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Previously
onBob Hearts Abishola...
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Your husband is coming
-to America.
-What?
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Tayo wants to pick
Dele up from school.
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Ah, he could not
get the lioness.
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And now he set his
sights on the cub.
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Dele is my son.
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That is true.
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But do not forget.
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I am the one raising him.
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That reminds me,
I could use a new steamer.
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I will send you a photo
of the one I want.
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For your birthday?
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For Dele to bring.
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What are you talking about?
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When he comes to visit Nigeria
with his father.
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Nobody talked to me about this.
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Well, Tayo talked to me.
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It is not his decision.
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Hey, you don't want Dele to come
see his own grandmother?
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You want a stranger
to bring my steamer?
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I will tell your father
that you do not want to go.
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But I do.
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What?
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I want to go with my dad.
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Please, Mum.
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It's only for the summer.
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This is really what you want?
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Yes, Mum.
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I see.
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UNCLE TUNDE:
-Who is it?
-It's Bob.
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Is there anyone else with you?
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No, just me.
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Are you sure?
I didn't see you check.
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I am the only one
in the hallway.
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I'll let you in, but be quick.
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Can you open the door
a little more?
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What is going on?
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I am not to let anyone in
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who could be a relative of Tayo.
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Do I look like
a relative of Tayo?
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You will regret coming here.
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You can cut the tension
with an obe.
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Obe means knife.
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Got it.
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I don't think you do
"got it."
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Because you are
still here.
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Does this have anything to do
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with Dele going to Nigeria?
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It is about him not
going.
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Abishola has gone
against his father's wishes
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and forbidden it.
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Well, she is his mother.
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And Tayo is his father.
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And you're his uncle.
What are we doing?
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Oh, it's not good, Bob.
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The families are upset.
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Olu is upset.
My stomach is upset.
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Well, how's Dele?
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Who cares?
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All I know is
that Abishola
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was short with Olu.
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And that is tempting
the devil.
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And if you say
I called Olu the devil,
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I will call you a liar.
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I'll go talk to Abishola.
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Oh, be careful.
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Sometimes when we try to help,
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we are adding petirolu
to the fire.
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Petirolu means fuel.
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Got it.
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He doesn't got it.
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Hey there.
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Hello.
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Smells delicious.
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Thank you.
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So, uh, small question...
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Dele is not going to Nigeria.
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My decision is final.
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Okay.
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I have raised him by myself,
and his father cannot just
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swoop in and take him away.
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Right.
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All of this happened because you
forced me
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to let Dele have
a choice in things.
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Well, I don't know
that I forced you--
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You're right.
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It's all my fault.
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I am his mother.
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And I know what is best for him.
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Not Tayo.
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Not Auntie.
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Not Dele.
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Got it.
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-Do you still have a question?
-I do not.
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Good.
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I'll be out there.
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By the way,
you look beautiful tonight.
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All right.
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["Ifanla" by Sola Akingbola
playing]
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Well, you know dinner's good
when everybody's quiet.
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[chuckles]
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Real good.
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Any more of that wine,
Tunde?
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Nope.
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Glad you liked it.
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I stopped tasting it
three glasses ago.
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I never even got
a chance to taste it.
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It's not very good.
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Why are you not eating
your food?
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I'm not hungry.
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I made this food
and you will eat it.
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I'm not hungry.
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Just because you are upset
about Nigeria
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does not mean you will be
disrespectful to me.
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Eat your food.
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No, thank you.
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[both gasp]
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I'll take some more peas.[clears throat]: Uh-uh.
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You will do as I say.
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[both gasp]
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What's going on?
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Open rebellion.
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Since you do not want
to eat your food,
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I will throw it in the garbage.
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Ah-ah! Give it here.
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You will sit there
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and suffer
while I eat your portion.
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I'm sorry you
had to see this.
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I don't even know
what I'm watching.
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Right here's fine.
I figure
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she'll calm down soon and want
Dele to have his things back.
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What did her son do?
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Didn't eat dinner.
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-That she prepared?
-Yeah.
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He will not be seeing
these things again.
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She even took his Air Jordans.
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Oh, it is better than what
my mother did with my shoes.
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She would throw them at me.
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You're kidding.
No.
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One time, I was standing
at a bus stop,
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she drove past and hit me
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right between the eyes
with one of my loafers.
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A drive-by shoeing.
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My mother
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would punish me by making me
sleep on the roof
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and wear my sister's clothes
to school.
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Boy, that makes a shoe to
the face feel like an upgrade.
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It wasn't all bad.
I developed a love for astronomy
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and found out I could wear
the hell out of a pencil skirt.
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These experiences helped us
learn and become better people.
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So you do that kind
of thing with your kids?
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Of course not.
It is child abuse.
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Ah!
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Dele was such a good boy.
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He was.
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And now I have lost him.
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You have.
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Child, listen,
you can't blame yourself.
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I do not.
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Okay then.
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The boy was silent and obedient
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before his father arrived.
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It could be that.
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Or just that you've got yourself
a teenager now.
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I did not raise him
to be a teenager.
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Did you think
he was gonna skip it?
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Go from obedient child
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straight to obedient doctor?
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That is what I told him to do.
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You know,
my eldest was
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very stubborn--
I blamed his father.
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But then when
my husband died,
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the two younger ones
were even worse.
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And that's when I realized
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the problem was them.
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I do not even recognize Dele.
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Oh, yeah,
suddenly they start
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talking back to you.
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Having opinions.
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When my James was 14,
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he started hanging out
with the wrong crowd,
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skipping school,
even got caught drinking.
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Your child
sounds like a criminal.
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He was a teenager.
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Okay.
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Teenage criminal.
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Grilled cheese? Hell yeah.
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This is for Dele.
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Abishola brought
him to work
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to keep an eye on him and I
figured he could use a little
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comfort food and a check-in
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from his Auntie Christina.
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You're gonna be an awesome aunt.
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You think?
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Yeah. You're quirky, you're
out of touch with reality.
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All you need now is a cat
you dress up
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and wheel around in a stroller.
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Aw. [chuckles]
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And you're gonna
be a fun uncle.
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"Funcle" Doug.
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I don't hate that.
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I'm clearly not ready
to be a parent,
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but I have a lot
to offer as a funcle.
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Shall we?
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Hey, don't bring
up your therapist.
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Why would I bring up
my therapist?
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'Cause you always bring
up your therapist.
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Hey, buddy.
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Having a tough time?
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Oh, no, um,
I'm okay.
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Well, this is in case
you're hungry.
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And these are in case you
want to talk.
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Thanks, but my mum told me
not to bother you.
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[groans]
"Mums," right?
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Can you not tell my mum
I'm eating this?
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Oh, mum's the word.
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That's a funcle joke.
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Stay in your lane.
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You know,
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I get scolded for not knowing
enough about my Yoruba culture,
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yet I'm forbidden to visit
the place where I'm from.
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Ooh, been there.
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I'm supposed
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to become a successful man.
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But I'm not allowed to make
a single choice.
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How does that prepare me
for life?
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[clicks tongue]
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You know,
I have a great therapist.
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What did I say?
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I'm sorry.
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You know your son's just
testing your authority, right?
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I know.
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You got to be careful though.
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Every kid handles these kinds
of moments differently.
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I will manage.
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Why don't we try doing
the table circles?
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[groans] Fine.
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Bob was easy.
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When he acted out,
all it took was a little guilt,
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and he'd snap to.
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"Oh, Bobby,
when you don't make your bed,
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Mommy just wants
to kill herself."
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All right, maybe a lot of guilt.
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Try using both arms equally.
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Douglas was trickier.
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You had to let him
think he'd won.
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Stick a couple of M&M'S
underneath his spinach,
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that sort of thing.
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Let's do counterclockwise now.
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But Christina.
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Oh, she was like a top-heavy
SUV on a mountain road.
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You handle her wrong,
and suddenly,
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she's catching fire
and taking out a school bus.
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Okay, that is
it for today.
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I'm doling out some gems.
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You could at least
pretend to listen.
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I'm sorry, but I think Dele
is different from your children.
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Different how?
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Behind their backs,
you call Douglas and Christina
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"Tweedle Dee
and Tweedle D-minus."
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That's not true,
I said it to their face.
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Well, in Nigeria,
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raising a child is about respect
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and discipline.
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I'm just saying,
nobody's got it all figured out.
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There's no right answer.
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00:11:03,466 --> 00:11:05,729
Well, my answer is more right.
268
00:11:05,773 --> 00:11:08,210
-Oh, really?
-Mm-hmm.
269
00:11:08,253 --> 00:11:09,864
And your mother raised you
the same way?
270
00:11:09,907 --> 00:11:11,953
-Yes.
-And how often
do you talk to her?
271
00:11:11,996 --> 00:11:13,476
She calls every day.
272
00:11:14,390 --> 00:11:17,175
And I answer once a week.
273
00:11:17,219 --> 00:11:20,657
Well, I talk to my kids
morning, noon and night.
274
00:11:20,701 --> 00:11:23,399
Beneath all that bickering,
there's love.
275
00:11:25,009 --> 00:11:26,097
That's why
they're not 8,000 miles away,
276
00:11:26,141 --> 00:11:27,838
dodging my phone calls.
277
00:11:27,882 --> 00:11:29,884
They live with me,
they work with me.
278
00:11:29,927 --> 00:11:33,278
Wherever I turn, there they are.
279
00:11:33,322 --> 00:11:34,976
That's nice.
280
00:11:35,019 --> 00:11:37,848
They haunt my dreams, Abishola.
281
00:11:53,864 --> 00:11:55,213
Here.
282
00:11:57,346 --> 00:11:58,826
What is this?
283
00:11:58,869 --> 00:12:00,479
A dancing video game.
284
00:12:00,523 --> 00:12:02,394
I got it from Bob's garage.
285
00:12:02,438 --> 00:12:04,745
Oh. Thank you.
286
00:12:06,398 --> 00:12:08,357
Since you like both
dancing and video games.
287
00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:09,924
This is a combination
of the two.
288
00:12:11,708 --> 00:12:13,797
I'm familiar with it.
289
00:12:13,841 --> 00:12:15,930
Your father does not
like you dancing.
290
00:12:15,973 --> 00:12:18,759
And neither do you.
291
00:12:18,802 --> 00:12:20,978
But I let you,
and when we get home,
292
00:12:21,022 --> 00:12:22,327
I'll let you play
this video game.
293
00:12:23,328 --> 00:12:24,808
I can't.
294
00:12:24,852 --> 00:12:26,679
Do not argue with me.
295
00:12:26,723 --> 00:12:28,507
You will dance,
and I will watch.
296
00:12:30,074 --> 00:12:33,251
No, I want to play
the game, but I can't.
297
00:12:33,295 --> 00:12:34,818
I don't have
the console.
298
00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:38,430
You cannot just
plug this in the VCR?
299
00:12:38,474 --> 00:12:40,389
No, it doesn't
work that way.
300
00:12:40,432 --> 00:12:42,957
Then why do we have the VCR?
301
00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,742
I really don't know.
302
00:12:45,786 --> 00:12:49,746
But, um... thanks
for thinking of me.
303
00:12:49,790 --> 00:12:52,009
I'm always thinking of you.
304
00:12:56,492 --> 00:12:57,972
So now will you eat?
305
00:12:58,015 --> 00:12:59,321
Can I go to Nigeria?
306
00:12:59,364 --> 00:13:01,497
-No.
-Then I'm not hungry.
307
00:13:03,412 --> 00:13:04,543
Give me that.
308
00:13:09,505 --> 00:13:11,246
[knocking]
309
00:13:11,289 --> 00:13:13,335
[knocking continues]
310
00:13:16,860 --> 00:13:17,905
[sighs]
311
00:13:22,997 --> 00:13:24,041
Tayo.
312
00:13:24,085 --> 00:13:25,826
I'm sorry to impose.
313
00:13:25,869 --> 00:13:27,088
I'm sorry, too.
314
00:13:27,131 --> 00:13:28,089
If you came here
thinking you could
315
00:13:28,132 --> 00:13:29,438
change my mind about Dele going
316
00:13:29,481 --> 00:13:30,961
to Nigeria, you are mistaken.
317
00:13:31,005 --> 00:13:32,441
I just came here
to ask your permission
318
00:13:32,484 --> 00:13:34,878
to take him to school.
Nothing else.
319
00:13:34,922 --> 00:13:37,141
My permission?
320
00:13:37,185 --> 00:13:39,578
You're his mother.
I defer to you.
321
00:13:39,622 --> 00:13:43,495
Unless school is too far for a
child to travel with his father.
322
00:13:43,539 --> 00:13:44,888
Don't be ridiculous.
323
00:13:44,932 --> 00:13:47,064
I was under
the impression
324
00:13:47,108 --> 00:13:48,761
you didn't want me
to see him at all.
325
00:13:48,805 --> 00:13:50,676
That is not true.
326
00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:53,810
Good. Because the more you try
to keep your children close,
327
00:13:53,854 --> 00:13:55,551
the more they push you away.
328
00:13:55,594 --> 00:13:59,772
Mm. I'm sure you know a lot
about pushing people away.
329
00:14:03,385 --> 00:14:05,953
Dele! Get your things.
330
00:14:05,996 --> 00:14:07,345
You are going to school
with your father.
331
00:14:07,389 --> 00:14:08,346
Thank you.
332
00:14:08,390 --> 00:14:09,913
Bye, Mum.
333
00:14:09,957 --> 00:14:11,654
And no gallivanting.
334
00:14:11,697 --> 00:14:12,873
Come straight home after school.
335
00:14:12,916 --> 00:14:14,918
Yes, Mum.
336
00:14:17,529 --> 00:14:19,444
[door closes]
I am a fool.
337
00:14:19,488 --> 00:14:20,750
UNCLE TUNDE:
No, no.
338
00:14:20,793 --> 00:14:22,839
He is just smarter than you.
339
00:14:27,757 --> 00:14:29,106
I am impressed.
340
00:14:29,150 --> 00:14:31,065
It took him
very little time
341
00:14:31,108 --> 00:14:33,328
to destroy your
-relationship with Dele.
-Mm-mm.
342
00:14:33,371 --> 00:14:34,982
Tayo cannot come
between us.
343
00:14:35,025 --> 00:14:36,505
He's just taking him
to school.
344
00:14:36,548 --> 00:14:38,507
I'm sure Tayo will spend
the whole drive talking
345
00:14:38,550 --> 00:14:40,944
about how
wonderful you are.
346
00:14:40,988 --> 00:14:42,728
He cannot poison
my son against me.
347
00:14:42,772 --> 00:14:44,513
Because your son
will not eat.
348
00:14:45,775 --> 00:14:48,952
He would rather starve himself
than listen to his mother.
349
00:14:48,996 --> 00:14:52,173
Oh, my friend, I hate
to see you so upset.
350
00:14:52,216 --> 00:14:54,958
This is the problem with
only having one child.
351
00:14:55,002 --> 00:14:57,047
-What?
-I would say
352
00:14:57,091 --> 00:14:58,440
you have put all of
your eggs in one basket,
353
00:14:58,483 --> 00:15:00,137
but you only
have the one egg.
354
00:15:00,181 --> 00:15:02,052
Me? Hmm.
355
00:15:02,096 --> 00:15:05,229
I have a stupid son,
a lazy daughter.
356
00:15:05,273 --> 00:15:08,493
But my youngest boy is
a successful lawyer.
357
00:15:08,537 --> 00:15:10,234
He's the one I love.
358
00:15:10,278 --> 00:15:13,803
Kemi, you love
all your children.
359
00:15:13,846 --> 00:15:16,675
Eh. It's a numbers game.
360
00:15:16,719 --> 00:15:18,677
Every mother
gets a few duds.
361
00:15:18,721 --> 00:15:20,201
Dele is not a dud.
362
00:15:20,244 --> 00:15:22,029
Okay. You're right.
You're right.
363
00:15:23,639 --> 00:15:26,555
He's certainly
your most successful child.
364
00:15:32,822 --> 00:15:33,997
I knew I didn't throw it out.
365
00:15:34,041 --> 00:15:35,259
Here are the dance mats,
366
00:15:35,303 --> 00:15:36,913
the game system,
367
00:15:36,957 --> 00:15:40,395
and one of these
is the power cord.
368
00:15:40,438 --> 00:15:42,049
Thank you.
369
00:15:42,092 --> 00:15:44,399
Uh, I can figure out
which one if you want,
370
00:15:44,442 --> 00:15:47,184
but I felt like making Dele
earn it was more your style.
371
00:15:47,228 --> 00:15:49,839
Okay.
I never throw
these things out.
372
00:15:49,882 --> 00:15:51,232
I guess you could say
I'm a "corder."
373
00:15:52,624 --> 00:15:54,322
A... corder.
374
00:15:55,976 --> 00:15:57,586
I understood your
unfunny joke.
375
00:15:57,629 --> 00:15:59,762
Okay, just making sure.
376
00:15:59,805 --> 00:16:02,025
Look, I've never
raised a kid,
377
00:16:02,069 --> 00:16:04,114
but from an outsider's
perspective,
378
00:16:04,158 --> 00:16:06,116
you're doing a hell
of a job.
379
00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:07,988
You'll get through this,
380
00:16:08,031 --> 00:16:09,946
and I'm happy to help
in any way I can.
381
00:16:09,990 --> 00:16:13,080
-You'd make a good father.
-You think?
382
00:16:13,123 --> 00:16:16,213
Mm-hmm. You are supportive,
a good provider.
383
00:16:16,257 --> 00:16:19,086
Your jokes are old
and not humorous.
384
00:16:19,129 --> 00:16:20,957
I'll take that as a compliment.
385
00:16:22,132 --> 00:16:24,004
Did you ever want children?
386
00:16:25,222 --> 00:16:26,441
[sighs]
387
00:16:26,484 --> 00:16:28,182
I did for a long time,
388
00:16:28,225 --> 00:16:30,619
but with Lorraine,
things were complicated.
389
00:16:30,662 --> 00:16:32,099
Ah.
390
00:16:32,142 --> 00:16:34,623
She struggled with infertility
due to endometriosis.
391
00:16:37,582 --> 00:16:40,150
I was her nurse.
I saw her files.
392
00:16:40,194 --> 00:16:42,370
It's funny, I kind of
gave up on the whole idea.
393
00:16:42,413 --> 00:16:45,329
But now, with you,
394
00:16:45,373 --> 00:16:47,114
yeah, I think
I'd be up for it.
395
00:16:47,157 --> 00:16:48,680
I mean, assuming you are.
396
00:16:48,724 --> 00:16:51,248
-I already have a child.
-Right, obviously.
397
00:16:51,292 --> 00:16:53,033
I'm not just going to have
another one to replace him.
398
00:16:53,076 --> 00:16:54,164
I wasn't saying that.
399
00:16:54,208 --> 00:16:55,774
Right now, I need
to focus on Dele.
400
00:16:55,818 --> 00:16:57,863
-You brought it up.
-Maybe one day, we can talk
401
00:16:57,907 --> 00:16:59,735
about having children,
but today is not that day.
402
00:16:59,778 --> 00:17:02,694
Again, you brought it up!
403
00:17:06,568 --> 00:17:08,222
[door opens]
404
00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:10,789
Kaale, Mum.
405
00:17:10,833 --> 00:17:12,617
[scoffs]
This is how you fold the shirts?
406
00:17:16,578 --> 00:17:18,797
When my mother sees this,
407
00:17:18,841 --> 00:17:20,408
she will think
I did not raise you properly.
408
00:17:20,451 --> 00:17:22,236
Excuse me?
409
00:17:24,847 --> 00:17:26,631
You are going
to Nigeria this summer.
410
00:17:26,675 --> 00:17:29,112
-I am?
-You will behave
411
00:17:29,156 --> 00:17:31,114
and represent
this family well.
412
00:17:31,158 --> 00:17:34,596
You will also
-call me every day.
-Of course.
413
00:17:34,639 --> 00:17:36,946
Before the plane takes off,
after it lands.
414
00:17:36,989 --> 00:17:40,428
Before, during
and after every car trip.
415
00:17:40,471 --> 00:17:41,646
Yes, Mum.
416
00:17:42,908 --> 00:17:43,996
It does not matter
417
00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,086
how things are
with your father and me.
418
00:17:46,129 --> 00:17:47,783
This trip will
be good for you.
419
00:17:47,826 --> 00:17:49,741
That is what matters.
420
00:17:49,785 --> 00:17:51,482
Thank you, Mum.
421
00:17:51,526 --> 00:17:53,615
And I will never be against you.
422
00:17:53,658 --> 00:17:56,922
Never. Do you understand?
423
00:17:56,966 --> 00:17:59,273
I know that.
424
00:18:01,318 --> 00:18:04,974
I do not care that I only have
one egg in my baskets.
425
00:18:05,017 --> 00:18:09,065
I love that egg,
and I am proud of it.
426
00:18:09,109 --> 00:18:10,153
Excuse me?
427
00:18:10,197 --> 00:18:12,373
I will not say it again.
428
00:18:12,416 --> 00:18:14,679
It's almost time
for dinner.
429
00:18:14,723 --> 00:18:16,986
I'm starving.
I'll go wash up.
430
00:18:17,029 --> 00:18:19,510
Ah-ah, finish folding
these clothes.
431
00:18:19,554 --> 00:18:20,772
And make it quick.
432
00:18:20,816 --> 00:18:22,383
Uncle Tunde is already
eyeing your portion.
433
00:18:33,220 --> 00:18:36,179
♪ Bai ding ba doli party,
bamm bing ba doli party ♪
434
00:18:36,223 --> 00:18:38,834
♪ Breding ba doli party,
party pop ♪
435
00:18:38,877 --> 00:18:40,705
[pop]♪ Oh, I'm a gummy bear
436
00:18:40,749 --> 00:18:43,099
♪ Yes, I'm a gummy bear
437
00:18:43,143 --> 00:18:47,147
♪ Oh, I'm a yummy, tummy,
funny, lucky gummy bear ♪
438
00:18:47,190 --> 00:18:50,541
♪ I'm a jelly bear,
'cause I'm a gummy bear ♪
439
00:18:50,585 --> 00:18:53,979
♪ Oh, I'm a movin', groovin',
jammin', singin' gummy bear ♪
440
00:18:54,023 --> 00:18:56,025
♪ Oh, yeah... That's it, Bob.
441
00:18:56,068 --> 00:18:58,070
We are headed
for the high score.
442
00:18:58,114 --> 00:19:00,899
I hope we get there before
I have another heart attack.
443
00:19:00,943 --> 00:19:02,336
If you'd like a break,
I could play.
444
00:19:02,379 --> 00:19:04,251
Hang on!
445
00:19:04,294 --> 00:19:07,167
We are doing so well,
we can't stop now!
446
00:19:07,210 --> 00:19:09,386
The game's on "easy."
447
00:19:09,430 --> 00:19:10,735
Go to your room.
448
00:19:10,779 --> 00:19:11,997
♪ Gummy, gummy, gummy, gummy
449
00:19:12,041 --> 00:19:13,869
♪ Gummy bear
450
00:19:13,912 --> 00:19:16,785
♪ Gummy, gummy, gummy, gummy,
gummy bear. ♪
451
00:19:22,660 --> 00:19:25,359
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