[Sean] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
What? That's crazy.
She brought it to my attention, so now I'm gonna
put more energy into it, I guess.
Thank you, honey.
[Meitalia speaking]
[James] I can't give them a great life.
I don't even know if I can take care of us here.
[Meitalia] I still didn't get an answer
that we can have a kid or not.
I don't want to wait and hope forever.
Did you apply for that midwife school over there?
Not yet, but it's high on the list.
Did I tell a joke?
Now that we are all here together,
we have some news to share with you guys.
We're married.
[Joey] Are you guys joking?
For two years?
We know it's a shock, so we apologize.
Are we, like,
busting with questions?
-[Jesse] Yes. -[Joanne] Yeah?
I just dropped a bomb on my boys, letting them know that
Sean is not just my boyfriend, but he's my husband.
Of course, they were shocked,
but I can also tell
that there was more to their emotions
than what they first reacted.
Let's park in here and get out of the rain
and, uh, we'll talk.
Definitely important for me to give the boys
an opportunity to speak
without Sean being there.
And let them get out whatever it is
that they're feeling, that they may be embarrassed
to share in front of others.
So, uh, what'd you think of our news?
[scoffs] Surprising.
Confusing.
It's been two years.
[Joey] Yeah, why won't you tell us in the beginning?
[Joanne] I should have told you sooner, okay?
I think I was waiting for the perfect moment,
so that was on me.
And then the more time that passed,
the harder it got to tell you guys.
I also wanted you guys to have met him first,
in person, before.
-You're just... -[Joey] Yeah.
-overwhelmed with the... -Yeah.
-[Joanne] ...info? Okay. -Yeah.
You too, Jess?
Yeah?
I get it.
I've seen the hurt in his eyes.
Even though he didn't
necessarily want to admit that to me,
I'm their mother. And I'm
the reason that they're hurt.
Should have told them sooner.
[Joey] Is the ring you have on
-the ring he gave you? -[Joanne] Yeah.
It was really just something for us.
Nobody was there.
No family members.
We had two strangers witness.
[Joey] All right. Well...
Wait. So, Mom, it...
-Now since you're married to Sean... -Yeah.
...where are we living now?
[Joanne] You know, I don't know what that looks like,
but I'm hoping that,
um...
I would make Ireland home base
and then
come back to the United States
every so many weeks.
You know, I would love for you guys
to be able to come here.
So you're saying we would move here too?
[Joanne] If you wanted to.
But that's a conversation I need to have with your father.
I mean, yeah. It's... [scoffs]
I don't know.
-Say... -[Joanne] Mm-hmm.
...we don't want to come here...
-[Joanne] Yeah. -...live here...
-[Joanne] Yeah. -...with you and Sean...
-[Joanne] Mm-hmm. -...where would we stay in New York?
I mean, I'm still gonna have a home in New York for you guys.
Like, I'm not gonna not have a home there.
That's,
you know, that's your home.
I'll definitely be home
with you guys,
at least two to three weeks,
and, you know,
a little workings maybe with, uh,
some grandparents
and good old dad of yours
so we can figure out the calendar schedule,
and then we can take it from there.
I mean, obviously, there's a lot to digest
and a lot to swallow,
but, you know, you guys are
more important to me than anything.
I want this to be home base.
But I'm not gonna do that without your blessing.
I think I'm gonna speak for both of us on this one.
[Joanne] Uh-huh.
Just need time to sit on it.
-That's fair. -[Joey] Think about it a little more.
-That's fair. -[Joey] I mean,
took a lot of information in today, so...
-[Joanne] I get it. -...I think we just need some time to sit.
-[Joanne] Yeah? -[both] Yeah.
I respect that.
It was a bit naive of me
to think that
they would be happy and jumping for joy.
I just dumped, like,
a world of worry onto my kids' shoulders,
and the last thing I want to do is hurt my kids.
It's not black and white. It's not written in stone yet,
and your opinion matters to me,
your feelings matter.
And I will not abandon my kids.
Yeah.
Do you think we have everything we need?
-I hope so. -Yeah.
-Here we go. Instagram. -[James] Hey.
[Meitalia] James has been living in Indonesia for a week,
and today we are going to the immigration,
'cause he needs a visa to live here.
I kind of like, like, the hustle and bustle
-and the craziness of everything here. -Yeah?
[James] But at the same time, like,
relaxed.
Like, crazy chill.
[bus horn honking]
[James] What the heck was that?
Oh, that was different, all right.
-I was not ready for that. -[chuckles]
After me and James
have a conversation about having kids,
it's really weighed on me.
But I've been trying to
hide my emotion, because I don't want to fight.
I just want him to be happy here,
but it's really hard for me to hold it in.
[James] I'm excited to get a visa,
to actually have it.
[Meitalia speaking]
Um, I guess the only thing
I'm nervous about long term is,
what can we do to make money?
The banana chip business is, uh,
it's interesting,
but I don't think we're gonna be able to make any money on that.
Since my banana chip lesson last week,
I've learned a lot about the banana chip industry.
And me and Tatha have both agreed that
I cannot work for the family business.
That doesn't mean I don't want to help them.
It just means that I need to be able to provide for us.
We had a jewelry business back in the States,
and that's something that I would really like to
try to start over here if we could.
I want us to be making our own way,
you know, for us,
for our future, for our family.
I mean, we gotta figure out
what we're doing about Jojo as well.
Like, that's a big one,
'cause, I mean, I don't know about you,
but I've been missing him like crazy.
[Meitalia speaking]
[James] I did tell Tatha before she left for Indonesia
that Jojo was not gonna be able to come
at least for now, because there is
a rabies outbreak across the country,
and they have banned the immigration of animals.
Since me and Tatha had the conversation,
I have found out more info,
and I know it's something
that I need to let Tatha know about.
But now, the other thing with it as well is,
even if we brought him here somehow,
he would never be allowed to go back into the U.S. currently.
So, if we can't get
a life situated over here,
if we can't find a way to support ourselves,
then we would be permanently separated from him.
[sniffles]
Can we at least visit him?
Financially, we can't afford that at all.
We have no income,
and we still have the car that's not selling.
I just want to see him and hold him.
[James] He's our baby.
[Meitalia] I wish we can figure out
how to make Jojo be here.
I don't have a kid, and I also don't have Jojo,
what do I have?
It just feels empty.
[James] You know if it was possible to bring him here,
well, I'd have already done it.
[James speaking]
[sniffles]
I love being Jojo's dad.
He is a ball of love,
just a little light in the world.
And we definitely became
-a pretty solid family. -Yeah.
[James] But until our little family is back together
as a whole,
I feel like if I was a dad, I'm failing.
I have abandoned
our child back in the States right now.
And if I can't even take care of a dog,
how can I expect to take care of a human?
I'm gonna type in the address.
It's a surprise.
I came all the way to China to be with her.
And I'm not giving up on this relationship.
This is something special just for you.
[Corona] Today, I'm meeting up with
a social media group of Black Icelanders.
Either you're completely noticed
or completely avoided.
But the kids will just go up and be like,
"Why is your skin brown?"
Does Hangzhou ever get sunlight?
It's always cloudy.
-[Lily] Yes. -[Josh chuckles]
[Lily] Always cloudy.
Doesn't bother me.
No.
Lily and I are
definitely stuck in this
reoccurring argument
and feelings of
pain or feeling unloved.
But I came all the way to China to be with her.
And I'm not giving up on this relationship.
I'm gonna type in the address.
It's a surprise.
So you just drive there.
-[Josh] Yeah. -Oh.
This is something special just for you.
No guesses. Don't guess.
Lily has made it really clear to me that
she needs to feel I love her.
I thought moving across the world would show her that.
But she needs more gestures
in our daily life.
So today, I planned something special for her.
Beautiful. Oh.
[in Mandarin]
[woman, in English] Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I'm Rose, and welcome to my studio.
-And are you the one that will be teaching us? -Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[Josh] I wanted to bring you here to dance.
'Cause I don't know how to dance, I never dance.
But I figured it would be special
learning with you.
Okay, let's go for it.
-Okay. -Okay.
Let's go together.
We need to change our clothes.
[in Mandarin]
[Rose, in Mandarin]
[in English]
-[in English] I think I did this right. -[Lily exclaims]
-[Rose, in English] Wow. -[Lily exclaims]
-I know, right? -[Lily speaking]
-It's amazing. -[Rose laughs]
[Lily] Who are you?
You look amazing.
Now, you are going to learn
a Chinese traditional dance.
Make a circle like this.
One, two, three, four.
Two, two, three, four. The two, two, three, four is very important.
You need to hold your wife like this.
Two, two, three, four. Like this.
-[Lily, in Mandarin] -[in English] Can you...
-Two, two, three, four. -[Rose] Yeah.
-Okay. -[Rose] We can try first.
Go.
One, two, three, four.
Go, go, go. Five, six, seven, eight.
Go. Fly. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Two, two, three, four.
Five, six, seven. Yes.
Great. I like this.
[Lily, in English]
Ready? Go.
One, two, three, four.
Five, six, seven, eight.
Two, two, three, four. Arms.
Five, six, seven, eight. Yeah. Good.
[Lily] Yes.
I love you.
-Love you. -You're so pretty.
-Oh, you are handsome. -[Josh] Ah.
Tonight was a special moment for us.
I think this is the exact kind of reset we needed
before our wedding ceremony.
Wow. So romantic.
Yeah, yeah.
My pleasure.
[Josh] I'm really hoping that we could just put
all our arguing behind us,
because Lily's family
is coming to attend the wedding ceremony.
And I want them to see that we're truly happy.
I don't want anyone to ever worry about
my relationship with Lily.
-That was so much fun. -Love you.
I love you.
[ducks quacking]
[Ingi speaking]
-[groans] -[laughs]
[growls]
[continues growling]
[both laugh]
-[Corona] Oh, man. -[Ingi] Ah.
[Ingi speaking]
[Corona speaking]
But I'm glad that this is happening.
That I'm getting to meet the, like,
Black people of Iceland group.
-Yeah. -Some camaraderie,
some of my people.
Today I'm meeting up with
a social media group of Black Icelanders
who have meet-ups every month or so.
Get the lowdown on how they feel
about being Black living in Iceland.
[Ingi] Yeah.
[Corona] What I'm getting myself into.
So far I've only been able to talk about it with, like,
no offense, but a bunch of white people.
Even though, like, I love Ingi,
he can't meet all my needs
and he'll never know what it's like to be Black in Iceland.
So this will
help Iceland start to feel like home.
I'd like to get the perspective from
some of my people who understand this quite
unique experience
of being Black...
Yeah. Of course, babe.
I'm really glad that Corona found this group online.
Hopefully, you know, she will get
a better feeling for what she could expect here.
I mean, there are
people everywhere with [bleep] opinions,
but, like, my family, my friends,
uh, you know,
no one cares that Corona is Black.
The only thing that matters is Corona is a really good person
and she makes me happy.
All right, babe.
I hope it just goes super well.
I hope so too.
-All right, babe. Love you. -[Corona] Love you.
-[Ingi] Bye. -Bye.
[Corona] The Black Icelanders that I'm meeting
are also transplants who came here
and assimilated to the culture.
So it gives me hope that, like, I can do that too.
-Yeah. -[woman] Yeah, yeah.
-Hello. -I'm Corona.
Hi. Santi?
-[both] Yes. -[Corona] Hello.
-Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you.
Hello. I'm Corona.
-How are you guys? -Good.
Surviving the cold?
No, it's normal now.
-[Corona] This is normal? -Yes.
There's gonna be an adjustment period.
-Yes. -[man] Yes.
So what brings you to Iceland?
-My boyfriend, my partner... -[man] See?
-What did I tell you? -...lives here.
[Asantewa] We had a discussion about
how do the majority of foreigners get to Iceland?
-For love. -And yeah.
[Jeff] I lived in Villingaholt,
countryside,
-and for eight years... -[Corona] Okay.
...with my ex,
-who's Icelandic. -Is she Icelandic? Okay.
-Which is why I came. -[Corona] Ah.
-Ah. -[Jeff] There you go.
-See? -Okay.
You came for love.
Came for love.
How long have you been here?
[Alice] I've been here for
30 plus years.
-[Corona] Okay. -I'm going into my 31st year.
[Corona] Seasoned.
Very.
And I just made sure to
immediately learn the language.
[Corona] Definitely the hardest language I've ever tried to learn by far.
How did you learn? Did you take classes or...
[Alice] Um, I took a class
and then talked to little kids.
-Yeah. -[Alice] They repeat
the same thing over and over
until it's kind of like stuck in their head.
See, I love kids in Iceland
because they are filter-less.
-Yes. -[Jeff] Whereas the adults,
you could tell, behind their eyes,
there are, like, questions.
-[Corona] Yes. -You know? But the kids will just go up and be like...
-"Hey, what's up?" -[Jeff] Yeah, like,
"Why is your hair like that?"
-[Corona] Yeah. [laughs] -Like... [chuckles]
"Why is your skin brown?"
-You know? -Yeah. "What's going on here?"
"You know how to rap?" I'm like, "No."
-Like, everything-- -"Do you know how to rap?"
[women laughing]
[Jeff] I've gone into places... I don't know
if we have this experience,
where you walk in and it's either you're
completely noticed
or completely avoided.
-[Corona] Yeah. -I get this.
A lot.
-Aw. -[Jeff] Okay.
-[Alice shushes] -It's weird.
-[whispers] It's not like that. -It's weird.
[laughs] I don't find that at all.
-Okay. -I feel like maybe as a woman it can be different.
-Yeah. Yeah. -[Asantewa] It's really
rare that I have that experience.
And if I do, like, people are like,
"No, this person is just that way. Like, no one likes them."
[Jeff] It can feel
as if you're an outsider.
So the challenge
for Corona to be successful in Iceland is
getting to know people and getting
involved in the culture and learn the language.
So are you gonna start a nursing job here?
[Corona] I want to be a midwife.
So I was supposed to start midwifery school in the States,
but I decided to
derail my plans a little bit
to move here to be with my person.
-Yeah. -Um,
but in the hopes that I can still start midwifery school here.
So that's the plan.
So have you looked into, basically,
all that entails to now moving here?
Honestly, I should have looked harder at everything that I need to do,
but sometimes you get blinded by love.
But now I'm here, so I need to start figuring it out.
[laughs] Yeah.
I mean, usually people that come here,
if they come to work as a nurse,
they do a lot of stuff beforehand
so that when they come, they just work.
But as far as I know, like,
it will take you some time to get certified to work here.
How long do you think?
It depends.
It basically depends on how much trouble they would like to give you.
But I mean, being a nurse
-is very important to me. -Mm-hmm.
-Of course. -And, like, my resumes,
like, really speaks for itself.
Sometimes people can be threatened
if you're coming from the States
and you have an impressive resume.
You're coming into almost a closed system.
I mean, I've been
passed over for jobs for people who are related.
So, I mean,
you probably want to prepare yourself
just mentally, like,
you might be hit with that wall of
you have to then prove certain things,
especially with the Icelandic. They...
If you're going into the hospital, I'll tell you right now,
if you
do not have a good bite on the language,
I'm not sure that
they'll receive your qualifications as well.
That sucks.
Going to, like, an Ivy League school, I would have never thought
that my degree would be challenged in any way.
So now to hear from this group
how difficult it's gonna be makes me very nervous.
Being a midwife is
very obviously the most important thing to me.
I need to figure that out sooner than later,
because I'm making this humongous gamble with my life.
How do you think this is gonna work out?
I know I've derailed my plans a bit, but I'm
-hoping it's a few months off track. -[Asantewa] Mm-hmm.
Any more than that, then...
[sighs] Maybe I've made a mistake.
They're just hurt and concerned.
Now that Noelle knows the news,
she wants to kill me right now.
She didn't tell anybody. And it's like,
now she's saying she's moving here.
[Donna] I'm not on board with supporting
moving to Ireland. Those are my grandkids.
[Sean speaking]
[Bella speaking]
-[Sean] It's all right. -[Bella] Oh!
Ew! Ew!
[Sean] Ugh. Oh, sludge.
[Sean speaking]
Let's go.
I, honestly, I need to go home
and get a pot of coffee and Tylenol.
-[Noelle] I need a coffee myself. -[Sean] Oh, my God,
I need a goddamn tea.
-[Joanne] I need coffee. -[Noelle] Not gonna lie, I need a coffee.
[Joanne] Do you need coffee too?
[giggles]
-[Bella] Yeah. -If you think about it.
Yeah.
[Joey] Oh, yeah.
Sean's my step-dad.
-[Jesse] Oh, my... -[Joey] Oh [bleep].
You don't have to, you know,
you don't have to say step-daddy. [laughs]
[Joanne] In the car, the boys and Sean are cracking jokes,
which is nice.
But now that Noelle knows the news,
I'm sure she wants to kill me right now.
If I know my mother
and Noelle well enough,
as I know I do,
there'll definitely be a phone call.
I'm wondering if Noelle has already
sent that text message over to my mother,
and what it is that those two are talking about.
[Sean] I am disappointed.
Because she's been telling us to get married
for the last three years.
But her mood just started slowly declining.
So I just wanted to give her some space,
sit on it for a little bit.
[Bella] Come in.
Hi.
-Are you all right after today? -[Bella] Yeah.
-How are you feeling? -Fine.
[Sean] Bergamot.
[Bella] What's a bergamot?
Mm, that's nice.
Are you good? You want to ask me any questions? Or are you okay?
Are the boys gonna move here?
Yeah. Tell us two years later.
Like, what?
[chuckles] Thanks.
Are you all right, though?
Still mad?
Not really.
About two years later.
But not two years later.
How would you feel, though, if she moved in?
If she moved over and moved in with us?
I would be happy.
-[Sean] Yeah? -Yeah.
Okay. Well, I'm glad you're taking it well.
If you have any more questions
-that you want to talk to me about-- -Actually, yeah.
What?
We don't have any more secrets. That was it.
-If you get any secret, then tell us right away. -[Sean] Okay.
-Deal. -[Bella] Yeah. Deal.
All right. Give us a kiss.
-I gotta go talk to Joanne now. -Okay. Bye-bye.
Your wife, you mean?
[Sean] Yeah, my wife. [laughs]
-Not your girlfriend. -[Sean laughs] Oh, my gosh.
Hi, Donna.
Hi, Noelle. How are you?
I'm good. How are you?
I'm glad you called me.
So, the whole
marriage thing,
how did you feel about that?
Okay.
So, that really threw me off.
Like, I'm happy for her,
but for two years,
she didn't tell anybody. And it's like,
why was that a mystery?
Like, why was that such a secret?
[Donna] Do you feel it's genuine?
I do feel it's genuine.
I see the love they have for each other.
I like, you know,
how he treats Joanne.
[Donna] And how did the boys react?
Um, I think the boys were taken aback as well.
-I think, like, they're still processing it. -[Donna] How did he,
like, are they happy
or upset?
[Noelle] So, here's the thing.
Everybody is happy for her,
but, you know, everybody is still
concerned, too, because now she's saying
she's moving here,
and her whole life is at home.
[Donna] Exactly.
I had time to process the fact that she got married.
Um, I understood her reasonings
for getting married,
but I'm not on board with supporting
moving to Ireland. Those are my grandkids.
I'm sorry. I'm not.
Yeah.
-[Joanne] How'd that go? -[Sean] It was all right.
[sighs] It was a long day, man.
-Yeah. -That was a stressful day.
Yeah. It was a lot.
They're just hurt and concerned.
"How does this work, then?"
-[Sean] Yeah. -You know?
I knew the boys would be surprised by the news,
but I definitely didn't feel
or even think in a million years that
it would be as heavy of an energy as it is.
It's way deeper. It's...
We opened up Pandora's box.
That was a little bit funny, though. Yeah.
-"So wait. What? What? What? Oh, my God!" -[Joanne laughs]
I was like, "Oh, get me out of here, man."
[both laugh]
-I was like, "Oh, my God." -[Joanne laughs]
"Is this over yet?"
[Sean speaking]
I'm in a very tough position with jealous sons
because I am the person, I suppose,
that's "taken" their mother away.
We were so blind by our love
that now the reality is setting in that
this little fantasy we have
might not actually work out.
You know, the boys have to be okay with it.
-Oh, of course. -You know?
And I know that you understand that
because it's the same thing with Bella.
I just... I have to see...
I have to pick their brains a little bit more.
[Corona] Today I'm going for
an information session at the midwifery school.
You would need to speak or read,
uh, the Icelandic language.
-Okay. -Because,
uh, all the courses
are taught in Icelandic.
Oh.
[Corona] Hello.
-Hello. -Hi, I'm Corona.
-[in Icelandic] -[woman, in English] Yeah.
[in English] Your name?
My name is Valgerdur Lisa.
-Vagerdur. -Valgerdur Lisa.
-Valgerdur. -[Valgerdur] Yes.
-Yes. Please. -Hello. [laughs nervously]
Today I'm going for an information session
at the midwifery school,
the only midwifery school here in Iceland,
to figure out how I can get in.
How can I help you?
Um, I'm just here to learn some more about the midwifery program
and how possible it is for me to get in.
[Valgerdur] Okay.
It was definitely nice to
meet up with other Black people that live in Iceland
the other day,
and to hear their experiences and their stories.
But I've got to be honest,
it scared the [bleep] out of me
because they brought up
a lot of obstacles that I may face
in my path to becoming a midwife here in Iceland.
I was accepted
to a midwifery program in the States,
Penn, which is an Ivy League, so one of the, like,
top seven schools in the country.
But I decided to move
to Iceland instead, to be with my partner.
-Okay. -[Corona] And it is my goal
to still continue on my path
-to becoming a midwife. -Okay.
Okay.
[Corona] The research that I did
for the school was just, like,
what my computer could translate.
And I swear it said
that the lectures were in English,
so I thought this was something I could
definitely do right away.
So to hear this lady ripping my dreams apart,
I'm trying really hard not to just, like,
burst out in tears right in front of her face.
The interview process...
-Yeah? -...is that also in fully Icelandic,
or is it flexible depending on who's interviewing?
The interview would be in Icelandic.
We have never had...
[laughs softly] ...this question...
-[Corona] Okay. -...before, to have it in English.
-I've been studying the language for... -[Valgerdur] Okay.
...almost a year now, but definitely not fluent.
Do you think it would be possible
for someone to simultaneously, like,
take Icelandic as a second language class
and midwifery classes
and just learn the language
as they're going through school?
I think it might be
maybe hard for you.
You need to be all in, I think.
-So it could be... -[Corona] Mm-hmm.
...quite challenging for you to be
in the process of learning Icelandic.
Challenging but not impossible.
-I tend to do some challenging things in life as is. -[Valgerdur laughs]
Yeah, well,
uh, I think, uh,
you could give it a try at least,
to apply, of course.
Um, when do you think, like,
the soonest I would be able to apply
to the program would be, realistically?
For international students,
the due date for applications
was, uh, two weeks ago.
It's the first of February.
-Oh. -[Valgerdur] Each year.
-Yeah. Yeah. -Okay.
-So it's only once a year.
So we're talking about
at least one and a half year
from now.
And that's given, like, best case scenario
-if I get in. -[Valgerdur] Yeah.
But to be realistic,
if you need to take some
extra courses,
-you know, to learning the language... -Definitely.
...then, might be that, uh,
two years, maybe.
-Okay. -[Valgerdur] Yeah.
[Corona] I feel like I just got my heart ripped out of my chest.
It's a big blow to the gut.
It's, like, even best case scenario is, like,
my worst case scenario.
And I'm
feeling a little shaky
and rocky about my future here.
Being a midwife is my first love.
If I have to give up my dreams of being a midwife,
how happy would I even be staying in Iceland?
What if I didn't think
that I could stay here permanently?
Like, would you come back with me if that
was something that happened?
[Meitalia speaking]
[James] This isn't downtown. This is a fair.
Oh, it's downtown.
[James] Oh.
[Meitalia, in Bahasa]
[vendor, in Bahasa]
[Meitalia speaking]
[in English] Tonight I want to show James...
[all, in Bahasa]
[in English] It's amazing. So good.
It's not what I expected.
It's like salty cheddar.
That is good.
I'll try a spicy one.
Okay.
It's not spicy. It's just flavor. [coughs]
-This one's the one that's more spicy. -Okay. It's a little spicy.
[coughs]
[coughs] Okay.
[coughs] A little spicier than I expected.
James has been here for,
uh, a couple of weeks, and I feel like
he's still getting used to living here.
[James] That one definitely has a kick to it.
[chuckles]
[Meitalia] But since we talked about Jojo,
I've been thinking about what James kept saying,
"If things don't work here,"
that worries me,
because I do want him
to be happy here, because I am happy.
I'm gonna stick with these.
-Okay. -You can enjoy
your whole bag right there.
Well, since we are here for a while now...
how do you feel,
living here?
I do love it here.
I love the people.
But there are still things we haven't resolved yet.
And for me, the biggest is still Jojo.
And the car.
And we're still paying for it.
I mean, that's a huge cost.
And right now, I don't see any way to fix it. Um...
Yeah.
Worst case scenario...
what if we're here for a while
and we're not able to get our feet under us fast enough?
What if I didn't think
that I could stay here permanently?
Like, would you come back with me if that
was something that happened?
[Meitalia] If that's, like, the last, last, last choice...
maybe?
But let's make that not happen.
[James] She's vague purposefully, I feel.
The way she worded it,
she never really
said yes or no if she would come back with me.
And that's very similar to the way I would react
when she would say something about kids.
And that does give me discomfort,
because deep down,
I'm definitely leaning more towards
not wanting to have kids.
So that definitely is a fear I have
of her not coming back with me to the States
if we needed to go back.
You know, I just want to know that if everything did go bad,
that you wouldn't just abandon me and Jojo.
[Meitalia] I'm not gonna abandon you.
But I also want to live here.
And, um...
Like, I'm almost 28 now.
I want to see myself take care of my kids.
For them to call me "Mommy"
before I'm too old.
[James] What's the age that you would want
to have kids by?
Maximum is like...
33...
I'm just scared.
Yeah.
What if it was too much for me
and I decided and told you, like,
"I never see myself having kids.
I don't think it's something I can do"?
Being with you.
If we didn't have a kid, would I be enough?
Because for me, like,
you and me, we are complete together.
[James] It's very clear to me that
Tatha and I are on different pages right now.
And it kills me that I can't give her
exactly what she wants
or promise her
something that I can't promise.
Because I love her completely,
and all I want is to make her happy.
I want her to understand that.
Like, this is not me trying to hurt her.
[sniffles]
I can't lose her.
That is all I care about.
[Statler] Next time on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
I'm not gonna stand for you being rude to me all the time
because you're feeling a certain way.
It seems like you're wanting, like,
a solution to this and there really is not one.
This could be
one of the worst decisions I've ever made.
I just want to make sure that
you are gonna go to therapy.
[Sarper speaking]
Who's the therapist? What's the therapist's name?
I call [bleep] on this.
I have this gut feeling that Sarper is lying to me.
Did you really make a therapy appointment?
Black people aren't supposed to do this.
[Corona] One thing at a time, babe.
Ooh. [shrieks]
Basically, she said I wouldn't be able to start
at best, like, a year and a half.
[Corona] I don't think he realizes
how much I'm questioning
my choices that have led me to this moment.
I think I'm running out of patience.
[Josh] Here we go again.
She wants to bring up money,
this time in front of my brother.
Thank you for ruining Jared's night tonight.