[Paper Kings' "Look At Me Now"]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Can't nobody hold me down ♪
♪ I'm steady walkin' like ♪
♪ I got three commas in my bank account ♪
♪ Livin' loud, so get your cameras out ♪
♪ I'd probably do the same thing if I was you ♪
♪ Lookin' at me now, now ♪
♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
♪ Mm, put up your lights ♪
♪ And keep 'em flashin' ♪
♪ Oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh-oh ♪
♪ Don't ever put 'em down, down, down ♪
♪ Look at me now ♪
[electronic music]
♪ ♪
[phone ringing]
- Wife is calling me.
Mommy's calling me.
Give me a second here.
Hello?
[child chattering]
- What? - Worst trip ever.
Sammy and I freaking got into another fight.
- Really? - I'm so over it.
This trip is just miserable. I can't--
I just--I can't believe she's even on this trip.
And then Tina and her said it was her birthday celebration.
And it just got out of hand, you know?
She freaking called me a dictator.
Like, that's the straw that broke the camel's back.
I just--I can't--I just wanna go home.
I don't wanna be here anymore.
I'm having the worst time. I just--I miss you.
And I miss the kids. I just--I can't--
- Lesley wants to come home.
I hate that there's drama in the Virgin Islands
and Lesley failed to let go
and let Sammy enjoy her birthday.
If she wants to prove that she's a good wife,
then she needs to learn to accept the fact that
whoever I love and wanna help,
she needs to be my other half.
Sammy's gonna be around for a long time.
She's family. - She's not my family.
- What are you talking about, "She's not your family"?
- She's your cousin, not my cousin.
- It's our cousin. - She's your cousin.
I barely know the girl. She's just so disrespectful.
- Be the mature one. You're the older one.
You're my wife, which means we're family.
- Yeah.
- Look, just be grateful that you're healthy.
You have a beautiful family to come home to.
I love you. - Love you, too.
- Have a great trip. Okay. Bye.
Love you. - Bye.
- [sighs]
Lesley--she's crying.
She wants to come back home.
- Their problem, you know,
let them do what they want to do.
So forget about it.
- You can take care of your problem.
- Tonight I sleep with you, mom.
- Yeah. - In my old high school bed.
- Yeah.
- That's the best bed I can sleep in.
Come here, young man.
- Dad, I wanna stay here.
[bright music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ You ♪
♪ Cannot hold me back ♪
- Last night, that situation,
that was some shit that was not cool, you know?
I was born into this family. You married into this family.
- ♪ I won't let you in ♪
- I'm not going to let her walk all over me.
- ♪ No oh oh oh ♪
- Be myself. You know what I mean?
- Hi, guys. - Yeah.
- Hey, you look cute.
- Hey, Sammy, this is for you. Cure from last night.
- My cure? - Of course. This hangover.
If you had anything else
left from last night, this is perfect.
- Aunt Tina came over into my room and, you know,
she talked about how I'm older,
and Sammy's younger than me, and Sammy doesn't have
as much life experience as I do.
You know, being open to listening to Sammy
and not just dismiss her and recognize
that she is going through something.
That just gave me the courage
to want to sit there and listen to Sammy
and listen to her side of it
and for me to finally tell her my side of it.
Morning, Sammy. - Good morning.
- Do you mind if we have a little chat?
- Yes, let's do it. - You wanna go to the cabanas
where it's a little more private?
- Yeah. I'm ready to hash it out.
I'm ready to discuss it. Like, "What's up?
What's the deal? What's your beef?"
Also, "Fuck you," kind of,
because I was like--I was still pissed from the night before.
What's up?
- Can you take off your sunglasses?
- So same attitude as last night, I can see.
- No, I just wanna talk to you.
I just wanna clear the air, you know, 'cause we're here,
and I want us to have a good time.
- Mm-hmm. - And I think, you know,
you know and I know
that the last two years have been kind of weird.
I think it's time we address it.
So I'll just start.
- Claire, tell us what you hear.
- Wash really wanted to help you out.
- He needed help with his business.
- Sammy, okay, no offense,
but what did you do for VoltStreet?
- Well, Wash had to let a lot of people go.
And a lot of people
had different account access and stuff.
And so what we had to do was put that all together
in a seamless form,
and that's what I helped him do.
He had no idea how to even use, like, the fax or anything.
- That's not what I was told.
- Well, you didn't know anything.
- I do know stuff. I'm his wife.
- Uh-huh. - But your car was in the shop.
- I didn't have a car, period, at that time.
- You said you couldn't get it out of the shop
because you didn't have $2,000.
- No, I didn't have a car. How can I get--what car?
- At all? - No, I was driving
my mom's car. - Then why would you
tell us that then? - I never told you that.
I have no idea what you're talking about.
You are literally putting words in my mouth.
So what do you mean? You got my car out of the shop?
- Okay. I--
Okay, anyways, I... Okay. Anyways.
- Sometime Washington doesn't tell Lesley the whole thing.
- I didn't know exactly the stories that Washington
was telling Lesley about me.
Like, it's so obvious that there's just so many things
that are untrue that come out of my cousin's mouth,
but I don't think it is my responsibility
to bring those things up.
Whatever they have going on is not my fricking business.
And it's weird, I think.
- Why is it that your whole life,
you always show up late to things, okay?
First of all-- - You knew me my whole life?
- Your whole--I don't know you your whole life...
- Okay. - But this is a habit
that everyone has been telling me.
- Okay. - To me, that's a sign
of disrespect. - Oh.
- Do you remember when, like,
ten of the influencer people flew out here to meet,
and you were supposed to be there at 8:00,
and you didn't show up, and I called you?
- I don't remember. - Exactly.
I called you like 50 times.
I called you, and then I was upset,
and then I was like, "Oh, my God,
"what if something happened to her?
"What if she's hurt? What if she died?
I don't know." Why are you laughing?
- Because you're pretending to give a shit.
I'm giving you like the benefit of the doubt,
but, like, you're still fucking fake.
- My father-in-law gave you money.
- Why would--why would he give me money?
- 'Cause he felt bad for you
because you were helping out with Wash.
- Wrong. - We can call him right now...
- Okay. - And ask him.
- Let's do that. Yes, let's do it right now.
- Lesley's calling your brother.
- I'm gonna tell him-- - Speak English.
- I'm gonna be-- - Speak English first.
- I'm gonna be respectful to him first.
- Kiss some ass.
- Telling Les to speak English, that's rude.
- Sammy can understand, right? - Vietnamese?
- Can't understand... - No.
- No, not even one word. - Not at all?
- She worse than Nate.
- [speaking Vietnamese]
Sammy's here.
- Tell him I said hi.
Okay.
My father-in-law already had his own issues about Sammy,
how flaky that she's been with our family and to him.
So his advice to me was to disengage.
So at this point,
I felt like the conversation isn't gonna go anywhere.
You know what, Sammy? I can't talk to you.
- I know. Get some facts straight and come back.
- Can you stop being disrespectful?
- No. I'm telling you, you can't just throw out things
and then have people believe them.
- I can't 'cause--you know what?
You need help. You don't remember anything.
Nothing.
- Because it's not true. I never had a car.
What are you talking about? - Okay. I can't talk to you.
- Go get some facts straight and come back
and then let's have this conversation.
- I'm ready to go. I-I want out of here.
I'm so over this.
[tense music]
- Truth hurts.
- What happened?
- What? - What happened?
- She acts like nothing.
And she's like, "I never had a car.
What are you talking about?
My father-in-law never gave me money.
What are you talking about?" Like, are you fucking insane?
She--how do you talk to someone who's insane?
I'm ready to get out of here.
- No, you're not. Stop. You asked me to come here.
I left my kids too to come here with you.
- Then come home with me. - No.
I want us to have fun
'cause I don't get to do this often, Lesley.
I never leave my family.
- I never leave my family. - Okay. So let's enjoy it.
We have two more days.
Don't let her ruin your vacation. Are you serious?
- Be adult. Who care?
- Wash only tells Lesley what he wants her to know.
So I feel like Lesley is kind of vulnerable in that way
but she can't see it.
She doesn't know the whole story.
Lesley needs to let that go.
- [speaking Vietnamese]
- Yeah.
And the same angry like that,
you the same level with her.
Like, no, you have to be above. You have to be on top of her.
- You ignore her. You're Lesley Ho.
You're very good at ignoring people.
You're like, "Who? Who? Who?" Yeah.
Look, the sun is out! The sun is out!
Shit, it's been raining. Let's enjoy.
- Let's have a drink. - Yes.
- I already ordered coconut. I can wait.
- Yeah, let's go. - What about [murmurs]?
- I love you. - I love you.
- I just wanna like her. - We gonna be in a boat.
Move.
- You need a towel?
- Yeah.
I just wish she could just
stick out a conversation
so we can just get on. Like, we're a family, like--
- But do you think, like, having a conversation
with someone when you're both, like,
not being respectful is a way to have a conversation?
- I think she has some truths that aren't true.
- But don't you also think
she thinks you have truths that aren't true?
Like you guys both... - Yeah.
- Think that of each other? - Yeah. Maybe.
- So that's why I think she's saying that, like,
you also don't know all the other things
that they've been trying to do for you
and now you're coming at her. So--
- So let's all find a resolution.
- Okay. - So should I be honest?
I'm gonna be real with you. I heard a little bit of it.
When you said, "Speak English, don't speak Vietnamese--"
- Because I want to understand that conversation.
- I know, but I think that's just rude,
because, like, if that's Binh, like, he's like--
- I don't understand.
- Well, 'cause you were calling him to say like,
"Oh, can you confirm this or that?"
So she wanted to, like, make sure he understood.
- Yeah. Yeah. I see.
- In our culture, you respect your elders.
And I 100% agree you should respect your elders,
but Sammy didn't grow up fully like in our Asian culture.
Her parents didn't give her that same perspective.
And I think that's a big reason
as to why there could be, like, some miscommunication.
- I want to address the things that she's upset
with me directly about, but she has never called me
to ask me whether something was true or not true.
- But if you don't answer, she's not gonna call.
Like, even sometimes I'll text you,
and you're like, "Okay, I'm coming."
And then you don't come.
- I-I get that because it's something I need to work on.
I totally will own it. I'm flaky.
A lot has happened in the last two years,
and how I deal with things
when I'm hurt or confused isn't optimal,
especially with Washington and I because I didn't know
exactly the stories that were going around.
I was inconsistent. Sometimes I would wanna go do something
but if somebody was there
that I didn't want to deal with,
I would just retreat and put my phone
on the other side of the room and flake.
When I'm hurt, I do run away.
- Let's just move on.
- Let's just--like, we'll figure it out.
- Let's go. I'm getting bit by mosquitoes.
- All right. She's living rent-free in my brain.
[jazzy music]
♪ ♪
- Hey, girl. What's up? How you feel now?
- Um--
- Talk to me.
Wow, child, come on.
- I just feel uncomfortable around her still.
- [indistinct] and me, of course.
- Yeah. - She's older than you.
No matter what, you need to show her some respect.
She's the older sister.
So you talk to her like an older sister,
and then both of you have the connection.
That's what it is. Don't you agree?
- But how would you treat someone that's older than you,
but you disagree with?
- You cannot say, "Oh, this is not what it is."
You cannot just go straight to her and tell her
she didn't say it right.
You need to address the problem in a nice way.
You say, "Oh really? Can you explain it to me?"
That's how you show respect.
- I definitely come off disrespectful,
from a traditional Vietnamese standpoint,
and that's because I'm only half Vietnamese.
Like, I didn't grow up having to like bow down or kiss ass
just because of a few years' age difference.
I agree. I need to be more respectful,
but she needs to know like, "Yo, I've been
in this family for 31 years, welcome to the party."
I need mutual respect. - Okay.
- If you demand it, then give it too.
- But, first of all, the elder, you need to respect her first.
That's normal. - Yes.
- And then that's how she start with you.
- Uh-huh. - I still have the keep Sammy
in the real because Sammy was not
paying attention to anything,
including my brother and sister.
She's half white. She's half Vietnamese.
Don't expect her to act just like Vietnamese,
just like your children.
And I explained to Binh already,
but all my family, they're all very judgmental.
That's what I want.
♪ ♪
- ♪ We workin' hard all night ♪
♪ Some of the ladies wanna play ♪
♪ And we're feelin' like we might ♪
♪ Get tipsy ♪
♪ Yeah, we're feelin'... ♪
- Whoo! - Oh, look at that banana.
It's kind of weird.
Is that banana for our hangover?
- You grab it.
- Oh, that's a different banana.
But I think we can use that for hangover.
- That's gonna cure your hangover, the little ones?
- That's why I'm saying, I don't know.
I never do this small. I'm sorry.
- Hey, size doesn't matter.
- It's about the motion of the Ocean.
- Don't lie. Don't lie, Ashley. Don't lie.
- Size not matter? Do not lie, please.
- Size does not matter.
- Cheers!
all: Cheers!
- Whoo! - Whoo-hoo!
- Now, I honestly wanna be at peace with Sammy
'cause I don't want what happened the night
before to happen again,
and I don't want drama so that the family can enjoy life
and have a vacation where we can finally relax.
- We talk about my banana. What do you think?
- Micro-banana?
- That's super small.
- I don't know, but-- - I wish Bella was here.
both: I know.
- She's studying, right?
- Mm-hmm, she has a test on Monday.
- To Bella. - She's studying.
- To Bella. all: Bella!
- You know, "big family" always have drama.
So one drama after another drama, and it will be gone.
But we on the girl trip, we need to have fun.
- Oh, my God, is this not great?
Look, the sun's out. - I know.
- Right? - Finally.
- I'm so glad you're here. - I know.
- I love you. - I love you.
You know, she has a good heart.
- Yeah, I know. - She's just a little bit
lost, you know? - Yeah.
- She lost her mom, you know?
- So you have to be more patient with her,
more understanding, you know what I mean?
- Yeah. I forget that sometimes.
I know she comes from a good place and she loves Wash...
- She does. She loves Wash.
- And that's where she comes from,
so I can't fault her for that, you know?
- Yeah. - Like, she may not see
everything that goes on in our marriage,
and she may not know everything.
- Yeah. - I'm really sensitive
towards Wash, and I need to learn
to be sensitive towards her.
- Yeah. - You know?
Recognizing that she has those tendencies.
I don't know if I'll ever understand her fully,
but I don't know what she's been through,
so I shouldn't be so quick to judge her.
Sammy's family, and we need to find
that middle common ground.
I need to be the bigger person and resolve things with Sammy.
I want her to feel like, you know, she's family.
Like, she's right.
Like, I can't get rid of her, you know?
- Yeah, she's family.
- Shake it. Go, go, go.
- Oh, shit! - You know how to do it.
[all whooping]
all: Whoo!
- Put your finger in and shake it.
- Oh, my God!
all: Whoo!
- My turn! My turn! My turn!
- All right, wait. Let me show you how it's done.
[overlapping shrieking, squealing]
[screaming]
- You don't know how to do it right.
- No, you got to get it-- - Okay.
I did that on purpose so he can come and help us.
- Yeah, there you go. - There you go. Thank you.
- I got to drive the boat.
- You don't need to drive the boat. You can drive us.
- Oh, my God.
- We're here. - Where are we going?
- I don't know. He driving.
- Where do you wanna go with the driver?
- I don't know. Up to him.
I'll go wherever he drives me.
[laughter]
- But what if it's short?
- Let me tell you, all you girls say he's handsome.
Why I'm the only one talking about this--
- I don't think he's handsome. I think he's okay.
- Oh, God. Okay.
- Hey, I window shop. I do not buy.
- Me too. Me too.
- I window shop all day long. - No.
- I'll get in trouble. I'll get in trouble.
- Can we look at the merchandise?
- You can try it on. - You can try it on.
- Oh my God.
- Bottoms up. Why was I the only one?
- Okay, okay, okay. All right, girls, bottoms up.
- Bottoms up. Why was I the only one?
- Okay. - Oh, my gosh.
- Hello? Hello? I was the only one.
You guys gonna bottoms up now?
- If I look at his eyes, I can drink.
- You can drink?
[overlapping chatter]
- ♪ Take a breath, let it go ♪
♪ There's a spark inside ♪
♪ I can feel it I'm alive ♪
♪ I'm alive ♪
♪ I open up, spread my wings ♪
♪ I was born to fly ♪
♪ I can feel it ♪
♪ Let it rise, let it rise ♪
♪ And now the world is callin' again ♪
- What a great girls' trip. - We all needed it.
- Yeah. - Let's go swim.
- Yes. - I love you.
- Aww. - I love you, you know that?
I'm glad that I lost that bet and you're here.
- I love you.
There's going to be a lot of personalities, obviously,
with such a big family.
This trip was definitely something
that needed to be done
because I feel like we all had to hash some things out.
Girls' trip--stick them on an island, they can't leave.
- Happy birthday!
all: Happy birthday!
- These Hos are, like, crazy for you.
- What Hos? I'm not a Ho.
- Y'all are crazy.
- Wait, why was I the only one to bottoms up?
- Oh, my god!
- Lesley, you married into the crazy.
- Why was I the only one to bottoms up?
- You're right. - Hey, Aunt Tina.
Do you wanna come drive the boat?
- I'm coming no matter what.
Whatever happens-- - All right.
all: Whoo!
- Can you even see what you're doing?
No? - Can you see anything?
[laughter]
- Aunt Tina! - Whoo!
- To Aunt Tina. - Yes!
- Last night, ladies.
- Last night. - That's it.
- So how was the boat? More details, please.
- I went snorkeling. - Oh, okay.
- And then I saw Lesley dancing.
- Oh, my God, you were dancing? - Finally.
[all speaking at once]
- Can we talk about Orlando? - Yes.
- Our captain looked just like Orlando Bloom.
- His eyes. Oh, my God. Mesmerizing.
- Aunt Tina kept talking about his nuts.
- Oh, God.
- We was talking about coconut first,
and then we said, "What nut?"
- Nope, I am married. Eye candy--
- Well, I did not ask you to marry him.
So don't worry about it. Just have fun.
I didn't ask you to do anything.
- 'Cause why? What happens in St. Thomas...
all: Stays in St. Thomas.
- All right. I'm so happy
that we take this trip and everybody's been happy.
So let's have fun in the last night tonight, okay?
- I think us being all together and I just--I realized
that we are a big, happy family no matter, like,
what happens between us,
like, we're family, we can get through anything.
We honestly didn't resolve details, you know?
We just both agreed to disagree and leave it at that.
Looking at Sammy, her struggles and her demons
are very similar to Washington's.
And for her not to have anyone to go through that journey
that struggle with, I think it's very sad.
You know, I don't wanna cause more pain to that for her.
You know, whatever differences we have between us,
like, the common thing we have is, like, she loves Washington.
I love Washington, you know, so we have that common ground,
and we can get through it, and we can move forward.
So the way I talk to Wash is different from the way
I talk to other people.
And that's how I'm gonna channel Sammy as well.
How was studying?
- It was really good to stay home.
- Are you ready for your test? - I think so.
I felt really bad this morning. Like, I just, like,
was so tired ever since school started.
And I think my body just like really caught up to me.
- Yeah.
- And I called my mom 'cause I was like crying
'cause I just wanted to hear her voice.
There is a lot of tension between me and my mom.
I know that my mom is gay. I know she has a girlfriend.
It's not the fact that she's gay that upset me.
It was the fact that she didn't feel the need
to share anything with me. I think that is the root cause
of why we are just strange right now.
She was like, "Okay, you can
call me anytime." I was like, "I might not,
but I just did it today in my weak moment right now."
- You look much better less stressed out.
- So how are you feeling, Sammy? Good?
- Mm-hmm. - Are you sure?
- Mm-hmm.
- No, just tell us.
How do you feel? Are you loving this?
- Is there something you wanna talk about, Sammy?
- [tearfully] Sorry.
- What's wrong? - I'm sorry.
- Why are you sorry? - I've had a really good day.
I'm just tired and being dumb--nothing.
- You're not dumb. - You're not dumb.
- We're all tired. It's okay to be tired.
- What do you think about the trip?
- I had fun. On the boat,
I had a lot of fun. I was very drunk.
- Okay.
I'm gonna go check on Sammy just to make sure she's okay.
- ♪ Feel like it's too long ♪
♪ Too long ♪
♪ Ooh ooh ooh ooh ♪
♪ ♪
- Hey, are you okay?
- Hey. - I brought you a drink.
- Thank you. - If you want it, here it is.
Here. You want a hug? - Yeah.
- You know we love you, right?
I think I can relate to Sammy in the sense that right now,
I don't feel very close with my mom.
And, obviously, there's no comparison there.
Like, Sammy's mom isn't here with us anymore,
and my mom is still here.
I can definitely feel that pain.
I know I haven't said much. It's just I didn't feel like
I knew what to say to make you feel better.
- It just comes like--it comes in waves.
And so, like, today I was feeling the same stuff like,
school and like tired and stuff and I just, like,
I just wanted to hear my mom's voice too, you know?
- Mm-hmm.
- And these tears are different.
Like, I just miss her.
- Yeah, I know it's hard. - It's--
- I know it's hard.
It's gonna be hard for the rest of your life.
- That's the truth. And-- - Look at me. It's really okay.
You're dealing with your own grief,
and everyone's here for you,
and we're gonna help you through it. It's your birthday.
And, you know, like I loved your mom,
and she was a ball of sunshine just like you.
- These last few years have been very hard for me.
So, like, I'm like clinically OCD, seriously.
That's who I am. Like, OCD, ADHD, perfect, that's Sammy.
Well, OCD, if something happens, something's triggered,
it can actually spiral into like a depression.
And so I just feel that it's really important to understand
that when you're not feeling yourself and you're down
and you're confused about, like, really who you are,
where you're going, that's just building up.
It's compounding, it's compounding.
So if you're going through anything, don't be shy,
don't be scared, just reach out,
professionally, a doctor or a sister or a cousin.
- It's okay to feel sad.
You don't have to go through anything alone.
- Because it does get better. It really does get better.
I'm feeling ready to face some things I've been avoiding.
- Whatever you're comfortable with.
If you don't wanna drink shots, you don't have
to drink any shots. I'll just give you water, okay?
- I like shots. - Oh, you want shots? Okay.
- Hey, welcome back, ladies. - I'm hungry.
The fish is so good.
- I had a weekly ritual cry.
- We all need that.
I have that too. - No, I like that.
- I have that too.
- Cheers! - Cheers!
- I really appreciate this entire trip.
Like, it means so much.
It's crazy where I was last year.
When you compare it to right now, it's amazing.
And I want y'all to know, like, I'm sorry if I come off rude
or anything like that. I appreciate you guys.
And this entire trip has been amazing.
And I love you all so much.
- I love you too. - I love you too.
- We love you. - Cheers!
- Cheers, cheers, cheers. - Aww.
- Happy tears. - Happy tears.
- Is it somebody's birthday? - Whoo!
all: ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday, dear Sammy, happy birthday to you ♪
- Whoo! Make a wish.
all: Whoo!
- Got it. - Good job.
- Sammy, in Vietnamese tradition,
you cut the cake, and then you Moi.
And you give it to everyone, like, a slice of your cake.
- Yeah.
- Start off with the oldest person.
So you give it to Gohan first.
- Mm-hmm. - And you get the last slice.
- Yeah.
- And then Lesley second.
- You're--I was like, "Wait a minute,
I'm I the second oldest?"
- Honey.
- [child chatters]
- Hi, baby. - Hi.
- Hi! Did you miss me? Did you miss me? Come here.
Aww.
- You had a great time? - I did.
- Hey, honey. - Hi, babe.
- What do you think? - Hey, babe.
- How was your trip?
- You look like a music producer.
- Oh, yeah. I've been making a lot of music. I'm a new man.
- You look like a new man. - Did you miss me?
- I'm happy to be home. - Yeah?
- Yes. I'm not that surprised to come home to Versace.
I mean, Washington goes through his mini-phases.
We had a hat phase, a blazer phase,
sunglasses phase, a shoe fetish phase.
Wash's looks changes constantly,
just like his career goals. It's just typical Wash.
I never know what I'm gonna wake up to and go to bed with.
- You worried me when you called me.
What was going on? Hold on.
Let daddy talk to mom about something serious.
- You know, it's just, you know,
Sam and I had a little, like, disagreement.
- I know you have a hot temper. - I know that.
- I could never put myself in your shoes,
but I could probably put myself in Sammy's shoes.
Lesley is controlling.
You don't do one thing right and it's like nuclear bomb.
So what are you gonna do about it?
What kind of actions are you gonna take
to make yourself more aware,
to help you become a better person,
a person that has more empathy?
- I mean, I think I'm just gonna consciously, like,
when it comes to Sammy,
recognize that she has those issues
so I would definitely, like, not judge her.
- What do you think about you getting some therapy
just to see what would happen,
to help you see and understand your husband better?
It shouldn't take a crazy situation
to make you empathize. - I empathize. I just--
- Will you just go for me one time?
Like, I know you always say I'm the one that needs help,
not you, but this time I think you need help.
- I don't think I need to go to therapy.
I mean, maybe a support group, but definitely not therapy.
I'm perfectly--I mean, maybe I need--maybe
I do need a little therapy.
I think everyone needs a little therapy,
but not to understand him and Sammy any better.
That, I would need to support group for.
Like, emotions were high. I missed you and the kids,
you know, I wasn't having any fun. Like--
- You missed me? - As much as I missed you,
it was even worse because I wasn't having a good time.
- Well, that sucks
'cause I had a great time while you were gone.
- What are you making?
- I'm making a drink. I've been working all day.
So I need to--I need a good drink.
- Can I have a drink of water? - Is it busy today?
Just water? Are you sure?
- Just water, please. - Okay. Okay.
- I have to drive home.
Someone has to drive you home. Are you ready to see mom?
- Yeah.
- A part of me misses my mom, of course.
And I want, you know, to have our relationship
to be reconciled,
but I don't know if she's going to really sit there
and listen to what I have to say,
or if she's just gonna deflect
everything like she normally does good feel.
- You good? - I feel, like, it's been,
like, a while. It needs to be done.
- Yep. She's coming today. - Okay.
- Yeah, so...
[hip-hop music]
♪ ♪
How are you?
Welcome to Texas. Glad to see you.
- Hello. - There you go.
- ♪ I'm here to stay ♪
- Are you okay? You want something to drink?
- Am I allowed to drink? - Why are you asking me?
How was your flight?
- Good.
- How's California? How's the weather?
- Not unusual. - Mm-hmm.
But how have you been?
- I'm okay. - Are you crying?
- No.
- Well, we didn't even say anything yet. What's wrong?
- You mad at me? - I'm not mad at you.
We just haven't really talked about anything.
- You sure? - Yeah.
- I don't know.
It's hard to understand you sometime.
- Okay. - I think you heard something,
and I text, and you text me back,
and you said you're not ready to talk to me.
- It was never about the fact that you're gay.
It was just, like, I thought that we had that relationship
where you would tell me those things.
- The moment I tried to--I text you, I tried
to wanna reach out to you, somebody one step ahead of me,
and I'm afraid that you believe.
- She wanted to be the person to tell you...
- Of course, that should have been--
- It came up...
without her. - I understand that.
- I'm sure you was in shock,
and that's why you don't wanna talk to me at that moment.
And so I feel like I'm gonna lose you.
- You felt that way.
I felt that way for like two months.
And I texted you. I said, "I'm here now.
Let's talk." And you ignored me.
I tried, but if you don't wanna, like, take that,
then what am I supposed to do?
Like, sit here and just wait for you?
Like, why did you see that I was hurting too?
- I'm sorry to make you feel that uncomfortable.
To tell you the truth, is I was raised like that,
and that's how I know.
- But we're not in Vietnam anymore.
My mom says she wants to be different
than how she was raised.
And then when she uses that same excuse,
it didn't really feel genuine. I spent a lot of time
trying really hard to make you guys proud,
and I just feel like it never was enough.
But I felt like I couldn't say anything
even though I was trying so hard
to let you live the life that you wanted to live
and not have to make you feel like you
had to be there for me all the time.
And she doesn't realize like
how hard it was when you weren't there.
- I'm sorry. I feel ashamed.
- I don't want you to feel ashamed.
- I was in the dark, and I shut out everything
'cause--but I'm good now.
I wanna live the life that I choose and be proud of it.
And I'm proud of you
no matter who I am or what I do.
I love you so much. Thank you.
- I love you too.
- I'm sorry.
- And she's my mother, and I love her,
but I cannot water my own plant
if I'm constantly worried about watering hers.
I really wanna see how she's gonna act
towards me in the future. I think that's what scares me.
- ♪ You ♪
♪ Cannot hold me back ♪
♪ Long days of darkness ♪
♪ I'm free at last ♪
♪ I won't let you in ♪
♪ And I won't let you win ♪
♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪