1 00:00:12,664 --> 00:00:14,623 MICHELLE: Happy birthday, hon. 2 00:00:14,666 --> 00:00:17,191 What'd you wish for?I don't want to say. 3 00:00:17,234 --> 00:00:18,235 It'll jinx it. 4 00:00:18,279 --> 00:00:19,628 Oh. So secretive. What a Scorpio. 5 00:00:19,671 --> 00:00:21,108 Such a Scorpio. 6 00:00:21,151 --> 00:00:22,283 MICHELLE: Oh, okay, 7 00:00:22,326 --> 00:00:24,459 so... astrology, huh? 8 00:00:24,502 --> 00:00:25,416 Mom... 9 00:00:25,460 --> 00:00:26,939 No, it's just... 10 00:00:28,158 --> 00:00:31,074 Well, you just all accept that stars 11 00:00:31,118 --> 00:00:35,209 millions of miles away dictate all of your personality traits? 12 00:00:35,252 --> 00:00:36,210 Uh, yeah. 13 00:00:36,253 --> 00:00:37,254 DELIA: Okay. Yeah, no. 14 00:00:37,298 --> 00:00:39,604 That-- Yeah, that's fine. That's fine. 15 00:00:39,648 --> 00:00:42,085 I just don't know why you wouldn't turn to things like, 16 00:00:42,129 --> 00:00:43,434 I don't know, DNA, 17 00:00:43,478 --> 00:00:45,654 cultural influences, parenting. 18 00:00:45,697 --> 00:00:48,004 Come on, Delia. It's fun. 19 00:00:48,048 --> 00:00:49,310 Science is fun. 20 00:00:49,353 --> 00:00:50,485 Your mom sounds like a Taurus. 21 00:00:50,528 --> 00:00:52,661 Oh. [laughs]: That is so ridiculous. 22 00:00:52,704 --> 00:00:53,662 You are a Taurus. 23 00:00:53,705 --> 00:00:55,055 I know. It was a lucky guess. 24 00:00:55,098 --> 00:00:57,274 [chuckling]It's silly, yes, 25 00:00:57,318 --> 00:00:58,275 but what's the harm? 26 00:00:58,319 --> 00:00:59,494 Oh, it's silly, huh? 27 00:00:59,537 --> 00:01:00,756 Oh, well, then I guess you wouldn't care 28 00:01:00,799 --> 00:01:01,757 if your new girlfriend 29 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:03,237 also happens to be a Scorpio. 30 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:05,369 How did you know that? 31 00:01:05,413 --> 00:01:06,544 I didn't even know that. 32 00:01:06,588 --> 00:01:08,285 U-Um... 33 00:01:08,329 --> 00:01:10,026 Natalie created a fake social media profile. 34 00:01:10,070 --> 00:01:11,201 What? You helped me! 35 00:01:11,245 --> 00:01:13,334 Ugh. Okay, fine. Look, we only did it 36 00:01:13,377 --> 00:01:15,336 so that we could check her out online without her knowing. 37 00:01:15,379 --> 00:01:17,512 You-You've been cyberstalking my girlfriend? 38 00:01:17,555 --> 00:01:19,209 We were just trying to make sure 39 00:01:19,253 --> 00:01:21,124 that she wasn't some crazy black widow-type 40 00:01:21,168 --> 00:01:23,213 who preys on single fathers with two daughters. 41 00:01:23,257 --> 00:01:25,259 Oh, please. 42 00:01:25,302 --> 00:01:26,695 But is she? 43 00:01:26,738 --> 00:01:29,611 No. Though most serial killers are Scorpios. 44 00:01:29,654 --> 00:01:31,047 WADE: Okay. All right, 45 00:01:31,091 --> 00:01:32,744 now that we know she's not a murderer, 46 00:01:32,788 --> 00:01:34,572 no more snooping on Shannon. 47 00:01:34,616 --> 00:01:36,183 Anything I want to find out, 48 00:01:36,226 --> 00:01:37,184 I'll do it the old-fashioned way. 49 00:01:38,402 --> 00:01:39,403 I'll ask. 50 00:01:39,447 --> 00:01:41,188 [chuckles] Okay. 51 00:01:41,231 --> 00:01:42,276 You got it.Great. 52 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,234 Wait. Wait. 53 00:01:44,278 --> 00:01:45,540 So, Scorpio is now? 54 00:01:45,583 --> 00:01:46,758 So her birthday 55 00:01:46,802 --> 00:01:48,412 must be soon. 56 00:01:48,456 --> 00:01:50,240 Yes, it is. 57 00:01:50,284 --> 00:01:51,589 [chuckling] 58 00:01:51,633 --> 00:01:53,417 O-Okay. All right. Wh-When is it? 59 00:01:53,461 --> 00:01:56,333 Oh, I thought you didn't want me to tell you anything else. 60 00:01:56,377 --> 00:01:57,160 You know what, you're right. I don't.[chuckling] 61 00:01:57,204 --> 00:01:58,379 Never mind. 62 00:01:58,422 --> 00:02:01,251 Okay. Uh, damn it, just tell me. 63 00:02:01,295 --> 00:02:02,252 In two days. 64 00:02:02,296 --> 00:02:03,297 What-what? Two days? 65 00:02:03,340 --> 00:02:04,385 Oh, my God. 66 00:02:04,428 --> 00:02:05,864 What am I gonna do? 67 00:02:05,908 --> 00:02:08,128 Indecisive. Ugh. 68 00:02:08,171 --> 00:02:09,346 Typical Gemini. 69 00:02:09,390 --> 00:02:11,218 It's not a thing! 70 00:02:11,261 --> 00:02:12,741 ♪ 71 00:02:16,179 --> 00:02:18,268 I can't believe Shannon's birthday is in two days. 72 00:02:18,312 --> 00:02:19,051 I mean, 73 00:02:19,095 --> 00:02:20,314 we just started dating. 74 00:02:20,357 --> 00:02:22,620 I mean, if I go too big, will I scare her off? 75 00:02:22,664 --> 00:02:25,580 If I go too small, what, am I-- am I a jerk? 76 00:02:25,623 --> 00:02:28,104 I know. Big calendar days 77 00:02:28,148 --> 00:02:30,498 at the start of relationships are minefields. 78 00:02:30,541 --> 00:02:33,457 Mm-hmm.Birthdays, Valentine's Day, 79 00:02:33,501 --> 00:02:35,155 Presidents' Day. 80 00:02:36,330 --> 00:02:37,244 'Cause of the mattress sales. 81 00:02:37,287 --> 00:02:38,593 Very intimate. 82 00:02:38,636 --> 00:02:40,638 Why are we even having this conversation? 83 00:02:40,682 --> 00:02:43,206 'Cause, technically, you don't know it's her birthday. 84 00:02:43,250 --> 00:02:46,253 So, no gift. Problem solved. 85 00:02:46,296 --> 00:02:47,819 Yeah, but I-I do know. 86 00:02:47,863 --> 00:02:48,646 But you don't have to. 87 00:02:48,690 --> 00:02:50,300 Yeah, but I do. 88 00:02:50,344 --> 00:02:52,476 And if I didn't say anything, I would feel like I was lying. 89 00:02:52,520 --> 00:02:53,260 I mean, do I... [sighs] 90 00:02:53,303 --> 00:02:54,609 I don't know, do I take her out? 91 00:02:54,652 --> 00:02:56,132 Do I get her a gift? 92 00:02:56,176 --> 00:02:57,307 Okay, just talk to her. 93 00:02:57,351 --> 00:02:58,482 Okay? Follow her lead. 94 00:02:58,526 --> 00:02:59,353 If you're really listening, she'll... 95 00:02:59,396 --> 00:03:00,354 That I can do. 96 00:03:00,397 --> 00:03:01,659 I'm a very good listener. 97 00:03:02,921 --> 00:03:04,314 Really? 98 00:03:04,358 --> 00:03:05,533 'Cause I wasn't finished.[gasps] 99 00:03:05,576 --> 00:03:06,708 Ooh... 100 00:03:06,751 --> 00:03:07,796 See that? 101 00:03:07,839 --> 00:03:09,276 [indistinct chatter] 102 00:03:09,319 --> 00:03:10,799 [chuckles]: Hey. 103 00:03:10,842 --> 00:03:12,279 Hey. 104 00:03:12,322 --> 00:03:13,845 What's this?Oh. 105 00:03:13,889 --> 00:03:16,326 Well, last time you had one of these things, 106 00:03:16,370 --> 00:03:18,807 I didn't bring anything for the non-birthday kids 107 00:03:18,850 --> 00:03:20,112 and Kai bit me on the nose. 108 00:03:20,156 --> 00:03:22,637 So, this time, I brought something for everybody, 109 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,248 virtually guaranteeing a bite-free celebration. 110 00:03:25,292 --> 00:03:26,815 Yeah, let's say that. 111 00:03:26,858 --> 00:03:28,469 I got to go get the sandwiches. 112 00:03:28,512 --> 00:03:29,774 Knock yourself out. 113 00:03:31,298 --> 00:03:34,257 Taylor children, I come bearing gifts! 114 00:03:34,301 --> 00:03:36,346 Heck yeah!Yeah. 115 00:03:36,390 --> 00:03:38,305 I got something special for everybody here. 116 00:03:38,348 --> 00:03:41,308 For Zoe, I got a Frisbee. 117 00:03:41,351 --> 00:03:44,833 Foqus? Isn't that the name of the company you work for? 118 00:03:44,876 --> 00:03:47,618 Yeah. Yes, it is, Noah. 119 00:03:47,662 --> 00:03:49,272 And that's what makes it special, 120 00:03:49,316 --> 00:03:51,405 because you can't find it in stores. Hmm. 121 00:03:51,448 --> 00:03:52,493 Catch, Zoe. 122 00:03:53,711 --> 00:03:56,236 Okay. Really thought she'd catch that. 123 00:03:56,279 --> 00:03:59,195 Um... Oh, for Kai, 124 00:03:59,239 --> 00:04:01,980 I got a stress ball. 125 00:04:02,024 --> 00:04:05,419 Because being five can just be so darn hard. 126 00:04:05,462 --> 00:04:07,682 That also has your company's name on it. 127 00:04:07,725 --> 00:04:08,857 I... 128 00:04:08,900 --> 00:04:10,772 Here, Kai, catch. 129 00:04:12,643 --> 00:04:15,211 Okay. Ben, you got to teach your kids how to catch. 130 00:04:15,255 --> 00:04:16,473 They can catch. 131 00:04:16,517 --> 00:04:17,474 And, uh, 132 00:04:17,518 --> 00:04:18,562 last but not least-- 133 00:04:18,606 --> 00:04:20,216 and I know what it says on the side... 134 00:04:21,609 --> 00:04:23,306 For Noah, a water gun. 135 00:04:23,350 --> 00:04:24,873 Oh, wow. 136 00:04:24,916 --> 00:04:26,309 Thanks, Forrest! 137 00:04:26,353 --> 00:04:27,528 FORREST: Yeah. 138 00:04:27,571 --> 00:04:28,877 I've never had one of these before! 139 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:30,357 FORREST: Cool! 140 00:04:32,794 --> 00:04:34,230 That's great.Hey, Forrest, 141 00:04:34,274 --> 00:04:35,449 did you just give Noah a water gun? 142 00:04:35,492 --> 00:04:37,538 Yes, I did.Great. 143 00:04:37,581 --> 00:04:38,930 Now I have to go take it away from him. 144 00:04:38,974 --> 00:04:40,584 Take it away? Why? 145 00:04:40,628 --> 00:04:41,977 What? He's-- He loves it. 146 00:04:42,020 --> 00:04:43,674 There's a reason he's never had one before, Forrest. 147 00:04:43,718 --> 00:04:44,849 It looks like a gun. 148 00:04:44,893 --> 00:04:46,460 It doesn't look like a gun. 149 00:04:46,503 --> 00:04:48,288 It's neon blue. 150 00:04:48,331 --> 00:04:49,332 What am I missing here? 151 00:04:49,376 --> 00:04:51,639 Uh, it's not about the color of the gun. 152 00:04:52,857 --> 00:04:54,468 It's about the color of my son. 153 00:04:55,469 --> 00:05:00,387 Yeah. It's not safe for him to be out waving that thing around. 154 00:05:00,430 --> 00:05:01,953 He and I had that talk a long time ago. 155 00:05:01,997 --> 00:05:03,433 Mm. 156 00:05:03,477 --> 00:05:04,478 Hey, Noah. 157 00:05:04,521 --> 00:05:07,307 Noah. Hey. Don't you run from me. 158 00:05:07,350 --> 00:05:10,397 [sighs] God, I should've just taken the bite on the nose. 159 00:05:12,442 --> 00:05:14,575 [sighs]: God. 160 00:05:15,576 --> 00:05:17,708 How could I have been so stupid, 161 00:05:17,752 --> 00:05:21,364 especially with everything that's going on in the world? 162 00:05:21,408 --> 00:05:23,497 I'm sure it's not as bad as you think it was 163 00:05:23,540 --> 00:05:26,413 or Michelle would've called me to talk about it. 164 00:05:26,456 --> 00:05:28,763 Well, how can you be so sure about that? 165 00:05:28,806 --> 00:05:30,286 Because we talk about everything. 166 00:05:30,330 --> 00:05:32,375 [chuckles] You don't know if you talk about everything, 167 00:05:32,419 --> 00:05:35,335 because you only talk about the stuff that you talk about. 168 00:05:35,378 --> 00:05:36,945 That's absurd.Oh, is it? Is it? 169 00:05:36,988 --> 00:05:38,642 Mm-hmm. Mm. Mm-hmm.Is it though? Is it absurd? 170 00:05:38,686 --> 00:05:39,774 I thought it was absurd, too, 171 00:05:39,817 --> 00:05:41,428 until I stepped into a big stinking pile 172 00:05:41,471 --> 00:05:43,560 of my own white privilege. 173 00:05:44,605 --> 00:05:45,954 Have I been making the same mistakes 174 00:05:45,997 --> 00:05:47,477 with Michelle all these years? 175 00:05:47,521 --> 00:05:48,913 [stammers] You may have. 176 00:05:48,957 --> 00:05:51,394 [gasps] Oh! Ugh! Mm. 177 00:05:51,438 --> 00:05:54,571 I just remembered. Every time I see her, I always go, 178 00:05:54,615 --> 00:05:55,616 "Hey, girl! What's up?" 179 00:05:55,659 --> 00:05:56,443 [groans]Oh! 180 00:05:56,486 --> 00:05:57,487 Is that a microaggression? 181 00:05:58,488 --> 00:05:59,576 Have I been microaggressing? 182 00:05:59,620 --> 00:06:01,056 I don't know! I don't-- 183 00:06:01,099 --> 00:06:03,624 This is why I can't sleep![sighs] 184 00:06:03,667 --> 00:06:04,886 [exhales] 185 00:06:05,887 --> 00:06:08,324 Well, now I can't sleep! 186 00:06:08,368 --> 00:06:10,326 Couple glasses of wine.Mm. 187 00:06:10,370 --> 00:06:11,762 Low lighting.Mm. 188 00:06:11,806 --> 00:06:15,549 A high-level game of footsie going on under the table. 189 00:06:15,592 --> 00:06:16,680 Mr. Felton, 190 00:06:16,724 --> 00:06:18,987 are you trying to seduce me?Yes. 191 00:06:19,030 --> 00:06:22,338 And, I must say, I am very surprised 192 00:06:22,382 --> 00:06:24,601 at how strong your feet are.[chuckles] 193 00:06:24,645 --> 00:06:26,690 Well, I used to be a gymnast. 194 00:06:26,734 --> 00:06:28,518 You were?Mm-hmm. 195 00:06:28,562 --> 00:06:29,998 I-I didn't know that. You know, I also didn't know that y...Sorry. 196 00:06:30,041 --> 00:06:32,000 Excuse me. Just one second. Hey, Orlando! 197 00:06:32,043 --> 00:06:35,525 Could you take the bone broth off the fire for me?!ORLANDO: Sure. 198 00:06:35,569 --> 00:06:37,875 Sorry. I'm sorry. It's-- You were saying something. 199 00:06:37,919 --> 00:06:39,529 Uh, I-I didn't know you were a gymnast. 200 00:06:39,573 --> 00:06:40,574 Yes. Yeah.Yeah. 201 00:06:40,617 --> 00:06:42,576 And, uh... and I also didn't know 202 00:06:42,619 --> 00:06:46,362 that, uh, your birthday was coming up so soon. 203 00:06:46,406 --> 00:06:47,929 Smooth transition. 204 00:06:47,972 --> 00:06:50,540 Okay. Okay, who snitched? 205 00:06:50,584 --> 00:06:51,715 Was it Orlando? 206 00:06:51,759 --> 00:06:53,717 My girls told me. 207 00:06:53,761 --> 00:06:55,023 Right after they told me 208 00:06:55,066 --> 00:06:56,851 they created a fake social media profile 209 00:06:56,894 --> 00:06:59,723 to do some semi-innocent spying on you. 210 00:06:59,767 --> 00:07:01,725 Oh, I'm impressed. 211 00:07:01,769 --> 00:07:03,205 And a little bit frightened. 212 00:07:03,248 --> 00:07:05,512 [exhales] No, they were just looking out for their daddy. 213 00:07:05,555 --> 00:07:07,383 Okay, well, look, I-- just so you know, 214 00:07:07,427 --> 00:07:09,037 I'm not really a birthday person. 215 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:10,691 I just like to stay at home 216 00:07:10,734 --> 00:07:13,694 and let the day go by like it was any other day. 217 00:07:13,737 --> 00:07:15,043 That makes sense, right? 218 00:07:15,086 --> 00:07:18,568 Uh... sure. Yeah, totally. 219 00:07:18,612 --> 00:07:20,831 Uh, got it loud and clear.Okay. 220 00:07:23,704 --> 00:07:25,619 So... 221 00:07:25,662 --> 00:07:27,534 um, can we rap? 222 00:07:27,577 --> 00:07:30,450 Rap?Not-not... not rap. 223 00:07:30,493 --> 00:07:32,103 Um, you know, talk, 224 00:07:32,147 --> 00:07:34,454 but like in a... like in a real way. 225 00:07:34,497 --> 00:07:36,064 Like real talk. Like, keeping it real. 226 00:07:36,107 --> 00:07:37,544 Uh, no. Um... 227 00:07:37,587 --> 00:07:39,023 Is this about the squirt gun? 228 00:07:39,067 --> 00:07:41,765 Yes, it is. It is. It is. It is. 229 00:07:41,809 --> 00:07:47,597 So, um, it just brought up some, um, uncomfortable feelings... 230 00:07:47,641 --> 00:07:50,731 for me, and I just couldn't help but wonder, 231 00:07:50,774 --> 00:07:53,516 have there been other microaggressions, 232 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:56,519 or macroaggressions, or mid-size aggressions, 233 00:07:56,563 --> 00:07:57,955 which I guess are really just aggressions? 234 00:07:57,999 --> 00:07:59,914 Uh, so, then, you know, but can we, you know, talk about it? 235 00:07:59,957 --> 00:08:01,916 I hear you.Mm-hmm. 236 00:08:01,959 --> 00:08:03,657 And we can do that.Okay. 237 00:08:03,700 --> 00:08:05,049 But does it have to be right now? 238 00:08:05,093 --> 00:08:06,616 No, no. No. 239 00:08:06,660 --> 00:08:08,966 Whenever you're comfortable. Okay. 240 00:08:09,010 --> 00:08:11,447 Could be now, could be. 241 00:08:11,491 --> 00:08:14,624 Or could be later. Could be. I'm just... I'm easy, girl. 242 00:08:15,625 --> 00:08:17,584 Friend. Friend. 243 00:08:17,627 --> 00:08:20,587 Friend. Girlfriend. 244 00:08:20,630 --> 00:08:21,936 That's worse. Yeah. Okay. 245 00:08:21,979 --> 00:08:23,546 So maybe I'll just put it in an e-mail. 246 00:08:23,590 --> 00:08:26,506 Looking forward to it.Okay. 247 00:08:26,549 --> 00:08:27,594 [knocking]Hey, hey. 248 00:08:27,637 --> 00:08:30,510 Hey, Wade. Girls, your dad's here! 249 00:08:30,553 --> 00:08:33,643 Hey. So... 250 00:08:33,687 --> 00:08:34,949 I listened to Shannon. 251 00:08:34,992 --> 00:08:37,560 All right.Good. And? 252 00:08:37,604 --> 00:08:40,868 And she hates birthdays. 253 00:08:40,911 --> 00:08:43,131 She does?NATALIE: Hmm. That's odd. 254 00:08:43,174 --> 00:08:44,828 She never mentioned that on Facebook. 255 00:08:44,872 --> 00:08:45,960 Or Instagram.Or LinkedIn. 256 00:08:46,003 --> 00:08:48,136 You have a profile on LinkedIn? 257 00:08:48,179 --> 00:08:50,181 I'm a chief operating officer in Milwaukee. 258 00:08:50,225 --> 00:08:51,748 [laughs] 259 00:08:51,792 --> 00:08:53,750 Well, she knows you know. 260 00:08:53,794 --> 00:08:56,666 And she said that you don't have to do anything. 261 00:08:56,710 --> 00:08:58,146 Case closed. 262 00:08:58,189 --> 00:09:00,670 Yeah. Yeah, case closed.Mm-hmm. 263 00:09:00,714 --> 00:09:02,063 DELIA: Mm. Right.No. 264 00:09:02,106 --> 00:09:04,674 No. No, case open.DELIA: No. 265 00:09:04,718 --> 00:09:07,155 Yeah, it's open. No. No, it's open. 266 00:09:07,198 --> 00:09:08,765 It's op-- I just opened it. 267 00:09:08,809 --> 00:09:11,028 No, I-I can't let her do nothing for her birthday. 268 00:09:11,072 --> 00:09:12,769 Yes, you can.Uh... 269 00:09:12,813 --> 00:09:14,771 Because she said so explicitly. 270 00:09:14,815 --> 00:09:18,035 No. I can't. It's sad. I... 271 00:09:18,079 --> 00:09:19,820 No, I ha... I have to do something. 272 00:09:19,863 --> 00:09:22,083 I have to. Come-come on, girls. 273 00:09:22,126 --> 00:09:23,693 No, you think you do, but you don't! 274 00:09:23,737 --> 00:09:25,782 Bye. 275 00:09:27,218 --> 00:09:29,046 What a softy.Ugh. 276 00:09:29,090 --> 00:09:30,831 Classic Gemini. 277 00:09:30,874 --> 00:09:32,615 Oh, you people. 278 00:09:33,877 --> 00:09:35,183 Astrology people. 279 00:09:35,226 --> 00:09:37,664 I meant astrology people. 280 00:09:37,707 --> 00:09:40,580 I meant astrology people. You know I meant astrology people. 281 00:09:44,845 --> 00:09:46,760 Shannon will love a plant. I mean, everybody loves a plant. 282 00:09:46,803 --> 00:09:48,892 It's thoughtful, but not extravagant. 283 00:09:48,936 --> 00:09:51,982 And, hey, what, I'm just a... I'm just a plant guy, right, 284 00:09:52,026 --> 00:09:53,680 just dropping off a plant on a day 285 00:09:53,723 --> 00:09:55,812 that happens to be her birthday. 286 00:09:55,856 --> 00:09:57,814 I mean, it's the perfect non-gift gift. 287 00:09:57,858 --> 00:10:00,643 Yeah, why didn't I just give Noah a plant? 288 00:10:00,687 --> 00:10:02,906 Because he's 11. Stop beating yourself up. 289 00:10:02,950 --> 00:10:04,778 God, I just didn't know, man. 290 00:10:04,821 --> 00:10:07,737 I just didn't know you can't give a water gun 291 00:10:07,781 --> 00:10:09,739 to a B-L-A-C-K boy. 292 00:10:09,783 --> 00:10:11,611 Why did you spell "Black"? 293 00:10:11,654 --> 00:10:13,656 I don't know. I don't know. 294 00:10:13,700 --> 00:10:15,136 I don't know where the line is anymore, 295 00:10:15,179 --> 00:10:17,225 and I don't want to screw anything else up. 296 00:10:17,268 --> 00:10:19,836 You'll be fine. Ben's our friend. 297 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,883 I work in HR. [laughs] 298 00:10:22,926 --> 00:10:25,712 I train people in implicit bias 299 00:10:25,755 --> 00:10:27,670 and respecting others. 300 00:10:27,714 --> 00:10:29,890 I thought I was woke. 301 00:10:29,933 --> 00:10:33,154 But my blind spot was thinking that I didn't have a blind spot. 302 00:10:33,197 --> 00:10:34,895 Yeah. It's tough. 303 00:10:34,938 --> 00:10:36,940 It's like when I realized 304 00:10:36,984 --> 00:10:39,769 that Ben won't even go for a walk without his I.D. 305 00:10:39,813 --> 00:10:41,075 Of course. He might get stopped. 306 00:10:41,118 --> 00:10:42,772 Yeah.Oh, wow. 307 00:10:42,816 --> 00:10:46,950 Wait. How can you be more woke than me? 308 00:10:46,994 --> 00:10:48,952 You drive a pickup truck full of dirt. 309 00:10:48,996 --> 00:10:50,824 It's potting soil, and you shouldn't judge people 310 00:10:50,867 --> 00:10:52,826 by the kind of car they drive. 311 00:10:52,869 --> 00:10:55,829 Oh. You're right. You're right. 312 00:10:55,872 --> 00:10:58,005 Whoa. Hey, hey, look at this! 313 00:10:58,048 --> 00:10:59,920 A key lime tree. 314 00:10:59,963 --> 00:11:04,272 She works with food, I work with plants. This is both. 315 00:11:04,315 --> 00:11:06,709 And maybe I'll even get a pie out of the deal. 316 00:11:06,753 --> 00:11:11,932 Damn. Maybe if I had put as much thought into my gifts, 317 00:11:11,975 --> 00:11:14,151 instead of just randomly grabbing them out 318 00:11:14,195 --> 00:11:15,936 of my office swag closet, 319 00:11:15,979 --> 00:11:17,981 I wouldn't have messed things up with Ben. 320 00:11:18,025 --> 00:11:19,940 You know what? Ben'll be fine. 321 00:11:19,983 --> 00:11:21,158 If I were you, I'd try to make it up to Noah. 322 00:11:21,202 --> 00:11:23,117 That kid holds a grudge. 323 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:25,162 [knocking] 324 00:11:26,860 --> 00:11:29,079 Hey, Ben... my friend. 325 00:11:29,123 --> 00:11:31,734 Hey.Um... 326 00:11:31,778 --> 00:11:33,083 you know, I was thinking. 327 00:11:33,127 --> 00:11:37,305 It must be awful to have to tell your kids 328 00:11:37,348 --> 00:11:38,959 that-that they can't have something 329 00:11:39,002 --> 00:11:40,830 that other kids can have. 330 00:11:40,874 --> 00:11:44,007 Thanks?And, uh, you know, I know I can't go back in time, 331 00:11:44,051 --> 00:11:48,185 and-and keep my ignorance from doing the damage that it did, 332 00:11:48,229 --> 00:11:51,841 but I can look to the future and try to heal the rift 333 00:11:51,885 --> 00:11:54,061 that I caused between you and your boy. 334 00:11:54,104 --> 00:11:57,325 So many words, Forrest.Yeah, hold this for a second. 335 00:11:57,368 --> 00:11:59,806 Hey, Noah, come down here for a second! 336 00:11:59,849 --> 00:12:01,721 Your dad got you something! 337 00:12:03,984 --> 00:12:06,943 What the hell, man?! Get out of here with this thing! 338 00:12:06,987 --> 00:12:08,031 [shushing] 339 00:12:09,903 --> 00:12:11,861 Is that a Nintendo Switch? 340 00:12:11,905 --> 00:12:13,123 I don't know, don't ask me. I didn't get it, your dad did. 341 00:12:13,167 --> 00:12:15,822 Don't ask me. 342 00:12:15,865 --> 00:12:19,042 Every mean name I called you yesterday, 343 00:12:19,086 --> 00:12:20,957 I take them all back. 344 00:12:21,001 --> 00:12:22,916 Aw, that's so sweet. 345 00:12:22,959 --> 00:12:24,961 Mean names? What mean names? 346 00:12:25,005 --> 00:12:26,920 Oh, what do you have there? 347 00:12:26,963 --> 00:12:30,924 My father's love, Mama. My father's love. 348 00:12:34,101 --> 00:12:36,886 How and why does our son have a new video game? 349 00:12:38,453 --> 00:12:41,761 Well, uh, because I'm rededicating myself. To what? 350 00:12:43,937 --> 00:12:45,068 To exploring our differences. 351 00:12:45,112 --> 00:12:47,810 This must be about that water gun. 352 00:12:47,854 --> 00:12:49,943 See, you told her. 353 00:12:49,986 --> 00:12:52,032 I-I knew it was a big deal. I knew it. 354 00:12:52,075 --> 00:12:53,381 It wasn't a big deal in the way 355 00:12:53,424 --> 00:12:54,904 that you're making it a big deal. 356 00:12:54,948 --> 00:12:55,818 Well, any time you take a toy away 357 00:12:55,862 --> 00:12:58,734 from a child, it's a big deal. 358 00:12:58,778 --> 00:13:01,519 But if you're serious about rededicating yourself, 359 00:13:01,563 --> 00:13:04,522 it's gonna take a whole lot more than... 360 00:13:04,566 --> 00:13:06,394 You know what? 361 00:13:06,437 --> 00:13:07,917 I'm gonna stay out of this one. 362 00:13:07,961 --> 00:13:12,095 'Cause I just had this talk last week with my study group, 363 00:13:12,139 --> 00:13:15,011 and after Zoe's gymnastics, 364 00:13:15,055 --> 00:13:17,840 and I'm only halfway through Delia's mile-long 365 00:13:17,884 --> 00:13:21,104 "how can I help you?" e-mail. 366 00:13:21,148 --> 00:13:23,063 I am exhausted. 367 00:13:23,106 --> 00:13:24,412 My Black hurts. 368 00:13:24,455 --> 00:13:27,415 Did she just say... 369 00:13:27,458 --> 00:13:29,243 her back hurts or her Black hurts? 370 00:13:29,286 --> 00:13:31,114 B-L-A-C-K. 371 00:13:31,158 --> 00:13:32,942 I knew you had to spell it. 372 00:13:34,814 --> 00:13:36,946 Oh, boy. Come with me. We need to talk. 373 00:13:38,426 --> 00:13:40,863 You're breaking up with me, aren't you? 374 00:13:40,907 --> 00:13:43,083 [sighs heavily] 375 00:13:43,126 --> 00:13:45,781 This better be a stripper, otherwise, you guys 376 00:13:45,825 --> 00:13:49,002 don't know me at all. 377 00:13:49,045 --> 00:13:50,481 Oh, hello.[loud chatter] 378 00:13:50,525 --> 00:13:52,179 I know this looks bad. 379 00:14:00,491 --> 00:14:02,493 This is not what it looks like. I mean, yes, it is, 380 00:14:02,537 --> 00:14:04,147 it's a party.You don't have to explain, honestly. 381 00:14:04,191 --> 00:14:05,322 I-I shouldn't have come, really. 382 00:14:05,366 --> 00:14:09,457 It's-- Oh, uh, this is-- This is for you. 383 00:14:09,500 --> 00:14:10,980 Uh, thank you. Thanks. 384 00:14:11,024 --> 00:14:13,026 But-but please don't go. 385 00:14:13,069 --> 00:14:14,331 MAN: Shannon, shots! 386 00:14:14,375 --> 00:14:16,116 Would you... would you come in? 387 00:14:16,159 --> 00:14:17,465 Please. I feel terrible. 388 00:14:17,508 --> 00:14:19,119 No, really, it's-it's okay. 389 00:14:19,162 --> 00:14:20,250 ERIN: I'm drinking your shot, bitch! 390 00:14:20,294 --> 00:14:21,425 Oh, one drink, okay? One drink. 391 00:14:21,469 --> 00:14:22,862 Please, so I can explain. 392 00:14:22,905 --> 00:14:24,385 Okay. Okay. 393 00:14:24,428 --> 00:14:26,169 Yeah, uh, one-one drink. 394 00:14:26,213 --> 00:14:28,084 Okay. Thank you, thank you. Come on, come on, come on. 395 00:14:29,477 --> 00:14:31,174 [exhales sharply] 396 00:14:32,915 --> 00:14:35,439 You bought Noah a $300 gaming system. 397 00:14:35,483 --> 00:14:38,138 $350... with the extended warranty. 398 00:14:38,181 --> 00:14:40,923 I-I got that because he's so clumsy. 399 00:14:40,967 --> 00:14:42,142 You're doing too much, man. 400 00:14:42,185 --> 00:14:44,013 I don't think I'm doing enough. 401 00:14:44,057 --> 00:14:45,275 I mean, tell me, 402 00:14:45,319 --> 00:14:48,017 what books can I read, what organizations can I join? 403 00:14:48,061 --> 00:14:49,366 I want to do better. 404 00:14:49,410 --> 00:14:51,847 But this, what you're doing now, this isn't better. 405 00:14:51,891 --> 00:14:54,937 Come on, man, you're putting all your guilt on me, 406 00:14:54,981 --> 00:14:57,287 because you want me to make you feel better 407 00:14:57,331 --> 00:14:59,028 about the things I have to deal with. 408 00:15:02,249 --> 00:15:05,078 I-I don't know if I'd put it exactly like that, but... 409 00:15:05,121 --> 00:15:08,081 Forrest, I love you, and I know you mean well, 410 00:15:08,124 --> 00:15:11,345 but I cannot do your work for you. 411 00:15:11,388 --> 00:15:13,173 I know it's hard out there for Black people, 412 00:15:13,216 --> 00:15:18,047 but I didn't think it was like that for you. 413 00:15:18,091 --> 00:15:21,050 Why not? Because I know you. 414 00:15:21,094 --> 00:15:25,315 Oh, so you think the struggle with racial injustice 415 00:15:25,359 --> 00:15:27,578 only applies to the Black people you don't know. 416 00:15:27,622 --> 00:15:29,885 Apparently I did, yeah. 417 00:15:29,929 --> 00:15:33,367 Okay, I couldn't help but overhear... 418 00:15:33,410 --> 00:15:35,108 Screw it, I was eavesdropping. 419 00:15:35,151 --> 00:15:38,024 Now, this type of thing might be new to you, 420 00:15:38,067 --> 00:15:40,156 but this is all we've ever known. 421 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:42,550 It's our life every single day. 422 00:15:42,593 --> 00:15:45,988 Do you know how often I-I am followed around a store, 423 00:15:46,032 --> 00:15:49,209 or somebody touches my hair without my permission?! 424 00:15:49,252 --> 00:15:51,167 Ooh, don't get me started. 425 00:15:51,211 --> 00:15:53,213 I was about to get started. 426 00:15:53,256 --> 00:15:55,041 Don't get started, babe. 427 00:15:55,084 --> 00:15:57,130 [whispers]: I'm glad she didn't get started. 428 00:15:59,436 --> 00:16:01,177 You really want to know what you can do? 429 00:16:01,221 --> 00:16:04,006 Yes. Listen. 430 00:16:05,486 --> 00:16:08,010 Listen. Yeah. Great. 431 00:16:08,054 --> 00:16:11,274 Ah, good, good, good. Listen. 432 00:16:11,318 --> 00:16:13,189 Mm. Listen... 433 00:16:13,233 --> 00:16:15,148 to... 434 00:16:15,191 --> 00:16:16,410 Me! Right. 435 00:16:16,453 --> 00:16:18,368 Black people. Black people. 436 00:16:18,412 --> 00:16:20,153 And believe us. 437 00:16:20,196 --> 00:16:22,242 Because we get told that we're imagining things 438 00:16:22,285 --> 00:16:25,027 when we talk about our own experiences. 439 00:16:25,071 --> 00:16:28,204 Yeah. Or that when we protest, we shouldn't. 440 00:16:28,248 --> 00:16:30,119 Or that we're doing it wrong. 441 00:16:30,163 --> 00:16:32,556 Even though that is the only way 442 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:34,558 anything has ever changed for us. 443 00:16:34,602 --> 00:16:37,126 [exhales sharply] I believe you. 444 00:16:37,170 --> 00:16:39,215 Thank you. 445 00:16:39,259 --> 00:16:43,045 Because I've got a lot on my plate right now. 446 00:16:45,047 --> 00:16:48,268 Lately, I've been really busy, taking away toys from my kids. 447 00:16:48,311 --> 00:16:50,487 Oh, man, too soon. 448 00:16:50,531 --> 00:16:52,011 [laughing] 449 00:16:52,968 --> 00:16:56,319 If you do the work, I will be right here with you, 450 00:16:56,363 --> 00:16:58,191 because you're my friend. 451 00:16:58,234 --> 00:17:00,323 You know what, Forrest, 452 00:17:00,367 --> 00:17:02,543 there is one thing you can do for us. 453 00:17:02,586 --> 00:17:04,110 But you can't take it. 454 00:17:04,153 --> 00:17:06,286 It was a gift from my dad. 455 00:17:06,329 --> 00:17:09,637 Uh, yeah, um, about that. 456 00:17:09,680 --> 00:17:13,075 You see, I lied. It was from me. 457 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:16,513 So I have to suffer because you lied? 458 00:17:16,557 --> 00:17:19,168 Yeah. Yeah. 459 00:17:21,692 --> 00:17:24,043 I'm sorry, I got to go. 460 00:17:29,657 --> 00:17:33,052 Wade, here you go. All right, 461 00:17:33,095 --> 00:17:34,314 please let me explain.Shannon, 462 00:17:34,357 --> 00:17:36,272 it's okay. [sighs] 463 00:17:36,316 --> 00:17:37,708 Look, I know. I-I should have taken a hint. 464 00:17:37,752 --> 00:17:40,450 You don't want me here, and that's-that's totally cool. 465 00:17:40,494 --> 00:17:42,104 Is that what you think is going on? 466 00:17:42,148 --> 00:17:43,323 Well, isn't it? 467 00:17:43,366 --> 00:17:45,151 Hey, guys. 468 00:17:47,501 --> 00:17:50,156 This is Wade. ERIN: Hey, Wade. 469 00:17:50,199 --> 00:17:52,332 Oh, my God. Hey, hey, it's Wade. 470 00:17:52,375 --> 00:17:53,507 It's the guy that Shannon's been dating 471 00:17:53,550 --> 00:17:55,639 and refuses to shut the hell up about. 472 00:17:55,683 --> 00:17:58,338 ERIN: Well, turn around so we can see 473 00:17:58,381 --> 00:18:01,689 if that ass is half as amazing as Shannon swears it is. 474 00:18:01,732 --> 00:18:03,604 Okay, don't do that. Don't do that. 475 00:18:03,647 --> 00:18:05,432 This is why I lied to you. 476 00:18:05,475 --> 00:18:09,305 I mean, it's so early on in this... thing we're doing, 477 00:18:09,349 --> 00:18:12,743 and I didn't want you to feel pressure. 478 00:18:12,787 --> 00:18:14,223 I mean, it's, you know, a big party, 479 00:18:14,267 --> 00:18:16,225 and my knucklehead friends would be poking on you. 480 00:18:16,269 --> 00:18:18,358 And I just-- I didn't want to scare you away. 481 00:18:18,401 --> 00:18:20,316 Wow. 482 00:18:20,360 --> 00:18:22,318 I-I totally get it. 483 00:18:22,362 --> 00:18:24,407 You do? 484 00:18:24,451 --> 00:18:27,106 Boy, wait till you meet my friends. 485 00:18:27,149 --> 00:18:30,109 [chuckles] Um, so you're not scared away? 486 00:18:30,152 --> 00:18:33,590 Uh... No, no. I don't scare that easy. 487 00:18:33,634 --> 00:18:37,246 Look, I-I don't know what this is yet, 488 00:18:37,290 --> 00:18:40,119 but I know that I like you, 489 00:18:40,162 --> 00:18:42,382 and I think about you. 490 00:18:43,644 --> 00:18:45,428 And I just wanted you to know that 491 00:18:45,472 --> 00:18:48,039 on your birthday or-or any other day. 492 00:18:55,699 --> 00:18:57,788 I like the key lime tree. 493 00:18:57,832 --> 00:18:59,486 I'm gonna make you a pie, obviously. 494 00:18:59,529 --> 00:19:02,184 Oh, well, that was my secret agenda. 495 00:19:02,228 --> 00:19:03,185 Yeah, I know. I know.Clearly. 496 00:19:03,229 --> 00:19:04,534 [chuckles] I, uh... 497 00:19:04,578 --> 00:19:07,450 I better get home to the girls. Why? No. 498 00:19:07,494 --> 00:19:10,149 Well, I didn't know that there was a party going on. 499 00:19:10,192 --> 00:19:13,326 Oh, oh, okay. Okay, bye. Okay. Bye-bye. 500 00:19:13,369 --> 00:19:14,544 ERIN: There it is! 501 00:19:14,588 --> 00:19:16,372 Walk that around. 502 00:19:16,416 --> 00:19:18,418 Come on, ladies, you're better than that. 503 00:19:18,461 --> 00:19:21,203 No, they're not. They're not. 504 00:19:21,247 --> 00:19:23,727 ERIN: Show it, baby! Show it to me, baby! 505 00:19:23,771 --> 00:19:25,425 [trilling] 506 00:19:25,468 --> 00:19:28,254 [all shouting, clamoring] 507 00:19:28,297 --> 00:19:29,559 COLEMAN: Dollar bills, yes! 508 00:19:29,603 --> 00:19:32,171 ERIN: I've got a whole bunch in my purse, baby. 509 00:19:32,214 --> 00:19:34,477 COLEMAN: Wait, come back.ERIN: It's burning a hole in my pocket. Ow! 510 00:19:38,829 --> 00:19:40,396 Michelle. I just wanted to tell you 511 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,790 that I'm having my book club read White Fragility, 512 00:19:42,833 --> 00:19:45,401 and I just really want to get your take on it. 513 00:19:45,445 --> 00:19:46,707 Why would I read that? 514 00:19:46,750 --> 00:19:50,189 What? Oh, oh, you must. 515 00:19:50,232 --> 00:19:52,713 It is, like, so eye-opening. 516 00:19:52,756 --> 00:19:54,584 Each page, I'm like, what? 517 00:19:54,628 --> 00:19:57,718 Okay, we're gonna talk.Good. Because I have so many things 518 00:19:57,761 --> 00:19:59,415 I want to talk out with you, I just... 519 00:19:59,459 --> 00:20:01,374 You know what, this time I'll talk 520 00:20:01,417 --> 00:20:03,376 and you can listen. 521 00:20:03,419 --> 00:20:05,334 Of course. 522 00:20:05,378 --> 00:20:07,684 Mm-hmm.Okay, that's a good idea. 523 00:20:07,728 --> 00:20:09,469 So much better. 524 00:20:11,427 --> 00:20:13,299 Can't be it. Oh!I don't know... 525 00:20:13,342 --> 00:20:15,649 So, she didn't invite you to the party 526 00:20:15,692 --> 00:20:17,651 becauseshe likes you too much?Apparently. 527 00:20:17,694 --> 00:20:21,263 [scoffs] That's what passes for game these days? 528 00:20:21,307 --> 00:20:23,439 And yeah, man, sure, you've got a great ass. 529 00:20:23,483 --> 00:20:24,440 Thank you. You're welcome. 530 00:20:24,484 --> 00:20:26,268 I mean, literally, you could be a butt model. 531 00:20:26,312 --> 00:20:28,618 It's fantastic. I mean, I would love to just 532 00:20:28,662 --> 00:20:30,707 bounce a quarter off it.Whoa. 533 00:20:30,751 --> 00:20:33,319 But cheering is gratuitous, right? 534 00:20:33,362 --> 00:20:34,624 GRACE: Hey, Dad? 535 00:20:34,668 --> 00:20:37,192 Where you going? Hey. 536 00:20:37,236 --> 00:20:39,281 Shannon just DM'd us on our fake Instagram. 537 00:20:39,325 --> 00:20:41,544 Did she? What did she say? 538 00:20:41,588 --> 00:20:43,242 "Dear Grace and Natalie, 539 00:20:43,285 --> 00:20:45,766 "thank you for telling your father about my birthday. 540 00:20:45,809 --> 00:20:48,421 I love my key lime tree." 541 00:20:48,464 --> 00:20:50,249 Ah.She had to get the last word. 542 00:20:50,292 --> 00:20:52,294 How Scorpio of her. 543 00:20:52,338 --> 00:20:53,817 Oh, stop it. Stop. 544 00:20:53,861 --> 00:20:57,256 There's nothing wrong with Scorpios; Scorpios are amazing. 545 00:21:01,695 --> 00:21:05,655 Captioning sponsored by CBS 546 00:21:05,699 --> 00:21:08,702 Captioned by Media Access Group at WGBH access.wgbh.org