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[man] <i>Previously on</i>
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.

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[Shekinah] Just one more week,
and then I'll see you.

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<i>Sarper and I,
we're really having a lot</i>

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of financial difficulties
in Turkiye.

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<i>So I came back to the US,</i>

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but it affected
our relationship a lot.

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[in foreign language]

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[Sarper speaking]

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[in foreign language]

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James told me that he wasn't
excited about having kids.

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What?

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Jojo is not gonna be able
to come with us.

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[Meitalia speaking]

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I'm sorry.

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[crying]

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Jojo.

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[singer]
<i>♪ I'm seeing the light now</i>

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<i>♪ How to make things
Right now ♪</i>

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<i>♪ Stop chasing empty set</i>

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<i>♪ Start looking
For a pure love ♪</i>

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[singer vocalizing]

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<i>♪ I'm looking for
A pure love ♪</i>

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Let's go downstairs
one at a time.

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If you can just help me
because they're heavy.

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I'm really excited
to go back to Turkiye.

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I can't wait to see Sarper.

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I've missed him so much.

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Oh.

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<i>We've been apart
for a whole three months,</i>

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and it's been so hard on us.

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Oh, wait. Your dog's in my...

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Adonis, get in the back.

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Are you driving us
to the airport, sir?

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<i>We've had some
really big fights.</i>

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He tried to break up with me.

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<i>Plus, there are two things
from Sarper's past</i>

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<i>that have been a continuous
thorn in our relationship.</i>

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His sleazy black book
of women he slept with

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and his bottle collection.

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[Julia] So, how do you feel
about going back?

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We hit a bump in the road,

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you know, with him
finding that book of his.

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And so he still has this book?

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He still has the book
and the bottle collection.

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[woman]
You also have that freaking
bottle collection of yours.

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What is the significance
of the bottle collection?

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It's nothing,
it's just a collection.

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He has a memory with
each bottle with a female.

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[gasps]

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[Shekinah]
And he keeps all the bottles.

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[woman] What the [bleep]

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[Shekinah] I said,
"I'm not coming back

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until you get rid of them."

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But you're going back.

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But I'm going back

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because he wants to talk
about this in person.

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[Julia]
I think you need to put
your foot down more with him.

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I mean, you have to stand up
for yourself, right?

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I will.

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And if it doesn't happen
quickly,

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I'm gonna pull out my book,
you know.

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What do you have?

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My very first boyfriend
when I was 16-years-old,

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wrote me a letter
that's 143 pages long.

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- I'm sorry, what?
- Yes.

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<i>He went to the boarding
school that I went to</i>

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and we were madly in love

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and we were forbidden
from speaking to each other.

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We couldn't even be
in the same room together,

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<i>because it was a very strict
Christian school.</i>

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So we resorted
to writing letters

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and he wrote me
a 143-page letter,

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and I saved it for many years

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<i>because it was just really
very special to me</i>

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and it was, like,
the longest letter

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I'd ever heard of.

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I was like, "Let me just bring
this with me to Turkiye...

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- And see--
- and put this in...

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Give him a dose
of his own medicine

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and see how he does
with something from my past."

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Because I have been so patient
with him

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and he should know
that I mean business.

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[dramatic music playing]

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- [Shekinah] Let's do this.
- [Julia] Let's do it.

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[Shekinah] <i>Sarper is the man
that I've chosen to be with.</i>

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I am madly in love with him

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<i>and I want to spend
the rest of my life with him,</i>

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but I don't know
how we can make

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a bigger commitment
like marriage

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when he's still holding on
to his past.

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He needs to show me
that he can be the man

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that I need him to be.

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He's all checked in.

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I hope he does okay
on the flight.

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[Julia] He'll be okay.

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Be safe.

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- [Shekinah] Oh, thank you.
- [Julia] Be good.

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Remember what we talked
about in the car.

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- Yeah.
- Hold your grounds.

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- Mmm-hmm.
- Be strong.

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Yeah. Hey, don't make me cry
and stuff.

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Make sure you get
what you deserve.

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- Yeah.
- [Julia] Okay?

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- Mmm-hmm.
- [Julia] Love you.

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Love you too. Thank you.

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[upbeat music playing]

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[singer] <i>♪ I've been
On this road for so long ♪</i>

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<i>♪ I know it somewhere
Up ahead ♪</i>

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<i>♪ But I can't get that
On my own my own ♪</i>

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[Dempsey speaking]

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[singer]
<i>♪ Yeah, it's a long road</i>

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<i>♪ To be all right</i>

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I'm Dempsey, I'm 29,

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and I live in
Darlington, England...

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for now.

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[man speaking]

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This is so nerve wracking.

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I'm selling my caravan today.

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It was the last thing
for me to sell.

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I sold my car already,

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<i>a TV, literally everything.</i>

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[laughs]

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And I'm just...
All I'm left with is clothes.

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That's it.

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Where are you moving to?

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[Dempsey speaking]

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and I'm gonna live in there
and travel full time.

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Wow.

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I've loved my home
and it served its purpose,

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<i>but I don't really have
like attachment</i>

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<i>to things or places.</i>

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I'd like to just
go with the flow.

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[man speaking]

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- Thank you. Thank you for...
- All right? All right.

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- moving the trailer.
- Yeah. No problem, love.

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- Thank you very much.
- [Dempsey] Thank you.

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[laughs]

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It feels amazing.
I'm so, so excited.

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Yay.

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[Dempsey speaking]

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'Cause I've always wanted
to travel

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and I've always imagine myself
living in a van.

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And I'm so glad that I've got
somebody to share that with.

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[orchestra music playing]

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Oh, it's so nice.

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Yes, Charles,
I'll take a wine now.

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There's nobody named Charles
in here, it's just me.

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My name's Statler.

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I'm 33-years-old
and I'm from Irving, Texas.

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Bubble beard.

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I am a quirky weirdo.

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<i>I think I'm funny,</i>

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but I don't know
if anyone else does.

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[chuckles]

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This is going to be
my last bath

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for the foreseeable future.

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I'm moving across the pond.

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[shrieks]

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<i>I should be packing</i>

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<i>because I have an infinite
number of things to do,</i>

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but I'm overwhelmed.
[chuckles]

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I guess one of the reasons
I get overstimulated

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and, like, stressed out
is ADHD,

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my little neurospicy brain.

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I was recently diagnosed
with a little bit of autism.

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So that's a little extra spice
to add to the mix.

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<i>I always knew my brain
was a bit different.</i>

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<i>I can't get anything done.
I fidget constantly.</i>

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I get tons of anxiety attacks.

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I prefer to spend
all of my time alone.

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[chuckles]

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<i>I didn't get diagnosed
with ADHD and autism</i>

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<i>until I was 30-years-old.</i>

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When I finally did get
diagnosed,

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it was just kind of like
an AHA moment.

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Everything about me
made sense finally.

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How I acted, how I thought,
it just all clicked.

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Usually I end my bath
by taking a pee.

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[producer speaking]

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Yeah.

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It's just a slight freedom,

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like nobody can tell me
what to do.

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I'm peeing in my own bath.

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Go after yourself.

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[upbeat music playing]

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[Statler] Holy [bleep] okay.

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- [Dempsey] <i>Hey.</i>
- Hi.

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I miss you.

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<i>I miss you, too.</i>

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My girlfriend's name
is Dempsey

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<i>and we met on a dating app
about a year ago.</i>

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<i>She's the most amazing woman
I've ever met.</i>

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<i>She's so kind.</i>

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<i>She laughs at everything that
I say which is pretty cool.</i>

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And she's got the best body
of anyone I've ever dated.

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You know, usually girls
have either boobs or butt,

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but she has both.

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That's very nice.

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[laughs]

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That's creepy. I love it.

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Yeah, I don't know
how you do it.

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[Dempsey laughs]

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[Statler] <i>After seven months
of talking online,</i>

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I flew to England
to meet Dempsey.

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Hi.

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I can't believe
you're actually here.

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[Statler] I can't believe
you're a person.

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<i>She was everything I expected
and a lot more.</i>

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These are all
Thailand insects?

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- Stop it.
- Yeah.

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I detoured my whole trip
to get you those dead insects.

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That's the most romantic thing
anyone's ever done.

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I was super attracted
to Statler straight away.

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<i>Her curls, her smile,</i>

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<i>and she makes me laugh.</i>

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I've never felt this way
about anybody before.

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[Dempsey speaking]

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[Statler]
<i>Straight out of a movie.</i>

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I love you.

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Yeah, I also love you.

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- Wow, that's...
- [Dempsey] Cool.

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that's romantic.

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[chuckles]

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<i>We clicked instantly</i>

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but we weren't always
on the same page

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about our relationship.

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So I think, like,
the next step is, like,

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me moving to England with you.

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I just think that we should,
like, take things slow and

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[dramatic music playing]

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If you wanted kids badly,

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then, I don't think
it would work between us,

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because I really don't.

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I really don't want kids.

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Why are you acting... Like,
can you freaking talk to me?

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You just said our relationship
is not gonna work.

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[Dempsey speaking]

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[suspenseful music playing]

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How's packing going?

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<i>I've got a stye on my eye</i>

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<i>from being stressed
the past few days.</i>

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Hey, my right eye
has been twitching nonstop.

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<i>My left.</i>

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Whoa, we're, like...

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- [Dempsey] <i>In sync.</i>
- lesbians.

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[Dempsey laughter]

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<i>Despite our differences</i>

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00:11:50,482 --> 00:11:52,931
and the fact that Dempsey
and I have only met once,

249
00:11:52,931 --> 00:11:54,689
<i>we know we want
to be together</i>

250
00:11:54,689 --> 00:11:56,482
<i>and we're ready
to take the next step.</i>

251
00:11:56,482 --> 00:11:58,068
[upbeat music playing]

252
00:11:58,068 --> 00:11:59,896
You can move in with me
if you want.

253
00:11:59,896 --> 00:12:02,000
Live with you, in England?

254
00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:03,413
Yeah, it would be nice.

255
00:12:03,413 --> 00:12:05,275
I love you so much.

256
00:12:05,275 --> 00:12:06,620
I love you too.

257
00:12:06,620 --> 00:12:07,827
I have a pretty good job

258
00:12:07,827 --> 00:12:10,482
working finance at a freight
logistics company,

259
00:12:10,482 --> 00:12:12,103
and because
we all work remote,

260
00:12:12,103 --> 00:12:13,241
I can go anywhere.

261
00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,793
So we will be living
in a camper van

262
00:12:16,793 --> 00:12:18,620
and constantly moving.

263
00:12:18,620 --> 00:12:22,310
<i>This has definitely been
a lifelong dream of Dempsey's</i>

264
00:12:22,310 --> 00:12:24,586
and it felt really brave
when I agreed to this,

265
00:12:24,586 --> 00:12:26,655
but now I'm freaking out.

266
00:12:28,172 --> 00:12:29,827
[Dempsey]
<i>Are you ready to move?</i>

267
00:12:29,827 --> 00:12:32,482
[Statler] It's just a lot.
I feel overwhelmed.

268
00:12:32,482 --> 00:12:34,586
I... You know,
I was just like,

269
00:12:34,586 --> 00:12:37,482
adventure, excitement, yay.

270
00:12:37,482 --> 00:12:40,103
And I didn't really think
about the logistics of it.

271
00:12:40,103 --> 00:12:45,068
And it's like, whoa,
this is a lot to take on.

272
00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:47,586
<i>Dempsey sold me the idea,</i>

273
00:12:47,586 --> 00:12:50,793
kind of, this like
carefree and easygoing,

274
00:12:50,793 --> 00:12:52,793
and it's actually been
a lot of decisions

275
00:12:52,793 --> 00:12:54,586
and super hectic.

276
00:12:54,586 --> 00:12:58,068
<i>And with my ADHD
and the way my brain works,</i>

277
00:12:58,068 --> 00:13:00,827
it's really been overwhelming
for me.

278
00:13:00,827 --> 00:13:03,827
So I'm just kind
of checked out.

279
00:13:03,827 --> 00:13:06,275
I have anxiety about, like,
leaving the country

280
00:13:06,275 --> 00:13:07,896
and living in a van,

281
00:13:07,896 --> 00:13:09,896
traveling full time
for the first time

282
00:13:09,896 --> 00:13:13,068
and just being worried

283
00:13:13,068 --> 00:13:16,482
about all of that
just paralyzes me.

284
00:13:16,482 --> 00:13:17,689
<i>Yeah.</i>

285
00:13:21,689 --> 00:13:23,379
<i>You're just, like,
I don't wanna talk.</i>

286
00:13:23,379 --> 00:13:25,068
- [Statler] Yeah.
<i>- You deal with it all,</i>

287
00:13:25,068 --> 00:13:27,379
<i>and I'll see you when I land.</i>

288
00:13:27,379 --> 00:13:29,793
Yeah, you have done
the majority of everything,

289
00:13:29,793 --> 00:13:32,275
so I appreciate that.

290
00:13:32,275 --> 00:13:35,172
<i>You are excited about this,
aren't you?</i>

291
00:13:35,172 --> 00:13:37,206
Yes. Yeah. Absolutely.

292
00:13:37,206 --> 00:13:42,379
It's just behind
all of the feelings of terror.

293
00:13:42,379 --> 00:13:46,517
I tend to overwhelm
people sometimes

294
00:13:46,517 --> 00:13:50,379
because I do get overwhelmed,

295
00:13:50,379 --> 00:13:55,586
and then lash out
or just freeze.

296
00:13:55,586 --> 00:13:58,827
And with past relationships,
people have not liked that.

297
00:13:58,827 --> 00:14:01,000
<i>Yeah.</i>

298
00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,896
<i>It's obviously something that
we're just gonna have to see</i>

299
00:14:03,896 --> 00:14:05,206
<i>how it unfolds, isn't it?</i>

300
00:14:05,206 --> 00:14:06,793
[Statler] Yeah.

301
00:14:06,793 --> 00:14:10,379
This is not something
I would normally do

302
00:14:10,379 --> 00:14:12,206
if I were not in love.

303
00:14:12,206 --> 00:14:14,482
<i>I'm not just moving
countries,</i>

304
00:14:14,482 --> 00:14:17,310
<i>I'm learning a new way life.</i>

305
00:14:17,310 --> 00:14:18,586
[laughs]

306
00:14:18,586 --> 00:14:21,896
<i>If it were a vacation,
it would be nice and easy,</i>

307
00:14:21,896 --> 00:14:23,517
and I could
come back afterwards

308
00:14:23,517 --> 00:14:26,000
and, you know,
have my bathtub and my shower,

309
00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,103
and my washing machine.

310
00:14:28,103 --> 00:14:29,482
But this, like...

311
00:14:29,482 --> 00:14:32,655
<i>I think on paper,
this sounds very romantic...</i>

312
00:14:33,586 --> 00:14:35,689
No, I think on paper
it also sounds crazy.

313
00:14:35,689 --> 00:14:37,103
Actually, it all...
It's crazy.

314
00:14:37,103 --> 00:14:39,448
I know it's crazy.
It feels crazy.

315
00:14:40,724 --> 00:14:43,689
I just hope I don't end up
homeless and heartbroken

316
00:14:43,689 --> 00:14:45,482
in the middle of Europe.

317
00:14:45,482 --> 00:14:47,000
<i>I'm not scared.</i>

318
00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:48,862
[Statler]
<i>I'm not scared either ever.</i>

319
00:14:50,172 --> 00:14:51,896
I'm, like, terrified,

320
00:14:51,896 --> 00:14:53,413
which is different
than scared,

321
00:14:53,413 --> 00:14:55,793
if you look up the definition.

322
00:15:01,620 --> 00:15:03,517
[James] Well then, what are we
gonna do for a job?

323
00:15:03,517 --> 00:15:06,206
If we can't go there
and have any type of a life,

324
00:15:06,206 --> 00:15:07,448
why would we do this?

325
00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:15,655
[rock music playing]

326
00:15:18,793 --> 00:15:21,482
[Meitalia speaking]

327
00:15:21,482 --> 00:15:23,758
[James] I'm all set.
I'm all set.

328
00:15:31,379 --> 00:15:32,620
Huh.

329
00:15:32,620 --> 00:15:35,068
[dog barking]

330
00:15:35,068 --> 00:15:38,068
[Meitalia speaking]

331
00:15:40,620 --> 00:15:42,793
[James] I'm not ready
for you to be gone.

332
00:15:42,793 --> 00:15:44,379
[Meitalia speaking]

333
00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:11,965
[James] Last time
we're driving down this road.

334
00:16:14,862 --> 00:16:18,689
I just really hope and pray
this all works out

335
00:16:18,689 --> 00:16:21,379
the way we're hoping
and bringing Jojo over...

336
00:16:21,379 --> 00:16:22,517
I know.

337
00:16:22,517 --> 00:16:24,068
having him with us. That's--

338
00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,551
[James] I know you would be.

339
00:16:36,793 --> 00:16:39,517
Between a month
to a month and a half,

340
00:16:39,517 --> 00:16:41,000
that's the plan.

341
00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,482
I'm gonna be just working
as much as I can

342
00:16:43,482 --> 00:16:44,689
while I'm here

343
00:16:44,689 --> 00:16:46,000
'cause that's gonna be what

344
00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,517
we'll have for money
over there.

345
00:16:48,517 --> 00:16:51,689
And then, I'm gonna try
to work for your family.

346
00:16:59,586 --> 00:17:01,206
[James] Well then,
what are we gonna do for a job

347
00:17:01,206 --> 00:17:03,172
'cause you said
it was gonna be a job

348
00:17:03,172 --> 00:17:05,275
but now you're telling me
I'm not gonna make any money

349
00:17:05,275 --> 00:17:06,862
working for them?

350
00:17:10,379 --> 00:17:12,586
Okay. Then why did we
make that our plan

351
00:17:12,586 --> 00:17:14,275
that we were gonna
do that as a job?

352
00:17:14,275 --> 00:17:15,586
No, if we... if we--

353
00:17:15,586 --> 00:17:18,413
If we can't go there
and have any type of a life,

354
00:17:18,413 --> 00:17:19,896
why would we do this?

355
00:17:19,896 --> 00:17:21,275
And I'm not gonna move
somewhere

356
00:17:21,275 --> 00:17:23,551
if I can't take care of you.

357
00:17:25,482 --> 00:17:27,103
That's very unsettling.

358
00:17:27,103 --> 00:17:28,862
[grunts]

359
00:17:36,310 --> 00:17:37,896
[James] We're buying
the chips from him,

360
00:17:37,896 --> 00:17:39,413
and then we're selling them
ourselves?

361
00:17:39,413 --> 00:17:41,310
Commission?

362
00:17:41,310 --> 00:17:42,482
Well, that's what
you should have said.

363
00:17:42,482 --> 00:17:44,344
But to say that, "Oh, you're
not gonna make any money."

364
00:17:52,103 --> 00:17:54,931
So how long do you think
it'll take us

365
00:17:54,931 --> 00:17:58,000
before we make
any type of money?

366
00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,344
[Meitalia speaking]

367
00:18:06,793 --> 00:18:08,689
[James]
You're making it sound like

368
00:18:08,689 --> 00:18:10,103
it's not gonna be profitable.

369
00:18:10,103 --> 00:18:11,793
Like yes or no, are we gonna
make money or not?

370
00:18:11,793 --> 00:18:13,000
Yes or no?

371
00:18:18,689 --> 00:18:21,103
[sighs] I hate that
we're having this conversation

372
00:18:21,103 --> 00:18:22,965
right here right now.

373
00:18:31,172 --> 00:18:34,275
[dramatic music playing]

374
00:18:35,206 --> 00:18:36,551
[machine beeping]

375
00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:41,758
[Meitalia speaking]

376
00:18:56,689 --> 00:18:59,482
[James speaking]

377
00:19:05,862 --> 00:19:07,379
I didn't say that.

378
00:19:10,206 --> 00:19:12,517
I don't feel as confident
about us being able to be,

379
00:19:12,517 --> 00:19:13,620
like, success over there

380
00:19:13,620 --> 00:19:15,000
and me being able
to provide for you.

381
00:19:18,379 --> 00:19:19,862
[Meitalia speaking]

382
00:19:21,620 --> 00:19:23,689
But what do I always say?

383
00:19:23,689 --> 00:19:26,689
No matter how mad you get,
speak in love,

384
00:19:26,689 --> 00:19:28,482
because at the end of the day,
we're still--

385
00:19:28,482 --> 00:19:31,275
Love, love, love, love, love.
Is that what you want?

386
00:19:31,275 --> 00:19:32,758
[sighs]

387
00:19:33,689 --> 00:19:36,206
[James]
Do you wanna leave angry at me

388
00:19:36,206 --> 00:19:38,586
knowing we're not gonna see
each other?

389
00:19:38,586 --> 00:19:40,137
[Meitalia] No.

390
00:20:14,896 --> 00:20:16,241
[sniffling]

391
00:20:20,172 --> 00:20:22,862
[Meitalia speaking]

392
00:20:25,275 --> 00:20:28,758
[melancholic music playing]

393
00:20:31,931 --> 00:20:34,241
I'm gonna miss
the smell of you.

394
00:20:35,482 --> 00:20:37,000
I'm gonna miss you.

395
00:20:43,206 --> 00:20:44,551
I love you.

396
00:20:46,517 --> 00:20:48,000
See you soon.

397
00:20:50,862 --> 00:20:52,551
I love you.

398
00:21:01,931 --> 00:21:05,034
[crying]

399
00:21:11,206 --> 00:21:14,448
[singer] <i>♪ I felt it
But couldn't say ♪</i>

400
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,000
<i>♪ What you should've changed</i>

401
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,517
[James]
<i>I feel devastated right now</i>

402
00:21:18,517 --> 00:21:20,379
'cause I don't know
when I get to see her next.

403
00:21:20,379 --> 00:21:22,068
I don't even know.
I don't have a date yet.

404
00:21:23,862 --> 00:21:28,689
And without her,
I don't really know who I am.

405
00:21:30,275 --> 00:21:31,758
We were brought
into this world

406
00:21:31,758 --> 00:21:33,103
from different sides
of the world,

407
00:21:33,103 --> 00:21:35,103
but we were meant
to be together.

408
00:21:35,103 --> 00:21:37,000
And we were made
for each other.

409
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,241
<i>When you find that,
having to watch her leave,</i>

410
00:21:41,172 --> 00:21:42,862
I just feel scared.

411
00:21:42,862 --> 00:21:45,620
[singer] <i>♪ I don't wanna
Play pretend ♪</i>

412
00:21:45,620 --> 00:21:48,827
<i>♪ I'm not gonna see it mend</i>

413
00:21:49,379 --> 00:21:52,551
<i>♪ We're together</i>

414
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:55,827
[sniffling]

415
00:21:57,896 --> 00:22:00,068
[Dempsey] Statler is, like,
finding the whole

416
00:22:00,068 --> 00:22:01,896
move really stressful.

417
00:22:01,896 --> 00:22:03,862
What little things
are gonna stress her out?

418
00:22:06,689 --> 00:22:07,793
Yeah.

419
00:22:07,793 --> 00:22:09,310
<i>Living in a van is so intense</i>

420
00:22:09,310 --> 00:22:10,689
<i>and I honestly
really don't know</i>

421
00:22:10,689 --> 00:22:12,172
what will happen between us

422
00:22:12,172 --> 00:22:14,000
if she can't handle life
on the road.

423
00:22:22,241 --> 00:22:25,241
[lively music playing]

424
00:22:25,241 --> 00:22:28,379
[singer] <i>♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh...</i>

425
00:22:28,379 --> 00:22:30,034
Oh, yes. Well, those are good.

426
00:22:31,758 --> 00:22:33,655
<i>I really believe in,
like, getting your own food</i>

427
00:22:33,655 --> 00:22:35,241
<i>and that Mother Earth</i>

428
00:22:35,241 --> 00:22:37,586
<i>provides everything
that we need.</i>

429
00:22:37,586 --> 00:22:39,896
<i>You do have to be careful
and know what you're doing</i>

430
00:22:39,896 --> 00:22:41,586
when you're...
When you're foraging

431
00:22:41,586 --> 00:22:43,586
'cause there are some,
like, poisonous plants

432
00:22:43,586 --> 00:22:44,965
and mushrooms out there.

433
00:22:51,586 --> 00:22:55,758
[vocalizing]

434
00:23:02,241 --> 00:23:04,137
[doorbell ringing]

435
00:23:05,068 --> 00:23:06,137
[clears throat]

436
00:23:06,137 --> 00:23:07,793
- Hello.
- Hello.

437
00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:10,103
- How are you doing?
- I'm good. How are you?

438
00:23:10,103 --> 00:23:11,655
Oh, I'm good.
Yeah, it's good to see you.

439
00:23:11,655 --> 00:23:12,689
- Are you all right?
- And I... Yeah.

440
00:23:12,689 --> 00:23:13,896
- Yeah?
- Have you got your van here?

441
00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:15,103
Yeah, yeah.
Do you wanna go and see it?

442
00:23:15,103 --> 00:23:16,172
- Yeah, I'd love to.
- Come on then.

443
00:23:16,172 --> 00:23:17,344
Please. Thank you.

444
00:23:18,689 --> 00:23:21,068
Statler arrives in England
in a couple of days.

445
00:23:21,068 --> 00:23:24,275
<i>And my friend Linzi
has a camper van as well</i>

446
00:23:24,275 --> 00:23:26,689
<i>and she's done
a lot of traveling.</i>

447
00:23:26,689 --> 00:23:30,000
I'm really hoping that
she can give me some tips
on van life.

448
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,000
- Statler's good?
- Yeah, she's really good.

449
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,896
Everything's just been
like hectic up in the air.

450
00:23:34,896 --> 00:23:36,689
- Right.
- She's got to move,

451
00:23:36,689 --> 00:23:38,172
I've got to move.

452
00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:42,172
Not as well as me, no.

453
00:23:42,172 --> 00:23:44,896
Oh, wow. Yeah,
but you're super chill.

454
00:23:44,896 --> 00:23:46,344
[Dempsey] Statler and I...

455
00:23:49,896 --> 00:23:51,344
[Linzi] Well, come on in.

456
00:23:51,344 --> 00:23:53,620
[Dempsey]
<i>But travel is in my blood</i>

457
00:23:55,586 --> 00:23:58,586
<i>because my family are part
of the showman's guild,</i>

458
00:23:58,586 --> 00:24:00,689
<i>which is traveling fun fairs.</i>

459
00:24:00,689 --> 00:24:03,551
<i>We travel up and down
the country all year round</i>

460
00:24:03,551 --> 00:24:05,379
<i>with fairground rides.</i>

461
00:24:05,379 --> 00:24:07,379
<i>My family have done it
for generations</i>

462
00:24:07,379 --> 00:24:09,344
<i>and generations
all the way back</i>

463
00:24:09,344 --> 00:24:11,896
<i>to my grandparents,
their grandparents.</i>

464
00:24:11,896 --> 00:24:15,379
So I was always
on the move as a child.

465
00:24:15,379 --> 00:24:17,586
On your van, you should
be able to do the same way.

466
00:24:17,586 --> 00:24:19,551
You can release the doors
and have much more space.

467
00:24:19,551 --> 00:24:22,586
Yeah. So, like, when you're,
like, camping and your...

468
00:24:22,586 --> 00:24:24,241
And your bed's out,
and you just open the doors,

469
00:24:24,241 --> 00:24:25,586
and, like, a mountain
and you just like...

470
00:24:25,586 --> 00:24:27,000
Just sat, like,
having a coffee.

471
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:28,586
- This is the life.
- It's so good.

472
00:24:28,586 --> 00:24:29,896
Cup of tea.

473
00:24:29,896 --> 00:24:31,137
[Dempsey] <i>I've wanted
to travel the world</i>

474
00:24:31,137 --> 00:24:32,793
<i>for as long
as I can remember.</i>

475
00:24:32,793 --> 00:24:35,241
And I don't wanna live
with any regrets.

476
00:24:43,965 --> 00:24:45,172
- Yeah.
- Okay. Cool.

477
00:24:45,172 --> 00:24:46,551
Yeah, that would be
a good, yeah.

478
00:24:47,965 --> 00:24:50,241
With the camper van,
me and Statler

479
00:24:50,241 --> 00:24:52,137
don't have to be
long distance anymore,

480
00:24:52,137 --> 00:24:56,137
<i>but we kind of have
different outlooks on life.</i>

481
00:24:56,137 --> 00:24:58,103
She is much more
of a worrier than I am.

482
00:24:58,103 --> 00:24:59,655
I got you a map actually

483
00:24:59,655 --> 00:25:01,448
and a little gift
for your van.

484
00:25:01,448 --> 00:25:02,862
Oh, that's so sweet.

485
00:25:02,862 --> 00:25:04,896
<i>Living in a van
is so intense.</i>

486
00:25:04,896 --> 00:25:08,275
I'm not really intimidated
by the challenge.

487
00:25:08,275 --> 00:25:10,448
Statler on the other hand
is freaking out.

488
00:25:11,896 --> 00:25:14,172
So have you planned
the actual route then?

489
00:25:14,172 --> 00:25:19,862
Yes. We're gonna go down
to Dover and then to Clay.

490
00:25:19,862 --> 00:25:22,379
And then,
to Paris for the day.

491
00:25:22,379 --> 00:25:24,379
Statler really wants
to go there.

492
00:25:24,379 --> 00:25:26,068
Then into Switzerland.

493
00:25:30,586 --> 00:25:34,965
I'm glad to come and see you,
and help me plan a bit

494
00:25:34,965 --> 00:25:37,172
because Statler's, like,

495
00:25:37,172 --> 00:25:41,241
finding the whole move
really stressful.

496
00:25:41,241 --> 00:25:44,586
She's just, like, been like,
"I'm too busy.

497
00:25:44,586 --> 00:25:47,965
I'm too stressed.
I am shutting down.

498
00:25:47,965 --> 00:25:50,103
You're just gonna have to sort
everything out and I'll just,

499
00:25:50,103 --> 00:25:53,000
like, kinda see you
when I get there." And--

500
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,034
So it's not being really 50/50
with preparing for the trip?

501
00:25:56,034 --> 00:25:58,034
- Yeah. And--
- Is that a bit of a red flag

502
00:25:58,034 --> 00:25:59,379
when it comes
to how she might deal

503
00:25:59,379 --> 00:26:01,137
with bigger things?

504
00:26:03,275 --> 00:26:04,896
I don't think it's...

505
00:26:04,896 --> 00:26:06,862
I don't think it's a red flag.

506
00:26:06,862 --> 00:26:09,896
But I am worried, yeah,
that it's... That this is...

507
00:26:09,896 --> 00:26:11,551
She's just a worrier
all the time

508
00:26:11,551 --> 00:26:14,379
and she's not ever gonna
be in the present.

509
00:26:14,379 --> 00:26:16,068
Or, like, what things...

510
00:26:16,068 --> 00:26:17,896
What little things
are gonna stress her out

511
00:26:17,896 --> 00:26:19,827
'cause she says little things
stress her out.

512
00:26:20,551 --> 00:26:22,379
Everything in a van
is a little thing.

513
00:26:22,379 --> 00:26:24,172
- Yeah.
- You've got
such a little space.

514
00:26:24,172 --> 00:26:25,310
Yeah.

515
00:26:27,586 --> 00:26:29,655
Yeah, yeah.

516
00:26:31,551 --> 00:26:32,758
Yeah.

517
00:26:34,137 --> 00:26:35,896
Are you sure Statler
is the right person

518
00:26:35,896 --> 00:26:37,517
to be doing the trip with?

519
00:26:38,379 --> 00:26:39,551
I don't know.

520
00:26:40,896 --> 00:26:42,896
I don't think
that living in a van

521
00:26:42,896 --> 00:26:46,379
and traveling around
is, like, her ideal.

522
00:26:46,379 --> 00:26:48,275
I think that she likes
to have, like,

523
00:26:48,275 --> 00:26:50,344
more structure in her life
and know where she's gonna be

524
00:26:50,344 --> 00:26:52,172
and what she's gonna do,
and where she's gonna work,

525
00:26:52,172 --> 00:26:53,965
and stuff like that.

526
00:26:53,965 --> 00:26:56,482
Well, if she's got, like,
halfway through your route

527
00:26:56,482 --> 00:26:58,448
and she's like,
"I can't do this anymore."

528
00:26:59,344 --> 00:27:01,000
Well, I didn't really
think that and--

529
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:02,275
'Cause she could.

530
00:27:02,275 --> 00:27:03,931
She could, yeah.

531
00:27:05,275 --> 00:27:08,137
<i>I really do want
this relationship
to work out.</i>

532
00:27:08,137 --> 00:27:10,000
But the truth is,
we really don't know

533
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,137
each other all that well.

534
00:27:11,137 --> 00:27:12,931
<i>We are complete opposites.</i>

535
00:27:13,586 --> 00:27:15,000
<i>And I honestly
really don't know</i>

536
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,448
what will happen between us

537
00:27:16,448 --> 00:27:18,620
if she can't handle life
on the road.

538
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,448
I hope that it does, like,
melt away a little bit,

539
00:27:23,448 --> 00:27:24,758
like, some of her anxieties

540
00:27:24,758 --> 00:27:26,068
and stuff
when we are together.

541
00:27:26,068 --> 00:27:27,793
I hope that it is like that
when you go away.

542
00:27:27,793 --> 00:27:30,379
- Yeah. Yeah.
- 'Cause that...

543
00:27:30,379 --> 00:27:31,965
That is a bit of a worry
as your friend.

544
00:27:31,965 --> 00:27:33,310
Yeah.

545
00:27:34,586 --> 00:27:36,275
So...

546
00:27:36,275 --> 00:27:37,379
It's gonna be tough times.

547
00:27:37,379 --> 00:27:39,103
- Yeah.
- Tough times.

548
00:27:43,172 --> 00:27:44,862
When is she coming back?

549
00:27:46,137 --> 00:27:47,965
[James] She's not coming back,

550
00:27:47,965 --> 00:27:50,793
I'm gonna go over
and join her.

551
00:27:50,793 --> 00:27:54,000
Last time you did this to us,
you went down to Florida,

552
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,896
left us high and dry.

553
00:27:55,896 --> 00:27:59,103
So I'm guessing
you are quitting?

554
00:28:00,103 --> 00:28:02,827
- Yeah.
- [sighs deeply]

555
00:28:08,275 --> 00:28:09,758
[acoustic music playing]

556
00:28:09,758 --> 00:28:11,931
[singer] <i>♪ Maybe I won't</i>

557
00:28:14,103 --> 00:28:16,448
<i>♪ Come back again</i>

558
00:28:21,586 --> 00:28:22,655
[James] Can you help me pack?

559
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,034
You gonna try to get in here

560
00:28:25,034 --> 00:28:26,448
is what you're gonna
try to do.

561
00:28:26,448 --> 00:28:27,862
<i>It's been about a month</i>

562
00:28:27,862 --> 00:28:29,482
<i>since Tata moved
to Indonesia,</i>

563
00:28:29,482 --> 00:28:32,655
and I'm getting ready
to move there in about a week.

564
00:28:32,655 --> 00:28:34,689
You look so sad, little man.

565
00:28:34,689 --> 00:28:36,965
You miss mama too?

566
00:28:36,965 --> 00:28:39,137
<i>This last month,
I have been working</i>

567
00:28:39,137 --> 00:28:40,758
<i>as hard as possible</i>

568
00:28:40,758 --> 00:28:44,275
to make as much money
as I possibly can.

569
00:28:44,275 --> 00:28:46,068
I just got out of work,
and, you know,

570
00:28:46,068 --> 00:28:47,655
I'm heading home now.

571
00:28:47,655 --> 00:28:49,379
There's already
so much still for me to do

572
00:28:49,379 --> 00:28:53,000
before I leave,
and I'm just mentally drained.

573
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,689
I got nothing left
in the tank.

574
00:28:54,689 --> 00:28:57,482
I would cry tears,
but I've already cried 'em all
with Tata.

575
00:28:57,482 --> 00:28:59,482
Every time we're on the phone,
we just sit there just crying,

576
00:28:59,482 --> 00:29:00,482
missing each other.

577
00:29:00,482 --> 00:29:01,655
It's just tough.

578
00:29:03,172 --> 00:29:05,379
Me and Tata
talk every single day,

579
00:29:05,379 --> 00:29:08,379
<i>but it's not the same
as being beside each other.</i>

580
00:29:08,379 --> 00:29:11,655
So I... I'm just ready
to be with her again.

581
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,379
I'm on edge.

582
00:29:14,379 --> 00:29:16,655
I really been dragging my feet

583
00:29:16,655 --> 00:29:18,655
about telling my family,

584
00:29:18,655 --> 00:29:21,689
but I didn't know when was
the right time to tell 'em.

585
00:29:21,689 --> 00:29:24,793
And then eventually took
too long and now last minute,

586
00:29:24,793 --> 00:29:27,620
it's like [bleep]
I should have told them.

587
00:29:28,689 --> 00:29:32,655
This will be the second time
I've done something like this.

588
00:29:33,793 --> 00:29:35,896
<i>I was married once
previously,</i>

589
00:29:35,896 --> 00:29:39,896
and we were in Maine
for about six months

590
00:29:39,896 --> 00:29:43,896
before my ex decided
she didn't wanted

591
00:29:43,896 --> 00:29:45,448
to be here anymore
due to the cold.

592
00:29:45,448 --> 00:29:49,586
<i>So she made me move
to Florida.</i>

593
00:29:49,586 --> 00:29:51,793
<i>I actually said
I didn't wanna go,</i>

594
00:29:51,793 --> 00:29:54,137
but at that point,
she made it very clear

595
00:29:54,137 --> 00:29:57,379
that she was gonna go
with or without me.

596
00:29:57,379 --> 00:30:00,172
When I left,
my family had to downsize

597
00:30:00,172 --> 00:30:01,862
the entire company.

598
00:30:01,862 --> 00:30:03,275
<i>There was
not enough mechanics</i>

599
00:30:03,275 --> 00:30:05,275
<i>to do all the work.</i>

600
00:30:05,275 --> 00:30:08,275
<i>I felt guilty for leaving
everybody else behind.</i>

601
00:30:08,275 --> 00:30:10,655
And we were married
for less than a year.

602
00:30:14,068 --> 00:30:15,758
Who is it? Who's outside?

603
00:30:15,758 --> 00:30:17,551
It's your favorite people.

604
00:30:17,551 --> 00:30:19,965
Yeah, it's your
favorite people.

605
00:30:19,965 --> 00:30:21,793
<i>Tonight, I invited
my little brother,</i>

606
00:30:21,793 --> 00:30:23,586
<i>Jimmy, over, and his wife.</i>

607
00:30:23,586 --> 00:30:26,241
<i>And it's not gonna be fun,
it's not gonna be easy.</i>

608
00:30:26,241 --> 00:30:27,896
<i>It's very last minute.</i>

609
00:30:27,896 --> 00:30:30,137
I had plenty of time
to tell them beforehand,

610
00:30:30,137 --> 00:30:33,344
and I should have just done it
instead of waiting.

611
00:30:34,793 --> 00:30:36,482
[Drue] Hi, Georgia.
I missed you.

612
00:30:36,482 --> 00:30:39,000
Save some space for my wife.

613
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,793
He's been so depressed
'cause Tata has been gone.

614
00:30:41,793 --> 00:30:44,379
- [Drue] Aww.
- [Jimmy] So how you
been holding out

615
00:30:44,379 --> 00:30:45,689
being alone in this place?

616
00:30:45,689 --> 00:30:46,896
[James]
I've been hanging in there.

617
00:30:46,896 --> 00:30:48,379
It's tough. It's tough.

618
00:30:48,379 --> 00:30:50,206
When is she coming back?

619
00:30:51,241 --> 00:30:52,344
Uh...

620
00:30:56,655 --> 00:31:00,655
so she's actually not planning
on coming back...

621
00:31:02,655 --> 00:31:05,551
because I'm gonna go over
and join her.

622
00:31:07,896 --> 00:31:09,931
- Oh.
- In Indonesia.

623
00:31:11,896 --> 00:31:14,103
So when are you coming back?

624
00:31:15,068 --> 00:31:16,862
We're not coming back.

625
00:31:19,241 --> 00:31:22,000
- You're not coming back?
- You're not coming back.

626
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:23,586
- Okay. Hang on.
- Like...

627
00:31:23,586 --> 00:31:25,241
What do you mean
you're not coming back?

628
00:31:25,241 --> 00:31:26,862
Like, ever?

629
00:31:28,103 --> 00:31:31,344
She's had a hard time
acclimating to being here.

630
00:31:32,275 --> 00:31:35,413
So plan's to permanently
make the move over there.

631
00:31:37,793 --> 00:31:40,172
And I leave in a week.

632
00:31:40,172 --> 00:31:42,344
You leave in a week?

633
00:31:42,344 --> 00:31:45,896
And Mom and Dad
do not know, so...

634
00:31:45,896 --> 00:31:47,517
I mean, you gotta tell them.

635
00:31:48,551 --> 00:31:50,965
Yes, I'm gonna be
telling them tomorrow.

636
00:31:51,655 --> 00:31:55,000
So I'm guessing
you're quitting?

637
00:31:57,586 --> 00:32:00,517
- Yeah.
- [sighs deeply]

638
00:32:04,482 --> 00:32:07,620
Yeah. Well, that sucks.

639
00:32:10,103 --> 00:32:12,793
But last time
you did this to us,

640
00:32:12,793 --> 00:32:14,241
you went down to Florida.

641
00:32:14,241 --> 00:32:16,655
You definitely left us
high and dry.

642
00:32:17,275 --> 00:32:18,655
I know, but Florida
was a completely

643
00:32:18,655 --> 00:32:20,344
different circumstance
entirely.

644
00:32:20,344 --> 00:32:21,965
Like, there was definitely
a different situation

645
00:32:21,965 --> 00:32:23,862
for different reasons.

646
00:32:23,862 --> 00:32:28,137
Last time going to Florida,
you did it for...

647
00:32:28,137 --> 00:32:29,379
- Her.
- [Jimmy] the other person.

648
00:32:29,379 --> 00:32:31,448
This time going to Indonesia,

649
00:32:31,448 --> 00:32:32,793
you're doing it for?

650
00:32:32,793 --> 00:32:34,000
- For her.
- [Jimmy] Okay.

651
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,172
- [James] But--
- So it's completely

652
00:32:35,172 --> 00:32:36,586
different reasons, though.

653
00:32:36,586 --> 00:32:38,000
With the other one, I didn't
have a choice in that.

654
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,275
I didn't have a say in that.

655
00:32:39,275 --> 00:32:40,655
With this, out of love,

656
00:32:40,655 --> 00:32:42,241
I was willing
to do it for her.

657
00:32:43,896 --> 00:32:45,586
I mean,
you don't know Indonesian.

658
00:32:45,586 --> 00:32:46,965
You don't know their culture.

659
00:32:46,965 --> 00:32:49,000
Actually, the language is one
of my bigger issues with...

660
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,379
Over there,
because I know her dad,

661
00:32:50,379 --> 00:32:53,172
when we got engaged,

662
00:32:53,172 --> 00:32:55,482
one of the three promises
that he made me promise

663
00:32:55,482 --> 00:32:57,551
was that I would learn
the language.

664
00:32:57,551 --> 00:32:59,137
And how are you doing?

665
00:32:59,137 --> 00:33:02,172
[James]
I can ask where is something,

666
00:33:02,172 --> 00:33:04,379
but that's everything I got.

667
00:33:04,379 --> 00:33:07,689
One was the language barrier,
and the other was?

668
00:33:07,689 --> 00:33:09,310
[James]
Always providing for her.

669
00:33:10,137 --> 00:33:12,689
And the third one
was to make sure

670
00:33:12,689 --> 00:33:14,655
that they had grandbabies.

671
00:33:15,793 --> 00:33:18,896
- And you promised?
- It was a condition...

672
00:33:18,896 --> 00:33:20,586
- [Jimmy] Okay.
- of the marriage. Yeah.

673
00:33:20,586 --> 00:33:22,862
And how are you doing
on that department?

674
00:33:23,379 --> 00:33:24,862
Maybe I'm shooting blanks,

675
00:33:24,862 --> 00:33:26,413
or maybe we're using
protection, so...

676
00:33:27,137 --> 00:33:28,758
Which one is it?

677
00:33:28,758 --> 00:33:31,068
Nah, definitely
the protection.

678
00:33:31,068 --> 00:33:34,551
- That'll do it.
- Uh, I mean, yeah, that's...

679
00:33:37,862 --> 00:33:40,172
'Cause I don't really wanna
have kids, so...

680
00:33:40,172 --> 00:33:41,551
You don't wanna
have kids ever?

681
00:33:41,551 --> 00:33:42,793
Not right now.

682
00:33:42,793 --> 00:33:44,103
Not with the state
of the world and everything.

683
00:33:44,103 --> 00:33:45,586
I mean, it terrifies me

684
00:33:45,586 --> 00:33:47,931
of what you'd be bringing
a child into.

685
00:33:49,586 --> 00:33:52,965
When I made the promises,
that was five years ago

686
00:33:52,965 --> 00:33:54,689
and the world
was a different place.

687
00:33:54,689 --> 00:33:57,137
After COVID hit,
that changed my views

688
00:33:57,137 --> 00:33:58,793
on a lot of things
in the world.

689
00:33:58,793 --> 00:34:00,379
<i>There was quite a coldness</i>

690
00:34:00,379 --> 00:34:02,068
<i>and there was a lot of hate.</i>

691
00:34:02,068 --> 00:34:05,896
<i>So I'm not sure children
are in the cards for me.</i>

692
00:34:05,896 --> 00:34:07,586
[Jimmy]
Does Tata want to have kids?

693
00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:10,689
- Yeah.
- Have you talked to her
about that?

694
00:34:10,689 --> 00:34:14,034
I don't wanna bring up
that discussion until we...

695
00:34:14,034 --> 00:34:15,793
We're steady
on our feet anyways.

696
00:34:15,793 --> 00:34:17,275
We're doing this whole move.

697
00:34:17,275 --> 00:34:19,103
Like, there's no point
to bring that up

698
00:34:19,103 --> 00:34:21,793
and try to throw more drama
into the whole situation.

699
00:34:21,793 --> 00:34:23,586
I'm just trying to show her
that I'm willing

700
00:34:23,586 --> 00:34:26,586
to do anything for her
out of love for her.

701
00:34:26,586 --> 00:34:27,896
Right, but is children
one of them?

702
00:34:27,896 --> 00:34:29,310
Will you give her
a child one day?

703
00:34:30,758 --> 00:34:32,862
I don't know. I can't answer
that question. That's...

704
00:34:32,862 --> 00:34:34,655
- I can't answer that yet.
- [Drue]
But that is really important.

705
00:34:34,655 --> 00:34:36,655
I would just hate to see you
go through all this work

706
00:34:36,655 --> 00:34:39,103
to get there
and establish yourself

707
00:34:39,103 --> 00:34:41,965
and then for your relationship
to be hurt

708
00:34:41,965 --> 00:34:43,482
because you hadn't told her
that you actually

709
00:34:43,482 --> 00:34:44,793
don't want kids one day.

710
00:34:44,793 --> 00:34:46,379
I've seen marriages fail

711
00:34:46,379 --> 00:34:48,724
because someone didn't talk
about that soon enough.

712
00:34:50,275 --> 00:34:53,517
Meitalia will always
be the priority in my life.

713
00:34:54,482 --> 00:34:57,137
<i>I am moving to Indonesia
for Tata.</i>

714
00:34:57,137 --> 00:34:59,551
<i>I'm leaving
everything behind,</i>

715
00:34:59,551 --> 00:35:02,724
but I know decisions
have huge consequences.

716
00:35:03,689 --> 00:35:08,379
<i>If I say I don't want
to have children, period,</i>

717
00:35:08,379 --> 00:35:10,758
I'm not sure how Tata
will accept that.

718
00:35:10,758 --> 00:35:12,655
<i>That could cause
the biggest rift</i>

719
00:35:12,655 --> 00:35:14,448
<i>that could possibly
break us apart.</i>

720
00:35:14,896 --> 00:35:16,965
And I can't lose her.

721
00:35:18,758 --> 00:35:19,862
Good luck.

722
00:35:23,689 --> 00:35:25,482
[upbeat music playing]

723
00:35:25,482 --> 00:35:27,310
[Sarper speaking]

724
00:35:34,068 --> 00:35:35,965
[Shekinah] Baby.

725
00:35:35,965 --> 00:35:37,965
[Sarper] <i>I will hug her.
I will touch her.</i>

726
00:35:37,965 --> 00:35:40,103
I will [bleep] her.
Everything.

727
00:35:47,241 --> 00:35:49,310
[upbeat music playing]

728
00:36:02,724 --> 00:36:04,344
[Sarper speaking]

729
00:36:11,482 --> 00:36:14,758
Today, Shekinah is returning
to Istanbul, finally.

730
00:36:14,758 --> 00:36:17,275
And I feel so excited

731
00:36:17,275 --> 00:36:20,172
<i>because three
and a half months.</i>

732
00:36:23,551 --> 00:36:25,448
Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

733
00:36:26,586 --> 00:36:29,827
[upbeat music playing]

734
00:36:34,310 --> 00:36:38,655
Finally, she is coming,
and she's bringing Adonis.

735
00:36:38,655 --> 00:36:42,379
So it will be the first time
that I will live with a dog.

736
00:37:13,034 --> 00:37:16,034
Adonis is one
of her beloved things.

737
00:37:16,034 --> 00:37:17,689
So she's bringing,

738
00:37:17,689 --> 00:37:20,103
it means that she wants
to be here with me.

739
00:37:21,758 --> 00:37:24,689
[dramatic music playing]

740
00:37:28,586 --> 00:37:32,517
We are here finally
in Istanbul.

741
00:37:34,137 --> 00:37:35,724
<i>I can't wait to see Sarper.</i>

742
00:37:36,103 --> 00:37:37,965
It's been so long.

743
00:37:38,862 --> 00:37:41,965
[dramatic music playing]

744
00:37:45,793 --> 00:37:49,758
I missed Shekinah too much,
I mean, so much.

745
00:37:49,758 --> 00:37:52,448
It's not sexually
missing only.

746
00:37:54,620 --> 00:37:56,103
It is emotionally.

747
00:37:56,103 --> 00:37:58,482
I mean, I feel alone
without her.

748
00:38:01,310 --> 00:38:05,172
[dramatic music playing]

749
00:38:17,344 --> 00:38:18,448
[Shekinah] Baby.

750
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,000
[dramatic music playing]

751
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,793
- [Shekinah] I miss you.
- I miss you too.

752
00:38:32,172 --> 00:38:34,655
[Shekinah speaking]

753
00:38:35,310 --> 00:38:37,068
[Sarper speaking]

754
00:38:37,068 --> 00:38:38,620
- Okay, baby.
- Huh?

755
00:38:40,482 --> 00:38:42,517
I love you so much.

756
00:38:43,137 --> 00:38:44,758
Forget this moment, okay?

757
00:38:44,758 --> 00:38:46,586
- Forget it?
- Yeah.

758
00:38:46,586 --> 00:38:49,206
- I will never forget it.
- Don't see me that weak again.

759
00:38:49,206 --> 00:38:51,068
Baby, it's not weak.

760
00:38:53,344 --> 00:38:56,793
Sarper's a water sign
so he's full of emotion.

761
00:38:56,793 --> 00:38:57,862
Yeah.

762
00:38:59,172 --> 00:39:01,965
You wanna meet
your son Adonis?

763
00:39:03,724 --> 00:39:06,379
<i>But I never saw him
cry like that.</i>

764
00:39:06,379 --> 00:39:09,000
But I normally show my passion
in other ways.

765
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,379
- I know, yeah.
- Not this way, you know?

766
00:39:11,379 --> 00:39:13,724
- Come here.
- [Shekinah] Oh.

767
00:39:13,724 --> 00:39:16,379
Hold it for me.
Hold it for me.

768
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,241
- Okay.
- He's a big baby.

769
00:39:18,241 --> 00:39:19,586
- Yes.
- Oh.

770
00:39:19,586 --> 00:39:21,413
Yes. Oh, my gosh.

771
00:39:21,413 --> 00:39:22,793
- I know. You're gonna--
- So cute.

772
00:39:22,793 --> 00:39:24,034
You're gonna love
to have him, baby.

773
00:39:24,034 --> 00:39:25,482
He's so cute.

774
00:39:26,551 --> 00:39:28,103
[Shekinah]
<i>This time coming to Turkey,</i>

775
00:39:28,103 --> 00:39:30,413
you know, I'm bringing Adonis.

776
00:39:30,413 --> 00:39:33,689
So it's like we're starting
our own little family.

777
00:39:35,413 --> 00:39:37,517
Adonis,

778
00:39:38,241 --> 00:39:41,862
I'm not crying
normally, okay?

779
00:39:43,172 --> 00:39:45,896
I wanna believe that the time
apart made us stronger,

780
00:39:45,896 --> 00:39:47,724
but like there were
some hard moments.

781
00:39:48,724 --> 00:39:51,724
<i>So we have things
that I wanna discuss.</i>

782
00:39:52,758 --> 00:39:56,000
But let's try to solve it
as calm as possible.

783
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,724
- Okay?
- Yes. Okay.

784
00:40:06,793 --> 00:40:08,551
Home, home, sweet home.

785
00:40:12,862 --> 00:40:14,517
I will hug her.
I will touch her.

786
00:40:14,517 --> 00:40:17,068
I will [bleep] her.
Everything.

787
00:40:17,068 --> 00:40:18,862
Everything I miss about her.

788
00:40:20,206 --> 00:40:22,344
Your new home. Are you ready?

789
00:40:23,206 --> 00:40:24,724
Go. Yes.

790
00:40:33,620 --> 00:40:35,586
Honestly,
I'm not happy to walk in

791
00:40:35,586 --> 00:40:37,068
and see that still here.

792
00:40:37,068 --> 00:40:39,379
[tense music playing]

793
00:40:39,379 --> 00:40:42,965
[Shekinah] <i>The first thing
I see are the bottles.</i>

794
00:40:42,965 --> 00:40:45,551
<i>I kind of thought
Sarper is gonna surprise me</i>

795
00:40:45,551 --> 00:40:47,379
and I'm gonna walk in
and they're gonna be gone,

796
00:40:47,379 --> 00:40:49,310
<i>but that's not the case,</i>

797
00:40:49,862 --> 00:40:52,965
and it really pisses me off.

798
00:40:55,793 --> 00:40:57,689
I know. I know.
You don't like it.

799
00:40:57,689 --> 00:40:58,724
Give it time and you'll just--

800
00:40:58,724 --> 00:40:59,758
- I hate it.
- You'll just--

801
00:40:59,758 --> 00:41:00,758
It's not that I don't like it.

802
00:41:00,758 --> 00:41:02,241
- I mean... I didn't--
- I literally hate it.

803
00:41:02,241 --> 00:41:05,068
[tense music playing]

804
00:41:06,655 --> 00:41:07,793
Oh, my God.

805
00:41:10,620 --> 00:41:13,793
[woman] <i>Next time on</i>
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.

806
00:41:13,793 --> 00:41:15,275
[man] <i>We have landed.</i>

807
00:41:15,275 --> 00:41:17,586
Can't wait
to get off this plane.

808
00:41:18,482 --> 00:41:22,413
Is it common for men
in China not to work?

809
00:41:22,793 --> 00:41:26,965
[in Chinese]

810
00:41:29,586 --> 00:41:33,482
I guess we had
a miscommunication on money.

811
00:41:33,482 --> 00:41:35,965
We can't afford the van.

812
00:41:35,965 --> 00:41:38,206
<i>I'm supposed to get
on a plane tomorrow,</i>

813
00:41:38,206 --> 00:41:40,137
and I don't wanna be homeless
when I get to England.

814
00:41:40,137 --> 00:41:43,034
[Dempsey speaking]

815
00:41:43,034 --> 00:41:45,137
<i>Like we spoke about that
time and time again.</i>

816
00:41:46,275 --> 00:41:48,448
[Corona] <i>Anywhere else?</i>

817
00:41:48,448 --> 00:41:51,206
I can handle Iceland?
Can Iceland handle me?

818
00:41:51,206 --> 00:41:53,551
There's no one on earth
that I would choose

819
00:41:53,551 --> 00:41:57,000
to like derail
my dreams than Ingi.

820
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,034
- [shrieks]
- Hi.

821
00:42:00,068 --> 00:42:01,517
[horns honking]

822
00:42:01,517 --> 00:42:03,620
- [in foreign language]
- [in foreign language]

823
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:09,206
[in foreign language]

824
00:42:16,413 --> 00:42:18,344
I'm just tired of this.

825
00:42:18,344 --> 00:42:20,344
Make peace with it.
It's not a big deal.

826
00:42:20,344 --> 00:42:22,310
- Make peace with it?
- Yes.

827
00:42:22,310 --> 00:42:23,793
You make peace with this.

828
00:42:23,793 --> 00:42:26,724
This is 143 pages
of a love letter

829
00:42:26,724 --> 00:42:27,965
that my ex-boyfriend wrote me.

830
00:42:29,137 --> 00:42:31,034
He's making me question

831
00:42:31,034 --> 00:42:33,068
why I even came back
to Turkey.

832
00:42:33,068 --> 00:42:36,137
[dramatic music playing]