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[Paper Kings'
"Look At Me Now"]
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Can't nobody
hold me down ♪
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♪ I'm steady walkin' like ♪
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♪ I got three commas
in my bank account ♪
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♪ Livin' loud,
so get your cameras out ♪
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♪ I'd probably do
the same thing if I was you ♪
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♪ Lookin' at me now, now ♪
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♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh,
oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
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♪ Mm, put up your lights ♪
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♪ And keep 'em flashin' ♪
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♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh,
oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
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♪ Don't ever put 'em
down, down, down ♪
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♪ Look at me now ♪
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[upbeat music]
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ You ain't messin'
with me ♪
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♪ Oh, no, now you ain't
messin' with me ♪
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- How you been?
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- Good. You? Been crazy?
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You know why I wanted you
to come here?
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I'm going person by person
that I care about.
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Lesley is going to kill me
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because she thinks Sammy
is a bad influence on me.
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But Sammy is family.
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And I have to
not only apologize
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but ask for forgiveness.
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I think that, you know,
part of my process,
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I had some fear about
disappointing my family
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or getting triggered
to fall backwards.
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And I forgot
about my best friend,
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you, my cousin.
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And, you know, I try
to pay off my problems
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in the past through you.
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Like, "Hey, Sammy,
handle that."
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And I feel like I was
taking advantage of you.
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And I'm admitting it.
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I'm gonna take
accountability for it
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so that we can move forward,
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so that you can move forward.
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And I can make Sammy shine
bright like a diamond.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm tired of being gaslit
by Wash.
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To lie to me several times,
and not just to me,
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but to other people about me,
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and just write it off
is hurtful.
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I would really like for him
to acknowledge
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how his actions
personally hurt me.
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I didn't know that
was all going on with you.
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- I'm sorry I didn't
share that with you.
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But the addiction
got in the way,
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and I was just
so ashamed of it.
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Now I'm just learning
that, you know, I'm human.
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And that's why I'm here
with you, to tell you that.
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I was just trying
to, like, shield my pain,
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I guess, or shield the truth.
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- Do you know why I was really
pissed off at you?
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It wasn't when you
took advantage of me.
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No, it was after that.
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It was the way you treated me,
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like, once it was all done.
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You were just a dick, like--
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- That's what
I'm apologizing for,
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is that I feel like you felt
like I forgot you
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and I just moved on
with my life.
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- Yeah.
- You had pain in the process
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to get me to be better,
and I'm sorry.
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But I hope that you
take this, like,
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as a sincere way of me
trying to make amends to you.
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[soft music]
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- I want you happy.
- I know you do.
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- Even though sometimes I want
to I smack the shit out of you.
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[both laughing]
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- I know. I love you.
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- I love you too.
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- You forgive me?
- I forgive you.
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- All right.
My fuckin' crazy-ass cuz.
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♪ ♪
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We're in this together.
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- Although Washington
and I's relationship
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has been estranged,
it's not done.
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We're family.
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I think I really learned that
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through these last few years
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that life is short.
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♪ ♪
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Fist bump.
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We'll bring each other up.
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- Yeah.
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- ♪ You're on your way
like I'm on my way ♪
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♪ Like I'm on my way ♪
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♪ Get it off your chest,
what you got to say? ♪
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♪ What you got to say? ♪
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♪ I'm on my way
to the promise that... ♪
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- It's fun having a date night.
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It's been a long time.
- I know.
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- I'm gonna get
a virgin drink tonight.
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- Okay.
Do you care if I drink?
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- No, I want you to drink,
'cause then I might get lucky.
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- You might.
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- As long as you're not tired.
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- It's actually not me
that's tired anymore.
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It's you now that's tired.
- Me?
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What do you mean?
- I'm not kidding, wake up.
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I thought you wanted
to have sex. Wake up.
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[playful music]
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- I'll tell Lesley
that I met with Sammy
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when the timing's right.
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And right now,
the timing is wrong.
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We're talkin'
about making babies
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and making it with love.
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I've got the drive, the fuel
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to do whatever it takes
to have another Ho.
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I feel like that's gonna help
complete our journey
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or be the start
of something new.
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- I don't think we're
financially there, you know.
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- Nah.
- 'Cause I feel like
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your dad is always saving us.
- Right.
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But I'll figure it out
like I always do.
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- I don't like to rely
on other people.
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And I've always been taught
by my mother to be independent.
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Washington has to show me
that he's committed to this
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and that it provides
stability for our family.
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And that would show me that
he's ready for a third child.
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I would love to see you
follow through with it,
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sell lots of cars.
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Like, this is it for you.
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You know, you're not gonna
wake up tomorrow
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and wanna sell ice cubes
or something.
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- Look, you know when I'm
committed, I make it happen.
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- I know you can sell anything.
- I'm committed to our family.
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In nine months, do you know
how many cars I'll be selling?
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- How many?
- A lot.
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- What did your dad say?
Talk the talk. Walk the walk.
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- You're right. You're right.
- Right?
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- Hi. Here's your
Black Kaluga caviar.
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- Thank you.
- Of course.
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- Look, it's a sign.
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- Of what?
- Your eggs are fertile, baby.
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- But not right now.
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- No, it's right now.
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- Okay, so 30-day challenge.
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Prove to your dad and myself
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that this is a career
that you're gonna stick to.
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And he's gonna make
the investments.
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You're gonna own
a car dealership.
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And then
I will get off birth control.
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- That's it?
- That sounds fair, right?
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- Yeah.
- Since I've met Wash,
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he was construction,
an electric broker,
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real estate,
T-shirt designer, matchmaker.
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That was an interesting time.
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So is Wash ever gonna land
on something?
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I don't know.
- 30 days.
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- How many cars
do you have to sell...
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- To pay our bills?
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- To prove
that it's sustainable
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and that you're
committed to this?
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- I sold seven cars
last month,
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at least seven cars.
- Okay, but I have to
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take out my IUD
and produce another Ho.
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- Okay.
- It has to be more than seven.
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- So I'll do eight.
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- 10.
- 10?
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- 11.
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- Let's meet
in the middle then.
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8 1/2.
- How do you sell half a car?
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- It's called split deals.
It's fair. It's not cheating.
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- Okay, don't cheat.
You can't cut corners.
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- I'm not cutting corners.
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- So what's the number?
10, right?
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- Are you trying to be
a better sales negotiator
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than me?
- You know I am.
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- My wife wants me to sell
10 cars to have a kid.
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So what?
I'll make it happen,
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'cause I'm king of the house,
baby.
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[laughs]
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- 10 cars.
- 10 cars.
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And every time I sell a car,
you make love to me.
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- I don't mind practicing.
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- I love it when you're a Ho.
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- ♪ Watch me go ♪
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♪ Unbreakable ♪
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♪ So feel the flow ♪
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♪ I'm unstoppable ♪
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- Oh, do you guys wanna play
with the crabs?
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This is how my mom
cut her finger last night.
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It looks small and sad.
- Look how small and sad it is.
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- Okay, don't put
your finger in here.
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- [laughs]
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- I love having Bella and Kim
back in Houston.
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It is very important for me
to make time for them.
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Is it fishy?
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I feel like they're so young,
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and they're so full
of questions,
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and they just wanna know
what to do.
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- Can you teach me
how to make Ca Kho
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Or, like, Bo Nuong Vi?
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Anything that
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I can feel culture.
- Okay.
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- 'Cause all I know how
to cook
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is chicken breasts
and very healthy food.
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- You're very California.
- I know. [laughs]
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I was raised very differently
compared to Judy
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or even my cousin Kim.
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My parents got divorced
when I was really young.
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And then I went home to live
with my mom in California.
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My mom would make,
like, Bo Nuong Vi
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with some type
of, like, white fish.
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And she uses, like, dill.
What is that?
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- My mom makes that.
It's yellow, the fish?
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- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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- Is that your favorite dish
that your mom makes?
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- Actually, I like Mi Quang
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or, like, Bun Bo Hue or--
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- Your mom cooks a lot.
- Yeah.
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- Are things better
with you and your mom?
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- Um, I haven't talked to her
in a little bit of a time.
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It's been, like, at least
a month and a half or so.
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- Wow.
- Yeah.
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- That's a long time
not to talk to your mom.
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- I know, and I normally
talk to her
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all the time, you know.
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- Aunt Tina is
kind of a big deal
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in Vietnam and in America.
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She's kind of
the Justin Bieber,
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I like to say, of Vietnam.
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- Basically, my mom's just kind
of all over the place
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or has all these types
of ideas.
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And she's a creative
and she just, like,
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lives that lifestyle
for so long.
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And as my mom,
she's just kind of like,
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"Okay, I'm gonna do this.
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And then you're gonna
have to be okay with it."
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I found out recently
that my mom is gay.
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I heard it from my stepdad.
He had called me.
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I was just really shocked
because my stepdad and my mom
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had been together
for 15+ years.
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I don't care that my mom
is gay at all.
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I just care about the fact
that she didn't feel
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that she could loop in
her own daughter.
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I'm not just here
on the sidelines.
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You know, I should
be looped in somewhat,
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just as I'm assuming
that she would want
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the same thing out of me.
Okay.
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- Eating for two.
- Yes.
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- Looking at you eat that
makes me wanna
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eat something sweet.
- Are you pregnant?
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- Do you need to tell us
something, though?
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- Oh, I'm single as a Pringle.
252
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- That doesn't mean
you can't be pregnant.
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[laughter]
- Oh, my God!
254
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I think out of everyone
in our family,
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you're the person who's like,
"Eff it. I don't care.
256
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I can just do whatever I want."
257
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And I think...
- You have to.
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- People need
to be more like that.
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And I want to be more
like that too, especially,
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like, with my mom.
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That's why I'm trying
not to give in
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to whatever she wants me to do,
you know.
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Like, oh, call me
whenever she wants,
264
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but when I want to call her,
she's like, "Oh, I'm busy,"
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or, "I can't talk to you
right now."
266
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And it, like, hurts, you know.
Like, she's my mom.
267
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- Tina's been living out
her dream of being this star.
268
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But at the same time,
she has this daughter
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who's been fending
for herself back home
270
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and been forced to grow up way
beyond her years very quickly.
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If she had given Bella
a heads-up, you know,
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we'd be in
a different place right now
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when it comes
to their relationship.
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Looking back, I wish someone
had told me like, "Hey, Judy.
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"You know, life isn't about
pleasing your parents
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"or having to continually
give up so much of yourself
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to take care
of your siblings."
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You know what I mean?
Like, I'm literally, at 41,
279
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just now being like,
"Okay, I'm living for myself."
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Like, when I was younger,
if I disagreed with my dad,
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I was always afraid
to say something.
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Like, do you feel that way
even at this age with your dad?
283
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- Oh, I definitely do.
284
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When you grow up and you're
constantly being told,
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you know, to be obedient,
to be in the background...
286
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- I love that Bella and Kim
feel comfortable enough
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that they can confide in me.
288
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I've been in their shoes,
and I know
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00:11:06,165 --> 00:11:07,708
what it was like
in my early 20s.
290
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Because you yourself
were born in America,
291
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yet you were brought up with
traditional Vietnamese values.
292
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It can be hard sometimes.
293
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- My mom didn't even want me
to go to school.
294
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She wanted me to just marry
someone, you know,
295
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live off--
you know, like, just like her.
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- My mom wanted me to.
- Yeah, just to marry someone.
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- To not go to college?
both: Yeah.
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- Marry--yeah.
- To marry rich.
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- She's like, "Why
do you need to struggle?
300
00:11:27,353 --> 00:11:28,813
Like, marry well off so
you don't have to struggle."
301
00:11:28,896 --> 00:11:30,564
- She thinks that if you
married a Vietnamese guy,
302
00:11:30,648 --> 00:11:32,942
that there's no chance y'all
would ever get divorced?
303
00:11:33,025 --> 00:11:35,361
And then you'd be on your ass
with no college education.
304
00:11:35,444 --> 00:11:37,196
- Well, they didn't
get divorced.
305
00:11:37,279 --> 00:11:39,740
Like, no one else in our family
really got divorced
306
00:11:39,824 --> 00:11:41,117
besides, like,
my dad and, like,
307
00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,411
Gu Yan and now you, right?
308
00:11:43,494 --> 00:11:45,121
Like, pretty much everyone--
- Don't add me to that list!
309
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- [laughs]
- The list of shame.
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♪ ♪
311
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- Honey, honey, honey, honey.
312
00:11:51,877 --> 00:11:53,504
- What?
313
00:11:53,587 --> 00:11:55,381
- We got problems.
314
00:11:55,464 --> 00:11:57,508
- How many problems?
- Two big ones.
315
00:11:57,591 --> 00:11:58,968
- What are your two problems?
316
00:11:59,051 --> 00:12:01,137
- See what I'm holding?
- School photos?
317
00:12:01,220 --> 00:12:03,347
- I think you've ruined them.
318
00:12:03,431 --> 00:12:06,392
- What?
- These kids, their smiles.
319
00:12:06,475 --> 00:12:09,645
You wanna see?
- They can't be that bad.
320
00:12:09,728 --> 00:12:12,481
- It doesn't look
like my kids.
321
00:12:12,565 --> 00:12:14,650
[dramatic music]
322
00:12:14,733 --> 00:12:18,112
You were teaching our kids
how to smile
323
00:12:18,195 --> 00:12:20,781
and you were practicing
for a week.
324
00:12:20,865 --> 00:12:23,159
That's not Roosevelt.
And that's not Lincoln.
325
00:12:23,242 --> 00:12:24,827
Like, what is up with that?
326
00:12:24,910 --> 00:12:28,038
It's been very consistent
the last three years
327
00:12:28,122 --> 00:12:32,084
that when we get school photos,
I know it's gonna be--
328
00:12:32,168 --> 00:12:33,752
- [laughs] Retakes.
329
00:12:33,836 --> 00:12:36,589
[camera shutter clicking]
330
00:12:36,672 --> 00:12:38,674
- Yes, retakes.
331
00:12:38,757 --> 00:12:40,009
- They look constipated, huh?
332
00:12:40,092 --> 00:12:41,844
- Yeah. They look angry.
333
00:12:41,927 --> 00:12:43,345
Arrrr!
334
00:12:43,429 --> 00:12:45,890
Don't you think that has
a lot to do with their coach?
335
00:12:45,973 --> 00:12:48,309
- It's not me.
- It's not them.
336
00:12:48,392 --> 00:12:50,686
- I told Roosevelt sometimes
to give me a laugh.
337
00:12:50,769 --> 00:12:52,313
So he'll be like, "Ahahaha."
338
00:12:52,396 --> 00:12:54,857
- What about that
A, E, I, O, U thing?
339
00:12:54,940 --> 00:12:56,859
- It's like, um, sometimes
340
00:12:56,942 --> 00:12:58,444
you're awkward
with taking photos, you know,
341
00:12:58,527 --> 00:13:00,029
and you don't
wanna smile all the time.
342
00:13:00,112 --> 00:13:07,161
So you go like,
"A, E, I, O, U."
343
00:13:07,244 --> 00:13:08,621
♪ ♪
344
00:13:08,704 --> 00:13:10,414
- So what letter did you
teach the kids?
345
00:13:10,498 --> 00:13:13,292
- Nothing.
Just need a pretty smile.
346
00:13:13,375 --> 00:13:15,544
- Okay, but when they're
at their school photos,
347
00:13:15,628 --> 00:13:17,338
they think about what
you're saying,
348
00:13:17,421 --> 00:13:19,215
they're confused,
and then their smile
349
00:13:19,298 --> 00:13:21,133
just looks, like,
confusing and crooked.
350
00:13:21,217 --> 00:13:24,386
When they're happy and they
don't know the cameras are on,
351
00:13:24,470 --> 00:13:25,888
that's when
they look their best.
352
00:13:25,971 --> 00:13:27,389
- I get that.
But how do you capture that?
353
00:13:27,473 --> 00:13:28,891
- No pressure.
You put too much pressure
354
00:13:28,974 --> 00:13:30,601
on our kids.
- I do not.
355
00:13:30,684 --> 00:13:31,977
My mom had
a lot of pressure on me.
356
00:13:32,061 --> 00:13:33,187
Your mom had
a lot of pressure on you.
357
00:13:33,270 --> 00:13:34,271
Look how well I turned out.
358
00:13:34,355 --> 00:13:36,565
- Look how well I turned out.
359
00:13:36,649 --> 00:13:38,734
- Now.
- What do you mean?
360
00:13:38,817 --> 00:13:42,488
- Because of me.
- Some flowers blossom later.
361
00:13:42,571 --> 00:13:44,490
Pictures are clearly gonna show
362
00:13:44,573 --> 00:13:46,492
that you don't know
what you're doing.
363
00:13:46,575 --> 00:13:48,410
You're not a smile teacher,
honey.
364
00:13:48,494 --> 00:13:50,412
- They are happy.
They're happy children.
365
00:13:50,496 --> 00:13:53,207
- Does this look happy to you?
- [laughs]
366
00:13:53,290 --> 00:13:56,752
- Does that look happy to you?
Does this look happy to you?
367
00:13:56,835 --> 00:13:58,671
- You have to retake 'em.
- Okay.
368
00:13:58,754 --> 00:14:01,674
As long as you let me
teach them how to smile.
369
00:14:01,757 --> 00:14:03,551
- Pretty smile. Pretty smile.
370
00:14:03,634 --> 00:14:06,595
[singers vocalizing]
371
00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,181
[upbeat music]
372
00:14:09,265 --> 00:14:11,183
- Are you nervous about going
to the doctor's?
373
00:14:11,267 --> 00:14:12,351
- Just trying to see if,
you know,
374
00:14:12,434 --> 00:14:13,686
the ultrasound's gonna be okay.
375
00:14:13,769 --> 00:14:15,145
- I just wanna hear
the heartbeat.
376
00:14:15,229 --> 00:14:16,397
- Yeah, the baby's there.
We know that.
377
00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:17,606
- Yes.
- You know, so we're
378
00:14:17,690 --> 00:14:19,108
just making sure
things are okay.
379
00:14:19,191 --> 00:14:20,651
So that's a little bit easier
380
00:14:20,734 --> 00:14:22,027
to swallow, you know.
381
00:14:22,111 --> 00:14:23,612
It's just, like,
you gotta be positive,
382
00:14:23,696 --> 00:14:24,780
but at the same time
when you're positive--
383
00:14:24,863 --> 00:14:26,156
- Realistic?
- Yeah.
384
00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:27,700
And when you're positive
and it doesn't work,
385
00:14:27,783 --> 00:14:28,867
it's stressful.
386
00:14:28,951 --> 00:14:30,160
How do you feel?
387
00:14:30,244 --> 00:14:31,787
- Anxious.
388
00:14:31,870 --> 00:14:34,248
- You mean,
'cause we lost the first one?
389
00:14:34,331 --> 00:14:37,835
- Yeah, and then I feel
like, um...
390
00:14:37,918 --> 00:14:40,337
I don't know,
IVF's a lot different.
391
00:14:40,421 --> 00:14:43,966
Going through IVF was very
difficult for the first time.
392
00:14:44,049 --> 00:14:45,843
You know, it's just
heartbreaking to have to tell
393
00:14:45,926 --> 00:14:48,470
everyone,
you know, it didn't work out.
394
00:14:48,554 --> 00:14:49,805
It was a lot of ups and downs
395
00:14:49,888 --> 00:14:51,432
for me and Nate
during that time.
396
00:14:51,515 --> 00:14:53,225
You know, two years ago
when I was thinking about
397
00:14:53,309 --> 00:14:55,436
what my life would be like
after the divorce,
398
00:14:55,519 --> 00:14:59,982
I imagined that it would be me
and the kids finally having
399
00:15:00,065 --> 00:15:02,234
a chance to be independent
from my family.
400
00:15:02,318 --> 00:15:04,987
I always thought when they're
older and they're in school,
401
00:15:05,070 --> 00:15:07,865
then that would be my chance
to go out
402
00:15:07,948 --> 00:15:10,075
and go back
to the career track
403
00:15:10,159 --> 00:15:11,702
and be a lawyer again,
404
00:15:11,785 --> 00:15:15,205
or any other business
opportunity that came along.
405
00:15:15,289 --> 00:15:19,209
I have sacrificed a lot
physically, mentally,
406
00:15:19,293 --> 00:15:21,253
and emotionally
going through this process.
407
00:15:21,337 --> 00:15:22,546
I know some men
don't understand
408
00:15:22,630 --> 00:15:23,922
what it takes to go through IVF
409
00:15:24,006 --> 00:15:26,467
and having a baby
and giving birth,
410
00:15:26,550 --> 00:15:28,677
but I feel like Nate
is very appreciative of that.
411
00:15:28,761 --> 00:15:30,346
And that's what love will do.
412
00:15:30,429 --> 00:15:31,972
I will do anything for him.
413
00:15:32,056 --> 00:15:34,350
- You're thinking about
holding off on finding a job?
414
00:15:34,433 --> 00:15:35,726
Obviously, it's not like
we need you to work.
415
00:15:35,809 --> 00:15:37,186
- Yeah.
- We just need to cut back
416
00:15:37,269 --> 00:15:38,979
on those Gucci shoes or--
417
00:15:39,063 --> 00:15:42,524
- I don't wear Gucci shoes.
They're called Manolos, babe.
418
00:15:42,608 --> 00:15:43,942
- Manolo.
- Yes.
419
00:15:44,026 --> 00:15:45,569
[laughs]
- Okay.
420
00:15:45,653 --> 00:15:47,696
- Would you ever consider
being a stay-at-home dad?
421
00:15:47,780 --> 00:15:49,239
- I would love to be
a stay-at-home dad.
422
00:15:49,323 --> 00:15:50,699
- You would be okay
taking care
423
00:15:50,783 --> 00:15:52,284
of the kids
while I'm out working?
424
00:15:52,368 --> 00:15:54,161
- 100%. We have two nannies
and the kids--
425
00:15:54,244 --> 00:15:56,580
- Wow.
Oh, you have two nannies!
426
00:15:56,664 --> 00:15:58,874
- What?
- Not one, but two.
427
00:15:58,957 --> 00:16:01,251
Are they young and hot too?
428
00:16:01,335 --> 00:16:03,212
- Oh, no, baby, just hot.
429
00:16:03,295 --> 00:16:04,630
I don't care about the age.
430
00:16:04,713 --> 00:16:07,132
[both laughing]
431
00:16:07,216 --> 00:16:08,509
Just kidding.
432
00:16:08,592 --> 00:16:10,219
- You know
what would be ideal
433
00:16:10,302 --> 00:16:11,720
would be a part-time job.
434
00:16:11,804 --> 00:16:13,430
- You don't wanna work
for Washington?
435
00:16:13,514 --> 00:16:15,224
- Okay, first of all,
he can't afford me.
436
00:16:15,307 --> 00:16:16,892
[both laughing]
437
00:16:16,975 --> 00:16:19,895
- ♪ We got good vibes,
we got tan lines ♪
438
00:16:19,978 --> 00:16:22,564
♪ Top down, live it up,
it's a good life ♪
439
00:16:22,648 --> 00:16:24,983
♪ Like oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
440
00:16:25,067 --> 00:16:28,654
♪ Yeah, good vibes
and tan lines ♪
441
00:16:28,737 --> 00:16:30,406
- Are you the same way
with sparklers?
442
00:16:30,489 --> 00:16:32,241
Wash, like, lights up
with sparklers.
443
00:16:32,324 --> 00:16:33,450
- I think
the sparklers are fun.
444
00:16:33,534 --> 00:16:34,743
- What a small world, though.
445
00:16:34,827 --> 00:16:35,911
Like, you guys used
to hang out.
446
00:16:35,994 --> 00:16:37,037
- It's crazy.
447
00:16:37,121 --> 00:16:38,664
- I used to party
with her sister.
448
00:16:38,747 --> 00:16:40,916
- Yeah.
- Carlton met me
449
00:16:40,999 --> 00:16:43,585
about 20 years ago
when I was in my heyday.
450
00:16:43,669 --> 00:16:46,046
He got married
and had kids before me.
451
00:16:46,130 --> 00:16:47,715
So I think he changed
his ways,
452
00:16:47,798 --> 00:16:50,217
whereas I'm just new
on this path.
453
00:16:50,300 --> 00:16:52,428
And I'm really glad they're
in our lives, you know.
454
00:16:52,511 --> 00:16:54,263
- When I first knew of him
and knew him,
455
00:16:54,346 --> 00:16:56,473
if you looked up party boy,
that's who he was.
456
00:16:56,557 --> 00:16:57,683
- People change.
- Yeah.
457
00:16:57,766 --> 00:16:58,892
- Yeah.
- Cheers.
458
00:16:58,976 --> 00:17:00,018
- For the good and bad,
they do.
459
00:17:00,102 --> 00:17:01,311
- Yeah.
460
00:17:01,395 --> 00:17:03,063
- And only a few change
for the better.
461
00:17:03,147 --> 00:17:04,398
- And that's hard.
You know that, right?
462
00:17:04,481 --> 00:17:06,108
- We've been through so much.
463
00:17:06,191 --> 00:17:07,609
But I've just learned
464
00:17:07,693 --> 00:17:10,195
how to, you know,
have gratitude
465
00:17:10,279 --> 00:17:12,322
and be grateful that, you know,
466
00:17:12,406 --> 00:17:14,158
I get to be with
somebody like her.
467
00:17:14,241 --> 00:17:19,163
- We haven't felt like this in
so long, and it feels so good.
468
00:17:19,246 --> 00:17:23,459
He's lovey-dovey and there's
that little flirtatiousness
469
00:17:23,542 --> 00:17:24,877
that comes with it.
470
00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:26,503
I feel like
we're almost dating again.
471
00:17:26,587 --> 00:17:27,921
- You wanna tell 'em
about the bet, honey?
472
00:17:28,005 --> 00:17:29,381
- You tell 'em.
473
00:17:29,465 --> 00:17:31,175
- You know, I've always
wanted a third child.
474
00:17:31,258 --> 00:17:32,634
- [gasps]
- So...
475
00:17:32,718 --> 00:17:34,470
- We're pregnant.
Just kidding. I'm kidding.
476
00:17:34,553 --> 00:17:36,680
- Oh, my God!
- I'm pregnant!
477
00:17:36,764 --> 00:17:39,641
No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding.
No, I'm not.
478
00:17:39,725 --> 00:17:41,310
- She'll soon be pregnant,
479
00:17:41,393 --> 00:17:44,271
but if I sell 10 cars
in a month.
480
00:17:44,354 --> 00:17:46,523
- I want us to be, like,
financially independent.
481
00:17:46,607 --> 00:17:49,526
We rely on his dad and
his family for a lot of stuff.
482
00:17:49,610 --> 00:17:51,320
And I think, you know,
bringing a child in the world,
483
00:17:51,403 --> 00:17:53,822
it would make me feel better
if we would take
484
00:17:53,906 --> 00:17:55,157
100% responsibility.
485
00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:56,992
- Aww, that's awesome.
486
00:17:57,076 --> 00:18:01,663
- Sale's really bad, I'm gonna
call Van up, "Yo, I need you."
487
00:18:01,747 --> 00:18:03,916
- She's got good credit.
- I do have good credit.
488
00:18:03,999 --> 00:18:05,459
[laughter]
489
00:18:05,542 --> 00:18:07,127
- Lesley's very loving,
490
00:18:07,211 --> 00:18:09,963
but she totally wants
that "white picket fence."
491
00:18:10,047 --> 00:18:11,590
She wants her kids
to look perfect.
492
00:18:11,673 --> 00:18:13,091
She wants her husband
to look perfect.
493
00:18:13,175 --> 00:18:15,385
She wants him
to have a nice car.
494
00:18:15,469 --> 00:18:18,180
And I love her to death,
but there's just no way,
495
00:18:18,263 --> 00:18:21,850
because life
isn't always perfect.
496
00:18:21,934 --> 00:18:24,978
- You wanna go get some Hos?
I mean, cornholes?
497
00:18:25,062 --> 00:18:27,189
- Let's see who's got next
on that cornhole action.
498
00:18:27,272 --> 00:18:29,274
- All right, guys, have fun.
- Bye.
499
00:18:29,358 --> 00:18:30,859
- We get next game.
500
00:18:30,943 --> 00:18:32,528
- Yeah, we're next.
We're next.
501
00:18:32,611 --> 00:18:35,531
- They're so much alike.
- Yeah. Good family, you know.
502
00:18:35,614 --> 00:18:37,115
- I love that.
503
00:18:37,199 --> 00:18:38,700
Have you talked to Judy at all
504
00:18:38,784 --> 00:18:40,410
about the pregnancy
or doctor's appointment?
505
00:18:40,494 --> 00:18:44,540
- Not really. I feel like
there's this wall between us.
506
00:18:44,623 --> 00:18:46,500
- You know what?
I feel the exact same way.
507
00:18:46,583 --> 00:18:47,751
- Why do I?
508
00:18:47,835 --> 00:18:49,211
- I know.
- What did I do?
509
00:18:49,294 --> 00:18:51,088
- I've been this way
for six years with her.
510
00:18:51,171 --> 00:18:52,631
You know, but I felt, like,
alone in it, you know,
511
00:18:52,714 --> 00:18:53,966
'cause, like,
Reagan doesn't have
512
00:18:54,049 --> 00:18:55,676
a girlfriend or wife, you know.
513
00:18:55,759 --> 00:18:58,053
So it's not like I have
another female in the family.
514
00:18:58,136 --> 00:19:01,557
And you're the first one that
reached out and was so loving.
515
00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:03,225
I just felt
so connected to you.
516
00:19:03,308 --> 00:19:04,726
- Me too.
I don't know how that happened.
517
00:19:04,810 --> 00:19:07,729
I don't know why
I can't get that with Judy.
518
00:19:07,813 --> 00:19:09,106
- I know.
- I need help.
519
00:19:09,189 --> 00:19:10,691
And you are feeling
the exact same way.
520
00:19:10,774 --> 00:19:11,942
- I know.
521
00:19:12,025 --> 00:19:13,819
- I see that
she loves her kids.
522
00:19:13,902 --> 00:19:15,821
- Yeah.
- She loves Nate. But then--
523
00:19:15,904 --> 00:19:17,614
- But then she has her
small circle of friends,
524
00:19:17,698 --> 00:19:19,825
and it's so hard to break
through into that circle.
525
00:19:19,908 --> 00:19:21,702
- Yes!
- When her first IVF
526
00:19:21,785 --> 00:19:23,078
didn't happen,
she didn't even tell me.
527
00:19:23,161 --> 00:19:24,496
- Yeah.
- We had a family dinner
528
00:19:24,580 --> 00:19:26,874
that day.
I could see her pain.
529
00:19:26,957 --> 00:19:29,001
I just walked up
and hugged her.
530
00:19:29,084 --> 00:19:32,087
And I'm thinking--
in my head, I'm thinking like,
531
00:19:32,170 --> 00:19:33,839
"I'm gonna hug her
and she's gonna know why
532
00:19:33,922 --> 00:19:35,591
"I'm hugging her.
We don't have to cry about it
533
00:19:35,674 --> 00:19:37,426
and hug about it
and braid each other's hair."
534
00:19:37,509 --> 00:19:40,762
But she would know
that I knew how she felt.
535
00:19:40,846 --> 00:19:42,806
That she's in pain
and I'm, like,
536
00:19:42,890 --> 00:19:45,434
here to share
your pain with you.
537
00:19:45,517 --> 00:19:47,436
And she just asked
if I was drunk.
538
00:19:47,519 --> 00:19:49,938
Like, I was like,
"What? What the fuck?"
539
00:19:50,022 --> 00:19:51,273
- Yeah.
540
00:19:51,356 --> 00:19:52,816
- I'm so bitter
about--I'm so bitter
541
00:19:52,900 --> 00:19:54,151
about that, you know,
it's like--
542
00:19:54,234 --> 00:19:56,904
like, I wish
I almost didn't do that.
543
00:19:56,987 --> 00:19:58,363
You know what I'm saying?
Like, fuck, I--
544
00:19:58,447 --> 00:19:59,615
- You feel stupid
after you do it, right?
545
00:19:59,698 --> 00:20:00,741
- Stupid.
546
00:20:00,824 --> 00:20:02,159
This past year,
547
00:20:02,242 --> 00:20:03,994
Judy's dealt with a lot.
548
00:20:04,077 --> 00:20:06,121
I see the struggle.
I see that she's hurting.
549
00:20:06,204 --> 00:20:08,624
I'm hurting for her,
but I can't talk to her
550
00:20:08,707 --> 00:20:11,835
about it because I didn't
go through it.
551
00:20:11,919 --> 00:20:16,965
And I just struggle
with showing her...
552
00:20:17,049 --> 00:20:18,508
[sniffles]
553
00:20:18,592 --> 00:20:20,010
How I feel about her.
554
00:20:20,093 --> 00:20:23,055
[somber music]
555
00:20:23,138 --> 00:20:24,181
♪ ♪
556
00:20:24,264 --> 00:20:26,308
I've cried about it.
557
00:20:26,391 --> 00:20:27,684
I've cried to Wash about it.
558
00:20:27,768 --> 00:20:29,603
You know, like,
he blames him and Reagan
559
00:20:29,686 --> 00:20:31,313
for why she's the way she is.
- Yeah.
560
00:20:31,396 --> 00:20:35,484
- And I'm trying to accept her
the way that she is.
561
00:20:35,567 --> 00:20:37,444
But how do you have
that close connection...
562
00:20:37,527 --> 00:20:39,863
- Yeah.
- With somebody like that?
563
00:20:39,947 --> 00:20:42,324
I feel like we both yearn
for that, right?
564
00:20:42,407 --> 00:20:43,825
- Yeah.
565
00:20:43,909 --> 00:20:47,287
- ♪ Feel no, feel no,
feel no way ♪
566
00:20:47,371 --> 00:20:51,083
♪ ♪
567
00:20:51,166 --> 00:20:54,086
[upbeat music]
568
00:20:54,169 --> 00:20:56,546
♪ ♪
569
00:20:56,630 --> 00:20:58,340
- One more tiny scooch
this way.
570
00:20:58,423 --> 00:21:00,968
Okay, you're gonna
feel my hands, okay?
571
00:21:01,051 --> 00:21:04,179
- Okay. I always get scared.
[sighs]
572
00:21:04,262 --> 00:21:05,931
All right,
so we're gonna be able to see
573
00:21:06,014 --> 00:21:07,891
and hear the heartbeat,
which will be really exciting.
574
00:21:07,975 --> 00:21:09,142
And the fetus
is gonna be looking
575
00:21:09,226 --> 00:21:10,602
more and more like a baby.
576
00:21:10,686 --> 00:21:12,854
Are you ready to see
this little nugget?
577
00:21:12,938 --> 00:21:14,022
- Okay, okay. Okay, I'm ready.
578
00:21:14,106 --> 00:21:15,482
- Okay. I bet little one's
579
00:21:15,565 --> 00:21:17,109
grown a lot
since we saw it last time.
580
00:21:17,192 --> 00:21:18,694
Let's see what we got going on.
581
00:21:18,777 --> 00:21:21,947
We're looking down in here.
582
00:21:22,030 --> 00:21:24,199
So here's your little nugget.
583
00:21:24,282 --> 00:21:26,868
both: Aww.
- So the head's up here.
584
00:21:26,952 --> 00:21:28,829
We've got the arms and legs
starting to grow.
585
00:21:28,912 --> 00:21:31,915
And that flickering there
is our perfect heartbeat.
586
00:21:31,999 --> 00:21:35,168
[soft music]
587
00:21:35,252 --> 00:21:37,170
♪ ♪
588
00:21:37,254 --> 00:21:39,715
- Aww.
589
00:21:39,798 --> 00:21:43,135
- Perfect. 170 is right where
it should be.
590
00:21:43,218 --> 00:21:45,721
And this little one
is definitely growing.
591
00:21:45,804 --> 00:21:47,639
And we can see
the little arms and legs.
592
00:21:47,723 --> 00:21:49,599
Oh, saying hello.
593
00:21:49,683 --> 00:21:51,560
[laughter]
- Aww.
594
00:21:51,643 --> 00:21:54,438
- See, there's the little arms,
little legs.
595
00:21:54,521 --> 00:21:56,898
- Oh, my gosh.
- Oh, he's digging.
596
00:21:56,982 --> 00:21:58,442
- It looks perfect.
- Aww.
597
00:21:58,525 --> 00:21:59,735
- Okay?
- Aww.
598
00:21:59,818 --> 00:22:01,945
- All right.
Oh, that's a great shot.
599
00:22:02,029 --> 00:22:07,743
- To finally hear a heartbeat,
it's just...
600
00:22:07,826 --> 00:22:11,079
- It's a relief.
- Yeah, relief is the word.
601
00:22:11,163 --> 00:22:15,917
So, you know, when you--like,
what Nate's been through,
602
00:22:16,001 --> 00:22:19,463
and then, you know, the IVF,
it's just...
603
00:22:19,546 --> 00:22:21,715
we don't take anything
for granted anymore.
604
00:22:21,798 --> 00:22:23,091
- We don't.
- Right?
605
00:22:23,175 --> 00:22:26,261
- But we don't have
these grand expectations
606
00:22:26,344 --> 00:22:27,929
where everything's
gonna go our way.
607
00:22:28,013 --> 00:22:29,514
- Only thing that matters
to us now
608
00:22:29,598 --> 00:22:34,102
is the kids
and the baby and us.
609
00:22:34,186 --> 00:22:37,230
And everything else
is just kinda washed away.
610
00:22:37,314 --> 00:22:38,315
- Right.
- I feel.
611
00:22:38,398 --> 00:22:40,692
- I agree.
- Yeah.
612
00:22:40,776 --> 00:22:43,070
- It's okay, babe.
- I don't have tissues.
613
00:22:43,153 --> 00:22:45,447
[both laughing]
614
00:22:45,530 --> 00:22:46,948
- All right, guys,
here's your souvenirs.
615
00:22:47,032 --> 00:22:48,366
Okay, it's looking perfect.
616
00:22:48,450 --> 00:22:49,951
- Thank you.
- Wow!
617
00:22:50,035 --> 00:22:51,161
- Why don't we have
one of these at home?
618
00:22:51,244 --> 00:22:53,997
I do it every hour. [laughs]
619
00:22:54,081 --> 00:22:56,083
[upbeat music]
620
00:22:56,166 --> 00:22:59,294
- Roosevelt, Lincoln,
Daddy's got a surprise.
621
00:22:59,377 --> 00:23:00,796
Yeah, sit right here.
622
00:23:00,879 --> 00:23:02,714
All right, you know
why you're sitting there?
623
00:23:02,798 --> 00:23:04,132
- Why?
624
00:23:04,216 --> 00:23:06,051
- Because Daddy's gonna
teach you how to smile
625
00:23:06,134 --> 00:23:07,427
when people do photos.
626
00:23:07,511 --> 00:23:08,845
- [shouts indistinctly]
627
00:23:08,929 --> 00:23:11,389
- Every time when people,
they take photos of you,
628
00:23:11,473 --> 00:23:13,809
you have to remember
this moment, okay?
629
00:23:13,892 --> 00:23:15,977
- Okay.
- 'Cause Daddy loves you,
630
00:23:16,061 --> 00:23:18,396
and Daddy knows how
to make people smile.
631
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:19,439
- I love you too.
632
00:23:19,523 --> 00:23:21,691
- Okay, wait for Dada.
633
00:23:21,775 --> 00:23:25,403
I've always been great at
sales and entertaining people,
634
00:23:25,487 --> 00:23:29,157
so I know how to make
my kids smile.
635
00:23:30,617 --> 00:23:33,537
[laughter]
636
00:23:33,620 --> 00:23:39,000
♪ ♪
637
00:23:39,084 --> 00:23:42,337
This is a huge opportunity
for Washington Ho
638
00:23:42,420 --> 00:23:44,548
to prove himself as a father.
639
00:23:44,631 --> 00:23:46,049
Does it scare you
or make you laugh?
640
00:23:46,133 --> 00:23:48,051
- You're making me go potty!
641
00:23:48,135 --> 00:23:51,346
- Okay, so every time you do
a photo session,
642
00:23:51,429 --> 00:23:54,349
you're gonna think about Daddy
and the unicorn hat, right?
643
00:23:54,432 --> 00:23:57,185
- Uh, yeah.
- And the green skirt, right?
644
00:23:57,269 --> 00:23:58,937
And it's gonna make you laugh.
645
00:23:59,020 --> 00:24:01,523
What do you have to have
when you do a photo shoot?
646
00:24:01,606 --> 00:24:02,524
- Joy.
647
00:24:02,607 --> 00:24:04,860
- Joy? What is joy?
648
00:24:04,943 --> 00:24:06,570
- A happy thing.
649
00:24:06,653 --> 00:24:08,029
- Yeah. Okay.
- Of life.
650
00:24:08,113 --> 00:24:09,322
- Lincoln, come here.
651
00:24:09,406 --> 00:24:11,658
You need to listen
to your brother.
652
00:24:11,741 --> 00:24:14,411
I want another Ho so bad
653
00:24:14,494 --> 00:24:16,997
because our kids
make us so happy.
654
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:18,999
We have so much fun
raising them.
655
00:24:19,082 --> 00:24:21,001
And ultimately,
656
00:24:21,084 --> 00:24:23,670
it's just a symbol
of where we are at today.
657
00:24:23,753 --> 00:24:25,547
[laughter]
658
00:24:25,630 --> 00:24:27,549
Lincoln, come here. Let's go.
659
00:24:27,632 --> 00:24:29,634
[hip-hop music]
660
00:24:29,718 --> 00:24:31,303
- ♪ Go on and turn me up
'cause I'm on ♪
661
00:24:31,386 --> 00:24:33,013
♪ Style and grace, baby,
black swan ♪
662
00:24:33,096 --> 00:24:34,723
♪ Check the duffel
out in the yard ♪
663
00:24:34,806 --> 00:24:36,766
♪ So much green
I call it a lawn ♪
664
00:24:36,850 --> 00:24:40,061
♪ Pink, pink furs,
six inches on my heels ♪
665
00:24:40,145 --> 00:24:41,521
♪ Got my neck on there ♪
666
00:24:41,605 --> 00:24:43,231
♪ Other bitches
have no chills ♪
667
00:24:43,315 --> 00:24:45,108
♪ Labels in the bin
and yours ♪
668
00:24:45,192 --> 00:24:46,818
♪ Seven zeros for the deal ♪
669
00:24:46,902 --> 00:24:48,069
♪ ♪
670
00:24:48,153 --> 00:24:51,031
- Oh.
- Oh, this looks nice. Cute.
671
00:24:51,114 --> 00:24:52,741
- I see sequins, Judy.
- I know.
672
00:24:52,824 --> 00:24:55,076
That was
the first thing I noticed.
673
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,412
- That's so you.
- I know.
674
00:24:57,495 --> 00:24:58,997
My God, they have tie dye.
675
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:00,624
That's actually
kinda in right now.
676
00:25:00,707 --> 00:25:03,335
- I know.
With some tennis shoes.
677
00:25:03,418 --> 00:25:04,628
- It's cute. Yeah, right?
678
00:25:04,711 --> 00:25:06,338
- If you're going
to, like, Woodstock.
679
00:25:06,421 --> 00:25:07,422
- I like it. I like it.
680
00:25:07,505 --> 00:25:08,924
- Vanessa and I decided to
681
00:25:09,007 --> 00:25:10,133
spend some time with Judy
682
00:25:10,217 --> 00:25:11,885
and to really make that effort
683
00:25:11,968 --> 00:25:15,138
because we both really yearn
for that relationship,
684
00:25:15,222 --> 00:25:17,057
that closeness,
that sisterhood.
685
00:25:17,140 --> 00:25:20,769
I've had seven years up on
Vanessa when it comes to Judy.
686
00:25:20,852 --> 00:25:23,104
And so I'm just helping
Vanessa navigate through that.
687
00:25:23,188 --> 00:25:25,065
It's funny 'cause Vanessa
and I were just talking about
688
00:25:25,148 --> 00:25:27,275
how--you know,
I know you have a lot going on
689
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,736
on your plate and stuff,
but we just don't feel like--
690
00:25:29,819 --> 00:25:31,238
well, I had to tell her
you're not a hugger.
691
00:25:31,321 --> 00:25:32,322
- The only person I hug
692
00:25:32,405 --> 00:25:33,949
are your brother and my kids.
693
00:25:34,032 --> 00:25:35,325
- No, I've seen you
hug other people.
694
00:25:35,408 --> 00:25:36,451
- Like who?
- She brought up Suzanne.
695
00:25:36,534 --> 00:25:37,702
- Suzanne's like my sister.
696
00:25:37,786 --> 00:25:39,120
- We are your sisters.
- Yes.
697
00:25:39,204 --> 00:25:40,288
- Okay, but she
didn't have a sister,
698
00:25:40,372 --> 00:25:41,539
and I didn't have a sister.
699
00:25:41,623 --> 00:25:43,166
Growing up,
we leaned on each other.
700
00:25:43,250 --> 00:25:45,085
- I feel like we both wanna be
really close to you.
701
00:25:45,168 --> 00:25:46,795
- I feel like we are close.
702
00:25:46,878 --> 00:25:48,546
- But not like that.
703
00:25:48,630 --> 00:25:51,299
- Okay, first of all, there's
no "measuring closeness." Okay?
704
00:25:51,383 --> 00:25:53,718
- There is whenever
you're hugging, like, Suzanne.
705
00:25:53,802 --> 00:25:56,137
And then we try to hug you,
and you're like...
706
00:25:56,221 --> 00:25:57,806
- You're like this.
And I'm like, "Oh, my God."
707
00:25:57,889 --> 00:25:59,516
- "Merry Christmas, Lesley."
708
00:25:59,599 --> 00:26:01,017
- If people think I hate them
because I don't hug them,
709
00:26:01,101 --> 00:26:02,644
that's not my fault.
710
00:26:02,727 --> 00:26:05,146
I don't hug everybody,
but people misinterpret that.
711
00:26:05,230 --> 00:26:06,856
- You know, when you
moved in with me,
712
00:26:06,940 --> 00:26:08,733
I felt like we were, like,
sorority sisters, you know.
713
00:26:08,817 --> 00:26:11,278
I loved, loved, loved having
you there and your kids there.
714
00:26:11,361 --> 00:26:13,446
You know, like, before Nate
even came in the picture,
715
00:26:13,530 --> 00:26:15,323
where we had these moments
where I feel like
716
00:26:15,407 --> 00:26:17,075
you and I super bonded.
- Mm-hmm.
717
00:26:17,158 --> 00:26:19,119
- And then I feel like
we broke up.
718
00:26:19,202 --> 00:26:20,996
- [laughs]
- I'm serious.
719
00:26:21,079 --> 00:26:23,164
- You were dating?
- It felt like it.
720
00:26:23,248 --> 00:26:24,749
You know, you were like--
- Yeah, a relationship.
721
00:26:24,833 --> 00:26:26,876
- She prefers me
over my brother.
722
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:28,670
- I do. I do.
723
00:26:28,753 --> 00:26:30,005
- Everyone I meet says
the same thing.
724
00:26:30,088 --> 00:26:31,548
- Take that away from me,
I'm like,
725
00:26:31,631 --> 00:26:32,841
"Did I do something?"
You know what I'm saying?
726
00:26:32,924 --> 00:26:34,092
- I'm still here.
727
00:26:34,175 --> 00:26:35,427
- I know,
but it's not the same.
728
00:26:35,510 --> 00:26:37,387
Vanessa has sisters.
I have a sister.
729
00:26:37,470 --> 00:26:38,847
We know what that feels like.
730
00:26:38,930 --> 00:26:41,516
It's almost like Icarus
and the sun.
731
00:26:41,599 --> 00:26:43,018
You try to get
as close as you can.
732
00:26:43,101 --> 00:26:44,686
But if you get too close,
you get burned.
733
00:26:44,769 --> 00:26:46,938
You know, I feel like
that's how Judy is.
734
00:26:47,022 --> 00:26:49,190
- So what can I do?
- What can we do?
735
00:26:49,274 --> 00:26:51,651
- You don't have to change
or do anything.
736
00:26:51,735 --> 00:26:54,112
- I feel the distance
between us, though. Like--
737
00:26:54,195 --> 00:26:55,655
- It's the little comments,
Judy, sometimes.
738
00:26:55,739 --> 00:26:58,742
- What do I say?
- Like, when I show you
739
00:26:58,825 --> 00:27:03,204
that I care
and--when your first
740
00:27:03,288 --> 00:27:04,831
IVF didn't happen...
- Uh-huh.
741
00:27:04,914 --> 00:27:06,082
- I saw your pain.
742
00:27:06,166 --> 00:27:07,500
I saw Nate's pain.
- Mm-hmm.
743
00:27:07,584 --> 00:27:09,544
- So I just wanted
to give you a hug.
744
00:27:09,627 --> 00:27:11,504
But instead of, like,
acknowledging that,
745
00:27:11,588 --> 00:27:12,839
you just asked me
if I was drunk.
746
00:27:12,922 --> 00:27:14,341
- You were drunk.
- I wasn't drunk.
747
00:27:14,424 --> 00:27:15,675
I didn't even drink.
- You came for brunch.
748
00:27:15,759 --> 00:27:17,177
- But I didn't drink.
- Okay.
749
00:27:17,260 --> 00:27:18,470
Well, you told me
that you had been drinking,
750
00:27:18,553 --> 00:27:19,721
so you were emotional.
751
00:27:19,804 --> 00:27:21,514
- I'm emotional
because I care.
752
00:27:21,598 --> 00:27:23,683
- I said that
because I felt stupid.
753
00:27:23,767 --> 00:27:25,393
- So what is it
that you want from me?
754
00:27:25,477 --> 00:27:26,978
- Compassion. I don't know.
755
00:27:27,062 --> 00:27:28,563
- You don't think I'm
compassionate towards you?
756
00:27:28,646 --> 00:27:30,398
- I know you are
in certain ways.
757
00:27:30,482 --> 00:27:32,025
When I feel like
I've put myself out there--
758
00:27:32,108 --> 00:27:33,985
- I think that you guys
show your love for people
759
00:27:34,069 --> 00:27:35,653
differently
than the way I show it.
760
00:27:35,737 --> 00:27:37,405
Everyone has
a different love language.
761
00:27:37,489 --> 00:27:38,907
I don't see the problem
with that.
762
00:27:38,990 --> 00:27:40,575
I take care of your children
every day.
763
00:27:40,658 --> 00:27:42,243
- I know.
- It's huge. It's huge.
764
00:27:42,327 --> 00:27:43,620
- If someone picked up my kids
every day, fed them...
765
00:27:43,703 --> 00:27:44,746
- Yeah, she does see that.
- I know.
766
00:27:44,829 --> 00:27:46,331
I have seen that.
Yes.
767
00:27:46,414 --> 00:27:47,957
- And kept them there until
6:00 p.m. without asking
768
00:27:48,041 --> 00:27:49,918
for anything in return,
I wouldn't be like,
769
00:27:50,001 --> 00:27:51,836
"Oh, I'm mad
because you don't hug me."
770
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,505
- No, I'm not mad
'cause you don't hug me.
771
00:27:53,588 --> 00:27:54,672
- I just feel like
I make the effort
772
00:27:54,756 --> 00:27:56,299
to spend time with you.
773
00:27:56,383 --> 00:27:59,052
I make the effort to be
a good aunt to your children.
774
00:27:59,135 --> 00:28:01,471
And those are the ways
I show you I care.
775
00:28:01,554 --> 00:28:03,098
So if I don't spend time
with you,
776
00:28:03,181 --> 00:28:04,933
that's the sign
that I don't care for you.
777
00:28:05,016 --> 00:28:06,601
If I don't hug you,
that means shit 'cause I don't
778
00:28:06,684 --> 00:28:09,938
hug anybody besides Nate
and the three kids.
779
00:28:10,021 --> 00:28:11,106
[sighs]
780
00:28:11,189 --> 00:28:12,774
I think everybody
in this family
781
00:28:12,857 --> 00:28:16,945
takes everything very personal
and is too sensitive.
782
00:28:17,028 --> 00:28:18,363
I think they're
both ridiculous.
783
00:28:18,446 --> 00:28:20,532
I think both of them hug
whoever they see
784
00:28:20,615 --> 00:28:22,617
on the street,
complete strangers.
785
00:28:22,700 --> 00:28:24,786
So I'm like, "What
significance does a hug mean
786
00:28:24,869 --> 00:28:26,454
if you do it for everyone?"
787
00:28:26,538 --> 00:28:28,248
But I mean, I thought you guys
invited me to go shopping,
788
00:28:28,331 --> 00:28:29,916
not to just, like,
stand here and bicker.
789
00:28:29,999 --> 00:28:31,459
- Sorry.
- Sorry.
790
00:28:31,543 --> 00:28:32,877
- That's why I don't
hang out with y'all.
791
00:28:32,961 --> 00:28:35,505
- Oh, yes, read my mind, girl.
792
00:28:35,588 --> 00:28:36,923
- No kidding.
793
00:28:37,006 --> 00:28:38,633
- ♪ Anything is possible ♪
794
00:28:38,716 --> 00:28:40,635
♪ Anything can happen ♪
795
00:28:40,718 --> 00:28:42,262
♪ Oh oh oh ♪
796
00:28:42,345 --> 00:28:44,431
♪ Whoa oh oh ♪
797
00:28:44,514 --> 00:28:46,307
♪ ♪
798
00:28:46,391 --> 00:28:47,600
- Honey?
799
00:28:47,684 --> 00:28:50,270
- Yeah?
- Come down here.
800
00:28:50,353 --> 00:28:51,604
♪ ♪
801
00:28:51,688 --> 00:28:54,023
- Hey, babe.
What is that smile for?
802
00:28:54,107 --> 00:28:56,067
- Put the kids through
the Washington Ho
803
00:28:56,151 --> 00:28:57,861
School for Smiling, baby.
804
00:28:57,944 --> 00:29:00,822
- Oh, God. Uh-huh.
805
00:29:00,905 --> 00:29:02,407
- Are you ready to see this?
806
00:29:02,490 --> 00:29:06,828
- Let me see it. Aw, how cute!
807
00:29:06,911 --> 00:29:10,248
Let me see 'em. [laughs]
808
00:29:10,331 --> 00:29:12,041
That's adorable! Let me look.
809
00:29:12,125 --> 00:29:13,334
- That's good, huh?
810
00:29:13,418 --> 00:29:15,378
- My kids have
beautiful smiles,
811
00:29:15,462 --> 00:29:18,173
and I'm happy
that he captured them.
812
00:29:18,256 --> 00:29:21,009
However...
813
00:29:21,092 --> 00:29:22,719
Why is his hair in a mohawk?
814
00:29:22,802 --> 00:29:25,346
- Look how happy he is.
Look at the smile.
815
00:29:25,430 --> 00:29:26,848
That's what you should
focus on.
816
00:29:26,931 --> 00:29:29,017
- I know, but his mohawk's
not even, like--
817
00:29:29,100 --> 00:29:30,977
- It's not a mohawk.
It was just some volume.
818
00:29:31,060 --> 00:29:32,395
- What is that?
It's like a cowlick.
819
00:29:32,479 --> 00:29:33,730
- No, it's not.
820
00:29:33,813 --> 00:29:37,275
- I've worked five years
into making him look
821
00:29:37,358 --> 00:29:39,235
like a good little church boy.
822
00:29:39,319 --> 00:29:42,113
And now he's rocking a mohawk.
823
00:29:42,197 --> 00:29:46,659
I love their smiles.
You nailed that part down.
824
00:29:46,743 --> 00:29:49,871
But his hair is off
and she has no bow.
825
00:29:49,954 --> 00:29:52,207
- I know, but I was just
celebrating them
826
00:29:52,290 --> 00:29:53,583
being themselves.
827
00:29:53,666 --> 00:29:55,418
Give the small master a hug.
I know how--
828
00:29:55,502 --> 00:29:57,712
- Okay, you nailed the smile.
I'll give you that.
829
00:29:57,795 --> 00:30:00,256
- Okay.
830
00:30:00,340 --> 00:30:02,175
- Next time, no mohawk, please.
831
00:30:02,258 --> 00:30:03,968
- Since they smiled
really good...
832
00:30:04,052 --> 00:30:07,847
- Yeah.
- Do I get a prize upstairs?
833
00:30:07,931 --> 00:30:09,516
- Only if you do
the same mohawk.
834
00:30:09,599 --> 00:30:10,934
[both laughing]
835
00:30:11,017 --> 00:30:12,560
Can you do the mohawk
down there?
836
00:30:12,644 --> 00:30:14,062
- You're so funny.
837
00:30:14,145 --> 00:30:17,524
- ♪ It can't get better
than this ♪
838
00:30:17,607 --> 00:30:20,318
♪ No no no no no ♪
839
00:30:20,401 --> 00:30:24,030
♪ It can't get better
than this ♪
840
00:30:24,113 --> 00:30:25,740
- Hi.
841
00:30:25,823 --> 00:30:27,367
- ♪ No no no no ♪
842
00:30:27,450 --> 00:30:28,660
♪ This is so divine ♪
843
00:30:28,743 --> 00:30:29,786
- Aw.
844
00:30:29,869 --> 00:30:31,120
- ♪ Right now is the time ♪
845
00:30:31,204 --> 00:30:33,831
♪ For us to feel alive ♪
846
00:30:33,915 --> 00:30:36,292
♪ This is heavenly peace ♪
847
00:30:36,376 --> 00:30:37,752
- Oh, man.
848
00:30:37,835 --> 00:30:39,963
- Oh, man.
- Oh, look.
849
00:30:40,046 --> 00:30:42,465
- Oh, my God!
You're hugging me!
850
00:30:42,549 --> 00:30:44,425
- Okay.
Okay, you got the hug now.
851
00:30:44,509 --> 00:30:46,052
- Wait, no.
Has she been drinking?
852
00:30:46,135 --> 00:30:47,762
- Yeah. Yeah.
- Not yet. Not yet.
853
00:30:47,845 --> 00:30:50,765
- Hey, I like the--
I like our clothes.
854
00:30:50,848 --> 00:30:53,434
We had a dance plan,
I guess, just as a surprise.
855
00:30:53,518 --> 00:30:54,686
But a little bit embarrassing.
856
00:30:54,769 --> 00:30:56,854
- Judy. Judy, this is for you.
857
00:30:56,938 --> 00:30:59,399
- Thank you.
This is very impressive.
858
00:30:59,482 --> 00:31:01,442
- Just so you know,
we've never had
859
00:31:01,526 --> 00:31:04,737
this display ever.
[laughter]
860
00:31:04,821 --> 00:31:07,115
- It's just for Judy.
- Me?
861
00:31:07,198 --> 00:31:08,575
- Just for Judy.
862
00:31:08,658 --> 00:31:11,786
How does it feel to be here
versus Judy's side?
863
00:31:11,869 --> 00:31:13,037
Are we not bougie enough?
Are we not--
864
00:31:13,121 --> 00:31:14,581
- Oh, you're bougie.
865
00:31:14,664 --> 00:31:16,124
- Oh, have you met Reagan?
Reagan is not bougie.
866
00:31:16,207 --> 00:31:17,709
- Don't you think your sister
is bougie?
867
00:31:17,792 --> 00:31:19,586
- I don't know.
I just know that she's drama.
868
00:31:19,669 --> 00:31:20,837
- How am I drama?
869
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,297
- You told me the sisters
aren't here.
870
00:31:22,380 --> 00:31:24,340
That's who she meant.
- Oh, yeah.
871
00:31:24,424 --> 00:31:26,593
- We're not gonna name
any of the names.
872
00:31:26,676 --> 00:31:27,969
- Oh.
- Yeah, we'll call her
873
00:31:28,052 --> 00:31:29,137
L and K.
874
00:31:29,220 --> 00:31:30,680
[laughter]
875
00:31:30,763 --> 00:31:32,265
- There's six of us.
876
00:31:32,348 --> 00:31:36,144
The oldest is Linda,
and then Vanessa, and then me.
877
00:31:36,227 --> 00:31:38,730
And then I have
a younger sister named Kim.
878
00:31:38,813 --> 00:31:40,982
And then Nate, and then Mike.
879
00:31:41,065 --> 00:31:43,818
The women in our family
are very strong minded.
880
00:31:43,901 --> 00:31:45,695
We kind of rule the family.
881
00:31:45,778 --> 00:31:46,988
- I don't wanna create drama.
882
00:31:47,071 --> 00:31:48,573
- Come on.
- You guys are drama.
883
00:31:48,656 --> 00:31:49,991
- Who?
- Who?
884
00:31:50,074 --> 00:31:51,326
- Them two.
- Me and Vin?
885
00:31:51,409 --> 00:31:53,161
- Yeah.
- We are not drama.
886
00:31:53,244 --> 00:31:54,662
- King and queen right there.
887
00:31:54,746 --> 00:31:57,248
- Ooh!
- Wow. Is that true?
888
00:31:57,332 --> 00:31:58,499
- Sometimes.
- Wow!
889
00:31:58,583 --> 00:31:59,959
- Sometimes.
- I'm just kidding.
890
00:32:00,043 --> 00:32:01,628
- Now that we're blending
our families,
891
00:32:01,711 --> 00:32:03,755
I feel like there
is a little bit of drama.
892
00:32:03,838 --> 00:32:06,549
- The drama is they all like
being with us,
893
00:32:06,633 --> 00:32:09,010
and we don't necessarily
always wanna be with them.
894
00:32:09,093 --> 00:32:11,429
So that's a drama.
- That's good drama.
895
00:32:11,512 --> 00:32:12,930
- Right.
- I never asked this,
896
00:32:13,014 --> 00:32:15,016
but do your kids know
about the pregnancy?
897
00:32:15,099 --> 00:32:16,684
- Yes, they do.
- Oh, okay.
898
00:32:16,768 --> 00:32:18,061
- They think that's how people
get pregnant.
899
00:32:18,144 --> 00:32:19,646
You give them injections.
900
00:32:19,729 --> 00:32:23,024
[overlapping chatter]
- That's awesome.
901
00:32:23,107 --> 00:32:26,611
- Would you tell this baby
that he or she would be IVF?
902
00:32:26,694 --> 00:32:28,071
You know,
'cause Chris doesn't know.
903
00:32:28,154 --> 00:32:29,364
- Seriously?
- Why not?
904
00:32:29,447 --> 00:32:31,074
- Yeah.
- He's 14!
905
00:32:31,157 --> 00:32:32,867
- I know, and I never told him.
- Why not?
906
00:32:32,950 --> 00:32:35,328
- You never told Chris
that Linda is the surrogate?
907
00:32:35,411 --> 00:32:37,205
- Yeah, never. He never asked.
And it's not like--
908
00:32:37,288 --> 00:32:38,498
- Why would you ask that?
909
00:32:38,581 --> 00:32:40,208
Why would you ever ask
who's the mom?
910
00:32:40,291 --> 00:32:42,919
- I mean, it's not like it
comes up in conversations.
911
00:32:43,002 --> 00:32:44,879
- Why would it ever come up?
How?
912
00:32:44,962 --> 00:32:46,172
- No, next time I see him,
913
00:32:46,255 --> 00:32:47,674
I'll be like,
"Hey, have you ever seen
914
00:32:47,757 --> 00:32:49,175
a picture of
your mom pregnant with you?"
915
00:32:49,258 --> 00:32:50,802
- Well, we have a picture
of me carrying him
916
00:32:50,885 --> 00:32:52,261
when he was just born.
917
00:32:52,345 --> 00:32:55,098
So that was the picture
that he's had, you know.
918
00:32:55,181 --> 00:32:56,391
I...
919
00:32:56,474 --> 00:33:00,144
you know, it's been
a rough year for us.
920
00:33:00,228 --> 00:33:03,731
One, with the kids
and then me coming out,
921
00:33:03,815 --> 00:33:05,566
it was a rough year
for him to realize
922
00:33:05,650 --> 00:33:07,777
that his mom
was dating a woman.
923
00:33:07,860 --> 00:33:10,905
So that's why
I'm not saying anything.
924
00:33:10,988 --> 00:33:13,241
- It doesn't really matter
where you came out of.
925
00:33:13,324 --> 00:33:14,742
- No.
I don't think it matters.
926
00:33:14,826 --> 00:33:16,411
I don't think it matters
at all. But I think--
927
00:33:16,494 --> 00:33:17,954
- It doesn't help to tell him
that he was actual--
928
00:33:18,037 --> 00:33:19,247
- Wait, does he know
about you guys?
929
00:33:19,330 --> 00:33:21,207
- Yes.
- What about them?
930
00:33:21,290 --> 00:33:23,918
[soft music]
931
00:33:24,001 --> 00:33:26,087
- We talk about we're gonna
have another baby,
932
00:33:26,170 --> 00:33:28,381
so he wanted a girl.
- Oh, he does?
933
00:33:28,464 --> 00:33:30,133
- Yeah, so we've talked
to Chris about--yeah, IVF.
934
00:33:30,216 --> 00:33:32,427
So we've explained to him
how it happened with you guys.
935
00:33:32,510 --> 00:33:34,303
And then we were talking
about IVF with us.
936
00:33:34,387 --> 00:33:38,516
We actually went to see
an IVF specialist.
937
00:33:38,599 --> 00:33:40,351
We've tested everything
on Tran
938
00:33:40,435 --> 00:33:42,437
and everything looks
good to go.
939
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:44,772
Now it's just finding a donor.
940
00:33:44,856 --> 00:33:46,274
- I don't wanna know
the father.
941
00:33:46,357 --> 00:33:47,775
- And I do. I wanna know
942
00:33:47,859 --> 00:33:49,777
what background
they're coming from.
943
00:33:49,861 --> 00:33:51,571
- It's still your child.
944
00:33:51,654 --> 00:33:53,114
Shouldn't be anybody else
involved.
945
00:33:53,197 --> 00:33:54,449
I'd rather not know.
946
00:33:54,532 --> 00:33:56,701
- What you're doing now
for my brother
947
00:33:56,784 --> 00:33:58,369
is fucking priceless.
948
00:33:58,453 --> 00:33:59,871
- She loves him.
949
00:33:59,954 --> 00:34:01,873
- The sacrifice that
you're doing for him, man--
950
00:34:01,956 --> 00:34:03,166
- It's a big thing.
951
00:34:03,249 --> 00:34:05,418
It's very--how do you say,
like--
952
00:34:05,501 --> 00:34:07,044
- [speaks Vietnamese]
953
00:34:07,128 --> 00:34:08,629
- Yeah, say it in Vietnamese
if it's more comfortable.
954
00:34:08,713 --> 00:34:10,006
- Yeah.
[all speaking Vietnamese]
955
00:34:24,896 --> 00:34:28,524
I would say that you would
have to do out of your love,
956
00:34:28,608 --> 00:34:31,903
not because of his loss.
I'm sorry.
957
00:34:31,986 --> 00:34:34,906
- Right.
958
00:34:34,989 --> 00:34:37,366
- I don't tell Judy
how hard it is for me
959
00:34:37,450 --> 00:34:39,076
'cause I know it's been
just tough,
960
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:40,661
but I keep--I'm that kinda guy
that keeps everything in.
961
00:34:40,745 --> 00:34:44,707
- Yeah.
- You know, I don't tell Judy
962
00:34:44,791 --> 00:34:46,167
'cause I don't wanna worry her.
963
00:34:46,250 --> 00:34:47,794
I tell Van a few things.
964
00:34:47,877 --> 00:34:50,338
But I just don't talk
about feelings. So that's--
965
00:34:50,421 --> 00:34:51,589
- Yeah.
966
00:34:51,672 --> 00:34:53,466
♪ ♪
967
00:34:53,549 --> 00:34:55,635
- So I just appreciate
all that stuff you guys had.
968
00:34:55,718 --> 00:34:59,847
You know, I thought I'd spend
a lot of time with my kids.
969
00:34:59,931 --> 00:35:02,433
I always wish
I'd spent more time.
970
00:35:02,517 --> 00:35:05,520
So don't ever regret
those times, you know.
971
00:35:05,603 --> 00:35:06,979
- Don't take it for granted.
972
00:35:07,063 --> 00:35:09,607
- Yeah.
- Cheers.
973
00:35:09,690 --> 00:35:12,401
- You make me a better mom
974
00:35:12,485 --> 00:35:15,822
because...
975
00:35:15,905 --> 00:35:18,533
♪ ♪
976
00:35:18,616 --> 00:35:22,745
'Cause of you,
I'm a better person.
977
00:35:22,829 --> 00:35:26,374
- I know. And thanks to Judy.
978
00:35:26,457 --> 00:35:28,876
- Yeah. Thank you, Judy.
- And Kim.
979
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:30,837
[laughter]
980
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,214
- I appreciate--I really do
appreciate all of you guys.
981
00:35:33,297 --> 00:35:35,341
It's hard to get
through it alone,
982
00:35:35,424 --> 00:35:37,718
and you guys have been there
through the whole thing.
983
00:35:37,802 --> 00:35:41,556
And it's been tough, so I
really do appreciate you guys.
984
00:35:41,639 --> 00:35:43,599
I never cry.
Judy knows I never cry.
985
00:35:43,683 --> 00:35:45,184
It's just stupid.
986
00:35:45,268 --> 00:35:46,978
- It's not stupid.
- It's not stupid.
987
00:35:47,061 --> 00:35:48,938
- We do lean
on each other a lot.
988
00:35:49,021 --> 00:35:51,691
I think that no matter what,
we're always trying to build
989
00:35:51,774 --> 00:35:54,569
each other up and encourage
each other and be supportive.
990
00:35:54,652 --> 00:35:58,781
And it's very safe between us
to share our feelings.
991
00:35:58,865 --> 00:36:00,199
- 'Cause we both know
992
00:36:00,283 --> 00:36:02,034
we have each other's
best interests at heart.
993
00:36:02,118 --> 00:36:04,328
So that's how we overcome
a lot of stuff.
994
00:36:04,412 --> 00:36:05,997
We are able to discuss things,
right?
995
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,125
- Mm-hmm.
I love your brother very much.
996
00:36:09,208 --> 00:36:10,751
- I mean,
I didn't really like you
997
00:36:10,835 --> 00:36:12,336
that much at the beginning.
998
00:36:12,420 --> 00:36:15,631
- The feeling's mutual.
[laughter]
999
00:36:15,715 --> 00:36:17,717
So Kim's officially
my favorite sister-in-law now.
1000
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,385
- Whoo-hoo!
1001
00:36:19,468 --> 00:36:21,095
- What?
- Hold, hold on. What?
1002
00:36:21,178 --> 00:36:22,430
- They're not even married.
1003
00:36:22,513 --> 00:36:23,681
- They're not married yet.
1004
00:36:23,764 --> 00:36:25,308
- Bring it in.
all: Yay!
1005
00:36:25,391 --> 00:36:28,394
[indistinct chatter]
1006
00:36:28,477 --> 00:36:30,187
- ♪ ABC, show me ♪
1007
00:36:30,271 --> 00:36:33,065
♪ Emoji, how they know
we just laughin' happily ♪
1008
00:36:33,149 --> 00:36:34,901
♪ Who was that
tossin' up shade? ♪
1009
00:36:34,984 --> 00:36:37,236
♪ Tell 'em uh-oh,
you ain't messin' with me ♪
1010
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,656
♪ Oh, no, now you ain't
messin' with me ♪
1011
00:36:40,740 --> 00:36:42,408
♪ I'm gon' be
who I'm gon' be ♪
1012
00:36:42,491 --> 00:36:45,369
♪ Oh, yeah, you can't
change what I see ♪
1013
00:36:45,453 --> 00:36:48,414
♪ You're not gonna
stop my stride ♪
1014
00:36:48,497 --> 00:36:50,291
♪ Oh nah nah nah ♪
1015
00:36:50,374 --> 00:36:53,502
♪ You just see
how bright I shine ♪
1016
00:36:53,586 --> 00:36:55,630
♪ You ain't never with that ♪