Dating is fun.
I think you should try to date as many guys as you can.
Baby, it's my time.
I look freaking hot.
-[chantel] grandmama taught you. -[winter laughing]
[in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
how about coming home with other woman's name strapped to your keys?
And I don't know how
your car back here in the morning.
[chantel] I'm not taking this.
Can I sleep here?
Yeah, you can sleep here.
Chantel came over and then she asked to spend the night.
Yeah, I'm gonna go stop by pedro's place and see what's going on.
I'm going with you.
[river] all right.
[doorbell ringing]
river told me
that chantel came over to his place last night.
She was upset,
but she wouldn't say why.
I think it's time for me
to pay [in spanish] a visit.
-[river] what's going on, man? -[karen] hola.
We're good.
If I find out that pedro is mistreating chantel,
pedro just might be getting his little ass kicked.
-Right, thomas? -[thomas chuckling] that's right.
What's been going on, man?
-Oh, okay. -[river] oh, I feel you.
-Well, it sounds good. -[pedro] yeah.
[river] you have anything to drink, man?
Like, that'd be cool.
-Oh, okay. -Hey, hey. That's good, too.
[river] listen, I've always--
-would you like something to drink? -No, thank you.
[karen in spanish]
[pedro speaking]
oh, I see. I see.
Man, pedro. Chantel, she came over last night, man.
[river] I ain't seen her that upset, you know what I mean?
'cause she didn't even want to talk about it, you know?
That's why we wanted to come talk to you about it
'cause she didn't want to talk about it.
[pedro speaking]
-it looks pretty clean to me. I mean... -[river laughing]
[karen] it doesn't look like it's all that dirty.
-So... -[pedro speaking]
so, you feel like when she was in school
you were kind of... You put her first and you let her do her thing
and you kept the house clean and stuff, but now...
So, you're thinking right now it's your turn
and you're expecting her to kind of like...
You know what I mean? Like...
Chantel's not you. She's not going to do it the way you did it.
Chantel might not... You know, I don't think she's that domestic,
but that doesn't mean it can't get done.
Come on in to the 2022s.
Nowadays, all the women do not just commit themselves
to house cleaning and cooking.
Did you marry a woman or did you want to marry a robot, a maid robot?
I think chantel and pedro are having communication breakdowns.
They still need to learn what it is to be as one in a marriage.
If pedro was here in the united states,
chantel and pedro might have dated for two or three years
-before they got married. -Right.
And they might have been able to knock all those kinks out
would you be against a maid? Would you be against that?
-[karen] that's what I was thinking. -Like, a maid?
'cause you got five bedrooms and four [in spanish]
-yay! Whoo! -[river chuckling]
[karen in spanish]
whoo-hoo! Thank you.
-Yes. Yes. -Mama, let's hear what he has to say.
A part of me wish that I was alone.
You know, I could just talk to him.
Just, you know, we could talk just as guys, you know, as friends.
My mother being here was...
You know, I thought he would have revealed a lot more to me.
There's always three sides to the story.
Yours or mine and the truth.
[pedro speaking]
[karen] but that is taking care of her family.
There are new ways of taking care of your family these days.
You stuck in the dark ages.
I'm quite sure you can find some compromise.
[pedro speaking]
-[river] mmm-hmm. -[karen] yeah, I know 'cause I remember
-you were laying on your belly playing the video game. -[river chuckling]
[chuckling] I remember.
-[pedro speaking] -you know it.
Yeah.
Look at this big old house she got for you
-[karen] I think... -Oh, she...
-Oh, okay. -I think she has earned the right to be a little lazy.
And hire a maid, okay?
We had the house together, okay?
Well, together you're going to hire a maid.
[karen] okay?
Well, shoot. We'll probably head out of here, man.
I think they do need some marriage counseling.
Or they could talk to karen and myself.
[karen] yeah, I think they need to talk to somebody like us
for some advice
because nobody, and I mean nobody,
goes through a relationship that doesn't have challenges.
What matters is how do you deal with that.
You can't sit back and do nothing in a marriage.
[thomas] right. And that's the key to anything.
You have to be willing to work it out.
Yes.
[alejandro] I'm coming back to nicole's office to see her again
after my meeting with coraima.
I hope it works out a little bit better than the first time.
[in spanish]
nicole doesn't like surprises,
but I'm not going to give up.
I'm showing up at her job because I cannot go to her house, to lidia.
So I will attempt to wait for her outside of her office.
There's love between us,
and I really hope that I can marry nicole one day.
I'm gonna fight for this relationship.
[alejandro in spanish]
-[alejandro in spanish] -[in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[in spanish]
-[alejandro in spanish] -[nicole in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[chantel] whose sparkly bottle is this, pedro?
Whose is this? It's not [bleep] mine.
[chantel] you're leaving items in the house
that don't belong to me.
When I ask you where you're going,
you're telling me it's none of my business.
Are you cheating on me?
[alejandro in spanish]
[in spanish]
[alejandro in spanish]
-[nicole in spanish] -[alejandro laughing]
[alejandro in spanish]
mmm-hmm.
[server in spanish]
[in english]
[in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
our relationship is like...
A flower.
You have to water the flower,
give this flower some sun.
So, it's hard work, you know, but it can be done.
[in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[chantel] after I spent the night at river's house,
I had to get up and go to work.
So, pedro hasn't spoken to me all day.
It's not unusual by the way
for us to not speak for an entire day,
so that's not unusual.
But I know that we're gonna have to talk about last night.
[chantel] you treat me like I'm annoying.
It doesn't matter because I'm sick and tired of your ass.
[pedro speaking]
-you don't love me. -[pedro] you know, you...
You don't!
-You don't. You don't. Just say it. -[pedro] you know. You know.
-You know. -Just say it.
And um...
I'm dreading it.
[chantel] I left because I wanted to get out of the situation,
so that I could just have somewhere to sleep.
But I didn't want to sleep in that bed
because the bed felt like it was on fire.
It's, like, you can't sleep 'cause it feels like it's literally on fire.
[chantel] I'm making you dinner.
Just like you love it.
[pedro speaking]
[chantel in spanish]
[pedro speaking]
[chantel] because I wanted to get away from you.
'cause you're mean.
[pedro speaking]
[chantel] yes.
[pedro speaking]
I'm still making you a pizza.
I'm happy that you finally had a meaningful conversation with my mom.
You've been having meaningful conversations with everybody but me.
I ask you how you're doing.
You say, "how do you think I'm doing?
I'm doing the same thing I do every day."
mean.
You can talk to your coworkers with respect.
Have I said a curse word to you today?
[chantel] have I said a curse word to you today?
Talk to me from a place of love.
Have I imagined the man that you were for so long
and overlooked who you really were?
Have I imagined that you were loving and kind and treated me like a queen?
When did I get to the point where my husband comes home at 3:00 in the morning
and I don't know where he's been?
Is it because you've got everything that you could get from me
and now I've run dry?
You got your visa.
You got your money.
You got your job.
And you're ready to fly the coop?
[pedro speaking]
[chantel] and on top of that...
On top of that you're mean.
Don't play me.
[pedro speaking]
don't play me.
[chantel] I don't care.
Okay. And whose sparkly bottle is this? It's not mine.
Whose sparkly bottle is this, pedro?
Whose is this? It's not [bleep] mine.
You're leaving items in the house
that don't belong to me.
When I ask you where you're going,
you're telling me it's none of my business
and you're coming home drunk.
And you're leaving your car places.
One night I was off work the entire day.
Cleaned the house and start to cook.
And I called you at 8:30 to ask you where you were.
And you were in the mall with antonella.
-You're picking her up and taking her to work. -[pedro] yeah.
-You're picking her. You're taking her... -Yeah.
-...From the car mechanic. -Yeah.
You're basically her do-boy and you're at her every whim.
You're just leaving it to my imagination to run wild, pedro.
[pedro speaking]
are you cheating on me?
Are you cheating on me?
I am your wife and I need to know where you're going,
and "none of your business" is not an answer.
-Hey. -Hey, what's up?
The energy with chris is intense.
What if I fall though?
[chris speaking]
[lidia in spanish]
[in english]
[in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
mmm-mmm.
My summer was good for the moment,
but I'm ready to see what's out there
and atlanta has no shortage of cute guys.
[car alarm beeps]
the last time I was single I was 19 years old.
When I was in my relationship I remember seeing my friends date.
They were having so much fun and going out,
and I never really got a chance to experience that.
-Hey. -Hey, what's up?
So, I'm going on a date today with my friend chris.
I met chris on a christian dating app.
He's from nigeria,
but he's lived most of his life here in america.
How are you?
-Okay. -[chris] I'm good. I'm good.
[winter] when it comes to dating,
I feel like I'm fumbling through everything.
It's so easy to talk to somebody that I'm not attracted to
or, like, in a work setting. Cool.
But to talk to the opposite sex who I am attracted to...
I don't know. I just lose my words sometimes.
-Have a seat. -Okay.
I've been on a few dates with chris,
and the energy with chris is intense.
Chris is hot.
And I like that he is strong
and he appears to be very confident.
I really like that.
[winter] it's funny. We dressed alike.
I didn't. When I came in I was so surprised to see you wearing pink.
Can you tie it for me again?
Just make a bow.
You had a goat in africa?
-Four goats? -Yeah.
When you went back, how was it?
Were the goats there?
There is a group of women in america
who only date nigerian men.
Winter is one of these women.
She likes their chocolate.
[karen] the real chocolate.
-I'm not kidding. -Chocolate.
[growling]
simmer. Simmer down.
-[chantel panting] -simmer down now.
Simmer, simmer, simmer.
[chris speaking]
[winter] I think it needs to come up higher.
I think it's your legs.
Like, you have to unloosen it and pull it up.
[winter giggling]
[winter] oh, wow.
Is it hard?
[chris speaking]
chris is a very active and physically strong man.
I've been busting my butt in the gym
and I want to show him that I'm active and physically strong, too.
You're not even using your feet.
I definitely don't want chris to look at me and think of me as being weak.
-[winter] okay. Nice. -[chris groaning]
I just... [sighing]
I don't know. I hope that I can show my rock climbing skills
and it's impressive.
Okay.
[winter shouting]
[chris speaking]
[winter] what if I fall though?
[chris speaking]
[winter] oh!
-[winter] oh, [bleep] -[chris] other leg over there.
-[winter] I don't know. -[chris chuckling] why?
[winter] I don't know.
[breathlessly] okay.
Okay. I did it!
[winter] okay, I'm gonna come down.
You're in that harness and it's, like, holding your butt up
and it's, like [clicking]
it... Yeah.
Like, I'm telling you. Like, my behind was always an insecurity for me.
-[chris speaking] -[winter giggling]
[winter] it was easy.
[winter speaking]
[winter exhaling]
I'm cautious when it comes to all dates,
but chris is someone that I'm actually very excited about.
But I'm still getting used to my new body,
getting used to talking to men in a way of, like, that I'm interested in you.
I was in a relationship for seven years
and when I was in the relationship,
I didn't want to have any interaction
with, like, the opposite sex.
I felt guilty.
So, now it feels so freeing,
like, to not have to...
You know, like, I just feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders
and I'm ready to see what's out there.
This was so much fun.
I'm glad that you came with me.
[nicole in spanish]
[in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[lidia] oh.
[nicole in spanish]
[in english]
[lidia in spanish]
mmm-mmm.
[nicole in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
[pedro in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
[pedro in spanish]
[nicole in spanish]
[lidia in spanish]
[pedro in english]
[phone ringing]
[lidia speaking spanish]
[pedro in spanish]
[in english]
whew!
[karen] why is it that I had to come over here
in my kimono
to find out what is going on here?
Well, I don't want you involved.
[chantel] boundaries.
I don't know boundaries.
You're gonna learn some boundaries.
[chantel] pedro and I are not in a good place right now.
We have zero communication.
We don't talk.
We see each other in passing and nobody says a thing.
And on top of that,
my family members, river and my mom,
have been over to talk to pedro
without my permission.
I'm upset with my family
that they came to my house unannounced
to talk to my husband.
[doorbell ringing]
[chantel] hi.
What are you doing here unannounced?
I came to see you.
Well, you could let me know. I just got off of work.
[karen] sorry.
Why didn't my family come to me first?
That's my thing.
[chantel] is river coming?
[karen] not that I know of.
[chantel] okay.
I don't want them to learn anything that's gonna jeopardize
their opinion of my husband.
[chantel] so, what are you doing here?
I came to chat.
I know that you've already been talking to pedro.
-[karen] yes, I have been talking to pedro. -Why.
Well, first of all,
did you not leave this house and spirit over there
to your brother's apartment.
Well, let me tell you something.
Although you are meaning well,
-you cannot come to my house... -What?
...And talk to my husband
about our relationship.
I should have known,
but I did not expect
that you would do such a thing
after the last time you showed up unannounced.
And why not?
-What happened the last time? -Because you brought a taser
and was clicking it all over the place.
[karen] hola, pedro.
[pedro speaking]
[taser clicking]
-on the island. -[pedro speaking]
[karen] don't hurt yourself.
You should be thanking me.
-You're not thanking me now. -Well, you should have told me
that that's what your plan was...
-Well, you... -...And I would have stopped you.
Well, you should be thanking me.
I'm doing my motherly duties
and my mother-in-law duties.
Why is it that I had to come over here
in my kimono
to find out what is going on here?
You could have told me.
-I'm a little upset about that. -[chantel] well, no.
I'm not telling anybody
because I have to make decisions for myself
and I need to figure things out on my own.
He said that he's upset because he wants you
to clean the house and clean four bathrooms
-I know! -And he wants you to cook dinner every day
when he gets off work.
And then he said you were lazy.
The boy that plays video games,
twiddling his toes, laying around on his belly,
called you lazy.
And I think he's lazy.
Listen, I tried to set your husband straight
'cause I don't think it's fair for you to be in that hospital
working like you're working,
and then for him to expect for four days that you have off
for you to come here and clean and cook
-and do all this crazy stuff. -It's not fair.
[karen] it's not fair.
[chantel] I clean all day at work.
See, that's what I was saying.
You know, pedro doesn't understand.
-I clean bodies. -[karen] right.
I clean poopy floors.
And on top of everything,
people are dying.
It's a high-stress job.
We need to sit down and talk to pedro
and let him know exactly how it is when you go to work.
That's where we need to set him straight.
Well, I don't want you involved.
Why?
Because it's overstepping boundaries.
[chantel] boundaries.
I don't know boundaries.
Now that my family is concerned.
I need to get a 30-foot pole
to keep them out my relationship.
[in spanish]
well, you're gonna learn.
You're gonna learn some boundaries.
My parents do have reason to be concerned.
Pedro treats me with all of this hatred,
talking down on me, mocking me and trying to get a rise out of me.
You guys can get over this.
This is not even that big of deal.
It's just a misunderstanding on his behalf.
But I don't want them to know that.
At least for now.
[in spanish]
I think this visit was crucial for our relationship.
[alejandro in spanish]
I think you need to just get to know him again, date him,
and if he's hanging out with these friends at work,
you hang out with these friends at work.
But I might have to put some people in their place.
Hey!
So, he came home with his key fob
and it had antonella's name on it.
[chantel] antonella, do you see how that could kind of get, like,
how it could get a rise out of me?
I only want for you to be nice.
[chantel] so, what are you going to do?