[Paper Kings' "Look At Me Now"]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Can't nobody hold me down ♪
♪ I'm steady walkin' like ♪
♪ I got three commas in my bank account ♪
♪ Livin' loud, so get your cameras out ♪
♪ I'd probably do the same thing if I was you ♪
♪ Lookin' at me now, now ♪
♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
♪ Mm, put up your lights ♪
♪ And keep 'em flashin' ♪
♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
♪ Don't ever put 'em down, down, down ♪
♪ Look at me now ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ You ain't messin' with me ♪
♪ Oh, no, now you ain't messin' with me ♪
- How you been?
- Good. You? Been crazy?
You know why I wanted you to come here?
I'm going person by person that I care about.
Lesley is going to kill me
because she thinks Sammy is a bad influence on me.
But Sammy is family.
And I have to not only apologize
but ask for forgiveness.
I think that, you know, part of my process,
I had some fear about disappointing my family
or getting triggered to fall backwards.
And I forgot about my best friend,
you, my cousin.
And, you know, I try to pay off my problems
in the past through you.
Like, "Hey, Sammy, handle that."
And I feel like I was taking advantage of you.
And I'm admitting it.
I'm gonna take accountability for it
so that we can move forward,
so that you can move forward.
And I can make Sammy shine bright like a diamond.
♪ ♪
- I'm tired of being gaslit by Wash.
To lie to me several times, and not just to me,
but to other people about me,
and just write it off is hurtful.
I would really like for him to acknowledge
how his actions personally hurt me.
I didn't know that was all going on with you.
- I'm sorry I didn't share that with you.
But the addiction got in the way,
and I was just so ashamed of it.
Now I'm just learning that, you know, I'm human.
And that's why I'm here with you, to tell you that.
I was just trying to, like, shield my pain,
I guess, or shield the truth.
- Do you know why I was really pissed off at you?
It wasn't when you took advantage of me.
No, it was after that.
It was the way you treated me,
like, once it was all done.
You were just a dick, like--
- That's what I'm apologizing for,
is that I feel like you felt like I forgot you
and I just moved on with my life.
- Yeah. - You had pain in the process
to get me to be better, and I'm sorry.
But I hope that you take this, like,
as a sincere way of me trying to make amends to you.
[soft music]
- I want you happy. - I know you do.
- Even though sometimes I want to I smack the shit out of you.
[both laughing]
- I know. I love you.
- I love you too.
- You forgive me? - I forgive you.
- All right. My fuckin' crazy-ass cuz.
♪ ♪
We're in this together.
- Although Washington and I's relationship
has been estranged, it's not done.
We're family.
I think I really learned that
through these last few years
that life is short.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
Fist bump.
We'll bring each other up.
- Yeah.
- ♪ You're on your way like I'm on my way ♪
♪ Like I'm on my way ♪
♪ Get it off your chest, what you got to say? ♪
♪ What you got to say? ♪
♪ I'm on my way to the promise that... ♪
- It's fun having a date night.
It's been a long time. - I know.
- I'm gonna get a virgin drink tonight.
- Okay. Do you care if I drink?
- No, I want you to drink, 'cause then I might get lucky.
- You might.
- As long as you're not tired.
- It's actually not me that's tired anymore.
It's you now that's tired. - Me?
What do you mean? - I'm not kidding, wake up.
I thought you wanted to have sex. Wake up.
[playful music]
- I'll tell Lesley that I met with Sammy
when the timing's right.
And right now, the timing is wrong.
We're talkin' about making babies
and making it with love.
I've got the drive, the fuel
to do whatever it takes to have another Ho.
I feel like that's gonna help complete our journey
or be the start of something new.
- I don't think we're financially there, you know.
- Nah. - 'Cause I feel like
your dad is always saving us. - Right.
But I'll figure it out like I always do.
- I don't like to rely on other people.
And I've always been taught by my mother to be independent.
Washington has to show me that he's committed to this
and that it provides stability for our family.
And that would show me that he's ready for a third child.
I would love to see you follow through with it,
sell lots of cars.
Like, this is it for you.
You know, you're not gonna wake up tomorrow
and wanna sell ice cubes or something.
- Look, you know when I'm committed, I make it happen.
- I know you can sell anything. - I'm committed to our family.
In nine months, do you know how many cars I'll be selling?
- How many? - A lot.
- What did your dad say? Talk the talk. Walk the walk.
- You're right. You're right. - Right?
- Hi. Here's your Black Kaluga caviar.
- Thank you. - Of course.
- Look, it's a sign.
- Of what? - Your eggs are fertile, baby.
- But not right now.
- No, it's right now.
- Okay, so 30-day challenge.
Prove to your dad and myself
that this is a career that you're gonna stick to.
And he's gonna make the investments.
You're gonna own a car dealership.
And then I will get off birth control.
- That's it? - That sounds fair, right?
- Yeah. - Since I've met Wash,
he was construction, an electric broker,
real estate, T-shirt designer, matchmaker.
That was an interesting time.
So is Wash ever gonna land on something?
I don't know. - 30 days.
- How many cars do you have to sell...
- To pay our bills?
- To prove that it's sustainable
and that you're committed to this?
- I sold seven cars last month,
at least seven cars. - Okay, but I have to
take out my IUD and produce another Ho.
- Okay. - It has to be more than seven.
- So I'll do eight.
- 10. - 10?
- 11.
- Let's meet in the middle then.
8 1/2. - How do you sell half a car?
- It's called split deals. It's fair. It's not cheating.
- Okay, don't cheat. You can't cut corners.
- I'm not cutting corners.
- So what's the number? 10, right?
- Are you trying to be a better sales negotiator
than me? - You know I am.
- My wife wants me to sell 10 cars to have a kid.
So what? I'll make it happen,
'cause I'm king of the house, baby.
[laughs]
- 10 cars. - 10 cars.
And every time I sell a car, you make love to me.
- I don't mind practicing.
- I love it when you're a Ho.
- ♪ Watch me go ♪
♪ Unbreakable ♪
♪ So feel the flow ♪
♪ I'm unstoppable ♪
- Oh, do you guys wanna play with the crabs?
This is how my mom cut her finger last night.
It looks small and sad. - Look how small and sad it is.
- Okay, don't put your finger in here.
- [laughs]
- I love having Bella and Kim back in Houston.
It is very important for me to make time for them.
Is it fishy?
I feel like they're so young,
and they're so full of questions,
and they just wanna know what to do.
- Can you teach me how to make Ca Kho
Or, like, Bo Nuong Vi?
Anything that
I can feel culture. - Okay.
- 'Cause all I know how to cook
is chicken breasts and very healthy food.
- You're very California. - I know. [laughs]
I was raised very differently compared to Judy
or even my cousin Kim.
My parents got divorced when I was really young.
And then I went home to live with my mom in California.
My mom would make, like, Bo Nuong Vi
with some type of, like, white fish.
And she uses, like, dill. What is that?
- My mom makes that. It's yellow, the fish?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Is that your favorite dish that your mom makes?
- Actually, I like Mi Quang
or, like, Bun Bo Hue or--
- Your mom cooks a lot. - Yeah.
- Are things better with you and your mom?
- Um, I haven't talked to her in a little bit of a time.
It's been, like, at least a month and a half or so.
- Wow. - Yeah.
- That's a long time not to talk to your mom.
- I know, and I normally talk to her
all the time, you know.
- Aunt Tina is kind of a big deal
in Vietnam and in America.
She's kind of the Justin Bieber,
I like to say, of Vietnam.
- Basically, my mom's just kind of all over the place
or has all these types of ideas.
And she's a creative and she just, like,
lives that lifestyle for so long.
And as my mom, she's just kind of like,
"Okay, I'm gonna do this.
And then you're gonna have to be okay with it."
I found out recently that my mom is gay.
I heard it from my stepdad. He had called me.
I was just really shocked because my stepdad and my mom
had been together for 15+ years.
I don't care that my mom is gay at all.
I just care about the fact that she didn't feel
that she could loop in her own daughter.
I'm not just here on the sidelines.
You know, I should be looped in somewhat,
just as I'm assuming that she would want
the same thing out of me. Okay.
- Eating for two. - Yes.
- Looking at you eat that makes me wanna
eat something sweet. - Are you pregnant?
- Do you need to tell us something, though?
- Oh, I'm single as a Pringle.
- That doesn't mean you can't be pregnant.
[laughter] - Oh, my God!
I think out of everyone in our family,
you're the person who's like, "Eff it. I don't care.
I can just do whatever I want."
And I think... - You have to.
- People need to be more like that.
And I want to be more like that too, especially,
like, with my mom.
That's why I'm trying not to give in
to whatever she wants me to do, you know.
Like, oh, call me whenever she wants,
but when I want to call her, she's like, "Oh, I'm busy,"
or, "I can't talk to you right now."
And it, like, hurts, you know. Like, she's my mom.
- Tina's been living out her dream of being this star.
But at the same time, she has this daughter
who's been fending for herself back home
and been forced to grow up way beyond her years very quickly.
If she had given Bella a heads-up, you know,
we'd be in a different place right now
when it comes to their relationship.
Looking back, I wish someone had told me like, "Hey, Judy.
"You know, life isn't about pleasing your parents
"or having to continually give up so much of yourself
to take care of your siblings."
You know what I mean? Like, I'm literally, at 41,
just now being like, "Okay, I'm living for myself."
Like, when I was younger, if I disagreed with my dad,
I was always afraid to say something.
Like, do you feel that way even at this age with your dad?
- Oh, I definitely do.
When you grow up and you're constantly being told,
you know, to be obedient, to be in the background...
- I love that Bella and Kim feel comfortable enough
that they can confide in me.
I've been in their shoes, and I know
what it was like in my early 20s.
Because you yourself were born in America,
yet you were brought up with traditional Vietnamese values.
It can be hard sometimes.
- My mom didn't even want me to go to school.
She wanted me to just marry someone, you know,
live off-- you know, like, just like her.
- My mom wanted me to. - Yeah, just to marry someone.
- To not go to college? both: Yeah.
- Marry--yeah. - To marry rich.
- She's like, "Why do you need to struggle?
Like, marry well off so you don't have to struggle."
- She thinks that if you married a Vietnamese guy,
that there's no chance y'all would ever get divorced?
And then you'd be on your ass with no college education.
- Well, they didn't get divorced.
Like, no one else in our family really got divorced
besides, like, my dad and, like,
Gu Yan and now you, right?
Like, pretty much everyone-- - Don't add me to that list!
- [laughs] - The list of shame.
♪ ♪
- Honey, honey, honey, honey.
- What?
- We got problems.
- How many problems? - Two big ones.
- What are your two problems?
- See what I'm holding? - School photos?
- I think you've ruined them.
- What? - These kids, their smiles.
You wanna see? - They can't be that bad.
- It doesn't look like my kids.
[dramatic music]
You were teaching our kids how to smile
and you were practicing for a week.
That's not Roosevelt. And that's not Lincoln.
Like, what is up with that?
It's been very consistent the last three years
that when we get school photos, I know it's gonna be--
- [laughs] Retakes.
[camera shutter clicking]
- Yes, retakes.
- They look constipated, huh?
- Yeah. They look angry.
Arrrr!
Don't you think that has a lot to do with their coach?
- It's not me. - It's not them.
- I told Roosevelt sometimes to give me a laugh.
So he'll be like, "Ahahaha."
- What about that A, E, I, O, U thing?
- It's like, um, sometimes
you're awkward with taking photos, you know,
and you don't wanna smile all the time.
So you go like, "A, E, I, O, U."
♪ ♪
- So what letter did you teach the kids?
- Nothing. Just need a pretty smile.
- Okay, but when they're at their school photos,
they think about what you're saying,
they're confused, and then their smile
just looks, like, confusing and crooked.
When they're happy and they don't know the cameras are on,
that's when they look their best.
- I get that. But how do you capture that?
- No pressure. You put too much pressure
on our kids. - I do not.
My mom had a lot of pressure on me.
Your mom had a lot of pressure on you.
Look how well I turned out.
- Look how well I turned out.
- Now. - What do you mean?
- Because of me. - Some flowers blossom later.
Pictures are clearly gonna show
that you don't know what you're doing.
You're not a smile teacher, honey.
- They are happy. They're happy children.
- Does this look happy to you? - [laughs]
- Does that look happy to you? Does this look happy to you?
- You have to retake 'em. - Okay.
As long as you let me teach them how to smile.
- Pretty smile. Pretty smile.
[singers vocalizing]
[upbeat music]
- Are you nervous about going to the doctor's?
- Just trying to see if, you know,
the ultrasound's gonna be okay.
- I just wanna hear the heartbeat.
- Yeah, the baby's there. We know that.
- Yes. - You know, so we're
just making sure things are okay.
So that's a little bit easier
to swallow, you know.
It's just, like, you gotta be positive,
but at the same time when you're positive--
- Realistic? - Yeah.
And when you're positive and it doesn't work,
it's stressful.
How do you feel?
- Anxious.
- You mean, 'cause we lost the first one?
- Yeah, and then I feel like, um...
I don't know, IVF's a lot different.
Going through IVF was very difficult for the first time.
You know, it's just heartbreaking to have to tell
everyone, you know, it didn't work out.
It was a lot of ups and downs
for me and Nate during that time.
You know, two years ago when I was thinking about
what my life would be like after the divorce,
I imagined that it would be me and the kids finally having
a chance to be independent from my family.
I always thought when they're older and they're in school,
then that would be my chance to go out
and go back to the career track
and be a lawyer again,
or any other business opportunity that came along.
I have sacrificed a lot physically, mentally,
and emotionally going through this process.
I know some men don't understand
what it takes to go through IVF
and having a baby and giving birth,
but I feel like Nate is very appreciative of that.
And that's what love will do.
I will do anything for him.
- You're thinking about holding off on finding a job?
Obviously, it's not like we need you to work.
- Yeah. - We just need to cut back
on those Gucci shoes or--
- I don't wear Gucci shoes. They're called Manolos, babe.
- Manolo. - Yes.
[laughs] - Okay.
- Would you ever consider being a stay-at-home dad?
- I would love to be a stay-at-home dad.
- You would be okay taking care
of the kids while I'm out working?
- 100%. We have two nannies and the kids--
- Wow. Oh, you have two nannies!
- What? - Not one, but two.
Are they young and hot too?
- Oh, no, baby, just hot.
I don't care about the age.
[both laughing]
Just kidding.
- You know what would be ideal
would be a part-time job.
- You don't wanna work for Washington?
- Okay, first of all, he can't afford me.
[both laughing]
- ♪ We got good vibes, we got tan lines ♪
♪ Top down, live it up, it's a good life ♪
♪ Like oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Yeah, good vibes and tan lines ♪
- Are you the same way with sparklers?
Wash, like, lights up with sparklers.
- I think the sparklers are fun.
- What a small world, though.
Like, you guys used to hang out.
- It's crazy.
- I used to party with her sister.
- Yeah. - Carlton met me
about 20 years ago when I was in my heyday.
He got married and had kids before me.
So I think he changed his ways,
whereas I'm just new on this path.
And I'm really glad they're in our lives, you know.
- When I first knew of him and knew him,
if you looked up party boy, that's who he was.
- People change. - Yeah.
- Cheers.
- For the good and bad, they do.
- Yeah.
- And only a few change for the better.
- And that's hard. You know that, right?
- We've been through so much.
But I've just learned
how to, you know, have gratitude
and be grateful that, you know,
I get to be with somebody like her.
- We haven't felt like this in so long, and it feels so good.
He's lovey-dovey and there's that little flirtatiousness
that comes with it.
I feel like we're almost dating again.
- You wanna tell 'em about the bet, honey?
- You tell 'em.
- You know, I've always wanted a third child.
- [gasps] - So...
- We're pregnant. Just kidding. I'm kidding.
- Oh, my God! - I'm pregnant!
No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. No, I'm not.
- She'll soon be pregnant,
but if I sell 10 cars in a month.
- I want us to be, like, financially independent.
We rely on his dad and his family for a lot of stuff.
And I think, you know, bringing a child in the world,
it would make me feel better if we would take
100% responsibility.
- Aww, that's awesome.
- Sale's really bad, I'm gonna call Van up, "Yo, I need you."
- She's got good credit. - I do have good credit.
[laughter]
- Lesley's very loving,
but she totally wants that "white picket fence."
She wants her kids to look perfect.
She wants her husband to look perfect.
She wants him to have a nice car.
And I love her to death, but there's just no way,
because life isn't always perfect.
- You wanna go get some Hos? I mean, cornholes?
- Let's see who's got next on that cornhole action.
- All right, guys, have fun. - Bye.
- We get next game.
- Yeah, we're next. We're next.
- They're so much alike. - Yeah. Good family, you know.
- I love that.
Have you talked to Judy at all
about the pregnancy or doctor's appointment?
- Not really. I feel like there's this wall between us.
- You know what? I feel the exact same way.
- Why do I?
- I know. - What did I do?
- I've been this way for six years with her.
You know, but I felt, like, alone in it, you know,
'cause, like, Reagan doesn't have
a girlfriend or wife, you know.
So it's not like I have another female in the family.
And you're the first one that reached out and was so loving.
I just felt so connected to you.
- Me too. I don't know how that happened.
I don't know why I can't get that with Judy.
- I know. - I need help.
And you are feeling the exact same way.
- I know.
- I see that she loves her kids.
- Yeah. - She loves Nate. But then--
- But then she has her small circle of friends,
and it's so hard to break through into that circle.
- Yes! - When her first IVF
didn't happen, she didn't even tell me.
- Yeah. - We had a family dinner
that day. I could see her pain.
I just walked up and hugged her.
And I'm thinking-- in my head, I'm thinking like,
"I'm gonna hug her and she's gonna know why
"I'm hugging her. We don't have to cry about it
and hug about it and braid each other's hair."
But she would know that I knew how she felt.
That she's in pain and I'm, like,
here to share your pain with you.
And she just asked if I was drunk.
Like, I was like, "What? What the fuck?"
- Yeah.
- I'm so bitter about--I'm so bitter
about that, you know, it's like--
like, I wish I almost didn't do that.
You know what I'm saying? Like, fuck, I--
- You feel stupid after you do it, right?
- Stupid.
This past year,
Judy's dealt with a lot.
I see the struggle. I see that she's hurting.
I'm hurting for her, but I can't talk to her
about it because I didn't go through it.
And I just struggle with showing her...
[sniffles]
How I feel about her.
[somber music]
♪ ♪
I've cried about it.
I've cried to Wash about it.
You know, like, he blames him and Reagan
for why she's the way she is. - Yeah.
- And I'm trying to accept her the way that she is.
But how do you have that close connection...
- Yeah. - With somebody like that?
I feel like we both yearn for that, right?
- Yeah.
- ♪ Feel no, feel no, feel no way ♪
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- One more tiny scooch this way.
Okay, you're gonna feel my hands, okay?
- Okay. I always get scared. [sighs]
All right, so we're gonna be able to see
and hear the heartbeat, which will be really exciting.
And the fetus is gonna be looking
more and more like a baby.
Are you ready to see this little nugget?
- Okay, okay. Okay, I'm ready.
- Okay. I bet little one's
grown a lot since we saw it last time.
Let's see what we got going on.
We're looking down in here.
So here's your little nugget.
both: Aww. - So the head's up here.
We've got the arms and legs starting to grow.
And that flickering there is our perfect heartbeat.
[soft music]
♪ ♪
- Aww.
- Perfect. 170 is right where it should be.
And this little one is definitely growing.
And we can see the little arms and legs.
Oh, saying hello.
[laughter] - Aww.
- See, there's the little arms, little legs.
- Oh, my gosh. - Oh, he's digging.
- It looks perfect. - Aww.
- Okay? - Aww.
- All right. Oh, that's a great shot.
- To finally hear a heartbeat, it's just...
- It's a relief. - Yeah, relief is the word.
So, you know, when you--like, what Nate's been through,
and then, you know, the IVF, it's just...
we don't take anything for granted anymore.
- We don't. - Right?
- But we don't have these grand expectations
where everything's gonna go our way.
- Only thing that matters to us now
is the kids and the baby and us.
And everything else is just kinda washed away.
- Right. - I feel.
- I agree. - Yeah.
- It's okay, babe. - I don't have tissues.
[both laughing]
- All right, guys, here's your souvenirs.
Okay, it's looking perfect.
- Thank you. - Wow!
- Why don't we have one of these at home?
I do it every hour. [laughs]
[upbeat music]
- Roosevelt, Lincoln, Daddy's got a surprise.
Yeah, sit right here.
All right, you know why you're sitting there?
- Why?
- Because Daddy's gonna teach you how to smile
when people do photos.
- [shouts indistinctly]
- Every time when people, they take photos of you,
you have to remember this moment, okay?
- Okay. - 'Cause Daddy loves you,
and Daddy knows how to make people smile.
- I love you too.
- Okay, wait for Dada.
I've always been great at sales and entertaining people,
so I know how to make my kids smile.
[laughter]
♪ ♪
This is a huge opportunity for Washington Ho
to prove himself as a father.
Does it scare you or make you laugh?
- You're making me go potty!
- Okay, so every time you do a photo session,
you're gonna think about Daddy and the unicorn hat, right?
- Uh, yeah. - And the green skirt, right?
And it's gonna make you laugh.
What do you have to have when you do a photo shoot?
- Joy.
- Joy? What is joy?
- A happy thing.
- Yeah. Okay. - Of life.
- Lincoln, come here.
You need to listen to your brother.
I want another Ho so bad
because our kids make us so happy.
We have so much fun raising them.
And ultimately,
it's just a symbol of where we are at today.
[laughter]
Lincoln, come here. Let's go.
[hip-hop music]
- ♪ Go on and turn me up 'cause I'm on ♪
♪ Style and grace, baby, black swan ♪
♪ Check the duffel out in the yard ♪
♪ So much green I call it a lawn ♪
♪ Pink, pink furs, six inches on my heels ♪
♪ Got my neck on there ♪
♪ Other bitches have no chills ♪
♪ Labels in the bin and yours ♪
♪ Seven zeros for the deal ♪
♪ ♪
- Oh. - Oh, this looks nice. Cute.
- I see sequins, Judy. - I know.
That was the first thing I noticed.
- That's so you. - I know.
My God, they have tie dye.
That's actually kinda in right now.
- I know. With some tennis shoes.
- It's cute. Yeah, right?
- If you're going to, like, Woodstock.
- I like it. I like it.
- Vanessa and I decided to
spend some time with Judy
and to really make that effort
because we both really yearn for that relationship,
that closeness, that sisterhood.
I've had seven years up on Vanessa when it comes to Judy.
And so I'm just helping Vanessa navigate through that.
It's funny 'cause Vanessa and I were just talking about
how--you know, I know you have a lot going on
on your plate and stuff, but we just don't feel like--
well, I had to tell her you're not a hugger.
- The only person I hug
are your brother and my kids.
- No, I've seen you hug other people.
- Like who? - She brought up Suzanne.
- Suzanne's like my sister.
- We are your sisters. - Yes.
- Okay, but she didn't have a sister,
and I didn't have a sister.
Growing up, we leaned on each other.
- I feel like we both wanna be really close to you.
- I feel like we are close.
- But not like that.
- Okay, first of all, there's no "measuring closeness." Okay?
- There is whenever you're hugging, like, Suzanne.
And then we try to hug you, and you're like...
- You're like this. And I'm like, "Oh, my God."
- "Merry Christmas, Lesley."
- If people think I hate them because I don't hug them,
that's not my fault.
I don't hug everybody, but people misinterpret that.
- You know, when you moved in with me,
I felt like we were, like, sorority sisters, you know.
I loved, loved, loved having you there and your kids there.
You know, like, before Nate even came in the picture,
where we had these moments where I feel like
you and I super bonded. - Mm-hmm.
- And then I feel like we broke up.
- [laughs] - I'm serious.
- You were dating? - It felt like it.
You know, you were like-- - Yeah, a relationship.
- She prefers me over my brother.
- I do. I do.
- Everyone I meet says the same thing.
- Take that away from me, I'm like,
"Did I do something?" You know what I'm saying?
- I'm still here.
- I know, but it's not the same.
Vanessa has sisters. I have a sister.
We know what that feels like.
It's almost like Icarus and the sun.
You try to get as close as you can.
But if you get too close, you get burned.
You know, I feel like that's how Judy is.
- So what can I do? - What can we do?
- You don't have to change or do anything.
- I feel the distance between us, though. Like--
- It's the little comments, Judy, sometimes.
- What do I say? - Like, when I show you
that I care and--when your first
IVF didn't happen... - Uh-huh.
- I saw your pain.
I saw Nate's pain. - Mm-hmm.
- So I just wanted to give you a hug.
But instead of, like, acknowledging that,
you just asked me if I was drunk.
- You were drunk. - I wasn't drunk.
I didn't even drink. - You came for brunch.
- But I didn't drink. - Okay.
Well, you told me that you had been drinking,
so you were emotional.
- I'm emotional because I care.
- I said that because I felt stupid.
- So what is it that you want from me?
- Compassion. I don't know.
- You don't think I'm compassionate towards you?
- I know you are in certain ways.
When I feel like I've put myself out there--
- I think that you guys show your love for people
differently than the way I show it.
Everyone has a different love language.
I don't see the problem with that.
I take care of your children every day.
- I know. - It's huge. It's huge.
- If someone picked up my kids every day, fed them...
- Yeah, she does see that. - I know.
I have seen that. Yes.
- And kept them there until 6:00 p.m. without asking
for anything in return, I wouldn't be like,
"Oh, I'm mad because you don't hug me."
- No, I'm not mad 'cause you don't hug me.
- I just feel like I make the effort
to spend time with you.
I make the effort to be a good aunt to your children.
And those are the ways I show you I care.
So if I don't spend time with you,
that's the sign that I don't care for you.
If I don't hug you, that means shit 'cause I don't
hug anybody besides Nate and the three kids.
[sighs]
I think everybody in this family
takes everything very personal and is too sensitive.
I think they're both ridiculous.
I think both of them hug whoever they see
on the street, complete strangers.
So I'm like, "What significance does a hug mean
if you do it for everyone?"
But I mean, I thought you guys invited me to go shopping,
not to just, like, stand here and bicker.
- Sorry. - Sorry.
- That's why I don't hang out with y'all.
- Oh, yes, read my mind, girl.
- No kidding.
- ♪ Anything is possible ♪
♪ Anything can happen ♪
♪ Oh oh oh ♪
♪ Whoa oh oh ♪
♪ ♪
- Honey?
- Yeah? - Come down here.
♪ ♪
- Hey, babe. What is that smile for?
- Put the kids through the Washington Ho
School for Smiling, baby.
- Oh, God. Uh-huh.
- Are you ready to see this?
- Let me see it. Aw, how cute!
Let me see 'em. [laughs]
That's adorable! Let me look.
- That's good, huh?
- My kids have beautiful smiles,
and I'm happy that he captured them.
However...
Why is his hair in a mohawk?
- Look how happy he is. Look at the smile.
That's what you should focus on.
- I know, but his mohawk's not even, like--
- It's not a mohawk. It was just some volume.
- What is that? It's like a cowlick.
- No, it's not.
- I've worked five years into making him look
like a good little church boy.
And now he's rocking a mohawk.
I love their smiles. You nailed that part down.
But his hair is off and she has no bow.
- I know, but I was just celebrating them
being themselves.
Give the small master a hug. I know how--
- Okay, you nailed the smile. I'll give you that.
- Okay.
- Next time, no mohawk, please.
- Since they smiled really good...
- Yeah. - Do I get a prize upstairs?
- Only if you do the same mohawk.
[both laughing]
Can you do the mohawk down there?
- You're so funny.
- ♪ It can't get better than this ♪
♪ No no no no no ♪
♪ It can't get better than this ♪
- Hi.
- ♪ No no no no ♪
♪ This is so divine ♪
- Aw.
- ♪ Right now is the time ♪
♪ For us to feel alive ♪
♪ This is heavenly peace ♪
- Oh, man.
- Oh, look.
- Oh, my God! You're hugging me!
- Okay. Okay, you got the hug now.
- Wait, no. Has she been drinking?
- Yeah. Yeah. - Not yet. Not yet.
- Hey, I like the-- I like our clothes.
We had a dance plan, I guess, just as a surprise.
But a little bit embarrassing.
- Judy. Judy, this is for you.
- Thank you. This is very impressive.
- Just so you know, we've never had
this display ever. [laughter]
- It's just for Judy. - Me?
- Just for Judy.
How does it feel to be here versus Judy's side?
Are we not bougie enough? Are we not--
- Oh, you're bougie.
- Oh, have you met Reagan? Reagan is not bougie.
- Don't you think your sister is bougie?
- I don't know. I just know that she's drama.
- How am I drama?
- You told me the sisters aren't here.
That's who she meant. - Oh, yeah.
- We're not gonna name any of the names.
- Oh. - Yeah, we'll call her
L and K.
[laughter]
- There's six of us.
The oldest is Linda, and then Vanessa, and then me.
And then I have a younger sister named Kim.
And then Nate, and then Mike.
The women in our family are very strong minded.
We kind of rule the family.
- I don't wanna create drama.
- Come on. - You guys are drama.
- Who? - Who?
- Them two. - Me and Vin?
- Yeah. - We are not drama.
- King and queen right there.
- Ooh! - Wow. Is that true?
- Sometimes. - Wow!
- Sometimes. - I'm just kidding.
- Now that we're blending our families,
I feel like there is a little bit of drama.
- The drama is they all like being with us,
and we don't necessarily always wanna be with them.
So that's a drama. - That's good drama.
- Right. - I never asked this,
but do your kids know about the pregnancy?
- Yes, they do. - Oh, okay.
- They think that's how people get pregnant.
You give them injections.
[overlapping chatter] - That's awesome.
- Would you tell this baby that he or she would be IVF?
You know, 'cause Chris doesn't know.
- Seriously? - Why not?
- Yeah. - He's 14!
- I know, and I never told him. - Why not?
- You never told Chris that Linda is the surrogate?
- Yeah, never. He never asked. And it's not like--
- Why would you ask that?
Why would you ever ask who's the mom?
- I mean, it's not like it comes up in conversations.
- Why would it ever come up? How?
- No, next time I see him,
I'll be like, "Hey, have you ever seen
a picture of your mom pregnant with you?"
- Well, we have a picture of me carrying him
when he was just born.
So that was the picture that he's had, you know.
I...
you know, it's been a rough year for us.
One, with the kids and then me coming out,
it was a rough year for him to realize
that his mom was dating a woman.
So that's why I'm not saying anything.
- It doesn't really matter where you came out of.
- No. I don't think it matters.
I don't think it matters at all. But I think--
- It doesn't help to tell him that he was actual--
- Wait, does he know about you guys?
- Yes. - What about them?
[soft music]
- We talk about we're gonna have another baby,
so he wanted a girl. - Oh, he does?
- Yeah, so we've talked to Chris about--yeah, IVF.
So we've explained to him how it happened with you guys.
And then we were talking about IVF with us.
We actually went to see an IVF specialist.
We've tested everything on Tran
and everything looks good to go.
Now it's just finding a donor.
- I don't wanna know the father.
- And I do. I wanna know
what background they're coming from.
- It's still your child.
Shouldn't be anybody else involved.
I'd rather not know.
- What you're doing now for my brother
is fucking priceless.
- She loves him.
- The sacrifice that you're doing for him, man--
- It's a big thing.
It's very--how do you say, like--
- [speaks Vietnamese]
- Yeah, say it in Vietnamese if it's more comfortable.
- Yeah. [all speaking Vietnamese]
I would say that you would have to do out of your love,
not because of his loss. I'm sorry.
- Right.
- I don't tell Judy how hard it is for me
'cause I know it's been just tough,
but I keep--I'm that kinda guy that keeps everything in.
- Yeah. - You know, I don't tell Judy
'cause I don't wanna worry her.
I tell Van a few things.
But I just don't talk about feelings. So that's--
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- So I just appreciate all that stuff you guys had.
You know, I thought I'd spend a lot of time with my kids.
I always wish I'd spent more time.
So don't ever regret those times, you know.
- Don't take it for granted.
- Yeah. - Cheers.
- You make me a better mom
because...
♪ ♪
'Cause of you, I'm a better person.
- I know. And thanks to Judy.
- Yeah. Thank you, Judy. - And Kim.
[laughter]
- I appreciate--I really do appreciate all of you guys.
It's hard to get through it alone,
and you guys have been there through the whole thing.
And it's been tough, so I really do appreciate you guys.
I never cry. Judy knows I never cry.
It's just stupid.
- It's not stupid. - It's not stupid.
- We do lean on each other a lot.
I think that no matter what, we're always trying to build
each other up and encourage each other and be supportive.
And it's very safe between us to share our feelings.
- 'Cause we both know
we have each other's best interests at heart.
So that's how we overcome a lot of stuff.
We are able to discuss things, right?
- Mm-hmm. I love your brother very much.
- I mean, I didn't really like you
that much at the beginning.
- The feeling's mutual. [laughter]
So Kim's officially my favorite sister-in-law now.
- Whoo-hoo!
- What? - Hold, hold on. What?
- They're not even married.
- They're not married yet.
- Bring it in. all: Yay!
[indistinct chatter]
- ♪ ABC, show me ♪
♪ Emoji, how they know we just laughin' happily ♪
♪ Who was that tossin' up shade? ♪
♪ Tell 'em uh-oh, you ain't messin' with me ♪
♪ Oh, no, now you ain't messin' with me ♪
♪ I'm gon' be who I'm gon' be ♪
♪ Oh, yeah, you can't change what I see ♪
♪ You're not gonna stop my stride ♪
♪ Oh nah nah nah ♪
♪ You just see how bright I shine ♪
♪ You ain't never with that ♪