[man] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
If you don't want me to move, then just say that.
I feel like it's a lose-lose situation.
There are many layers to this decision
that Sean and I did not take into consideration.
Give me a hug. All right, I love you.
It was nice to meet you, yeah?
It was nice to meet you. We'll get you back soon.
It's easy to dream big, but the reality is setting in with that
this might not happen for us.
[Joanne] They'll be back.
Basically, she said, I wouldn't be able to start, at best,
like a year and a half.
[Corona] If I have to give up my dreams of being a midwife,
how happy would I even be staying in Iceland?
I think I'm running out of patience.
I'm not sure if I want to have kids.
[speaking foreign language]
They expect me to have children, period.
It's gonna be something that's gonna keep being brought up
again and again and again until I either change my mind
or they'll tell us we shouldn't be married.
I still have a lot of questions because...
I told you, your daughter is gonna try destroying our marriage.
And I was correct.
[scoffs]
I always forgive you, but this time I don't.
[whimsical classical music playing]
Of course, you guys would bring me to a penis museum.
[all laughing]
The stallion.
"An exceptional breeder."
It's a lot. It's kind of terrifying.
The stallion. [laughing]
Today I am hanging out with my friends Kristin and Birgitta.
And this museum, the phallalogical museum,
has the, like, biggest display of different penises.
-What is this Corona-sized penis? -The sperm whale.
[Corona] Holy crap, that's as big as my whole body.
[Kristin] Now we can always say that, like...
Corona is sperm whale penis-sized, perfect. Ingi will love that.
Where are the vagina museums?
Of course, there would be one just for penises.
We should fully have a vagina museum.
I think a lot of people would have a lot to learn.
Oh, that's gotta be the human one.
[Corona] What? Damn, Jimi!
I first met Kristin and Birgitta
when I came to Iceland the first time,
and they met Ingi at the same afterparty I did.
It is important for me to have my own friends outside of Ingi,
because if I'm having troubles with Ingi, like, I need somebody to talk to.
Um, can we do one of the, like, penis waffles?
And based on what I've heard from the midwifery school,
I need to hang out with my girls to de-stress a little bit
because I am on edge.
-Cheers. Skal. -Skal.
-There you go. -I know some stuff.
Uh, school is going to be more difficult than I thought it was gonna be.
For sure.
I went to go talk to the director of the midwifery program here.
And basically she told me I wouldn't even be able to apply until next year.
-No way. -Yeah.
So that's a big bummer, considering, like,
if I would have stayed in the States and finished school, I would have been done.
Are you willing to give all that up?
-Yeah. -Yeah?
-I think. [groans] -[Kristin laughs]
Your ex relationships...
No, God, no.
Why do you do it, though?
I don't, I'm... I love him.
I don't think I've ever really loved an ex.
So, like, I want us to succeed.
[Birgitta] Mm-hmm. Yeah.
-He's always really nice. -Yeah.
And he's like, easy to get along with and easy to be around.
-He really is. -Yeah.
And my dating history is not the best, I date, like, monsters.
But they've always been like, kind of obsessed with me
in a way that, like, I like.
Like, if I come out in a nice outfit, then they're like, "Oh, my God, yes."
But the other day I came out in a sexy outfit, and Ingi was just like, "Cool. Let's go."
Oh.
Wow.
I don't know, I feel like he doesn't gas me up.
Yeah.
I mean, I think in a year, I've had sex, like, four times.
-What? -Yeah.
You know when it's supposed to be, like, the honeymoon phase...
Yeah! You should be like bunnies.
What... I'm sorry.
In Ingi's defense a little bit, I don't wanna get too explicit, but...
He kind of broke his penis.
-Uh, what? -Oh, my God.
So things were out of commission.
What did you do?
No, she just [bleep], I don't know, okay? [bleep]
The last time that I was here, me and Ingi were being intimate.
Some things broke.
-He's gonna kill me. -[Kristin laughing]
And it was just, like, it was a lot of trauma on Ingi, I will say that.
If he's scared after whatever happened, then he should just tell you that
and talk about it and go gentle or something.
-Not just, like, avoid the whole thing. -Yeah.
[Corona] Yeah.
Since I've been here,
I mean, it's kind of trickled downhill, like night one, awesome,
and then less and less and less.
I can understand why he's a little apprehensive, given what has happened in the past,
which is maybe why he doesn't want to, like, satisfy me that way.
But I mean, he's got 10 fingers and a mouth.
So, like, while we figure this out, he could get creative.
Do you think Ingi is as committed as you are, like,
have you guys had, like, serious talks about everything?
I mean, it's almost hard to have a serious talk with Ingi
because his whole mentality is just like,
"That's all fine, we'll figure it out, we'll get there when it comes."
But even though you do love him,
how can you be sure without having all those hard conversations?
I mean, I'm not in a rush, necessarily.
But you do want to get married.
-You want to have kids. -It's moving to Iceland.
I'm here now so that we can start having these conversations.
But does he want to get married, though?
I think.
He better, otherwise, like, what the [bleep] are we doing?
I'll be honest, like, it has worried me that you are his first girlfriend.
Yeah.
But is it gonna be like, my first girlfriend and my only girlfriend, you know?
-Or does he want to, like... -Yeah. Explore his options?
He made a joke a few times because I'm not on his social media.
Why the [bleep] not?
He, joking, is like, "Ah, but I just wanna keep my options open, blah, blah, blah."
I know he was joking, but some jokes have a little bit of truth in them, you know?
But at which point did you become exclusive?
-Six months ago. Yeah. -Mm.
-So why do you ask? -[all laughing]
We might have seen him with girls.
But I don't know anything for sure.
When? When?
-You know we're at the same bar when we go out. -I know. I know.
You didn't see him, like, kissing or anything like that?
No, nothing like that.
-Just chatting. -Okay.
I'm fine. Everything's fine.
I'm afraid she might have built some dreams,
some expectations that can't be met.
There's no doubt in my mind that they love each other.
But is it the real thing?
Yeah, I think it's concerning.
Are you not afraid, like, he's not being as serious as you are then, or, like...
Sometimes I worry that.
It's just, what if, like, I'm more committed to this than he is?
I trust Ingi.
So I am giving Ingi the benefit of the doubt right now.
But I don't know that he knows exactly like
what I'm hoping for in this relationship.
And I'm giving up my spot in midwifery school so that I can be here in Iceland.
So there's a lot of things that I'm just like, "What if, what if, what if?"
And that's terrifying.
[upbeat music playing]
[James sighs]
Well, it's nice to get out of the house with you, finally.
Tomorrow is the wedding, and today Tatha's five siblings,
close family and friends are all coming here into town.
Let's go. There's a big car coming. So, yeah, cross now.
It's been really stressful having the conversations we've had
with Tatha's parents about having kids,
but I'm trying to keep a really positive outlook on everything right now.
We owe it to ourselves to enjoy this moment and enjoy this wedding.
That fruit is alive.
And I don't mean like in, like, the good kind of alive.
I mean, it's alive-alive. It's moving.
[Meitalia] That's ants.
[James] That's alive.
What is this called? Oh, no...
-It's manggis. -Manggis.
[James] I mean, we can try it.
-Is it good? -I like it.
I've heard it smells bad, though, right?
[James] It looks like a porcupine.
[speaking foreign language]
Oh, it's already opened.
I mean, it looks cool.
[sniffs and groans]
Oh!
Oh, why'd you take the skin off?
I don't know.
That stinks.
It makes me wanna throw up.
Maybe if I close my nose.
[gagging]
[women laughing]
[speaking foreign language]
[James] Durian tastes so bad. It is gooey,
like rotted human flesh, and the smell it gives off
is very similar to rotting human flesh.
It's like, ugh.
But people here seem to love it.
And I don't know how or why.
And sadly, one of those people is my wife.
It feels like it doesn't leave you.
-That was awful. -This is good.
I'm scared to try something you give me now.
-Sour, huh? -That is sour.
But it's way better than that thing.
Are you ready for me to meet her?
We used to be like the closest sister, so.
How will you guys get along?
It'd be nice if we could.
I'm a little nervous how it'll go down.
You know I'm stealing you from her, though.
Like what she said about me.
Yeah, she picked the worst thing she could try to say about me.
Could have, like, destroyed any relationship we had.
I've never met her in person.
But right after we had gotten engaged, when I was back in the United States,
Angel started spreading some pretty malicious lies
about me to try to poison Tatha's family
against her coming to the United States.
She said she had a friend in the U.S.
who told her that I mistreated women in relationships.
She doesn't even have any friends in the United States.
But it all kind of came to a head.
And shortly before Tatha came to the US,
we did end up blocking Angel for just over a year.
Yeah.
But I'm definitely gonna have my guard up a little bit.
We have our own issues, like with what's going to happen
with us staying here and all that.
I'm worried that she may see like an opportunity in that
to try to drive a wedge between us, and that scares me a little bit.
I just don't know how this marriage could work out in two different countries,
and I'm like, "This is blowing me away."
We have a lot of stuff to figure out, I mean...
Don't you think you should have been figuring this out when you got married?
[Irish music playing]
Are we ready for this?
Now that everybody knows the big news,
it's definitely time for Sean to meet my mother.
It's overdue.
And I'm looking forward to them meeting.
Kind of, I don't know. I'm a little nervous, I'm not gonna lie.
-[Sean shivers] It's a bit cold, isn't it? -Yeah, it is.
I'm not so sure how the conversation
with Donna is going to go, because I never know
what is gonna flow out of her mouth.
A little nervous?
I get it.
Okay, remember, whatever she says, it's her, doesn't reflect me.
-Yes. -Okay. All right.
All right. Go on. Let's just get this done.
Okay, okay, okay.
[tablet chimes]
[Joanne] Hello?
Me and Sean.
-Can you see us? -Well, I see Sean.
I only see Sean.
-That's all you need to see, Donna. It's all right. -Hi.
-How are you? -[Donna laughs]
So you're my son-in-law.
-I am, you're welcome. -And I'm just meeting you now.
-[Joanne laughs] "You're welcome." -[Donna squeals]
Hi, Mom.
-I know, I know. -What the hell is that?
-I don't know, Donna... -I need an answer.
It would have been a little bit weird to call my partner's mother out of nowhere
without... I wanted to get to meet you first,
And now, obviously, I can't come over there at the minute.
So I don't know.
I apologize. It wasn't anything out of disrespect. Please know that.
Okay, so, I take that apology for not meeting you for three years,
but where do we go from here now?
Like, how is this marriage gonna work?
I mean, do you plan on taking my daughter and my grandkids away from me? Is that it?
Or do you plan on moving your mother-in-law and father-in-law
in with you too?
I don't... I would like us one day to be all under the same roof.
But, yeah, it's... We haven't thought,
you know what, Donna, I didn't even think,
like, even when the boys were over, I was like, I apologize.
Like, we just did this, but we didn't actually
-think it through. -It through.
Or the consequences or the obstacles.
We were kind of just like, "Yeah, let's do it."
We told the kids
and I told them what I would like to do
about making Ireland home base.
It was a lot for them to digest all in a short period of time.
I mean, listen, the boys didn't say much to me because they said,
as Joey put it, "Okay, Grandma. Seven hours on a plane."
"Not in the mood for you right now."
I was like, "Okay, I'll wait a day."
And Jesse just went right on his game.
I said, "You had a good time?" "Yeah." "Did you like Sean?"
"Yeah, I had a great time."
I said, "What'd you do?" He goes, "Played soccer."
Okay, you won my grandson over.
Like I said, Joey, he didn't want to talk.
I have not heard from Joey since he's gotten back to the US.
And it's worrying me because I'm like, "Mmm,"
"Does he just not want to talk to me right now?"
"Or is he still processing?"
"Are there more feelings? Is he angry?"
It could be a number of reasons.
By my kids' reactions, it seems as though they're hurting
a little bit more than I even expected.
And because of that, it may change my decision.
So, Sean, I have one last question.
To pick your brain.
I want to know what you are offering my daughter
that she already doesn't have here.
-What is it? What could you do for her? -I mean, that's...
[groans] I don't know how to [bleep] answer that.
I don't know.
Well, it's just, I don't know, true love without sounding corny, Donna.
I am, I love your daughter very much.
Yeah, but you can't live off love alone.
There's a lot of questions being asked
that we actually don't have the answers to just yet, Donna.
So it's a bit... Yeah.
We have a lot of stuff to figure out.
Don't you think you should have been figuring this out when you got married?
We were in the moment.
[Donna laughs] "We were in a moment."
"We were in a moment," and now reality sets in.
I just don't know how this marriage could work out
in two different countries.
I'm like, "This is blowing me away."
How are you's going to make this work?
Where everybody's gonna be one big, happy family
because somebody's leaving something behind
unless you're taking everything with you.
Yeah, yeah, well, that's true. That's true.
I'm just saying, like, I just can't grasp how this is gonna work.
-We'll make it work, somehow. -Yeah.
-Okay. -Bye.
[speaking foreign language]
[banjo music playing]
[speaking foreign language]
Mmm.
[speaking foreign language]
[soft music plays]
[speaking foreign language]
[indistinct chatter]
[suspenseful music playing]
[chuckles]
[soft music plays]
[speaking foreign language]
[in English]
[speaking foreign language]
[Angel] I love you. [sighs]
[Meitalia] My sister, Angel.
Hi!
[speaks in foreign language]
[calm oriental music plays]
[Meitalia] Oh, wow. My mom is so mad at me.
[James] Why?
[Meitalia laughs]
[Angel screaming] Tatha!
[screaming] Hey, John! Hey!
[speaks in foreign language]
-[Angel screaming] Oh, my God! -[Meitalia] Come up!
[John] She's as weird as you.
[Meitalia] That's why we're best friends.
But that's what I like about her
because she always speaks her mind.
And I know things between us
have not been good.
But I'm just beyond excited to see her again.
Oh, my God! Tatha.
[Angel] I love you.
[Meitalia] How are you?
[Angel] You're good?
[Meitalia] I'm good.
[Angel] It's been a long time.
-[Angel] Okay. -[Meitalia sniffs]
[Angel] Are you crying?
Don't cry. It's okay.
Hi.
Hmm.
[James laughs slyly]
-So... -Nice to meet you in person.
-[Angel] Yeah. -[clears throat]
I don't know, I just miss my sister, actually.
[all laugh]
I love her so much.
[speaking in foreign language]
[sniffs]
[suspenseful music playing]
I laugh when I'm nervous and, uh, like, awkward.
I don't know how to like, handle it or like... [laugh]
so I just laugh
like if I laugh, like...
it's not as awkward, I guess.
This is about as awkward as you can possibly get.
And I mean, I'm just stressed.
I'm so stressed.
But at the same time, I know me and Tatha right now
aren't on the best footing with the conversations
about possibly having to return to the US.
So I'm not going to poke the bear.
If I wanted to, though, I'd be asking her things
like, "Why would you say that about me?
Why are you not happy for your sister?
Why do you still not like me after this many years?"
[James] With everything that's happened in the past,
we obviously kind of have,
like I mean, I know I have my guard up a little bit.
And I kind of feel like
you are a little bit the same like that.
You definitely seem guarded.
[speaking in foreign language]
[Angel speaking in English]
I don't think this is a
good thing to say, but, uh,
I don't trust you yet.
[James] I mean, even after this moment?
You just go to America, and then...
I don't know you.
I never met you.
And come to our life,
-[James laughs] -and then going to steal my sister,
like "How can I trust him?"
I wasn't trying to steal her.
I had to be able to support her and take care of her.
So she had to come to the US.
[Angel] She's my younger sister and she is...
[James] The baby of the family, yeah.
-That's what I kind of gathered. -Exactly, I can't uh,
just give her to anyone.
But I mean, after this long,
it's been, we've been married for three years now.
She's still good. See? I did not break her.
She's still okay. [laughs]
[Meitalia] I didn't tell Angel about me and James problem,
because I just don't want to make things
even more tense between them.
I just want them just get along.
But, yeah, we're moving here,
so that's good. So we can...
And then what are you going to to do here?
-What we're going to do. -That's the problem
we're running into.
And then you're going to do,
what are you going to do here?
Yeah, we will figure it out.
-[Meitalia sighs] -[James sniffs]
I just want to know you
that you really can take care of my sister in Indonesia
and make her happy.
I want you to trust me,
to know that I'll take care of her.
-Yeah. -And we'll be able to make like good memories
and, like, forget all that all this stuff in the past.
Yeah, we'll see.
Do you see us ever getting married?
Do people usually move to another country for their people?
[Corona] I feel stupid in this moment
like I'm fully second guessing what I'm doing in Iceland.
[upbeat music playing]
[Ingi and Corona in English]
All right.
So am I supposed to hit the board in between nine, 14, and 11?
Yeah, that's it, babe.
Okay.
Good luck.
[Ingi] No cheating.
[Corona] I don't cheat!
[indistinct chatter]
[Corona] I 've been in Iceland now for a few weeks
and I feel like I'm getting,
like repetitively wailed with whammies left and right.
Whammy number one
midwifery school may not happen for me here.
Whammy number two.
My friends told me
my man's acting single at the club on the weekends.
I now have just a lot of the things
that I'm pondering about my relationship
and how does Ingi actually feel about me?
And like, where are we going?
So how was the penis museum?
I found out the size of a sperm oil penis.
-Yeah. -It's Corona sized.
-It's Corona sized, all right. -Yeah.
[Corona] Good to be with my girls.
[Ingi] Yeah.
[Corona] So Birgitta, like, mentioned something
that I'd like to ask you about?
I'm sure it's nothing.
But since you brought it up, it makes me curious.
All right. What was that?
She said that she's seen you
within the past couple of months,
like at bars, like talking to girls.
-Yeah. -[Corona] Yeah?
Yeah, of course. Probably were my friends.
[Corona] Okay.
But they were just friends?
-Yeah. -[Corona] Okay.
Yeah, of course, babe.
I don't know.
-Yeah. -[Corona] Like in my mind we've been exclusive
since at least Dublin.
Yeah, of course. I mean...
Yeah. When I go out, I talk to people.
Yeah. That's what I do. That's what I enjoy.
Okay.
[soft music plays]
You just hit those on the table.
-Are you okay? -Yeah, I'm good.
I think it's weird.
Did she see me, like, do anything?
Like was I making out on the dance floor?
Like, how far...
-[Ingi] Like... -Were you?
-No, I wasn't. -Okay.
Like I'm just curious to see what that [beep] had to say.
Their eye is on you even when I'm not here.
I've got nothing to hide, babe.
I would hope not.
I don't think I am necessarily accusing you of anything.
-I was just asking. -[Ingi] Yeah...
The fact that her friends said that I'm talking to girls at the bar
kind of got me, like, riled up
because my commitment to Corona
has never been in any jeopardy.
Like, I mean, yeah, I would never, ever cheat on her.
It's like you don't trust me, and I really don't like that.
I've never given you any reason not to trust me.
I mean, I have lots of friends and some of them are female.
And also, I just like to talk to strangers as well.
I mean...
Obviously not.
-Okay. -And you getting so defensive,
It makes me feel like maybe
I shouldn't trust you as much as I trust you.
-Okay. -I never thought that you were cheating on me
or anything like that.
I was just asking questions, saying, like what...
-I answered... -You answered defensively.
As soon as I said something, your eyebrows went all crazy.
Just because, like I really don't like things like this.
[Corona] I'm definitely seeing a new side of Ingi.
And this reaction that he has to this,
it's gone from his
like, blase, blase everything's fine
to this like defensive, almost like childish,
like I felt like I reverted back to when I was 17,
having an argument with my first boyfriend
and being like just pissy.
I literally just told you what she said.
And then you could have just been like,
"Nope, I was just talking to a friend."
Give me some reassurance
and that could have been the end of it.
And you're mad that I brought it up.
Like "You think I'm talking to walls?"
Like the [beep]?
I believe it was nothing.
I'm not upset that I thought something happened.
I'm upset at your reaction.
And I feel like I have to hold back a lot as is.
Why do you have to hold back with me, babe?
[indistinct chatter]
I think I just worried maybe
that since you haven't been in many relationships
like, I don't know,
if you know even what I'm saying
when I say I need reassurance.
What do you need reinsurance with?
Just of this, in our relationship.
And, you know, like you're as in this as I am.
[Ingi] I mean, you know I love you, baby.
And I thought that was something that you knew.
And like...
Sometimes I think I know and sometimes I don't know.
Like you've joked saying you want to keep your options open
and [beep] when, like I'm not on your social media
and things like that, I know you roll your eyes and laugh.
I'm dead [beep] serious.
I think that's just my sense of humor.
I don't know. I just, this is a precious relationship,
and I want to make sure, like it works,
and I know it's your first relationship
and part of that is terrifying
that like I may be like a trial for you.
I'm like...
do you see us ever getting married?
Do people usually get married after, like...
what five months?
Do people usually move to another country for their people?
We're not in a typical situation.
[Ingi] Yeah, okay, that's true.
I mean, your brother is married.
Your parents are married.
Yeah. They're married
like mostly, like for the practical things.
Like what happens like to the kids
like if one of them were to pass away.
[piano music plays]
For practical reasons.
[Ingi] Marriages don't mean a thing.
Because for me, it's like when you love someone
and like you trust someone
and you, like, have a relationship with them,
like... that's enough.
I love Corona,
and I don't need to put a ring on her finger
to prove my commitment to her.
I sent you a ring months ago.
If it wasn't important to me, I wouldn't have done that.
I thought maybe that was a joke.
That was not a joke.
Oh.
I am like a bit caught off guard,
like with marriage being talked about so soon.
I don't see how you could be so caught off guard.
I literally showed you the ring I want.
Months ago.
How are you so caught off guard?
[suspenseful music playing]
Are you just saying that because I'm asking you?
I don't wanna be married to someone
who doesn't wanna be married to me.
Okay.
[Corona] I feel stupid in this moment like,
why would I give up my hopes and dreams
to come be with some dude
who may or may not want to marry me
sometime in the future?
So it's making me feel like
I'm alone in this relationship.
I am fully second guessing what I'm doing in Iceland.
[sniffs]
[suspenseful music]
[narrator] Next time on 90-Day Fiance The Other Way...
I have no idea what's happening.
This wedding is about as different
as it could possibly be
from my wedding in the US.
[Meitalia] Yeah.
I wish I handled it differently.
You know, that's my fault.
[speaking foreign language]
[In English]
Did you really have no idea
that I actually wanted to get married?
[Corona] Am I gonna gamble on a man
who may or may not even want to marry me?
I'm telling you right now you are with the wrong person.
[dramatic music playing]