1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:02,172 Previously on Love in Paradise. 2 00:00:02,172 --> 00:00:04,172 If we're talking about moving forward, 3 00:00:04,172 --> 00:00:05,689 you're gonna have black kids. 4 00:00:06,586 --> 00:00:09,413 What if my little girl come home from school, 5 00:00:09,413 --> 00:00:11,931 and someone told her she looked different? 6 00:00:11,931 --> 00:00:13,517 You tell me to suck it up. 7 00:00:13,517 --> 00:00:18,000 He needs to try to be a little bit more understanding 8 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:21,241 towards the Black experience. 9 00:00:23,586 --> 00:00:25,379 I don't have any money coming in. 10 00:00:25,379 --> 00:00:28,000 I don't know if this time is the trip 11 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:29,689 that I fully move here. 12 00:00:40,827 --> 00:00:45,379 I have an investment into the quiet and the shy, kind of scared... 13 00:00:54,482 --> 00:00:57,724 Donating to women and not stopping 14 00:00:57,724 --> 00:00:59,793 is like you're almost addicted to it. 15 00:00:59,793 --> 00:01:01,000 I'm not addicted. 16 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,068 I don't want my boyfriend to donate. 17 00:01:03,068 --> 00:01:05,517 I don't know what to say. I'm trying to, like... 18 00:01:05,517 --> 00:01:08,482 Oh, gosh. I don't know. I have to stop this. 19 00:01:37,379 --> 00:01:39,379 When Madelein's upset with me, 20 00:01:39,379 --> 00:01:40,620 she kind of shuts down. 21 00:01:40,620 --> 00:01:42,827 She can ignore me. 22 00:01:42,827 --> 00:01:45,275 She gets in these moods. 23 00:01:45,275 --> 00:01:48,103 She's been sulking ever since I told her that 24 00:01:48,103 --> 00:01:51,931 this trip is not my permanent move to Colombia. 25 00:01:51,931 --> 00:01:54,137 Okay, I'm leaving. 26 00:01:56,689 --> 00:01:59,379 I think I need to give Madelein her space. 27 00:01:59,379 --> 00:02:03,068 So, I'm gonna go meet up with my buddy Brian for drinks. 28 00:02:11,724 --> 00:02:14,689 - Papi! How's it going? - Buddy, how you doin'? 29 00:02:14,689 --> 00:02:16,689 - Nice to see you. - You too, man. 30 00:02:16,689 --> 00:02:18,379 - How you been? - Good. Good. 31 00:02:18,379 --> 00:02:20,620 I met Brian through Madelein. 32 00:02:20,620 --> 00:02:23,793 She is best friends with Brian's wife, Vale. 33 00:02:23,793 --> 00:02:26,827 Brian's American, he's an entrepreneur, 34 00:02:26,827 --> 00:02:28,896 so we have a lot in common. 35 00:02:28,896 --> 00:02:33,103 And he's supportive of my sunglasses line 36 00:02:33,103 --> 00:02:35,103 and other businesses that I'm working on. 37 00:02:35,103 --> 00:02:36,586 Cheers. 38 00:02:36,586 --> 00:02:38,275 I got you something. 39 00:02:38,275 --> 00:02:40,275 Oh, that's the prototype of the glasses? Yeah. 40 00:02:40,275 --> 00:02:42,379 I like that they have some weight to it. 41 00:02:42,379 --> 00:02:44,172 You can tell it's good quality. Yeah. 42 00:02:44,172 --> 00:02:46,482 So I just paid to get 300 made. 43 00:02:46,482 --> 00:02:51,379 Bad news is, I paid for it with my 401K funds. 44 00:02:51,379 --> 00:02:55,896 How much of your 401K did you take out for the glasses? Um... 45 00:02:55,896 --> 00:02:59,137 We just spent 10,650 bucks. 46 00:03:00,275 --> 00:03:02,103 Didn't talk to Madelein about it, 47 00:03:02,103 --> 00:03:04,310 caused some problems today. 48 00:03:04,310 --> 00:03:05,793 Why was Madelein mad? 49 00:03:05,793 --> 00:03:08,103 I didn't tell her that I spent the money on the glasses, 50 00:03:08,103 --> 00:03:10,379 and I didn't tell her about my job. 51 00:03:10,379 --> 00:03:13,275 You know, I was scared to have those conversations 52 00:03:13,275 --> 00:03:15,620 'cause I didn't know how she'd react. 53 00:03:15,620 --> 00:03:19,586 But it feels like you're worried about the money more 54 00:03:19,586 --> 00:03:21,620 because of what she might think. 55 00:03:21,620 --> 00:03:23,724 So, do you think if you have no money 56 00:03:23,724 --> 00:03:26,586 or if you're not providing that the relationship won't work? 57 00:03:27,827 --> 00:03:29,275 Look, I love the girl. 58 00:03:29,275 --> 00:03:31,206 Could things be better? Absolutely. 59 00:03:31,206 --> 00:03:34,965 But I feel that she's not in it for the money. 60 00:03:36,586 --> 00:03:39,241 I just want you to be honest with yourself. 61 00:03:41,275 --> 00:03:44,379 Luke says that he doesn't think 62 00:03:44,379 --> 00:03:46,689 that Madelein is in it for the money. 63 00:03:46,689 --> 00:03:51,068 But I don't think he's being honest. 64 00:03:51,068 --> 00:03:53,724 He's afraid to have money conversations with her. 65 00:03:53,724 --> 00:03:58,379 He's afraid to admit that he no longer has his six-figure job. 66 00:03:58,379 --> 00:04:01,793 So, I think he's afraid that she's gonna leave him. 67 00:04:01,793 --> 00:04:05,310 He doesn't want to see the truth. 68 00:04:05,310 --> 00:04:07,689 What you are explaining to me 69 00:04:07,689 --> 00:04:11,068 seems like a relationship that has problems. 70 00:04:11,896 --> 00:04:14,000 I'm no one to tell you 71 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,000 who to be with or who not to be with. 72 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,000 But if you're gonna get married, 73 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:24,793 you get a bulletproof prenup that protects your assets. 74 00:04:24,793 --> 00:04:27,241 Have you had that conversation with her? 75 00:04:29,689 --> 00:04:31,000 No. 76 00:04:31,793 --> 00:04:34,275 Even though I'm cash poor right now, 77 00:04:34,275 --> 00:04:35,896 I still have a lot to lose. 78 00:04:35,896 --> 00:04:39,793 While Madelein lives in an apartment that I rented for us, 79 00:04:39,793 --> 00:04:42,482 I own an apartment in another building. 80 00:04:42,482 --> 00:04:44,689 That is an investment property. 81 00:04:44,689 --> 00:04:49,482 I paid $300,000 for it, and I rent it out to tourists. 82 00:04:49,482 --> 00:04:52,379 Everything that I've worked for has gone into this apartment, 83 00:04:52,379 --> 00:04:55,172 and I don't wanna see that go away for nothing. 84 00:04:55,172 --> 00:04:58,034 I will get a prenup before I get married. 85 00:04:59,068 --> 00:05:01,793 What you're saying makes a hell of a lot of sense. 86 00:05:01,793 --> 00:05:06,068 So, I think I gotta mentally collect myself 87 00:05:06,068 --> 00:05:07,724 and not be a little bitch 88 00:05:07,724 --> 00:05:10,689 and go have these hard conversations with Madelein. 89 00:05:10,689 --> 00:05:13,517 Because of Maddie's age, 90 00:05:13,517 --> 00:05:17,379 or her temper, or just how stubborn she is, 91 00:05:17,379 --> 00:05:21,379 oftentimes, I'll think twice about bringing anything up 92 00:05:21,379 --> 00:05:23,896 just because her first reaction 93 00:05:23,896 --> 00:05:26,275 is oftentimes very explosive. 94 00:05:26,275 --> 00:05:28,896 If she really loves you, she'll sign it. 95 00:05:30,896 --> 00:05:32,344 Or no wedding. 96 00:05:36,206 --> 00:05:37,482 Yeah. 97 00:05:37,482 --> 00:05:41,275 I know I have to come clean about wanting a prenup. 98 00:05:41,275 --> 00:05:44,275 I just don't know how many more truth bombs 99 00:05:44,275 --> 00:05:46,379 our relationship can take. 100 00:05:46,379 --> 00:05:49,931 It's your money and you've worked hard for it. 101 00:05:49,931 --> 00:05:54,413 Take control of your own life and not have a 19-year-old 102 00:05:54,413 --> 00:05:58,241 dictate how you spend your money and what you do. 103 00:06:29,379 --> 00:06:32,172 that he never can give me clear answers. 104 00:06:33,827 --> 00:06:37,793 I can't understand why he can't clearly say, "You know what? 105 00:06:37,793 --> 00:06:40,379 I will stop donating for you because I love you." 106 00:06:40,379 --> 00:06:41,793 You know? That's what you do. 107 00:06:41,793 --> 00:06:44,172 If you love someone, you just go and sacrifice. 108 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:46,206 Where is she? 109 00:06:46,206 --> 00:06:48,896 You know, I like him and it's different now, 110 00:06:48,896 --> 00:06:51,482 if you start really having feelings for someone, 111 00:06:51,482 --> 00:06:56,241 and then you're realizing you have this huge obstacle in front to overcome. 112 00:06:57,896 --> 00:07:01,000 I think in a perfect world, she would just accept me. 113 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,172 "If you're honest, you're trustworthy, 114 00:07:03,172 --> 00:07:06,344 and you talk to me about it, then it's fine donating." 115 00:07:10,896 --> 00:07:12,689 Okay, Kyle, I'm back. 116 00:07:12,689 --> 00:07:15,275 - Yeah, it was intense. - I'm sorry... 117 00:07:15,275 --> 00:07:16,896 Yes, I'm sorry... 118 00:07:22,517 --> 00:07:24,793 Usually, I wouldn't start crying. 119 00:07:24,793 --> 00:07:29,000 I just feel like everything got too much 120 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,965 because I know that you're still doing the donation stuff, you know? 121 00:07:34,689 --> 00:07:37,482 But now I still have these emotions for you, 122 00:07:37,482 --> 00:07:41,068 so I feel like it's getting more deeper. 123 00:07:42,206 --> 00:07:44,068 Yeah. I know. 124 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:49,793 It hurts that something that I love so much as sperm donation 125 00:07:49,793 --> 00:07:51,931 is hurting Ani 'cause I don't wanna see her cry. 126 00:07:51,931 --> 00:07:53,206 I want her to be happy, 127 00:07:53,206 --> 00:07:55,482 and I am willing to make some compromises, though. 128 00:07:55,482 --> 00:07:57,827 Maybe Ani gets to choose who I donate to. 129 00:07:57,827 --> 00:08:00,931 There are things I am willing to compromise on. 130 00:08:00,931 --> 00:08:04,586 I just feel like, completely just, giving up donating 131 00:08:04,586 --> 00:08:06,724 forever would just be very difficult. 132 00:08:06,724 --> 00:08:09,793 Well, I think about us and, you know, like, I wonder, 133 00:08:09,793 --> 00:08:13,000 "Oh, my God. How are we going to make that work?" 134 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:14,586 I know. I know. 135 00:08:15,586 --> 00:08:17,310 Oh, God, Kyle, I'm so sorry. 136 00:08:17,310 --> 00:08:19,241 I don't wanna cry in front of you. 137 00:08:20,517 --> 00:08:22,586 All right, now you're making me cry. 138 00:08:23,379 --> 00:08:25,827 I see so much potential in Kyle 139 00:08:25,827 --> 00:08:29,413 and what we could make out of this relationship. 140 00:08:29,413 --> 00:08:32,379 But I have to choose. 141 00:08:32,379 --> 00:08:35,206 If I continue to be with the man I love 142 00:08:35,206 --> 00:08:39,793 and sacrifice my feelings and core beliefs, 143 00:08:39,793 --> 00:08:42,586 or I walk out of this. 144 00:08:42,586 --> 00:08:45,931 But it's a very hard decision, 145 00:08:45,931 --> 00:08:48,793 if you love someone, to walk away from them. 146 00:08:48,793 --> 00:08:52,206 I just don't want to get hurt 147 00:08:52,206 --> 00:08:54,793 by this experience with you. 148 00:08:54,793 --> 00:08:56,241 Okay. 149 00:09:00,172 --> 00:09:01,689 Jackie is my friend. 150 00:09:01,689 --> 00:09:05,793 This is the first time that she's seeing me as Alliya in person. 151 00:09:05,793 --> 00:09:08,931 So happy you're becoming who you wanna be. I love it for you. 152 00:09:08,931 --> 00:09:11,517 Shawn said that he was missing Douglas. 153 00:09:11,517 --> 00:09:14,000 Like, is he still gonna love, like, Alliya? 154 00:09:19,413 --> 00:09:22,000 Do you think it's really love? It's tough. 155 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:24,896 I think I am trying to make this relationship work 156 00:09:24,896 --> 00:09:26,482 because I'm getting older. 157 00:09:26,482 --> 00:09:28,275 But you do know if you keep spending time 158 00:09:28,275 --> 00:09:30,310 with the wrong person, the right person won't come? 159 00:09:30,310 --> 00:09:34,137 He has to love her. And if he's not doing that, I don't like him. 160 00:10:07,103 --> 00:10:10,586 - Hey. - Oh, my God! It's so good to see you. 161 00:10:10,586 --> 00:10:12,413 I missed you so much. 162 00:10:12,413 --> 00:10:14,000 You look beautiful. 163 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,206 - I love your hair. - Really? 164 00:10:16,206 --> 00:10:18,482 Shawn gave to me a lot of hair. 165 00:10:18,482 --> 00:10:19,931 - Go ahead, Shawn. - It's pretty. 166 00:10:19,931 --> 00:10:21,379 Jackie is my friend. 167 00:10:21,379 --> 00:10:23,241 We met each other two years ago 168 00:10:27,413 --> 00:10:30,275 I'm so excited to bring you to this island. 169 00:10:30,275 --> 00:10:31,482 Me too-- Ah! 170 00:10:31,482 --> 00:10:33,000 - Oh! - My hair. 171 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:35,689 Your hair is too big. 172 00:10:35,689 --> 00:10:39,275 I'm so excited that she's here because I'm turning 25 173 00:10:39,275 --> 00:10:42,689 this week, and Shawn is giving me a birthday party. 174 00:10:42,689 --> 00:10:46,931 How do you deal with long hair in this boat? It's crazy. 175 00:10:46,931 --> 00:10:50,689 You'll get used to it. It's a whole new world. 176 00:10:50,689 --> 00:10:53,275 Jackie has been seeing me as Alliya by video call, 177 00:10:53,275 --> 00:10:58,931 but this is the first time that she's seeing me as Alliya in person. 178 00:10:58,931 --> 00:11:02,172 I'm feeling, like, complete and, like, amazing. 179 00:11:02,172 --> 00:11:04,758 My life is getting better always. 180 00:11:04,758 --> 00:11:07,482 Aw, so happy you're becoming who you wanna be. 181 00:11:07,482 --> 00:11:08,586 I love it for you. 182 00:11:08,586 --> 00:11:10,793 You're nice, thank you. Yeah. 183 00:11:10,793 --> 00:11:13,172 When I first met Alliya, she was Douglas, 184 00:11:13,172 --> 00:11:16,310 and she had a very good energy. 185 00:11:16,310 --> 00:11:18,379 But you could also tell she was really, like, 186 00:11:18,379 --> 00:11:20,689 sad and quiet and shy. 187 00:11:20,689 --> 00:11:23,586 So, are you going to go by, like, she? 188 00:11:23,586 --> 00:11:25,827 - Yeah. She and her. - And her? Yes! Okay, good. 189 00:11:29,103 --> 00:11:31,379 Yeah, yeah. 190 00:11:31,379 --> 00:11:34,896 Alliya seems like an entirely new person to me. 191 00:11:34,896 --> 00:11:37,275 She looks happier, like, there's a different glow, 192 00:11:37,275 --> 00:11:41,000 or like, energy to her, and it definitely suits her. 193 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,758 What about Shawn? Like, does he call you Alliya? 194 00:11:43,758 --> 00:11:45,586 - Like, what is he... - He's calling me Alliya. 195 00:11:45,586 --> 00:11:46,689 - Yay, okay. - Yeah. 196 00:11:49,379 --> 00:11:50,896 And... 197 00:12:04,758 --> 00:12:10,000 Those are, like, qualities that are easily manipulated type of qualities. 198 00:12:11,413 --> 00:12:13,275 He could have a fear of you becoming 199 00:12:13,275 --> 00:12:17,068 more strong and powerful and not need him at all. 200 00:12:17,068 --> 00:12:20,068 Like, is he still gonna love, like, Alliya 201 00:12:20,068 --> 00:12:22,482 because you're not timid and scared anymore? 202 00:12:22,482 --> 00:12:24,379 I think it's a concern. 203 00:12:28,620 --> 00:12:30,758 You good? Yes. Yeah. 204 00:12:30,758 --> 00:12:34,241 Because I can be myself and I can be free. 205 00:12:35,275 --> 00:12:38,793 - I put my jacket on because I'm feeling cold. - Yes. 206 00:12:38,793 --> 00:12:42,275 But I'm afraid that Shawn will never love me 207 00:12:42,275 --> 00:12:44,793 the way that he loves Douglas. 208 00:12:44,793 --> 00:12:46,517 Thank you. 209 00:12:46,517 --> 00:12:48,482 Oh. 210 00:12:48,482 --> 00:12:51,000 So, I think you look amazing. Like, your hair looks great. 211 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,172 - Your makeup, your lashes, everything. - Thank you. 212 00:12:53,172 --> 00:12:54,517 I love it. 213 00:12:54,517 --> 00:12:56,758 But are you thinking maybe anything more permanent, 214 00:12:56,758 --> 00:12:59,413 - like, surgery or... - Oh, yeah, I think so. 215 00:12:59,413 --> 00:13:03,586 I think I'm gonna take off the fat off my belly and put on my butt, 216 00:13:03,586 --> 00:13:06,379 and make it more round and big. Yeah, okay. 217 00:13:06,379 --> 00:13:08,206 Have you told Shawn that you wanna do that? 218 00:13:08,206 --> 00:13:11,206 Yeah, I told him. I mean, I think he don't like that 219 00:13:11,206 --> 00:13:14,655 because I like the thin waist and, like, the curves. 220 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:25,586 So what if he says, "I don't want you to do this?" 221 00:13:25,586 --> 00:13:29,689 He can say his opinion, but I need to choose that 222 00:13:29,689 --> 00:13:33,172 'cause I wanna wake up every day and feel happy. 223 00:13:33,172 --> 00:13:34,172 Right. 224 00:13:58,068 --> 00:14:00,689 I think I came so far 225 00:14:00,689 --> 00:14:03,068 that I don't wanna go back. 226 00:14:03,068 --> 00:14:06,103 Yeah, 'cause you need to be happy. Yes. 227 00:14:06,103 --> 00:14:10,689 My love for myself needs to be more than my love for Shawn. 228 00:14:10,689 --> 00:14:11,862 Right. 229 00:14:36,862 --> 00:14:40,103 I have been in Italy for a week with my boyfriend, Adriano, 230 00:14:40,103 --> 00:14:42,793 and it's just been very overwhelming. 231 00:14:42,793 --> 00:14:45,482 We've been arguing about religion, 232 00:14:45,482 --> 00:14:48,586 where we're gonna live, threesomes. 233 00:14:48,586 --> 00:14:51,310 So, I need some girl time. 234 00:14:51,310 --> 00:14:53,379 Good morning. 235 00:14:53,379 --> 00:14:55,379 All right, let's get it going. 236 00:14:55,379 --> 00:14:58,068 - Yes, I'm excited. - Ah, I'm excited! Yes! 237 00:14:58,068 --> 00:15:00,793 Southern Italy is known for its ceramics, 238 00:15:00,793 --> 00:15:03,896 so I'm excited that my cousin, Tiffaney, 239 00:15:03,896 --> 00:15:06,793 is meeting me to make some pottery. 240 00:15:06,793 --> 00:15:09,896 Good morning. Welcome. Ciao. 241 00:15:09,896 --> 00:15:12,206 Okay, do you want start with our class? 242 00:15:12,206 --> 00:15:14,103 Yes. - Yes, ma'am. 243 00:15:14,103 --> 00:15:16,000 Probably should have wore something a little different 244 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,275 'cause it looks like we're about to get dirty. 245 00:15:18,275 --> 00:15:20,862 Okay. You can sit. 246 00:15:20,862 --> 00:15:23,586 Put your forearms on pottery wheel. 247 00:15:23,586 --> 00:15:25,275 Your weight on your forearms. 248 00:15:25,275 --> 00:15:26,793 Oh, okay. 249 00:15:26,793 --> 00:15:29,965 Cross your fingers in this way, thumbs toward up. 250 00:15:31,172 --> 00:15:33,206 Oh, oh, I think I broke it. 251 00:15:36,206 --> 00:15:38,586 The clay was, like, sitting in my hand, 252 00:15:38,586 --> 00:15:41,172 and it was twirling into something that looked 253 00:15:41,172 --> 00:15:43,379 very familiar. 254 00:15:43,379 --> 00:15:45,379 Oh, okay. 255 00:15:45,379 --> 00:15:48,793 Um, and I really didn't know what to do. 256 00:15:48,793 --> 00:15:51,379 Ah! No, no. I don't know, it just... 257 00:15:51,379 --> 00:15:53,793 I didn't know clay could be that... 258 00:15:53,793 --> 00:15:57,586 I didn't know it could, it could be that freaky. 259 00:16:00,068 --> 00:16:02,896 I don't think this is supposed to... 260 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:06,862 Squeeze it... 261 00:16:06,862 --> 00:16:09,000 Oh, oh, oh. 262 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:10,241 I don't think that was right. 263 00:16:10,241 --> 00:16:13,379 - Okay, push down. We need an hole in the middle. - Okay. 264 00:16:13,379 --> 00:16:16,896 Oh, okay. Ah, my hair! 265 00:16:16,896 --> 00:16:20,000 Why did you wanted to do this? 266 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:21,931 I don't know. I don't know. "I don't..." 267 00:16:21,931 --> 00:16:24,517 It was a epic fail, and I think the lady was just like, 268 00:16:24,517 --> 00:16:27,793 "You know what? Y'all suck, and get out." 269 00:16:27,793 --> 00:16:29,379 That's what she wanted to say to us, 270 00:16:29,379 --> 00:16:30,931 but she couldn't say that. 271 00:16:30,931 --> 00:16:33,172 Oh, I think mine's broke. 272 00:16:33,172 --> 00:16:35,620 Okay, this is not working out for me. 273 00:16:35,620 --> 00:16:37,827 Just a moment. 274 00:16:38,379 --> 00:16:40,000 Okay. 275 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,620 This was some freaky stuff. Mmm-hmm. 276 00:16:42,620 --> 00:16:45,689 Speaking of freaks, how was Fabio? 277 00:16:45,689 --> 00:16:50,586 So, we went to this pizza-making place. 278 00:16:50,586 --> 00:16:52,275 We had a great time, 279 00:16:52,275 --> 00:16:55,034 but then again, religion came up. 280 00:16:55,931 --> 00:16:58,275 It's because you did bring up a good point. 281 00:16:58,275 --> 00:17:00,068 Religion is important for me, 282 00:17:00,068 --> 00:17:02,103 and it's important for my family as well. 283 00:17:02,103 --> 00:17:06,413 So, I was hurt by the fact 284 00:17:06,413 --> 00:17:10,000 that he couldn't understand that about me. 285 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:13,586 Mmm-hmm. And how we're gonna raise kids came up 286 00:17:13,586 --> 00:17:17,000 since they are gonna be mixed race. Mmm-hmm. 287 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,689 So in the past, 288 00:17:19,689 --> 00:17:22,310 when I told him my experiences 289 00:17:22,310 --> 00:17:24,689 of being a Black woman in America, 290 00:17:24,689 --> 00:17:27,551 basically he told me to suck it up. 291 00:17:30,068 --> 00:17:31,965 And that hurt me. 292 00:17:33,482 --> 00:17:35,482 It definitely bothered me. 293 00:17:35,482 --> 00:17:38,896 I guess we can't expect everybody to respond 294 00:17:38,896 --> 00:17:41,586 how we want them to in the moment. 295 00:17:41,586 --> 00:17:44,586 But I just kind of feel like 296 00:17:44,586 --> 00:17:45,862 he doesn't care, 297 00:17:45,862 --> 00:17:49,172 'cause it also tells you how he's gonna be long term 298 00:17:49,172 --> 00:17:51,000 in a relationship and in a marriage. 299 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,379 He has to love her, he has to wipe her tears away, 300 00:17:53,379 --> 00:17:54,620 kiss her tears away. 301 00:17:54,620 --> 00:17:57,448 And if he's not doing that, I don't like him. 302 00:17:59,103 --> 00:18:03,379 Do you think you're just kind of liking the lust of it, the fun of it? 303 00:18:03,379 --> 00:18:05,275 Or do you think it's really love? 304 00:18:09,103 --> 00:18:11,482 I do believe that it's really love, 305 00:18:11,482 --> 00:18:14,586 but we are in this cute little honeymoon phase. 306 00:18:14,586 --> 00:18:17,000 - It is cute. - It's fun, we're enjoying each other. 307 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:20,000 But are you, though? Are you really enjoying it? 308 00:18:22,689 --> 00:18:25,068 It's tough. Okay. 309 00:18:25,068 --> 00:18:29,586 It's tough, but I know with tough times comes good times, 310 00:18:29,586 --> 00:18:33,482 - so we'll get out of that eventually. - Mmm. 311 00:18:33,482 --> 00:18:35,482 Do you feel like you have to give it a chance? 312 00:18:35,482 --> 00:18:38,310 Maybe you're trying to make this relationship work 313 00:18:38,310 --> 00:18:43,689 because of whatever you may be feeling? 314 00:18:43,689 --> 00:18:47,103 To be honest, I think I am trying to 315 00:18:47,103 --> 00:18:50,000 make this relationship work because I'm getting older. 316 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:53,000 I just turned 30, and so the thought of, 317 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:55,758 "I'm supposed to have kids, supposed to be married before 30," 318 00:18:55,758 --> 00:18:58,758 and none of those things have happened. 319 00:19:00,068 --> 00:19:01,758 You do know if you keep spending time 320 00:19:01,758 --> 00:19:03,862 with the wrong person, the right person won't come? 321 00:19:05,379 --> 00:19:09,000 You have plenty of time in order to get married 322 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:13,310 and have kids and be all happy without the threesomes. 323 00:19:13,310 --> 00:19:16,344 Without the issues of religion. Mmm-hmm. 324 00:19:17,482 --> 00:19:20,206 I expected my life to look a lot different. 325 00:19:20,206 --> 00:19:24,000 I wanted to have kids, get married. 326 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:27,103 And not having all that right now 327 00:19:27,103 --> 00:19:30,482 does kind of mess with me a little bit. 328 00:19:30,482 --> 00:19:35,206 I think I might be trying to fit Adriano in this plan that I have. 329 00:19:35,206 --> 00:19:37,310 When in reality, 330 00:19:37,310 --> 00:19:40,413 maybe he's not that guy for me. 331 00:19:40,413 --> 00:19:42,206 I have to figure out soon 332 00:19:42,206 --> 00:19:44,793 if this is worth fighting for. 333 00:19:44,793 --> 00:19:47,620 I have to take everything that you just said 334 00:19:47,620 --> 00:19:51,103 into consideration 'cause you are right. 335 00:19:51,103 --> 00:19:53,137 A little bit, just a little bit. 336 00:20:09,172 --> 00:20:11,586 Madelein has been chomping at the bit 337 00:20:11,586 --> 00:20:13,000 to plan this wedding. 338 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:14,655 But I don't have the money. 339 00:20:35,793 --> 00:20:36,931 Okay. 340 00:20:39,862 --> 00:20:41,068 What needs to be done? 341 00:20:41,793 --> 00:20:42,758 These sheets. 342 00:20:43,172 --> 00:20:44,448 The bathroom. 343 00:20:44,448 --> 00:20:46,172 Shortly after meeting Madelein, 344 00:20:46,172 --> 00:20:48,931 I bought an investment property in Colombia. 345 00:20:50,241 --> 00:20:54,344 It is a luxury apartment, and I do short term rentals for tourists. 346 00:20:54,965 --> 00:20:56,172 Do you have a broom? 347 00:20:56,551 --> 00:20:57,862 Okay. 348 00:20:58,689 --> 00:21:00,965 I'm just gonna put this right here for now. 349 00:21:05,586 --> 00:21:08,758 Maddy has barely spoken to me since yesterday 350 00:21:08,758 --> 00:21:11,896 when I told her that my move to Columbia has been delayed. 351 00:21:11,896 --> 00:21:13,655 Here's some disinfectant. 352 00:21:16,068 --> 00:21:18,862 But today we're gonna have to work together 353 00:21:18,862 --> 00:21:23,344 and get the rental property ready for its new guest. 354 00:21:24,689 --> 00:21:27,034 Here, let me sweep the rest. I can sweep. 355 00:21:30,172 --> 00:21:32,586 The other bed? Okay. 356 00:21:32,586 --> 00:21:34,689 I have so much on my mind right now. 357 00:21:34,689 --> 00:21:38,482 I keep thinking about what my friend Brian said last night. 358 00:21:38,482 --> 00:21:41,896 He thinks I should get a prenup before marrying Madelein, 359 00:21:41,896 --> 00:21:45,241 and protect my only asset, which is this apartment. 360 00:21:46,241 --> 00:21:47,827 And I know he's right. 361 00:21:49,482 --> 00:21:51,137 I need to do the fitted sheets 362 00:21:51,137 --> 00:21:53,862 but I think I'm gonna need your help for it. 363 00:21:55,103 --> 00:21:56,689 Okay. 364 00:21:56,689 --> 00:21:58,965 But Madelein is already upset with me, 365 00:22:00,379 --> 00:22:03,448 and I don't want to bring up another thing that might upset her. 366 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:06,724 For how long is this rent? 367 00:22:08,793 --> 00:22:11,034 and they're gonna pay $1,900. 368 00:22:36,034 --> 00:22:38,448 Okay, baby. Let's have a good day today, okay? 369 00:22:50,379 --> 00:22:51,655 What do you think? Good? 370 00:22:52,275 --> 00:22:53,206 Yeah. 371 00:23:22,586 --> 00:23:26,034 My mom is Mexican, so for the first four years of my life 372 00:23:26,034 --> 00:23:28,137 we only spoke Spanish at home. 373 00:23:28,137 --> 00:23:30,482 But when I started school, we became 374 00:23:30,482 --> 00:23:34,965 a strictly English speaking household, So I lost everything I knew. 375 00:23:34,965 --> 00:23:39,000 But since I've been with Madelein, it's starting to come back to me. 376 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:43,862 And that's really good because Madelein's family does not speak a lick of English. 377 00:23:44,379 --> 00:23:47,965 Hello! 378 00:24:04,758 --> 00:24:05,793 Luke! 379 00:24:38,482 --> 00:24:43,034 My grandma teach me respect. She teach me love. 380 00:25:23,034 --> 00:25:25,275 Madelein has been chomping at the bit 381 00:25:25,275 --> 00:25:26,793 to plan this wedding, 382 00:25:26,793 --> 00:25:29,758 and I want to give her the wedding that she deserves. 383 00:25:30,448 --> 00:25:32,655 But I can't afford that right now. 384 00:25:40,068 --> 00:25:44,379 I don't know if Madelein really understands the gravity of my situation. 385 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,586 Madelein told me not to talk about money, 386 00:26:06,586 --> 00:26:08,000 I don't want to talk about money, 387 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,379 but you're asking about a wedding, and I'm thinking about money. 388 00:26:24,586 --> 00:26:26,172 Um... 389 00:27:09,689 --> 00:27:13,172 Madelein's family is clearly frustrated with me. 390 00:27:13,172 --> 00:27:16,793 I feel uncomfortable. I'm getting hot, 391 00:27:16,793 --> 00:27:20,241 and Madelein is not helping me out. 392 00:27:20,241 --> 00:27:25,586 And in my head I can't help but think this is a manipulation tactic, 393 00:27:25,586 --> 00:27:27,551 for her to try and get what she wants. 394 00:27:34,689 --> 00:27:36,862 But I'm not gonna budge. 395 00:27:36,862 --> 00:27:38,758 We need to figure out our finances, 396 00:27:38,758 --> 00:27:41,275 and I don't have the money to pay for the wedding, 397 00:27:41,275 --> 00:27:42,931 so, you know, grow the [bleep] up. 398 00:27:56,793 --> 00:27:58,586 I know this is what has to happen, 399 00:27:58,586 --> 00:28:01,172 whether it causes me pain or not. 400 00:28:01,172 --> 00:28:03,655 And I either need to get on board 401 00:28:03,655 --> 00:28:07,206 or let go of both Alliya and Douglas. 402 00:28:31,965 --> 00:28:33,896 Come on, party people. 403 00:28:33,896 --> 00:28:36,172 Come on. Are you ready? 404 00:28:36,172 --> 00:28:38,448 We're gonna lose this ball so fast. 405 00:28:40,965 --> 00:28:42,068 Great shot. 406 00:28:46,586 --> 00:28:48,551 That's the way. Ay! 407 00:28:49,586 --> 00:28:52,103 I've been in Brazil for about a week 408 00:28:52,103 --> 00:28:55,689 and Alliya and I have had some difficult conversations 409 00:28:55,689 --> 00:28:59,206 about her transitioning and what it means to our relationship. 410 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:02,793 But I want to put all that aside for now 411 00:29:02,793 --> 00:29:07,344 and just enjoy my time with Alliya and her friends tonight at the beach. 412 00:29:15,655 --> 00:29:18,310 I've been so lucky that I have great friends. 413 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,103 So sit here. 414 00:29:30,344 --> 00:29:33,482 It's... quite cold here. 415 00:29:33,482 --> 00:29:35,689 I want Shawn to hang out with my friends today 416 00:29:35,689 --> 00:29:39,448 because I want him to see how happy I am in my life. 417 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,448 So you grew up together? Okay. - Yeah. 418 00:29:44,448 --> 00:29:49,344 Alliya, I've known her since birth, I guess. Yeah. 419 00:29:49,344 --> 00:29:52,172 I just want to know, like, what she was like when she was little. 420 00:29:52,172 --> 00:29:53,793 She was easygoing. 421 00:29:53,793 --> 00:29:57,724 She was kind of shy and she would be really sweet and really kind. 422 00:29:58,241 --> 00:29:59,896 We would pretend to be heroes. 423 00:29:59,896 --> 00:30:01,689 - So, our-- - Oh, like superheroes? 424 00:30:01,689 --> 00:30:03,275 I would have, like, super strength. 425 00:30:03,275 --> 00:30:06,793 My sister would have the ability to fly, and Alliya wants to shine. 426 00:30:06,793 --> 00:30:09,344 Oh, it's perfect. 427 00:30:15,793 --> 00:30:17,862 Being here tonight, I can see 428 00:30:17,862 --> 00:30:23,896 how much lighter and happier she seems now with her new life. 429 00:30:23,896 --> 00:30:27,586 And I'm realizing that I don't want to be the person 430 00:30:27,586 --> 00:30:33,862 that ever dims her light and her, what I think she would call, shine. 431 00:30:39,034 --> 00:30:42,103 Okay. 432 00:30:42,103 --> 00:30:44,758 There is so much that I want to say tonight. 433 00:30:55,793 --> 00:30:57,241 "Today I want to say goodbye." 434 00:31:02,655 --> 00:31:05,793 "To say goodbye to all the stigma that has been imposed on me." 435 00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,034 "I have been learning about self-love, 436 00:31:21,034 --> 00:31:25,241 acceptance, strength and the courage to show the world who I am." 437 00:31:31,793 --> 00:31:34,586 "Alliya is the embodiment of all of the shine 438 00:31:34,586 --> 00:31:36,793 that Douglas wanted to show." 439 00:33:19,793 --> 00:33:21,965 Mmm-hmm. 440 00:33:22,793 --> 00:33:25,241 Mmm-hmm. 441 00:33:34,586 --> 00:33:39,413 I think at this moment, what I take away is that she's doing the right thing. 442 00:33:40,172 --> 00:33:42,068 And that this is what has to happen, 443 00:33:42,068 --> 00:33:44,172 whether it causes me pain or not. 444 00:33:44,172 --> 00:33:46,965 All right, here we go. To new beginnings. 445 00:33:51,586 --> 00:33:55,379 I realized that I can't see Douglas or Alliya. 446 00:33:55,379 --> 00:34:01,034 I have to see the soul of the person that I fell in love with. 447 00:34:01,034 --> 00:34:03,482 To Alliya. To life. Happiness. 448 00:34:03,482 --> 00:34:04,758 Cheers. 449 00:34:07,103 --> 00:34:09,103 This is our future. 450 00:34:09,103 --> 00:34:15,241 And I either need to get on board or let go of both Alliya and Douglas. 451 00:34:21,379 --> 00:34:24,965 I want to marry you, but with the financial concerns, 452 00:34:24,965 --> 00:34:26,551 it brings up the prenup. 453 00:34:26,551 --> 00:34:29,965 I don't want to be with person that don't trust me. 454 00:34:35,655 --> 00:34:36,965 you. 455 00:35:13,137 --> 00:35:14,931 I am so confused. 456 00:35:16,655 --> 00:35:19,275 I don't have my job. I'm in a ton of debt, 457 00:35:19,275 --> 00:35:24,793 and I feel like Madelein understands my financial situation, 458 00:35:24,793 --> 00:35:27,896 but at the same time she's trying to plan this wedding. 459 00:35:38,448 --> 00:35:42,793 And I think after talking with her family yesterday, she got more excited. 460 00:35:48,482 --> 00:35:52,103 - Put on a choreographed dance? - Yeah. 461 00:35:52,965 --> 00:35:54,689 And without talking to me first, 462 00:35:54,689 --> 00:35:57,655 she made an appointment to go see a wedding venue today. 463 00:36:03,689 --> 00:36:06,000 Hi, guys. Welcome to Grenade. 464 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,034 Nice to meet you. My name is Vivian. 465 00:36:08,034 --> 00:36:09,275 Nice to meet you. I'm Luke. 466 00:36:09,275 --> 00:36:11,275 Hi, nice to meet you Luke, nice to meet you. 467 00:36:11,275 --> 00:36:15,482 This is a beautiful place where you can make your dream wedding come true. 468 00:36:15,482 --> 00:36:17,551 So let's go and see what it is. 469 00:36:17,758 --> 00:36:19,172 Cool. 470 00:36:37,551 --> 00:36:40,344 This is where the ceremony is going to take place. 471 00:36:42,379 --> 00:36:43,448 I like it. 472 00:36:44,896 --> 00:36:47,482 You guys look really lovely there. 473 00:36:47,482 --> 00:36:48,965 Yeah? You do. 474 00:37:07,137 --> 00:37:08,344 Wow. 475 00:37:16,103 --> 00:37:18,551 So right here, I want the DJ. 476 00:37:19,586 --> 00:37:22,241 And this is the part we're going to do the dancing. 477 00:37:46,448 --> 00:37:48,275 I hope you liked it. 478 00:37:48,275 --> 00:37:49,655 She loves it. 479 00:37:49,655 --> 00:37:51,137 Okay. 480 00:37:51,137 --> 00:37:55,000 Just for the venue, it's $5,000. 481 00:37:56,275 --> 00:37:57,655 Okay. 482 00:38:01,482 --> 00:38:05,034 - Okay. Is there anything else that I would need to cover? - Yes. 483 00:38:05,034 --> 00:38:07,137 You're gonna need flowers. 484 00:38:07,137 --> 00:38:10,793 You're gonna need a DJ, a band perhaps? 485 00:38:10,793 --> 00:38:13,344 Catering. You're also going to need a planner 486 00:38:13,344 --> 00:38:15,655 if you want the day to go really smooth. 487 00:38:16,689 --> 00:38:18,275 So how much is all of that? 488 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:23,793 So, we're probably at 489 00:38:23,793 --> 00:38:26,310 somewhere $16,000 and $20,000? Yeah. 490 00:38:27,275 --> 00:38:28,758 Okay. Okay. 491 00:38:30,862 --> 00:38:33,448 I'm gonna let you guys think about it. 492 00:38:33,448 --> 00:38:35,241 Thank you so much. Appreciate your time. 493 00:38:36,896 --> 00:38:39,689 $20,000 to me right now is like... 494 00:38:39,689 --> 00:38:41,862 it's pixie dust. It doesn't exist. 495 00:38:44,344 --> 00:38:45,965 Madelein needs to wake up. 496 00:38:46,379 --> 00:38:47,655 She really does. 497 00:38:48,793 --> 00:38:50,896 You know, I want this for my wedding, 498 00:38:50,896 --> 00:38:53,034 and I want to feel like a princess. 499 00:38:55,034 --> 00:38:58,344 I want you to feel like a princess because you are my princess, baby, 500 00:38:58,344 --> 00:39:00,448 but 15 to 20 grand, amor... 501 00:39:06,034 --> 00:39:08,758 I'm just really concerned because 15 to 20 grand, 502 00:39:08,758 --> 00:39:10,689 I don't have it. I can't pay for that. 503 00:39:14,965 --> 00:39:16,827 Well, what I'm-- 504 00:39:21,689 --> 00:39:23,896 But I don't know when I'll have that money. 505 00:39:23,896 --> 00:39:26,724 Yeah, because nobody knows the future. 506 00:39:29,793 --> 00:39:32,275 Maybe it's an age thing, and at 19 years old, 507 00:39:32,275 --> 00:39:35,655 you can't understand the gravity of my money problems. 508 00:39:35,655 --> 00:39:39,551 I don't know. But this is exactly why I need a prenup. 509 00:39:40,586 --> 00:39:42,827 I question her judgment. Yeah, I mean... 510 00:39:44,655 --> 00:39:48,689 I... I just want us to both be on the same page. 511 00:39:48,689 --> 00:39:52,379 I want to marry you. I just need to feel secure. 512 00:39:52,379 --> 00:39:54,241 And with the financial concerns, 513 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:56,862 it brings up another component. 514 00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,655 I know that I will never leave you. 515 00:40:00,586 --> 00:40:02,517 But I don't know that you will never leave me. 516 00:40:04,344 --> 00:40:06,448 And, like, what I'm getting at is... 517 00:40:08,689 --> 00:40:11,344 The prenup. Have you ever heard of it? 518 00:40:12,586 --> 00:40:14,275 So you don't feel secure about me 519 00:40:14,275 --> 00:40:16,965 - or what the do you say? - Everybody does it. 520 00:40:18,103 --> 00:40:19,344 For protection. 521 00:40:21,448 --> 00:40:24,655 That is more like you don't trust me. 522 00:40:24,655 --> 00:40:28,241 I don't want to be with person that don't trust me. 523 00:40:34,068 --> 00:40:37,241 Uh, look, Brian also thinks I should-- 524 00:40:37,241 --> 00:40:38,448 you. 525 00:41:10,103 --> 00:41:12,482 Next time on Love in Paradise... 526 00:41:14,896 --> 00:41:19,103 Before coming on this trip there was a lot of uncertainties for me 527 00:41:19,103 --> 00:41:22,793 about "Can I love Alliya as much as I love Douglas?" 528 00:41:22,793 --> 00:41:24,000 Hey. 529 00:41:25,448 --> 00:41:26,758 You look amazing. 530 00:41:26,758 --> 00:41:28,758 I've... I've made the decision 531 00:41:28,758 --> 00:41:32,103 and have a big, big, big surprise. 532 00:41:36,793 --> 00:41:38,896 ...you wouldn't have a threesome. 533 00:41:41,068 --> 00:41:44,689 You're giving this pleasure so much power 534 00:41:44,689 --> 00:41:47,482 that you're willing to toss me to the side. 535 00:41:50,793 --> 00:41:53,275 I'm here to get a, uh, STD test. 536 00:41:53,275 --> 00:41:57,034 Ani wasn't happy about me donating through sex to a woman in Australia. 537 00:41:57,034 --> 00:42:00,137 What Ani doesn't know is that there's other women 538 00:42:00,137 --> 00:42:02,551 I donated naturally to, recently. 539 00:42:02,551 --> 00:42:05,344 One in Norway and one in the UK. 540 00:42:07,275 --> 00:42:10,482 I'm getting a CI test so Ani shouldn't be worried 541 00:42:10,482 --> 00:42:13,862 about the other women I'm having sex with to get pregnant. 542 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,275 Madelein and I got in a huge fight and we haven't talked since. 543 00:42:19,275 --> 00:42:23,275 Most of the time I'm the one doing the compromising. 544 00:42:23,275 --> 00:42:26,689 But this time is different. It's a non-negotiable. 545 00:42:26,689 --> 00:42:29,448 So if she can't compromise, then... 546 00:42:30,172 --> 00:42:31,586 we can't move forward.