1 00:00:06,548 --> 00:00:07,632 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 2 00:01:15,617 --> 00:01:18,328 I want to stay married. It's the vow that I took. 3 00:01:18,411 --> 00:01:19,871 I want to stay married. 4 00:01:44,562 --> 00:01:48,400 Heading back to Atlanta feels different this time. 5 00:01:50,443 --> 00:01:51,986 Pedro wants a separation 6 00:01:52,070 --> 00:01:55,073 but I don't know what a separation means... 7 00:01:56,199 --> 00:01:57,617 ..so when I get home 8 00:01:57,701 --> 00:02:00,328 that's going to be the hardest thing to deal with. 9 00:02:07,585 --> 00:02:11,089 Pedro and I didn't talk at all on the way home, 10 00:02:11,172 --> 00:02:14,926 not on the plane, not in the car, nothing. 11 00:02:16,678 --> 00:02:18,680 I don't get it. 12 00:02:18,763 --> 00:02:23,601 Why doesn't my husband want to take interest in me 13 00:02:23,685 --> 00:02:27,856 after all this effort I've put into saving our marriage? 14 00:03:24,829 --> 00:03:29,250 I think that more space is the last thing we need. 15 00:03:30,585 --> 00:03:32,837 We need to be working on our communication 16 00:03:32,921 --> 00:03:35,215 and growing together. 17 00:03:35,298 --> 00:03:37,801 He wants to grow separately, that doesn't make any sense. 18 00:03:37,884 --> 00:03:38,968 We're married. 19 00:04:14,004 --> 00:04:16,673 I do not come from a broken home. 20 00:04:16,756 --> 00:04:22,429 I have no experience with seeing separation in my own family 21 00:04:22,512 --> 00:04:25,849 so I don't have any point of reference for this. 22 00:04:27,475 --> 00:04:30,103 I don't know what's to become of us. 23 00:04:33,481 --> 00:04:36,818 I haven't given up hope yet. 24 00:04:36,901 --> 00:04:38,820 I have given up effort. 25 00:04:39,654 --> 00:04:41,740 But I haven't given up hope. 26 00:05:02,927 --> 00:05:03,970 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 27 00:06:15,542 --> 00:06:16,584 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 28 00:07:17,437 --> 00:07:21,900 Sometimes I have thought like Lidia is kind of jealous 29 00:07:21,983 --> 00:07:27,238 that Nicole has found her happiness in a relationship. 30 00:07:27,322 --> 00:07:30,200 Also that Lidia has never gotten her life 31 00:07:30,283 --> 00:07:32,619 because she's an unhappy woman 32 00:07:32,702 --> 00:07:36,956 and she wants Nicole to have the same miserable life 33 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:38,375 that she has. 34 00:07:39,167 --> 00:07:40,210 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 35 00:09:09,341 --> 00:09:13,553 I made myself clear like it's now or never, 36 00:09:13,636 --> 00:09:16,473 just take it or leave it. It's your family or me. 37 00:09:20,435 --> 00:09:21,478 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 38 00:09:52,258 --> 00:09:52,519 2 00:10:31.320 -- 00:10:36.760 align:middle line:73% position:50% Being in the house with Pedro feels, it's so eerie 39 00:11:04,039 --> 00:11:07,500 because even though he's in a different room, 40 00:11:07,584 --> 00:11:09,419 I've always been lonely. 41 00:11:11,629 --> 00:11:13,089 He was either badgering me 42 00:11:13,173 --> 00:11:15,550 or not talking to me and ignoring me. 43 00:11:15,633 --> 00:11:18,762 I would go to sleep alone and wake up alone 44 00:11:18,845 --> 00:11:21,264 so when he moved into a different room 45 00:11:21,348 --> 00:11:22,932 it didn't feel any different. 46 00:11:23,892 --> 00:11:27,354 The only thing is this is a separation 47 00:11:27,437 --> 00:11:28,480 and it's sad. 48 00:11:28,563 --> 00:11:30,398 He wants this separation. 49 00:11:32,609 --> 00:11:34,819 It just is one more step towards divorce 50 00:11:34,903 --> 00:11:38,698 and if that's what really he wants. 51 00:11:38,782 --> 00:11:42,535 Does he really just want to divorce and is he just too scared to say it? 52 00:11:56,424 --> 00:11:57,467 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 53 00:15:50,575 --> 00:15:54,371 Things are still really terrible between Pedro and I. 54 00:15:55,497 --> 00:15:56,664 We don't talk. 55 00:15:56,748 --> 00:15:59,417 We see each other in passing and nobody says a thing. 56 00:16:00,293 --> 00:16:03,797 But each day that my husband is still in the house 57 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:08,927 it makes me feel like he will want to work things out when he's ready. 58 00:16:10,095 --> 00:16:14,599 Maybe he does deep down inside even though he doesn't show it, 59 00:16:14,683 --> 00:16:18,645 feel that there is some value in our marriage in our relationship. 60 00:16:19,688 --> 00:16:22,691 Hey girl. Hey. How are you? 61 00:16:22,774 --> 00:16:24,275 Since coming back from the DR, 62 00:16:24,359 --> 00:16:26,945 I haven't talked to my family about what happened. 63 00:16:27,028 --> 00:16:30,490 Destiny is the only person that I've really been confiding in 64 00:16:30,573 --> 00:16:32,033 about my marriage. 65 00:16:34,035 --> 00:16:35,078 So how did it go? 66 00:16:35,954 --> 00:16:38,540 Well after I got to the DR 67 00:16:38,623 --> 00:16:42,127 I immediately decided to, before going to my hotel, 68 00:16:42,210 --> 00:16:43,628 meet up with Lidia. 69 00:16:43,712 --> 00:16:46,047 Well actually I just knocked on her door. 70 00:16:46,131 --> 00:16:47,757 So she didn't know you were coming at all? 71 00:16:47,841 --> 00:16:53,555 Mm mm but luckily she invited me in and was really... 72 00:16:53,638 --> 00:16:55,807 That's promising. ..surprisingly nice. 73 00:16:55,890 --> 00:16:59,602 That's the best outcome we could have hoped for. 74 00:17:00,437 --> 00:17:03,023 I wanted to reach out an olive branch to her 75 00:17:03,106 --> 00:17:06,026 and I explained to her that you know 76 00:17:06,109 --> 00:17:08,862 after being with Pedro for so many years 77 00:17:08,945 --> 00:17:15,452 that now I am more open to understanding their culture. 78 00:17:15,535 --> 00:17:16,578 Yeah. 79 00:17:16,661 --> 00:17:18,872 And I presented her with a gift of sunglasses. 80 00:17:18,955 --> 00:17:20,874 What kind of sunglasses? Gucci. 81 00:17:23,376 --> 00:17:26,880 You don't also want to be known as like when things are going wrong 82 00:17:26,963 --> 00:17:31,134 that you're like throwing gifts and money but OK. 83 00:17:31,217 --> 00:17:32,802 I thought it was a nice gesture. 84 00:17:32,886 --> 00:17:37,390 Yeah but like regular sunglasses not like Gucci but OK, it's OK. 85 00:17:37,474 --> 00:17:39,642 It's done and over with we can't take them back 86 00:17:39,726 --> 00:17:40,852 so we're here. 87 00:17:40,935 --> 00:17:44,272 I bought her a laptop before and it's been a part of her culture 88 00:17:44,356 --> 00:17:47,984 you know, that you bring a gift when you're coming from America 89 00:17:48,068 --> 00:17:49,110 to her country 90 00:17:49,194 --> 00:17:53,198 so I wanted to respect the culture by giving her a gift. 91 00:17:53,281 --> 00:17:54,574 Yeah. 92 00:17:54,657 --> 00:17:58,370 because it has been reiterated to me time and time again that you know, 93 00:17:58,453 --> 00:18:00,413 I wasn't really OK with it 94 00:18:00,497 --> 00:18:02,332 because I thought we're coming to see you. 95 00:18:02,415 --> 00:18:03,625 I mean. Yeah. 96 00:18:03,708 --> 00:18:06,336 We're coming to spend time with you. We're the gift. 97 00:18:06,419 --> 00:18:12,801 But after being educated on that 98 00:18:12,884 --> 00:18:15,136 by Pedro 99 00:18:15,220 --> 00:18:17,472 I decided that it would be a good gesture 100 00:18:17,555 --> 00:18:21,601 to honour the culture and bring Lidia a gift 101 00:18:21,685 --> 00:18:24,312 so I brought her some sunglasses. 102 00:18:24,979 --> 00:18:30,610 We talked about what's going on between Pedro and I and... 103 00:18:31,695 --> 00:18:33,863 Did you tell her that he's like at work all the time 104 00:18:33,947 --> 00:18:35,365 and hanging out with his work friends? 105 00:18:35,448 --> 00:18:39,119 I told her that he works into the late night 106 00:18:39,202 --> 00:18:43,039 and that I never see him and it's like I go to bed alone 107 00:18:43,123 --> 00:18:44,165 and I wake up alone 108 00:18:44,249 --> 00:18:47,210 and I'm basically missing my husband. 109 00:18:47,293 --> 00:18:50,171 I'm lonely and I told her this 110 00:18:50,255 --> 00:18:57,554 and she seemed to sympathise with me on that 111 00:18:57,637 --> 00:19:00,557 and wanted to encourage me. 112 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:01,683 Well that's good. 113 00:19:04,227 --> 00:19:07,647 I don't think that the point of the trip 114 00:19:07,731 --> 00:19:11,234 was for it to per se work 115 00:19:11,317 --> 00:19:14,112 and rebuild their marriage and fix everything. 116 00:19:14,195 --> 00:19:19,951 I think the point of that trip was to reconcile with his mum 117 00:19:20,035 --> 00:19:23,705 and to bridge that gap and that worked. 118 00:19:24,247 --> 00:19:27,334 So I'm big on baby steps. 119 00:19:27,417 --> 00:19:29,627 That was a baby step in the right direction 120 00:19:29,711 --> 00:19:33,590 so we've got to, we've got to take you know, baby steps 121 00:19:33,673 --> 00:19:37,677 and not try to outrun and try to get to the finish line. 122 00:19:37,761 --> 00:19:41,431 Just take one step forward, one step at a time. 123 00:19:41,514 --> 00:19:44,559 The next day, Pedro comes in. 124 00:19:44,642 --> 00:19:48,605 His mum called him and told him what I was doing. 125 00:19:48,688 --> 00:19:51,024 He flew all the way over there to confront you. 126 00:19:51,107 --> 00:19:52,192 He's so extra. 127 00:19:52,692 --> 00:19:53,985 He goes on to explain 128 00:19:54,069 --> 00:19:56,821 that I should have told her the entire story. 129 00:19:56,905 --> 00:20:00,784 I didn't tell her the entire story for fear of bad mouthing... 130 00:20:00,867 --> 00:20:02,577 You're trying to protect him. Right, yeah. 131 00:20:02,660 --> 00:20:08,083 He decided that he wanted us to go out with his mum 132 00:20:08,166 --> 00:20:10,335 and tell her the entire story. 133 00:20:11,461 --> 00:20:14,381 Everything that came out was ugly. 134 00:20:15,507 --> 00:20:17,217 That's what he asked me to do. 135 00:20:18,259 --> 00:20:21,680 She stayed nonbiased which was good. 136 00:20:21,763 --> 00:20:25,308 Yeah because she didn't have to because that's her son. 137 00:20:25,392 --> 00:20:31,648 Pedro reiterated to me that he still wants the separation 138 00:20:31,731 --> 00:20:33,358 and so I got up and I left. 139 00:20:36,236 --> 00:20:39,280 He's not even sleeping in the same bed with me. 140 00:20:39,364 --> 00:20:40,448 he doesn't want to talk. 141 00:20:40,532 --> 00:20:42,784 He doesn't want to work on anything right now. 142 00:20:44,494 --> 00:20:46,746 He doesn't want to see me at all. 143 00:20:47,247 --> 00:20:49,124 He doesn't like he told me he doesn't like it 144 00:20:49,207 --> 00:20:52,043 when I wait up at night for him and sit on the couch 145 00:20:52,127 --> 00:20:55,380 even if all I say is "how was your day?" 146 00:20:56,172 --> 00:20:57,757 If he needs to be alone 147 00:20:57,841 --> 00:20:59,676 then maybe that's what you need to do 148 00:20:59,759 --> 00:21:01,678 and you just need to give him his space. 149 00:21:01,761 --> 00:21:04,806 You're going to end up driving him away 150 00:21:04,889 --> 00:21:09,394 because you're wanting the old relationship 151 00:21:09,477 --> 00:21:11,479 and the old things that he used to do 152 00:21:11,563 --> 00:21:13,189 and he just doesn't have it in him. 153 00:21:16,735 --> 00:21:19,821 It has been hard for me 154 00:21:19,904 --> 00:21:25,452 and I have been unsuccessful in giving Pedro any sort of space 155 00:21:25,535 --> 00:21:29,497 like he wants although he has moved into the other bedroom 156 00:21:29,581 --> 00:21:31,916 I will be crying at his door at night 157 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:37,839 and begging for a relationship and he is not responsive to that. 158 00:21:37,922 --> 00:21:43,928 In fact I do believe it probably has done harm to our relationship. 159 00:21:44,012 --> 00:21:47,515 I really feel desperate. 160 00:21:49,309 --> 00:21:53,188 I can't give him the space because of the unknown. 161 00:21:53,271 --> 00:21:56,608 Is the space going to last three weeks 162 00:21:56,691 --> 00:21:58,693 or is it going to last three months 163 00:21:58,777 --> 00:22:01,321 or is it going to last a whole year or more? 164 00:22:01,404 --> 00:22:02,697 What is the end goal? 165 00:22:02,781 --> 00:22:07,369 Are you thinking that you want space to prepare for divorce 166 00:22:07,452 --> 00:22:09,454 or do you think that you want the space 167 00:22:09,537 --> 00:22:13,333 to clear your head to come back together? 168 00:22:13,416 --> 00:22:14,876 What do you want? 169 00:22:14,959 --> 00:22:16,378 I want my husband. 170 00:22:17,545 --> 00:22:19,381 Yeah. 171 00:22:19,464 --> 00:22:21,925 I know... I want to wake up one day 172 00:22:22,008 --> 00:22:24,552 and for this all to be a terrible dream. 173 00:22:27,806 --> 00:22:29,933 I want to go to sleep 174 00:22:30,016 --> 00:22:33,520 and I want for my husband to walk inside... 175 00:22:35,647 --> 00:22:37,482 ..and kiss me on the cheek. 176 00:22:40,068 --> 00:22:41,611 I can't. 177 00:22:48,076 --> 00:22:50,328 I put on a really good front in front of her 178 00:22:50,412 --> 00:22:54,791 but I'm heartbroken that she is continually crying. 179 00:22:54,874 --> 00:22:58,753 I don't know what we'll do if this marriage doesn't work. 180 00:22:58,837 --> 00:23:01,589 I think it will work. It has to work. 181 00:23:02,424 --> 00:23:05,301 He doesn't care about the work that I put in anymore 182 00:23:05,385 --> 00:23:08,596 like he doesn't care about my tears. 183 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:10,557 Stop showing them to him. 184 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:12,642 Because at this point he doesn't deserve them. 185 00:23:12,726 --> 00:23:16,062 You need to gather yourself and wait till you can have communication 186 00:23:16,146 --> 00:23:17,522 without the tears. 187 00:23:17,605 --> 00:23:19,649 It's hard to be in my room... I know. 188 00:23:19,733 --> 00:23:22,360 So why don't you move in one of the guest rooms? 189 00:23:22,444 --> 00:23:24,154 You've got to recognise those triggers. 190 00:23:24,237 --> 00:23:25,613 That might be a good idea actually. 191 00:23:25,697 --> 00:23:30,577 You've got to sit here and say OK if I can't sleep in our bed 192 00:23:30,660 --> 00:23:31,995 then I'm going to go to another bed. 193 00:23:32,078 --> 00:23:33,830 I want my husband. 194 00:23:33,913 --> 00:23:37,584 I want my marriage and I feel like I will do anything for it. 195 00:23:37,667 --> 00:23:39,169 Yeah. I know. 196 00:23:43,298 --> 00:23:43,558 2 00:23:39.160 -- 00:23:41.520 align:middle line:90% position:50% Hi. Hi. Attorney Hinkson. 197 00:24:42,315 --> 00:24:43,692 Nice to meet you. 198 00:24:43,775 --> 00:24:45,193 Nice to meet you. You can have a seat. 199 00:24:45,276 --> 00:24:46,319 Yes. 200 00:25:06,339 --> 00:25:08,133 So OK... 201 00:25:08,216 --> 00:25:12,971 you guys got married in March of 2016 is that correct? 202 00:25:13,054 --> 00:25:15,223 Yes. With a K-1 Visa is that correct? 203 00:25:16,641 --> 00:25:19,769 And then after you got married when did you get your Green Card? 204 00:25:21,980 --> 00:25:23,231 Six months OK. 205 00:25:24,149 --> 00:25:27,902 Do you recall if your wife filed what's called an affidavit 206 00:25:27,986 --> 00:25:29,070 of support? 207 00:25:29,821 --> 00:25:33,241 OK. Divorce does not change the financial obligation. 208 00:25:38,163 --> 00:25:42,125 Yes until either ten years as far as your work history 209 00:25:42,208 --> 00:25:44,419 or until you become a US citizen. 210 00:25:53,136 --> 00:25:56,973 OK you never technically speaking leave a marriage with nothing 211 00:25:57,057 --> 00:26:00,852 which again is another you know false factor that people have 212 00:26:00,935 --> 00:26:03,438 when they don't believe that they're citizens that matters. 213 00:26:03,521 --> 00:26:06,107 It does in regards to the way of a divorce. 214 00:26:07,567 --> 00:26:09,861 My initial thoughts in regards to Pedro's case 215 00:26:09,944 --> 00:26:12,614 is that he's entitled to certain things 216 00:26:12,697 --> 00:26:15,492 regardless of your immigration status. 217 00:26:15,575 --> 00:26:17,827 It's unfortunate that when you come over here 218 00:26:17,911 --> 00:26:19,579 that a lot of people think that you're doing it 219 00:26:19,662 --> 00:26:21,247 with ill intentions. 220 00:26:21,331 --> 00:26:23,208 I think that knowing your rights, 221 00:26:23,291 --> 00:26:26,586 him understanding what he can and can't get is important. 222 00:26:26,670 --> 00:26:29,964 Now is it your desire to move forward at any point 223 00:26:30,048 --> 00:26:31,675 with US citizenship? Yes. 224 00:26:31,758 --> 00:26:34,844 OK. Have you and your wife started that process? 225 00:26:36,096 --> 00:26:38,723 OK once you've been in the United States for five years 226 00:26:38,807 --> 00:26:40,100 whether you're married or not 227 00:26:40,183 --> 00:26:42,394 you could still file for citizenship. 228 00:26:44,646 --> 00:26:45,689 OK. 229 00:26:53,947 --> 00:26:56,282 Who her family says that all the time about you? 230 00:26:56,366 --> 00:26:57,409 Yeah. OK. 231 00:27:00,620 --> 00:27:04,874 So no because at this point you're at the five-year mark. 232 00:27:04,958 --> 00:27:07,085 The longer that you are here, 233 00:27:07,168 --> 00:27:10,255 not only for immigration purposes shows your dedication 234 00:27:10,338 --> 00:27:12,632 but I mean I would hope that it would have shown dedication 235 00:27:12,716 --> 00:27:16,094 to her family as far as you're in this for the right reasons. 236 00:27:55,175 --> 00:27:56,426 There's two types of divorces, 237 00:27:56,509 --> 00:27:59,095 there's what we call uncontested and contested. 238 00:27:59,763 --> 00:28:04,309 Uncontested matters from our firm starts at five thousand dollars. 239 00:28:04,392 --> 00:28:08,897 Contested matters at my law firm starts at ten thousand dollars OK? 240 00:28:11,066 --> 00:28:13,568 A retainer, an initial retainer? 241 00:28:13,651 --> 00:28:16,237 That's what the initial retainer is. 242 00:28:18,198 --> 00:28:20,450 Yes ten thousand dollars. 243 00:28:23,411 --> 00:28:25,538 Divorces are like a death, right? 244 00:28:25,622 --> 00:28:29,834 It is essentially the end of what you thought your future 245 00:28:29,918 --> 00:28:31,002 was going to be. 246 00:28:33,755 --> 00:28:36,633 So people say all the time you can file this 247 00:28:36,716 --> 00:28:38,385 and you know I'm not going to divorce you. 248 00:28:38,468 --> 00:28:40,053 We're going to, you know, I'm going to stay, 249 00:28:40,136 --> 00:28:42,180 we're going to stay married forever that's not the case. 250 00:28:42,263 --> 00:28:45,392 Once you file a divorce and that person is served, 251 00:28:45,475 --> 00:28:48,186 you have 30 days to respond. 252 00:28:48,269 --> 00:28:51,147 If you do not respond within 30 days 253 00:28:51,231 --> 00:28:52,982 then we could then go to the court 254 00:28:53,066 --> 00:28:55,318 and say this person didn't respond 255 00:28:55,402 --> 00:28:58,154 we want to proceed with the divorce and it still happens. 256 00:29:32,647 --> 00:29:33,690 It's not easy 257 00:29:33,773 --> 00:29:36,526 but you have to make a determination on what's important to you. 258 00:29:48,246 --> 00:29:50,707 Your mother wants to leave this up against the wall. 259 00:29:50,790 --> 00:29:52,334 Be careful with that. 260 00:29:52,417 --> 00:29:55,503 Hey don't try to show off River. Don't try to show off. 261 00:29:55,587 --> 00:29:57,714 Chop chop we're wasting time. 262 00:29:58,381 --> 00:30:02,052 I went ahead and I got the baby grand piano. 263 00:30:02,135 --> 00:30:04,971 It's finally here. This is my big day. 264 00:30:05,055 --> 00:30:07,015 My big day. Yes. 265 00:30:07,098 --> 00:30:10,727 And I can't wait to get that baby in this house. 266 00:30:10,810 --> 00:30:14,606 River's come down to help me and help with the delivery. 267 00:30:14,689 --> 00:30:16,191 I'm so excited. 268 00:30:19,486 --> 00:30:22,489 Oh that's a big piano right there. Yeah. 269 00:30:22,572 --> 00:30:24,616 This is a bad mama jama. 270 00:30:25,950 --> 00:30:29,245 We do have a musical family and our kids love music. 271 00:30:29,329 --> 00:30:33,124 River is the lyricist and Royal... He can play yes. 272 00:30:33,208 --> 00:30:35,418 ..he plays every instrument on the planet. 273 00:30:35,502 --> 00:30:38,004 Winter sings but she also plays the flute. 274 00:30:38,088 --> 00:30:40,590 Yes. And Chantel played viola. 275 00:30:40,674 --> 00:30:41,716 The viola yes. 276 00:30:42,634 --> 00:30:45,220 Let me see what's going on here. 277 00:30:45,303 --> 00:30:48,056 There so what dad and I we're the first ones 278 00:30:48,139 --> 00:30:49,683 to know about this piano? 279 00:30:49,766 --> 00:30:52,227 Chantel actually knew about the piano. 280 00:30:52,310 --> 00:30:55,855 I took her to the antique shop to kind of cheer her up. 281 00:30:55,939 --> 00:30:59,609 You know she and Pedro they're having some issues. 282 00:31:00,735 --> 00:31:03,697 Chantel and Pedro are definitely on our minds 283 00:31:03,780 --> 00:31:05,865 since she's back from the DR. 284 00:31:05,949 --> 00:31:07,701 The last thing she said to me 285 00:31:07,784 --> 00:31:11,287 was that she and Pedro are about to separate 286 00:31:11,371 --> 00:31:13,832 and I haven't heard anything else from her 287 00:31:13,915 --> 00:31:16,543 but I was shocked to hear that. 288 00:31:17,335 --> 00:31:19,004 They didn't go to a marriage retreat. 289 00:31:19,087 --> 00:31:20,130 Where'd they go then? 290 00:31:20,213 --> 00:31:22,716 Your sister she went to the Dominican Republic 291 00:31:22,799 --> 00:31:25,427 to get advice from Pedro's mother. 292 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,431 Pedro, he's talking about separating. 293 00:31:29,514 --> 00:31:30,557 That's crazy. 294 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:35,854 Well Chantel said that's what he said because I need to grow. 295 00:31:35,937 --> 00:31:39,107 Well I think Chantel needs to just go her separate way 296 00:31:39,190 --> 00:31:42,569 if he's talking about he wants to separate let the man go. 297 00:31:42,652 --> 00:31:45,989 If somebody wants to leave you they have already left. 298 00:31:46,072 --> 00:31:47,824 That's how I feel about the situation. 299 00:31:47,907 --> 00:31:49,325 If he's saying he wants to separate 300 00:31:49,409 --> 00:31:51,911 and he wants to get his own apartment, let him go. 301 00:31:51,995 --> 00:31:53,580 You shouldn't want to be with somebody 302 00:31:53,663 --> 00:31:55,373 that's always one foot out the door with you. 303 00:31:55,457 --> 00:31:56,499 That's the truth. 304 00:31:56,583 --> 00:31:58,209 Now you should never want to be with somebody 305 00:31:58,293 --> 00:31:59,669 that always has one foot out the door 306 00:31:59,753 --> 00:32:01,129 because they have their problems 307 00:32:01,212 --> 00:32:04,632 and you know it's like something that could be fixed 308 00:32:04,716 --> 00:32:06,843 it would be fixed. There'll be effort. 309 00:32:06,926 --> 00:32:10,096 There'll be effort from both sides trying to fix trying to compromise 310 00:32:10,180 --> 00:32:12,223 but if somebody just saying they want to you know, 311 00:32:12,307 --> 00:32:14,434 get their own apartment especially if you've been married 312 00:32:14,517 --> 00:32:16,227 five years, six years, 313 00:32:16,311 --> 00:32:19,773 now that's I don't know that's shocking to me. 314 00:32:19,856 --> 00:32:23,526 I believe that Chantel might be embarrassed 315 00:32:23,610 --> 00:32:26,154 that's the reason why she wouldn't talk to us 316 00:32:26,237 --> 00:32:29,032 because we kind of told her to take things slow 317 00:32:29,115 --> 00:32:31,743 and it seemed like things are coming in fruition 318 00:32:31,826 --> 00:32:33,536 that we spoke about earlier. 319 00:32:34,329 --> 00:32:37,123 I'm going to tell you why Chantel didn't tell us, 320 00:32:37,207 --> 00:32:39,167 because she doesn't want to separate 321 00:32:39,250 --> 00:32:41,878 so she's going to try to talk to people that can help 322 00:32:41,961 --> 00:32:44,047 and I feel like in her mind she's like, 323 00:32:44,130 --> 00:32:48,093 "Oh they probably want Pedro to stay in the marriage 324 00:32:48,176 --> 00:32:50,887 "because he, we send him back there 325 00:32:50,970 --> 00:32:52,806 "he's not going to be able to sending money around 326 00:32:52,889 --> 00:32:54,849 "like he is", you know, so he probably went there to... 327 00:32:54,933 --> 00:32:57,268 No, no, no the sister always said, 328 00:32:57,352 --> 00:33:01,564 the sister always said "divorce, divorce". 329 00:33:01,648 --> 00:33:02,899 That's what she always said. 330 00:33:02,982 --> 00:33:05,110 If he wants to separate because he was here for a Green Card 331 00:33:05,193 --> 00:33:07,529 we all said it. 332 00:33:08,071 --> 00:33:09,155 From the start. 333 00:33:09,239 --> 00:33:10,782 It wasn't about being here with Chantel. 334 00:33:10,865 --> 00:33:12,075 He just wanted to be here. 335 00:33:12,992 --> 00:33:15,662 I have not talked to Chantel since the night she came to my house 336 00:33:15,745 --> 00:33:18,665 and I haven't talked to Pedro in a long time. 337 00:33:19,165 --> 00:33:21,292 For a second I thought that things was alright. 338 00:33:21,376 --> 00:33:23,294 I thought he was a cool guy for a second. 339 00:33:23,378 --> 00:33:26,673 But now they I'm hearing all this stuff it's like hold on now. 340 00:33:26,756 --> 00:33:29,467 Pedro's who I thought he was all along. 341 00:33:29,551 --> 00:33:31,386 You know if you're dealing with somebody 342 00:33:31,469 --> 00:33:34,222 that doesn't want to be with you you need to just cut ties. 343 00:33:34,305 --> 00:33:37,934 I don't want anybody have to... Be used and... 344 00:33:38,018 --> 00:33:39,060 ..be used and abused. 345 00:33:39,144 --> 00:33:42,230 For someone to try to destroy a person 346 00:33:42,313 --> 00:33:45,108 that risked everything to help them 347 00:33:45,191 --> 00:33:51,740 then that same person that you love and that you clung to and helped... 348 00:33:51,823 --> 00:33:52,866 Right. 349 00:33:52,949 --> 00:33:54,409 ..and had their back for over six years 350 00:33:54,492 --> 00:33:59,998 turns on that person and tries to completely annihilate them 351 00:34:00,081 --> 00:34:01,916 that is... That's messed up. 352 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,126 ..jacked up. 353 00:34:03,835 --> 00:34:08,131 This would be very upsetting and very crazy 354 00:34:08,214 --> 00:34:13,887 if Pedro is using Chantel and the plan has worked. 355 00:34:13,970 --> 00:34:18,016 That means the wool has been pulled over everybody's eyes. 356 00:34:22,479 --> 00:34:22,739 2 00:33:46.760 -- 00:33:47.760 align:middle line:75% position:50% (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 357 00:38:26,097 --> 00:38:27,140 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 358 00:39:32,288 --> 00:39:33,623 Hey. 359 00:39:34,708 --> 00:39:35,750 How was work? 360 00:40:55,622 --> 00:40:57,665 I know I haven't respected your space. 361 00:41:55,557 --> 00:41:58,977 Pedro, he can't even look straight in my eyes 362 00:41:59,060 --> 00:42:01,021 and he tells me that he wants a divorce. 363 00:42:03,690 --> 00:42:06,192 I wonder what that is about a person 364 00:42:06,276 --> 00:42:08,903 when they can't look you straight in the eyes. 365 00:42:10,321 --> 00:42:11,656 I wonder what that is. 366 00:42:12,824 --> 00:42:15,618 Why? Are you guilty of something? 367 00:42:20,915 --> 00:42:23,918 I didn't expect for you to say that you wanted a divorce from me. 368 00:42:26,212 --> 00:42:30,550 I really just wanted to know if you valued this marriage 369 00:42:30,633 --> 00:42:33,803 and were willing to work on it and the answer's no. 370 00:42:33,887 --> 00:42:36,348 So there's nothing more we need to discuss. 371 00:43:27,357 --> 00:43:30,068 I cannot think of anything I have done 372 00:43:30,151 --> 00:43:33,446 that warrants having Pedro ask me for a divorce. 373 00:43:34,698 --> 00:43:36,908 We just started the separation. 374 00:43:36,991 --> 00:43:39,619 I'm starting to believe that he's just wanted to be single 375 00:43:39,703 --> 00:43:42,956 this whole time and hasn't had the guts to tell me. 376 00:44:01,725 --> 00:44:03,351 What more could I do? 377 00:44:04,436 --> 00:44:06,604 I've given you honesty. I've given you trust. 378 00:44:06,688 --> 00:44:08,606 I've given my whole self to you. 379 00:44:08,690 --> 00:44:11,526 I brought you here when everybody else told me 380 00:44:11,609 --> 00:44:12,736 you were scamming me 381 00:44:12,819 --> 00:44:15,822 I didn't listen to them and I trusted in you. 382 00:44:16,656 --> 00:44:17,991 I trusted him. 383 00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,787 I trusted my husband 384 00:44:22,871 --> 00:44:26,499 because he told me that he would not leave me. 385 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:28,752 He told me that. 386 00:44:28,835 --> 00:44:30,337 He told me that. 387 00:44:31,129 --> 00:44:33,089 He told me he would never do that. 388 00:44:35,675 --> 00:44:39,429 That's what he said and I believed it 389 00:44:39,512 --> 00:44:43,808 and all the while like I'm just confused. 390 00:45:00,158 --> 00:45:01,868 I really can't believe this. 391 00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,708 I just want to hurt you back because I feel hurt by you. 392 00:45:10,377 --> 00:45:14,214 He told me he wanted a divorce 393 00:45:14,297 --> 00:45:16,675 and then he just woke me up 394 00:45:16,758 --> 00:45:18,134 and there was a truck outside 395 00:45:18,218 --> 00:45:20,220 and he said he's moving into his apartment. 396 00:45:20,303 --> 00:45:21,471 Wow. What? 397 00:45:21,554 --> 00:45:23,014 That's cruel. 398 00:45:23,098 --> 00:45:27,060 Chantel needs to protect herself and her interests. 399 00:45:27,143 --> 00:45:30,021 I really wouldn't have wanted to really be Pedro right now. 400 00:45:30,105 --> 00:45:34,192 Foul things have a way of coming full circle. 401 00:45:35,777 --> 00:45:37,612 Chantel? 402 00:45:45,578 --> 00:45:46,746 Chantel? 403 00:45:47,539 --> 00:45:48,581 (SPEAKING IN SPANISH) 404 00:45:57,298 --> 00:46:00,135 It is my time to take care of myself. 405 00:46:00,218 --> 00:46:03,596 This is the last thing that I can do for me. 406 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,765 Captioned by Ai-Media ai-media.tv