1 00:00:01,275 --> 00:00:04,379 Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way. 2 00:00:04,379 --> 00:00:06,103 Just one more week, and then I'll see you. 3 00:00:06,103 --> 00:00:07,931 Sarper and I, we're really having a lot 4 00:00:07,931 --> 00:00:10,379 of financial difficulties in Turkiye. 5 00:00:10,379 --> 00:00:12,793 So I came back to the US, 6 00:00:12,793 --> 00:00:15,586 but it affected our relationship a lot. 7 00:00:47,068 --> 00:00:51,586 James told me that he wasn't excited about having kids. 8 00:00:52,275 --> 00:00:53,793 What? 9 00:00:53,793 --> 00:00:57,068 Jojo is not gonna be able to come with us. 10 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,620 I'm sorry. 11 00:01:12,103 --> 00:01:14,448 Jojo. 12 00:01:19,068 --> 00:01:20,689 ♪ I'm seeing the light now 13 00:01:20,689 --> 00:01:23,689 ♪ How to make things Right now ♪ 14 00:01:23,689 --> 00:01:25,724 ♪ Stop chasing empty set 15 00:01:25,724 --> 00:01:27,275 ♪ Start looking For a pure love ♪ 16 00:01:34,310 --> 00:01:36,206 ♪ I'm looking for A pure love ♪ 17 00:01:36,206 --> 00:01:39,103 Let's go downstairs one at a time. 18 00:01:39,103 --> 00:01:43,172 If you can just help me because they're heavy. 19 00:01:43,172 --> 00:01:45,275 I'm really excited to go back to Turkiye. 20 00:01:45,275 --> 00:01:46,517 I can't wait to see Sarper. 21 00:01:46,517 --> 00:01:48,000 I've missed him so much. 22 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:49,620 Oh. 23 00:01:49,620 --> 00:01:53,103 We've been apart for a whole three months, 24 00:01:53,103 --> 00:01:54,793 and it's been so hard on us. 25 00:01:54,793 --> 00:01:57,000 Oh, wait. Your dog's in my... 26 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,000 Adonis, get in the back. 27 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,965 Are you driving us to the airport, sir? 28 00:02:03,379 --> 00:02:05,068 We've had some really big fights. 29 00:02:05,068 --> 00:02:08,000 He tried to break up with me. 30 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,586 Plus, there are two things from Sarper's past 31 00:02:10,586 --> 00:02:13,206 that have been a continuous thorn in our relationship. 32 00:02:13,206 --> 00:02:15,896 His sleazy black book of women he slept with 33 00:02:15,896 --> 00:02:18,344 and his bottle collection. 34 00:02:19,413 --> 00:02:21,172 So, how do you feel about going back? 35 00:02:21,172 --> 00:02:23,206 We hit a bump in the road, 36 00:02:23,206 --> 00:02:26,275 you know, with him finding that book of his. 37 00:02:27,517 --> 00:02:30,172 And so he still has this book? 38 00:02:30,172 --> 00:02:32,655 He still has the book and the bottle collection. 39 00:02:34,275 --> 00:02:36,896 You also have that freaking bottle collection of yours. 40 00:02:36,896 --> 00:02:39,482 What is the significance of the bottle collection? 41 00:02:39,482 --> 00:02:42,000 It's nothing, it's just a collection. 42 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,827 He has a memory with each bottle with a female. 43 00:02:45,793 --> 00:02:47,068 And he keeps all the bottles. 44 00:02:47,068 --> 00:02:49,655 What the 45 00:02:51,103 --> 00:02:53,482 I said, "I'm not coming back 46 00:02:53,482 --> 00:02:54,896 until you get rid of them." 47 00:02:54,896 --> 00:02:56,103 But you're going back. 48 00:02:56,103 --> 00:02:57,827 But I'm going back 49 00:02:57,827 --> 00:03:01,551 because he wants to talk about this in person. 50 00:03:02,827 --> 00:03:05,586 I think you need to put your foot down more with him. 51 00:03:05,586 --> 00:03:07,827 I mean, you have to stand up for yourself, right? 52 00:03:07,827 --> 00:03:09,068 I will. 53 00:03:10,689 --> 00:03:13,000 And if it doesn't happen quickly, 54 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:16,379 I'm gonna pull out my book, you know. 55 00:03:16,379 --> 00:03:18,482 What do you have? 56 00:03:18,482 --> 00:03:21,793 My very first boyfriend when I was 16-years-old, 57 00:03:21,793 --> 00:03:24,724 wrote me a letter that's 143 pages long. 58 00:03:24,724 --> 00:03:26,068 - I'm sorry, what? - Yes. 59 00:03:28,586 --> 00:03:31,896 He went to the boarding school that I went to 60 00:03:31,896 --> 00:03:34,000 and we were madly in love 61 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:36,275 and we were forbidden from speaking to each other. 62 00:03:36,275 --> 00:03:38,103 We couldn't even be in the same room together, 63 00:03:38,103 --> 00:03:41,517 because it was a very strict Christian school. 64 00:03:41,517 --> 00:03:44,172 So we resorted to writing letters 65 00:03:44,172 --> 00:03:49,103 and he wrote me a 143-page letter, 66 00:03:49,103 --> 00:03:51,724 and I saved it for many years 67 00:03:51,724 --> 00:03:55,206 because it was just really very special to me 68 00:03:55,206 --> 00:03:58,310 and it was, like, the longest letter 69 00:03:58,310 --> 00:04:00,482 I'd ever heard of. 70 00:04:00,482 --> 00:04:02,931 I was like, "Let me just bring this with me to Turkiye... 71 00:04:02,931 --> 00:04:04,000 - And see-- - and put this in... 72 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,000 Give him a dose of his own medicine 73 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:08,896 and see how he does with something from my past." 74 00:04:08,896 --> 00:04:11,793 Because I have been so patient with him 75 00:04:11,793 --> 00:04:14,344 and he should know that I mean business. 76 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,551 Let's do this. Let's do it. 77 00:04:25,689 --> 00:04:28,827 Sarper is the man that I've chosen to be with. 78 00:04:28,827 --> 00:04:31,103 I am madly in love with him 79 00:04:31,103 --> 00:04:34,103 and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, 80 00:04:34,103 --> 00:04:36,103 but I don't know how we can make 81 00:04:36,103 --> 00:04:37,689 a bigger commitment like marriage 82 00:04:37,689 --> 00:04:39,344 when he's still holding on to his past. 83 00:04:40,310 --> 00:04:43,275 He needs to show me that he can be the man 84 00:04:43,275 --> 00:04:45,000 that I need him to be. 85 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,000 He's all checked in. 86 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:48,482 I hope he does okay on the flight. 87 00:04:48,482 --> 00:04:50,000 He'll be okay. 88 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:51,103 Be safe. 89 00:04:51,103 --> 00:04:52,793 Oh, thank you. Be good. 90 00:04:55,068 --> 00:04:56,793 Remember what we talked about in the car. 91 00:04:56,793 --> 00:04:58,103 - Yeah. - Hold your grounds. 92 00:04:58,103 --> 00:05:00,103 - Mmm-hmm. - Be strong. 93 00:05:00,103 --> 00:05:01,896 Yeah. Hey, don't make me cry and stuff. 94 00:05:01,896 --> 00:05:03,931 Make sure you get what you deserve. 95 00:05:03,931 --> 00:05:05,172 Yeah. Okay? 96 00:05:05,172 --> 00:05:06,379 Mmm-hmm. Love you. 97 00:05:06,379 --> 00:05:07,896 Love you too. Thank you. 98 00:05:19,172 --> 00:05:22,275 ♪ I've been On this road for so long ♪ 99 00:05:22,275 --> 00:05:25,689 ♪ I know it somewhere Up ahead ♪ 100 00:05:25,689 --> 00:05:28,517 ♪ But I can't get that On my own my own ♪ 101 00:05:31,896 --> 00:05:35,931 ♪ Yeah, it's a long road 102 00:05:35,931 --> 00:05:38,482 ♪ To be all right 103 00:05:41,103 --> 00:05:43,172 I'm Dempsey, I'm 29, 104 00:05:43,172 --> 00:05:45,344 and I live in Darlington, England... 105 00:05:48,689 --> 00:05:49,793 for now. 106 00:05:51,586 --> 00:05:53,517 This is so nerve wracking. 107 00:05:53,517 --> 00:05:55,896 I'm selling my caravan today. 108 00:05:55,896 --> 00:05:58,000 It was the last thing for me to sell. 109 00:05:58,000 --> 00:05:59,931 I sold my car already, 110 00:05:59,931 --> 00:06:02,931 a TV, literally everything. 111 00:06:04,103 --> 00:06:06,172 And I'm just... All I'm left with is clothes. 112 00:06:06,172 --> 00:06:07,310 That's it. 113 00:06:07,310 --> 00:06:08,793 Where are you moving to? 114 00:06:10,586 --> 00:06:14,172 and I'm gonna live in there and travel full time. 115 00:06:14,172 --> 00:06:15,310 Wow. 116 00:06:15,310 --> 00:06:17,793 I've loved my home and it served its purpose, 117 00:06:17,793 --> 00:06:20,206 but I don't really have like attachment 118 00:06:20,206 --> 00:06:22,379 to things or places. 119 00:06:22,379 --> 00:06:24,000 I'd like to just go with the flow. 120 00:06:27,586 --> 00:06:29,586 - Thank you. Thank you for... - All right? All right. 121 00:06:29,586 --> 00:06:31,206 - moving the trailer. - Yeah. No problem, love. 122 00:06:31,206 --> 00:06:32,793 Thank you very much. Thank you. 123 00:06:35,413 --> 00:06:38,896 It feels amazing. I'm so, so excited. 124 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,172 Yay. 125 00:06:46,827 --> 00:06:48,482 'Cause I've always wanted to travel 126 00:06:48,482 --> 00:06:50,827 and I've always imagine myself living in a van. 127 00:06:50,827 --> 00:06:54,068 And I'm so glad that I've got somebody to share that with. 128 00:07:10,379 --> 00:07:12,862 Oh, it's so nice. 129 00:07:13,517 --> 00:07:16,551 Yes, Charles, I'll take a wine now. 130 00:07:18,275 --> 00:07:20,793 There's nobody named Charles in here, it's just me. 131 00:07:22,275 --> 00:07:23,482 My name's Statler. 132 00:07:23,482 --> 00:07:26,551 I'm 33-years-old and I'm from Irving, Texas. 133 00:07:28,931 --> 00:07:30,689 Bubble beard. 134 00:07:30,689 --> 00:07:36,137 I am a quirky weirdo. 135 00:07:36,931 --> 00:07:38,793 I think I'm funny, 136 00:07:38,793 --> 00:07:40,517 but I don't know if anyone else does. 137 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,103 This is going to be my last bath 138 00:07:45,103 --> 00:07:47,758 for the foreseeable future. 139 00:07:48,586 --> 00:07:51,068 I'm moving across the pond. 140 00:07:52,103 --> 00:07:55,000 I should be packing 141 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:57,793 because I have an infinite number of things to do, 142 00:07:57,793 --> 00:08:01,068 but I'm overwhelmed. 143 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,827 I guess one of the reasons I get overstimulated 144 00:08:06,827 --> 00:08:09,931 and, like, stressed out is ADHD, 145 00:08:09,931 --> 00:08:13,379 my little neurospicy brain. 146 00:08:13,379 --> 00:08:18,103 I was recently diagnosed with a little bit of autism. 147 00:08:18,103 --> 00:08:21,344 So that's a little extra spice to add to the mix. 148 00:08:23,482 --> 00:08:25,689 I always knew my brain was a bit different. 149 00:08:25,689 --> 00:08:28,793 I can't get anything done. I fidget constantly. 150 00:08:28,793 --> 00:08:31,275 I get tons of anxiety attacks. 151 00:08:31,275 --> 00:08:34,172 I prefer to spend all of my time alone. 152 00:08:35,482 --> 00:08:38,517 I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD and autism 153 00:08:38,517 --> 00:08:40,620 until I was 30-years-old. 154 00:08:40,620 --> 00:08:42,689 When I finally did get diagnosed, 155 00:08:42,689 --> 00:08:45,172 it was just kind of like an AHA moment. 156 00:08:45,172 --> 00:08:48,689 Everything about me made sense finally. 157 00:08:48,689 --> 00:08:53,241 How I acted, how I thought, it just all clicked. 158 00:08:54,103 --> 00:08:56,965 Usually I end my bath by taking a pee. 159 00:08:59,103 --> 00:09:00,310 Yeah. 160 00:09:00,310 --> 00:09:01,620 It's just a slight freedom, 161 00:09:01,620 --> 00:09:03,172 like nobody can tell me what to do. 162 00:09:03,172 --> 00:09:05,068 I'm peeing in my own bath. 163 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:07,344 Go after yourself. 164 00:09:15,482 --> 00:09:17,655 Holy [bleep] okay. 165 00:09:20,310 --> 00:09:22,379 Hey. - Hi. 166 00:09:22,379 --> 00:09:23,896 I miss you. 167 00:09:23,896 --> 00:09:26,000 I miss you, too. 168 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:27,827 My girlfriend's name is Dempsey 169 00:09:27,827 --> 00:09:31,103 and we met on a dating app about a year ago. 170 00:09:31,103 --> 00:09:35,068 She's the most amazing woman I've ever met. 171 00:09:35,068 --> 00:09:36,586 She's so kind. 172 00:09:36,586 --> 00:09:40,482 She laughs at everything that I say which is pretty cool. 173 00:09:40,482 --> 00:09:44,793 And she's got the best body of anyone I've ever dated. 174 00:09:44,793 --> 00:09:48,172 You know, usually girls have either boobs or butt, 175 00:09:48,172 --> 00:09:49,482 but she has both. 176 00:09:49,482 --> 00:09:50,620 That's very nice. 177 00:09:54,931 --> 00:09:57,103 That's creepy. I love it. 178 00:09:57,103 --> 00:09:58,379 Yeah, I don't know how you do it. 179 00:10:00,896 --> 00:10:04,275 After seven months of talking online, 180 00:10:04,275 --> 00:10:06,620 I flew to England to meet Dempsey. 181 00:10:06,620 --> 00:10:08,103 Hi. 182 00:10:08,103 --> 00:10:09,620 I can't believe you're actually here. 183 00:10:09,620 --> 00:10:11,724 I can't believe you're a person. 184 00:10:11,724 --> 00:10:15,103 She was everything I expected and a lot more. 185 00:10:15,103 --> 00:10:17,517 These are all Thailand insects? 186 00:10:17,517 --> 00:10:18,896 - Stop it. - Yeah. 187 00:10:18,896 --> 00:10:22,379 I detoured my whole trip to get you those dead insects. 188 00:10:22,379 --> 00:10:25,482 That's the most romantic thing anyone's ever done. 189 00:10:25,482 --> 00:10:27,965 I was super attracted to Statler straight away. 190 00:10:28,517 --> 00:10:30,482 Her curls, her smile, 191 00:10:30,482 --> 00:10:32,482 and she makes me laugh. 192 00:10:32,482 --> 00:10:35,137 I've never felt this way about anybody before. 193 00:10:36,931 --> 00:10:38,965 Straight out of a movie. 194 00:10:39,620 --> 00:10:41,172 I love you. 195 00:10:41,172 --> 00:10:43,068 Yeah, I also love you. 196 00:10:43,068 --> 00:10:45,172 Wow, that's... Cool. 197 00:10:45,172 --> 00:10:46,586 that's romantic. 198 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:49,172 We clicked instantly 199 00:10:49,172 --> 00:10:51,068 but we weren't always on the same page 200 00:10:51,068 --> 00:10:52,655 about our relationship. 201 00:10:53,689 --> 00:10:55,586 So I think, like, the next step is, like, 202 00:10:55,586 --> 00:10:58,896 me moving to England with you. 203 00:10:58,896 --> 00:11:01,379 I just think that we should, like, take things slow and 204 00:11:07,689 --> 00:11:09,206 If you wanted kids badly, 205 00:11:09,206 --> 00:11:11,724 then, I don't think it would work between us, 206 00:11:11,724 --> 00:11:12,896 because I really don't. 207 00:11:12,896 --> 00:11:14,551 I really don't want kids. 208 00:11:16,172 --> 00:11:19,206 Why are you acting... Like, can you freaking talk to me? 209 00:11:19,206 --> 00:11:22,000 You just said our relationship is not gonna work. 210 00:11:31,413 --> 00:11:33,586 How's packing going? 211 00:11:33,586 --> 00:11:35,793 I've got a stye on my eye 212 00:11:35,793 --> 00:11:38,000 from being stressed the past few days. 213 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,068 Hey, my right eye has been twitching nonstop. 214 00:11:41,931 --> 00:11:43,620 My left. 215 00:11:43,620 --> 00:11:45,793 Whoa, we're, like... 216 00:11:45,793 --> 00:11:47,103 In sync. - lesbians. 217 00:11:48,793 --> 00:11:50,482 Despite our differences 218 00:11:50,482 --> 00:11:52,931 and the fact that Dempsey and I have only met once, 219 00:11:52,931 --> 00:11:54,689 we know we want to be together 220 00:11:54,689 --> 00:11:56,482 and we're ready to take the next step. 221 00:11:58,068 --> 00:11:59,896 You can move in with me if you want. 222 00:11:59,896 --> 00:12:02,000 Live with you, in England? 223 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:03,413 Yeah, it would be nice. 224 00:12:03,413 --> 00:12:05,275 I love you so much. 225 00:12:05,275 --> 00:12:06,620 I love you too. 226 00:12:06,620 --> 00:12:07,827 I have a pretty good job 227 00:12:07,827 --> 00:12:10,482 working finance at a freight logistics company, 228 00:12:10,482 --> 00:12:12,103 and because we all work remote, 229 00:12:12,103 --> 00:12:13,241 I can go anywhere. 230 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,793 So we will be living in a camper van 231 00:12:16,793 --> 00:12:18,620 and constantly moving. 232 00:12:18,620 --> 00:12:22,310 This has definitely been a lifelong dream of Dempsey's 233 00:12:22,310 --> 00:12:24,586 and it felt really brave when I agreed to this, 234 00:12:24,586 --> 00:12:26,655 but now I'm freaking out. 235 00:12:28,172 --> 00:12:29,827 Are you ready to move? 236 00:12:29,827 --> 00:12:32,482 It's just a lot. I feel overwhelmed. 237 00:12:32,482 --> 00:12:34,586 I... You know, I was just like, 238 00:12:34,586 --> 00:12:37,482 adventure, excitement, yay. 239 00:12:37,482 --> 00:12:40,103 And I didn't really think about the logistics of it. 240 00:12:40,103 --> 00:12:45,068 And it's like, whoa, this is a lot to take on. 241 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:47,586 Dempsey sold me the idea, 242 00:12:47,586 --> 00:12:50,793 kind of, this like carefree and easygoing, 243 00:12:50,793 --> 00:12:52,793 and it's actually been a lot of decisions 244 00:12:52,793 --> 00:12:54,586 and super hectic. 245 00:12:54,586 --> 00:12:58,068 And with my ADHD and the way my brain works, 246 00:12:58,068 --> 00:13:00,827 it's really been overwhelming for me. 247 00:13:00,827 --> 00:13:03,827 So I'm just kind of checked out. 248 00:13:03,827 --> 00:13:06,275 I have anxiety about, like, leaving the country 249 00:13:06,275 --> 00:13:07,896 and living in a van, 250 00:13:07,896 --> 00:13:09,896 traveling full time for the first time 251 00:13:09,896 --> 00:13:13,068 and just being worried 252 00:13:13,068 --> 00:13:16,482 about all of that just paralyzes me. 253 00:13:16,482 --> 00:13:17,689 Yeah. 254 00:13:21,689 --> 00:13:23,379 You're just, like, I don't wanna talk. 255 00:13:23,379 --> 00:13:25,068 Yeah. - You deal with it all, 256 00:13:25,068 --> 00:13:27,379 and I'll see you when I land. 257 00:13:27,379 --> 00:13:29,793 Yeah, you have done the majority of everything, 258 00:13:29,793 --> 00:13:32,275 so I appreciate that. 259 00:13:32,275 --> 00:13:35,172 You are excited about this, aren't you? 260 00:13:35,172 --> 00:13:37,206 Yes. Yeah. Absolutely. 261 00:13:37,206 --> 00:13:42,379 It's just behind all of the feelings of terror. 262 00:13:42,379 --> 00:13:46,517 I tend to overwhelm people sometimes 263 00:13:46,517 --> 00:13:50,379 because I do get overwhelmed, 264 00:13:50,379 --> 00:13:55,586 and then lash out or just freeze. 265 00:13:55,586 --> 00:13:58,827 And with past relationships, people have not liked that. 266 00:13:58,827 --> 00:14:01,000 Yeah. 267 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,896 It's obviously something that we're just gonna have to see 268 00:14:03,896 --> 00:14:05,206 how it unfolds, isn't it? 269 00:14:05,206 --> 00:14:06,793 Yeah. 270 00:14:06,793 --> 00:14:10,379 This is not something I would normally do 271 00:14:10,379 --> 00:14:12,206 if I were not in love. 272 00:14:12,206 --> 00:14:14,482 I'm not just moving countries, 273 00:14:14,482 --> 00:14:17,310 I'm learning a new way life. 274 00:14:18,586 --> 00:14:21,896 If it were a vacation, it would be nice and easy, 275 00:14:21,896 --> 00:14:23,517 and I could come back afterwards 276 00:14:23,517 --> 00:14:26,000 and, you know, have my bathtub and my shower, 277 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,103 and my washing machine. 278 00:14:28,103 --> 00:14:29,482 But this, like... 279 00:14:29,482 --> 00:14:32,655 I think on paper, this sounds very romantic... 280 00:14:33,586 --> 00:14:35,689 No, I think on paper it also sounds crazy. 281 00:14:35,689 --> 00:14:37,103 Actually, it all... It's crazy. 282 00:14:37,103 --> 00:14:39,448 I know it's crazy. It feels crazy. 283 00:14:40,724 --> 00:14:43,689 I just hope I don't end up homeless and heartbroken 284 00:14:43,689 --> 00:14:45,482 in the middle of Europe. 285 00:14:45,482 --> 00:14:47,000 I'm not scared. 286 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:48,862 I'm not scared either ever. 287 00:14:50,172 --> 00:14:51,896 I'm, like, terrified, 288 00:14:51,896 --> 00:14:53,413 which is different than scared, 289 00:14:53,413 --> 00:14:55,793 if you look up the definition. 290 00:15:01,620 --> 00:15:03,517 Well then, what are we gonna do for a job? 291 00:15:03,517 --> 00:15:06,206 If we can't go there and have any type of a life, 292 00:15:06,206 --> 00:15:07,448 why would we do this? 293 00:15:21,482 --> 00:15:23,758 I'm all set. I'm all set. 294 00:15:31,379 --> 00:15:32,620 Huh. 295 00:15:40,620 --> 00:15:42,793 I'm not ready for you to be gone. 296 00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:11,965 Last time we're driving down this road. 297 00:16:14,862 --> 00:16:18,689 I just really hope and pray this all works out 298 00:16:18,689 --> 00:16:21,379 the way we're hoping and bringing Jojo over... 299 00:16:21,379 --> 00:16:22,517 I know. 300 00:16:22,517 --> 00:16:24,068 having him with us. That's-- 301 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,551 I know you would be. 302 00:16:36,793 --> 00:16:39,517 Between a month to a month and a half, 303 00:16:39,517 --> 00:16:41,000 that's the plan. 304 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,482 I'm gonna be just working as much as I can 305 00:16:43,482 --> 00:16:44,689 while I'm here 306 00:16:44,689 --> 00:16:46,000 'cause that's gonna be what 307 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,517 we'll have for money over there. 308 00:16:48,517 --> 00:16:51,689 And then, I'm gonna try to work for your family. 309 00:16:59,586 --> 00:17:01,206 Well then, what are we gonna do for a job 310 00:17:01,206 --> 00:17:03,172 'cause you said it was gonna be a job 311 00:17:03,172 --> 00:17:05,275 but now you're telling me I'm not gonna make any money 312 00:17:05,275 --> 00:17:06,862 working for them? 313 00:17:10,379 --> 00:17:12,586 Okay. Then why did we make that our plan 314 00:17:12,586 --> 00:17:14,275 that we were gonna do that as a job? 315 00:17:14,275 --> 00:17:15,586 No, if we... if we-- 316 00:17:15,586 --> 00:17:18,413 If we can't go there and have any type of a life, 317 00:17:18,413 --> 00:17:19,896 why would we do this? 318 00:17:19,896 --> 00:17:21,275 And I'm not gonna move somewhere 319 00:17:21,275 --> 00:17:23,551 if I can't take care of you. 320 00:17:25,482 --> 00:17:27,103 That's very unsettling. 321 00:17:36,310 --> 00:17:37,896 We're buying the chips from him, 322 00:17:37,896 --> 00:17:39,413 and then we're selling them ourselves? 323 00:17:39,413 --> 00:17:41,310 Commission? 324 00:17:41,310 --> 00:17:42,482 Well, that's what you should have said. 325 00:17:42,482 --> 00:17:44,344 But to say that, "Oh, you're not gonna make any money." 326 00:17:52,103 --> 00:17:54,931 So how long do you think it'll take us 327 00:17:54,931 --> 00:17:58,000 before we make any type of money? 328 00:18:06,793 --> 00:18:08,689 You're making it sound like 329 00:18:08,689 --> 00:18:10,103 it's not gonna be profitable. 330 00:18:10,103 --> 00:18:11,793 Like yes or no, are we gonna make money or not? 331 00:18:11,793 --> 00:18:13,000 Yes or no? 332 00:18:18,689 --> 00:18:21,103 I hate that we're having this conversation 333 00:18:21,103 --> 00:18:22,965 right here right now. 334 00:19:05,862 --> 00:19:07,379 I didn't say that. 335 00:19:10,206 --> 00:19:12,517 I don't feel as confident about us being able to be, 336 00:19:12,517 --> 00:19:13,620 like, success over there 337 00:19:13,620 --> 00:19:15,000 and me being able to provide for you. 338 00:19:21,620 --> 00:19:23,689 But what do I always say? 339 00:19:23,689 --> 00:19:26,689 No matter how mad you get, speak in love, 340 00:19:26,689 --> 00:19:28,482 because at the end of the day, we're still-- 341 00:19:28,482 --> 00:19:31,275 Love, love, love, love, love. Is that what you want? 342 00:19:33,689 --> 00:19:36,206 Do you wanna leave angry at me 343 00:19:36,206 --> 00:19:38,586 knowing we're not gonna see each other? 344 00:19:38,586 --> 00:19:40,137 No. 345 00:20:31,931 --> 00:20:34,241 I'm gonna miss the smell of you. 346 00:20:35,482 --> 00:20:37,000 I'm gonna miss you. 347 00:20:43,206 --> 00:20:44,551 I love you. 348 00:20:46,517 --> 00:20:48,000 See you soon. 349 00:20:50,862 --> 00:20:52,551 I love you. 350 00:21:11,206 --> 00:21:14,448 ♪ I felt it But couldn't say ♪ 351 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,000 ♪ What you should've changed 352 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,517 I feel devastated right now 353 00:21:18,517 --> 00:21:20,379 'cause I don't know when I get to see her next. 354 00:21:20,379 --> 00:21:22,068 I don't even know. I don't have a date yet. 355 00:21:23,862 --> 00:21:28,689 And without her, I don't really know who I am. 356 00:21:30,275 --> 00:21:31,758 We were brought into this world 357 00:21:31,758 --> 00:21:33,103 from different sides of the world, 358 00:21:33,103 --> 00:21:35,103 but we were meant to be together. 359 00:21:35,103 --> 00:21:37,000 And we were made for each other. 360 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,241 When you find that, having to watch her leave, 361 00:21:41,172 --> 00:21:42,862 I just feel scared. 362 00:21:42,862 --> 00:21:45,620 ♪ I don't wanna Play pretend ♪ 363 00:21:45,620 --> 00:21:48,827 ♪ I'm not gonna see it mend 364 00:21:49,379 --> 00:21:52,551 ♪ We're together 365 00:21:57,896 --> 00:22:00,068 Statler is, like, finding the whole 366 00:22:00,068 --> 00:22:01,896 move really stressful. 367 00:22:01,896 --> 00:22:03,862 What little things are gonna stress her out? 368 00:22:06,689 --> 00:22:07,793 Yeah. 369 00:22:07,793 --> 00:22:09,310 Living in a van is so intense 370 00:22:09,310 --> 00:22:10,689 and I honestly really don't know 371 00:22:10,689 --> 00:22:12,172 what will happen between us 372 00:22:12,172 --> 00:22:14,000 if she can't handle life on the road. 373 00:22:25,241 --> 00:22:28,379 ♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh... 374 00:22:28,379 --> 00:22:30,034 Oh, yes. Well, those are good. 375 00:22:31,758 --> 00:22:33,655 I really believe in, like, getting your own food 376 00:22:33,655 --> 00:22:35,241 and that Mother Earth 377 00:22:35,241 --> 00:22:37,586 provides everything that we need. 378 00:22:37,586 --> 00:22:39,896 You do have to be careful and know what you're doing 379 00:22:39,896 --> 00:22:41,586 when you're... When you're foraging 380 00:22:41,586 --> 00:22:43,586 'cause there are some, like, poisonous plants 381 00:22:43,586 --> 00:22:44,965 and mushrooms out there. 382 00:23:06,137 --> 00:23:07,793 - Hello. - Hello. 383 00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:10,103 - How are you doing? - I'm good. How are you? 384 00:23:10,103 --> 00:23:11,655 Oh, I'm good. Yeah, it's good to see you. 385 00:23:11,655 --> 00:23:12,689 - Are you all right? - And I... Yeah. 386 00:23:12,689 --> 00:23:13,896 - Yeah? - Have you got your van here? 387 00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:15,103 Yeah, yeah. Do you wanna go and see it? 388 00:23:15,103 --> 00:23:16,172 - Yeah, I'd love to. - Come on then. 389 00:23:16,172 --> 00:23:17,344 Please. Thank you. 390 00:23:18,689 --> 00:23:21,068 Statler arrives in England in a couple of days. 391 00:23:21,068 --> 00:23:24,275 And my friend Linzi has a camper van as well 392 00:23:24,275 --> 00:23:26,689 and she's done a lot of traveling. 393 00:23:26,689 --> 00:23:30,000 I'm really hoping that she can give me some tips on van life. 394 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,000 - Statler's good? - Yeah, she's really good. 395 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,896 Everything's just been like hectic up in the air. 396 00:23:34,896 --> 00:23:36,689 - Right. - She's got to move, 397 00:23:36,689 --> 00:23:38,172 I've got to move. 398 00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:42,172 Not as well as me, no. 399 00:23:42,172 --> 00:23:44,896 Oh, wow. Yeah, but you're super chill. 400 00:23:44,896 --> 00:23:46,344 Statler and I... 401 00:23:49,896 --> 00:23:51,344 Well, come on in. 402 00:23:51,344 --> 00:23:53,620 But travel is in my blood 403 00:23:55,586 --> 00:23:58,586 because my family are part of the showman's guild, 404 00:23:58,586 --> 00:24:00,689 which is traveling fun fairs. 405 00:24:00,689 --> 00:24:03,551 We travel up and down the country all year round 406 00:24:03,551 --> 00:24:05,379 with fairground rides. 407 00:24:05,379 --> 00:24:07,379 My family have done it for generations 408 00:24:07,379 --> 00:24:09,344 and generations all the way back 409 00:24:09,344 --> 00:24:11,896 to my grandparents, their grandparents. 410 00:24:11,896 --> 00:24:15,379 So I was always on the move as a child. 411 00:24:15,379 --> 00:24:17,586 On your van, you should be able to do the same way. 412 00:24:17,586 --> 00:24:19,551 You can release the doors and have much more space. 413 00:24:19,551 --> 00:24:22,586 Yeah. So, like, when you're, like, camping and your... 414 00:24:22,586 --> 00:24:24,241 And your bed's out, and you just open the doors, 415 00:24:24,241 --> 00:24:25,586 and, like, a mountain and you just like... 416 00:24:25,586 --> 00:24:27,000 Just sat, like, having a coffee. 417 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:28,586 - This is the life. - It's so good. 418 00:24:28,586 --> 00:24:29,896 Cup of tea. 419 00:24:29,896 --> 00:24:31,137 I've wanted to travel the world 420 00:24:31,137 --> 00:24:32,793 for as long as I can remember. 421 00:24:32,793 --> 00:24:35,241 And I don't wanna live with any regrets. 422 00:24:43,965 --> 00:24:45,172 - Yeah. - Okay. Cool. 423 00:24:45,172 --> 00:24:46,551 Yeah, that would be a good, yeah. 424 00:24:47,965 --> 00:24:50,241 With the camper van, me and Statler 425 00:24:50,241 --> 00:24:52,137 don't have to be long distance anymore, 426 00:24:52,137 --> 00:24:56,137 but we kind of have different outlooks on life. 427 00:24:56,137 --> 00:24:58,103 She is much more of a worrier than I am. 428 00:24:58,103 --> 00:24:59,655 I got you a map actually 429 00:24:59,655 --> 00:25:01,448 and a little gift for your van. 430 00:25:01,448 --> 00:25:02,862 Oh, that's so sweet. 431 00:25:02,862 --> 00:25:04,896 Living in a van is so intense. 432 00:25:04,896 --> 00:25:08,275 I'm not really intimidated by the challenge. 433 00:25:08,275 --> 00:25:10,448 Statler on the other hand is freaking out. 434 00:25:11,896 --> 00:25:14,172 So have you planned the actual route then? 435 00:25:14,172 --> 00:25:19,862 Yes. We're gonna go down to Dover and then to Clay. 436 00:25:19,862 --> 00:25:22,379 And then, to Paris for the day. 437 00:25:22,379 --> 00:25:24,379 Statler really wants to go there. 438 00:25:24,379 --> 00:25:26,068 Then into Switzerland. 439 00:25:30,586 --> 00:25:34,965 I'm glad to come and see you, and help me plan a bit 440 00:25:34,965 --> 00:25:37,172 because Statler's, like, 441 00:25:37,172 --> 00:25:41,241 finding the whole move really stressful. 442 00:25:41,241 --> 00:25:44,586 She's just, like, been like, "I'm too busy. 443 00:25:44,586 --> 00:25:47,965 I'm too stressed. I am shutting down. 444 00:25:47,965 --> 00:25:50,103 You're just gonna have to sort everything out and I'll just, 445 00:25:50,103 --> 00:25:53,000 like, kinda see you when I get there." And-- 446 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,034 So it's not being really 50/50 with preparing for the trip? 447 00:25:56,034 --> 00:25:58,034 - Yeah. And-- - Is that a bit of a red flag 448 00:25:58,034 --> 00:25:59,379 when it comes to how she might deal 449 00:25:59,379 --> 00:26:01,137 with bigger things? 450 00:26:03,275 --> 00:26:04,896 I don't think it's... 451 00:26:04,896 --> 00:26:06,862 I don't think it's a red flag. 452 00:26:06,862 --> 00:26:09,896 But I am worried, yeah, that it's... That this is... 453 00:26:09,896 --> 00:26:11,551 She's just a worrier all the time 454 00:26:11,551 --> 00:26:14,379 and she's not ever gonna be in the present. 455 00:26:14,379 --> 00:26:16,068 Or, like, what things... 456 00:26:16,068 --> 00:26:17,896 What little things are gonna stress her out 457 00:26:17,896 --> 00:26:19,827 'cause she says little things stress her out. 458 00:26:20,551 --> 00:26:22,379 Everything in a van is a little thing. 459 00:26:22,379 --> 00:26:24,172 - Yeah. - You've got such a little space. 460 00:26:24,172 --> 00:26:25,310 Yeah. 461 00:26:27,586 --> 00:26:29,655 Yeah, yeah. 462 00:26:31,551 --> 00:26:32,758 Yeah. 463 00:26:34,137 --> 00:26:35,896 Are you sure Statler is the right person 464 00:26:35,896 --> 00:26:37,517 to be doing the trip with? 465 00:26:38,379 --> 00:26:39,551 I don't know. 466 00:26:40,896 --> 00:26:42,896 I don't think that living in a van 467 00:26:42,896 --> 00:26:46,379 and traveling around is, like, her ideal. 468 00:26:46,379 --> 00:26:48,275 I think that she likes to have, like, 469 00:26:48,275 --> 00:26:50,344 more structure in her life and know where she's gonna be 470 00:26:50,344 --> 00:26:52,172 and what she's gonna do, and where she's gonna work, 471 00:26:52,172 --> 00:26:53,965 and stuff like that. 472 00:26:53,965 --> 00:26:56,482 Well, if she's got, like, halfway through your route 473 00:26:56,482 --> 00:26:58,448 and she's like, "I can't do this anymore." 474 00:26:59,344 --> 00:27:01,000 Well, I didn't really think that and-- 475 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:02,275 'Cause she could. 476 00:27:02,275 --> 00:27:03,931 She could, yeah. 477 00:27:05,275 --> 00:27:08,137 I really do want this relationship to work out. 478 00:27:08,137 --> 00:27:10,000 But the truth is, we really don't know 479 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,137 each other all that well. 480 00:27:11,137 --> 00:27:12,931 We are complete opposites. 481 00:27:13,586 --> 00:27:15,000 And I honestly really don't know 482 00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,448 what will happen between us 483 00:27:16,448 --> 00:27:18,620 if she can't handle life on the road. 484 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,448 I hope that it does, like, melt away a little bit, 485 00:27:23,448 --> 00:27:24,758 like, some of her anxieties 486 00:27:24,758 --> 00:27:26,068 and stuff when we are together. 487 00:27:26,068 --> 00:27:27,793 I hope that it is like that when you go away. 488 00:27:27,793 --> 00:27:30,379 - Yeah. Yeah. - 'Cause that... 489 00:27:30,379 --> 00:27:31,965 That is a bit of a worry as your friend. 490 00:27:31,965 --> 00:27:33,310 Yeah. 491 00:27:34,586 --> 00:27:36,275 So... 492 00:27:36,275 --> 00:27:37,379 It's gonna be tough times. 493 00:27:37,379 --> 00:27:39,103 - Yeah. - Tough times. 494 00:27:43,172 --> 00:27:44,862 When is she coming back? 495 00:27:46,137 --> 00:27:47,965 She's not coming back, 496 00:27:47,965 --> 00:27:50,793 I'm gonna go over and join her. 497 00:27:50,793 --> 00:27:54,000 Last time you did this to us, you went down to Florida, 498 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,896 left us high and dry. 499 00:27:55,896 --> 00:27:59,103 So I'm guessing you are quitting? 500 00:28:00,103 --> 00:28:02,827 Yeah. 501 00:28:09,758 --> 00:28:11,931 ♪ Maybe I won't 502 00:28:14,103 --> 00:28:16,448 ♪ Come back again 503 00:28:21,586 --> 00:28:22,655 Can you help me pack? 504 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,034 You gonna try to get in here 505 00:28:25,034 --> 00:28:26,448 is what you're gonna try to do. 506 00:28:26,448 --> 00:28:27,862 It's been about a month 507 00:28:27,862 --> 00:28:29,482 since Tata moved to Indonesia, 508 00:28:29,482 --> 00:28:32,655 and I'm getting ready to move there in about a week. 509 00:28:32,655 --> 00:28:34,689 You look so sad, little man. 510 00:28:34,689 --> 00:28:36,965 You miss mama too? 511 00:28:36,965 --> 00:28:39,137 This last month, I have been working 512 00:28:39,137 --> 00:28:40,758 as hard as possible 513 00:28:40,758 --> 00:28:44,275 to make as much money as I possibly can. 514 00:28:44,275 --> 00:28:46,068 I just got out of work, and, you know, 515 00:28:46,068 --> 00:28:47,655 I'm heading home now. 516 00:28:47,655 --> 00:28:49,379 There's already so much still for me to do 517 00:28:49,379 --> 00:28:53,000 before I leave, and I'm just mentally drained. 518 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,689 I got nothing left in the tank. 519 00:28:54,689 --> 00:28:57,482 I would cry tears, but I've already cried 'em all with Tata. 520 00:28:57,482 --> 00:28:59,482 Every time we're on the phone, we just sit there just crying, 521 00:28:59,482 --> 00:29:00,482 missing each other. 522 00:29:00,482 --> 00:29:01,655 It's just tough. 523 00:29:03,172 --> 00:29:05,379 Me and Tata talk every single day, 524 00:29:05,379 --> 00:29:08,379 but it's not the same as being beside each other. 525 00:29:08,379 --> 00:29:11,655 So I... I'm just ready to be with her again. 526 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,379 I'm on edge. 527 00:29:14,379 --> 00:29:16,655 I really been dragging my feet 528 00:29:16,655 --> 00:29:18,655 about telling my family, 529 00:29:18,655 --> 00:29:21,689 but I didn't know when was the right time to tell 'em. 530 00:29:21,689 --> 00:29:24,793 And then eventually took too long and now last minute, 531 00:29:24,793 --> 00:29:27,620 it's like I should have told them. 532 00:29:28,689 --> 00:29:32,655 This will be the second time I've done something like this. 533 00:29:33,793 --> 00:29:35,896 I was married once previously, 534 00:29:35,896 --> 00:29:39,896 and we were in Maine for about six months 535 00:29:39,896 --> 00:29:43,896 before my ex decided she didn't wanted 536 00:29:43,896 --> 00:29:45,448 to be here anymore due to the cold. 537 00:29:45,448 --> 00:29:49,586 So she made me move to Florida. 538 00:29:49,586 --> 00:29:51,793 I actually said I didn't wanna go, 539 00:29:51,793 --> 00:29:54,137 but at that point, she made it very clear 540 00:29:54,137 --> 00:29:57,379 that she was gonna go with or without me. 541 00:29:57,379 --> 00:30:00,172 When I left, my family had to downsize 542 00:30:00,172 --> 00:30:01,862 the entire company. 543 00:30:01,862 --> 00:30:03,275 There was not enough mechanics 544 00:30:03,275 --> 00:30:05,275 to do all the work. 545 00:30:05,275 --> 00:30:08,275 I felt guilty for leaving everybody else behind. 546 00:30:08,275 --> 00:30:10,655 And we were married for less than a year. 547 00:30:14,068 --> 00:30:15,758 Who is it? Who's outside? 548 00:30:15,758 --> 00:30:17,551 It's your favorite people. 549 00:30:17,551 --> 00:30:19,965 Yeah, it's your favorite people. 550 00:30:19,965 --> 00:30:21,793 Tonight, I invited my little brother, 551 00:30:21,793 --> 00:30:23,586 Jimmy, over, and his wife. 552 00:30:23,586 --> 00:30:26,241 And it's not gonna be fun, it's not gonna be easy. 553 00:30:26,241 --> 00:30:27,896 It's very last minute. 554 00:30:27,896 --> 00:30:30,137 I had plenty of time to tell them beforehand, 555 00:30:30,137 --> 00:30:33,344 and I should have just done it instead of waiting. 556 00:30:34,793 --> 00:30:36,482 Hi, Georgia. I missed you. 557 00:30:36,482 --> 00:30:39,000 Save some space for my wife. 558 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,793 He's been so depressed 'cause Tata has been gone. 559 00:30:41,793 --> 00:30:44,379 Aww. So how you been holding out 560 00:30:44,379 --> 00:30:45,689 being alone in this place? 561 00:30:45,689 --> 00:30:46,896 I've been hanging in there. 562 00:30:46,896 --> 00:30:48,379 It's tough. It's tough. 563 00:30:48,379 --> 00:30:50,206 When is she coming back? 564 00:30:51,241 --> 00:30:52,344 Uh... 565 00:30:56,655 --> 00:31:00,655 so she's actually not planning on coming back... 566 00:31:02,655 --> 00:31:05,551 because I'm gonna go over and join her. 567 00:31:07,896 --> 00:31:09,931 - Oh. - In Indonesia. 568 00:31:11,896 --> 00:31:14,103 So when are you coming back? 569 00:31:15,068 --> 00:31:16,862 We're not coming back. 570 00:31:19,241 --> 00:31:22,000 - You're not coming back? - You're not coming back. 571 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:23,586 - Okay. Hang on. - Like... 572 00:31:23,586 --> 00:31:25,241 What do you mean you're not coming back? 573 00:31:25,241 --> 00:31:26,862 Like, ever? 574 00:31:28,103 --> 00:31:31,344 She's had a hard time acclimating to being here. 575 00:31:32,275 --> 00:31:35,413 So plan's to permanently make the move over there. 576 00:31:37,793 --> 00:31:40,172 And I leave in a week. 577 00:31:40,172 --> 00:31:42,344 You leave in a week? 578 00:31:42,344 --> 00:31:45,896 And Mom and Dad do not know, so... 579 00:31:45,896 --> 00:31:47,517 I mean, you gotta tell them. 580 00:31:48,551 --> 00:31:50,965 Yes, I'm gonna be telling them tomorrow. 581 00:31:51,655 --> 00:31:55,000 So I'm guessing you're quitting? 582 00:31:57,586 --> 00:32:00,517 Yeah. 583 00:32:04,482 --> 00:32:07,620 Yeah. Well, that sucks. 584 00:32:10,103 --> 00:32:12,793 But last time you did this to us, 585 00:32:12,793 --> 00:32:14,241 you went down to Florida. 586 00:32:14,241 --> 00:32:16,655 You definitely left us high and dry. 587 00:32:17,275 --> 00:32:18,655 I know, but Florida was a completely 588 00:32:18,655 --> 00:32:20,344 different circumstance entirely. 589 00:32:20,344 --> 00:32:21,965 Like, there was definitely a different situation 590 00:32:21,965 --> 00:32:23,862 for different reasons. 591 00:32:23,862 --> 00:32:28,137 Last time going to Florida, you did it for... 592 00:32:28,137 --> 00:32:29,379 Her. the other person. 593 00:32:29,379 --> 00:32:31,448 This time going to Indonesia, 594 00:32:31,448 --> 00:32:32,793 you're doing it for? 595 00:32:32,793 --> 00:32:34,000 For her. Okay. 596 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,172 But-- - So it's completely 597 00:32:35,172 --> 00:32:36,586 different reasons, though. 598 00:32:36,586 --> 00:32:38,000 With the other one, I didn't have a choice in that. 599 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,275 I didn't have a say in that. 600 00:32:39,275 --> 00:32:40,655 With this, out of love, 601 00:32:40,655 --> 00:32:42,241 I was willing to do it for her. 602 00:32:43,896 --> 00:32:45,586 I mean, you don't know Indonesian. 603 00:32:45,586 --> 00:32:46,965 You don't know their culture. 604 00:32:46,965 --> 00:32:49,000 Actually, the language is one of my bigger issues with... 605 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,379 Over there, because I know her dad, 606 00:32:50,379 --> 00:32:53,172 when we got engaged, 607 00:32:53,172 --> 00:32:55,482 one of the three promises that he made me promise 608 00:32:55,482 --> 00:32:57,551 was that I would learn the language. 609 00:32:57,551 --> 00:32:59,137 And how are you doing? 610 00:32:59,137 --> 00:33:02,172 I can ask where is something, 611 00:33:02,172 --> 00:33:04,379 but that's everything I got. 612 00:33:04,379 --> 00:33:07,689 One was the language barrier, and the other was? 613 00:33:07,689 --> 00:33:09,310 Always providing for her. 614 00:33:10,137 --> 00:33:12,689 And the third one was to make sure 615 00:33:12,689 --> 00:33:14,655 that they had grandbabies. 616 00:33:15,793 --> 00:33:18,896 - And you promised? - It was a condition... 617 00:33:18,896 --> 00:33:20,586 Okay. - of the marriage. Yeah. 618 00:33:20,586 --> 00:33:22,862 And how are you doing on that department? 619 00:33:23,379 --> 00:33:24,862 Maybe I'm shooting blanks, 620 00:33:24,862 --> 00:33:26,413 or maybe we're using protection, so... 621 00:33:27,137 --> 00:33:28,758 Which one is it? 622 00:33:28,758 --> 00:33:31,068 Nah, definitely the protection. 623 00:33:31,068 --> 00:33:34,551 - That'll do it. - Uh, I mean, yeah, that's... 624 00:33:37,862 --> 00:33:40,172 'Cause I don't really wanna have kids, so... 625 00:33:40,172 --> 00:33:41,551 You don't wanna have kids ever? 626 00:33:41,551 --> 00:33:42,793 Not right now. 627 00:33:42,793 --> 00:33:44,103 Not with the state of the world and everything. 628 00:33:44,103 --> 00:33:45,586 I mean, it terrifies me 629 00:33:45,586 --> 00:33:47,931 of what you'd be bringing a child into. 630 00:33:49,586 --> 00:33:52,965 When I made the promises, that was five years ago 631 00:33:52,965 --> 00:33:54,689 and the world was a different place. 632 00:33:54,689 --> 00:33:57,137 After COVID hit, that changed my views 633 00:33:57,137 --> 00:33:58,793 on a lot of things in the world. 634 00:33:58,793 --> 00:34:00,379 There was quite a coldness 635 00:34:00,379 --> 00:34:02,068 and there was a lot of hate. 636 00:34:02,068 --> 00:34:05,896 So I'm not sure children are in the cards for me. 637 00:34:05,896 --> 00:34:07,586 Does Tata want to have kids? 638 00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:10,689 - Yeah. - Have you talked to her about that? 639 00:34:10,689 --> 00:34:14,034 I don't wanna bring up that discussion until we... 640 00:34:14,034 --> 00:34:15,793 We're steady on our feet anyways. 641 00:34:15,793 --> 00:34:17,275 We're doing this whole move. 642 00:34:17,275 --> 00:34:19,103 Like, there's no point to bring that up 643 00:34:19,103 --> 00:34:21,793 and try to throw more drama into the whole situation. 644 00:34:21,793 --> 00:34:23,586 I'm just trying to show her that I'm willing 645 00:34:23,586 --> 00:34:26,586 to do anything for her out of love for her. 646 00:34:26,586 --> 00:34:27,896 Right, but is children one of them? 647 00:34:27,896 --> 00:34:29,310 Will you give her a child one day? 648 00:34:30,758 --> 00:34:32,862 I don't know. I can't answer that question. That's... 649 00:34:32,862 --> 00:34:34,655 I can't answer that yet. But that is really important. 650 00:34:34,655 --> 00:34:36,655 I would just hate to see you go through all this work 651 00:34:36,655 --> 00:34:39,103 to get there and establish yourself 652 00:34:39,103 --> 00:34:41,965 and then for your relationship to be hurt 653 00:34:41,965 --> 00:34:43,482 because you hadn't told her that you actually 654 00:34:43,482 --> 00:34:44,793 don't want kids one day. 655 00:34:44,793 --> 00:34:46,379 I've seen marriages fail 656 00:34:46,379 --> 00:34:48,724 because someone didn't talk about that soon enough. 657 00:34:50,275 --> 00:34:53,517 Meitalia will always be the priority in my life. 658 00:34:54,482 --> 00:34:57,137 I am moving to Indonesia for Tata. 659 00:34:57,137 --> 00:34:59,551 I'm leaving everything behind, 660 00:34:59,551 --> 00:35:02,724 but I know decisions have huge consequences. 661 00:35:03,689 --> 00:35:08,379 If I say I don't want to have children, period, 662 00:35:08,379 --> 00:35:10,758 I'm not sure how Tata will accept that. 663 00:35:10,758 --> 00:35:12,655 That could cause the biggest rift 664 00:35:12,655 --> 00:35:14,448 that could possibly break us apart. 665 00:35:14,896 --> 00:35:16,965 And I can't lose her. 666 00:35:18,758 --> 00:35:19,862 Good luck. 667 00:35:34,068 --> 00:35:35,965 Baby. 668 00:35:35,965 --> 00:35:37,965 I will hug her. I will touch her. 669 00:35:37,965 --> 00:35:40,103 I will [bleep] her. Everything. 670 00:36:11,482 --> 00:36:14,758 Today, Shekinah is returning to Istanbul, finally. 671 00:36:14,758 --> 00:36:17,275 And I feel so excited 672 00:36:17,275 --> 00:36:20,172 because three and a half months. 673 00:36:23,551 --> 00:36:25,448 Father, Son and Holy Spirit. 674 00:36:34,310 --> 00:36:38,655 Finally, she is coming, and she's bringing Adonis. 675 00:36:38,655 --> 00:36:42,379 So it will be the first time that I will live with a dog. 676 00:37:13,034 --> 00:37:16,034 Adonis is one of her beloved things. 677 00:37:16,034 --> 00:37:17,689 So she's bringing, 678 00:37:17,689 --> 00:37:20,103 it means that she wants to be here with me. 679 00:37:28,586 --> 00:37:32,517 We are here finally in Istanbul. 680 00:37:34,137 --> 00:37:35,724 I can't wait to see Sarper. 681 00:37:36,103 --> 00:37:37,965 It's been so long. 682 00:37:45,793 --> 00:37:49,758 I missed Shekinah too much, I mean, so much. 683 00:37:49,758 --> 00:37:52,448 It's not sexually missing only. 684 00:37:54,620 --> 00:37:56,103 It is emotionally. 685 00:37:56,103 --> 00:37:58,482 I mean, I feel alone without her. 686 00:38:17,344 --> 00:38:18,448 Baby. 687 00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,793 I miss you. - I miss you too. 688 00:38:37,068 --> 00:38:38,620 - Okay, baby. - Huh? 689 00:38:40,482 --> 00:38:42,517 I love you so much. 690 00:38:43,137 --> 00:38:44,758 Forget this moment, okay? 691 00:38:44,758 --> 00:38:46,586 - Forget it? - Yeah. 692 00:38:46,586 --> 00:38:49,206 - I will never forget it. - Don't see me that weak again. 693 00:38:49,206 --> 00:38:51,068 Baby, it's not weak. 694 00:38:53,344 --> 00:38:56,793 Sarper's a water sign so he's full of emotion. 695 00:38:56,793 --> 00:38:57,862 Yeah. 696 00:38:59,172 --> 00:39:01,965 You wanna meet your son Adonis? 697 00:39:03,724 --> 00:39:06,379 But I never saw him cry like that. 698 00:39:06,379 --> 00:39:09,000 But I normally show my passion in other ways. 699 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,379 - I know, yeah. - Not this way, you know? 700 00:39:11,379 --> 00:39:13,724 Come here. Oh. 701 00:39:13,724 --> 00:39:16,379 Hold it for me. Hold it for me. 702 00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,241 - Okay. - He's a big baby. 703 00:39:18,241 --> 00:39:19,586 - Yes. - Oh. 704 00:39:19,586 --> 00:39:21,413 Yes. Oh, my gosh. 705 00:39:21,413 --> 00:39:22,793 - I know. You're gonna-- - So cute. 706 00:39:22,793 --> 00:39:24,034 You're gonna love to have him, baby. 707 00:39:24,034 --> 00:39:25,482 He's so cute. 708 00:39:26,551 --> 00:39:28,103 This time coming to Turkey, 709 00:39:28,103 --> 00:39:30,413 you know, I'm bringing Adonis. 710 00:39:30,413 --> 00:39:33,689 So it's like we're starting our own little family. 711 00:39:35,413 --> 00:39:37,517 Adonis, 712 00:39:38,241 --> 00:39:41,862 I'm not crying normally, okay? 713 00:39:43,172 --> 00:39:45,896 I wanna believe that the time apart made us stronger, 714 00:39:45,896 --> 00:39:47,724 but like there were some hard moments. 715 00:39:48,724 --> 00:39:51,724 So we have things that I wanna discuss. 716 00:39:52,758 --> 00:39:56,000 But let's try to solve it as calm as possible. 717 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,724 - Okay? - Yes. Okay. 718 00:40:06,793 --> 00:40:08,551 Home, home, sweet home. 719 00:40:12,862 --> 00:40:14,517 I will hug her. I will touch her. 720 00:40:14,517 --> 00:40:17,068 I will [bleep] her. Everything. 721 00:40:17,068 --> 00:40:18,862 Everything I miss about her. 722 00:40:20,206 --> 00:40:22,344 Your new home. Are you ready? 723 00:40:23,206 --> 00:40:24,724 Go. Yes. 724 00:40:33,620 --> 00:40:35,586 Honestly, I'm not happy to walk in 725 00:40:35,586 --> 00:40:37,068 and see that still here. 726 00:40:39,379 --> 00:40:42,965 The first thing I see are the bottles. 727 00:40:42,965 --> 00:40:45,551 I kind of thought Sarper is gonna surprise me 728 00:40:45,551 --> 00:40:47,379 and I'm gonna walk in and they're gonna be gone, 729 00:40:47,379 --> 00:40:49,310 but that's not the case, 730 00:40:49,862 --> 00:40:52,965 and it really pisses me off. 731 00:40:55,793 --> 00:40:57,689 I know. I know. You don't like it. 732 00:40:57,689 --> 00:40:58,724 Give it time and you'll just-- 733 00:40:58,724 --> 00:40:59,758 - I hate it. - You'll just-- 734 00:40:59,758 --> 00:41:00,758 It's not that I don't like it. 735 00:41:00,758 --> 00:41:02,241 - I mean... I didn't-- - I literally hate it. 736 00:41:06,655 --> 00:41:07,793 Oh, my God. 737 00:41:10,620 --> 00:41:13,793 Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way. 738 00:41:13,793 --> 00:41:15,275 We have landed. 739 00:41:15,275 --> 00:41:17,586 Can't wait to get off this plane. 740 00:41:18,482 --> 00:41:22,413 Is it common for men in China not to work? 741 00:41:29,586 --> 00:41:33,482 I guess we had a miscommunication on money. 742 00:41:33,482 --> 00:41:35,965 We can't afford the van. 743 00:41:35,965 --> 00:41:38,206 I'm supposed to get on a plane tomorrow, 744 00:41:38,206 --> 00:41:40,137 and I don't wanna be homeless when I get to England. 745 00:41:43,034 --> 00:41:45,137 Like we spoke about that time and time again. 746 00:41:46,275 --> 00:41:48,448 Anywhere else? 747 00:41:48,448 --> 00:41:51,206 I can handle Iceland? Can Iceland handle me? 748 00:41:51,206 --> 00:41:53,551 There's no one on earth that I would choose 749 00:41:53,551 --> 00:41:57,000 to like derail my dreams than Ingi. 750 00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,034 Hi. 751 00:42:16,413 --> 00:42:18,344 I'm just tired of this. 752 00:42:18,344 --> 00:42:20,344 Make peace with it. It's not a big deal. 753 00:42:20,344 --> 00:42:22,310 - Make peace with it? - Yes. 754 00:42:22,310 --> 00:42:23,793 You make peace with this. 755 00:42:23,793 --> 00:42:26,724 This is 143 pages of a love letter 756 00:42:26,724 --> 00:42:27,965 that my ex-boyfriend wrote me. 757 00:42:29,137 --> 00:42:31,034 He's making me question 758 00:42:31,034 --> 00:42:33,068 why I even came back to Turkey.