and
I was trying to learn Mandarin
368
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:45,170
and Lily was trying
to learn English,
and I saw her profile.
369
00:21:45,170 --> 00:21:47,570
A couple of photos.
I said, "She's cute."
370
00:21:49,770 --> 00:21:52,700
[Josh] Pretty much as soon
as we exchanged information,
371
00:21:52,700 --> 00:21:54,570
I kind of forgot learning
about Mandarin,
372
00:21:54,570 --> 00:21:56,630
and I focused on
learning more about her.
373
00:22:10,330 --> 00:22:12,830
So I'm not sexy
because I shaved?
374
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:15,370
Yes! [chuckles]
375
00:22:15,370 --> 00:22:17,200
[gasps]
376
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:22,970
Lily is 46 years old, and she
lives in Hangzhou, China,
377
00:22:22,970 --> 00:22:24,130
She's very clever.
378
00:22:24,130 --> 00:22:25,770
She's witty.
379
00:22:25,770 --> 00:22:28,700
To me, she's gorgeous.
380
00:22:28,700 --> 00:22:33,130
After talking for a long
two years, we wanted to meet
each other in person.
381
00:22:33,130 --> 00:22:34,730
Let's make sure this is real.
382
00:22:34,730 --> 00:22:39,030
So she actually
came to the USA.
383
00:22:39,030 --> 00:22:43,830
When I met her, I knew this
woman was special and I did
not want to let it go.
384
00:22:44,570 --> 00:22:45,930
That's when I proposed to her.
385
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:51,770
And 18 days later,
386
00:22:51,770 --> 00:22:54,670
we ended up going to Vegas
and we got married.
387
00:23:00,530 --> 00:23:01,600
[Josh chuckling]
388
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,500
Lily never intended
to live in the US.
389
00:23:04,500 --> 00:23:08,100
She has a really successful
cosmetic business,
390
00:23:08,100 --> 00:23:10,870
and she needs
to be there to run it.
391
00:23:10,870 --> 00:23:14,300
So she returned to China
a month after we got married.
392
00:23:14,300 --> 00:23:17,600
And now in two weeks,
I'm gonna be moving out
393
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,970
to China to live
the rest of my life with Lily.
394
00:23:24,770 --> 00:23:26,130
[plays soft music]
395
00:23:33,230 --> 00:23:34,770
[Jarod] Playing me
a little song, huh?
396
00:23:34,770 --> 00:23:36,030
Of course.
397
00:23:36,030 --> 00:23:38,370
- You're getting better.
- You want a drink?
398
00:23:38,370 --> 00:23:39,670
You got a soft drink?
399
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:42,830
[music playing]
400
00:23:44,730 --> 00:23:46,100
I've never been
to China before.
401
00:23:46,100 --> 00:23:49,570
I've always admired
the culture, the food.
402
00:23:49,570 --> 00:23:51,900
So I'm looking
forward to this.
403
00:23:51,900 --> 00:23:52,970
[Jarod] What's going on?
404
00:23:52,970 --> 00:23:55,330
- Can you grab the towels?
- Yeah.
405
00:23:55,330 --> 00:23:58,300
[Josh] But one of the hardest
things about leaving the US
406
00:23:58,300 --> 00:24:00,900
is being further away
from my family.
407
00:24:03,070 --> 00:24:04,470
[Jarod] Nice.
408
00:24:04,470 --> 00:24:07,270
Josh and I are pretty close,
about a year and a half apart.
409
00:24:07,270 --> 00:24:09,070
He was born first.
410
00:24:09,070 --> 00:24:10,030
Woah.
411
00:24:10,030 --> 00:24:11,300
I mean, we're very different.
412
00:24:11,300 --> 00:24:12,730
We have
different personalities,
413
00:24:12,730 --> 00:24:14,270
but we have a bond.
414
00:24:14,270 --> 00:24:16,870
I mean, I would like to think
that I'm his support,
415
00:24:16,870 --> 00:24:18,730
and I hope that
he realizes he's mine.
416
00:24:24,170 --> 00:24:25,570
It's all natural.
417
00:24:27,270 --> 00:24:30,430
- Pretty much ready?
- I would like to think so.
418
00:24:30,430 --> 00:24:32,100
I've always wanted
to go to China.
419
00:24:32,100 --> 00:24:34,530
You know I love the culture,
420
00:24:34,530 --> 00:24:37,570
so it's definitely
an exciting opportunity.
421
00:24:37,570 --> 00:24:40,100
But we've got
the wedding ceremony
to look forward to.
422
00:24:40,100 --> 00:24:41,770
My goodness,
it's gonna be awesome.
423
00:24:41,770 --> 00:24:44,100
Yeah. Yeah.
424
00:24:44,100 --> 00:24:49,130
Lily and I decided that we
would do a traditional
Chinese wedding ceremony
425
00:24:49,130 --> 00:24:51,600
for her family since they
couldn't attend it
in the the US.
426
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:55,630
And unfortunately, my parents
couldn't get
their visa in time.
427
00:24:55,630 --> 00:24:58,000
But my brother,
he was able to get a visa.
428
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,430
So I'm looking forward to
having my brother by my side.
429
00:25:01,530 --> 00:25:03,600
So you're both
hopeless romantics.
430
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,830
- So here's the scenario.
- [Josh grunts]
431
00:25:05,830 --> 00:25:09,400
What if there is no
fairy tale ending?
432
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:10,530
You sold your house.
433
00:25:10,530 --> 00:25:13,300
- Yeah, sold--
- You got rid
of all your furniture.
434
00:25:13,300 --> 00:25:15,400
Yeah, I literally gave
all my furniture away.
435
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:18,130
So we understand that there's
gonna be arguments.
436
00:25:18,130 --> 00:25:20,570
Understand there's stress,
especially because
I can't work there.
437
00:25:21,370 --> 00:25:23,430
[Jarod] So how long
can't you work--
438
00:25:23,430 --> 00:25:25,500
As long as I'm there
on a marriage visa.
439
00:25:27,770 --> 00:25:31,030
[Josh] I recently quit my job
doing HVAC sales
440
00:25:31,030 --> 00:25:35,300
to move to China,
and I am on a spousal visa.
441
00:25:35,300 --> 00:25:40,330
After five years,
I could request
a 10-year resident visa.
442
00:25:40,330 --> 00:25:44,530
But until I have that
I am not allowed
to legally work.
443
00:25:44,530 --> 00:25:46,630
She's gonna be fine
with you waking up--
444
00:25:46,630 --> 00:25:49,700
I hope so.
That's the way it is, yeah.
445
00:25:49,700 --> 00:25:52,770
And she knows that, but she--
it doesn't bother her.
446
00:25:52,770 --> 00:25:54,030
- Okay.
- It bothers me.
447
00:25:54,030 --> 00:25:56,430
- Yeah.
- I've always worked.
448
00:25:56,430 --> 00:25:59,930
And I want to feel like
I can contribute
and not be a deadbeat.
449
00:26:02,430 --> 00:26:04,430
And in China, too,
450
00:26:04,430 --> 00:26:07,500
man is the one that works.
It's just their culture.
451
00:26:07,500 --> 00:26:10,930
So she'll get judged
or they'll judge me.
452
00:26:10,930 --> 00:26:12,530
Yeah.
453
00:26:12,530 --> 00:26:15,930
It's probably very odd
that you know, this white guy
454
00:26:15,930 --> 00:26:18,170
coming to China,
speaking English
455
00:26:18,170 --> 00:26:21,900
and doesn't work
while the wife does.
456
00:26:21,900 --> 00:26:26,070
And I'm gonna need
to rely on Lily 100%.
457
00:26:26,070 --> 00:26:30,170
To pay for things,
for language translation.
458
00:26:30,170 --> 00:26:33,000
You know, she's gonna be
the only person I have.
459
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,530
So it's not an easy feeling.
460
00:26:36,870 --> 00:26:42,830
I know I'm no George Clooney,
and I am gonna
wonder why does a woman
461
00:26:42,830 --> 00:26:47,430
like Lily want to be
with a man like me
and support me financially.
462
00:26:47,430 --> 00:26:50,830
And there is that fear
that I'm gonna wake up one day
463
00:26:50,830 --> 00:26:54,070
and Lily's gonna say,
I don't want to be with you.
464
00:26:57,270 --> 00:26:58,900
[Jarod] Well, I want
you to find that
465
00:26:58,900 --> 00:27:01,470
magical relationship
you've been looking for.
466
00:27:01,470 --> 00:27:02,930
And I think that,
and hopefully, this is it.
467
00:27:06,700 --> 00:27:09,070
I wish I could bring you
to Iceland with me.
468
00:27:09,070 --> 00:27:12,400
[Corona] I'm moving to Iceland
because I don't want
to be apart from Ingi.
469
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:13,970
- Good morning, babe.
- Good morning.
470
00:27:15,370 --> 00:27:18,370
Do you feel like he's in it
as much as you are?
471
00:27:18,370 --> 00:27:21,370
He damn well better be.
472
00:27:21,370 --> 00:27:25,200
There is a part of me
that is like,
is this the right decision?
473
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,300
I think about it too hard
and too specifically,
474
00:27:27,300 --> 00:27:29,730
it makes like my stomach
fall out of my butt.
475
00:27:29,730 --> 00:27:30,770
I don't know.
476
00:27:35,970 --> 00:27:37,070
You guys watch me.
477
00:27:37,070 --> 00:27:38,970
This is how Mommy's gonna
make some money for us.
478
00:27:38,970 --> 00:27:39,900
Come on.
479
00:27:39,900 --> 00:27:40,930
[meows]
480
00:27:46,630 --> 00:27:48,670
Spread 'em out
and dip it down.
481
00:27:48,670 --> 00:27:53,500
Legs wide, spread them
and from here you can do
a little booty shake.
482
00:27:56,870 --> 00:27:59,500
Sounds crazy,
But motion's lotion.
483
00:27:59,500 --> 00:28:01,770
You can even hang off the bed.
484
00:28:01,770 --> 00:28:04,830
We're gonna try our best
to make this
a gentle passageway.
485
00:28:06,230 --> 00:28:08,370
It really helps open
one side of the pelvis
486
00:28:08,370 --> 00:28:11,070
if your baby's
a little lopsided in there.
487
00:28:11,070 --> 00:28:12,500
The doctors are gonna
want you to think
488
00:28:12,500 --> 00:28:14,070
that you need
to lie flat on your back.
489
00:28:14,070 --> 00:28:15,530
That's good for making a baby.
490
00:28:15,530 --> 00:28:16,830
Not good for having a baby.
491
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:28,900
You can really get a lot done
from this angle here.
492
00:28:28,900 --> 00:28:30,370
So get down.
493
00:28:30,370 --> 00:28:31,570
My name's Corona.
494
00:28:31,570 --> 00:28:34,170
I'm 30 years old
and I currently
live in Philadelphia.
495
00:28:34,170 --> 00:28:36,670
But I'm originally
from Dallas, Texas.
496
00:28:36,670 --> 00:28:39,400
Hi, you're gonna help me?
497
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:40,930
Thank you.
498
00:28:40,930 --> 00:28:43,700
You're gonna help me
make videos for my clients?
499
00:28:43,700 --> 00:28:45,630
So they know
what positions to push in?
500
00:28:46,970 --> 00:28:48,230
I'm trained as a doula.
501
00:28:48,230 --> 00:28:50,630
I've given
birth coach classes online,
502
00:28:50,630 --> 00:28:52,200
helping many different people
503
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,130
through their labor process
and hopefully,
have a natural birth.
504
00:28:56,130 --> 00:28:58,230
If you're imagining taking
the biggest poop of your life,
505
00:28:58,230 --> 00:28:59,800
is this how
you're gonna take it?
506
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,470
Who poops like this?
507
00:29:01,470 --> 00:29:02,400
No one.
508
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:06,000
I've witnessed
at least 1000 births.
509
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,000
And this past winter,
I graduated from Penn
510
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,900
with my bachelor's
of science in nursing.
511
00:29:09,900 --> 00:29:12,830
With 4.0 GPA, fricking wild.
512
00:29:12,830 --> 00:29:15,500
And don't feel shy
to twerk it out here.
513
00:29:15,500 --> 00:29:17,630
My ultimate career goal
is to be a midwife,
514
00:29:17,630 --> 00:29:19,700
and I want to deliver
10,000 babies
in this lifetime.
515
00:29:20,570 --> 00:29:21,630
Anything with a vagina,
516
00:29:21,630 --> 00:29:23,430
honestly, I'm interested,
and I want to help.
517
00:29:23,430 --> 00:29:25,300
And I wanna make them
all as healthy as they can be.
518
00:29:26,770 --> 00:29:28,670
Tits. Go get your sister.
519
00:29:28,670 --> 00:29:29,900
Tell her it's bath time.
520
00:29:31,430 --> 00:29:32,600
That's what I thought.
521
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:33,700
You can have a treat.
522
00:29:34,730 --> 00:29:36,400
This was mainly to trick you.
523
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,530
I'm self sufficient
and independent,
and I'm a bad bitch.
524
00:29:39,530 --> 00:29:41,670
Don't be so grabby.
525
00:29:41,670 --> 00:29:43,270
Savages!
526
00:29:43,270 --> 00:29:44,730
My childhood
wasn't the easiest.
527
00:29:44,730 --> 00:29:47,370
I was an Army brat growing up,
so we moved a lot.
528
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,730
When I was a teenager and
very angsty and rebellious,
529
00:29:51,730 --> 00:29:55,470
my mom kicked me out
of the house, though she'd
like to say that she didn't.
530
00:29:55,470 --> 00:29:57,570
I think in her mind,
she thought I was just
531
00:29:57,570 --> 00:29:59,730
gonna leave for the night
and then come back.
532
00:29:59,730 --> 00:30:00,870
I never came back back.
533
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,200
I've been living on my own
since age 16.
534
00:30:05,030 --> 00:30:06,200
I had to have a job.
535
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:07,300
I had to pay my bills.
536
00:30:11,030 --> 00:30:14,170
I was a go-go dancer,
so I was like, in a cage,
537
00:30:14,170 --> 00:30:16,100
getting like people
handing me money.
538
00:30:16,100 --> 00:30:17,830
No one ever touched me.
539
00:30:17,830 --> 00:30:21,200
I was still a minor,
but I was in that cage
throwing that ass.
540
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:25,100
I still put myself through
college passing all my classes
with straight A's.
541
00:30:27,030 --> 00:30:29,130
[singing] Bath time...
542
00:30:29,130 --> 00:30:31,100
I wish I could bring you
to Iceland with me.
543
00:30:31,100 --> 00:30:34,170
They have really strict laws
about kitties in Iceland.
544
00:30:34,170 --> 00:30:36,400
But I will come back
and get you.
545
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,670
I'm moving to Iceland
in just under two weeks.
546
00:30:39,670 --> 00:30:42,100
To be with my man,
the love of my life, Ingi.
547
00:30:47,370 --> 00:30:48,530
My boyfriend's name is Ingi.
548
00:30:48,530 --> 00:30:51,770
He's 38 years old
and he lives
in Reykjavik, Iceland.
549
00:30:55,570 --> 00:30:59,300
We met about a year ago
when I went
on a trip to Iceland.
550
00:30:59,300 --> 00:31:02,300
In Iceland,
they party hard and late.
551
00:31:02,300 --> 00:31:05,400
Like the clubs do not close
until about 5 am.
552
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:08,800
So we partied till 5.
553
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,970
And then even though
I was tired, I end up
at an after party
554
00:31:11,970 --> 00:31:15,930
at some guy's house,
and I remember he was
standing in the doorway.
555
00:31:15,930 --> 00:31:17,600
Like some Nordic statue.
556
00:31:20,900 --> 00:31:23,830
And my first thought
was like, step aside.
557
00:31:23,830 --> 00:31:26,670
Let me in this place that
I don't even want to be in.
558
00:31:26,670 --> 00:31:30,830
I mean, I was exhausted,
and I think Ingi like,
caught on to that.
559
00:31:30,830 --> 00:31:32,830
And he let me
take a nap in his bed.
560
00:31:32,830 --> 00:31:36,000
And I was like, wow,
this is like a quality guy,
561
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:40,000
like, who lets a stranger
take a nap on their bed.
562
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:43,470
So after that night,
I slid into his DMs.
563
00:31:43,470 --> 00:31:46,770
We went on a date the next day
and he didn't even
make a move.
564
00:31:46,770 --> 00:31:48,800
And I just went
back to Philly.
565
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,600
But we kept talking online
and I said,
you should have kissed me
566
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,470
and he said,
100% I should have.
567
00:31:53,470 --> 00:31:57,100
Look at that, fancy.
You'll like it in Iceland.
568
00:31:57,100 --> 00:31:59,370
We'll just have to
get you more sweaters.
569
00:31:59,370 --> 00:32:00,830
Over the next few months,
570
00:32:00,830 --> 00:32:02,370
we have this
amazing connection,
571
00:32:02,370 --> 00:32:05,430
and I invited him
out to Ireland
for my birthday.
572
00:32:05,430 --> 00:32:07,630
Like sparks were flying.
573
00:32:07,630 --> 00:32:09,900
- Good morning, babe.
- Good morning.
574
00:32:09,900 --> 00:32:13,500
I knew for sure that
I did not want it to end.
575
00:32:16,900 --> 00:32:19,970
He treats me like a queen.
And I love him.
576
00:32:19,970 --> 00:32:22,330
Like we need
to be together forever.
577
00:32:25,070 --> 00:32:28,770
So I'm moving to Iceland
because I don't want
to be apart from Ingi.
578
00:32:31,130 --> 00:32:32,730
[all exclaiming] Hi!
579
00:32:32,730 --> 00:32:34,870
Come on in!
580
00:32:34,870 --> 00:32:37,800
- How are you?
- I'm good. How are you?
581
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,970
It was moving, like,
literally all the way here.
582
00:32:40,970 --> 00:32:45,170
Before I leave for Iceland,
I have to see my friends Leo
and their wife, Christy,
583
00:32:45,170 --> 00:32:48,170
because they are pregnant
and I'm their birth coach.
584
00:32:48,170 --> 00:32:49,430
How have you guys been?
585
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,770
I feel tired.
586
00:32:52,770 --> 00:32:55,030
Sleep's getting more elusive.
587
00:32:55,030 --> 00:32:56,070
That's fair.
588
00:32:56,070 --> 00:32:58,700
Leo identifies as non-binary,
they/them.
589
00:32:58,700 --> 00:33:01,570
And we met in the
UPenn nursing program.
590
00:33:01,570 --> 00:33:04,030
They're non-binary as [bleep].
591
00:33:04,030 --> 00:33:05,170
Pregnant belly, full beard.
592
00:33:06,170 --> 00:33:07,470
We've been doing
our stretches?
593
00:33:07,470 --> 00:33:08,930
- Every single day.
- Okay.
594
00:33:08,930 --> 00:33:11,230
Those have literally
been a lifesaver.
595
00:33:11,230 --> 00:33:14,770
Probably need to practice
the positions
more now that you're larger.
596
00:33:14,770 --> 00:33:17,830
Would you like to learn
some like
counter pressure techniques?
597
00:33:17,830 --> 00:33:18,830
Yes, please.
598
00:33:20,500 --> 00:33:22,100
They actually asked me
to be their doula
599
00:33:22,100 --> 00:33:23,900
well before they were
even pregnant,
600
00:33:23,900 --> 00:33:26,300
because obviously between
Leo and Christy,
601
00:33:26,300 --> 00:33:27,630
there's not a penis
between them.
602
00:33:27,630 --> 00:33:31,470
So this was very much
a planned pregnancy.
603
00:33:31,470 --> 00:33:33,700
You can keep rocking,
doing whatever you're doing
604
00:33:33,700 --> 00:33:36,830
so that Leo doesn't have to,
like use too many
of their muscles.
605
00:33:36,830 --> 00:33:40,700
We chose Corona as the doula
just based off
her personality.
606
00:33:40,700 --> 00:33:43,430
Just off to like the first,
like conversation
that we have had.
607
00:33:43,430 --> 00:33:44,570
Is that okay?
608
00:33:44,570 --> 00:33:46,730
Yeah, very nice.
Don't have to use
my ab muscles.
609
00:33:46,730 --> 00:33:49,800
Starting starting to feel it,
baby's getting bigger.
610
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,270
Yes. Yes.
611
00:33:51,270 --> 00:33:52,470
Sweet relief.
612
00:33:52,470 --> 00:33:55,000
Yeah. I mean, I'm not like
the first transgender person
613
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:57,430
that's pregnant,
but it's definitely
not common.
614
00:33:57,430 --> 00:33:59,830
And so I knew
that she was going to be
615
00:33:59,830 --> 00:34:02,800
like a great advocate for us
in the delivery room,
616
00:34:03,870 --> 00:34:06,600
[Corona] So I do have to
mention something.
617
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,630
I think a few times I've said,
like I'm visiting Iceland.
618
00:34:11,630 --> 00:34:13,870
But I'm moving to Iceland.
619
00:34:13,870 --> 00:34:15,970
- You're moving?
- I'm moving.
620
00:34:15,970 --> 00:34:17,630
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
621
00:34:18,430 --> 00:34:19,430
[Leo] For forever?
622
00:34:19,430 --> 00:34:21,230
- Forever.
- Yeah, that is news.
623
00:34:21,230 --> 00:34:22,670
That is super exciting.
624
00:34:22,670 --> 00:34:25,400
- Yeah. Yeah!
- Yeah!
625
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:29,030
But I am flying back
specifically for this baby.
626
00:34:29,030 --> 00:34:30,330
[Leo] You're coming home
just for baby?
627
00:34:30,330 --> 00:34:32,930
Just for baby
and then going back.
628
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,830
I have. There is the one
midwifery school,
629
00:34:39,830 --> 00:34:43,000
the one at the
University of Iceland.
630
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:44,570
There's only one.
631
00:34:44,570 --> 00:34:47,200
I currently have a spot
632
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:50,430
in the UPenn
grad school for midwifery
633
00:34:50,430 --> 00:34:54,470
in the next coming months.
But I am foregoing
that opportunity
634
00:34:54,470 --> 00:34:58,530
to move to Iceland
and to hopefully
go to midwifery school there.
635
00:34:58,530 --> 00:35:01,330
But that is not
a guaranteed spot.
636
00:35:01,330 --> 00:35:04,230
When we first met, you talked
about how it had been
your second time
637
00:35:04,230 --> 00:35:07,530
applying for the
midwifery program
at University of Pennsylvania.
638
00:35:07,530 --> 00:35:12,930
And so, how do you feel
about having to, like,
give up that program?
639
00:35:12,930 --> 00:35:15,030
Because it's one of the best
programs in the world.
640
00:35:15,030 --> 00:35:17,630
Weird. This whole thing
is very weird.
641
00:35:17,630 --> 00:35:22,130
Like if two years ago,
Corona would talk
to Corona right now.
642
00:35:22,130 --> 00:35:23,600
They would fight.
643
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,700
You're stepping away
from a midwifery program
like, a guaranteed spot.,
644
00:35:26,700 --> 00:35:28,070
I'd be like, what the hell?
645
00:35:28,070 --> 00:35:29,030
You dumb bitch!
646
00:35:29,030 --> 00:35:30,900
- For a man.
- For a man?
647
00:35:30,900 --> 00:35:32,570
- Yeah.
- And I'm in love?
648
00:35:32,570 --> 00:35:35,130
What the [bleep]. Weird.
649
00:35:37,300 --> 00:35:38,400
There is a part of me
650
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,430
that is like, "Is this
the right decision?"
651
00:35:41,430 --> 00:35:44,230
But I'm not giving up
on my dreams.
652
00:35:44,230 --> 00:35:48,300
I'm just going to be pursuing
my dreams with my person.
653
00:35:48,300 --> 00:35:51,930
I'm gonna follow my heart,
and I've already
made up my mind.
654
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,300
It's definitely
a big change of plans.
655
00:35:55,300 --> 00:35:56,970
Is it Ingi worth it?
656
00:35:56,970 --> 00:36:02,030
I think so. I do.
I'm willing to gamble it out
657
00:36:02,030 --> 00:36:03,800
to be with my person.
658
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,100
Does he consider you
his person, though?
659
00:36:06,100 --> 00:36:08,530
He told me that he loved me,
so that was a thing.
660
00:36:08,530 --> 00:36:09,670
That's still huge,
661
00:36:09,670 --> 00:36:12,370
but that's not the same
as being like his person.
662
00:36:12,370 --> 00:36:13,500
That is true.
663
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:15,470
I should ask.
664
00:36:15,470 --> 00:36:16,570
[bleep] call him right now.
665
00:36:18,100 --> 00:36:21,430
He can buy me
my damn black diamond ring.
666
00:36:21,430 --> 00:36:24,770
That's another question
is like, have you talked
about engagement?
667
00:36:24,770 --> 00:36:26,600
Is Ingi on the same page?
668
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:27,970
We have not talked
about that, no.
669
00:36:27,970 --> 00:36:30,170
I don't know
if he has that same mindset.
670
00:36:32,030 --> 00:36:34,870
Me and Ingi have danced
around the marriage talk
671
00:36:34,870 --> 00:36:37,470
like he's already said,
what's mine is yours.
672
00:36:37,470 --> 00:36:42,470
I think we've already begun
this intertwining of lives.
673
00:36:42,470 --> 00:36:44,930
And I know I am making
a big commitment,
674
00:36:44,930 --> 00:36:48,270
packing up all my stuff and
moving to Iceland for sure.
675
00:36:48,270 --> 00:36:49,800
That's crazy sauce.
676
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:54,700
And so I really, I hope he is
as committed
to this relationship as I am.
677
00:36:56,270 --> 00:36:59,370
Do you feel like he's in it
as much as you are?
678
00:36:59,370 --> 00:37:05,270
I mean, he damn well better be
but I do think that he is.
679
00:37:05,270 --> 00:37:07,230
Are you going to
talk to him about that?
680
00:37:08,130 --> 00:37:09,230
Yes.
681
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:12,400
If I think about it too hard
and too specifically it
682
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,330
makes my stomach
fall out of my butt.
683
00:37:14,330 --> 00:37:18,130
But like, I don't know, love
makes you crazy as [bleep].
684
00:37:26,030 --> 00:37:28,600
So many people,
they just see my muscles.
685
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:29,700
But icebergs,
686
00:37:29,700 --> 00:37:31,870
they have a part
above the water
687
00:37:31,870 --> 00:37:34,330
and some big under the water.
688
00:37:39,930 --> 00:37:41,500
Not literally.
689
00:37:41,500 --> 00:37:42,670
You understand what I mean.
690
00:37:52,370 --> 00:37:55,300
[man] We have not told
my family
about the move
691
00:37:55,300 --> 00:37:57,400
and they're going
to feel really let down.
692
00:38:02,230 --> 00:38:03,570
[sighs wearily]
693
00:38:36,330 --> 00:38:38,770
This is the longest time
that I have been away
694
00:38:38,770 --> 00:38:39,900
from Shekinah.
695
00:38:41,830 --> 00:38:45,130
I start to be anxious,
and when I'm anxious
696
00:38:45,130 --> 00:38:47,370
or depressed,
I count everything.
697
00:38:49,630 --> 00:38:53,070
I count the rice grains
on the plate.
698
00:38:54,930 --> 00:38:56,930
Because I eat it
every day almost.
699
00:38:56,930 --> 00:39:00,530
Chicken with rice.
I'm not normal for sure.
700
00:39:03,170 --> 00:39:07,000
Seven cars, seventeen people.
701
00:39:08,730 --> 00:39:11,630
I don't know.
It is a meditation, or is it
702
00:39:11,630 --> 00:39:15,800
OCD, it's kind of an illness
or whatever,
but from childhood
703
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:16,970
I always count things.
704
00:39:27,570 --> 00:39:29,070
I was hiding something
from you.
705
00:39:34,830 --> 00:39:35,830
Oh my God.
706
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:40,930
Wait. What are the Xs?
707
00:39:40,930 --> 00:39:45,530
- X is one?
- Xs are the number of people
708
00:39:47,870 --> 00:39:49,170
What?
709
00:39:49,170 --> 00:39:51,200
It's disgusting.
710
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:11,800
But now Shekinah,
she is the only woman
that I'm sleeping with.
711
00:40:30,270 --> 00:40:34,900
[speaking Turkish]
712
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,570
[in English] So many people,
they just see my muscles.
713
00:40:58,570 --> 00:41:00,570
But you know, icebergs.
714
00:41:00,570 --> 00:41:04,770
They have a part here
above the water
715
00:41:04,770 --> 00:41:07,370
and some big under the water.
716
00:41:13,070 --> 00:41:14,770
Not literally.
717
00:41:14,770 --> 00:41:15,800
You understand what I mean.
718
00:41:19,630 --> 00:41:21,630
[both speaking in Turkish]
719
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,930
[woman speaking in Turkish]
720
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:45,530
[speaking Turkish]
721
00:41:56,970 --> 00:41:58,630
[in English]
722
00:42:17,430 --> 00:42:19,100
[in Turkish]
723
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:03,500
[in English] Before Shekinah,
I was doing financially good
724
00:43:03,500 --> 00:43:05,270
as a personal trainer.
725
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:20,900
I have no savings left.
726
00:43:23,500 --> 00:43:25,800
[in Turkish]
727
00:43:54,470 --> 00:43:56,030
[in English]
728
00:44:29,830 --> 00:44:32,000
There's a limit.
Like a glass of water.
729
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,500
You can put a little more,
a little more, a little more,
a little more,
730
00:44:34,500 --> 00:44:36,870
and it spills over afterwards.
731
00:45:03,830 --> 00:45:04,870
Thank you, baby.
732
00:45:10,170 --> 00:45:11,970
- Perfect, perfect.
- Oh, that feels good.
733
00:45:11,970 --> 00:45:13,900
All right. Um...
734
00:45:13,900 --> 00:45:16,900
Looks like a pretty
cool collection.
What are you guys...
735
00:45:16,900 --> 00:45:18,200
I mean, were these yours?
736
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,270
- Listen, you're not,
listening to 'em anymore?
- We're moving,
737
00:45:20,270 --> 00:45:23,030
so we're just trying to get
some money for that.
738
00:45:26,630 --> 00:45:30,270
Oh, wow. Cool. Wow.
That's a big trip.
739
00:45:30,270 --> 00:45:31,930
- When are you leaving?
- She leaves on Monday.
740
00:45:31,930 --> 00:45:33,700
I'm going to follow
about a month.
741
00:45:33,700 --> 00:45:36,470
- To a month and a half later.
- Oh, my God.
742
00:45:37,370 --> 00:45:39,000
Meitalia's leaving before me
743
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,070
because she has
some health issues.
744
00:45:41,930 --> 00:45:44,330
Her lymph nodes
in her neck swell up.
745
00:45:44,330 --> 00:45:46,130
Size of golf balls some days.
746
00:45:46,130 --> 00:45:49,870
And she needs to find out
what's going on.
747
00:45:49,870 --> 00:45:52,000
So yeah, trying to save up
money for the trip.
748
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:55,270
Because once we get there,
you know, I got to find a job.
749
00:45:55,270 --> 00:45:58,630
So I don't really know what
I'll end up doing.
750
00:45:58,630 --> 00:46:02,070
But we're going to try
working for her dad
is what I'm gonna start doing.
751
00:46:02,070 --> 00:46:03,570
Cool. What does your dad do?
752
00:46:05,030 --> 00:46:06,500
Oh, cool.
753
00:46:06,500 --> 00:46:09,770
Let me flip through this stuff
and see if it's stuff
I can use.
754
00:46:09,770 --> 00:46:13,070
- Thank you.
- I'll talk to you
in a little bit.
755
00:46:13,070 --> 00:46:16,970
Being apart for a month
is going to be really hard.
756
00:46:16,970 --> 00:46:19,600
I need to make sure
that I'm making as much money
757
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:21,770
as I can before I leave.
758
00:46:21,770 --> 00:46:25,970
Because I'm worried that
I'm not going to be able
759
00:46:25,970 --> 00:46:28,000
to find a way to support us
over there.
760
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:31,600
We only have enough money
to last probably
761
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:33,200
a few months in Indonesia.
762
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:56,930
But if we tell them sooner
and they just want me
to stop working,
763
00:46:56,930 --> 00:46:59,670
do you have a plan
if we don't have enough money?
764
00:47:02,900 --> 00:47:07,370
We have not told my family yet
about the move.
765
00:47:07,370 --> 00:47:11,230
Leaving the family business,
leaving it all on
their shoulders
766
00:47:11,230 --> 00:47:14,730
is going to cause a big burden
on everyone else.
767
00:47:14,730 --> 00:47:17,500
That is terrible to have to do
to your family.
768
00:47:17,500 --> 00:47:21,300
They're going to feel
really let down that
I just kind of abandoned them.
769
00:47:28,870 --> 00:47:32,130
But we had a plan to wait
and why would we change it?
770
00:47:32,130 --> 00:47:33,600
Say what you...
771
00:47:40,070 --> 00:47:41,030
[sighs]
772
00:47:42,730 --> 00:47:45,400
I didn't know you didn't feel
like you had a say in that.
773
00:47:57,470 --> 00:47:59,970
Nothing's going to stop me
from coming to you.
774
00:47:59,970 --> 00:48:01,970
My whole life revolves
around you.
775
00:48:04,970 --> 00:48:08,130
Hey, and you can have fear,
but don't let it control you.
776
00:48:10,170 --> 00:48:12,770
Then tell me how you feel.
We can't change everything
777
00:48:12,770 --> 00:48:14,300
just because you're scared.
778
00:48:14,300 --> 00:48:17,530
Don't want to back out.
Don't think I'm going
to change what
779
00:48:17,530 --> 00:48:19,430
we're doing because
you're scared.
780
00:48:41,470 --> 00:48:43,570
Hey, guys.
I don't mean to interrupt,
781
00:48:43,570 --> 00:48:45,730
but I've gone through
the records.
782
00:48:45,730 --> 00:48:48,830
Um, do you want to?
783
00:49:12,770 --> 00:49:16,630
So, I've got some bad news.
I can't use any of them.
784
00:49:17,630 --> 00:49:23,170
It's all kind of
easy listening,
cocktail, uh...
785
00:49:23,170 --> 00:49:26,870
music, sadly,
no one really wants
to listen to at all.
786
00:49:28,170 --> 00:49:30,030
You have a bunch of junk.
787
00:49:31,700 --> 00:49:33,030
Take care. Good luck.
788
00:49:34,970 --> 00:49:37,000
We need to really buckle down.
789
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,300
We need to start having
some deep conversations.
790
00:49:39,300 --> 00:49:40,830
How are we going
to make money?
791
00:49:40,830 --> 00:49:43,230
How are we going to be able
to take care of ourselves
when we're there?
792
00:49:43,230 --> 00:49:44,670
We really have
to figure this out because
793
00:49:44,670 --> 00:49:45,970
you're leaving in two days.
794
00:49:47,070 --> 00:49:48,370
Okay?
795
00:49:48,370 --> 00:49:49,930
- Yeah.
- I love you.
796
00:49:51,830 --> 00:49:52,770
Let's go.
797
00:50:15,530 --> 00:50:17,970
[upbeat music playing]
798
00:50:31,530 --> 00:50:34,670
[in Mandarin, English]
799
00:50:40,430 --> 00:50:42,470
[in Mandarin]
800
00:51:03,230 --> 00:51:04,370
Okay.
801
00:51:59,500 --> 00:52:00,730
[voice on elevator]
802
00:52:49,900 --> 00:52:51,830
♪ It's been
a long time coming ♪
803
00:52:51,830 --> 00:52:56,870
♪ But I'm on my way
I got some nitty gritty news
we should celebrate ♪
804
00:52:56,870 --> 00:53:01,830
♪ We feeling all right
We feeling all right ♪
805
00:53:01,830 --> 00:53:05,070
[vocalizing]
806
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:09,200
Hey, sweetie.
807
00:53:10,100 --> 00:53:11,700
How are you?
808
00:53:11,700 --> 00:53:13,600
[in English]
809
00:53:15,630 --> 00:53:19,670
Yeah, I am excited
to be there.
Finally get to cuddle.
810
00:53:22,970 --> 00:53:23,900
Hold you.
811
00:53:30,300 --> 00:53:32,700
We will practice in person.
812
00:53:32,700 --> 00:53:33,670
Yes.
813
00:53:34,830 --> 00:53:36,770
[Josh]My Mandarin is awful.
814
00:53:36,770 --> 00:53:40,100
And Lily, her English
is not the greatest.
815
00:53:40,100 --> 00:53:44,570
So I'm bringing
this little guy to China
to help communicate.
816
00:53:44,570 --> 00:53:48,200
Are you going to be at
the house all day today?-Yes.
817
00:53:49,170 --> 00:53:54,070
Can you please stop drinking
your tea so loudly?
818
00:53:55,270 --> 00:53:57,170
[voice translating
in Mandarin]
819
00:53:59,500 --> 00:54:02,870
Can you point me
to the direction of
820
00:54:02,870 --> 00:54:05,870
the remote control car store?
821
00:54:05,870 --> 00:54:07,530
[voice translating
in Mandarin]
822
00:54:09,330 --> 00:54:11,770
I don't know if that's
accurate or not 'cause
she's not here,
823
00:54:11,770 --> 00:54:14,470
but I'll find out
when I'm there.
824
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:17,830
All right, let me see.
Updates.
825
00:54:20,100 --> 00:54:23,170
New, yeah.
Something new that they did.
826
00:54:23,170 --> 00:54:24,570
Oh, okay.
827
00:54:26,170 --> 00:54:28,230
Ah, very nice.
828
00:54:33,930 --> 00:54:35,470
For us.
829
00:54:41,470 --> 00:54:43,630
Yes, stressed.
830
00:54:43,630 --> 00:54:45,870
I'm happy in just
your apartment.
831
00:54:47,930 --> 00:54:50,200
When we decided that
I would move to China,
832
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,500
Lily told me she wanted
to renovate the villa
833
00:54:52,500 --> 00:54:54,270
that she owns
for us to live in.
834
00:54:55,170 --> 00:54:59,400
I told Lily that having
such a large home
835
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:00,870
is not important to me.
836
00:55:00,870 --> 00:55:03,770
But she insisted to do
the renovations.
837
00:55:12,730 --> 00:55:15,170
No, you don't say bankrupt.
838
00:55:15,170 --> 00:55:20,200
Bankrupt is when
you have no money
and you file for help.
839
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:22,400
So you just spent
a lot of money.
840
00:55:33,900 --> 00:55:35,970
Of course. We both do.
841
00:55:38,130 --> 00:55:41,400
In the past, I have had
relationships where money
842
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:44,170
was an issue
and I wasn't making enough.
843
00:55:44,170 --> 00:55:48,270
So I'm worried with
all this extra expenses
for the house
844
00:55:48,270 --> 00:55:50,570
and taking care of me,
there's going to be
845
00:55:50,570 --> 00:55:51,600
a lot of pressure on her.
846
00:55:55,770 --> 00:55:57,430
Very soon.
847
00:56:01,170 --> 00:56:06,300
I've been married twice.
And I've realized I've made
many mistakes.
848
00:56:06,300 --> 00:56:09,770
And I'm just trying to learn
and figure out
849
00:56:09,770 --> 00:56:12,570
how I could be
a better husband to her.
850
00:56:12,570 --> 00:56:14,700
Because I don't want her
to ever leave me.
851
00:56:14,700 --> 00:56:17,470
I don't want her
to regret marrying me.
852
00:56:18,370 --> 00:56:20,130
I love you.
853
00:56:20,130 --> 00:56:22,330
Love you, baby. Bye-bye.
854
00:56:22,330 --> 00:56:24,330
- Bye-bye.
- Bye.
855
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:29,470
Yeah.
856
00:56:31,030 --> 00:56:34,400
James was, like, scared about
having kids.
857
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:35,470
What?
858
00:56:41,500 --> 00:56:43,270
What the [bleep]?
859
00:56:49,230 --> 00:56:50,630
Okay.
860
00:56:51,770 --> 00:56:53,200
This?
861
00:57:12,430 --> 00:57:14,500
- [barks]
- Yeah.
862
00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:30,930
I know.
863
00:57:41,530 --> 00:57:42,730
Here you go.
864
00:57:44,400 --> 00:57:46,900
Is this like inspired
by Indonesia?
865
00:57:46,900 --> 00:57:49,170
- Yeah. Mm-hmm.
- Like ocean vibe?
866
00:58:12,530 --> 00:58:15,200
And I feel homesick still.
867
00:58:23,570 --> 00:58:24,630
[sighs]
868
00:58:29,870 --> 00:58:31,270
Yeah?
869
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:36,870
What is it?
870
00:58:39,070 --> 00:58:40,000
Um...
871
00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:42,230
Me and James...
872
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:45,330
moving back to Indonesia.
873
00:58:48,500 --> 00:58:49,800
Um...
874
00:58:53,500 --> 00:58:56,670
- Tomorrow.
Tomorrow I'm going.
- Tomorrow?
875
00:58:56,670 --> 00:58:59,800
Oh, my gosh.
876
00:59:08,100 --> 00:59:10,930
Tomorrow like
I'm not gonna see you
after today.
877
00:59:10,930 --> 00:59:12,930
It's very surprising.
878
00:59:12,930 --> 00:59:15,500
I do wish that Tata
told me sooner.
879
00:59:15,500 --> 00:59:17,270
It's just a lot.
880
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:25,000
No.
881
00:59:29,970 --> 00:59:31,030
Okay.
882
00:59:34,870 --> 00:59:36,930
Oh, that's, yeah,
this feels like a bump.
883
00:59:40,670 --> 00:59:41,700
Really?
884
00:59:59,070 --> 01:00:01,800
I feel like I would
ask you guys
if you wanted kids before
885
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:05,630
and, like, James told me that
he wasn't excited about
886
01:00:05,630 --> 01:00:07,300
the thought of having
children.
887
01:00:07,300 --> 01:00:08,330
What?
888
01:00:09,630 --> 01:00:12,970
James was, like, scared about
having kids.
889
01:00:20,830 --> 01:00:23,930
- Like a couple months ago.
- What?
890
01:00:59,870 --> 01:01:01,670
What the [bleep]?
891
01:01:04,700 --> 01:01:07,000
When James told me,
Tata and James
892
01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:09,130
and I were hanging out
like we usually do.
893
01:01:09,130 --> 01:01:12,500
We got on the subject of kids
and Tata went to the bathroom.
894
01:01:12,500 --> 01:01:14,130
And then...
895
01:01:15,830 --> 01:01:18,930
And I was like, oh.
But I thought
she already knew,
896
01:01:18,930 --> 01:01:22,230
I would have told him
to tell her if I knew
that he didn't.
897
01:01:39,900 --> 01:01:43,730
- I think you need
to talk to him.
- [sniffles]
898
01:01:43,730 --> 01:01:45,430
Because if this is
something you really want,
899
01:01:45,430 --> 01:01:48,230
and if he can't give that
to you,
900
01:01:48,230 --> 01:01:50,430
then that's going to be
a really big problem.
901
01:02:12,500 --> 01:02:15,300
I'm getting my nose done
finally.
902
01:02:15,300 --> 01:02:18,600
And Sarper has actually
designed a new nose for me.
903
01:02:20,500 --> 01:02:22,470
- What?
- Shekinah.
904
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,570
♪ I used to be lost
in the sea ♪
905
01:02:33,570 --> 01:02:38,130
♪ I'm glad I got
a taste of you ♪
906
01:02:39,030 --> 01:02:41,870
[Shekinah] Good boy.
That's a good boy.
907
01:02:41,870 --> 01:02:43,070
Let's go.
908
01:02:44,800 --> 01:02:47,670
Look who it is.
It's your friend Stella.
909
01:02:47,670 --> 01:02:50,330
- [Wendy] Hi.
- Hi, you guys.
910
01:02:50,330 --> 01:02:53,670
Today I'm meeting with
two of my best friends,
Josh and Wendy.
911
01:02:53,670 --> 01:02:55,170
And we are going
to the dog groomer
912
01:02:55,170 --> 01:02:58,100
to get my gorgeous miniature
golden doodle groomed
913
01:02:58,100 --> 01:03:00,900
because Adonis
is going to Turkey with me.
914
01:03:01,800 --> 01:03:04,030
They're so excited
for their baths.
915
01:03:05,230 --> 01:03:06,470
- Hi.
- Adonis.
916
01:03:06,470 --> 01:03:08,170
Who is his new friend
you've brought today?
917
01:03:08,170 --> 01:03:09,100
Adonis brought
his friend Stella.
918
01:03:09,100 --> 01:03:10,770
- Stella.
- [Shekinah] So this is Stella.
919
01:03:10,770 --> 01:03:13,170
I love your pearls.
I love your pearls.
920
01:03:13,170 --> 01:03:14,970
- Oh, my goodness.
- So fancy.
921
01:03:14,970 --> 01:03:16,430
[groomer] Oh, my goodness.
922
01:03:16,430 --> 01:03:19,930
When I moved to Turkey,
Adonis stayed in LA
with one of my friends.
923
01:03:19,930 --> 01:03:22,970
But I'm tired of being apart
from my dog.
924
01:03:22,970 --> 01:03:26,170
So I'm taking him to live
with Sarper and I there.
925
01:03:26,170 --> 01:03:29,300
We hope they behave for you.
But no guarantees.
926
01:03:29,300 --> 01:03:32,000
He did amazing last time,
and I'm sure he'll do
amazing this time.
927
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:33,500
- [Shekinah] Oh, good.
- [groomer] Awesome.
928
01:03:33,500 --> 01:03:35,330
- [Shekinah] So we're gonna,
kind of, browse around.
- [groomer] Okay.
929
01:03:35,330 --> 01:03:36,530
But we'll be close by.
930
01:03:36,530 --> 01:03:38,130
- Awesome.
I'll take care of Adonis.
- Thank you.
931
01:03:38,130 --> 01:03:39,730
Adonis.
932
01:03:39,730 --> 01:03:42,070
- [Shekinah] Should we
look around?
- [Wendy] Yeah.
933
01:03:42,070 --> 01:03:44,670
- It's pretty glamorous.
- It really is.
934
01:03:44,670 --> 01:03:46,070
Is this for a dog?
935
01:03:46,070 --> 01:03:47,770
- I feel like I could wear
this dog jewelry.
- I know, seriously.
936
01:03:47,770 --> 01:03:49,500
- [Josh] Matching ones.
- This is so pretty.
937
01:03:49,500 --> 01:03:52,300
I haven't seen
stuff like this
in Turkey, but...
938
01:03:52,300 --> 01:03:53,870
[Josh] How you liking Turkey?
939
01:03:53,870 --> 01:03:55,370
- How's it going?
- [Shekinah] I love it.
940
01:03:55,370 --> 01:03:57,300
I actually love Istanbul.
941
01:03:57,300 --> 01:03:59,370
[Wendy] So you're
heading off again.
942
01:03:59,370 --> 01:04:01,530
We miss you.
We never see you in LA scene.
943
01:04:01,530 --> 01:04:04,370
- I mean, the events,
the parties, the--
- [Shekinah] I know.
944
01:04:04,370 --> 01:04:05,870
I know that you miss me
on the LA scene,
945
01:04:05,870 --> 01:04:08,070
and it hasn't
made sense to you.
946
01:04:08,070 --> 01:04:10,000
When I go out
and I'm in that scene,
947
01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:11,830
Sarper gets uncomfortable,
948
01:04:11,830 --> 01:04:14,270
just like I get uncomfortable
when he's training a female.
949
01:04:14,270 --> 01:04:19,130
So I've asked him to not
train female clients anymore.
950
01:04:19,130 --> 01:04:23,230
And in return, he asked me
to please not take part
in LA events when I'm here.
951
01:04:23,230 --> 01:04:24,230
So...
952
01:04:27,270 --> 01:04:30,270
- Hearing that she's been
sitting at home doing nothing.
- That's--
953
01:04:30,270 --> 01:04:32,000
- That's not like her.
- Oh, my God.
954
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,870
- That's not like her at all.
- That is not like her at all.
955
01:04:34,870 --> 01:04:36,630
And I hate hearing that.
956
01:04:36,630 --> 01:04:39,200
- It's really upsetting.
- [Josh] Depressing and sad.
957
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:41,300
- It's--
- We see a change.
958
01:04:41,300 --> 01:04:43,400
That's, that's a problem.
959
01:04:43,400 --> 01:04:45,730
I can hang out one on one,
and I can hang out like this,
960
01:04:45,730 --> 01:04:48,670
but, like, going out
to events and stuff,
961
01:04:48,670 --> 01:04:50,200
like, that has been
an issue for us.
962
01:04:50,200 --> 01:04:51,330
So I stopped doing it.
963
01:04:52,230 --> 01:04:57,300
Because whenever I'm here
for my visits,
964
01:04:57,300 --> 01:04:59,230
- things go bad really quickly.
- [Josh] Like how?
965
01:04:59,230 --> 01:05:00,830
Like, he starts to spiral.
966
01:05:00,830 --> 01:05:03,070
He gets
really in his feelings.
967
01:05:03,070 --> 01:05:05,270
He doesn't feel like
he can survive
the long distance.
968
01:05:05,270 --> 01:05:08,000
And he's tried to break up
with me a bunch of times.
969
01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:09,970
Break up with you
for what reasons?
970
01:05:09,970 --> 01:05:11,730
- Because you're leaving?
- Not even good reasons.
971
01:05:11,730 --> 01:05:13,570
He's just freaking out.
972
01:05:13,570 --> 01:05:15,430
[Josh] That right there's
a red flag.
973
01:05:15,430 --> 01:05:18,370
- I mean, can't he move here?
- Relationship.
974
01:05:18,370 --> 01:05:19,500
[Shekinah] Well...
975
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:23,430
- What?
- [Shekinah] I'm nervous
to tell you guys.
976
01:05:24,700 --> 01:05:26,370
You know how I feel
about marriage.
977
01:05:26,370 --> 01:05:29,070
I never have really wanted
to get married.
978
01:05:30,070 --> 01:05:33,100
But I feel like I could
take that step with him.
979
01:05:35,430 --> 01:05:37,900
So we applied
for the K-1 visa.
980
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,530
Sarper and I agreed
to apply for the K-1 visa
981
01:05:45,530 --> 01:05:48,870
because it will make
a huge difference
for both of us financially.
982
01:05:48,870 --> 01:05:52,100
Sarper can make about
eight times the amount
in Los Angeles
983
01:05:52,100 --> 01:05:54,700
personal training,
as he can in Istanbul.
984
01:05:54,700 --> 01:05:56,830
And, of course,
by me being here in LA,
985
01:05:56,830 --> 01:06:00,470
I can be running my business
in aesthetics hands on.
986
01:06:00,470 --> 01:06:03,030
But the approval process
can take years and years,
987
01:06:03,030 --> 01:06:05,270
if it gets approved at all.
988
01:06:05,270 --> 01:06:07,770
So I'm going back to Turkey
to live with Sarper again
989
01:06:07,770 --> 01:06:09,400
because we need
to be together,
990
01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:11,330
and this is the only way.
991
01:06:12,330 --> 01:06:14,170
He doesn't handle
being apart well.
992
01:06:14,170 --> 01:06:15,500
And, uh, I don't either,
993
01:06:15,500 --> 01:06:17,000
- but I don't, like,
try to to break up with him.
- Nobody does.
994
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:19,600
- I understand being apart--
- That's not a reason
to get married.
995
01:06:19,600 --> 01:06:21,100
Or threaten to break up.
996
01:06:21,100 --> 01:06:23,500
That's just not a reason
to get married.
997
01:06:23,500 --> 01:06:27,730
I know you love this person,
and I know he loves you too,
998
01:06:27,730 --> 01:06:29,730
from what you two
know of each other.
999
01:06:29,730 --> 01:06:31,530
But marriage...
1000
01:06:31,530 --> 01:06:35,230
Let's just not rush into
life-long decisions.
1001
01:06:35,230 --> 01:06:37,400
- How about that?
- But it's been a year.
I don't think I'm rushing.
1002
01:06:38,130 --> 01:06:40,300
I mean, he hasn't
proposed yet, okay?
1003
01:06:40,300 --> 01:06:42,970
- So it hasn't, like,
fully hit me...
- Yeah, but--
1004
01:06:42,970 --> 01:06:46,200
...and I'm not
fully processing,
like, the idea of it.
1005
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:50,570
But I know that
if this visa gets approved,
that's what has to come.
1006
01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:57,370
If it weren't this situation,
marriage would never be
coming up.
1007
01:06:57,370 --> 01:06:59,500
- Correct.
- If it weren't about him
having to move
1008
01:06:59,500 --> 01:07:01,870
to a different country,
1009
01:07:01,870 --> 01:07:05,370
they would not
be discussing marriage,
and that's the problem.
1010
01:07:05,370 --> 01:07:08,430
It just makes no sense.
1011
01:07:08,430 --> 01:07:10,300
[Shekinah]
Adonis looks so cute.
1012
01:07:10,300 --> 01:07:11,670
[Wendy] He does.
1013
01:07:11,670 --> 01:07:13,470
[Shekinah]
He's ready for Turkey.
1014
01:07:14,770 --> 01:07:16,530
- When you go back to Turkey,
what do you do there?
- [Shekinah] Yeah.
1015
01:07:16,530 --> 01:07:19,100
- What do I do?
- What does your day
consist of?
1016
01:07:19,100 --> 01:07:23,070
He cooks for me,
and then we work out together.
1017
01:07:23,070 --> 01:07:24,730
And then we have sex,
like, four times a day.
1018
01:07:26,230 --> 01:07:28,500
And one of the things
I'm doing
1019
01:07:28,500 --> 01:07:31,130
is I'm getting
my nose done finally.
1020
01:07:31,130 --> 01:07:33,700
It's been
bothering me forever.
1021
01:07:33,700 --> 01:07:36,930
And Sarper has actually
designed a new nose for me.
1022
01:07:38,370 --> 01:07:40,800
- What?
- Shekinah.
1023
01:07:40,800 --> 01:07:45,230
- He's designed
a new nose for me.
- [Wendy] Honestly?
1024
01:07:45,230 --> 01:07:48,870
What does that
conversation sound like
between the two of you?
1025
01:07:48,870 --> 01:07:51,100
- You know, like--
- He says, "Leave it to me.
Leave it to me.
1026
01:07:51,100 --> 01:07:53,130
I'll tell the doctor
what to do.
1027
01:07:53,130 --> 01:07:55,400
I'll tell him.
I know what you need."
1028
01:07:55,400 --> 01:07:58,930
And I'm like,
"Okay, I trust you."
1029
01:07:58,930 --> 01:08:01,330
Because I do, I think.
1030
01:08:03,370 --> 01:08:04,530
Babe, you look so stressed.
1031
01:08:04,530 --> 01:08:06,130
Well, it is stressful.
1032
01:08:06,130 --> 01:08:09,430
- [Josh] We're worried.
- You're a jillion miles away.
1033
01:08:09,430 --> 01:08:10,500
I haven't met this guy.
1034
01:08:10,500 --> 01:08:13,130
He's a stripper who's slept
with 2,500 people.
1035
01:08:13,130 --> 01:08:16,070
I'm supposed to sit here
and act like it's no big deal.
1036
01:08:16,070 --> 01:08:19,470
He's gonna control the center
of your face right now,
1037
01:08:19,470 --> 01:08:22,030
and you're ready
to marry this guy.
1038
01:08:22,030 --> 01:08:25,700
I can't pretend like
that's not a big deal.
1039
01:08:28,130 --> 01:08:31,500
I think because she's
so in tune to that thought
that he's the one
1040
01:08:31,500 --> 01:08:34,800
that she goes with the flow
because it makes it easier.
1041
01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:38,030
She thinks that
"If I get married,
it's gonna resolve issues."
1042
01:08:38,030 --> 01:08:39,030
Issues are still
gonna be there.
1043
01:08:39,030 --> 01:08:40,730
A piece of paper
is not gonna change it.
1044
01:08:40,730 --> 01:08:43,430
Now she's talking
about letting a man
design her nose.
1045
01:08:44,570 --> 01:08:46,770
- It's insane.
- It's just terrifying.
1046
01:08:48,170 --> 01:08:52,330
I'm the one that
wants this surgery,
and I trust him.
1047
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:55,870
This is your face.
1048
01:08:56,800 --> 01:08:58,030
You can change an outfit,
1049
01:08:58,030 --> 01:08:59,830
- you can change
your hair color easily.
- [Josh] Agreed.
1050
01:08:59,830 --> 01:09:02,130
The middle of your face,
you can't change that easily.
1051
01:09:08,870 --> 01:09:10,770
- [Tonya]
What if he has a wife?
- He doesn't have a wife.
1052
01:09:10,770 --> 01:09:12,670
He's never even been
in a relationship before.
1053
01:09:12,670 --> 01:09:14,830
Moving to Iceland
for a virgin.
1054
01:09:14,830 --> 01:09:16,000
[Tonya speaking]
1055
01:09:16,000 --> 01:09:17,400
- That is a red flag.
- There's nothing
wrong with him.
1056
01:09:17,400 --> 01:09:19,300
- But--
- You don't know
that he ain't a killer.
1057
01:09:20,500 --> 01:09:21,800
[Corona sighs]
1058
01:09:39,170 --> 01:09:41,230
- [Tonya] Drinks.
- [Corona] Drinks all around.
1059
01:09:41,230 --> 01:09:42,670
Drinks all around.
1060
01:09:42,670 --> 01:09:46,870
- Ooh!
- It, like, splashes, okay?
1061
01:09:46,870 --> 01:09:49,000
I come to Dallas
to see my family
1062
01:09:49,000 --> 01:09:51,930
probably two
to three times a year
1063
01:09:51,930 --> 01:09:54,070
every year since I've left.
1064
01:09:54,070 --> 01:09:57,170
- [Tonya] You need soda.
- I do need soda.
1065
01:09:57,170 --> 01:09:58,800
My relationship with my family
has gotten better
1066
01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:00,430
as I've been an adult.
1067
01:10:00,430 --> 01:10:02,330
I think
the further away I move,
1068
01:10:02,330 --> 01:10:04,830
the closer we get together,
oddly enough.
1069
01:10:04,830 --> 01:10:07,370
Because we are, like,
honestly, too similar,
1070
01:10:07,370 --> 01:10:09,670
which is why
we butt heads so much.
1071
01:10:09,670 --> 01:10:11,370
Where the hell
am I supposed to put this?
1072
01:10:11,370 --> 01:10:13,100
- [Fannie] It's like a puzzle.
- You gotta do it right.
1073
01:10:14,330 --> 01:10:16,800
We've got a lot of stuff.
Your granny lives here.
1074
01:10:16,800 --> 01:10:18,970
Why is there
an entire pot in there?
1075
01:10:21,230 --> 01:10:23,670
- Because.
- [Corona] Okay.
1076
01:10:23,670 --> 01:10:24,900
Okay, enough said.
1077
01:10:27,830 --> 01:10:31,530
We can be very short tempered
and very reactionary.
1078
01:10:31,530 --> 01:10:32,900
Okay, y'all.
1079
01:10:32,900 --> 01:10:35,200
My legs are tired,
so I'mma have to go sit down.
1080
01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:37,570
Y'all know my legs are...
They old.
1081
01:10:37,570 --> 01:10:40,300
- Going to sit down.
- Let's move them
52-year-old legs.
1082
01:10:40,300 --> 01:10:42,600
And my back's
gonna be hurting and...
1083
01:10:42,600 --> 01:10:43,800
[Corona] I've been
waiting to tell them
1084
01:10:43,800 --> 01:10:45,900
my plans
of moving to Iceland.
1085
01:10:45,900 --> 01:10:48,770
I'd rather just rip that
Band-Aid off in person
1086
01:10:48,770 --> 01:10:51,400
and then,
kind of, skedaddle.
1087
01:10:51,400 --> 01:10:53,400
Y'all lucky to be sitting
on the white couch.
1088
01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:54,470
I know. This is--
1089
01:10:54,470 --> 01:10:56,670
I'm, like, holding my drink
with dear life, like.
1090
01:10:56,670 --> 01:10:58,530
- Ah, yeah.
- [Corona] I'm scared.
1091
01:10:59,330 --> 01:11:01,170
My mom is extremely
hard of hearing,
1092
01:11:01,170 --> 01:11:05,200
so she uses a tablet
that has live transcription
1093
01:11:05,200 --> 01:11:07,800
to understand
what people are saying.
1094
01:11:07,800 --> 01:11:10,130
[Quentessia]
So I want to know
about Ingi now.
1095
01:11:10,130 --> 01:11:11,600
- No Ingi.
- Inki.
1096
01:11:11,600 --> 01:11:13,170
- [Quentessia] Inki.
- Inki.
1097
01:11:13,170 --> 01:11:16,230
- But it's spelled
with a "G," though.
- What, it's I-N-K-A?
1098
01:11:16,230 --> 01:11:20,670
It's I-N-G-I.
But the "G" sounds like a "K."
1099
01:11:20,670 --> 01:11:21,870
So it's Inki.
1100
01:11:21,870 --> 01:11:24,100
- Inki, stinky, winky.
- [Tonya] Mm-mm.
1101
01:11:24,100 --> 01:11:25,730
[Corona gasps]
1102
01:11:25,730 --> 01:11:27,770
[Tonya] How come
we never met him?
1103
01:11:27,770 --> 01:11:29,330
[Corona] He wants
to meet you guys.
1104
01:11:29,330 --> 01:11:30,800
Everyone's gonna love him.
1105
01:11:31,830 --> 01:11:33,570
Oh, I don't know
about that.
1106
01:11:33,570 --> 01:11:36,000
Granny,
how have you already decided
you're not gonna like him?
1107
01:11:36,000 --> 01:11:38,000
I don't like people.
1108
01:11:40,330 --> 01:11:43,030
So there's something
I have to tell you guys.
1109
01:11:43,030 --> 01:11:44,130
- Um...
- [Tonya] Okay.
1110
01:11:44,130 --> 01:11:46,670
I'm moving
in less than two weeks.
1111
01:11:46,670 --> 01:11:48,830
- Moving where?
- [Corona] To Iceland.
1112
01:11:48,830 --> 01:11:50,770
- Girl, please.
- [Quentessia laughing]
1113
01:11:52,100 --> 01:11:53,570
You're moving to Iceland?
1114
01:11:53,570 --> 01:11:55,270
- [Corona] Yeah.
- In two weeks.
1115
01:11:55,270 --> 01:11:57,500
[Tonya] Why do you
have to go to Iceland?
1116
01:11:57,500 --> 01:11:59,670
He's very well established
in Iceland.
1117
01:11:59,670 --> 01:12:01,700
Like, he has
his own business.
1118
01:12:01,700 --> 01:12:03,470
He, like, visits his parents
every week.
1119
01:12:03,470 --> 01:12:07,470
I'm pretty nomadic.
I bounce from here
to there to wherever.
1120
01:12:07,470 --> 01:12:09,770
So what about school?
Aren't you still in school?
1121
01:12:09,770 --> 01:12:13,000
I was supposed
to start midwifery school
in a few months,
1122
01:12:13,000 --> 01:12:16,300
but I'm foregoing that
so that I can go to Iceland
1123
01:12:16,300 --> 01:12:17,970
and then apply
to schools there.
1124
01:12:19,030 --> 01:12:20,200
What?
1125
01:12:22,930 --> 01:12:25,670
[Tonya] You're gonna
give up your dream for him?
1126
01:12:26,630 --> 01:12:27,530
You've gone blinded.
1127
01:12:27,530 --> 01:12:30,330
Like, love--
I love Ingi. I'm going.
1128
01:12:30,330 --> 01:12:35,370
I don't care
about being a midwife,
just about Ingi.
1129
01:12:35,370 --> 01:12:36,800
I'm not on board
with that one.
1130
01:12:36,800 --> 01:12:38,000
Who does that?
1131
01:12:39,370 --> 01:12:41,670
It sounds
a little one sided.
1132
01:12:41,670 --> 01:12:47,800
Like, I'm after him
and not he's after me.
1133
01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:49,500
I don't see a ring
on her finger.
1134
01:12:49,500 --> 01:12:52,470
But the one thing
you cannot do
1135
01:12:52,470 --> 01:12:55,430
is talk Corona
out of anything.
1136
01:12:55,430 --> 01:12:58,100
She's gonna do
what she wants to do.
1137
01:13:00,700 --> 01:13:04,370
So we've only spent,
like, 20 days together
in person.
1138
01:13:05,330 --> 01:13:08,600
But I met him, like,
over a year ago.
1139
01:13:08,600 --> 01:13:09,630
But you haven't
spent time with him.
1140
01:13:09,630 --> 01:13:11,070
You don't know
what he's like.
1141
01:13:11,070 --> 01:13:12,700
You over here,
he over there.
1142
01:13:12,700 --> 01:13:14,800
That's why I'm going.
1143
01:13:14,800 --> 01:13:17,700
Twenty days,
and you pack it up,
moving your whole life.
1144
01:13:17,700 --> 01:13:19,870
- Did you do
a background check on him?
- [Tonya] No.
1145
01:13:19,870 --> 01:13:21,030
Because I don't know
his name.
1146
01:13:21,030 --> 01:13:22,770
What's his last name?
1147
01:13:22,770 --> 01:13:25,300
- What's his date of birth?
- [Tonya] Ingi what?
1148
01:13:25,300 --> 01:13:27,430
So it's kind of confusing.
1149
01:13:27,430 --> 01:13:31,200
Because in Iceland,
like, you take your father's
first name as your last name.
1150
01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:33,130
But then he also has
a family name.
1151
01:13:33,130 --> 01:13:34,100
[Tonya] She don't know
his last name.
1152
01:13:34,100 --> 01:13:36,430
So what is on
his driver's license?
1153
01:13:36,430 --> 01:13:37,700
I don't know.
I've never seen it.
1154
01:13:37,700 --> 01:13:39,770
- [Tonya]
What if he has a wife?
- He doesn't have a wife.
1155
01:13:39,770 --> 01:13:41,700
He's never even been
in a relationship before.
1156
01:13:43,070 --> 01:13:44,000
What?
1157
01:13:44,000 --> 01:13:45,300
What's wrong with him?
1158
01:13:45,300 --> 01:13:46,500
- Why he ain't had
no relationship?
- [Fannie] Who does that?
1159
01:13:46,500 --> 01:13:47,930
Something might be
wrong with him.
1160
01:13:47,930 --> 01:13:49,600
I don't think
anything's wrong with him.
1161
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:51,170
He's just waiting
for the right person.
1162
01:13:51,170 --> 01:13:53,270
Moving to Iceland
for a virgin.
1163
01:13:53,270 --> 01:13:54,300
He's not a virgin.
1164
01:13:54,300 --> 01:13:55,730
- [Fannie speaking]
- [Quentessia] So...
1165
01:13:55,730 --> 01:13:57,670
[Corona speaking]
1166
01:13:57,670 --> 01:13:59,600
- [Quentessia]
Now, how old is he?
- [Corona] He's 38.
1167
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:01,100
- [Tonya speaking]
- That is a red flag.
1168
01:14:01,100 --> 01:14:02,200
There's nothing
wrong with him.
1169
01:14:02,200 --> 01:14:04,830
- But--
- You don't know
that he ain't a killer.
1170
01:14:04,830 --> 01:14:06,100
He's not a killer.
1171
01:14:06,100 --> 01:14:07,970
Everybody on the news,
they be like,
1172
01:14:07,970 --> 01:14:09,000
"Ain't nothing
wrong with him."
1173
01:14:09,000 --> 01:14:11,000
They always
show pictures smiling,
1174
01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:13,000
and then their ass is dead.
1175
01:14:13,000 --> 01:14:15,130
- [Quentessia] Oh, okay.
- [Corona sighs]
1176
01:14:15,130 --> 01:14:17,770
- Okay.
- [Fannie] Okay. So you're
going over there.
1177
01:14:17,770 --> 01:14:20,770
Are there a lot of
Black people in Iceland?
1178
01:14:20,770 --> 01:14:21,900
No.
1179
01:14:21,900 --> 01:14:25,570
It's not as diverse
as the States are, obviously.
1180
01:14:25,570 --> 01:14:27,430
- [Tonya] Okay.
- There's, like, five
Black people in Iceland.
1181
01:14:28,500 --> 01:14:30,430
[laughing]
1182
01:14:32,070 --> 01:14:34,970
How many days have you spent
over there in a row?
1183
01:14:34,970 --> 01:14:36,870
- Two weeks.
- [Tonya] And he was nice
all the time?
1184
01:14:36,870 --> 01:14:39,230
- Did you pop off at him?
- [Tonya] I did not.
1185
01:14:39,230 --> 01:14:41,370
I've been
soft partnering him.
1186
01:14:41,370 --> 01:14:43,300
So in times
when I want to pop off,
1187
01:14:43,300 --> 01:14:44,970
I take a few deep breaths,
1188
01:14:44,970 --> 01:14:48,700
and I come at it
as, like, I was approaching,
like, a bunny.
1189
01:14:48,700 --> 01:14:51,070
And I just
come at it real soft.
1190
01:14:51,070 --> 01:14:54,000
Girl, how many deep breaths
can you take?
1191
01:14:55,170 --> 01:14:57,430
Since my relationship
with Ingi has begun,
1192
01:14:57,430 --> 01:15:00,500
I've been doing something
I've termed soft partnering.
1193
01:15:00,500 --> 01:15:02,300
You know, it's similar
to gentle parenting,
1194
01:15:02,300 --> 01:15:05,270
in which you gotta
take the spice off
of a lot of things.
1195
01:15:05,270 --> 01:15:08,030
He's never dealt
with an angry Black woman.
1196
01:15:08,030 --> 01:15:09,830
And I can unleash
a lot of power.
1197
01:15:09,830 --> 01:15:14,870
And it's not fair for me
to just unleash the beast
on his soft ass.
1198
01:15:14,870 --> 01:15:16,970
[Tonya] You pop off
on everybody.
1199
01:15:16,970 --> 01:15:19,770
There is not a school
that you have ever been to
1200
01:15:19,770 --> 01:15:24,370
that I have not been called,
ever, because of your mouth.
1201
01:15:24,370 --> 01:15:29,270
This person he's in love with
is not the real you yet.
1202
01:15:33,970 --> 01:15:35,400
[Corona]Everyone wants to put
their best foot forward.
1203
01:15:35,400 --> 01:15:39,070
And I think the major
skeleton in my closet
is my anger issues.
1204
01:15:39,070 --> 01:15:42,530
And I don't wanna blow it
by just, like, unleashing
the beast,
1205
01:15:42,530 --> 01:15:45,730
because this is the most
important relationship
I've ever been in in my life.
1206
01:15:45,730 --> 01:15:49,830
So I'm training my fuse
to grow longer, you know.
1207
01:15:49,830 --> 01:15:51,800
Because my worst fear
is that
1208
01:15:51,800 --> 01:15:53,670
I get there and Ingi says,
1209
01:15:53,670 --> 01:15:55,170
"Pack up your stuff and leave.
1210
01:15:55,170 --> 01:15:56,170
I don't want you
here anymore."
1211
01:15:58,400 --> 01:16:00,200
I guess time will tell.
1212
01:16:00,200 --> 01:16:01,470
It don't sound promising.
1213
01:16:06,170 --> 01:16:09,670
[sniffles] There are a couple
of things I got to bring up
1214
01:16:09,670 --> 01:16:12,330
that I don't really want to,
but I know I have to,
and I need you to know.
1215
01:16:13,330 --> 01:16:15,070
[Meitalia speaking]
1216
01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:27,130
[James] I'm sorry.
1217
01:16:28,670 --> 01:16:31,100
[Meitalia sobbing]
1218
01:17:02,270 --> 01:17:04,330
It can go
in the backpack, yeah.
1219
01:17:04,330 --> 01:17:06,900
[Meitalia speaking]
1220
01:17:22,070 --> 01:17:24,600
[James]
Um, I got you a letter.
1221
01:17:25,470 --> 01:17:26,800
But as it says on the back,
1222
01:17:26,800 --> 01:17:29,030
only open
when you're on your flight.
1223
01:17:29,030 --> 01:17:30,670
Okay.
1224
01:17:30,670 --> 01:17:32,400
[James] I'm not
an artist, clearly.
1225
01:17:34,800 --> 01:17:36,330
[Meitalia speaking]
1226
01:18:03,270 --> 01:18:05,570
[James]
Well, pretty terrible.
Pretty awful.
1227
01:18:07,570 --> 01:18:09,900
I mean,
I know it's not forever,
but still, for me, it's...
1228
01:18:13,400 --> 01:18:14,500
[James sobbing]
1229
01:18:15,670 --> 01:18:17,100
[Meitalia speaking]
1230
01:18:21,970 --> 01:18:25,400
- [James] It's just
waking up without you.
- [Meitalia] I know.
1231
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:27,470
[James speaking]
1232
01:18:33,170 --> 01:18:36,870
[James]It's definitely hitting me
that for a month plus
1233
01:18:36,870 --> 01:18:40,430
the love of my life
is not going to be
beside me every day.
1234
01:18:40,430 --> 01:18:43,270
It's going to be
the longest time
we've been separated
1235
01:18:43,270 --> 01:18:44,470
since we've been married.
1236
01:18:47,230 --> 01:18:49,430
And there's... [sniffles]
1237
01:18:49,430 --> 01:18:51,030
a couple of things
I gotta bring up
1238
01:18:52,070 --> 01:18:53,900
that I don't really want to,
but I know I have to.
1239
01:18:53,900 --> 01:18:55,830
And I need you
to know about them
before you leave.
1240
01:18:59,600 --> 01:19:01,700
So...
1241
01:19:01,700 --> 01:19:04,470
There were some things I was
supposed to take care of
1242
01:19:04,470 --> 01:19:07,500
when I was getting
everything ready for us
to go over there and...
1243
01:19:10,070 --> 01:19:13,570
I have found out
that Jojo is not gonna
be able to come with us.
1244
01:19:14,830 --> 01:19:16,570
Why?
1245
01:19:16,570 --> 01:19:18,800
Jojo's going to have
to stay here for a while.
1246
01:19:21,370 --> 01:19:23,200
Because there's, uh...
1247
01:19:27,230 --> 01:19:30,270
[James] He's coming,
just not right away.
1248
01:19:30,270 --> 01:19:36,070
There's a lot of bad things
over there right now for dogs.
1249
01:19:36,070 --> 01:19:38,170
There's rabies outbreak. Um--
1250
01:19:56,330 --> 01:19:58,670
It's not forever.
It's just for a while
1251
01:19:58,670 --> 01:20:00,300
until it's safe for him
to come over.
1252
01:20:01,330 --> 01:20:03,070
If we take him
over there right now,
1253
01:20:03,070 --> 01:20:06,170
there's a very good chance
that when we get there
they could euthanize him,
1254
01:20:06,170 --> 01:20:08,100
which means
they would kill him.
1255
01:20:08,100 --> 01:20:11,870
If he gets there
and he has COVID symptoms,
if he has anything.
1256
01:20:11,870 --> 01:20:13,370
Or while he's there,
he gets rabies,
1257
01:20:13,370 --> 01:20:14,830
they will take him from us,
1258
01:20:14,830 --> 01:20:16,300
and then we lose him forever.
1259
01:20:17,500 --> 01:20:19,130
Yes, this will be longer.
1260
01:20:19,130 --> 01:20:22,000
It will be longer without him,
and it's going to be hard
without him being there.
1261
01:20:23,170 --> 01:20:24,930
But it will not be forever.
1262
01:20:24,930 --> 01:20:26,170
Trust me on this.
1263
01:20:27,600 --> 01:20:28,570
I'm sorry.
1264
01:20:31,700 --> 01:20:33,430
[Meitalia sobbing]
1265
01:20:39,770 --> 01:20:42,470
[Meitalia speaking]
1266
01:21:44,270 --> 01:21:46,430
We both love him.
You know that.
1267
01:21:50,730 --> 01:21:53,770
And I knew if it's something
that you knew about
the whole time,
1268
01:21:55,630 --> 01:21:57,330
you probably wouldn't go.
1269
01:22:00,370 --> 01:22:03,200
And I had to think
about your health first.
1270
01:22:04,900 --> 01:22:09,000
It definitely tears me apart
to see Tata falling apart
like this.
1271
01:22:09,000 --> 01:22:10,670
And I've been
doing the research
1272
01:22:10,670 --> 01:22:12,530
for the last
couple of weeks.
1273
01:22:12,530 --> 01:22:15,270
But her health is the
most important thing to me.
1274
01:22:15,270 --> 01:22:16,630
And I need her
to find a doctor
1275
01:22:16,630 --> 01:22:18,330
who can help her
get healthy.
1276
01:22:18,330 --> 01:22:23,000
That's why it's something
I've just been holding on to
and carrying myself.
1277
01:22:23,000 --> 01:22:25,600
As soon as it's safe,
he's going to be there
with us.
1278
01:22:26,400 --> 01:22:27,400
I promise.
1279
01:22:33,000 --> 01:22:34,700
[Meitalia speaking]
1280
01:22:43,570 --> 01:22:45,200
[James] Well, you've got
a long flight.
1281
01:22:47,000 --> 01:22:49,470
- Ready to go?
- Yup.
1282
01:22:49,470 --> 01:22:52,000
[James] So you need
to say your goodbyes now,
I guess.
1283
01:22:52,000 --> 01:22:53,600
Come here.
1284
01:22:53,600 --> 01:22:55,130
Come here, Jojo.
1285
01:22:55,130 --> 01:22:58,270
- Jojo. Jojo.
- Jojo looks like
a little puppet right now.
1286
01:23:32,930 --> 01:23:35,630
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1287
01:23:38,600 --> 01:23:40,200
[laughs]
1288
01:23:40,200 --> 01:23:41,300
Okay.
1289
01:23:42,900 --> 01:23:44,930
Ingi was built for this [bleep]
1290
01:23:44,930 --> 01:23:46,070
He is a viking.
1291
01:23:46,070 --> 01:23:48,230
Sea swimming is not
for Black people.
1292
01:23:48,230 --> 01:23:50,000
[shrieks]
1293
01:23:50,000 --> 01:23:50,970
Oof!
1294
01:23:50,970 --> 01:23:52,030
Oh!
1295
01:23:58,230 --> 01:24:00,600
Anyone French
looking at me?
1296
01:24:00,600 --> 01:24:01,930
- Is that good?
- Yeah.
1297
01:24:03,270 --> 01:24:04,230
Mm.
1298
01:24:05,770 --> 01:24:06,730
[James] Oh, that hurts.
1299
01:24:08,200 --> 01:24:09,700
I will make you feel better.
1300
01:24:09,700 --> 01:24:11,000
Yeah.
1301
01:24:11,000 --> 01:24:13,830
I was like, oh, she's gonna
give me a nice, tender massage.
1302
01:24:20,370 --> 01:24:21,370
What?
1303
01:24:22,400 --> 01:24:24,270
[chuckles]
Oh, my god.
1304
01:24:24,270 --> 01:24:26,670
[Sarper] I will teach you
how to eat this.
1305
01:24:26,670 --> 01:24:27,800
- Come here.
- No.
1306
01:24:27,800 --> 01:24:29,930
It looks like the worst [bleep]
I've ever seen.
1307
01:24:31,930 --> 01:24:33,600
[draws in breath]
Oh, my god.
1308
01:24:39,400 --> 01:24:42,330
I know you love telling me
how much money you spend.
1309
01:24:42,330 --> 01:24:45,700
I don't want to be reminded
every day how much money
1310
01:24:45,700 --> 01:24:46,800
she spends on me.
1311
01:24:49,600 --> 01:24:51,370
You always like this.
1312
01:24:53,630 --> 01:24:54,930
Do you see us
ever getting married?
1313
01:24:57,600 --> 01:24:59,430
Do people usually move
to another country
1314
01:24:59,430 --> 01:25:00,630
for their people?
1315
01:25:12,470 --> 01:25:14,970
You made me believe that you
weren't seeing other people.
1316
01:25:16,400 --> 01:25:17,630
The fact that Sarper
1317
01:25:17,630 --> 01:25:20,070
didn't want me to go meet
with the woman that messaged me
1318
01:25:20,070 --> 01:25:22,530
makes me want to hear
what she has to say even more.
1319
01:25:23,870 --> 01:25:25,770
He said he loved you also.
1320
01:25:29,630 --> 01:25:30,830
He just wants what he wants,
1321
01:25:30,830 --> 01:25:34,000
and he feels like he might
not get it, so he spirals.