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Previously on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
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Just one more week,
and then I'll see you.
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Sarper and I,
we're really having a lot
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of financial difficulties
in Turkiye.
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So I came back to the US,
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but it affected
our relationship a lot.
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James told me that he wasn't
excited about having kids.
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What?
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Jojo is not gonna be able
to come with us.
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I'm sorry.
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Jojo.
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♪ I'm seeing the light now
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♪ How to make things
Right now ♪
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♪ Stop chasing empty set
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♪ Start looking
For a pure love ♪
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♪ I'm looking for
A pure love ♪
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Let's go downstairs
one at a time.
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If you can just help me
because they're heavy.
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I'm really excited
to go back to Turkiye.
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I can't wait to see Sarper.
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I've missed him so much.
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Oh.
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We've been apart
for a whole three months,
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and it's been so hard on us.
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Oh, wait. Your dog's in my...
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Adonis, get in the back.
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Are you driving us
to the airport, sir?
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We've had some
really big fights.
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He tried to break up with me.
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Plus, there are two things
from Sarper's past
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that have been a continuous
thorn in our relationship.
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His sleazy black book
of women he slept with
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and his bottle collection.
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So, how do you feel
about going back?
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We hit a bump in the road,
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you know, with him
finding that book of his.
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And so he still has this book?
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He still has the book
and the bottle collection.
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You also have that freaking
bottle collection of yours.
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What is the significance
of the bottle collection?
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It's nothing,
it's just a collection.
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He has a memory with
each bottle with a female.
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And he keeps all the bottles.
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What the
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I said,
"I'm not coming back
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until you get rid of them."
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But you're going back.
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But I'm going back
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because he wants to talk
about this in person.
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I think you need to put
your foot down more with him.
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I mean, you have to stand up
for yourself, right?
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I will.
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And if it doesn't happen
quickly,
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I'm gonna pull out my book,
you know.
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What do you have?
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My very first boyfriend
when I was 16-years-old,
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wrote me a letter
that's 143 pages long.
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- I'm sorry, what?
- Yes.
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He went to the boarding
school that I went to
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and we were madly in love
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and we were forbidden
from speaking to each other.
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We couldn't even be
in the same room together,
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because it was a very strict
Christian school.
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So we resorted
to writing letters
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and he wrote me
a 143-page letter,
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and I saved it for many years
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because it was just really
very special to me
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and it was, like,
the longest letter
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I'd ever heard of.
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I was like, "Let me just bring
this with me to Turkiye...
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- And see--
- and put this in...
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Give him a dose
of his own medicine
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and see how he does
with something from my past."
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Because I have been so patient
with him
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and he should know
that I mean business.
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Let's do this.
Let's do it.
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Sarper is the man
that I've chosen to be with.
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I am madly in love with him
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and I want to spend
the rest of my life with him,
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but I don't know
how we can make
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a bigger commitment
like marriage
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when he's still holding on
to his past.
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He needs to show me
that he can be the man
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that I need him to be.
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He's all checked in.
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I hope he does okay
on the flight.
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He'll be okay.
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Be safe.
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Oh, thank you.
Be good.
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Remember what we talked
about in the car.
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- Yeah.
- Hold your grounds.
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- Mmm-hmm.
- Be strong.
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Yeah. Hey, don't make me cry
and stuff.
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Make sure you get
what you deserve.
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Yeah.
Okay?
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Mmm-hmm.
Love you.
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Love you too. Thank you.
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♪ I've been
On this road for so long ♪
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♪ I know it somewhere
Up ahead ♪
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♪ But I can't get that
On my own my own ♪
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♪ Yeah, it's a long road
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♪ To be all right
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I'm Dempsey, I'm 29,
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and I live in
Darlington, England...
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for now.
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This is so nerve wracking.
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I'm selling my caravan today.
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It was the last thing
for me to sell.
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I sold my car already,
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a TV, literally everything.
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And I'm just...
All I'm left with is clothes.
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That's it.
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Where are you moving to?
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and I'm gonna live in there
and travel full time.
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Wow.
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I've loved my home
and it served its purpose,
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but I don't really have
like attachment
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to things or places.
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I'd like to just
go with the flow.
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- Thank you. Thank you for...
- All right? All right.
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- moving the trailer.
- Yeah. No problem, love.
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Thank you very much.
Thank you.
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It feels amazing.
I'm so, so excited.
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Yay.
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'Cause I've always wanted
to travel
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and I've always imagine myself
living in a van.
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And I'm so glad that I've got
somebody to share that with.
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Oh, it's so nice.
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Yes, Charles,
I'll take a wine now.
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There's nobody named Charles
in here, it's just me.
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My name's Statler.
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I'm 33-years-old
and I'm from Irving, Texas.
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Bubble beard.
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I am a quirky weirdo.
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I think I'm funny,
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but I don't know
if anyone else does.
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This is going to be
my last bath
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for the foreseeable future.
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I'm moving across the pond.
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I should be packing
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because I have an infinite
number of things to do,
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but I'm overwhelmed.
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I guess one of the reasons
I get overstimulated
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and, like, stressed out
is ADHD,
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my little neurospicy brain.
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I was recently diagnosed
with a little bit of autism.
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So that's a little extra spice
to add to the mix.
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I always knew my brain
was a bit different.
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I can't get anything done.
I fidget constantly.
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I get tons of anxiety attacks.
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I prefer to spend
all of my time alone.
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I didn't get diagnosed
with ADHD and autism
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until I was 30-years-old.
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When I finally did get
diagnosed,
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it was just kind of like
an AHA moment.
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Everything about me
made sense finally.
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How I acted, how I thought,
it just all clicked.
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Usually I end my bath
by taking a pee.
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Yeah.
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It's just a slight freedom,
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like nobody can tell me
what to do.
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I'm peeing in my own bath.
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Go after yourself.
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Holy [bleep] okay.
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Hey.
- Hi.
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I miss you.
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I miss you, too.
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My girlfriend's name
is Dempsey
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and we met on a dating app
about a year ago.
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She's the most amazing woman
I've ever met.
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She's so kind.
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She laughs at everything that
I say which is pretty cool.
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And she's got the best body
of anyone I've ever dated.
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You know, usually girls
have either boobs or butt,
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but she has both.
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That's very nice.
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That's creepy. I love it.
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Yeah, I don't know
how you do it.
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After seven months
of talking online,
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I flew to England
to meet Dempsey.
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Hi.
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I can't believe
you're actually here.
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I can't believe
you're a person.
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She was everything I expected
and a lot more.
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These are all
Thailand insects?
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- Stop it.
- Yeah.
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I detoured my whole trip
to get you those dead insects.
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That's the most romantic thing
anyone's ever done.
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I was super attracted
to Statler straight away.
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Her curls, her smile,
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and she makes me laugh.
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I've never felt this way
about anybody before.
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Straight out of a movie.
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I love you.
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Yeah, I also love you.
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Wow, that's...
Cool.
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that's romantic.
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We clicked instantly
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but we weren't always
on the same page
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about our relationship.
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So I think, like,
the next step is, like,
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me moving to England with you.
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I just think that we should,
like, take things slow and
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If you wanted kids badly,
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then, I don't think
it would work between us,
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because I really don't.
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I really don't want kids.
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Why are you acting... Like,
can you freaking talk to me?
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You just said our relationship
is not gonna work.
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How's packing going?
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I've got a stye on my eye
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from being stressed
the past few days.
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Hey, my right eye
has been twitching nonstop.
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My left.
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Whoa, we're, like...
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In sync.
- lesbians.
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Despite our differences
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and the fact that Dempsey
and I have only met once,
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we know we want
to be together
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and we're ready
to take the next step.
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You can move in with me
if you want.
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Live with you, in England?
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Yeah, it would be nice.
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I love you so much.
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I love you too.
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I have a pretty good job
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working finance at a freight
logistics company,
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and because
we all work remote,
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I can go anywhere.
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So we will be living
in a camper van
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and constantly moving.
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This has definitely been
a lifelong dream of Dempsey's
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and it felt really brave
when I agreed to this,
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but now I'm freaking out.
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Are you ready to move?
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It's just a lot.
I feel overwhelmed.
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I... You know,
I was just like,
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adventure, excitement, yay.
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And I didn't really think
about the logistics of it.
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And it's like, whoa,
this is a lot to take on.
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Dempsey sold me the idea,
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kind of, this like
carefree and easygoing,
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and it's actually been
a lot of decisions
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and super hectic.
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And with my ADHD
and the way my brain works,
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it's really been overwhelming
for me.
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So I'm just kind
of checked out.
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I have anxiety about, like,
leaving the country
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and living in a van,
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traveling full time
for the first time
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and just being worried
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about all of that
just paralyzes me.
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Yeah.
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You're just, like,
I don't wanna talk.
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Yeah.
- You deal with it all,
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and I'll see you when I land.
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00:13:27,379 --> 00:13:29,793
Yeah, you have done
the majority of everything,
258
00:13:29,793 --> 00:13:32,275
so I appreciate that.
259
00:13:32,275 --> 00:13:35,172
You are excited about this,
aren't you?
260
00:13:35,172 --> 00:13:37,206
Yes. Yeah. Absolutely.
261
00:13:37,206 --> 00:13:42,379
It's just behind
all of the feelings of terror.
262
00:13:42,379 --> 00:13:46,517
I tend to overwhelm
people sometimes
263
00:13:46,517 --> 00:13:50,379
because I do get overwhelmed,
264
00:13:50,379 --> 00:13:55,586
and then lash out
or just freeze.
265
00:13:55,586 --> 00:13:58,827
And with past relationships,
people have not liked that.
266
00:13:58,827 --> 00:14:01,000
Yeah.
267
00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,896
It's obviously something that
we're just gonna have to see
268
00:14:03,896 --> 00:14:05,206
how it unfolds, isn't it?
269
00:14:05,206 --> 00:14:06,793
Yeah.
270
00:14:06,793 --> 00:14:10,379
This is not something
I would normally do
271
00:14:10,379 --> 00:14:12,206
if I were not in love.
272
00:14:12,206 --> 00:14:14,482
I'm not just moving
countries,
273
00:14:14,482 --> 00:14:17,310
I'm learning a new way life.
274
00:14:18,586 --> 00:14:21,896
If it were a vacation,
it would be nice and easy,
275
00:14:21,896 --> 00:14:23,517
and I could
come back afterwards
276
00:14:23,517 --> 00:14:26,000
and, you know,
have my bathtub and my shower,
277
00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,103
and my washing machine.
278
00:14:28,103 --> 00:14:29,482
But this, like...
279
00:14:29,482 --> 00:14:32,655
I think on paper,
this sounds very romantic...
280
00:14:33,586 --> 00:14:35,689
No, I think on paper
it also sounds crazy.
281
00:14:35,689 --> 00:14:37,103
Actually, it all...
It's crazy.
282
00:14:37,103 --> 00:14:39,448
I know it's crazy.
It feels crazy.
283
00:14:40,724 --> 00:14:43,689
I just hope I don't end up
homeless and heartbroken
284
00:14:43,689 --> 00:14:45,482
in the middle of Europe.
285
00:14:45,482 --> 00:14:47,000
I'm not scared.
286
00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:48,862
I'm not scared either ever.
287
00:14:50,172 --> 00:14:51,896
I'm, like, terrified,
288
00:14:51,896 --> 00:14:53,413
which is different
than scared,
289
00:14:53,413 --> 00:14:55,793
if you look up the definition.
290
00:15:01,620 --> 00:15:03,517
Well then, what are we
gonna do for a job?
291
00:15:03,517 --> 00:15:06,206
If we can't go there
and have any type of a life,
292
00:15:06,206 --> 00:15:07,448
why would we do this?
293
00:15:21,482 --> 00:15:23,758
I'm all set.
I'm all set.
294
00:15:31,379 --> 00:15:32,620
Huh.
295
00:15:40,620 --> 00:15:42,793
I'm not ready
for you to be gone.
296
00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:11,965
Last time
we're driving down this road.
297
00:16:14,862 --> 00:16:18,689
I just really hope and pray
this all works out
298
00:16:18,689 --> 00:16:21,379
the way we're hoping
and bringing Jojo over...
299
00:16:21,379 --> 00:16:22,517
I know.
300
00:16:22,517 --> 00:16:24,068
having him with us. That's--
301
00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,551
I know you would be.
302
00:16:36,793 --> 00:16:39,517
Between a month
to a month and a half,
303
00:16:39,517 --> 00:16:41,000
that's the plan.
304
00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,482
I'm gonna be just working
as much as I can
305
00:16:43,482 --> 00:16:44,689
while I'm here
306
00:16:44,689 --> 00:16:46,000
'cause that's gonna be what
307
00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,517
we'll have for money
over there.
308
00:16:48,517 --> 00:16:51,689
And then, I'm gonna try
to work for your family.
309
00:16:59,586 --> 00:17:01,206
Well then,
what are we gonna do for a job
310
00:17:01,206 --> 00:17:03,172
'cause you said
it was gonna be a job
311
00:17:03,172 --> 00:17:05,275
but now you're telling me
I'm not gonna make any money
312
00:17:05,275 --> 00:17:06,862
working for them?
313
00:17:10,379 --> 00:17:12,586
Okay. Then why did we
make that our plan
314
00:17:12,586 --> 00:17:14,275
that we were gonna
do that as a job?
315
00:17:14,275 --> 00:17:15,586
No, if we... if we--
316
00:17:15,586 --> 00:17:18,413
If we can't go there
and have any type of a life,
317
00:17:18,413 --> 00:17:19,896
why would we do this?
318
00:17:19,896 --> 00:17:21,275
And I'm not gonna move
somewhere
319
00:17:21,275 --> 00:17:23,551
if I can't take care of you.
320
00:17:25,482 --> 00:17:27,103
That's very unsettling.
321
00:17:36,310 --> 00:17:37,896
We're buying
the chips from him,
322
00:17:37,896 --> 00:17:39,413
and then we're selling them
ourselves?
323
00:17:39,413 --> 00:17:41,310
Commission?
324
00:17:41,310 --> 00:17:42,482
Well, that's what
you should have said.
325
00:17:42,482 --> 00:17:44,344
But to say that, "Oh, you're
not gonna make any money."
326
00:17:52,103 --> 00:17:54,931
So how long do you think
it'll take us
327
00:17:54,931 --> 00:17:58,000
before we make
any type of money?
328
00:18:06,793 --> 00:18:08,689
You're making it sound like
329
00:18:08,689 --> 00:18:10,103
it's not gonna be profitable.
330
00:18:10,103 --> 00:18:11,793
Like yes or no, are we gonna
make money or not?
331
00:18:11,793 --> 00:18:13,000
Yes or no?
332
00:18:18,689 --> 00:18:21,103
I hate that
we're having this conversation
333
00:18:21,103 --> 00:18:22,965
right here right now.
334
00:19:05,862 --> 00:19:07,379
I didn't say that.
335
00:19:10,206 --> 00:19:12,517
I don't feel as confident
about us being able to be,
336
00:19:12,517 --> 00:19:13,620
like, success over there
337
00:19:13,620 --> 00:19:15,000
and me being able
to provide for you.
338
00:19:21,620 --> 00:19:23,689
But what do I always say?
339
00:19:23,689 --> 00:19:26,689
No matter how mad you get,
speak in love,
340
00:19:26,689 --> 00:19:28,482
because at the end of the day,
we're still--
341
00:19:28,482 --> 00:19:31,275
Love, love, love, love, love.
Is that what you want?
342
00:19:33,689 --> 00:19:36,206
Do you wanna leave angry at me
343
00:19:36,206 --> 00:19:38,586
knowing we're not gonna see
each other?
344
00:19:38,586 --> 00:19:40,137
No.
345
00:20:31,931 --> 00:20:34,241
I'm gonna miss
the smell of you.
346
00:20:35,482 --> 00:20:37,000
I'm gonna miss you.
347
00:20:43,206 --> 00:20:44,551
I love you.
348
00:20:46,517 --> 00:20:48,000
See you soon.
349
00:20:50,862 --> 00:20:52,551
I love you.
350
00:21:11,206 --> 00:21:14,448
♪ I felt it
But couldn't say ♪
351
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,000
♪ What you should've changed
352
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,517
I feel devastated right now
353
00:21:18,517 --> 00:21:20,379
'cause I don't know
when I get to see her next.
354
00:21:20,379 --> 00:21:22,068
I don't even know.
I don't have a date yet.
355
00:21:23,862 --> 00:21:28,689
And without her,
I don't really know who I am.
356
00:21:30,275 --> 00:21:31,758
We were brought
into this world
357
00:21:31,758 --> 00:21:33,103
from different sides
of the world,
358
00:21:33,103 --> 00:21:35,103
but we were meant
to be together.
359
00:21:35,103 --> 00:21:37,000
And we were made
for each other.
360
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,241
When you find that,
having to watch her leave,
361
00:21:41,172 --> 00:21:42,862
I just feel scared.
362
00:21:42,862 --> 00:21:45,620
♪ I don't wanna
Play pretend ♪
363
00:21:45,620 --> 00:21:48,827
♪ I'm not gonna see it mend
364
00:21:49,379 --> 00:21:52,551
♪ We're together
365
00:21:57,896 --> 00:22:00,068
Statler is, like,
finding the whole
366
00:22:00,068 --> 00:22:01,896
move really stressful.
367
00:22:01,896 --> 00:22:03,862
What little things
are gonna stress her out?
368
00:22:06,689 --> 00:22:07,793
Yeah.
369
00:22:07,793 --> 00:22:09,310
Living in a van is so intense
370
00:22:09,310 --> 00:22:10,689
and I honestly
really don't know
371
00:22:10,689 --> 00:22:12,172
what will happen between us
372
00:22:12,172 --> 00:22:14,000
if she can't handle life
on the road.
373
00:22:25,241 --> 00:22:28,379
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh...
374
00:22:28,379 --> 00:22:30,034
Oh, yes. Well, those are good.
375
00:22:31,758 --> 00:22:33,655
I really believe in,
like, getting your own food
376
00:22:33,655 --> 00:22:35,241
and that Mother Earth
377
00:22:35,241 --> 00:22:37,586
provides everything
that we need.
378
00:22:37,586 --> 00:22:39,896
You do have to be careful
and know what you're doing
379
00:22:39,896 --> 00:22:41,586
when you're...
When you're foraging
380
00:22:41,586 --> 00:22:43,586
'cause there are some,
like, poisonous plants
381
00:22:43,586 --> 00:22:44,965
and mushrooms out there.
382
00:23:06,137 --> 00:23:07,793
- Hello.
- Hello.
383
00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:10,103
- How are you doing?
- I'm good. How are you?
384
00:23:10,103 --> 00:23:11,655
Oh, I'm good.
Yeah, it's good to see you.
385
00:23:11,655 --> 00:23:12,689
- Are you all right?
- And I... Yeah.
386
00:23:12,689 --> 00:23:13,896
- Yeah?
- Have you got your van here?
387
00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:15,103
Yeah, yeah.
Do you wanna go and see it?
388
00:23:15,103 --> 00:23:16,172
- Yeah, I'd love to.
- Come on then.
389
00:23:16,172 --> 00:23:17,344
Please. Thank you.
390
00:23:18,689 --> 00:23:21,068
Statler arrives in England
in a couple of days.
391
00:23:21,068 --> 00:23:24,275
And my friend Linzi
has a camper van as well
392
00:23:24,275 --> 00:23:26,689
and she's done
a lot of traveling.
393
00:23:26,689 --> 00:23:30,000
I'm really hoping that
she can give me some tips
on van life.
394
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,000
- Statler's good?
- Yeah, she's really good.
395
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,896
Everything's just been
like hectic up in the air.
396
00:23:34,896 --> 00:23:36,689
- Right.
- She's got to move,
397
00:23:36,689 --> 00:23:38,172
I've got to move.
398
00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:42,172
Not as well as me, no.
399
00:23:42,172 --> 00:23:44,896
Oh, wow. Yeah,
but you're super chill.
400
00:23:44,896 --> 00:23:46,344
Statler and I...
401
00:23:49,896 --> 00:23:51,344
Well, come on in.
402
00:23:51,344 --> 00:23:53,620
But travel is in my blood
403
00:23:55,586 --> 00:23:58,586
because my family are part
of the showman's guild,
404
00:23:58,586 --> 00:24:00,689
which is traveling fun fairs.
405
00:24:00,689 --> 00:24:03,551
We travel up and down
the country all year round
406
00:24:03,551 --> 00:24:05,379
with fairground rides.
407
00:24:05,379 --> 00:24:07,379
My family have done it
for generations
408
00:24:07,379 --> 00:24:09,344
and generations
all the way back
409
00:24:09,344 --> 00:24:11,896
to my grandparents,
their grandparents.
410
00:24:11,896 --> 00:24:15,379
So I was always
on the move as a child.
411
00:24:15,379 --> 00:24:17,586
On your van, you should
be able to do the same way.
412
00:24:17,586 --> 00:24:19,551
You can release the doors
and have much more space.
413
00:24:19,551 --> 00:24:22,586
Yeah. So, like, when you're,
like, camping and your...
414
00:24:22,586 --> 00:24:24,241
And your bed's out,
and you just open the doors,
415
00:24:24,241 --> 00:24:25,586
and, like, a mountain
and you just like...
416
00:24:25,586 --> 00:24:27,000
Just sat, like,
having a coffee.
417
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:28,586
- This is the life.
- It's so good.
418
00:24:28,586 --> 00:24:29,896
Cup of tea.
419
00:24:29,896 --> 00:24:31,137
I've wanted
to travel the world
420
00:24:31,137 --> 00:24:32,793
for as long
as I can remember.
421
00:24:32,793 --> 00:24:35,241
And I don't wanna live
with any regrets.
422
00:24:43,965 --> 00:24:45,172
- Yeah.
- Okay. Cool.
423
00:24:45,172 --> 00:24:46,551
Yeah, that would be
a good, yeah.
424
00:24:47,965 --> 00:24:50,241
With the camper van,
me and Statler
425
00:24:50,241 --> 00:24:52,137
don't have to be
long distance anymore,
426
00:24:52,137 --> 00:24:56,137
but we kind of have
different outlooks on life.
427
00:24:56,137 --> 00:24:58,103
She is much more
of a worrier than I am.
428
00:24:58,103 --> 00:24:59,655
I got you a map actually
429
00:24:59,655 --> 00:25:01,448
and a little gift
for your van.
430
00:25:01,448 --> 00:25:02,862
Oh, that's so sweet.
431
00:25:02,862 --> 00:25:04,896
Living in a van
is so intense.
432
00:25:04,896 --> 00:25:08,275
I'm not really intimidated
by the challenge.
433
00:25:08,275 --> 00:25:10,448
Statler on the other hand
is freaking out.
434
00:25:11,896 --> 00:25:14,172
So have you planned
the actual route then?
435
00:25:14,172 --> 00:25:19,862
Yes. We're gonna go down
to Dover and then to Clay.
436
00:25:19,862 --> 00:25:22,379
And then,
to Paris for the day.
437
00:25:22,379 --> 00:25:24,379
Statler really wants
to go there.
438
00:25:24,379 --> 00:25:26,068
Then into Switzerland.
439
00:25:30,586 --> 00:25:34,965
I'm glad to come and see you,
and help me plan a bit
440
00:25:34,965 --> 00:25:37,172
because Statler's, like,
441
00:25:37,172 --> 00:25:41,241
finding the whole move
really stressful.
442
00:25:41,241 --> 00:25:44,586
She's just, like, been like,
"I'm too busy.
443
00:25:44,586 --> 00:25:47,965
I'm too stressed.
I am shutting down.
444
00:25:47,965 --> 00:25:50,103
You're just gonna have to sort
everything out and I'll just,
445
00:25:50,103 --> 00:25:53,000
like, kinda see you
when I get there." And--
446
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,034
So it's not being really 50/50
with preparing for the trip?
447
00:25:56,034 --> 00:25:58,034
- Yeah. And--
- Is that a bit of a red flag
448
00:25:58,034 --> 00:25:59,379
when it comes
to how she might deal
449
00:25:59,379 --> 00:26:01,137
with bigger things?
450
00:26:03,275 --> 00:26:04,896
I don't think it's...
451
00:26:04,896 --> 00:26:06,862
I don't think it's a red flag.
452
00:26:06,862 --> 00:26:09,896
But I am worried, yeah,
that it's... That this is...
453
00:26:09,896 --> 00:26:11,551
She's just a worrier
all the time
454
00:26:11,551 --> 00:26:14,379
and she's not ever gonna
be in the present.
455
00:26:14,379 --> 00:26:16,068
Or, like, what things...
456
00:26:16,068 --> 00:26:17,896
What little things
are gonna stress her out
457
00:26:17,896 --> 00:26:19,827
'cause she says little things
stress her out.
458
00:26:20,551 --> 00:26:22,379
Everything in a van
is a little thing.
459
00:26:22,379 --> 00:26:24,172
- Yeah.
- You've got
such a little space.
460
00:26:24,172 --> 00:26:25,310
Yeah.
461
00:26:27,586 --> 00:26:29,655
Yeah, yeah.
462
00:26:31,551 --> 00:26:32,758
Yeah.
463
00:26:34,137 --> 00:26:35,896
Are you sure Statler
is the right person
464
00:26:35,896 --> 00:26:37,517
to be doing the trip with?
465
00:26:38,379 --> 00:26:39,551
I don't know.
466
00:26:40,896 --> 00:26:42,896
I don't think
that living in a van
467
00:26:42,896 --> 00:26:46,379
and traveling around
is, like, her ideal.
468
00:26:46,379 --> 00:26:48,275
I think that she likes
to have, like,
469
00:26:48,275 --> 00:26:50,344
more structure in her life
and know where she's gonna be
470
00:26:50,344 --> 00:26:52,172
and what she's gonna do,
and where she's gonna work,
471
00:26:52,172 --> 00:26:53,965
and stuff like that.
472
00:26:53,965 --> 00:26:56,482
Well, if she's got, like,
halfway through your route
473
00:26:56,482 --> 00:26:58,448
and she's like,
"I can't do this anymore."
474
00:26:59,344 --> 00:27:01,000
Well, I didn't really
think that and--
475
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:02,275
'Cause she could.
476
00:27:02,275 --> 00:27:03,931
She could, yeah.
477
00:27:05,275 --> 00:27:08,137
I really do want
this relationship
to work out.
478
00:27:08,137 --> 00:27:10,000
But the truth is,
we really don't know
479
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,137
each other all that well.
480
00:27:11,137 --> 00:27:12,931
We are complete opposites.
481
00:27:13,586 --> 00:27:15,000
And I honestly
really don't know
482
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,448
what will happen between us
483
00:27:16,448 --> 00:27:18,620
if she can't handle life
on the road.
484
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,448
I hope that it does, like,
melt away a little bit,
485
00:27:23,448 --> 00:27:24,758
like, some of her anxieties
486
00:27:24,758 --> 00:27:26,068
and stuff
when we are together.
487
00:27:26,068 --> 00:27:27,793
I hope that it is like that
when you go away.
488
00:27:27,793 --> 00:27:30,379
- Yeah. Yeah.
- 'Cause that...
489
00:27:30,379 --> 00:27:31,965
That is a bit of a worry
as your friend.
490
00:27:31,965 --> 00:27:33,310
Yeah.
491
00:27:34,586 --> 00:27:36,275
So...
492
00:27:36,275 --> 00:27:37,379
It's gonna be tough times.
493
00:27:37,379 --> 00:27:39,103
- Yeah.
- Tough times.
494
00:27:43,172 --> 00:27:44,862
When is she coming back?
495
00:27:46,137 --> 00:27:47,965
She's not coming back,
496
00:27:47,965 --> 00:27:50,793
I'm gonna go over
and join her.
497
00:27:50,793 --> 00:27:54,000
Last time you did this to us,
you went down to Florida,
498
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,896
left us high and dry.
499
00:27:55,896 --> 00:27:59,103
So I'm guessing
you are quitting?
500
00:28:00,103 --> 00:28:02,827
Yeah.
501
00:28:09,758 --> 00:28:11,931
♪ Maybe I won't
502
00:28:14,103 --> 00:28:16,448
♪ Come back again
503
00:28:21,586 --> 00:28:22,655
Can you help me pack?
504
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,034
You gonna try to get in here
505
00:28:25,034 --> 00:28:26,448
is what you're gonna
try to do.
506
00:28:26,448 --> 00:28:27,862
It's been about a month
507
00:28:27,862 --> 00:28:29,482
since Tata moved
to Indonesia,
508
00:28:29,482 --> 00:28:32,655
and I'm getting ready
to move there in about a week.
509
00:28:32,655 --> 00:28:34,689
You look so sad, little man.
510
00:28:34,689 --> 00:28:36,965
You miss mama too?
511
00:28:36,965 --> 00:28:39,137
This last month,
I have been working
512
00:28:39,137 --> 00:28:40,758
as hard as possible
513
00:28:40,758 --> 00:28:44,275
to make as much money
as I possibly can.
514
00:28:44,275 --> 00:28:46,068
I just got out of work,
and, you know,
515
00:28:46,068 --> 00:28:47,655
I'm heading home now.
516
00:28:47,655 --> 00:28:49,379
There's already
so much still for me to do
517
00:28:49,379 --> 00:28:53,000
before I leave,
and I'm just mentally drained.
518
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,689
I got nothing left
in the tank.
519
00:28:54,689 --> 00:28:57,482
I would cry tears,
but I've already cried 'em all
with Tata.
520
00:28:57,482 --> 00:28:59,482
Every time we're on the phone,
we just sit there just crying,
521
00:28:59,482 --> 00:29:00,482
missing each other.
522
00:29:00,482 --> 00:29:01,655
It's just tough.
523
00:29:03,172 --> 00:29:05,379
Me and Tata
talk every single day,
524
00:29:05,379 --> 00:29:08,379
but it's not the same
as being beside each other.
525
00:29:08,379 --> 00:29:11,655
So I... I'm just ready
to be with her again.
526
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,379
I'm on edge.
527
00:29:14,379 --> 00:29:16,655
I really been dragging my feet
528
00:29:16,655 --> 00:29:18,655
about telling my family,
529
00:29:18,655 --> 00:29:21,689
but I didn't know when was
the right time to tell 'em.
530
00:29:21,689 --> 00:29:24,793
And then eventually took
too long and now last minute,
531
00:29:24,793 --> 00:29:27,620
it's like
I should have told them.
532
00:29:28,689 --> 00:29:32,655
This will be the second time
I've done something like this.
533
00:29:33,793 --> 00:29:35,896
I was married once
previously,
534
00:29:35,896 --> 00:29:39,896
and we were in Maine
for about six months
535
00:29:39,896 --> 00:29:43,896
before my ex decided
she didn't wanted
536
00:29:43,896 --> 00:29:45,448
to be here anymore
due to the cold.
537
00:29:45,448 --> 00:29:49,586
So she made me move
to Florida.
538
00:29:49,586 --> 00:29:51,793
I actually said
I didn't wanna go,
539
00:29:51,793 --> 00:29:54,137
but at that point,
she made it very clear
540
00:29:54,137 --> 00:29:57,379
that she was gonna go
with or without me.
541
00:29:57,379 --> 00:30:00,172
When I left,
my family had to downsize
542
00:30:00,172 --> 00:30:01,862
the entire company.
543
00:30:01,862 --> 00:30:03,275
There was
not enough mechanics
544
00:30:03,275 --> 00:30:05,275
to do all the work.
545
00:30:05,275 --> 00:30:08,275
I felt guilty for leaving
everybody else behind.
546
00:30:08,275 --> 00:30:10,655
And we were married
for less than a year.
547
00:30:14,068 --> 00:30:15,758
Who is it? Who's outside?
548
00:30:15,758 --> 00:30:17,551
It's your favorite people.
549
00:30:17,551 --> 00:30:19,965
Yeah, it's your
favorite people.
550
00:30:19,965 --> 00:30:21,793
Tonight, I invited
my little brother,
551
00:30:21,793 --> 00:30:23,586
Jimmy, over, and his wife.
552
00:30:23,586 --> 00:30:26,241
And it's not gonna be fun,
it's not gonna be easy.
553
00:30:26,241 --> 00:30:27,896
It's very last minute.
554
00:30:27,896 --> 00:30:30,137
I had plenty of time
to tell them beforehand,
555
00:30:30,137 --> 00:30:33,344
and I should have just done it
instead of waiting.
556
00:30:34,793 --> 00:30:36,482
Hi, Georgia.
I missed you.
557
00:30:36,482 --> 00:30:39,000
Save some space for my wife.
558
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,793
He's been so depressed
'cause Tata has been gone.
559
00:30:41,793 --> 00:30:44,379
Aww.
So how you
been holding out
560
00:30:44,379 --> 00:30:45,689
being alone in this place?
561
00:30:45,689 --> 00:30:46,896
I've been hanging in there.
562
00:30:46,896 --> 00:30:48,379
It's tough. It's tough.
563
00:30:48,379 --> 00:30:50,206
When is she coming back?
564
00:30:51,241 --> 00:30:52,344
Uh...
565
00:30:56,655 --> 00:31:00,655
so she's actually not planning
on coming back...
566
00:31:02,655 --> 00:31:05,551
because I'm gonna go over
and join her.
567
00:31:07,896 --> 00:31:09,931
- Oh.
- In Indonesia.
568
00:31:11,896 --> 00:31:14,103
So when are you coming back?
569
00:31:15,068 --> 00:31:16,862
We're not coming back.
570
00:31:19,241 --> 00:31:22,000
- You're not coming back?
- You're not coming back.
571
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:23,586
- Okay. Hang on.
- Like...
572
00:31:23,586 --> 00:31:25,241
What do you mean
you're not coming back?
573
00:31:25,241 --> 00:31:26,862
Like, ever?
574
00:31:28,103 --> 00:31:31,344
She's had a hard time
acclimating to being here.
575
00:31:32,275 --> 00:31:35,413
So plan's to permanently
make the move over there.
576
00:31:37,793 --> 00:31:40,172
And I leave in a week.
577
00:31:40,172 --> 00:31:42,344
You leave in a week?
578
00:31:42,344 --> 00:31:45,896
And Mom and Dad
do not know, so...
579
00:31:45,896 --> 00:31:47,517
I mean, you gotta tell them.
580
00:31:48,551 --> 00:31:50,965
Yes, I'm gonna be
telling them tomorrow.
581
00:31:51,655 --> 00:31:55,000
So I'm guessing
you're quitting?
582
00:31:57,586 --> 00:32:00,517
Yeah.
583
00:32:04,482 --> 00:32:07,620
Yeah. Well, that sucks.
584
00:32:10,103 --> 00:32:12,793
But last time
you did this to us,
585
00:32:12,793 --> 00:32:14,241
you went down to Florida.
586
00:32:14,241 --> 00:32:16,655
You definitely left us
high and dry.
587
00:32:17,275 --> 00:32:18,655
I know, but Florida
was a completely
588
00:32:18,655 --> 00:32:20,344
different circumstance
entirely.
589
00:32:20,344 --> 00:32:21,965
Like, there was definitely
a different situation
590
00:32:21,965 --> 00:32:23,862
for different reasons.
591
00:32:23,862 --> 00:32:28,137
Last time going to Florida,
you did it for...
592
00:32:28,137 --> 00:32:29,379
Her.
the other person.
593
00:32:29,379 --> 00:32:31,448
This time going to Indonesia,
594
00:32:31,448 --> 00:32:32,793
you're doing it for?
595
00:32:32,793 --> 00:32:34,000
For her.
Okay.
596
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,172
But--
- So it's completely
597
00:32:35,172 --> 00:32:36,586
different reasons, though.
598
00:32:36,586 --> 00:32:38,000
With the other one, I didn't
have a choice in that.
599
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,275
I didn't have a say in that.
600
00:32:39,275 --> 00:32:40,655
With this, out of love,
601
00:32:40,655 --> 00:32:42,241
I was willing
to do it for her.
602
00:32:43,896 --> 00:32:45,586
I mean,
you don't know Indonesian.
603
00:32:45,586 --> 00:32:46,965
You don't know their culture.
604
00:32:46,965 --> 00:32:49,000
Actually, the language is one
of my bigger issues with...
605
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,379
Over there,
because I know her dad,
606
00:32:50,379 --> 00:32:53,172
when we got engaged,
607
00:32:53,172 --> 00:32:55,482
one of the three promises
that he made me promise
608
00:32:55,482 --> 00:32:57,551
was that I would learn
the language.
609
00:32:57,551 --> 00:32:59,137
And how are you doing?
610
00:32:59,137 --> 00:33:02,172
I can ask where is something,
611
00:33:02,172 --> 00:33:04,379
but that's everything I got.
612
00:33:04,379 --> 00:33:07,689
One was the language barrier,
and the other was?
613
00:33:07,689 --> 00:33:09,310
Always providing for her.
614
00:33:10,137 --> 00:33:12,689
And the third one
was to make sure
615
00:33:12,689 --> 00:33:14,655
that they had grandbabies.
616
00:33:15,793 --> 00:33:18,896
- And you promised?
- It was a condition...
617
00:33:18,896 --> 00:33:20,586
Okay.
- of the marriage. Yeah.
618
00:33:20,586 --> 00:33:22,862
And how are you doing
on that department?
619
00:33:23,379 --> 00:33:24,862
Maybe I'm shooting blanks,
620
00:33:24,862 --> 00:33:26,413
or maybe we're using
protection, so...
621
00:33:27,137 --> 00:33:28,758
Which one is it?
622
00:33:28,758 --> 00:33:31,068
Nah, definitely
the protection.
623
00:33:31,068 --> 00:33:34,551
- That'll do it.
- Uh, I mean, yeah, that's...
624
00:33:37,862 --> 00:33:40,172
'Cause I don't really wanna
have kids, so...
625
00:33:40,172 --> 00:33:41,551
You don't wanna
have kids ever?
626
00:33:41,551 --> 00:33:42,793
Not right now.
627
00:33:42,793 --> 00:33:44,103
Not with the state
of the world and everything.
628
00:33:44,103 --> 00:33:45,586
I mean, it terrifies me
629
00:33:45,586 --> 00:33:47,931
of what you'd be bringing
a child into.
630
00:33:49,586 --> 00:33:52,965
When I made the promises,
that was five years ago
631
00:33:52,965 --> 00:33:54,689
and the world
was a different place.
632
00:33:54,689 --> 00:33:57,137
After COVID hit,
that changed my views
633
00:33:57,137 --> 00:33:58,793
on a lot of things
in the world.
634
00:33:58,793 --> 00:34:00,379
There was quite a coldness
635
00:34:00,379 --> 00:34:02,068
and there was a lot of hate.
636
00:34:02,068 --> 00:34:05,896
So I'm not sure children
are in the cards for me.
637
00:34:05,896 --> 00:34:07,586
Does Tata want to have kids?
638
00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:10,689
- Yeah.
- Have you talked to her
about that?
639
00:34:10,689 --> 00:34:14,034
I don't wanna bring up
that discussion until we...
640
00:34:14,034 --> 00:34:15,793
We're steady
on our feet anyways.
641
00:34:15,793 --> 00:34:17,275
We're doing this whole move.
642
00:34:17,275 --> 00:34:19,103
Like, there's no point
to bring that up
643
00:34:19,103 --> 00:34:21,793
and try to throw more drama
into the whole situation.
644
00:34:21,793 --> 00:34:23,586
I'm just trying to show her
that I'm willing
645
00:34:23,586 --> 00:34:26,586
to do anything for her
out of love for her.
646
00:34:26,586 --> 00:34:27,896
Right, but is children
one of them?
647
00:34:27,896 --> 00:34:29,310
Will you give her
a child one day?
648
00:34:30,758 --> 00:34:32,862
I don't know. I can't answer
that question. That's...
649
00:34:32,862 --> 00:34:34,655
I can't answer that yet.
But that is really important.
650
00:34:34,655 --> 00:34:36,655
I would just hate to see you
go through all this work
651
00:34:36,655 --> 00:34:39,103
to get there
and establish yourself
652
00:34:39,103 --> 00:34:41,965
and then for your relationship
to be hurt
653
00:34:41,965 --> 00:34:43,482
because you hadn't told her
that you actually
654
00:34:43,482 --> 00:34:44,793
don't want kids one day.
655
00:34:44,793 --> 00:34:46,379
I've seen marriages fail
656
00:34:46,379 --> 00:34:48,724
because someone didn't talk
about that soon enough.
657
00:34:50,275 --> 00:34:53,517
Meitalia will always
be the priority in my life.
658
00:34:54,482 --> 00:34:57,137
I am moving to Indonesia
for Tata.
659
00:34:57,137 --> 00:34:59,551
I'm leaving
everything behind,
660
00:34:59,551 --> 00:35:02,724
but I know decisions
have huge consequences.
661
00:35:03,689 --> 00:35:08,379
If I say I don't want
to have children, period,
662
00:35:08,379 --> 00:35:10,758
I'm not sure how Tata
will accept that.
663
00:35:10,758 --> 00:35:12,655
That could cause
the biggest rift
664
00:35:12,655 --> 00:35:14,448
that could possibly
break us apart.
665
00:35:14,896 --> 00:35:16,965
And I can't lose her.
666
00:35:18,758 --> 00:35:19,862
Good luck.
667
00:35:34,068 --> 00:35:35,965
Baby.
668
00:35:35,965 --> 00:35:37,965
I will hug her.
I will touch her.
669
00:35:37,965 --> 00:35:40,103
I will [bleep] her.
Everything.
670
00:36:11,482 --> 00:36:14,758
Today, Shekinah is returning
to Istanbul, finally.
671
00:36:14,758 --> 00:36:17,275
And I feel so excited
672
00:36:17,275 --> 00:36:20,172
because three
and a half months.
673
00:36:23,551 --> 00:36:25,448
Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
674
00:36:34,310 --> 00:36:38,655
Finally, she is coming,
and she's bringing Adonis.
675
00:36:38,655 --> 00:36:42,379
So it will be the first time
that I will live with a dog.
676
00:37:13,034 --> 00:37:16,034
Adonis is one
of her beloved things.
677
00:37:16,034 --> 00:37:17,689
So she's bringing,
678
00:37:17,689 --> 00:37:20,103
it means that she wants
to be here with me.
679
00:37:28,586 --> 00:37:32,517
We are here finally
in Istanbul.
680
00:37:34,137 --> 00:37:35,724
I can't wait to see Sarper.
681
00:37:36,103 --> 00:37:37,965
It's been so long.
682
00:37:45,793 --> 00:37:49,758
I missed Shekinah too much,
I mean, so much.
683
00:37:49,758 --> 00:37:52,448
It's not sexually
missing only.
684
00:37:54,620 --> 00:37:56,103
It is emotionally.
685
00:37:56,103 --> 00:37:58,482
I mean, I feel alone
without her.
686
00:38:17,344 --> 00:38:18,448
Baby.
687
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,793
I miss you.
- I miss you too.
688
00:38:37,068 --> 00:38:38,620
- Okay, baby.
- Huh?
689
00:38:40,482 --> 00:38:42,517
I love you so much.
690
00:38:43,137 --> 00:38:44,758
Forget this moment, okay?
691
00:38:44,758 --> 00:38:46,586
- Forget it?
- Yeah.
692
00:38:46,586 --> 00:38:49,206
- I will never forget it.
- Don't see me that weak again.
693
00:38:49,206 --> 00:38:51,068
Baby, it's not weak.
694
00:38:53,344 --> 00:38:56,793
Sarper's a water sign
so he's full of emotion.
695
00:38:56,793 --> 00:38:57,862
Yeah.
696
00:38:59,172 --> 00:39:01,965
You wanna meet
your son Adonis?
697
00:39:03,724 --> 00:39:06,379
But I never saw him
cry like that.
698
00:39:06,379 --> 00:39:09,000
But I normally show my passion
in other ways.
699
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,379
- I know, yeah.
- Not this way, you know?
700
00:39:11,379 --> 00:39:13,724
Come here.
Oh.
701
00:39:13,724 --> 00:39:16,379
Hold it for me.
Hold it for me.
702
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,241
- Okay.
- He's a big baby.
703
00:39:18,241 --> 00:39:19,586
- Yes.
- Oh.
704
00:39:19,586 --> 00:39:21,413
Yes. Oh, my gosh.
705
00:39:21,413 --> 00:39:22,793
- I know. You're gonna--
- So cute.
706
00:39:22,793 --> 00:39:24,034
You're gonna love
to have him, baby.
707
00:39:24,034 --> 00:39:25,482
He's so cute.
708
00:39:26,551 --> 00:39:28,103
This time coming to Turkey,
709
00:39:28,103 --> 00:39:30,413
you know, I'm bringing Adonis.
710
00:39:30,413 --> 00:39:33,689
So it's like we're starting
our own little family.
711
00:39:35,413 --> 00:39:37,517
Adonis,
712
00:39:38,241 --> 00:39:41,862
I'm not crying
normally, okay?
713
00:39:43,172 --> 00:39:45,896
I wanna believe that the time
apart made us stronger,
714
00:39:45,896 --> 00:39:47,724
but like there were
some hard moments.
715
00:39:48,724 --> 00:39:51,724
So we have things
that I wanna discuss.
716
00:39:52,758 --> 00:39:56,000
But let's try to solve it
as calm as possible.
717
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,724
- Okay?
- Yes. Okay.
718
00:40:06,793 --> 00:40:08,551
Home, home, sweet home.
719
00:40:12,862 --> 00:40:14,517
I will hug her.
I will touch her.
720
00:40:14,517 --> 00:40:17,068
I will [bleep] her.
Everything.
721
00:40:17,068 --> 00:40:18,862
Everything I miss about her.
722
00:40:20,206 --> 00:40:22,344
Your new home. Are you ready?
723
00:40:23,206 --> 00:40:24,724
Go. Yes.
724
00:40:33,620 --> 00:40:35,586
Honestly,
I'm not happy to walk in
725
00:40:35,586 --> 00:40:37,068
and see that still here.
726
00:40:39,379 --> 00:40:42,965
The first thing
I see are the bottles.
727
00:40:42,965 --> 00:40:45,551
I kind of thought
Sarper is gonna surprise me
728
00:40:45,551 --> 00:40:47,379
and I'm gonna walk in
and they're gonna be gone,
729
00:40:47,379 --> 00:40:49,310
but that's not the case,
730
00:40:49,862 --> 00:40:52,965
and it really pisses me off.
731
00:40:55,793 --> 00:40:57,689
I know. I know.
You don't like it.
732
00:40:57,689 --> 00:40:58,724
Give it time and you'll just--
733
00:40:58,724 --> 00:40:59,758
- I hate it.
- You'll just--
734
00:40:59,758 --> 00:41:00,758
It's not that I don't like it.
735
00:41:00,758 --> 00:41:02,241
- I mean... I didn't--
- I literally hate it.
736
00:41:06,655 --> 00:41:07,793
Oh, my God.
737
00:41:10,620 --> 00:41:13,793
Next time on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
738
00:41:13,793 --> 00:41:15,275
We have landed.
739
00:41:15,275 --> 00:41:17,586
Can't wait
to get off this plane.
740
00:41:18,482 --> 00:41:22,413
Is it common for men
in China not to work?
741
00:41:29,586 --> 00:41:33,482
I guess we had
a miscommunication on money.
742
00:41:33,482 --> 00:41:35,965
We can't afford the van.
743
00:41:35,965 --> 00:41:38,206
I'm supposed to get
on a plane tomorrow,
744
00:41:38,206 --> 00:41:40,137
and I don't wanna be homeless
when I get to England.
745
00:41:43,034 --> 00:41:45,137
Like we spoke about that
time and time again.
746
00:41:46,275 --> 00:41:48,448
Anywhere else?
747
00:41:48,448 --> 00:41:51,206
I can handle Iceland?
Can Iceland handle me?
748
00:41:51,206 --> 00:41:53,551
There's no one on earth
that I would choose
749
00:41:53,551 --> 00:41:57,000
to like derail
my dreams than Ingi.
750
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,034
Hi.
751
00:42:16,413 --> 00:42:18,344
I'm just tired of this.
752
00:42:18,344 --> 00:42:20,344
Make peace with it.
It's not a big deal.
753
00:42:20,344 --> 00:42:22,310
- Make peace with it?
- Yes.
754
00:42:22,310 --> 00:42:23,793
You make peace with this.
755
00:42:23,793 --> 00:42:26,724
This is 143 pages
of a love letter
756
00:42:26,724 --> 00:42:27,965
that my ex-boyfriend wrote me.
757
00:42:29,137 --> 00:42:31,034
He's making me question
758
00:42:31,034 --> 00:42:33,068
why I even came back
to Turkey.