(dramatic music)
- If this gonna be his fight. - Let's go.
- [Miller] Your nigga don't wanna fight.
Your nigga don't wanna fight. - That's that kumbaya shit.
Now I tell you to apologize.
- Your nigga don't wanna fight.
- [Kali] We can be cool,
but you need to apologize.
(ominous music and yelling)
- Come on bruh, you popping it way too much.
- [Miller] Let's do it.
- I'm ready to start with the apology.
I apologize for what happened to you,
how it happened to you.
I apologize to you.
- Hi. - Hey.
- We on good vibes this time, right?
- Of course.
Good to see you.
- We was all chilling, that's what I'm saying,
like outta nowhere I came home
and your momma wasn't chilling no more,
and I'm like, "Oh."
(Chrisean and Kali laughing)
- [Kali] Like you don't wanna fuck with her no more
or you're just like? - Nah, I'm just
putting your mom in that trust factor like my moms,
she kinda would use whatever you tell her against you.
- I'm your ma, I would never do anything to hurt you
or take from you.
Whoever said something like that
is what generated it to be worse than what it was,
and I know you know who I'm talking about.
- Yeah, we just basically hashed it out,
if there was anything to hash out.
- And talk about how crazy you are.
- Yeah, I get a little crazy.
- When she opened up to you,
you like to use what we tell you against us.
You ain't gonna be throwing us under the bus no more.
- I can't promise you that.
- You guys talked it out, it's good.
- Well, we didn't punch it out.
- Thank you guys,
love you guys.
We'll do this again sometime.
(dramatic music)
(siren wailing) ♪ Bitch I'm really popping, ♪
♪ I don't ever see the threat to me ♪
♪ Blues inside my pocket ♪
♪ While you bitches steady stressing me ♪
♪ 12 sisters and brothers, they all depend on me ♪
♪ I watch my sister turn quickly into my enemy ♪
♪ All a sudden your friends turn to your frenemies ♪
♪ Pink is a color, blue is another ♪
♪ I'm a Baltimore lover, bad motherfucker ♪
♪ I don't take no shit from bald-head bitches like you ♪
(Chrisean laughing)
♪ It's a vibe all the time ♪
(melancholic music)
- I'm finna go get my face in check, you got me.
Where that bottle be at?
Yikes.
Babe I don't know where to start.
I don't know where to start at all.
- When she finds a shirt. - What outfit you're changing,
we're solidified with just that dress?
We solidified before I pack this stuff up?
We solidified on this one? - Yes.
- All right I'm packing this up,
I'm gonna rush myself. - I do.
- [Elle] All right, you don't pay me (voice fades)
(gentle music)
- What?
(gentle music)
- You take too long. - You want me to do it?
Just what are you wearing babe?
- I know, you got a lot to do over here.
- So you don't need to be in here.
- I'm actually getting hungry
- Please don't get hangry. - Please don't take forever.
- Okay, don't get hangry.
(gentle music)
(gentle music continues)
- Babe. - Yes.
- Are you excited?
- Yeah, I guess.
He just walked out the door?
(suspenseful music)
(suspenseful music continues)
Hey that's a little bit better.
What, you sit right there?
- Why you ain't gonna sit with me?
You wanna sit with me?
- I feel like on a date you usually sit like.
- Babe we on a date nigga.
Are we not feeling each other?
- That's the sign. - We not feeling each other?
- You thought I was feeling you?
- I'm asking you.
- Yeah I'm always feeling you baby.
Give me a kiss.
- Babe I'm.
- Little thing, little yak in there.
- You how you are.
- With a little.
- I'm already fucked up. - A glass of wine.
- Oh baby, you know I'm drunk,
you know you gonna get the tears.
Hey.
Cheers. - Yay.
- What you mean yay?
Talking about hey.
- Drink, it's some real nice drink.
- Oh you got my chaser.
Babe put our chaser.
- So how did you think
the meeting with the evil twins went?
My mom and my sister.
- I just feel like everybody's hurt, that's it.
I don't really know what there is to talk about.
I really don't want to talk to anybody
but I guess I have to.
- I mean it must have went well,
you follow 'em?
(background chattering)
- I follow a lot of people.
I don't even care about following,
I just followed them,
that don't mean shit.
- It means a lot in this world,
I don't know if you were aware.
But you know, following people usually means
you want to keep up with 'em,
you wanna see what they're doing.
- That mean I should unfollow everybody right now,
you right. - So why'd you follow them?
- Follow who? - My mom and my sister.
- I don't really care about people that much.
- No but I'm saying-
- I like you, that's it.
- Not but I'm saying- - I don't really like people.
- You're playing with their feelings
when you do that type of stuff.
- That don't got nothing to do with me and you.
- Alright.
But you're playing with they feelings based off me and you.
- Oops.
- I think that everyone blames me for everything
so what can I do?
- No baby, you're just very-
- I'm the only person with a penis in the situation so.
- No, you just very nonchalant.
- You know how society is these days,
blame the dick. - No.
If you're like the king,
and if you're like the head of everything, yeah.
- I'm that fault if it doesn't work out.
- No. - Yeah.
- More like-
- If the president, if something happens in the country-
- More like I want you to show me that you care
and you very nonchalant.
Your mom, your sister,
they like acting like that 'cause you're nonchalant.
You care. - Acting like what?
- But you wont say you care.
- I start to lose care for, you know,
people who don't like see the wrong that they do.
They never like reflected. - Yeah but that-
- [Blueface] They never reflected.
- But when we went to their house or whatever they-
- They weren't reflective at all.
They still wasn't like, "I was wrong."
They're like, "If she do it again,
"then I need you to do something different."
Like what the hell?
Why would she do it again?
- But listen, think about it,
you just gotta accept them for who they are.
- You don't gotta accept nobody for nothing
that you don't want-
- And just leave them out the way, you feel me?
- You follow them socially,
so you want to see them every day, right.
Why is that hard for you to admit?
- I'm gonna unfollow everybody right now, today.
- Why?
- 'Cause, I was just doing shit.
- That's weird.
- How?
This shit nasty.
- 'Cause people take that personal.
- So just wait, what you mean?
- When you unfollow them,
they take it as like a disregard of friendship.
Like, "Oh, we're not friends anymore."
- I was never friends.
Babe, what are you-
- I'm just telling you it's rude
if you just randomly one day wake up like
I'm unfollowing everybody,
they're gonna be like, yeah.
- And then two,
we was going through something so I was being petty.
- So you followed them to be petty for me?
What you thought-
- Nah, I just followed everybody just to-
- Because we had a good meeting,
y'all had a good meeting,
y'all talked it out.
Y'all kumbaya, y'all. - That's not why.
- Oh okay.
- I was drunk as shit at the studio just being petty,
like drunk as fuck following everybody.
Your baby mama,
the bitches you used to fuck.
- Yeah, that's strange. - I'm strange.
I don't really think- - Can't disagree with that.
- I just did it 'cause I don't give a fuck.
Fuck them, sorry.
Fuck them. - Sheesh, that's harsh.
My mom, my sister and you,
are y'all cool or not?
- Babe, I'm cool with whatever,
What are you talking about?
We together. - All right.
- What do you mean? - That's all I was asking.
- I came with you,
are you cool with them?
- I'll never be cool with them.
I guess, I don't know.
I mean I love them,
you know I have love for them
but I just, at this point in my life,
I get to choose the people who I have close to me.
Damn.
Slow down baby, slow down a little bit all right.
- Why?
I wanna have a fun tonight.
Are you gonna fuck me?
- We gone have a good time.
- Are you gonna fuck me?
You be like, we beefing,
like you're the type of nigga that's not horny.
Like we beefing so I'm not horny,
like we beefing I'm horny like.
- I guess.
- I be wanting to fuck, like what?
- I feel you.
- We beefing, you don't wanna fuck?
We could be beefing, I still wanna fuck.
- That feels so good. - That's lit.
- It feels so good as hell.
- You sound like a fucking G.
- Here you go with that TikTok shit.
- Nah, I feel you though,
I mean I be- - What?
- It's not that I don't want to fuck,
I just don't be horny like, you know,
I gotta be horny to fuck, I can't just-
- I'm horny.
- No I'm saying I don't be horny.
If I'm not horny, you can't say I'm-
- Nah it's like
you horny, you just what you be like.
So me-
- I feel like that's how anybody would act
with somebody that they're not-
- What?
- They're not interested in at the time.
- Why you not interested in me right now
because what we beefing about?
- I'm interested in you right now,
that's what I'm saying,
I'm trying to tell you like,
if I'm mad at you,
not even mad at you if I'm not like.
- What?
- Talking about when we in our problems and we beefing,
you do stuff to make me not feel you.
Yeah, you a little evil motherfucker,
you just do some wild shit
and then I be like, "What the fuck?"
How I'm supposed to be feeling you like?
- Baby you do do stuff to me. - No I don't.
- Then why you do it?
- Because I'm fried. - For what?
- 'Cause that's how I've been my whole life.
- Stop being fried. - Fix me.
- I don't want to fix you daddy.
Stop being fried.
- You gotta fix me, I don't know.
- So what do you want to do?
- I don't know, what do you think about therapy?
Do you think that'll fix me
or help you understand me,
or me understand you?
(background chattering)
- People like you don't need therapy.
You know what you-
What about people like you? - You know what you want.
- What about people like you? - I'm like you.
- You know what you want?
- For real. - What you want girl?
- You.
I do daddy, hell.
But nigga, you so like that nigga,
you don't need none of that.
You just need to like get with the program
or like let's do it,
like what we doing?
That's it.
We don't need no mother fucking therapy.
I love you but-
- I'm just curious to see what-
- If you want certain things,
like different things, tell me.
I'm drunk.
- You're drunk. - Yeah.
- I'm sorry, I'm just emotional.
- Why are you crying?
- I love you. - Telling the real reason.
- I love you.
- Just brings tears to your eyes.
- Yeah.
You're like a dream.
You like a dream baby, like whatever.
- You living your dreams?
- Yeah.
- That's good.
I'm happy to be a part of the dream.
- I guess.
- You not the best communicator.
- Yeah not like talking. - Not the best.
Yeah, you're not the best at.
- I don't like talking. - Explaining yourself.
- I don't want to explain myself.
- So maybe a therapist will make you more comfortable
and say the right things that maybe I don't say
to get you to communicate.
- There's no right things to say.
- Because I like to communicate,
I like to be like-
- What am I communicating, waste my breath for?
I already knew who you are and what's going on
and how it's going.
It's no point in opening up,
it's more like it's a painful situation.
We're not in a real relationship
where it's something that's like whatever,
you want your cake and eat it too
and I have to be like these bitches with a yes man,
I don't want to be that with a yes man.
Like I don't want to be that person that make you feel bad
for not doing what you're supposed to be doing.
Like I really want to be that person
just to have your back.
I just wanna be your rock,
I don't wanna be your girlfriend like, I'm your a rock.
Like that's cool.
All that other stuff is so confusing,
I don't even want to talk about it
'cause it's like you don't even know what I'm trying to say,
like, so I don't.
like it's no point in talking about it.
Can we change the subject?
- I understand you trying to talk to me.
- It's not a good subject. - It's a great subject.
- Can we talk about a better one that's nicer like?
- Like what.
- Less whatever, this is too serious.
- Yeah, I don't like to be too serious.
- Yeah.
- So.
- Don't be saying my lyrics and-
- You steady throwing food on me.
- I'm trying to try it. - Like damn.
(Chrisean laughing)
- You are the worst date ever.
I fucking promise you're the worst date ever.
- I'm the worst date? - Yeah.
- I fuck you right now at the table,
how I'm the worst date?
- You done threw food on me.
- Babe, the food nasty.
- So why you throwing them?
- Why you been- - You act like I made it.
- Daddy, why you been so, take it back.
- Okay, I'm sorry I take it back.
- Take that back, I'm not the worst date ever, really?
I'm not here to be playing with you right now,
are you for real?
The worst date?
- I've had worse dates.
(Chrisean sighing)
To us. - Look like you just fun.
- Baby. - What.
- Let's rock.
- All right, can we go. - Yeah, come on.
(slow music)
- We're leaving. - Yeah.
- Okay.
- You all right?
- Okay come on.
And they got all this damn food.
- It might be better than ours,
baby you want a plate?
- No, same person made it.
(gentle music)
(gentle music continues)
- Hey babe.
(cars hooting)
(somber music)
(loud knocking)
- Oh shit. - Oh hey.
- How are you?
- Kicking in my door like man,
come on in here. - Oh my bad.
- What's up? - How you doing bro?
- How you doing? - Blue.
Like the suit.
- Appreciate you brother, I appreciate you.
Hey Miss, how are you? - Hi.
How are you? - Chrisean.
- Come on over brother,
come on over man, come on over.
- [Chrisean] Oh so what are we doing, sitting now?
- Yeah, no so-
- Daddy need to sit down.
- Yeah, like that.
Well I'm glad y'all are here.
- Me too.
- How y'all feeling? - Lit.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
We came here to wonder what you gotta tell us
that we don't know about ourselves.
- Well y'all been lit a lot lately, right?
There's a lot happening. - Yeah.
- So you know,
I'm here to see if I may be able to help y'all
do things a little bit easier, you know?
Right, y'all up for that?
That's a yes? - Yeah, why not, shit yeah.
Definitely right.
- So listen, you know,
there's a couple things I want to do
to get to know you guys a little bit better,
and then hopefully before we get outta here
I can kind of offer y'all some stuff
that maybe can help you do this thing
a little bit easier,
a little bit smoother.
If that works. - Okay.
- Yeah? - Let's do it.
- So usually it works better
if I talk to each of you one-on-one first,
and then bringing both back in together as a couple.
- Okay. - Y'all good with that?
- Yeah, let's do it.
- And look, I'm from the south, so ladies always go first.
You're up my dear.
- Oh, gentlemen, come on.
- Babe you are like that.
- What a gentleman.
- All right, hang out, see you in a bit.
- All right man. - All right bro.
- Where you going?
- Oh, don't sneak out now.
No, no, come on in, come on.
It's gonna be all right.
- You got this.
- Babe, can you pass me the blunt?
- Go get up. - Pass me the blunt.
- No, you can't smoke here.
- Have a seat, have a seat. - I really can't smoke here?
- So I'm glad you're here.
Tell me what's been happening.
Tell me about it,
talk to me about what's been going on.
- I don't know where to start, this is hard.
- It is.
But the easy part is you get to start wherever you want.
You got family stuff,
obviously everything happens on social media,
so we got all that stuff.
What's been like the craziest part for you?
- Forgetting yourself in it.
- What does that mean, like what?
- Like you forget about yourself, I don't know.
Sometimes like you make selfish moves for another person,
it's not really for yourself, but-
- Kinda lose yourself a little bit in all of it.
- Yeah.
- Talk to me about the stuff that's going good,
like with you and Blue.
- What's good, okay.
- If you gotta think about it that long,
that's a bad sign.
- What's going good between me and Blue.
Everything.
I'm cool. - Yeah.
Talk to me about when it ain't going good,
because it ain't all good, right?
Tell me about y'alls bumps.
When things are not going good,
tell me what's happening.
- I gotta take a deep breath
and then like go numb real quick.
- What's happening? - Like it's like,
oh, he want to be like, I don't know,
like kissing a bitch on the Gram or something.
I'm just like, oh, I thought we had this understanding,
but you feel me?
You can't force nobody to be somebody they not.
It just hurt.
- Does it hurt
because you wouldn't do the same thing to him?
- No, it's honestly like it hurt because I want it to last.
- Okay, you love him? - Yeah.
- And he got a good heart.
A big one.
- Seems like a good dude. - He's a great dude.
- Seems like a good dude.
And when stuff like that happens,
it makes you feel like maybe he's not as committed
as you want him to be.
You're in love and when stuff happens
that looks like it's threatening that
it just hurts your feelings. - Yeah and I flip out.
- Right?
- If he don't wanna be committed that's on him,
that got nothing to do with what we got going like.
So like some shit do you hit the fan,
like would you switch up?
Would you move different?
So like, yeah, I'll do like certain things
that catch his attention
but that's only because I want it my way.
- Yeah.
Talk to me about them flip outs,
because you don't flip out,
you like flip all the way out.
- Yeah. - Right.
It's not like a little bit.
- Right I be like in jail that day.
- Right, right.
- Yeah, right. - Right.
So we want that to not happen,
you know what I mean?
- But the type of nigga he is (laughs),
it gotta happen like that.
- But does it though?
- I don't know.
- You like it like that?
- No, but it's just, it is what it is.
- I mean 'cause look from some of the stuff I've seen-
- [Chrisean] What you seen my nigga?
- It seems like you having to fight for a lot,
for like everything. - Yeah, everything.
- Right, you fight for your career stuff,
you got the family stuff back home
you're trying to do for them but, right,
and they're looking to you for all this,
but then do they really appreciate it or do they not?
So you're fighting with that.
You're fighting with your dude.
Sometimes it's good and then sometimes it ain't that good.
And then when it's not that good,
you gotta flip out and you can't flip out a little,
you flip all the way out so that's hard.
- Not too much. - Right?
And then you got- - I kinda run nowhere.
- Then you got the Twitter folks,
and you got the Gram folks.
- It's just not that bad,
like I don't flip out to the point where like,
oh, I'm like, I run to him.
- Yeah. - Or just go home.
- That's a lot of fighting though baby girl.
- It's not that much man, I'm chilling.
- It looks like it's exhausting.
I would be tired.
- Nah, I'm not exhausted.
I like a challenge for sure.
I just feel like I'm in a situation
and that's what it is.
It's up to him to make up like his mind
at when he want to make up his mind,
like you feel me, like?
- And so what are you doing in the meantime?
You just waiting? - Getting money.
Getting money.
- I mean him okay, so that part's happening.
But like for you though, like right?
For you, right?
The money stuff's gonna happen though,
the TV's stuff, all that's happening.
But like on the inside, for you,
while you waiting on him to make up his mind
about how serious he wants to be about you,
what's going on with you
and what do you want to happen?
If you could snap your fingers right now
and have your relationship with him exactly how you want it,
what would you want it to be?
- Why are you asking me that?
- Because right,
because if you don't know where you're going,
how you gonna get there?
- I know where I'm going. - Right so.
- To the top. - Okay.
So we can do that too. - Right.
- But I want to know what you want from this.
- I got everything.
I'm very grateful.
- I get all that,
but that's not the question.
- What's the question?
The question is,
if you could snap your fingers
and have this thing exactly how you wanted it.
- What, what you mean how?
- It's all right.
- More sure what's going on?
Like it's us, not them.
Sometimes it's us and them.
That's all right, I guess.
You asking me a question and I don't,
what's that question, like?
(bottle clattering)
What?
Why are you looking at me like that?
- Because I'm always interested
when young women have a hard time telling me
exactly what it is they need and they want to be happy.
- Because I don't need shit.
- No, no, no, no, no- - I don't want shit.
- We all have needs, right,
that don't make us weak.
What I'm asking you is,
just what do you want, right?
Do you want- - I got everything I want.
- You want just to be you and him, you said that.
What else?
Keep going, you're doing good,
you got emotional about it,
when you thought about it.
What's happening right now?
- A family.
That's probably it, you know.
As a kid growing up and then when things not going right,
I don't know like, yeah,
I did have family but then I lost it, I don't know.
- How'd you lose it?
- I don't know, my mom went through some shit with my dad
and my mom ended up depending on like drugs
and then like giving up and forgetting us, but not really.
But consequences was homelessness, abuse, neglect,
and you don't have nobody to show up for you.
- How old were you when all that was happening?
- Out the room for real,
I don't know what you mean.
- They were never married?
- No, my mom got married then she re-married.
- [Dr. Ish] Was he living in the house with y'all or no?
- He was. - Yeah.
And he was abusive to who?
- My mother and my sisters.
- Like how, what would he do?
Like yell, fight, hit.
- No he would hit them, like slapping them.
Like my mother, he would go to the woods,
tie her up and beat her up, and my sister-
- Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
- He'll line all my sisters up
with our back be against the wall,
he'll put me against the wall
and I ain't do nothing with them.
Like I'm young as fuck,
I don't know what's going on.
So my big sisters be,
I don't know, probably came after curfew
or have a boyfriend not supposed to.
So they get lined up on the wall
and I'll be right with them.
- He would slap y'all?
- Yeah, but it was more like he asks a question,
we'll give him our answer, slap.
Then he'd be like, he asked the question again
you know the right answer you're supposed to say
because you'll make an excuse
rather than say the real answer 'cause you're scared
so like he make sure he slap one on each cheek.
He'll get to me and be like,
"So Chrisean,"
and he'll jack me up and I'd just be scared already but.
- You just have to be terrified.
- Not really, I don't know.
- You were a kid though. - Yeah but-
- Let me ask you a question. - What?
- You ever have any days
where you feel like it's just kind of an empty feeling
on the inside?
You ever had a day like that?
- No, it's days when you like just sleep in all day
and you like (sighs).
Like it hurts so much you don't wanna move.
- You're young but you've lived a lot.
There's been a lot that's gone on.
- Oh yeah.
- And a lot of stuff,
quite honestly that just shouldn't have happened.
And I'm sorry a lot of that stuff happened to you.
- No biggie, that's just life.
- It's a biggie though,
it is a biggie because it affects, right?
We carry that.
- Not really.
If you cast all your worries and baggages to God,
you ain't carrying shit but emotion
and I don't really think like I carry.
Like yeah, I go through it,
and I cry through it,
and I fight through it,
and I go to jail for it,
and then after that I'm over it.
- You ever talk to somebody like me before?
- Yeah, in school.
- In school, like school counselor or something?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
Was it a good experience or not great?
- No, it was cool.
More like transparent.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, vulnerable okay.
Well thank you for talking to me darling.
- You know what, oh okay so we're done?
- Yeah. - Oh my bad.
- Yeah, no you're good.
- Have fun with Blue. - Come on.
- He's very nonchalant
and he don't like talking,
he don't like eye contact. - Yeah.
- And he probably not as drunk as me.
(suspenseful music)
(Blue knocking)
- Blue. - Yo.
- Come on in here brother.
- Love the suit.
- Appreciate that man, appreciate that.
(suspenseful music)
How you feeling?
- Great.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- So let's talk about you
because she takes up a lot of the air in the room.
She walks in and everybody's trying to deal with that.
- Yeah.
And we named her Rockhead
because she does not listen to a mother fucking thing
that anybody tells her.
So we'll be like, yo, literally police her.
So that's how she got the name Rock.
Her name is Rockhead because she just don't listen,
she got a hard head. - Hard head.
Yeah.
- [Blueface] Mother fucker is a rock for real.
- How do you deal with it?
- I deal with it by not dealing with it.
- So she'll do the most,
you'll try to do the least.
- Exactly.
- When she's full on Chrisean,
I don't know if that's a fire that can be put out,
but you're just trying to maintain, right.
- Yeah, yeah, and keep it from spreading too far.
- Right, right.
We just trying to contain this thing,
what does that look like?
What are you doing, tell me?
- I try to like mentor her a little bit, you know,
make her less rough around edges.
- And how does she take that?
Because for what I've seen, not good.
- Yeah, she doesn't take it good at all.
- Right.
- She takes it and steps on it,
kicks it, cries on it.
- Yeah. - All that type of stuff.
- Yeah.
- [Blueface] How do you think I should go about it?
- Depends on your personality,
and quite frankly, it depends on what you want.
And I want you to use this time to just really focus on you
and hopefully I can help point out some things
about yourself and about her
to help y'alls do y'all's thing a little bit better.
- Okay.
- Or just help y'all decide
if y'all want to continue to do it this way or not.
Because it's weird, right?
Like on the one hand,
y'all are young and y'all are successful,
and y'all are super talented,
and the world is opening up,
we got some fame coming,
we got some money coming,
we got, right, we got all these cool things happening
and you just wanna be able to enjoy it
and share it with each other.
And you got this really interesting,
beautiful, passionate woman
who's like super into you, right?
She literally has your face on her body into you, right?
- [Blueface] Right.
- And you see that look you just gave me?
You know what that look says?
- What, what does it say?
- That look says that that part feels good,
as it should, right?
Let's keep it real.
- I mean, yes, it's a nice gesture.
- Of course. - Yeah.
- Of course it feels good. - Yeah, yeah.
- But you're also a different kind of brother.
I'm betting that a part of you also knows
that that shit ain't sustainable.
Right? - The tattoos?
- The blowups, the explosions. - Yeah.
- Up on TMZ every other week.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Right.
What do you think?
'Cause that's a lot man, it's exhausting.
- Yeah, it is but I mean it makes her,
you know, lit I guess.
- What do you love the most about it, tell me?
- I like how intimate she is. - Yeah.
- So I like how affectionate she is,
but I don't like how emotional she is.
- You know what I see her doing a lot
is try to make other people be responsible
for how she feels, right?
(Blueface clapping) Right.
- Hell yeah. - Right, you feel me, bro.
- I do feel you.
- You feeling me. - Right.
And when that's happening three, four days a week.
- Three, four times a day. - Right.
That's a lot Blue,
so how do you handle that?
- Just put less energy into it.
Yeah I just lay down.
I'll be just like, you know, more boring.
- And does that work?
- I don't know. - So that's a no, right?
- I don't know, it has no in it.
- And let me tell you why,
because the thing she's trying to do
is she's trying to connect, right?
She's showing up
and she's looking for any little piece of evidence
that says that you don't like her or love her enough
for her to be okay.
And when that happens, she's getting triggered,
and when she gets triggered she goes boom, right?
- Right.
- And your go-to mechanism to deal with that
is to not feed the fire. - Yeah.
- And to pull back even more.
- Yeah. - And guess what that's doing?
- What.
- That's triggered her even more, right.
So by you trying to not feed the fire,
which is a smart thing to do in your mind,
it's like, "Hey, you know what,
"let me just pull back and you know,
"and just not engage."
That's the thing that scares her even more.
- So what do you suggest I do?
- What do you think you should do?
I'm gonna tell you some stuff.
- Shit, I thought I was doing the right thing.
That sound like you finna tell me
to throw some more gasoline on the fire.
- No, no. - Make her crazier.
- We gotta recognize the patterns.
- I believe in patterns.
- Right, you played football, right?
- Yeah.
- You're a damn good quarterback, right?
You know what play to call. - Makes sense.
- You gotta recognize her patterns
so you can start calling the play
before you get the emotion that you don't want.
- Well why do I have to adjust myself to somebody else
and then they don't have to adjust they self.
- Because this is who you got,
you got Chrisean. - Oh shit.
- You see what I'm saying? - That's the reason.
- That's who she is right now, right,
and you get the girl you pick,
not the girl you want her to be,
or the girl she could be.
Today this is where she is,
she's an emotional person today.
I think she's been through some stuff, brother,
some stuff you're not gonna help her heal.
It's not your problem to help her fix.
- Yeah there's no way, it's impossible.
- Right, it's impossible.
But you're a good dude and you love her
so you want to, right,
And it's frustrating when you can't.
That gets hard after a while.
What's the hardest part for you?
Like just as her dude,
like man, if this part was gone we would be straight.
- I don't like how irresponsible she is.
I don't like how she treats people.
- Yeah.
- I've been living this lifestyle for a long time
so I've already like, you know,
figured out just how to not deal with things.
And even though bad shit does,
you know, the trauma or whatever,
I feel like it's just better not to care about it.
- So you try to avoid thinking about it?
- I reflect on it and then I get over it.
- Yeah, yeah.
How old were you since you were on your own
doing your own thing?
- 17, 18. - Okay, so young, young.
And closer to mom or closer to daddy?
- Well now closer to dad,
but I grew up with my mom so it was like, you know.
- And how's the relationship with you and mom?
- Like I said, I told you I deal with it
but I'm not dealing with it.
So I just don't deal with her.
- You won't have to deal with it.
- No, my mom kind of acts like
she wants to be my girlfriend or something so it's like.
Not like incestuously, incest type-
- I understand. - Just more like
territorial type, like you know.
- Like how, explain it.
- It's almost if she like forces me to like pick sides
between her and the woman in my life or-
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- The woman I bring in the house,
the woman I leave out the house and it's like, what?
This is my house. - Right.
What's that stuff like for you though?
Like honestly man,
when stuff like starts popping off like that
with the women in your life,
whether it's mom or this?
- I feel like my mom is older
and she should be a woman way more mature enough
to not be getting through it
with the females that I'm dealing with.
I don't get into it with her husband.
- Yeah. - Mind my business.
- Yeah.
So I know you care,
but in the moment if we don't know how to put the fire out,
then it's easier to detach, right,
and just say, "Hey, you know what, I don't really,
"I'm gonna back off of this."
You know what I mean? - Yeah exactly.
I care enough to reflect on it
and admit where I could have. - Right, right, right.
- Made it better.
But like I'm onto the next player,
it's not like- - Right.
- I'm finna like dwell on it so.
- Right, spoken like a true quarterback.
So what do you want it to be?
Where do you see this going?
It's a hard question.
- I think it's gonna go,
I don't know, I just want her to grow up.
That's all.
- Do me a favor,
go see what she's doing
and then both of y'all come back in.
You got it. - All right.
You did a good job man.
You ever talked to somebody like me before?
- Nope.
Never. - Did a good job, it was good.
- You ever talked to somebody like me before?
- Not really. - Damn.
- Where you going?
You ain't gonna get drunk no more?
- You drank it all didn't you? - Nope, it's right there.
I didn't drank it all.
- I'll take one, go on.
- You know like people who have like unsure answers
and I was so sure of everything answer I said
so it was like,
and it's not therapy session,
it's more like let's talk real nigga to real nigga
'cause bitch, what the fuck are you saying?
It's nothing he couldn't really say.
It was more like, what did he say?
I'm trying to think, like,
it was nothing he could say like.
Okay, he will ask like questions that make me feel like,
let me take a deep breath from that one
and I answer them because you know I'm gonna answer you
'cause that's what it is.
But it wasn't like,
babe it's not really nothing.
Like talking to a nosy mother fucker
that wanna know your business.
If I was like, you know it's like a dumb, ditzy bitch,
yeah I'll be like, you know,
like all up in there like,
yeah and yeah, and yeah, and yeah.
I was more like, I don't know,
I knew what I was talking about.
You want Red Bull?
I'm not, let me do this.
(knocking on door)
- Hello.
There they are. - Hey what's up man?
- Come on in, come on in.
- Welcome back.
Hey babe, take a seat.
Our first therapy session,
how you feeling? - How y'all feeling?
- Good. - Fun.
- Yeah.
First of all, y'all are doing an amazing job.
So lemme just say that I'm glad y'all are here,
I'm glad y'all sat and talked to me 'cause that's hard.
I'm not here to save your relationship,
I'm not here to help you break up,
I'm here to help y'all make it a little bit easier
to tell each other the truth.
Does that make sense?
- Yes. - Yep.
- Chrisean, you all right?
- Yeah, I wanna sit over there.
- You wanna sit where? - Over there.
- Where? - On him.
- Oh.
Chrisean, lemme ask you a question.
How many tattoos of him do you have?
- Seven. - Seven.
Why? - I like him that much.
- And does that help you feel connected and close to him?
- No, that's some shit I just want do
'cause I'm bored. - Now see, what I just say?
This is about telling the truth.
- That was the truth.
- And you know damn well that's not the truth.
- [Blueface] You be bored?
- What? - That's why you do it
'cause you be bored?
- I mean like, not like bored but like free time.
On my free time time my nigga, dang yeah that's fun.
- Chrisean look at me. - What?
- That makes zero sense. - I don't make sense.
That's the thing about,
it's not here for you. - No, no, no.
You do make sense when you're telling the truth.
- Don't help me feel shit,
I just like that shit, I like him.
I get what you saying.
- You have his face on your neck, right?
- Okay, I said yeah.
- So that means right, that's saying something.
- That I'm his.
- Okay, so that's the truth,
why is that so hard for you to go there.
And how do you feel about it? - I like it, yeah.
It's not something I request or anything,
but it's hard not to like.
- It's like a nice accessory.
- So listen, here's where we are guys.
- Yeah, where we at? - You know,
y'all are very, very different in some ways,
and then y'all are very, very alike in a lot of ways.
And the way that I have found that y'all are alike tonight
is when I ask each one of you what you want from this,
neither one of you can give a straight answer.
And both of you say
that you want something for the other person,
but both of you struggled
when it came to saying what is it that I want from this?
It's not sustainable.
'Cause I've seen a lot of couples like y'all
who thought that nothing was ever gonna
blow that house down,
and you know where they are, not together.
Hey Chrisean, come on.
You're a grown woman now,
this is the time to act grown, come on.
(Chrisean and Blueface laughing)
- Y'all gotta see his face.
- Does she always not listen like this?
- Her name is Rockhead doc.
- Bet.
- What?
- So grab her hand, look at each other now.
Look at each other like y'all love each other,
what's happening here?
- She tries to distract you.
I feel like giving less energy
but you know that already.
- When you do the burst thing,
the emotional outbursts,
he says then I feel like giving it less energy
so he pulls away.
- Babe you can pull away, I don't care, what?
- But you got seven tattoos of him on your body.
- Yeah, I care about him. - He pulls away
and you don't care?
- You can do what you want, like just.
What, I'm chilling.
I would already left if I didn't like it.
- You know you're working real hard not to go deep.
- I'm not. - And that tells me
that there's a lot of emotion under there darling.
And I know it is 'cause he sees it everyday.
Matter of fact he said he sees it four times a day.
- If I don't like something
and I feel like if it's not worth me saying anything,
I'm going to do something.
- And what's the thing that's happened
that you're not liking?
- What, what do I have to say? - Give me an example.
For example?
(Chrisean chuckles)
Well it's not funny because it keep happening
y'all are not gonna stay together.
You understand that, right?
- You take the lowest, what?
- Go ahead. - Go ahead.
You're gonna give me an example
of something happened that you don't like
that just helps you wanna flip out.
- I'm don't wanna talk more about it.
(suspenseful music)
- Guess we'll go with other women.
- Say that again?
- I said I guess we'll go with other women.
- So say that.
If that's what it is, say that.
- It's not just that,
I don't know what to say.
- If that's one of the things, right,
if that's what it is, tell him,
"Hey, when you pull other women into this, into our thing,
"I'm about to lose it,
"I'm about to lose my shit."
Tell him, grab his hand and tell him.
- Nah, I just really feel like it's like a risk.
- Tell him. - Oh, it's so annoying.
- Look at him and tell him.
That's your man over there, right?
- Okay. - Tell your man girl.
- Oh you my man, okay.
All right, what am I supposed to tell this nigga?
- The thing that you're trying not to say
because you're trying not to be vulnerable
and you're trying to be so hard.
- I'm not trying to be hard.
This is who I am.
When other woman comes in the picture,
I feel like it's just risk whatever we got going on,
that's it, and I'm very like territorial.
- Repeat it back to her,
what'd you just hear her say.
- Well it's vice versa,
it's is like how you feel about like how me.
- When I bring other women in,
it makes her feel like there's a risk of-
- Like whatever we got going on.
- Risk of what we got going on - It's not a insecure part,
but it's like why are you have to deal with that part?
- Ask him, that's a great question.
- I don't wanna ask that question
'cause I know the answer to it.
- Let's get his answer, ask him.
- I know the answer to it,
that's what he wanna do,
what do you mean? - Ask him that question.
- Oh God.
- Here's here to listen, right.
He's trying to fight for this thing like you are.
Now either you gonna fight for it or not.
Grab her hand, right. - Spit that shit.
- This is not the time to pull away.
See what she's doing now, right?
This is the time to engage her.
- Spit it out.
- Alright baby, I don't wanna talk no more.
Can we go?
You got enough problems of yours, don't be slipping.
Forget him.
- Come on, tell me.
- I'm talking, I'm telling, let's go.
- So do y'all have an open relationship?
Like what's the status?
Is this supposed to be exclusive or no?
- No, it's like he can do what he do
and I just gotta be cool.
I don't know, that's what it is.
- Is that accurate Blue?
- No, not necessarily. - Oh he lying.
- She just-
- He be checking my phone all types of shit,
being all types of shit, all types of shit.
- Talk to him.
- And if I get to checking his phone,
it's like I can't pull that card.
He pull this card,
I gotta like be a good girl and not be like,
oh I'm sorry 'cause he's upset,
I gotta like say, "Fuck it."
And when I didn't say fuck it,
I didn't like it anyway, like,
but it didn't do nothing for me, like I didn't-
- Why didn't it do anything for you?
Tell him that part.
- Because I like him so much.
- Tell him that part.
Look at him and tell him - He knows that.
- Don't talk to me, talk to him.
- I told him already.
- Tell him again.
Look how he's looking at you right now.
- Why is he looking at me like that?
Babe, what you look like.
Babe, what are we talking about?
I don't like this, it's uncomfortable.
- That means you're growing a little bit.
- Now I gotta get drunk.
- No, that means you're growing,
that means you're feeling something real
and you're growing a little bit,
that's what it feels like.
- Are you feeling it? - Feeling what?
- Something real. - What's real?
- He just said we feeling something.
- You said, "I don't like this, it's uncomfortable."
I said, "Yeah that's what growth feels like."
It feels very uncomfortable.
It's embarrassing, it makes you feel shame,
it makes you feel all these things.
But on the other side of it is growth
because the next time you feel it
you know what to do with it.
- Right. - And you don't have to tweak.
You can just deal with it. - I'm gonna tweet.
- You're very good at making uncomfortable moments funny.
Which is cool because that's the most-
(Chrisean laughing)
Because well, lemme tell you something right,
I'm about to give you a compliment,
that is the most intelligent defense mechanism that we have.
- Can we get a bigger couch?
- You sit right there. - Why?
- So listen guys, we're gonna wrap this up.
Y'all did good, all right.
- Are you okay? - Thanks.
- We're done? - Yes ma'am.
- This was great.
Thank you Mr. Ish. - You're welcome.
- Dr. Ish. - Dr. Ish.
- Pray for me man.
- I will. - Why you trying to be funny?
- I told him to pray for me.
- He need to pray for me.
- I'll pray for both of y'all
'cause I just want y'all to be happy.
- Yeah, don't be like pray for me man.
That's not a cool joke.
I need the prayer, not you.
- Woo.
- [Chrisean] Oh y'all are questioning?
Well now what, action can we go home?
(gentle music)
(gentle music continues)
(somber music)
(somber music continues)
(slow jazz music)
- [Blueface] Never have I ever cheated, damn.
- [Chrisean] While we be together?
- [Blueface] Or anybody in your whole entire life.
- You may kiss the bride. - Babe.
- Why you crying?
- Some say he's toxic,
some say he's super real,
some say that's hood love.
- I'm here for you.
I came all the way to Baltimore to meet your family.
- Where you going. - Oh shit, she taking, my toe.
There we go right there.
- Fuck all of you nigga.
- Oh yeah, yeah. - I don't give a fuck.
- He's like keeping tabs on me, got my location,
making sure I come home at 3:00 AM.
- There comes a point where you gotta tap in with yourself.
It'll tear you apart if you let it.
- Are you ready for court? - No.
You're not coming with me.
- But you'll be back in one day.
(upbeat music)
- You have been charged with possession with intent,
she would not reduce that to a misdemeanor.
(upbeat music) (Chrisean crying)
- You wanna see my head?
You see it looks like.
If I just let her do what she do,
she'll run over me all day long.
♪ Court date after court date ♪
♪ It's always the same old shit ♪
♪ Man lil man I be a dad to my brother's kids ♪
♪ God forbid I get locked up for something ♪
- Know that shit girl and all that,
but we trying to dig ourselves out of the ditch.
- [Chrisean] I get what you talking about, the negative,
cool that's some regular ass shit that can be fixed.
- You poppin' it way too much. - What you doing?
- Outta nowhere I came home,
your mama wasn't chilling no more I'm like oh.
(both laughing)
- Yeah, I get a little crazy.
- Fuck with me bitch.
Hey queen, don't let him call you a bitch again.
Bust the head open again.
All right shawty, I got you.
We got this.
♪ Hanging in the ghetto ♪
♪ I'm tryna fight for something inside of this ♪
♪ Something gotta give ♪
(slow music)