Previously on 90 Day, The Single Life...
I still love Natalie, but is she thinking about us
or is she just thinking about herself?
Hi. Hi.
Pray for me.
We're packing up and I'm moving to Canada.
Oh, wow. Seriously?
I didn't think she'd move so quickly with Tony.
Now with the distance between us,
I'm afraid my mother and I will never have a better relationship.
We believe in destiny.
Destiny? Yeah. That's interesting.
..but she's refused all of my help.
I'm constantly worrying about Alona and I feel helpless.
I can't go over there, it's too dangerous.
If she won't even leave Ukraine while they're getting bombed,
then what makes you think
that she'll leave Ukraine and be with you?
(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING)
My head is all over the place right now,
with my situation with Ronald, with leaving my son behind.
This trip really could blow up in my face.
(UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING)
Me and Tiffany have been separated for almost a year,
and it's been a really tough time.
Being separated from Tiffany is really hard, but, you know, er...
Words cannot describe how much I miss my family.
Me and Tiffany's relationship, even though we got separated...
I lose seeing them grow up.
So, from my side I think I will do whatever it takes.
I never would have seen or thought
that I'd be going back to South Africa.
I'm really nervous.
This is gonna be the first time I see Ronald in over a year.
It's gonna be the first time Ronald sees me after losing 75 pounds.
All that's crossing through my mind is I'm gonna get there
and all my feelings for Ronald are gonna come flooding back in
and I'm just gonna have to pretend they're not there.
(INDISTINCT ANNOUNCEMENT)
Hm.
You need my help?
Who's that? Don't say anything, don't say anything,
Who's that?
Carly, who's this?
Who's this?
I love you.
You love him?
What's his name?
Are you shy?
She's being shy.
You look great. Thank you.
Say, mummy, you look so beautiful.
Beautiful.
I feel like my brain is at a million places at once
and it's going like a hundred miles an hour.
It's weird like, seeing someone you haven't seen in so long,
that obviously is somebody you really care about.
I'm potentially walking back into my old relationship
that made me miserable.
(TRANQUIL MUSIC PLAYING)
A lot.
She's out already. Already.
That hasn't changed.
Ronald suggested that I stay at his apartment
to make it easier for Carly.
I'm just really afraid it's gonna be uncomfortable.
All right, we're here.
And Ronald mentioned that he wanted to talk about our relationship
when we got here, but I'm not ready for that.
The garden looks really beautiful. You're really taking good care of it,
and you put up my bird feeder, exactly how I told you to.
OK, here goes nothing.
Look.
Oh. Oh, wow.
Look at the tree. Oh, look at our pictures.
You still have our little- Look, Carly. Who is this?
That's Carly.
That's you.
And there's Dada.
Spending time with my family
for the first time in over a year,
it's something I've been craving and waiting for a long time.
Hi, Charlie. You remember Charlie?
Charlie, Charlie, Charlie.
That's my main goal.
Dada's room is over here.
Wow, you really... Carly, wait.
You re-did the whole thing.
Don't go in with your shoes. No, she can go in.
OK. Yeah, so you see.
I changed the bed.
Changed the sheets.
Changed the cushion.
Changed the whole bed. That's the best I could do.
No, I'm happy with that. I'm really happy.
The whole place looks like a brand new place,
like a completely different place.
Do you think you'll be comfortable living and sleeping in this place?
I can definitely see all the effort you put in,
but that doesn't mean that everything is 100%, you know.
Still, the reason I'm here is so that you can see Carly.
There's some stuff going on between us.
I just wanna make sure that we focus on...
..the important things. Let's not jump into bed together.
No, we're not jumping in, we can climb in slowly.
Don't worry. Jeez, Ronald.
I'm really nervous to let him, like, win me back
or, like, woo me with all these gestures,
because he can that easily hurt me all over again.
So, I'm in a pretty vulnerable place right now.
It's like give me some space to breathe
so that we can figure out what the fuck's going on with us.
I really do appreciate everything you've done to make me comfortable.
But, if I don't set the boundary of saying like, OK,
but first let's make sure we can do the co-parent thing,
before we blur any lines,
because I'm not ready yet.
I'm gonna respect you,
gonna give you your space that you want.
You wanna sleep alone in that bed, it's fine.
I'll sleep on this couch, but just know...
Seeing Ronald after all this time,
reminds me of why I was so attracted to him.
We did have an intense love.
I don't wanna get in bed with Ronald and potentially have sex with Ronald
because Ronald does have a lot to prove.
Here, here,
fast, come, come, come, come, come, come, come, come.
# I felt it coming when you walked in
# That feeling hit me Like a whirlwind
# I push it down Don't wanna show you #
Fee-fi-fo thump.
Hi. Hi.
We're having this beautiful moment
and all of a sudden, Trish walks in.
(CHUCKLES)
Oh, boy.
What a fucking bitch!
Oh, you bought me some flowers to plant? Yes.
Well, thank you, Natalie. How are you? I'm fine. Good.
I'm just disappointed in how this all turned out.
I'm just gonna tell you right out.
I don't like the way things came with you and Michael,
and my question to you would be,
why would you even do this to Michael?
Why did you do this?
(SOMBRE MUSIC PLAYING)
Natalie hurt me. She left me
and, er, I just, kind of like, closed myself off to the world.
And, erm, my mum cannot move past the fact of
the broken heart from her son.
My mum is a tough woman.
She, er, does often speak her mind.
My mum's got questions and it's just a matter of whether
we're gonna get answers or not.
I just don't know
why you would pretend to love somebody
so much that you come over here.
You totally used Michael.
That's all you did, was use him to get to America.
And then still, out of the kindness of his heart,
cos he is such a kind guy,
he still sends $1,000 to your mum and helps her.
I'm good with him helping your mum,
because Michael is such a kind-hearted man...
Michael, yes.
..but you took advantage of all of his kind-heartedness
when it come to you.
You played with somebody else's heart,
somebody else's emotions.
And then the minute you felt like you could run off, you did.
(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING)
I believe whatever she's telling me is not really the truth.
Michael's just a big teddy bear.
And she saw it and took advantage of it.
My son was hurt and that, of course, in turn hurts me.
I mean, come on.
She's just bad news all the way around.
Do you plan on working on a divorce?
What do you mean you don't know? You don't even wanna be here.
How do you not know that you want a divorce or not?
You've been gone for, what, two years?
Why would he want to stay married to you?
You don't act like a wife at all.
Does that make sense?
I mean, a wife usually comes home once in a while,
but you don't. You're gone forever.
You're just gone. I mean, you're out there dating other men.
So, why are you not filing for a divorce,
that's all I'm asking.
Decide whether you're gonna be married or not.
If you're gonna be married then you need to get your ass back here,
and act like a wife. If you're not, you need to file for a divorce.
If Mike want divorce, we divorce.
I mean, you know, I was here,
waiting and waiting and waiting by myself,
you know, and then, like, I find out you're dating.
You're still a married woman and you shouldn't be doing that.
You know, I mean, let's reverse roles.
Let's say I went and dated a bunch of women.
You would get jealous just going to dinner
when I order from the waitress from you,
How would you feel if I went and dated,
you know, five or six different women?
You destroyed us, you know.
(CRYING)
(SIGHS) Come here.
Give me a hug. (CRYING)
(SOBBING)
2 00:15:07.040 -- 00:15:11.000 align:middle line:90% position:50% # Life in motion, drive to the ocean
# Electric eyes paralyse
# In a moment
# Yeah #
Which one is this for?
Oh!
Spikey.
Tony flew in a few days ago to help me finish packing.
We're gonna load my belongings and the cats in the car
and we're gonna drive to Canada.
Last night Tony and I had dinner with Colt and Vanessa
and we broke the news that I'm moving to Canada.
It went really well.
I was really surprised they were very supportive
and they want the best for me.
Deb.
Hello.
I was calling you.
How many walls through?
We have to go and talk to the lawyer. OK.
Tony set up a, a video call,
with the immigration lawyer from Canada
so that he can help us with so many questions that we have.
It takes a lotta legal action.
You have to file papers, you have to, you know, know where,
what you can do, and what you can't do,
and how long you can stay.
So, I have to find out what I need to do,
what he needs to do to make that happen.
(RINGING)
Hello. Hello.
Hi, I'm Ian Goldman. I'm a Canadian immigration lawyer.
Hi I'm Debbie.
Deb is 70 years old.
She's a US citizen.
I asked her, cos we've been dating,
to come up and move in, move to Canada, and move in with me.
Have you lived together for a year already?
No. No, we're just starting.
You can stay for six months, but you can extend it
if you apply.
You have to apply for an extension.
Then you apply for permanent residence.
Our plan is,
I can stay in Canada, six months,
before the six months
you file an extension for another six months.
And after that six months, which is a year,
Tony and I can establish living together for one year,
as common-law.
Thank you for all your information.
It's been great. Now we've got some things to plan
and now we get to finish packing up a house.
OK, bye. Bye. Bye.
(UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING)
Hey. Good morning.
How did you sleep?
Ah, quite all right, and you? How's the bed?
It's really, really good.
Thanks. How was Carly? She was good.
She actually went to the bed in the middle of the night.
Is it? Yeah, she asked me where's Dada.
Why didn't you come to Dada?
She didn't know you were out here, and it was dark.
I got to South Africa last night
and it's crazy being back in Ronald's apartment
after not being here for over a year.
So, what are we doing today?
I'm thinking there's a place called...
OK.
You know, there might be some animals.
Oh, that's a great idea, she'll love that.
Yeah.
I feel like Ronald is trying to pick up where we last left off.
He's also mentioned that he expects us
to have this conversation about our relationship
while I'm here.
I don't know if I wanna have this conversation.
I think I wanna hold off as long as I can,
because I just, I know how it's gonna end up.
I know it's gonna be an argument.
It's nice to be able to go out
and do something with my family again. Yeah.
We flew all this way over here, so it's nice to do something.
Are you ready to see some animals?
Let me see you. You ready?
Oh, my gosh, Carly, look.
Hi, pony.
(CHUCKLES) That was cute.
OK, go.
Look at that, just on the road. What's up guys?
Oh, my gosh, they're so close. I'm gonna pee my pants.
Oh, my God!
Oh, my gosh, slow down, slow down, slow down.
Carly, look at the big chicken.
Look at the big chicken over there.
Damn it, she's strutting.
Oh, here they come. Look, front. The window, the window.
Oh, the ostrich is gonna kick him. So, what's happening?
They're not stampeding.
Oh, my God! Yeah.
Wow, and that ostrich is still running over there.
That was cool.
I see the Ronald I remember, the one that I fell in love with.
And that makes things really confusing
because, you know, it's reminding me how much I do still love him.
And what's the most confusing is,
I'm trying to keep that inside. He's not.
Do you remember the first time
when Daniel was here as well, we also took him to safari?
Just before we got married. Yep.
In the good old days. I remember. Yeah.
It was hot that day.
I got the weirdest sunburn on my wedding,
my wedding day.
I had a off-shoulder dress and I had the weirdest tan line.
Still looked beautiful.
(CHUCKLES)
I definitely miss having these moments with Ronald.
We wanted this.
We wanted this life together.
So, I'm taking in the happy moment,
but I'm also not letting it sway me.
There's a lot under the surface that needs to be addressed.
That was a success then, cos, I mean, she's tired.
Yeah, well, on that note,
how do you feel about talking about us?
Like, about what specifically? Well...
Oh, I mean about us,
in general like, when will I be able to sleep in my own bed,
erm, with you? Erm,
how are we gonna fix things between us?
What's happening with us?
I've been, actually, avoiding having this conversation
because my objective is to make sure that we are able to co-parent
and everything.
How do we raise the kids, co-parenting...
..and I'm not even part of it? I'm not trying to throw the fact
that we might reconcile out the window,
but I don't wanna make the same mistakes
we made the first time.
I'm willing to do what I must to be with my family.
I want it to be back together with my family.
My biggest fear is trying again and failing.
So, that's why I'm like, trying to take baby steps.
And then wanna pull it out, no.
(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING)
Ronald, I want us,
if we work on things, to have a happy marriage,
but I can't make that decision right off the bat.
I can't say, you know what, I haven't seen that anything
that broke us up in the first place has changed.
At the end of the day, we need to find a middle ground, right? Yeah.
I mean, you wanna wait with that,
you wanna see how things go, but then, again, I wanna know now,
what's happening with the relationship.
You need to make a decision.
You are married. I'm married.
So, either we fix this or we don't.
It's not about, let's see how it goes.
No. No, no, no, no...
Yeah.
(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING)
I don't appreciate the pressure that Ronald's putting into like,
jumping head first into a reconciliation.
I want us to both be happy.
And if that's impossible, we can't get back together.
2 00:23:39.040 -- 00:23:42.480 align:middle line:90% position:50% (TRANQUIL MUSIC PLAYING)
We're getting a big old seabass steak ready on here.
The worst chefs in America.
(LAUGHS)
It's been a month since I got back from Ukraine.
Since the Russian invasion,
it makes me really worry that Alona is still there,
and I feel helpless.
What I'm seeing in the news is dangerous.
I mean, there is all these bombings going on.
You don't know where anything's coming from
because they can just be coming from anywhere.
I'll set my table up right here.
Being away from her, it's been hard...
..but I waited so long to find her,
and I'm not gonna give up on the love of my life.
(RINGING)
(LAUGHS)
How are you doing?
I think about you everyday
when I wake up and before I go to sleep. Yeah.
(CHUCKLES)
How are things going over there? Are you doing OK?
I saw on the news Russia's getting worse.
(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING)
Hm.
Mm-hm.
No, I understand.
Hopefully it'll get better over there.
It scares me.
She isn't safe there any more.
I'm wondering like, is she gonna be all right,
you know, will I ever see her again?
I'm constantly worrying about her,
and I'm not gonna give up on my dreams of being together.
I'm really sorry from the bottom of my heart.
I'm hoping that we can start the process
of getting your visa ready.
Would you wanna come to United States?
Er...
(LAUGHS)
I appreciate you taking the time right now to spend time
and for us to talk. I'm just glad to see you,
and I will message you in the morning.
What I learned in this journey was,
you know, you gotta follow your dreams
on finding love.
I risked my savings,
put myself in danger.
Russia planning potential sabotage operations on Ukraine.
I mean, I'm nervous as hell right now,
But I did it for love, and I found somebody.
She is the woman
I've been waiting for my whole life.
(LAUGHS)
Do you wanna be my girlfriend?
Whoa.
(LAUGHS)
I hope the war ends quickly, so Alona and I can be together.
And I'm gonna do everything I can
to get Alona here as soon as possible.
OK, babe, goodnight.
I miss you, OK.
(CHUCKLES)
# Are you keeping it real
# I'm calling shotgun Wanna see my baby
# Oh, what's the word on the scene
# We've been kicking up the dust If you know what I mean
# We got a good thing going on #
OK, that should save the little pussycat.
(GRUNTS)
Garbage.
OK.
I'm a little sore.
Oh, God!
What kinda stuff is here?
Hey, Tony.
Hey, Debbie.
(CHUCKLES)
I'm coming up the stairs.
Oh, God, are you kidding me?
I remembered, you don't have a bunch of stairs, just a few.
(GRUNTS)
The day has finally arrived. We're leaving Las Vegas.
(CHUCKLES)
And we're going to Canada.
I can't believe it's really happening.
I'm really excited.
The hardest part about leaving is uncertainty,
giving up my life.
What's gonna happen six months down the road
if Tony and I are gonna have a big fight
and he says go home?
Hey, Tony, where are you? I'm in the bedroom.
So, it's just the unknown, it's a little frightening.
Mm-hm.
OK, I wanna take this, please.
What is it? It's a kitty cat.
It's my kitty cat. Sure. OK.
We have a ton of stuff to pack still
and there's a lot of cleaning up to do,
but Colt and Vanessa said whatever we leave behind
they'll put in storage.
But I'm really appreciative that Colt offered to do that
because we ran out of time.
Would you like to hold my hand while I sit?
You may never get up again.
(CHUCKLES)
How are you gonna feel though, we're leaving the house?
You've been here for over four years.
Four and a half. So, it's not just,
you know, moving out of a house,
I'm leaving my whole life and,
I raised Colt for 37 years,
and he and I have always been together.
Yep.
It's gonna be totally different. I'm not gonna be close.
I'm not gonna be able- You're not gonna be able to just
jump in the car,
drive a couple of blocks and there you are.
You know, leaving this house is, er...
..weird because we've had really good memories here.
We've had really bad memories here.
Well... We're good. What do you think?
You ready?
Hm.
Oh, come here. It's OK.
It's OK.
(SNIFFLES) It's OK.
You're coming up to a new house,
and you're gonna be with somebody.
(TRANQUIL MUSIC PLAYING)
It's so scary because who does this at 70 years old?
Who gives up their whole life,
their friends, their family, their son, their country.
Oh, God!
Leave everything they have and are basically,
live with a man that I barely know?
Barely know. That is true.
Could end up in your basement or something,
you know, or backyard in a cage. In a dungeon.
(LAUGHS)
(GABBLES)
We're gonna be OK, right?
We're gonna be just fine. No, we are gonna be OK.
I said "we". We.
Yes, "we". We are gonna- We, you and me.
OK. I'll grab a bag for you.
You have to take a chance.
If you feel it right in your heart, you have to go with it.
This can go there.
I'm ready to start my life over with Tony
and I wanna spend whatever time we have left together,
be there for each other.
Perfect. OK.
OK, let's go back in...
..make sure everything's gone.
Wow, what a difference, huh!
I could actually park a car here. Yes.
Ready? OK.
OK.
(SOFT MUSIC PLAYING)
Dear Colt, well, I guess this is really happening.
I'm going to live with Tony in Canada.
We will always be connected,
but now it's time for us to go our own ways.
I have fallen in love with Tony.
He loves me and I love him.
I wish you guys the best.
Please realise I will always be there for you.
It's only a two and a half hour flight.
If you need me, just call.
Leaving Colt
is the second hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life,
after his dad passed away.
He's my son. I mean, he's my baby.
I don't care if he's 36 or 106, he still would be my baby.
I want Colt to know that I love him.
No matter what he does I'm proud of him,
and whatever decisions he makes, I'm behind him 100%.
I'll always be there for you, no matter what.
It really is difficult saying goodbye
to everything I know and love.
I don't know what my life is gonna be,
but you have to move on.
(DOOR CLOSES)
You ready? Yeah.
OK.
I love you. Love you too, dear.
(SOFT MUSIC PLAYING)
A year ago, I would have never even thought about falling in love,
and if I hadn't put myself out there,
I would still be sitting on my bed watching TV.
You gotta take a chance,
and I'm excited that I did, because I'm 70 years old,
I'm moving to a new country, I'm living with him,
we're having sex, we're having a wonderful time.
I mean, we love each other, we cuddle up and we sleep together,
we take walks and it's wonderful.
It's just, don't ever think it's too late,
ever, ever, ever.
It's never too late.
2 00:35:04.040 -- 00:35:05.920 align:middle line:90% position:50% (UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING)
I came to South Africa to bring Carly to her dad,
because he hasn't seen her in over a year,
and Ronald's been
trying to get me to talk about our relationship.
But if this conversation makes everything explode,
am I supposed to just stay here?
I just got your coffee here. Thank you.
Why are you acting weird all of a sudden?
I just don't understand what you mean I'm acting weird,
because...
You are here, she's here.
Daniel just needs to come here.
It's what I wanted.
I mean, besides me sleeping on the couch.
But that's why I wanna fix things, so.
I can't fix it if there's things still unsaid.
It's just a fucking hard conversation to have.
Like, I think in my mind,
even though I know it needs to happen,
I'm trying everything possible to avoid the conversation,
just because I don't wanna fight, get into an argument,
I don't get what you're saying cos...
Things that we did in the past, that hurt the other one, that...
We must just say it and get it off our chest...
..you know.
Like, I realise that I have...
If I decide to stay with you, I have to let go of the past
and not bring it back up, cos that's gonna break us apart.
If we are gonna work on this this time,
there's still a lot more that we need to talk about,
but I can tell you that I did go on dates,
and I fucking regret it.
Fair enough, we were separated.
(SOMBRE MUSIC PLAYING)
After going on a few dates,
I realised I wanted to force myself to move on.
I can't really open myself up to anyone
until I fully decide am I closing this door
or am I gonna work at it?
Going on dates with other people
made me realise how much I do love you.
And how much, at the end of the day,
and at the end of date, at the end of everything,
all that was running through my mind was that I do love my husband.
I only love you, and there's still so much from me here.
If that is the case,
which I hope it is...
OK?
(CRIES)
It's OK.
It's OK. It's OK. It's OK.
(SOBBING)
It's OK.
Me and Tiffany has had so many problems in the past,
but I'm pretty sure that we can save this thing.
Take it easy, take a breath, it's gonna be OK.
I'm trying to do what's best for all of us,
because I would love a happy family altogether.
I do love Ronald a lot,
but, like, he has hurt me in the past,
he has lied to me in the past.
And my biggest fear's that Ronald won't be able to change,
and that'll be the end of us.
# Just a kiss too late Same old tired mistakes
# Couldn't take the weight
# Any longer
# I'm a shadow gone
# Now your light's turned off
# It's our favourite song #
(SOBBING)
Natalie crying...
..it's very heart-wrenching, it's gut-wrenching, it's...
There is definitely just a lot of emotions
that I'm trying to process.
She just really genuinely apologised
and I am very grateful for that,
but does that mean I'm gonna take her back tomorrow?
I mean, I don't know,
I don't know.
All right, let's just take it down a notch here.
Wanna go outside and get some air? Mm-hm.
(SIGHS)
I remember me coming to Sequim,
it was not what I expected.
I want to come back.
Nothing,
I can't.
I don't think he's sure yet
if he wants to come back to me or something
because he been in a lot of pain,
but Michael, he cares a lot for me, and I know it.
No matter what, Michael...
I'm mad at him sometimes, I want to kill him
but, at the end of the day, I know he's a good guy.
Did you get your passport and stuff, the one I gave you?
Yeah. All right.
OK, I'm going. I'm sorry.
Take care of yourself. Take care. I hope your mum gets here OK.
OK, let's go.
# Someday you're gonna Come out of this so beautiful
Look, she comes to you. She loves you.
# It's like a butterfly Rising out in the wind
# Who said it was always gonna be...
# Who said that there was Never gonna be no pain
Safe travels home, OK?
# Here's a lullaby flowing...
Bye, Trish. God bless you.
# When you found your wings Then your life begins
Bye.
When I got married to Michael and said my vows,
I never thought that my journey would be so strange.
Love, it's a constant choice that you make,
and you have to know exactly what you want.
She does have regrets,
but I'm not gonna put myself in a situation
where I give her my heart again and she just rips it back out, so...
Erm...
# Swim against the tide Won't do what I'm told
# Back in the rain
# Cos I'm taking home gold tonight #