Whose sparkly bottle is this, Pedro? Whose is this?
It's not (BLEEP) mine.
You're leaving items in the house that don't belong to me.
Are you cheating on me?
We need to sit down and talk to Pedro.
We need to set him straight.
Well, I don't want you involved.
Why? Boundaries.
(CAT MEOWS)
Today, I'm going to a wedding for a co-worker.
I'm going to this wedding by myself because Pedro doesn't want to come.
He'd rather work.
He says that he doesn't know the couple and they're my friends.
And he doesn't want to do it for me.
I'm not a big enough reason for him to show up.
I don't feel like Pedro knows he's neglecting me.
If I tell Pedro that, you know, I miss him, he'll tell me
that I'm not supporting him in his career.
(THUNDER ROLLS)
I just want time with my husband. That's all.
These are like get-close cards.
I bought them and I tried to get him to do this one time with me
and he couldn't even do that.
Pedro should see what's in front of him while he has it.
It's the perfect moment to celebrate love
and reminisce on our own vows.
Weddings are just romantic all around.
I don't know why he wouldn't want to do that with me.
(UPBEAT SPANISH SONG)
The last time Nicole and I met, she said to me
that she needed some time to see me again.
Luckily, she come to her senses and she agreed to talk to me
and meet up with me.
Hello.
And Nicole has a very small family, her mother and her brother.
At the end of the day, she's going to pay close attention
to whatever they say, even though she love me.
But, I'm not putting Nicole between a rock and a hard place.
Maybe her family does.
But she's a grown woman and she knows what she needs to do
and what she wants, and she wants me.
2 00:11:16.360 -- 00:11:20.640 align:middle line:90% position:50% (GENTLE MUSIC)
Hey. Hey, girl.
Oh, what is this?
We're going to talk about it.
I'm going to this wedding by myself, and Destinee is coming over
to help me get dressed.
How are you? I'm good.
Destinee is my best friend and she helps me sort things out.
Whenever I'm feeling, you know, troubled in my relationship,
I can always confide in her.
Girl, you know me better than anybody.
I know, girl.
I don't talk about this stuff with just anybody.
She is married, so I trust her that she's going to give me sound advice.
She never, you know, tells me to leave my husband.
You know, there's some friends that maybe they're not
at the same point as you are in your life.
But since she is married, she knows exactly what I'm going through.
I know you said he wants you to cook dinner more.
And this is super-easy for a working woman like yourself.
Right, right.
Instead of cooking when I get home, I can have it cooking all day.
So that he'll be like, "Mmm, my wife was in here working,"
but you weren't.
So, you were working elsewhere. So, yeah.
There needs to be a little bit of give and take for both of them.
She's not going to quit being a nurse and do this full-time.
But can she adjust and be able to do some things that he is wanting?
Yes.
I need to get ready for this wedding.
Let's go upstairs, pick something out.
Do you want to bring the champagne or no?
Let's grab it. Are you going to need it?
Yeah. Bring the champagne.
As a Latina woman myself and Pedro being Latin,
he comes from a household and a culture that women
are the caretakers of the home.
And she married that.
But he married her knowing she was not that type of woman.
OK. This is not it because it's not your wedding.
I haven't been shopping as much because Pedro will get upset
with me every time I buy something.
It just sounds to me like it's something deeper.
Because you wouldn't be having all these issues that are bottled up
inside if it was just like, "Oh, he's working late."
Like, what's the real?
So the other night, Pedro came home and he got really mad at me
because there was a lot of things that weren't done.
I'm tired.
You don't love me. You know, you...
You don't. You know...
You don't. You don't. Just say it. You know...
Just say it. I'm not taking this.
Like, I really wanted to tell him to leave.
But I told myself, in my head, I say,
"I don't want to tell my husband to leave
"because I don't know when he's going to come back."
So, I decided that I was going to go and spend the night
at River's house.
The thing that bothers me for real, for real, there was one night
when Pedro came home and he had a girl's name taped to his keys.
And it said Antonella.
Who is that?
That's a girl he works with and takes her to work all the time.
Like, her charger's in there, her cup.
And like, the mirror's down a lot of times
like a girl's been doing her makeup in there.
Did you confront him when you saw this?
I did.
He said they were playing a game in the office.
Playing a... so then take it off.
That, to me, is not a game that the whole office is playing,
a sort of find and seek. No.
It's a some girl flirting with you in the office.
Yeah, especially if everyone knows that he's married, he's got a wife.
We are having some problems in our marriage.
This is not a game.
I've tried to sit down with Pedro and discuss, you know,
it doesn't make me feel good when you...
I've tried to model behaviour for him.
I feel like the only one fighting for this marriage.
Not only is he checked out of our relationship,
he disrespects me and our marriage.
Any time when I like tell him these things,
he always invalidates my feelings
and makes it like I'm crazy, that, that I've imagined it all
and that it's my problem that I feel this way.
There is love.
I know how he looks at you when, at least, I'm there.
Right?
I don't know if he knows I'm going to knock him out
if he does something mean to you.
I think he knows you're going to knock him out, sis.
Pedro, needs to treat her nicely so that she knows she,
she's cared for and that you love her as your wife.
Because when I talked with him and I told him that he's got to put
in the work, he said, "For sure. I'm not giving up.
"This is just, you know, a bump on the road."
But Chantel looks at it as it could be the end.
So it's a conversation that needs to be had that no one's having.
I truly believe in my heart that there's love there
and you guys just need to work on your communication
and probably seek therapy.
I honestly feel like for me, there is love there.
For me. Like, I'm fully invested.
So let's stop there. Right?
You just worry about what you can do, right,
and how you can turn around these conversations to say,
"Oh, he wants to start a fight about,
"turn on the light switch.
"I'm not going to entertain it."
You're not going to add fuel to the flame.
You are supposed to be his safety net, and you are not right now.
You're over there and he's over there,
and that's not what we're having.
In my heart of hearts, I don't think Pedro's cheating
because he's looked at me in the eyes
and told me how much he loves her.
Pedro has shared with me he's dealing with things
outside of the marriage problem,
like with his mum, with his sister.
But if it is a serious enough issue where it's happening,
I'm going to beat his ass.
Have you ever thought about that these people at work
are kind of his only family here?
Think about how much time you spend with River, with Winter,
with your mum and dad.
More than I spend time with other people.
Does Pedro have that family here? No, he doesn't.
Even more reason why he's probably clinging to his friends
at work, which are somewhat like his family.
Why won't he cling to me?
Because you guys aren't communicating.
I think you need to just get to know him again, date him.
And if he's hanging out with these friends at work,
you hang out with these friends at work.
"Oh, great, baby. You're at the mall. Which one?
"Pulling up."
Like, he's not going to turn you down when you ask where he is.
I know. I know you don't want to.
But unfortunately, we're going to have to do some things
that we might not love to do to save our marriage
and to work on it.
But I might have to put some people in their place.
If that happens, you dig your heels in
and you stand up for your marriage.
I am apprehensive to go around his friends.
It makes me feel jealous of the time that he spends with them,
that he's having so much fun with other people
and he's not having any fun with me.
But I'm going to fight for my relationship.
I'm going to fight for my marriage.
And I hope that by me fighting, he'll see my efforts
and he'll realise that I love him
and I'm here for better or for worse.
I don't want to lose this
and I'm willing to put in the hard work.
OK.
I think this visit was crucial for our relationship, was essential.
It doesn't matter what Nicole said.
She's in a relationship with me,
because that doesn't even make sense.
She's taking the risk of getting herself in trouble
with her mother by meeting up with me,
seeing me, talking to me.
I'm going back to New York, but I promise her that I was going
to be a different man and our relationship was going to be
totally different from now on.
I'm trying to work on my weaknesses as a boyfriend.
I think I was a little bit controlling.
Eventually, I know Lidia's going to know about our relationship.
I don't have to pressure Nicole.
I think she's trying to, to test me first.
So after she sees that I am totally different,
so maybe she's going to take the next,
the next step and talk to her mother
about our reconciliation, our make-up, all of that.
I'm not telling her to make
a decision between me and her family.
I just want to be with her.
I just want her to be happy in this relationship,
and I don't want nothing to do with her family.
At all. That's her life besides our relationship.
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Here we are.
Going to my co-worker's wedding alone,
it was even more depressing than I ever thought it would be.
I didn't even ask my mum or sister to come along with me
because I don't want to explain how bad things have gotten with Pedro.
Hi. Hi. Winter?
Yes.
Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
I'm Chantel. Hi, Chantel.
Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
The first few months after my surgery,
I was losing so much weight.
The pounds, they were just melting off.
I have lost about a hundred pounds so far
and I know I have 90 more pounds to go.
I'm doing all the work.
I'm eating pretty healthy and I'm in the gym every day,
but I am at a stall.
This is kind of scary.
If, if I just stop here, I don't know.
I haven't reached my goal yet.
OK.
So I always like to just hear in your own words
what led you to the decision to have the gastric sleeve.
I was engaged, and then all of a sudden I wasn't.
I decided that I just wanted to change my life
and I wanted to be happy. Good for you.
Yeah.
Tell me about your relationship with food
and your relationship with your weight.
Terrible.
I remember being a teenager and sitting at the lunch table.
I felt like everyone was judging me...
Yeah. ..for like what I was eating.
If I was to eat like a salad, they'll be like,
"Oh, she's eating a salad because you're about to lose,
"she's trying to lose weight."
Or if I'm eating a pizza, "Oh, look at her,
"She's so fat. She's eating a pizza."
And so it made me like very, like really self-conscious about it.
Yeah.
I never felt like that, and I'm sorry that
you have felt like that for so long.
Nobody should have to feel that way.
Winter, you know, experienced, everybody's been bullied, I think.
I think everybody has.
But people comparing these two sisters,
"Your sister's so small. What happened to you?"
I'm sure she heard that, you know, things like that, rude comments.
That, that's horrible.
So as far as the plateauing, it is normal for weight loss
to slow down from when you first had the surgery to now.
A reasonable goal would be somewhere around seven to eight pounds
over the next three weeks.
That's so not what I'm used to.
When you lose weight really, really rapidly and you end up
slowing down your metabolism in the process, that's how we
kind of end up in this cycle or this yo-yo, where what I want to see
for you is long-term, sustained weight loss.
Does that make sense? Yes.
OK. You can do it.
Yeah. Yeah.
I'm just proud of you taking control over your diet
and even to keep up with it that we're here.
You're so responsible.
You think I'm responsible?
Yeah. Look at you at the dietician's office.
I'm proud of you, Winter.
Post-op and post-jaw, I seen her glowing,
I see her becoming more confident and more radiant.
It has changed everything for her. I mean, everything.
I'm just so proud that she's lost over a hundred pounds.
It's amazing.
How are you?
I'm fine. You're fine?
So how's work?
Work is good.
Yeah? Yep.
How are you and Pedro?
We're doing fine. Yep.
Same old, same old.
Chantel has been so supportive throughout this whole journey,
especially during this whole healing process from the surgery,
but then also from my relationship that I got out of.
You know, it's not easy and Chantel, she's always there.
I want to do that for her, but she's so closed.
Chantel, listen. What?
Mummy shared with me some things.
What did she say?
She was just like, oh, that you like, hurt her feelings.
Me? Yeah.
Because you were talking about boundaries or something like that.
She's trying to get involved in my relationship again,
and I'm not trying to go down that road again with, with the family
and I want boundaries.
Just make sure that they're good boundaries,
you know, like you're not like, hiding away because of something.
Because you know how I was in my relationship.
I hid away.
And it was because I was a little embarrassed. You know?
Well, Chantel, you know I'm always there for you.
Like, I want you to be able to like talk to me.
I appreciate that.
Between the housewarming party and spending the night
at River's house, my family knows that something is up.
But I'm not willing to talk to her about this right now
because she's fragile emotionally.
She did just get out of a traumatic relationship.
She has a lot of life changes.
Her body is changing.
Her hormones are changing, her skin, everything.
I don't want to make it about me.
I want to be there for Winter.
What do I wear? What do I wear?
In an effort to get to know Pedro's co-workers better,
I've asked Pedro if I can join him and his friends for drinks.
Destinee thinks that I need to insert myself into Pedro's circle.
I have had four occasions when I was around Pedro's friends.
I didn't necessarily have a great time.
They talk, you know, and I'm excluded from the conversation.
It's all real estate, real estate, real estate all the time
and like stuffiness, and I'm more of a scientific mind
and I have other interests that don't involve my work all the time.
I just wanted to know what makes them so interesting
that my husband wants to spend all the time that he has with them.
If I could learn what that is, I can say,
"OK. This is the kind of person that my husband likes."
I've never been to this place.
Pedro's never taken me here.
He doesn't want to spend any time with me because I'm not fun,
is what he's telling me.
And he's telling me that these ladies are fun, so I want to know
what kind of fun they're having and can I be a part of it.
He doesn't like anything. She has shown 13 houses.
(LAUGHTER)
Cheers. Maybe we're, we're going to need those shots.
Hey. Hi. How are you all doing?
Good? what you all doing? Just having a pizza.
Yes. You want some pizza?
So will you give me an introduction to your friends?
But I'm here to get to know your friends a little bit better.
Is this y'all's table too or are you all here?
Sure. I'll have a drink.
So let me introduce you. This is Euralie.
This is Chantel.OK?
This is Eric.
That's Nidia.
Yeah, I remember. Like, I know everybody.
Yeah, I know everybody.
I just wanted to come here to get to know Pedro's co-workers more,
because he always is with you guys, you know,
he's with the co-workers more than he's at home.
So I want to get to know his friends and like...
But since y'all are his friends...
Yeah. We're like a family. Yeah.
So I want to get to know you on a friendly basis so that when...
You need to come out more.
Well, I don't always get the invitation.
I think Chantel just wanted to come and, I guess,
see what Pedro is up to.
When she walked in, I could definitely feel the tension
because of the way that he was looking at her, you know,
like, "What are you doing here?"
type of thing, instead of saying, "Hey, you're here. That's great.
"Come and join me, maybe."
Pedro is very private about his life at home, and I respect that.
But it was tense.
It's not even like that I need to always be there,
which I don't feel like I need to.
It's just like I never know where he is.
You're making it seem like you're doing things
that I don't believe you would do.
Because when I ask you what you're doing, you tell me
it's none of my business.
And then there's a game of ownership that he tells me
that you guys play at the office. What's that?
A game of ownership.
So he came home with his key fob and it had Antonella's name on it.
And I said, "Pedro, what's this?"
And he said, "It's a little game we play at the office."
And I said, "Pedro, why do you come home with another lady's name
"on your key fob?"
You guys can definitely talk about this.
You know, when we work, we work. Yeah.
But I want to know, I do want to know about the game
of ownership, Antonella.
So what was the game like?
Explain to me the rules and...
Yeah. I put in my computer "Pedro."
And it's all "Pedro." But this is just play.
Right. He's my friend.
Like, I think it was just one day that he took, I took a stapler
off of his desk, and then he started labelling everything on his desk
"Pedro," even though the stapler wasn't even his in the first place.
Do you see how that could kind of get like, how it could get
a rise out of me if he brought that home?
All I know is there's a woman at his job that sent him home
with her name on his keys.
They're hanging out with him and they don't care to ask me
if I want to come.
I was trying to meet Pedro halfway and go to the bar with him
and his friends.
And when he greeted me cold and acted like he wanted nothing
to do with me, I lost control.
He treats me like I'm nothing at home, but to do it
in front of his peers was a different level of betrayal.
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And then the fact that you told me that you're going to tell everybody
I'm crazy for asking about it.
No we didn't, we didn't know that.
He claims my mind is going.
You talk about me to them.
Why did you tell me that you're going to tell
your co-workers that I'm crazy?
Because you're trying to drive me crazy.
It's like you with your friends, and then it's like you towards me.
You can definitely have friends.
You could just be nice to me. Just be nice.
You make, because you make me feel like you are.
And that's why I don't trust you.
That's even more I don't trust you.
What the hell am I doing here if like I'm not here for my husband?
And my husband, he's not even welcoming to me.
I'm still his wife.
So why is he treating other people, like his damn co-worker,
better than his own wife?
Pedro.
You know, this is typical.
It's not easy.
What you're going through right now is not easy. OK?
Relax.
I feel bad.
Yeah, I feel bad too.
You know, I've seen a lot of things in my lifetime,
so nothing really shocks me.
But I don't like to see anybody hurt.
I'm concerned for both of them.
If they don't communicate better, if they don't keep
their separate lives, work life,
whatever it is, more transparent, it could be bad.
You OK? It's alright. It's alright.
Things happen. OK? Marriage is not perfect.
It's not easy.
No because he's doing things to intentionally hurt me.
I understand where you're coming from. I do.
You two, your communication is bad, and obviously you already know that.
Yeah.
Your communication is pretty bad. And he's never doing anything wrong.
OK?
Because I'm around a lot of the time and, you know,
I respect marriages and you guys are married.
And if I was a person that was going to see something
that was happening, I wouldn't... Yeah.
..wouldn't be OK with that. OK? I trust you.
Yeah. Thanks.
But it's just what should I think if my own husband
is treating me this way?
I feel abandoned in more ways than just one.
Not only has he abandoned me at home, but he's also abandoned me
in public and in front of his co-workers.
You know, just cool off.
And then when everything is calm, then, you know,
maybe he'll come to you and talk to you.
I really don't know how I'm going to fix this.
I mean, I've tried everything.
I don't know what I can do to make it better.
I wish that he would just tell me.
I don't disagree with going to the bar,
but things got bad really fast.
It took a wrong turn when I opened up about my personal problems
with Pedro in front of his co-workers.
That was completely out of line and everything was out of control.
I wanted to come and meet with you and your friends
because I wanted to get to know your friends better.
I didn't mean to...
No, I didn't.
Because when I came there, I thought you were going to be
happy to see me.
And then when you were not happy to see me,
the look in your eyes really...
There was something about the look in your eyes...
..was so mean to me.
No. It doesn't matter...
I'm not trying to blame you.
But you told all your friends bad things about us.
You did.
You told me that you were going to tell everybody in the office
all about our business.
But it's your fault.
So far.
I'm only asking for you to tell me...
Why are you cutting me off when I let you talk?
I let you talk.
I let you talk all the time.
So what are you going to do?
You're going to move out?
I didn't say that I wanted you to move out.
So what makes you think that you want to move out?
Well, that's going to make me even more unhappy if you move out.
Where are you going to go?
That's the first step to a divorce, Pedro.
Pedro has never said that he's wanted a separation before.
It's hard to hear the words coming out of his mouth.
It feels unreal.
You can go upstairs.
I'll go to take some time in my car.
I don't want this.
This is the worst thing that could ever happen.
I, I want my marriage. I love my husband.
I don't agree with this.
Those are things that you guys need to handle at home.
Are you guys going to do counselling?
How did your dinner go the other night?
He wasn't happy to see me at all.
He's looking at me with disgust and anger.
And Pedro left.
Oh, so he just abandoned you. Yeah.
I'm really shocked right now to hear that their marriage is...
..deteriorating right in front of my eyes.
Faster. Whisk faster. Yes. Go, go, go.
I met Zach and we decided it's time to make a date.
So I've been engaged twice. Oh, my gosh.
I tend to fall hard, I tend to fall quick, and I tend to commit.
I would like for her to still take it slow.
Online dating is safe, but could be some sheep
in wolf's clothing, I guess. You're right about that.
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