- ♪♪ MTV ♪♪
- Previously on "Couples Retreat"...
- Oh, what the hell?
- Oh, oh, oh!
- Welcome to our dungeon.
- I'm trying to get back to the room.
- Yes.
- Today had me feeling kind of sexy
with the little spice added.
- Get ready.
- The whup on the booty with that paddle.
Like, hmm, this is what we been missing.
[cheers and applause]
- The way you wanted the older, past relationships
to treat you--
- Mm-hmm.
- --that's how you should treat him.
Ease up a little bit.
- Joc told you he had a baby with another woman.
- I'm still triggered by it.
- You're too good to let the world
and the media continue to toxify
what you're trying to have.
- People look at our situation and think it's,
like, too good to be true.
We've already been through the craziness.
You got it, girl.
- I've always struggle with anxiety.
I'm so scared.
- It's OK.
I'm always down to improve and elevate our situation.
- Yeah.
- But I'm tired.
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
♪♪ ♪♪
- ♪♪ Is this the lifestyle of the rich and famous ♪♪
♪♪ Rich and famous? ♪♪
♪♪ Pull up in foreign, head straight to VIP ♪♪
- "If you both were trapped in the desert--
- Or an isolated island, who do you--
- Think would survive?"
- You're a techie.
I'm an animals person in nature.
- How are you gonna build a house?
How are you gonna do these things?
You talking to animals, that's not gonna help.
- [laughs]
- We'd both survive it. - We good.
- We could build sand castles and some mo' [bleep].
- Oh, yeah. - I done caught sardines.
- I know how to make a fire. - Yeah.
- And I'll eat some leaves.
I ain't tripping. - Yeah.
- We'll figure it out. - One of us.
Only one of us can survive. - Only one of us can survive?
- We got to pick one.
- I'm gonna sacrifice, you know, so that you can survive.
Like, honestly, I don't know if you feel the same way.
- I'm younger.
- [laughs]
- I'm the mom.
[laughs]
- What's that got--
- The kids love me, you know?
So I need to be the one to live.
- This is some bull[bleep] right here, man.
- [laughs] - Hold on.
Another question that's out of here.
- [laughs]
[light music]
- ♪♪ It's somebody, not just anybody ♪♪
♪♪ You ain't trying to be nobody else but you ♪♪
♪♪ That's why I really don't mind ♪♪
♪♪ Spending all my time with you ♪♪
- Last night was fun, and it definitely
was a reminder of how it felt when we first started dating.
- I want you to kiss like it's your last kiss.
- Like "Titanic" it.
Oh, look at the tongue.
- More tongue wrestling.
- That kiss was like we were like Jack and Rose
on the "Titanic."
It's just, the difference was I just didn't
throw your ass overboard, so--
- Damn.
- [laughs]
- What's really interesting, since we've been here,
we really haven't, like, had enough time to just, like,
reflect on everything we learning while we're here.
What do you think you're taking away from this?
- I'm learning, in my opinion, how to communicate
unpleasant things better.
I'm owning my irritability.
I don't want to be that way.
I'm not proud of some of the ways
that I've reacted and acted with Jasiel on this trip.
Sometimes the [bleep] that you do
is a [bleep] embarrassment to me, [bleep].
And it's important for me to actually take
some accountability for my actions.
One of my goals being here is to learn
how to identify certain things, whether it's
a trigger, a topic that, you know,
can easily turn into an argument or a yelling match,
but finding a way to still express myself
but to do it with tact in a respectful way,
especially after our two-on-one with AJ.
- You married him.
You said last night you gonna stay with him.
So now let's design what that really
looks like as opposed to feeling
attacked and triggered and--
especially if it's not new.
- It made me say, OK, because I made that choice
to stay and continue to work towards marriage, it's like,
I'm not able to just jump out of bag and just be all irate.
It's like, I have to find some type of compromise, period.
I read this post today.
It said, you got to take responsibility
for your triggers.
That's your problem.
And so, that's what I'm working on doing better.
- And I'm not gonna let you trigger me.
I won't allow me to be triggered any longer.
- OK.
- 'Cause sometimes, in a relationship,
you feel like you know better.
So when you make me feel like this,
I have to last shot and make you feel the same way.
And then it builds up.
And then y'all looking at each other like,
well, why are we together?
I don't want to get to that space with you.
- I don't want to get there, neither.
- I will say, I am proud of you taking accountability.
And I really figured out if I know it's a trigger,
I probably shouldn't say it or do it.
- This has just been the--
the most different Vegas trip.
- I think we should.
- Yep.
I think I been losing weight out here, too.
I'm happier.
- I thought I was until I put on that damn bodysuit.
[laughter]
[upbeat music]
- So I am seeing the headlines
about Simon and Portia getting married.
It's just retraumatizing every time I see it.
I'm truly just over it all.
It's just been really hard on Jaylan.
Everyone is comparing Jaylan to this 60-year-old man.
And it makes him feel insecure with, you know,
all the comments and the blogs.
And he pressure is real.
- ♪♪ It takes two to tango ♪♪
♪♪ Like lead and follow ♪♪
♪♪ Like day and nighttime, today or tomorrow ♪♪
- Hi, beautiful.
- Hey, come on in.
- You look so beautiful. - How are you?
- What's up? - Craziness.
- [laughs]
- While I've witnessed Bre-Z and Chris
in their codependency, I'm really,
really excited to see Bre-Z open up a little bit
and let Chris fly, literally.
Chris is embracing a little bit more independence.
We've got a few more days.
I want to see if they're gonna open up and tell
me more how I can help.
Your son is 11?
both: Mm-hmm.
- How's your son in your relationship?
- He loves it.
The moment--
- He thought I was a boy.
- Yeah.
- Did he?
- For a few-- few months.
- For a few months.
He thought I was the coolest guy
he had ever met in his life.
- Yeah, we went bowling, and then I said,
did you have a good time with her?
He's walking.
He said, wait, her?
I said, yeah.
Bre-Z is a girl.
He said, what?
And then he said, well, she's cool.
I mean, if she makes you happy, Mommy, I mean, I'm happy.
- So is this your first relationship with a woman?
- Mm-hmm.
- It is?
- Mm-hmm.
We became friends, and she was just so nurturing,
there, just there and--
- Attentive.
- --attentive.
I saw what she goes through with friends and people,
and I wanted to give her that extra love that was needed.
I just felt it in my heart.
I feel like I always see Bre-Z pour into so many people
and give so much to people, whether it's her time, advice.
And it's a lot.
It could be a lot for somebody who
feels so deeply the way she does,
because she cares so much.
- I tell her all the time, I have this need to--
- Yeah, help everybody.
- --help, to heal.
It's a strong thing that's been in me since a little girl,
and it's completely exhausting me.
My level of compassion, the desire to help
has been there since a young age.
My dad was absent.
He's present now, but I didn't know what that looked like.
- Right.
- So I looked at everything I didn't
like and did the opposite.
- Mm.
- When you're growing up with a single parent
and you know that there's something missing,
I just felt like my mom needed the help.
Somebody's got to be there.
But I can't tell you the amount of [bleep]
I done been through trying to please people.
When it comes to my relationship and my family,
the family that we are building,
- Building, mm-hmm. - I realized that I'll spend--
I'll have a cape on throughout the whole day.
And I get back home, and I have nothing for my family.
- Mm.
- I didn't realize how much it was-- it was-- it was--
it was emptying me out.
I didn't know.
- Ah.
I really love the fact that Bre-Z opened up with me.
This reveal of her needing to help everyone, and-- and heal
everyone, and carry everyone's burden,
that's a lot of pressure.
Maybe it's not necessary, especially if it
affects her relationship.
You're a powerhouse, and I can see where it'd be
easy to succumb to your power.
- Mm-hmm.
- It's easy to be the lesser communicator
because you've got so much of this power around you.
- But I relinquish it at times when I know she needs it.
- But, see, even still, that's-- that's your power
giving her permission. - Oh, well, yeah.
- You feel me?
- When you put it like that, yeah.
- Yeah. - It's still your power.
- Right.
- And I never try to--
I never look at it like that.
- Hmm. - Hmm.
- Because, honestly, you can't be afraid any longer
to let me push you.
When I saw something, I said, I wonder
if this is an issue for you.
- That's because I felt like you pried it out of me.
- Do you feel like it's something
she's never discussed with me?
- Well, I didn't know.
- That [bleep] almost set me off.
- Because now, hopefully, you know
I'm only pushing you to your better, and it's from love.
- Mm-hmm. - You know what I mean?
- Right, right.
- So now maybe you can walk in a spirit and an energy
of not feeling like a target, but asking for the push.
- Yeah.
[upbeat music]
♪♪ ♪♪
[alarm blaring]
- Yo, you guys, what's going on?
I don't know what to do right now.
It's like...
[upbeat music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- It's a mayday situation.
- Yo, it's a mayday situation.
- So I have to look good for it.
- They actually sounded the [bleep] alarm
because everybody's running so late.
♪♪ ♪♪
- Where your hands going?
- My hands? Ooh.
- Blew it. She ruined it.
- No.
- ♪♪ I'm gonna get my money ♪♪
♪♪ Let's go ♪♪
♪♪ I'm gonna hype this ting then roll ♪♪
♪♪ We be the baddest, the baddest, for sho' ♪♪
- Let's go on another adventure!
[cheers and applause]
- Yes. - Which way?
Which way? - To the white bus.
- There's so much to drink.
[cheers and applause]
- Hey! - What up?
What up? What up?
- Hey, y'all.
- Y'all look like a Reese's cup.
- Aw.
- Isn't it so cute?
You guys are like conjoined.
- A Reese's cup.
- Even though I saw the headline about Simon
this morning, I'm gonna enjoy my time with Jaylan,
and we are gonna have fun,
one thing that I did not do in my previous relationship.
All right, y'all, it's shot o'clock!
- Yes!
[cheers and applause]
- Hey, hey, hey, shot o'clock.
- All right, y'all, shots up.
- Let's go. - Couples retreat.
[all shouting]
- All right, so who all had sex last night?
Raise your hand.
- Oh, that's good.
- I said after that exercise that it was gonna be you two.
[funky music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Ooh!
- Yes, we definitely got up in there.
The flame is lit in our relationship again,
and I think it was that paddle.
- Yeah, when you paddled me.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
It was good to embrace the shower
and then take it to the bedroom and everywhere else
we ended up that night.
- What the [bleep] is this?
Like, what the [bleep] are we doing, bro?
Where the hell are we?
- What are these stones everywhere?
And why is AJ and Tony looking at us like that?
I feel like they're gonna sacrifice us.
- I need another bottle.
- Coming up on "Couples Retreat..."
I am the king of the jungle.
You stay right there.
I'll go do the hunting.
- You idiot.
This is just like our love.
- Come on now.
- I am a shamanic practitioner psychic medium.
[growls]
[clicks tongue]
[drum thumping]
- I--I don't know.
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
[upbeat music]
- ♪♪ We party up ♪♪
♪♪ ♪♪
♪♪ We party up ♪♪
- What the [bleep] is this?
What the [bleep] are we doing, bro?
Look, I hope this doesn't spark another fear
because riding horses--
Oh, [bleep].
--jumping off high [bleep]--
No, I can't do it.
I can't do it.
--I can't take this no more.
I'm done.
I'm ready to go to the hotel and get my freak on, yeah.
- Oh, mad [bleep] is out here, you guys.
- Ew, I see it.
Ugh. - [bleep in various places.
- Oh, they everywhere, y'all.
- Shamari, what you complaining about already?
What? - It's [bleep] everywhere.
- [bleep].
- Exactly, in your relationship, too.
Come on over.
[together] Oh!
- AJ, hold on.
That was a great metaphor.
I love it.
Yo, I embrace it.
- I want you to say hi to-- well, we
call him the Black MacGyver.
This is Hakim.
- Hey, what's up?
How are you guys doing?
- What up?
- Hakim has a really interesting perspective
on healing in the wilderness.
And so we wanted to get you outside to learn a little bit
about the elements inside you that
have to be on point before you can have
a successful relationship.
- Before we had the nice houses and the fancy cars, like,
everything was outdoors.
And outdoors, you can find all these different lessons
that are gonna help you build and thrive.
So we're gonna work on that today.
When I was out naked in the wilderness living
on a mountain, one of the things that I figured out
was that all those distractions really keep you from paying
attention to what's important.
- Y'all don't hear this man?
What happened now?
My boy, hold up, hold up, hold up.
This dude, Hakim, sound like he on some
"Naked and Afraid" type [bleep], man.
- [laughs]
- All right, so bring it in, guys.
We're gonna first start with fire.
It takes three things to build a fire.
First, you need heat.
Then, you need oxygen and fuel.
So if you think about the heat, if you think about that
in your passion and in your relationship,
you started off very passionate.
Then, you added a little oxygen. You started to grow.
But now you're getting to a stage where you're like, well,
we need more fuel.
We need to add to this in order to keep it growing.
So, everybody, I want you to pick up this right here.
You all have one match.
We're gonna do the ten-minute fire drill.
And what's gonna happen is this is all you have.
This is a Strike Anywhere match.
- This match look like a corn dog.
- [laughs] Go out and collect the materials
we need to start a fire.
We have ten minutes to do that.
I'm gonna give you guys one minute
each to light your fire.
One match, that's all you get.
- One match.
- How the hell am I gonna light up this-- this pit?
- I mean, I hate to sound spoiled,
but can we get a lighter?
- Go!
- ♪♪ Won't stop ♪♪
♪♪ Can't stop, won't stop ♪♪
- Bre-Z is gone.
- She was shot out of a damn cannon.
What is going on?
Where is she running to?
- We're like, what is this, a competition?
- Hey, baby, do not split up.
It's tigers in here.
- So get these smalls sticks, baby.
- Those aren't really--
I guess.
- Baby, they're easy to get-- like, catch fire.
- How do you know?
- Baby. - Baby, you got it?
You good?
- Yep.
- I'm excited to-- to do this.
I used to go camping all the time with Girl Scouts.
- I don't have a clue.
I actually just enjoyed running and playing in the dirt.
- Yeah, me, too. - So I think--
I'm like, stay out of my way, because I'm going for it.
- Yeah, you're going for it.
- Five minutes left.
- You got to get the stuff that's like hay.
See this?
- Mm-hmm.
- I am the king of the jungle.
You stay right there.
I'll go do the hunting.
I'm the brains of the [bleep] operation anyway.
Being outside in the wilderness,
it really give me that vibe of Mufasa,
and I'm the king of the jungle.
Rawr.
- Stop.
- We know what we looking for.
And they trying to figure it out.
- Trying to find more dry stuff.
- This is all dry, babe.
- See the difference?
- Yeah, thank you.
- All right, you hold it.
I step on it.
- Both of them?
- He's listening to what I have to say,
and he's not combative.
Yes, teamwork.
His guards are down, and we're working together as a team.
- Time's up.
Back at your station.
- So here we go.
One minute to start a fire with that one match.
So I'm gonna go with Joc first.
Light it.
- ♪♪ I'm on fire ♪♪
♪♪ Yeah, I'm on fire ♪♪
♪♪ And I'm hot, hot, I'm on fire ♪♪
- Get it lit.
Get it lit.
- Baby, this stick right here, baby.
Right here.
That one is good.
Oh, yeah, we got us a fire.
I think it's very, very sexy that my husband
was able to light this fire.
And because of that, I know that we
are not gonna freeze out here.
We lit.
- Good job.
- It feels like a symbol of our new flame,
you know, rekindling our fire.
- Feed it with the dry stuff, guys.
Did you light it?
- And time. - It's going out.
- Good try, good try. - You idiot.
- Moving down the line. - Hey, hey, hey.
- This is just like our love.
- Words of affirmation, words of support.
I'm really disappointed that there's a slippage
back into the disrespect.
They've been connecting so much better in the retreat
that calling Jaylan an idiot, in front of people as well,
would not have been what happened.
And I saw the hurt on his face.
I felt the hurt for him when she said it.
We just got to keep working.
- Yep, you doing that.
Keep it going.
- Make sure that dry is getting lit.
- Yeah.
- Oh, man.
- And time.
Good try, good try.
Moving on.
- The match broke. Look.
- Protect the match. - Adversity.
The match broke.
- You get one match, guys.
- Oh, yes.
[upbeat music]
- ♪♪ Show up, show up ♪♪
♪♪ We don't hold down ♪♪
- Ooh, look at it.
Yes, babe, look.
- Success, success.
[cheers and applause]
- Right there.
- Yes.
- Right there.
- We ended up using that broke match lighting the fire.
We come from a place of brokenness,
and now all we had to do was put in the work to fix it.
- That's what I'm talking about!
- Good job, good job.
Good job, good job.
- Nice.
- I didn't give two [bleep] about this [bleep]
exercise, [bleep].
- Falynn and Jaylan, what happened?
- He's a little upset.
- Why are you upset?
You don't know why you're upset?
I saw your response, and I saw your disappointment
in yourself when Falynn called you an idiot.
- Oh, I was just kidding.
- I know you are.
- That's something to work on, Falynn.
Words have power.
50% of every joke has truth to it.
So a part of you feels that.
- No, not at all, no, no, no.
- Coming up on "Couples Retreat..."
- How's everybody feeling about this project?
- She don't like it.
- What do you not like about it?
- She wanted an arch breezeway.
- Chris?
- I feel like I failed.
It's just--
- Falynn, I think you ought to be careful with that.
- It hurts me the most.
- I know if I don't work on myself and get past the pain,
Jaylan is not going to want to get married.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
[upbeat music]
- Falynn and Jaylan, I saw your response,
and I saw your disappointment in yourself when
Falynn called you an idiot.
- Oh, I was just kidding.
- 50% of every joke has truth to it.
So a part of you feels that--
- No.
- --for you be able to say it.
- Not all, no, no.
I think he's the smartest person I've ever met.
- Well, you should say that instead of saying "idiot."
- Yeah. - Because words have an anchor.
[gentle music]
- I think they're having a moment right now.
♪♪ ♪♪
- I feel absolutely horrible about making
Jaylan feel the way that I did when I called him an idiot.
I have been hiding from the world
and myself my struggles with my ex-husband.
And I'm sitting here trying to regulate all of these emotions
throughout the days, but Jaylan should have never gotten
the brunt of my emotions.
You want a minute?
- What are you guys-- what are you guys talking about?
What are you feeling right now?
- I feel like I failed.
It's just--
- I've been you before, Jaylan.
Falynn, where you're kidding with him, this man,
he's the youngest person here.
- So everybody else, all they heard is idiot.
- I think you ought to be careful with that--
- Yeah.
- --from a bro to a sis, because when I heard it,
I was just like, oh, Falynn, don't do my boy like that.
Even though I felt like you was just talking [bleep],
but he internalizing it.
And it's clear right now.
You know what I'm saying?
- And it just me realizing that I didn't have a father to show
me how to do this [bleep].
It hurts me the most.
- Can we give you a hug, brother, just as men?
Ronnie, you'll help me out?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, for sho', man.
♪♪ ♪♪
- I need some time, y'all.
- I'll be all right.
♪♪ ♪♪
I can't control my emotions.
This is me.
This is legit, Jaylan, like, the person
that I hide from everybody that just
sees a smile on my face 24/7.
I'm actually trying to use this
as a growth experience,
but I know now that Falynn
does need to be more respectful.
It's not about failing.
Failing, yeah, OK, I'm upset that I didn't do what I--
I didn't accomplish what the mission was,
but it just made me realize I didn't have my dad to show
me how to do that stuff.
So me, I'm just going based off what I think
might be what I need to start that fire.
And again, I failed.
- Just be careful and remember in these tender
times of healing and learning who he is
and learning how to love himself
despite the father situation, your words are so powerful.
- Right.
And then that's another thing, right?
I was just kidding. - I know you were.
- I didn't think I was-- - I know you were.
- --hurting him. - I know you were.
I know you were.
- You did amazing.
You did amazing with that, and you're doing amazing in life.
Don't beat yourself up.
You way further than I was at 23.
So every step, it's a victory.
- But remember, he's gotta--
he's gotta heal, and he's learning, right?
- Yeah.
- So-- so because you don't know what hurts,
keep it positive.
Keep it positive. Keep it fueled.
Keep it love. - Right.
- You know what I mean?
Because you're not gonna know.
- I have to be honest, at this point,
I really thought that Jaylan and I would be married by now.
I know if I don't work on myself
and get past the pain from Simon,
Jaylan is not gonna want to get married.
- ♪♪ Where would be today ♪♪
♪♪ If I hadn't asked for more? ♪♪
- Being with Falynn, I already have this image of little boy.
And I'm trying to show myself that I am a man.
And for Falynn to talk to me in that manner, it's--
it just doesn't-- it doesn't fly with me.
So even though we are engaged, there's some things
that I need to think about.
I don't want to sign a piece of paper
and sign my whole life away if it's not gonna last.
♪♪ ♪♪
- Coming up on "Couples Retreat..."
- All right, teamwork.
- I just love watching your excitement.
It's turning me on, baby.
Hurry up and make this tepee so we can hide in it.
- See how it's going this way, Bre-Z?
- Like that. - Turn it around.
It will be a wall.
- So that's what I wanted to do initially,
but I tried her way.
[dramatic music]
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
[upbeat funky music]
- All right, so did we all have good breakthroughs
with that particular drill and skill?
- Yes, yes.
- Raise your hand if you felt you had a breakthrough.
- Yes, yes, yes.
- I'm really surprised that so many people are thriving
in this make-fire exercise.
Now, not everybody's good at it,
but I love the support they're giving
each other in couples as well as in the new friendships.
I like this. This is good.
- So now what we're gonna be doing is
we're gonna be moving into shelter.
So what's more important?
Is if fire or shelter?
Somebody tell me that.
- Fire.
- All right, so-- so here's the deal.
Man lived for hundreds of thousands of years
without fire.
You can last only about three hours of exposure to the sun,
to the cold if you don't have a shelter.
When you talk about building a relationship,
you're talking about coming together
to build a home for you and your significant other.
How do we do that together?
And that's what this next drill is about.
We're gonna be building shelters.
You got some sticks in front of you.
Then you have a tarp.
And once you get it to a nice little enclosure,
you can put the tarp on it to make
sure that it's waterproof.
15 minutes to build the best shelter you can
that can stand up and won't fall over you.
- Go! - Let's go!
Let's go!
- All right, let's go, baby.
- 1, 2, 3.
- All right, teamwork.
- I just love watching your excitement.
It's turning me on, baby.
Hurry up and make this tepee so we can hide in it.
Start at the tip and just wrap it around.
Remember, like, how they bond-- bondaged us.
- [chuckles]
- We got this.
We got this, baby.
- Hey, you're doing a great job back there, Shamizzle.
- Everybody's looking good. Let's go.
- Pull it that way.
Keep pulling.
- Good job, baby.
- Look at this mansion.
- Yeah.
- My man.
- Go big or go home.
- That's enough room for a family.
- Right. Eight kids, right?
- Well, there you go.
- There's looks like "The Blair Witch Project."
- Seven minutes, guys.
- Baby, I got a couch.
- Turn this way.
- Where you want it?
- Turn it around.
We gonna go here.
- See how it's going this way, Bre-Z?
- Oh, like, coming like that?
- Turn it around and more like this.
So it will be your wall.
- That's what I wanted to do initially,
but I tried her way to see what she's saying.
Chris watches HGTV all day.
This was her task.
- I love home improvements.
I just want to make sure our structure is good,
the foundation.
- You need good bones.
- Yeah, bones, that's a good word.
- Four minutes, guys.
- Man, our opening is kind of wide.
- We got our [bleep] spacious.
- Sherien?
- Yeah, how can I help you, sir?
- I guess sometimes--
- You're supposed to knock before you come in.
- --I guess sometimes Apollo's assertiveness pays off.
- Yeah, it does.
This pays off.
- Well, look, where's the front?
How are we--
- This is our front.
We just got to make it tight, man.
- OK.
- Let's take a nap while everybody's still working.
This is literally like us at our best, you know?
He's listening to even what I have to say
and the questions that I have,
and we're working together as a team.
Although he has taken the lead on this one
because he's more experienced, the communication
made a huge difference.
He's making a change.
And I'm happy.
- Time!
- Hey, look at all this shelter we got.
[laughs]
- How's everybody feeling about this project?
- She don't like it.
- What do you not like about it?
- The decoration.
She wanted an arch breezeway.
- Chris?
- No, it's just that I thought maybe
our tarp was positioned the wrong way.
- The tarp's not the cover you want?
- Yes.
- She do the same thing with the comforter on the bed.
- She did it the long way one day.
I said, no, no, no, it needs to be
this way because she pulls all the covers
by the end of the night.
- I'm really proud of Bre-Z for giving Chris a chance
to step forward and have a voice.
It doesn't matter that Chris' instructions were wrong.
What matters is that Bre-Z let Chris have a voice.
That's where the new and improved relationship lives.
- All right, so let me tell you guys how proud I am of you.
This is not something that everybody can do.
The process of starting a fire and going out into the bush
and grabbing stuff is really challenging for people.
These exercises brought out a lot in you today,
but it doesn't matter if you don't hold on to them.
- After learning a lot from this exercise,
I'm gonna choose to keep elevating Jaylan as a man
and as he continues to grow.
So I'm gonna do better with thinking before I speak.
- On those times where things get a little bit difficult,
start thinking about how we were able to piece things
together with nothing, how we were able to make
it work, right?
- Yes.
- And that's what I'd like to leave you guys with.
- Thank you. [applause]
- You're amazing.
- ♪♪ Let me tell you something ♪♪
♪♪ Let me tell you something ♪♪
♪♪ You're everything to me ♪♪
♪♪ And you don't owe me nothing ♪♪
- I cracked my toes.
- And they still cold?
- Not even knowing that I would crack them.
[laughs]
- I actually felt good because I feel
like I'm getting somewhere.
I feel like I'm finding my voice that you know I've
always, like, struggled with.
- You've just got to get in the habit of speaking your mind.
- If I say the wrong thing, I don't
want it to come out hurtful.
- You can't control people, but if they gonna feel a way,
they gonna feel a way. - See, and that's the thing.
I care too much.
- I care a lot, too.
I think that Chris should be speaking up
for herself regardless, whether I'm there or not.
It's a part of setting boundary and loving yourself.
But I naturally look to protect and provide.
It's kind of hard to change how you've always been.
There is a strong fulfillment in making people feel good
and making people happy or seeing smiles on they face.
So I think by nature, that's just--
that's-- that's who I've been.
I don't think that's gonna change.
I got you something.
- What you got? - I got you something.
You gotta close your eyes. I got you something.
- You did not get me something.
- I did get you something.
Close your eyes.
Coming into this retreat, I knew that it was gonna
be a challenge for Chris.
So to see her, you know, push through and kind of,
like, you know, put some air in her chest was,
like, a proud moment for me.
- I'm nervous.
- You should be.
- [laughs]
- OK, open them.
- Aw.
Really?
Thanks, baby.
- A little appreciation gift, because you're doing great.
You're doing so good.
- Thank you.
- I hope you know that. - Thank you.
- [indistinct].
- Yeah, I love you.
- Thank you.
I love you.
- Coming up on "Couples Retreat..."
- Just my interactions with people,
it's like automatically unknowingly
carrying their burdens.
- It's because you're a natural healer.
It's heavy.
- Mm-hmm.
- Your ancestors are calling you in a big way.
[dramatic music]
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
[funky music]
- After Falynn called me an idiot, like,
I feel like as if we go back home that it's
gonna be the same pattern.
Like, I feel like nothing's gonna change at all.
I can't even think about getting married right now.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- So gorgeous.
- Hello, hello, hello.
- This is so beautiful.
- Find a spot.
- Oh, we have to sit right here?
- I'm gonna take my shoes off.
- What's going on here?
- I don't know, but I'm really feeling it.
It's just calming, and it's soothing.
- Yes.
- And I'm ready.
- When we started this retreat, we talked about vows
that may be broken.
So now we work on ones that we can move forward with.
And that's what we sit down tomorrow to do.
So in this healing session, the whole point
is to introduce new tactics and tools and ways
to just ground yourself.
I just want you to be open to the possibility
that there's so much that you can embrace healing from.
So that's what tonight is about.
Can you believe enough in the healing
and not focus on the trauma?
I'm completely open to explore whatever healing
is going to penetrate someone.
I want to introduce you to Jen Heartfire,
who is a brilliantly talented healer, energy-shifter.
These couples have issues and trauma
that I feel go so far back, I felt like it would be
a great idea to have Jen, a shamanic healer,
do an exercise with us so that we could see if we open
ourselves up, could the issue be healed by going
back into our ancestral space?
We'll see.
- Hi, everybody.
[together] Hello.
- It's an honor to be here with you today.
I am a shamanic practitioner, a psychic medium.
What a shaman is, is somebody who
walks in between the worlds.
- What the hell does she mean, walking through worlds?
Like, is we getting on a spaceship?
What in "The Fifth Element" is going on here?
- So we're gonna call in our ancestors
to assist us in this process.
[drum thumping]
Winds of the south, great serpent, sacho mama,
wrap your coils of light around us.
Help us to shed our skins the way you shed yours.
Otorongo, jaguar.
[growls]
Help us to shred through what no longer serves.
Help us to let go of the shame, blame,
trauma, drama, guilt, fear, or any other lower vibration.
Winds of the north, Siwar Q'enti,
royal hummingbird... [clicks tongue]
We invite our ancestors, our angels.
We are so honored.
Thank you for joining us here today.
Aho.
- Oh, is this Hypnotherapy 2.0?
[drum thumping]
I don't know. I don't know.
[dramatic music]
[Mary J Blige's "Real Love"]
[tense music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Our intention today is to move forward
in all areas of our life so that we
can choose to end suffering for myself
and for others around me.
- I choose to end my suffering, wow.
- If we're tired all the time, if our thoughts
are going negative, if we're picking up
an addiction like a cigarette, or alcohol,
or whatever it is to numb the pain or the stress level,
if we're snapping at people, if we're running away
in some way, shape, or form,
that's when we're not addressing
whatever it is deep down.
- Whew.
It is something that needs to be heard right in this moment.
- Can we take a second and just say
a portal that you're aware of that you
open, allowing that energy?
- I let a lot of stress get to me, and I let the--
I let the past events that happened in my life
with people, like, just affect me sometimes.
Like, I got to--
I got to learn how to, you know, like, forget about it
and leave it alone.
I'm glad that I could get down with this healing work,
you know, to find some closure from my past, you know,
because this is a way to release some things
that I've been feeling.
So it's definitely a big help.
- Who else?
- The interaction with individuals,
like, taking on some-- like, some of their burdens.
You know how people come to you for advice,
but it's more so not on a positive note.
It could be more so, like, negative.
Once I step away sometimes, you be like, man,
that was draining.
You know, like, it sucked the energy,
you know, out of me, so--
- Mm.
- I agree with Apollo 100%.
That was what I was gonna say.
- Yeah?
- Yeah, just my interactions with people,
it's like automatically unknowingly
carrying their burdens.
- I want to address what you two are saying about people
coming to you and unloading, it's because you're
a natural healer, and it's learning
to put boundaries on who and what gets
to be unloaded in your field.
- Mm, that's the hardest part.
- Yeah.
If it's pulling you down,
that's a negative, toxic energy trying to vampire your light.
- Now I'm realizing how draining it is to me.
This is costing me too much, you know,
because then I go to work--
I go to work, and I can't perform.
To constantly worry about other people,
there's a level of exhaustion that is uncomprehendable.
That's not a good place to be in.
- It's heavy.
Your ancestors are calling you in a big way,
but it's your choice whether you
want to dig into that deep suffering of your own
so that you can serve others out of their suffering.
But you've got to learn the boundaries
♪♪ ♪♪
Because you're just so loving.
You have so much love to give.
But it's got to come back to you first.
♪♪ ♪♪
- Next time on the season finale of "Couples Retreat..."
- Can I say something?
- Yes!
- So I can be transparent?
I don't want nobody to be thinking
I'm shady, no kind of way.
- So we made it to our final day of the retreat.
- We're going to release the thing
that has plagued you the most.
- I'm releasing evil demons I be fighting.
- I don't know if his ass needed a couples
retreat or an exorcism.
- This is the most serious part of the retreat.
- Your new vows.
- I feel like if I don't love myself,
I'm not gonna know how to love you.
- I've never said this out loud,
so it's actually hard for me to say.
But I'm sorry.
I never meant to hurt you.
[dramatic music]