- This is part of the contract of being a Ho.
You have to be able to withstand private jets.
- ♪ I can do this all day ♪
[all squealing]
- My parents are refugees.
Came over here in 1975 from Vietnam.
No money, they didn't speak English.
[bell ringing] - Oh, my God.
- Whoo-hoo-hoo!
[gunshots, cheering]
And one day he did it.
- My family loves being American,
but at the same time, they're old-school Vietnamese.
So I have an announcement that I want to share with everybody.
- Okay. - I've decided to file divorce.
Thank you, Dad.
- How can I help you today? - She talk a lot.
Her husband, that same thing.
That's why they fight. They crazy.
- I'm not crazy.
- We think you need to have sex.
[laughs] - Oh, I'm having sex.
All I have to say is I'm satisfied.
both: Satisfied.
- I know that you would have preferred that I stay married,
but I'm not asking for your approval anymore.
That's what I'm telling you. - [clears throat]
- This is my fear-- that I would have to choose
between my parents and my future with Nate.
Everything looks good from the outside,
but the inside is just so hard.
- My mom was like, "If you marry Lesley,
"you don't owe me and Dad nothing
for the rest of your life."
- Should that be on TV?
- I'm a spoiled rich kid.
- Looking fly.
Biggest issue is the alcohol.
- Now let's get fucked up.
- You're my first wife. I hope you're my only wife.
- [sniffles]
- Wash introduced me to Judy
about 20 years ago.
- I was shocked.
- I'm really happy for Judy,
but I'm not sure my family's gonna survive this.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Yeah ♪
♪ No fear, only fight ♪
♪ I'm fearless, it's only right ♪
♪ My head's up, I stay strong ♪
- ♪ Stay strong ♪ - ♪ Forever young ♪
- ♪ I am fearless ♪
- ♪ Uh-huh, I am fearless ♪
♪ You know ♪ - ♪ I am fearless ♪
- ♪ You know ♪ - ♪ I am fearless ♪
- What kind of pizza are you making?
- Cheese, pepperoni, prosciutto, and arugula.
- Wow. - Something easy.
- But we'll make that Vietnamese one you like.
- The one with lap xuong? - Yeah.
- And hoisin sauce? - Fish sauce.
- And basil? - And mam thom.
- No mam thom. - Ooh, that looks good, babe.
- I would say at this point in our lives,
our family is still as united as ever.
Brunches and family dinners
have gotten bigger than before.
- Nate has everything. - Don't say that.
He said he claims he's not bougie.
- I'm not bougie.
- My cousins Bella and Kim are back in town.
- What would you like? You want the sausage, right?
- I want a cheese sausage.
- And what else? - And no tomatoes.
- Nate and I are together and happy.
I realized after the proposal
that maybe we should take a pause
and that Nate should spend some time
getting to know my parents and my family.
I think they like him more than they like me.
- Aunt Tina, you want to take some shots?
- You're taking shots?
- Oh, I got cigars today.
[chuckling] - So...
What? - This shit is crazy.
- What's tickling you, just being interviewed again?
- No, I'm just like, okay, I'm just--it's just surreal.
Being sober and doing this...
interview is amazing.
It's a lot more fun.
You want to go smoke a cigar, Miss Aunt Tina.
- What else you smoking?
- We got cash.
I'm gonna practice for tonight.
- You're gonna burn the dollar bill?
- Tonight? Where you go tonight?
[laughter]
- Honestly, the last couple years have been a shitshow.
But I'm really optimistic.
Washington's given up alcohol for me and the kids.
[upbeat hip-hop music]
- Look at him. He practice with money already.
- But he's still Washington Ho.
And, yeah, he slipped up here and there,
but he understands how his actions
has affected me, has affected his family.
Roosevelt, where'd you get all that money?
- What? Outside.
[indistinct chatter]
- Hi, guys, how you doing? - My famous uncle!
- Andy! - What's up, guys?
- Oh, Andy, he come late.
Now you can go pick the trash out and bring the trash out.
- Oh, thanks, Uncle Andy!
- Welcome. Welcome, right?
- Andy-- this my little brother.
My younger brother-- he's not little anymore.
- Where's my drink? What are we starting on?
- Sometimes he'll correct me and say, "No.
"Call me younger brother, not little.
I'm taller than you, Tina."
- Where's my baby?
- Hi, baby. - Where's my baby?
- My baby. Mwah!
- You too.
- We're first cousins.
My dad and Bella's dad
are one of the four brothers of the family.
- Oh, making something-- dessert?
- We're making Chè Thai. - Ay.
- Do you happen to have a can opener in your car?
- No, but I do have a beer opener. [laughs]
- We were both in California at one point,
but we decided we missed our family.
- So here we are.
We're not roommates, we're life mates.
She can't get rid of me.
- Blinking twice for "come help me."
- Can't see her. I don't know what she's talking about.
- All right, pizza's done. - Come sit.
- Thank you, Judy, for letting us come today together.
The happy family together.
- Thanks for coming. - Cheers.
- Sunday Funday here we go.
- No matter, we're eating homemade pizza.
- With love.
- Are you smoking right now? [chuckles]
- What?
♪ ♪
Y'all are drinking in front of me.
- Only person drinking is Dad, Tina, and Lesley.
- Mine's watered down.
- You don't want us to drink in front of you?
- No, it's fine. Y'all can drink in front of me.
- Does it bother you? - Sometimes.
- When I see Washington anxious around alcohol,
it makes me nervous.
That just shows me that he's not quite comfortable
with his sobriety.
- In what way?
- I'm just smoking a cigar, guys.
- We honestly kind of had a terrible moment
a few months ago.
Washington and I went to Tulum
to celebrate his 40th birthday.
Washington spent $25,000
because he orders nothing but champagne
and tried smoking some marijuana there,
and I don't even think he remembers half of it.
The fact that he relapsed
almost felt like history was repeating itself.
Since then, he's gotten help,
and through lots and lots of therapy,
he's focusing on not just being sober
but mental health as well.
- You know, the day my dad was driving me
to the recovery center
and my wife packed my bags,
I was gonna be gone for up to, like, six to eight weeks,
and my mom was making me food.
And, really, we were only going 45 miles down the street.
And that was the longest 45-mile drive I ever had.
But maybe it was the best drive I ever had.
[child speaks indistinctly] Um...
Hey, baby. Love you.
This is the reason why I wanted to change--
so I could be there for my kids.
- Let's toast to a beautiful family.
- Cheers. - Cheers to family.
[overlapping voices]
[birds chirping]
♪ ♪
- You want to help me pack Daddy's lunch?
- Daddy? - Yeah.
He's going to work today.
So we got to give him good, positive vibes, right?
What color is this in Vietnamese?
- Yellow. - Say it in Vietnamese.
- Vang. - Vang. Good job!
Good girl.
Good job. - What are y'all doing?
- Morning, honey.
- Mom's making Daddy lunch today.
Are you making Daddy lunch? - No! Ow!
- Today Daddy's gonna sell three cars.
I'm gonna make more money
than your grandfather ever did in one day,
and I'm taking us on vacation.
Son, you love cars? - No.
- You love cars. - No, I don't.
- Yeah, you do. - What do you love?
- I love playing with blocks.
- You were made in a car, Roosevelt.
Did you know that? - Nope.
I was not made in a car. - You were not made in a car.
My father-in-law's dream is to own a car dealership.
So now Washington
is selling cars to learn the business.
- You said you would respect me if I had a 9:00 to 5:00.
- That's true.
- Working in a job where I have a boss,
it's weird.
- You can't get away with anything.
- Yeah, I know.
But each day I work there is one step closer
to the dream of owning a car dealership.
Come buy a car.
I'm gonna go sell some cars...
make some money...
and be king of the Ho.
Roosevelt, let's do our song, okay?
[hip-hop music plays on phone]
I got to get in the mode, you know?
Sales are sales, honey.
Ah, don't touch it.
- ♪ If I tell them I did it, they say how much bigger ♪
♪ I tell them we big because I'm a Ho ♪
- Washington created his own song, "King of the Hos."
- ♪ The king of the Ho ♪
♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪ - [laughs]
- ♪ I don't care if you're ready or not ♪
- Every morning I hear it.
- ♪ King of the Ho ♪ - And every night I hear it.
- ♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪ - Yeah!
- ♪ Came from the bottom... ♪
- And my kids are now rapping it.
- ♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪
♪ I don't care if you're ready or not ♪
- This is the quirkiness of Washington sober.
He wakes up one morning,
and he thinks he's the next Kanye West.
- ♪ I get on my knees, continue to pray ♪
♪ So, you haters, get out my way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ King of the Ho ♪
both: Yeah, baby!
- You guys are gonna ruin the couch!
- King of the Ho!
- ♪ 'Cause this life's what you make it ♪
♪ And some rules are for breaking ♪
♪ This daddy he will play its role, you know... ♪
- How are you gonna bring up the conversation with my dad?
- [sighs] You know what?
I've tried to prep myself for this, but I have no idea.
Like, a, "Hey.
Thanks for meeting us."
You know, taking time out of his busy schedule.
- This isn't a business deal, okay?
You got to be more casual about it.
How about you start with-- - Yo, Pops!
[both laugh]
- Okay, it's not "Fresh Prince of Bel-Air."
- Right, right. - Take a deep breath
and remember who you're dealing with.
[laughs] - Mr. and Mrs. Ho.
- Yes.
- Now you made it worse. [laughs]
Oh, well...
♪ ♪
How are you guys doing? - Hi, Dad, good to see you.
- Good to see you. - Come in.
- Let's go in.
So thanks for letting us in today...
[laughing] 'Cause we need talk to you.
- Well, you say something important
you want to talk with me--it make me a little bit nervous.
What it is?
- Well, you know,
when I first asked Judy to get engaged,
I know it was a shock for everyone, especially Judy,
but, you know, for the family, too.
And now that we've taken some time,
I appreciate the time to get to know who you are,
what we're getting into, what I'm getting into.
And, you know, Judy is a wonderful person, mother.
And, you know, I would like to ask
her hand in marriage,
and we would love to have your blessings.
- Well...
Nate, I want to ask you some personal question,
man-to-man. - Oh.
- Do you want me and Mom to leave?
- No.
- Right. - And something...
not good happened in the past
for your children, you know. - Right.
- So I'm sorry to hear that.
[somber music]
♪ ♪
- Last year Nate lost his children.
♪ ♪
[voice breaking] I can't say it without crying.
His grief is vast and profound.
I think any parent can understand that.
- And I'm bringing that to remind you that right now
you will stay with my grandchildren.
And it remind you sometime, you know--
I know that it's hard for you.
But please love them like you love your kids, okay?
- I can't imagine what he feels inside every day.
And it's especially hard because he lives with me,
with my three children.
And I know it reminds him of his children.
- Taking care and love my grandbaby.
That all I want.
- I will.
- Everyone around him has surrounded him
with so much support and love.
And that's the only way he's been able to survive this year.
[breathes shakily]
♪ ♪
I just hope that...
[sighs]
[sniffles] Nate knows how much we all love him
and that we're here for him.
- I know you love my daughter, and I appreciate it.
- Thank you for understanding.
♪ ♪
- Hey, Nate, we want to thank you for you ask,
you know, engage my daughter.
I need to talk to your parents.
So we want to go tradition engagement party
we call a tea party.
- Okay.
- In American culture, the groom usually just asks
the bride's father, and then it's a simple yes or no.
In the Vietnamese culture, it requires both families
to agree to the marriage.
'Cause I know this is very meaningful to my parents,
so for them and for Nate's parents,
I think this is what they need to see to give their blessing.
- You think you can handle Judy?
- [laughs]
- We'll find out. It's been good so far.
I am very confident I can handle her.
- Oh, that's good. - Hey, her favorite daughter.
[laughter]
- I try to spoil her.
- We're very happy for you, both of you.
- ♪ All I ever need ♪
- Congratulations.
[laughter] - Thank you very much.
It means a lot to us. - Thanks, Dad.
- Ah, thank you.
♪ ♪
- Thanks, Mom.
- ♪ All I ever need ♪
♪ Is you ♪
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- Grandpa! - Hello. Hello.
Hello. Ha ha.
- Hi, Dad. Look...
- How are you, Roosevelt? - Your favorite person's here.
- Nate and Judy just come by. - What happened?
- Nate ask me-- he want to engage Judy.
- What'd you tell him?
- I said I'm happy, but I would talk to family first.
- Well, they both been through a lot,
so I'm happy for both of them.
I'm happy for Judy, but I'm a lot more happy for Nathan.
And, you know, once he marries Judy,
he'll be able to drink all the good liquor
my dad saved for me in the future.
And I'm kind of jealous. [laughs]
[whispering] Fuck him and Reagan.
- Hey, ba, I thought I heard you.
- Oh, hello, how are you?
- Honey, aren't you supposed to be at work?
- There's nobody there.
Nobody's looking to buy a car this early in the day.
- Ba, how often did you take off for work
when you were working?
- I usually to work for myself,
so I got work seven day.
- I'm all about balance.
- Work never stops.
- I'm doing my number-one job right now--being a father.
I'm being your husband.
And I'm not out there doing what I used to do,
so you should be happy.
- Huh? - Where's the furniture?
- Uh, honey?
- [sighs] Oh, guess what. It's time to go to work, guys.
- What? Tell me what happened.
- I got to go to work, guys.
Y'all want me to lose my first job?
- Oh, man. - [scoffs]
- Bye, kids. - Why he leave?
I just asked a question. - You have to ask him.
- What that mean?
- That means you need to ask your son
where the furniture is. - What?
I give you $25,000 for furniture.
So how you spend that much?
- You remember Washington's birthday?
He spent that money in Tulum.
You know, he bought champagne, rented a yacht, caviar.
No, I tried. I tried to control it. I did.
- And you want furniture now?
- You know, the only reason I want furniture now
is because má was the one that told me
that a businessman needs a nice living room, right?
To do business.
My mother-in-law found various reasons
throughout our marriage to not come over,
and it's always because of something.
So it's either... I didn't have enough Marys.
- One more to put in here. - You have another one?
- Yeah, small one.
Beautiful.
- Or my couch sucks.
So, if my mother-in-law isn't happy about something,
you know Binh Ho is gonna fix that.
- So what you planning?
Now you spend all the money I give you,
so what you planning?
- I'm planning on him working for it
and replacing it himself.
I'm thinking of...
He spent the money. He needs to fix it.
- Well...
I think recently he tried to do the best he can.
You know, I don't think that you do anything to tell on him.
Washington come back from some problem.
I don't want anybody around here to trigger him.
I want everything smoothly.
Don't put him in jail. Just put him on probation.
[chuckles]
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Hi. - Hi.
- Appointment for Judy Ho.
- Wonderful. The nurse is ready for you.
- All right, thanks. - Thanks.
- After the tragedy in Nate's life,
we decided that we were gonna try for a baby.
We couldn't do it the regular way
because Nate had got a vasectomy,
so we decided to go through IVF.
- Hey, Doc. - Hey.
- How are you doing today? - Come on in.
I'm good. Good to see you, guys.
How are you doing?
- Doing all right. - Okay, wonderful.
Well, it's so good to see both of you.
- Going through IVF, I think the hardest part
is that you have no control over your body.
No matter how much you try, no matter how
much you want it, it's not up to me.
You know, I'm so used to having a plan,
and if I do this and I do that, if I just try hard enough,
it'll happen.
Is that from the show "Grey's Anatomy"?
- Actually, it's an anatomy textbook,
that's what the show is named after.
- Oh, but it's spelled incorrectly, right?
- [laughs] - No?
- It's spelled right. - Oh!
- The show is spelled incorrectly, I think.
- Oh. - Yeah.
It's a play on the anatomy textbook.
- Ah, good to know. - Anatomy's all right.
- All right, so it's been
kind of an entire journey to get to this point.
I know it's been a long road for you guys,
a lot of ups and downs. - Yeah.
- We thought we had gone through the hard part.
- I know. The waiting and then...
- Yeah. - You know, finding out
what's gonna happen-- the waiting's hard.
- Yeah. - So that's been tough.
- So hopefully it's good news from here on out.
- Absolutely. Well, nobody deserves it more.
- Thanks.
Emotionally, I think it was
more difficult for us than other couples,
just with Nate-- what he had gone through.
He told me he couldn't ever imagine
not hearing the word "dad" again.
And, you know, that puts a lot of pressure on this process.
But I'm now pregnant,
and so far, things are looking great.
- I know, even with good news, it sometimes feels hard
to really be excited about it and to believe that it's real.
But I think at this point, we're ten weeks along.
Things have been looking phenomenal, by the textbook.
Everything has been looking wonderful.
So, yay! - [laughs]
- We're excited. That's good news. Ten weeks.
- I haven't told my family that I'm pregnant.
I'd like to wait until after the engagement ceremony,
where I feel comfortable sharing it.
So I shouldn't get my pregnancy advice from "Grey's Anatomy"?
- [laughing] Probably not.
- Or any advice from "Grey's Anatomy," the show.
- This is my McDreamy.
[laughter] - You're so funny.
I don't watch the show, so I don't know what that means.
- Well, obviously, it's a good thing.
- It sounds like a good thing.
- Well, you guys made some McDreamy embryos, so...
- Aw. - Thanks.
- ♪ You know, we feeling G-double-O-D ♪
♪ We are feeling so G-double-O-D ♪
- Don't tell me you like this one.
This would not go in our house.
- My mom would love this.
- Your mom? - Yeah.
She would think this is very,
you know... - Asian?
- Oh, gosh, she would love this.
Look at this. Come here, sit here.
Come here, honey. Let me show you something.
- Yeah. Ah. - What?
- It's not very comfortable.
- This will match, like, all the, you know...
- The Marys that she brings over?
- The Marys she brings over.
- I'm not trying to match Marys.
- And look. - It's a fan.
- It's like a sun over the mountains of Asia,
where my mom would always think about our family.
- I'm not picking out furniture that reminds me of your mother.
- [sighs] God, it's so hard to make all you Hos happy.
Whoa! These are baller.
- Focus. Couch.
- Couch? - Couch.
- God, everything is so beautiful.
- Sit. Try it out.
Let's see.
- There's 8s all over it, baby. We got to get it.
Are you gonna forgive me for the 40th birthday episode?
- Do you know what accountability means?
- "Accountability"? - Yeah.
Do you know what that means? - Yeah.
Taking responsibility... - Uh-huh.
- For your actions.
- Okay. - So...
So...
when Washington Ho got back from Tulum,
I thought she was really gonna leave me.
- So...
is this taking responsibility for your actions?
- No.
I mean, yes.
I mean, it's not like I killed anybody, but, jeez.
- [scoffs]
- Come here, baby. Got a warm spot for you.
- All right. - Okay.
- Come here. Let's practice. - [scoffs]
- Let's see what it would feel like at home.
- Oh! Stop. Okay, we're in public.
- What? - We're in public.
- Oh, my God, it's been so long.
- Shut up.
- Are you gonna forgive me for the 40th birthday episode?
- No. Not until I get my couch.
Let's see what else they have. - Ah.
You're too much sometimes. - You're too much sometimes.
[lively music]
- ♪ Money, money ♪
♪ I just can't get enough ♪
♪ Money, money ♪
♪ I just can't get enough, yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
- Money time. - Revenge time.
Last time the girls took our money.
Now the boys gonna take some money back.
- What I got?
- Okay, that's it. You're the best.
- Lucky man.
- Look how he is. He wear all the gold.
- Yeah, it's good luck. Good luck.
You have to wear green for money and gold.
That's why I wear green today.
- You think he get luck today? - Never know.
- When we're family that play cards together,
we got the chance to enjoy the life.
We show how the brothers, sisters
love each other and have a good time.
And we got the chance to remind when we're the kid.
That's not about money-- about the fun.
Hey, why you touch my money?
- Because it dropped on the floor--bad luck.
- No. - I put my money right here.
[laughter]
- So far, so good. - [chuckles]
- They have the privacy. I don't want to answer that.
- I know it's her business. That's her choice.
But I just want to see, how do you accept it?
Like, for example, if she have a baby before the wedding.
Right now maybe she probably doesn't show.
Well, what about she have the baby before the wedding?
- Let me tell you what-- Judy, she 40, okay?
And, you know, when the lady is 40,
it hard to get a baby.
I understand that. - Okay.
- But that's not my contrary decision.
- You see-- - Very, very, very hard for me.
- You'll be like your way or no way.
But now it's 2022. - I understand that.
- Hey, I heard a rumor
that Lesley want to get pregnant, too.
So you think they ready for another one?
- As soon as they want the baby.
- I have Reagan. You got one. - Uh-huh.
Okay, what if Reagan have a baby without marry?
- Ha ha ha. - [chuckles]
- He wants more grandchildren.
- Of course.
[laughter]
[upbeat music]
- ♪ And let in the glow ♪
♪ Let it glow, let in the glow ♪
- After a long journey with this engagement,
we decided to go the traditional route.
- ♪ Just let in the glow ♪
- This is really for our family and for our parents,
to make them happy, right? - Yeah.
Binh Ho was like, "You got to do this."
So the decision was pretty easy.
[both laugh]
♪ ♪
- We always talk about how, like, when we were growing up,
Judy wore off-the-shoulder tops.
And Jenny's like, "I want to be like Judy."
- When I had blond hair?
- Yeah, we worshipped the ground
that you guys walk on. - I love you guys more.
I remember when you guys were born, okay?
So that's how old I am.
Bella and Kim are way ahead of the game at their age.
You know, they really are confident
and secure in who they are.
- I'm about to cry right now. I'm about to cry another time.
- I know. I just want to give you a hug.
- Why do you guys want to cry? This is a happy day.
- She broke up with her boyfriend.
- Oh, I didn't know that. Oh.
- When did you know when it was time to call it quits
with your ex?
- Um...
when you're in a relationship and you feel like,
"I can't fully be myself. I have to watch what I say.
"I have to, like, walk on eggshells.
I don't know what version
I'm getting of my partner that day."
- I saw that you were putting out
more of an effort than he was. - Mm-hmm.
I feel like any relationship that you're like,
"Oh, my God, this is so difficult,"
you know, it's not worth it. - When you're trying so hard.
- Yeah, and then when they mess up
and they don't take accountability for it,
they're not responsible for their part in it,
that makes it even worse, right?
You want to be with somebody who you're proud of,
who you want to be like, "This is my partner.
"He represents what I stand for
and not someone I have to make excuses for."
You don't want to be in a position
where you're married to someone,
and the only reason that you're with them
is because you have kids together.
You know what I mean? You don't want to be in that position.
- And your kids will know. - Exactly.
- Let me tell you-- marriage is so hard, you know,
and it was easy for Washington and I when we were dating.
And you know what we've gone through
and that took time to get to where we're at,
and I don't want that for you, you know what I'm saying?
[voice breaking] Like, I don't want you to have
to go into a relationship and have to think
about, like, kids, and, you know--
- Oh, my God, we're all crying. [laughter]
- Trust me, if I can get divorced at 40 with 3 kids,
you can definitely move on from this.
[laughs] If I were you-- - You'll look back,
and you'll be like, "Oh, my gosh."
- We're gonna take you to, like, Miami
and, like, hook you up with some hotties,
and you're gonna forget about this.
- No more sadness. I'm so sorry.
[laughter] - It's okay. It's okay.
- This is your day. We're here for you.
- Oh. - [laughs]
- Should I go first?
- Follow chú, then Mom and Dad will go,
the procession, and then the rest.
Okay? - Sounds good.
The traditional engagement ceremony
for Vietnamese people starts out
with the groom's family walking over with gifts.
- And each gift has a meaning to it.
You guys walk up to the door, and you have a representative
that knocks on my parents' door.
- Waiting for permission to come into your house.
- My side also has a representative
that gives the groom's side permission to enter the house,
and once that permission is granted...
- Then your parents come out to greet us,
saying that he's gonna welcome us into his home.
- You look good, Nate. Don't cry.
- You do look good, Nate. - You go, Nate.
- Sexiest man of the year. [laughter]
[mellow music]
♪ ♪
- Thank you. - Come in.
- In all honesty, a lot of these traditions
are lost on me.
- Us. - On both of us.
♪ ♪
- You're so nervous? - Yeah.
- Too late. Can't change your mind now.
- I didn't change my mind.
- You worked too hard for this. - Don't be nervous.
- But what's not lost on me is how much I do love Judy...
[cheers and applause]
And how much it means to our family.
- Oh, my God. - You look beautiful, Judy.
- Thanks, Wash.
- Sometimes going through the emotions
is important for us.
[cheers and applause]
- The tea represents drinking to family and the ancestors...
- Mm-hmm. - For their blessings.
- And then we pour tea for your parents first...
and then my parents.
- Out of respect. - Yes.
- Thank you.
- During the tea ceremony, I realize how far
me and Nate have come from the beginning of our relationship
and knowing that we were about to receive my parent's
blessing as well as his parents.
- Thank you.
- So now you are officially engaged.
[cheers and applause]
- My dad is really proud and happy to host us.
To move forward with everyone's blessing
makes it a lot easier for our relationship.
- First, thank you for coming here today
and helping Judy and I celebrate
our formal engagement.
If you guys remember,
there was a previous engagement.
It was a big moment for us. We were very in love.
After that night, though, we took some time
for our family to get to know each other,
and I think they have.
They're good friends, and they get along.
- We got scared of my dad. - Yeah, so we took it--
Yeah, yeah, still very scared of you dad.
[laughter]
But, you know, finally, I do think
the time is right to do that right now.
And so, Judy...
- Aah! - Will you officially marry me?
[all cheering] Yes?
- Yes!
[percussive music playing]
- [squeals happily]
♪ ♪
[romantic music]
♪ ♪
- This is the beginning
of something that will last for the rest of my life.
I truly feel like Nate is my soul mate.
♪ ♪
He understands me like no one else.
And through it all, we've had each other.
We've leaned on each other.
And I feel at this point, we've been through the worst,
so there's nothing that can stop us.
- ♪ All I ever wanted ♪
♪ All I ever need ♪
♪ Is you ♪
[indistinct chatter]
- [speaking Vietnamese]
- Vanessa and I have got to know each other
through various family get-togethers,
and she just makes you feel so good when you see her.
I'm a hugger. Vanessa's a hugger.
I definitely feel like I don't get
that kind of affection from Judy.
In the seven years that I've known her...
I think we've had one drunken hug.
She'll deny it, but we did.
- We love you so much. - Thank you
for being so kind to me and welcoming me to your family.
- Oh, my God, I love you.
That's the best shit that ever happened to you.
- What? Judy? - This, this--her.
- Aw. - She is pretty great.
- Happy right now because of you.
- I love him very much, and I will take care of him.
- You promise? - Yes.
[laughs]
- Yeah, always be there for him.
- She's been drinking. - She's been drinking?
- No.
- A little bit. [laughter]
- She has, but she's also emotional.
- She always thinks I'm drinking when I hug her, too.
- Oh, my God, don't say that. - Okay, okay.
- You hug somebody, that's because we love...you.
- 'Cause we love you. - I love you, too.
- Where's Reagan, though?
Come on, Reagan.
- You don't have to say anything.
Just smile and drink with us.
Can we get a drink and then toast?
Is that okay? - Shots.
Happy to be back? Thanks for coming back.
- Of course. - Yeah.
I know that, you know, you're busy with work,
so I'm glad you're here to celebrate with me.
- Anything for Judy. - You're my favorite.
- I like that motto. Nate has that motto, too.
- Yeah. - That's true.
Judy has been taking care of us two since we were little kids.
So... - Happy to do it.
But I still take care of them now.
- Yeah. Yes, you do, pretty much.
- Both Nate and I have been married before,
so we don't enter into this lightly.
And we know that by getting married,
we're marrying into each other's extended families.
And sometimes that can be a lot.
For better or worse, here we go.
- One for you.
- Reagan said his motto is "anything for Judy."
I said you have the same motto. - I have the same motto!
- That's what I said! - We should get T-shirts.
[laughter] - Yes! Yes!
- Cheers.
Congrats, guys.
- Whoo!
- Cheers.
[upbeat music]
[van beeping]
♪ ♪
[van door opens]
- Whoo!
Got my butterfly chairs, baby.
These chairs give me energy.
These chairs cost more than a car.
- Here we go again.
Washington somehow manages to fix everything
through Binh Ho.
- You're welcome.
- And how did you think this all happened?
- 'Cause of my mojo, baby. - Whatever.
- All right, guys, let's bring the chairs in.
Okay.
- I feel like I'm always the bad guy
in trying to teach him these little lessons
of being accountable for these little issues.
How are you supposed to be successful in life
if you don't understand these little basics?
This doesn't close.
- All right, I'm bringing it in.
- Yeah, bring it in.
And there goes my couch.
- Oh, yeah, baby.
- ♪ Yo, what's up? Y'all ready for this? ♪
- ♪ I'm so fierce ♪
[all cheering]
♪ ♪
[laughter]
- Okay, it's a 30-day challenge.
Prove that this is a career that you're gonna stick to,
and then I will get off birth control.
- I'll make it happen,
'cause I'm king of the Hos, baby--ha ha!
- So we're gonna be able to see and hear the heartbeat.
- Okay, wait. - I always get scared.
- All right, let me just brace myself, okay?
- I didn't really like you that much at the beginning.
- The feeling's mutual.
all: Oh! [laughter]
- No.
- I don't like talking to Lesley
about her and Washington.
I don't think they know
what's going on with their relationship.
You're a united front.
You can't come to my parents one-on-one.
You're going to lose. - You really believe that?
- Uh, yeah, Lesley.
- My mom's coming into town.
- If she could see you, I know she would reach out to you.
- [crying] But she's not. - I know.
- And it makes me feel like I could have been
a better daughter, but I wasn't.
- Thanh Hà is the Justin Bieber of Vietnam.
- Oh, Mom's here.
- You ever talk to Washington? - No.
I'm tired of being gaslit by Washington.
To lie to me several times
and just write it off is hurtful.
- I have to make amends.
Lesley is going to kill me
because she thinks Sammy is a bad influence on me.
I'm tired of giving up on my dreams
to make someone else's dreams come true.
- You think this is my dream?
- Have you ever told her how much sadness
this has caused you over the years?
- Oh, yes. - You have?
- I cry, and then she'll be like,
"How dare you talk about it?
You're the worst daughter I've ever had."
- You know what this would be a nice setting for?
[crow caws] - A murder mystery?
- ♪ I'm feeling restless and reckless... ♪
- I want to say something to Reagan--
my youngest and the one I love the most.
- Mm, I don't know about that. - Yeah, I don't know either.
- The Hos! - Best girls' trip ever!
- You're lucky, this is not in your frickin' face.
- I know. I know.
- I do know stuff. I'm his wife.
- [laughs silently] - Why are you laughing?
- Because you're pretending to give a shit.
- ♪ I can't wait to get the gang back together ♪
- ♪ Come on, let's go ♪
- ♪ You know me, I'm always down for whatever ♪
- There's a war now. House divided.
- ♪ I can't wait, I can't wait ♪
♪ I can't wait ♪
- ♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪
♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪
♪ Came from the bottom, straight to the top ♪
♪ I'm ready to blow ♪
♪ I'm the king of the Ho ♪
♪ ♪
♪ I'm the King of the Ho ♪
♪ ♪
♪ I'm the King of the Ho ♪