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BOB HEARTS ABISHOLA#212
"We Don't Rat on Family"
Closed Captioned

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Previously
onBob Hearts Abishola...

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When you see Bob,
tell him I'm happy for him.

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I will.

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He doesn't talkto me anymore.

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Well, that might be because
you hurt him very badly.

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Yeah.

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When you cheated on him.Mm-hmm.

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With his childhood friend.

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Hang on. There are two sides
to that story.

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Oh. What is your side?

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Well, I don't come off real good
in that one, either.

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Bob has to present himself
to Abishola's family.

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If they don't like him,

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they can forbid
the marriage.

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So, you telling me if Bob

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rubs some second cousin
the wrong way,

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you can't marry him?ABISHOLA:
No.

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I still can.KEMI:But she

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can never return to Nigeria.

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Or Texas.Huh?

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I have family there.

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Poor sock man.

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He tries to give you
a diamond ring,

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and suddenly, he's proposing
to a whole village.

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It's not the whole village.

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At most, it will
be 200 people.

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Excuse me, ma'am.

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That is a beautiful ring.

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Ah, thank you.It was a gift.

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Someone must love you very much
to give you a ring like that.

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Eh, I suppose so.

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And do you have the same
feelings towards him

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that he has towards you?

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Eh, I suppose so.

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You love screwing
with me, don't you?[chuckles] I do.

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[both laugh]

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[phone ringing]

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Need to get that?

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Uh...

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Oh, it's my mother.

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I'll call her back later.

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I could say hi.

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That is whyI will call her back later.

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We're getting married. I
have to meet her eventually.

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Why are you rushing?Enjoy this time

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while you do not know her.
[chuckles]

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Are you worried about
what she'll think of me?

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Because I'll have you know,

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I'm very charming.

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I did not like youwhen I first met you.

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But I wore you down.
That's my specialty.

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You are ridiculous.

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Ridiculously charming.

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Come on, call her
back. Let me say hi.

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All right.

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But there will be otherfamily members in attendance

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who will want to speakto you, as well.

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That's fine. How
many we talking?

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Uncles, aunties,cousins, grandparents.

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11 or 12.

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Put the phone down.

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What?Put it down.

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I'm not ready.

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You set me up.

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Eh, I suppose so.

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["Ifanla" by Sola Akingbola
playing]

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Hey, guys, am I
pronouncing this right?

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E nle ma?

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Are you trying
to respectfully greet

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a female elder in my language?

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Yes.Then no.

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Was I close?

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No.

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All right, forget
that. Traditionally,

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I'm supposed to lie on the
ground when I meet her family?

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What if we meet in a bathroom?Oh,

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Mr. Wheeler,
if you meet them in a bathroom,

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you have already done
something terribly wrong.

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It is also acceptable to bow,bending at the waist,

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dropping your handsto your feet.

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Yeah. Maybe if I did
a little stretching first,

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I could pull that off.

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Mr. Wheeler,

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why are you
putting yourself through this?

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Because it's tradition.

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You got engaged
while she was still married.

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You have already stompedon tradition

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like a burning bag of doo-dooleft at your doorstep

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by local pranksters.

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I keep telling you,

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when you stomp on the feces,
the neighborhood kids win.

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And,

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Mr. Wheeler,

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your ignorancehas already gotten you this far.

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Why stop now?KOFO:Goodwin is right.

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Lean intoyour American naivete.

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When you meet her mother,

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wear a cowboy hatand a big belt buckle.

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And say...

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[American accent]:
"Howdy, ma'am."

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Thanks for all your help.

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Y'all come back,
now, you hear?

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You are very goodwith accents.

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Much obliged, pardner.

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[laughs]

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Here you go, sweetie.

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Tomorrow's Bride.

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Oh, thank you.[chuckles]

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Apparently,the brides of tomorrow

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are all whiteand one Asian lady,

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but you get the idea.

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KEMI:
Ah,

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you are finally
planning the wedding.

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I will send you a list of
dates I still have open,

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but act quickly.

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This dress

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would lookso beautiful on you.Oh.

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Yes, it would.[chuckles]

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But my mother
would hate it.

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Oh, also this one.

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Oh, and this one.

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Who cares what she thinks?

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It's your day.

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A wedding
is all about the bride.

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Maybe in America. In Nigeria,

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it's all about the family.

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The bride is lucky
to be invited.

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ABISHOLA:
Mm-hmm.

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The family uses the wedding

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as a way to show
off their wealth,

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and your friends use it
as a way to show off themselves.

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KEMI:
Her first wedding was perfect.

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Hundreds of guests,

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all of them looking at me.

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What about Abishola?

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She saw me, too.

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I remember being so upset
about my dress.

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Ugh. I hated it.So what? Everybody did.

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But your mother loved it,
and that is what's important.

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GLORIA:
Well, around here,

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you don't have to worry
about what anyone else wants.

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They just go to weddings
to get drunk

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and hook up
with some second cousin.

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Mm-hmm.We have that, too.

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It was a third cousin,
and I was not drunk.

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Oh.

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That's an ugly dress.

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Your mother would love it.

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[knock on door]

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Hello, Bob.

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E kaale,Uncle.

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Are you okay?

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Do you have a cramp?

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No, I'm bowing in respect.

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And cramping.

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Abishola is at
work, and Olu

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"is at Bible study."

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I did the quotes
because she is actually getting

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her "hair dyed."

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That did not need the quotes.

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I actually came to see you.

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How wonderful.

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Would you like some tea?

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I also have
some fun-sized candy bars

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hidden around the apartment.

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I'm okay.

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Ah, suit yourself.

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It's come to my attention

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that I did not court Abishola

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in the traditional Nigerian way.

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[laughs]
You certainly did not.

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Well,

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for the wedding,
I want to do it right,

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and I was hoping
you could help guide me

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through the process.

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It would be an honor
for me to be an emissary

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from my family to yours.

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That's great.
Now, I was hoping we could...Traditionally,

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you would bow again,
but don't worry about it.

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Oh, thanks.

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[chuckles]:
You're really not going to bow.

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Well, I guess that's why
we are doing this. [grunts]

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Uh, I did
a little research,

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and I wrote
my letter of intent

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stating my case to marry
your beautiful niece.

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[crying]: I see your mission
is to make me cry today.

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Give it to me.

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I took
a few creative liberties,

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but I think it's okay.Hmm.

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There is no immediate
mention of God.Is that a problem?

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Not if you're writing
this letter to Satan.

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Uh, give me a pen.

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In the next paragraph,

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you are asking permission
to marry Abishola.

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Was that not right?

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It is not.

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It must be from the
perspective of your family

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asking her family
for permission.

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Got it. Great tip.No. No.

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What is this?

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Oh, I used the flower
as a metaphor.

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Lovely. But no.

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[laughs]

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No.

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What was the name

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of your neighbor I threw a
drink on at your first wedding?

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Abeni.

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No, the other one.
She has a mustache.

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Ewatomi.That's right.

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Make sure you put
her at my table

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so I can show off my sexy
pharmacist boyfriend.

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[chuckles]
I will have Chukwuemeka

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grow a mustache that
will put hers to shame.

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I do not think
Ewatomi will be there.

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No? Is she dead?

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Did my curse work?

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She will not be invited. I have
not spoken to her in years.

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[scoffs]
So what?

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So, suddenly you're
only inviting

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people you speak to?
[chuckles]

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Yes.You don't speak to your
mother's hairdresser.

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Are you saying
she cannot come?

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Yes.

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Oh, my God.

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You are considering
a small wedding.

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If I had a drink,

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I would throw it
in your face.

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What is the point
of putting myself on display

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for everybody I know?

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And their friends?

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And their friends' friends?

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To show off your
wonderful life.

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I do not want to show off.

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But I do.

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Abishola, what has
happened to you?

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This is the way
we do things.

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It does not have to be.

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Okay, but people
would talk.

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I am a divorced Nigerian woman
marrying a white man.

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People are already talking.

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And that is why you
have a big wedding--

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to distract them from your
ridiculous relationship.

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I just want the day
to be about Bob and me.

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Is that so wrong?

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Yes!

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But you are my
best friend,

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so I support
your desires.

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Thank you, Kemi.

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Your selfish,
selfish desires.

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Bobby,

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you're just in time
to celebrate.

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What's the occasion?

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We found a bottle of champagne.

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Had a nice talk with
your buddy Tunde, by the way.

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What?Yeah.

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He said

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part of being an emissary

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is making sure
the groom's family

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isn't hiding a crazy cousin
in the attic.

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What'd you tell him?

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I said we don't
keep her in the attic.

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[laughs]

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That's not funny.

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00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,517
Whatever. Tunde laughed.

266
00:10:05,561 --> 00:10:06,867
Tunde called me, too.

267
00:10:06,910 --> 00:10:08,564
I told him it's none
of his business.

268
00:10:08,608 --> 00:10:11,219
What happens in the family
stays in the family.

269
00:10:11,262 --> 00:10:14,222
But nothing's happening
in the family.

270
00:10:14,265 --> 00:10:17,094
That's exactly what I told him.

271
00:10:17,138 --> 00:10:19,401
Why are you saying it like that?

272
00:10:19,444 --> 00:10:21,098
Like what?

273
00:10:22,752 --> 00:10:24,754
He didn't call me. [laughs]

274
00:10:24,798 --> 00:10:26,321
Why didn't he call me?

275
00:10:26,364 --> 00:10:28,671
I don't want him
calling anybody.

276
00:10:28,715 --> 00:10:29,977
He can call
whoever he wants,

277
00:10:30,020 --> 00:10:32,109
he's not getting a thing.

278
00:10:32,153 --> 00:10:35,330
We're like the Corleones--
we don't rat on family.

279
00:10:35,373 --> 00:10:37,724
[phone ringing]

280
00:10:37,767 --> 00:10:39,682
Oh, no. It's-it's Tunde.

281
00:10:39,726 --> 00:10:41,336
What do I do?

282
00:10:42,772 --> 00:10:44,339
[phone continues ringing]

283
00:10:44,382 --> 00:10:46,733
Well, you heard the lady.
We don't rat on family.

284
00:10:54,349 --> 00:10:56,264
Bob,

285
00:10:56,307 --> 00:10:57,482
what are you doing here?

286
00:10:57,526 --> 00:10:58,788
I was in the
neighborhood, and I saw

287
00:10:58,832 --> 00:11:00,616
you posted a picture
of your moin moin.

288
00:11:00,660 --> 00:11:03,880
[laughing]:
Oh, the shapes they mold them in
are so whimsical.

289
00:11:04,838 --> 00:11:07,144
Hey...

290
00:11:07,188 --> 00:11:10,365
did you really have
to call my family?

291
00:11:10,408 --> 00:11:11,714
I was just trying
to be thorough.

292
00:11:11,758 --> 00:11:13,150
But you know me.

293
00:11:13,194 --> 00:11:16,066
And the Bundys thought they
knew Ted.

294
00:11:16,110 --> 00:11:17,677
This was supposed
to be you helping me out,

295
00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,679
maybe putting in a good word
with the in-laws?

296
00:11:19,722 --> 00:11:21,463
Well, I am helping you out.

297
00:11:21,506 --> 00:11:23,726
I am making sure
you succeed.

298
00:11:23,770 --> 00:11:27,817
And I should not tell you this,
but you are doing well.

299
00:11:27,861 --> 00:11:29,819
Great to hear.

300
00:11:29,863 --> 00:11:32,213
So are we done
with interrogating my family?

301
00:11:32,256 --> 00:11:34,781
Not quite.
I also called your ex-wife.

302
00:11:34,824 --> 00:11:37,697
Why would you do that?

303
00:11:37,740 --> 00:11:40,090
To better understand why
your first marriage failed.

304
00:11:40,134 --> 00:11:42,440
All right, well,
what did she say?

305
00:11:42,484 --> 00:11:44,225
Oh, I don't know.
I haven't talked to her yet.

306
00:11:44,268 --> 00:11:47,271
Hey, Bobby Socks.

307
00:11:47,315 --> 00:11:50,013
Oh, you are killing me, Tunde.

308
00:11:58,456 --> 00:12:01,459
Relax, Bob. I'm not gonna
say anything bad.

309
00:12:01,503 --> 00:12:03,505
He has major trust issues.

310
00:12:03,548 --> 00:12:06,508
Tunde, please don't do this.

311
00:12:06,551 --> 00:12:07,944
I am just trying to help you

312
00:12:07,988 --> 00:12:10,599
avoid making the same mistakes
with Abishola.

313
00:12:10,642 --> 00:12:11,992
I didn't make a
mistake with this one.

314
00:12:12,035 --> 00:12:13,776
She had an affair
with my best friend.

315
00:12:13,820 --> 00:12:16,953
That is a part of the story,
but is it the whole book?

316
00:12:18,259 --> 00:12:20,130
Chapter 12: The Mistress Named

317
00:12:20,174 --> 00:12:22,785
MaxDot Therapeutic Hosiery.

318
00:12:22,829 --> 00:12:24,352
UNCLE TUNDE:
Interesting.

319
00:12:24,395 --> 00:12:26,354
That is the name of his company.

320
00:12:27,355 --> 00:12:29,487
His first and only love.

321
00:12:29,531 --> 00:12:31,489
Can I get a beer?

322
00:12:31,533 --> 00:12:34,449
Alcohol, his other mistress.

323
00:12:35,842 --> 00:12:37,321
"Alcohol."

324
00:12:44,676 --> 00:12:46,156
EBUNOLUWA:
Olu, these were the colors

325
00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,637
I was thinking
for the iroand the buba.

326
00:12:48,680 --> 00:12:50,508
All I can see is your ceiling.

327
00:12:51,771 --> 00:12:53,424
Is that better?

328
00:12:53,468 --> 00:12:54,817
No.

329
00:12:54,861 --> 00:12:56,079
Ah, I recognize
this ceiling.

330
00:12:56,123 --> 00:12:57,515
Hello, Mommy.

331
00:12:57,559 --> 00:12:58,603
Hello, Abishola.

332
00:12:58,647 --> 00:13:00,127
We are discussing your wedding.

333
00:13:00,170 --> 00:13:01,650
It's very exciting.

334
00:13:01,693 --> 00:13:03,695
I would like to be a part
of this conversation.

335
00:13:03,739 --> 00:13:04,827
Why?

336
00:13:04,871 --> 00:13:06,829
Abishola,

337
00:13:06,873 --> 00:13:08,048
send me your measurements.

338
00:13:08,091 --> 00:13:09,658
Bimpe needs
to start on your dress.

339
00:13:09,701 --> 00:13:10,877
Oh, that won't
be necessary.

340
00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:12,095
I can get
a dress from here.

341
00:13:12,139 --> 00:13:13,836
Don't be ridiculous!

342
00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:15,664
You will not wear
a dress from Detroit.

343
00:13:16,970 --> 00:13:18,101
Bimpe will make it.

344
00:13:18,145 --> 00:13:19,842
And if she cannot,

345
00:13:19,886 --> 00:13:21,670
I know several
seamstresses in Lagos.

346
00:13:21,713 --> 00:13:23,672
But we will not be using
your seamstresses.

347
00:13:23,715 --> 00:13:25,630
We will be using Bimpe.

348
00:13:25,674 --> 00:13:28,590
Bimpe is half blind
and has arthritis.

349
00:13:28,633 --> 00:13:30,113
I am in charge
of the clothes, Olu.

350
00:13:30,157 --> 00:13:31,811
You are in charge of the food!

351
00:13:33,464 --> 00:13:35,118
At least
there will be

352
00:13:35,162 --> 00:13:36,554
no problem
with the food this time.

353
00:13:36,598 --> 00:13:37,860
What is that supposed to mean?

354
00:13:37,904 --> 00:13:39,601
At Abishola's first wedding,

355
00:13:39,644 --> 00:13:41,472
you ran out of hot pepper soup.

356
00:13:41,516 --> 00:13:43,126
There is no greater crime!

357
00:13:43,170 --> 00:13:46,695
We ran out because Tunde ate
bowl after bowl after bowl!

358
00:13:46,738 --> 00:13:48,131
It is a wedding!

359
00:13:48,175 --> 00:13:50,046
One must be prepared
to feed an army of Tundes.

360
00:13:50,090 --> 00:13:51,874
Aah!

361
00:13:53,006 --> 00:13:55,878
When did you first
start feeling unhappy?

362
00:13:55,922 --> 00:13:57,271
Oh, well,

363
00:13:57,314 --> 00:13:58,925
I guess it was when I realized

364
00:13:58,968 --> 00:14:02,711
that Bob loved making and
selling socks more than me.

365
00:14:02,754 --> 00:14:05,061
That's not true.
I was just building a business.

366
00:14:05,105 --> 00:14:06,802
And destroying a marriage.

367
00:14:06,846 --> 00:14:08,064
He would...
he would come home exhausted,

368
00:14:08,108 --> 00:14:09,326
have a couple of drinks

369
00:14:09,370 --> 00:14:12,590
and pass out
on the couch.Alcohol.

370
00:14:14,027 --> 00:14:15,637
How could I not
feel abandoned?

371
00:14:15,680 --> 00:14:18,596
Did you make these feelings
known to Bob?

372
00:14:19,902 --> 00:14:22,992
It's hard to be heard
when you aren't even seen.

373
00:14:23,036 --> 00:14:25,255
Oh, my God.

374
00:14:25,299 --> 00:14:26,996
I see you, Lorraine.

375
00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:28,868
Oh, my God.

376
00:14:28,911 --> 00:14:30,043
Can you blame me

377
00:14:30,086 --> 00:14:31,131
for having an affair?

378
00:14:31,174 --> 00:14:32,610
Yes!

379
00:14:32,654 --> 00:14:33,960
Was it an affair?

380
00:14:34,003 --> 00:14:36,005
Or was it a cry for help?

381
00:14:36,049 --> 00:14:37,485
It was an affair.

382
00:14:37,528 --> 00:14:39,530
She slept with my best friend.

383
00:14:39,574 --> 00:14:41,663
You drove me into Gary's bed.

384
00:14:41,706 --> 00:14:43,317
Oh, really? It's my fault?

385
00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:44,405
Well, who drove you
into the bouncy castle

386
00:14:44,448 --> 00:14:46,276
at his kid's birthday party?

387
00:14:47,277 --> 00:14:48,975
How'd you know about that?

388
00:14:49,018 --> 00:14:51,412
The clown owed me a favor.

389
00:14:51,455 --> 00:14:53,936
Now, this is Gary Gendelhoff?

390
00:14:53,980 --> 00:14:56,808
Yes.Do you happen
to have his phone number?

391
00:14:56,852 --> 00:14:58,898
Oh... my... God.

392
00:15:03,903 --> 00:15:06,209
Planning a wedding is
tougher than I thought.

393
00:15:06,253 --> 00:15:08,298
I tried to warn you.

394
00:15:10,083 --> 00:15:12,781
Before we go any further,
I got to tell you something.

395
00:15:12,824 --> 00:15:15,827
Mm.My job is very
important to me.

396
00:15:15,871 --> 00:15:18,004
I know that.It takes a lot of my time

397
00:15:18,047 --> 00:15:19,919
and attention, but
if it ever feels like

398
00:15:19,962 --> 00:15:22,312
I'm putting it above you,
please let me know.

399
00:15:22,356 --> 00:15:24,967
That will not be a problem.

400
00:15:25,011 --> 00:15:27,361
You sure? 'Cause sometimes
I'll work a 70-hour week.

401
00:15:27,404 --> 00:15:30,016
Is that a little
or a lot for you?

402
00:15:30,059 --> 00:15:32,366
I love you so freaking much.

403
00:15:32,409 --> 00:15:34,150
I know.

404
00:15:34,194 --> 00:15:36,239
Mmm.

405
00:15:39,634 --> 00:15:41,636
We should just
get married at city hall.

406
00:15:41,679 --> 00:15:43,986
There's an idea.Mm.

407
00:15:44,030 --> 00:15:46,162
It is the only way
we'll have a say in our wedding.

408
00:15:46,206 --> 00:15:47,859
I'm down with that.

409
00:15:47,903 --> 00:15:49,774
We have to bring Dele,
of course.

410
00:15:49,818 --> 00:15:52,342
I want him there.Absolutely.

411
00:15:52,386 --> 00:15:53,822
And your uncle
would be heartbroken,

412
00:15:53,865 --> 00:15:56,390
so we should ask him
and Auntie to come, too.

413
00:15:56,433 --> 00:15:59,523
Mm. If they are coming, we
should also bring your family.

414
00:15:59,567 --> 00:16:02,396
Do we have to?

415
00:16:02,439 --> 00:16:04,354
Yes.

416
00:16:04,398 --> 00:16:06,443
And you should invite Kemi.

417
00:16:07,401 --> 00:16:10,012
Do I have to?[laughs]

418
00:16:10,056 --> 00:16:13,711
There's a couple of guys at
work I'd love to have there.

419
00:16:13,755 --> 00:16:17,019
I wouldn't be getting married
if it wasn't for them.Mm.

420
00:16:17,063 --> 00:16:18,673
It would be nice
to have Gloria

421
00:16:18,716 --> 00:16:20,414
and a few of my nurse friends
there, too.

422
00:16:21,806 --> 00:16:24,766
This is getting to be quite
a crowd for a courthouse.

423
00:16:24,809 --> 00:16:26,376
I guess my mother
and auntie are going

424
00:16:26,420 --> 00:16:28,030
to get their wedding
after all.

425
00:16:28,074 --> 00:16:29,901
I guess so.

426
00:16:31,077 --> 00:16:32,904
Are you disappointed?

427
00:16:32,948 --> 00:16:34,689
No.

428
00:16:34,732 --> 00:16:36,821
It doesn't matter
where it's at,

429
00:16:36,865 --> 00:16:38,780
or who's there, or what
anybody's wearing.

430
00:16:38,823 --> 00:16:40,912
All I'll be
looking at is you.

431
00:16:40,956 --> 00:16:44,133
I'm going to be
in a dress made by Bimpe.

432
00:16:44,177 --> 00:16:46,396
Is that a famous designer?

433
00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:48,964
It is a blind
arthritic woman in Lagos.

434
00:16:50,183 --> 00:16:52,533
Does she do tuxedos?

435
00:16:52,576 --> 00:16:54,665
[laughs]

436
00:16:59,366 --> 00:17:01,324
[Skype ringing]

437
00:17:01,368 --> 00:17:05,894
Uh, Mommy, I would like you to
meet my fiancé, Bob Wheeler.

438
00:17:05,937 --> 00:17:07,896
E nle ma.

439
00:17:09,202 --> 00:17:12,074
What took you so long
to introduce yourself to me?

440
00:17:12,118 --> 00:17:13,249
Oh, that was my
fault, Mommy.

441
00:17:13,293 --> 00:17:14,468
I did not ask you.

442
00:17:14,511 --> 00:17:16,557
I asked Bob Wheeler.

443
00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:18,515
Uh, that was my fault.

444
00:17:18,559 --> 00:17:20,126
I was just nervous

445
00:17:20,169 --> 00:17:22,911
about meeting the most
respected woman in the family.

446
00:17:22,954 --> 00:17:25,044
I admire your attempts
at flattery.

447
00:17:25,087 --> 00:17:28,482
I have received your gift--
a new tablet.

448
00:17:28,525 --> 00:17:30,397
Do you think
you can buy my approval?

449
00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:31,702
I was hoping. [laughs]

450
00:17:32,834 --> 00:17:35,054
Hey, look, not finding me funny
runs in the family.

451
00:17:35,097 --> 00:17:37,621
Tunde speaks highly of you.

452
00:17:37,665 --> 00:17:39,449
He told me your credit score.

453
00:17:39,493 --> 00:17:42,191
Very impressive.

454
00:17:42,235 --> 00:17:44,280
I'm just happy
I have a great job

455
00:17:44,324 --> 00:17:45,673
where I can help
provide for you,

456
00:17:45,716 --> 00:17:48,589
your daughter
and your grandson.

457
00:17:48,632 --> 00:17:50,199
Abishola?

458
00:17:50,243 --> 00:17:51,418
Yes, Mommy.

459
00:17:51,461 --> 00:17:53,246
I like him.

460
00:17:53,289 --> 00:17:55,770
I like him, too.

461
00:18:03,430 --> 00:18:07,390
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