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[Kwame] What's up?
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I was very, very excited to marry you.
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-Mm-hmm.
-[Chelsea] But last night…
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You saying how it's important
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that I don't take your name
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until you're able to speak
to your mother about it,
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and, you know, make sure that she
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has a say
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in our marriage…
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I respect and understand
the situation with your mom,
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but we've been side by side
the whole time.
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And that may ultimately
lead to us saying yes,
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getting married,
without your mom's blessing.
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I feel like it's gonna be tough for me
to just look at my mom and be like,
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"You've cared for me
and loved me for 32 years,
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and I'm just throwing your opinion away."
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That's not fair.
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I know it's a tough scenario to be in.
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To be like, "Hey, I feel like I'm all-in
to wanna be with somebody,
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and they're not all-in
to wanna be with me."
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And it's not the case.
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Last night you were like,
you had this, um, like, large,
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kind of, like, looming idea
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that, like, our marriage
and our next year and all,
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it's gonna be really,
like, hard and laborious
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and, like, tough.
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Um, which there will be tough moments.
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Of course, right?
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I think I see, like,
more of a wholesome picture.
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And want you to see, like, the joy.
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We haven't even had,
like, the best moments
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and days of our lives together.
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[Kwame] Yeah.
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I see it as much more
of a positive journey.
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It's not that it's gonna be a hard year.
In the grand scheme of our relationship,
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it is going to be one
of the toughest years.
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We don't really know that, babe.
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I'm hoping that we start off amazing,
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and it just gets better,
but there's gonna be hard years.
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I don't think we can predict right now…
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-Yeah.
-…what year is gonna be our hardest year.
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Or, like, you know, we just don't know.
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I know that. It's not a prediction.
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I don't know, like I said,
maybe I'm overthinking everything,
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but sometimes-- sometimes, occasionally,
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it helps to overthink. Sometimes.
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This is-- It's-- It's a big step for me.
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My dad doesn't even know,
and my mom doesn't even wanna know.
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I think we will need support
of our family in our marriage, 100%.
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Yeah.
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But falling in love with you in the pods
was one of the most sacred,
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beautiful things I ever got to do.
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Because my family has thoughts.
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-Opinions, right?
-Yeah.
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I fell in love with you
and picked you for me.
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And it's truly the first time
in my entire life
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I can wholeheartedly say that.
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And for that reason, I'm so at peace.
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-I don't care what they think.
-[Kwame] Listen.
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When we get up to that altar,
it comes down to….
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It comes down to the decision
that will make us both happiest.
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So, I just wanna make sure
that we're both happy going into it.
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Of course. [chuckles]
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-Why wouldn't we be happy?
-Don't do that. Stop that.
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Don't do that. I'm just saying.
Look, we're making a decision.
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It's a big decision.
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We're just considering
all the factors of what goes into that.
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-Of course.
-Okay.
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But if you didn't make me the happiest
I've felt in my entire fucking life…
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-I would not be here marrying you.
-Okay.
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I'm here for you. You know that, right?
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[chuckles] I know. I know.
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You can lean on me.
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[Kwame] Mm-hmm.
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[pop music playing]
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♪ Only love will make us whole… ♪
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Mm.
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-Love you.
-Love you too.
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[vocalizing]
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♪ We need love ♪
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♪ We need love ♪
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[vocalizing]
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-Cheers.
-Cheers.
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I'm getting kind of nervous
about everything.
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In a few days from now, we'll be,
like, married or not married. [laughs]
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This has been such a whirlwind, and…
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Obviously, a couple weeks ago,
like, we were not together, you know.
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And so, it's just been
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a lot of trying to just trust.
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In the universe and, like, my heart.
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I'm excited.
You know, it's, like, so exciting,
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but it's also, like, really scary.
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What are you scared about?
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Your parents got divorced.
Mine got divorced.
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And it's, like, it's not…
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It's not something that I ever want to do.
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It's pretty crazy
when you just think about it.
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-Yeah.
-Like, how strong our connection is.
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Maybe you shouldn't have told my dad
how many days it was. [chuckles]
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-Makes us seem, like, really crazy.
-[laughing]
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-Like, literally crazy.
-Yeah, but I mean, we know.
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We know what we feel is real,
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and every day we spend together,
I feel like we're growing closer,
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and the connection's getting stronger.
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[Bliss] Yeah, I think…
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-But the commitment is the scary part.
-Wait. "But" negates.
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"But" negates everything
you just said. So, say "and."
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And the…
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-And…
-Unless you mean "but."
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-Unless you mean to negate it.
-No, I don't to mean to negate it.
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-But… "But…" I can't help it.
-[laughs]
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I know. It's fine.
It's okay. You can say "but."
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I'll know that you mean that you're
not negating everything you said by it.
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I know how you feel about me.
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[laughs] Like, everyone knows.
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-I know. I know.
-Yeah.
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-You know how I feel about you too.
-No, I do.
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I love you in a way
I've never loved anyone else before.
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But yeah, I mean it's just…
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-It's a big-- It's a big-- Yeah.
-It's, like, forever.
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That's a long time. [laughs]
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-[Zack] You're right, Bliss.
-Yeah, I know.
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The reality is, at some point,
we're gonna have to take a leap of faith
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if we're gonna do this.
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And in my decision-making, like,
if I don't just commit,
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then I feel like
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I'll never make a decision,
if you get what I mean.
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I do, but that concerns me a little bit.
You were engaged to someone else.
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Then we got engaged, and you're like,
"Okay, I'm making this decision."
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-"I'm just gonna go with it."
-You should know.
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Because I said I'm engaged to you,
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that I'm committed to you.
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-No, I know.
-Right.
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-But, like, I could--
-But it's still--
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I could be questioning that,
but, like, I'm not.
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You know, like,
I've been 100% honest with you.
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-Yeah, I know that.
-And I'm not looking at anyone else.
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[Bliss] I'm not concerned
about you looking at anyone.
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It's more concerning about, "I'm making
this decision to be engaged to Bliss."
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"And I'm gonna marry her
'cause I made this decision."
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-Mm-hmm. Right.
-I want it to feel fully right to you.
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'Cause you owe that to yourself and to me.
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I mean, you can just know that once
I make a decision, I'm committed to it.
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I don't want someone to be just committed
to me because they made a decision to.
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But, well,
that's exactly what marriage is.
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It's okay to change your mind in things.
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-[pop music playing]
-♪ Please just let me go ♪
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♪ Unless you can stay forever ♪
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♪ I don't wanna be a show
Once a year out in the desert… ♪
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[Tiffany laughs]
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♪ I don't wanna see a post
Of you both smiling together… ♪
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My dad and my family
have been through a lot.
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-Hey.
-Hi. [chuckles]
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I'm Tiffany.
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-Yo, yo, what's good, brother?
-[Brett] How you doing?
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[Tiffany laughs] Another hug.
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My dad hasn't been on a plane
since before I was born.
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'Cause that's the '80s.
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So, for him and my brother
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to be comfortable
making this trip out here
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on such a short notice, it means a lot.
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How much are you paying
a beautiful woman like that?
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[laughing]
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See? I told you he was gonna be joking.
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[laughing]
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-I knew it. I knew it.
-[Tiffany] I love it. I love it.
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[Herbert] So, what do you really think
of this young man here sitting beside you?
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[Tiffany] I think he's amazing.
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I guess for me, like, I'm 36 years old.
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So I've had the opportunity to date.
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I've had the opportunity
to see, you know, guys out there.
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-What would be best for me?
-[Herbert] Right.
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-And he has a quiet confidence about him.
-[Herbert] Yeah, right.
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I'll say that.
Not arrogance, but confidence.
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And I love a man
that is just self-assured.
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So, he just became
very captivating, didn't he?
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-Yeah, he did.
-[Herbert laughing]
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Like, I'm normally a pretty outgoing,
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like, just forward person.
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I just say, like,
what's, you know, on my heart.
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And I don't think he ever judged me
or he never told me to, you know,
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"Tiff, like, tone it down."
He would sit there, and he would listen.
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And that's something
that means a lot to me,
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because I need somebody that grounds me.
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-Right, right.
-Sometimes my head is in the clouds.
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I'm a little hyper and everything.
But I think he balances, uh, me out.
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-Right. Mm-hmm.
-So, that's why I kept going back to him.
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-Okay.
-[Angus] How was your childhood?
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You kind of, like, middle class?
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-Upper middle? Low, like, growing up?
-[sighs] I mean…
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My parents definitely
didn't grow up in, like…
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Yeah, right.
They weren't wealthy people, right?
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-[Tiffany] No, like, not at all.
-[laughs] Just… Yeah.
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And they, like, worked hard to make sure
that we had a better life.
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Yeah, I'll be looking forward
to meeting them really,
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because, uh, that's key.
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She didn't shy away from ever telling me
how she felt about me.
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And, you know, our family,
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we're not the best
at telling each other how we feel.
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-You know, we barely hug, but we dap up.
-[laughing]
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-[laughing]
-[Angus] We dap up.
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Yeah, it's amazing.
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We were close-knit in a certain way,
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but we didn't express it,
you know, with the words.
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Yeah.
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[Herbert] Just listening to him talk
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and now listening here
to what you're saying,
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the way you discuss things,
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I think you guys made a good connection,
you know.
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-I think so.
-I think so too. [laughs]
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[Herbert] What Brett said to me
when I talked to him, he said,
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"Wow, she's very supportive
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and, uh, understanding."
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I said, "Wow.
That's what we need as menfolk."
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Somebody who is
supportive and understanding."
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And apparently, you guys click
not based upon appearances, you know.
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It couldn't have been about appear--
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A lot of guys
get caught up in appearances.
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And once that's gone, nothing is left.
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-You're left dry.
-[Tiffany] Exactly.
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Looks like you guys
built something upon just the inner self.
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-[Tiffany] Yeah.
-What your inner self was.
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And I think that's good.
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-Yeah.
-And so, that's why I support this.
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Because I know it wasn't tradition
and you didn't see each other for a while.
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All you had to go on
was what was expressed from within.
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And that's what builds
a good relationship.
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I really believe that.
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I tell you, Tiffany, I'm impressed.
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I'm impressed with his choice.
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And I'm impressed with you,
and I pray for you guys.
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Thank you.
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There's gonna come
some moments in your life
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that you're gonna
have to be put to the test.
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Every relationship
at some point in time is put to the test.
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[Tiffany] Mm-hmm.
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[Herbert] Don't worry about that.
As long as you got yourself focused
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and you know what you want,
and you guys are in unison,
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so far as your focus,
nobody can separate that.
241
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Nobody can break that up.
242
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I've always believed in that, you know.
243
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-Oh! Sorry.
-[Herbert] You know? So…
244
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-[Tiffany] Oh! Yeah.
-I'm impressed, so…
245
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-Yeah.
-Um, do you approve of my hairdo?
246
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-Huh?
-[Angus] Do you approve of my hairdo?
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[laughing]
248
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-I want people to be themselves.
-[Angus] Thank you.
249
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I really like you now. I appreciate it.
250
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We get along very well already.
That was perfect.
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♪ We doing it right, one of a kind… ♪
252
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[laughing]
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♪ All a good time, feeling so fine ♪
254
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♪ I'm loving my life, yeah! ♪
255
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♪ Can't ever get high enough ♪
256
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♪ No, we never stop climbing up ♪
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♪ We're doing it right, one of a kind ♪
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♪ We're ready to fly, yeah! ♪
259
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[Paul] Normally, I don't fold stuff.
260
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I just roll it up.
Like, it's a better use of space.
261
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Do you roll it? I've never seen you
do anything besides shove.
262
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[both laugh]
263
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[Paul] Busy day. We are, uh…
264
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Well, I'm packing up,
and Micah's gonna be staying here.
265
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It's gonna be the last day that
we see each other until the wedding.
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And we're gonna do
our bachelor parties as well.
267
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-Oh, my God.
-I feel like I have way more clothes now.
268
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[Micah laughs] I'm rubbing off on you.
Now you have all this stuff.
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[Paul] Yeah, I know.
What's happened to me?
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-Who am I? I don't even recognize myself.
-[laughs]
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[Paul] You're gonna need a tow truck.
A dump truck.
272
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-[laughs] A U-Haul?
-You know?
273
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Yeah, an entire U-Haul.
274
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What is this,
and how did it even get into this room?
275
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[both laughing]
276
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Where did this come from?
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I'm so happy you've not tried
to put this on.
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Oh, God, my other least favorite shirt.
279
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-[laughs]
-My tank top?
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"My tank top."
It's so funny when you say that.
281
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It's like, "My green shirt?"
"My tank top?"
282
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'Cause there's just one of everything.
-[laughing]
283
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[Micah] "You mean my underwear?" "Yeah."
284
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-[Paul] "My sock? You only have one sock?"
-[laughing]
285
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I have to alternate feet during the day.
Just swap 'em.
286
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[laughing]
287
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Oh, my goodness.
288
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I'm really excited to see everyone.
I feel like it's gonna be really fun.
289
00:14:00,047 --> 00:14:01,632
-Yeah?
-Hopefully. Yeah.
290
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I'm interested how everyone's,
like, doing and have fun together
291
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before everything goes down.
Yeah. [laughs]
292
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Yeah. Can't wait to see you in the dress.
293
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-[Micah] I know. I'm really excited.
-Yeah.
294
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-I feel you're gonna look so handsome.
-Aww.
295
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-I hope so.
-[Micah laughs]
296
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-You hope so?
-Yeah.
297
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-There he goes. The last shoe.
-[Paul] You think he can fit in there?
298
00:14:22,570 --> 00:14:24,405
-[Micah laughs] Yeah.
-[chuckles]
299
00:14:24,488 --> 00:14:28,409
Micah and I, we can't go 15 minutes
without being like, "I miss you."
300
00:14:28,492 --> 00:14:31,787
Like, I'm literally in the bathroom.
She's, like, across the room.
301
00:14:31,871 --> 00:14:34,582
Like, you're not supposed to see the bride
before the wedding,
302
00:14:34,665 --> 00:14:38,294
but I think that hopefully we're just
gonna be, like, texting and still talking.
303
00:14:38,377 --> 00:14:40,045
But I think we're gonna miss each other.
304
00:14:41,881 --> 00:14:43,591
-Sad.
-Yeah.
305
00:14:43,674 --> 00:14:45,384
Don't have too much fun at your party.
306
00:14:45,467 --> 00:14:49,096
Yeah, I was gonna say, "Keep the ones
in your pocket. No strippers."
307
00:14:49,179 --> 00:14:50,306
-[laughing]
-[Paul] Okay.
308
00:14:50,389 --> 00:14:54,351
-You're like, "I counted. It was 13 ones."
-I already looked in your big-ass wallet.
309
00:14:54,435 --> 00:14:55,853
"You better have 13."
310
00:14:55,936 --> 00:14:56,896
[laughing]
311
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Better have 13 ones
when you get back here.
312
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-[chuckles] Yeah.
-Yeah.
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Well, love you.
314
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Yeah, love you too.
315
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[Micah] Bye.
316
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["Get Up" by Slightly Stirred playing]
317
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♪ We gonna have some fun now ♪
318
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♪ Bam a-lam a-lam
Everybody clap your hands… ♪
319
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[Kwame] Today's our bachelor party,
and I'm hyped.
320
00:15:19,376 --> 00:15:21,670
I'm excited to just hang out
with the guys.
321
00:15:21,754 --> 00:15:22,963
Ready to see some friends.
322
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Maybe see some dancers. I don't know.
323
00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,677
And, you know, celebrate our last night
as single men.
324
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♪ Gonna have some fun ♪
325
00:15:29,845 --> 00:15:34,141
♪ Get down, got, gotta get down
Gotta get up if you wanna get down… ♪
326
00:15:34,224 --> 00:15:35,851
Whoo! Hey!
327
00:15:35,935 --> 00:15:39,688
Look at that! Look at this!
328
00:15:39,772 --> 00:15:41,649
-[chattering]
-[laughing]
329
00:15:42,691 --> 00:15:43,525
[man] Hey, man.
330
00:15:43,609 --> 00:15:45,194
-What up?
-Hey, Josh.
331
00:15:45,277 --> 00:15:47,947
[Josh] Can't believe it, dude.
Thanks for the call after a year, huh?
332
00:15:48,030 --> 00:15:48,989
[laughs]
333
00:15:49,073 --> 00:15:52,493
-What up, baby? How you doing, baby?
-Oh-ho-ho!
334
00:15:52,576 --> 00:15:53,452
[laughing]
335
00:15:53,535 --> 00:15:55,454
-[Lakayana] How do you feel, bro?
-Amazing.
336
00:15:55,537 --> 00:15:59,208
-Been an unforgettable experience.
-This your boy right here.
337
00:15:59,291 --> 00:16:01,502
This has been unforgettable experience
on so many levels,
338
00:16:01,585 --> 00:16:02,753
but I couldn't be happier.
339
00:16:02,836 --> 00:16:04,004
Yeah, glad you guys made it.
340
00:16:04,088 --> 00:16:07,299
I know. I saw you walk in, and I was like,
"He's looking good. He's looking sharp."
341
00:16:07,383 --> 00:16:09,343
-This is yours.
-What is this? A rum and coke?
342
00:16:09,426 --> 00:16:12,304
-Yeah. Wait, your boy here ordered it.
-I ordered rum and coke.
343
00:16:12,388 --> 00:16:15,724
-Yeah, I got you all the same thing.
-I don't do brown liquor like that.
344
00:16:15,849 --> 00:16:18,018
-No, you got this one.
-Come on, man. No! No, no, no!
345
00:16:18,102 --> 00:16:19,895
This is what Tiffany
gonna take off our hands.
346
00:16:19,979 --> 00:16:21,522
[laughing]
347
00:16:21,605 --> 00:16:25,609
-[Tiffany] Yes!
-[Bliss] Our last night as single ladies!
348
00:16:25,693 --> 00:16:27,069
[women cheer]
349
00:16:27,152 --> 00:16:29,446
Yeah!
350
00:16:29,530 --> 00:16:31,657
-Hi, ladies!
-[cheering]
351
00:16:31,740 --> 00:16:34,576
[Tiffany] Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh!
352
00:16:34,660 --> 00:16:37,538
[laughs] I'm Tiffany.
Nice to meet you. Melanie!
353
00:16:37,621 --> 00:16:40,958
If there are strippers tonight,
my fiancé is ten times hotter
354
00:16:41,041 --> 00:16:43,252
than every single stripper
that we're gonna get.
355
00:16:43,335 --> 00:16:45,671
Wait. You haven't seen
my ring in person. Hi!
356
00:16:45,754 --> 00:16:48,173
You haven't seen me
since I've been engaged!
357
00:16:48,257 --> 00:16:52,094
Tonight is my bachelorette party.
It's wild. But it's exciting.
358
00:16:52,177 --> 00:16:53,679
[dance music playing]
359
00:16:53,762 --> 00:16:56,265
[woman] Yes! Girl, you better work it.
360
00:16:56,348 --> 00:16:59,143
-Yes! Yes!
-[cheering]
361
00:16:59,226 --> 00:17:01,603
-I'm actually a real stripper, guys.
-[Tiffany shouts]
362
00:17:01,687 --> 00:17:04,606
I'm definitely gonna be extra.
Own who you are.
363
00:17:04,690 --> 00:17:05,941
Never dull it down.
364
00:17:06,025 --> 00:17:08,944
[women cheering, shouting]
365
00:17:09,028 --> 00:17:12,573
-[laughs]
-[shouts]
366
00:17:12,656 --> 00:17:14,241
[cheering]
367
00:17:14,867 --> 00:17:18,328
-[woman 2] Let's go!
-[woman 3] Work it!
368
00:17:18,912 --> 00:17:21,832
[burlesque music playing]
369
00:17:25,753 --> 00:17:29,214
♪ You wanna have a good time… ♪
370
00:17:29,298 --> 00:17:31,300
Okay, I didn't expect this.
371
00:17:32,217 --> 00:17:35,345
[Kwame laughs] I knew-- Oh! Hey,
what the fuck is going on here? Hold on.
372
00:17:35,429 --> 00:17:38,015
Y'all missing the show.
Y'all missing the show!
373
00:17:38,098 --> 00:17:39,141
[Zack] Yeah, we're good.
374
00:17:39,224 --> 00:17:42,061
We're just gonna hang out over here,
honestly. It's not really our style.
375
00:17:42,144 --> 00:17:45,647
The burlesque dancers,
um, it's just not my thing.
376
00:17:45,731 --> 00:17:48,108
I mean, my mother was a stripper.
377
00:17:48,192 --> 00:17:51,236
[chuckles] Like,
I don't have anything against it.
378
00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:52,696
Uh, I just…
379
00:17:53,655 --> 00:17:55,449
Yeah, I'm not really into it.
380
00:17:56,658 --> 00:17:58,952
-All right. [laughs]
-All right, all right, all right!
381
00:17:59,036 --> 00:18:01,246
I can't look too long.
You know what I'm saying?
382
00:18:03,957 --> 00:18:07,252
This man never met me.
This man never saw my face.
383
00:18:07,878 --> 00:18:11,757
-Yeah. Chelsea's always loud. [laughs]
-He knows me so well!
384
00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:14,343
-[Tiffany] My baby girl.
-[laughing]
385
00:18:14,426 --> 00:18:15,469
Kwame and I's love story
386
00:18:15,552 --> 00:18:18,680
is like a very, like, beautiful,
like, slow dance.
387
00:18:18,764 --> 00:18:21,100
-Does he like Rocky?
-He loves Rocky, you guys.
388
00:18:21,183 --> 00:18:23,143
-What was that interaction like?
-They are so cute.
389
00:18:23,227 --> 00:18:24,937
-You guys.
-I'm genuinely curious.
390
00:18:25,020 --> 00:18:27,773
-You guys.
-If he doesn't like your dog…
391
00:18:27,856 --> 00:18:29,942
-That's a dealbreaker. Dealbreaker.
-Right?
392
00:18:30,025 --> 00:18:33,946
It's honestly the healthiest thing
I've ever had. He loves me for me.
393
00:18:34,029 --> 00:18:37,074
He loves me for being extra.
He loves me for who I am.
394
00:18:37,157 --> 00:18:39,326
And I've never had that
in a relationship ever.
395
00:18:39,409 --> 00:18:41,954
-[Ellison] He love his family?
-[Melody] Do you like his family?
396
00:18:42,037 --> 00:18:46,041
[Chelsea] So, I will say, the family
situation is one of our kind of hurdles.
397
00:18:46,125 --> 00:18:48,794
His mom would prefer for him
398
00:18:48,877 --> 00:18:51,171
to, you know,
marry a traditionally Ghanaian woman.
399
00:18:51,755 --> 00:18:53,465
-Have you met her?
-No.
400
00:18:54,508 --> 00:18:57,177
Have you talked to her? At all?
401
00:18:57,261 --> 00:18:59,555
[Chelsea] His mom,
she's not coming to the wedding.
402
00:19:00,347 --> 00:19:02,516
So, it'll be a journey.
403
00:19:03,475 --> 00:19:06,019
I'm not gonna sit here and say,
like, I can change her mind,
404
00:19:06,103 --> 00:19:08,522
but I will say I love her son.
405
00:19:10,149 --> 00:19:13,944
Her family is so supportive
of what she's doing.
406
00:19:14,695 --> 00:19:16,822
Like, it actually kind of blows my mind.
407
00:19:16,905 --> 00:19:18,782
[man] Is that different from your family?
408
00:19:20,284 --> 00:19:22,202
My brother and sister are very supportive.
409
00:19:22,286 --> 00:19:24,454
-[man] Right.
-[Kwame] But my mom is not.
410
00:19:25,539 --> 00:19:27,499
No offense against Chelsea at all.
411
00:19:27,583 --> 00:19:29,668
-It's just the circumstances.
-[man] Yeah, right.
412
00:19:29,751 --> 00:19:32,629
-She gonna be at the wedding?
-My mom's not gonna be at the wedding.
413
00:19:32,713 --> 00:19:35,465
-Devastating, man. It's your mom. Yeah.
-Not good.
414
00:19:35,549 --> 00:19:37,009
Yeah, you know, it's my mom.
415
00:19:42,097 --> 00:19:43,473
[chuckles]
416
00:19:43,557 --> 00:19:44,808
Don't get emotional, man.
417
00:19:46,143 --> 00:19:49,521
I mean, I think once she meets Chelsea,
like, she'll be in love.
418
00:19:49,605 --> 00:19:50,606
-Yeah.
-Yeah.
419
00:19:50,689 --> 00:19:52,941
[Matt] So you would move in
right here, in Seattle?
420
00:19:53,025 --> 00:19:54,443
-Listen, listen!
-Oh, my God!
421
00:19:54,526 --> 00:19:56,111
-Listen, listen.
-[laughing]
422
00:19:56,195 --> 00:20:01,909
My April to my August
are shirtless jogging months.
423
00:20:02,492 --> 00:20:05,037
-Shirt off. Run. Ba-ba-ba-ba-ba.
-[Ezekiel] Soccer, soccer.
424
00:20:05,120 --> 00:20:07,623
-Soccer right after. Okay?
-Not in Seattle. [laughing]
425
00:20:07,706 --> 00:20:08,874
Not in Seattle!
426
00:20:08,957 --> 00:20:10,083
-In your fur coat?
-Yeah.
427
00:20:10,167 --> 00:20:11,001
I'll be honest.
428
00:20:11,084 --> 00:20:16,006
I know Seattle's gonna hate me for this,
but like, Seattle, you're overpriced.
429
00:20:16,632 --> 00:20:19,259
You know what I'm saying?
Like, you are like…
430
00:20:20,219 --> 00:20:23,931
You are Lamar Odom
with Michael Jordan prices.
431
00:20:24,014 --> 00:20:25,557
You're not that great.
432
00:20:26,225 --> 00:20:28,602
But, you know… [laughs]
433
00:20:28,685 --> 00:20:30,812
…I'm trying to get over that.
434
00:20:30,896 --> 00:20:33,649
So, just to make sure,
you are marrying her, saying yes, right?
435
00:20:33,732 --> 00:20:35,734
[laughing]
436
00:20:37,027 --> 00:20:40,697
[Ezekiel] Bro, 'cause if you don't,
bro, 'cause if you don't, bro,
437
00:20:40,781 --> 00:20:42,199
you're missing out.
438
00:20:42,282 --> 00:20:43,909
Oh, man!
439
00:20:44,660 --> 00:20:46,662
Like, the signs are there.
440
00:20:47,371 --> 00:20:50,749
The signs that she's the right one,
it's there.
441
00:20:50,832 --> 00:20:52,751
So, what are the signs?
442
00:20:52,834 --> 00:20:54,419
[Zack] We're in the pods together, right?
443
00:20:54,503 --> 00:20:55,629
I'm like, "Listen, you know,
444
00:20:55,712 --> 00:20:59,591
I've already figured out what my song
I wanna have for my first dance is.
445
00:20:59,675 --> 00:21:01,969
"I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack.
446
00:21:02,052 --> 00:21:04,554
She had the same song on her wedding list.
447
00:21:05,889 --> 00:21:08,767
-And that's not a mainstream song.
-That's not a very common song.
448
00:21:08,850 --> 00:21:10,435
'Cause I've never heard of that song.
449
00:21:10,519 --> 00:21:13,355
So then she says she had had a dream
450
00:21:13,438 --> 00:21:17,192
that, like, an owl would come
and bring her peace.
451
00:21:18,151 --> 00:21:19,111
And I go…
452
00:21:19,611 --> 00:21:20,737
Oh.
453
00:21:20,821 --> 00:21:25,325
I'm not making this up. And I'm like,
"This is, uh, this is kind of wild."
454
00:21:25,409 --> 00:21:28,870
-Right.
-"An owl is, like, my favorite animal."
455
00:21:28,954 --> 00:21:30,205
And she's like, "No."
456
00:21:30,706 --> 00:21:35,627
And I'm like, "Yeah, I'm actually wearing
a tie bar with an owl on it currently."
457
00:21:35,711 --> 00:21:36,545
[laughs]
458
00:21:36,628 --> 00:21:38,880
And I am.
I'm actually, like, at that moment.
459
00:21:38,964 --> 00:21:40,632
So, like, there's literal signs
460
00:21:40,716 --> 00:21:43,468
that this is probably
the woman I should get married to.
461
00:21:43,552 --> 00:21:44,428
Yeah.
462
00:21:44,511 --> 00:21:47,389
She is everything
that I have been looking for in a wife.
463
00:21:47,472 --> 00:21:50,767
Dude, I know how particular you are
when you're changing your brand of milk.
464
00:21:50,851 --> 00:21:52,102
-Yeah.
-[Josh laughs]
465
00:21:52,185 --> 00:21:55,564
This dude and I will spend, like,
a week talking about the research
466
00:21:55,647 --> 00:21:57,357
on the new toilet paper brand he picked.
467
00:21:57,441 --> 00:21:58,400
[Josh] That is so funny.
468
00:21:58,483 --> 00:22:01,570
I can't even imagine what's going through
his head picking a wife.
469
00:22:03,572 --> 00:22:06,825
It's scary to make,
like, a life-long commitment.
470
00:22:06,908 --> 00:22:09,161
-It's very scary.
-Yeah.
471
00:22:11,288 --> 00:22:14,041
I think as long as, you know,
you guys both take it seriously.
472
00:22:14,124 --> 00:22:19,421
But it's about, like, making things work
for you and what you guys want.
473
00:22:19,504 --> 00:22:21,590
And if there's communication,
474
00:22:21,673 --> 00:22:24,384
like, I really feel
like you can have that.
475
00:22:24,468 --> 00:22:25,510
-Yeah.
-You know?
476
00:22:25,594 --> 00:22:27,012
We talk so much.
477
00:22:27,095 --> 00:22:29,598
[laughs] Communication is not a problem.
478
00:22:29,681 --> 00:22:32,392
We're both so, like,
data-focused and logic-focused.
479
00:22:32,476 --> 00:22:35,687
There's no data that tells you
it's gonna last forever.
480
00:22:35,771 --> 00:22:38,106
You guys are both very logical people.
481
00:22:38,190 --> 00:22:40,567
I really think that
when it really comes down to it,
482
00:22:40,650 --> 00:22:44,613
it's about, like,
how you feel, like, right now. Yeah.
483
00:22:44,696 --> 00:22:46,239
I hope I wake up in the morning
484
00:22:46,323 --> 00:22:50,452
and, like, know exactly what I want
and feel, and I'm gonna follow that.
485
00:22:50,535 --> 00:22:55,290
Whether it's a yes, whether it's a no,
like, I'm gonna do what feels right.
486
00:22:56,208 --> 00:22:57,918
I feel ready for marriage.
487
00:22:58,001 --> 00:23:01,004
Do I feel, like, fully ready with Zack?
488
00:23:01,088 --> 00:23:02,839
Like, I don't know.
489
00:23:02,923 --> 00:23:05,509
It's hard because of the story
that Zack and I have had.
490
00:23:05,592 --> 00:23:08,136
Not being together
and then being together.
491
00:23:08,220 --> 00:23:11,640
But I love Zack very much.
I've never met anyone like him.
492
00:23:12,516 --> 00:23:14,684
It just feels like he's my person.
493
00:23:14,768 --> 00:23:18,397
I feel it in my soul,
in my body, in my bones.
494
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:23,068
It feels like such the right thing to do,
but I'm giving myself the freedom
495
00:23:23,151 --> 00:23:26,071
to change my mind
if that feels like the right thing to do.
496
00:23:26,154 --> 00:23:27,823
You know what I mean?
497
00:23:27,906 --> 00:23:29,282
This is the thought.
498
00:23:30,033 --> 00:23:31,701
[shouts, laughs]
499
00:23:33,120 --> 00:23:35,288
How many times
you been in love before this?
500
00:23:36,915 --> 00:23:38,708
-None.
-Whoo!
501
00:23:39,751 --> 00:23:42,087
How do you know you in love?
How do you know you in love?
502
00:23:42,170 --> 00:23:45,924
So, I find myself genuinely thinking
503
00:23:46,007 --> 00:23:49,010
about what makes her happy.
504
00:23:49,511 --> 00:23:51,805
I find myself thinking about her…
505
00:23:52,556 --> 00:23:53,807
Will she be a great mother?
506
00:23:55,100 --> 00:23:58,270
I find myself thinking about
what can I do for her
507
00:23:58,353 --> 00:24:00,188
-[laughs]
-[Lakayana] Wow.
508
00:24:00,272 --> 00:24:03,650
I honestly feel
that we're on the same page.
509
00:24:04,901 --> 00:24:08,905
As far as our commitment,
as far as how we feel about each other,
510
00:24:08,989 --> 00:24:12,284
as far as what we want our marriage to be,
you get to the altar,
511
00:24:12,367 --> 00:24:13,910
it's like, you don't know.
512
00:24:14,911 --> 00:24:17,497
So, what would be the doubt
that she wouldn't say yes?
513
00:24:17,581 --> 00:24:19,124
Is there anything in particular?
514
00:24:19,207 --> 00:24:20,208
I don't--
515
00:24:21,042 --> 00:24:23,295
-This is a big decision for anybody.
-100%.
516
00:24:23,378 --> 00:24:25,422
[Brett] So, I don't wanna
come across like,
517
00:24:25,505 --> 00:24:27,340
"Oh, yeah, of course she's gonna say yes."
518
00:24:27,924 --> 00:24:28,758
That's healthy.
519
00:24:28,842 --> 00:24:31,136
-I feel that she is.
-That's healthy.
520
00:24:31,219 --> 00:24:34,931
But I don't wanna--
I don't wanna be overconfident here.
521
00:24:35,015 --> 00:24:38,810
Are you ready? Are you excited?
Are you nervous? Are you… [chuckles]
522
00:24:38,894 --> 00:24:41,813
The thing is
I feel like I've met my match.
523
00:24:41,897 --> 00:24:44,941
-I've met my equal.
-Yeah.
524
00:24:45,025 --> 00:24:46,359
My only, like,
525
00:24:46,443 --> 00:24:49,821
reservation is because it's such,
like, a blissful, like, fun time.
526
00:24:49,905 --> 00:24:52,199
-That I really hope--
-The honeymoon stage.
527
00:24:52,282 --> 00:24:55,160
[Janae] No, I really do hope
that you guys are able--
528
00:24:55,243 --> 00:24:59,289
It doesn't sound like you guys have had,
like, any conflict or like, whatever.
529
00:24:59,372 --> 00:25:01,750
But if you have or you have not,
530
00:25:01,833 --> 00:25:03,251
I really hope you guys are able
531
00:25:03,335 --> 00:25:06,838
to understand how
to properly handle conflict.
532
00:25:06,922 --> 00:25:10,008
-Yeah. Yeah.
-'Cause, girl, you can be…
533
00:25:12,594 --> 00:25:14,721
He's not a man that gives up easily.
534
00:25:14,804 --> 00:25:18,058
He's a man that's gonna continue
to persevere when,
535
00:25:18,141 --> 00:25:21,686
you know, like,
life throws you curveballs.
536
00:25:21,770 --> 00:25:24,564
[Christy] We're always going to be here.
We've seen what other men
537
00:25:24,648 --> 00:25:28,068
have taken from you,
and we ain't doing that again.
538
00:25:30,278 --> 00:25:32,364
Is there anything holding
you back, though, from it?
539
00:25:32,447 --> 00:25:37,452
To make a lifelong commitment
based on the amount of data that I have
540
00:25:37,536 --> 00:25:42,499
would accrue
just a tremendous amount of risk.
541
00:25:42,582 --> 00:25:45,085
-You're so analytical. You know, like…
-I know.
542
00:25:45,168 --> 00:25:47,796
Yeah, like I was saying, like,
you gotta feel it. You gotta feel it.
543
00:25:47,879 --> 00:25:51,049
-If you feel it, you feel it, you know?
-Especially these days, man.
544
00:25:51,132 --> 00:25:53,635
Yeah, and that's the thing,
is I think that I do.
545
00:25:53,718 --> 00:25:56,721
Like, I know that I feel love for her.
I know that.
546
00:25:56,805 --> 00:25:58,890
We had such a good date yesterday.
547
00:25:58,974 --> 00:26:02,978
So, we went and forged our wedding rings
at, like, a, you know, blacksmith forge.
548
00:26:03,061 --> 00:26:04,980
-It was so cool, dude.
-Cool, dude.
549
00:26:05,063 --> 00:26:08,024
[Paul] We have similar goals.
Similar understandings.
550
00:26:08,108 --> 00:26:09,609
We look at the world very similarly.
551
00:26:09,693 --> 00:26:12,571
Actually, the same way that kind of both
of you look at the world.
552
00:26:12,654 --> 00:26:13,488
Really?
553
00:26:13,572 --> 00:26:16,491
This inherent, like,
"the world is fucking absurd," right?
554
00:26:16,575 --> 00:26:17,993
-[Bobby] Yeah.
-It's hilarious.
555
00:26:18,076 --> 00:26:19,703
I don't know who I am
every day of my life.
556
00:26:19,786 --> 00:26:21,496
-[Paul] Yeah.
-[laughing]
557
00:26:21,580 --> 00:26:24,457
When shit doesn't work out,
it's like we can laugh at it, right?
558
00:26:24,541 --> 00:26:27,794
And she can do that, dude,
and I love it so much.
559
00:26:27,877 --> 00:26:29,546
It makes me so happy.
560
00:26:30,213 --> 00:26:32,757
Cheers to Micah getting married.
561
00:26:33,341 --> 00:26:34,301
[Micah] Cheers.
562
00:26:34,384 --> 00:26:36,303
-You crazy bitches!
-[laughing]
563
00:26:37,971 --> 00:26:39,431
[Micah] So, where's my fucking phone?
564
00:26:40,181 --> 00:26:41,182
I need to talk to Paul.
565
00:26:41,266 --> 00:26:43,810
-Paul's right here.
-[Micah] I hate you, you crazy bitch.
566
00:26:43,893 --> 00:26:45,937
[laughing]
567
00:26:46,021 --> 00:26:48,815
[Ruby] Oh, my God! The famous Paul.
568
00:26:48,898 --> 00:26:50,066
[Shelby] Look at him!
569
00:26:50,150 --> 00:26:52,986
[Micah] Wait, Zack! Wait, come here.
570
00:26:53,069 --> 00:26:54,529
Meet my friend Ruby.
571
00:26:56,197 --> 00:26:57,449
[Ruby] Hi.
572
00:26:57,532 --> 00:26:59,367
[Micah] Do you miss me, or do you love me?
573
00:26:59,451 --> 00:27:01,369
I don't know what the fuck she's saying.
574
00:27:01,453 --> 00:27:02,829
[Micah] Do you like me or no?
575
00:27:02,912 --> 00:27:05,957
[laughing] Of course I do.
576
00:27:06,041 --> 00:27:07,459
How much? Seriously?
577
00:27:07,959 --> 00:27:09,502
Figure out a way to hear it.
578
00:27:09,586 --> 00:27:12,213
-How much do you love me? Go.
-[Paul laughs]
579
00:27:12,297 --> 00:27:15,258
-[Shelby] No one knows.
-You crazy bitch.
580
00:27:15,342 --> 00:27:17,177
I feel like I'm looking at the ceiling.
581
00:27:17,260 --> 00:27:18,970
-[Shelby] Hey, Paul.
-[Micah] Paul!
582
00:27:19,554 --> 00:27:20,889
Shelby.
583
00:27:20,972 --> 00:27:22,432
[Shelby] It's me getting involved.
584
00:27:22,515 --> 00:27:25,894
I'm really showing up
to your bachelor party right now.
585
00:27:25,977 --> 00:27:26,895
I can't hear you.
586
00:27:26,978 --> 00:27:29,648
-We're gonna come crash.
-I'm showing up. [gasps]
587
00:27:29,731 --> 00:27:31,566
-He hung up.
-No, he didn't.
588
00:27:32,150 --> 00:27:35,570
[Micah] Wait. He actually just called back
four times in a row.
589
00:27:36,237 --> 00:27:38,448
-I need you to meet him.
-[Ruby] I have to meet Paul.
590
00:27:38,531 --> 00:27:40,950
He's a super nice guy, but…
591
00:27:41,034 --> 00:27:43,328
-[Ruby] But what?
-[Micah] What do you mean "but"?
592
00:27:43,411 --> 00:27:44,704
[Shelby] You know my "but."
593
00:27:44,788 --> 00:27:47,207
[Ruby] What is your "but"?
Besides your huge ass.
594
00:27:47,290 --> 00:27:49,834
[Shelby] He's a great guy.
I like him a lot.
595
00:27:50,543 --> 00:27:52,587
I think she deserves
everything in the world,
596
00:27:52,671 --> 00:27:53,838
and I don't think this is it.
597
00:27:56,299 --> 00:27:59,010
[Micah] I think you guys just both
don't know him very well.
598
00:27:59,094 --> 00:28:02,138
-[Shelby] I met him.
-No, I know that. I know. But no.
599
00:28:02,222 --> 00:28:04,557
[Shelby] Oh, you know him?
After two months?
600
00:28:04,641 --> 00:28:07,977
-I know him better than you do.
-[Ruby] No, but I've heard you once.
601
00:28:08,061 --> 00:28:11,856
I mean, I spent, like,
20 hours a day talking to him.
602
00:28:11,940 --> 00:28:15,735
Do I feel like
he is everything I've ever wanted?
603
00:28:15,819 --> 00:28:17,737
Yes, in this moment, I do.
604
00:28:18,613 --> 00:28:20,573
I need you to understand.
605
00:28:20,657 --> 00:28:24,119
No matter what I do,
I just hope that you guys will support me.
606
00:28:24,202 --> 00:28:25,412
That's all I can ask.
607
00:28:26,496 --> 00:28:28,790
I'm gonna support you.
I might be pissed off.
608
00:28:28,873 --> 00:28:31,668
Do I know if I'll make the right decision?
No, I have no idea.
609
00:28:31,751 --> 00:28:35,922
But, like, in that moment,
all I'm going to need is support.
610
00:28:37,757 --> 00:28:39,384
-I will be there.
-[Micah] Okay, good.
611
00:28:40,552 --> 00:28:43,179
I don't think Shelby understands at all,
612
00:28:43,263 --> 00:28:47,934
like, what Paul and I have built
through this experience.
613
00:28:48,017 --> 00:28:51,187
He's, like, someone that,
like, people, like, underestimate,
614
00:28:51,271 --> 00:28:53,148
and it's like, "Listen, like, he's great."
615
00:28:53,231 --> 00:28:55,233
"He's great. I promise you guys."
You know?
616
00:28:55,316 --> 00:28:57,694
And I just, like,
I hate that I have to do that.
617
00:28:58,695 --> 00:29:01,531
Paul is, like, so smart.
618
00:29:01,614 --> 00:29:03,241
He's so funny.
619
00:29:03,324 --> 00:29:06,995
He's so cute. He is so epic and so good.
620
00:29:07,078 --> 00:29:08,747
I just want people to, like, see that.
621
00:29:08,830 --> 00:29:13,334
I've been apart from him
for, like, 45 seconds practically,
622
00:29:13,418 --> 00:29:15,211
and I miss him so much.
623
00:29:15,295 --> 00:29:17,714
[chuckles] I love him.
I wish we were together.
624
00:29:18,298 --> 00:29:19,674
I'm gonna text him.
625
00:29:19,758 --> 00:29:23,011
Paul is like a really great love.
626
00:29:23,094 --> 00:29:25,305
It's my life. It's my relationship.
627
00:29:25,388 --> 00:29:28,391
And, you know,
if he's love of my life, like,
628
00:29:29,225 --> 00:29:31,936
that's it,
regardless of anyone else's opinion.
629
00:29:32,020 --> 00:29:34,647
-["You'll Fall, I'll Rise" playing]
-♪ You'll fall, you'll fall ♪
630
00:29:34,731 --> 00:29:38,234
♪ And I'll fight, I'll fight ♪
631
00:29:38,318 --> 00:29:41,946
♪ With the power of the light ♪
632
00:29:42,030 --> 00:29:46,993
♪ You will not survive ♪
633
00:29:47,076 --> 00:29:49,662
♪ You can fight with the light ♪
634
00:29:51,164 --> 00:29:54,125
-[slow-tempo music playing]
-[thunder rumbling]
635
00:29:54,918 --> 00:29:59,798
♪ Everything that's magical will glow… ♪
636
00:30:01,633 --> 00:30:02,967
Here we go!
637
00:30:03,051 --> 00:30:05,303
♪ …those who wait, so slow… ♪
638
00:30:05,386 --> 00:30:07,055
Wow, today's my wedding day.
639
00:30:07,138 --> 00:30:09,015
[laughing]
640
00:30:09,098 --> 00:30:11,184
♪ …running in a heartbeat… ♪
641
00:30:11,267 --> 00:30:13,770
Oh, my gosh.
642
00:30:14,729 --> 00:30:15,855
Oh, my gosh.
643
00:30:15,939 --> 00:30:18,024
That feeling when you're a kid
and you wake up
644
00:30:18,107 --> 00:30:19,150
and it's Christmas morning?
645
00:30:19,234 --> 00:30:20,985
I'm already crying, y'all.
646
00:30:21,069 --> 00:30:23,321
And you're so excited
and you just wanna jump out of bed,
647
00:30:23,404 --> 00:30:25,698
and run downstairs
and open up all the gifts?
648
00:30:25,782 --> 00:30:28,451
That's what I felt this morning,
but, like, a hundred times.
649
00:30:28,535 --> 00:30:30,328
That's my bouquet. [chuckles]
650
00:30:30,411 --> 00:30:31,830
It's so beautiful.
651
00:30:31,913 --> 00:30:37,085
I have been preparing my whole life
to marry a man like Kwame.
652
00:30:37,710 --> 00:30:41,381
Kwame possesses every quality
that I've been looking for.
653
00:30:41,464 --> 00:30:44,634
Not only to make a good husband,
but to make a good man, a good person,
654
00:30:44,717 --> 00:30:46,469
a good friend, a loyal son.
655
00:30:47,512 --> 00:30:49,973
You know? I wanted somebody
who was passionate,
656
00:30:50,056 --> 00:30:51,307
compassionate about their work,
657
00:30:51,391 --> 00:30:54,018
what they do,
about the world, about people.
658
00:30:54,102 --> 00:30:57,772
Kwame is all those things.
He's the most talented man I've ever met.
659
00:30:57,856 --> 00:31:00,650
♪ Pick you up, take you where we stay ♪
660
00:31:00,733 --> 00:31:03,778
♪ Take you to the beach
And on that sand, we could lay ♪
661
00:31:03,862 --> 00:31:05,446
♪ I said that real thing ♪
662
00:31:05,530 --> 00:31:08,491
-[both laugh]
-[Chelsea] Oh!
663
00:31:10,201 --> 00:31:14,664
[Kwame] I'm just so excited to wake up
next to you every single day.
664
00:31:14,747 --> 00:31:19,586
And so, I wanted to ask you,
if you would be willing to marry me?
665
00:31:20,753 --> 00:31:24,132
-A thousand times yes!
-[laughing]
666
00:31:24,215 --> 00:31:26,009
[Chelsea] Love you. I love you too.
667
00:31:26,092 --> 00:31:28,136
I'm seriously the luckiest girl on Earth,
you know.
668
00:31:28,219 --> 00:31:32,056
I've never met somebody in my life
that I wanted to be with more than you.
669
00:31:32,557 --> 00:31:34,809
-Mmm. Mmm.
-I love you no matter what.
670
00:31:35,310 --> 00:31:38,146
-[pop music playing]
-[vocalizing]
671
00:31:38,229 --> 00:31:39,939
♪ I won't give up on you… ♪
672
00:31:40,023 --> 00:31:43,151
Today is my wedding day.
Talk about excitement. [laughs]
673
00:31:44,527 --> 00:31:47,530
I like to think of my life
as somebody who wants to go all the way
674
00:31:47,614 --> 00:31:51,242
and go extreme, and dive all in
to whatever I decide to do.
675
00:31:51,326 --> 00:31:52,619
Hey!
676
00:31:52,702 --> 00:31:55,663
-[men] Yo! Yo! Yo! Yo!
-[Kwame] The boys. The boys.
677
00:31:55,747 --> 00:31:58,124
-What up, baby?
-[Sam] What's up?
678
00:31:58,207 --> 00:32:00,710
So, if I'm gonna be married
at the end of today,
679
00:32:00,793 --> 00:32:03,796
I'm gonna dive all into being married,
and if I'm gonna be single,
680
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:07,425
I might just book a flight
to Vegas after this, so… [laughs]
681
00:32:07,508 --> 00:32:10,887
This arguably is the biggest decision
I'm ever gonna make.
682
00:32:11,387 --> 00:32:14,599
There's no way
that anybody in their right mind
683
00:32:15,099 --> 00:32:17,352
could go through what we've gone through,
walk to an altar
684
00:32:17,435 --> 00:32:19,020
and not have any reservations.
685
00:32:19,854 --> 00:32:22,565
I have nothing here
that helps me get back to myself.
686
00:32:22,649 --> 00:32:26,444
I'm gonna drive to Portland
for three hours, and then go lay in my bed
687
00:32:26,527 --> 00:32:28,947
and take a deep breath
and then come back? [chuckles]
688
00:32:29,572 --> 00:32:31,908
I've always been willing
to move to Seattle.
689
00:32:32,533 --> 00:32:34,994
-Sacrifice what you want?
-I'm not sacrificing.
690
00:32:35,078 --> 00:32:36,704
But I am compromising.
691
00:32:36,788 --> 00:32:39,415
I wanted to just let you know
692
00:32:39,499 --> 00:32:42,210
that I did find someone in the experiment.
693
00:32:42,293 --> 00:32:43,586
You're mad?
694
00:32:44,921 --> 00:32:47,840
-All right, Mom. Bye.
-[phone beeps]
695
00:32:47,924 --> 00:32:49,300
Didn't go well.
696
00:32:49,384 --> 00:32:52,136
My mom's been a big part
of my life. Massive.
697
00:32:52,220 --> 00:32:54,389
She doesn't think that
I used my head in this situation.
698
00:32:56,933 --> 00:33:00,436
Will you say yes to me
without your mom's approval?
699
00:33:01,437 --> 00:33:04,774
It's tough for me
to just look at my mom and be like,
700
00:33:04,857 --> 00:33:08,236
"You've cared for me and loved me
for 32 years,
701
00:33:08,319 --> 00:33:11,572
and I'm just throwing your opinion away."
702
00:33:13,491 --> 00:33:17,453
[Ezekiel] My man is getting married
in less than what, in three hours?
703
00:33:17,537 --> 00:33:20,832
[laughs] I'm getting married
pretty damn soon.
704
00:33:20,915 --> 00:33:24,002
-Yeah.
-Does it, uh, feel surreal to you?
705
00:33:24,836 --> 00:33:26,671
Bro, when I say, man…
706
00:33:27,422 --> 00:33:29,799
[chuckles] …like, I still, like--
707
00:33:30,675 --> 00:33:33,720
I'm still in, like,
a state of surprise, a state of shock.
708
00:33:33,803 --> 00:33:36,139
A couple of months ago,
I don't think, like, I knew--
709
00:33:36,639 --> 00:33:38,933
I didn't even know
what a wedding registry was.
710
00:33:39,017 --> 00:33:42,395
-[laughing]
-You know what I'm saying? Like…
711
00:33:42,478 --> 00:33:44,022
It's a whole different life now.
712
00:33:44,105 --> 00:33:45,606
Which by the way, um,
713
00:33:45,690 --> 00:33:48,484
I'm going to send y'all the link
to our wedding registry after this.
714
00:33:48,568 --> 00:33:51,154
-[laughing]
-Uh-oh.
715
00:33:51,237 --> 00:33:53,823
-Are you expecting something from us, bro?
-[laughs]
716
00:33:54,407 --> 00:33:57,118
Oh! [laughing]
717
00:33:57,201 --> 00:33:58,453
[woman laughs]
718
00:34:00,288 --> 00:34:03,583
[Chelsea] Oh, my God.
Thank God you guys are here.
719
00:34:03,666 --> 00:34:05,752
-Oh, my God!
-Would never miss this.
720
00:34:05,835 --> 00:34:08,588
-[Chelsea] Aww. Love you.
-Love you.
721
00:34:08,671 --> 00:34:10,882
[Chelsea] I have such a hard time
describing the feeling,
722
00:34:10,965 --> 00:34:13,217
just because all the love
is so overwhelming.
723
00:34:13,801 --> 00:34:15,720
The gratitude I have for these people.
724
00:34:16,512 --> 00:34:20,725
To not only come here,
to travel last minute, right?
725
00:34:20,808 --> 00:34:23,227
Take this on, but to believe in me.
726
00:34:23,311 --> 00:34:27,065
To support the decision that I am making
wholeheartedly and to believe in me.
727
00:34:27,148 --> 00:34:30,359
-You're getting married.
-[shouts] I'm getting married!
728
00:34:30,443 --> 00:34:32,862
-I'm so happy.
-[Chelsea laughing]
729
00:34:32,945 --> 00:34:34,322
That means everything.
730
00:34:34,405 --> 00:34:38,034
That means more than anything
I could have ever wanted
731
00:34:38,117 --> 00:34:39,410
from my friends and family.
732
00:34:39,494 --> 00:34:41,996
-[sobs]
-Okay, get it all out now.
733
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,164
[sobs, sniffles]
734
00:34:43,247 --> 00:34:44,123
[gasps]
735
00:34:44,207 --> 00:34:46,834
-Look at my bouquet, you guys.
-[Alex] I know. It's incredible.
736
00:34:46,918 --> 00:34:48,920
[Chelsea] It's a fairy tale.
737
00:34:49,003 --> 00:34:50,797
[chuckles, sniffles]
738
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:52,256
[sniffles]
739
00:34:52,340 --> 00:34:53,716
But your heart's good?
740
00:34:54,258 --> 00:34:55,676
My heart is good. [sighs]
741
00:34:56,260 --> 00:34:59,388
I mean, this has been
the craziest journey ever,
742
00:34:59,472 --> 00:35:00,473
but it was so good.
743
00:35:00,556 --> 00:35:02,433
The way I described falling in love
in the pods.
744
00:35:02,517 --> 00:35:05,186
Like, it was the most sacred--
it's, like, the most sacred thing.
745
00:35:05,269 --> 00:35:07,563
-To have conversations.
-[Chelsea] I didn't have family.
746
00:35:07,647 --> 00:35:10,525
I didn't have the friends.
I didn't have, like, any influence.
747
00:35:11,317 --> 00:35:13,194
Like, for the very first time
in my whole life,
748
00:35:13,277 --> 00:35:15,238
I picked somebody solely for me.
749
00:35:15,822 --> 00:35:17,198
Never having seen him.
750
00:35:18,324 --> 00:35:20,034
-You know?
-[Alex] Mm-hmm. Absolutely.
751
00:35:20,118 --> 00:35:22,328
[Chelsea] I get to meet his sister
and his brother today.
752
00:35:22,411 --> 00:35:23,663
-I'm so excited.
-[Alex] Oh!
753
00:35:23,746 --> 00:35:26,457
[Chelsea] Barbara is his sister's name.
She FaceTimed me last night.
754
00:35:26,541 --> 00:35:29,585
She was like, "I'm checking on you.
I love you. Are you okay?"
755
00:35:29,669 --> 00:35:32,338
-That's sweet. She's married too?
-[Chelsea] "Remember what matters."
756
00:35:32,421 --> 00:35:35,883
She's married. She has two young kids.
I was hoping they were gonna get to come.
757
00:35:35,967 --> 00:35:37,635
But with that being said,
758
00:35:38,678 --> 00:35:41,514
for Kwame and I,
you might not know this, but, you know.
759
00:35:41,597 --> 00:35:46,185
-His mother is Ghanaian, as Kwame is.
-[Dimitria] Mm-hmm.
760
00:35:46,269 --> 00:35:49,689
And she has a lot of, um, you know,
761
00:35:49,772 --> 00:35:52,400
morals and ideals and religious values.
762
00:35:52,483 --> 00:35:54,861
Um, for that she would, you know,
763
00:35:54,944 --> 00:35:58,531
appreciate her son to uphold
in a marriage.
764
00:35:58,614 --> 00:36:00,950
And marrying me does not do that.
765
00:36:03,703 --> 00:36:05,913
So, honestly, Kwame's scared.
766
00:36:06,873 --> 00:36:09,500
We do not have her blessing at this time.
767
00:36:11,294 --> 00:36:12,670
Hmm.
768
00:36:12,753 --> 00:36:14,463
[Alex] How does that make you feel?
769
00:36:14,547 --> 00:36:17,341
I have-- I have sadness for him.
770
00:36:17,425 --> 00:36:19,594
I have empathy for that situation.
771
00:36:19,677 --> 00:36:20,595
Not even just for me,
772
00:36:20,678 --> 00:36:23,306
but just for the love
of someone's son and their mother.
773
00:36:23,389 --> 00:36:25,683
-Who wants to get in the way of that?
-Yeah.
774
00:36:25,766 --> 00:36:27,393
Hmm.
775
00:36:27,476 --> 00:36:31,022
So, I think, you know,
that's definitely a fear, you know.
776
00:36:31,105 --> 00:36:34,317
Also, men are not ready
as early as we are.
777
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:35,610
-No.
-[women chuckle]
778
00:36:35,693 --> 00:36:38,487
[Chelsea] The last few weeks,
he has had to grapple
779
00:36:38,571 --> 00:36:42,283
and come to terms with himself.
"Am I ready?"
780
00:36:42,366 --> 00:36:44,535
You're in.
Like, you are ready to get married.
781
00:36:44,619 --> 00:36:46,037
You're ready to be a wife.
782
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,415
And then to have someone not so ready…
783
00:36:49,498 --> 00:36:50,958
-It's a little scary.
-It is.
784
00:36:51,042 --> 00:36:54,337
-[Dimitria] I mean, that's terrifying.
-Mm-hmm. It is.
785
00:36:54,420 --> 00:36:57,715
Like, you wanna be on the same page,
but, like, are you?
786
00:36:57,798 --> 00:37:01,219
-["I Love You, Either Way" playing]
-♪ It's your side of the story… ♪
787
00:37:01,802 --> 00:37:05,181
Yeah, but then again, you wouldn't
be you if you didn't love hard.
788
00:37:05,264 --> 00:37:08,351
-[Chelsea] I wouldn't be me if I didn't.
-[Dimitria] That's… Yeah, very true.
789
00:37:08,434 --> 00:37:11,896
I'm either gonna marry this man
and be the happiest girl in the world,
790
00:37:12,563 --> 00:37:15,816
or this is the biggest disappointment
of my life.
791
00:37:16,359 --> 00:37:20,613
♪ Either way, I love you, either way… ♪
792
00:37:20,696 --> 00:37:23,324
-Yo! What's up?
-Hey!
793
00:37:23,407 --> 00:37:26,160
Kwame! [laughing]
794
00:37:26,244 --> 00:37:28,329
-Yeah, Kwame!
-What's up, baby?
795
00:37:28,412 --> 00:37:30,456
-How are you?
-I'm good. What's up, baby?
796
00:37:31,249 --> 00:37:32,541
-God damn!
-Yeah!
797
00:37:33,334 --> 00:37:35,253
[Jerry] Hey! Looking sharp.
798
00:37:35,336 --> 00:37:36,712
-Yo, let's…
-Let's sit, man.
799
00:37:36,796 --> 00:37:37,797
[Kwame] Let's sit.
800
00:37:40,508 --> 00:37:44,011
-I'm so happy that y'all are here.
-[Barbara] Yeah.
801
00:37:44,095 --> 00:37:46,472
-[Jerry] That's-- Yeah, I'm excited.
-We're happy to be here.
802
00:37:46,555 --> 00:37:47,765
[Barbara] Remember my wedding?
803
00:37:47,848 --> 00:37:49,392
[Kwame] I do! Yo.
804
00:37:49,475 --> 00:37:51,644
That's the best family picture
we've ever gotten.
805
00:37:51,727 --> 00:37:54,105
-Yeah.
-Was at that wedding. That was everybody.
806
00:37:54,188 --> 00:37:56,148
We've been through a lot together,
807
00:37:56,232 --> 00:37:59,527
and I am so happy to see you just grow
808
00:37:59,610 --> 00:38:02,196
and be the man that you are.
I've raised you right.
809
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:04,573
[laughs]
810
00:38:04,657 --> 00:38:06,617
-[Barbara] You're my best friend.
-[Kwame] Mm-hmm.
811
00:38:06,701 --> 00:38:08,661
-We slept in the same bed, so…
-Yep.
812
00:38:08,744 --> 00:38:12,623
When I had to sneak out,
I had you sleep on my side, so…
813
00:38:12,707 --> 00:38:15,501
You may not be the best brother.
You know what I mean?
814
00:38:15,584 --> 00:38:16,836
[laughing]
815
00:38:17,420 --> 00:38:19,130
[Barbara] You don't check on nobody.
816
00:38:19,213 --> 00:38:22,258
But I know
just for a fact the person you are.
817
00:38:22,341 --> 00:38:24,468
I know that you're gonna be
a phenomenal husband,
818
00:38:24,552 --> 00:38:26,595
and I am looking forward to it.
819
00:38:30,766 --> 00:38:31,851
[Kwame] I wanna talk to Mom.
820
00:38:31,934 --> 00:38:35,730
I want Mom to still know
that her genuine opinion,
821
00:38:35,813 --> 00:38:38,190
her thoughts still matter to me.
822
00:38:38,274 --> 00:38:39,108
[Barbara] Yeah.
823
00:38:39,650 --> 00:38:41,277
-I spoke to Dad.
-Dad knows?
824
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:42,987
[Jerry] Yeah. He was excited, bro.
825
00:38:43,070 --> 00:38:44,864
-He's happy for you.
-[Jerry] He's excited.
826
00:38:44,947 --> 00:38:47,158
-Call him. He's excited, bro.
-[Kwame] Really?
827
00:38:47,241 --> 00:38:49,368
-And he's supportive of it, okay?
-Yeah.
828
00:38:49,452 --> 00:38:51,370
But let's talk about Mom,
your best friend.
829
00:38:51,454 --> 00:38:54,165
-My best friend. My best friend.
-Your best friend, you know.
830
00:38:54,248 --> 00:38:56,751
-She's your best friend. You know?
-[laughs]
831
00:38:56,834 --> 00:38:58,753
[Barbara] No one can really replace Mom.
832
00:38:58,836 --> 00:39:02,631
-[Kwame] Yes.
-Mom has been there for you 100%.
833
00:39:02,715 --> 00:39:03,799
One-hundred and ten.
834
00:39:03,883 --> 00:39:05,926
-You know, Mom is into the Word.
-[Kwame] Hmm.
835
00:39:06,010 --> 00:39:07,386
Mom is into prayer.
836
00:39:07,470 --> 00:39:11,265
So, even if she's not here,
she's praying for you.
837
00:39:11,349 --> 00:39:14,060
-She's praying for you to be the best man.
-[Kwame] Mm-hmm.
838
00:39:14,143 --> 00:39:18,189
To be the best son, you know.
Kwame, you still pray?
839
00:39:18,773 --> 00:39:22,026
-[Jerry scoffs] Yeah.
-Anyway, I'm telling Mom. I'm telling Mom.
840
00:39:22,109 --> 00:39:24,111
-[laughing]
-I'm telling Mom.
841
00:39:25,780 --> 00:39:29,367
Boy hasn't said a prayer in,
like, 15 years. [laughing]
842
00:39:29,450 --> 00:39:33,162
I always knew I will find a way
for Mom to cut you off the will.
843
00:39:33,245 --> 00:39:36,332
"Hey, Ma. Kwame don't pray."
"Okay, I'm done with him."
844
00:39:36,415 --> 00:39:38,042
-[laughing]
-You can't do that, bro.
845
00:39:38,125 --> 00:39:40,336
But one thing that I know for sure is
846
00:39:40,419 --> 00:39:43,964
she loves you dearly, and she will
forever love you, and she still loves you.
847
00:39:44,048 --> 00:39:47,385
So, when the time is right,
you know, when you come home,
848
00:39:47,885 --> 00:39:50,638
she'll get to meet her daughter-in-law.
849
00:39:50,721 --> 00:39:52,473
-Yeah.
-[Barbara] She's gonna love Chelsea.
850
00:39:52,556 --> 00:39:53,557
I believe so too.
851
00:39:53,641 --> 00:39:56,769
I think you just have to give her
some time, but when that time is due,
852
00:39:56,852 --> 00:39:59,855
and you bring her, Mom will…
you can't help it.
853
00:40:01,982 --> 00:40:03,234
-I love you.
-[Jerry] Yeah.
854
00:40:03,317 --> 00:40:04,777
You know how much you mean to me.
855
00:40:04,860 --> 00:40:07,154
I'll be right there with you.
Jerry will be right there.
856
00:40:07,238 --> 00:40:09,615
We got you, but there's no turning back.
857
00:40:09,698 --> 00:40:12,660
-You turn back, I'm pushing you to…
-[laughing]
858
00:40:12,743 --> 00:40:15,413
By God, you ain't getting me
all the way here…
859
00:40:15,496 --> 00:40:18,207
-[Jerry] Too late to turn back.
-No turning back.
860
00:40:18,290 --> 00:40:19,708
And nothing but the best.
861
00:40:19,792 --> 00:40:22,711
You mind if we say, um,
a quick prayer before we head out?
862
00:40:22,795 --> 00:40:25,339
-Let's do it. Let's do it.
-Yeah. Come on. Hey! [mutters]
863
00:40:25,423 --> 00:40:28,259
[laughing]
864
00:40:28,342 --> 00:40:29,510
[Jerry] All right, Father God,
865
00:40:29,593 --> 00:40:31,971
we just commit
our brother into your hands today,
866
00:40:32,054 --> 00:40:37,143
that as he's going through his journey
with his marriage, that you protect him.
867
00:40:37,226 --> 00:40:42,273
Make him the man he needs to be,
the husband his wife would want him to be,
868
00:40:42,356 --> 00:40:44,400
and as they grow and have kids,
869
00:40:44,483 --> 00:40:46,652
he would be the father his kids need.
870
00:40:46,735 --> 00:40:48,821
Um, we just pray that
in Jesus' name. Amen.
871
00:40:48,904 --> 00:40:49,905
-Amen.
-Amen.
872
00:40:49,989 --> 00:40:52,700
-["Be There Soon" playing]
-♪ Nothing I do will speed up time ♪
873
00:40:52,783 --> 00:40:54,410
♪ Or control it… ♪
874
00:40:54,493 --> 00:40:55,953
Dimi, what about the lip color?
875
00:40:56,036 --> 00:40:58,956
I think it might be
a little bit too deep plum for me.
876
00:40:59,039 --> 00:41:00,666
-[woman] Do lighter pink.
-Let me see.
877
00:41:00,749 --> 00:41:02,877
[woman] Yeah, I was gonna say.
I'd go lighter, lighter.
878
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:04,336
[Chelsea] I'm marrying Kwame today.
879
00:41:04,420 --> 00:41:06,046
My decision is yes.
880
00:41:06,755 --> 00:41:10,342
Is he gonna agree?
Is he gonna be able to get past
881
00:41:10,968 --> 00:41:14,597
the biggest roadblock
he's probably ever faced
882
00:41:15,389 --> 00:41:17,308
with the biggest decision of his life?
883
00:41:19,101 --> 00:41:19,935
I don't know.
884
00:41:20,603 --> 00:41:24,565
♪ So please, please, please ♪
885
00:41:24,648 --> 00:41:28,777
♪ Don't find anyone before I get there… ♪
886
00:41:29,361 --> 00:41:30,654
But I know he's for me.
887
00:41:31,947 --> 00:41:35,367
I am letting my faith in us
be greater than my fear today.
888
00:41:36,952 --> 00:41:38,787
♪ I'll be there soon ♪
889
00:41:38,871 --> 00:41:39,997
♪ I'll be there soon ♪
890
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:42,917
[vocalizing]
891
00:41:45,544 --> 00:41:46,879
-Oh, my.
-[gasps]
892
00:41:46,962 --> 00:41:48,547
Oh!
893
00:41:48,631 --> 00:41:50,633
-Chels…
-[laughing]
894
00:41:50,716 --> 00:41:54,720
-Oh, look at the detail. Chelsea.
-Oh, wow. Look at that.
895
00:41:54,803 --> 00:41:56,764
-Wow. Let's see the back.
-[Melissa] Oh, my word.
896
00:41:57,848 --> 00:42:00,184
♪ Not a worry in the world ♪
897
00:42:00,267 --> 00:42:02,645
♪ And it's so beautiful… ♪
898
00:42:04,813 --> 00:42:08,776
-Wow.
-Chelsea, you are a beautiful bride.
899
00:42:09,485 --> 00:42:11,612
-Doesn't get much prettier. [laughs]
-[Alex] Holy shit.
900
00:42:11,695 --> 00:42:13,072
-[woman] No.
-[Alex] Holy shit.
901
00:42:13,155 --> 00:42:14,823
-Look at you!
-[woman] Perfect.
902
00:42:15,449 --> 00:42:16,784
[Chelsea] I'm in a dream.
903
00:42:16,867 --> 00:42:19,328
It feels like a fairy tale.
904
00:42:20,371 --> 00:42:23,207
As a young little girl,
you dream about this day.
905
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,711
Mom, just so you know,
you know, when I was, um,
906
00:42:29,046 --> 00:42:31,966
when I was falling in love
with Kwame in the pods… [sniffles]
907
00:42:32,508 --> 00:42:34,134
…and I was sad that you weren't with me.
908
00:42:34,218 --> 00:42:35,678
[voice breaking] You couldn't see me.
909
00:42:35,761 --> 00:42:37,513
[sniffles]
910
00:42:37,596 --> 00:42:40,099
I wore the name bracelets you gave me.
911
00:42:40,182 --> 00:42:41,433
Oh!
912
00:42:41,517 --> 00:42:44,645
And thought about you every day.
913
00:42:44,728 --> 00:42:46,480
That's so sweet.
914
00:42:47,064 --> 00:42:48,399
-And now here we are.
-[laughs]
915
00:42:48,482 --> 00:42:49,858
[gasps, sniffles]
916
00:42:53,988 --> 00:42:57,116
[sniffles] I just never thought it would
917
00:42:58,534 --> 00:42:59,660
happen to me.
918
00:43:00,828 --> 00:43:02,288
[chuckles]
919
00:43:02,371 --> 00:43:03,372
Do you trust me?
920
00:43:03,455 --> 00:43:05,833
I trust you and your judgment. Yes.
921
00:43:05,916 --> 00:43:07,334
-Thank you. Thank you.
-[Olen] Yeah.
922
00:43:07,418 --> 00:43:08,419
For sure.
923
00:43:09,461 --> 00:43:12,631
-Love you. It's gonna be great. Mmm!
-Love you too.
924
00:43:13,924 --> 00:43:14,800
[Olen] Oh!
925
00:43:16,135 --> 00:43:19,013
Okay. Oh, man. Boys, I like it.
926
00:43:19,096 --> 00:43:21,807
-[Ezekiel] Yeah. Let's see. Let's see.
-[Matt] Turn around.
927
00:43:21,890 --> 00:43:23,726
[all cheer]
928
00:43:23,809 --> 00:43:25,519
-[Ezekiel] The moonwalk. Oh, okay.
-Who that?
929
00:43:25,603 --> 00:43:27,688
-Who that? [laughing]
-[Ezekiel] Okay. Okay.
930
00:43:27,771 --> 00:43:31,317
-Oh, man.
-Perfect, bro. You're missing one thing.
931
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:32,860
-What's up?
-[Ezekiel] Your shoes.
932
00:43:32,943 --> 00:43:35,529
I thought he was gonna be clever
and be like, "Your wife."
933
00:43:35,613 --> 00:43:37,865
Come on, you can do
better than that, Zeke!
934
00:43:37,948 --> 00:43:40,993
[laughs] Damn, you know what?
It's okay. You're missing two things.
935
00:43:41,076 --> 00:43:42,077
[laughing]
936
00:43:42,161 --> 00:43:45,331
Barbara!
937
00:43:45,414 --> 00:43:47,791
-Oh, my!
-[Olen] Oh, this must be Kwame's sister.
938
00:43:47,875 --> 00:43:49,251
-[Alex] Yes.
-[laughing]
939
00:43:49,335 --> 00:43:52,254
-Oh, my God.
-Chelsea, you look beautiful.
940
00:43:52,338 --> 00:43:56,175
[Dimitria] Oh, my God.
How fab. Her shoes though!
941
00:43:56,258 --> 00:43:57,718
[chattering]
942
00:43:57,801 --> 00:43:59,261
[Chelsea] Look at you.
943
00:43:59,345 --> 00:44:01,972
-[gasps] Look at you.
-I'm dressed for Chelsea.
944
00:44:02,056 --> 00:44:05,059
-[Chelsea] Look at you. You're beautiful.
-Our Chelsea. Can we share her?
945
00:44:05,142 --> 00:44:06,268
-[laughing]
-Yes.
946
00:44:06,352 --> 00:44:08,437
You're so beautiful, Barbara.
947
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:10,189
-I mean, we did it for you.
-[gasps]
948
00:44:10,272 --> 00:44:13,567
-Oh, wow.
-[Barbara] Because you are a fashionista.
949
00:44:13,651 --> 00:44:16,862
-[Chelsea] Oh, it's beautiful. Love this!
-[Barbara] Oh, yes.
950
00:44:16,945 --> 00:44:18,739
It was meant to be.
Everything is meant to be.
951
00:44:18,822 --> 00:44:21,033
-You know I love color.
-Yes, you do.
952
00:44:21,116 --> 00:44:23,869
-So, something blue.
-Oh, something blue.
953
00:44:23,952 --> 00:44:25,120
Something new.
954
00:44:25,204 --> 00:44:29,124
-Oh, that's so sweet.
-This is really the women in our culture.
955
00:44:29,208 --> 00:44:31,710
-They put this together, you know.
-[sniffles]
956
00:44:31,794 --> 00:44:34,546
-You know about the Kente cloth?
-Yes, yes.
957
00:44:34,630 --> 00:44:37,299
[Barbara] Yeah, so, you have a piece
of Ghana with you.
958
00:44:37,383 --> 00:44:39,510
-That's very sweet.
-[Barbara] And we love you so much.
959
00:44:39,593 --> 00:44:42,221
-Thank you.
-[Barbara] You're gonna be the best.
960
00:44:42,304 --> 00:44:46,058
I am looking forward to just…
having a sister. I'm the only girl.
961
00:44:46,141 --> 00:44:47,976
I just wanna say, you know, thank you for…
962
00:44:48,060 --> 00:44:52,481
[sniffles] …you know, your part
in making your brother who he is for me.
963
00:44:53,065 --> 00:44:55,901
[laughing] Chelsea!
964
00:44:55,984 --> 00:44:57,778
[laughing]
965
00:44:57,861 --> 00:45:02,616
And I'm so happy you came
and sacrificed to be here for us today.
966
00:45:02,700 --> 00:45:05,285
I'm happy to be here. You deserve love.
967
00:45:05,369 --> 00:45:06,495
[sighs]
968
00:45:06,578 --> 00:45:08,497
-[Barbara] Love you, girlie.
-[women cheering]
969
00:45:08,580 --> 00:45:11,166
-Love you.
-[Barbara] And you all look so beautiful!
970
00:45:11,250 --> 00:45:13,544
No turning back, Chelsea,
or I'm gonna chase you back.
971
00:45:13,627 --> 00:45:14,920
[laughing]
972
00:45:15,003 --> 00:45:17,339
-[Chelsea] Thank you, Barbara.
-Bye, Barbara.
973
00:45:17,423 --> 00:45:20,342
Whatever decision you make,
we support you, man.
974
00:45:20,426 --> 00:45:21,719
-To love.
-Cheers, boys.
975
00:45:39,111 --> 00:45:41,155
-How are you feeling? Nervous?
-Good, good, good.
976
00:45:41,238 --> 00:45:42,948
-Yeah?
-Yeah.
977
00:45:43,449 --> 00:45:47,286
Everything you've asked and prayed for,
here we go.
978
00:45:50,330 --> 00:45:51,623
[laughing]
979
00:45:52,499 --> 00:45:54,835
Lit, yeah, yeah, this is, um,
980
00:45:54,918 --> 00:45:57,755
mm-hmm, this is… This is big.
981
00:45:57,838 --> 00:46:00,090
Yeah. Do you wish Mom was here?
982
00:46:00,174 --> 00:46:01,967
-Of course.
-Yeah.
983
00:46:02,050 --> 00:46:03,093
I can't be Mom.
984
00:46:03,177 --> 00:46:05,679
-[laughs]
-But Mom loves you regardless.
985
00:46:05,763 --> 00:46:07,765
You know what I mean? Just know that.
986
00:46:07,848 --> 00:46:10,559
You're gonna do great.
You're gonna be a good husband.
987
00:46:10,642 --> 00:46:12,811
-Make us proud.
-[laughs]
988
00:46:12,895 --> 00:46:14,938
-Okay?
-Yeah. [laughing]
989
00:46:16,648 --> 00:46:17,649
[sighs]
990
00:46:18,650 --> 00:46:20,736
-You'll be all right.
-[exhales]
991
00:46:20,819 --> 00:46:21,862
You got this.
992
00:46:26,325 --> 00:46:29,286
When I look at Chelsea,
I see-- I see my partner.
993
00:46:29,995 --> 00:46:32,664
Someone who's very strong.
Someone who's very bold.
994
00:46:32,748 --> 00:46:35,209
Someone who is loving.
Somebody who's very caring.
995
00:46:35,751 --> 00:46:36,794
Somebody who is
996
00:46:38,212 --> 00:46:40,130
very, very confident.
997
00:46:40,214 --> 00:46:42,800
You know, someone who is open
to understanding.
998
00:46:44,635 --> 00:46:46,220
[Barbara] This is beautiful, K.
999
00:46:46,804 --> 00:46:47,638
Yeah.
1000
00:46:48,138 --> 00:46:49,348
-This is amazing.
-Yeah.
1001
00:46:55,771 --> 00:46:57,523
But I do have cold feet.
1002
00:46:58,190 --> 00:47:00,651
I think it wouldn't be right
to not have cold feet.
1003
00:47:00,734 --> 00:47:02,986
There's so much coming up, and I'm scared.
1004
00:47:03,070 --> 00:47:05,072
[chuckles] I'm hella scared.
1005
00:47:06,865 --> 00:47:08,992
My biggest fear is that we crash and burn.
1006
00:47:09,076 --> 00:47:11,578
We jump off of a cliff
and don't have a parachute,
1007
00:47:11,662 --> 00:47:15,999
don't have a safety net,
nothing works, and then, um, we implode.
1008
00:47:16,583 --> 00:47:18,460
That's a pretty scary moment.
1009
00:47:19,127 --> 00:47:21,421
So, I hope that we make the right choices.
1010
00:47:21,505 --> 00:47:23,090
["The Reckoning" by Jay Denton playing]
1011
00:47:23,173 --> 00:47:24,967
[thunder rumbling]
1012
00:47:25,968 --> 00:47:28,387
♪ I'm ready for, ready for ♪
1013
00:47:33,100 --> 00:47:35,018
♪ The reckoning ♪
1014
00:47:39,565 --> 00:47:41,692
Deep breaths. Did you write your vows?
1015
00:47:41,775 --> 00:47:42,609
-I didn't.
-Okay.
1016
00:47:42,693 --> 00:47:44,152
-Gonna wing it?
-You know how I do it.
1017
00:47:47,698 --> 00:47:52,244
♪ No, there's no second chance ♪
1018
00:47:54,580 --> 00:47:56,206
♪ No, no… ♪
1019
00:47:57,165 --> 00:47:58,000
[Barbara sniffles]
1020
00:47:58,083 --> 00:48:00,419
-Were you this nervous on my wedding day?
-No.
1021
00:48:00,502 --> 00:48:01,336
[laughs]
1022
00:48:01,420 --> 00:48:03,046
Well, I'm this nervous
on your wedding day.
1023
00:48:03,130 --> 00:48:04,381
-Oh, my goodness. Yeah.
-Yes.
1024
00:48:17,185 --> 00:48:19,563
[classical tune playing]
1025
00:48:25,444 --> 00:48:26,778
[Barbara] Oh, God.
1026
00:48:30,365 --> 00:48:31,658
Oh, God.
1027
00:48:32,701 --> 00:48:33,952
[exhales]
1028
00:48:36,204 --> 00:48:37,789
I love you. [kisses]
1029
00:48:39,124 --> 00:48:39,958
Oh, God.
1030
00:48:42,669 --> 00:48:45,672
-How you doing? Nice to meet you.
-[Kwame] Nice to meet you.
1031
00:48:49,176 --> 00:48:50,761
[exhales]
1032
00:48:52,512 --> 00:48:53,972
Oh, my God.
1033
00:48:54,056 --> 00:48:55,807
[sobbing]
1034
00:48:56,892 --> 00:48:57,976
[exhales]
1035
00:48:59,436 --> 00:49:01,688
[gentle music playing]
1036
00:49:04,441 --> 00:49:06,818
-Okay. I love you, Dad.
-I love you too, honey.
1037
00:49:09,279 --> 00:49:11,531
I think you made a good choice.
1038
00:49:11,615 --> 00:49:13,825
You're both the same kind of go-getters.
1039
00:49:15,285 --> 00:49:16,244
Mm-hmm.
1040
00:49:16,328 --> 00:49:18,872
-I think we'll all have fun together.
-We will.
1041
00:49:20,457 --> 00:49:22,292
Create our little family.
1042
00:49:23,669 --> 00:49:25,420
[gasps, sniffles]
1043
00:49:25,504 --> 00:49:27,047
You've been a great daughter.
1044
00:49:31,009 --> 00:49:32,678
You're gonna make a great wife.
1045
00:49:39,017 --> 00:49:40,143
[officiant] All rise, please.
1046
00:49:42,479 --> 00:49:44,648
Oh! Oh, my God. [chuckles]
1047
00:49:44,731 --> 00:49:46,817
[sighs] Oh!
1048
00:49:55,534 --> 00:49:57,411
[exhales]
1049
00:50:07,212 --> 00:50:08,213
I'll take her up.
1050
00:50:08,296 --> 00:50:10,090
I'll pass my mom my flowers.
1051
00:50:12,092 --> 00:50:13,010
[groans]
1052
00:50:14,428 --> 00:50:15,804
[sighs]
1053
00:50:15,887 --> 00:50:17,764
-Bye, Dad.
-[Charles] Bye, honey.
1054
00:50:17,848 --> 00:50:18,682
I love you.
1055
00:50:19,349 --> 00:50:20,475
[shuddering]
1056
00:50:20,559 --> 00:50:22,602
-I'm sorry I'm shaking, baby.
-[chuckles] It's okay.
1057
00:50:22,686 --> 00:50:24,229
Ooh! Thank you.
1058
00:50:24,980 --> 00:50:26,064
-Hi.
-[Kwame] Hey.
1059
00:50:27,107 --> 00:50:28,025
How are you?
1060
00:50:28,108 --> 00:50:30,318
I'm good.
I heard your voice and I was like… [gasps]
1061
00:50:30,402 --> 00:50:32,696
-[chuckles]
-Makes me feel better.
1062
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:34,614
Everybody, please be seated.
1063
00:50:34,698 --> 00:50:36,116
-[chattering]
-[chuckling]
1064
00:50:37,576 --> 00:50:39,578
We are gathered here this afternoon
1065
00:50:39,661 --> 00:50:41,329
to share with Kwame and Chelsea
1066
00:50:41,413 --> 00:50:43,999
this very significant moment
in their lives,
1067
00:50:44,082 --> 00:50:47,127
as they decide whether or not
to become a married couple.
1068
00:50:49,129 --> 00:50:51,214
Marriage is a commitment to life.
1069
00:50:51,298 --> 00:50:54,551
The best that two people can find
and bring out in each other.
1070
00:50:55,302 --> 00:50:56,845
Marriage is perhaps the greatest
1071
00:50:56,928 --> 00:51:00,307
and most challenging adventure
of all human relationships.
1072
00:51:00,807 --> 00:51:02,893
It's a physical and emotional joining
1073
00:51:02,976 --> 00:51:04,686
that is promised for a lifetime.
1074
00:51:05,228 --> 00:51:09,649
Marriage is having a confidant,
a partner in crime
1075
00:51:09,733 --> 00:51:10,817
and a best friend.
1076
00:51:11,526 --> 00:51:14,237
-Any thoughts that you'd like to share?
-[Chelsea] Yes.
1077
00:51:14,321 --> 00:51:15,614
[shuddering]
1078
00:51:17,491 --> 00:51:18,533
Whoo!
1079
00:51:21,787 --> 00:51:25,499
"Alex Kwame Owusu-Ansah Appiah,
1080
00:51:25,582 --> 00:51:28,460
I love you not only for who you are,
1081
00:51:28,543 --> 00:51:30,378
but for who I am when I'm with you."
1082
00:51:30,462 --> 00:51:32,255
"I love you because of what you have done
1083
00:51:32,339 --> 00:51:34,424
and will continue
to do to make me better."
1084
00:51:34,508 --> 00:51:38,929
"So, here's to jumping off together
to the cliff of the eternal universe,
1085
00:51:39,012 --> 00:51:42,099
not knowing where we will land
but in each other's arms."
1086
00:51:42,182 --> 00:51:45,685
"You are the jaguar to my moon.
I am the moon to your jaguar."
1087
00:51:46,186 --> 00:51:47,312
"I love you, and I'm ready
1088
00:51:47,395 --> 00:51:51,316
for the most beautiful adventure of life
with you as your wife forever."
1089
00:51:56,863 --> 00:51:58,657
[sniffles]
1090
00:52:00,117 --> 00:52:01,660
I will share what's on my mind.
1091
00:52:03,703 --> 00:52:05,872
I love the sound of your voice.
1092
00:52:05,956 --> 00:52:07,874
I love the way you make me feel.
1093
00:52:08,667 --> 00:52:12,879
I love when we disagree
because it makes us come back together
1094
00:52:12,963 --> 00:52:15,173
and let us know how strong we are.
1095
00:52:15,257 --> 00:52:16,883
We get stronger by the moment.
1096
00:52:18,135 --> 00:52:19,302
We get closer by the day.
1097
00:52:19,886 --> 00:52:22,514
And the reason I did not need
to write anything
1098
00:52:22,597 --> 00:52:26,143
is because I will be able
to tell you right now how I feel,
1099
00:52:26,226 --> 00:52:28,270
and that's not something I can write down.
1100
00:52:28,353 --> 00:52:33,150
I fell in love with your beautiful soul
in an opportunity where I didn't get
1101
00:52:33,233 --> 00:52:36,570
to see your absolutely
incredibly stunning shell.
1102
00:52:36,653 --> 00:52:37,904
[Chelsea chuckles]
1103
00:52:38,989 --> 00:52:41,158
[Kwame] I just cannot believe
that I'm fortunate enough
1104
00:52:41,241 --> 00:52:43,535
to stand across from somebody
1105
00:52:44,161 --> 00:52:46,121
who is as captivating as you.
1106
00:52:51,209 --> 00:52:53,044
[officiant] The two
of you chose to get engaged
1107
00:52:53,128 --> 00:52:57,299
and spend the rest of your lives together
based on a deep emotional connection.
1108
00:52:57,382 --> 00:53:00,760
You fell in love with each other
based on who you are on the inside
1109
00:53:00,844 --> 00:53:03,847
and decided to get married sight unseen.
1110
00:53:06,433 --> 00:53:09,686
Now is the time to decide
if love is blind.
1111
00:53:12,230 --> 00:53:15,734
Do you, Chelsea, take Kwame
to be your lawfully wedded husband?
1112
00:53:15,817 --> 00:53:19,196
Do you promise to support him
in sickness and in health,
1113
00:53:19,821 --> 00:53:23,241
in joy and in sorrow,
in good times and in bad?
1114
00:53:23,742 --> 00:53:25,952
Do you promise
to love him without distraction
1115
00:53:26,036 --> 00:53:28,079
and comfort him in times of distress?
1116
00:53:28,163 --> 00:53:30,957
To grow with him in mind and spirit?
1117
00:53:31,541 --> 00:53:33,585
To always be open and honest with him?
1118
00:53:33,668 --> 00:53:36,880
To cherish him
for as long as you both shall live?
1119
00:53:39,090 --> 00:53:40,091
I do.
1120
00:53:40,175 --> 00:53:41,051
Yay.
1121
00:53:51,853 --> 00:53:53,438
[dramatic music playing]
1122
00:54:02,447 --> 00:54:06,534
[officiant] Do you, Kwame, take Chelsea
to be your lawfully wedded wife?
1123
00:54:06,618 --> 00:54:08,620
[dramatic music playing]
1124
00:54:16,294 --> 00:54:18,755
[Micah] Today is so important
because it could be,
1125
00:54:18,838 --> 00:54:22,217
like, the very first day of the rest
of Paul and I's life together.
1126
00:54:22,300 --> 00:54:23,218
You guys like?
1127
00:54:23,301 --> 00:54:24,261
Stunning.
1128
00:54:24,344 --> 00:54:27,180
We're more in love than ever.
We're happier than ever.
1129
00:54:27,264 --> 00:54:31,601
You know, when you love someone,
it doesn't mean it's going to work out.
1130
00:54:32,852 --> 00:54:35,397
[Paul] Today will be one
of the biggest decisions
1131
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:36,773
I've ever made in my life.
1132
00:54:36,856 --> 00:54:38,066
I do love her. I do.
1133
00:54:38,149 --> 00:54:39,317
That is what matters.
1134
00:54:39,401 --> 00:54:43,238
If I ended up losing her,
I would not be okay with it.
1135
00:54:44,864 --> 00:54:48,201
I'm vacillating between
that deep peace and then like… [shouts]
1136
00:54:48,285 --> 00:54:49,119
[laughing]
1137
00:54:49,202 --> 00:54:51,496
[Bliss] I really, really,
really, really love Zack,
1138
00:54:51,579 --> 00:54:53,081
but it's a lot of pressure.
1139
00:54:54,541 --> 00:54:57,627
[Zack] I don't wanna be in a marriage
where your parents hate me.
1140
00:54:57,711 --> 00:54:59,546
Romeo and Juliet didn't work for a reason.
1141
00:55:00,714 --> 00:55:02,674
[Brett] This is the most important day
of my life.
1142
00:55:02,757 --> 00:55:05,802
I don't ever wanna be a person
that makes a decision like this,
1143
00:55:05,885 --> 00:55:07,095
then comes back and be like,
1144
00:55:07,178 --> 00:55:09,055
"Actually, sorry, babe.
It didn't work out."
1145
00:55:10,056 --> 00:55:13,226
-Now if Brett says no…
-[gasps] No, stop.
1146
00:55:13,310 --> 00:55:15,395
I would be devastated.
1147
00:55:15,478 --> 00:55:17,314
-[pop music playing]
-♪ Come save me… ♪
1148
00:55:17,397 --> 00:55:19,774
All I've ever wanted for me
1149
00:55:19,858 --> 00:55:24,571
was to find somebody that loves me
for what's on the inside.
1150
00:55:25,155 --> 00:55:27,949
[officiant] Now is the time to decide
if love is blind.
1151
00:55:28,575 --> 00:55:31,244
Will you have this woman to be your wife?
1152
00:55:32,037 --> 00:55:34,289
♪ Come save me now… ♪
1153
00:55:34,372 --> 00:55:36,708
Will you have this man to be your husband?
1154
00:55:36,791 --> 00:55:38,835
[sobbing]
1155
00:55:39,753 --> 00:55:41,629
[Brett] This should be a day
of no surprises.
1156
00:55:42,213 --> 00:55:43,965
This should not happen.
1157
00:55:44,966 --> 00:55:46,968
[sobbing]
1158
00:55:48,762 --> 00:55:51,598
[dramatic music playing]