[Corona] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
I love you!
[Meitalia] My sister, Angel...
[James] Right after we had gotten engaged,
Angel started spreading some pretty malicious lies about me.
We'd end up blocking her for over a year.
[Meitalia in Indonesian]
Uh... [in English]
[scoffs]
[Josh] I told you,
-your daughter is going to try destroying... -[woman] Okay, let me--
...our marriage. And I was correct.
[in Mandarin]
[Corona] Birgitta said she's seen you
at bars, like, talking to girls.
Did she see me, like, do anything? Like, were, uh...
Was I making out on the dance floor?
Were you?
Do you see us ever getting married?
[Corona] I am fully second-guessing
what I'm doing in Iceland.
I don't wanna be married to someone who doesn't wanna be married to me.
-Hi. -Hi!
-[Meitalia] Hi! -[Anggelisa] Hi.
[Meitalia] Today is our wedding day.
I am so excited. [laughs in joy]
[in Indonesian]
[continues in Indonesian]
[Meitalia in English]
Because I am born in Java.
And I just always think
Javanese wedding is so cool.
[in Indonesian]
-[make-up artist speaking Indonesian] -Oh!
Oh... Yeah, yeah, yeah. [laughs whimsically]
[make-up artist in Indonesian]
[in Indonesian]
[both laugh]
[no audio]
Do I have to walk down,
-like, walk down the middle? -[Ibnu] Mmm-mmm.
-Me and Tatha both? -Yeah.
-So, we walk down? -Walk down. Yes.
-And then what do I... -That's your highest.
-Okay. -Uh, like this.
-And that. -To her parents?
Okay.
-[Toto] And-- -Do I have to say anything?
[Ibnu] No, no, no.
-Okay. -[Ricky] Yeah.
I still have no idea what I'm supposed to do here in this wedding.
In America,
the night before the wedding, you have a rehearsal dinner.
Here in Indonesia, doesn't exist.
You know, her parents planned everything.
Tatha has planned everything in Javanese.
So, I don't even know what they're talking about.
I'm just hoping that I'm not gonna be... [nervous chuckle]
left standing there, looking like a fool.
[Ibnu speaking]
-[James] Yep. -[faint laughter]
Tatha picked everything.
I just got to wear whatever she picked.
-[Ibnu chuckles] -But she's like,
"I like this one. You're gonna wear this."
I'm like, "Yes, boss."
I'm extremely stressed today.
We've got all these issues.
Tatha is still giving me the cold shoulder a little bit.
I'm trying to make sure
that I don't leave a bad impression
with all of our family that's here.
Angel's trying to get me to screw up
and do something that she can exploit in some way, I'm sure.
But I'm trying to keep a positive face on.
It's really important to Tatha,
and I really kind of just got to roll with this
and see how everything goes.
[Meitalia in Indonesian]
-[in Indonesian] -Yeah.
[continuing in Indonesian]
-[in Indonesian] -Yeah.
-[laughing] -[Dicee chuckles]
[Meitalia in English]
But it's been really bothering me,
thinking about what James said,
about moving back to States.
I don't want to think about that on my wedding day.
-Yeah. -Yeah.
[Meitalia] So, I hope everything goes well today.
Maybe if it does, it will...
make him feel the love of my family,
and feel his home.
Ooh! I get a sword?
[Meitalia] And he better change his mind,
because I'm not going back. [chuckles]
-[chuckles softly] -[chuckles]
-You look amazing. -Thanks.
You do, too. You look amazing.
[chuckles softly]
[James] She looks incredible.
Antennas and everything.
She looks...
like my Indonesian queen.
[Meitalia speaking]
[James] But at the same time, like,
I definitely feel a little bit...
uncomfortable,
and silly.
My titties are out.
Not a huge fan of that.
Nipples flopping everywhere.
But this is what I'm married into.
This is the culture I'm now a part of.
I'm going to embrace it.
I mean, we spent so much money on this wedding, you know,
it's been a huge toll on mine and Tatha's relationship.
And the possibility of us having to go back
to the United States is very real.
I know that would upset Tatha's parents a lot.
I want them to have this memory
to hold on to.
And so, today has to go really, really well.
[Ingi] Corona and I, we were having our first fight.
She stormed out. Like...
No idea where she went.
It was, you know, really a shock to me.
This is my first fight
in a serious relationship.
So, I'm feeling frustrated,
because we need to be able to,
you know, have a conversation and...
and, like, talk it through.
[producer] Don't know.
[Ingi speaking]
[line ringing]
-[groans in frustration] -[line ringing]
[sniffles]
[line ringing]
[sighs in frustration]
[murmurs breathily]
Right now, I'm trying to call my girls
to come get me, but they're not picking up.
For me, to now find out, like,
he doesn't believe in marriage,
and, like, he's not religious,
and all these other, like, BS things that came out of his mouth.
And that he talks to girls so that he doesn't talk to the wall.
Who the hell is this guy?
For the first time, I'm looking at Ingi, and I'm like,
"I don't know this person."
I've given up my program in a school
that I really, really care about.
I've detoured my entire life plan.
I've let go of my apartment.
Like, I've done all these things
to be here, to be with him.
Maybe I made
a horrible mistake.
[Corona speaking]
I wish I handled it differently.
You know, that's my fault.
[in Mandarin]
[in English]
Hi! Uh...
[James] The last time I spoke with Angel,
there's still some hidden animosity in there.
Um... Yeah. Anyway...
[James] You really never know
what's in her mind.
[Josh] Have you been here before?
[Lily speaking]
-[Josh] Yeah, it's beautiful. -Mmm.
[Lily in Mandarin]
[in English] Ah! Thank you.
[in Mandarin]
Definitely need some tea.
Some tea.
-Mmm. -Oh...
[Lily speaking]
-So, yesterday... -Mmm-hmm?
...it got a little intense.
Um...
So, I'm glad we took time to kind of think.
Okay... [speaking Mandarin]
[in Mandarin]
[autotranslator in English] I'm going to talk to you in Chinese now,
because I want to say a lot to you.
[in Mandarin]
[autotranslator in English] When you are sensitive, you will really blame
the person around you who loves you the most.
This is very, very incorrect.
[in English]
I understand.
I was excited to meet Vivian.
And when we sat down,
she came right at me with that question,
and I became defensive.
So, you know, that's my fault.
I wish I handled it differently in that situation.
I should have just answered the question. But...
you and I have had that discussion,
and that's our past.
The important thing is, I moved here to be with you.
And since I've been here,
look at the growth that we've made together.
We've learned to communicate.
We're taking major steps...
that will make us stronger.
Mmm.
So, I am grateful,
and I am in love with you.
[in Mandarin]
[in English, clears throat] So...
And do you agree that we move forward
and have this wedding ceremony tomorrow?
Yes.
To me, the ceremony is important...
-Mmm. -...you know, granted we're marrying.
But it's a roller coaster since I've been here.
Up and down,
we love each other, we're upset with each other.
The ceremony is sort of, like,
our happy ending.
Your... Mmm. [clicks tongue]
But...
[sighs in frustration]
[in Mandarin]
[in English]
[clears throat]
Don't let this stress you out.
I will try figuring out how to pay that remaining part.
I have the money.
Mmm.
We just have to transfer it to you.
[clicks tongue]
I will try.
[sighs in relief]
[Josh] I have a small safety net. So, I can cover
the expenses of this wedding.
But it takes days to get this stuff transferred,
and not all places take international credit cards.
I really want this wedding to happen.
But right now, I... I don't know.
I will work on that.
But I will see what I can do.
[in Indonesian]
[James in English] We're here at the venue,
and I still have no idea what's happening.
I noticed Tatha is making a pose with her hands.
I really have no idea
if that's just something she was doing,
or if that's just the traditional pose.
[whispering]
[announcer continuing in Indonesian]
[James in English] It's nerve-wracking to have
a bunch of people staring at you,
especially when I'm trying not to trip in my high heels.
And these high heels are, like,
the most uncomfortable high heels you've ever worn.
But then, I can hear Mom happy crying.
She's probably getting to experience something
she never thought was gonna get to happen.
So, I'm just, like,
hoping I don't screw it up,
because with her parents,
I do love them.
And we may not always agree, we may not see face-to-face on every single subject.
But at the end of the day, like, they're my family,
and I want them to just be having... such a beautiful time.
[announcer in Indonesian]
[Meitalia in English]
We need to get their blessing,
and then their forgiveness,
because as their kid, we made a lot of mistakes.
And then we want them to forgive us
before we have a new beginning,
so everything will go smooth
in our marriage.
[indistinct background chatting]
And then, feeding each other means
that everything that we do,
is we're doing it together.
Because we're eating from one plate,
it's kind of like a symbol.
Like, we are now one.
Get it on there. You got this. [chuckles]
[Meitalia speaking]
[James] In the US, we have a tradition
where you feed each other a piece of cake.
So, in this situation, we have
rice and vegetables.
I was really hoping for cake.
There's just so many different things happening,
and I'm still kind of, like, thinking in my head,
like, in an American wedding, "When... When are we married?"
You don't have a moment where you kiss the bride.
Physical affection is generally kept private and kept in home.
But all I know is, I'm just still doing what I'm told.
It's all going well so far,
and no one's gotten mad at me.
At least for now.
[chuckles softly]
[woman] Hello.
-Hi! -Hi.
[Anggelisa speaking]
[Meitalia] Tired.
-The top is just way too big, right? -[Meitalia] Yeah, it's heavy.
But that's look good on you.
Yeah.
Um...
Yeah, anyway...
[James] The last time I spoke with Angel,
there's still some hidden animosity in there.
You really never know what's in her mind.
-Very happy. -Yeah, yeah. [giggles]
How are you guys feeling?
Um...
-[exhales in exhaustion] -[Corona] I stayed in a hotel last night.
I did not want to sleep
in the same bed as Ingi.
[Ingi speaking]
[groans in exhaustion]
I stayed in a hotel last night,
because I did not want to sleep in the same bed as Ingi.
He got really defensive about what he's doing at the club.
But what hurt the most,
is realizing that he doesn't value marriage
the same way I do.
And that's a big thing for me.
Even though I'm unconventional in a lot of ways,
and I know I don't seem like the typical person
that would hold so much value to marriage,
I really do.
It's the ultimate commitment to your person. Forever.
And I need that. I want that.
-[knock on door] -[yawns softly]
[sighs in exasperation]
[Ingi] Hey, baby.
No flowers?
No flowers. [chuckles]
[chuckling] Yes. You should have.
-[laughs] -[Ingi giggles]
-How are you doing? -I'm okay.
-No. -[breathily and softly] Yeah.
-Yeah. -Did you?
-No. -Yeah.
[Ingi softly] Yeah.
During the night, uh, you know, I just felt
mostly sad, confused.
And also just, uh, maybe disappointed in myself,
like, how I answered some of the questions she had.
I responded like a...
bit of a jackass, uh...
So, definitely feeling a lot of regret as well.
Yeah, I fell asleep at, like, 5:00.
You know, of course, I've heard, like, a lot of arguments that,
you know, my friends have had,
when their relationships and everything
can get blown out of proportion.
You know, [clicks fingers] just like that.
And for me, that is exactly just how that felt.
Did you really, up until last night,
have no idea that I actually wanted to get married?
I mean, I've literally sent you two rings. Not just one ring.
-I sent you first ring months ago... -Yeah.
-Yeah... Yeah. -...and then I updated it months ago.
And I was like, "Actually, I like this ring."
-Yeah, yeah, yeah. -So, the fact that you thought I was kidding,
I think that's wild.
-Yeah... Yeah. -And I feel like that's kind of a cop-out.
Which is fine for them.
And if that's something that you desire,
I'm telling you right now, you are with the wrong person.
Like, we've talked about kids and such. Like, you think
I'm just gonna have your kids and not be married?
And if you do, like, maybe that's the culture here, but, like,
there's no way in hell I would do that.
-No? -No way in hell.
Yeah?
I've been extremely patient.
It's not like I'm asking to get married tomorrow.
I don't know. I don't know if he will get...
catch up to me, emotionally, in this relationship.
I had a lot of faith until last night.
And I feel like it was kind of, like, a glass-shattering moment,
in which I was, like...
He's talking, like, five, ten years down the line,
like, wanting to get married when I'm 40. And, like,
am I going to gamble and waste my 30s on a man
who may or may not even want to marry me?
[mimicking soft explosion] Like, hmm...
I'm realizing, maybe, I thought this was more serious than it is.
And maybe, like, I'm rushing you into things that you weren't ready for.
I think you're only saying that because that's...
what I want.
I don't think so.
I just feel like your response last night was probably the more honest response.
Yeah.
And, yeah. Like...
You know?
-Yeah. -This all sucks.
I feel like I went all in on this, and I...
I hit a brick wall kind of?
I like to know that I'm...
going towards it like a common goal.
-Yeah, but-- -And if that's not going to be you,
I'd like to know that now,
before I, like, throw my life away.
[sighs in frustration]
I don't know. I'm torn.
I really did think that we were on the same page about a lot of things,
and I'm realizing now we're not.
I put him slightly above midwifery school,
which makes me really nervous.
Because that midwifery school was a certainty.
And... it doesn't seem like Ingi is anymore.
I just feel like, after last night, I need to, like, I don't know,
re-evaluate some things.
I think it's just dawning on me that I might have been on this train alone.
And that sucks.
[whispering]
[James] There's a lot of, lot of smoke.
They take a virgin girl,
and she dances around
in a trance while being possessed by an angel.
[laughs]
-Very happy. -Yeah, yeah. [giggles]
How are you guys feeling?
Um...
I'm so happy
to see you, uh, happy,
and can be, like, together.
Like, uh, for everything that just happened...
in the past, and...
You know that I cannot control my...
Mmm. [chuckles sheepishly]
[Anggelisa] Yeah, yeah.
[both chuckle]
Can we hold?
Mmm, because you know, like,
I just want us, like,
-to be happy. -[Meitalia] Yeah.
-Yeah. Okay. Can we... -I want that too.
...like, promise together?
-Yeah? -I can promise.
-Yeah? -I... I already forgive you for everything.
-[Anggelisa] Yeah? -And I just want us to have a fresh start.
[Anggelisa] Okay.
[Anggelisa in Indonesian]
[in English]
And then, you're not gonna steal her from me,
-like, forever. -[Meitalia chuckles]
-[faint laughter] -No, or block her,
-or block you. -Yeah.
[James] Thank you for coming here and being here,
and being a part of this.
[James] Her apology is unexpected.
I could tell that when she said it, she meant it.
But...
just because you forgive someone,
it doesn't mean you completely open up the door back into your life.
No, they need to show time and time again, and over time,
that that's not something they're going to do again.
And I'm always going to have
an apprehension to anything she says
in the future.
[Javanese xylophone chiming]
[Javanese drum beats softly]
[playing bonang]
[playing traditional Javanese music]
[cheering]
[James speaking]
[continuously playing traditional Javanese music]
[woman singing in Indonesian]
[Javanese drum beating continuously]
[both continue singing]
[Meitalia in English]
-[singing in Indonesian] -[Javanese instruments continue playing]
It is a very unique... sound,
to say the least.
I'll give you an example. It was like...
[vocalizing in high-pitch and off-key]
Ah, I don't even know how to do it.
But they're hitting tones with their voices
that are just, like, out of this world.
And I... I'm not sure the tones are necessarily supposed to have
ever been hit by humankind,
but it's... it's special.
[singer continues singing in Indonesian]
[male vocalist grunting, exclaiming]
[James in English] And...
you know, the dancing is really cool.
[male vocalist chanting]
[Javanese instruments playing final notes]
[applause]
[audience cheering]
[James] And then, apparently, they take a...
virgin girl,
put her in a cage after tying her up.
There's a lot, a lot of smoke.
And then she transforms, or changes outfits
inside the cage.
-[traditional Javanese music resumes] -[vocalist singing]
And she dances around in a trance
while being possessed by an angel.
Right?
[male vocalist sings in Indonesian]
[Meitalia in English]
Yeah. [laughs]
[song and music continue]
[music ends]
[laughs]
This is a wedding that I dreamed
when I was a kid.
[James] And your...
white prince...
-Handsome. -...slash king.
-Yeah. -[chuckles sheepishly]
-[female singer vocalizes] -[Javanese instruments playing]
I love this woman right here.
I love him this much.
Aw! [laughs whimsically]
I feel incredible.
[giggles emotionally] I feel incredible.
I know that we still have issues,
and we still have things we have to figure out together.
And I don't care where we end up,
as long as I have you by my side.
[kisses]
I feel like our wedding...
are perfect.
Angel apologized in-person.
And then, with James, it's been so tense here between us.
And I just never see James this happy
in a really long time.
So, I hope
that this will change James' mind to go back to States,
because he can see that...
he can be happy here in Indonesia, just like tonight.
I want to kiss you so bad.
You can.
[kisses]
[James giggles]
-I know. -[chuckles softly]
How many guests are coming?
-[Josh] Twenty? -Yeah.
We were up until, like, 2:00 this morning,
trying to figure out how to get payment to him.
That's a large amount, too.
[Josh] Yeah.
Uh, are there backup plans that you guys talked about?
No.
[Josh] Lily!
[Lily] Hi!
[Josh] We gotta get going.
[Lily] Ready!
-Like, right now? -Oh, okay.
[Josh] Today is the day of our wedding, and...
Right now, we really don't know
if this is going to happen.
[Jarod] My shirt's still not dry.
-But it's okay. It'll, it'll... -All right.
-We're good. -You know what? It's no big deal.
This is your big day.
[Josh] I'm so nervous.
We were up until, like, 2:00 this morning,
-trying to figure out how to get payment to him. -[Jarod] Mmm.
[Josh] They don't really use credit cards here much.
So, I tried using the MobilePay...
-[Jarod] Yeah. -...that we use here to make payments.
But this wouldn't go because it's not, like, a daily item,
-like food, expense. -Yeah.
That's a large amount, too.
[Josh] Yeah.
We have to see if they can run the card.
You know, will they take some of the cash that I have?
[Jarod] Yeah, that would be very stressful in the back of my mind as well.
How many guests are coming, by the way, today?
-[Josh] Twenty? -Yeah.
[Josh] But nobody knows yet.
So, we got to let these guests know soon.
We're cutting it close.
[Jarod] Yeah. I mean, we're talking, literally, hours.
Uh, are there backup plans that you guys talked about?
-No. -[Josh] Yeah.
-[chuckles awkwardly] -[chuckles sheepishly]
[in Mandarin]
[inhales, exhales nervously]
[in English] Here we go.
-My stomach is, like, turning. -[Jarod] Mmm-hmm.
[Lily in Mandarin]
[Lily in English]
-[Josh] This place is amazing. -[Lily chuckles] It's so much.
[Lily speaking]
-So-- -Absolutely stunning.
[Lily] Hey. Hello, Alex.
-[man 1] Hello. -[man 2] Hello. Hello, hello.
-Hi. -[Lily] Uh...
Uh... [in Mandarin]
[chuckles, speaking Mandarin]
[in English] Hi.
[in Mandarin]
[Lily] Mmm.
[responding in Mandarin]
Mmm.
[Lily continuing in Mandarin]
[Alex speaking]
[Lily in English]
-Um, what about... Could we try my credit card? -[Lily] Yes.
[in Mandarin]
[Alex speaking]
[in English] Okay, honey, let's try credit card.
-At least try. That's... That's all we can do. -Mmm.
[Alex in Mandarin]
[in English] I'll, uh... I'm just gonna stand out here.
And let me know if you need any help.
-Okay. -[Jarod] Good luck.
-[chuckles nervously] -Okay, see you later.
Uh... [in Mandarin]
[Lily speaking]
[responds in Mandarin]
[Josh in English] If this card does not go through...
-Mmm. -...just because I'm traveling in another country,
do you have a card that will work?
-If my-- -I've... I have no card.
-No? Okay. -Uh...
I just hate to see this all fall apart.
-[in Mandarin] -[Lily] Mmm.
[buttons beep]
[in English]
[in Mandarin]
[machine beeps faintly]
[in Mandarin]
-[in English] -It won't go through?
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[Shekinah] Oh, my God, babe.
You are so hot.
[Sarper speaking]
Yes!
Yeah?
You're approved.
[Sarper speaking]
[Statler] I want you to support me.
[Dempsey] I feel like I give you a lot of support.
Maybe I just don't have enough
for you.
And probably I won't ever.
[Statler] My entire life, I've just been desperate
for somebody to love me. But...
maybe that's not enough.
[Statler] I think we should sell the van,
and part ways.
[James] I wanted to give you a better life here.
It's not working.
[in Indonesian]
[slaps thigh in anger]
[shouting in Indonesian]
[Meitalia in English]
[wailing in Indonesian]
[both sobbing]