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Previously on 90 Day
The Other Way...
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Babe, I thought you were
gonna move your crap.
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I didn't have time.
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One of my biggest triggers
is when people
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don't do the things
that they say
they're gonna do.
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So if it wasn't
soft partnering him,
I'm thinking,
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"Bitch, why wouldn't you
move your [bleep] out of
my side of the closet?
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"It takes
two goddamn seconds."
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Step aside.
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Hello, Pa!
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We can't just
live at their house
and not ever make money.
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I had every intention
to come here with at least
$10,000 in the bank,
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but our car,
before we left, broke down,
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and we ended up getting stuck
with an $8,000 bill,
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and there's a loan
we still have on it.
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That's gonna
just wipe us out real fast.
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That's why we needed to talk
about it with my parents.
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When do you
want to tell them, though?
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Probably tonight.
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Yay. I'm here.
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Great.
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Holy [bleep],
what have I done?
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If this is how
she's acting on day one,
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I really don't know
if we're gonna work.
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Cool.
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Back to
Mom and Dad's house.
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Yay!
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Hello!
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Jump
right into it, huh? Okay.
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It's my first full day
here in Indonesia,
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and Tata's dad
is gonna be teaching me
how to make banana chips.
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I hope it goes really well
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because I want to be
able to show him
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he's got a son-in-law
who can learn how to do
what he needs me to do.
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They're made
for small hands.
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I might just
need to wash my hands, guys.
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This isn't gonna work.
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Tata really wants
to tell her parents
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that we're moving here
after my banana chip lesson.
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I would rather wait
until I feel secure here,
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but we've got
bills for the car
we're still paying
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and we don't have
any money coming in.
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The money we brought
is a lot lower than we thought
it was gonna be.
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Can you do that, you think?
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Oh, yeah.
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Okay.
- Yeah.
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So if we're gonna
have that conversation,
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I'm like,
might as well talk about
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if we can make money
making banana chips.
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Because without being able
to do this for a job,
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we have no way
of making money.
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That is a lot.
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Too much?
- Yeah.
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It's, uh, VIP.
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VIP.
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I'm just so excited
to see him excited to learn
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'cause he do it
with a full heart.
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And I think this will
make my parents happier
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when we tell them
we are moving.
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I just don't get it
why he don't want to tell them
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because I know it's gonna be
good news for them.
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Do race with Mom.
- Okay?
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Okay. You ready?
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Three.
- One, two, three.
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Four!
Go!
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Oh, this is sad.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah!
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I hate losing.
I'm very competitive.
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To put it in the bag.
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It's not that my hands
are too big.
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It's that the bags
are too small.
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Slow.
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Yes. Check it.
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Checking.
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She say it's very good.
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Ah, yeah!
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For dollar.
- $1.
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- $2, $3, $4.
- $4!
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Yes.
- $4.
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Nice.
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It's a cool process,
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and clearly
it's worked out for him.
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But his profit
is so minuscule.
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If we can't find a way
to support ourselves,
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I have very big concerns
about us being able
to stay here in Indonesia.
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My name is Sean,
I'm 38 years of age.
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It's a nice, quiet village,
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away from the hustle
and bustle.
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Come on.
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Yeah. I'm not
your typical Irish man.
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I don't drink alcohol.
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♪ Only in New York
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♪ Can you find Broadway
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♪ See the glimmering lights
Shining so bright ♪
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♪ Turning night to day
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Joey!
Yeah.
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Come grab this bag
for me, please.
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Sean loves the way
I say "coffee,"
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"draw," "mirror," "sauce."
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- Where do you want it?
- In the living room.
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The first time
he told me he loved my accent,
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I was like, "What accent?"
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Because to me,
I don't have one.
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Jesse, can you come in here
and help me sort this laundry?
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Sure.
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Don't sound
so enthusiastic about it.
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I'm just talking.
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That's another word,
"talking."
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Yeah, that's a fun one
for him.
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My name is Joanne, I am 43,
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and I'm from
Long Island, New York.
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Jesse, you want cinnamon buns?
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Yeah.
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I am a mom of two.
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You need help or no?
No.
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- I'll call you
when they're ready.
- Okay. Nice.
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My older son is 18.
His name is Joey.
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My 12-year-old is Jesse.
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- Mom, is this yours or Joe's?
- I think that's mine.
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Maybe, I don't know.
Ask your brother.
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I met my ex-husband
when I was 18
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and we were married
for 11 years.
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We just ended up
growing apart.
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Oh, my coffee.
Where's my coffee?
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I lose my coffee
100 times a day.
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How is it? I didn't burn 'em.
For once.
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I mean...
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- Mom.
- All right,
that's the pan's fault.
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Breakfast isn't my thing.
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They were timed
to perfection, honestly.
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After my divorce,
I really didn't
want to find love.
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Remember the last time
you made bacon?
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Yeah.
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It was the color of that mug.
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You... It was not.
You're ridiculous.
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All of myself
was put into my children
and my business.
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I do not turn the cards over.
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I am a natural-born medium,
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so I will pull your answers
and messages that you need
from the other side.
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Okay.
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I am
a psychic medium,
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a Reiki healer,
and a life coach.
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If you're mid-sentence
and I cut you off,
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it's not me
being a rude New Yorker,
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it's just the way it comes in,
and I spit it right out, okay?
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Not in a million years
did I think that my business
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was going to lead me
to Sean, ever.
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♪ Everybody wants you now
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♪ I guess
It just ain't healthy ♪
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Sean had found me
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through one of
my social media handles
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and mentioned
that he was interested
in getting a reading.
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♪ Too bad, so good
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I could not lock into
this man's energy for [bleep],
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and I was like,
"What is going on here?"
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I was freaking out.
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And normally,
that is my telltale sign of
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"This may be a little bit more
than you think it is."
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The reading basically cut off
at a certain time,
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and then
it just was us talking,
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and then we never
stopped talking after that.
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The more we spoke,
the more we realized
we had stuff in common.
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Some nights went, like,
six and a half hours,
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and it was mad.
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Within three weeks,
I was like, "No,
this guy is it."
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Yeah. I don't know
how it's gonna work,
but it's gonna work.
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I waited about nine months
to get up the courage
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to be like, "Okay,
getting on this plane."
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I was never
looking to leave
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American soil ever in my life.
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I've gotten on a plane
to go to Florida with family.
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That's the furthest
I've ever been.
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And then,
all of a sudden, I'm like,
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"Hey, I'm gonna go to Ireland
and meet some stranger.
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"Bye, guys."
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I was just like, "Let's do it.
You only live once."
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It was just amazing,
and I felt so at home.
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And then he felt like home.
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He cracks me up.
He is so funny.
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He's a character.
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He has a really big heart.
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And he's a dad
to a little girl,
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and it definitely
brings out a side of him
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that you wouldn't expect
this big dude with tattoos.
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And, you know,
he's good looking.
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That helps.
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I mean, I'm excited
for you guys to come
and meet Sean.
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This is gonna be interesting
'cause this is the first time
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you guys are gonna meet
a man that I'm dating.
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Other than your father.
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How do you feel about that?
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I want you to be happy.
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Yeah.
- That's all I'm concerned
about, really.
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- Right.
- But I definitely
want to make sure,
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you know, he treats you good.
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Yeah.
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Me and my brother,
in my opinion,
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are two of the most
important people
in my mom's life.
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So bringing in another person,
I don't know.
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I think my mom
deserves the absolute best.
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I've only spoken to Sean
over the phone.
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I would hope he's a good guy.
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What if me and him
don't get along?
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Hypothetically speaking,
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if you guys
were not to get along,
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I would never put you
in an uncomfortable situation
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where it's like,
"Oh, I have to deal with them
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just because
it's my mother's person."
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Like, I'm not gonna do that.
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All right. Yeah.
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This is a significant person
in my life.
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And you guys are significant,
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and your opinion
of him matters.
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Next week, I'm taking the boys
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to go meet Sean
for the first time.
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And I really hope
that they like him
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because I want to
move to Ireland.
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I would love for the boys
to move with me,
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but I share custody
with their dad,
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and I would never
take them away from him.
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So in my head, I'm thinking
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I will be spending
one month in Ireland
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and two weeks in New York.
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You guys are very important
in any decision
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and I understand
your concerns,
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so you'll have plenty of time
to feel about.
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I've not told anybody
about this move yet
because...
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I'm scared.
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I'm just flat out scared.
They're gonna want to kill me.
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Like...
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If they're not okay with it,
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I have to come up
with a plan B,
which I haven't,
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because I'm fully hoping
and praying to all the gods
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that they will be
okay with it.
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I guarantee,
within the first few minutes
of you meeting him,
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you'll see.
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There have been some times
where, like, legitimately,
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I wanted to pop
the [bleep] off on you,
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but I do not,
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because I consider myself
soft partnering.
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That's a mistake.
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What the [bleep] is that?
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What the hell?
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Yeah. Bun Day.
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Bun Day. So that's why
you smacked my buns.
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Yeah.
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This is our
first morning together,
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and it just so happens
that today is like
a national holiday
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called...
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It's basically like
some old Christian holiday,
like leading up to Easter.
251
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Kids would wake
their parents up with a wand,
252
00:15:27,758 --> 00:15:28,862
like, spanking them...
253
00:15:35,896 --> 00:15:37,068
Do I "Boll" on you?
254
00:15:37,068 --> 00:15:39,034
- Yeah, you can
"Boll" on me, babe.
- Okay.
255
00:15:39,034 --> 00:15:40,827
Bolla, bolla,
bolla, bolla, bolla.
256
00:15:40,827 --> 00:15:41,931
Yay!
257
00:15:45,172 --> 00:15:48,137
- Iceland's such a weird place.
- Yeah, I know.
258
00:15:48,137 --> 00:15:50,482
Go get dressed, babe,
and go and get some buns.
259
00:15:50,482 --> 00:15:51,758
All right.
260
00:15:52,586 --> 00:15:54,482
When I got to Iceland
yesterday,
261
00:15:54,482 --> 00:15:56,586
Ingi was a little cold
with me, a little distant,
262
00:15:56,586 --> 00:15:58,827
but last night he turned up
the heat a little bit.
263
00:15:58,827 --> 00:16:00,103
We got to a simmer.
264
00:16:00,103 --> 00:16:00,896
Beautiful, babe.
265
00:16:00,896 --> 00:16:02,206
Thank you.
266
00:16:03,310 --> 00:16:05,068
♪ Let's get some buns
267
00:16:05,068 --> 00:16:06,448
Oh, yeah.
268
00:16:06,931 --> 00:16:08,379
All right, babe.
269
00:16:08,379 --> 00:16:11,000
I can't believe
that this is my home now.
270
00:16:11,586 --> 00:16:13,344
Holy [bleep].
271
00:16:13,344 --> 00:16:14,344
Cold one today.
272
00:16:14,344 --> 00:16:16,000
What the [bleep]?
273
00:16:20,586 --> 00:16:22,379
It just feels really good
to be with my person.
274
00:16:22,379 --> 00:16:24,896
So like, I'm excited for like,
what's to come
275
00:16:24,896 --> 00:16:26,724
and I'm looking forward to it.
276
00:16:29,758 --> 00:16:31,551
Oh, [bleep],
he's like torching them.
277
00:16:31,551 --> 00:16:33,344
- Yeah.
- That's fancy as [bleep].
278
00:16:33,344 --> 00:16:34,448
Yeah.
279
00:16:55,655 --> 00:16:56,586
That's so good.
280
00:16:56,586 --> 00:16:59,000
- I know.
- Bolla!
281
00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:02,896
Okay, so I did get my results
for my nursing exam.
282
00:17:02,896 --> 00:17:04,586
- All right, great.
- Which is, like,
a really big deal
283
00:17:04,586 --> 00:17:07,275
'cause that kind of determines
if I can work here,
284
00:17:07,275 --> 00:17:08,931
if I can go
to midwifery school,
285
00:17:08,931 --> 00:17:10,620
- if I can do anything.
- Yeah.
286
00:17:12,586 --> 00:17:14,758
I took my NCLEX
just a couple weeks ago.
287
00:17:14,758 --> 00:17:18,000
That's the test
all nurses in the US
have to take and pass.
288
00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:21,241
It opens all doors,
for me to go
to midwifery school,
289
00:17:21,241 --> 00:17:22,862
for me to be
a nurse in Iceland.
290
00:17:22,862 --> 00:17:24,655
I have to pass this damn test.
291
00:17:26,379 --> 00:17:27,931
You've got this, babe.
292
00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:30,482
Thank you, baby.
293
00:17:30,482 --> 00:17:34,551
If I didn't pass,
then I don't know
if I can stay in Iceland.
294
00:17:34,551 --> 00:17:35,551
Yeah, we'll figure that out.
295
00:17:37,379 --> 00:17:39,103
Yeah, like, I'm not joking.
296
00:17:39,103 --> 00:17:41,827
I would have to go back home
to the States,
297
00:17:41,827 --> 00:17:43,655
study some more,
take the test again.
298
00:17:43,655 --> 00:17:45,620
Eh, figure it out.
299
00:17:47,482 --> 00:17:49,896
- Should we check?
- Yeah. Let's check it out.
300
00:17:49,896 --> 00:17:52,000
Dun-dun-dun!
301
00:17:53,482 --> 00:17:55,034
Okay.
302
00:17:57,931 --> 00:17:59,793
Oh, [bleep]!
303
00:17:59,793 --> 00:18:01,172
Your girl passed.
304
00:18:01,172 --> 00:18:03,068
- Oh, you passed, babe.
- I passed!
305
00:18:03,068 --> 00:18:05,827
All right. I knew you would.
306
00:18:06,758 --> 00:18:08,896
- Congrats, babe.
That's awesome.
- Thank you.
307
00:18:08,896 --> 00:18:13,655
Yay!
308
00:18:13,655 --> 00:18:15,689
All right,
now that I've passed my test,
309
00:18:15,689 --> 00:18:18,655
I need to get
my nursing license
here in Iceland,
310
00:18:18,655 --> 00:18:20,551
and I need to get into
midwifery school.
311
00:18:20,551 --> 00:18:23,482
Eh, just take it
step by step, babe.
312
00:18:23,482 --> 00:18:26,275
I think you've only
seen me in, like,
vacation mode almost.
313
00:18:26,275 --> 00:18:27,586
You've never seen me, like...
314
00:18:27,586 --> 00:18:29,758
- In work mode?
- ...in work mode.
315
00:18:29,758 --> 00:18:32,000
I just, I don't know
if I've really, like...
316
00:18:32,896 --> 00:18:34,827
told you, necessarily, like,
317
00:18:34,827 --> 00:18:38,344
how big of a deal
all of this is,
318
00:18:38,344 --> 00:18:42,448
like coming here
and, like, kind of derailing
my plans a little bit.
319
00:18:43,068 --> 00:18:44,379
It's literally, like,
the only thing
320
00:18:44,379 --> 00:18:46,896
I've ever wanted in my life
is to be a midwife.
321
00:18:46,896 --> 00:18:48,793
I think it was
my fourth time applying
322
00:18:48,793 --> 00:18:50,586
that I finally got into Penn.
323
00:18:50,586 --> 00:18:52,758
They only take ten or fifteen
324
00:18:52,758 --> 00:18:54,275
out of probably
10,000 or 15,000.
325
00:18:54,275 --> 00:18:55,827
Damn.
326
00:18:55,827 --> 00:18:59,344
So, like,
if I were to talk to myself,
like, five years ago to today
327
00:18:59,344 --> 00:19:02,034
and be like,
"Oh, you're moving to Iceland
328
00:19:02,034 --> 00:19:03,586
to be with some
frickin' white dude,"
329
00:19:03,586 --> 00:19:07,379
I would punch myself
in the face fully.
330
00:19:07,379 --> 00:19:09,241
All right.
331
00:19:20,310 --> 00:19:21,758
- No.
- No.
332
00:19:23,689 --> 00:19:26,000
Ingi's response says
that he doesn't understand
333
00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:27,931
the magnitude of what it means
334
00:19:27,931 --> 00:19:30,551
that I even got accepted
into this school at Penn,
335
00:19:30,551 --> 00:19:32,172
let alone gave it up for him.
336
00:19:32,172 --> 00:19:35,379
And granted,
I should have been
more upfront
337
00:19:35,379 --> 00:19:37,103
and told him what a big deal
that is to me.
338
00:19:37,103 --> 00:19:40,344
But also,
I wish I didn't have to spell
everything out for him
339
00:19:40,344 --> 00:19:42,620
and that some things
he would just pick up
on his own.
340
00:19:44,413 --> 00:19:46,482
But yeah, I know I, like,
downplay a lot of things,
I think, like,
341
00:19:46,482 --> 00:19:49,034
"Oh, it's not a big deal.
I be making impossible
things happen."
342
00:19:49,034 --> 00:19:50,482
But with you,
I guess I need to, like,
343
00:19:50,482 --> 00:19:52,724
start breaking down
some walls.
344
00:19:54,068 --> 00:19:55,793
I know
it's your first relationship
345
00:19:55,793 --> 00:19:59,103
and my first,
like, I don't know,
person I've actually loved.
346
00:19:59,689 --> 00:20:00,896
I just...
347
00:20:01,586 --> 00:20:04,172
maybe shielded you
from a few things...
348
00:20:04,172 --> 00:20:06,620
- All right. All right.
- ...so far.
349
00:20:08,206 --> 00:20:09,655
Since me and Ingi
have been together,
350
00:20:09,655 --> 00:20:12,103
I have been
soft partnering him,
351
00:20:12,103 --> 00:20:14,793
and so a lot of the things
that are important to me
352
00:20:14,793 --> 00:20:16,068
or that are pissing me off,
353
00:20:16,068 --> 00:20:18,827
I don't always, like,
shove right in his face
354
00:20:18,827 --> 00:20:21,068
because I realize
that I'm a lot
355
00:20:21,068 --> 00:20:24,137
and Ingi is just like
a little puppy, you know?
356
00:20:24,137 --> 00:20:28,551
And I just, I don't want him
to go running for the hills.
357
00:20:28,551 --> 00:20:31,551
There have been some times
where, like, legitimately,
358
00:20:31,551 --> 00:20:33,482
I wanted to pop
the [bleep] off on you.
359
00:20:33,482 --> 00:20:35,448
Praying mantis
bite your head off.
360
00:20:35,448 --> 00:20:36,827
Oh, [bleep].
361
00:20:36,827 --> 00:20:38,034
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
362
00:20:38,620 --> 00:20:40,551
But I do not
363
00:20:40,551 --> 00:20:42,793
because I consider myself
soft partnering...
364
00:20:42,793 --> 00:20:46,275
- Yeah?
- ...in which I'm trying to be
a softer version of myself,
365
00:20:46,275 --> 00:20:48,620
- for your benefit and mine.
- Oh.
366
00:20:49,379 --> 00:20:50,517
All right.
367
00:20:50,517 --> 00:20:52,551
But it doesn't mean, like,
it hasn't been in there,
368
00:20:52,551 --> 00:20:54,068
and that
I haven't been triggered.
369
00:20:54,068 --> 00:20:55,827
Hey, if you pop off,
370
00:20:55,827 --> 00:20:57,241
I'm just gonna
try to make you laugh.
371
00:20:59,310 --> 00:21:01,241
- That's a mistake.
- Eh.
372
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,862
- Okay, you've been warned.
- We'll see.
373
00:21:03,862 --> 00:21:05,551
- Yeah.
- That's all I can say.
374
00:21:05,551 --> 00:21:08,655
I'm still gonna keep
soft partnering
the out [bleep] of you.
375
00:21:12,206 --> 00:21:13,689
But I can only
hold in so much.
376
00:21:13,689 --> 00:21:15,034
All right.
377
00:21:15,862 --> 00:21:16,896
Hmm.
378
00:21:21,103 --> 00:21:23,000
Corona is telling me
that she had been,
379
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:26,655
like, sheltering me, like,
with some soft partnering.
380
00:21:26,655 --> 00:21:30,034
I've always just had
the approach of, like,
381
00:21:30,034 --> 00:21:33,241
you know, just try to be,
like, as honest as I can.
382
00:21:33,241 --> 00:21:35,275
So, yeah, I'm a little nervous
383
00:21:35,275 --> 00:21:38,931
because I want to know,
like, what else is there?
384
00:21:38,931 --> 00:21:40,448
Like, what are you
not telling me?
385
00:21:42,413 --> 00:21:44,413
Stop furrowing your brows.
386
00:21:44,931 --> 00:21:46,793
Are you okay?
387
00:21:46,793 --> 00:21:49,172
- I'm okay.
- Have I scared you
with this conversation?
388
00:21:49,172 --> 00:21:50,758
No, not really.
389
00:21:50,758 --> 00:21:52,379
Not really? So a little bit.
390
00:21:52,379 --> 00:21:53,517
Yeah.
391
00:21:59,620 --> 00:22:00,586
Yeah.
392
00:22:00,586 --> 00:22:02,172
I just want this to work.
393
00:22:02,172 --> 00:22:03,655
- Obviously.
- Of course.
394
00:22:03,655 --> 00:22:05,586
Got a lot invested into this.
395
00:22:05,586 --> 00:22:06,827
Yeah.
396
00:22:09,275 --> 00:22:10,413
It's here.
397
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:12,137
Are you excited?
398
00:22:13,103 --> 00:22:15,275
Yay!
399
00:22:15,275 --> 00:22:18,758
There's Dempsey,
just like, "Yay! Van life."
400
00:22:18,758 --> 00:22:20,275
And I'm just, like,
401
00:22:20,275 --> 00:22:24,137
"This small, tiny space
is going to be the rest,
you know, of my life."
402
00:22:25,482 --> 00:22:26,655
Yeah.
403
00:22:30,793 --> 00:22:35,000
♪ Look at how we started
404
00:22:37,551 --> 00:22:40,413
♪ I'm in trouble
405
00:22:40,413 --> 00:22:42,000
♪ Running in circles
406
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:46,586
♪ Trouble circle
407
00:22:59,275 --> 00:23:01,862
Earlier today,
Statler arrived in the UK,
408
00:23:01,862 --> 00:23:04,689
and even though she's stressed
about van life,
409
00:23:04,689 --> 00:23:07,620
I thought that she would
still be excited to see me.
410
00:23:07,620 --> 00:23:12,103
This is like
a life-changing moment
for the both of us.
411
00:23:12,103 --> 00:23:14,310
It should be, like,
a nice, happy one,
412
00:23:14,310 --> 00:23:16,896
but instead,
it's just, like, flat.
413
00:23:19,758 --> 00:23:21,206
So when's he gonna be here?
414
00:23:22,482 --> 00:23:24,000
In a few minutes,
I hope,
415
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,620
'cause it looks like
the heavens are gonna open.
416
00:23:27,620 --> 00:23:31,103
- I'm really, really,
really, really excited.
- That's good.
417
00:23:31,103 --> 00:23:33,793
I know that we had just had
the little thingy in the taxi,
418
00:23:33,793 --> 00:23:35,344
when I told you
to [bleep] off.
419
00:23:35,344 --> 00:23:37,931
I didn't mean...
I didn't mean it.
420
00:23:37,931 --> 00:23:40,689
I'm just,
because I'm so excited,
421
00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:43,655
I wanted you
to be excited with me.
422
00:23:43,655 --> 00:23:45,000
I know, yeah.
423
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,758
It was a journey,
424
00:23:47,758 --> 00:23:53,000
and it's hard to get off
a plane sleep deprived,
hungry, moody and...
425
00:23:54,482 --> 00:23:55,655
Yeah.
426
00:23:56,482 --> 00:23:59,344
I literally just spent
ten hours of traveling.
427
00:23:59,344 --> 00:24:01,655
I'm exhausted
and I'm, you know,
428
00:24:01,655 --> 00:24:04,000
supposed to immediately
learn this van
429
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:05,275
and learn van life
430
00:24:05,275 --> 00:24:08,793
and just become
comfortable with it
and excited for it.
431
00:24:08,793 --> 00:24:11,586
And I'm not.
Like, I'm overwhelmed.
432
00:24:11,586 --> 00:24:16,482
I wish that
she could just understand
where I'm coming from.
433
00:24:16,482 --> 00:24:20,655
But there's Dempsey,
just like, "Yay! Van life!
434
00:24:20,655 --> 00:24:24,310
"Day one!
We're getting started.
Excitement. Yay!"
435
00:24:24,310 --> 00:24:25,896
And I'm just like...
436
00:24:29,034 --> 00:24:30,275
It's here.
437
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,482
Ooh, it's big.
438
00:24:36,482 --> 00:24:39,310
I'm surprised the tires
that small can hold it.
439
00:24:41,793 --> 00:24:43,068
Yay!
440
00:24:43,689 --> 00:24:45,137
Are you excited?
441
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,724
Hi!
442
00:24:48,724 --> 00:24:52,206
Yay! Excited!
443
00:24:55,689 --> 00:24:57,103
Very cool.
444
00:24:57,758 --> 00:24:59,000
Exciting. Thank you.
445
00:25:03,551 --> 00:25:04,724
Wow.
446
00:25:06,896 --> 00:25:08,482
Well, they're quite big.
447
00:25:08,482 --> 00:25:12,000
I feel like
your definition of big
is very different from mine.
448
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,068
At least
we can stand up in it.
That's cool.
449
00:25:15,068 --> 00:25:19,862
Wow, this is quite
a lot of space in the kitchen.
450
00:25:19,862 --> 00:25:21,310
This is
the bathroom.
451
00:25:22,103 --> 00:25:24,620
Shower.
Nice.
452
00:25:25,448 --> 00:25:27,413
I'm so excited
that the van's finally here
453
00:25:27,413 --> 00:25:30,379
because this has always
been a dream of mine.
454
00:25:30,379 --> 00:25:32,448
- It's nice.
- Yeah.
455
00:25:32,448 --> 00:25:36,172
I'm hoping
that Statler's anxiety
starts to fade
456
00:25:36,172 --> 00:25:39,344
and then, in the near future,
we can enjoy it.
457
00:25:39,344 --> 00:25:41,068
And if we sit here,
458
00:25:41,068 --> 00:25:43,758
we can get a projector there
459
00:25:43,758 --> 00:25:45,172
- that drops down.
- Oh, yeah.
460
00:25:45,172 --> 00:25:48,827
- And watch a movie.
- Or we could just
watch a mountain or a...
461
00:25:48,827 --> 00:25:50,379
- Ocean.
- ...or an ocean.
462
00:25:50,379 --> 00:25:52,000
- Or a lake.
- Or a lake.
463
00:25:53,793 --> 00:25:56,896
This is nice.
This is very nice.
I think I can live here.
464
00:25:57,172 --> 00:25:58,517
Yeah?
465
00:25:58,517 --> 00:26:00,068
Yup.
466
00:26:01,344 --> 00:26:04,793
Finally seeing the van
put my doubts to rest.
467
00:26:04,793 --> 00:26:08,000
- I'm happy. Are you?
- I'm super happy, yeah.
468
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,379
Yeah, it feels nice.
469
00:26:09,379 --> 00:26:13,758
The buildup is what kind
of makes me a negative Nancy.
470
00:26:13,758 --> 00:26:15,103
So once I finally saw it,
471
00:26:15,103 --> 00:26:17,689
it was like, "Okay,
now we have a place to stay.
472
00:26:17,689 --> 00:26:20,000
"It looks livable.
Things are good."
473
00:26:21,448 --> 00:26:23,586
I'm gonna
start with these.
474
00:26:24,482 --> 00:26:27,793
♪ It's okay to turn around
475
00:26:27,793 --> 00:26:31,793
♪ You've got my love
476
00:26:37,482 --> 00:26:39,206
It's what I've been wanting
all along.
477
00:26:40,172 --> 00:26:42,413
Just took me a while
to get there, but I'm here.
478
00:26:43,344 --> 00:26:44,931
Cheers.
479
00:26:45,448 --> 00:26:46,586
Cheers.
480
00:26:49,379 --> 00:26:51,896
- Ready to rumble?
- Ready to rock.
481
00:26:51,896 --> 00:26:53,241
Let's go.
482
00:26:53,241 --> 00:26:55,827
- I'm scared.
- I'm just terrified.
483
00:26:55,827 --> 00:26:58,000
Ooh, that has
a caution light on.
484
00:26:59,379 --> 00:27:02,000
I am so happy
that the van is this nice.
485
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,482
And honestly,
I was expecting the worst.
486
00:27:04,482 --> 00:27:07,620
But it's still
a big realization
487
00:27:07,620 --> 00:27:09,620
that this small, tiny space
488
00:27:09,620 --> 00:27:12,241
is going to be the rest,
you know, of my life.
489
00:27:18,241 --> 00:27:19,310
Yes.
490
00:27:28,551 --> 00:27:30,310
I have been wearing it.
491
00:27:34,275 --> 00:27:37,482
Everyone knows Sean
as my boyfriend,
492
00:27:37,482 --> 00:27:39,482
but that's not actually true.
493
00:27:39,482 --> 00:27:41,896
We probably
should have told them,
494
00:27:41,896 --> 00:27:43,689
I don't know, a year ago,
495
00:28:07,758 --> 00:28:10,413
- Hey, babe.
- What's up, babe?
496
00:28:10,413 --> 00:28:12,000
Well, your haircut looks nice.
497
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:13,689
Yeah, it always looks nice,
doesn't it?
498
00:28:17,275 --> 00:28:19,620
- So?
- So?
499
00:28:19,620 --> 00:28:21,862
Coming there soon.
Are you ready for me?
500
00:28:23,655 --> 00:28:27,310
- About time.
- Have you booked a place
for us to stay yet?
501
00:28:27,310 --> 00:28:28,827
With the boys?
502
00:28:31,482 --> 00:28:34,172
Next week,
I'm taking the boys
over to Ireland
503
00:28:34,172 --> 00:28:36,000
to meet Sean
for the first time.
504
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:37,689
I'm super excited about it.
505
00:28:37,689 --> 00:28:39,413
I think it's gonna go well.
506
00:28:39,413 --> 00:28:42,137
I mean, I'm hopeful
that it's gonna go well.
507
00:28:49,172 --> 00:28:50,827
No. You're it, babe.
508
00:28:50,827 --> 00:28:52,827
You're the man.
509
00:28:57,103 --> 00:28:59,137
I have been wearing it.
510
00:29:00,068 --> 00:29:02,413
I wear it now all the time.
511
00:29:04,344 --> 00:29:07,827
Oh, shut up! Look. It's...
512
00:29:10,103 --> 00:29:13,413
Everyone knows Sean
as my boyfriend,
513
00:29:13,413 --> 00:29:15,689
but that's not actually true.
514
00:29:15,689 --> 00:29:17,793
Sean and I
are actually married,
515
00:29:17,793 --> 00:29:21,586
and we have been
for two years.
516
00:29:24,241 --> 00:29:26,482
What do you think
they're gonna do
when we tell them?
517
00:29:38,275 --> 00:29:40,034
When we were in the moment,
we were like,
518
00:29:40,034 --> 00:29:41,965
"Yes, you're my person
519
00:29:41,965 --> 00:29:43,275
and we're doing this,"
520
00:29:43,275 --> 00:29:44,758
and then that was it.
521
00:29:44,758 --> 00:29:46,758
But that was
what was cool about it.
522
00:29:46,758 --> 00:29:47,965
Yeah.
523
00:29:47,965 --> 00:29:50,000
My third trip over to Ireland,
524
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,517
Sean and I decided,
"Yeah, let's get married."
525
00:29:54,586 --> 00:29:57,586
But we decided
not to tell anybody at all.
526
00:29:57,586 --> 00:29:59,172
We decided
that this was something
527
00:29:59,172 --> 00:30:02,689
that we were
not going to announce
until we were ready.
528
00:30:03,448 --> 00:30:04,896
But the more time that passes,
529
00:30:04,896 --> 00:30:08,000
the harder
it's getting to tell people.
530
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,000
'Cause now it's like,
I look back and I'm like,
531
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,551
"Okay, how the hell
am I explaining
that I kept this
532
00:30:13,551 --> 00:30:18,689
from my family
and my friends for this long?"
533
00:30:20,482 --> 00:30:21,896
I have a question.
534
00:30:23,103 --> 00:30:25,241
How do we bring this up?
535
00:30:25,241 --> 00:30:27,172
Like, do we just...
536
00:30:27,172 --> 00:30:28,896
What do we do?
Like, what do we do?
537
00:30:28,896 --> 00:30:31,241
We're just like, "Hey, kids."
538
00:30:37,241 --> 00:30:40,206
No, you're gonna be
right there with me.
539
00:30:50,241 --> 00:30:51,413
Yeah.
540
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:54,931
I know.
541
00:30:57,068 --> 00:30:59,586
We probably
should have told them,
542
00:30:59,586 --> 00:31:01,896
I don't know, a year ago,
543
00:31:01,896 --> 00:31:04,827
and then this wouldn't
have been such a,
544
00:31:04,827 --> 00:31:06,586
"Oh, by the way," you know?
545
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,482
Here's another thing
that I'm thinking.
546
00:31:14,482 --> 00:31:17,310
Because my mother
is not coming
547
00:31:17,310 --> 00:31:19,793
and she was supposed to,
548
00:31:19,793 --> 00:31:23,344
as a respect thing,
I'm thinking that
I should tell her
549
00:31:23,344 --> 00:31:26,586
before I come.
550
00:31:30,689 --> 00:31:34,448
Like, so that she knows
before I tell the boys.
551
00:31:34,448 --> 00:31:35,620
Yeah.
552
00:31:39,103 --> 00:31:41,344
Telling my mother
I am married,
553
00:31:41,344 --> 00:31:43,689
and didn't tell her about it,
554
00:31:43,689 --> 00:31:47,655
there is no best-case scenario
in my head
555
00:31:47,655 --> 00:31:48,965
'cause, I mean, God,
556
00:31:48,965 --> 00:31:51,103
if you ever get
the silent treatment
from that woman,
557
00:31:51,103 --> 00:31:52,655
you'd understand.
558
00:31:52,655 --> 00:31:57,137
As nerve-wracking as it may be
to make these announcements,
559
00:31:57,137 --> 00:31:59,413
I'm just glad
to have it off of my chest.
560
00:31:59,793 --> 00:32:02,000
With that being said,
561
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:06,137
the boys are a big
decision-maker here, you know?
562
00:32:06,137 --> 00:32:11,344
I don't know,
like, if I could commit
to the move
563
00:32:11,344 --> 00:32:16,206
if they don't like you.
564
00:32:18,655 --> 00:32:21,620
It's really important for them
565
00:32:22,793 --> 00:32:26,103
to be 100% all-in
with me with you
566
00:32:26,103 --> 00:32:29,137
in order for me to say,
567
00:32:29,137 --> 00:32:31,517
"Okay, we're gonna
make this jump,
568
00:32:31,517 --> 00:32:33,724
and I'm gonna go over
and move there."
569
00:32:34,689 --> 00:32:37,896
I am a mom first,
in everything.
570
00:32:37,896 --> 00:32:39,517
Their needs come before mine.
571
00:32:40,275 --> 00:32:45,137
If my boys do not approve
of my move to Ireland,
572
00:32:45,137 --> 00:32:46,896
I'm not gonna
be able to move there.
573
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:49,379
How do we handle that?
574
00:32:55,344 --> 00:32:56,517
We have...
575
00:32:58,482 --> 00:33:00,862
We are still paying for it.
576
00:33:08,172 --> 00:33:10,965
Things have escalated
very, very quickly.
577
00:33:10,965 --> 00:33:13,310
I have no idea
what's happening anymore.
578
00:33:37,689 --> 00:33:38,827
Can I try it?
579
00:33:38,827 --> 00:33:40,206
Yeah, Pa. Please.
580
00:33:43,586 --> 00:33:44,724
Mm!
581
00:33:46,896 --> 00:33:48,413
Yeah?
So delicious!
582
00:33:48,413 --> 00:33:50,000
Let me try, let me try.
583
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,068
We just finished
making banana chips.
584
00:33:52,068 --> 00:33:53,620
They are really, really good.
585
00:33:53,620 --> 00:33:55,103
Tastes sweet.
586
00:33:55,103 --> 00:33:58,551
Oh! So, just,
chewy in your mouth.
587
00:33:58,551 --> 00:34:00,896
I could eat those
all day long.
588
00:34:05,758 --> 00:34:08,103
If we sell this,
we can make a lot of money.
589
00:34:09,862 --> 00:34:11,137
But at the same time,
590
00:34:11,137 --> 00:34:14,689
I'm seeing now
that it might not
be as profitable
591
00:34:14,689 --> 00:34:17,000
as what we need to be making.
592
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:21,068
Needing $700 a month
just to pay our bills
back in the US,
593
00:34:21,068 --> 00:34:24,000
and then not even covering
our living expenses here,
594
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:25,827
I'm not sure
if we'll be able to do that.
595
00:34:30,482 --> 00:34:32,931
Better
you make it even more.
596
00:34:44,275 --> 00:34:46,068
Yeah.
597
00:34:46,068 --> 00:34:48,275
Would you like to start it?
598
00:34:52,896 --> 00:34:54,068
Okay.
599
00:34:55,896 --> 00:34:58,862
I just want to get it
off my shoulder,
600
00:34:58,862 --> 00:35:05,137
and I hope
that they're so excited
and they're so happy.
601
00:35:05,793 --> 00:35:08,827
So we will see
what they think.
602
00:35:37,068 --> 00:35:39,586
- Lot of banana chips? Yeah?
- Mm-hmm.
603
00:35:56,793 --> 00:35:59,172
So that leads
into the question of,
604
00:35:59,172 --> 00:36:03,000
is it something
we could do full time
605
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,586
to make enough money
to live here?
606
00:36:05,586 --> 00:36:08,310
Because we have a car.
607
00:36:10,482 --> 00:36:12,551
We are still paying for it.
608
00:36:22,137 --> 00:36:24,206
She asked
how much is the car?
609
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,379
We still owe $15,000.
610
00:36:41,689 --> 00:36:44,379
...to help you guys
maybe pay it off.
611
00:36:46,172 --> 00:36:49,344
I don't want to make life
harder for people here.
612
00:37:05,689 --> 00:37:07,793
Don't ever
take a loan ever again.
613
00:37:08,862 --> 00:37:10,000
Okay?
614
00:37:10,482 --> 00:37:12,413
I mean, I would say yes,
615
00:37:12,413 --> 00:37:15,413
but sometimes in life,
you have to take a loan.
616
00:37:15,413 --> 00:37:16,206
Yeah.
617
00:37:29,551 --> 00:37:32,000
Don't let
the bank take control of us.
618
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,000
We need to take control.
619
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,172
You need to
help me on this one.
620
00:37:36,172 --> 00:37:38,724
There's things
we need to talk about.
621
00:37:38,724 --> 00:37:41,000
Yeah, but I need to translate
what you said to them, too.
622
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:44,172
I know, but at this point,
you need to join in
the conversation.
623
00:37:44,172 --> 00:37:45,275
This isn't just me.
624
00:37:51,862 --> 00:37:54,275
I understand. But right now...
625
00:37:54,275 --> 00:37:57,103
...that doesn't fix...
626
00:37:57,103 --> 00:37:59,310
...help me here.
I need you to...
627
00:38:03,586 --> 00:38:04,793
What did you say?
628
00:38:05,758 --> 00:38:07,965
You got to take control
on this one.
629
00:38:07,965 --> 00:38:09,655
I'm trying to.
630
00:38:09,655 --> 00:38:11,862
And I need to think
to translate.
631
00:38:11,862 --> 00:38:13,413
You don't have to
translate anymore.
632
00:38:13,413 --> 00:38:14,896
Talk to your parents
and let them know about...
633
00:38:14,896 --> 00:38:16,344
I was trying to.
634
00:38:16,344 --> 00:38:19,689
Okay, I will stay quiet
so you can do that then.
635
00:38:23,689 --> 00:38:25,862
Tata and I have talked
in the past
636
00:38:25,862 --> 00:38:29,000
about not wanting her parents
to feel responsible for us,
637
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:30,862
and obviously there's no way
638
00:38:30,862 --> 00:38:33,379
I'm gonna let them
pay for our car.
639
00:38:33,379 --> 00:38:37,034
And I'm not sure
if she's just not translating
what I'm saying.
640
00:38:37,034 --> 00:38:39,344
I just need Tata
to really voice
641
00:38:39,344 --> 00:38:40,965
that that's not
the reason we're here.
642
00:38:40,965 --> 00:38:43,310
We don't want your money.
We won't take your money.
643
00:38:44,172 --> 00:38:45,896
I told you
I'd follow your lead.
644
00:38:45,896 --> 00:38:48,724
I need you to be
the lead in this, not me.
645
00:38:59,689 --> 00:39:01,413
We had this conversation.
646
00:39:07,379 --> 00:39:10,172
And that's why
I don't think we were ready
to have this conversation.
647
00:39:17,793 --> 00:39:21,068
Why,
in this moment,
in front of my parents,
648
00:39:21,068 --> 00:39:22,655
you push me?
649
00:39:24,448 --> 00:39:27,689
Saying, "Well,
you need to tell them this.
You need to tell them this."
650
00:39:27,689 --> 00:39:31,896
Like, I am doing my very best.
651
00:39:31,896 --> 00:39:37,068
I think that my parents
also are so confused
why we're fighting
652
00:39:37,068 --> 00:39:39,793
when we give them good news
653
00:39:39,793 --> 00:39:42,482
because they don't know
what are we talking about?
654
00:39:42,482 --> 00:39:44,379
And I felt really bad.
655
00:41:13,344 --> 00:41:16,379
Things have escalated
very, very quickly.
656
00:41:16,379 --> 00:41:19,620
I have no idea
what's happening anymore.
657
00:41:19,620 --> 00:41:22,793
I don't know even why
she is so upset right now.
658
00:41:23,862 --> 00:41:26,241
I feel very alone.
659
00:41:27,172 --> 00:41:28,620
God, I'm confused.
660
00:41:34,344 --> 00:41:37,379
Next time on
90 Day Fiancee:
The Other Way...
661
00:41:37,379 --> 00:41:39,275
Hello. We're newbies.
662
00:41:39,275 --> 00:41:42,517
It's time to get this life on
the road, thing a shot.
663
00:41:43,758 --> 00:41:46,827
Don't know how to let the heat
in, the whole system is [bleep].
664
00:41:50,689 --> 00:41:52,896
No! No!
665
00:41:52,896 --> 00:41:54,172
What the hell is this?
666
00:41:59,965 --> 00:42:02,310
I literally almost threw up
in my frickin' mouth.
667
00:42:06,103 --> 00:42:07,448
Are you
gonna move to Ireland?
668
00:42:07,448 --> 00:42:09,275
What is it
you're telling me, Joanne?
669
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,620
Well, we'll be...
Well, we're married.
670
00:42:13,448 --> 00:42:16,000
How do you not even tell
your mother you're married?
671
00:42:16,793 --> 00:42:18,275
I'm your mother!
672
00:42:20,655 --> 00:42:24,103
It's not fair to me
to not know what's going on.
673
00:42:31,586 --> 00:42:33,448
If you think
abandoning your husband
674
00:42:33,448 --> 00:42:35,379
in another country
is a good idea...