1 00:00:13,847 --> 00:00:15,890 - Papa! - Hi! 2 00:00:16,474 --> 00:00:17,308 For me! 3 00:00:17,809 --> 00:00:19,561 For you? Oh, no. For Mama. 4 00:00:19,644 --> 00:00:21,730 - Just kidding. - Just kidding. 5 00:00:21,813 --> 00:00:24,149 What I've learned through my work 6 00:00:24,232 --> 00:00:29,279 is that objects are not just objects, 7 00:00:29,362 --> 00:00:32,490 but companions. 8 00:00:32,573 --> 00:00:34,534 Did you finish yours, Takumi? 9 00:00:34,617 --> 00:00:36,411 - Yes. - That's quick. Amazing! 10 00:00:37,912 --> 00:00:42,584 I teach my children 11 00:00:42,667 --> 00:00:47,714 to have love and respect for things. 12 00:00:47,797 --> 00:00:51,259 - Only one… …done. 13 00:00:51,342 --> 00:00:52,343 A cheery bag. 14 00:00:53,636 --> 00:00:59,059 First, I show my kids that tidying up is fun. 15 00:00:59,142 --> 00:01:01,311 Can you take this over there? 16 00:01:03,855 --> 00:01:08,485 When other family members witness this, it is inspiring. 17 00:01:08,568 --> 00:01:13,239 I have found when one person feels the joy of finishing tidying… 18 00:01:15,658 --> 00:01:22,624 …that same energy will ripple to the people around them. 19 00:01:30,340 --> 00:01:34,886 Like me, Joanna is someone who tries to work hard… 20 00:01:34,969 --> 00:01:36,721 - Hey, guys. - Hey, Jo. 21 00:01:36,805 --> 00:01:41,976 …and also balance it with her family life. 22 00:01:44,104 --> 00:01:46,189 - Know what you want? - Cold brew. 23 00:01:46,272 --> 00:01:50,026 Any milk or sugar in the cold brew? How did the rose syrup get over here? 24 00:01:50,110 --> 00:01:53,154 The Palm has been open for four years. 25 00:01:53,238 --> 00:01:54,072 Oh! 26 00:01:54,155 --> 00:01:58,243 I put everything I had into making The Palm a space 27 00:01:58,326 --> 00:02:01,287 for everyone to enjoy and connect. 28 00:02:01,371 --> 00:02:03,915 We're gonna dial in this coffee really quick 29 00:02:03,998 --> 00:02:06,417 and make sure that it's perfect cold brew, black. 30 00:02:06,501 --> 00:02:07,418 Black, no sugar? 31 00:02:07,502 --> 00:02:10,630 But it's also really hard as a small business owner, 32 00:02:10,713 --> 00:02:12,257 and quite stressful. 33 00:02:12,340 --> 00:02:14,134 The work never really ends. 34 00:02:14,217 --> 00:02:16,594 My time doesn't get split the way I want it to. 35 00:02:16,678 --> 00:02:19,514 These are getting kind of beat up. Do we have more these anywhere? 36 00:02:19,597 --> 00:02:20,723 -Yes. -Okay. Good. 37 00:02:20,807 --> 00:02:21,850 Um… 38 00:02:21,933 --> 00:02:25,103 Mystery box. It could be anywhere. 39 00:02:25,186 --> 00:02:28,815 I'm the accountant, manager, social media person. 40 00:02:28,898 --> 00:02:29,983 Thank you. 41 00:02:30,066 --> 00:02:31,818 Thank you. Thanks a lot! 42 00:02:31,901 --> 00:02:34,195 I need to be able to connect with my customers. 43 00:02:34,279 --> 00:02:35,363 By the time I get home, 44 00:02:35,446 --> 00:02:39,284 I don't have much energy left for my family or for myself. 45 00:02:39,367 --> 00:02:41,828 When I'm at work, I feel like I'm failing at being a mom, 46 00:02:41,911 --> 00:02:46,040 and when I'm with… Being a mom, I feel like I'm failing at work. 47 00:02:46,124 --> 00:02:49,711 So we got two orders here, just came through. Beautiful. 48 00:02:49,794 --> 00:02:52,338 Hoag and I will get in the lineup and just pump 'em out. 49 00:02:52,422 --> 00:02:55,091 - Can we move these boxes a tiny bit? - Yeah. 50 00:02:55,175 --> 00:02:56,134 It needs a home. 51 00:03:00,430 --> 00:03:01,306 Hello. 52 00:03:02,891 --> 00:03:04,225 This cafe is cute. 53 00:03:05,852 --> 00:03:07,020 - Let's go in. - Yeah. 54 00:03:07,854 --> 00:03:11,441 - Hi! - Hello. 55 00:03:11,524 --> 00:03:13,193 -How are you? -Good, and you? 56 00:03:13,276 --> 00:03:14,986 -I'm Joanna. -I'm Marie. 57 00:03:15,069 --> 00:03:16,738 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you. 58 00:03:16,821 --> 00:03:18,406 -I'm Michael. -Ivan. 59 00:03:18,489 --> 00:03:20,074 Nice to meet you. 60 00:03:22,327 --> 00:03:24,245 This is such a cute store. 61 00:03:24,329 --> 00:03:27,415 Thank you so much. Thank you for coming. 62 00:03:27,498 --> 00:03:31,753 It seems like you sell a lot of, uh, knickknacks in addition to coffee. 63 00:03:31,836 --> 00:03:34,672 - Yes, we sell local brands. 64 00:03:34,756 --> 00:03:37,383 - Oh, matcha. - That's blueberry matcha. 65 00:03:37,467 --> 00:03:39,469 -Blueberry matcha? -We have to make you one. 66 00:03:40,345 --> 00:03:42,764 --Oh, I'd love to. 67 00:03:42,847 --> 00:03:45,058 - Lovely. 68 00:03:45,141 --> 00:03:47,894 Oh my gosh. My daughter loves things like this. 69 00:03:47,977 --> 00:03:50,396 They make everyone so happy. 70 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:52,190 My daughter is f… uh, five. 71 00:03:52,273 --> 00:03:55,068 Same. I have a little boy that's five. 72 00:03:55,151 --> 00:03:59,155 Wow. Yes. And the younger daughter is, uh, four years old. 73 00:03:59,239 --> 00:04:01,282 - Oh, two? - Two. Two daughters. 74 00:04:01,366 --> 00:04:04,619 - I have one and I'm so tired. Two is hard. - Yeah. 75 00:04:05,286 --> 00:04:06,829 Everything is pretty tidy, 76 00:04:06,913 --> 00:04:08,748 but which area are you having trouble with? 77 00:04:08,831 --> 00:04:10,416 Up front. 78 00:04:10,500 --> 00:04:12,502 Oh, this way? I see. 79 00:04:13,795 --> 00:04:18,007 We can't find things, and sometimes things go missing. 80 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:20,510 The clutter is making more work for us 81 00:04:20,593 --> 00:04:23,012 so that we can't focus on the things that matter. 82 00:04:23,096 --> 00:04:24,681 --I see. 83 00:04:24,764 --> 00:04:26,724 I could do some good work here. 84 00:04:26,808 --> 00:04:29,143 -It's bad. -I see what you mean. 85 00:04:32,563 --> 00:04:34,274 Pillowcase. 86 00:04:34,357 --> 00:04:38,111 I'm so excited for Marie to teach me everything she knows. 87 00:04:38,194 --> 00:04:41,030 --Oh my gosh. This is so heavy. 88 00:04:41,114 --> 00:04:45,159 I would love to be able to work on tidying my life. 89 00:04:45,243 --> 00:04:46,619 These don't belong in here. 90 00:04:46,703 --> 00:04:49,163 I'm trying to get everything organized 91 00:04:49,247 --> 00:04:54,377 in a way that we can all pitch in and keep it going for our sanity. 92 00:04:54,460 --> 00:04:55,962 What is this box for? 93 00:04:56,045 --> 00:05:00,174 My catchall for things that we don't know where they go. 94 00:05:01,342 --> 00:05:04,595 Shared spaces where a lot of people use them, 95 00:05:04,679 --> 00:05:06,931 it's very important to have a simple system 96 00:05:07,015 --> 00:05:09,726 where everybody can immediately tell what goes where. 97 00:05:09,809 --> 00:05:12,270 - I love that. 98 00:05:12,353 --> 00:05:15,106 And I'm very curious about what this is. 99 00:05:15,189 --> 00:05:18,443 When we're done with the grinds, we tap them into the box. 100 00:05:22,488 --> 00:05:26,284 See, it is so much fun learning this, 'cause it's my first time tidying a café. 101 00:05:26,367 --> 00:05:28,703 Super cute. 102 00:05:28,786 --> 00:05:31,247 - This is ultra-cute. - Uh, is this you? 103 00:05:31,331 --> 00:05:33,958 - The kids like to name them. 104 00:05:34,042 --> 00:05:36,961 Oh, that kind of concept, idea, sparks so much joy for me. 105 00:05:41,132 --> 00:05:43,509 Have you always been pretty bad at tidying? 106 00:05:43,593 --> 00:05:49,724 I go through, like, phases. I have ADHD, so I get easily distracted. 107 00:05:49,807 --> 00:05:55,063 Spaces that affect me directly cause more issues. 108 00:05:55,146 --> 00:05:56,564 So, the things I see. 109 00:05:56,647 --> 00:06:00,568 When things are tucked away, I don't stress about them as much. 110 00:06:00,651 --> 00:06:04,238 This is part of my problem. Things get stuck in my brain. 111 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,955 So, in order to create a simple system here and have a tidy café, 112 00:06:13,039 --> 00:06:16,709 I'd really need to learn where you do your administrative work. 113 00:06:16,793 --> 00:06:20,671 I do it in my office at home. We live just about a block away. 114 00:06:20,755 --> 00:06:23,466 -Would it be okay if I see your office? -Yes. 115 00:06:23,549 --> 00:06:24,592 For sure. 116 00:06:27,678 --> 00:06:32,266 Joanna has a coffee shop that needs to be organized, 117 00:06:32,350 --> 00:06:35,603 but she does a lot of her work from home, 118 00:06:36,604 --> 00:06:39,232 which is a different tidying challenge. 119 00:06:39,816 --> 00:06:41,776 - We're here. 120 00:06:41,859 --> 00:06:43,361 - Hey, guys. - Hey. 121 00:06:43,444 --> 00:06:45,405 -Marie is here. -Hi! 122 00:06:45,488 --> 00:06:49,450 - Look, buddy, Marie's here. - Marie! This is my husband, Ben. 123 00:06:49,534 --> 00:06:51,202 -Hi. How are you? -Hi. Nice to meet you. 124 00:06:51,285 --> 00:06:53,162 -Come say hello. -And my son, Julien. 125 00:06:53,246 --> 00:06:56,374 -Come on, buddy. He's playing a game. -Hi. Nice to meet you. I'm Marie. 126 00:06:56,457 --> 00:06:57,959 I like you. 127 00:06:58,042 --> 00:07:01,754 - I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you! - Aw, buddy! 128 00:07:01,838 --> 00:07:05,383 - Do you like tidying? - Do you like cleaning up, buddy? 129 00:07:08,386 --> 00:07:09,637 That's so true. 130 00:07:11,222 --> 00:07:13,641 This is such a lovely home. 131 00:07:13,724 --> 00:07:16,561 Thank you so much. Can I give you a little tour? 132 00:07:16,644 --> 00:07:18,229 Yes. Absolutely. Thank you. 133 00:07:18,312 --> 00:07:20,982 This is actually Ben's office. 134 00:07:21,065 --> 00:07:24,026 I've been married to my husband, Ben, for ten years now. 135 00:07:24,110 --> 00:07:27,363 Ben is literally my best friend. He completes me. 136 00:07:27,447 --> 00:07:31,325 When we met, I was, like, fresh off the boat from Australia. 137 00:07:31,909 --> 00:07:36,706 We met at a place on Hollywood Boulevard, and I walked in, 138 00:07:36,789 --> 00:07:40,501 and I saw this girl. 139 00:07:41,461 --> 00:07:43,880 We fall in love with each other. 140 00:07:43,963 --> 00:07:46,132 We got married in our twenties, and it was fun. 141 00:07:46,215 --> 00:07:47,758 There's something about… 142 00:07:48,384 --> 00:07:51,471 -Being broke and fun. -Yeah. That was the thing. 143 00:07:51,554 --> 00:07:56,517 Like, we had adventures, and then five years ago, we had Julien. 144 00:07:56,601 --> 00:07:58,895 And then it forced you into adulthood. 145 00:07:59,645 --> 00:08:00,480 Sorry. 146 00:08:00,563 --> 00:08:04,192 You didn't force me into adulthood. It was going to happen sooner or later. 147 00:08:04,275 --> 00:08:06,736 Julien, did you want to show us your room? 148 00:08:06,819 --> 00:08:10,239 --It's a substantial room for him. 149 00:08:10,323 --> 00:08:12,783 He has the biggest room in the house. 150 00:08:12,867 --> 00:08:16,829 The transition for him coming into this big space felt scary, 151 00:08:16,913 --> 00:08:20,208 so we allowed him to sleep in our bedroom. 152 00:08:21,501 --> 00:08:26,005 So, this room is mainly just for playing and making a mess right now. 153 00:08:26,088 --> 00:08:27,423 --Yeah. 154 00:08:28,049 --> 00:08:31,594 I just hope Marie's gonna be able to help us, because nothing in the house 155 00:08:31,677 --> 00:08:32,803 has a home. 156 00:08:32,886 --> 00:08:38,976 Things kind of travel in our house from, like, one place to another place. 157 00:08:39,059 --> 00:08:40,561 "Oh, maybe they go here." 158 00:08:41,562 --> 00:08:47,652 One thing I can say is we need to not be spending our time always cleaning, 159 00:08:47,735 --> 00:08:49,111 putting things away. 160 00:08:49,195 --> 00:08:53,783 What we need is time together as a family. We need to be able to spend time together. 161 00:08:53,866 --> 00:08:55,284 I wanna be the lead. 162 00:08:55,368 --> 00:08:57,245 -You're the leader. -You're the lead, bud. 163 00:08:57,870 --> 00:08:59,914 - This is my office. - Ah. 164 00:08:59,997 --> 00:09:02,083 This is the part that I don't know how to fix. 165 00:09:02,166 --> 00:09:04,460 I use it to work. 166 00:09:04,544 --> 00:09:06,546 This room, it's a little bit of everything. 167 00:09:06,629 --> 00:09:08,631 I use it to work out. 168 00:09:08,714 --> 00:09:14,262 It's my closet, and it's also become a bit of a storage room. 169 00:09:14,345 --> 00:09:17,723 And I see some documents, some paper goods, on the floor. 170 00:09:17,807 --> 00:09:21,143 Some of this is work. Some of this is Julien's artwork. 171 00:09:21,227 --> 00:09:22,770 Some things like that. 172 00:09:23,271 --> 00:09:25,356 When you work in your living space, 173 00:09:25,439 --> 00:09:27,525 it's hard to keep everything for work 174 00:09:28,276 --> 00:09:31,320 from getting in the way of everything you need in your life. 175 00:09:31,404 --> 00:09:34,156 Things tend to not have a permanent home, 176 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,534 and they kind of shift places. 177 00:09:37,034 --> 00:09:39,996 It can take away focus from both. 178 00:09:41,289 --> 00:09:45,751 It can add stress to have your work stuff in plain sight 179 00:09:45,835 --> 00:09:48,879 when you are trying to be with your family. 180 00:09:50,715 --> 00:09:53,259 By the way, you are fully aware of where everything is. 181 00:09:53,342 --> 00:09:56,846 Some days I am, and some days I'm not. 182 00:09:57,680 --> 00:10:00,975 So, let's definitely make it a goal to create a permanent home for each item. 183 00:10:01,058 --> 00:10:02,018 I love it. 184 00:10:02,101 --> 00:10:07,565 My office has gotten a bit out of control, so I have a really hard time choosing 185 00:10:07,648 --> 00:10:10,109 and prioritizing what needs to happen first. 186 00:10:10,192 --> 00:10:12,403 Accessories, small accessories, I see. 187 00:10:12,486 --> 00:10:17,283 It's hard for me to take in information for, like, a long period of time. 188 00:10:17,366 --> 00:10:21,579 What's happening in my head is that if I don't write something down, 189 00:10:21,662 --> 00:10:23,956 it goes in one ear and out the other. 190 00:10:24,457 --> 00:10:29,337 When I was a kid, my dad did not know how to deal with my ADHD, 191 00:10:29,420 --> 00:10:32,757 and that was really hurtful for me because I didn't want it either. 192 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:34,342 I didn't ask for it. 193 00:10:34,425 --> 00:10:37,386 It pushed me into hiding my condition. 194 00:10:37,470 --> 00:10:40,723 He wants his stuffed giraffe, so I'm gonna go find it. Okay? 195 00:10:40,806 --> 00:10:43,976 - No problem. Absolutely. - See you in a bit, bud. 196 00:10:44,060 --> 00:10:45,353 Thanks for helping! 197 00:10:45,436 --> 00:10:46,437 Love you. 198 00:10:50,358 --> 00:10:52,610 Would you give me permission to greet your office? 199 00:10:52,693 --> 00:10:53,778 Yes. 200 00:11:07,166 --> 00:11:09,126 Okay. Great. 201 00:11:09,210 --> 00:11:15,424 My space has become like a weed. 202 00:11:15,508 --> 00:11:19,470 Like, overgrown and undernourished a bit. 203 00:11:19,553 --> 00:11:21,722 I feel a little sad in my space. 204 00:11:23,557 --> 00:11:26,894 Your coffee shop, I could tell that you care so much about it, 205 00:11:26,977 --> 00:11:28,354 down to the smallest details, 206 00:11:28,437 --> 00:11:32,692 and the love that you imbue into the space is so apparent, 207 00:11:32,775 --> 00:11:35,778 but this is that space where you recharge your energy. 208 00:11:37,738 --> 00:11:41,367 Once we've clarified your living space and also your mind, 209 00:11:41,450 --> 00:11:45,496 I think when you go about other things, such as scheduling your work life, 210 00:11:45,579 --> 00:11:48,290 those things will become much more clear and easier to do as well. 211 00:11:51,127 --> 00:11:54,839 I think once we've tidied, the more fun you'll have in this space, 212 00:11:54,922 --> 00:11:57,383 and you'll have an opportunity to reconsider 213 00:11:57,466 --> 00:11:59,260 how you like to spend your time. 214 00:11:59,343 --> 00:12:00,803 That sounds like freedom. 215 00:12:03,973 --> 00:12:07,685 For me, creating a "power spot" 216 00:12:07,768 --> 00:12:09,520 and spending time in it 217 00:12:09,603 --> 00:12:12,690 is one of my favorite ways to relax. 218 00:12:12,773 --> 00:12:17,111 Your power spot can be a side table, a comfortable chair, 219 00:12:17,194 --> 00:12:20,656 even an entire room. 220 00:12:20,740 --> 00:12:25,161 The only requirement is that it be filled with objects that spark joy. 221 00:12:25,244 --> 00:12:30,875 Crystals, candles, and flowers bring both joy and serenity. 222 00:12:30,958 --> 00:12:35,504 For Joanna, her store is her power spot. 223 00:12:35,588 --> 00:12:38,549 By spending time in your power spot, 224 00:12:38,632 --> 00:12:42,303 you will dramatically increase the enjoyment you feel at home. 225 00:12:44,054 --> 00:12:49,351 What I want to do now is to ask you about the specific furniture, um, 226 00:12:49,435 --> 00:12:50,895 inside this space. 227 00:12:51,395 --> 00:12:53,105 -Is this your chair? -Yeah. 228 00:12:53,189 --> 00:12:54,857 - Oh, how cute! 229 00:12:54,940 --> 00:12:57,860 I… I'm sorry. This whole time I was wondering where your chair is. 230 00:12:59,528 --> 00:13:00,613 So cute. 231 00:13:03,699 --> 00:13:06,327 --I can't sit on this. Sorry. 232 00:13:06,410 --> 00:13:07,745 It's quite hard. 233 00:13:07,828 --> 00:13:10,873 So, you're exercising while you're working at your desk. 234 00:13:10,956 --> 00:13:13,167 I'm trying to. 235 00:13:13,250 --> 00:13:16,796 So, how about this desk itself? Does it spark joy for you? 236 00:13:16,879 --> 00:13:20,800 I like the way the desk looks, but honestly, it's not enough space. 237 00:13:20,883 --> 00:13:22,760 -It feels very slim. -Mm. 238 00:13:22,843 --> 00:13:27,681 I find that I can't stash anything else in the drawers besides office supplies. 239 00:13:28,974 --> 00:13:32,394 So right now, you feel like you could use a little more space. 240 00:13:33,187 --> 00:13:37,399 So, when thinking about how you're going to be ultimately using this room, 241 00:13:37,483 --> 00:13:41,237 perhaps I can help you create a storage system that's much simpler. 242 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:42,488 That'd be wonderful. 243 00:13:42,571 --> 00:13:45,324 So, just as we do when we're tidying our whole house, 244 00:13:45,407 --> 00:13:49,453 in this one room, we will choose what sparks joy for you in each category. 245 00:13:50,746 --> 00:13:54,375 Only if you have time, you can start looking at the sentimental items 246 00:13:54,458 --> 00:13:55,501 within these boxes. 247 00:13:57,086 --> 00:14:00,548 And as you finish, you'll be able to visually see your progress. 248 00:14:00,631 --> 00:14:02,883 And this will help you keep yourself calm. 249 00:14:02,967 --> 00:14:05,219 I'm excited to show you what I can do. 250 00:14:05,302 --> 00:14:06,720 --Perfect. 251 00:14:09,515 --> 00:14:13,769 So all the clothes that are hanging here, I'm gonna take everything out. 252 00:14:13,853 --> 00:14:16,689 -Okay. -But let's use that space outside. 253 00:14:17,731 --> 00:14:18,816 This is insane. 254 00:14:21,193 --> 00:14:23,362 It's gonna just keep going. 255 00:14:23,445 --> 00:14:24,905 One more. 256 00:14:24,989 --> 00:14:28,242 -So, that's the last batch? -Yes. That's everything. 257 00:14:29,660 --> 00:14:31,078 -Let's try. -Okay. 258 00:14:33,122 --> 00:14:34,665 I don't know. 259 00:14:35,416 --> 00:14:36,876 Not as much joy? 260 00:14:38,919 --> 00:14:42,715 Whether something sparks joy or not is something that we feel immediately 261 00:14:42,798 --> 00:14:46,176 in our hearts the moment we hold that item in our hands. 262 00:14:47,344 --> 00:14:51,849 Choosing what sparks joy is all about how your body reacts to the specific item. 263 00:14:51,932 --> 00:14:55,269 Mentally, you might think, "Well, it's a shame to let this go," 264 00:14:55,352 --> 00:14:57,521 or, "It's too old, so I should let it go," 265 00:14:57,605 --> 00:15:00,649 but your body and your heart always know the answer. 266 00:15:00,733 --> 00:15:03,319 Okay. Perfect. So, the easy ones first. 267 00:15:03,944 --> 00:15:07,406 This sweater. I see that you have a hole. 268 00:15:07,907 --> 00:15:09,366 This is a hard no. 269 00:15:10,451 --> 00:15:13,162 For items that we're letting go, let's do so with gratitude. 270 00:15:13,245 --> 00:15:14,455 Express a thank you. 271 00:15:14,538 --> 00:15:16,123 Thank you, sweater. 272 00:15:16,874 --> 00:15:17,875 Okay. 273 00:15:17,958 --> 00:15:21,211 I learn very visually, I remember things visually, 274 00:15:21,295 --> 00:15:23,631 so Marie's advice made sense. 275 00:15:23,714 --> 00:15:24,798 That one, yes. 276 00:15:25,507 --> 00:15:28,969 Yeah. I wear these when I feel really lazy. 277 00:15:30,220 --> 00:15:33,015 Oh, that's so important. It sparks joy to be lazy. Right? 278 00:15:33,098 --> 00:15:35,059 - This is true. I like that. - Yes. 279 00:15:36,143 --> 00:15:38,646 This one's new, and I haven't gotten to wear it yet, 280 00:15:38,729 --> 00:15:40,773 so I'm really excited to wear it. 281 00:15:41,398 --> 00:15:43,609 Is it important to keep the tag on for you? 282 00:15:43,692 --> 00:15:45,736 No. We can totally take it off. 283 00:15:45,819 --> 00:15:48,906 My recommendation for items that spark definite joy 284 00:15:48,989 --> 00:15:50,658 is to always take off the tags. 285 00:15:50,741 --> 00:15:53,994 --By doing that-- 286 00:15:54,078 --> 00:15:56,413 - Commitment! - Absolutely. Exactly as you say. 287 00:15:58,248 --> 00:15:59,750 My favorite leather jacket. 288 00:15:59,833 --> 00:16:01,502 --Savor that feeling. 289 00:16:01,585 --> 00:16:03,671 When you touch that jacket, how do you feel? 290 00:16:03,754 --> 00:16:06,674 Do you envision yourself wearing it? You know how it feels when you wear it. 291 00:16:06,757 --> 00:16:09,760 Mm-hmm. I get so excited that I get to wear my leather jackets. 292 00:16:09,843 --> 00:16:12,805 Because when I was a kid, there was this guy at the mall. 293 00:16:12,888 --> 00:16:15,891 He used to wear leather jackets, and he had this crazy mohawk. 294 00:16:15,975 --> 00:16:20,688 And I thought he was cool because he was going against the grain. 295 00:16:20,771 --> 00:16:21,689 He was a rebel. 296 00:16:21,772 --> 00:16:23,315 He was authentic. 297 00:16:23,899 --> 00:16:26,986 At that point in my life, I had to hide parts of myself 298 00:16:27,069 --> 00:16:32,741 because I didn't feel heard or supported or like I could be authentic with it. 299 00:16:32,825 --> 00:16:35,369 And I was scared in some ways 300 00:16:35,452 --> 00:16:38,622 that I would just be rejected for what I actually was. 301 00:16:39,331 --> 00:16:41,458 Every time I wear leather jackets, 302 00:16:41,542 --> 00:16:43,377 it makes me feel like I'm allowed to be myself. 303 00:16:44,044 --> 00:16:46,296 When I wear clothes that make me feel comfortable, 304 00:16:46,380 --> 00:16:47,673 like my jackets, 305 00:16:47,756 --> 00:16:51,093 I could be the person I felt like inside on the outside. 306 00:16:51,176 --> 00:16:54,054 It's so important for clothes to be able to feel that way. 307 00:16:55,055 --> 00:16:57,599 By doing that, you're increasing your sensitivity to joy. 308 00:16:57,683 --> 00:17:00,936 Leather jackets are my joy. 309 00:17:01,020 --> 00:17:03,689 I have a few of them, but they're different. 310 00:17:03,772 --> 00:17:06,442 --Sparks joy. 311 00:17:06,525 --> 00:17:09,278 I realize that all of my things have memories, 312 00:17:09,361 --> 00:17:11,905 whether I think they do or don't. 313 00:17:12,489 --> 00:17:15,992 It feels really freeing to start to go through the clothing. 314 00:17:16,492 --> 00:17:21,957 It's almost like I'm closing a chapter, and then I get to begin a new one. 315 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,917 Thank you so much for coming and helping me. 316 00:17:25,002 --> 00:17:27,087 - I have a lot to do… 317 00:17:27,171 --> 00:17:29,298 …but I promise I won't let you down. 318 00:17:29,381 --> 00:17:30,966 I believe in you. Don't worry. 319 00:17:31,050 --> 00:17:36,472 Joanna said that she is not good at remembering things. 320 00:17:36,555 --> 00:17:41,101 I hope that she will be able to simplify everything and live an easier life. 321 00:17:41,185 --> 00:17:42,561 I'm ready to roll. 322 00:17:46,607 --> 00:17:47,441 Voilà. 323 00:17:48,859 --> 00:17:52,696 This one, yes. I might need round two of coffee. 324 00:17:54,615 --> 00:17:56,617 Oh my God. I need to go to the gym. 325 00:17:57,117 --> 00:17:59,119 Yesterday, I worked really hard. 326 00:17:59,203 --> 00:18:00,996 I think I'm gonna move these guys here. 327 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:02,831 Sorting through all my clothes, 328 00:18:02,915 --> 00:18:04,708 and we've got donate, 329 00:18:04,792 --> 00:18:06,043 we've got sell. 330 00:18:06,126 --> 00:18:08,545 -I'm gonna go finish up my office. -All righty. 331 00:18:08,629 --> 00:18:09,630 All right. 332 00:18:10,297 --> 00:18:12,674 You don't have to help with documents. 333 00:18:12,758 --> 00:18:14,718 You excited? 334 00:18:14,802 --> 00:18:17,721 I've got a pile of things that I need to go through. 335 00:18:17,805 --> 00:18:19,473 This part, I'm not excited about. 336 00:18:19,556 --> 00:18:22,976 A lot of spaces in my office, and I put a Band-Aid on it, 337 00:18:23,060 --> 00:18:25,395 'cause my brain's like, ding, ding, ding, ding. 338 00:18:25,979 --> 00:18:28,857 Ah. I'm overwhelmed. 339 00:18:32,319 --> 00:18:33,654 The first thing is 340 00:18:33,737 --> 00:18:37,407 I take all the things that bring joy, like photos, papers, 341 00:18:37,491 --> 00:18:39,701 and I sort them into a separate space. 342 00:18:42,663 --> 00:18:45,582 I've been avoiding them because I've been focused too much 343 00:18:45,666 --> 00:18:47,417 on being in the shop. 344 00:18:47,501 --> 00:18:49,503 Some of the stuff, I don't know what it is. 345 00:18:49,586 --> 00:18:50,504 Ah… 346 00:18:52,297 --> 00:18:56,135 My sentimental things are mixed in with my taxes. 347 00:18:56,218 --> 00:18:59,763 They don't go together, 'cause these items spark joy. 348 00:18:59,847 --> 00:19:01,890 Taxes, I just wanna, like, 349 00:19:01,974 --> 00:19:04,560 dump the whole thing in the trash, but I can't. 350 00:19:09,022 --> 00:19:11,733 This is a heart that Julien made me. 351 00:19:11,817 --> 00:19:15,529 Seeing these spark around connecting with family. 352 00:19:15,612 --> 00:19:17,197 Honestly, because I'm so forgetful, 353 00:19:17,281 --> 00:19:20,492 I think they help me remember beautiful times. 354 00:19:20,576 --> 00:19:24,163 I'm gonna go ahead and put these away with the rest of the sentimental stuff. 355 00:19:28,625 --> 00:19:29,459 Good morning. 356 00:19:29,543 --> 00:19:31,336 - How are you guys? - Doing well. 357 00:19:31,420 --> 00:19:33,922 -Did the Shoreline order come in yet? -No. Not yet. 358 00:19:34,006 --> 00:19:37,301 Guys, I cannot wait to tell you about all this Marie stuff. 359 00:19:37,384 --> 00:19:39,678 I wanna make this place the easiest place to work. 360 00:19:39,761 --> 00:19:44,766 For me, like, I wanted this to be a place filled with love that people could feel, 361 00:19:44,850 --> 00:19:48,729 to be that welcoming vibe of, like, "come on in." 362 00:19:49,354 --> 00:19:52,024 When I was a kid, I didn't have a place like that, 363 00:19:52,107 --> 00:19:55,319 because I didn't have family that was there for me. 364 00:19:55,402 --> 00:19:59,823 So, I had to build one. It's that home for everyone else that… 365 00:19:59,907 --> 00:20:02,284 Don't laugh, but, where everybody knows your name. 366 00:20:02,367 --> 00:20:03,702 It's real. 367 00:20:03,785 --> 00:20:06,830 -Are you guys ready? -Absolutely. Let's get going. 368 00:20:06,914 --> 00:20:10,751 Part of Marie's process is just pulling out the items 369 00:20:10,834 --> 00:20:13,670 and finding the things that bring us joy first. 370 00:20:13,754 --> 00:20:16,590 Um, separate categories, and once we're done, 371 00:20:16,673 --> 00:20:19,885 we're gonna figure out, in new bins, where everything goes. 372 00:20:19,968 --> 00:20:21,094 -Great. I love that. -Perfect. 373 00:20:21,178 --> 00:20:23,931 - All right. The box cutter? - Do we need six? 374 00:20:24,014 --> 00:20:26,391 This one has this thing to cut twine in there. 375 00:20:26,475 --> 00:20:28,727 There's the non-joy one, the one that's not pink. 376 00:20:28,810 --> 00:20:30,270 - Donate the rest? - Yeah. 377 00:20:30,354 --> 00:20:33,857 We don't use this anymore, but it's from when we first opened the shop. 378 00:20:33,941 --> 00:20:37,402 Those gold stamps we used to make. But I don't know if you'll use it again. 379 00:20:37,486 --> 00:20:40,030 - Old Joanna would have clung on to this. 380 00:20:40,113 --> 00:20:43,825 Marie's process is to be grateful for the things that have served us. 381 00:20:43,909 --> 00:20:46,662 - So, bye-bye. Thank you. - Thank you for your service. 382 00:20:47,788 --> 00:20:53,835 I think this has actually empowered me to take charge and take the lead on things 383 00:20:53,919 --> 00:20:57,047 that I would normally just allow to add up, 384 00:20:57,130 --> 00:21:00,092 and be able to make this a more joyful place to work. 385 00:21:00,175 --> 00:21:02,719 Definitely sparks joy. It just needs a little bit of love. 386 00:21:02,803 --> 00:21:05,264 -Yeah. True. -Yeah. Let's keep going. 387 00:21:08,684 --> 00:21:10,560 - Hi. - Hi. How are you? 388 00:21:10,644 --> 00:21:12,354 - Good. How are you? - Hello. 389 00:21:12,437 --> 00:21:15,691 - I'm excited to show you everything. - Good to see you. 390 00:21:15,774 --> 00:21:17,109 -Hi. -Hi. 391 00:21:17,192 --> 00:21:18,360 Welcome back. 392 00:21:18,443 --> 00:21:22,114 So, these are some of the items that I have left to fold. 393 00:21:22,197 --> 00:21:25,117 - There's kind of a lot. 394 00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:28,370 - Let's have a lesson on folding. - Okay. Perfect. 395 00:21:31,915 --> 00:21:35,168 Ben, if you could be so kind to bring some of your own clothes out, 396 00:21:35,252 --> 00:21:38,797 -I'd love to teach you as well. -Really? Awesome. I'll be right back. 397 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,132 That is awesome. 398 00:21:40,215 --> 00:21:42,843 - I want to get him in on this anyways. 399 00:21:43,510 --> 00:21:46,513 I haven't been the tidiest person, you know, 400 00:21:46,596 --> 00:21:49,766 but what I'm learning is that your environment 401 00:21:49,850 --> 00:21:53,895 is a reflection of how you feel about yourself inside. 402 00:21:53,979 --> 00:21:55,564 A hoodie, very nice. 403 00:21:55,647 --> 00:21:57,607 Usually, I just hang these up. 404 00:21:57,691 --> 00:22:01,153 --It depends on your storage space. 405 00:22:01,236 --> 00:22:02,821 If you wanna hang them, that's fine. 406 00:22:02,904 --> 00:22:05,574 If you have open shelves, you can stack them. 407 00:22:05,657 --> 00:22:09,036 Um, but if you'd rather store them in drawers, this is the way to do it. 408 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:10,495 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 409 00:22:12,122 --> 00:22:15,375 I recommend standing them upright and filing them vertically 410 00:22:15,459 --> 00:22:19,171 because when you stack them in the drawer, you tend to forget what's inside. 411 00:22:19,254 --> 00:22:21,214 - Right? It's harder to see. - Yes. You do. 412 00:22:23,050 --> 00:22:24,801 A hoodie, very nice. 413 00:22:26,928 --> 00:22:29,181 So, it's just the same, even for a woman's hoodie. 414 00:22:29,639 --> 00:22:34,144 Oh, I forgot something important, a key point when folding clothes. 415 00:22:34,227 --> 00:22:36,730 That is to fold with a lot of love, 416 00:22:36,813 --> 00:22:39,191 as if you're sending love through the palm of your hands. 417 00:22:39,274 --> 00:22:40,150 Ah. 418 00:22:41,234 --> 00:22:45,781 The goal of folding clothes isn't merely to tuck them into tiny little shapes, 419 00:22:45,864 --> 00:22:50,619 it's actually a way to express gratitude for your clothes. 420 00:22:50,702 --> 00:22:53,455 -That's good for you. -I think that's important for me. 421 00:22:53,538 --> 00:22:56,249 I'm definitely very rough on my clothes. 422 00:22:57,626 --> 00:23:01,588 So, first step is to fold into a big rectangle 423 00:23:01,671 --> 00:23:03,173 towards the center. 424 00:23:06,510 --> 00:23:09,262 Tuck back the hoodie, then fold in thirds. 425 00:23:10,055 --> 00:23:13,892 - And this becomes a rectangle again. - Amazing! 426 00:23:13,975 --> 00:23:16,103 I want to learn. 427 00:23:16,186 --> 00:23:19,940 - You wanna learn? This is fun. - Would you like to try? 428 00:23:20,899 --> 00:23:22,484 So, I fold those? 429 00:23:22,567 --> 00:23:27,197 --Good. Towards the center. 430 00:23:28,782 --> 00:23:32,619 --Can you smooth it out for me? Smooth. 431 00:23:33,286 --> 00:23:35,872 Good. Like, as if you're petting it. 432 00:23:35,956 --> 00:23:37,290 Can you do it with me? 433 00:23:38,208 --> 00:23:40,168 Tuck towards the center. 434 00:23:40,252 --> 00:23:41,628 Fold in half. 435 00:23:42,754 --> 00:23:44,381 -Good. -Yeah. 436 00:23:44,464 --> 00:23:46,299 -Good job, bud. -Good job. 437 00:23:49,052 --> 00:23:51,930 I love that the whole family's clothes lined up like that. 438 00:23:53,223 --> 00:23:57,102 I thought, you know, Marie was gonna come and help Jo with the business. 439 00:23:57,185 --> 00:24:01,565 I didn't expect how it's really impacting our parenting. 440 00:24:01,648 --> 00:24:06,820 Especially as Julien's gotten older, and he's started to emulate our behavior, 441 00:24:06,903 --> 00:24:11,658 um, I realized that you… you have to start being a role model and start-- 442 00:24:11,741 --> 00:24:13,869 -Just doing it instead of just saying it. -Yeah. 443 00:24:16,580 --> 00:24:19,374 So this is the fundamental way of folding clothes. 444 00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:21,501 - It'll be your homework. 445 00:24:21,585 --> 00:24:24,004 Let's try tidying our sentimental items. 446 00:24:24,087 --> 00:24:25,172 Amazing. 447 00:24:32,554 --> 00:24:36,892 Remember that the goal here is not to let go of as many as possible. 448 00:24:40,103 --> 00:24:44,399 What's important is to really savor each sentimental item that you have, 449 00:24:44,483 --> 00:24:46,985 and truly cherish what you decide to keep. 450 00:24:47,068 --> 00:24:51,364 So, it's really hard for me to decide when Julien makes art, 451 00:24:51,448 --> 00:24:53,825 since he just kind of started to make art. 452 00:24:54,576 --> 00:24:58,622 I think this is one of the first times that he… we really started seeing, like, 453 00:24:58,705 --> 00:25:01,917 how good he is at drawing. And I think that's worth keeping. 454 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:06,838 I mean, it's… It makes me feel, like… happy. 455 00:25:06,922 --> 00:25:10,258 Could we make a category for these kinds of drawings 456 00:25:10,342 --> 00:25:13,345 and then go through and find the ones that spark the most joy? 457 00:25:13,428 --> 00:25:16,515 Took the words out of my mouth. That's exactly what I was gonna say. 458 00:25:19,017 --> 00:25:21,770 It's very important to go through crafts like these 459 00:25:21,853 --> 00:25:25,023 that your children make all at once, so you can compare and contrast. 460 00:25:25,106 --> 00:25:26,775 I'm gonna make this pile here. 461 00:25:26,858 --> 00:25:29,069 We'll put the turkey in with the other arts and crafts. 462 00:25:29,152 --> 00:25:31,029 - Let's do that. - 'Kay. 463 00:25:31,821 --> 00:25:34,491 This is, um, an old picture of Ben. 464 00:25:36,159 --> 00:25:39,329 It's special to me because I used to keep it in my notebook. 465 00:25:39,412 --> 00:25:40,705 I didn't know you had that. 466 00:25:40,789 --> 00:25:44,000 I did, and I put the little stickers. It says "love." 467 00:25:44,084 --> 00:25:47,337 -I didn't even know you had that. -You didn't know I was a scrapbooker? 468 00:25:48,547 --> 00:25:51,091 There was this time before I opened the shop 469 00:25:51,174 --> 00:25:55,095 that I consider, like, one of the best times of my life. 470 00:25:55,178 --> 00:25:59,891 Skateboarding with my husband, making videos of Julien running around. 471 00:25:59,975 --> 00:26:03,144 Everything felt like what life should feel like. 472 00:26:03,228 --> 00:26:05,564 I felt so connected to my family. 473 00:26:05,647 --> 00:26:10,235 And then we opened the doors, and everything changed. 474 00:26:10,318 --> 00:26:13,822 I'm missing my entire life by being here all the time. 475 00:26:13,905 --> 00:26:15,991 Oh, I think this one was for you, Ben. 476 00:26:17,784 --> 00:26:19,995 That's a Ben cared. I saved his cards too. 477 00:26:20,078 --> 00:26:21,788 This was 2013. 478 00:26:21,871 --> 00:26:22,789 From me. 479 00:26:23,707 --> 00:26:24,541 Yeah. 480 00:26:26,793 --> 00:26:29,546 Ben, how do you feel now that you're going through… 481 00:26:29,629 --> 00:26:31,464 Wow. 482 00:26:36,219 --> 00:26:39,014 Getting those cards, like, I remember back then, 483 00:26:39,097 --> 00:26:41,808 we were super spontaneous, we'd do crazy things, 484 00:26:41,891 --> 00:26:45,562 and then things have been getting so overwhelming. 485 00:26:46,563 --> 00:26:50,567 There hasn't been time to actually date each other. 486 00:26:50,650 --> 00:26:52,485 But the thing that we've always had 487 00:26:52,569 --> 00:26:54,738 is that we've always been best friends first. 488 00:26:55,196 --> 00:26:57,282 And we need to reset. 489 00:26:57,365 --> 00:27:00,243 We don't really sit and look at these because it's so messy. 490 00:27:00,327 --> 00:27:03,288 We wouldn't really spend the time digging through it. 491 00:27:03,371 --> 00:27:05,790 - I wasn't expecting this to happen. 492 00:27:07,584 --> 00:27:11,338 Wow. I didn't know that you… that you had these. 493 00:27:11,921 --> 00:27:12,797 It's cool. 494 00:27:14,049 --> 00:27:15,216 I'd save them all. 495 00:27:17,844 --> 00:27:21,348 I think Ben doesn't always know how much I love him. 496 00:27:21,431 --> 00:27:23,475 I have the best husband ever. 497 00:27:23,558 --> 00:27:27,270 He's amazing, and I'm so lucky to have that. 498 00:27:27,771 --> 00:27:29,814 It's really easy to get disconnected 499 00:27:29,898 --> 00:27:33,777 in the mix of trying to make a business work. 500 00:27:34,277 --> 00:27:38,865 If I fail… I fail him, like, as well. 501 00:27:39,449 --> 00:27:40,367 So, 502 00:27:41,368 --> 00:27:43,161 it's just really scary. 503 00:27:44,871 --> 00:27:51,169 It just makes me realize how important it is to change the way that I'm living, 504 00:27:51,252 --> 00:27:54,089 to change where I spend my time. 505 00:27:55,382 --> 00:28:00,345 Like, I'm allowed to have fun. And I think I'm not. 506 00:28:00,428 --> 00:28:02,597 I always think, like, "Oh, Ben will always be there," 507 00:28:02,681 --> 00:28:07,060 but we don't have a time of how long we're all gonna be here. 508 00:28:07,143 --> 00:28:11,147 And that's just really scary when I think, like, how real life is 509 00:28:11,231 --> 00:28:13,483 and how, like, a coffee shop 510 00:28:13,566 --> 00:28:16,319 is a beautiful thing to share with the world, 511 00:28:16,403 --> 00:28:22,033 but, like, what's more amazing is to share my life with my family. 512 00:28:24,953 --> 00:28:27,789 Thank you so much, Marie. We'll get this done immediately. 513 00:28:27,872 --> 00:28:29,541 Absolutely. I hope you'll try. 514 00:28:29,624 --> 00:28:32,085 -Thank you. -Thank you. Thank you so much. 515 00:28:42,345 --> 00:28:44,222 - Hey, babe? - Yeah? 516 00:28:44,305 --> 00:28:48,601 Can I stash a few things in Julien's room? It's, like, full-on. 517 00:28:48,685 --> 00:28:52,188 You did kinda ask for all this. 518 00:28:53,231 --> 00:28:58,319 So, I'm not really sure where we'll start when we start going through this room, 519 00:28:58,403 --> 00:29:00,363 but his bed is filled with costumes. 520 00:29:00,447 --> 00:29:04,284 This isn't really, like, technically his room at the moment. 521 00:29:04,367 --> 00:29:07,620 This is more a place where he stores his toys. 522 00:29:07,704 --> 00:29:11,624 I mean, he's been sleeping on the floor in our bedroom for months. 523 00:29:11,708 --> 00:29:14,043 Definitely affects our marriage and it's weird. 524 00:29:14,127 --> 00:29:17,922 We're not encouraging him to enjoy his own room 525 00:29:18,006 --> 00:29:20,341 by allowing it to be like this. 526 00:29:20,425 --> 00:29:22,886 It's not inviting. I wouldn't wanna sleep in here. 527 00:29:22,969 --> 00:29:25,096 Maybe on the other side of that, 528 00:29:25,889 --> 00:29:27,682 we could get our bedroom back. 529 00:29:27,766 --> 00:29:29,434 I mean, that would be nice. 530 00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:31,519 It would be nice. 531 00:29:32,103 --> 00:29:34,022 I feel like I miss you guys. 532 00:29:35,899 --> 00:29:38,943 I have missed you. I've missed you a lot. Um… 533 00:29:39,027 --> 00:29:41,905 Like… And that feels weird to say, 'cause I'm, like… 534 00:29:41,988 --> 00:29:45,408 -It's just like you're right here but… -I'm in and out. 535 00:29:45,492 --> 00:29:48,203 -You're in and out. -Honestly, I feel terrible. 536 00:29:50,163 --> 00:29:54,459 My parents divorced when I was a kid. I've lived on my own since 17. 537 00:29:54,542 --> 00:29:57,629 And I didn't have a great support system. 538 00:29:57,712 --> 00:30:01,591 So, my "go, go, go, fire under my butt" comes from that. 539 00:30:01,674 --> 00:30:03,802 No one ever gave you a shot growing up. 540 00:30:03,885 --> 00:30:07,764 We opened the coffee shop so you could finally get a shot. 541 00:30:07,847 --> 00:30:10,809 You know, so I've always wanted to, like, respect that. 542 00:30:10,892 --> 00:30:13,978 For the past decade, Joanna was working this job, 543 00:30:14,479 --> 00:30:17,565 long, long, long days in this corporate environment, 544 00:30:17,649 --> 00:30:20,068 and it was just eating her soul. 545 00:30:20,151 --> 00:30:25,198 That kind of played on me a little bit, because here I am doing what I love 546 00:30:25,281 --> 00:30:29,202 while the person that I love is not. 547 00:30:30,161 --> 00:30:32,497 So, I was walking past this barbershop 548 00:30:32,580 --> 00:30:35,500 that was a couple blocks from our house for lease. 549 00:30:35,583 --> 00:30:37,919 I said, "It's time for you to take your shot." 550 00:30:38,002 --> 00:30:40,338 I haven't wanted to say that for so long, 551 00:30:40,421 --> 00:30:43,424 like, that I need help, because you need help too. 552 00:30:43,508 --> 00:30:48,096 I think it's important for you to be able to say, like, "Hey, help." 553 00:30:48,179 --> 00:30:49,013 Yeah. 554 00:30:49,097 --> 00:30:50,056 It's hard. 555 00:30:50,139 --> 00:30:51,140 Yeah. It is hard. 556 00:30:51,224 --> 00:30:55,687 We should be enjoying life, enjoying our time, enjoying our family. 557 00:30:55,770 --> 00:30:58,439 -I agree. -I want to go on dates and stuff again. 558 00:30:59,816 --> 00:31:03,278 Honestly, like, this is part of the healing process. 559 00:31:03,361 --> 00:31:05,697 -Yeah. -We're a team. Yin-yang. 560 00:31:05,780 --> 00:31:06,656 Yin-yang. 561 00:31:07,365 --> 00:31:09,409 -See that? I gave you a high five. -I know. 562 00:31:09,492 --> 00:31:12,704 -That never happens. The most awful… -Every time you give me one… 563 00:31:12,787 --> 00:31:14,038 I give the worst. 564 00:31:14,122 --> 00:31:18,293 - This is how you high five. - I don't want to be put on the spot. 565 00:31:18,376 --> 00:31:20,587 This is how you high five. Ready? Put your hand up. 566 00:31:25,466 --> 00:31:27,302 -How dare you. -I adore you. 567 00:31:29,262 --> 00:31:33,600 You ready, buddy? We're going in your room. Tidying! 568 00:31:33,683 --> 00:31:36,394 I can clean a whole bunch. 569 00:31:36,477 --> 00:31:37,854 Good job, buddy. 570 00:31:37,937 --> 00:31:39,939 Before, we were working on ourselves, like, 571 00:31:40,023 --> 00:31:41,316 "Oh, I'm working on myself." 572 00:31:41,399 --> 00:31:45,820 I'm working on myself over here, you over there, just working on our stuff. 573 00:31:45,904 --> 00:31:47,739 Yeah, but now we can kind of work… 574 00:31:47,822 --> 00:31:48,656 Together. 575 00:31:48,740 --> 00:31:51,242 -In the light, not in the shadows. -Yeah. 576 00:31:51,326 --> 00:31:53,453 The elephant in the room is squashed. 577 00:31:53,536 --> 00:31:55,121 And it feels really good. 578 00:31:58,791 --> 00:32:02,837 So, how would you feel about sleeping in this bed? 579 00:32:02,921 --> 00:32:05,340 I might do it for just playing. 580 00:32:05,423 --> 00:32:07,634 -Just for playing? -Yeah. 581 00:32:07,717 --> 00:32:11,387 - Okay. I think that was a good start. - Yeah, that was a good start. 582 00:32:11,971 --> 00:32:14,849 Let's keep tidying. We still got some work to do. 583 00:32:18,603 --> 00:32:25,026 Joanna and Ben struggle with balance in their lives. 584 00:32:25,109 --> 00:32:31,616 Here are some practical steps my husband Takumi and I take 585 00:32:31,699 --> 00:32:35,453 to manage our household responsibilities. 586 00:32:35,536 --> 00:32:36,371 Mmm. 587 00:32:36,454 --> 00:32:42,293 List tasks that need attention. 588 00:32:43,252 --> 00:32:48,424 This encourages healthy communication between partners. 589 00:32:48,925 --> 00:32:53,972 Decide whether the tasks are all necessary. 590 00:32:54,764 --> 00:32:59,811 Assign tasks based on strengths. 591 00:33:06,526 --> 00:33:07,777 List done. 592 00:33:08,444 --> 00:33:13,074 By talking about issues, we can visualize the problems and roles of each person 593 00:33:13,157 --> 00:33:19,247 and strengthen our will to move forward as a happy family. 594 00:33:24,794 --> 00:33:27,797 Ready? I'm so excited. I can't wait to see it. 595 00:33:32,301 --> 00:33:36,014 Oh my God. Marie is magical. 596 00:33:36,514 --> 00:33:40,518 Marie just, like, randomly bringing what I need, it's just awesome. 597 00:33:40,601 --> 00:33:42,478 Everything fits. 598 00:33:45,690 --> 00:33:48,234 It kind of felt like… Whoa. 599 00:33:49,610 --> 00:33:51,320 I work really hard. 600 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,699 I deserve a space that works for me. 601 00:33:55,491 --> 00:33:56,325 Hey, babe! 602 00:33:56,409 --> 00:33:58,745 - Yeah? - Come check this out. 603 00:33:59,704 --> 00:34:01,372 Duh, amazing! 604 00:34:01,456 --> 00:34:05,168 You aren't kidding. What happened in here? 605 00:34:05,251 --> 00:34:08,254 I would have never thought to do it this way. 606 00:34:08,337 --> 00:34:11,007 I think I get stuck a lot 607 00:34:11,882 --> 00:34:15,928 like, bouncing thoughts back and forth, like, from my ADHD 608 00:34:16,012 --> 00:34:20,099 that they keep me, like, thinking about small stuff a lot. 609 00:34:21,350 --> 00:34:26,981 And just seeing this kind of opened up, like, how small sometimes I think. 610 00:34:27,065 --> 00:34:28,524 I screw myself up. 611 00:34:28,608 --> 00:34:33,029 And this desk is big. I don't always see the big picture. 612 00:34:34,030 --> 00:34:35,697 That needs to change for me. 613 00:34:35,782 --> 00:34:37,909 So, it's kind of like a representation of 614 00:34:37,992 --> 00:34:42,163 what has to change in my life so that I can have the things I want. 615 00:34:42,996 --> 00:34:45,792 -It's beautiful. -It really is. 616 00:34:47,418 --> 00:34:49,629 - If you bring some things in at a time… - All right. 617 00:34:49,712 --> 00:34:52,882 -I can start putting it in categories. -Yes. 618 00:34:52,965 --> 00:34:57,887 All right. I'm gonna guess jackets are gonna end up where they were. 619 00:34:58,387 --> 00:35:00,223 Jackets go with jackets. 620 00:35:00,306 --> 00:35:03,851 Our relationship has had ten years of ups and downs, 621 00:35:03,935 --> 00:35:07,355 so I'm happy we're kind of coming to a place now 622 00:35:07,438 --> 00:35:11,692 where we've done enough work, we can be like, "Okay. We can get there." 623 00:35:12,944 --> 00:35:14,320 It's just like a painting. 624 00:35:14,403 --> 00:35:16,697 And everything's going in the right places. 625 00:35:16,781 --> 00:35:22,161 So, fancy dresses get worn not so often unless someone takes me on a date. 626 00:35:22,745 --> 00:35:25,832 Hey! Maybe I'll put them in the front. 627 00:35:25,915 --> 00:35:28,417 -Put 'em there. You can count on that. -Sold. 628 00:35:30,169 --> 00:35:31,003 Thanks. 629 00:35:33,005 --> 00:35:34,423 -This is awesome. -Cool. 630 00:35:34,507 --> 00:35:37,176 -All right. I'll see you soon. -I'll keep going. Love you. 631 00:35:37,260 --> 00:35:38,553 -See you in a bit. -I love you. 632 00:35:38,636 --> 00:35:39,637 I got this. 633 00:35:41,222 --> 00:35:43,391 - I'm gonna bring more stuff. - Thank you, babe. 634 00:35:43,474 --> 00:35:45,309 -All righty. -I'm almost done. 635 00:35:46,894 --> 00:35:49,021 There you go. The top… 636 00:35:50,356 --> 00:35:51,566 Okay. 637 00:35:53,568 --> 00:35:54,819 That looks good. 638 00:35:55,486 --> 00:35:57,155 - I'm excited. - Me too. 639 00:36:04,537 --> 00:36:07,498 -Hi, Marie. How are you? -Hello. How are you? 640 00:36:07,582 --> 00:36:09,041 Welcome back. 641 00:36:09,125 --> 00:36:12,086 -Hello. How are you? -Good. How are you? 642 00:36:12,170 --> 00:36:15,214 I am so excited to show you the different spaces. 643 00:36:15,298 --> 00:36:18,467 I've been working really hard, and I feel like it's ready. 644 00:36:18,551 --> 00:36:21,053 --I'd love to see it. Can't wait. 645 00:36:21,637 --> 00:36:23,514 Wait till you see Julien's room. 646 00:36:23,598 --> 00:36:26,475 Come on! Let's show your room. Let's show it off. 647 00:36:26,976 --> 00:36:30,396 --Oh my gosh. This is amazing. 648 00:36:30,479 --> 00:36:32,815 - Massive difference, right? - You can see! 649 00:36:32,899 --> 00:36:37,111 Before, there was no space for actually walking back and forth. 650 00:36:37,737 --> 00:36:39,197 Beautiful. 651 00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:41,532 - And? - I do a joy dance! 652 00:36:41,616 --> 00:36:44,660 - Happy dance! 653 00:36:44,744 --> 00:36:48,080 Wild joy it is. Let's go take a look at the office. 654 00:36:48,789 --> 00:36:52,251 - Wow! - This is beautiful. 655 00:36:56,505 --> 00:36:58,841 --Incredible. 656 00:36:59,342 --> 00:37:03,638 So much different. That's how we use the desk like that. 657 00:37:03,721 --> 00:37:07,850 I have everything I need, plus a really long workspace to work on. 658 00:37:08,643 --> 00:37:10,937 - Incredible. 659 00:37:11,020 --> 00:37:12,980 Every piece sparks joy for you? 660 00:37:13,064 --> 00:37:15,233 - Every piece. 661 00:37:15,316 --> 00:37:19,654 Very nice. Everything stands upright and filed vertically 662 00:37:19,737 --> 00:37:22,365 so you can see immediately where everything is. 663 00:37:22,448 --> 00:37:24,033 Everything has a home. 664 00:37:26,535 --> 00:37:29,330 Family photos just really adds to the joy. 665 00:37:29,413 --> 00:37:31,457 Especially the one with the mustache. 666 00:37:31,540 --> 00:37:33,292 That's so cute. I love it. 667 00:37:33,376 --> 00:37:34,585 --Aww. 668 00:37:35,461 --> 00:37:37,838 All the documents are filed according to category? 669 00:37:37,922 --> 00:37:38,756 They are. 670 00:37:38,839 --> 00:37:43,094 I ended up putting my sentimental items up top in a box 671 00:37:43,177 --> 00:37:45,888 so that I can open them when I choose to, 672 00:37:45,972 --> 00:37:49,392 but they're not down below with the things that I would do every day. 673 00:37:51,602 --> 00:37:54,814 Right. The sentimental box used to be on the floor, 674 00:37:54,897 --> 00:37:57,650 and now it's high up there and looks very well-respected. 675 00:37:57,733 --> 00:38:00,069 It is respected. It has a space. 676 00:38:00,152 --> 00:38:03,114 --We covered folding clothes. 677 00:38:03,197 --> 00:38:05,700 - I'd love to see how you did. - For sure. 678 00:38:06,492 --> 00:38:09,287 --It looks amazing. 679 00:38:09,912 --> 00:38:11,706 --Closets. 680 00:38:11,789 --> 00:38:15,001 They were in a big pile before, and I was just digging. 681 00:38:16,210 --> 00:38:19,755 - Leveled up, I'd say. - Yes! Leveled up. 682 00:38:21,132 --> 00:38:26,846 With Marie's help, I learned to create tactics of organization, 683 00:38:26,929 --> 00:38:31,142 and this office is actually going to remind me that I'm at work, 684 00:38:31,225 --> 00:38:34,228 so that when I'm outside of this office, that'll feel like my home. 685 00:38:34,312 --> 00:38:37,440 I think I'll be able to separate the two of them easier. 686 00:38:37,523 --> 00:38:41,110 --This room has really transformed. 687 00:38:44,780 --> 00:38:49,201 I love savoring the atmosphere of the room after it's been tidied. 688 00:38:49,285 --> 00:38:52,204 - And I can't wait to see The Palm. - Let's do it! 689 00:38:53,873 --> 00:38:56,250 I can't wait to show you what we did inside. 690 00:38:58,085 --> 00:38:59,128 There it is! 691 00:38:59,211 --> 00:39:02,465 --Wow. It's transformed. 692 00:39:04,633 --> 00:39:07,511 Did you change the light? It seems so much brighter. 693 00:39:07,595 --> 00:39:11,474 No. It feels so much more open, but it's interesting 694 00:39:11,557 --> 00:39:13,476 'cause there's more stuff out. 695 00:39:13,559 --> 00:39:14,769 You're right. 696 00:39:14,852 --> 00:39:17,938 Oh, and the shelves back here. There are more, right? 697 00:39:18,022 --> 00:39:21,650 Yes. We never really had enough storage for all of our coffee 698 00:39:21,734 --> 00:39:24,695 so we found we were tucking it and hiding it in the back. 699 00:39:26,197 --> 00:39:29,283 --This is so good, Joanna. 700 00:39:29,367 --> 00:39:30,743 I am so excited. 701 00:39:30,826 --> 00:39:35,081 Because they used natural fiber, it just makes it look so much better. 702 00:39:35,164 --> 00:39:38,376 Yes. They're so beautiful, and add such a beautiful flair 703 00:39:38,459 --> 00:39:41,754 to something that doesn't normally feel pretty. 704 00:39:42,254 --> 00:39:45,925 Seems like everything has a designated spot. 705 00:39:46,008 --> 00:39:46,926 Yes. 706 00:39:47,009 --> 00:39:50,179 --Did you do this all by yourself? 707 00:39:50,262 --> 00:39:52,932 No. I definitely had some help from the staff. 708 00:39:53,015 --> 00:39:55,059 They were amazing, and they really helped me 709 00:39:55,142 --> 00:39:57,812 by letting me know what was important to them. 710 00:39:57,895 --> 00:39:59,438 And that's really important to me. 711 00:40:00,022 --> 00:40:03,275 It must have been an amazing experience for your staff too. 712 00:40:03,359 --> 00:40:05,152 - Transformative. - Aww. 713 00:40:05,820 --> 00:40:09,615 This whole process has really helped me find everything I need 714 00:40:09,698 --> 00:40:11,575 and see everything at one glance. 715 00:40:11,659 --> 00:40:14,495 There's an energy around it that's shifted 716 00:40:14,578 --> 00:40:18,874 and is safe and calm for me to be in. 717 00:40:18,958 --> 00:40:22,545 I cannot wait for the staff to get in here and start working. 718 00:40:23,337 --> 00:40:28,300 For your shop to bring so much joy and happiness, I am so happy. 719 00:40:28,926 --> 00:40:33,139 I feel like you've turned me back into the fearless female leader. 720 00:40:33,222 --> 00:40:36,308 I can focus on what matters. I'm so happy. 721 00:40:36,392 --> 00:40:37,852 I think going into this process, 722 00:40:37,935 --> 00:40:41,105 I didn't realize your space reflects who you are. 723 00:40:41,188 --> 00:40:45,860 I could see some of the limitations that I set on myself expressed outwardly. 724 00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:50,030 I'm closing the chapter of the things that weren't working for me, 725 00:40:50,114 --> 00:40:54,326 and opening a new chapter, a new way of living, a new journey. 726 00:40:54,410 --> 00:40:56,162 It looks manageable. 727 00:40:56,745 --> 00:41:01,250 It looks clear, and comfortable, and calming. 728 00:41:01,792 --> 00:41:04,753 I feel silly. All the words I have are "thank you, thank you, thank you," 729 00:41:04,837 --> 00:41:06,755 but I really mean it, Marie. 730 00:41:06,839 --> 00:41:09,216 -I, like… -Aw! 731 00:41:09,300 --> 00:41:11,177 Thank you so much. 732 00:41:11,260 --> 00:41:15,890 You have really changed, like, what my future looks like. It's cool. 733 00:41:15,973 --> 00:41:18,809 - You're so freakin' cool. 734 00:41:18,893 --> 00:41:22,021 This is a result of your hard work, Joanna, so own it. 735 00:41:22,104 --> 00:41:23,606 -This is you. -Thank you. 736 00:41:24,273 --> 00:41:26,233 Come back for a matcha, please. 737 00:41:26,317 --> 00:41:28,277 - Absolutely. I'd love to. - Cool. 738 00:41:29,737 --> 00:41:31,489 Now that The Palm is tidy, 739 00:41:31,572 --> 00:41:35,326 she herself will continue to spark joy. 740 00:41:35,409 --> 00:41:38,996 And I can't wait to see what kind of positive change 741 00:41:39,079 --> 00:41:42,249 she will continue to make. 742 00:41:47,838 --> 00:41:49,048 Julien. 743 00:41:49,757 --> 00:41:53,594 - Hey, bud. - Buddy, it's so cool up here. 744 00:41:53,677 --> 00:41:56,889 -There you go. -All right. Good job, bud. 745 00:41:57,431 --> 00:41:58,849 See you in the morning. Okay? 746 00:41:58,933 --> 00:42:00,017 -Yeah. -Okay. 747 00:42:00,601 --> 00:42:01,810 -Good night. -Good night. 748 00:42:02,478 --> 00:42:03,479 Good night. 749 00:42:06,941 --> 00:42:10,778 We haven't actually had any alone time in a long time. 750 00:42:10,861 --> 00:42:12,571 -It's full-on. -I know. 751 00:42:12,655 --> 00:42:17,952 I personally wanna make more of an effort to start spending time together, you know. 752 00:42:18,035 --> 00:42:20,788 I think that's what this whole journey was really about. 753 00:42:20,871 --> 00:42:25,042 Setting us up so we can sit on the sofa… …and be. 754 00:42:25,626 --> 00:42:28,212 I thought it was just gonna be tidying some things up. 755 00:42:28,295 --> 00:42:31,632 I didn't think it was gonna be so emotionally impactful. 756 00:42:31,715 --> 00:42:35,594 We've been getting more vulnerable and communicating more openly. 757 00:42:35,678 --> 00:42:38,013 Even though it's scary, way more fulfilling. 758 00:42:38,097 --> 00:42:40,558 My eyes have been really opened 759 00:42:40,641 --> 00:42:43,227 after doing this, and I'm really, really glad. 760 00:42:44,353 --> 00:42:48,065 It did stuff in here, rather than just out there. 761 00:42:48,148 --> 00:42:51,443 -Do you wanna go on a date with me? -Sure. 762 00:42:51,527 --> 00:42:55,781 Claiming space for things in my life and our life. 763 00:42:55,864 --> 00:42:58,409 It really sort of prioritized how we live. 764 00:42:58,993 --> 00:43:01,787 But also I understand now 765 00:43:01,870 --> 00:43:05,583 the joy is in the things, in the experiences, and in us too. 766 00:43:05,666 --> 00:43:06,500 Yeah. 767 00:43:07,293 --> 00:43:08,544 -I love you. -I love you. 768 00:43:08,627 --> 00:43:09,545 Hm.