1 00:00:05,905 --> 00:00:08,375         (birds chirping)         2 00:00:08,441 --> 00:00:10,410              - Ugh!              3 00:00:11,378 --> 00:00:15,248   Morris, for your information,           Snoozy's mine!          4 00:00:15,315 --> 00:00:18,551      You're being a burglar.               Say burglar.           5 00:00:18,618 --> 00:00:21,521     - Viv, Mommy gave Snoozy           to Morris to help him      6 00:00:21,588 --> 00:00:22,722  get excited for potty training. 7 00:00:22,789 --> 00:00:24,491         - Why do you call                 yourself Mommy?         8 00:00:24,557 --> 00:00:26,893        - I... don't know.        9 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:28,161     Did you brush your teeth?                  - No.              10 00:00:28,228 --> 00:00:29,429         - Go on, I asked                 you three times.         11 00:00:29,496 --> 00:00:31,097              - Ugh!              (music plays through headphones) 12 00:00:31,164 --> 00:00:33,633      - Oh, well, well, well,             if it isn't Mr.--        13 00:00:33,700 --> 00:00:35,535       - Can I have coffee?                - Scruffy head.         14 00:00:35,602 --> 00:00:36,803        Ah! Blew my timing.       15 00:00:36,870 --> 00:00:38,438        It was not my best.            - What are you saying?      16 00:00:38,505 --> 00:00:40,306   - Felix, go brush your hair.         It looks like you got      17 00:00:40,373 --> 00:00:41,808         a scalp massage.                - I can't hear you.       18 00:00:41,875 --> 00:00:43,943     - Remove the headphones.     - Dude, take the headphones off. 19 00:00:44,010 --> 00:00:45,245           (music stops)          20 00:00:45,311 --> 00:00:48,415  - Okay, I'm going upstairs now. 21 00:00:48,915 --> 00:00:50,483         - He really needs             to work on his sarcasm.     22 00:00:50,550 --> 00:00:51,618     - I mean, what was that?     23 00:00:51,684 --> 00:00:53,386        (Astrid): A big part                 of parenting          24 00:00:53,453 --> 00:00:54,788         is second-guessing                your parenting.         25 00:00:54,854 --> 00:00:56,322        (James): In avoiding           your parents' mistakes,     26 00:00:56,389 --> 00:00:58,458   sometimes the pendulum swings        too far the other way.     27 00:00:58,525 --> 00:01:00,026          (Astrid): Right.            My parents were hands off,   28 00:01:00,093 --> 00:01:01,561        but maybe I've been                too smothering?         29 00:01:01,628 --> 00:01:03,329    (James): Mm-hmm, my parents            were too strict.        30 00:01:03,396 --> 00:01:05,131         And I let the kids            call me "stinky daddy".     31 00:01:05,198 --> 00:01:08,101    (Astrid): Oh, I came up with    stinky daddy, so uh, that's on                me.               32 00:01:08,168 --> 00:01:11,104     I'm not loving this tween           attitude on Felix.        33 00:01:11,171 --> 00:01:13,173   I mean, I'm all for rejecting      authority, just not mine.    34 00:01:13,239 --> 00:01:15,241       - Yeah. Viv's seeing                a psychologist,         35 00:01:15,308 --> 00:01:16,776  Morris won't poop in a bucket.  36 00:01:16,843 --> 00:01:18,945    Are we screwing things up?               - What? No!           37 00:01:19,012 --> 00:01:21,514           We got this.                  We're good parents.       38 00:01:21,581 --> 00:01:22,849              - Hmm.                       (Morris growls)         39 00:01:22,916 --> 00:01:25,051        - Guys, Morris has               an egg and a knife.       40 00:01:26,886 --> 00:01:28,354    - How did he get the knife?   41 00:01:28,421 --> 00:01:29,789  I thought we were out of eggs.          (Morris squeals)         42 00:01:29,856 --> 00:01:31,724    - Come here, come here. Oh!         - Morris, come here!       43 00:01:31,791 --> 00:01:33,193 James, the knife, get the knife. 44 00:01:33,259 --> 00:01:34,828     - Okay, you get the egg.     45 00:01:36,029 --> 00:01:36,930         (Morris babbles)         46 00:01:36,996 --> 00:01:38,498      Did you get to fill out     47 00:01:38,565 --> 00:01:40,533     Viv's ADHD questionnaire          for her session today?      48 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,502               - No.                    I haven't started it.      49 00:01:42,569 --> 00:01:43,670     But there's-there's time.    50 00:01:43,736 --> 00:01:45,305       - The ADHD assessment                is a complex           51 00:01:45,371 --> 00:01:47,540       and involved process             that really wants us       52 00:01:47,607 --> 00:01:49,175         to fill out like,            a lot of little circles.     53 00:01:49,242 --> 00:01:51,211     - Viv is six. I asked her        how she's feeling today,     54 00:01:51,277 --> 00:01:53,880       she said, "Unicorn".              What answers is she              telling the doctor?       55 00:01:53,947 --> 00:01:56,249    - Well, Shauna would know.          She's a professional                 psychologist.          56 00:01:56,316 --> 00:01:57,517        I'm sure she knows                what Viv means...        57 00:01:57,584 --> 00:01:58,718             - Shauna.               - ...when she says unicorn.   58 00:01:58,785 --> 00:02:00,253           - Oh, Shauna.                 - It's just a name.       59 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:02,222   - I mean, she overpronounces              her words.            60 00:02:02,288 --> 00:02:04,057      Thinking-G, feeling-G.      61 00:02:04,124 --> 00:02:06,059       I don't need to hear               the "G" in "ing".        62 00:02:06,126 --> 00:02:07,660              - Okay.                  - Thank you. All right.     63 00:02:07,727 --> 00:02:09,629  - "Forgets what they're doing,   never, rarely, often, always."  64 00:02:09,696 --> 00:02:11,197   - I mean, who doesn't forget          what they're doing?       65 00:02:11,264 --> 00:02:12,665      I forget what I'm doing         in the shower sometimes.     66 00:02:12,732 --> 00:02:14,067    - You're probably avoiding              the children.          67 00:02:14,134 --> 00:02:16,469       But Viv forgets what              she's doing often.        68 00:02:16,536 --> 00:02:18,571   - See, I would say sometimes.             This is it.           69 00:02:18,638 --> 00:02:20,807      How is a questionnaire              gonna assess Viv?        70 00:02:20,874 --> 00:02:22,175  We're giving different answers. 71 00:02:22,242 --> 00:02:24,277      Now, I have been doing                some reading           72 00:02:24,344 --> 00:02:26,746    about child behaviour and--          - What, wait, when?       73 00:02:26,813 --> 00:02:29,949    - Okay. I've been following   parenting accounts on Instagram. 74 00:02:30,016 --> 00:02:32,352        - I love Instagram.        So many good TikToks on there.  75 00:02:32,418 --> 00:02:33,820         - Viv has trouble                with transitions,        76 00:02:33,887 --> 00:02:35,822    so why don't we support her        by giving her a simple      77 00:02:35,889 --> 00:02:37,190           heads up when               a transition's coming?      78 00:02:37,257 --> 00:02:39,259        Viv, we're leaving                in five minutes!         79 00:02:39,325 --> 00:02:41,361          - I can't find                 my colouring book!        80 00:02:41,427 --> 00:02:44,330       - Why don't you stop            looking for it in two?      81 00:02:45,298 --> 00:02:46,900     - What was I looking for?    82 00:02:46,966 --> 00:02:48,868         - Okay, go ahead,            put me down for an often.    83 00:02:48,935 --> 00:02:50,737       - Yeah, I'm gonna go              ahead and do that.        84 00:02:50,803 --> 00:02:52,405          (curious music)         85 00:02:55,308 --> 00:02:57,110     - You wanna show me your          drawings while we wait?     86 00:02:57,177 --> 00:02:59,479          - No. Why do we                 keep coming here?        87 00:02:59,546 --> 00:03:01,948         - Well, sweetie,              Shauna is like a doctor     88 00:03:02,015 --> 00:03:03,950       but for your thoughts                and feelings.          89 00:03:04,017 --> 00:03:07,520     So, this is just a normal      checkup, but for your brain.   90 00:03:07,587 --> 00:03:09,422     - When can we get a dog?     91 00:03:09,489 --> 00:03:11,424        - Okay, you're not                 even listening.         92 00:03:11,491 --> 00:03:12,959             - Shauna!            93 00:03:13,026 --> 00:03:14,827        I did the drawings                I told you about.        94 00:03:14,894 --> 00:03:17,530           - Exciting-G!           While I was waiting-G for you,  95 00:03:17,597 --> 00:03:20,466      I got your cocoa, Viv.          - Sorry we're late again.    96 00:03:20,533 --> 00:03:21,801        Traffic was stupid.       97 00:03:21,868 --> 00:03:24,370      - Ugh, Toronto traffic               is maddening-G.         98 00:03:25,004 --> 00:03:28,975    - Yeah. Hey um, can I talk          to you for a moment?       99 00:03:29,042 --> 00:03:32,946    Uh, so I was just wondering     how the evaluation was going?  100 00:03:33,012 --> 00:03:34,447       You know, Viv doesn't            really tell us much.       101 00:03:34,514 --> 00:03:36,316        What she does share             is sometimes made up,      102 00:03:36,382 --> 00:03:40,720    you know, she's invisible,         or she's the president           of the driveway, or...      103 00:03:40,787 --> 00:03:44,290 I'm wondering is the information     you're getting reliable?     104 00:03:44,357 --> 00:03:50,597   - I am getting-G information        from a lot of sources,              including-G, you.        105 00:03:50,663 --> 00:03:52,532        Have you done your                 questionnaires?         106 00:03:52,599 --> 00:03:54,901      - Yeah, I finished 'em.         Sorry they took so long.     107 00:03:54,968 --> 00:03:56,603               - Oh!                        - They are...          108 00:03:56,669 --> 00:03:58,504              - Okay.                     - Sorry, that one                has coffee on it.        109 00:03:58,571 --> 00:04:00,740            And butter.                    Can I just ask,         110 00:04:00,807 --> 00:04:06,579    how do you know what's ADHD     and what's just like, a kid?   111 00:04:06,646 --> 00:04:09,215        - I promise, I know               what I'm doing-G.        112 00:04:09,282 --> 00:04:11,417          (Astrid sighs)          113 00:04:12,852 --> 00:04:14,520          - Oh, so close!         114 00:04:14,587 --> 00:04:16,289            - So close.               Can that be the last one?    115 00:04:16,356 --> 00:04:17,857    - Go for the Kawhi bounce.             Check this out.         116 00:04:17,924 --> 00:04:19,993        Is this the dagger?                (James groans)          117 00:04:20,059 --> 00:04:21,594       Hey, how come you're               so boring today?         118 00:04:21,661 --> 00:04:23,896  - I'm just trying to figure out what these Gero benefits get me. 119 00:04:23,963 --> 00:04:25,765   - I'll tell you what they do      not cover is electrolysis.    120 00:04:25,832 --> 00:04:29,235      And electrolysis is not          what I thought it was.      121 00:04:29,302 --> 00:04:31,871  - We think Viv might have ADHD.             Or I do.             122 00:04:31,938 --> 00:04:33,506      Astrid thinks she's too          young to be diagnosed.      123 00:04:33,573 --> 00:04:35,742        - When I was a kid,          I was diagnosed as gifted.    124 00:04:35,808 --> 00:04:37,477               - Oh.                         - I wasn't.           125 00:04:37,543 --> 00:04:39,045          - Oh no? You...              - The real gifted kids      126 00:04:39,112 --> 00:04:41,214      would bully me in Latin.            It was no bueno .        127 00:04:41,281 --> 00:04:43,182  Really did a number on my head.         Just be careful.         128 00:04:43,249 --> 00:04:44,417    - The building is on fire!    129 00:04:44,484 --> 00:04:46,419        - 'K, so we should                leave then, yeah?        130 00:04:46,486 --> 00:04:49,822     - Not literally on fire.        But the flames of progress             will scorch us.         131 00:04:49,889 --> 00:04:51,691         You know Yennefer                from The Witcher?        132 00:04:51,758 --> 00:04:54,294          - I... do not.          133 00:04:54,861 --> 00:04:56,596       - That kind of fire.       134 00:04:58,464 --> 00:05:00,033       - 'K, well, speaking               of being burned,         135 00:05:00,099 --> 00:05:02,268     I'm trying to figure out          these Gero benefits and             I was wondering--        136 00:05:02,335 --> 00:05:04,637     - This is no time to book         a foot massage, James.      137 00:05:04,704 --> 00:05:06,873   Mr. Gero has hired Fintekoaly  138 00:05:06,939 --> 00:05:08,841       to automate checkouts            at Gero's Groceries.       139 00:05:08,908 --> 00:05:11,577         We could be next.              - What is Fintekoaly?      140 00:05:11,644 --> 00:05:13,112     - They're a tech company               from Finland.          141 00:05:13,179 --> 00:05:14,681          (clicks tongue)             - Okay, that checks out.     142 00:05:14,747 --> 00:05:17,784   - Gero's wants to replace us            with software.          143 00:05:17,850 --> 00:05:19,452           We will fight                the rise of machines.      144 00:05:19,519 --> 00:05:21,854   We'll eat at our desks, work     through breaks, wear diapers.  145 00:05:21,921 --> 00:05:23,656               - Oh.                   - We are gonna outsmart     146 00:05:23,723 --> 00:05:25,491  their artificial intelligence.  147 00:05:25,558 --> 00:05:27,126       (footsteps thud away)      148 00:05:27,727 --> 00:05:29,896       (hands clap sharply)              Get to work, Beth!        149 00:05:29,962 --> 00:05:31,431              - Oof.                     - Starting to feel        150 00:05:31,497 --> 00:05:33,166    a lot like my gifted days.    151 00:05:33,700 --> 00:05:36,502     - How many days was that?              - Like, four.          152 00:05:36,569 --> 00:05:37,904          (curious music)         153 00:05:40,573 --> 00:05:41,941          - Man jugglers.         154 00:05:42,008 --> 00:05:44,177   Okay, like some jugglers are     impressive because of danger,  155 00:05:44,243 --> 00:05:45,878    like they're juggling axes                or fire.             156 00:05:45,945 --> 00:05:48,114  Oh, uh, you don't have to take     notes for this, by the way.   157 00:05:48,181 --> 00:05:49,982          - Oh, I'm not.                 I stopped listening       158 00:05:50,049 --> 00:05:52,085  after you said street magicians          are important.          159 00:05:52,151 --> 00:05:54,454     Just trying to discredit         all of child psychology.     160 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,189        - Is this for work?                   - Uh, no.            161 00:05:56,255 --> 00:05:57,990    I'll finish my work later,            after I start it.        162 00:05:58,057 --> 00:06:00,526    I'm trying to find if this       doctor has any bad reviews,   163 00:06:00,593 --> 00:06:03,329      or pharmaceutical ties,        or recorded Karen moments.    164 00:06:03,396 --> 00:06:04,764       - I've got an update.      165 00:06:04,831 --> 00:06:09,435  I have an address, tax records,   and I'm her LinkedIn friend.   166 00:06:09,502 --> 00:06:11,504        I'm really starting           to understand this woman.    167 00:06:11,571 --> 00:06:14,040   - Okay, I'm looking for some   dirt, not to steal her identity. 168 00:06:14,107 --> 00:06:15,675       - Oh, she's so good.              You'd be surprised        169 00:06:15,742 --> 00:06:17,143          how many times                 she's catfished me.       170 00:06:17,210 --> 00:06:19,045            - Is it 15?                      - It's 15!            171 00:06:19,112 --> 00:06:21,047      - What have you learned               about Shauna?          172 00:06:21,114 --> 00:06:23,449       Illegitimate degree?               History of fraud?        173 00:06:23,516 --> 00:06:25,118       Is she always wrong?       174 00:06:25,184 --> 00:06:27,787        - She's well liked,          respected, and she donates           to a donkey rescue.       175 00:06:27,854 --> 00:06:29,856               - Aw.                          - I know.            176 00:06:32,225 --> 00:06:36,095     But maybe I can find some          dirt on her Spotify.       177 00:06:36,396 --> 00:06:37,597              - Ooh!              178 00:06:38,464 --> 00:06:40,099        (James): Sometimes,             we need to have like,      179 00:06:40,166 --> 00:06:42,068       a private conversation         in front of our children.    180 00:06:42,135 --> 00:06:44,704       (Astrid): So, we have         to speak in a coded language        we call Parentuguese.      181 00:06:44,771 --> 00:06:47,473      - You guys get it too.           End pieces still avail.     182 00:06:48,274 --> 00:06:51,577         So, I understand             how somebody could think     183 00:06:51,644 --> 00:06:54,514       they have the thing,       but not actually have the thing. 184 00:06:54,580 --> 00:06:56,682           - What thing?            - Felix, finish your dinner.   185 00:06:56,749 --> 00:06:59,519  Viv, come on, sit down, please. Sit down and finish your dinner. 186 00:06:59,585 --> 00:07:01,621        I was also thinking               about the thing.         187 00:07:01,687 --> 00:07:03,723      - Gus' parents let him             drink mochaccinos.        188 00:07:03,790 --> 00:07:04,991         - That's insane.         189 00:07:05,691 --> 00:07:07,193      So, at first I thought                  S was BS,            190 00:07:07,260 --> 00:07:09,629      but I did some digging              and it turns out         191 00:07:09,695 --> 00:07:12,298   that S knows everything there     is to know about the thing.   192 00:07:12,365 --> 00:07:16,402      Now, S does really like        the Red Hot Chili Peppers,    193 00:07:16,469 --> 00:07:19,038          but I'm willing                to let that one go.       194 00:07:19,672 --> 00:07:21,574         - You know, Ennis             thought he had a thing      195 00:07:21,641 --> 00:07:23,276      and he didn't have it.                   - Huh?              196 00:07:23,342 --> 00:07:25,578    - I mean, it's not the same        thing, but like, still.     197 00:07:25,645 --> 00:07:28,114       - Can I get a thing?              - Can it be a dog?        198 00:07:28,181 --> 00:07:29,382     - Viv, back in your seat.    199 00:07:29,449 --> 00:07:31,284    I asked you twice already.                 - Ugh.              200 00:07:31,350 --> 00:07:34,120    - You know, everyone I work   with has some form of the thing. 201 00:07:34,187 --> 00:07:37,657    And they all say that S is      the best thing for the thing.  202 00:07:38,357 --> 00:07:40,660  - Gus says mochaccinos are lit. 203 00:07:40,726 --> 00:07:42,829   - Gus says the cutest things           I've ever heard.         204 00:07:42,895 --> 00:07:44,397            (laughing)                  - Wow, wow, wow, wow.      205 00:07:44,464 --> 00:07:46,332     - Viv, back in your seat.                Sit down.            206 00:07:46,399 --> 00:07:48,568     - Why doesn't Morris have          to sit at the table?       207 00:07:48,634 --> 00:07:50,636      - Well, because Morris             is in a high chair.       208 00:07:50,703 --> 00:07:52,939           - He's gone.                        - What?             209 00:07:55,274 --> 00:07:56,776       - He's got the knife                and egg again.          210 00:07:56,843 --> 00:07:59,111           - What? How?                  Where does he keep                finding the eggs?        211 00:08:04,016 --> 00:08:06,385 - Thank you for being-G on time. 212 00:08:06,452 --> 00:08:08,988     - We are looking forward        to diving in and listening.   213 00:08:09,055 --> 00:08:11,858         And also talking,               where appropriate.        214 00:08:11,924 --> 00:08:14,861   We're-we're great. Thank you        for... You didn't ask.      215 00:08:14,927 --> 00:08:17,196  I-I'm sorry, I'm just a little       nervous because the...      216 00:08:17,263 --> 00:08:19,031      See, my mother left me              when I was young.        217 00:08:19,098 --> 00:08:20,500      - Yeah, ah, ah, ah, ah.     218 00:08:20,566 --> 00:08:22,768         I see you nudging         in your own trauma, Mr. Sneaky. 219 00:08:22,835 --> 00:08:24,670        We're here to talk                about Viv today.         220 00:08:24,737 --> 00:08:26,072       - Yes, you're right.       221 00:08:26,138 --> 00:08:29,242   I'll just stuff that back...        back, back, back down.      222 00:08:29,308 --> 00:08:33,579        - Um, we're really           looking forward to hearing          your expert opinion.       223 00:08:33,646 --> 00:08:38,050  - So, Viv definitely has ADHD.             - Says who?           224 00:08:38,117 --> 00:08:40,453        - My comprehensive              clinical assessment.       225 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:43,222          - Uh, yeah, no,             we're... we're listening.    226 00:08:43,289 --> 00:08:46,893    - Yes. So, she is so bright         and personable, okay?      227 00:08:46,959 --> 00:08:49,428 She is very advanced in reading, 228 00:08:49,495 --> 00:08:51,430       she has great humour                 and empathy.           229 00:08:51,497 --> 00:08:53,900        But as you can see,           here is the typical range    230 00:08:53,966 --> 00:08:56,235      of behaviour for a kid               her age, okay?          231 00:08:56,302 --> 00:09:00,706       And these spikes here        show where she is classically  232 00:09:00,773 --> 00:09:03,209       a clinical ADHD kid.       233 00:09:03,276 --> 00:09:05,778          Difficulty with               executive functions.       234 00:09:05,845 --> 00:09:07,780         I know the charts                can be confusing.        235 00:09:07,847 --> 00:09:10,516      - No, I look at charts         all day, so I, yeah, I see.   236 00:09:10,583 --> 00:09:12,552           (soft music)           237 00:09:12,618 --> 00:09:16,455              - Okay.               So, we'll put her in therapy,  238 00:09:16,522 --> 00:09:19,959 um, once a month or once a week.           - You could.           239 00:09:20,026 --> 00:09:22,728    I don't know how much help        that would be at her age.    240 00:09:22,795 --> 00:09:24,730  I would highly recommend meds.  241 00:09:24,797 --> 00:09:27,700      I think you will notice             a huge difference        242 00:09:27,767 --> 00:09:31,203  once we get the correct dosage.       - I'm sorry, no, no.       243 00:09:31,270 --> 00:09:33,005          Absolutely not.          - Well, we said we would listen 244 00:09:33,072 --> 00:09:34,407      to the expert's advice.     245 00:09:34,473 --> 00:09:36,509        - But this is brain                altering meds.          246 00:09:36,576 --> 00:09:37,577              (sighs)             247 00:09:37,643 --> 00:09:39,845         - Okay, you have                 a tough decision         248 00:09:39,912 --> 00:09:42,715        hanging-G over you,             so let's discuss it.       249 00:09:42,782 --> 00:09:45,284   - Oh, we're gonna discuss it     so you can talk us into drugs  250 00:09:45,351 --> 00:09:47,553     like we're at one of your         Chili Pepper concerts?      251 00:09:47,620 --> 00:09:49,455         I don't think so.                  - All right.           252 00:09:49,522 --> 00:09:52,091       Do you have a method          for making tough decisions?   253 00:09:52,158 --> 00:09:53,593              - Ahem.                      - We tend to do         254 00:09:53,659 --> 00:09:56,462  a little bit of a "rock, paper,      scissors" kinda thing.      255 00:09:58,230 --> 00:09:59,532            That we...                - Which we would never do    256 00:09:59,599 --> 00:10:01,367     in a situation like this.        - No, we would not do...     257 00:10:01,434 --> 00:10:03,135       - Because the stakes              are so much higher.       258 00:10:03,202 --> 00:10:04,503             - Right.             259 00:10:05,438 --> 00:10:07,440          (curious music)         260 00:10:12,178 --> 00:10:13,245           - Here we go.          261 00:10:13,312 --> 00:10:14,647         (both): Pancakes!        262 00:10:14,714 --> 00:10:17,216      - Yes, this is a remix          version of Mommy's famous    263 00:10:17,283 --> 00:10:21,787    buttermilk pancakes with no    sugar, or flour, or buttermilk. 264 00:10:21,854 --> 00:10:24,690              - What?             - Hmm, and what will this solve? 265 00:10:24,757 --> 00:10:26,459         - Well, according                to my research--         266 00:10:26,525 --> 00:10:29,061       - Social media sites?           - Yes, highly reputable               Momfluencers.          267 00:10:29,128 --> 00:10:30,730      - Right, right, right.       - There are certain ingredients 268 00:10:30,796 --> 00:10:32,632    that trigger ADHD symptoms            more than others,        269 00:10:32,698 --> 00:10:35,801      so kids love pancakes,        they're obviously never gonna        taste the difference.      270 00:10:35,868 --> 00:10:38,237       This is egg, banana,          and they're good, I think.    271 00:10:38,304 --> 00:10:40,973             - M'kay.              - This tastes like punishment.  272 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,442   - No, instead of being light      and fluffy like a pancake,    273 00:10:43,509 --> 00:10:47,013  these are wet and squishy, mm,         like a... mistake.        274 00:10:47,079 --> 00:10:48,648         (Morris babbles)             (pancake flops to floor)     275 00:10:48,714 --> 00:10:50,650  - Can I have some maple syrup?           - I don't know.         276 00:10:50,716 --> 00:10:53,119     Does it have sugar in it?              - I hope so.           277 00:10:53,185 --> 00:10:55,354      - I'll just have toast.         - Okay, let's wrap it up.    278 00:10:55,421 --> 00:10:57,256          Come on, guys,           you're gonna be late. Let's go. 279 00:10:57,857 --> 00:10:59,458          But the toast.                 - Come on, come on.       280 00:10:59,525 --> 00:11:01,761          - Go on, go on.          - Let's go, let's go, let's go. 281 00:11:01,827 --> 00:11:05,331     I know there are studies         about how ADHD meds work.    282 00:11:05,398 --> 00:11:08,034      How many weird pancake             studies are there?        283 00:11:08,100 --> 00:11:09,635       - We don't even know              what the drugs do.        284 00:11:09,702 --> 00:11:13,239       What if they make her            a zombie or not Viv?       285 00:11:13,305 --> 00:11:15,541         (Morris babbles)         286 00:11:15,608 --> 00:11:17,943     - Ah, time for a change.     287 00:11:23,983 --> 00:11:28,487      What's all this about?           - Oh, I decided to try              that tapas place.        288 00:11:28,554 --> 00:11:32,525        - Well, isn't tapas            like a bunch of little         shared plates for sharing?    289 00:11:32,591 --> 00:11:33,926         - Yeah, but I got              the bachelor's tapas.      290 00:11:33,993 --> 00:11:36,162  It's like a bunch of one-night       stands for your mouth.      291 00:11:36,228 --> 00:11:38,030      And I won't be calling              any of them back.        292 00:11:38,097 --> 00:11:40,332      What do you have there?     293 00:11:40,399 --> 00:11:42,835      - Oh, I've got a cold,         grey pancake. Wanna share?    294 00:11:42,902 --> 00:11:44,570          - Did your kids                make that for you?        295 00:11:44,637 --> 00:11:47,406        Is it Father's Day?           Oh, I gotta text my dad.     296 00:11:47,473 --> 00:11:49,909     - No, Viv's got ADHD and      the doctor's recommending meds  297 00:11:49,975 --> 00:11:52,278     and Astrid's not into it.       So, we're trying this thing   298 00:11:52,344 --> 00:11:55,481   where we remove the joy from    our food to see if that helps.  299 00:11:55,548 --> 00:11:57,283              - Pff.                   - So, if an optometrist     300 00:11:57,349 --> 00:11:58,718 tells you that you need glasses,            you'd say,            301 00:11:58,784 --> 00:12:00,352   "Thanks for the advice, Doc,   302 00:12:00,419 --> 00:12:02,188  but I think I'll try an enema."             (scoffs)             303 00:12:02,254 --> 00:12:03,355              Stupid.             304 00:12:03,422 --> 00:12:04,757        - What do you know                 about it, Beth?         305 00:12:04,824 --> 00:12:06,258  - Yeah, Beth, what do you know? 306 00:12:06,325 --> 00:12:09,595        - Try "everything".            I happen to have ADHD,      307 00:12:09,662 --> 00:12:12,331  unlike you two goons. And IBS.  308 00:12:12,398 --> 00:12:15,668     And sometimes depression,       astigmatism, fibromyalgia,    309 00:12:15,735 --> 00:12:18,204           and I'm prone                to getting carsickly.      310 00:12:18,270 --> 00:12:19,872         I've been on meds           practically my whole life.    311 00:12:19,939 --> 00:12:21,607        I wouldn't be here               today without them.       312 00:12:21,674 --> 00:12:23,576     - So, do your ADHD meds,               do they like,          313 00:12:23,642 --> 00:12:27,279  turn you into a zombie, at all,  or like, extinguish your spark? 314 00:12:27,346 --> 00:12:29,548   - Sorry, what do I look like,        "Girl, Interrupted"?       315 00:12:29,615 --> 00:12:31,951       Do you guys even know         what I do on the weekends?    316 00:12:32,017 --> 00:12:33,853      Hello? I'm a majorette!     317 00:12:33,919 --> 00:12:36,322      You ever seen a zombie               twirl a baton?          318 00:12:36,388 --> 00:12:37,590              Eh, no.             319 00:12:38,591 --> 00:12:40,760  - What's the deal, she can just   hear everything we're saying?  320 00:12:40,826 --> 00:12:42,495        - Are we screaming?           We're being quiet, right?    321 00:12:42,561 --> 00:12:43,829         - It's acoustics,                is that the deal?        322 00:12:43,896 --> 00:12:45,664   - Look, if you're so worried          about side effects,       323 00:12:45,731 --> 00:12:47,800       why not test them out             on yourself first.        324 00:12:47,867 --> 00:12:50,536          These wear off              after like, eight hours.     325 00:12:50,603 --> 00:12:53,339          (curious music)         326 00:12:58,644 --> 00:13:00,646        - Uh, I'm so sorry.              This is all I had.        327 00:13:00,713 --> 00:13:03,048      I didn't know you'd be        joining us for lunch, Astrid.  328 00:13:03,115 --> 00:13:05,417       - I haven't seen you          since your trip to Europe.    329 00:13:05,484 --> 00:13:06,919      - I've been practicing                on Duolingo.           330 00:13:06,986 --> 00:13:10,222     I was able to fire people           in four languages.        331 00:13:10,289 --> 00:13:12,992      Sei licenziato, Tommaso     332 00:13:13,826 --> 00:13:16,295     - I'm sure that felt very          authentic to Tommaso.      333 00:13:16,362 --> 00:13:17,696             - Grazie.            334 00:13:17,763 --> 00:13:19,298         - Astrid, do you                 have a headache?         335 00:13:19,365 --> 00:13:20,966         Oh, you look like              you have a headache.       336 00:13:21,033 --> 00:13:22,501     That face you're making.     337 00:13:22,902 --> 00:13:25,604              - Nope.                         (sighing)            338 00:13:25,671 --> 00:13:27,640       Viv's doctor wants us              to give her meds,        339 00:13:27,706 --> 00:13:30,276     which James agrees with,          which is crazy, right?      340 00:13:30,342 --> 00:13:34,213      - Totally crazy. I hear       reiki and exercise are best.   341 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:36,048    - You can't sweat out ADHD.   342 00:13:36,115 --> 00:13:38,017    Do you remember Barb Huang,        our vet, who developed      343 00:13:38,083 --> 00:13:40,586      Foreign Accent Syndrome      right after her dental surgery? 344 00:13:40,653 --> 00:13:43,289    - She wasn't really Irish?       - Her daughter had terrible   345 00:13:43,355 --> 00:13:46,792          psoriasis until           she started taking anti-organ          rejecting pills.         346 00:13:46,859 --> 00:13:48,360         - Mom, that's not                 the same thing.         347 00:13:48,427 --> 00:13:50,095       - Why? It's medicine              and it helped her.        348 00:13:50,162 --> 00:13:51,997       Take it from a nurse,                 drugs work.           349 00:13:52,064 --> 00:13:55,201          (door closing)               - Hey, sorry I am late.     350 00:13:55,267 --> 00:13:58,938   I was recruiting some hotshot  crocheters at a retirement home. 351 00:13:59,004 --> 00:14:02,775  - Bo, when you had your mental   breakdown, did you take drugs?  352 00:14:02,842 --> 00:14:05,077           - Thanks for                 bringing it up. Yes.       353 00:14:05,144 --> 00:14:07,313               - Oh.                   - But they didn't work.     354 00:14:07,379 --> 00:14:11,617        Meditation, peyote,           and a trip to Joshua Tree    355 00:14:11,684 --> 00:14:13,819    was what realigned my life.   356 00:14:14,486 --> 00:14:16,488  - The right meds are effective. 357 00:14:16,555 --> 00:14:18,023     - But with side effects.     358 00:14:18,090 --> 00:14:20,926        - Stop complicating               this with nuance.        359 00:14:21,527 --> 00:14:24,196        Okay, I should go.                     - Okay.             360 00:14:25,097 --> 00:14:26,765         - Can I take some               of this meat home?        361 00:14:26,832 --> 00:14:28,634    - I'll get you a doggy bag.   362 00:14:28,701 --> 00:14:30,736          (curious music)         363 00:14:30,803 --> 00:14:33,205       - My mouth is so dry.      364 00:14:33,839 --> 00:14:35,274              Ennis?              365 00:14:35,774 --> 00:14:37,643      You feel a bit clammy,              a bit headachey?         366 00:14:37,710 --> 00:14:39,545    - Actually, I've never felt      quite so clear in my life.    367 00:14:39,612 --> 00:14:41,547  I don't know why I was avoiding      doing work for so long.     368 00:14:41,614 --> 00:14:43,916      It is very interesting,           and a little bit fun.      369 00:14:43,983 --> 00:14:47,152        - My stomach hurts.           I don't think Beth's meds          are agreeing with me.      370 00:14:47,620 --> 00:14:50,522      - Gentlemen. Thank you            for taking the threat      371 00:14:50,589 --> 00:14:53,525      of Fintekoaly seriously        and working so hard today.    372 00:14:53,592 --> 00:14:55,294    - Marla, I am in the zone.    373 00:14:55,361 --> 00:14:57,263    - You're gonna have to stay       in the zone for the next     374 00:14:57,329 --> 00:14:59,265       few months at least.           I'm proud of you, Ennis.     375 00:14:59,331 --> 00:15:01,333       (man): Proud of him?              His parents aren't               even proud of him.        376 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:03,269    - What are you looking at?            Get back to work.        377 00:15:04,069 --> 00:15:06,171  - How's the science experiment            going, boys?           378 00:15:06,238 --> 00:15:07,706          - I feel gross.             - Well, that'll teach you    379 00:15:07,773 --> 00:15:09,241         to take meds that           aren't prescribed for you.    380 00:15:09,308 --> 00:15:10,843         - You're the one               who said it was okay.      381 00:15:10,910 --> 00:15:12,945       - Hey, how long does             this medication take             before it wears off?       382 00:15:13,012 --> 00:15:15,314  I'd like to go pick up some of   those intellectual babes in HR  383 00:15:15,381 --> 00:15:17,549        before I turn back                into a pineapple.        384 00:15:18,384 --> 00:15:20,786   - Ooh, I think it might have       already happened, my man.    385 00:15:21,253 --> 00:15:23,756               - Oh.                       - There he is.          386 00:15:23,822 --> 00:15:25,858       - Oh, I've just been               typing gibberish.        387 00:15:34,333 --> 00:15:36,435           - You awake?                        - Yeah.             388 00:15:36,502 --> 00:15:39,438      I'm just thinking about           all the ways we could            screw up Viv's life,       389 00:15:39,505 --> 00:15:41,674  before I close my eyes and have    actual nightmares about it.   390 00:15:41,740 --> 00:15:44,877    - I know! I can't figure it       out either. I feel awful.    391 00:15:44,944 --> 00:15:46,578 But also, I might be coming down 392 00:15:46,645 --> 00:15:48,280       from those ADHD meds,              so I'm not sure.         393 00:15:48,347 --> 00:15:49,782  - So, after being a guinea pig, 394 00:15:49,848 --> 00:15:51,083     you still wanna give her                 the meds?            395 00:15:51,150 --> 00:15:53,919          - I don't know,            I don't know, I don't know.   396 00:15:53,986 --> 00:15:56,755              (sighs)                  Maybe they'll help her?     397 00:15:56,822 --> 00:15:58,257              - Yeah.             398 00:15:58,324 --> 00:16:00,960  I know, it just feels so wrong. 399 00:16:01,026 --> 00:16:03,963       - Hi. I can't sleep.       400 00:16:04,029 --> 00:16:08,434       I think it's because             I took a sip of Dad's            coffee this morning.       401 00:16:09,068 --> 00:16:11,136    - I didn't give it to him.     You know how many half-finished 402 00:16:11,203 --> 00:16:12,638          cups of coffee                we leave around here?      403 00:16:12,705 --> 00:16:15,474          (Astrid sighs)                   - Is Viv sick?          404 00:16:15,541 --> 00:16:18,143     I heard you guys talking              about medicine.         405 00:16:18,210 --> 00:16:20,713   - No, everything's fine, pal.  406 00:16:20,779 --> 00:16:24,116     - Yeah, I mean, there are       some geopolitical problems           happening globally.       407 00:16:24,183 --> 00:16:25,918             - James.                          - Yeah.             408 00:16:25,985 --> 00:16:27,553          - Viv got moved             to the front of the class    409 00:16:27,619 --> 00:16:29,421        at school for being                a distraction.          410 00:16:29,488 --> 00:16:32,358   She thinks she's in trouble.        - She's not in trouble.     411 00:16:32,424 --> 00:16:34,460     Everything is fine, pal.                 - Mm-hmm.            412 00:16:34,526 --> 00:16:37,863       You're a good brother           for being worried about        your sister, you know that?   413 00:16:37,930 --> 00:16:39,365            Come here.            414 00:16:39,431 --> 00:16:41,166   Eh, there we go, there we go.  415 00:16:41,233 --> 00:16:43,969     There it is, there it is.                (groans)             416 00:16:44,036 --> 00:16:47,740       Put an arm up, there.           - Oh, okay, okay. Yeah.     417 00:16:47,806 --> 00:16:49,641           - Okay, okay.                      (groans)             418 00:16:49,708 --> 00:16:51,610   - Can I listen to a podcast?   419 00:16:51,677 --> 00:16:53,145   - Uh, no, you can go to bed.   420 00:16:53,212 --> 00:16:55,381    But I will not check on you            for 10 minutes.         421 00:16:59,251 --> 00:17:02,654          He hugged back.              - Still our little guy.     422 00:17:02,721 --> 00:17:05,290              - Yeah.                      - Stinks a bit.         423 00:17:05,991 --> 00:17:07,826     (ping-pong ball bouncing)    424 00:17:07,893 --> 00:17:08,761            - Ah, man!            425 00:17:08,827 --> 00:17:09,762              - One!                            - Oh!              426 00:17:09,828 --> 00:17:11,397            (cheering)                       Oh, my God!           427 00:17:11,463 --> 00:17:13,499   - Morris is down for his nap        which gives us between      428 00:17:13,565 --> 00:17:16,335        10 and 200 minutes              to play a board game           or shoot a movie trailer.    429 00:17:16,402 --> 00:17:18,937         - Movie trailer!           - Viv, what do you wanna do?   430 00:17:19,004 --> 00:17:20,939        - Uh, I didn't hear                what you said.          431 00:17:21,006 --> 00:17:23,175        That's okay, um...                 - That's okay.          432 00:17:23,242 --> 00:17:24,576           - Seriously?           433 00:17:24,643 --> 00:17:27,613    This is why I keep getting          in trouble at school.      434 00:17:27,679 --> 00:17:30,149    Why do I keep doing this?!               - Hey, hey.           435 00:17:30,215 --> 00:17:32,051   You're not in trouble, kiddo.  436 00:17:33,085 --> 00:17:34,620             (sighing)            437 00:17:34,686 --> 00:17:36,989             Um, okay.            438 00:17:37,556 --> 00:17:39,491      So, Viv, remember when           you went to see Shauna,     439 00:17:39,558 --> 00:17:42,327 you guys were playing the games?    - And drink hot chocolate.    440 00:17:42,394 --> 00:17:46,799      - She learned something         about you that might um,           change things a bit.       441 00:17:47,366 --> 00:17:51,970       - Viv, you have ADHD.       - It's a totally normal thing.  442 00:17:52,805 --> 00:17:55,140  - It just means that your brain     works a bit differently.     443 00:17:55,207 --> 00:17:57,309          - I know that.           Four kids in my class have it.  444 00:17:57,376 --> 00:17:58,977  - Six kids in my class have it. 445 00:17:59,044 --> 00:18:02,748   And this one kid has anxiety.  And this other kid has red hair. 446 00:18:03,882 --> 00:18:07,719      - Okay. Um, do you have              any questions?          447 00:18:07,786 --> 00:18:10,622    - Do you know if egg rolls           have eggs in them?        448 00:18:10,689 --> 00:18:13,292  - Okay, I think she's handling          this pretty well.        449 00:18:13,358 --> 00:18:15,294   - Can I be done the meeting?               - Me too.            450 00:18:15,360 --> 00:18:17,596              - Okay.                    - Okay, kids, yeah.       451 00:18:19,765 --> 00:18:21,400     They handled that better               than we did.           452 00:18:21,467 --> 00:18:23,902  - Oh, we are handling it great.           (James sighs)          453 00:18:23,969 --> 00:18:27,072      Just trying to help Viv           navigate a thing that            we barely understand.      454 00:18:27,139 --> 00:18:29,174  - Yeah, but I actually have an   idea that'll help Viv navigate, 455 00:18:29,241 --> 00:18:31,710    that you're not gonna like.            - Is it pills?          456 00:18:31,777 --> 00:18:33,612           - It's worse?          457 00:18:35,013 --> 00:18:39,017  - Sometimes, you ask yourself,    am I doing something wrong-G.  458 00:18:39,084 --> 00:18:41,987       No! The frontal lobe                is responsible          459 00:18:42,054 --> 00:18:43,822         for our executive                functions, okay?         460 00:18:43,889 --> 00:18:46,058       And is underdeveloped            in people with ADHD.       461 00:18:46,125 --> 00:18:48,093    So, it is the parents' job    462 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:51,864      to act as the executive       functioning-G for the child.   463 00:18:51,930 --> 00:18:55,267        The brain continues           to develop until age 28.     464 00:18:55,334 --> 00:18:56,602       - That, that actually                 makes sense           465 00:18:56,668 --> 00:18:58,937        because I was very        self-destructive until I was 28. 466 00:18:59,004 --> 00:19:00,606      Which is about the time           my mother came back--      467 00:19:00,672 --> 00:19:02,307           - No, no, no.                     Mommy, no.            468 00:19:02,374 --> 00:19:05,110         - Yep, yep, yep.            - But destruction can lead    469 00:19:05,177 --> 00:19:07,012       to a very rough road.      470 00:19:07,079 --> 00:19:10,349     But also breeds creation.    471 00:19:10,415 --> 00:19:12,484      You know who said that?     472 00:19:12,551 --> 00:19:14,720      Red Hot Chili Peppers.      473 00:19:14,786 --> 00:19:17,456      - Yeah, they also said         Catholic schoolgirls rule.    474 00:19:17,523 --> 00:19:19,458           Pretty gross.                 - Okay, we don't...       475 00:19:19,525 --> 00:19:21,994        we don't need to...        - All right, I'm gonna give you 476 00:19:22,060 --> 00:19:27,799     some tools and techniques           to help Viv realize              her full potential.       477 00:19:27,866 --> 00:19:30,936        The first technique           is called scaffolding-G.     478 00:19:31,470 --> 00:19:32,938          Scaffolding-G.          479 00:19:33,005 --> 00:19:37,075     Okay, so you take all of         the things in your house.    480 00:19:37,142 --> 00:19:39,144 (Astrid): It's a good thing kids    don't need perfect parents,   481 00:19:39,211 --> 00:19:40,579     because there aren't any.            (James): Exactly.        482 00:19:40,646 --> 00:19:42,781         I let Felix watch            part of a John Wick movie    483 00:19:42,848 --> 00:19:44,716          before bed once               and he was not ready.      484 00:19:44,783 --> 00:19:46,451          (Astrid): What?            Why did you do that, James?   485 00:19:46,518 --> 00:19:48,020        Of course he wasn't              ready for John Wick.      486 00:19:48,086 --> 00:19:51,223   (James): I'm just illustrating      that we are not perfect.    487 00:19:51,290 --> 00:19:52,524            - Oh, yeah!           488 00:19:52,591 --> 00:19:54,126     (James): Anyway, you learn          from your mistakes.       489 00:19:54,193 --> 00:19:55,928 (Astrid): And what you do learn          is mostly useless        490 00:19:55,994 --> 00:19:58,163 for the next kid 'cause they're    a completely different person. 491 00:19:58,230 --> 00:20:00,232    (James): But you get better              at learning.          492 00:20:06,438 --> 00:20:07,940             - No way!             - We're thinking of unionizing. 493 00:20:08,006 --> 00:20:10,075    - Oh wow, is that possible?     - Yeah, well, if there wasn't  494 00:20:10,142 --> 00:20:12,077     people dragging us back,               like Brenda.           495 00:20:12,144 --> 00:20:13,845        Brenda, who steals               peoples' routines.        496 00:20:13,912 --> 00:20:15,747          And her routine                  is really hack,         497 00:20:15,814 --> 00:20:18,250     even though she stole it          from me. It wasn't hack           when I was doing it.       498 00:20:18,317 --> 00:20:20,219      - Like, she wrecked it       because she stole it from you?  499 00:20:20,285 --> 00:20:22,287   - Yeah, because she's putting       her Brenda spin on it.      500 00:20:22,354 --> 00:20:25,390          You know what?            It's really actually getting     really dramatic around there.  501 00:20:25,457 --> 00:20:27,092     And you'd think, with all       the batons twirling around,   502 00:20:27,159 --> 00:20:29,194       there'd be a few more        broken legs, but there's not.  503 00:20:29,261 --> 00:20:31,763        But there will be.                  - You know...          504 00:20:33,832 --> 00:20:36,268  Lunch has been over for hours.  505 00:20:37,436 --> 00:20:40,639  - But anyway, Gail, my mentor.  She's gonna get us to nationals. 506 00:20:40,706 --> 00:20:42,407      - Right. Is she the one            that went missing?        507 00:20:42,474 --> 00:20:44,476  - No, that was my first mentor.             - Sorry.             508 00:20:44,543 --> 00:20:45,744         - And I have been                cleared for that.        509 00:20:45,811 --> 00:20:47,012        I've got an alibi.                - I believe you.         510 00:20:47,079 --> 00:20:49,047 - I shouldn't say too much here.              - Okay.             511 00:20:49,114 --> 00:20:52,351                ♪♪                512 00:21:21,079 --> 00:21:23,248        Subtitling: difuze