1 00:00:04,671 --> 00:00:07,757 [Paper Kings' "Look At Me Now"] 2 00:00:07,841 --> 00:00:10,969 ♪ ♪ 3 00:00:11,052 --> 00:00:12,762 - ♪ Can't nobody hold me down ♪ 4 00:00:12,846 --> 00:00:14,472 ♪ I'm steady walkin' like ♪ 5 00:00:14,556 --> 00:00:17,100 ♪ I got three commas in my bank account ♪ 6 00:00:17,183 --> 00:00:20,103 ♪ Livin' loud, so get your cameras out ♪ 7 00:00:20,186 --> 00:00:22,856 ♪ I'd probably do the same thing if I was you ♪ 8 00:00:22,939 --> 00:00:24,941 ♪ Lookin' at me now, now ♪ 9 00:00:25,024 --> 00:00:27,235 ♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪ 10 00:00:27,318 --> 00:00:30,280 ♪ Mm, put up your lights ♪ 11 00:00:30,363 --> 00:00:31,906 ♪ And keep 'em flashin' ♪ 12 00:00:31,990 --> 00:00:33,700 ♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪ 13 00:00:33,783 --> 00:00:37,328 ♪ Don't ever put 'em down, down, down ♪ 14 00:00:37,412 --> 00:00:39,330 ♪ Look at me now ♪ 15 00:00:39,414 --> 00:00:42,375 [upbeat music] 16 00:00:42,459 --> 00:00:43,835 ♪ ♪ 17 00:00:43,918 --> 00:00:45,754 - ♪ You ain't messin' with me ♪ 18 00:00:45,837 --> 00:00:48,214 ♪ Oh, no, now you ain't messin' with me ♪ 19 00:00:48,298 --> 00:00:49,299 - How you been? 20 00:00:49,382 --> 00:00:52,719 - Good. You? Been crazy? 21 00:00:52,802 --> 00:00:54,804 You know why I wanted you to come here? 22 00:00:54,888 --> 00:00:58,099 I'm going person by person that I care about. 23 00:00:58,183 --> 00:01:01,352 Lesley is going to kill me 24 00:01:01,436 --> 00:01:04,981 because she thinks Sammy is a bad influence on me. 25 00:01:05,064 --> 00:01:06,816 But Sammy is family. 26 00:01:06,900 --> 00:01:09,319 And I have to not only apologize 27 00:01:09,402 --> 00:01:10,862 but ask for forgiveness. 28 00:01:10,945 --> 00:01:14,032 I think that, you know, part of my process, 29 00:01:14,115 --> 00:01:17,327 I had some fear about disappointing my family 30 00:01:17,410 --> 00:01:20,789 or getting triggered to fall backwards. 31 00:01:20,872 --> 00:01:23,500 And I forgot about my best friend, 32 00:01:23,583 --> 00:01:27,003 you, my cousin. 33 00:01:27,086 --> 00:01:30,757 And, you know, I try to pay off my problems 34 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:32,842 in the past through you. 35 00:01:32,926 --> 00:01:34,385 Like, "Hey, Sammy, handle that." 36 00:01:34,469 --> 00:01:36,554 And I feel like I was taking advantage of you. 37 00:01:36,638 --> 00:01:37,889 And I'm admitting it. 38 00:01:37,972 --> 00:01:39,724 I'm gonna take accountability for it 39 00:01:39,808 --> 00:01:41,518 so that we can move forward, 40 00:01:41,601 --> 00:01:43,686 so that you can move forward. 41 00:01:43,770 --> 00:01:47,315 And I can make Sammy shine bright like a diamond. 42 00:01:47,398 --> 00:01:48,691 ♪ ♪ 43 00:01:48,775 --> 00:01:50,527 - I'm tired of being gaslit by Wash. 44 00:01:50,610 --> 00:01:54,280 To lie to me several times, and not just to me, 45 00:01:54,364 --> 00:01:56,825 but to other people about me, 46 00:01:56,908 --> 00:02:00,370 and just write it off is hurtful. 47 00:02:00,453 --> 00:02:03,623 I would really like for him to acknowledge 48 00:02:03,706 --> 00:02:07,877 how his actions personally hurt me. 49 00:02:07,961 --> 00:02:10,046 I didn't know that was all going on with you. 50 00:02:10,129 --> 00:02:12,382 - I'm sorry I didn't share that with you. 51 00:02:12,465 --> 00:02:14,676 But the addiction got in the way, 52 00:02:14,759 --> 00:02:17,220 and I was just so ashamed of it. 53 00:02:17,303 --> 00:02:19,722 Now I'm just learning that, you know, I'm human. 54 00:02:19,806 --> 00:02:22,725 And that's why I'm here with you, to tell you that. 55 00:02:22,809 --> 00:02:24,978 I was just trying to, like, shield my pain, 56 00:02:25,061 --> 00:02:27,814 I guess, or shield the truth. 57 00:02:27,897 --> 00:02:30,233 - Do you know why I was really pissed off at you? 58 00:02:30,316 --> 00:02:32,151 It wasn't when you took advantage of me. 59 00:02:32,235 --> 00:02:33,236 No, it was after that. 60 00:02:33,319 --> 00:02:34,863 It was the way you treated me, 61 00:02:34,946 --> 00:02:36,239 like, once it was all done. 62 00:02:36,322 --> 00:02:37,866 You were just a dick, like-- 63 00:02:37,949 --> 00:02:39,868 - That's what I'm apologizing for, 64 00:02:39,951 --> 00:02:43,079 is that I feel like you felt like I forgot you 65 00:02:43,162 --> 00:02:44,914 and I just moved on with my life. 66 00:02:44,998 --> 00:02:47,709 - Yeah. - You had pain in the process 67 00:02:47,792 --> 00:02:51,379 to get me to be better, and I'm sorry. 68 00:02:51,462 --> 00:02:54,424 But I hope that you take this, like, 69 00:02:54,507 --> 00:02:59,429 as a sincere way of me trying to make amends to you. 70 00:02:59,512 --> 00:03:01,931 [soft music] 71 00:03:02,015 --> 00:03:05,643 - I want you happy. - I know you do. 72 00:03:05,727 --> 00:03:08,354 - Even though sometimes I want to I smack the shit out of you. 73 00:03:08,438 --> 00:03:10,398 [both laughing] 74 00:03:10,481 --> 00:03:12,775 - I know. I love you. 75 00:03:12,859 --> 00:03:13,943 - I love you too. 76 00:03:14,027 --> 00:03:17,030 - You forgive me? - I forgive you. 77 00:03:17,113 --> 00:03:21,034 - All right. My fuckin' crazy-ass cuz. 78 00:03:21,117 --> 00:03:24,829 ♪ ♪ 79 00:03:24,913 --> 00:03:26,623 We're in this together. 80 00:03:26,706 --> 00:03:29,459 - Although Washington and I's relationship 81 00:03:29,542 --> 00:03:31,377 has been estranged, it's not done. 82 00:03:31,461 --> 00:03:32,503 We're family. 83 00:03:32,587 --> 00:03:33,838 I think I really learned that 84 00:03:33,922 --> 00:03:35,506 through these last few years 85 00:03:35,590 --> 00:03:36,841 that life is short. 86 00:03:36,925 --> 00:03:39,886 [upbeat music] 87 00:03:39,969 --> 00:03:41,804 ♪ ♪ 88 00:03:41,888 --> 00:03:43,598 Fist bump. 89 00:03:43,681 --> 00:03:45,141 We'll bring each other up. 90 00:03:45,224 --> 00:03:46,809 - Yeah. 91 00:03:46,893 --> 00:03:49,103 - ♪ You're on your way like I'm on my way ♪ 92 00:03:49,187 --> 00:03:50,980 ♪ Like I'm on my way ♪ 93 00:03:51,064 --> 00:03:53,316 ♪ Get it off your chest, what you got to say? ♪ 94 00:03:53,399 --> 00:03:55,360 ♪ What you got to say? ♪ 95 00:03:55,443 --> 00:03:58,071 ♪ I'm on my way to the promise that... ♪ 96 00:03:58,154 --> 00:03:59,489 - It's fun having a date night. 97 00:03:59,572 --> 00:04:01,324 It's been a long time. - I know. 98 00:04:01,407 --> 00:04:03,701 - I'm gonna get a virgin drink tonight. 99 00:04:03,785 --> 00:04:05,495 - Okay. Do you care if I drink? 100 00:04:05,578 --> 00:04:09,207 - No, I want you to drink, 'cause then I might get lucky. 101 00:04:09,290 --> 00:04:10,833 - You might. 102 00:04:10,917 --> 00:04:12,627 - As long as you're not tired. 103 00:04:12,710 --> 00:04:14,003 - It's actually not me that's tired anymore. 104 00:04:14,087 --> 00:04:15,880 It's you now that's tired. - Me? 105 00:04:15,964 --> 00:04:17,423 What do you mean? - I'm not kidding, wake up. 106 00:04:17,507 --> 00:04:18,925 I thought you wanted to have sex. Wake up. 107 00:04:19,008 --> 00:04:20,468 [playful music] 108 00:04:20,551 --> 00:04:23,012 - I'll tell Lesley that I met with Sammy 109 00:04:23,096 --> 00:04:24,263 when the timing's right. 110 00:04:24,347 --> 00:04:28,017 And right now, the timing is wrong. 111 00:04:28,101 --> 00:04:30,603 We're talkin' about making babies 112 00:04:30,687 --> 00:04:32,814 and making it with love. 113 00:04:32,897 --> 00:04:34,565 I've got the drive, the fuel 114 00:04:34,649 --> 00:04:38,695 to do whatever it takes to have another Ho. 115 00:04:38,778 --> 00:04:41,864 I feel like that's gonna help complete our journey 116 00:04:41,948 --> 00:04:44,325 or be the start of something new. 117 00:04:44,409 --> 00:04:47,453 - I don't think we're financially there, you know. 118 00:04:47,537 --> 00:04:48,913 - Nah. - 'Cause I feel like 119 00:04:48,997 --> 00:04:52,709 your dad is always saving us. - Right. 120 00:04:52,792 --> 00:04:54,877 But I'll figure it out like I always do. 121 00:04:54,961 --> 00:04:57,880 - I don't like to rely on other people. 122 00:04:57,964 --> 00:05:00,883 And I've always been taught by my mother to be independent. 123 00:05:00,967 --> 00:05:04,095 Washington has to show me that he's committed to this 124 00:05:04,178 --> 00:05:07,223 and that it provides stability for our family. 125 00:05:07,306 --> 00:05:10,143 And that would show me that he's ready for a third child. 126 00:05:10,226 --> 00:05:12,687 I would love to see you follow through with it, 127 00:05:12,770 --> 00:05:13,813 sell lots of cars. 128 00:05:13,896 --> 00:05:15,189 Like, this is it for you. 129 00:05:15,273 --> 00:05:16,774 You know, you're not gonna wake up tomorrow 130 00:05:16,858 --> 00:05:18,735 and wanna sell ice cubes or something. 131 00:05:18,818 --> 00:05:20,653 - Look, you know when I'm committed, I make it happen. 132 00:05:20,737 --> 00:05:22,739 - I know you can sell anything. - I'm committed to our family. 133 00:05:22,822 --> 00:05:25,950 In nine months, do you know how many cars I'll be selling? 134 00:05:26,034 --> 00:05:27,869 - How many? - A lot. 135 00:05:27,952 --> 00:05:31,080 - What did your dad say? Talk the talk. Walk the walk. 136 00:05:31,164 --> 00:05:32,874 - You're right. You're right. - Right? 137 00:05:32,957 --> 00:05:35,001 - Hi. Here's your Black Kaluga caviar. 138 00:05:35,084 --> 00:05:36,794 - Thank you. - Of course. 139 00:05:36,878 --> 00:05:38,421 - Look, it's a sign. 140 00:05:38,504 --> 00:05:41,007 - Of what? - Your eggs are fertile, baby. 141 00:05:41,090 --> 00:05:42,508 - But not right now. 142 00:05:42,592 --> 00:05:43,926 - No, it's right now. 143 00:05:44,010 --> 00:05:45,386 - Okay, so 30-day challenge. 144 00:05:45,470 --> 00:05:47,930 Prove to your dad and myself 145 00:05:48,014 --> 00:05:50,266 that this is a career that you're gonna stick to. 146 00:05:50,349 --> 00:05:52,060 And he's gonna make the investments. 147 00:05:52,143 --> 00:05:53,936 You're gonna own a car dealership. 148 00:05:54,020 --> 00:05:56,522 And then I will get off birth control. 149 00:05:56,606 --> 00:05:57,940 - That's it? - That sounds fair, right? 150 00:05:58,024 --> 00:06:00,109 - Yeah. - Since I've met Wash, 151 00:06:00,193 --> 00:06:03,446 he was construction, an electric broker, 152 00:06:03,529 --> 00:06:08,034 real estate, T-shirt designer, matchmaker. 153 00:06:08,117 --> 00:06:09,952 That was an interesting time. 154 00:06:10,036 --> 00:06:14,874 So is Wash ever gonna land on something? 155 00:06:14,957 --> 00:06:16,417 I don't know. - 30 days. 156 00:06:16,501 --> 00:06:18,961 - How many cars do you have to sell... 157 00:06:19,045 --> 00:06:20,463 - To pay our bills? 158 00:06:20,546 --> 00:06:22,840 - To prove that it's sustainable 159 00:06:22,924 --> 00:06:24,467 and that you're committed to this? 160 00:06:24,550 --> 00:06:26,636 - I sold seven cars last month, 161 00:06:26,719 --> 00:06:28,179 at least seven cars. - Okay, but I have to 162 00:06:28,262 --> 00:06:33,267 take out my IUD and produce another Ho. 163 00:06:33,351 --> 00:06:35,478 - Okay. - It has to be more than seven. 164 00:06:35,561 --> 00:06:38,064 - So I'll do eight. 165 00:06:38,147 --> 00:06:40,316 - 10. - 10? 166 00:06:40,399 --> 00:06:41,651 - 11. 167 00:06:41,734 --> 00:06:43,236 - Let's meet in the middle then. 168 00:06:43,319 --> 00:06:45,363 8 1/2. - How do you sell half a car? 169 00:06:45,446 --> 00:06:48,324 - It's called split deals. It's fair. It's not cheating. 170 00:06:48,407 --> 00:06:49,742 - Okay, don't cheat. You can't cut corners. 171 00:06:49,826 --> 00:06:51,035 - I'm not cutting corners. 172 00:06:51,119 --> 00:06:52,870 - So what's the number? 10, right? 173 00:06:52,954 --> 00:06:55,623 - Are you trying to be a better sales negotiator 174 00:06:55,706 --> 00:06:57,291 than me? - You know I am. 175 00:06:57,375 --> 00:07:01,170 - My wife wants me to sell 10 cars to have a kid. 176 00:07:01,254 --> 00:07:03,172 So what? I'll make it happen, 177 00:07:03,256 --> 00:07:05,383 'cause I'm king of the house, baby. 178 00:07:05,466 --> 00:07:06,676 [laughs] 179 00:07:06,759 --> 00:07:08,469 - 10 cars. - 10 cars. 180 00:07:08,553 --> 00:07:11,347 And every time I sell a car, you make love to me. 181 00:07:11,430 --> 00:07:12,682 - I don't mind practicing. 182 00:07:12,765 --> 00:07:15,143 - I love it when you're a Ho. 183 00:07:15,226 --> 00:07:16,853 - ♪ Watch me go ♪ 184 00:07:16,936 --> 00:07:18,771 ♪ Unbreakable ♪ 185 00:07:18,855 --> 00:07:20,273 ♪ So feel the flow ♪ 186 00:07:20,356 --> 00:07:21,774 ♪ I'm unstoppable ♪ 187 00:07:21,858 --> 00:07:23,359 - Oh, do you guys wanna play with the crabs? 188 00:07:23,442 --> 00:07:25,153 This is how my mom cut her finger last night. 189 00:07:25,236 --> 00:07:26,696 It looks small and sad. - Look how small and sad it is. 190 00:07:26,779 --> 00:07:28,281 - Okay, don't put your finger in here. 191 00:07:28,364 --> 00:07:30,032 - [laughs] 192 00:07:30,116 --> 00:07:32,493 - I love having Bella and Kim back in Houston. 193 00:07:32,577 --> 00:07:34,871 It is very important for me to make time for them. 194 00:07:34,954 --> 00:07:35,955 Is it fishy? 195 00:07:36,038 --> 00:07:37,748 I feel like they're so young, 196 00:07:37,832 --> 00:07:39,375 and they're so full of questions, 197 00:07:39,458 --> 00:07:42,295 and they just wanna know what to do. 198 00:07:42,378 --> 00:07:44,714 - Can you teach me how to make Ca Kho 199 00:07:44,797 --> 00:07:46,090 Or, like, Bo Nuong Vi? 200 00:07:46,174 --> 00:07:47,216 Anything that 201 00:07:47,300 --> 00:07:48,551 I can feel culture. - Okay. 202 00:07:48,634 --> 00:07:50,052 - 'Cause all I know how to cook 203 00:07:50,136 --> 00:07:51,846 is chicken breasts and very healthy food. 204 00:07:51,929 --> 00:07:54,724 - You're very California. - I know. [laughs] 205 00:07:54,807 --> 00:07:58,060 I was raised very differently compared to Judy 206 00:07:58,144 --> 00:07:59,562 or even my cousin Kim. 207 00:07:59,645 --> 00:08:02,440 My parents got divorced when I was really young. 208 00:08:02,523 --> 00:08:06,152 And then I went home to live with my mom in California. 209 00:08:06,235 --> 00:08:08,738 My mom would make, like, Bo Nuong Vi 210 00:08:08,821 --> 00:08:10,198 with some type of, like, white fish. 211 00:08:10,281 --> 00:08:11,908 And she uses, like, dill. What is that? 212 00:08:11,991 --> 00:08:13,576 - My mom makes that. It's yellow, the fish? 213 00:08:13,659 --> 00:08:15,077 - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 214 00:08:15,161 --> 00:08:17,246 - Is that your favorite dish that your mom makes? 215 00:08:17,330 --> 00:08:18,456 - Actually, I like Mi Quang 216 00:08:18,539 --> 00:08:20,583 or, like, Bun Bo Hue or-- 217 00:08:20,666 --> 00:08:22,084 - Your mom cooks a lot. - Yeah. 218 00:08:22,168 --> 00:08:24,045 - Are things better with you and your mom? 219 00:08:24,128 --> 00:08:28,424 - Um, I haven't talked to her in a little bit of a time. 220 00:08:28,507 --> 00:08:32,887 It's been, like, at least a month and a half or so. 221 00:08:32,970 --> 00:08:34,263 - Wow. - Yeah. 222 00:08:34,347 --> 00:08:35,640 - That's a long time not to talk to your mom. 223 00:08:35,723 --> 00:08:36,724 - I know, and I normally talk to her 224 00:08:36,807 --> 00:08:38,059 all the time, you know. 225 00:08:38,142 --> 00:08:41,103 - Aunt Tina is kind of a big deal 226 00:08:41,187 --> 00:08:43,773 in Vietnam and in America. 227 00:08:43,856 --> 00:08:46,484 She's kind of the Justin Bieber, 228 00:08:46,567 --> 00:08:48,319 I like to say, of Vietnam. 229 00:08:48,402 --> 00:08:51,280 - Basically, my mom's just kind of all over the place 230 00:08:51,364 --> 00:08:53,282 or has all these types of ideas. 231 00:08:53,366 --> 00:08:55,534 And she's a creative and she just, like, 232 00:08:55,618 --> 00:08:57,495 lives that lifestyle for so long. 233 00:08:57,578 --> 00:09:01,249 And as my mom, she's just kind of like, 234 00:09:01,332 --> 00:09:02,792 "Okay, I'm gonna do this. 235 00:09:02,875 --> 00:09:04,669 And then you're gonna have to be okay with it." 236 00:09:04,752 --> 00:09:08,005 I found out recently that my mom is gay. 237 00:09:08,089 --> 00:09:10,299 I heard it from my stepdad. He had called me. 238 00:09:10,383 --> 00:09:14,136 I was just really shocked because my stepdad and my mom 239 00:09:14,220 --> 00:09:16,973 had been together for 15+ years. 240 00:09:17,056 --> 00:09:18,975 I don't care that my mom is gay at all. 241 00:09:19,058 --> 00:09:22,311 I just care about the fact that she didn't feel 242 00:09:22,395 --> 00:09:25,064 that she could loop in her own daughter. 243 00:09:25,147 --> 00:09:28,943 I'm not just here on the sidelines. 244 00:09:29,026 --> 00:09:31,445 You know, I should be looped in somewhat, 245 00:09:31,529 --> 00:09:33,322 just as I'm assuming that she would want 246 00:09:33,406 --> 00:09:36,867 the same thing out of me. Okay. 247 00:09:36,951 --> 00:09:38,744 - Eating for two. - Yes. 248 00:09:38,828 --> 00:09:40,204 - Looking at you eat that makes me wanna 249 00:09:40,288 --> 00:09:41,831 eat something sweet. - Are you pregnant? 250 00:09:41,914 --> 00:09:43,416 - Do you need to tell us something, though? 251 00:09:43,499 --> 00:09:44,917 - Oh, I'm single as a Pringle. 252 00:09:45,001 --> 00:09:46,294 - That doesn't mean you can't be pregnant. 253 00:09:46,377 --> 00:09:48,879 [laughter] - Oh, my God! 254 00:09:48,963 --> 00:09:50,548 I think out of everyone in our family, 255 00:09:50,631 --> 00:09:52,633 you're the person who's like, "Eff it. I don't care. 256 00:09:52,717 --> 00:09:54,093 I can just do whatever I want." 257 00:09:54,176 --> 00:09:55,469 And I think... - You have to. 258 00:09:55,553 --> 00:09:57,096 - People need to be more like that. 259 00:09:57,179 --> 00:09:59,348 And I want to be more like that too, especially, 260 00:09:59,432 --> 00:10:00,808 like, with my mom. 261 00:10:00,891 --> 00:10:03,269 That's why I'm trying not to give in 262 00:10:03,352 --> 00:10:05,354 to whatever she wants me to do, you know. 263 00:10:05,438 --> 00:10:07,356 Like, oh, call me whenever she wants, 264 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:10,609 but when I want to call her, she's like, "Oh, I'm busy," 265 00:10:10,693 --> 00:10:12,570 or, "I can't talk to you right now." 266 00:10:12,653 --> 00:10:15,698 And it, like, hurts, you know. Like, she's my mom. 267 00:10:15,781 --> 00:10:18,993 - Tina's been living out her dream of being this star. 268 00:10:19,076 --> 00:10:20,995 But at the same time, she has this daughter 269 00:10:21,078 --> 00:10:23,497 who's been fending for herself back home 270 00:10:23,581 --> 00:10:26,751 and been forced to grow up way beyond her years very quickly. 271 00:10:26,834 --> 00:10:28,961 If she had given Bella a heads-up, you know, 272 00:10:29,045 --> 00:10:30,379 we'd be in a different place right now 273 00:10:30,463 --> 00:10:32,173 when it comes to their relationship. 274 00:10:32,256 --> 00:10:35,217 Looking back, I wish someone had told me like, "Hey, Judy. 275 00:10:35,301 --> 00:10:37,678 "You know, life isn't about pleasing your parents 276 00:10:37,762 --> 00:10:40,389 "or having to continually give up so much of yourself 277 00:10:40,473 --> 00:10:42,016 to take care of your siblings." 278 00:10:42,099 --> 00:10:44,685 You know what I mean? Like, I'm literally, at 41, 279 00:10:44,769 --> 00:10:47,730 just now being like, "Okay, I'm living for myself." 280 00:10:47,813 --> 00:10:50,107 Like, when I was younger, if I disagreed with my dad, 281 00:10:50,191 --> 00:10:51,901 I was always afraid to say something. 282 00:10:51,984 --> 00:10:54,028 Like, do you feel that way even at this age with your dad? 283 00:10:54,111 --> 00:10:55,654 - Oh, I definitely do. 284 00:10:55,738 --> 00:10:57,698 When you grow up and you're constantly being told, 285 00:10:57,782 --> 00:11:00,034 you know, to be obedient, to be in the background... 286 00:11:00,117 --> 00:11:02,661 - I love that Bella and Kim feel comfortable enough 287 00:11:02,745 --> 00:11:04,455 that they can confide in me. 288 00:11:04,538 --> 00:11:06,082 I've been in their shoes, and I know 289 00:11:06,165 --> 00:11:07,708 what it was like in my early 20s. 290 00:11:07,792 --> 00:11:10,378 Because you yourself were born in America, 291 00:11:10,461 --> 00:11:14,382 yet you were brought up with traditional Vietnamese values. 292 00:11:14,465 --> 00:11:15,925 It can be hard sometimes. 293 00:11:16,008 --> 00:11:17,551 - My mom didn't even want me to go to school. 294 00:11:17,635 --> 00:11:19,345 She wanted me to just marry someone, you know, 295 00:11:19,428 --> 00:11:21,013 live off-- you know, like, just like her. 296 00:11:21,097 --> 00:11:22,556 - My mom wanted me to. - Yeah, just to marry someone. 297 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:24,100 - To not go to college? both: Yeah. 298 00:11:24,183 --> 00:11:25,559 - Marry--yeah. - To marry rich. 299 00:11:25,643 --> 00:11:27,269 - She's like, "Why do you need to struggle? 300 00:11:27,353 --> 00:11:28,813 Like, marry well off so you don't have to struggle." 301 00:11:28,896 --> 00:11:30,564 - She thinks that if you married a Vietnamese guy, 302 00:11:30,648 --> 00:11:32,942 that there's no chance y'all would ever get divorced? 303 00:11:33,025 --> 00:11:35,361 And then you'd be on your ass with no college education. 304 00:11:35,444 --> 00:11:37,196 - Well, they didn't get divorced. 305 00:11:37,279 --> 00:11:39,740 Like, no one else in our family really got divorced 306 00:11:39,824 --> 00:11:41,117 besides, like, my dad and, like, 307 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,411 Gu Yan and now you, right? 308 00:11:43,494 --> 00:11:45,121 Like, pretty much everyone-- - Don't add me to that list! 309 00:11:45,204 --> 00:11:48,040 - [laughs] - The list of shame. 310 00:11:48,124 --> 00:11:49,959 ♪ ♪ 311 00:11:50,042 --> 00:11:51,794 - Honey, honey, honey, honey. 312 00:11:51,877 --> 00:11:53,504 - What? 313 00:11:53,587 --> 00:11:55,381 - We got problems. 314 00:11:55,464 --> 00:11:57,508 - How many problems? - Two big ones. 315 00:11:57,591 --> 00:11:58,968 - What are your two problems? 316 00:11:59,051 --> 00:12:01,137 - See what I'm holding? - School photos? 317 00:12:01,220 --> 00:12:03,347 - I think you've ruined them. 318 00:12:03,431 --> 00:12:06,392 - What? - These kids, their smiles. 319 00:12:06,475 --> 00:12:09,645 You wanna see? - They can't be that bad. 320 00:12:09,728 --> 00:12:12,481 - It doesn't look like my kids. 321 00:12:12,565 --> 00:12:14,650 [dramatic music] 322 00:12:14,733 --> 00:12:18,112 You were teaching our kids how to smile 323 00:12:18,195 --> 00:12:20,781 and you were practicing for a week. 324 00:12:20,865 --> 00:12:23,159 That's not Roosevelt. And that's not Lincoln. 325 00:12:23,242 --> 00:12:24,827 Like, what is up with that? 326 00:12:24,910 --> 00:12:28,038 It's been very consistent the last three years 327 00:12:28,122 --> 00:12:32,084 that when we get school photos, I know it's gonna be-- 328 00:12:32,168 --> 00:12:33,752 - [laughs] Retakes. 329 00:12:33,836 --> 00:12:36,589 [camera shutter clicking] 330 00:12:36,672 --> 00:12:38,674 - Yes, retakes. 331 00:12:38,757 --> 00:12:40,009 - They look constipated, huh? 332 00:12:40,092 --> 00:12:41,844 - Yeah. They look angry. 333 00:12:41,927 --> 00:12:43,345 Arrrr! 334 00:12:43,429 --> 00:12:45,890 Don't you think that has a lot to do with their coach? 335 00:12:45,973 --> 00:12:48,309 - It's not me. - It's not them. 336 00:12:48,392 --> 00:12:50,686 - I told Roosevelt sometimes to give me a laugh. 337 00:12:50,769 --> 00:12:52,313 So he'll be like, "Ahahaha." 338 00:12:52,396 --> 00:12:54,857 - What about that A, E, I, O, U thing? 339 00:12:54,940 --> 00:12:56,859 - It's like, um, sometimes 340 00:12:56,942 --> 00:12:58,444 you're awkward with taking photos, you know, 341 00:12:58,527 --> 00:13:00,029 and you don't wanna smile all the time. 342 00:13:00,112 --> 00:13:07,161 So you go like, "A, E, I, O, U." 343 00:13:07,244 --> 00:13:08,621 ♪ ♪ 344 00:13:08,704 --> 00:13:10,414 - So what letter did you teach the kids? 345 00:13:10,498 --> 00:13:13,292 - Nothing. Just need a pretty smile. 346 00:13:13,375 --> 00:13:15,544 - Okay, but when they're at their school photos, 347 00:13:15,628 --> 00:13:17,338 they think about what you're saying, 348 00:13:17,421 --> 00:13:19,215 they're confused, and then their smile 349 00:13:19,298 --> 00:13:21,133 just looks, like, confusing and crooked. 350 00:13:21,217 --> 00:13:24,386 When they're happy and they don't know the cameras are on, 351 00:13:24,470 --> 00:13:25,888 that's when they look their best. 352 00:13:25,971 --> 00:13:27,389 - I get that. But how do you capture that? 353 00:13:27,473 --> 00:13:28,891 - No pressure. You put too much pressure 354 00:13:28,974 --> 00:13:30,601 on our kids. - I do not. 355 00:13:30,684 --> 00:13:31,977 My mom had a lot of pressure on me. 356 00:13:32,061 --> 00:13:33,187 Your mom had a lot of pressure on you. 357 00:13:33,270 --> 00:13:34,271 Look how well I turned out. 358 00:13:34,355 --> 00:13:36,565 - Look how well I turned out. 359 00:13:36,649 --> 00:13:38,734 - Now. - What do you mean? 360 00:13:38,817 --> 00:13:42,488 - Because of me. - Some flowers blossom later. 361 00:13:42,571 --> 00:13:44,490 Pictures are clearly gonna show 362 00:13:44,573 --> 00:13:46,492 that you don't know what you're doing. 363 00:13:46,575 --> 00:13:48,410 You're not a smile teacher, honey. 364 00:13:48,494 --> 00:13:50,412 - They are happy. They're happy children. 365 00:13:50,496 --> 00:13:53,207 - Does this look happy to you? - [laughs] 366 00:13:53,290 --> 00:13:56,752 - Does that look happy to you? Does this look happy to you? 367 00:13:56,835 --> 00:13:58,671 - You have to retake 'em. - Okay. 368 00:13:58,754 --> 00:14:01,674 As long as you let me teach them how to smile. 369 00:14:01,757 --> 00:14:03,551 - Pretty smile. Pretty smile. 370 00:14:03,634 --> 00:14:06,595 [singers vocalizing] 371 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,181 [upbeat music] 372 00:14:09,265 --> 00:14:11,183 - Are you nervous about going to the doctor's? 373 00:14:11,267 --> 00:14:12,351 - Just trying to see if, you know, 374 00:14:12,434 --> 00:14:13,686 the ultrasound's gonna be okay. 375 00:14:13,769 --> 00:14:15,145 - I just wanna hear the heartbeat. 376 00:14:15,229 --> 00:14:16,397 - Yeah, the baby's there. We know that. 377 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:17,606 - Yes. - You know, so we're 378 00:14:17,690 --> 00:14:19,108 just making sure things are okay. 379 00:14:19,191 --> 00:14:20,651 So that's a little bit easier 380 00:14:20,734 --> 00:14:22,027 to swallow, you know. 381 00:14:22,111 --> 00:14:23,612 It's just, like, you gotta be positive, 382 00:14:23,696 --> 00:14:24,780 but at the same time when you're positive-- 383 00:14:24,863 --> 00:14:26,156 - Realistic? - Yeah. 384 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:27,700 And when you're positive and it doesn't work, 385 00:14:27,783 --> 00:14:28,867 it's stressful. 386 00:14:28,951 --> 00:14:30,160 How do you feel? 387 00:14:30,244 --> 00:14:31,787 - Anxious. 388 00:14:31,870 --> 00:14:34,248 - You mean, 'cause we lost the first one? 389 00:14:34,331 --> 00:14:37,835 - Yeah, and then I feel like, um... 390 00:14:37,918 --> 00:14:40,337 I don't know, IVF's a lot different. 391 00:14:40,421 --> 00:14:43,966 Going through IVF was very difficult for the first time. 392 00:14:44,049 --> 00:14:45,843 You know, it's just heartbreaking to have to tell 393 00:14:45,926 --> 00:14:48,470 everyone, you know, it didn't work out. 394 00:14:48,554 --> 00:14:49,805 It was a lot of ups and downs 395 00:14:49,888 --> 00:14:51,432 for me and Nate during that time. 396 00:14:51,515 --> 00:14:53,225 You know, two years ago when I was thinking about 397 00:14:53,309 --> 00:14:55,436 what my life would be like after the divorce, 398 00:14:55,519 --> 00:14:59,982 I imagined that it would be me and the kids finally having 399 00:15:00,065 --> 00:15:02,234 a chance to be independent from my family. 400 00:15:02,318 --> 00:15:04,987 I always thought when they're older and they're in school, 401 00:15:05,070 --> 00:15:07,865 then that would be my chance to go out 402 00:15:07,948 --> 00:15:10,075 and go back to the career track 403 00:15:10,159 --> 00:15:11,702 and be a lawyer again, 404 00:15:11,785 --> 00:15:15,205 or any other business opportunity that came along. 405 00:15:15,289 --> 00:15:19,209 I have sacrificed a lot physically, mentally, 406 00:15:19,293 --> 00:15:21,253 and emotionally going through this process. 407 00:15:21,337 --> 00:15:22,546 I know some men don't understand 408 00:15:22,630 --> 00:15:23,922 what it takes to go through IVF 409 00:15:24,006 --> 00:15:26,467 and having a baby and giving birth, 410 00:15:26,550 --> 00:15:28,677 but I feel like Nate is very appreciative of that. 411 00:15:28,761 --> 00:15:30,346 And that's what love will do. 412 00:15:30,429 --> 00:15:31,972 I will do anything for him. 413 00:15:32,056 --> 00:15:34,350 - You're thinking about holding off on finding a job? 414 00:15:34,433 --> 00:15:35,726 Obviously, it's not like we need you to work. 415 00:15:35,809 --> 00:15:37,186 - Yeah. - We just need to cut back 416 00:15:37,269 --> 00:15:38,979 on those Gucci shoes or-- 417 00:15:39,063 --> 00:15:42,524 - I don't wear Gucci shoes. They're called Manolos, babe. 418 00:15:42,608 --> 00:15:43,942 - Manolo. - Yes. 419 00:15:44,026 --> 00:15:45,569 [laughs] - Okay. 420 00:15:45,653 --> 00:15:47,696 - Would you ever consider being a stay-at-home dad? 421 00:15:47,780 --> 00:15:49,239 - I would love to be a stay-at-home dad. 422 00:15:49,323 --> 00:15:50,699 - You would be okay taking care 423 00:15:50,783 --> 00:15:52,284 of the kids while I'm out working? 424 00:15:52,368 --> 00:15:54,161 - 100%. We have two nannies and the kids-- 425 00:15:54,244 --> 00:15:56,580 - Wow. Oh, you have two nannies! 426 00:15:56,664 --> 00:15:58,874 - What? - Not one, but two. 427 00:15:58,957 --> 00:16:01,251 Are they young and hot too? 428 00:16:01,335 --> 00:16:03,212 - Oh, no, baby, just hot. 429 00:16:03,295 --> 00:16:04,630 I don't care about the age. 430 00:16:04,713 --> 00:16:07,132 [both laughing] 431 00:16:07,216 --> 00:16:08,509 Just kidding. 432 00:16:08,592 --> 00:16:10,219 - You know what would be ideal 433 00:16:10,302 --> 00:16:11,720 would be a part-time job. 434 00:16:11,804 --> 00:16:13,430 - You don't wanna work for Washington? 435 00:16:13,514 --> 00:16:15,224 - Okay, first of all, he can't afford me. 436 00:16:15,307 --> 00:16:16,892 [both laughing] 437 00:16:16,975 --> 00:16:19,895 - ♪ We got good vibes, we got tan lines ♪ 438 00:16:19,978 --> 00:16:22,564 ♪ Top down, live it up, it's a good life ♪ 439 00:16:22,648 --> 00:16:24,983 ♪ Like oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 440 00:16:25,067 --> 00:16:28,654 ♪ Yeah, good vibes and tan lines ♪ 441 00:16:28,737 --> 00:16:30,406 - Are you the same way with sparklers? 442 00:16:30,489 --> 00:16:32,241 Wash, like, lights up with sparklers. 443 00:16:32,324 --> 00:16:33,450 - I think the sparklers are fun. 444 00:16:33,534 --> 00:16:34,743 - What a small world, though. 445 00:16:34,827 --> 00:16:35,911 Like, you guys used to hang out. 446 00:16:35,994 --> 00:16:37,037 - It's crazy. 447 00:16:37,121 --> 00:16:38,664 - I used to party with her sister. 448 00:16:38,747 --> 00:16:40,916 - Yeah. - Carlton met me 449 00:16:40,999 --> 00:16:43,585 about 20 years ago when I was in my heyday. 450 00:16:43,669 --> 00:16:46,046 He got married and had kids before me. 451 00:16:46,130 --> 00:16:47,715 So I think he changed his ways, 452 00:16:47,798 --> 00:16:50,217 whereas I'm just new on this path. 453 00:16:50,300 --> 00:16:52,428 And I'm really glad they're in our lives, you know. 454 00:16:52,511 --> 00:16:54,263 - When I first knew of him and knew him, 455 00:16:54,346 --> 00:16:56,473 if you looked up party boy, that's who he was. 456 00:16:56,557 --> 00:16:57,683 - People change. - Yeah. 457 00:16:57,766 --> 00:16:58,892 - Yeah. - Cheers. 458 00:16:58,976 --> 00:17:00,018 - For the good and bad, they do. 459 00:17:00,102 --> 00:17:01,311 - Yeah. 460 00:17:01,395 --> 00:17:03,063 - And only a few change for the better. 461 00:17:03,147 --> 00:17:04,398 - And that's hard. You know that, right? 462 00:17:04,481 --> 00:17:06,108 - We've been through so much. 463 00:17:06,191 --> 00:17:07,609 But I've just learned 464 00:17:07,693 --> 00:17:10,195 how to, you know, have gratitude 465 00:17:10,279 --> 00:17:12,322 and be grateful that, you know, 466 00:17:12,406 --> 00:17:14,158 I get to be with somebody like her. 467 00:17:14,241 --> 00:17:19,163 - We haven't felt like this in so long, and it feels so good. 468 00:17:19,246 --> 00:17:23,459 He's lovey-dovey and there's that little flirtatiousness 469 00:17:23,542 --> 00:17:24,877 that comes with it. 470 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:26,503 I feel like we're almost dating again. 471 00:17:26,587 --> 00:17:27,921 - You wanna tell 'em about the bet, honey? 472 00:17:28,005 --> 00:17:29,381 - You tell 'em. 473 00:17:29,465 --> 00:17:31,175 - You know, I've always wanted a third child. 474 00:17:31,258 --> 00:17:32,634 - [gasps] - So... 475 00:17:32,718 --> 00:17:34,470 - We're pregnant. Just kidding. I'm kidding. 476 00:17:34,553 --> 00:17:36,680 - Oh, my God! - I'm pregnant! 477 00:17:36,764 --> 00:17:39,641 No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. No, I'm not. 478 00:17:39,725 --> 00:17:41,310 - She'll soon be pregnant, 479 00:17:41,393 --> 00:17:44,271 but if I sell 10 cars in a month. 480 00:17:44,354 --> 00:17:46,523 - I want us to be, like, financially independent. 481 00:17:46,607 --> 00:17:49,526 We rely on his dad and his family for a lot of stuff. 482 00:17:49,610 --> 00:17:51,320 And I think, you know, bringing a child in the world, 483 00:17:51,403 --> 00:17:53,822 it would make me feel better if we would take 484 00:17:53,906 --> 00:17:55,157 100% responsibility. 485 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:56,992 - Aww, that's awesome. 486 00:17:57,076 --> 00:18:01,663 - Sale's really bad, I'm gonna call Van up, "Yo, I need you." 487 00:18:01,747 --> 00:18:03,916 - She's got good credit. - I do have good credit. 488 00:18:03,999 --> 00:18:05,459 [laughter] 489 00:18:05,542 --> 00:18:07,127 - Lesley's very loving, 490 00:18:07,211 --> 00:18:09,963 but she totally wants that "white picket fence." 491 00:18:10,047 --> 00:18:11,590 She wants her kids to look perfect. 492 00:18:11,673 --> 00:18:13,091 She wants her husband to look perfect. 493 00:18:13,175 --> 00:18:15,385 She wants him to have a nice car. 494 00:18:15,469 --> 00:18:18,180 And I love her to death, but there's just no way, 495 00:18:18,263 --> 00:18:21,850 because life isn't always perfect. 496 00:18:21,934 --> 00:18:24,978 - You wanna go get some Hos? I mean, cornholes? 497 00:18:25,062 --> 00:18:27,189 - Let's see who's got next on that cornhole action. 498 00:18:27,272 --> 00:18:29,274 - All right, guys, have fun. - Bye. 499 00:18:29,358 --> 00:18:30,859 - We get next game. 500 00:18:30,943 --> 00:18:32,528 - Yeah, we're next. We're next. 501 00:18:32,611 --> 00:18:35,531 - They're so much alike. - Yeah. Good family, you know. 502 00:18:35,614 --> 00:18:37,115 - I love that. 503 00:18:37,199 --> 00:18:38,700 Have you talked to Judy at all 504 00:18:38,784 --> 00:18:40,410 about the pregnancy or doctor's appointment? 505 00:18:40,494 --> 00:18:44,540 - Not really. I feel like there's this wall between us. 506 00:18:44,623 --> 00:18:46,500 - You know what? I feel the exact same way. 507 00:18:46,583 --> 00:18:47,751 - Why do I? 508 00:18:47,835 --> 00:18:49,211 - I know. - What did I do? 509 00:18:49,294 --> 00:18:51,088 - I've been this way for six years with her. 510 00:18:51,171 --> 00:18:52,631 You know, but I felt, like, alone in it, you know, 511 00:18:52,714 --> 00:18:53,966 'cause, like, Reagan doesn't have 512 00:18:54,049 --> 00:18:55,676 a girlfriend or wife, you know. 513 00:18:55,759 --> 00:18:58,053 So it's not like I have another female in the family. 514 00:18:58,136 --> 00:19:01,557 And you're the first one that reached out and was so loving. 515 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:03,225 I just felt so connected to you. 516 00:19:03,308 --> 00:19:04,726 - Me too. I don't know how that happened. 517 00:19:04,810 --> 00:19:07,729 I don't know why I can't get that with Judy. 518 00:19:07,813 --> 00:19:09,106 - I know. - I need help. 519 00:19:09,189 --> 00:19:10,691 And you are feeling the exact same way. 520 00:19:10,774 --> 00:19:11,942 - I know. 521 00:19:12,025 --> 00:19:13,819 - I see that she loves her kids. 522 00:19:13,902 --> 00:19:15,821 - Yeah. - She loves Nate. But then-- 523 00:19:15,904 --> 00:19:17,614 - But then she has her small circle of friends, 524 00:19:17,698 --> 00:19:19,825 and it's so hard to break through into that circle. 525 00:19:19,908 --> 00:19:21,702 - Yes! - When her first IVF 526 00:19:21,785 --> 00:19:23,078 didn't happen, she didn't even tell me. 527 00:19:23,161 --> 00:19:24,496 - Yeah. - We had a family dinner 528 00:19:24,580 --> 00:19:26,874 that day. I could see her pain. 529 00:19:26,957 --> 00:19:29,001 I just walked up and hugged her. 530 00:19:29,084 --> 00:19:32,087 And I'm thinking-- in my head, I'm thinking like, 531 00:19:32,170 --> 00:19:33,839 "I'm gonna hug her and she's gonna know why 532 00:19:33,922 --> 00:19:35,591 "I'm hugging her. We don't have to cry about it 533 00:19:35,674 --> 00:19:37,426 and hug about it and braid each other's hair." 534 00:19:37,509 --> 00:19:40,762 But she would know that I knew how she felt. 535 00:19:40,846 --> 00:19:42,806 That she's in pain and I'm, like, 536 00:19:42,890 --> 00:19:45,434 here to share your pain with you. 537 00:19:45,517 --> 00:19:47,436 And she just asked if I was drunk. 538 00:19:47,519 --> 00:19:49,938 Like, I was like, "What? What the fuck?" 539 00:19:50,022 --> 00:19:51,273 - Yeah. 540 00:19:51,356 --> 00:19:52,816 - I'm so bitter about--I'm so bitter 541 00:19:52,900 --> 00:19:54,151 about that, you know, it's like-- 542 00:19:54,234 --> 00:19:56,904 like, I wish I almost didn't do that. 543 00:19:56,987 --> 00:19:58,363 You know what I'm saying? Like, fuck, I-- 544 00:19:58,447 --> 00:19:59,615 - You feel stupid after you do it, right? 545 00:19:59,698 --> 00:20:00,741 - Stupid. 546 00:20:00,824 --> 00:20:02,159 This past year, 547 00:20:02,242 --> 00:20:03,994 Judy's dealt with a lot. 548 00:20:04,077 --> 00:20:06,121 I see the struggle. I see that she's hurting. 549 00:20:06,204 --> 00:20:08,624 I'm hurting for her, but I can't talk to her 550 00:20:08,707 --> 00:20:11,835 about it because I didn't go through it. 551 00:20:11,919 --> 00:20:16,965 And I just struggle with showing her... 552 00:20:17,049 --> 00:20:18,508 [sniffles] 553 00:20:18,592 --> 00:20:20,010 How I feel about her. 554 00:20:20,093 --> 00:20:23,055 [somber music] 555 00:20:23,138 --> 00:20:24,181 ♪ ♪ 556 00:20:24,264 --> 00:20:26,308 I've cried about it. 557 00:20:26,391 --> 00:20:27,684 I've cried to Wash about it. 558 00:20:27,768 --> 00:20:29,603 You know, like, he blames him and Reagan 559 00:20:29,686 --> 00:20:31,313 for why she's the way she is. - Yeah. 560 00:20:31,396 --> 00:20:35,484 - And I'm trying to accept her the way that she is. 561 00:20:35,567 --> 00:20:37,444 But how do you have that close connection... 562 00:20:37,527 --> 00:20:39,863 - Yeah. - With somebody like that? 563 00:20:39,947 --> 00:20:42,324 I feel like we both yearn for that, right? 564 00:20:42,407 --> 00:20:43,825 - Yeah. 565 00:20:43,909 --> 00:20:47,287 - ♪ Feel no, feel no, feel no way ♪ 566 00:20:47,371 --> 00:20:51,083 ♪ ♪ 567 00:20:51,166 --> 00:20:54,086 [upbeat music] 568 00:20:54,169 --> 00:20:56,546 ♪ ♪ 569 00:20:56,630 --> 00:20:58,340 - One more tiny scooch this way. 570 00:20:58,423 --> 00:21:00,968 Okay, you're gonna feel my hands, okay? 571 00:21:01,051 --> 00:21:04,179 - Okay. I always get scared. [sighs] 572 00:21:04,262 --> 00:21:05,931 All right, so we're gonna be able to see 573 00:21:06,014 --> 00:21:07,891 and hear the heartbeat, which will be really exciting. 574 00:21:07,975 --> 00:21:09,142 And the fetus is gonna be looking 575 00:21:09,226 --> 00:21:10,602 more and more like a baby. 576 00:21:10,686 --> 00:21:12,854 Are you ready to see this little nugget? 577 00:21:12,938 --> 00:21:14,022 - Okay, okay. Okay, I'm ready. 578 00:21:14,106 --> 00:21:15,482 - Okay. I bet little one's 579 00:21:15,565 --> 00:21:17,109 grown a lot since we saw it last time. 580 00:21:17,192 --> 00:21:18,694 Let's see what we got going on. 581 00:21:18,777 --> 00:21:21,947 We're looking down in here. 582 00:21:22,030 --> 00:21:24,199 So here's your little nugget. 583 00:21:24,282 --> 00:21:26,868 both: Aww. - So the head's up here. 584 00:21:26,952 --> 00:21:28,829 We've got the arms and legs starting to grow. 585 00:21:28,912 --> 00:21:31,915 And that flickering there is our perfect heartbeat. 586 00:21:31,999 --> 00:21:35,168 [soft music] 587 00:21:35,252 --> 00:21:37,170 ♪ ♪ 588 00:21:37,254 --> 00:21:39,715 - Aww. 589 00:21:39,798 --> 00:21:43,135 - Perfect. 170 is right where it should be. 590 00:21:43,218 --> 00:21:45,721 And this little one is definitely growing. 591 00:21:45,804 --> 00:21:47,639 And we can see the little arms and legs. 592 00:21:47,723 --> 00:21:49,599 Oh, saying hello. 593 00:21:49,683 --> 00:21:51,560 [laughter] - Aww. 594 00:21:51,643 --> 00:21:54,438 - See, there's the little arms, little legs. 595 00:21:54,521 --> 00:21:56,898 - Oh, my gosh. - Oh, he's digging. 596 00:21:56,982 --> 00:21:58,442 - It looks perfect. - Aww. 597 00:21:58,525 --> 00:21:59,735 - Okay? - Aww. 598 00:21:59,818 --> 00:22:01,945 - All right. Oh, that's a great shot. 599 00:22:02,029 --> 00:22:07,743 - To finally hear a heartbeat, it's just... 600 00:22:07,826 --> 00:22:11,079 - It's a relief. - Yeah, relief is the word. 601 00:22:11,163 --> 00:22:15,917 So, you know, when you--like, what Nate's been through, 602 00:22:16,001 --> 00:22:19,463 and then, you know, the IVF, it's just... 603 00:22:19,546 --> 00:22:21,715 we don't take anything for granted anymore. 604 00:22:21,798 --> 00:22:23,091 - We don't. - Right? 605 00:22:23,175 --> 00:22:26,261 - But we don't have these grand expectations 606 00:22:26,344 --> 00:22:27,929 where everything's gonna go our way. 607 00:22:28,013 --> 00:22:29,514 - Only thing that matters to us now 608 00:22:29,598 --> 00:22:34,102 is the kids and the baby and us. 609 00:22:34,186 --> 00:22:37,230 And everything else is just kinda washed away. 610 00:22:37,314 --> 00:22:38,315 - Right. - I feel. 611 00:22:38,398 --> 00:22:40,692 - I agree. - Yeah. 612 00:22:40,776 --> 00:22:43,070 - It's okay, babe. - I don't have tissues. 613 00:22:43,153 --> 00:22:45,447 [both laughing] 614 00:22:45,530 --> 00:22:46,948 - All right, guys, here's your souvenirs. 615 00:22:47,032 --> 00:22:48,366 Okay, it's looking perfect. 616 00:22:48,450 --> 00:22:49,951 - Thank you. - Wow! 617 00:22:50,035 --> 00:22:51,161 - Why don't we have one of these at home? 618 00:22:51,244 --> 00:22:53,997 I do it every hour. [laughs] 619 00:22:54,081 --> 00:22:56,083 [upbeat music] 620 00:22:56,166 --> 00:22:59,294 - Roosevelt, Lincoln, Daddy's got a surprise. 621 00:22:59,377 --> 00:23:00,796 Yeah, sit right here. 622 00:23:00,879 --> 00:23:02,714 All right, you know why you're sitting there? 623 00:23:02,798 --> 00:23:04,132 - Why? 624 00:23:04,216 --> 00:23:06,051 - Because Daddy's gonna teach you how to smile 625 00:23:06,134 --> 00:23:07,427 when people do photos. 626 00:23:07,511 --> 00:23:08,845 - [shouts indistinctly] 627 00:23:08,929 --> 00:23:11,389 - Every time when people, they take photos of you, 628 00:23:11,473 --> 00:23:13,809 you have to remember this moment, okay? 629 00:23:13,892 --> 00:23:15,977 - Okay. - 'Cause Daddy loves you, 630 00:23:16,061 --> 00:23:18,396 and Daddy knows how to make people smile. 631 00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:19,439 - I love you too. 632 00:23:19,523 --> 00:23:21,691 - Okay, wait for Dada. 633 00:23:21,775 --> 00:23:25,403 I've always been great at sales and entertaining people, 634 00:23:25,487 --> 00:23:29,157 so I know how to make my kids smile. 635 00:23:30,617 --> 00:23:33,537 [laughter] 636 00:23:33,620 --> 00:23:39,000 ♪ ♪ 637 00:23:39,084 --> 00:23:42,337 This is a huge opportunity for Washington Ho 638 00:23:42,420 --> 00:23:44,548 to prove himself as a father. 639 00:23:44,631 --> 00:23:46,049 Does it scare you or make you laugh? 640 00:23:46,133 --> 00:23:48,051 - You're making me go potty! 641 00:23:48,135 --> 00:23:51,346 - Okay, so every time you do a photo session, 642 00:23:51,429 --> 00:23:54,349 you're gonna think about Daddy and the unicorn hat, right? 643 00:23:54,432 --> 00:23:57,185 - Uh, yeah. - And the green skirt, right? 644 00:23:57,269 --> 00:23:58,937 And it's gonna make you laugh. 645 00:23:59,020 --> 00:24:01,523 What do you have to have when you do a photo shoot? 646 00:24:01,606 --> 00:24:02,524 - Joy. 647 00:24:02,607 --> 00:24:04,860 - Joy? What is joy? 648 00:24:04,943 --> 00:24:06,570 - A happy thing. 649 00:24:06,653 --> 00:24:08,029 - Yeah. Okay. - Of life. 650 00:24:08,113 --> 00:24:09,322 - Lincoln, come here. 651 00:24:09,406 --> 00:24:11,658 You need to listen to your brother. 652 00:24:11,741 --> 00:24:14,411 I want another Ho so bad 653 00:24:14,494 --> 00:24:16,997 because our kids make us so happy. 654 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:18,999 We have so much fun raising them. 655 00:24:19,082 --> 00:24:21,001 And ultimately, 656 00:24:21,084 --> 00:24:23,670 it's just a symbol of where we are at today. 657 00:24:23,753 --> 00:24:25,547 [laughter] 658 00:24:25,630 --> 00:24:27,549 Lincoln, come here. Let's go. 659 00:24:27,632 --> 00:24:29,634 [hip-hop music] 660 00:24:29,718 --> 00:24:31,303 - ♪ Go on and turn me up 'cause I'm on ♪ 661 00:24:31,386 --> 00:24:33,013 ♪ Style and grace, baby, black swan ♪ 662 00:24:33,096 --> 00:24:34,723 ♪ Check the duffel out in the yard ♪ 663 00:24:34,806 --> 00:24:36,766 ♪ So much green I call it a lawn ♪ 664 00:24:36,850 --> 00:24:40,061 ♪ Pink, pink furs, six inches on my heels ♪ 665 00:24:40,145 --> 00:24:41,521 ♪ Got my neck on there ♪ 666 00:24:41,605 --> 00:24:43,231 ♪ Other bitches have no chills ♪ 667 00:24:43,315 --> 00:24:45,108 ♪ Labels in the bin and yours ♪ 668 00:24:45,192 --> 00:24:46,818 ♪ Seven zeros for the deal ♪ 669 00:24:46,902 --> 00:24:48,069 ♪ ♪ 670 00:24:48,153 --> 00:24:51,031 - Oh. - Oh, this looks nice. Cute. 671 00:24:51,114 --> 00:24:52,741 - I see sequins, Judy. - I know. 672 00:24:52,824 --> 00:24:55,076 That was the first thing I noticed. 673 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,412 - That's so you. - I know. 674 00:24:57,495 --> 00:24:58,997 My God, they have tie dye. 675 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:00,624 That's actually kinda in right now. 676 00:25:00,707 --> 00:25:03,335 - I know. With some tennis shoes. 677 00:25:03,418 --> 00:25:04,628 - It's cute. Yeah, right? 678 00:25:04,711 --> 00:25:06,338 - If you're going to, like, Woodstock. 679 00:25:06,421 --> 00:25:07,422 - I like it. I like it. 680 00:25:07,505 --> 00:25:08,924 - Vanessa and I decided to 681 00:25:09,007 --> 00:25:10,133 spend some time with Judy 682 00:25:10,217 --> 00:25:11,885 and to really make that effort 683 00:25:11,968 --> 00:25:15,138 because we both really yearn for that relationship, 684 00:25:15,222 --> 00:25:17,057 that closeness, that sisterhood. 685 00:25:17,140 --> 00:25:20,769 I've had seven years up on Vanessa when it comes to Judy. 686 00:25:20,852 --> 00:25:23,104 And so I'm just helping Vanessa navigate through that. 687 00:25:23,188 --> 00:25:25,065 It's funny 'cause Vanessa and I were just talking about 688 00:25:25,148 --> 00:25:27,275 how--you know, I know you have a lot going on 689 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,736 on your plate and stuff, but we just don't feel like-- 690 00:25:29,819 --> 00:25:31,238 well, I had to tell her you're not a hugger. 691 00:25:31,321 --> 00:25:32,322 - The only person I hug 692 00:25:32,405 --> 00:25:33,949 are your brother and my kids. 693 00:25:34,032 --> 00:25:35,325 - No, I've seen you hug other people. 694 00:25:35,408 --> 00:25:36,451 - Like who? - She brought up Suzanne. 695 00:25:36,534 --> 00:25:37,702 - Suzanne's like my sister. 696 00:25:37,786 --> 00:25:39,120 - We are your sisters. - Yes. 697 00:25:39,204 --> 00:25:40,288 - Okay, but she didn't have a sister, 698 00:25:40,372 --> 00:25:41,539 and I didn't have a sister. 699 00:25:41,623 --> 00:25:43,166 Growing up, we leaned on each other. 700 00:25:43,250 --> 00:25:45,085 - I feel like we both wanna be really close to you. 701 00:25:45,168 --> 00:25:46,795 - I feel like we are close. 702 00:25:46,878 --> 00:25:48,546 - But not like that. 703 00:25:48,630 --> 00:25:51,299 - Okay, first of all, there's no "measuring closeness." Okay? 704 00:25:51,383 --> 00:25:53,718 - There is whenever you're hugging, like, Suzanne. 705 00:25:53,802 --> 00:25:56,137 And then we try to hug you, and you're like... 706 00:25:56,221 --> 00:25:57,806 - You're like this. And I'm like, "Oh, my God." 707 00:25:57,889 --> 00:25:59,516 - "Merry Christmas, Lesley." 708 00:25:59,599 --> 00:26:01,017 - If people think I hate them because I don't hug them, 709 00:26:01,101 --> 00:26:02,644 that's not my fault. 710 00:26:02,727 --> 00:26:05,146 I don't hug everybody, but people misinterpret that. 711 00:26:05,230 --> 00:26:06,856 - You know, when you moved in with me, 712 00:26:06,940 --> 00:26:08,733 I felt like we were, like, sorority sisters, you know. 713 00:26:08,817 --> 00:26:11,278 I loved, loved, loved having you there and your kids there. 714 00:26:11,361 --> 00:26:13,446 You know, like, before Nate even came in the picture, 715 00:26:13,530 --> 00:26:15,323 where we had these moments where I feel like 716 00:26:15,407 --> 00:26:17,075 you and I super bonded. - Mm-hmm. 717 00:26:17,158 --> 00:26:19,119 - And then I feel like we broke up. 718 00:26:19,202 --> 00:26:20,996 - [laughs] - I'm serious. 719 00:26:21,079 --> 00:26:23,164 - You were dating? - It felt like it. 720 00:26:23,248 --> 00:26:24,749 You know, you were like-- - Yeah, a relationship. 721 00:26:24,833 --> 00:26:26,876 - She prefers me over my brother. 722 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:28,670 - I do. I do. 723 00:26:28,753 --> 00:26:30,005 - Everyone I meet says the same thing. 724 00:26:30,088 --> 00:26:31,548 - Take that away from me, I'm like, 725 00:26:31,631 --> 00:26:32,841 "Did I do something?" You know what I'm saying? 726 00:26:32,924 --> 00:26:34,092 - I'm still here. 727 00:26:34,175 --> 00:26:35,427 - I know, but it's not the same. 728 00:26:35,510 --> 00:26:37,387 Vanessa has sisters. I have a sister. 729 00:26:37,470 --> 00:26:38,847 We know what that feels like. 730 00:26:38,930 --> 00:26:41,516 It's almost like Icarus and the sun. 731 00:26:41,599 --> 00:26:43,018 You try to get as close as you can. 732 00:26:43,101 --> 00:26:44,686 But if you get too close, you get burned. 733 00:26:44,769 --> 00:26:46,938 You know, I feel like that's how Judy is. 734 00:26:47,022 --> 00:26:49,190 - So what can I do? - What can we do? 735 00:26:49,274 --> 00:26:51,651 - You don't have to change or do anything. 736 00:26:51,735 --> 00:26:54,112 - I feel the distance between us, though. Like-- 737 00:26:54,195 --> 00:26:55,655 - It's the little comments, Judy, sometimes. 738 00:26:55,739 --> 00:26:58,742 - What do I say? - Like, when I show you 739 00:26:58,825 --> 00:27:03,204 that I care and--when your first 740 00:27:03,288 --> 00:27:04,831 IVF didn't happen... - Uh-huh. 741 00:27:04,914 --> 00:27:06,082 - I saw your pain. 742 00:27:06,166 --> 00:27:07,500 I saw Nate's pain. - Mm-hmm. 743 00:27:07,584 --> 00:27:09,544 - So I just wanted to give you a hug. 744 00:27:09,627 --> 00:27:11,504 But instead of, like, acknowledging that, 745 00:27:11,588 --> 00:27:12,839 you just asked me if I was drunk. 746 00:27:12,922 --> 00:27:14,341 - You were drunk. - I wasn't drunk. 747 00:27:14,424 --> 00:27:15,675 I didn't even drink. - You came for brunch. 748 00:27:15,759 --> 00:27:17,177 - But I didn't drink. - Okay. 749 00:27:17,260 --> 00:27:18,470 Well, you told me that you had been drinking, 750 00:27:18,553 --> 00:27:19,721 so you were emotional. 751 00:27:19,804 --> 00:27:21,514 - I'm emotional because I care. 752 00:27:21,598 --> 00:27:23,683 - I said that because I felt stupid. 753 00:27:23,767 --> 00:27:25,393 - So what is it that you want from me? 754 00:27:25,477 --> 00:27:26,978 - Compassion. I don't know. 755 00:27:27,062 --> 00:27:28,563 - You don't think I'm compassionate towards you? 756 00:27:28,646 --> 00:27:30,398 - I know you are in certain ways. 757 00:27:30,482 --> 00:27:32,025 When I feel like I've put myself out there-- 758 00:27:32,108 --> 00:27:33,985 - I think that you guys show your love for people 759 00:27:34,069 --> 00:27:35,653 differently than the way I show it. 760 00:27:35,737 --> 00:27:37,405 Everyone has a different love language. 761 00:27:37,489 --> 00:27:38,907 I don't see the problem with that. 762 00:27:38,990 --> 00:27:40,575 I take care of your children every day. 763 00:27:40,658 --> 00:27:42,243 - I know. - It's huge. It's huge. 764 00:27:42,327 --> 00:27:43,620 - If someone picked up my kids every day, fed them... 765 00:27:43,703 --> 00:27:44,746 - Yeah, she does see that. - I know. 766 00:27:44,829 --> 00:27:46,331 I have seen that. Yes. 767 00:27:46,414 --> 00:27:47,957 - And kept them there until 6:00 p.m. without asking 768 00:27:48,041 --> 00:27:49,918 for anything in return, I wouldn't be like, 769 00:27:50,001 --> 00:27:51,836 "Oh, I'm mad because you don't hug me." 770 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,505 - No, I'm not mad 'cause you don't hug me. 771 00:27:53,588 --> 00:27:54,672 - I just feel like I make the effort 772 00:27:54,756 --> 00:27:56,299 to spend time with you. 773 00:27:56,383 --> 00:27:59,052 I make the effort to be a good aunt to your children. 774 00:27:59,135 --> 00:28:01,471 And those are the ways I show you I care. 775 00:28:01,554 --> 00:28:03,098 So if I don't spend time with you, 776 00:28:03,181 --> 00:28:04,933 that's the sign that I don't care for you. 777 00:28:05,016 --> 00:28:06,601 If I don't hug you, that means shit 'cause I don't 778 00:28:06,684 --> 00:28:09,938 hug anybody besides Nate and the three kids. 779 00:28:10,021 --> 00:28:11,106 [sighs] 780 00:28:11,189 --> 00:28:12,774 I think everybody in this family 781 00:28:12,857 --> 00:28:16,945 takes everything very personal and is too sensitive. 782 00:28:17,028 --> 00:28:18,363 I think they're both ridiculous. 783 00:28:18,446 --> 00:28:20,532 I think both of them hug whoever they see 784 00:28:20,615 --> 00:28:22,617 on the street, complete strangers. 785 00:28:22,700 --> 00:28:24,786 So I'm like, "What significance does a hug mean 786 00:28:24,869 --> 00:28:26,454 if you do it for everyone?" 787 00:28:26,538 --> 00:28:28,248 But I mean, I thought you guys invited me to go shopping, 788 00:28:28,331 --> 00:28:29,916 not to just, like, stand here and bicker. 789 00:28:29,999 --> 00:28:31,459 - Sorry. - Sorry. 790 00:28:31,543 --> 00:28:32,877 - That's why I don't hang out with y'all. 791 00:28:32,961 --> 00:28:35,505 - Oh, yes, read my mind, girl. 792 00:28:35,588 --> 00:28:36,923 - No kidding. 793 00:28:37,006 --> 00:28:38,633 - ♪ Anything is possible ♪ 794 00:28:38,716 --> 00:28:40,635 ♪ Anything can happen ♪ 795 00:28:40,718 --> 00:28:42,262 ♪ Oh oh oh ♪ 796 00:28:42,345 --> 00:28:44,431 ♪ Whoa oh oh ♪ 797 00:28:44,514 --> 00:28:46,307 ♪ ♪ 798 00:28:46,391 --> 00:28:47,600 - Honey? 799 00:28:47,684 --> 00:28:50,270 - Yeah? - Come down here. 800 00:28:50,353 --> 00:28:51,604 ♪ ♪ 801 00:28:51,688 --> 00:28:54,023 - Hey, babe. What is that smile for? 802 00:28:54,107 --> 00:28:56,067 - Put the kids through the Washington Ho 803 00:28:56,151 --> 00:28:57,861 School for Smiling, baby. 804 00:28:57,944 --> 00:29:00,822 - Oh, God. Uh-huh. 805 00:29:00,905 --> 00:29:02,407 - Are you ready to see this? 806 00:29:02,490 --> 00:29:06,828 - Let me see it. Aw, how cute! 807 00:29:06,911 --> 00:29:10,248 Let me see 'em. [laughs] 808 00:29:10,331 --> 00:29:12,041 That's adorable! Let me look. 809 00:29:12,125 --> 00:29:13,334 - That's good, huh? 810 00:29:13,418 --> 00:29:15,378 - My kids have beautiful smiles, 811 00:29:15,462 --> 00:29:18,173 and I'm happy that he captured them. 812 00:29:18,256 --> 00:29:21,009 However... 813 00:29:21,092 --> 00:29:22,719 Why is his hair in a mohawk? 814 00:29:22,802 --> 00:29:25,346 - Look how happy he is. Look at the smile. 815 00:29:25,430 --> 00:29:26,848 That's what you should focus on. 816 00:29:26,931 --> 00:29:29,017 - I know, but his mohawk's not even, like-- 817 00:29:29,100 --> 00:29:30,977 - It's not a mohawk. It was just some volume. 818 00:29:31,060 --> 00:29:32,395 - What is that? It's like a cowlick. 819 00:29:32,479 --> 00:29:33,730 - No, it's not. 820 00:29:33,813 --> 00:29:37,275 - I've worked five years into making him look 821 00:29:37,358 --> 00:29:39,235 like a good little church boy. 822 00:29:39,319 --> 00:29:42,113 And now he's rocking a mohawk. 823 00:29:42,197 --> 00:29:46,659 I love their smiles. You nailed that part down. 824 00:29:46,743 --> 00:29:49,871 But his hair is off and she has no bow. 825 00:29:49,954 --> 00:29:52,207 - I know, but I was just celebrating them 826 00:29:52,290 --> 00:29:53,583 being themselves. 827 00:29:53,666 --> 00:29:55,418 Give the small master a hug. I know how-- 828 00:29:55,502 --> 00:29:57,712 - Okay, you nailed the smile. I'll give you that. 829 00:29:57,795 --> 00:30:00,256 - Okay. 830 00:30:00,340 --> 00:30:02,175 - Next time, no mohawk, please. 831 00:30:02,258 --> 00:30:03,968 - Since they smiled really good... 832 00:30:04,052 --> 00:30:07,847 - Yeah. - Do I get a prize upstairs? 833 00:30:07,931 --> 00:30:09,516 - Only if you do the same mohawk. 834 00:30:09,599 --> 00:30:10,934 [both laughing] 835 00:30:11,017 --> 00:30:12,560 Can you do the mohawk down there? 836 00:30:12,644 --> 00:30:14,062 - You're so funny. 837 00:30:14,145 --> 00:30:17,524 - ♪ It can't get better than this ♪ 838 00:30:17,607 --> 00:30:20,318 ♪ No no no no no ♪ 839 00:30:20,401 --> 00:30:24,030 ♪ It can't get better than this ♪ 840 00:30:24,113 --> 00:30:25,740 - Hi. 841 00:30:25,823 --> 00:30:27,367 - ♪ No no no no ♪ 842 00:30:27,450 --> 00:30:28,660 ♪ This is so divine ♪ 843 00:30:28,743 --> 00:30:29,786 - Aw. 844 00:30:29,869 --> 00:30:31,120 - ♪ Right now is the time ♪ 845 00:30:31,204 --> 00:30:33,831 ♪ For us to feel alive ♪ 846 00:30:33,915 --> 00:30:36,292 ♪ This is heavenly peace ♪ 847 00:30:36,376 --> 00:30:37,752 - Oh, man. 848 00:30:37,835 --> 00:30:39,963 - Oh, man. - Oh, look. 849 00:30:40,046 --> 00:30:42,465 - Oh, my God! You're hugging me! 850 00:30:42,549 --> 00:30:44,425 - Okay. Okay, you got the hug now. 851 00:30:44,509 --> 00:30:46,052 - Wait, no. Has she been drinking? 852 00:30:46,135 --> 00:30:47,762 - Yeah. Yeah. - Not yet. Not yet. 853 00:30:47,845 --> 00:30:50,765 - Hey, I like the-- I like our clothes. 854 00:30:50,848 --> 00:30:53,434 We had a dance plan, I guess, just as a surprise. 855 00:30:53,518 --> 00:30:54,686 But a little bit embarrassing. 856 00:30:54,769 --> 00:30:56,854 - Judy. Judy, this is for you. 857 00:30:56,938 --> 00:30:59,399 - Thank you. This is very impressive. 858 00:30:59,482 --> 00:31:01,442 - Just so you know, we've never had 859 00:31:01,526 --> 00:31:04,737 this display ever. [laughter] 860 00:31:04,821 --> 00:31:07,115 - It's just for Judy. - Me? 861 00:31:07,198 --> 00:31:08,575 - Just for Judy. 862 00:31:08,658 --> 00:31:11,786 How does it feel to be here versus Judy's side? 863 00:31:11,869 --> 00:31:13,037 Are we not bougie enough? Are we not-- 864 00:31:13,121 --> 00:31:14,581 - Oh, you're bougie. 865 00:31:14,664 --> 00:31:16,124 - Oh, have you met Reagan? Reagan is not bougie. 866 00:31:16,207 --> 00:31:17,709 - Don't you think your sister is bougie? 867 00:31:17,792 --> 00:31:19,586 - I don't know. I just know that she's drama. 868 00:31:19,669 --> 00:31:20,837 - How am I drama? 869 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,297 - You told me the sisters aren't here. 870 00:31:22,380 --> 00:31:24,340 That's who she meant. - Oh, yeah. 871 00:31:24,424 --> 00:31:26,593 - We're not gonna name any of the names. 872 00:31:26,676 --> 00:31:27,969 - Oh. - Yeah, we'll call her 873 00:31:28,052 --> 00:31:29,137 L and K. 874 00:31:29,220 --> 00:31:30,680 [laughter] 875 00:31:30,763 --> 00:31:32,265 - There's six of us. 876 00:31:32,348 --> 00:31:36,144 The oldest is Linda, and then Vanessa, and then me. 877 00:31:36,227 --> 00:31:38,730 And then I have a younger sister named Kim. 878 00:31:38,813 --> 00:31:40,982 And then Nate, and then Mike. 879 00:31:41,065 --> 00:31:43,818 The women in our family are very strong minded. 880 00:31:43,901 --> 00:31:45,695 We kind of rule the family. 881 00:31:45,778 --> 00:31:46,988 - I don't wanna create drama. 882 00:31:47,071 --> 00:31:48,573 - Come on. - You guys are drama. 883 00:31:48,656 --> 00:31:49,991 - Who? - Who? 884 00:31:50,074 --> 00:31:51,326 - Them two. - Me and Vin? 885 00:31:51,409 --> 00:31:53,161 - Yeah. - We are not drama. 886 00:31:53,244 --> 00:31:54,662 - King and queen right there. 887 00:31:54,746 --> 00:31:57,248 - Ooh! - Wow. Is that true? 888 00:31:57,332 --> 00:31:58,499 - Sometimes. - Wow! 889 00:31:58,583 --> 00:31:59,959 - Sometimes. - I'm just kidding. 890 00:32:00,043 --> 00:32:01,628 - Now that we're blending our families, 891 00:32:01,711 --> 00:32:03,755 I feel like there is a little bit of drama. 892 00:32:03,838 --> 00:32:06,549 - The drama is they all like being with us, 893 00:32:06,633 --> 00:32:09,010 and we don't necessarily always wanna be with them. 894 00:32:09,093 --> 00:32:11,429 So that's a drama. - That's good drama. 895 00:32:11,512 --> 00:32:12,930 - Right. - I never asked this, 896 00:32:13,014 --> 00:32:15,016 but do your kids know about the pregnancy? 897 00:32:15,099 --> 00:32:16,684 - Yes, they do. - Oh, okay. 898 00:32:16,768 --> 00:32:18,061 - They think that's how people get pregnant. 899 00:32:18,144 --> 00:32:19,646 You give them injections. 900 00:32:19,729 --> 00:32:23,024 [overlapping chatter] - That's awesome. 901 00:32:23,107 --> 00:32:26,611 - Would you tell this baby that he or she would be IVF? 902 00:32:26,694 --> 00:32:28,071 You know, 'cause Chris doesn't know. 903 00:32:28,154 --> 00:32:29,364 - Seriously? - Why not? 904 00:32:29,447 --> 00:32:31,074 - Yeah. - He's 14! 905 00:32:31,157 --> 00:32:32,867 - I know, and I never told him. - Why not? 906 00:32:32,950 --> 00:32:35,328 - You never told Chris that Linda is the surrogate? 907 00:32:35,411 --> 00:32:37,205 - Yeah, never. He never asked. And it's not like-- 908 00:32:37,288 --> 00:32:38,498 - Why would you ask that? 909 00:32:38,581 --> 00:32:40,208 Why would you ever ask who's the mom? 910 00:32:40,291 --> 00:32:42,919 - I mean, it's not like it comes up in conversations. 911 00:32:43,002 --> 00:32:44,879 - Why would it ever come up? How? 912 00:32:44,962 --> 00:32:46,172 - No, next time I see him, 913 00:32:46,255 --> 00:32:47,674 I'll be like, "Hey, have you ever seen 914 00:32:47,757 --> 00:32:49,175 a picture of your mom pregnant with you?" 915 00:32:49,258 --> 00:32:50,802 - Well, we have a picture of me carrying him 916 00:32:50,885 --> 00:32:52,261 when he was just born. 917 00:32:52,345 --> 00:32:55,098 So that was the picture that he's had, you know. 918 00:32:55,181 --> 00:32:56,391 I... 919 00:32:56,474 --> 00:33:00,144 you know, it's been a rough year for us. 920 00:33:00,228 --> 00:33:03,731 One, with the kids and then me coming out, 921 00:33:03,815 --> 00:33:05,566 it was a rough year for him to realize 922 00:33:05,650 --> 00:33:07,777 that his mom was dating a woman. 923 00:33:07,860 --> 00:33:10,905 So that's why I'm not saying anything. 924 00:33:10,988 --> 00:33:13,241 - It doesn't really matter where you came out of. 925 00:33:13,324 --> 00:33:14,742 - No. I don't think it matters. 926 00:33:14,826 --> 00:33:16,411 I don't think it matters at all. But I think-- 927 00:33:16,494 --> 00:33:17,954 - It doesn't help to tell him that he was actual-- 928 00:33:18,037 --> 00:33:19,247 - Wait, does he know about you guys? 929 00:33:19,330 --> 00:33:21,207 - Yes. - What about them? 930 00:33:21,290 --> 00:33:23,918 [soft music] 931 00:33:24,001 --> 00:33:26,087 - We talk about we're gonna have another baby, 932 00:33:26,170 --> 00:33:28,381 so he wanted a girl. - Oh, he does? 933 00:33:28,464 --> 00:33:30,133 - Yeah, so we've talked to Chris about--yeah, IVF. 934 00:33:30,216 --> 00:33:32,427 So we've explained to him how it happened with you guys. 935 00:33:32,510 --> 00:33:34,303 And then we were talking about IVF with us. 936 00:33:34,387 --> 00:33:38,516 We actually went to see an IVF specialist. 937 00:33:38,599 --> 00:33:40,351 We've tested everything on Tran 938 00:33:40,435 --> 00:33:42,437 and everything looks good to go. 939 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:44,772 Now it's just finding a donor. 940 00:33:44,856 --> 00:33:46,274 - I don't wanna know the father. 941 00:33:46,357 --> 00:33:47,775 - And I do. I wanna know 942 00:33:47,859 --> 00:33:49,777 what background they're coming from. 943 00:33:49,861 --> 00:33:51,571 - It's still your child. 944 00:33:51,654 --> 00:33:53,114 Shouldn't be anybody else involved. 945 00:33:53,197 --> 00:33:54,449 I'd rather not know. 946 00:33:54,532 --> 00:33:56,701 - What you're doing now for my brother 947 00:33:56,784 --> 00:33:58,369 is fucking priceless. 948 00:33:58,453 --> 00:33:59,871 - She loves him. 949 00:33:59,954 --> 00:34:01,873 - The sacrifice that you're doing for him, man-- 950 00:34:01,956 --> 00:34:03,166 - It's a big thing. 951 00:34:03,249 --> 00:34:05,418 It's very--how do you say, like-- 952 00:34:05,501 --> 00:34:07,044 - [speaks Vietnamese] 953 00:34:07,128 --> 00:34:08,629 - Yeah, say it in Vietnamese if it's more comfortable. 954 00:34:08,713 --> 00:34:10,006 - Yeah. [all speaking Vietnamese] 955 00:34:24,896 --> 00:34:28,524 I would say that you would have to do out of your love, 956 00:34:28,608 --> 00:34:31,903 not because of his loss. I'm sorry. 957 00:34:31,986 --> 00:34:34,906 - Right. 958 00:34:34,989 --> 00:34:37,366 - I don't tell Judy how hard it is for me 959 00:34:37,450 --> 00:34:39,076 'cause I know it's been just tough, 960 00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:40,661 but I keep--I'm that kinda guy that keeps everything in. 961 00:34:40,745 --> 00:34:44,707 - Yeah. - You know, I don't tell Judy 962 00:34:44,791 --> 00:34:46,167 'cause I don't wanna worry her. 963 00:34:46,250 --> 00:34:47,794 I tell Van a few things. 964 00:34:47,877 --> 00:34:50,338 But I just don't talk about feelings. So that's-- 965 00:34:50,421 --> 00:34:51,589 - Yeah. 966 00:34:51,672 --> 00:34:53,466 ♪ ♪ 967 00:34:53,549 --> 00:34:55,635 - So I just appreciate all that stuff you guys had. 968 00:34:55,718 --> 00:34:59,847 You know, I thought I'd spend a lot of time with my kids. 969 00:34:59,931 --> 00:35:02,433 I always wish I'd spent more time. 970 00:35:02,517 --> 00:35:05,520 So don't ever regret those times, you know. 971 00:35:05,603 --> 00:35:06,979 - Don't take it for granted. 972 00:35:07,063 --> 00:35:09,607 - Yeah. - Cheers. 973 00:35:09,690 --> 00:35:12,401 - You make me a better mom 974 00:35:12,485 --> 00:35:15,822 because... 975 00:35:15,905 --> 00:35:18,533 ♪ ♪ 976 00:35:18,616 --> 00:35:22,745 'Cause of you, I'm a better person. 977 00:35:22,829 --> 00:35:26,374 - I know. And thanks to Judy. 978 00:35:26,457 --> 00:35:28,876 - Yeah. Thank you, Judy. - And Kim. 979 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:30,837 [laughter] 980 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,214 - I appreciate--I really do appreciate all of you guys. 981 00:35:33,297 --> 00:35:35,341 It's hard to get through it alone, 982 00:35:35,424 --> 00:35:37,718 and you guys have been there through the whole thing. 983 00:35:37,802 --> 00:35:41,556 And it's been tough, so I really do appreciate you guys. 984 00:35:41,639 --> 00:35:43,599 I never cry. Judy knows I never cry. 985 00:35:43,683 --> 00:35:45,184 It's just stupid. 986 00:35:45,268 --> 00:35:46,978 - It's not stupid. - It's not stupid. 987 00:35:47,061 --> 00:35:48,938 - We do lean on each other a lot. 988 00:35:49,021 --> 00:35:51,691 I think that no matter what, we're always trying to build 989 00:35:51,774 --> 00:35:54,569 each other up and encourage each other and be supportive. 990 00:35:54,652 --> 00:35:58,781 And it's very safe between us to share our feelings. 991 00:35:58,865 --> 00:36:00,199 - 'Cause we both know 992 00:36:00,283 --> 00:36:02,034 we have each other's best interests at heart. 993 00:36:02,118 --> 00:36:04,328 So that's how we overcome a lot of stuff. 994 00:36:04,412 --> 00:36:05,997 We are able to discuss things, right? 995 00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,125 - Mm-hmm. I love your brother very much. 996 00:36:09,208 --> 00:36:10,751 - I mean, I didn't really like you 997 00:36:10,835 --> 00:36:12,336 that much at the beginning. 998 00:36:12,420 --> 00:36:15,631 - The feeling's mutual. [laughter] 999 00:36:15,715 --> 00:36:17,717 So Kim's officially my favorite sister-in-law now. 1000 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,385 - Whoo-hoo! 1001 00:36:19,468 --> 00:36:21,095 - What? - Hold, hold on. What? 1002 00:36:21,178 --> 00:36:22,430 - They're not even married. 1003 00:36:22,513 --> 00:36:23,681 - They're not married yet. 1004 00:36:23,764 --> 00:36:25,308 - Bring it in. all: Yay! 1005 00:36:25,391 --> 00:36:28,394 [indistinct chatter] 1006 00:36:28,477 --> 00:36:30,187 - ♪ ABC, show me ♪ 1007 00:36:30,271 --> 00:36:33,065 ♪ Emoji, how they know we just laughin' happily ♪ 1008 00:36:33,149 --> 00:36:34,901 ♪ Who was that tossin' up shade? ♪ 1009 00:36:34,984 --> 00:36:37,236 ♪ Tell 'em uh-oh, you ain't messin' with me ♪ 1010 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,656 ♪ Oh, no, now you ain't messin' with me ♪ 1011 00:36:40,740 --> 00:36:42,408 ♪ I'm gon' be who I'm gon' be ♪ 1012 00:36:42,491 --> 00:36:45,369 ♪ Oh, yeah, you can't change what I see ♪ 1013 00:36:45,453 --> 00:36:48,414 ♪ You're not gonna stop my stride ♪ 1014 00:36:48,497 --> 00:36:50,291 ♪ Oh nah nah nah ♪ 1015 00:36:50,374 --> 00:36:53,502 ♪ You just see how bright I shine ♪ 1016 00:36:53,586 --> 00:36:55,630 ♪ You ain't never with that ♪