1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:22,105 --> 00:00:23,357 First time? 4 00:00:25,651 --> 00:00:26,985 I've seen you somewhere before. 5 00:00:27,069 --> 00:00:28,070 Yeah, I've been around. 6 00:00:34,618 --> 00:00:35,786 Ready to have your baby? 7 00:34:49,464 --> 00:34:50,757 Good morning. 8 00:35:02,394 --> 00:35:03,562 Another bite. 9 00:35:03,645 --> 00:35:05,522 A big one. 10 00:35:11,278 --> 00:35:13,739 Papa, I want to help you. 11 00:35:13,822 --> 00:35:16,658 But you are helping me. 12 00:35:30,631 --> 00:35:31,798 Thank you, son. 13 00:35:33,217 --> 00:35:36,303 It's great, thanks.You make a great coffee. 14 00:35:47,523 --> 00:35:50,984 Usually women change with maternity. 15 00:35:51,068 --> 00:35:56,198 The birth, the pregnancy,he was always with me. 16 00:35:56,281 --> 00:35:59,618 So the changes that I went through,he also went through. 17 00:36:00,619 --> 00:36:04,706 You can see the transformationin his face. 18 00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:36,947 I think it's absurd that fathers onlyhave five days of paternity leave. 19 00:36:50,919 --> 00:36:55,549 It is true the babydepends more on the mother... 20 00:36:55,632 --> 00:36:59,011 exclusively in the first three months. 21 00:36:59,094 --> 00:37:02,681 But who takes care of the mother? 22 00:37:02,764 --> 00:37:06,602 Who will be next to her duringthis reconstruction process? 23 00:37:14,276 --> 00:37:15,694 Come this way. 24 00:37:16,695 --> 00:37:17,863 Take your hand off, son. 25 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,907 Come this way! Dante gets in first. 26 00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:29,666 Let's go to school now, guys!? 27 00:37:29,750 --> 00:37:30,876 Yes! 28 00:37:38,550 --> 00:37:41,053 People tell me so muchabout the helping father. 29 00:37:41,595 --> 00:37:45,807 "Wow, what a nice father,your husband, he helps so much." 30 00:37:45,891 --> 00:37:47,226 No. It's not help. 31 00:37:47,935 --> 00:37:50,771 Help is my neighbor that looks after themfor a few minutes... 32 00:37:51,355 --> 00:37:53,357 while I put the clothes to dry... 33 00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:54,775 This is help. 34 00:37:55,734 --> 00:37:57,736 The father doesn't help. 35 00:37:58,195 --> 00:37:59,863 He creates together. He is a caretaker. 36 00:37:59,947 --> 00:38:03,408 Calm down. Let go of Maya's hand. 37 00:38:04,284 --> 00:38:07,454 Calm down and breathe. 38 00:38:22,344 --> 00:38:24,721 He found a new voice. 39 00:38:27,599 --> 00:38:31,478 He started a podcast with two friends. 40 00:38:33,188 --> 00:38:35,607 It is nice to see... 41 00:38:35,691 --> 00:38:38,360 even though we didn'thave affectionate fathers, 42 00:38:38,443 --> 00:38:40,487 we can still createa place of love for our kids. 43 00:38:40,571 --> 00:38:42,447 I decided to use this tactic... 44 00:38:42,531 --> 00:38:44,658 "If you leave the toys there,I will throw them out!" 45 00:38:44,741 --> 00:38:46,493 Here is the problem: 46 00:38:46,577 --> 00:38:51,206 You're expecting your daughterto follow your instructions 47 00:38:51,290 --> 00:38:54,001 without explaining it to her. 48 00:38:54,084 --> 00:38:55,961 And there is fear, too. 49 00:38:56,044 --> 00:38:57,129 Do you get it? 50 00:38:57,212 --> 00:38:59,089 I get it. 51 00:42:27,089 --> 00:42:34,054 I used to brag about working150 hours of overtime. 52 00:42:39,893 --> 00:42:41,812 Because this was the norm. 53 00:42:43,188 --> 00:42:49,820 A man that doesn't workis a dropout of society. 54 00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:56,910 I was diagnosedwith an autoimmune disease. 55 00:43:04,918 --> 00:43:07,129 It was constant pain. 56 00:43:08,213 --> 00:43:12,426 It made it impossiblefor me to go to work. 57 00:43:21,310 --> 00:43:27,608 Breakfast has a fixed image as"a mom's work." 58 00:43:28,734 --> 00:43:35,699 You don't often see a man standingin the kitchen in the morning. 59 00:43:37,534 --> 00:43:40,996 In my household, I cook,so this is our standard. 60 00:43:44,208 --> 00:43:45,250 Hi, good morning. 61 00:43:45,334 --> 00:43:46,335 Good morning. 62 00:43:48,045 --> 00:43:50,714 Put down mom's cell phone.Put the book back. 63 00:43:52,966 --> 00:43:54,927 Put the book back. 64 00:43:56,803 --> 00:43:58,847 Book! Put the book back. 65 00:44:05,312 --> 00:44:07,606 You must not use the book like that. 66 00:44:07,689 --> 00:44:09,149 Put it away. 67 00:44:12,653 --> 00:44:13,862 -Dad.-Yup. 68 00:44:13,946 --> 00:44:14,988 Look there. 69 00:44:15,072 --> 00:44:16,073 What? 70 00:44:16,156 --> 00:44:17,241 There. 71 00:44:22,788 --> 00:44:24,873 Eat, Yu. 72 00:44:27,876 --> 00:44:33,131 After quitting work 20 years ago... 73 00:44:34,466 --> 00:44:37,928 I asked my wife for a divorce. 74 00:44:39,513 --> 00:44:41,139 Because of the illness, 75 00:44:41,223 --> 00:44:45,894 she would be stuckhaving to take care of me. 76 00:44:45,978 --> 00:44:50,274 And I couldn't stand the thought of that. 77 00:44:51,942 --> 00:44:57,447 I was actuallythinking of committing suicide. 78 00:44:58,866 --> 00:45:02,661 I clearly remember my wife'sexact words... 79 00:45:03,287 --> 00:45:06,164 "Please continue living for me." 80 00:45:11,837 --> 00:45:13,297 Get ready! 81 00:45:19,636 --> 00:45:21,555 It looks like you are having fun, 82 00:45:21,638 --> 00:45:23,307 but could I give you disappointing news? 83 00:45:23,390 --> 00:45:24,391 No! 84 00:45:25,225 --> 00:45:28,103 Your shirt is on backwards. 85 00:45:31,481 --> 00:45:35,694 My wife told me, "I will go and work... 86 00:45:40,199 --> 00:45:42,492 And you stay home." 87 00:45:45,746 --> 00:45:48,916 I have taken over the role of... 88 00:45:48,999 --> 00:45:51,376 the house husband. 89 00:46:13,273 --> 00:46:15,901 The reason I dyed my hair... 90 00:46:16,568 --> 00:46:18,987 to put it simply... 91 00:46:19,071 --> 00:46:22,824 You won't find any Japanese businessmen 92 00:46:22,908 --> 00:46:26,411 with bleached hair. 93 00:46:27,371 --> 00:46:32,042 If you dye your hairyou can't go back to work. 94 00:46:32,751 --> 00:46:37,548 And that's why I dyed my hair blonde. 95 00:46:41,510 --> 00:46:44,805 I showed my wife, and she said... 96 00:46:44,888 --> 00:46:47,683 "Oh, looks good on you,looks good on you." 97 00:46:51,311 --> 00:46:54,898 After going through periodic check-ups... 98 00:46:54,982 --> 00:47:00,779 My doctor said, "Your illness is gone.What would you like to do?" 99 00:47:06,285 --> 00:47:11,915 The question that came to me... 100 00:47:12,374 --> 00:47:16,420 "Can I have children?" 101 00:47:48,410 --> 00:47:51,830 My wife adamantly said... 102 00:47:51,914 --> 00:47:55,542 "We're not having kids,we don't need them." 103 00:47:58,253 --> 00:48:04,176 I went on a two year missionto convince my wife. 104 00:48:05,177 --> 00:48:12,142 Other than pregnancy,birth and breastfeeding... 105 00:48:14,186 --> 00:48:18,815 a man can do everything else. 106 00:48:21,527 --> 00:48:27,366 After hearing that,my wife finally agreed and said... 107 00:48:27,449 --> 00:48:32,913 "Okay, I will give birth for you." 108 00:48:46,051 --> 00:48:50,931 Today I'm in Akihabara for a meeting of... 109 00:48:51,014 --> 00:48:56,019 the "Secret Society,Friends of House Husbands." 110 00:48:56,103 --> 00:49:01,275 I came here to talk about varioushousehold matters. 111 00:49:01,358 --> 00:49:04,778 Really there's nothing secret about it.We're open. 112 00:49:04,862 --> 00:49:09,157 But in Japan, if you say somethingis "secret," it's cool. 113 00:49:09,241 --> 00:49:14,621 My neighbor was saying that they were ableto take paid leave recently. 114 00:49:14,705 --> 00:49:18,792 I think that people have at leastbecome aware of us. 115 00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,046 The house husband is stillin the minority. 116 00:49:23,589 --> 00:49:26,258 I think the attitudeis starting to change... 117 00:49:26,341 --> 00:49:29,720 Where it's okay not to torment yourselfover being different. 118 00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:35,893 When I first decided to becomea stay-at-home husband, 119 00:49:35,976 --> 00:49:37,978 I felt like a failure. 120 00:49:39,229 --> 00:49:41,273 I never used to smile this much. 121 00:49:41,356 --> 00:49:43,984 I was a different man. 122 00:49:44,067 --> 00:49:46,278 I always had a sulky look. 123 00:49:46,361 --> 00:49:48,447 Always making a face like this. 124 00:49:51,366 --> 00:49:54,036 That part I think I really changed. 125 00:49:54,119 --> 00:49:56,455 I've become cheerful. 126 00:50:03,212 --> 00:50:05,255 Becoming a father 127 00:50:05,339 --> 00:50:11,386 was the first time I cried tears of joy. 128 00:50:14,806 --> 00:50:18,435 I want to thank him for being born. 129 00:50:23,857 --> 00:50:27,319 Feeling thankful... yes. 130 01:01:02,579 --> 01:01:03,872 Then can I have a drone? 131 01:01:06,708 --> 01:01:07,626 Hey, watch out.