[music]
SINGER:
♪ Can't nobody hold me down ♪
♪ I'm steady walking
like I got three commas ♪
♪ In my bank account,
living loud ♪
♪ So get your cameras out ♪
♪ I probably do the same thing
if I was you ♪
♪ Looking at me now, now ♪
♪ Hmm, put up your lights ♪
♪ And keep them flashin' ♪
♪ Don't ever put them down,
down, down ♪
♪ Look at me now ♪
ANNOUNCER:
T-Ban now closing on -
SINGER: ♪ Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
♪ Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
ANNOUNCER:
And look at Glory Bound
against - it's a quick...
SINGER: ♪ Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
♪ Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
LESLEY HO: This is nice.
Yeah.
Honey, what do you think?
- LESLEY: It's beautiful.
- WASHINGTON HO: Yeah.
- LESLEY: It's good.
- WASHINGTON: Oh.
LESLEY:
I could tell Dad ordered.
I ordered, but it was his Amex.
- [laughter]
- BINH HO: Lady first.
LESLEY: Just little piece.
A small one.
I'm not gonna give you
a big piece,
you think I want a fat wife?
Shut up.
TINA: Wash, you know, which--
what are you gonna bet?
I always gonna bet
on the long shot.
I'm gonna show Sammy
how to make some money,
we're gonna down to the paddock.
What's a paddock?
You could see the horses
in the stables
and kind of get a good feel
for the way they look,
the way they act.
It's the same way
I found you, babe.
I didn't come from a paddock.
Sometimes Washington
is just too much.
Give me--give me your hat,
I think your hat is good luck.
Maybe I'd bring some luck.
WASHINGTON: Man,
this has good luck.
Whoo, whoo.
Whoo, now you look Kentucky
right there.
Here we go.
Let me take a selfie.
I don't see a polka dot,
put a polka dot in there,
on top of that.
There you go.
There you go, you look good,
good look, there you go.
- Man.
- We make some money.
- Here's Don Perigon.
- Hey, cheers everybody!
- WASHINGTON: Cheers.
- Cheers.
The Ho are gonna be
in the paddock for 10 minutes.
We're gonna bet some money,
and then win big win today.
Can I bring my glass?
WASHINGTON: Of course,
you're a Ho.
Do whatever you wanna do.
[music]
We got a bunch of, uh,
three-old fillies in this today.
Which one will win today?
I wanna make some money.
I like the--I like the 10 horse,
not the favorite that
we're talking about with before,
if you ask me, 75 you're not--
it's not big odds,
you know,
a little more than one to one.
That's where my money is going.
- All right.
- MAN: Good luck today, guys.
I'll make money,
I'll remember you. All right?
Number 10, all right,
let's take it.
I like it everywhere
there's gambling.
It must be Ho thing.
It's in your blood.
- I know.
- It's a Ho blood.
But mine is not as strong
as yours.
I know--yeah, you're not like,
wanna show it
but deep down inside
you wanna be.
JUDY HO: Reminds me of someone
I know.
Yeah. Washington.
How are you and Wash?
We kind of gotten
to a little argument.
I think you guys know like
that Wash has tried on and off
to stop drinking.
When he drinks alcohol
it turns him into somebody
that I don't recognize,
and sometimes
it just gets out of hand.
Admitting that you have
an alcohol problem
in our Asian culture is a taboo,
but I'm afraid
if I don't ask for help
it's just gonna ruin
our marriage.
It's gonna ruin
the family business.
I think it could just break him.
Washington and I
haven't really--
we didn't really tell anybody,
you know,
because we thought
we could keep it
between the two of us, you know,
but it's very clear that we need
the family to get behind him
also and know
what's kind of going on.
- Right.
- Because, you know,
Judy's lived with us
and she's seen...
the way he was.
And he's been dealing with this
- for at least 20 years.
- LESLEY: Yeah.
At least 20 years he's drinking.
Yeah.
There's a fine line between
drinking to enjoy yourself
and taking it too far.
And sometimes those lines
were blurred for Washington,
a lot of times.
But my parents overlooked it.
I'm proud of Lesley.
It's not easy bringing up
these issues
in front of our family.
It took me a long time
to just accept it, you know,
alcohol is a weakness for him.
You know, it's okay.
You know, you don't see
Washington 10 years ago,
this is a lot, lot change,
big change.
He's good.
You're not in my shoes
and you haven't seen him
at his worst.
Well, he's a little young,
he's still a little playful.
He's still playful.
Lesley, we got to be
a little Ho
to deal with that Ho
because you have the biggest Ho
of my Ho family,
you got to be like us
a little bit,
a little bit attitude,
a little bit bullshit,
so you can hang on to him,
otherwise you're gonna lose him.
It took me a long time
to accept it.
You know, he's an alcoholic.
It's something
that I can't control.
Do it--I know you're working,
right?
And you have the nanny
to cook in the afternoon
but to me Washington
doesn't want to eat her food.
You know that, right?
When she cooks you should try
to help her a little bit.
make him happy,
he'll come home, you know?
[indistinct chatter]
JUDY: My mom's always believed
that if the woman
takes good enough care
of her home and her husband
then he has no need
to have vices.
So Lesley is to blame
in my mom's eyes.
She won't hold
Washington accountable,
it's always been that way.
I need you guys
to not make excuses for him
and not say, "Oh, it's okay."
You know, so as a family
I just think it's important
that we all support him
and keep him accountable,
and that's something
that I can't do by myself.
[music]
Come on, baby.
Come on, baby, that's it.
Oh, my God, go, go.
[music]
Oh, my God.
Oh. The horse said,
"Nope, not today."
BINH: At least he got second.
I don't like
to be second place, Dad.
[Binh laughs]
[music]
JUDY: Thanks for helping me
put the girls' clothes up.
- Of course.
- We have so much clothes
it's gonna take forever
to get the closet ready.
I know.
And look,
maybe we can pass it on to--
- Lincoln.
- --Lincoln.
Yup.
This has a stain on it,
you still wanna keep it or no?
No. Throw it away.
We should do a girls' night,
- me and you.
- I don't know.
What do you mean you don't know?
I'm so tired, Judy.
I know you're tired
but you need to, like,
let off some steam
and, like, live it up.
You're always like stressed out,
so anxious,
I could feel it
coming out of your pores.
- Is it contagious?
- No.
I have enough
to guard against that.
You don't wanna do girls' night?
- The boys are hunting.
- Yeah.
for us to go.
So that's the perfect time
- And I'm not working.
- We can go out.
I don't know.
I have to--
Fun Lesley would come back out.
Fun Lesley, Mrs. Fun Judy.
Oh, Fun Judy is always here.
We can go somewhere
at River Oaks District
and Le Colonial,
our usual spots.
- I know but--
- What else would you do?
- Embrace some duties?
- That does sound fun
but I have to call Wash though
and let him know.
How about we not talk
about Washington that night?
What do you look
so nervous about it?
I'm nervous going out with you.
Why? You're gonna have
a good time, I promise.
It's like to babysit another Ho.
Oh, did you babysit me?
Because you threw up
in the side of my house.
Oh, I threw up,
- that's right, I forgot.
- Yes. Yes.
I don't remember much
from that night.
[music]
WASHINGTON: You came
from Vietnam, you, your mom.
- BINH: Uh-hmm.
- You lived in one bedroom?
I don't know how y'all did that
without killing each other.
I don't wanna think it back,
man.
Too many struggles.
Did Mom believe you would be
rich one day in America?
No.
Sometimes your wife
don't trust you,
don't believe in you,
but that doesn't mean
you give up.
Uh-hmm.
You think that's right what
you're do,
do it.
When I was growing up I saw
how supportive Mom was for you.
Like I saw how she handled
the little things
so you could do the big stuff.
And I'm trying to make
my wife like that.
OK.
- You finished?
- Yeah.
Let me talk.
You born and raised in the
United Stated.
- Okay.
- But in your mind...
you're still a Vietnamese boy.
In 1975 my wife left Vietnam
in the boat
and your wife's born and raised
in the United States.
She got a high degree
in college.
Her knowledge is different.
My wife, she had no choice.
But your wife had a choice.
So you cannot compare.
She's working now,
she's doing good.
You need to go different
kind of level.
Build a trust in your wife.
Equal eye with you
like your partner,
I guarantee you she will
respect you.
Yeah. I wish Reagan
was here on time
so he could hear all
these lessons.
Reagan's my younger brother,
he's totally different from me.
Reagan is a straight shooter.
He doesn't really care
what anybody else thinks,
especially our parents.
When Reagan rolls in
there's going to be an argument.
There's going to be a debate.
It just brings...
a different kind of energy
in a way.
Did he text you?
He said he'll pick us up.
All right. That's fine.
Tomorrow in the morning
for hunting.
- Huh?
- Yeah.
Oh, that Reagan is Reagan.
Yeah.
[music]
SINGER: ♪ Hey, ho, ready to go ♪
♪ In my white tuxedo ♪
So what do you think the dress?
- Oh, I like it.
- You do?
- You know why I like it?
- Why?
Because it's so not your usual.
I know.
- I took what you said to heart.
- Uh-hmm.
And look how fabulous you look.
Oh, my gosh, I'm so excited.
SINGER:
♪ Gonna take you out tonight ♪
♪ Let me show you naughty
is nice with a hey, ho ♪
♪ Ready to go
in my white tuxedo ♪
♪ Gonna walk
like stars tonight ♪
♪ Stepping out
on Hollywood and vine ♪
♪ With a hey, ho
I'm ready to go ♪
♪ In my white tuxedo ♪
Hey, ladies.
- Oh, hey, hey guys.
- Good to see you guys.
Oh, how are you?
Hi, long time no see.
- Oh, you look great.
- They started without us.
CHRISTINE: Yeah. My bad.
Let's go get a drink. Okay.
Catch up. What do you guys want?
- I'm doing vodka tonight.
- Champagne.
Something like girly and flirty.
ANGELA:
Any cocktails to start off?
Can I get something that
has tequila in it in but fruity?
- Got it.
- I'll have a glass
of champagne.
- Thank you.
- Can you also send
four tequila shots
with orange slices?
Oh, wow.
CHRISTINE: Everybody looks nice.
- Party's getting started.
- Yeah.
No husbands, no kids.
LESLEY: You know,
I don't go out that much,
so I'm so ready
for girls' night out,
I definitely deserve this.
- Okay. Cheers.
- Cheers.
- Cheers, guys.
- Oh.
- Okay. No.
Okay.
You need to drink
more than that.
I'm not like my brother,
I ain't giving it in paper...
You're so like your brother.
I've seen the Ho in Judy.
ANGELA: You are nothing
like your brother.
Thank you. That is the best
compliment I've ever heard.
You haven't seen her out,
you haven't seen her out.
I've known him
since elementary school.
When people say like,
"I didn't know Washington
"had a sister,
you're nothing like him,"
I'm like, "Thank you."
I remember his first car
was like a Porsche.
I guess
he got really drunk and--
- JUDY: Got the car wreck?
- And--yeah.
And it's car wreck but like
in his boxers or something.
Let's get you out of jail
dressed like that.
- Yes.
- Well, that's enough
husband talks,
Nate doesn't count.
- CHRISTINE: Oh.
- He's not a husband yet.
We're gonna bring him around.
- I haven't decided yet.
- ANGELA: Take your time.
- Do your parents know him?
- No--they know,
I mean I brought it up to them,
but they're not even like
over the fact that I'm divorced.
- Okay.
- Yeah. I know.
JUDY:
They're old-school catholic.
- This is like frowned upon.
- It's that cultural shift
from our parents' generation
to ours.
I feel like we kind of have
to push in that direction,
- you know what I mean?
- ANGELA: A little bit.
Yeah.
Or just sleep in separate rooms
for the rest of your life
and stay married.
- That's insane.
- ANGELA: They're generation,
- there wasn't a divorce.
- CHRISTINE: Do it for the kids.
- For the kids.
The Judy at 22 would have never
envisioned my life would be here
but now at 39
I'm not afraid of it anymore.
I have a lot more confidence
in myself.
I have a lot more faith
that things are gonna work out
the way that I envisioned
and not necessarily
having everyone around me
pushing me
in a certain direction.
I told my parents
I would hate for them to think
this is how a marriage operates
and when I grow up, you know,
this is what I have
to look forward to,
- you know what I mean?
- Exactly
because you also set
the example for what
they are willing to take--
- JUDY: Yes.
- --in their relationships
- as they get older, right?
- It sets their expectations
for marriage
for them growing up.
- Right.
- Do what makes you happy
and what would--but what would
flex for your kids.
I 100% agree with that.
She said there was love
the other day.
Like love, you know,
right, that's a big word.
- That's a big word.
- I know.
I feel like I'm in junior high.
What is this? What is this?
I've already named him.
- CHRISTINE: What?
- Nudy.
[laughter]
- What?
- Team Nudy.
Like Jennifer, you know,
how they combine the names,
- Nudy, I'm like oh my gosh.
- I've seen Nudy, too,
- cheers to that.
- To Nudy.
CHRISTINE: To Nudy.
[music]
REAGAN HO: Wash, when's
the last time you duck hunting?
- I can't remember.
- With you,
like ten years ago,
or five years ago.
Has it been that long for you?
I never go with anybody else
but you.
Yeah, last time we hunt in
Corpus Christi.
- Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah.
- Remember?
- That was like three years ago.
- Yeah.
The reason I'm doing this
because Mom
gave me the supermom guilt trip.
- WASHINGTON: What?
- For days on end.
She said
you're doing this for me.
My God, no.
Don't fuck with me, Reagan.
[Reagan laughs]
I'm your fuckin older brother.
Do you remember
the Asian culture?
This ain't Asia. [laughs]
Reagan doesn't like to show up
to family gatherings
and we--there's nothing
we can do about it, you know,
it's become to a point where
we feel like we pressure
him too much, too much,
just keep going further away.
Hello? What the fuck
are you wearing
the alligator boots?
Look at these gators, all right?
These boots
are only ten grand, man.
This fucker's wearing
gator boots in the mud.
All right. Here we go.
[music]
WASHINGTON: Coming in 6:00.
[gunshots]
- REAGAN: Did you get it?
- I don't think so.
WASHINGTON: I don't think so,
either. [laughs]
- There's some ducks that way.
- Where?
- Over here.
So the other day, Reagan,
I found out the other guy
that Judy's dating,
somebody that, uh,
you might remember, Mason.
- Uh-huh.
- And you know, I wanted to give
Judy permission to date him.
Nobody needs your damn
permission to do anything.
What if she was dating
a shitty guy
that you didn't like,
you don't care?
Caring is one thing,
it doesn't mean
they need your permission.
What do you think, Dad?
Just one request, and I think
it's fair and reasonable.
What request?
Um, I request
I wanna meet the guy
and see, uh, how he is.
Is she gonna set that up?
What's the rush?
Dad doesn't have time
to waste anymore,
and neither does Judy.
Whenever they're ready
to meet with Dad, they can.
If they're not ready,
then they won't.
- Reagan?
- What?
Why are you such an asshole?
I hope someday I would take, uh,
- my grandkid go to hunting.
- Yeah.
I want the baby go with me, too.
So I pray something
happens soon so I can get--
I can live long enough
for your son
maybe go with me, okay?
I have nothing
against marriage at all,
I'm just--just gotta find
the right person.
And I hope you
get lucky pretty soon.
You know why you haven't met
the right girl?
Tell me.
No, I just want to see
what you--
I want you to tell me--
I know you're gonna say
something.
[chuckles] What do you mean?
I don't know.
Sounds like just...
Maybe I think, though,
you got different standard.
WASHINGTON: Reagan's very--
I think Reagan's too picky,
is what it is.
- Understandable.
- The fuck is this?
I thought we're duck hunting.
It's like a intervention
or some shit?
It's all a fuckin plan
to get me out here
and tell me to get married?
You have some brides,
like, hidden behind there?
- [Washington laughs]
- Behind bush number three,
please come out.
Today, we have a good time,
we talk about that.
REAGAN: There's three of them.
Get ready.
Get them, guys.
Get them, get them.
[gunshots]
- WASHINGTON: Did you hit it?
- REAGAN: I think so.
Just because we like doing it,
doesn't mean we're good at it.
- We all suck.
- [Binh laughs]
[music]
- Hey.
- [Sue Ho speaking Vietnamese]
LESLEY: Uh-huh. Bring this to -
Oh.
- So you're dating, Judy?
- JUDY: Yes.
TINA: I will try to ask
Lesley the other time,
do I get anything out of her?
No.
You didn't ask me.
- I tried to.
- No, you did not.
You barged into my house
and you put my head in a sink.
- And you tortured me.
- Right.
[screams]
Hey, you got to be gentle.
- Come on.
- I don't know,
I'm telling you the truth.
I'm just--
- You are her sister-in-law.
- Don't burn me.
- Oh, geez.
- I keep telling you that.
You don't know shit.
Of course--I told you that.
Why does everybody care so much?
Don't they have their
own lives to worry about?
Your thing
is the only one that's
exciting our day, you know.
You guys really are bored.
Well, do you know
anything about it?
- I have.
- How do you feel about it?
Uh, too early to suggest,
so no, I don't know.
Oh, I didn't realize I need
to do yes or no, but okay.
Well, you can tell us now.
What's up? How's the guy?
- He from Houston, too?
- From Houston.
- Is he cute?
- [Judy chuckles]
- Uh, yeah.
- Okay. One.
- Number two?
- He's a doctor.
Ooh, wow, that was the man.
What do he do?
- LESLEY: That's your cute?
- Yeah.
- [Lesley laughs]
- No. What do he do?
I just want to make sure,
when I--it is one thing,
but he have good career,
that's another thing--
- I know.
- --that's a plus.
- That makes him cuter, right?
- Yeah, that's plus.
- When do we gonna get to meet?
- We're not ready.
You are ready,
she will not be ready.
JUDY: You know,
when a relationship is the best?
When it's just
between two people.
- Uh-hmm.
- Oh.
Because once other people
start trying to get into it,
it gets real annoying.
So I'm gonna keep it
that way as long as I can.
Uh-hmm.
When is that? Next week?
Girl, I told you,
when I'm ready.
SINGER: ♪ When the night's
getting lonely ♪
♪ Put your hand up and call me ♪
♪ Because you know that
you're fire, you're fire ♪
JUDY: Can you smell that, babe?
- [laughs]
- NATE: What?
- The shoes?
- The shoes.
- I can smell the shoes.
- I like these.
- That's cute.
- It matches my bag.
- What do you think?
- I know. I think it's great.
That's your cute,
to ask a salesperson what size.
Yeah? It sounds expensive.
- Oh, oh.
- It is expensive.
I don't buy shoes
that have commas, babe.
Never get a laugh
in this family--
- Really? Okay.
- --without attitude.
I just pretend they have commas.
Yeah. You probably want me
those gold boots, I bet.
And just that? Yeah. That's it.
- Damn it.
- So are you sure you can't
have dinner
with me tonight, babe?
I can't.
When my brothers
and my dad go hunting,
it's like a command performance.
We have to get my mom afterward
to see what they caught.
Oh, really?
It is a whole production.
Yeah. It is a whole production.
Especially because Reagan's
with them today.
- Oh, Reagan's gonna be there?
- Yeah.
- Like, it's pretty rare--
- Oh, okay.
--for him to come around
for family dinner.
Does he make it more fun?
- When he's around?
- When Reagan's here? Yeah.
He's not afraid to speak up
to my parents.
- Yeah?
- Yeah. I mean,
I feel like
I'm just getting there
- at my age, but Reagan's--
- Right.
--been that way since day one.
He doesn't seek any type
of approval from my parents,
and I think
that's why my parents
- are annoyed by him.
- Right.
Because he's the only one
that doesn't go out
of his way to do that.
I just need to be a little bit
more like Reagan sometimes.
[music]
LESLEY: It looks good.
SUE: Go, sit here.
Come on, let's go.
LESLEY: Oh, it smells so good.
- WASHINGTON: Is the food ready?
- LESLEY: Yeah.
Let's eat.
I'm hungry.
LESLEY: So how's hunting, honey?
- REAGAN: Thank you, Ma.
- Thank you, Ma.
- Thank you.
- Thank you very much.
Have a seat.
- Yeah, honey. It was fun.
- Okay.
- LESLEY: Yeah?
- You know, we got to spend time
with Dad and Reagan,
we haven't done that in a while.
We saw a few ducks
here and there.
You saw or you shot
a few ducks here and there?
[Washington laughs] Um,
- it's really good.
- BINH: Yeah.
We're gonna bring home
a raw duck, right?
Okay.
[speaking Vietnamese]
What if Mom asks us,
"How many ducks did you shoot?"
- Just keep mouth--
- Yeah.
--hey, we got some duck,
that's it.
We're coming home with duck,
whether it's game duck
or a farm-raised duck.
It's the Ho truth,
not the whole truth.
TINA: How do you hunt it?
There's no hole,
no bullet, or anything?
Hey, we live with it, y'all.
Okay. We'll talk later,
I'm hungry.
- Cheers.
- Thank you
for being here with us.
No problem.
Reagan give me that look,
"Okay, just shut up."
And I say, "Oh, yeah, okay.
I'll shut up."
But you know what I mean,
I'm not your mom, hello.
Y'all can fool her, not me.
Cheers--
- Cheers.
- --to duck.
LESLEY: I guess the talk
that I had with my mother-in-law
and Tina was pointless.
I know I may be counting
the drinks that he has,
and I just don't want it
to be that way.
It's so hard to be
at all these big meals
with Washington.
Drinking is a huge part
of our culture,
and to see him have a beer
in his hand and knowing
that it could possibly escalate,
it's just starting
to give me anxiety.
Does that bother you,
like, Mom and Dad
still leave that picture?
- [Reagan laughs]
- SUE: Oh, my God.
JUDY: Will you take it down?
I'm not ready yet.
- Oh. Well, Dad's not ready.
- WASHINGTON: His house.
Come on.
What will it take for you
to be ready to take that down?
More time?
Too early for me.
LESLEY: Look, if he's not ready,
he's not ready.
- Yeah. He's going--
- Everyone's ready
- in their own time.
- --through, you know...
TINA: Mom, are you ready?
Uh, not yet.
- REAGAN: Why?
- Because they're hoping
that I'll go back to that?
He's more worried
about having a daughter
that's divorced,
that's what it is.
I, uh, worry about
my grandchildrens.
You should worry
about your daughter
being happy, though.
I'm not, uh, worry about...
- Her?
- But if I'm happy, I take
better care of them,
don't you think--
I hope.
REAGAN:
If you're an unhappy mother--
- Uh-hmm.
- --how would that work?
You big enough,
- you get a choice.
- JUDY: Uh-hmm.
My grandbaby
don't have a choice.
REAGAN: Well, I think
if you ask the kids
their choice,
I think they would want
their mom to be happy,
don't you think?
But my grandbaby
didn't tell me that way.
But you didn't see the way
they were when we were married.
Yeah. You never saw them
at her house.
BINH: My family is the most
important in my life.
But I feel like I'm
responsible for them.
I'm still disappointed about the
divorce...
...not her.
You only saw them,
like, when they were happy,
like, once a week,
when they were out.
LESLEY: It's just hard for them
to see their grandkids
- crying sometimes, that's all.
- I understand that.
- I understand that, but--
- But they were crying
a lot more when we were together
in that house.
But when they're with me,
they're fine.
- Well...
- She have the boyfriend--
- BINH: My family wasn't ready.
- --fairly too early.
Who cares?
- TINA: With you, right?
- Who cares? It's a boyfriend.
You know what? Reagan is right.
I'm way too old to get
permission from my parents
- to move on with my life.
- Don't worry about it.
- Let's just sit down.
- WASHINGTON: It's done,
- all right. One more to go...
- I give you permission.
Hey, don't give him
a heart attack.
Are we done?
[music]
I'm really happy for Judy.
It seems like she chose
a good guy, so I don't think
that you and Dad have
to worry so much
- about her.
- I don't mean to apply
pressure to her, but, you know,
everything's moving really fast
and I just don't want her
- to rush into anything.
- Right.
She's gonna change a little bit,
but I think it's gonna change
for the better
because it helps her
move on with her life.
It's been really tough on,
you know, for me personally,
it's been tough
on my relationship with Lesley.
We've been, uh...
Yeah, you better fix that shit
before it gets out of hand.
- Right.
- For sure.
- Cheers.
- Cheers, bro.
[music]
- Hey, honey.
- What are you doing?
Just, you know,
reading the news.
How are you?
Drinking that tea.
[sighs]
She's having - your mom
gets involved.
I never see her drinking tea
to solve her problem.
You know, it goes
beyond the tea, right?
You know it's beyond
what she really knows.
She's my mom.
If she really knew our problem,
she would know that there's
no tea that could solve it.
You know, our biggest issue
in our marriage is--
[sighs]
--your behavior
is erratic sometimes,
you just spend
crazy amounts of money,
and I can only pinpoint
one thing.
And it's the alcohol.
And it took me a long time
to even admit to myself--
Uh-hmm.
--that you're an alcoholic.
Look, I'm gonna freaking, like,
fight as hard as I can.
You know when you met me,
I say I love Robert Downey, Jr.
He's Iron Man.
He gave up all that shit.
He does karate now,
he has a new hobby.
Bradley Cooper,
he gave up drinking at 28
and he helped
Brad Pitt get sober.
All that men become successful,
that I look up to.
They can do it,
and you know what?
Why can't it happen to me?
You ain't Lady Gaga,
but you know what?
I'm Bradley Cooper in Asia.
I can give it up.
I'm just trying to figure out
how I can do it.
I don't know if I can't live
with the fear
of every time you drink,
I don't know the person
that you're gonna turn into.
So it's over if I sip a beer?
Okay, our life is-is--it's over?
Yes or no. Is it over
if I sip another drink?
I told you over and over again,
and I'm just--I'm done with it.
This ultimatum
that you're giving me
is ridiculous,
you understand that?
What kind of wife is that?
Like, I gotta live
with an ultimatum,
like, really?
Like me?
I don't need an ultimatum
to be better.
I can't do it anymore,
I can't have the same fight
with you over and over again.
If it's good between us,
it's good.
But when it's bad,
and you know
what I'm talking about.
- It gets bad.
- Yeah.
And it's just--it's hard
for me to talk about.
I feel like you kind of
chipped away
a part of me when you did that.
And I couldn't talk
to anybody about it.
You know, I don't tell
my mom and my sister about it.
Tell them.
Tell them. Tell them. Tell them.
Before filming we
had a scary moment.
It was something that I kept
from production because I felt
really shameful about it.
Washington had,
uh, a few too many drinks
and then it kind of escalated.
I didn't even recognize him
at that point.
And I felt really scared.
So I did what I had to.
I called the cops.
The police came
and they handcuffed him,
and they took him to jail.
That night was...
one of the worst nights
of my life.
You know, it's forever
changed our marriage.
I don't know how to help you
when it's a part of your life,
I don't know how to help you
when it's a part
of your culture, I don't know--
I just--I know I can't live
like this, is all.
And I don't know
how to help you.
I love you,
you're my first wife.
I hope you're my only wife.
SINGER: ♪ Make it rain,
make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care
because it's all the same ♪
SINGER: ♪ I'mma make the best
of any situation ♪
SINGER:
♪ Make it rain, make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care, I'mma be happy ♪
♪ No, you can never rain on me ♪
[music]